Not sure how representative I am, but being a swede, one of the critical parts to me, that has to work for a relationship to work, is comfortable silence. I mean, imagine if during all the time you and your partner spend together, there has to be a conversatioin....! Scheeezsh... no mas.
The long period of seasonal darkness pervades everything in Scandinavia. I don't mean that in a bad way. It's just a presence in everything including relationships. You only have to watch Scandinavian movies to know that.
Really interesting interview! 👊 About the open doors part I think in general most Swedish guys are great gentlemen's and they do a lot of those things, like open doors and take out the chair for the date/girl. The big difference is that the girls in Sweden are so independent and mostly really confident. That they really doesn't at all find it attractive for guys to overdo this charming things and princess treat them. The way to charm them is to be really impressed and interested at all things they have accomplished in their life so far.
Maybe it depends 😁 but if i find a man like this I'll always appreciate and love for sure I replied even before watching the video i found your comment interesting
As a Norwegian, I could never imagine sitting in the car and waiting for him to get out and around the car to open the door for me. Why should I do that? There are door handles on the inside. There is something different about other doors. I have no problem with men opening doors for me if he gets to the door first. If I am first, I will open the door for anyone coming after me.
Really nice and a great start of this friday. Thank you very much for making this. And so nice to see your channel is growing and growing. Have a great weekend Stefan
Being born, and brought up, in the states, I could never understand, why it was necessary, while dating a person, to all of the inane and what I considered unnecessary chatter. I always loved the times of restful thoughtful silence. Many of my friends tried to “assist” me but I saw no rreason to change.
For our first dates here in Sweden, we just do something simple.. meet up for a coffee, go for a walk, or just sit and talk. It seems like americans have more grand expectations about the first dates.
I think an important factor is that the equality runs through everything - including sex. One of the factors regarding the view of men being alphas and sort of “tricking” women into bed with them is lost when there is an expected dynamic of mutual pleasure within the couple, instead of assuming that only the men get something out of it. This, and also that there’s a large understanding of women having a sexuality of our own 🥰
Bullshit (fake) feminism nonsense that isn't true, just because we choose to believe it doesn't make it a fact. Du lever i en illusion, vakna. Är så äcklad över denna förvrängda syn på sex som svenskar har, för den stämmer inte överens med kvinnans psykologi och får inte kvinnor att må bättre. Vi ÄR inte män, ok? Så kan vi sluta låtsas som om vi måste fungera som män och sjunka till deras nivå och knulla runt bara för att dom gör det?
Well, greetings from the weird neighbour! 😄 As someone looking to move to Sweden or Norway at some point, it was really interesting to get to know the differences between each country. Fun and informative. 👍
I’m danish and I don’t agree with everything said. But I will have to comment on one thing. Having kids before marriage is not to test the relationship. At that point couples feel like they know they are right for each other. If a relationship doesn’t work out it doesn’t matter if the couple were married or not.
As a Swede i've usually found that when both parties are mutually interested in each other you put of the sex for abit longer, like you still can follow them home after a night out and spend the night without sleeping together! But i'm from a smaller town so guess that could be a reason as to why.. And i usually open doors, walks closest to the road on the side walk etc when im dating someone, guess its when im actually interested those things comes out abit more.. It's wierd🤣
Awesome interview, packed with interesting information, thanks! Can you please do interviews / talk about raising children in Scandinavia and particularly in Sweden? Thanks!
Independence in general is more emphasized, also in bringing up children, at least in Norway. That is connected to the resistance against someone else buying you something
As a swede who likes things to be a bit slower I find the "dating" in Sweden to be utterly horrifying and hopeless. I don't want to get in bed with someone first time I meet them, I think sex should be between two people who share an emotional connection. That doesn't mean I believe in soulmates or you need to be married or there's only one person for you, but I think sex should be kept within a relationship, and one at a time. Add to that that I don't drink any alcohol and get uncomfortable around people who are getting drunk, and I can't stand environments where you can't carry a normal conversation due to noise it means I hardly ever go out. I'm 25 and I've been to 2 or 3 bars and/or clubs in my life and left within the hour as the people I went with started getting drunk and I started getting a headache due to noise, so I'm never really in a place to meet someone to talk to. And even if I didn't have my anti one-night stand or "KK" views, I would feel like a jerk and vile person if I went to bed with someone who was intoxicated while I was sober, even if the person in question went out that night with the objective of getting laid with some random guy that seemed good enough for the moment. I asked my first girl out when I was 13 and in the 12 years since I've only ever gotten to know 5 or 6 girls in a way that I would consider asking them out but I've always ended up getting rejected, which is always quite emotionally damaging when you already know someone well enough to have decided this is a person I would like to try and form a romantic relationship with, so after a while I just stopped. Last time was the first time in over 3 years I'd met someone like that, since I don't get out a lot and don't really have any friends who might introduce me to their friends. That broke me extra hard and led to serious suicidal thoughts and after that I decided to stop trying all together. I decided I'd rather not have girlfriend or that potential future family I've dreamed of since I was 14 and that I'd rather live the rest of my life a virgin than put myself though anything like this again, and for over a year I've been much better mentally. I can't honestly say I'm happy, but I haven't contemplated any self harm either. Sorry that it got really dark at the end, but I wanted to offer up a different perspective on the matter.
Det finns tjejer som är lika dig och som vill liknande saker, det lovar jag, men exakt hur du kan träffa dem kan jag inte säga. Skönt att du mår bättre nu. Kanske öva på att flörta med någon du faktiskt inte vill dejta? Bara för att göra det mindre laddat? Lycka till!
Blixthand, if you rewatch the video she addresses how to meet people outside of the drunk bar culture. Activity groups seem to be very popular there and can be a great place to start with meeting people. Apps aren’t great but I do know many people they’ve worked successfully for. Keep trying. There’s someone (probably even many someone’s) out there for you who will appreciate you.
@@Atlantya Thanks for trying to pep me up, but I don't think it would be mentally sound for me to start trying again, at least not now. I'll keep activity groups in mind, though I don't really know what I am interested in that would do well as a group activity. I like reading and I've though about trying to find some kind of open book circle or something, but I'm very spontaneous when it comes to reading, sometimes I do 100 pages in one sitting, sometimes I don't read at all for 3 months and sometimes I skip between 5-6 different books within the same week. The idea of having to read a specific title and doing it in a pr-determined time seems like it's not for me. I also like hiking and would like to get out more, but I've tried hiking with other people before and more often than not it ends badly as someone always have to wait for someone else and starts getting annoyed that things aren't going their pace. I used to practice archery for 10 years, but in that time I never made any kind of friends that I had any kind of contact with outside practice, much less any romantic interest, and now I haven't even been to practice in 5 years since I first had to make room for university studies and now my current job is in the evenings, when practice is, and there are no weekend practices, at least not in my local club. In the video she also mentioned friends introducing you to other friends, but I don't really have any friends to begin with. I have one true friend and two people who like to call themselves my friends, but I'm lucky if they respond 1/10 times I try to contact them, and none of these people live in Sweden. My true friend never did, I met her while traveling, and the other two has moved away, so my social group is limited to my workplace (not really a place to make friends, but it pays the bills until I can find something better) and my parents.
I've been dating a Swedish guy for several years, and I could agree with most things you discussed about Swedes. Myself, I'm from the Baltics and I grew up with the idea that men given women special treatment. Oh boy, then I met a Swede... 😅 The stark difference in gender relations is still something that I struggle a bit with, to be honest. So all the girls who want to date a Swede - be ready to split the bill, all of them. 😀 And yes, the political correctness of Swedes - it's a real thing. I'm still trying to figure out what are safe topics to joke about in Sweden.😄
On the other hand, isnt it special, having a man who doesnt act like a child when it comes to cleaning and as if theyre completly incapable of it ? Speaking a swede living in germany...
Interesting video, really enjoyed it. Im from Denmark and culturally we are very similar to other scandinavian countries like Sweden and Norway I think. Its kind of interesting that we are so open to having sex but at the same time I feel like the whole "courting" as In trying to start a relationship is much more slow and held back than in other countries. I kind of envy say americans that they are so straight forward, in saying like for instance "I like you" and not dance around the subject for weeks.
"I like you" just means I want to continue having sex with you (and, possibly, others) without any commitment. In older times when (a) being a person of character was considered important and (b) sex was considered a joint responsibility and not another consumer product, people carefully considered things and were not afraid to say "I love you" when the time was right. "I like you" reflects the shallowness of today's culture. P.S I'm American.
Oh no I’m allergic to that aspect of American culture. I feel like they’re so superficial that a single half deep conversation with an American makes them think you’re best friends and dating 2 months is enough to get engaged 🥴 So many reddit stories of people having their whole world turned upside down when their partner cheats on them and how their partner was their best friend and the person they trusted more than anything in the world and then next sentence you find out they only met 2 years earlier 🤯 Or when they find out some super crazy personality trait of their spouse because apparently they didn’t date long enough to get to know each other properly. Meanwhile I’m here expecting close friendships of 15 years to randomly end and don’t think 20 years is enough to really know a person 🤣
i am a swedish man, i have never datid when i was drinking, for me it was just when i saw a girl i got interestid in, i just walk ober to her an said hi, that mostly broke the ice and got them talking, but it has gone the other way aswell, girls has come to me and started a conversasion. so it is indivindual how we date here.
We do have a terrible way of using alcohol to "be ourselves" instead of working on our self esteem, and according to research 7 out of 10 Swedes either have a real problem or drinking habits that are likely to lead to alcoholism. Many women are in their masculine energy and men are being in their feminine being passive. It's like the roles are rewersed rather than equal.. So it's not just fun and games living in Sweden.
Den här videon var intressant att se. Kan det också vara så att de sociala skyddsnät som vi har här i Scandinavien gör det lättare för paren att bli mer jämlika, än var de är i tex USA?
@@KurtFrederiksen Ja, jag kan hålla med dig. Religionen har också en stor del i det. Min tanke var kanske att kvinnor tex letar efter stabilitet och någon som kan "ta hand om dem", annars kan det gå fort utför. Männen är dem som ska *provide and protect* Har sett det i riktiga livet. Pengar är en mycket större drivkraft i de här länderna.
@@KurtFrederiksen - I both agree and disagree with you. It's true that we had a very free culture around sex and relationships in the Viking era and the church seems to have had issues getting us to accept the need for church weddings - and it's probably true that we remained more "down to earth" here in Scandinavia than many of the super religious denominations, who went to America. But we have been very religious countries, where people were punished by law for fornicating, and it was rare for people to get divorced, until women got their own wage paying jobs.
Sure Swedish people do small talk but maybe not with everybody. As a Swede I don't recognize this view of Scandinavians. There are lots of people who don't drink or not a lot. It really depends on people and age groups also. When you talk about dating culture that's not really how it is here either. Maybe in Denmark? or possibly for some sub-groups of people (or very young people). People oftentimes meet through some dating apps/dating sites where they will talk with someone for a long time before they meet. The "sex before coffee" I find very odd and it's not something that I recognize.
Being sambos or having kids is really not a test to see if you work in a relationship with your partner. But because in Sweden we are generally not very religious we just don't see it as necessary to get married. You can still make a commitment while being sambos, living together and having children. Legally though I think it can be an advantage to get married, and therefore some people get married later on or sometimes they just feel like doing it. Also sadly slutshaming does exist in Sweden as well but maybe not as much as in the USA or maybe not always in the same way. This is I think related to gender structures, ideas on how we view women/men, even though we are not always conscious about them.
I agree that it's definitely not how everyone does it, and that it's especially the young people, who hook up with others (strangers?) while drunk. In my experience (Denmark) many people do hook up while drunk, but often know each other in advance. Perhaps as fellow students, colleagues, neighbors... At the same time dating apps have definitely gained ground, and quite a few of us prefer getting to know people before getting physically and/or emotionally involved.
Exactly. But I've never dated so I probably shouldn't say anything. I got together with a friend so I luckily skipped that part. Anyway, I've never heard of sex before dating from anyone. Though I am in my 30's so that could why. People in my age group don't generally go out clubbing that much. At most maybe once or twice a year. Last time I was at a night club was back in 2016 and even then I felt out of place. So it could also be because I'm just not that kind of person. Anyway, de borde inte dra alla över en kam or at least not when it seems like the interviewees were younger party going people.
As a Norwegian: Sweedes and Norwegians are very similar to each other. Danes are very... German. In a collection of Scandinavian people, you hear the Danes first 🤭 It's sad that Norwegians aren't mentioned as much when people from other countries talk about Scandinavia, I think :/
Being from Denmark and Faroe Islands I almost hear more about Norwegians than I do Danes. Like I have to actively look for things related Denmark and Danes.
Thats simply because of the population size. Sweden just has the largest population of all the nordic countries, thus we are mentioned more.If its any consolation though, many swedes are actually more norwegian than swedish, as i found out through DNA. Atleast if youre family is from Jämtland/Härjedalen. This because of heritage from Jämtland (originally norwegian) I think its fascinating, that according to dna im still more norweigan than swedish, i mean its been a while since the 1600s. I guess cause people married close to home still, even if that area was called sweden at that point, their dna was and still is norwegian. From wiki: Försvenskningen av Jämtland Direkt efter det svenska övertagandet av Jämtland inleddes en försvenskningsprocess av landskapet. År 1646 upprättades Ångermanlands, Medelpads och Jämtlands regemente som skulle försäkra kontrollen över Jämtland. Härnösands stift bildades 1647 med samma syfte. Den svenska kontrollapparaten var mer avancerad än den danska och försvenskningsprocessen skedde även den med större vilja och resultat än den initierad av den danska statsmakten. De resterande delarna av Jamtamot införlivas i ett svenskt landsjämnadsting - Jämtlands landsjämnadsting och blev underordnad den svenske landshövdingen. Från den svenska statsmakten planerade man även att anlägga en svensk stad i Jämtland
well-travelled Dane here. Having been to both Germany, Norway and Sweden on multiple occasions, and having a dad that has moved to and lived in Germany for a decade and a half, I wanna express my disagreement. Danes and Germans are very much not alike… Although Germans are very nice. Scandinavians are very much alike though, whether you wanna admit it or not. We drink before we hook up, we are not as outgoing as other people, we have small friend groups etc. It’s funny though, when it comes to the question ofwho is more alike, Norwegians tend to be split: 50% of the time they’ll say Sweden, and the other 50% will say Denmark. In Sweden they will likely always say Norway, but Den,ark and Sweden also act like annoyed beothers, so there is that. But saying that Den ark is more German than Scandinavian has no merit at all, and it wouldn’t surprise me if someone saying that had never been to Denmark or only Copenhagen.
When talking about the countries personalities it sounds like she's copying the anthropomorphized countries in the webcomic "scandinavia and the world" (If you haven't you should look it up, it's been going for years upon years now, pretty sure it's at least a decade old if not more).
I grew up in Sweden and I also think this is really interesting/weird. These people are reserved but they seem to have no problem with finding a romantic/sexual partner? I'm also reserved AND shy so I find that whole thing really awkward.
Haha well tbh most people in Sweden are pretty confident so being reserved almost never has to do with being shy or bad confidence etc! And if imma be honest, atleast from where i am in Sweden its more common for the females to reach out to the guys then vise versa when it comes to casual hookups etc.. Been like that since i was a teen and im in my 30's now haha
@@dirreeN Well, the way I see it is that people who aren't shy are usually the opposite of reserved. I know everyone isn't shy but I am and I feel like the "reserved culture" in Sweden has made it harder for me to be outgoing. I mean, I think I would have been less shy if I would have grown up in another country where people are more likely to talk to strangers etc. And yeah, I get what you're saying but I can't relate to those females.
You could ask my wife what its like being married to a finn, every time she reads an article about finns she says yes thats it even though I am 3rd generation us it was deeply ingrained in my father so just carries on. My son is a little better but the finn is strong in him.
One thing I notice about americans is that they seem very stressed. Talk all the time, very fast tempo. And loud . Calm down, like us scandinavians . Out in the nature much more here. That will calm you down and is very healthy both physically and mentally
@@Ilikefrogs..it’s very stressful, that’s why i’m getting the gell out of here 😭 i need swedish healthcare, in US it’s a joke. tho in the south, we have made up our on language basically, we talk very fast and basically combine words into one word,
As a Norwegian I can’t stop laughing, especially at all the ridiculous comments. Sorry that our liberal, progressive culture, country, society, custom and norms and equality triggers and scares you🤣🤣🤣 Especially you in the colonized lands of America, who wouldn’t know what any of those are🤪🤡🤷🏾♀️ Tho the drinking, partying, and sex isn’t new but can be traced all the way back to the Vikings. It’s just the modern look and appearance that’s new.
I was going to study in Sweden next september but I think I would go to another country, I thought that swedes were more traditional and wanted to have meaningfull relationships. that is sad, I am from Spain and it's hard to not find a hoe so I'm still single
The drink "swedes drink a lot" is funny. Simply because, we don't. We drink 7 liters alcohol per capita. The US drink 8.3 liters alcohol per capita. A lot of what she says about Sweden, just isn't true. Makes me really sad to see that someone writes a book about dating culture in a country that they don't know enough about. You don't go out to drink and go home with someone to fuck em. That is a very small miniority of people that do that. And I worked at a night club for 7 years, It's the same people, over & over just sleeping with each other.
Our sex culture is not that free. At all. Having a high number of sexual partners as a women is something you get extremely slut shamed for here. My take on "swedish dating culture" is simple, we don't have one, we don't date.
I'm Norwegian and too old to know what it's like with young people today, but I have children and have caught up a bit. I think you have some points. It is those who speak the loudest that are noticed, and presumably it is their culture that is being discussed. To be able to say anything for sure, a professional study is needed. My children and their friends haven't been to night clubs as much as I was when I was young - back then it was quite common to go to discos at weekends. It was a place to meet potential partners. Today, I have the impression that the young people meet at house parties. There they meet friends of friends and in that way expand their network of contacts. It is very difficult for those who are not included in circles of friends. If they have few friends in the first place, they become very vulnerable when their friends move away.
I was with you until the last part. I don't think women are being "extremely slut shamed" anywhere in the Scandinavian countries anymore, even though there might still be some leftover misogynistic biases here and there.
Im an swede and so lost in the dating sceen here. Where does people get dates here? Really sould not be this hard. The whole dating part i feel i have a good take on BUT getting dates is insane hard here
Sex isn’t taboo in the U.S it’s more intimate. Sex has more meaning in the U.S than Scandinavia. Putting value on sex makes it special when you do have it with someone. Casual sex is giving a piece of yourself to another. It’s healthy vulnerability.
I find the US to be very old fashioned, whereas the Scandinavians are more with the times. Which style is better for the human race remains to be seen but I know which one I prefer.
I could easily see a lot of people agreeing with you, and just as many people believing the opposite as you. For one example of the opposite, every public building in America is accessible by wheelchair, and the vast majority of public buildings (all of them, maybe?) have free drinking water for anyone to have, too. In that way, the US is ahead of a lot of European countries. You have to always be careful to check for the ways that bias is being used to filter out negative aspects of a country. Broadly speaking, as an American, I'd consider Sweden significantly more old-fashioned than the US, but I'd still prefer to live in Sweden.
@@glowerworm - Accessibility really depends on the age of the buildings, but I'm fairly certain that the building regulations in both the US and all of Scandinavia puts emphasis on accessibility. City planning is typically better regarding accessibility, where the cities have 'walkability' (Mixed use neighborhoods, sidewalks, bike paths, good public transportation etc.), as opposed to the 'car centric' cities.
Denmark is the mild mother, Sweden the strict father, Norway the beuatiful dauther, Finland the rebelious son, Iceland a cousin and Greenland an adopted child. There's also a crepy uncle - not a blood relative though! - we try to ignore-
@@ane-louisestampe7939 Russia? I can't think of any other creepy uncles although I think Germany and Netherlands have the potential to be weird relatives.. I guess Estonia is the orphan friend of the rebellious son that's secretly jealous of him and wants to be part of the family x)
@@binkao2938 Germany and Netherlands are our dearest friends, as they are pretty much the same as us - especially when it comes to partying The Baltic Countries are so close they feel like family. So, yes. you got it in first. Not only has he been very, very mean to Finland in the past - he also keept the Baltics from hanging out with us for decades. Where are you from Binka? Peace and love
About marriage before kids or nah? I mean what does a peace of paper really mean in regard to bringing up a child? I think a marriage makes it more difficult to separate from each other and for me thats a bad thing. Besides some legal bs 😏 a marriage doesnt change anything. I have been with the same man for 18 years and we do not plan to get married 😅 I should also tell you that we maneged to bring up 4 beatiful children without being married and we still love each other😂😂❤❤
@@ahkkariq7406 Because it doesn't. It's a ring and a piece of paper. Nothing changes. You can protect your children the same way as marriage without being married. It just requires you to sign some other type of papers.
Quality of education: 1. Finland 2. Denmark 3. Sweden 4. Norway ? I know Finland has been considered the best within mathematics, not sure how the status is 2023 No Amazon.
JUST CHECK INFLUENCE ROMAN EMPIRE OVER WESTERN (NON SCANDINAVIAN), WHERE THE MAIN SPOT WAS "FAMILY". ON THE OTHER HAND SCANDINAVIANS BASED THEIR MOVES OVER THE FACT THAT THE CENTER IS THE COMMUNITY. THAT SHAPED OUR REALITY AND HOW WE APROCH OTHERS.
The disscus won't be current and last for long tho due to the fact that Scandinavians gonna end up pretty quickly. Theyve brought the whole world to their land. People are mixing themselves, all kind of them.
I've never dated so I had no idea people have sex before hooking up. I met my partner through an internet forum. We were just looking for friends and that's what we were at first. I'm glad that happened because sex to me is something you should only do with a partner. I don't even consider it important or a priority. It can come several years in to the relationship. I kind of look down on anyone that thinks the opposite. I know that's not nice of me but I do and I can'thelp it. I find it pathetic. Love is so much more than sex. There are hundred of things I'd rather do before I go to bed with someone I love. So if I ever end up single I will probably never find a likeminded woman again. Unless people mature ln their 30's and stop acting like a horny teenager.
It's wrong. It is impossible to generalize like that, I'm a swede and I HATE PHONECALLS, with a dying passion, text messages or discord or skype or snap or writing wherever? 1000% yes please
Too many blanket statements that don't really define the ways and mindset of my kind of people. She's looking through the eyes and mind of a foreigner who may come from a culture that thrives on romantic drama and idealism. We do grown up relationships and love to hygge. Don't overthink and try to analyze everyone. We're chill.
Why on earth should we pay for your bill. I suspect you have an income those you can afford paying for it… they are right in one thing, we do appreciate independence and equality, this means that a bill is either paid individually, shared or just as often paid by the girl, if you want a sugar daddy, Scandinavians are probably the worst pick.
Hello!! If you’ve watched the videos no one with an ounce of respect and value themselves would lower themselves to beg like a dog to be accepted by Scandinavians. HELLO!! Wake up.
@@annablomma79 I mean Swedish women.) Do Swedish women have one night stands? Is this their slut shaming or is it normal? Are you from Sweden? I understood correctly
@@annablomma79 You wrote that everything in the video is correct. So I asked in your country women have a free sex life or they are scammed for it.) Sorry if I interrupted
Hook-ups are a sad and sleezy part of western culture; no feelings, no commitment. It will be the death of us since carnal pleasure triumphs the need of wanting a family.
But then how do you start getting to know someone like humour or travel or food or school or family. Sure it’s small talk but you don’t know this person so how could you go deep. That makes zero sense. If you can’t just talk to someone even if it’s a bit it’s just social to do. I can spot a drunk person and if they’d approach me they’d get a black eye. I do not put up with this nonsense.
the protestan kultur , not the hard katolik thing , are not same kultur , have somthing to do with it , and we are more relax one the sex thing , i like US , one many way , they have a great kultur , and we dont need to be the same people
En man som inte letar efter sex utan en seriös relation? Var söker man en sådan om inte på en dejtingapp? På baren? Imo, dit går man för en öl eller två med kollegorna. Jag anser att en riktig relation som kan fungera i årtionden är en som fungerar perfekt utan sex i årtionden. Sex kan vara viktigt men det har ingen chans mot en relation fylld av äkta kärlek. En relation där det är ett krav är en relation som endast består av känslor och är ytlig. Folk som bara erfarat sådana har ingen aning hur det är att vara tillsammans med sin själsfrände.
It’s not anti social, there no such thing as an anti social culture… as that’s simply not possible. But the culture values different aspects of social life and behaviour, but it’s still very much a social thing, but in its own unique way, so there just other norms and values at play.
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Not sure how representative I am, but being a swede, one of the critical parts to me, that has to work for a relationship to work, is comfortable silence. I mean, imagine if during all the time you and your partner spend together, there has to be a conversatioin....! Scheeezsh... no mas.
That's really true!
Same with your closets friends, this is I think pretty important in all cultures to have, but in Sweden it's major.
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In Finland too.
The same in Norway.
Thanks for having me on the channel, Stefan! I loved chatting about this topic - can talk about it all day 😂
The long period of seasonal darkness pervades everything in Scandinavia. I don't mean that in a bad way. It's just a presence in everything including relationships. You only have to watch Scandinavian movies to know that.
Can you please elaborate on that and/or recommend some movies with that feeling.
Really interesting interview! 👊
About the open doors part I think in general most Swedish guys are great gentlemen's and they do a lot of those things, like open doors and take out the chair for the date/girl.
The big difference is that the girls in Sweden are so independent and mostly really confident. That they really doesn't at all find it attractive for guys to overdo this charming things and princess treat them. The way to charm them is to be really impressed and interested at all things they have accomplished in their life so far.
Maybe it depends 😁 but if i find a man like this I'll always appreciate and love for sure
I replied even before watching the video i found your comment interesting
Sounds a bit egocentric to just show interest in their accomplishments.
@@Marcusianery I didn't mean just show interest in that? That's just one really good way to charm Swedish-girls.
As a Norwegian, I could never imagine sitting in the car and waiting for him to get out and around the car to open the door for me. Why should I do that? There are door handles on the inside. There is something different about other doors. I have no problem with men opening doors for me if he gets to the door first. If I am first, I will open the door for anyone coming after me.
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It's the same here in Denmark 🇩🇰🙂
Loved this collaboration and conversation! Thank you so much! :)
Our pleasure!
Really nice and a great start of this friday. Thank you very much for making this. And so nice to see your channel is growing and growing. Have a great weekend Stefan
Being born, and brought up, in the states, I could never understand, why it was necessary, while dating a person, to all of the inane and what I considered unnecessary chatter. I always loved the times of restful thoughtful silence. Many of my friends tried to “assist” me but I saw no rreason to change.
For our first dates here in Sweden, we just do something simple.. meet up for a coffee, go for a walk, or just sit and talk. It seems like americans have more grand expectations about the first dates.
I think an important factor is that the equality runs through everything - including sex. One of the factors regarding the view of men being alphas and sort of “tricking” women into bed with them is lost when there is an expected dynamic of mutual pleasure within the couple, instead of assuming that only the men get something out of it. This, and also that there’s a large understanding of women having a sexuality of our own 🥰
Bullshit (fake) feminism nonsense that isn't true, just because we choose to believe it doesn't make it a fact. Du lever i en illusion, vakna.
Är så äcklad över denna förvrängda syn på sex som svenskar har, för den stämmer inte överens med kvinnans psykologi och får inte kvinnor att må bättre. Vi ÄR inte män, ok? Så kan vi sluta låtsas som om vi måste fungera som män och sjunka till deras nivå och knulla runt bara för att dom gör det?
in other words sleeping around ?
No manipulation, it's genuine
@@marvin2678
Very incel comment
@@Commentator488 Well am i wrong tho
The analogies for each Scandinavian country at the end were funny and fitting =P
Well, greetings from the weird neighbour! 😄 As someone looking to move to Sweden or Norway at some point, it was really interesting to get to know the differences between each country. Fun and informative. 👍
I’m danish and I don’t agree with everything said. But I will have to comment on one thing. Having kids before marriage is not to test the relationship. At that point couples feel like they know they are right for each other. If a relationship doesn’t work out it doesn’t matter if the couple were married or not.
Great conversation, Stefan
Always interesting to hear how others see (us) Scandis 🤣
hello from Denmark 🌸 🌧
As a Swede i've usually found that when both parties are mutually interested in each other you put of the sex for abit longer, like you still can follow them home after a night out and spend the night without sleeping together! But i'm from a smaller town so guess that could be a reason as to why.. And i usually open doors, walks closest to the road on the side walk etc when im dating someone, guess its when im actually interested those things comes out abit more.. It's wierd🤣
Loved this video, Stefan! What a great conversation!
Awesome interview, packed with interesting information, thanks!
Can you please do interviews / talk about raising children in Scandinavia and particularly in Sweden?
Thanks!
Sure thing! We discuss this in our next video :)
Its so fun to hear you talk about this in this way. Because Sweden brought the entire world here in some way, its changing really fast.
Independence in general is more emphasized, also in bringing up children, at least in Norway. That is connected to the resistance against someone else buying you something
Not a good thing for women to be independent. Y’all now have a record number of single mothers.
As a swede who likes things to be a bit slower I find the "dating" in Sweden to be utterly horrifying and hopeless. I don't want to get in bed with someone first time I meet them, I think sex should be between two people who share an emotional connection. That doesn't mean I believe in soulmates or you need to be married or there's only one person for you, but I think sex should be kept within a relationship, and one at a time. Add to that that I don't drink any alcohol and get uncomfortable around people who are getting drunk, and I can't stand environments where you can't carry a normal conversation due to noise it means I hardly ever go out.
I'm 25 and I've been to 2 or 3 bars and/or clubs in my life and left within the hour as the people I went with started getting drunk and I started getting a headache due to noise, so I'm never really in a place to meet someone to talk to. And even if I didn't have my anti one-night stand or "KK" views, I would feel like a jerk and vile person if I went to bed with someone who was intoxicated while I was sober, even if the person in question went out that night with the objective of getting laid with some random guy that seemed good enough for the moment.
I asked my first girl out when I was 13 and in the 12 years since I've only ever gotten to know 5 or 6 girls in a way that I would consider asking them out but I've always ended up getting rejected, which is always quite emotionally damaging when you already know someone well enough to have decided this is a person I would like to try and form a romantic relationship with, so after a while I just stopped. Last time was the first time in over 3 years I'd met someone like that, since I don't get out a lot and don't really have any friends who might introduce me to their friends. That broke me extra hard and led to serious suicidal thoughts and after that I decided to stop trying all together. I decided I'd rather not have girlfriend or that potential future family I've dreamed of since I was 14 and that I'd rather live the rest of my life a virgin than put myself though anything like this again, and for over a year I've been much better mentally. I can't honestly say I'm happy, but I haven't contemplated any self harm either. Sorry that it got really dark at the end, but I wanted to offer up a different perspective on the matter.
Jesus, are you ok?
Det finns tjejer som är lika dig och som vill liknande saker, det lovar jag, men exakt hur du kan träffa dem kan jag inte säga. Skönt att du mår bättre nu.
Kanske öva på att flörta med någon du faktiskt inte vill dejta? Bara för att göra det mindre laddat? Lycka till!
Blixthand, if you rewatch the video she addresses how to meet people outside of the drunk bar culture. Activity groups seem to be very popular there and can be a great place to start with meeting people. Apps aren’t great but I do know many people they’ve worked successfully for. Keep trying. There’s someone (probably even many someone’s) out there for you who will appreciate you.
@@Atlantya Thanks for trying to pep me up, but I don't think it would be mentally sound for me to start trying again, at least not now. I'll keep activity groups in mind, though I don't really know what I am interested in that would do well as a group activity. I like reading and I've though about trying to find some kind of open book circle or something, but I'm very spontaneous when it comes to reading, sometimes I do 100 pages in one sitting, sometimes I don't read at all for 3 months and sometimes I skip between 5-6 different books within the same week. The idea of having to read a specific title and doing it in a pr-determined time seems like it's not for me. I also like hiking and would like to get out more, but I've tried hiking with other people before and more often than not it ends badly as someone always have to wait for someone else and starts getting annoyed that things aren't going their pace.
I used to practice archery for 10 years, but in that time I never made any kind of friends that I had any kind of contact with outside practice, much less any romantic interest, and now I haven't even been to practice in 5 years since I first had to make room for university studies and now my current job is in the evenings, when practice is, and there are no weekend practices, at least not in my local club.
In the video she also mentioned friends introducing you to other friends, but I don't really have any friends to begin with. I have one true friend and two people who like to call themselves my friends, but I'm lucky if they respond 1/10 times I try to contact them, and none of these people live in Sweden. My true friend never did, I met her while traveling, and the other two has moved away, so my social group is limited to my workplace (not really a place to make friends, but it pays the bills until I can find something better) and my parents.
I get that you are anti-one-night-stand. But do you have to be anti-paragraph as well?
I've been dating a Swedish guy for several years, and I could agree with most things you discussed about Swedes. Myself, I'm from the Baltics and I grew up with the idea that men given women special treatment. Oh boy, then I met a Swede... 😅 The stark difference in gender relations is still something that I struggle a bit with, to be honest. So all the girls who want to date a Swede - be ready to split the bill, all of them. 😀
And yes, the political correctness of Swedes - it's a real thing. I'm still trying to figure out what are safe topics to joke about in Sweden.😄
About the political correctness, I am born in Sweden and I have the same problem.
ah man, thats so sad that its developed in this way.Edit- a swede
On the other hand, isnt it special, having a man who doesnt act like a child when it comes to cleaning and as if theyre completly incapable of it ? Speaking a swede living in germany...
@@reineh3477In reality, it has nothing to do with correctness in its true meaning.
Split the check at restaurant and dates 50-50? 😮 what happens when you live together still 50-50? Why are women treated like men? That is not ok.
Interesting video, really enjoyed it. Im from Denmark and culturally we are very similar to other scandinavian countries like Sweden and Norway I think. Its kind of interesting that we are so open to having sex but at the same time I feel like the whole "courting" as In trying to start a relationship is much more slow and held back than in other countries. I kind of envy say americans that they are so straight forward, in saying like for instance "I like you" and not dance around the subject for weeks.
"I like you" just means I want to continue having sex with you (and, possibly, others) without any commitment. In older times when (a) being a person of character was considered important and (b) sex was considered a joint responsibility and not another consumer product, people carefully considered things and were not afraid to say "I love you" when the time was right.
"I like you" reflects the shallowness of today's culture.
P.S I'm American.
Oh no I’m allergic to that aspect of American culture. I feel like they’re so superficial that a single half deep conversation with an American makes them think you’re best friends and dating 2 months is enough to get engaged 🥴 So many reddit stories of people having their whole world turned upside down when their partner cheats on them and how their partner was their best friend and the person they trusted more than anything in the world and then next sentence you find out they only met 2 years earlier 🤯 Or when they find out some super crazy personality trait of their spouse because apparently they didn’t date long enough to get to know each other properly. Meanwhile I’m here expecting close friendships of 15 years to randomly end and don’t think 20 years is enough to really know a person 🤣
i am a swedish man, i have never datid when i was drinking, for me it was just when i saw a girl i got interestid in, i just walk ober to her an said hi, that mostly broke the ice and got them talking, but it has gone the other way aswell, girls has come to me and started a conversasion. so it is indivindual how we date here.
We do have a terrible way of using alcohol to "be ourselves" instead of working on our self esteem, and according to research 7 out of 10 Swedes either have a real problem or drinking habits that are likely to lead to alcoholism. Many women are in their masculine energy and men are being in their feminine being passive. It's like the roles are rewersed rather than equal.. So it's not just fun and games living in Sweden.
Absolutely,men are so feminine 😂
Indeed
Go to the US, equality isn’t for you, obviously
I always open doors, but not only toward women. And I expect them to do the same. x) It's not a huge deal, it's just what feels natural.
why not men
@@marvin2678 What do you mean by "why not men"?
Den här videon var intressant att se. Kan det också vara så att de sociala skyddsnät som vi har här i Scandinavien gör det lättare för paren att bli mer jämlika, än var de är i tex USA?
@@KurtFrederiksen
Ja, jag kan hålla med dig. Religionen har också en stor del i det.
Min tanke var kanske att kvinnor tex letar efter stabilitet och någon som kan "ta hand om dem", annars kan det gå fort utför. Männen är dem som ska *provide and protect* Har sett det i riktiga livet. Pengar är en mycket större drivkraft i de här länderna.
@@KurtFrederiksen - I both agree and disagree with you.
It's true that we had a very free culture around sex and relationships in the Viking era and the church seems to have had issues getting us to accept the need for church weddings - and it's probably true that we remained more "down to earth" here in Scandinavia than many of the super religious denominations, who went to America. But we have been very religious countries, where people were punished by law for fornicating, and it was rare for people to get divorced, until women got their own wage paying jobs.
Sure Swedish people do small talk but maybe not with everybody. As a Swede I don't recognize this view of Scandinavians. There are lots of people who don't drink or not a lot. It really depends on people and age groups also. When you talk about dating culture that's not really how it is here either. Maybe in Denmark? or possibly for some sub-groups of people (or very young people). People oftentimes meet through some dating apps/dating sites where they will talk with someone for a long time before they meet. The "sex before coffee" I find very odd and it's not something that I recognize.
Being sambos or having kids is really not a test to see if you work in a relationship with your partner. But because in Sweden we are generally not very religious we just don't see it as necessary to get married. You can still make a commitment while being sambos, living together and having children. Legally though I think it can be an advantage to get married, and therefore some people get married later on or sometimes they just feel like doing it. Also sadly slutshaming does exist in Sweden as well but maybe not as much as in the USA or maybe not always in the same way. This is I think related to gender structures, ideas on how we view women/men, even though we are not always conscious about them.
I agree that it's definitely not how everyone does it, and that it's especially the young people, who hook up with others (strangers?) while drunk.
In my experience (Denmark) many people do hook up while drunk, but often know each other in advance. Perhaps as fellow students, colleagues, neighbors...
At the same time dating apps have definitely gained ground, and quite a few of us prefer getting to know people before getting physically and/or emotionally involved.
Exactly. But I've never dated so I probably shouldn't say anything. I got together with a friend so I luckily skipped that part. Anyway, I've never heard of sex before dating from anyone. Though I am in my 30's so that could why. People in my age group don't generally go out clubbing that much. At most maybe once or twice a year. Last time I was at a night club was back in 2016 and even then I felt out of place. So it could also be because I'm just not that kind of person. Anyway, de borde inte dra alla över en kam or at least not when it seems like the interviewees were younger party going people.
Thanks for making this video, very interesting mindset for sure.
I mean people here don't expect the man to do the male role but they appreciate it especially if it doesn't feel forced.
As a Norwegian: Sweedes and Norwegians are very similar to each other. Danes are very... German. In a collection of Scandinavian people, you hear the Danes first 🤭 It's sad that Norwegians aren't mentioned as much when people from other countries talk about Scandinavia, I think :/
Being from Denmark and Faroe Islands I almost hear more about Norwegians than I do Danes.
Like I have to actively look for things related Denmark and Danes.
Thats simply because of the population size. Sweden just has the largest population of all the nordic countries, thus we are mentioned more.If its any consolation though, many swedes are actually more norwegian than swedish, as i found out through DNA. Atleast if youre family is from Jämtland/Härjedalen. This because of heritage from Jämtland (originally norwegian)
I think its fascinating, that according to dna im still more norweigan than swedish, i mean its been a while since the 1600s. I guess cause people married close to home still, even if that area was called sweden at that point, their dna was and still is norwegian.
From wiki:
Försvenskningen av Jämtland
Direkt efter det svenska övertagandet av Jämtland inleddes en försvenskningsprocess av landskapet. År 1646 upprättades Ångermanlands, Medelpads och Jämtlands regemente som skulle försäkra kontrollen över Jämtland. Härnösands stift bildades 1647 med samma syfte. Den svenska kontrollapparaten var mer avancerad än den danska och försvenskningsprocessen skedde även den med större vilja och resultat än den initierad av den danska statsmakten. De resterande delarna av Jamtamot införlivas i ett svenskt landsjämnadsting - Jämtlands landsjämnadsting och blev underordnad den svenske landshövdingen. Från den svenska statsmakten planerade man även att anlägga en svensk stad i Jämtland
what makes them german ?
@@marvin2678 Proximity
well-travelled Dane here. Having been to both Germany, Norway and Sweden on multiple occasions, and having a dad that has moved to and lived in Germany for a decade and a half, I wanna express my disagreement. Danes and Germans are very much not alike… Although Germans are very nice. Scandinavians are very much alike though, whether you wanna admit it or not. We drink before we hook up, we are not as outgoing as other people, we have small friend groups etc. It’s funny though, when it comes to the question ofwho is more alike, Norwegians tend to be split: 50% of the time they’ll say Sweden, and the other 50% will say Denmark. In Sweden they will likely always say Norway, but Den,ark and Sweden also act like annoyed beothers, so there is that. But saying that Den ark is more German than Scandinavian has no merit at all, and it wouldn’t surprise me if someone saying that had never been to Denmark or only Copenhagen.
When talking about the countries personalities it sounds like she's copying the anthropomorphized countries in the webcomic "scandinavia and the world" (If you haven't you should look it up, it's been going for years upon years now, pretty sure it's at least a decade old if not more).
If you want small talk in the stockholm region then goto Rimbo or Hallstavik in Norrtälje. People like to talk there....
Yeah, great talk! Thanks! 🙂
I grew up in Sweden and I also think this is really interesting/weird. These people are reserved but they seem to have no problem with finding a romantic/sexual partner? I'm also reserved AND shy so I find that whole thing really awkward.
Haha well tbh most people in Sweden are pretty confident so being reserved almost never has to do with being shy or bad confidence etc! And if imma be honest, atleast from where i am in Sweden its more common for the females to reach out to the guys then vise versa when it comes to casual hookups etc.. Been like that since i was a teen and im in my 30's now haha
@@dirreeN Well, the way I see it is that people who aren't shy are usually the opposite of reserved. I know everyone isn't shy but I am and I feel like the "reserved culture" in Sweden has made it harder for me to be outgoing. I mean, I think I would have been less shy if I would have grown up in another country where people are more likely to talk to strangers etc. And yeah, I get what you're saying but I can't relate to those females.
@@brunett93 Oh yeah, i can see what you're saying!
@@dirreeN sad
Det är intressant att höra dina reaktioner över svensk kultur och historia.Om det var billigare här i sverige.
You could ask my wife what its like being married to a finn, every time she reads an article about finns she says yes thats it even though I am 3rd generation us it was deeply ingrained in my father so just carries on. My son is a little better but the finn is strong in him.
One thing I notice about americans is that they seem very stressed. Talk all the time, very fast tempo. And loud . Calm down, like us scandinavians . Out in the nature much more here. That will calm you down and is very healthy both physically and mentally
As a Canadian who pays attention to American news, it seems like a stressful place to live. I don't blame them.
@@Ilikefrogs..it’s very stressful, that’s why i’m getting the gell out of here 😭 i need swedish healthcare, in US it’s a joke. tho in the south, we have made up our on language basically, we talk very fast and basically combine words into one word,
Which skandinavian country is the best for living? 24:06
As a Norwegian I can’t stop laughing, especially at all the ridiculous comments. Sorry that our liberal, progressive culture, country, society, custom and norms and equality triggers and scares you🤣🤣🤣 Especially you in the colonized lands of America, who wouldn’t know what any of those are🤪🤡🤷🏾♀️ Tho the drinking, partying, and sex isn’t new but can be traced all the way back to the Vikings. It’s just the modern look and appearance that’s new.
It's truly disgusting,I am so happy of not being Scandinavian
Giving your body to everyone is interesting
When I lived and was growing up in Sweden, I made the decision I would never marry a Swedish man. I never met good example of a potential husband.
Good for you that you know your preferences.
Sounds like either you grew up very isolated, or the ”good example of a potential husband” that you’re looking for, is a douche canoe…
I was going to study in Sweden next september but I think I would go to another country, I thought that swedes were more traditional and wanted to have meaningfull relationships. that is sad, I am from Spain and it's hard to not find a hoe so I'm still single
Men who take care of his kids and the house is not a good husband? I mean that is the bare minimum but still
Tips gör en collab/ interjuv med Filip pelas 🙃 Han är polis / komiker och även på sociala medier . Bra video ! 😊
I need to move to Denmark...
The drink "swedes drink a lot" is funny. Simply because, we don't. We drink 7 liters alcohol per capita. The US drink 8.3 liters alcohol per capita. A lot of what she says about Sweden, just isn't true. Makes me really sad to see that someone writes a book about dating culture in a country that they don't know enough about.
You don't go out to drink and go home with someone to fuck em. That is a very small miniority of people that do that. And I worked at a night club for 7 years, It's the same people, over & over just sleeping with each other.
Our sex culture is not that free. At all. Having a high number of sexual partners as a women is something you get extremely slut shamed for here.
My take on "swedish dating culture" is simple, we don't have one, we don't date.
Disagree
Fel
Håller inte med
I'm Norwegian and too old to know what it's like with young people today, but I have children and have caught up a bit. I think you have some points. It is those who speak the loudest that are noticed, and presumably it is their culture that is being discussed. To be able to say anything for sure, a professional study is needed. My children and their friends haven't been to night clubs as much as I was when I was young - back then it was quite common to go to discos at weekends. It was a place to meet potential partners. Today, I have the impression that the young people meet at house parties. There they meet friends of friends and in that way expand their network of contacts. It is very difficult for those who are not included in circles of friends. If they have few friends in the first place, they become very vulnerable when their friends move away.
I was with you until the last part.
I don't think women are being "extremely slut shamed" anywhere in the Scandinavian countries anymore, even though there might still be some leftover misogynistic biases here and there.
Im an swede and so lost in the dating sceen here. Where does people get dates here? Really sould not be this hard. The whole dating part i feel i have a good take on BUT getting dates is insane hard here
Sex isn’t taboo in the U.S it’s more intimate. Sex has more meaning in the U.S than Scandinavia. Putting value on sex makes it special when you do have it with someone. Casual sex is giving a piece of yourself to another. It’s healthy vulnerability.
Scandinavians highly value self-sufficiency. Most thing's you talk about circle around that.
I feel like I am the only person who is actually a Conservative in Scandinavia. But then again, I also hard pass on dating Scandinavians. 🤮
Conservatives 🤮
Scandinavians sound very conscious and spiritual people... more listning/observing and less talking ... wow...
She said Finland is part of Scandinavia. I'm triggered 😄
I like finish girls
No she said if you’d also look at the Nordics like Finland or Iceland :) I think she is aware of the difference.
I find the US to be very old fashioned, whereas the Scandinavians are more with the times. Which style is better for the human race remains to be seen but I know which one I prefer.
I could easily see a lot of people agreeing with you, and just as many people believing the opposite as you.
For one example of the opposite, every public building in America is accessible by wheelchair, and the vast majority of public buildings (all of them, maybe?) have free drinking water for anyone to have, too. In that way, the US is ahead of a lot of European countries.
You have to always be careful to check for the ways that bias is being used to filter out negative aspects of a country.
Broadly speaking, as an American, I'd consider Sweden significantly more old-fashioned than the US, but I'd still prefer to live in Sweden.
@@glowerworm - Accessibility really depends on the age of the buildings, but I'm fairly certain that the building regulations in both the US and all of Scandinavia puts emphasis on accessibility.
City planning is typically better regarding accessibility, where the cities have 'walkability' (Mixed use neighborhoods, sidewalks, bike paths, good public transportation etc.), as opposed to the 'car centric' cities.
Sex is not a tabboo for gays in US. Gays hook up all the time in US.
Denmark is the mild mother, Sweden the strict father, Norway the beuatiful dauther, Finland the rebelious son, Iceland a cousin and Greenland an adopted child.
There's also a crepy uncle - not a blood relative though! - we try to ignore-
Insightful!
Who’s the creepy uncle?
@@binkao2938 Guess!
I'll give you 3 chances 😄
@@ane-louisestampe7939 Russia? I can't think of any other creepy uncles although I think Germany and Netherlands have the potential to be weird relatives.. I guess Estonia is the orphan friend of the rebellious son that's secretly jealous of him and wants to be part of the family x)
@@binkao2938 Germany and Netherlands are our dearest friends, as they are pretty much the same as us - especially when it comes to partying The Baltic Countries are so close they feel like family.
So, yes. you got it in first.
Not only has he been very, very mean to Finland in the past - he also keept the Baltics from hanging out with us for decades.
Where are you from Binka?
Peace and love
About marriage before kids or nah? I mean what does a peace of paper really mean in regard to bringing up a child? I think a marriage makes it more difficult to separate from each other and for me thats a bad thing. Besides some legal bs 😏 a marriage doesnt change anything. I have been with the same man for 18 years and we do not plan to get married 😅 I should also tell you that we maneged to bring up 4 beatiful children without being married and we still love each other😂😂❤❤
How can a person that is not married know whether things changes when married?
Marriage isn't for man and woman, but to protect children.
@@ahkkariq7406 Because it doesn't. It's a ring and a piece of paper. Nothing changes. You can protect your children the same way as marriage without being married. It just requires you to sign some other type of papers.
@@misterplentyMy children is well protected
@@Jenniebynsow protected from parents going separate ways? Ruining a family ruins children.
Quality of education: 1. Finland 2. Denmark 3. Sweden 4. Norway ? I know Finland has been considered the best within mathematics, not sure how the status is 2023
No Amazon.
JUST CHECK INFLUENCE ROMAN EMPIRE OVER WESTERN (NON SCANDINAVIAN), WHERE THE MAIN SPOT WAS "FAMILY". ON THE OTHER HAND SCANDINAVIANS BASED THEIR MOVES OVER THE FACT THAT THE CENTER IS THE COMMUNITY. THAT SHAPED OUR REALITY AND HOW WE APROCH OTHERS.
As a swede I I think we could learn alot from the Danes
Living as a Christian in Norway is horrible. I cannot find my better half here.
Why would you be a Christian lol, joking, but still your comment doesn’t make sense. No one is forbidding you to be Christian
@@Commentator488 No, i use my own will. I don't let laws come in my way of my belief like too many do.
As a swedish woman, most of these aspects just makes me depressed. It’s a benefit for men but in the long aspect celibacy is a less lonely option.
Kinda liked the first sketch there, good guy. Blingbling is the most useless use for your money after all, if she wants it, she can use her money ;)
You talk about Scandinavians but where is the Norwegians???
Scandinavians are cool, but they seriously need to be drunk just to socialize which I think is frustrating.
Which country in Scandinavia is the best for date and living? 24:06
i'm a norwegian n we just chiller than americans
Marriage isn't that important in sweden, and there are a bunch of people have the kids every other week.
One nights stand is not a date.
What i don't understand about people from Scandinavia is how they can be so confident and miserable at the same time?
How do you mean? Care to elaborate?
Hook upp your feeling med Björn skiffs a Nice tro song.
The disscus won't be current and last for long tho due to the fact that Scandinavians gonna end up pretty quickly. Theyve brought the whole world to their land. People are mixing themselves, all kind of them.
I've never dated so I had no idea people have sex before hooking up. I met my partner through an internet forum. We were just looking for friends and that's what we were at first. I'm glad that happened because sex to me is something you should only do with a partner. I don't even consider it important or a priority. It can come several years in to the relationship.
I kind of look down on anyone that thinks the opposite. I know that's not nice of me but I do and I can'thelp it. I find it pathetic. Love is so much more than sex. There are hundred of things I'd rather do before I go to bed with someone I love. So if I ever end up single I will probably never find a likeminded woman again. Unless people mature ln their 30's and stop acting like a horny teenager.
Are all swedish dont like phonecalls a lot? Or txt msages?
It's wrong. It is impossible to generalize like that, I'm a swede and I HATE PHONECALLS, with a dying passion, text messages or discord or skype or snap or writing wherever? 1000% yes please
@@elezeiaz thank you, im just confused by my bf😅, he doesnt like phonecalls but he's into msges✌️, i hope we can be friend.
If you meet every weekend I don't think phonecalls are needed
@@tzubaza2158 - People have individual preferences too, you know. But the 'reserved' Scandinavian culture might have produced more of us "texters".
@@Donnah1979 thank you😊, yeah my bf always prefer texting than phonecalls or vc.
Too many blanket statements that don't really define the ways and mindset of my kind of people. She's looking through the eyes and mind of a foreigner who may come from a culture that thrives on romantic drama and idealism. We do grown up relationships and love to hygge. Don't overthink and try to analyze everyone. We're chill.
I’m latina and I’ll have a date with a Swedish, he will not pay the account of restaurant?🤔
Why on earth should we pay for your bill. I suspect you have an income those you can afford paying for it… they are right in one thing, we do appreciate independence and equality, this means that a bill is either paid individually, shared or just as often paid by the girl, if you want a sugar daddy, Scandinavians are probably the worst pick.
What can a gay American (USA) male like myself expect, should I ever have the chance, to date a gay man from Sweden?
LOL drinking is more the Danish are you kiddin me ... ever heard of the swedes invading denmark bc of the restrictions with systembolaget
Hello!! If you’ve watched the videos no one with an ounce of respect and value themselves would lower themselves to beg like a dog to be accepted by Scandinavians. HELLO!! Wake up.
"...mutual masturbation..." Bulls eye!
😂100% right.
Well small talk in the us has led me to some amazing relationships, hookups and even business opportunities.... , Swedes act like Japanese lol
😅😎😉 I think I have to agree as a swede
in the comments they wrote that only a minority of women have sex for one night. This is true? or many women practice and enjoy one night stand?
@@aramhovhannisyan5387 well I dont know what all women do
@@annablomma79 I mean Swedish women.) Do Swedish women have one night stands? Is this their slut shaming or is it normal? Are you from Sweden? I understood correctly
@@aramhovhannisyan5387 yes I am but I still dont know what other women do
@@annablomma79 You wrote that everything in the video is correct. So I asked in your country women have a free sex life or they are scammed for it.) Sorry if I interrupted
Hook-ups are a sad and sleezy part of western culture; no feelings, no commitment. It will be the death of us since carnal pleasure triumphs the need of wanting a family.
You say Scandinavians... But it feels like you know almost nothing about Norway...
But then how do you start getting to know someone like humour or travel or food or school or family. Sure it’s small talk but you don’t know this person so how could you go deep. That makes zero sense. If you can’t just talk to someone even if it’s a bit it’s just social to do. I can spot a drunk person and if they’d approach me they’d get a black eye. I do not put up with this nonsense.
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the protestan kultur , not the hard katolik thing , are not same kultur , have somthing to do with it , and we are more relax one the sex thing , i like US , one many way , they have a great kultur , and we dont need to be the same people
Pffff i need to go to Sweden asap cause hooking up in th u,s is easy af... So i can't imagine it being even easier... , dynamite...
Sleeping around is a thing in Sweden also. We call them Hora (a.k.a Whore)
Could be worse.
Vilken man söker en kvinna på en dejting app? En amatör.😂
Det bliver mere og mere udbredt, nok især for dem af os, der ikke bare ønsker at gå på druk og gå i seng med hvem som helst.
Mannen som hellre jobbar smart än hårt?
if the wife or (male) is single and looking for a one night stand. This is bad? Should they be shamed for this?
En man som inte letar efter sex utan en seriös relation? Var söker man en sådan om inte på en dejtingapp? På baren? Imo, dit går man för en öl eller två med kollegorna.
Jag anser att en riktig relation som kan fungera i årtionden är en som fungerar perfekt utan sex i årtionden. Sex kan vara viktigt men det har ingen chans mot en relation fylld av äkta kärlek. En relation där det är ett krav är en relation som endast består av känslor och är ytlig. Folk som bara erfarat sådana har ingen aning hur det är att vara tillsammans med sin själsfrände.
First to be here
Nice one
How can it be easy to get sex as a guy when Swedish culture is antisocial? Doesnt make sense. I don't agree with anything about this video.
It’s not anti social, there no such thing as an anti social culture… as that’s simply not possible. But the culture values different aspects of social life and behaviour, but it’s still very much a social thing, but in its own unique way, so there just other norms and values at play.
Be Chad bro
That’s why they have the highest levels of clamedia.
Yah but how hypocritical do they want space but they’ll jump into bed after a drunken 30 seconds??? No this is pure rubbish.
Very interesting video. Thank you ❤
Glad you enjoyed it!