Everyone assumed I was gay, some literally came up to me and said they thought that because I did musical theatre and I was good at it. They were not wrong about me, but really that was their reasoning!
Thanks for sharing your story, Casey. I could see you struggling through the narrative with a bit of regret, but let go of the regret and the guilt. As you say, we each have our own journey and while on that journey we need to do what is necessary to stay safe. For some of us, that may mean we never come out. Others jump right in and take the risk. It's such and individual process and regrets have no room in the process. As someone once said, Live in today because yesterday is gone and tomorrow never comes. I have a friend who came out when he was close 70. It took him decades. He got married, he raised a family, had an amazing career and after retiring, he came out. He divorced his wife, went on a two year road trip visiting all his friends and family and came out to each of the personally. He is now in his 80's living happily as a gay man.
Hey man , just wanted to say thanks for sharing. Legitimately did the exact same thing after so much denial. I finally mustered the strength to say I was gay.. out loud... Alone. It was a really emotional experience but was needed. Nice to hear a relatable experience.
I was sorta fem apparently when I was a kid. I didn’t know I was different but I was teased mercilessly. The kids called me queer, sissy, etc. It was daily and it was hard. As I grew up and my voice changed, I tried to butch it up and went deep in the closet. I finally told my friends and family that I was gay when I was in my early 20s and it did not go well. I went back in the closet until about 10 years ago when I was in my early 40s. A lot has changed since I was a kid but I still carry some scars from childhood. I say, it’s your story to tell. Come out when you’re ready. I’m definitely a lot happier now.
This can count as your Coming Out story. And you’re so damn cute too. 😍. All those HS boys missed out. Kyle knew to lock that down. Now it’s the boyfriends turn and the How You Met video. And how about a vlog too. You have so much work to do, so get that camera ready. ❤️❤️❣️
Love, Simon. Your story is like the movie. I did not realize until I was 23 but I did think that some of the kids in High School were cute but never thought anything about it and I hated gym (so that could be a clue).
You're right Casey,timing is everything.So true.I never entertained the notion,of coming out,in high school even though i went to high school,in a big city it still wasn't easy,being gay.I never wanted to come out,in high school,because i was still struggling with being gay.I never even had a chance to come out;a teacher did that for me,unfortunately.It wasn't a positive experience either,both my parents,didn't like gays,or accepted me.It did get better,after i moved away from home,and was on my own.Great video topic,Casey!.
I have told some people during the last 2 years but now after I started university a few months ago, I fell like I should just tell the people I'm friends with now for these few months because I really feel bad lying to them how I really feel. I think that would make my life a lot easier as well.
My story begins in 6th grade, though there were indicators much earlier. Technically anything you do at that age is illegal, but much of it was technically abuse as well. However, I was a willing participant. My first "non-abuse" interactions happened the summer after 7th grade. We were moving to another town (because my parents found out about the abuse) and while we were looking to buy a home we would visit a family friend. While the adults chatted upstairs, I would spend time downstairs in the rec room with their son who was my age. Through my 8th grade year, I played with another guy a few times. I had other opportunities but was too timid to take advantage of them. During that time, I had a crush on a girl in my class and became known for it. Despite this, I was still teased for not dating girls. In my high school years, I still had that crush but didn't really interact with guys at all, save for a few hookup situations here and there. It was funny being teased for being a virgin when that ship had sailed before I was 13. I just couldn't tell anyone. I did more before turning 14 than I have done since. LOL Most of my adulthood I just avoided relationships. When I was in my late 20s I tried to date women without much success. The few connections I made were one or two dates. I did have a long relationship with one woman who would become my daughter's mother. That ended badly but we are still cordial/polite to each other. At 47, after my father died, I finally came out. I have had some interactions, but no relationship. I am how 52, hefty and living in a small town in Maine where there are very few guys who are out. It is improving though. Four years ago when I opened a dating app there were very few guys within 50 miles and the nearest guy to my location was 15 miles away. Now there are many more guys, but mostly way too young for me. At my age and stage of life, I am looking for an emotional connection with someone who has common interests as me. I don't look my age and am more fit than people would expect. Despite that, I have had little success in finding guys within a 50-mile radius who have similar goals. I have had experiences with younger guys, and one with someone 20 years older than me. I am not a fan of hook-up culture, but when you come out after over 30 years in the closet your hormones turn on and you revert to your teenage years for a short time (a second puberty). I don't recommend that anyone remain closeted any longer than they need to for their safety. You miss out on so much in life and suppressing that aspect of who you are can manifest itself in very negative behavior. Go out and live your life and be the best YOU you can be. :)
I go through that all the time I'm a gay trans guy and it's hard. The jokes. The expectations. It's a lot to handle. I'm not in high school yet. I don't know how to do it. Coming out. I'm scarad .
I always knew I was different but didn't know what it was until sometime in my early teens. Didn't come out until after high school but too grew up in a very small town of about 2300. Fooled around with several guys starting around 12ish that many of them ended up getting married and having kids now. So I guess they just loved getting off and didn't care who it was with at that time. None of them that I know of ended up being gay or bi. Funny thing is that 3 of the 4 girls that I dated in high school turned out to be lesbians. Didn't know it at the time. Thought you might like a summary of my story.
hey Casey, I started to watch your channel. love all of your videos! right now I'm in 11 grade in high school (I'm not from the USA so I don't know how you call this class haha). I know I'm gay for a long time and I'm always thinking about coming out. but it so hard, because of I don't want my whole school to know, and I know if I come out everybody will know. and there are no other openly gay guys in my school so it makes it so much harder. and I have young brother and sisters and I don't know how to even start to explain to them what is going on if I'm going to come out. but on the other hand, I'm always in anxiety and fear of what people will think. even my friends. and I just want to come out and feel free. sometimes when I'm with my friends and we are talking I think, maybe I gonna say I'm gay right now, and I try to say it and I never get the words out of my mouth. hope I will overcome my fears and come out already. in the meanwhile watching your videos and other stories on youtube makes me feel so much better so thank you!
How do you have only 500 subs, you inspire me everyday and I love what your doing and your stories are so relatable and as a closetted secondary/high school boy in Yr10/ sophmore year you really build my confidence and help me make some decisions which were once hard to make ❤😁 Thank you Casey for everything xxx👌🏼❤😁
Casey, I am 65 and so it was in the late 60's early 70's when I was in high school. Didn't dare come out. In fact, I bought the party line to get married and have a family and it will go away. Well, it didn't. I didn't come out until 50 after 4 children and a divorce. I knew I was gay since 14. Altho I've always tried to be a positive person, I recently finally left the Christian church as I see God as cruel in the way things went down. But I am so happy for you and Kyle!!! One curiosity question: how come you didn't even come out in college, which is usually an easier environment?
Look I know it's hard but I am a single guy and I have been looking for a woman for years and I haven't found one and for friends its vary hard for me to make friends
I have gone to the Cancun area, and I have to tell you, has no problems whatsoever absolutely none this is the Cancun area not the West coast of Mexico, the Mexican people are so freaking nice there absolutely loved it!in the hotel people were pretty cool to we would empty out the mini bar and put everything on top of the refrigerator in order so it could all be counted and we filled the refrigerator with beer from the local supermarket you had to get bottles because cans were so expensive, and when you go into town watch what you drink the water can do you in, unless you're at the hotels I brushed my teeth in the morning and at night using beer to rinse my mouth out hahaha LOL I really did I did not want to get Montezuma's revenge I'm sure you heard of that I don't drink as much beer as I did when I was in my 20s I drink spring water all the time once in a blue moon I'll get a six pack of some really awesome IPA beer with a large alcohol content, don't like hard stuff anymore it bothers my stomach, and then I'm meeting rolaids for the night screw that I'll stick with the beer please go to Mexico you'll have such a good time! I promise you you will. I have been to Jamaica but I never left the hotel grounds had a blast there too!!! We just didn't hold hands in public or kiss in public because Jamaica is a homophobic country,but all of the visitors were awesome a lot of people from Britain where there,mingles with all the guests there we had such a good time, but yet we did not meet any gay couples we did when we were in Mexico, we would all party together like I said tri Mexico and it's so cheap if you exchange $100 for Mexican money you will never be able to close your wallet you will have hundreds and hundreds of thousands of pesos that was such a blast I felt so rich was there hahaha and the shopping is great I would go back in a heartbeat ❤️ but my next trip is to the Florida keys I've been there plenty of times my sister moved there and I want to go visit herand they have buses that go to the different islands she's only 15 minutes from key West and that place is a blast and I sure do like snorkeling there it's so much fun. Anyway enjoy the rest of your weekend it's almost over,
Peace be upon you to our beloved brothers and dearest sisters, you kinda need to listen to me, I just want to say that:- If you got anyone in your life that ever said to you likes ''how did it come to this?'' in the unkind ways, you know what I mean. This is what you tell them, you look at straight into their eyes and you saying: 1. Religion is about Peace and Mercy of God. 2. a) Do you believe in God? Yes. And if God didn’t want you this way, He wouldn’t have made you this way. Correct! 2. b) God have made and want you this way, because He love you. So, you will get more closely and continuously approach to God. He want you to love Him more than everything else, and the love that's exclusive only for Him. Not so many people out there got that chance. That's why you have to learn and understand the hidden message of God. 3. Whenever you come close yourself to God, He will never judge you based on your sexuality. He will judges and look at you, by what kind of a person you are. 4. Humanity is about as long as we bring ourselves to loves someone else, no matter what colour, no matter what race, no matter what religion, and no matter what gender. Humanity just want us to be loved, and to be able to love somebody back. 5. God loves us beyond any and everything else, and that’s who we should love first. 6. And in God's eyes kindness and love are what it’s all about.
Everyone assumed I was gay, some literally came up to me and said they thought that because I did musical theatre and I was good at it. They were not wrong about me, but really that was their reasoning!
I'm still high school and I came out this year and everything has been alot more easier since
Ravlf Congrats!.Im glad,to hear that!.
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Thanks for sharing your story, Casey. I could see you struggling through the narrative with a bit of regret, but let go of the regret and the guilt. As you say, we each have our own journey and while on that journey we need to do what is necessary to stay safe. For some of us, that may mean we never come out. Others jump right in and take the risk. It's such and individual process and regrets have no room in the process. As someone once said, Live in today because yesterday is gone and tomorrow never comes. I have a friend who came out when he was close 70. It took him decades. He got married, he raised a family, had an amazing career and after retiring, he came out. He divorced his wife, went on a two year road trip visiting all his friends and family and came out to each of the personally. He is now in his 80's living happily as a gay man.
Hey man , just wanted to say thanks for sharing. Legitimately did the exact same thing after so much denial. I finally mustered the strength to say I was gay.. out loud... Alone. It was a really emotional experience but was needed. Nice to hear a relatable experience.
I was sorta fem apparently when I was a kid. I didn’t know I was different but I was teased mercilessly. The kids called me queer, sissy, etc. It was daily and it was hard. As I grew up and my voice changed, I tried to butch it up and went deep in the closet. I finally told my friends and family that I was gay when I was in my early 20s and it did not go well. I went back in the closet until about 10 years ago when I was in my early 40s. A lot has changed since I was a kid but I still carry some scars from childhood. I say, it’s your story to tell. Come out when you’re ready. I’m definitely a lot happier now.
This can count as your Coming Out story. And you’re so damn cute too. 😍. All those HS boys missed out. Kyle knew to lock that down. Now it’s the boyfriends turn and the How You Met video. And how about a vlog too. You have so much work to do, so get that camera ready. ❤️❤️❣️
Love, Simon. Your story is like the movie. I did not realize until I was 23 but I did think that some of the kids in High School were cute but never thought anything about it and I hated gym (so that could be a clue).
The jocks made my life a living hell in high school!
You're right Casey,timing is everything.So true.I never entertained the notion,of coming out,in high school even though i went to high school,in a big city it still wasn't easy,being gay.I never wanted to come out,in high school,because i was still struggling with being gay.I never even had a chance to come out;a teacher did that for me,unfortunately.It wasn't a positive experience either,both my parents,didn't like gays,or accepted me.It did get better,after i moved away from home,and was on my own.Great video topic,Casey!.
So glad things got better for you!
I have told some people during the last 2 years but now after I started university a few months ago, I fell like I should just tell the people I'm friends with now for these few months because I really feel bad lying to them how I really feel. I think that would make my life a lot easier as well.
My story begins in 6th grade, though there were indicators much earlier. Technically anything you do at that age is illegal, but much of it was technically abuse as well. However, I was a willing participant. My first "non-abuse" interactions happened the summer after 7th grade. We were moving to another town (because my parents found out about the abuse) and while we were looking to buy a home we would visit a family friend. While the adults chatted upstairs, I would spend time downstairs in the rec room with their son who was my age. Through my 8th grade year, I played with another guy a few times. I had other opportunities but was too timid to take advantage of them. During that time, I had a crush on a girl in my class and became known for it. Despite this, I was still teased for not dating girls. In my high school years, I still had that crush but didn't really interact with guys at all, save for a few hookup situations here and there. It was funny being teased for being a virgin when that ship had sailed before I was 13. I just couldn't tell anyone. I did more before turning 14 than I have done since. LOL
Most of my adulthood I just avoided relationships. When I was in my late 20s I tried to date women without much success. The few connections I made were one or two dates. I did have a long relationship with one woman who would become my daughter's mother. That ended badly but we are still cordial/polite to each other.
At 47, after my father died, I finally came out. I have had some interactions, but no relationship. I am how 52, hefty and living in a small town in Maine where there are very few guys who are out. It is improving though. Four years ago when I opened a dating app there were very few guys within 50 miles and the nearest guy to my location was 15 miles away. Now there are many more guys, but mostly way too young for me. At my age and stage of life, I am looking for an emotional connection with someone who has common interests as me. I don't look my age and am more fit than people would expect. Despite that, I have had little success in finding guys within a 50-mile radius who have similar goals. I have had experiences with younger guys, and one with someone 20 years older than me. I am not a fan of hook-up culture, but when you come out after over 30 years in the closet your hormones turn on and you revert to your teenage years for a short time (a second puberty).
I don't recommend that anyone remain closeted any longer than they need to for their safety. You miss out on so much in life and suppressing that aspect of who you are can manifest itself in very negative behavior. Go out and live your life and be the best YOU you can be. :)
No one control's how u feel about yourself,unless u let them.The power a person has over u is the power u give them Period
I go through that all the time I'm a gay trans guy and it's hard. The jokes. The expectations. It's a lot to handle. I'm not in high school yet. I don't know how to do it. Coming out. I'm scarad .
Much love and support to you! Good luck, everything will work out for the best!
I always knew I was different but didn't know what it was until sometime in my early teens. Didn't come out until after high school but too grew up in a very small town of about 2300. Fooled around with several guys starting around 12ish that many of them ended up getting married and having kids now. So I guess they just loved getting off and didn't care who it was with at that time. None of them that I know of ended up being gay or bi. Funny thing is that 3 of the 4 girls that I dated in high school turned out to be lesbians. Didn't know it at the time. Thought you might like a summary of my story.
Do u still run into them?
hey Casey, I started to watch your channel. love all of your videos! right now I'm in 11 grade in high school (I'm not from the USA so I don't know how you call this class haha). I know I'm gay for a long time and I'm always thinking about coming out. but it so hard, because of I don't want my whole school to know, and I know if I come out everybody will know. and there are no other openly gay guys in my school so it makes it so much harder. and I have young brother and sisters and I don't know how to even start to explain to them what is going on if I'm going to come out. but on the other hand, I'm always in anxiety and fear of what people will think. even my friends. and I just want to come out and feel free. sometimes when I'm with my friends and we are talking I think, maybe I gonna say I'm gay right now, and I try to say it and I never get the words out of my mouth. hope I will overcome my fears and come out already. in the meanwhile watching your videos and other stories on youtube makes me feel so much better so thank you!
You got this man, much love to ya!
thank you!
@@omerassor3395 Hello.
I am 44 and I am not out yet... I am telling family in the next month or so
Daniel Jackson that's great!.Its never too late,to come out.
Good luck Daniel, you will be glad you came out.
@@NewJerzeyBoy Hi. 15015632829 XD.
Hey Daniel, how'd it go?
Ya how did it go
How do you have only 500 subs, you inspire me everyday and I love what your doing and your stories are so relatable and as a closetted secondary/high school boy in Yr10/ sophmore year you really build my confidence and help me make some decisions which were once hard to make ❤😁 Thank you Casey for everything xxx👌🏼❤😁
Jake Fensome Aww, you literally just made my day!
Casey Journeys Just keep doing what your doing cause I wish I could be like you one day x😊
Casey, I am 65 and so it was in the late 60's early 70's when I was in high school. Didn't dare come out. In fact, I bought the party line to get married and have a family and it will go away. Well, it didn't. I didn't come out until 50 after 4 children and a divorce. I knew I was gay since 14. Altho I've always tried to be a positive person, I recently finally left the Christian church as I see God as cruel in the way things went down. But I am so happy for you and Kyle!!! One curiosity question: how come you didn't even come out in college, which is usually an easier environment?
College was actually harder! Too much going on to be out of the typical status-quo. Kinda had to hide it!
I had my first crush when I was in the first grade
High school is never good a place to come out... yeah, things are better now but that place is still a high school...
Now that you’re out and engaged, do you walk holding hands with your fiancé in public?
Good for you buddy I’m happy for you
Is Casey on any social media?
When are we going to se Kyle??
Now! New video!
Look I know it's hard but I am a single guy and I have been looking for a woman for years and I haven't found one and for friends its vary hard for me to make friends
I can relate
I have gone to the Cancun area, and I have to tell you, has no problems whatsoever absolutely none this is the Cancun area not the West coast of Mexico, the Mexican people are so freaking nice there absolutely loved it!in the hotel people were pretty cool to we would empty out the mini bar and put everything on top of the refrigerator in order so it could all be counted and we filled the refrigerator with beer from the local supermarket you had to get bottles because cans were so expensive, and when you go into town watch what you drink the water can do you in, unless you're at the hotels I brushed my teeth in the morning and at night using beer to rinse my mouth out hahaha LOL I really did I did not want to get Montezuma's revenge I'm sure you heard of that I don't drink as much beer as I did when I was in my 20s I drink spring water all the time once in a blue moon I'll get a six pack of some really awesome IPA beer with a large alcohol content, don't like hard stuff anymore it bothers my stomach, and then I'm meeting rolaids for the night screw that I'll stick with the beer please go to Mexico you'll have such a good time! I promise you you will. I have been to Jamaica but I never left the hotel grounds had a blast there too!!! We just didn't hold hands in public or kiss in public because Jamaica is a homophobic country,but all of the visitors were awesome a lot of people from Britain where there,mingles with all the guests there we had such a good time, but yet we did not meet any gay couples we did when we were in Mexico, we would all party together like I said tri Mexico and it's so cheap if you exchange $100 for Mexican money you will never be able to close your wallet you will have hundreds and hundreds of thousands of pesos that was such a blast I felt so rich was there hahaha and the shopping is great I would go back in a heartbeat ❤️ but my next trip is to the Florida keys I've been there plenty of times my sister moved there and I want to go visit herand they have buses that go to the different islands she's only 15 minutes from key West and that place is a blast and I sure do like snorkeling there it's so much fun. Anyway enjoy the rest of your weekend it's almost over,
Peace be upon you to our beloved brothers and dearest sisters, you kinda need to listen to me, I just want to say that:-
If you got anyone in your life that ever said to you likes ''how did it come to this?'' in the unkind ways, you know what I mean. This is what you tell them, you look at straight into their eyes and you saying:
1. Religion is about Peace and Mercy of God.
2. a) Do you believe in God? Yes. And if God didn’t want you this way, He wouldn’t have made you this way. Correct!
2. b) God have made and want you this way, because He love you. So, you will get more closely and continuously approach to God. He want you to love Him more than everything else, and the love that's exclusive only for Him. Not so many people out there got that chance. That's why you have to learn and understand the hidden message of God.
3. Whenever you come close yourself to God, He will never judge you based on your sexuality. He will judges and look at you, by what kind of a person you are.
4. Humanity is about as long as we bring ourselves to loves someone else, no matter what colour, no matter what race, no matter what religion, and no matter what gender. Humanity just want us to be loved, and to be able to love somebody back.
5. God loves us beyond any and everything else, and that’s who we should love first.
6. And in God's eyes kindness and love are what it’s all about.
How would your high-school peers have known your sexuality? You're not stereotypically gay.
Small town, people talk, people make things up and things stick!
Hi 🌈
You are very cute 🤩
Less dramatic facial ticks please. Can you watch your own video, count the number of times that you smack your lips making a clicking noise, and stop.
He's fine the way he is