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You hit the nail on the head! Falling in love can be relatively easy, but sustaining and honoring the commitment it entails can indeed be challenging. It takes effort and dedication from both parties to make a relationship thrive.
Relationships are hard, best of luck to everyone struggling out there! Be respectful and try your best, and you’ll find a healthy relationship one day! ❤
FR, relationships are hard😭 Im currently in a 1 year relationship so far, and our communication hasn’t been good😅 I also struggle with communicating, so I guess it’s kinda my fault
Been alone for well over a decade...have tried to get into a relationship well beforehand when my confidence was high but all I found is rejection...my optimism has evaporated with age & now feel my mistake was pursuing one in the first place...some are just destined to be alone even if they don't want to 👈💯
I think its also important to know your partners attachment style. Anxious/Avoidant combos can be very painful. Anxious needs closeness to feel safe while avoidant needs space to feel safe. Very painful dynamic.
This! I recently found out about attachment styles and then found this channel and the combination of knowing both of this seems very helpful especially when you try to better yourself and your relationships
4:20 How to keep passion alive: 1) have novel experiences as a date 2) playful and silly like inside jokes and laughing together 3) spontaneous, passionate, sexual and romantic activities
As someone who's never been in a relationship, I love how videos like this get me thinking about things like "okay, what's my love language(s)?" and "how can I work on that?".
This video came out with perfect timing for me! My boyfriend and I have been dating since the beginning of January (almost 9 months now). Things have been feeling nowhere near as fulfilling in the past 2 months or so... And guess why! We hadnt had a discussion about love languages yet. Turns out touch and quality time are important to me, and quality time and gift giving are important to him. Now we need to try some new things together!
That's wonderful you figured that out!! My boyfriend and I have been going about as long as you have and we've been feeling the honeymoon phase wear off for a long time. It's IMPORTANT to keep that spark alive, especially when you're in a long distance relationship (which is the case for us)!!
My boyfriend just broke up with me because he was torn between making an effort for our relationship and enjoying the freedom of being single. He was cheated on twice so I understand the trust issues. It was just our 6 month and we had been having such good conversations at where we were at, how we were feeling, how to better understand each other etc. I tried my best but the worst is just letting it go because he doesn't want to put effort in.
Relatable, my bf left me 1 month ago and i can't get over it, he wouldnt communicate properly, wouldn't try to understand himself and never expressed his need to spend more time with his friends (basically that's all he wanted). I've never felt so abandonned and lonely, i gave him everything and loved and supported him so dearly, but he wasn't into reciprocating and still now refuses to make efforts to make the leftovers we have decent and respectful.
I'm sorry. Someone who is not willing to make the effort to be in a relationship with you doesn't deserve you. I hope you find someone who does soon! ❤
One issue that my partner and I just discussed a few days ago that lead to a lot of arguments was: Be there for your partner, be caring and loving, show that they matter to you. However, take care of yourself too. You're only one person with a life of your own, worries, a family, wants and needs of your own, take care of yourself. Don't give up all your free time and put your needs away for your partner. Once in a while if your partner really needs you, okay, its good to helpful to actually do that, but not constantly. Its puts so much pressure and strain on you and you feel then stressed and irritated because you're not taking care of yourself, you're forgetting about things that your body and mind need. My partner was always there for me and I felt so loved and cared for, but what we both noticed only after is that it started to take a toll on him. He was more irritated, angry, sad, unmotivated because he wasn't taking care of himself. Be there for each other, love each other, spend time together, but never forget about yourself and your needs. Please.
Me knowing that both of our main love language is physical touch, we always talk out or problems with each other and almost always find something new to try, having a much more healthier than most people our age😊
This channel is the best for mental health. The soft voice, and almost anonymous style of videos “aka, cute animations” promotes openness for those who struggle with that stuff “ie me”. Idk if I’d be able to watch a video like this with a “person” on the screen. Just a reason I connect with this content ❤
Something REAL important that happened to me not too long ago was realizing that me and my boyfriend just didn’t have time in our lives to be in a relationship. It was something we had discussed early on but kinda brushed off because of the heat of the moment, but when time went on we realized we were both too busy to give each other the time we deserved from each other and thus had to split even though we had fallen in love by that point. Let it be known to always ask yourself and your potential partner if you guys have enough time to be in a relationship before you go too far
I wanted to give huge thanks, love and support for your channel. I suffered from depression for a long time and after therapy and meds where finally over I started looking into psychology to work more internal issues out. A lot of videos helped me realize internal traumas and internal dramas which allowed me to confront those making my current life so much better. Thank you guys a lot, I own you some for your amazing work.
The "Ignorance is bliss" part resonated with me so much. In my past 13 year relationship I'm guilty to holding every little annoyance to myself. When she left her newly washed clothes that I washed for her on floor. When she left the dishes out in the kitchen or on the table. I didn't say anything for a long time, later I stopped caring if the clothes were laying on the floor, or if the dishes were layed out all over the apartment. And when she brought it up, the annoyance came up. But then she brought up every thing that I didn't do that she were annoyed with me. It became an argument and I thought to myself. i'm never going to bring this up again, it made me unhappy, we slipped apart. It all turned into a "It was good until It wasn't" situation
My dad taught me a while ago about the concept of love languages, and how mine might be physical love and acts of service. At first I took it with a grain of salt, but now... I see how important it actually is.
Im glad I knew all of these things before hand and knew what I wanted too. But still, the last one is extremely easy for me because my ADHD side of me will get bored and just DO. Its fantastic and makes everyday interesting. Yes, I keep bare bones order in my life and a routine because my ASD side will grow uncomfortable with chaos, but it is flexible due to my ADHD getting bored. And Im glad it does because we both chill and then blop! Im snuggling up for attention lol
I have a few to add! 1)Spending every single moment together. 2) Lack of trust in each other and failing to communicate how you feel. 3) Not realizing you don’t have to agree on EVERYTHING.
I’m SUPER lucky both me and my partners love language is almost the same Acts of service, physical affection, and quality time ❤ quality time just isn’t his thing though but that’s okay 😊
interesting problem can be... when you have the same love language, but require a different expression. For example, one might like personal gifts, while the other likes usefull gifts. Or one might like spending time by talking, while the other might prefer to do an activity together...
Timestamps 1). Love language mismatch 0:42 2). Ignorance is bliss 2:30 3). It was good until it wasn't 4:13 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
One mistake I've made was being too afraid to self-advocate even when I knew it would be the right thing to do. If you don't self-advocate, I've learned that you're easier to be taken advantage of. It can go either way.😢
And this is exactly why I had asked my new boyfriend if I could see him or at least video call with him today or tomorrow - I had to get something off my chest / ask him about something. We had just finished our little video chat and I feel soooooooooo relieved! 😊 all of the worries I had were unfounded and we now better understand each other 💞
Welp. You just described everything my ex partner did. Especially "ignoring the problem". I was doing so many things I didn't know bothered them then a year of being together they exploded them all to me and We broke up weeks later. Living completely different relationship realities is what broke us. I'm sharing my story in hope this helps someone. Falling in love is easy keeping the commitment and establishing deep communication is the difficult part.
My partner broke up with me mostly because i didn't know her love language. The most important for her was act of service, which was the less important for me. We were together for 11 years and I discovered that two weeks before we broke up, if only i knew that before, maybe things would have been different.
Absolutely, the principles of healthy communication and understanding apply not only to romantic relationships but also to friendships and various interactions in our lives. Building strong connections with friends is equally important and can greatly enrich our lives.😊🤝
It's so true!!! Sometimes she interferes so much in my life that it suffocates me, and other times, on the contrary, she doesn't bother with the things I really need. I believe the most crucial factor leading to a broken relationship is not a lack of understanding each other, but rather understanding each other without the ability to sympathize. "The greatest relationship mistake is to stop learning from each other's imperfections."
Apparently i have 2 love languages words of affirmation and services, i do enjoy arts and crafts and i do get a big smile on my face when i cook for a bunch of people i love and care about and they all enjoy my efforts and tell me how much they like and appreciate it so makes sense
i can say that the 2nd point applies to all kinds of relationship, romantically or not. i have the habit of just keeping every bottled up inside me cause just like in the video said, i don't want to cause a commotion over small things. i hate confrontation cause it makes me feel uncomfortable, thinking i'm being too nitpicky with the other person. but sometimes, just confronting the issue in a casual settings helps a lot in one way or another. i do realized this bad habit of mine will soon deter my relationship one day so i'm trying really hard to change it bit by bit. a close friend said sometimes, i just need to be selfish for a bit and just tell the other person how i feel, no matter what kind of response they would have. it also kind of shows what kind of people you're hanging out with and based on their responses, you can judge by yourself whether you feel safe to be around them or not. i really hope that slowly but surely, i could develop a more healthy way to communicate my thoughts with the people around me. as much as we want to believe that soulmates understand each other even though they don't speak on it, communication is still the key to a more better & healthier relationship
Probably the number one mistake I see and hear often is wanting the other person to save you (forcing them to live up to the impossible standard of always handling everything for you).
Really a very cool video, I like to understand the way others think and their interests and preferences this is really a great thing Communication is an easy art if you know its keys
Honestly I don't think I speak just one love language cuz I'm super touchy, always giving gifts, always spending and getting quality time, and etc. so I think it's more of which one you favor the most
I really miss someone. Haven’t seen them in two years. I am so depressed without them , I stupidly booked a cinema ticket to a film I mostly think he will be go see but even he turns up he’s either gonna go mad or hate me even more. God I wish I could forget him.
My love language is quality time. Close second is physical touch. That is me to a “T” I like spending time with those that I care about and am always going for high fives, fist bumps, and the like. That was a fun quiz. Confirmed what I was already thinking my love language was.
My partner knows my love language. I’ve told him mine. But he doesn’t do anything to share his love in that way… saying he doesn’t know how to even though I’ve given him examples. I’ve asked him to take the test bc I wanted to make sure I gave him all the love possible. He refused. So I gave him everything. Gave him all the possible love I can give in all 5 languages. Now I feel like he doesn’t love me enough bc he isn’t willing to try.
don’t we all enjoy multiple love languages? like touch is my biggest one but i won’t feel loved without quality time and words of affirmation as well. I still feel loved with all of them too. Gift receiving is my least important. But i still love receiving a gift that reminds me of my partner or it has something based on an inside joke or something between us. Or has meaning to me or her.
I make the mistake of not addressing issues in behaviour all the time and right now, I did it with my best friend which I now fear to have hurt by mentioning things. To see the two at 3:14 made me feel a little sad for them too :
The problem is expecting the other person to act like an adult. Far too many are grown children who can’t-won’t-behave responsibly & is reason #368 why an activity partner w/ benefits-yes, actually doing things together outside-is the best possible option.
I agreed with most of it. But I disagree with the part that said there are only 5 love languages. My love language is constructive criticism. If someone never gives me constructive criticism I don't feel loved by them.
One could argue that the category "words of affirmation" kind of covers that? I'm meaning that everyone takes " words of affirmation" differently so maybe that could be the way for you?
Words of affirmation. I love getting that but only if it is really genuine, so I guess there would be a constructive criticism element, as they would be honest with you if they were truly genuine. Words that are not genuine make me angry! Better not to say it then!
This video was being recommended to me since the last few days and i was deliberately avoiding it. But , finally when i watched this video, i realised it was God's signal to me🙌🏻🤲
I don’t think I’ll be ready for any sort or romantic relationship for a very long time. It would actually be a horrible thing for me to do putting all my unresolved bullshit on another human being that I would care for.
Keep in mind that you are not the only one with "unresolved bullsh!t." Sometimes sharing a heavy load with someone else that also has a heavy load is easier.
Another tip is to learn to wait for the correct moment to fix problems. You probably wont fix something in the heat of an argument, so learn to wait, take a deep breath, chill out a bit and let the other people do that as well, than you can try to fix anything. We tend to say a lot of things in the heat of a moment and most of time we regret the things we say, so learn this one and you will be fine
Nice video! Could you make one about emotional dependency to your partner, or how to emptionally handle have a gamer partner that values a lot playing with friends and wanting to do so while I'm hanging out with them?
I never been in a relationship but i know quality time and touch/snuggles are my love language being an intervert and scared of crowds and new situations scare scare me a little so i tend to glue to people that i know. When alone in a place i'm familiar with i will go of on my own before returning but if i am in someplace i don't know then i'm like a puppy. I also explain alot of why i do things... until i comes to awkward moments like talking about feelings or talking about things that both me (i know bad but growing up in a man's world does that)
What if I was open and honest about problems in my relationship... but every time I talked about it, the other person would just have a bad reaction to it, be hurt, and avoid me and then things only felt worse and like I couldn't open up more? Especially if the same thing happened the other way around, I realized I would have bad reactions to things she says too, but only after things were too far gone. But I see how it must've been hard for her to talk too.
I don't have a relationship with anyone but my sister. I don't know what the problem is. My brother and sister were married but I never was. I just can't find that one person who's just right for me. I can be friends with others but it never goes any further than that.
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Where’s the love language link?
I should be doing my homework rn..
quickly fix the title and add an s to mistake
Love language link?
Where's the link to take the love language quiz?
Falling in love is easy
Maintaining and living up to the COMMITMENT it brings is the difficult part.
It might be easy but most people shrug it off because some don't want to let the person who they like know
nah some don't fall in love easily at all, its not something you stumble with every day
You hit the nail on the head! Falling in love can be relatively easy, but sustaining and honoring the commitment it entails can indeed be challenging. It takes effort and dedication from both parties to make a relationship thrive.
@@carolsnyder5174 That could be considered incredibly simplistic and a massive overgeneralization but you're mostly right lol
@@rylandhatesguitars hahaha 😅👍
"We're often afraid of being vulnerable, but vulnerability creates genuine connection."
-Gabby Bernstein
Needed to hear this today. Thank you 🖤🖤
oops im a dude and falling in love with another dude wtfffff
@@lenawyman4441I think that's gay bro
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Relationships are hard, best of luck to everyone struggling out there! Be respectful and try your best, and you’ll find a healthy relationship one day! ❤
Aww thank you for spreading kindness with your comment :) Have a lovely day!
Awwww thank you so much for your kind words!!!
FR, relationships are hard😭
Im currently in a 1 year relationship so far, and our communication hasn’t been good😅
I also struggle with communicating, so I guess it’s kinda my fault
Been alone for well over a decade...have tried to get into a relationship well beforehand when my confidence was high but all I found is rejection...my optimism has evaporated with age & now feel my mistake was pursuing one in the first place...some are just destined to be alone even if they don't want to 👈💯
@@RR-fc3zm I hope you find someone one day. I feel bad for you though. You were always trying and probably still are.😭
I think its also important to know your partners attachment style. Anxious/Avoidant combos can be very painful. Anxious needs closeness to feel safe while avoidant needs space to feel safe. Very painful dynamic.
Yes 😢
This! I recently found out about attachment styles and then found this channel and the combination of knowing both of this seems very helpful especially when you try to better yourself and your relationships
I wanna give some hope to those with that combo. It’s difficult but it can be very rewarding if both are on board with changing. 😊
Fr fr, I feel like I’m in one rn
No kidding, I've been there.
Time stops
Intro 0:00
Love Language Mismatch 0:43
Ignorance Is Bliss 2:30
It was good until it wasn’t 4:13
Hope this helps
Thank you!
@@unknown4407 Of course:D
@@SAMSAM-kc6pj copy & paste at it's best! ^_^
Thank you 😊
If I may suggest something?
If the timestamps can be listed first so that they're aligned uniformly?
It'll look nicer that way 🙏🏽
You don't have to avoid any of these mistakes if you aren't even in a relationship to begin with.
*family relationship pops up*
Haha not a bad idea! But we hope everyone can find fulfilling relationships if they choose :)
Thanks for the advice but I've been doing this since the day I was born
You don’t have to deal with falling in love as well if you just don’t fall in love
Checks out.
4:20 How to keep passion alive:
1) have novel experiences as a date
2) playful and silly like inside jokes and laughing together
3) spontaneous, passionate, sexual and romantic activities
As someone who's never been in a relationship, I love how videos like this get me thinking about things like "okay, what's my love language(s)?" and "how can I work on that?".
This video came out with perfect timing for me! My boyfriend and I have been dating since the beginning of January (almost 9 months now). Things have been feeling nowhere near as fulfilling in the past 2 months or so... And guess why! We hadnt had a discussion about love languages yet. Turns out touch and quality time are important to me, and quality time and gift giving are important to him. Now we need to try some new things together!
That's wonderful you figured that out!! My boyfriend and I have been going about as long as you have and we've been feeling the honeymoon phase wear off for a long time. It's IMPORTANT to keep that spark alive, especially when you're in a long distance relationship (which is the case for us)!!
Hope the relationship goes well 🫶
@@naomimueller9912 hopefully you guys can keep that spark alive!! ✨🫶
My boyfriend just broke up with me because he was torn between making an effort for our relationship and enjoying the freedom of being single. He was cheated on twice so I understand the trust issues. It was just our 6 month and we had been having such good conversations at where we were at, how we were feeling, how to better understand each other etc. I tried my best but the worst is just letting it go because he doesn't want to put effort in.
Relatable, my bf left me 1 month ago and i can't get over it, he wouldnt communicate properly, wouldn't try to understand himself and never expressed his need to spend more time with his friends (basically that's all he wanted). I've never felt so abandonned and lonely, i gave him everything and loved and supported him so dearly, but he wasn't into reciprocating and still now refuses to make efforts to make the leftovers we have decent and respectful.
I'm sorry to hear that.
I'm sorry. Someone who is not willing to make the effort to be in a relationship with you doesn't deserve you. I hope you find someone who does soon! ❤
One issue that my partner and I just discussed a few days ago that lead to a lot of arguments was:
Be there for your partner, be caring and loving, show that they matter to you. However, take care of yourself too. You're only one person with a life of your own, worries, a family, wants and needs of your own, take care of yourself. Don't give up all your free time and put your needs away for your partner. Once in a while if your partner really needs you, okay, its good to helpful to actually do that, but not constantly. Its puts so much pressure and strain on you and you feel then stressed and irritated because you're not taking care of yourself, you're forgetting about things that your body and mind need.
My partner was always there for me and I felt so loved and cared for, but what we both noticed only after is that it started to take a toll on him. He was more irritated, angry, sad, unmotivated because he wasn't taking care of himself.
Be there for each other, love each other, spend time together, but never forget about yourself and your needs. Please.
A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.
Me knowing that both of our main love language is physical touch, we always talk out or problems with each other and almost always find something new to try, having a much more healthier than most people our age😊
This channel is the best for mental health. The soft voice, and almost anonymous style of videos “aka, cute animations” promotes openness for those who struggle with that stuff “ie me”. Idk if I’d be able to watch a video like this with a “person” on the screen. Just a reason I connect with this content ❤
I am most definitely the physical love language person, anyone I habe a strong bond with I feel the best hugging or being physically compassionate.
Something REAL important that happened to me not too long ago was realizing that me and my boyfriend just didn’t have time in our lives to be in a relationship. It was something we had discussed early on but kinda brushed off because of the heat of the moment, but when time went on we realized we were both too busy to give each other the time we deserved from each other and thus had to split even though we had fallen in love by that point. Let it be known to always ask yourself and your potential partner if you guys have enough time to be in a relationship before you go too far
I wanted to give huge thanks, love and support for your channel. I suffered from depression for a long time and after therapy and meds where finally over I started looking into psychology to work more internal issues out. A lot of videos helped me realize internal traumas and internal dramas which allowed me to confront those making my current life so much better. Thank you guys a lot, I own you some for your amazing work.
Relationships can be complicated. Somehow this video helps in clarifying things we need more advice on.
The "Ignorance is bliss" part resonated with me so much. In my past 13 year relationship I'm guilty to holding every little annoyance to myself. When she left her newly washed clothes that I washed for her on floor. When she left the dishes out in the kitchen or on the table. I didn't say anything for a long time, later I stopped caring if the clothes were laying on the floor, or if the dishes were layed out all over the apartment. And when she brought it up, the annoyance came up. But then she brought up every thing that I didn't do that she were annoyed with me. It became an argument and I thought to myself. i'm never going to bring this up again, it made me unhappy, we slipped apart. It all turned into a "It was good until It wasn't" situation
My dad taught me a while ago about the concept of love languages, and how mine might be physical love and acts of service. At first I took it with a grain of salt, but now... I see how important it actually is.
Don't you just love it when a video says "link in the description" and when you click on the description, that link is nowhere to be found?
Im glad I knew all of these things before hand and knew what I wanted too. But still, the last one is extremely easy for me because my ADHD side of me will get bored and just DO. Its fantastic and makes everyday interesting. Yes, I keep bare bones order in my life and a routine because my ASD side will grow uncomfortable with chaos, but it is flexible due to my ADHD getting bored. And Im glad it does because we both chill and then blop! Im snuggling up for attention lol
We needed this video a long time ago. Now everyone is getting into relationships without knowing how to show their love to each other
A relationship is as hard work as a career, but always make sure it doesn't feel like a must 😌
I have a few to add!
1)Spending every single moment together.
2) Lack of trust in each other and failing to communicate how you feel.
3) Not realizing you don’t have to agree on EVERYTHING.
I’m SUPER lucky both me and my partners love language is almost the same
Acts of service, physical affection, and quality time ❤ quality time just isn’t his thing though but that’s okay 😊
I love this channel, I love the messeges you spread!
Aww thank you so much! Did you learn anything new from today's video?
@@Psych2go ofc, like allways!
Communication can help fix a lot of issues in any relationship
Love the kyo & tohru illustrations for love languages 🥲🥰💕
interesting problem can be... when you have the same love language, but require a different expression. For example, one might like personal gifts, while the other likes usefull gifts. Or one might like spending time by talking, while the other might prefer to do an activity together...
Timestamps
1). Love language mismatch 0:42
2). Ignorance is bliss 2:30
3). It was good until it wasn't 4:13
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Not having a great day whatsoever my team sucks I’m depressed and my family doesn’t gives 2 fucks🥲😭
@@alexanderhopkins7837 same here my friend. You are not alone
One mistake I've made was being too afraid to self-advocate even when I knew it would be the right thing to do. If you don't self-advocate, I've learned that you're easier to be taken advantage of. It can go either way.😢
I did , i lost myself and wanted her to save me, now i am crushed, single and alone
And this is exactly why I had asked my new boyfriend if I could see him or at least video call with him today or tomorrow - I had to get something off my chest / ask him about something.
We had just finished our little video chat and I feel soooooooooo relieved! 😊 all of the worries I had were unfounded and we now better understand each other 💞
Welp. You just described everything my ex partner did. Especially "ignoring the problem". I was doing so many things I didn't know bothered them then a year of being together they exploded them all to me and We broke up weeks later. Living completely different relationship realities is what broke us. I'm sharing my story in hope this helps someone. Falling in love is easy keeping the commitment and establishing deep communication is the difficult part.
“Didn’t know it bothered them” R U SURE ABOUT THAT
BEAUTIFULLY DONE 👏🏾
Relationships take effort 2 sustain ❤
FRUITS BASKET! Yay! This video was super helpful, thank you!
My partner broke up with me mostly because i didn't know her love language. The most important for her was act of service, which was the less important for me. We were together for 11 years and I discovered that two weeks before we broke up, if only i knew that before, maybe things would have been different.
It doesn't have to be a partner it can also be a friend... just for future reference 😉
Absolutely, the principles of healthy communication and understanding apply not only to romantic relationships but also to friendships and various interactions in our lives. Building strong connections with friends is equally important and can greatly enrich our lives.😊🤝
The fact that a gf broke up with me today and that this vid got posted today is wild
So sorry to hear and hope that this video can give you some insights.
@@Psych2gothank you ❤
How are you doing since the breakup? Was it a mutual break up?
@@Psych2go I’ve been okay I’ve just had many intrusive thoughts and it was over texts :)
@@Psych2go and no it wasn’t she said she lost feelings for me but i still had some feelings
It's good to know which mistakes you shouldn't do in a relationship... Given that you find a man/woman willing to commit to a relationship first 😅
It's so true!!! Sometimes she interferes so much in my life that it suffocates me, and other times, on the contrary, she doesn't bother with the things I really need. I believe the most crucial factor leading to a broken relationship is not a lack of understanding each other, but rather understanding each other without the ability to sympathize.
"The greatest relationship mistake is to stop learning from each other's imperfections."
At least she talks to you, mine avoids me like the plague
Love all of your videos ❤
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Apparently i have 2 love languages words of affirmation and services, i do enjoy arts and crafts and i do get a big smile on my face when i cook for a bunch of people i love and care about and they all enjoy my efforts and tell me how much they like and appreciate it so makes sense
No, Psych2go. Thank YOU for changing peoples’ lives for 8 years.👍
Thank you for the kind words! How did you know we were around for 8 years?
@@Psych2go I went to your channel, then videos, then oldest.
i can say that the 2nd point applies to all kinds of relationship, romantically or not. i have the habit of just keeping every bottled up inside me cause just like in the video said, i don't want to cause a commotion over small things. i hate confrontation cause it makes me feel uncomfortable, thinking i'm being too nitpicky with the other person. but sometimes, just confronting the issue in a casual settings helps a lot in one way or another. i do realized this bad habit of mine will soon deter my relationship one day so i'm trying really hard to change it bit by bit. a close friend said sometimes, i just need to be selfish for a bit and just tell the other person how i feel, no matter what kind of response they would have. it also kind of shows what kind of people you're hanging out with and based on their responses, you can judge by yourself whether you feel safe to be around them or not. i really hope that slowly but surely, i could develop a more healthy way to communicate my thoughts with the people around me. as much as we want to believe that soulmates understand each other even though they don't speak on it, communication is still the key to a more better & healthier relationship
I have the same problem. I’ve been learning how to address my irritants early on so they don’t continue haunting me 😅 It’s still hard though 😅
I like how I watch those as if it will ever be relevant for me
Probably the number one mistake I see and hear often is wanting the other person to save you (forcing them to live up to the impossible standard of always handling everything for you).
Man this stuff always comes at the right time…
It's often amazing how the right content or advice can come into our lives just when we need it most😊.
Really a very cool video, I like to understand the way others think and their interests and preferences this is really a great thing Communication is an easy art if you know its keys
I want to work on my relationships with myself, friends, and family. Thank you for this.
OH SHIT THEY KNOW WHAT I NEED RIGHT NOW
Haha thanks we try! Are you currently in a relationship?
@@Psych2goyep :)
Honestly I don't think I speak just one love language cuz I'm super touchy, always giving gifts, always spending and getting quality time, and etc. so I think it's more of which one you favor the most
This could help me in future relationships. Thank you!
I really miss someone. Haven’t seen them in two years. I am so depressed without them , I stupidly booked a cinema ticket to a film I mostly think he will be go see but even he turns up he’s either gonna go mad or hate me even more. God I wish I could forget him.
My love language is quality time. Close second is physical touch.
That is me to a “T” I like spending time with those that I care about and am always going for high fives, fist bumps, and the like. That was a fun quiz. Confirmed what I was already thinking my love language was.
Quality time and acts of service
i love how the love language example was of Kyo and Tohru 🥹😭😭 i miss them so much
My partner knows my love language. I’ve told him mine. But he doesn’t do anything to share his love in that way… saying he doesn’t know how to even though I’ve given him examples. I’ve asked him to take the test bc I wanted to make sure I gave him all the love possible. He refused. So I gave him everything. Gave him all the possible love I can give in all 5 languages. Now I feel like he doesn’t love me enough bc he isn’t willing to try.
don’t we all enjoy multiple love languages? like touch is my biggest one but i won’t feel loved without quality time and words of affirmation as well. I still feel loved with all of them too. Gift receiving is my least important. But i still love receiving a gift that reminds me of my partner or it has something based on an inside joke or something between us. Or has meaning to me or her.
Thanks for this! Just a note: The Love Language quiz by Chapman isn't linked in the description
I make the mistake of not addressing issues in behaviour all the time and right now, I did it with my best friend which I now fear to have hurt by mentioning things.
To see the two at 3:14 made me feel a little sad for them too :
Healthy Video! Thank You! 😃🙂🙌🏻
My love language is deffinetely the touchy thing, i only touch people i reall really like a lot.
I just got into a new relationship and this will be very good advice to keep it happy and exciting. Thank you
Where is the link for the love language test?
The problem is expecting the other person to act like an adult. Far too many are grown children who can’t-won’t-behave responsibly & is reason #368 why an activity partner w/ benefits-yes, actually doing things together outside-is the best possible option.
I agreed with most of it. But I disagree with the part that said there are only 5 love languages. My love language is constructive criticism. If someone never gives me constructive criticism I don't feel loved by them.
One could argue that the category "words of affirmation" kind of covers that? I'm meaning that everyone takes " words of affirmation" differently so maybe that could be the way for you?
@@ozbornn3 You make a valid point. "Words of affirmation" in the Five Love Languages can indeed encompass various forms of verbal communication.
Words of affirmation. I love getting that but only if it is really genuine, so I guess there would be a constructive criticism element, as they would be honest with you if they were truly genuine.
Words that are not genuine make me angry! Better not to say it then!
Due to the current times we live in it's become increasingly difficult for those whose love languages are touch and quality time. 😞
This is all good though I was hoping it was stuff I hadn't already thought of or known before.
This video was being recommended to me since the last few days and i was deliberately avoiding it. But , finally when i watched this video, i realised it was God's signal to me🙌🏻🤲
Great video i love that youtube algorithm sugested it for me
I am single and still watching this
Ok now this MIGHT be useful in the close future. I hope it is.
Timestamp, please?
My single ass:
"I'm already ten steps ahead of you"
I took the test and got Physical touch
Me who isn’t in a relationship: Write that down, write that down!
The love language quiz link in the description is missing I guess
i only know love is real because of how i love. i hope one day ill find someone who also does lots of research on psychology and relationships.
I don’t think I’ll be ready for any sort or romantic relationship for a very long time. It would actually be a horrible thing for me to do putting all my unresolved bullshit on another human being that I would care for.
Keep in mind that you are not the only one with "unresolved bullsh!t." Sometimes sharing a heavy load with someone else that also has a heavy load is easier.
This is a very helpful video and is true
Most people’s love language is all of them
this came in clutch thx
Another tip is to learn to wait for the correct moment to fix problems. You probably wont fix something in the heat of an argument, so learn to wait, take a deep breath, chill out a bit and let the other people do that as well, than you can try to fix anything. We tend to say a lot of things in the heat of a moment and most of time we regret the things we say, so learn this one and you will be fine
Thanks for advice
No worries! Did you learn anything new today?
It would be nice to have these problems, that way I won’t be so lonely anymore
Nice video! Could you make one about emotional dependency to your partner, or how to emptionally handle have a gamer partner that values a lot playing with friends and wanting to do so while I'm hanging out with them?
I never been in a relationship but i know quality time and touch/snuggles are my love language being an intervert and scared of crowds and new situations scare scare me a little so i tend to glue to people that i know. When alone in a place i'm familiar with i will go of on my own before returning but if i am in someplace i don't know then i'm like a puppy.
I also explain alot of why i do things... until i comes to awkward moments like talking about feelings or talking about things that both me (i know bad but growing up in a man's world does that)
Keep your squats low and your standards high
Where is the link to the love language test??
I love your channel. Thank you
What if I was open and honest about problems in my relationship... but every time I talked about it, the other person would just have a bad reaction to it, be hurt, and avoid me and then things only felt worse and like I couldn't open up more?
Especially if the same thing happened the other way around, I realized I would have bad reactions to things she says too, but only after things were too far gone. But I see how it must've been hard for her to talk too.
If you’re the guy in this scenario, you aren’t allowed to be unhappy.
That’s how relationships work.
My results in test
33% quality time
23% words of affirmation
23% physical touch
20% acts of service
0% reseiving gifts
This applies to partners, family, and friends.
Thanks, just what I needed
My love style is activity ☺️
I don't have a relationship with anyone but my sister. I don't know what the problem is. My brother and sister were married but I never was. I just can't find that one person who's just right for me. I can be friends with others but it never goes any further than that.