I've never wondered, questioned, or fret over for the new supply. I am grateful that I am not in their shoes, at the beginning all over again, duped and confused. We know that the new supply is totally screwed. I pity them and I hope they have the spiritual fortitude to endure what they are about to go through without committing suicide! If I accept that my time with the narcissist was a spiritual invitation to return to my truest self, then I must also accept that it is simply the new supply's turn in experiencing the same.
Well said💙 I'm having a hard time as I was snooping on his phone while at discard cycle to find them in a relationship for months, while we are separated and divorcing still and him wanting to work it out and lying ...but the more I think this way, the more I let go and learn.
New supply is the most exciting thing for them. There's no substance of depth in a relationship with them. It's all superficial and on the surface so the new supply that doesn't know about the narcissist is the ultimate supply for them because the new supply believes the deception and this is the ultimate rush for them. A relationship with a narcissist is juvenile and nonsensical. They'll turn something or someone good into a disaster.
Wow that’s a perfect description! Once you’ve got the basic understanding how narcs behave in relationships, the past suddenly becomes so clear. It’s like someone turned a light on for me!
I wish I knew what a NARCISSIST was before I got into this relationship. it's over, but painful. Yes, she's done this over and over and over again. Realized she has a whole string of exes she still keeps contact with.
Exactly same thing happened to me, I have wasted 8 years of my life , and I found out she was dating her Ex behind my back, so I immediately dumped her , but it was very painful experience.
I am the kindest woman who truly loves him and swallowed all the pathetic games he threw at me. I doubt if there is any better supply he can get. Thank God I am guided and protected and I am now divinely redirected.
He went back to an old supply. He had been dealing with her when were together for a long time. He dropped me and went back to her. When I found out he was still seeing her, he told me deal with it or leave it alone. He said I'm in love with two women. Tore me apart!!! I hate him!!!
No, they are not better. After figuring out the narc, we either consciously or subconsciously became a less powerful supplier. The new person provides fresh fuel, is not yet aware of who the narc is, will eventually see their true colours, and either be discarded or get up and leave. They will fail to be the narc savior just like we did.
yes, and IF only that everybody could figure it out too soon. the vicious cycle would collapse, all the narcs will starve to death then leads to extinction. my wishful thinking....
Honestly I've already watched so many videos about this topic and I STILL can't stop thinking about him and everything that happened. I feel like I just can't get over it and never will..... I really wish so bad that this stops.
I used to feel the same way for several years, then a miracle happened I read this book called fuel by h. G Tudor. And the extent of pathology and even pathetic ness of the narc became so obvious to me .. another great book that really was the last nail in the coffin of longing for him was narcissism denial of the true self. You are in love with a mask he wears.. he hates his real self ...he’s not worth it. I have recovered thank god. And I sincerely wish you the same
We suffer from CPTSD and the trauma bond. Anoushka may be able to help you with this through direct counseling, but I would also point you toward Richard Grannon's channel where he addresses CPTSD, the trauma bond, and viable means of overcoming precisely what you, I, and most of us have had to survive.
You will move on its hard but it will become easier. Stop and think about what exactly it was that you were getting out of that relationship. Did they do you a big favor so you can go and better yourself until another person who is much better suited for enters your life.
I had to rationalise what happened and come to terms with why I was so vulnerable to the narc who ensnared me. Once I was able to apply some logic to it and not be quite so emotional then I felt better equipped to deal with the anguish.
I was so pleased you pointed out the fact they have to act in order to basically get their victims to fall in love with them per say. They take so much pride in their ability to do this. I can just imagine how many times he laughed at me behind my back knowing he was playing me, as I was love struck by his sick act. In the end the laugh is on them as they have to revert to these methods to be liked or loved. Sad and pathetic. Makes me almost grimace when I recall his act. The new supply is just a new audience that has never seen the show yet, they are still applauding but they too will bring the curtain down on them one day.
Is that hyperbole or would you suggest actually wishing them well when she announces her engagement through my daughter or social media or whatever it may be because I want to be the bigger the person, show her that she’s lost her affect and influence on my emotions and ultimately do want my daughter to grow up in the best possible circumstance when she isn’t with me. I’m inclined to grey rock the whole thing and sit quietly in the back of theater with my popcorn and watch the train wreck unfold.
One thing I noticed about my now ex's supplies whether it was his friends etc (me when we first met I was very depressed and unemployed). Is he chooses people that are actually more socially awkward, depressed, financially not that well off, slightly less intelligent than him etc etc. People who are very compassionate but people he would consider to be beneath him. I think he feeds off being better than his friends etc. The funny thing is in the last 10 years he has become physically unrecognisable, lives in a complete dump and even though he has a university degree stacks shelves in a supermarket. Yet he walks around like he is a god. I just don't get it.
I live in a rural area with one neighbor. My narc flew her plane over my house at low altitude. I did tell her several months later that I knew it was he. I was flattered by that and I think it is a bit flattering that she figures out which aa meetings I might attend. She will show up once she knows I'll be there, then I switch my routine again simply because I know seeing her is a waste of time.
The new supply is my superhero, and thats THAT! Thank god he exist and thank god he crossed paths with my ex. I can start fresh somewhere else without the BS .. hopefully it lasts long enough so that she can get the heck out of my house without it costing me a landlord/tenant battle.
Your video was spot on!! I love how you have a giggle to yourself when talking about these horrible individuals, I was married to a narc and now trying to co parent with him while he moves into his 4th supply since 2018 ... it's pure entertainment to watch, however the endings are all the same!! Love love ❤️ your channel
If anyone ever starts to think if themselves as "supply" for another person it's time to develop a stronger sense of self, cultivate self-love, self-respect and self-worth. We are not objects for another's ego stroking.
Hi, you are of course correct. It is often used as a term in the Narcissist abuse survivor community because it de- personalises what you are not the narcissist and that is why the term is used. It is not used to undermine or invalidate the person who has been abused.
She was so beautiful, talented, gifted....and you can tell yourself there's got to be a Way to let them know that they are beautiful just the way they are.....but you can't reach them.... this relationship just about killed me....4 years...
I understand, I am going through the same thing. Despite the fact that the person dumped me and went back to an ex, I am thinking what is wrong with me and what did I do to ruin it or make them want to end it? Why did they go back to an ex, and why are they better than me and whatever. But we are asking ourselves why a toxic, sick, unhealthy person who is able to do what they do to, and with people, if the person they are with is better than us? The person is selfish, it isn't about us, the new supply, the old supply, the future supply, it is simply about them and no one else.
It’s a nightmare I know I was discarded 4 years ago, Dec. 4, 2016 in the freezing dead of Canadian winter he even turned my two beautiful kids against me!🥶🇨🇦
But when he married her straight away probably whilst we were still together. Even we were the longest I feel like I was the side supply or not great enough? I did everything for this person and he just lied cheated and hurt me mentally. But the new supply is the opposite of me. But like a copy of the wife of his friend he was always taking about. But the new supply and me have the same art background. But still he married her straight. Although he showed me all of his family but I never met all his friends. Still I feel like I was just a place holder. I’m so confused and feel used and he just lied and dropped me like a hot potato. 4 years wasted and he never would let go of me. I feel like a fool and thought now she gets everything I wanted and was promised so long.
You dodged a bullet. I wouldn't particularly want to be the narc's wife. Life would be empty and don't worry sonner or later they'll divorce and he'll be back to you for a Hoover. Do not give in. You're free now. Work on yourself, learn to be your own best friend and use this time to elevate yourself. You'll soon notice that you're lucky he didn't marry you. Good luck girl ❤️
I so feel this! 3 years wasted now he’s acting like he’s getting married to the new supply after he kept cheating on her with me (I didn’t know he had someone else) and actually I found out there were several other women besides me! I feel like a total fool but as hurt as I am, I am happy to be moving on finally!
Sarah Ford how do you make it thorough. It’s so hard on holidays but I’m proud you got out as I did. I always thought I was not good enough or what the other person has. But now I knew we were the best they could ever get and they will miss what we have given. But talking to him after made me realise how emotionless and empty he actually must be. No remorse or guilt and after I found out told me but I love you and I made a mistake wich he is stuck. It’s a insult to his new wife aswell. It disgusts me really and that keeps me away for good and able to move forward. We deserve the same love we give in return and we are worth so much more. Happy holidays to you❤️
I’m so sorry 😢 this happened to me almost exactly. It’s so hard to get past and your self esteem really takes a hit. But I’m happy to know you got out of it, even if wasn’t necessarily your choice. You deserve to be happy.
Your videos have helped me so much!! Really appreciate the psychological insight about the history of the behavior of narcissists. I wrote most of my last album about narcissistic abuse (started with my adopted dad, then ex husband, and subsequent cheating boyfriends). It just about killed me-emotionally and physically. So grateful for your wisdom..hope our stories can set others free 🙏💙🦋🦋🦋
Hmmmm..., my ex used to say her brother was the golden child. Her mom seemed to have disdain for anyone that was a female. Even referring to her niece as "that kid". Her mom also loved gossip and creating mischief. And if you were a man such as her brother then you were great in the moms eyes. Was a dynamic i had never seen before. My ex did mention that in order for her mom to take her anywhere, she had to lie or make up some story. Now later in life, she still treats her mom well but is bitter towards her. Ex still brings up past wounds and hurts for the mom to remember. Its a sad story really. My ex would tell me how hard it was for her to feel love and empathy. It was as if she was teeter-totting between 2 sides. Like she was mostly narcissistic, but then your either see a vindictive person or a person that didn't want to live as a narc anymore come out.
I have the most bizarre situation. His new supply he discarded me for is his 29 year old daughter. She didnt grow up with him. She moved to town for a job and he is besotted with her. It is like he is in love. He talked about her constantly. She is his new supply. Ive been no contact 7 months. Just bizarre. I think its starting because she was starting to hide who she was dating from him. He was going on dates with her and her former boyfriend. They went bowling!
Im sorry you had to go through that. I had something similar happen. My ex husband tried to replace me with my daughter (his step daughter since she was three). He tried to turn her against me from the age of 17. I am so thankful we both got away and she finally saw through his manipulation. Its unbelievable what some people will do to fulfill some sick need
I was with a very cruel covert NARC. I did my best to explain how he was behaving/making me feel. He did try to make some small changes but of course, there is a lot of deep inward work that needs to happen. However, when we broke up, he said he wouldn't treat his new partner in certain ways he treated me? That he had realised he was maybe a bit too "hard" - this hurt even more, as he was making it sound like he gave me a hard time but wouldn't give his new partner a hard time etc.. still trying to get my head around this part.....
thank you - I have experienced exactly like this with a thai woman - and the funny thing is , when I just met her she told me exactly the same about her previous "BF" and even let me listening in on her rants against him .... 3 months later I was on the receiving end well, I felt sad - but at the same time also funny , how she did the same to me as she did to him
I love myself. I feel like me and my ex were cut from the same cloth. We like the same things, do the same things, and it just really sucks. I am finally accepting that I was just a rebound, and on a short leash of his patience. He ran out of patience and left. He wasn't happy. He doesn't let the woman hold her "audition" for very long. I just ruined things by acting bitchy. I don't know how much he qualifies as a narcissist but it doesn't make sense to anyone I try to explain it to when I get into it. Sorry for not making my issue clear.
Narcissists are the greatest chameleons out. Very good actors and become whatever they think you desire. So in fact you fall in love with yourself. They are never real, until the mask slips and their demons do their thing. Thats your boyfriend right there, his true self.
He has dismissive avoidance attachment style. They can be interesting, intelligent, adventurous, etc however sadly don’t do intimacy. They run from any perceived slight and are freaked out over others emotions because they suppress their own. Unless they recognize and want to get into a couple of years of therapy they will not change. It’s unfortunate, I know.
This is so hard but you just have to wait and then new supply will see what he really is . She payes his bills now as I did . And I hope she will know who he is earlier then me ! And if she ever reaching out after relationship to me I will help her go through all ❤
No they are not. He's been lying to her from the beginning, abusing like he abused me, she knows what he is, but he still lives in her house. I guess she is going to change him.🤪
I think I'd they have made you feel less than, you'd have experienced triangulation and a way for them to make you feel jealous but it is easier for them if they know a bit about you and you feel you have to work for your fathers love then boom they have you. The less they know about you the better - really. They're not going to protect your insecurities they're going to use them as a way of getting supply and your discomfort will feed it.
No they're not better, not personally, it's just what the narcissist finds he or she likes as narcissistic supply - so if this person has more money or a better status, instead of thinking you're no good just think they are using this person as a way to use them for what they have!!! It's not like falling in love with their personality, they've fallen head over for their bank balance and various other things that make them look like they're doing better. If someone has to go look at me, look at me they're just as scared of criticism more so than anyone else. See it as a pathetic attempt. People who have to say they're strong they're bricking it. The strong ones just get on with it and don't need to push what they do out in public
I'm finally growing some balls and not letting her mentally hurt me anymore I'm walking away from her and this will be the hardest thing I've ever done. But she divorce me she dumped me and says it's OK to be friends and just keep it as sex well I'm saying nooo I'm worth more than this I'm not doing it anymore I'm not going to allow someone to treat me like a peirce of meat anymore. I'm in control by walking away thank you for giving me a wake up call with the videos you have done many thanks.
How about if the ex got back to his ex right after the breakup? I have a feeling they reconnected prior to the break up when the devaluing stage began. He has never reached out unless I did when I broke the no contact a couple of weeks after the break up. He spoke very sweetly and flirtatious, saying he's got much to think about, still finds me attractive-all of which gave out rather confusing intentions at this juncture till couple weeks later he got more cold again rather than warm, snapped through a triggering message of mine out of no where, when it really just looked like another flirty message. All of this time, he's still with his ex. He then decided it maybe best to not speak to one another till I stand on my own two feet again. We exchanged a few more messages after that conversation then it stopped when I stopped texting him. I have not spoken/exchanged messages with him for over a week now
Annouskha the new supply in my case its a women who not even new shes just a recycled from the past and even worse shes much more worse than my ex she is a high narcissist women very very desperate and jelouse however she tricked my ex partner so they was manipulating eachother love boming eachother till my ex realised shes more worse than him... I think everyone case its different this what happened in my case.... but your video its great thank you!
@@anoushkamarcin Thank you for your reply ...yes he find the worst ever women shes herrasing him daily even on social media she is completely emotionally demaged women she pressed him to hurt me more and more behind my back and enjoyed seeing I am getting hurt ....now that I am out of that toxic game they played against me life pay them back what they deserve!
Well let them because you can't save that person anyways, if you go and try to warn them that narcissist has already told them you are the "crazy ex"! They won't believe you until they are going through the same thing you did, very sad!
Never knew a narcissist, before...took me s while to figure out what was really happening,knew something was very different from anything I was unvolved with... never gave myself completely, he did not like that very much...I am completely removed now...
What about when the new supply is an ex girlfriend, they dated on and off from 2012-2017..... does that kind of relationship have more of a chance to stand the test of time? They claim they have too much history and memories to not try.
They are getting the same nightmare you got love bombing Future faking, and Discard truly I feel sorry for them if someone had of told me what I was in for I would have been gone this is why I learned to wait discern behavior and don't rush to the bedroom saves us a ton of time and heartache💞💗💚
I never lived with my ex narcisssist and we dated for three years. He does live with his new supply though. If a narcissist lives with their supply will this prevent them from officially discarding the supply? Since the supply provides them a place to live?
No, the "new supply" isn't better... just another casualty in the sick world of the narc. She'll end up broken too if she stays to long. Prayers that he doesn't hurt you the way he hurt me. The one big advantage I have? I'M OUT!!! 😥👍
It can only boil down to how one defines "Success". My definition, I am "Successful" within. I don't need nor want external validation. With the exception of, Earned, Honestly!
My exes new supply is a little homeless methhead bum. She got such a downgrade with him, it's justice served. The fake happiness that they have won't last, after reality sets in haha
Is this ghosting, manipulation, narcissism or she likes me? I had a case like this. She is not such a close girl, friend, etc. It was a chance acquaintance on her initiative. Everything was ok, communication was friendly even though we know it wasn't, because we haven't known each other before. I went out to meet her a little with some little things. Chatting about us, that is, about me because I was interrogated, joking and then suddenly for no reason as if she was angry, nagging at me. I didn’t ask anything why, because I don’t want to extract words and explanations. I understand how it started with words, that's how it can end. I was refused coffee with only a negative answer. She didn't even try to agree, we didn't understand each other, you misunderstood me, I didn't mean the same as you, to say I can't again, I'm really busy, unfortunately. She just acted so rude as if I had just met her on the street and asked her out. Nothing, thank you, I'm not glad we met, but our communication must stop. Afterwards, everything was ok, we called nicely, but there was no more chatting. I don't know the reason, I know. I respect the decision not to, but I don’t understand such contact at the beginning and behavior at the end with some people whether the girl looked at me as a friend or a crush. And it doesn't matter if I saw her as a friend or a crush. I don't understand the interruption of communication at all, because there is no reason, there was no quarrel, even more so that I did something bad, she could say that I hurt her in some way, insulted her. I’m not mad at that person, I wish her all the best, and maybe even better that there was nothing to not disappoint each other and not let hard words fall. This time, due to strange circumstances and the meeting place, I let it pass without explanation. By the way, I don't like them doing that to me. Everything has its reason, beginning and end. She has a boyfriend all the time.
It seems like my ex prey on the weak like myself she left me for my own friend who is a great hard working guy and she knew that she either had him in line or she just didnt care for him to move in so fast within 2 weeks of our breakup.But for her it was a pattern for the last 8 years
The figurative bringing into the room of "others" at the time seemed very uncomfortable. Then you learn its to watch you squirm for position. All along from the beginning my being there while referances of current involvement with another, actually made me feel bad for them and worried literally about my safety. But your under the impression, the implication its over. You can't help but think this is way off the normal break up of a relationship. Oops. I meant manipulationship. You cant help but research this anomaly, who is, what is this empathy dead girl ? The rest is typical evolement from a subjugated slumber to the harsh realization of being woke. Do not hesitate once woke. Thats when the worst of them comes into play, as your still in cognitive dissonance. Believe your new knowledge. The discernment of narconut should send you for the hills. An analogy for way way far away. Anoushka....nice of you to consider them human.Very professional. I'm not so restricted...they're reptiles. Lol
What if your ex who he married his new supply 21 years ago after leaving me after 21 years is still with her. He must love her to be with her this length of time! I don't know if he is a narc or just someone who just got bored with me like he said and swapped women?
Her boyfriend before me was rich and shared her beliefs but was arrogant. Her guy on the side was less educated than me but more fun. I actually wouldnt have minded if she ended up with the guy she cheated with. Let him see what she is really like. That said, I feel bad for the next poor guy she hooks. I hope he gets out soon.
Even the narcissists themselves think that the relationship with the new supply would be happier and a success than what they had with us. They thought with that new person everything will be smooth and exciting. Narcissists are avoidant people, that's why when they realize that they can no longer use or manipulate you, they will discard you and will look or even cheated on you with the new supply. They won't fix that relationship with you. They will kept on running and start again. So, they never have time to reflect on their own actions and fix at least their own selves. That's why, maybe, their next relationships will never be successful even if they've ended up marrying their supply. Their own demons inside them, that demons they're carrying within from your relationship, that ruins your relationship and that demons never leaves them and will be brought to their next relationships, unless they give time to reflect or identify what's wrong with them.
He definitely has way more money than me and has a big house. She’s on top of the world now I bet. It makes me feel so low and worthless. But He’s also a cheater who ruined his marriage. I love how she used to mock him and call him fat when she was with me. Now she getting plugged by him…..also makes me feel low. Oh well, let the infidels have each other!
I doubt it , that if ever get a new supply it will be better than me . Almost 3 decade he was with me and still is . I know why he still with me because he can’t find better .
If you feel the need to suppress your true self around others, I don't always believe its because you don't like yourself, (although in a narcissists case very possibly) but it's to be liked and accepted by others, having a strong urge to fit in with the people around you. You notice they don't like it when you do something, you stop it and do something different. You're very sensitive of what people like and don't like and you almost become who they want you to be because being without friends is the most horrible feeling in the world and faving no one makes you feel like you're never going to find another friend who wants something to do with you so I think it could also stem from a place of lonilness too
was thinking that log ago till narcs videos started awaken me, till didn't know that new supply is just beautiful junkie, greedy for money, overt narcy female-just downgrade but better coz new as any greener grass for sometime for ex. covert time... she cheated on him more than he is so they lives messy, unclean... why be jealous for someone taking my thrash...? But it took me 2 years of growth to regain self respect and disconnect from sick narcy's games...
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I am sure you are beautiful too. We are all beautiful in different ways. But cheating is disgusting and a complete betrayal especially when done repeatedly and without remorse.
Much better them than me is how I think about it....and the new supply is all hopped up on whatever juice that narcissist is spitting at them so let them play show & tell. It won't last🤣🤣🤣
Nope 🙅♀️ I am prettier, richer, smarter, and of higher social status aka all the things he cared about. But like she said, nobody is better or worse than anyone. We are just our own people ya know? If you must know, if the new supply was better, they wouldn't have reached out via hoover right? 🤡
Can you please talk about when the narcissist is the primary care to the kids and still wants you to feel like they still have control over you by using the kids. Second Slandering with their new wife and knowing your rights as a mother. Looking all over for this topic but can never find anything on this subject. Love your videos by the way.
Dear Jennifer, thank you for the suggestion of this topic for a video. Of course I will research and do a video on this. It sounds like this is all about ownership (narcissist) and triangulation. The control is about a group of people - this is how they thrive knowing they have an effect on individuals. I'll get a video out in the next few weeks. Take care
Don’t they also gaslight us saying nothing they do is good enough for us and when we react they’ll use those reactions and not feel loved enough.. and leave and make us think that too.. like I blame my reactions maybe he didn’t feel loved enough and it’s my fault but it was just me crying and screaming .. and the questions due to his lying over time not my fault .. the abuse, bruises, lies, stories that didn’t match up I couldn’t help it .. I’m sure that’s gaslighting 🥺
Funny thing for me is I hope this not true and they will be happy ever after. The lying cheating thieving ended when she was with me. If the core of this disorder is lack of love as a child then my heart goes out to her.
Oh dear I hope this wasn’t your situation 😢 It sounds like they were gaslighted and manipulated to coerce with the narcissist. They may have smeared you so that’s why the new supply complied and did what the narcissist asked. Take care 😊
@@anoushkamarcin Not 100% sure but I have doubts, I also don’t want to blame someone else. The most unfortunate part is that I have 2 kids, a daughter and a son and they both are being brainwashed. It’s been 5 years now, it took almost 3.5 years to come to terms that I had been discarded and she never loved me through our 10 years togetherness and 15 years of marriage. Anyways, it does not bother me of the new supply but the bits and pieces of our life keep flashing infront of my eyes. The moment my wife use to tell me that she cared, loved and the way she use to tell me that she wants only me. :) thanks Anoushka for your wonderful videos and along with alot of resources about Narcissism I am able to recognise where the problem was. But honestly I still fear alot getting connected so I have shut myself out. Trying hard though but my friends say I have taken a hell of a time to come out of it.
@Jane very sorry to hear about this. I hope you find solace in the fact that those who are yours will never leave you and those who left you were never yours. Wish you peace Jane.
What if she was an ex? Years ago..and still held a flame for the narcissist? Please....they aren’t as ignorant as people believe...they just want to assume the man is her savior and will not listen...GOOD..I hope she doesn’t listen and go on thinking the narcissist is the best thing for her...she knows exactly what he like but it doesn’t matter....in her mind she trumps over you..In due time thou......
Yes me too. Friends who see my pain tell me it's better to have loved than not. So wrong. I will never have the life back that I was in when he turned up. But I'm going to try really hard not to feel that deep disappointment and get back up.
@@anoushkamarcin My question is in regards to your personal opinion on my situation. I was broken up with last year in December. He contacted me in January, then May, then July, and last week, but always online through a message. Half of the time it is about my art, and he compliments me, other times it is to ask how I am doing, and if I would want to chat sometime. I don't know if we are both narcissists, but do you think that it is narcissistic to keep contacting me online?
@@simmsimmerson6039 that's called projection and mirroring you. You may have narcissistic fleas from being with him or reactive abuse. But if you have empathy your not a narcissist. You see how they mind screw you.
Omg mine took so many naps too! While watching TV or at the movies, I never thought it was because he was tired of “pretending,” until i saw this video. Interesting perspective. I thought it was because i was not fun enough for him (there goes my self confidence) or that he went out to a bar after telling me he was going to sleep and came home late...i will never find out ...
Nu är de så att mitt Nex har tagit tillbaka sitt ex innan mig som är barnens mamma . Så hon vet om någon hur han är , men klarar sig inte utan han tyvärr. Att hon gick tillbaka räddade ju på sätt o vis mig.
I've never wondered, questioned, or fret over for the new supply. I am grateful that I am not in their shoes, at the beginning all over again, duped and confused. We know that the new supply is totally screwed. I pity them and I hope they have the spiritual fortitude to endure what they are about to go through without committing suicide! If I accept that my time with the narcissist was a spiritual invitation to return to my truest self, then I must also accept that it is simply the new supply's turn in experiencing the same.
Well said💙 I'm having a hard time as I was snooping on his phone while at discard cycle to find them in a relationship for months, while we are separated and divorcing still and him wanting to work it out and lying ...but the more I think this way, the more I let go and learn.
THIS!!
Wow, yes 💯! I wouldn't wish the experience on anyone, but if you can endure it, important life changing lessons can be learned. 💪🏻
Wow
New supply is the most exciting thing for them. There's no substance of depth in a relationship with them. It's all superficial and on the surface so the new supply that doesn't know about the narcissist is the ultimate supply for them because the new supply believes the deception and this is the ultimate rush for them. A relationship with a narcissist is juvenile and nonsensical. They'll turn something or someone good into a disaster.
Wow that’s a perfect description! Once you’ve got the basic understanding how narcs behave in relationships, the past suddenly becomes so clear. It’s like someone turned a light on for me!
@@beachesforever me too 🤗
Exactly! They sabotage EVERYTHING that's good between them and the other person.
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I wish I knew what a NARCISSIST was before I got into this relationship. it's over, but painful.
Yes, she's done this over and over and over again. Realized she has a whole string of exes she still keeps contact with.
Exactly same thing happened to me, I have wasted 8 years of my life , and I found out she was dating her Ex behind my back, so I immediately dumped her , but it was very painful experience.
I am the kindest woman who truly loves him and swallowed all the pathetic games he threw at me. I doubt if there is any better supply he can get. Thank God I am guided and protected and I am now divinely redirected.
The new supply is ignorant and unaware. That's hugely attractive to a narc.
Narcs prosper because most people aren't wise to them.
It doesn't matter if the new supply is the best thing since sliced bread... they will end up being abused the same way we were...
We were all new supply now we are free ❤
Is the new supply better than you? No. It's just a matter of time until they learn what you did.
Yes that’s right! 👍
He went back to an old supply. He had been dealing with her when were together for a long time. He dropped me and went back to her. When I found out he was still seeing her, he told me deal with it or leave it alone. He said I'm in love with two women. Tore me apart!!! I hate him!!!
No, they are not better. After figuring out the narc, we either consciously or subconsciously became a less powerful supplier. The new person provides fresh fuel, is not yet aware of who the narc is, will eventually see their true colours, and either be discarded or get up and leave. They will fail to be the narc savior just like we did.
This! Old supply can never be new supply again, even after the hoover!
yes, and IF only that everybody could figure it out too soon. the vicious cycle would collapse, all the narcs will starve to death then leads to extinction.
my wishful thinking....
I do hope so! I was made to feel so crazy and he is so very clever at manipulating and changing stories
And some continued to stay knowing what they know about the narcissist
@@morosso1968 you made me laugh
Honestly I've already watched so many videos about this topic and I STILL can't stop thinking about him and everything that happened. I feel like I just can't get over it and never will..... I really wish so bad that this stops.
I used to feel the same way for several years, then a miracle happened I read this book called fuel by h. G Tudor. And the extent of pathology and even pathetic ness of the narc became so obvious to me .. another great book that really was the last nail in the coffin of longing for him was narcissism denial of the true self. You are in love with a mask he wears.. he hates his real self ...he’s not worth it. I have recovered thank god. And I sincerely wish you the same
We suffer from CPTSD and the trauma bond. Anoushka may be able to help you with this through direct counseling, but I would also point you toward Richard Grannon's channel where he addresses CPTSD, the trauma bond, and viable means of overcoming precisely what you, I, and most of us have had to survive.
You will move on its hard but it will become easier. Stop and think about what exactly it was that you were getting out of that relationship. Did they do you a big favor so you can go and better yourself until another person who is much better suited for enters your life.
I had to rationalise what happened and come to terms with why I was so vulnerable to the narc who ensnared me.
Once I was able to apply some logic to it and not be quite so emotional then I felt better equipped to deal with the anguish.
I'm going though the same I can't seem to stop thinking how he done me!!
I was so pleased you pointed out the fact they have to act in order to basically get their victims to fall in love with them per say. They take so much pride in their ability to do this. I can just imagine how many times he laughed at me behind my back knowing he was playing me, as I was love struck by his sick act. In the end the laugh is on them as they have to revert to these methods to be liked or loved. Sad and pathetic. Makes me almost grimace when I recall his act. The new supply is just a new audience that has never seen the show yet, they are still applauding but they too will bring the curtain down on them one day.
The new supply will not be better than us. They will all suffers the same way we did. We wish them well though
Is that hyperbole or would you suggest actually wishing them well when she announces her engagement through my daughter or social media or whatever it may be because I want to be the bigger the person, show her that she’s lost her affect and influence on my emotions and ultimately do want my daughter to grow up in the best possible circumstance when she isn’t with me. I’m inclined to grey rock the whole thing and sit quietly in the back of theater with my popcorn and watch the train wreck unfold.
One thing I noticed about my now ex's supplies whether it was his friends etc (me when we first met I was very depressed and unemployed). Is he chooses people that are actually more socially awkward, depressed, financially not that well off, slightly less intelligent than him etc etc. People who are very compassionate but people he would consider to be beneath him. I think he feeds off being better than his friends etc. The funny thing is in the last 10 years he has become physically unrecognisable, lives in a complete dump and even though he has a university degree stacks shelves in a supermarket. Yet he walks around like he is a god. I just don't get it.
I live in a rural area with one neighbor. My narc flew her plane over my house at low altitude. I did tell her several months later that I knew it was he. I was flattered by that and I think it is a bit flattering that she figures out which aa meetings I might attend. She will show up once she knows I'll be there, then I switch my routine again simply because I know seeing her is a waste of time.
The new supply is my superhero, and thats THAT! Thank god he exist and thank god he crossed paths with my ex. I can start fresh somewhere else without the BS .. hopefully it lasts long enough so that she can get the heck out of my house without it costing me a landlord/tenant battle.
Your video was spot on!! I love how you have a giggle to yourself when talking about these horrible individuals, I was married to a narc and now trying to co parent with him while he moves into his 4th supply since 2018 ... it's pure entertainment to watch, however the endings are all the same!! Love love ❤️ your channel
Been there TWICE with 2CRAZIES. STILL A REALLY NICE GUY( SOLDIER& VETERAN. PRESSING ON..
Sometimes I tend to think that these creatures are aliens who came to the earth to suck our energy.
You may not be far from the truth 😉
Lol. True
TRUE THAT
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯👍👍👍
If anyone ever starts to think if themselves as "supply" for another person it's time to develop a stronger sense of self, cultivate self-love, self-respect and self-worth. We are not objects for another's ego stroking.
This is the best comment
Hi, you are of course correct. It is often used as a term in the Narcissist abuse survivor community because it de- personalises what you are not the narcissist and that is why the term is used. It is not used to undermine or invalidate the person who has been abused.
She was so beautiful, talented, gifted....and you can tell yourself there's got to be a Way to let them know that they are beautiful just the way they are.....but you can't reach them.... this relationship just about killed me....4 years...
I understand, I am going through the same thing. Despite the fact that the person dumped me and went back to an ex, I am thinking what is wrong with me and what did I do to ruin it or make them want to end it? Why did they go back to an ex, and why are they better than me and whatever. But we are asking ourselves why a toxic, sick, unhealthy person who is able to do what they do to, and with people, if the person they are with is better than us? The person is selfish, it isn't about us, the new supply, the old supply, the future supply, it is simply about them and no one else.
I really needed to hear this; just been discarded 2 months ago. Thank you for your assurance
It’s a nightmare I know I was discarded 4 years ago, Dec. 4, 2016 in the freezing dead of Canadian winter he even turned my two beautiful kids against me!🥶🇨🇦
@@MJIN345 thank you. Best wishes to your full recovery
But when he married her straight away probably whilst we were still together. Even we were the longest I feel like I was the side supply or not great enough? I did everything for this person and he just lied cheated and hurt me mentally.
But the new supply is the opposite of me. But like a copy of the wife of his friend he was always taking about. But the new supply and me have the same art background.
But still he married her straight. Although he showed me all of his family but I never met all his friends. Still I feel like I was just a place holder.
I’m so confused and feel used and he just lied and dropped me like a hot potato. 4 years wasted and he never would let go of me.
I feel like a fool and thought now she gets everything I wanted and was promised so long.
You dodged a bullet. I wouldn't particularly want to be the narc's wife. Life would be empty and don't worry sonner or later they'll divorce and he'll be back to you for a Hoover. Do not give in. You're free now. Work on yourself, learn to be your own best friend and use this time to elevate yourself. You'll soon notice that you're lucky he didn't marry you. Good luck girl ❤️
I so feel this! 3 years wasted now he’s acting like he’s getting married to the new supply after he kept cheating on her with me (I didn’t know he had someone else) and actually I found out there were several other women besides me! I feel like a total fool but as hurt as I am, I am happy to be moving on finally!
Sarah Ford how do you make it thorough. It’s so hard on holidays but I’m proud you got out as I did. I always thought I was not good enough or what the other person has.
But now I knew we were the best they could ever get and they will miss what we have given. But talking to him after made me realise how emotionless and empty he actually must be. No remorse or guilt and after I found out told me but I love you and I made a mistake wich he is stuck. It’s a insult to his new wife aswell.
It disgusts me really and that keeps me away for good and able to move forward. We deserve the same love we give in return and we are worth so much more. Happy holidays to you❤️
Going though the same thing now we just broke up and he’s married to her now it hard but I’m moving on . Good luck to you we will be ok
I’m so sorry 😢 this happened to me almost exactly. It’s so hard to get past and your self esteem really takes a hit. But I’m happy to know you got out of it, even if wasn’t necessarily your choice. You deserve to be happy.
This video is brilliant. It's the best explanation of the relationship with the narcissist I've seen. Thank you 😊
Your videos have helped me so much!!
Really appreciate the psychological insight about the history of the behavior of narcissists. I wrote most of my last album about narcissistic abuse (started with my adopted dad, then ex husband, and subsequent cheating boyfriends). It just about killed me-emotionally and physically. So grateful for your wisdom..hope our stories can set others free 🙏💙🦋🦋🦋
Nope she is not in any regard. Plus, I don't even care.
Good - that is how it should be :)
Same. Don't be jealous of the new supply because it's just a waste of your humanity. He's someone else"s problem.
It's been like three videos that you seem to read my mind. Thank you
Hmmmm..., my ex used to say her brother was the golden child. Her mom seemed to have disdain for anyone that was a female. Even referring to her niece as "that kid". Her mom also loved gossip and creating mischief. And if you were a man such as her brother then you were great in the moms eyes. Was a dynamic i had never seen before. My ex did mention that in order for her mom to take her anywhere, she had to lie or make up some story. Now later in life, she still treats her mom well but is bitter towards her. Ex still brings up past wounds and hurts for the mom to remember. Its a sad story really. My ex would tell me how hard it was for her to feel love and empathy. It was as if she was teeter-totting between 2 sides. Like she was mostly narcissistic, but then your either see a vindictive person or a person that didn't want to live as a narc anymore come out.
I have the most bizarre situation. His new supply he discarded me for is his 29 year old daughter. She didnt grow up with him. She moved to town for a job and he is besotted with her. It is like he is in love. He talked about her constantly. She is his new supply. Ive been no contact 7 months. Just bizarre. I think its starting because she was starting to hide who she was dating from him. He was going on dates with her and her former boyfriend. They went bowling!
Im sorry you had to go through that. I had something similar happen. My ex husband tried to replace me with my daughter (his step daughter since she was three). He tried to turn her against me from the age of 17. I am so thankful we both got away and she finally saw through his manipulation. Its unbelievable what some people will do to fulfill some sick need
I was with a very cruel covert NARC. I did my best to explain how he was behaving/making me feel. He did try to make some small changes but of course, there is a lot of deep inward work that needs to happen. However, when we broke up, he said he wouldn't treat his new partner in certain ways he treated me? That he had realised he was maybe a bit too "hard" - this hurt even more, as he was making it sound like he gave me a hard time but wouldn't give his new partner a hard time etc.. still trying to get my head around this part.....
thank you - I have experienced exactly like this with a thai woman - and the funny thing is , when I just met her she told me exactly the same about her previous "BF" and even let me listening in on her rants against him .... 3 months later I was on the receiving end
well, I felt sad - but at the same time also funny , how she did the same to me as she did to him
I love myself. I feel like me and my ex were cut from the same cloth. We like the same things, do the same things, and it just really sucks. I am finally accepting that I was just a rebound, and on a short leash of his patience. He ran out of patience and left. He wasn't happy. He doesn't let the woman hold her "audition" for very long. I just ruined things by acting bitchy. I don't know how much he qualifies as a narcissist but it doesn't make sense to anyone I try to explain it to when I get into it. Sorry for not making my issue clear.
Narcissists are the greatest chameleons out. Very good actors and become whatever they think you desire. So in fact you fall in love with yourself.
They are never real, until the mask slips and their demons do their thing. Thats your boyfriend right there, his true self.
@@Tony-dh Understood, but we really are cut from the same cloth on a wide variety of interests
He has dismissive avoidance attachment style. They can be interesting, intelligent, adventurous, etc however sadly don’t do intimacy. They run from any perceived slight and are freaked out over others emotions because they suppress their own. Unless they recognize and want to get into a couple of years of therapy they will not change. It’s unfortunate, I know.
This is so hard but you just have to wait and then new supply will see what he really is . She payes his bills now as I did . And I hope she will know who he is earlier then me ! And if she ever reaching out after relationship to me I will help her go through all ❤
No they are not. He's been lying to her from the beginning, abusing like he abused me, she knows what he is, but he still lives in her house. I guess she is going to change him.🤪
I am only hoping that he found a better supply than me. Because I am terrified he will come back into my life.
Nice quotes😄🥰💜
I think I'd they have made you feel less than, you'd have experienced triangulation and a way for them to make you feel jealous but it is easier for them if they know a bit about you and you feel you have to work for your fathers love then boom they have you. The less they know about you the better - really. They're not going to protect your insecurities they're going to use them as a way of getting supply and your discomfort will feed it.
No they're not better, not personally, it's just what the narcissist finds he or she likes as narcissistic supply - so if this person has more money or a better status, instead of thinking you're no good just think they are using this person as a way to use them for what they have!!!
It's not like falling in love with their personality, they've fallen head over for their bank balance and various other things that make them look like they're doing better.
If someone has to go look at me, look at me they're just as scared of criticism more so than anyone else. See it as a pathetic attempt. People who have to say they're strong they're bricking it. The strong ones just get on with it and don't need to push what they do out in public
Anoushka... You look radiant and your energy is beautiful in this video! Thank you for your brilliance and life changing content.... XO
I'm finally growing some balls and not letting her mentally hurt me anymore I'm walking away from her and this will be the hardest thing I've ever done. But she divorce me she dumped me and says it's OK to be friends and just keep it as sex well I'm saying nooo I'm worth more than this I'm not doing it anymore I'm not going to allow someone to treat me like a peirce of meat anymore. I'm in control by walking away thank you for giving me a wake up call with the videos you have done many thanks.
How about if the ex got back to his ex right after the breakup? I have a feeling they reconnected prior to the break up when the devaluing stage began. He has never reached out unless I did when I broke the no contact a couple of weeks after the break up. He spoke very sweetly and flirtatious, saying he's got much to think about, still finds me attractive-all of which gave out rather confusing intentions at this juncture till couple weeks later he got more cold again rather than warm, snapped through a triggering message of mine out of no where, when it really just looked like another flirty message. All of this time, he's still with his ex. He then decided it maybe best to not speak to one another till I stand on my own two feet again. We exchanged a few more messages after that conversation then it stopped when I stopped texting him. I have not spoken/exchanged messages with him for over a week now
Annouskha the new supply in my case its a women who not even new shes just a recycled from the past and even worse shes much more worse than my ex she is a high narcissist women very very desperate and jelouse however she tricked my ex partner so they was manipulating eachother love boming eachother till my ex realised shes more worse than him... I think everyone case its different this what happened in my case.... but your video its great thank you!
Goodness sounds like your ex got his fair share in this case. Thank you for watching the video 😊
@@anoushkamarcin yes, in my case too. The new supply is a more worse than him.
@@anoushkamarcin Thank you for your reply ...yes he find the worst ever women shes herrasing him daily even on social media she is completely emotionally demaged women she pressed him to hurt me more and more behind my back and enjoyed seeing I am getting hurt ....now that I am out of that toxic game they played against me life pay them back what they deserve!
She said that as well. I can't keep this act up with you.
Well let them because you can't save that person anyways, if you go and try to warn them that narcissist has already told them you are the "crazy ex"! They won't believe you until they are going through the same thing you did, very sad!
Never knew a narcissist, before...took me s while to figure out what was really happening,knew something was very different from anything I was unvolved with... never gave myself completely, he did not like that very much...I am completely removed now...
What about when the new supply is an ex girlfriend, they dated on and off from 2012-2017..... does that kind of relationship have more of a chance to stand the test of time? They claim they have too much history and memories to not try.
They are getting the same nightmare you got love bombing
Future faking, and Discard truly I feel sorry for them if someone had of told me what I was in for I would have been gone this is why I learned to wait discern behavior and don't rush to the bedroom saves us a ton of time and heartache💞💗💚
I never lived with my ex narcisssist and we dated for three years. He does live with his new supply though. If a narcissist lives with their supply will this prevent them from officially discarding the supply? Since the supply provides them a place to live?
No, the new supply is NOT better than me. The new supply is someone different and NEW for them!
Exactly
No, the "new supply" isn't better... just another casualty in the sick world of the narc. She'll end up broken too if she stays to long. Prayers that he doesn't hurt you the way he hurt me. The one big advantage I have? I'M OUT!!! 😥👍
What if the new supply is a narcissist too?
Good question!
It can only boil down to how one defines "Success".
My definition, I am "Successful" within.
I don't need nor want external validation.
With the exception of, Earned, Honestly!
My exes new supply is a little homeless methhead bum. She got such a downgrade with him, it's justice served. The fake happiness that they have won't last, after reality sets in haha
My ex downgrade with a guy who works at McDonald's and doesn't have a car and does meth
Is this ghosting, manipulation, narcissism or she likes me?
I had a case like this. She is not such a close girl, friend, etc. It was a chance acquaintance on her initiative. Everything was ok, communication was friendly even though we know it wasn't, because we haven't known each other before. I went out to meet her a little with some little things. Chatting about us, that is, about me because I was interrogated, joking and then suddenly for no reason as if she was angry, nagging at me. I didn’t ask anything why, because I don’t want to extract words and explanations. I understand how it started with words, that's how it can end. I was refused coffee with only a negative answer. She didn't even try to agree, we didn't understand each other, you misunderstood me, I didn't mean the same as you, to say I can't again, I'm really busy, unfortunately. She just acted so rude as if I had just met her on the street and asked her out. Nothing, thank you, I'm not glad we met, but our communication must stop. Afterwards, everything was ok, we called nicely, but there was no more chatting. I don't know the reason, I know. I respect the decision not to, but I don’t understand such contact at the beginning and behavior at the end with some people whether the girl looked at me as a friend or a crush. And it doesn't matter if I saw her as a friend or a crush. I don't understand the interruption of communication at all, because there is no reason, there was no quarrel, even more so that I did something bad, she could say that I hurt her in some way, insulted her.
I’m not mad at that person, I wish her all the best, and maybe even better that there was nothing to not disappoint each other and not let hard words fall.
This time, due to strange circumstances and the meeting place, I let it pass without explanation. By the way, I don't like them doing that to me. Everything has its reason, beginning and end.
She has a boyfriend all the time.
i think you saw her true self.
@@felixzoller1994 OK, thank you. 🙂
It seems like my ex prey on the weak like myself she left me for my own friend who is a great hard working guy and she knew that she either had him in line or she just didnt care for him to move in so fast within 2 weeks of our breakup.But for her it was a pattern for the last 8 years
The figurative bringing into the room of "others" at the time seemed very uncomfortable. Then you learn its to watch you squirm for position. All along from the beginning my being there while referances of current involvement with another, actually made me feel bad for them and worried literally about my safety. But your under the impression, the implication its over. You can't help but think this is way off the normal break up of a relationship. Oops. I meant manipulationship. You cant help but research this anomaly, who is, what is this empathy dead girl ? The rest is typical evolement from a subjugated slumber to the harsh realization of being woke. Do not hesitate once woke. Thats when the worst of them comes into play, as your still in cognitive dissonance. Believe your new knowledge. The discernment of narconut should send you for the hills. An analogy for way way far away. Anoushka....nice of you to consider them human.Very professional. I'm not so restricted...they're reptiles. Lol
What if your ex who he married his new supply 21 years ago after leaving me after 21 years is still with her. He must love her to be with her this length of time!
I don't know if he is a narc or just someone who just got bored with me like he said and swapped women?
She ain't better than me. Periodt!
Her boyfriend before me was rich and shared her beliefs but was arrogant. Her guy on the side was less educated than me but more fun. I actually wouldnt have minded if she ended up with the guy she cheated with. Let him see what she is really like. That said, I feel bad for the next poor guy she hooks. I hope he gets out soon.
Even the narcissists themselves think that the relationship with the new supply would be happier and a success than what they had with us. They thought with that new person everything will be smooth and exciting. Narcissists are avoidant people, that's why when they realize that they can no longer use or manipulate you, they will discard you and will look or even cheated on you with the new supply. They won't fix that relationship with you. They will kept on running and start again. So, they never have time to reflect on their own actions and fix at least their own selves. That's why, maybe, their next relationships will never be successful even if they've ended up marrying their supply. Their own demons inside them, that demons they're carrying within from your relationship, that ruins your relationship and that demons never leaves them and will be brought to their next relationships, unless they give time to reflect or identify what's wrong with them.
He definitely has way more money than me and has a big house. She’s on top of the world now I bet. It makes me feel so low and worthless. But He’s also a cheater who ruined his marriage. I love how she used to mock him and call him fat when she was with me. Now she getting plugged by him…..also makes me feel low. Oh well, let the infidels have each other!
I doubt it , that if ever get a new supply it will be better than me . Almost 3 decade he was with me and still is . I know why he still with me because he can’t find better .
If you feel the need to suppress your true self around others, I don't always believe its because you don't like yourself, (although in a narcissists case very possibly) but it's to be liked and accepted by others, having a strong urge to fit in with the people around you. You notice they don't like it when you do something, you stop it and do something different. You're very sensitive of what people like and don't like and you almost become who they want you to be because being without friends is the most horrible feeling in the world and faving no one makes you feel like you're never going to find another friend who wants something to do with you so I think it could also stem from a place of lonilness too
They lack Empathy.
Sorry to be a little critical but the background music is distracting .
was thinking that log ago till narcs videos started awaken me, till didn't know that new supply is just beautiful junkie, greedy for money, overt narcy female-just downgrade but better coz new as any greener grass for sometime for ex. covert time... she cheated on him more than he is so they lives messy, unclean... why be jealous for someone taking my thrash...? But it took me 2 years of growth to regain self respect and disconnect from sick narcy's games...
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I am sure you are beautiful too. We are all beautiful in different ways. But cheating is disgusting and a complete betrayal especially when done repeatedly and without remorse.
Much better them than me is how I think about it....and the new supply is all hopped up on whatever juice that narcissist is spitting at them so let them play show & tell. It won't last🤣🤣🤣
What if she was an ex years ago ? And still hold a flame for the narcissist? Pl as ignorant as it believed
Nope 🙅♀️ I am prettier, richer, smarter, and of higher social status aka all the things he cared about. But like she said, nobody is better or worse than anyone. We are just our own people ya know?
If you must know, if the new supply was better, they wouldn't have reached out via hoover right? 🤡
Can you please talk about when the narcissist is the primary care to the kids and still wants you to feel like they still have control over you by using the kids. Second Slandering with their new wife and knowing your rights as a mother. Looking all over for this topic but can never find anything on this subject. Love your videos by the way.
Dear Jennifer, thank you for the suggestion of this topic for a video. Of course I will research and do a video on this. It sounds like this is all about ownership (narcissist) and triangulation. The control is about a group of people - this is how they thrive knowing they have an effect on individuals. I'll get a video out in the next few weeks. Take care
They're not better, they just haven't learned yet.
So what happens when the Narc marries the new supply?
Marriage means NOTHING to them
Don’t they also gaslight us saying nothing they do is good enough for us and when we react they’ll use those reactions and not feel loved enough.. and leave and make us think that too.. like I blame my reactions maybe he didn’t feel loved enough and it’s my fault but it was just me crying and screaming .. and the questions due to his lying over time not my fault .. the abuse, bruises, lies, stories that didn’t match up I couldn’t help it .. I’m sure that’s gaslighting 🥺
Soulmate is the most used word by all the narcy all over the world 🤔
Funny thing for me is I hope this not true and they will be happy ever after. The lying cheating thieving ended when she was with me. If the core of this disorder is lack of love as a child then my heart goes out to her.
When we expose narcissist before new supply with proofs,will they change their pattern?
Probably not... don't bother....
He didnt care he took part in the ruin of my marriage. No sympathy here.
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That was perfectly put. Awesome. Thx. I have different issues but been to many PhD's for things and can completely get what you are describing. :)
Hey Anoushka, what do you think about the home-wrecker? If the new supply is someone who had assisted the narcsisst to discard their partner?
Oh dear I hope this wasn’t your situation 😢
It sounds like they were gaslighted and manipulated to coerce with the narcissist. They may have smeared you so that’s why the new supply complied and did what the narcissist asked.
Take care 😊
@@anoushkamarcin Not 100% sure but I have doubts, I also don’t want to blame someone else.
The most unfortunate part is that I have 2 kids, a daughter and a son and they both are being brainwashed.
It’s been 5 years now, it took almost 3.5 years to come to terms that I had been discarded and she never loved me through our 10 years togetherness and 15 years of marriage.
Anyways, it does not bother me of the new supply but the bits and pieces of our life keep flashing infront of my eyes. The moment my wife use to tell me that she cared, loved and the way she use to tell me that she wants only me.
:) thanks Anoushka for your wonderful videos and along with alot of resources about Narcissism I am able to recognise where the problem was. But honestly I still fear alot getting connected so I have shut myself out. Trying hard though but my friends say I have taken a hell of a time to come out of it.
@Jane very sorry to hear about this. I hope you find solace in the fact that those who are yours will never leave you and those who left you were never yours.
Wish you peace Jane.
@@anoushkamarcin it’s millions situation...not just one
What if she was an ex? Years ago..and still held a flame for the narcissist? Please....they aren’t as ignorant as people believe...they just want to assume the man is her savior and will not listen...GOOD..I hope she doesn’t listen and go on thinking the narcissist is the best thing for her...she knows exactly what he like but it doesn’t matter....in her mind she trumps over you..In due time thou......
I have no problem saying he better than me. I have a lot of work to do in and out, also I'm not competing.
This one breaks my heart
Sarah. Its their LOSS we live in the light. they live in the Darkness.
Depends.... if they as well are narcissistic...
Ty
Remember, with the holidays upon us, the NARC will show their true colours. They will ruin the holiday for the new supply.
I “get it”. I wish I’d known all of this before all the pain.
It still feels as though I’m being strangled
Yes me too. Friends who see my pain tell me it's better to have loved than not. So wrong. I will never have the life back that I was in when he turned up. But I'm going to try really hard not to feel that deep disappointment and get back up.
are you answering questions on this? I have a question
Hi Simm, yes I'll be online for a bit - what is your question?
@@anoushkamarcin My question is in regards to your personal opinion on my situation. I was broken up with last year in December. He contacted me in January, then May, then July, and last week, but always online through a message. Half of the time it is about my art, and he compliments me, other times it is to ask how I am doing, and if I would want to chat sometime. I don't know if we are both narcissists, but do you think that it is narcissistic to keep contacting me online?
@@simmsimmerson6039 it sounds like this is lovebombing and he wants to know what you are up to. But why would you think that you are a narcissist too?
@@anoushkamarcin idk takes one to know one? or he sees similarities in me with himself?
@@simmsimmerson6039 that's called projection and mirroring you. You may have narcissistic fleas from being with him or reactive abuse. But if you have empathy your not a narcissist. You see how they mind screw you.
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all true. take this opportunity to get out. let them do and have EVERY THING haha its the new supplys problem now.
At the beginning of the relationship she used to have loads of micro sleeps .. they grew less and less over time .. in fact, they just stopped
That's odd itsn't it?
Omg mine took so many naps too! While watching TV or at the movies, I never thought it was because he was tired of “pretending,” until i saw this video. Interesting perspective. I thought it was because i was not fun enough for him (there goes my self confidence) or that he went out to a bar after telling me he was going to sleep and came home late...i will never find out ...
What do you mean by micro sleeps?
Nu är de så att mitt Nex har tagit tillbaka sitt ex innan mig som är barnens mamma .
Så hon vet om någon hur han är , men klarar sig inte utan han tyvärr.
Att hon gick tillbaka räddade ju på sätt o vis mig.
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The answer is urrrrr NO
Horrible advice