@@datingbeyondborderscast it is the same everywhere in the West. Women think they are still desireable for marriage after 30 which is not what the general men think. Being unmarried as a woman over 30 is a failure. It means you do not know what a good man is. There is a reason why Eve was tempted by the snake.
I think he was asking if you are interested in having kids in general, as a plan, maybe he's not, idk. It's a valid question for a second date that helps to know each other when you are 40. I wouldn't ask that after moving in together hehe
Maybe I missed something but the "shopping list" of requirements to date is fine for women to demand but then listen to the outrage when it's applied equally.
I think the men just talk about these subjects (wanna have children in general?, how long stay in country? Job? ) because both you (man and woman) are already older, i.e. 35+. You guys are aware that a woman over 30 is considered high risk pregnancy, right? I do not think that a Norwegian man at age 25 would ask these questions if the woman is 22 to 25 years old.
Absolutely. In my twenties, I'd never ask a woman such questions. If a woman brought up the subject of children or marriage too early while dating, I'd be sketched out and bail. I guess I was what you'd call a f***boy. Now that I'm reentering the market at a similar age as this woman, it seems entirely reasonable to ask those questions before proceeding any further. It's not fair to waste the time of women on a limited clock and these Nordmenn are being respectful of that.
The "Do you own your apartment or not" question is also justified. On the surface it might seem like they are asking about quantity, but they most likely are looking for a qualitative answer (financial responsibility, financial independence and general relationship with money) and just generally bringing the topic up for discussion as many men in this age group may have had a very bad experience from a prior relationship with someone who ended up being financially irresponsible and it negatively affecting them before that relationship ended.
I completely understand Norwegians. I'm 37, in Brazil, I don't seriously date any woman who has children, who doesn't have a source of income and who doesn't wants to be in a relationship. It's extremely difficult to find a woman like that. Now I'm being transfer to Ireland, fingers crossed. LOL
born and rise, always lived in norway, and even I don't understand dating culture here. i just choose to be singel for years now, don't need the stress
Good interview. I want to note that this story is in no way representative for Norwegian dating what so ever. There is possibly more men like these per capita in Norway than in many other countries, but this is a phenomena that stretches the whole western world. It's one of the answers to the most extreme expressions of feminism, wherein all traditional gender-roles within relationships have been dissolved from the women's side of it and these men in turn simply see no upsides to taking up the responsibilities of one. So they don't. A fair amount of Norwegian men agree with the notion of loose commitment in relationships, seeing as there is no gender-based role-difference that need to cover each other's weaknesses, but in my experience very few men take it to the extreme Lorelou experienced (when viewed as a percentage of the population as opposed to absolute numbers). She is right about "the talk" tho. Unless you have the talk in Norway, you can not legitimately expect anything.
I lived 4 years living in Norway and I didn’t know I was in a relationship one guy I did all that I was thinking I was a collar friend and also I filled i was exotic bat to good to be in a relationship I was southern European not I think is best come to Spain and Portugal for relationship ❤😅
Some of these points come across as a very self centered and entitled. A lot of her points if you add the word American to it and people would be screaming that you came to a different culture. For the American to adapt to them.
Many people is moving in together without having a really serious relationship because is economically smarter, they can do this even in the first 3-6 months, then they see if it’s serious enough for the next step (ofc depends of the age, when there’s properties involved, there’s more things to consider)
What do you think about the Norwegian dating scene?
@@datingbeyondborderscast it is the same everywhere in the West. Women think they are still desireable for marriage after 30 which is not what the general men think. Being unmarried as a woman over 30 is a failure. It means you do not know what a good man is. There is a reason why Eve was tempted by the snake.
I think he was asking if you are interested in having kids in general, as a plan, maybe he's not, idk. It's a valid question for a second date that helps to know each other when you are 40.
I wouldn't ask that after moving in together hehe
Maybe I missed something but the "shopping list" of requirements to date is fine for women to demand but then listen to the outrage when it's applied equally.
I think the men just talk about these subjects (wanna have children in general?, how long stay in country? Job? ) because both you (man and woman) are already older, i.e. 35+. You guys are aware that a woman over 30 is considered high risk pregnancy, right? I do not think that a Norwegian man at age 25 would ask these questions if the woman is 22 to 25 years old.
Absolutely. In my twenties, I'd never ask a woman such questions. If a woman brought up the subject of children or marriage too early while dating, I'd be sketched out and bail. I guess I was what you'd call a f***boy.
Now that I'm reentering the market at a similar age as this woman, it seems entirely reasonable to ask those questions before proceeding any further. It's not fair to waste the time of women on a limited clock and these Nordmenn are being respectful of that.
The "Do you own your apartment or not" question is also justified. On the surface it might seem like they are asking about quantity, but they most likely are looking for a qualitative answer (financial responsibility, financial independence and general relationship with money) and just generally bringing the topic up for discussion as many men in this age group may have had a very bad experience from a prior relationship with someone who ended up being financially irresponsible and it negatively affecting them before that relationship ended.
I completely understand Norwegians. I'm 37, in Brazil, I don't seriously date any woman who has children, who doesn't have a source of income and who doesn't wants to be in a relationship. It's extremely difficult to find a woman like that. Now I'm being transfer to Ireland, fingers crossed. LOL
You are almost 40. Women will have kids at this point. Stop being picky
The options open thing is very American too! Wow I thought it was just our guys. What she is describing is called a 'situationship'.
born and rise, always lived in norway, and even I don't understand dating culture here. i just choose to be singel for years now, don't need the stress
Good interview. I want to note that this story is in no way representative for Norwegian dating what so ever. There is possibly more men like these per capita in Norway than in many other countries, but this is a phenomena that stretches the whole western world. It's one of the answers to the most extreme expressions of feminism, wherein all traditional gender-roles within relationships have been dissolved from the women's side of it and these men in turn simply see no upsides to taking up the responsibilities of one. So they don't. A fair amount of Norwegian men agree with the notion of loose commitment in relationships, seeing as there is no gender-based role-difference that need to cover each other's weaknesses, but in my experience very few men take it to the extreme Lorelou experienced (when viewed as a percentage of the population as opposed to absolute numbers).
She is right about "the talk" tho. Unless you have the talk in Norway, you can not legitimately expect anything.
It's called dating among adults that know what they want...
Wow, what a fascinating culture. It’s completely opposed to the Latin cultures I’m familiar with.
I lived 4 years living in Norway and I didn’t know I was in a relationship one guy I did all that I was thinking I was a collar friend and also I filled i was exotic bat to good to be in a relationship I was southern European not I think is best come to Spain and Portugal for relationship ❤😅
Some of these points come across as a very self centered and entitled.
A lot of her points if you add the word American to it and people would be screaming that you came to a different culture. For the American to adapt to them.
Many people is moving in together without having a really serious relationship because is economically smarter, they can do this even in the first 3-6 months, then they see if it’s serious enough for the next step (ofc depends of the age, when there’s properties involved, there’s more things to consider)
This is not good haha
True Love is very hard to find.
Dating is never easy for a guy irrespective of the country you belong period
Despite the many attractions of Norway it sounds like an odd place to cultivate normal relationships if you're a foreigner.
Theese guys sounds rich little bards 😂
Wow, what a fascinating culture. It’s completely opposed to the Latin cultures I’m familiar with.