Every time! I have been a housew ife since 2015 and I have heard some of the most actually se xist things come out of feminsts mouths. They always put down what I do as lesser than. Why is my work at home with four boys less then my husbands?
They’re determined to invalidate her relationship and livelihood because they relate their own lives to social media influencers and think it invalidates theirs as a result. These grown adults still don’t know how to compartmentalize and understand that someone else’s lifestyle can work for them as their own lifestyle works for them too and that’s okay. The sooner women began to realize that we’re not a monolith the less we’ll see each-other ganging up on those we feel have different views and lifestyles. Sigh.
It just confuses me - surely having a family was her priority and they are lucky to have the relationship and resources to make that happen. She can even pass on her passion for dance to her children, that's what mothers do.
@@Andrina-fl9ef Keep telling yourself that, it's the same as not electing a black candidate. The Democrats need to stop picking hideous female candidates.
The author also never uses Hannah's first name. She calls her by her last name, Neelman, all while using Daniel's first name throughout. Wierd choice. Very disrespectful.
What shocked me was when she tells that her husband decided about the use of pain relief during the birth of their children, she said the one time she used pain relief "it was kinda great"...
I think she said she did not want pain meds for the other births, but the epidural baby was 10 lbs. I had both my kids without meds, it’s not the enormous deal people make it out to be. Actually better for the baby & mother. I was up and ready to go , full of energy, the next day. Makes sense hormonally, seeing as you now have a newborn to care for.
I had an epidural with both my babies and was up and ready for anything right after. I don't think epidurals mess you up as much as people think they do. New moms shouldn't be afraid to make the choice that works best for them.
Our biases affect the interpretation of what was actually said/not said. It was never stated he controls those decisions! I’ve had four naturally and if your husband can’t be there then emotionally you are not in a strong place to do it naturally! She explained why SHE made that choice - because he couldn’t be there, and the baby was huge. That has nothing to do with his control. The author implied at things left and right that people are interpreting through their biases against her and her beliefs 😢
That part bothered me. It’s her body, so it’s her decision. He’s not pushing a baby out. He should’ve had that machine that imitates the pain of having a baby while she actually had a real baby so he could feel her pain alongside her. I’m pretty sure he will change his mind on painkillers really fast.
@@audreywineland1426 You do know that some woman have easy births and others are in labor for more than 12 hours. Your birthing experiences isn't everyone's. So stop with the condemnation.
A man who truly loved his wife would have stopped filming when he realized she'd thought it was tickets to Greece. He continued filming because it's humiliating for her. Put her in her place. So upsetting.
My wife has a dance degree, and is the director of dance at an arts center. When she has dancers that want to continue their dance career professionally, she always tells her dancers “dancing is temporary. Your body will eventually break down, so make sure you have a backup plan. There are very few professional dancers over the age of 35. Dance as long as you can, but think about what you want to do after that.” And it’s great advice. I don’t know this woman, but it sounds like she had the ability to transition into a new role as she saw fit. And isn’t that what peak feminism is? Having as many opportunities as men? So she got to be a dancer, and now a mom, wife, business owner, entrepreneur, influencer. Sounds like peak (true) feminism to me.
No, that is not what what peak feminism is. The person you are referencing sound genuinely liberated. The point of feminism is not liberation, but rather to destabilize society so as to create the preconditions for revolution.
I am Mormon. My parents got engaged in 6 months. They had their first kid at 23 and 27, 2 years after they got married. They are still happily married 20 years later with 4 kids. Why do people think that they have to define what a healthy marriage and dating timeline should be? Why is it any of their business? People have serious issues.
Me too! My mom and dad started having children at 18 and 20, and are still together 34 years later, with 7 children. Why do people hate this way of life, when it obviously works for so many people?
I am too, and I totally agree why are we just so hated for no good reason. My parents got married when my mom was 19 and my dad was 23 and now they’ve been married for 22 years and have had me and my brother and we’re a happy family.
Parents married at 21 and 18. I think that a lot of people like to tear us down, just because we are, in several cases, happier with our lives than others are. Do we make sacrifices? More than they know, but we are happier for it in the end.
The only crime is her husband not taking her to Greece. It'll be different if they were poor (they aren't) and if his dad wasn't part owner of Blue Jet (he is). Instead he buys her an egg apron after she kept saying "omg is this tickets to Greece." She wants a vacation!
@@quarantinedteen5458He seems like an ass. I wouldn’t even be surprised if he did make her change her mind about stuff. I’m not saying cause of the feminist stuff but he just seems likes that
Yeah, and why did he videotape this when he knew she wasn’t getting what she asked for but an egg apron (ok as a side gift, but not a main one in their context, they are not medieval peasants). It felt like he was humiliating her on purpose.
When I chose to become a stay at home mother and wife at the age of 21, before finishing my teaching degree, the judgement I received from mostly women was unreal!
I quit working when I was pregnant with my 7yr old. The baby is almost 2 and I'm currently finishing my teaching degree. By time she's in kindergarten, I'll be right there with her working as a teacher in her school district. Specifically chose teaching so that I can be on the same schedule as my kids, but still contribute financially to take the burden off my husband. Enjoy raising your babies, they're only little so long...
When I married at 20 (my childhood bestfriend) and dropped out of college (to start my own business) no classmate of mine understood, but they were all very supportive of another classmate starting an OF at 18 and another stripping at 19..
The part that gets me riled up the most. Offering someone hospitality and them proceedings to tell the world that my children are annoying. Lady. You're someone's annoying child. My children are children.
@@DDD11239 1 in 30 kids are autistic now & the number is rising. So that's an unrealistic expectation at this point. Later, louder outbursts are the new norm.
I’m a therapist and watched a few videos on this articles impact. My take, there appears to be a lot of projection by others onto this couple (something I see a lot on the internet). There’s so much unhappiness, discontentment, and a sense of helplessness within people and they want others to feel the same (misery loves company). People are displacing their own feelings onto others, so they can avoid confronting their own insecurities, etc. If reading an article like this makes you react by judging or tearing down the subjects of the piece, perhaps it’s really something inside you that needs torn down and built a new. We are human and fallible but also have immense ability for positive change. Self awareness is one of the first steps.
I think more can be said, to your point, by the way the article is specifically written. It's written to insight this type of pointless outrage. I think the author needs serious therapy to even sign on to such a project with this intentional pot-stirring.
I agree but also want to add. This is the very definition of envy. The ppl who hate on this are actually jealous of her. They know deep down that they don't have what it takes to have her life. It is absolute laziness on their parts. In order to have what this couple has, it takes hard work and sacrifice. All these unhappy ppl want is to not have to put in the work and get what she has. So they have to nitpick everything about her, to make themselves feel better about not having what she has.
I just think it's silly that any average person would be comparing themselves to lives of these multi multi millionaires period. This couple in the article has more than enough money to do whatever they choose with little to no sacrifice, whereas the average young couple/single does not have this luxury.
I live in Utah, and people here have various lifestyles, just like everywhere else. But of course, we get labeled Mormon country. I'm not a member of the LDS, and actually, the population here is now more non-LDS than LDS for the first time. Regardless, Utah is their promised land, and I suspect they'll always be here, doing their thing and minding their own business. Here's my anecdotal evidence, yet LDSers are some of the nicest people I've ever met. A family of 7 opened up their farm for my son's entire pre-K class to come visit and learn about the animals! They provided parking, food and drinks, everything! It was very gracious and kind of them!! Ballerina Farm happens to be wildly successful because it's a family operation. I hope many families like this continue to thrive, and Utah is the place to do it.
The video where her husband gave her an egg apron when she was begging for tickets to Greece was a dick move. He is a billionaire who owns an airline FFS
@@DDD11239yes that’s the only thing. Not like she gets paid well for being a huge influencer. She must be a gold digger after having 8 kids and taking care of the entire house
You really think she didn’t get tickets to Greece? And who tf care if she didn’t, I hope she didn’t lol if a dude was begging for tickets to some place and a woman got him socks, do you really think anyone would give af? Do you think the guy would, they grown adults if she really wants to go to Greece she can fukin go. Yall mofos are so superficial like a ticket or a gift is the defining element to a relationship, bro can give her a beautiful home, kids, support for her business, jewelry, clothes, vehicles, the shirt off his back and put her life over his….and it’s the thing she doesn’t get is the thing you see. Women like yall need to touch grass and learn to be happy with who you are, cause yall never going to be happy with “things”
12:21 "she can build a dance studio whenever she wants" but can she??, why is the farm registered on his name only? If he is as controlling and domineering as this article portraits him to be, maybe she doesn't have any financial freedom to make such decisions?
She also gave birth to all her kids naturally. She only had the epidural once; and that was because her husband wasn’t there. Does that mean he didn’t want her to get the epidural when giving birth?
The article featured a picture of her as the prima ballerina for Swan Lake. No dancer gets to that point and then just *~quits~* because her husband or religion says so. The kind of person it takes to get to that level of ballet would tell the whole world to hang before stopping when she didn’t want to. Most ballerinas retire ~29. It’s unsurprising she stepped away for their farm around that age.
@@chrissyb7916- she was literally living her dream. She reached the pinnacle. The life of a ballerina isn’t forever. They age out just like Supermodels.
10:31 the problem that people have with their early marriage is that she actually wanted to wait a year before, to graduate from Guilliard, and he didn't let her ( according to the article). She had her very different opinion, and he didn't care. That's what devastating
The problem is: at this age and with 8 children she still achieved professionally 100 times more than that journalist and all the "experts". This hitpiece just makes her shine more.
@@KH-fi9cm then let me be even more reasonable. what would a journalist achive by defaming a billionare?? going against a billionare will cost you a lawsuit and risk your career. in this situation, even the journalist's company will not side with her, so she has no benefit in lying about what a billionare does to his wife. all that we can guess from these deductions is that : she wanted to help hannah. think about it. i hope the journalist can keep bringing to light other terrible husbands
Where is the article about me? I had aspirations to become a race car driver, but yet here I am driving a minivan for work so I can help pay the bills for my spouse and family. See, I could be a victim if only I could find someone to publish it. This is madness, an overwhelming majority of people give up on certain dreams once they get involved in a serious relationship, especially a marriage.
YES! We all want to be stalked, give up on our dreams, give birth with no painkillers, and be worked until we're bedridden!! Why are some of us such jealous creatures? Feminism maybe. Brett intentionally did not read through the sketchy parts of the article. This isn't a "shrieking feminist" narrative.
@@hello5891 What you just said has absolutely nothing to do with anything that I said, nor does it change the accuracy of anything that I said. I swear. Some women just don't listen.
@@pikengren1 What did I say? I gave you all of the context behind this situation while you were going on about jealous women. Maybe one woman is clearly unhappy and other women are able to put the pieces together.
Is she not permitted space to grieve what her life ALMOST was? Her dream of ballet? She can, it doesn’t mean she is unhappy with her other dream of having a family.
She literally turned her husband down for dates, so he made his father (CEO of Jetblue) get them a flight/seat together. She didn't want to get married immediately but he wanted to. In her home, she's often worked until she's bedridden, and had to give birth without painkillers because it's what her husband wanted (proof, she used an epidural when he was out of town), and he refuses to start family planning and stop imprgnating her because "it's what God wants". I don't understand why you airheads don't clearly see the validity behind these claims. Did you even read the times article before spouting your recycled talking points?
Have you seen the egg apron video? That is what I saw first, and it was really pretty sad to see her plainly saying what she really wants and having it totally ignored.
How did you manage to do exactly what the entire video is talking about LOL. Yall are just so parasocial its not even funny. They are rich.. they can go ANYTIME they want relax. Just because they didnt record it for social media doesnt mean they wont.
I definitely agree with everything you’ve said. The only thing I’ll say though, is that the egg apron video PISSED ME OFF. The way he said “You’re WELCOME” to her made my blood boil.
Husband Definitely came off as a **** in that clip. Plus her name is not on any business ownership papers? But, her choice. There are worse trade-offs.
Did you also read in the article, that she was so happy to take an epidural 1 time when she was in labor because her husband was out of town and wasn't able to make the choice for her? Wouldn't that make your blood boil too if a man told women they couldn't take painkillers because it was his choice? I think it's so wrong that he did that to her, childbirth is the most painful thing for women to experience and for someone to make a choice for her when they are not even the one giving birth. Pisses me off. In a situation like that, it should be up to women if they it or not. Not men, ever.
If a video about a couple you don’t know has that much of an affect on your emotional state, perhaps the problem is you. The fact that so many women in this comment section are so invested in a strangers relationship, to the point where their “blood boils” bc of a goofy birthday gift, is a clear indication that you spend way too much time on social media & something is clearly missing in your own lives.
@@aaliyahbugggagain….please get a life. This unhinged “men have no say in anything” mentality is so psychotic, especially when the hypocrisy is so beautifully highlighted all over the internet when the topic of vasectomies is on the table. Ladies, get a life, perhaps your own relationship to worry about, & stop pretending you know what’s best for this woman on the internet.
@@isitoveryet9525 It didn’t seem like a “goofy birthday gift” to her since she repeatedly said what she wanted and then got an egg apron which she was clearly disappointed about. And then he treated her like she was ungrateful. But gee I’m sorry my perception made you question my emotional state 😂
I remember assignments I’d have in middle and high school that required me to conduct an interview and write a corresponding article. I always lost marks anytime the teacher caught the slightest whiff of bias. The feedback always was: your assignment is a report, not an op-ed.
I usually agree but when she said no to a date with him so he made her go and when she said she didn’t want to get married so quick and he said she had to it seems a little off. I am a very traditional person but to me that seems kinda off. Many people would love that lifestyle I know I would but it seems abit weird to me that he knew her for 6 months and tried asking her out and she said no and then he finds her flight and then tells her they have to marry that quick rubs me the wrong way. Again I agree with sacrificing but as soon as he saw her it seemed like he planned there whole life and knew he had to have her even if she said no to a date with him and she didn’t like the timeline of how fast there relationship was going. We shouldn’t use this couple as an example and I hate that this is how more traditional families are being represented when there are so many better examples that aren’t this one.
Agreed. I would have actually preferred if Brett touched upon these topics here. Because not discussing them and shoving them under the rug to pretend everything is as it should be, feels biased in its own way, lowering Brett's credibility. Also the thing about the ballet studio rubs me the wrong way. If they can build a studio whenever they want, they could have built a new schoolroom for the kids, without sacrificing the studio. It feels controlling
In her rebuttal video she says she loves him more today then she did 13 years ago when they married. They sound like a very happy beautiful family. You are judging her on a biased article! Worry about your life, not hers!
@@JK-no1frAmazing how you all know just how Hannah feels by reading a biased article by someone with an agenda, not living her life! How pathetic! Worry about your own life!
Wife seems great. Talented, selfless, creative, hard working, and beautiful. The husband………… not so much. I’m not sure it’s her that makes people mad, but her husband’s behaviors are alarming. He comes off as selfish and controlling.
@@maggieh8255 she's his WIFE. Marriage is a complete binding of two people. Most official letters will be addressed as Mr. And Mrs. (Husband's full name). Why would he need to put her on there? Putting two names would be a slight act of division. And before you day it should just be hers, he is the head of the household. It's seriously troubling that people don't understand how marriage is a deep unification. Imagine if someone put both their left and right sides down as owners of a company.
@@SirSquier dude, I understand the unification of marriage. My parents have an incredible marriage. But still, most things have both names. Or if it’s just one name, it’s usually whoever’s name makes the most sense to be on there. I just think in this scenario it’s a little weird that a company that only exists because of her isn’t in her name or at least has her name listed as well. And I don’t see what him being the head of the household has to do with anything. This is her thing, not his. He can still be the head of their family and relationship while having her company in her name. It’d be like some wife opening a little hair salon yet the company is in her husband’s name. It just doesn’t make sense. I don’t think it’s that deep as a "division". And I don’t think your analogy for listing someone’s left and right sides makes sense. If anything, both their names create the whole "person" of the marriage. They are united, and thus it should be both names. Otherwise, I don’t see why putting it in her name is a problem. I just don’t think we’ll agree on this, but that’s ok, it’s not that big of a deal 🤷🏼♀️
I appreciate your analysis, Brett. However, I noticed that it omits the detail about Daniel likely not allowing Hannah to get an epidural for most of her births. This seems unfair. Hannah is the one giving birth and should have the final say on whether to have an epidural or not.
But that's not exactly what the article said, she was quoted as saying that she had an epidural because Daniel wasn't able to be there but she never said it was because he made her...she could have also been saying that she felt she needed pain relief because her main support person wasn't able to be there. As someone who had an epidural I'll admit it was awesome, but I would love to try going natural. That doesn't mean that going natural is some awful experience, it's just different.
I thought it was SO obvious that the author had an angle!! It’s one thing to be concerned , but most of the response is simply jealousy. These miserable women were waiting for her to mess up.
Without a working knowledge of dense, comprehensive literature of a beautiful nature. Modern journalists clearly don't read books older than the last two centirues.
Idk about hallmark but looking after that many children with no help is no dream especially when the older children will have to look after the younger ones . no child should have to be a 3 rd parent😢
@@michellebarker8940 I never said I’m a judge people are just assuming her life is perfect but looking after one kid is hard let alone that many. I know people who have large families and the older siblings are always left to be the other parent thats so unfair on that child , often they don’t want kids when they’re older .
@@ezrascrashsitewouldn't the name Christianity itself be offensive according to that logic? We call it the Church of Jesus Christ because that's who we believe in and worship. Everyone hated the "Mormons" because they thought they worshiped that guy named Mormon, so that's one of the reasons why they stopped calling themselves that.
@@ezrascrashsite in what way is it misleading? I’m a member, and we actively worship Jesus Christ? I think it’s insulting to say that we aren’t Christians.
I thought the answer was gonna be "None - they just shriek like harpies there's no man to do it then blame him for the bulb burning out in the first place"
I genuinely don't get why people keep on using this pathetic joke from the 1960's, since changing light bulbs is such a easy ass job a child can do it. Do you just wish to turn back feminist work? No more equally pay for women, more discrimination for women in the workforce?
@@AmaryllisAlexakis Women should never be granted positions of authority. Our society has gone from virile and world-leading to impotent and self-apologetic in the span of 70 years, all thanks to feminism overturning only the system that worked.
i think you conveniently skimmed over the fact that this woman is so exhausted from attending to 8 children and making all meals from scratch that she spends weeks in bed. this lifestyle isn't sustainable for her and she's heading into burnout, if she isn't there already. he's a billionaire, she's a multi-millionaire. they can afford extra hands on deck for childcare. she's nonsensically stressed and her body's failing to keep up. i think that the domestic/agricultural business they've built together is absolutely beautiful but this part seriously worries me.
Her kids will soon be at an age where they can help her with the younger ones and household chores and eventually will all be able to do everything for themselves. Raising your own kids is so much more rewarding than turning their care over to others even when they are loving caregivers to them.
@@zuzuspetals9281 having extra hands on deck for childcare within the home doesn't mean that you're fully leaving the raising of your children to someone else. do you carry the same attitude about public schooling? purely rhetorical: do you think that you could sustainably provide the same nurturing care and consistent attention to eight children? i'd even argue that she'd be able to show up *more* for her eight kids, if she was given time for actual rest instead of being stuck preparing meals in between actively parenting and operating this majorly successful business with her husband. hiring someone to cook and meal plan for the family would go a long way. inadequate sleep leads to major health issues, so i'd also argue that she'd live longer: this isn't a sustainable lifestyle for her. and the fact that your immediate solution to this poor woman's exhaustion is child labor is concerning. your children aren't ever responsible for parenting your younger kids. you're robbing them of a healthy childhood by pushing your parenting duties onto them instead of hiring childcare. children aren't meant to adopt other children when their parents don't want to find solutions to the inequalities in their presence to raise them. it completely tampers with their development and is a leading reason why newer generations don't want to have children of their own when they enter adulthood, since they already raised their siblings throughout their youth. please read up on parentification. and lastly, how long is "soon?", in your mind? about how many more years would you find it appropriate for her to suffer when she doesn't have to? they have the money and the agency to hire help. there's no excuse for this lady to be this burnt out.
Along with her name is not on any of the business legal documents. She is not a owner as she and he are putting it out there. She does not even own "Ballerina Farm" name! Also, knowing someone who signed up for their subscription boxes but immediately canceled when they read the fine print which states products may come from a third party. WTH? Third party as in Walmart? Neighboring ranches? Does not state.
Many times it’s jealousy yes, but in this case it seems like deep seated resentment and hatred. She hates this woman because she is everything the radicals think is regressive and misogynistic.
I wouldn’t say jealousy. I’d say it’s an inability to broaden the horizon that someone (Hannah) is good with their life's circumstances when they (the author who’s name I forgot, oops) vehemently disagrees with it PLUS the way certain views on how a "stereotypical modern woman" has to be have become more normative.
I'm a feminist, here's my take: I wholeheartedly support that every woman gets to choose how she wants to live. If she wants to live in a farm and do these jobs, it's great for her. Truly. The problem with this particular couple (or any similar couple) is the respect for each other. This woman bears the birthing of eight children, and very clearly expressed her desire to go to Greece, mind you she said that to someone who can actually make it happen. For her birthday, her very special day, he got her an egg apron. An apron. And not even that, he didn't even bother to pack it properly or something. It's not that we are mad with what she chose to do with her life, we're mad because of the way she's treated by get husband. It's unfair that she could have become a wonderful ballerina and instead she deals with a husband like that. The issue is not that she's living traditionally, the issue is her husband. So please don't twist our words.
But she chose her husband and her lifestyle; she continues to choose him. It also was her choice to pick children over being a professional ballerina - she can’t do both. If she’s unhappy in her choices she can do something different. Who are you to tell her that because she doesn’t have fancy birthday presents she is living life wrong? She very clearly enjoys the image, lifestyle, and fantasy of being the superwoman settler pioneer: has babies without anaesthesia, cooks healthy organic food from scratch, handles 8 kids and counting, all while being lean, muscular, blonde, and naturally beautiful. She’s Laura Ingalls Wilder’s mom reincarnated. In a country full of broken families, opioid-addicted obese sickly Walmart shoppers, and parents who can barely raise one or two kids with good values… it’s really impressive to see a woman who shows that it’s humanly possible to buck that trend.
@@williampiel5030 I agree, she has a responsible part in this. And it's amazingly admirable that she manages to do all that by herself, I actually applaud her for that. Also, it is so wholesome that she devotes her life to her children, she shows how much she cares and she's an amazing mom, who values family, that is undoubtedly true. My point with the gift is not how fancy or expensive it is, I'm actually against the idea these days that a gift has to be something expensive. I think that's far from the truth. But if you are a wealthy man (lets say any person because this applies to everyone, not only in this specific instance) and you buy for your partner as a birthday present, a basic household necessity item, and you don't even have the decency to at least make it look like a present, then that shows how you think about the other person. Even if he bought her, for example, a simple inexpensive necklace and put it in a nice box or something, it would still be better. Also, I don't want to focus solely in the gift because it's such a small gesture and we could be misreading it. Her husband seems to be at least somewhat controlling. When she herself says that an epidural during birth feels quite great, you can assume that she would like it during her other childbirths. Also, the reporter who wrote the article said that her husband would not even let her answer some questions. You see where I'm going with this? And sure, maybe she chose him, but maybe when she chose him he hadn't shown her that side of him yet. We can't know. And also, we agree that if she's not happy, she can do something different. That's what we are saying and everyone comes for us. Anyways, she's an admirable woman and I hope she does what's best for her, and obviously neither me or you can know what is truly best for her
@@eleonora2610 Hanna and her husband don't wrap presents. They don't do that for Christmas gifts for instance. It's normal for them. And if you look at Christmas presents for the kids, nothing particular: clothes, books... only useful things. These are their values. I'm not surprised: after all, they grew up in mormon families. Each to their own. Personaly, I like it, it's a breath of fresh air to see a family that isn't into the consumer society thing. "the reporter who wrote the article said that her husband would not even let her answer some questions. ' We all know that reporters, particularly on the left, interprete and make up things. When the rreporter came, she already knew what she wanted to write. If the reality doesn't match what she had in mind, then she change it. That's why I strongly advise against talking to leftist journalists. It's never a win win. "it's unfair that she could have become a wonderful ballerina and instead she deals with a husband like that." Unfair??? 1) If she had become a ballerina, she wouldn't have become a mother of 8 plus wonderful and well raised kids, an owner of a successful business and a content creator with 9 million followers. A ballerina career ends at 40. A former ballerina has nothing left, except for maybe a kid raised by a nany, that's it... at 45, Hannah will have a lot of purpose in life: 10 kids by then that she and her busband have seen growing up, a wonderful farm and a huge family business. 2) I know many women who would love to deal with someone like Daniel: a hands-on father, a faithful & healthy husband, and a competent business partner. The entitlement of women is insane...
“The way my mother always explained it, the traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women. He’s attracted to independent women. “He’s like an exotic bird collector,” she said. “He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage.” Trevor Noah, Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood
That part in the interview that didn’t sit well with me was her saying her husband didn’t want a nanny in the house. HE didn’t want one. They have 8 children. If she wouldn’t said SHE didn’t want one I’m pretty some people would respect that being her decision.
Hannah has mentioned before though that they do have help with the kids and schooling and such. I think the writer just made a point to say that the hubs originally didn't want child help. Doesn't mean that didn't change as their family and businesses grew.
Why does it have to be her decision? If a women decides to respect what a men wants is that a problem? What if a man said my wife wanted me to work some over time hours so I did? Seriously, your comment proves we live in a matriarchy where only women's agency matters.
@@viperstriker4728 because the person primarily taking care of the kids shall decide if they need help or not. Same with your example. I wouldn’t try to make my partner work overtime. Since he would be the one doing it, it shall be his decision. Same goes for my job and how much I work.
@@ohlilu3317 So because she is the primary care giver, he is not allowed to have an opinion. I don't think you understand the concept of a partnership. What is the point of even being married if each just does there own thing? In your opinion, is marriage anything more then a sex contract? PS: note that you use the word choose, the original comment uses the word want. That is a big change in meaning ;)
Maybe there are real issues you can take with Ballarina Farms, but this ain't it. To say it was never her dream to be a farmer, only her husband's, and her dream was ballet therfore oppressed is just BS. She did ballet, she was good at it, and then she made the decision to stop. She has agency in who she chooses to marry, and the life she wants. You cannot be a professional ballerina forever, especially if you are having kids. She decided a family was important to her, a family with a man who wanted a big farm, so she made that choice. She seems pretty happy with it. Women have agency too, we actually aren't second class citizens.
ya and how many can continue being ballerina after having kids, it's such an oppressive job that forces women into certain body types which a mother doubtfully will fit.
Sure... She definitely had all the agency in the world with a millionaire entitled and obsessed with her guy who could easily destroy her if she refused...
Yeah her life just changed because her circumstances changed. That's literally all it is, I know a lot of people in life who wanted one kind of life and it just didn't work out or something happened that meant they had to change their plans. Nothing wrong with it just how life is a lot of the time.
@@munamaepahhadd Well, he does. I've read pre-20th Century literature most of my life. (Started with "Moby D ck" before age 10). The majority of modern authors write at lower levels; however, many adults struggle to read a simple poem by Lord Byron, or a political chapter by Thomas Hobbes.
The fact a billionair with all this land wont build his wife a dance studio even though it would benefit his daughters who dance too just is heartbreaking....
Is this satirical? I hope so... If not: My parents are pretty wealthy. I am not. Having billionaire parents doesn't make one a billionaire. Also, really? Heartbreaking? Oh my. Sometime who's likes to dance doesn't have a private dance studio. Heaven help them. That must be horrific. Are you kidding me? 😂 Pretty sure address gonna survive.
His billionare family owns Jet Blue. A trip to Greece would have cost nothing. She had 1 year left at Juilliard! JUILLIARD!!! And now all that's left of her deam is a picture of herself as a ballerina, hanging above the stove. A little something to remind her of what she gave up, every time she cooks or prepares food... She became the ballerina music box you keep next to your bed.
Hannah also wanted to date for a year because she wanted to complete her schooling/career first. Did he agree? NOPE. He told her it wouldn’t work and they had to get married right away. She was engaged/married/ pregnant within 3-5 months 👀
Im not a feminist, but the fact he couldn't even build a little dance studio tells a lot. My husband is a construction worker he knows how much i love doing makeup and hair. He built me a vanity mirror by himself !! He often offers to send the kids to day care at least two days a week, so i get some rest, but I refuse because they are still litte, and im afraid something happened.. idk this dude is a billionare, and they dont even have a nanny. She really wanted a trip to Grace, and she got an egg apron instead. Idk idk
It’s interesting. The ballet world is brutal, often pressuring top ballerinas for abortions, something a Mormon would not consider. I once read an article about one of the top ballerinas in the world who was criticized for taking time off to have a baby (although she danced Swan Lake at 4 months pregnant and was back on stage 2 months post partum) and had been encouraged to abort. She said (something like) “Do I regret missing time on stage? Maybe. Do I regret not having more children? Every single day.” She knew ballet in a professional form was not in her long term view.
@DDD11239 😂 No, she's religious, comes from a community of large families, and believes children are a blessing, not a burden. I understand that concept might be difficult for you to understand, but not everyone makes $exuäl gratification their sole purpose for life.
If women are as intelligent as are men, you should assume she can make her own decisions. Don't treat her like a child. She chose to marry him. If she wants to fake her bedroom pleasure, to be a gold digger, that's her choice.
Consider the power an author has to portray someone in a character-limited article with her own biases fueling it. What if someone opposed to your political and lifestyle views wrote an article about you, trying to fuel clicks? Would it be completely fair? Like insinuating he controls her pain medication in birth which is completely not what it says (she explains why she made that decision) and constant framing of his behavior towards her. We have to check our own biases and be critical media consumers and not fall for the hysteria!
@@StephanieBennion I didn’t even read the article. I just saw videos... He seems kind of controlling … I juste hope she is able to establish her limits.
@@sweettagada22 Sure, receive your education from a few videos. Don't spend a decade pouring over a 25-textbook collection of psychological/neurological research (like I did).
I believe Wired did something very similar to Brandon Sanderson, another super-succesful Mormon, a little while ago. He invited them to stay in his home, and the article portrayed him as a total kook.
it’s so funny when feminists can’t grapple on that fact that when women get the right to choose… some of them choose to stay home and be moms. when women choose staying home for some reason that translates to a lack of agency because what women would want to do that right?
Because if someone calls themselves a feminist, it's because they are a control freak. It's why they all obsess over control soooo freaking much. It's why they are so ridiculously dishonest. They want women to have a choice... but any choice but joining the feminist machine is wrong, you're a "pick me" if you don't pick feminism.
A trad-mom/wife relies heavily on their spouse to stay afloat, if that spouse was to die, get injured and not be able to work, or decided to divorce her and leave nothing for her, and leave the children to her (which has happened, there was this Mormon lady whose ex-husband left her with the children and took all the money.) All of which are out of her control and all but one in the spouses as well -- so yes it does translate to a lack of agency, it can be pulled out of your hand anytime.
@AmaryllisAlexakis you're looking at trad wives being inept, which is stupid. You seriously think stay-at-home moms cannot function if their husbands die? Most of them are usually multi-talented and run businesses (e.g., in our community, most widows from the ground up manage eateries and small clothing shops, some have online shops) well because of their natural capability to multitask and deal with people with patience. Even without businesses, in this modern age a lot of opportunities are given to women, especially widows. It's so weird y'all perpetuate this mentality of them being powerless women when they are as capable as office workers.
I agree with you. The article is propaganda. The reporter had an angle and was not unbiased. But, have you seen the video where she gets her birthday gift from Daniel? It's a little sad. And who knows. Maybe they're both busy, and they didn't have time to get her the vacation she kept hinting at. But if he wanted to he would. He did when they were dating.
You forgot to mention the clip where she got an egg apron for her birthday, with just that little clip people have been painting her as an unhappy and sad wife because she didn't get tickets to Greece as she says althroughout the clip expecting that instead of an egg apron.
I think she is mostly happy and I do think the journalist had a bias but I do think her husband is a selfish man. He could have let her finish 1 year of Juilliard. He could let her have a year or two break from having babies she is clearly tired staying in bed for a week. And he could let her choose if she wants an epidural or not. She is the one giving labor. His dad owns an airline he could take her to Greece. She is very hardworking. He could cut her some slack every now and then. It’s not about knocking the lifestyle it’s just about him being less selfish and demanding and giving her a little break from time to time.
Something else not mentioned here was her epidural for the birth of one of her children but not the others since her husband was absent for that birth. It sounds like her wishes and needs are often ignored. Sure, some are likely jealous of her lifestyle (stove more expensive than my car). But it would be a nightmare to be under someone's thumb even if you get to live in a pretty box.
Yeah I don't get it does she choose not have this amd not have contraception it's really fishy especially since she got when her husband wasn't their and didn't get one when she was .....
another parasocial comment from you. really impressive. youre so invested on what you see on social media from them you start making all these wild conclusions.
There's more nuance to this. Her birthday gift from him was something she ordered online for herself, he couldn't even bother to get her a gift. Daniel even said that "Hannah gets so ill from exhaustion that she can't get out of bed for a week". Also, the plane thing was creepy because she rejected him for 6 months straight prior to that. She did not want to get married for at least a year after dating, but he rushed her into marriage after just 1 or 3 months, that was explicitly said. She got pregnant only 3 months after that and she was the first Juilliard undergrad to get pregnant in modern history because it's an insane level of skill that she reached and no one just stops their career there. Her career was not just a little hobby, professional ballerinas train for hours every single day, and getting into Juilliard was an incredibly big deal. It seems like even if they are happy now, she has suffered and sacrificed a lot more in this marriage, all he does is provide and do the laundry, but she is financially well off without him with her tiktok and business, so he's not bringing anything to the table for their family.
I think she may be happy with her current life, but her husband’s aggressiveness while pursuing her (pushing to take things fast while she wanted to finish her degree first, etc.) is what rubs people the wrong way. If she had finished her degree like she planned, she could have danced professionally for a few more years AND still had children
NO! She expected Daniel to become a ballerina and work with her performing ballet… poor poor Hannah 😂 I❤ballerina farm sm I’m always astounded when controversy ensues yet again.
Ballerina farm is such an amazing woman. She's a mom, she runs a farm, she's an excellent cook, she was a literal ballerina, she's been in pageantry, etc. That is a role model for women, a woman who young girls should look up to. Feminists don't like her because she is the opposite of what they preach, she chooses to have a career at home and even with that career she prioritizes her family. And she thrives doing so. That's the opposite of what feminists want women to think.
Some people just feel like in order to validate their own views and lifestyles they have to invalidate others unfortunately. That’s how you know their beliefs were always fragile. Because last I checked Ballerina Farm doesn’t go out of her way telling other women how to live, she just shares her daily life harmlessly and that’s still enough to trigger and make them angry.
The fact that she can’t even have a ballet studio makes me so sad. If he really loved her, he would’ve let her finish at Juilliard. He would’ve CELEBRATED that incredible accomplishment.
I went to school and got a master's in chemistry, and then went to work as a chemist. I planned to keep doing it after my daughter was born, but once I saw that little face that was it. I taught a little bit on and off in the preschool years and now I'm a "trad wife" homeschooling my two girls. Zero regrets! My husband respects and appreciates me and spoils me every chance he gets. My girls adore and admire me. I have time for my family and friends. My life feels organized, orderly, and peaceful. I can go back to work anytime I want, but my kids are little now and they need me. They are more important and home is where I want to be.
"OMG people after 30+ start prioritizing life and slow life, specially after having kids, its so oppressive" That's called being in relationship and having kids.
Okay, so these are just my thoughts, but I think that Brett was a little bias herself in this video. I think she’s hooked on the conservative narrative that she’s not actually stopping to listen to what the feminist are actually getting pissed about in this situation. Firstly, when a woman tells a guy that she’s not interested and he still has the audacity to “pull some strings” to get a seat next to her on a plane ride, then yeah, that’s a bit of stalker behavior. A plan ride is a long time to be stuck next to someone that you originally had no intention of dating. In all of the feminist videos that I’ve seen, they said that Daniel kept Hannah hostage in that plane ride and I’d have to agree. A date means going out to dinner or hanging out for an hour or so before you go back home. Also, being on a date means having the freedom to get up and leave that date if it’s not going well. Hannah’s so-called first “date” was the furthest thing from a date in the traditional sense. She was on a plane. She couldn’t leave whenever she wanted to and just the fact that he pulled those kinds of strings when she was still unsure about dating him…yeah, that seems like massive red flags to me. Personally, if I were single and I was still trying to figure out if I liked a guy enough to date him, then I’d be shocked and borderline horrified if I found out that I had share to plane ride with him. Also, consider this…what would he have done if she’d said no and decided to exchange her plane ticket for another plane, especially after all the strings he had pulled to be with her in the first place. What would he have done then, huh, if she ditched him? Would he have hanged back and pulled some more “strings” or would he have gotten the message and gone on his own merry way? 🤔 That’s something to consider too and that’s why people are kind of calling him a creeper. Secondly, in a lot of the videos that I’ve scene criticizing this couple, much of the criticism is based on the fact that Hannah made it clear that she wants to go to Greece and her billionaire husband gives her freaking egg apron instead. Seriously, what the hell? 😤 I don’t care if this makes me a feminist for saying this, but that is BS. I personally believe that if a man truly loves his wife, then he will give her whatever her heart desires, especially if it’s within his means. If she says that she wants vanilla cake for her birthday, then he better show up with some damn vanilla cake. If she says that she wants to go to Greece, then he better present her with some damn tickets to Greece. Period. And that is where Daniel dropped the ball. 😒 Instead of surprising his wife with a trip to Greece, he gives her an ugly egg apron. Okay, what he has essentially done is given her a chocolate cake after she told him specifically that she wanted vanilla cake. And the crazy thing is that there is no excuse. As Bret has pointed out, this is a wealthy couple. They can afford to go to Greece, but they’re not because apparently Hannah has eggs to harvest. Also, if you look at the video, then you will see Hannah’s smile is strained because the disappointment is evident on her face. She was not happy to receive that apron and her husband’s “you’re welcome” was very much passive aggressive. Lastly, I think there’s other things that deserve a second look as well. Yes, I get it that some people don’t want Nannie’s for the kids. But when you have 8 of them…you’re going to need some help. And everyone is commenting on how tired Hannah always looks, so it begs the question on if her husband is even helping her out or not with their kids. And another red flag was Hannah admitting to finally getting an epidural after when her husband wasn’t there for the birth of their last child. I’m sorry, but if a woman told me that after having 7 kids without medication, that she was only allowed to have it when her husband finally was present? 🤔 I’m sorry, but there’s no way that shit is a coincidence. So, I kinda agree with Brett on some things. Yes, moms are meant to sacrifice in order to provide and raise their kids. Yes, children have a way of changing a parent’s goals and dreams. However, I also believe that compromise is a big thing in relationships and it just looks like Hannah has compromised a lot more than her husband has in order to have this lifestyle. And if I learned anything from this whole segment, then it is that I am a moderate feminist at the very least. I still believe in marriage and that women should be home raising their kids. I still believe in men have traditional roles in the family. However, don’t gaslight me and telling me that’s it’s sprinkling when it’s actually pouring. In my opinion, I feel like Daniel was just a little too pushy in their dating phase and I think he was an ass for giving her a damn an apron when she wanted plane tickets. When you can afford to give your wife the world, then you do it with no exceptions. He can afford to stick his kids with a babysitter for a week or two while he takes his wife on a romantic couples vacation to Greece. The fact that he gave her an apron instead speaks volumes.
"that’s a bit of stalker behavior." LOL, not when this is a 1) rich, 2) handsome man 3) of the same age (they are 2 years apart)... "she wants to go to Greece and her billionaire husband gives her freaking egg apron instead" It's a matter of timing. They are building a DAIRY farm. It's not the moment to go to Greece. Honetly, I'm surprised she even suggested such a thing at this moment. When you're on a big project, you're 100% focused on it. Plus there's a lot of money at stake. This is not the moment to go abroad on holidays. They will go to Greece, in one or two years when the company is seetled! For the apron, this is their values. Cf the Christmas presents for the kids: only useful things (clothes, books). I agree with you for the epidural. It's a red flag.
12:03 HE didn't want nanies, why is it not HER decision ( as the main caregiver in their situation) or at least THEIRS?? The wording is very concerning and if it is true, the situation is just disturbing
That egg belt bs? That just made me sick. That's somebody that just wants to cause someone pain. He hates her; maybe because she's better than he is. And if it's all just an act, what is he achieving by sounding like he wants to hurt her?
😂😂😂 A bunch of women projecting their own misery onto this women is unhinged. When did Brett’s audience get infiltrated with so many woke feminist clowns ?
If you read the book "cheaper by the dozen" the same thing happened to the woman in the book (who had a pHd by the by). Some interviewer came in and tried to smear the family, but the kids figured out what was going on and decided to mess with the interview.
That part in the interview that didn’t sit well with me was her saying her husband didn’t want a nanny in the house. HE didn’t want one. They have 8 children. If she wouldn’t said SHE didn’t want one I’m pretty some people would respect that being her decision.
As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, I love when Brett defends us. We get hated by Atheists AND other Christians, so it's so refreshing. Thank you Brett. The comment that was talking how that the world should learn a lesson from Mormons for holding their heads high amongst the hate truly touched my heart.
Then y'all wonder why we dislike you🤦. For the last time, WE ARE NOT THE "OTHER CHRISTIANS". We are the Christians. How dare y'all take our book and REWRITE IT while declaring it as the "truth". At least be more creative than that, though that may not be possible since Joseph Smith was some fraudulent kid at the time. My point is, stop calling yourselves Christians unless you actually want to be Christians. Here's the list: Catholic Orthodox Protestant THAT'S IT.
You know how none of these people have lived on a farm, I grew up on a (still living and working on it) but myself and my family are very hard working, we are very tired 😴 every day but this life is worth it as we love it, and it is most definitely not abuse, these individuals have no idea
As a feminist, I have no problem with her living the life she wants to live.... if this is actually the life she wants. She seems to have given up a lot of herself for her husband and he doesn't seem to treat her that well. Got her an apron for her birthday when she clearly really wanted to go to Greece (remember they are rich so they can afford it.) And he didn't even bother to wrap it. He seems inconsiderate of her.
A husband being insensitive to what his wife wants for her birthday does not mean it’s not the life she wants, mabie he was busy and forgot I don’t know. My husband treats me incredibly well but occasionally he forgets things or a gift isn’t what I wanted because he’s human just like I forget how he likes things and not every gift I’ve got his is what he would like.
@@BecR-R Okay, but if my rich husband gave me a cheap apron for my birthday when I wanted a trip to Greece, I'd be pissed off. The man is the heir to Jet Blue, he can easily get plane tickets. Seems like he just didn't care that much about what she really wanted.
@@LadyCherryDraws Apparently some folks are under the impression that in order to be a farmer (rancher, orchardist, Shepard and the like) you have to step into the 13th century and become peasants. But then again, we are talking about city folks that think food magically appears on store shelves.
@@NoRan-s1g fr lol. I work summers at my Grandpa's farm (we just grow some food right now), and all my city friends always seem to think that living rural means you go back in time or smth lol
It’s not just feminists. I think there are a lot of people who just hate videos like this because people hate being lied to. These peoples lives don’t reflect the realities of 99% of people. So it all just feels like a lie. Nobody is always smiling, happy, productive, clean, energetic or without stress. Unless you’re in a cult. Most family farmers are deep in debt and struggling to survive. This super clean, soft skinned “farmer” is more likely to be a factory farmer with a petting zoo at home. People who are desperate for honesty and truth in a world of lies would love to see someone pull this off, but with the reality of the hard work it takes to pull it off. We want to see how this can be a reality for others. Instead it’s just Bam, we’re perfect, and everything can be perfect for you, if you weren’t so stupid, lazy and/or poor. Show us how the freaking sausage is made! Don’t just feed it to us. At the very best, they are just bragging.
Here's how you know this channel isn't just Brett Cooper a "quirky relatable conservative woman" but an actress employed by the Dailywire reading a script, because I just don't believe this is Brett 's, or most "right leaning" women's views on this one.This man wouldn't allow his wife an epidural. Brett, look me in the eyes and tell me how this would go over in your marriage???? LOL
I am so Brett but so many red flags there. Like epidural when the husband was out of the room, or even not asking about the birth control while he is in. Obviously she isn’t controlling her life. That is scary.
an egg apron. the passive aggressive you’re welcome. constant exhaustion. stalked on an airplane. no more dance studio. lowering her voice to talk about an epidural. no help with childcare. no access to finances. llc under his name. forced to get married before she wanted and give up her dreams. I watched my mother struggle to get out of it, of course she’s gonna act like she’s fully autonomous when she’d be up against a BILLIONAIRE.
As beautiful as their story is. If a man decided to get on a plane with you and sit next to you, who you turned down before is incredibly disturbing. He flaunted his money and influence and she fell for it. The man liked her for her looks, she liked him for his money. If they are happy with this arrangement thats perfectly fine. But lets not ignore the absurdity of it.
Yeah I felt the writer of the article already had preconceived notions and wanted to write the article as means of confirmation bias.. Her intentions were clear, and she’s made suggestive claims for readers (likely feminists, the writer’s target audience) to build harmful narratives regarding Hannah, her lifestyle, and family. I’ve been clocked this.
I love ballerina farms and I’m a married lesbian lmao. I’ve always liked her content about her family, food, the farm, her pageant, etc. regardless whatever reason people have to shit on this woman and her family, I find it really weird bc she’s so unproblematic and just a gentle soul. Shame on the interviewer for trying to spin the narrative like that.
When a woman tells a guy that she’s not interested and he still has the audacity to “pull some strings” to get a seat next to her on a plane ride, then yeah, that’s a bit of stalker behavior. This is what Daniel did and Brett has not highlighted .
@@uhura647 audacity? That is not stalking if you’re talking to someone hahahaha. I’d love it if someone was able to pull strings like that for me just because they were interested….THATS HOW COURTING WORKS 🤦🏻♀️ clearly it worked if she was ok with dating him and starting a family with him after that LMAO
I think something that adds to the hate is society's baseline unwarranted hate toward Latter-day Saints. They typically live very traditional and beautiful lives.
Thank you so much. I have been seeing so much hate towards me and my faith lately. I really needed this reminder that it's not everyone who thinks this way. If you're not aware Wednesday was Pioneer day, and outside of Utah it's not a big deal, but it still brings up reminders of what my ancestors did. Many of them were harassed, beaten, and nearly killed for what they believed in. They lost almost all of their physical possessions and gave up lives of comfort and stability for their faith. When people are cruel and hateful I always think to them and remind myself that it's all worth it.
It's an upside down world nowadays when courting is now called "creepy" but then they complain why there aren't any good men around them? YOU DROVE THEM ALL AWAY!
I don’t know fam. If I rejected a man for six months straight and then he pulled strings so we were seated next to each other on a 5 hour flight I think that’s a little creepy. I think it goes beyond courting at that point
@@maggieh8255 This is why it is today. Women are now confusing courting with obsession because of media. Its a different thing. Learn to draw the line but do not reject everyone like what women are doing nowadays
I saw one tiktoker mention her being conventionally attractive and was able to attract a rich man in her rant against her. I was shooketh and then saw it for what it really was.
Easy - they're bankrolled by uber wealthy family members. It's jealousy from the internet, but it's not fully out of place. This family is making money off you as a consumer of their "content" all while it was bank rolled by daddy's daddy. It's unreal levels of nepotism and this family effectively rose to prominence cosplaying farmers for clout. Just the fact that we're having a discussion about a bunch of rich people who have ZERO concerns about anything ever is illustration of how broken we are as a society. And at the end of the day her videos are "beautiful" because they are curated, edited and made for your consumption. They are staged. They are scripted and they are all made to make her family more money. Stop worshiping people like this. It's no different than consuming Kardashian content but on a smaller scale.
@@brett4932sounds like you are part of the jealous crowd! Cosplaying my butt!! They are really doing it!! Maybe check out some videos and see for yourself. Or better yet buy some land and develop a successful ranch!! No?? Oh I see. Sit back and talk smack.
I do too!! They really are beautiful people. Would love to hang with them and be inspired by their vibes. Of course they go through struggles and difficulties but they have a bunch of good things going.
@@catherinewardwell2117 lol struggles??? Their grandpa is a billionaire. A struggle for these people is figuring out how long they want to vacation in the Swiss alps for; two months or three. Stop worshipping people like this.
I saw a TikTok compilation of her “zoning out” and giving her husband dirty looks so apparently that means she hates her life 😅 like I zone out and give my husband nasty looks all the time it means nothing 😂 Parasocial relationships are WILDDDDD
Those types of "analysis" creators have never read a neuroscience textbook. I have a decade-long obsession with Abnormal Psychology, but I don't do stupid things likes these creators.
Depends on the dirty look. The Gottman Institute has done a lot of research about this. If it is looks of contempt, then it is reasonable to assume there are big issues in the relationship.
I’m a 26year old Mormon who was born and raised in Scandinavia, and my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. My bother and his wife got engaged after 2 years and they were both in their late 20s. Sure there are a lot of Mormons, specifically in Utah, who get married fast which I personally don’t think is smart, but there are plenty of us who don’t. Most of my friends in church, whether they are from the states, Scandinavia, Germany, Spain, England etc. date anywhere between 6months to 3 years before they get engaged. Most of them got engaged after a year. Half of my friends/acquaintances are married and got married somewhere between 20 and 25, half of my friends are still unmarried and are approaching 30. Growing up my family and church often emphasized education, I’m studying business, my sister studied law then changed to pshycology. My boyfriend’s sisters are both scholarship students at Yale and will not get married until they are done with their education, my sister in law is an engineer, and I have many other female friends in our church who are highly educated and pursuing careers within business, science etc. My point is that we most often only see this one image of Mormons in the media and I’m so sick of the stereotype that is attributed to us. Not because there necessarily is something wrong with getting married early and having a family. Aside from this I feel sad for Ballerina Farm for being used to paint a false narrative for whatever agenda media may have. Thank you Brett for highlighting this
This is the one time I disagree with Brett. My heart breaks for Hannah because she wanted to be a ballerina and she gave up herself and her dreams after she said that she didn’t want to be married yet but her husband said that wouldn’t work and they got married and for her birthday all she wanted was tickets to Greece but he gets her A EGG APRON. It’s sad because how can your husband be a billionaire and his father own a airline but can’t get you the one thing you want after all your sacrifices but her husband has always wanted to live on the farm.
@@DDD11239 Tf? Are you insane Juilliard is a school with about a 5% acceptance rate this wasn’t just some hobby she gave up so much. Now also don’t sit here and say she’s a gold digger cause she wanted tickets to Greece when she takes care of 8 children,works hard on the farm to where she can’t get up from exhaustion and all she wanted was a break from that lifestyle and he is a BILLIONAIRE and his father owns a airline so it’s pretty easy for him to get tickets but he got her a apron? It’s her birthday and she was still grateful for the apron even though she wanted to get away from that life for just a couple days and he got her something she didn’t even ask for.
@@Holy_slays The gold digger reference correlated with the fact that she married him within months of initiation, not about the tickets. Gold diggers will fake love, fake bedroom pleasure, AND reproduce, to gain wealth. (Even if they enjoy the bedroom fun, they still will fool men).
I've followed them for like, 4 years. They've been on multiple trips to Hawaii, they've been to France, she shares way more in shorts than in her main posts and she genuinely seems to love her life. Of course none of us can really know, but there's really no obvious evidence over YEARS that she's this sad person and suddenly in one interview this is the picture being painted? Silly.
Ok. So there is that the article was overblown- True. But so are you on the opposing end. It makes your reporting just as untrustworthy and to top it all hypocritical.
When it’s all you know; you’ll never know how you really feel. I got married at 19, and just so glad I escaped. It’s been rough, but you could not pay me a billion to trade her places. Money isn’t everything.. so glad I walked away.
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Woman: do whatever they want
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"No not like that" moment lol
Every time! I have been a housew ife since 2015 and I have heard some of the most actually se xist things come out of feminsts mouths. They always put down what I do as lesser than. Why is my work at home with four boys less then my husbands?
Well said 👍
Can feminist define woman?
I am so tired of this narrative. Just because people hate this way of living doesn’t mean she’s a victim or being coerced.
They’re determined to invalidate her relationship and livelihood because they relate their own lives to social media influencers and think it invalidates theirs as a result. These grown adults still don’t know how to compartmentalize and understand that someone else’s lifestyle can work for them as their own lifestyle works for them too and that’s okay. The sooner women began to realize that we’re not a monolith the less we’ll see each-other ganging up on those we feel have different views and lifestyles. Sigh.
It just confuses me - surely having a family was her priority and they are lucky to have the relationship and resources to make that happen. She can even pass on her passion for dance to her children, that's what mothers do.
Many men on the right, especially now that Kamala is the candidate, think women should know "their place."
@@Andrina-fl9ef Keep telling yourself that, it's the same as not electing a black candidate. The Democrats need to stop picking hideous female candidates.
@@Andrina-fl9efmany on the left, especially those who support Kamala think women should know their place too
The author also never uses Hannah's first name. She calls her by her last name, Neelman, all while using Daniel's first name throughout. Wierd choice. Very disrespectful.
I didn’t even notice that, good ear/eye
The author secretly wants her man and life
Right! If anything that’s what’s giving Handmaid’s Tale vibes 🥴
That’s exactly what I was thinking as I was reading the article. So disrespectful!!
That and what about the apron gift?
What shocked me was when she tells that her husband decided about the use of pain relief during the birth of their children, she said the one time she used pain relief "it was kinda great"...
I think she said she did not want pain meds for the other births, but the epidural baby was 10 lbs. I had both my kids without meds, it’s not the enormous deal people make it out to be. Actually better for the baby & mother. I was up and ready to go
, full of energy, the next day. Makes sense hormonally, seeing as you now have a newborn to care for.
I had an epidural with both my babies and was up and ready for anything right after. I don't think epidurals mess you up as much as people think they do. New moms shouldn't be afraid to make the choice that works best for them.
Our biases affect the interpretation of what was actually said/not said. It was never stated he controls those decisions! I’ve had four naturally and if your husband can’t be there then emotionally you are not in a strong place to do it naturally! She explained why SHE made that choice - because he couldn’t be there, and the baby was huge. That has nothing to do with his control. The author implied at things left and right that people are interpreting through their biases against her and her beliefs 😢
That part bothered me. It’s her body, so it’s her decision. He’s not pushing a baby out. He should’ve had that machine that imitates the pain of having a baby while she actually had a real baby so he could feel her pain alongside her. I’m pretty sure he will change his mind on painkillers really fast.
@@audreywineland1426 You do know that some woman have easy births and others are in labor for more than 12 hours. Your birthing experiences isn't everyone's. So stop with the condemnation.
A man who truly loved his wife would have stopped filming when he realized she'd thought it was tickets to Greece. He continued filming because it's humiliating for her. Put her in her place. So upsetting.
My wife has a dance degree, and is the director of dance at an arts center. When she has dancers that want to continue their dance career professionally, she always tells her dancers “dancing is temporary. Your body will eventually break down, so make sure you have a backup plan. There are very few professional dancers over the age of 35. Dance as long as you can, but think about what you want to do after that.” And it’s great advice. I don’t know this woman, but it sounds like she had the ability to transition into a new role as she saw fit. And isn’t that what peak feminism is? Having as many opportunities as men? So she got to be a dancer, and now a mom, wife, business owner, entrepreneur, influencer. Sounds like peak (true) feminism to me.
100% agree with your wife and yourself
No, that is not what what peak feminism is. The person you are referencing sound genuinely liberated. The point of feminism is not liberation, but rather to destabilize society so as to create the preconditions for revolution.
for sure😊
So beautifully said.
True, dancers have a very short career, unless they can transition into being an instructor or choreographer.
I am Mormon. My parents got engaged in 6 months. They had their first kid at 23 and 27, 2 years after they got married. They are still happily married 20 years later with 4 kids. Why do people think that they have to define what a healthy marriage and dating timeline should be? Why is it any of their business? People have serious issues.
@@derpydavs978 Latter-day Saints typically live beautiful lives!
Me too! My mom and dad started having children at 18 and 20, and are still together 34 years later, with 7 children. Why do people hate this way of life, when it obviously works for so many people?
I am too, and I totally agree why are we just so hated for no good reason. My parents got married when my mom was 19 and my dad was 23 and now they’ve been married for 22 years and have had me and my brother and we’re a happy family.
We also have really low divorce rates.
Parents married at 21 and 18. I think that a lot of people like to tear us down, just because we are, in several cases, happier with our lives than others are. Do we make sacrifices? More than they know, but we are happier for it in the end.
The only crime is her husband not taking her to Greece. It'll be different if they were poor (they aren't) and if his dad wasn't part owner of Blue Jet (he is). Instead he buys her an egg apron after she kept saying "omg is this tickets to Greece." She wants a vacation!
This is what I was about to type. I couldn’t care less about the feminists comments but that video about the birthday rubbed me off wrong way
@@quarantinedteen5458He seems like an ass. I wouldn’t even be surprised if he did make her change her mind about stuff. I’m not saying cause of the feminist stuff but he just seems likes that
@@quarantinedteen5458exactly my point. I was disappointed for her
@@quarantinedteen5458or maybe it's scripted, how come she kept mentioning it maybe they knew that is what people want to hear?
Yeah, and why did he videotape this when he knew she wasn’t getting what she asked for but an egg apron (ok as a side gift, but not a main one in their context, they are not medieval peasants). It felt like he was humiliating her on purpose.
When I chose to become a stay at home mother and wife at the age of 21, before finishing my teaching degree, the judgement I received from mostly women was unreal!
Only women hate other women the most, even more than men. Those women who hate women are the lonely, sad, & depressed women.
I quit working when I was pregnant with my 7yr old. The baby is almost 2 and I'm currently finishing my teaching degree. By time she's in kindergarten, I'll be right there with her working as a teacher in her school district. Specifically chose teaching so that I can be on the same schedule as my kids, but still contribute financially to take the burden off my husband. Enjoy raising your babies, they're only little so long...
When I married at 20 (my childhood bestfriend) and dropped out of college (to start my own business) no classmate of mine understood, but they were all very supportive of another classmate starting an OF at 18 and another stripping at 19..
@@kora4185OF? So this barely happened recently, your tone sounded like it was many years ago lol
@@tianna1116 2019-2020. Can’t believe it’s been so long actually wth!!??
The part that gets me riled up the most. Offering someone hospitality and them proceedings to tell the world that my children are annoying. Lady. You're someone's annoying child. My children are children.
To be fair, children crying in public are annoying, especially over the age of 4. Enforce a solid learning of stoic literature.
They don't approve of big white families.
@@DDD11239 The kids weren't public, it was their house.
@@DDD11239 1 in 30 kids are autistic now & the number is rising. So that's an unrealistic expectation at this point. Later, louder outbursts are the new norm.
I’m a therapist and watched a few videos on this articles impact. My take, there appears to be a lot of projection by others onto this couple (something I see a lot on the internet). There’s so much unhappiness, discontentment, and a sense of helplessness within people and they want others to feel the same (misery loves company). People are displacing their own feelings onto others, so they can avoid confronting their own insecurities, etc. If reading an article like this makes you react by judging or tearing down the subjects of the piece, perhaps it’s really something inside you that needs torn down and built a new. We are human and fallible but also have immense ability for positive change. Self awareness is one of the first steps.
I agree with you 100%.
I think more can be said, to your point, by the way the article is specifically written. It's written to insight this type of pointless outrage. I think the author needs serious therapy to even sign on to such a project with this intentional pot-stirring.
Exactly
I agree but also want to add. This is the very definition of envy. The ppl who hate on this are actually jealous of her. They know deep down that they don't have what it takes to have her life. It is absolute laziness on their parts. In order to have what this couple has, it takes hard work and sacrifice. All these unhappy ppl want is to not have to put in the work and get what she has. So they have to nitpick everything about her, to make themselves feel better about not having what she has.
I just think it's silly that any average person would be comparing themselves to lives of these multi multi millionaires period. This couple in the article has more than enough money to do whatever they choose with little to no sacrifice, whereas the average young couple/single does not have this luxury.
I live in Utah, and people here have various lifestyles, just like everywhere else. But of course, we get labeled Mormon country. I'm not a member of the LDS, and actually, the population here is now more non-LDS than LDS for the first time. Regardless, Utah is their promised land, and I suspect they'll always be here, doing their thing and minding their own business. Here's my anecdotal evidence, yet LDSers are some of the nicest people I've ever met. A family of 7 opened up their farm for my son's entire pre-K class to come visit and learn about the animals! They provided parking, food and drinks, everything! It was very gracious and kind of them!! Ballerina Farm happens to be wildly successful because it's a family operation. I hope many families like this continue to thrive, and Utah is the place to do it.
The video where her husband gave her an egg apron when she was begging for tickets to Greece was a dick move. He is a billionaire who owns an airline FFS
She must be a gold digger.
He doesn’t own the airline his dad does
@@DDD11239yes that’s the only thing. Not like she gets paid well for being a huge influencer. She must be a gold digger after having 8 kids and taking care of the entire house
You really think she didn’t get tickets to Greece? And who tf care if she didn’t, I hope she didn’t lol if a dude was begging for tickets to some place and a woman got him socks, do you really think anyone would give af? Do you think the guy would, they grown adults if she really wants to go to Greece she can fukin go.
Yall mofos are so superficial like a ticket or a gift is the defining element to a relationship, bro can give her a beautiful home, kids, support for her business, jewelry, clothes, vehicles, the shirt off his back and put her life over his….and it’s the thing she doesn’t get is the thing you see.
Women like yall need to touch grass and learn to be happy with who you are, cause yall never going to be happy with “things”
If she thought it presented her in a bad light, she didn’t have to post it!
The problem is that they only gets the nanny when HE wants not when SHE needs, and don't tell me she doesn't need one with EIGHT kids? Come on
YES! And he can afford one.
@@chrissyb7916 And even 2 too
This comment section is seriously unhinged.
12:21 "she can build a dance studio whenever she wants" but can she??, why is the farm registered on his name only? If he is as controlling and domineering as this article portraits him to be, maybe she doesn't have any financial freedom to make such decisions?
She also gave birth to all her kids naturally. She only had the epidural once; and that was because her husband wasn’t there. Does that mean he didn’t want her to get the epidural when giving birth?
Are you trying to form your own hypothesis?
Yes
Or maybe she couldn’t cope with the pain as well without her main support. She also said the baby was very big.
Happy healthy people promote positivity, unhappy people spread misery because they want company.
The article featured a picture of her as the prima ballerina for Swan Lake. No dancer gets to that point and then just *~quits~* because her husband or religion says so. The kind of person it takes to get to that level of ballet would tell the whole world to hang before stopping when she didn’t want to.
Most ballerinas retire ~29. It’s unsurprising she stepped away for their farm around that age.
Good point
Mormons do. Sadly all the time. The wife gives up her dreams.
@@chrissyb7916- she was literally living her dream. She reached the pinnacle. The life of a ballerina isn’t forever. They age out just like Supermodels.
She quit ballet at 21 because he was pressuring her to get married and start a family 🤷♀️
10:31 the problem that people have with their early marriage is that she actually wanted to wait a year before, to graduate from Guilliard, and he didn't let her ( according to the article). She had her very different opinion, and he didn't care. That's what devastating
The problem is: at this age and with 8 children she still achieved professionally 100 times more than that journalist and all the "experts". This hitpiece just makes her shine more.
Thanks for your reasonable response!
@@KH-fi9cm then let me be even more reasonable. what would a journalist achive by defaming a billionare?? going against a billionare will cost you a lawsuit and risk your career. in this situation, even the journalist's company will not side with her, so she has no benefit in lying about what a billionare does to his wife. all that we can guess from these deductions is that : she wanted to help hannah. think about it. i hope the journalist can keep bringing to light other terrible husbands
Where is the article about me? I had aspirations to become a race car driver, but yet here I am driving a minivan for work so I can help pay the bills for my spouse and family. See, I could be a victim if only I could find someone to publish it. This is madness, an overwhelming majority of people give up on certain dreams once they get involved in a serious relationship, especially a marriage.
😂😂😂
The issue with people like this author is that they can't see the value of pretty much anything that's actually really valuable.
Who tf are you? You're not famous, maybe become an influencer and then you'll get an article written about you😂
But not many walk away from Julliard.
One of life's major truths.
If a woman is happy, other women will very quickly tell her why she should not be.
Jealousy
YES! We all want to be stalked, give up on our dreams, give birth with no painkillers, and be worked until we're bedridden!! Why are some of us such jealous creatures? Feminism maybe.
Brett intentionally did not read through the sketchy parts of the article. This isn't a "shrieking feminist" narrative.
@@hello5891
What you just said has absolutely nothing to do with anything that I said, nor does it change the accuracy of anything that I said.
I swear. Some women just don't listen.
@@pikengren1 What did I say? I gave you all of the context behind this situation while you were going on about jealous women. Maybe one woman is clearly unhappy and other women are able to put the pieces together.
@@hello5891
Lmao. Yeah. My two sentence rant, that never once mentioned jealousy.
I'm not giving you any more attention. Bye bye.
Is she not permitted space to grieve what her life ALMOST was? Her dream of ballet? She can, it doesn’t mean she is unhappy with her other dream of having a family.
Yes! This exactly!
She literally turned her husband down for dates, so he made his father (CEO of Jetblue) get them a flight/seat together. She didn't want to get married immediately but he wanted to. In her home, she's often worked until she's bedridden, and had to give birth without painkillers because it's what her husband wanted (proof, she used an epidural when he was out of town), and he refuses to start family planning and stop imprgnating her because "it's what God wants". I don't understand why you airheads don't clearly see the validity behind these claims. Did you even read the times article before spouting your recycled talking points?
@@hello5891WHAT.
@@calawendy conservatives online are intentionally excluding this part of the article to make this a "shrieking" feminist narrative
@@calawendy my comments are getting deleted but details of the article were left out in this video to support a narrative
Have you seen the egg apron video? That is what I saw first, and it was really pretty sad to see her plainly saying what she really wants and having it totally ignored.
These political commentators only chose to ignore what doesn’t benefits them
How did you manage to do exactly what the entire video is talking about LOL. Yall are just so parasocial its not even funny. They are rich.. they can go ANYTIME they want relax. Just because they didnt record it for social media doesnt mean they wont.
Kid, she can buy them.
@@DDD11239 Not a kid, but can she?
I definitely agree with everything you’ve said. The only thing I’ll say though, is that the egg apron video PISSED ME OFF. The way he said “You’re WELCOME” to her made my blood boil.
Husband Definitely came off as a **** in that clip. Plus her name is not on any business ownership papers? But, her choice. There are worse trade-offs.
Did you also read in the article, that she was so happy to take an epidural 1 time when she was in labor because her husband was out of town and wasn't able to make the choice for her? Wouldn't that make your blood boil too if a man told women they couldn't take painkillers because it was his choice?
I think it's so wrong that he did that to her, childbirth is the most painful thing for women to experience and for someone to make a choice for her when they are not even the one giving birth. Pisses me off. In a situation like that, it should be up to women if they it or not. Not men, ever.
If a video about a couple you don’t know has that much of an affect on your emotional state, perhaps the problem is you. The fact that so many women in this comment section are so invested in a strangers relationship, to the point where their “blood boils” bc of a goofy birthday gift, is a clear indication that you spend way too much time on social media & something is clearly missing in your own lives.
@@aaliyahbugggagain….please get a life. This unhinged “men have no say in anything” mentality is so psychotic, especially when the hypocrisy is so beautifully highlighted all over the internet when the topic of vasectomies is on the table. Ladies, get a life, perhaps your own relationship to worry about, & stop pretending you know what’s best for this woman on the internet.
@@isitoveryet9525 It didn’t seem like a “goofy birthday gift” to her since she repeatedly said what she wanted and then got an egg apron which she was clearly disappointed about. And then he treated her like she was ungrateful. But gee I’m sorry my perception made you question my emotional state 😂
I remember assignments I’d have in middle and high school that required me to conduct an interview and write a corresponding article. I always lost marks anytime the teacher caught the slightest whiff of bias. The feedback always was: your assignment is a report, not an op-ed.
There should be no bias, unless it's to choose an ambiguous topic. Write the facts.
These people scream “Tolerance” however, don’t practice what they preach! The hypocrisy is deafening!
They always talk about love, tolerance, and equality. But never practice it.
Her husband gave her an apron for her birthday 🤦🏻♀️
What's wrong with that?
And I gave my husband a tool belt? What is the problem?
@@lynettedennis9044she wanted tickets to Greece.. his father owns an airline…
@@Hailey10316 So? What if he is waiting to do that for her for a specific reason? Like a milestone anniversary?
@@lynettedennis9044 Right? These people are so parasocial they come up with these conclusions lol
Watch the video where her husband gives her an egg apron.
yeah i like how she made sure to leave it out since it would prove herself wrong
I usually agree but when she said no to a date with him so he made her go and when she said she didn’t want to get married so quick and he said she had to it seems a little off. I am a very traditional person but to me that seems kinda off. Many people would love that lifestyle I know I would but it seems abit weird to me that he knew her for 6 months and tried asking her out and she said no and then he finds her flight and then tells her they have to marry that quick rubs me the wrong way. Again I agree with sacrificing but as soon as he saw her it seemed like he planned there whole life and knew he had to have her even if she said no to a date with him and she didn’t like the timeline of how fast there relationship was going. We shouldn’t use this couple as an example and I hate that this is how more traditional families are being represented when there are so many better examples that aren’t this one.
Agreed. I would have actually preferred if Brett touched upon these topics here. Because not discussing them and shoving them under the rug to pretend everything is as it should be, feels biased in its own way, lowering Brett's credibility. Also the thing about the ballet studio rubs me the wrong way. If they can build a studio whenever they want, they could have built a new schoolroom for the kids, without sacrificing the studio. It feels controlling
She chose to marry him. If she wants to fake her bedroom pleasure, to be a gold digger, that's her choice.
In her rebuttal video she says she loves him more today then she did 13 years ago when they married. They sound like a very happy beautiful family. You are judging her on a biased article! Worry about your life, not hers!
@@JK-no1frAmazing how you all know just how Hannah feels by reading a biased article by someone with an agenda, not living her life! How pathetic! Worry about your own life!
Wife seems great. Talented, selfless, creative, hard working, and beautiful. The husband………… not so much. I’m not sure it’s her that makes people mad, but her husband’s behaviors are alarming. He comes off as selfish and controlling.
What if the author framed him that way on purpose? The way things are said or implied in writing can have a powerful effect.
I don't know what to think about this family yet, but I agree with both sides of thought.
Right?????!!!
And that's why Ballerina Farm is successful. It's because of Hannah, not Daniel.
I saw the egg apron video. Her husband did not even wrap the gift. She wanted to go to Greece!
The problem is he put this company, Ballerina Farms, only in his name!!!
Exactly!!
Wow... as the head of the household... he... put... the company... in his name...
@@SirSquiersis, but she is the entire brand. Ballerina Farms would not exist without her. She’s not even a co-owner
@@maggieh8255 she's his WIFE. Marriage is a complete binding of two people. Most official letters will be addressed as Mr. And Mrs. (Husband's full name). Why would he need to put her on there? Putting two names would be a slight act of division. And before you day it should just be hers, he is the head of the household. It's seriously troubling that people don't understand how marriage is a deep unification. Imagine if someone put both their left and right sides down as owners of a company.
@@SirSquier dude, I understand the unification of marriage. My parents have an incredible marriage. But still, most things have both names. Or if it’s just one name, it’s usually whoever’s name makes the most sense to be on there. I just think in this scenario it’s a little weird that a company that only exists because of her isn’t in her name or at least has her name listed as well. And I don’t see what him being the head of the household has to do with anything. This is her thing, not his. He can still be the head of their family and relationship while having her company in her name. It’d be like some wife opening a little hair salon yet the company is in her husband’s name. It just doesn’t make sense. I don’t think it’s that deep as a "division". And I don’t think your analogy for listing someone’s left and right sides makes sense. If anything, both their names create the whole "person" of the marriage. They are united, and thus it should be both names. Otherwise, I don’t see why putting it in her name is a problem. I just don’t think we’ll agree on this, but that’s ok, it’s not that big of a deal 🤷🏼♀️
I appreciate your analysis, Brett. However, I noticed that it omits the detail about Daniel likely not allowing Hannah to get an epidural for most of her births. This seems unfair. Hannah is the one giving birth and should have the final say on whether to have an epidural or not.
Yeah, Brett purposely omitted a lot of things that are concerning. It was a total disappointment.
She also claims Hannah is a business owner when she isn’t. Everything is owner by him. Look it up.
@@yeahhsupergirlthese types do nothing but lie and hide things because it's the only way they'd seem right
But that's not exactly what the article said, she was quoted as saying that she had an epidural because Daniel wasn't able to be there but she never said it was because he made her...she could have also been saying that she felt she needed pain relief because her main support person wasn't able to be there. As someone who had an epidural I'll admit it was awesome, but I would love to try going natural. That doesn't mean that going natural is some awful experience, it's just different.
Brett isnt honest ngl
I thought it was SO obvious that the author had an angle!! It’s one thing to be concerned , but most of the response is simply jealousy. These miserable women were waiting for her to mess up.
Without a working knowledge of dense, comprehensive literature of a beautiful nature. Modern journalists clearly don't read books older than the last two centirues.
I’m sure everyone who believed the article is all raging feminists and they’re feeding off the anti tradwife validation the journalist is giving them.
That lady is literally living a Hallmark movie kind of life.
Real
Idk about hallmark but looking after that many children with no help is no dream especially when the older children will have to look after the younger ones . no child should have to be a 3 rd parent😢
@@zoella2349who made you the judge?
@@michellebarker8940 I never said I’m a judge people are just assuming her life is perfect but looking after one kid is hard let alone that many. I know people who have large families and the older siblings are always left to be the other parent thats so unfair on that child , often they don’t want kids when they’re older .
@@zoella2349 Nothing wrong with not wanting children.
Just for clarification, "Mormon" is a nickname, the church is called The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints
Mormon is nickname for “cult” lol
Having Jesus' name in there is misleading and frankly insulting to Christianity.
That's the Church's official name
@@ezrascrashsitewouldn't the name Christianity itself be offensive according to that logic? We call it the Church of Jesus Christ because that's who we believe in and worship. Everyone hated the "Mormons" because they thought they worshiped that guy named Mormon, so that's one of the reasons why they stopped calling themselves that.
@@ezrascrashsite in what way is it misleading? I’m a member, and we actively worship Jesus Christ? I think it’s insulting to say that we aren’t Christians.
How many feminists does it take to change a lightbulb?
None, they can’t change anything
I thought the answer was gonna be "None - they just shriek like harpies there's no man to do it then blame him for the bulb burning out in the first place"
They've changed a whole lot. Mostly, they've ruined society.
@@noahhastings6145I was going to say something along those lines.
I genuinely don't get why people keep on using this pathetic joke from the 1960's, since changing light bulbs is such a easy ass job a child can do it. Do you just wish to turn back feminist work? No more equally pay for women, more discrimination for women in the workforce?
@@AmaryllisAlexakis Women should never be granted positions of authority. Our society has gone from virile and world-leading to impotent and self-apologetic in the span of 70 years, all thanks to feminism overturning only the system that worked.
i think you conveniently skimmed over the fact that this woman is so exhausted from attending to 8 children and making all meals from scratch that she spends weeks in bed. this lifestyle isn't sustainable for her and she's heading into burnout, if she isn't there already. he's a billionaire, she's a multi-millionaire. they can afford extra hands on deck for childcare. she's nonsensically stressed and her body's failing to keep up. i think that the domestic/agricultural business they've built together is absolutely beautiful but this part seriously worries me.
Her kids will soon be at an age where they can help her with the younger ones and household chores and eventually will all be able to do everything for themselves. Raising your own kids is so much more rewarding than turning their care over to others even when they are loving caregivers to them.
@@zuzuspetals9281 having extra hands on deck for childcare within the home doesn't mean that you're fully leaving the raising of your children to someone else. do you carry the same attitude about public schooling? purely rhetorical: do you think that you could sustainably provide the same nurturing care and consistent attention to eight children?
i'd even argue that she'd be able to show up *more* for her eight kids, if she was given time for actual rest instead of being stuck preparing meals in between actively parenting and operating this majorly successful business with her husband. hiring someone to cook and meal plan for the family would go a long way. inadequate sleep leads to major health issues, so i'd also argue that she'd live longer: this isn't a sustainable lifestyle for her.
and the fact that your immediate solution to this poor woman's exhaustion is child labor is concerning. your children aren't ever responsible for parenting your younger kids. you're robbing them of a healthy childhood by pushing your parenting duties onto them instead of hiring childcare. children aren't meant to adopt other children when their parents don't want to find solutions to the inequalities in their presence to raise them. it completely tampers with their development and is a leading reason why newer generations don't want to have children of their own when they enter adulthood, since they already raised their siblings throughout their youth. please read up on parentification.
and lastly, how long is "soon?", in your mind? about how many more years would you find it appropriate for her to suffer when she doesn't have to? they have the money and the agency to hire help. there's no excuse for this lady to be this burnt out.
Along with her name is not on any of the business legal documents. She is not a owner as she and he are putting it out there. She does not even own "Ballerina Farm" name! Also, knowing someone who signed up for their subscription boxes but immediately canceled when they read the fine print which states products may come from a third party. WTH? Third party as in Walmart? Neighboring ranches? Does not state.
Conveniently skimmed is an understatement 😂😂😂
@@AndradaBalteanu you're right. she didn't even mention it.
It all boils down to jealousy.
This article is not bc of jealousy!! The way she is mistreated is horrific!!
exactly what I wanted to say, the women reacting this way is because deep down they want that but know they cant have it
@@n.o.m4385 who would want to give out their dreams without a fair counterparty?
Many times it’s jealousy yes, but in this case it seems like deep seated resentment and hatred. She hates this woman because she is everything the radicals think is regressive and misogynistic.
I wouldn’t say jealousy. I’d say it’s an inability to broaden the horizon that someone (Hannah) is good with their life's circumstances when they (the author who’s name I forgot, oops) vehemently disagrees with it PLUS the way certain views on how a "stereotypical modern woman" has to be have become more normative.
the way she seemed almost scared to admit she had an epidural! ☹️❤️
That's her own emotional delusion.
@@DDD11239y'all just saying anything
I'm a feminist, here's my take: I wholeheartedly support that every woman gets to choose how she wants to live. If she wants to live in a farm and do these jobs, it's great for her. Truly. The problem with this particular couple (or any similar couple) is the respect for each other. This woman bears the birthing of eight children, and very clearly expressed her desire to go to Greece, mind you she said that to someone who can actually make it happen. For her birthday, her very special day, he got her an egg apron. An apron. And not even that, he didn't even bother to pack it properly or something. It's not that we are mad with what she chose to do with her life, we're mad because of the way she's treated by get husband. It's unfair that she could have become a wonderful ballerina and instead she deals with a husband like that. The issue is not that she's living traditionally, the issue is her husband. So please don't twist our words.
But she chose her husband and her lifestyle; she continues to choose him. It also was her choice to pick children over being a professional ballerina - she can’t do both. If she’s unhappy in her choices she can do something different. Who are you to tell her that because she doesn’t have fancy birthday presents she is living life wrong?
She very clearly enjoys the image, lifestyle, and fantasy of being the superwoman settler pioneer: has babies without anaesthesia, cooks healthy organic food from scratch, handles 8 kids and counting, all while being lean, muscular, blonde, and naturally beautiful. She’s Laura Ingalls Wilder’s mom reincarnated.
In a country full of broken families, opioid-addicted obese sickly Walmart shoppers, and parents who can barely raise one or two kids with good values… it’s really impressive to see a woman who shows that it’s humanly possible to buck that trend.
@@williampiel5030 I agree, she has a responsible part in this. And it's amazingly admirable that she manages to do all that by herself, I actually applaud her for that. Also, it is so wholesome that she devotes her life to her children, she shows how much she cares and she's an amazing mom, who values family, that is undoubtedly true. My point with the gift is not how fancy or expensive it is, I'm actually against the idea these days that a gift has to be something expensive. I think that's far from the truth. But if you are a wealthy man (lets say any person because this applies to everyone, not only in this specific instance) and you buy for your partner as a birthday present, a basic household necessity item, and you don't even have the decency to at least make it look like a present, then that shows how you think about the other person. Even if he bought her, for example, a simple inexpensive necklace and put it in a nice box or something, it would still be better. Also, I don't want to focus solely in the gift because it's such a small gesture and we could be misreading it. Her husband seems to be at least somewhat controlling. When she herself says that an epidural during birth feels quite great, you can assume that she would like it during her other childbirths. Also, the reporter who wrote the article said that her husband would not even let her answer some questions. You see where I'm going with this? And sure, maybe she chose him, but maybe when she chose him he hadn't shown her that side of him yet. We can't know. And also, we agree that if she's not happy, she can do something different. That's what we are saying and everyone comes for us.
Anyways, she's an admirable woman and I hope she does what's best for her, and obviously neither me or you can know what is truly best for her
@@eleonora2610 Hanna and her husband don't wrap presents. They don't do that for Christmas gifts for instance. It's normal for them.
And if you look at Christmas presents for the kids, nothing particular: clothes, books... only useful things.
These are their values. I'm not surprised: after all, they grew up in mormon families. Each to their own. Personaly, I like it, it's a breath of fresh air to see a family that isn't into the consumer society thing.
"the reporter who wrote the article said that her husband would not even let her answer some questions. '
We all know that reporters, particularly on the left, interprete and make up things. When the rreporter came, she already knew what she wanted to write. If the reality doesn't match what she had in mind, then she change it.
That's why I strongly advise against talking to leftist journalists. It's never a win win.
"it's unfair that she could have become a wonderful ballerina and instead she deals with a husband like that."
Unfair???
1) If she had become a ballerina, she wouldn't have become a mother of 8 plus wonderful and well raised kids, an owner of a successful business and a content creator with 9 million followers.
A ballerina career ends at 40. A former ballerina has nothing left, except for maybe a kid raised by a nany, that's it... at 45, Hannah will have a lot of purpose in life: 10 kids by then that she and her busband have seen growing up, a wonderful farm and a huge family business.
2) I know many women who would love to deal with someone like Daniel: a hands-on father, a faithful & healthy husband, and a competent business partner. The entitlement of women is insane...
@@williampiel5030 She deserved a better husband .
I get you on the Greece thing but you lost me when you add the false dichotomy of being a ballerina vs a wife and mother.
“The way my mother always explained it, the traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women. He’s attracted to independent women. “He’s like an exotic bird collector,” she said. “He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage.”
Trevor Noah, Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood
That part in the interview that didn’t sit well with me was her saying her husband didn’t want a nanny in the house. HE didn’t want one. They have 8 children. If she wouldn’t said SHE didn’t want one I’m pretty some people would respect that being her decision.
Hannah has mentioned before though that they do have help with the kids and schooling and such. I think the writer just made a point to say that the hubs originally didn't want child help. Doesn't mean that didn't change as their family and businesses grew.
Why does it have to be her decision?
If a women decides to respect what a men wants is that a problem?
What if a man said my wife wanted me to work some over time hours so I did?
Seriously, your comment proves we live in a matriarchy where only women's agency matters.
@@viperstriker4728 because the person primarily taking care of the kids shall decide if they need help or not. Same with your example. I wouldn’t try to make my partner work overtime. Since he would be the one doing it, it shall be his decision. Same goes for my job and how much I work.
@@ohlilu3317 So because she is the primary care giver, he is not allowed to have an opinion. I don't think you understand the concept of a partnership. What is the point of even being married if each just does there own thing?
In your opinion, is marriage anything more then a sex contract?
PS: note that you use the word choose, the original comment uses the word want. That is a big change in meaning ;)
@@viperstriker4728 That person has clarifies that she will not force her partner to work overtime ,his job his decision .
Maybe there are real issues you can take with Ballarina Farms, but this ain't it. To say it was never her dream to be a farmer, only her husband's, and her dream was ballet therfore oppressed is just BS. She did ballet, she was good at it, and then she made the decision to stop. She has agency in who she chooses to marry, and the life she wants. You cannot be a professional ballerina forever, especially if you are having kids. She decided a family was important to her, a family with a man who wanted a big farm, so she made that choice. She seems pretty happy with it. Women have agency too, we actually aren't second class citizens.
ya and how many can continue being ballerina after having kids, it's such an oppressive job that forces women into certain body types which a mother doubtfully will fit.
not to mention a man whos filthy stinkin rich.
Sure... She definitely had all the agency in the world with a millionaire entitled and obsessed with her guy who could easily destroy her if she refused...
Yeah her life just changed because her circumstances changed. That's literally all it is, I know a lot of people in life who wanted one kind of life and it just didn't work out or something happened that meant they had to change their plans. Nothing wrong with it just how life is a lot of the time.
@@snake5solid She chose to marry him. If she wants to fake her bedroom pleasure, to be a gold digger, that's her choice.
This reminds me of the Wired article about Brandon Sanderson. The point was to find dirt, and when none could actually be found, just make it up.
Feminism in a nutshell.
I remember that article! It really was an awful piece of "journalism."
I was just thinking about that!
I just read the article and dear holy hell that was a horrible article. "Writes at a 6th grade reading level" my foot.
@@munamaepahhadd Well, he does. I've read pre-20th Century literature most of my life. (Started with "Moby D ck" before age 10). The majority of modern authors write at lower levels; however, many adults struggle to read a simple poem by Lord Byron, or a political chapter by Thomas Hobbes.
The fact a billionair with all this land wont build his wife a dance studio even though it would benefit his daughters who dance too just is heartbreaking....
Is this satirical? I hope so... If not: My parents are pretty wealthy. I am not. Having billionaire parents doesn't make one a billionaire. Also, really? Heartbreaking? Oh my. Sometime who's likes to dance doesn't have a private dance studio. Heaven help them. That must be horrific. Are you kidding me? 😂 Pretty sure address gonna survive.
She owns a dance studio in Salt Lake City
She has a very nice and large exercise room where she does her ballet exercises. Get a life of your own and quit judging hers! How pathetic!
His billionare family owns Jet Blue. A trip to Greece would have cost nothing.
She had 1 year left at Juilliard! JUILLIARD!!!
And now all that's left of her deam is a picture of herself as a ballerina, hanging above the stove. A little something to remind her of what she gave up, every time she cooks or prepares food...
She became the ballerina music box you keep next to your bed.
Maybe it reminds her of all the good food she had to pass up and no longer does!
Hannah also wanted to date for a year because she wanted to complete her schooling/career first. Did he agree? NOPE. He told her it wouldn’t work and they had to get married right away. She was engaged/married/ pregnant within 3-5 months 👀
She chose to marry him. If she wants to fake her bedroom pleasure, to be a gold digger, that's her choice.
Im not a feminist, but the fact he couldn't even build a little dance studio tells a lot. My husband is a construction worker he knows how much i love doing makeup and hair. He built me a vanity mirror by himself !! He often offers to send the kids to day care at least two days a week, so i get some rest, but I refuse because they are still litte, and im afraid something happened.. idk this dude is a billionare, and they dont even have a nanny. She really wanted a trip to Grace, and she got an egg apron instead. Idk idk
It’s interesting. The ballet world is brutal, often pressuring top ballerinas for abortions, something a Mormon would not consider. I once read an article about one of the top ballerinas in the world who was criticized for taking time off to have a baby (although she danced Swan Lake at 4 months pregnant and was back on stage 2 months post partum) and had been encouraged to abort. She said (something like) “Do I regret missing time on stage? Maybe. Do I regret not having more children? Every single day.” She knew ballet in a professional form was not in her long term view.
She had a br33d in g f3 tis h, nothing more.
She had an urge to reproduce, nothing more.
@DDD11239 😂 No, she's religious, comes from a community of large families, and believes children are a blessing, not a burden. I understand that concept might be difficult for you to understand, but not everyone makes $exuäl gratification their sole purpose for life.
I am pro tradwives but I still worry a little for her. Something in her husbands's attitude triggers me.
If women are as intelligent as are men, you should assume she can make her own decisions. Don't treat her like a child. She chose to marry him. If she wants to fake her bedroom pleasure, to be a gold digger, that's her choice.
I agree. Something is off
Consider the power an author has to portray someone in a character-limited article with her own biases fueling it. What if someone opposed to your political and lifestyle views wrote an article about you, trying to fuel clicks? Would it be completely fair? Like insinuating he controls her pain medication in birth which is completely not what it says (she explains why she made that decision) and constant framing of his behavior towards her. We have to check our own biases and be critical media consumers and not fall for the hysteria!
@@StephanieBennion I didn’t even read the article. I just saw videos... He seems kind of controlling … I juste hope she is able to establish her limits.
@@sweettagada22 Sure, receive your education from a few videos. Don't spend a decade pouring over a 25-textbook collection of psychological/neurological research (like I did).
I believe Wired did something very similar to Brandon Sanderson, another super-succesful Mormon, a little while ago. He invited them to stay in his home, and the article portrayed him as a total kook.
That's exactly what this reminded me of!
Yep! Heaven forbid that we’re normal hardworking people
it’s so funny when feminists can’t grapple on that fact that when women get the right to choose… some of them choose to stay home and be moms. when women choose staying home for some reason that translates to a lack of agency because what women would want to do that right?
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Because if someone calls themselves a feminist, it's because they are a control freak. It's why they all obsess over control soooo freaking much. It's why they are so ridiculously dishonest. They want women to have a choice... but any choice but joining the feminist machine is wrong, you're a "pick me" if you don't pick feminism.
A trad-mom/wife relies heavily on their spouse to stay afloat, if that spouse was to die, get injured and not be able to work, or decided to divorce her and leave nothing for her, and leave the children to her (which has happened, there was this Mormon lady whose ex-husband left her with the children and took all the money.)
All of which are out of her control and all but one in the spouses as well -- so yes it does translate to a lack of agency, it can be pulled out of your hand anytime.
@AmaryllisAlexakis you're looking at trad wives being inept, which is stupid. You seriously think stay-at-home moms cannot function if their husbands die? Most of them are usually multi-talented and run businesses (e.g., in our community, most widows from the ground up manage eateries and small clothing shops, some have online shops) well because of their natural capability to multitask and deal with people with patience.
Even without businesses, in this modern age a lot of opportunities are given to women, especially widows. It's so weird y'all perpetuate this mentality of them being powerless women when they are as capable as office workers.
Hey dingus, did you read that part when she said that her goal was to be a ballerina in NY but her husband coerced her into marriage.
I agree with you. The article is propaganda. The reporter had an angle and was not unbiased.
But, have you seen the video where she gets her birthday gift from Daniel? It's a little sad. And who knows. Maybe they're both busy, and they didn't have time to get her the vacation she kept hinting at. But if he wanted to he would. He did when they were dating.
exactly. that video says a lot. he did not even wrap the apron.
@julsdio exactly. The effort was minimum at most
You forgot to mention the clip where she got an egg apron for her birthday, with just that little clip people have been painting her as an unhappy and sad wife because she didn't get tickets to Greece as she says althroughout the clip expecting that instead of an egg apron.
She chose to marry him. If she wants to fake her bedroom pleasure, to be a gold digger, that's her choice.
I think she is mostly happy and I do think the journalist had a bias but I do think her husband is a selfish man. He could have let her finish 1 year of Juilliard. He could let her have a year or two break from having babies she is clearly tired staying in bed for a week. And he could let her choose if she wants an epidural or not. She is the one giving labor. His dad owns an airline he could take her to Greece. She is very hardworking. He could cut her some slack every now and then. It’s not about knocking the lifestyle it’s just about him being less selfish and demanding and giving her a little break from time to time.
“Could have let her” - why do people keep insisting she’s incapable of setting boundaries and making her own decisions?
Off topic, but wanna see Brett Cooper go catfish noodling with Hannah Barron. Lol
Yes this right here 🤣
This should cure them forever of giving interviews to ""journalists".
Something else not mentioned here was her epidural for the birth of one of her children but not the others since her husband was absent for that birth. It sounds like her wishes and needs are often ignored. Sure, some are likely jealous of her lifestyle (stove more expensive than my car). But it would be a nightmare to be under someone's thumb even if you get to live in a pretty box.
Yeah I don't get it does she choose not have this amd not have contraception it's really fishy especially since she got when her husband wasn't their and didn't get one when she was .....
another parasocial comment from you. really impressive. youre so invested on what you see on social media from them you start making all these wild conclusions.
There's more nuance to this. Her birthday gift from him was something she ordered online for herself, he couldn't even bother to get her a gift. Daniel even said that "Hannah gets so ill from exhaustion that she can't get out of bed for a week". Also, the plane thing was creepy because she rejected him for 6 months straight prior to that. She did not want to get married for at least a year after dating, but he rushed her into marriage after just 1 or 3 months, that was explicitly said. She got pregnant only 3 months after that and she was the first Juilliard undergrad to get pregnant in modern history because it's an insane level of skill that she reached and no one just stops their career there. Her career was not just a little hobby, professional ballerinas train for hours every single day, and getting into Juilliard was an incredibly big deal. It seems like even if they are happy now, she has suffered and sacrificed a lot more in this marriage, all he does is provide and do the laundry, but she is financially well off without him with her tiktok and business, so he's not bringing anything to the table for their family.
I think she may be happy with her current life, but her husband’s aggressiveness while pursuing her (pushing to take things fast while she wanted to finish her degree first, etc.) is what rubs people the wrong way. If she had finished her degree like she planned, she could have danced professionally for a few more years AND still had children
NO! She expected Daniel to become a ballerina and work with her performing ballet… poor poor Hannah 😂
I❤ballerina farm sm I’m always astounded when controversy ensues yet again.
Real Feminism = Women Make Their Own Choices
Feminism is for weak women
Women can do whatever they want when they want to consequences
Exactly!!
Ballerina farm is such an amazing woman. She's a mom, she runs a farm, she's an excellent cook, she was a literal ballerina, she's been in pageantry, etc.
That is a role model for women, a woman who young girls should look up to.
Feminists don't like her because she is the opposite of what they preach, she chooses to have a career at home and even with that career she prioritizes her family. And she thrives doing so. That's the opposite of what feminists want women to think.
Some people just feel like in order to validate their own views and lifestyles they have to invalidate others unfortunately. That’s how you know their beliefs were always fragile. Because last I checked Ballerina Farm doesn’t go out of her way telling other women how to live, she just shares her daily life harmlessly and that’s still enough to trigger and make them angry.
being a baby farm and being literally exhausted and not being able to get out of bed for one WEEK do you think is amazing and a goal in life????
She married a billionaire. She lives this way because she's a billionaire and can afford to.
@@ralucadi4641 She literately CREATES. Please tell me what kind of marvels do you leave on this world...?
@@ralucadi4641 Just give up bro. You're making yourself look like a huge loser
The fact that she can’t even have a ballet studio makes me so sad. If he really loved her, he would’ve let her finish at Juilliard. He would’ve CELEBRATED that incredible accomplishment.
She owns a Dance Studio in Salt Lake City
@@Irvingdector Does she ever get to use it?
@@sarat.9544Maybe, maybe not. Ya’ll have no concept of sacrificial love. Me me me me
@@AliciatheCho You shouldn't have to sacrifice EVERYTHING that you love. Everyone deserves something that's just for them. Even wives and mothers.
I went to school and got a master's in chemistry, and then went to work as a chemist. I planned to keep doing it after my daughter was born, but once I saw that little face that was it. I taught a little bit on and off in the preschool years and now I'm a "trad wife" homeschooling my two girls. Zero regrets! My husband respects and appreciates me and spoils me every chance he gets. My girls adore and admire me. I have time for my family and friends. My life feels organized, orderly, and peaceful. I can go back to work anytime I want, but my kids are little now and they need me. They are more important and home is where I want to be.
"OMG people after 30+ start prioritizing life and slow life, specially after having kids, its so oppressive"
That's called being in relationship and having kids.
With 8 kids and a farm it's not "slow life", That's why Hannah is exhausted all the time and needs to stay in bed for a week at a time.
The only thing I didn’t like was the way he said they need to get married right away.
That's a lot.
That’s the Mormon way…
Okay, so these are just my thoughts, but I think that Brett was a little bias herself in this video. I think she’s hooked on the conservative narrative that she’s not actually stopping to listen to what the feminist are actually getting pissed about in this situation.
Firstly, when a woman tells a guy that she’s not interested and he still has the audacity to “pull some strings” to get a seat next to her on a plane ride, then yeah, that’s a bit of stalker behavior. A plan ride is a long time to be stuck next to someone that you originally had no intention of dating. In all of the feminist videos that I’ve seen, they said that Daniel kept Hannah hostage in that plane ride and I’d have to agree. A date means going out to dinner or hanging out for an hour or so before you go back home. Also, being on a date means having the freedom to get up and leave that date if it’s not going well. Hannah’s so-called first “date” was the furthest thing from a date in the traditional sense. She was on a plane. She couldn’t leave whenever she wanted to and just the fact that he pulled those kinds of strings when she was still unsure about dating him…yeah, that seems like massive red flags to me. Personally, if I were single and I was still trying to figure out if I liked a guy enough to date him, then I’d be shocked and borderline horrified if I found out that I had share to plane ride with him. Also, consider this…what would he have done if she’d said no and decided to exchange her plane ticket for another plane, especially after all the strings he had pulled to be with her in the first place. What would he have done then, huh, if she ditched him? Would he have hanged back and pulled some more “strings” or would he have gotten the message and gone on his own merry way? 🤔 That’s something to consider too and that’s why people are kind of calling him a creeper.
Secondly, in a lot of the videos that I’ve scene criticizing this couple, much of the criticism is based on the fact that Hannah made it clear that she wants to go to Greece and her billionaire husband gives her freaking egg apron instead. Seriously, what the hell? 😤 I don’t care if this makes me a feminist for saying this, but that is BS. I personally believe that if a man truly loves his wife, then he will give her whatever her heart desires, especially if it’s within his means. If she says that she wants vanilla cake for her birthday, then he better show up with some damn vanilla cake. If she says that she wants to go to Greece, then he better present her with some damn tickets to Greece. Period. And that is where Daniel dropped the ball. 😒 Instead of surprising his wife with a trip to Greece, he gives her an ugly egg apron. Okay, what he has essentially done is given her a chocolate cake after she told him specifically that she wanted vanilla cake. And the crazy thing is that there is no excuse. As Bret has pointed out, this is a wealthy couple. They can afford to go to Greece, but they’re not because apparently Hannah has eggs to harvest. Also, if you look at the video, then you will see Hannah’s smile is strained because the disappointment is evident on her face. She was not happy to receive that apron and her husband’s “you’re welcome” was very much passive aggressive.
Lastly, I think there’s other things that deserve a second look as well. Yes, I get it that some people don’t want Nannie’s for the kids. But when you have 8 of them…you’re going to need some help. And everyone is commenting on how tired Hannah always looks, so it begs the question on if her husband is even helping her out or not with their kids. And another red flag was Hannah admitting to finally getting an epidural after when her husband wasn’t there for the birth of their last child. I’m sorry, but if a woman told me that after having 7 kids without medication, that she was only allowed to have it when her husband finally was present? 🤔 I’m sorry, but there’s no way that shit is a coincidence.
So, I kinda agree with Brett on some things. Yes, moms are meant to sacrifice in order to provide and raise their kids. Yes, children have a way of changing a parent’s goals and dreams. However, I also believe that compromise is a big thing in relationships and it just looks like Hannah has compromised a lot more than her husband has in order to have this lifestyle. And if I learned anything from this whole segment, then it is that I am a moderate feminist at the very least. I still believe in marriage and that women should be home raising their kids. I still believe in men have traditional roles in the family. However, don’t gaslight me and telling me that’s it’s sprinkling when it’s actually pouring. In my opinion, I feel like Daniel was just a little too pushy in their dating phase and I think he was an ass for giving her a damn an apron when she wanted plane tickets. When you can afford to give your wife the world, then you do it with no exceptions. He can afford to stick his kids with a babysitter for a week or two while he takes his wife on a romantic couples vacation to Greece. The fact that he gave her an apron instead speaks volumes.
Yeah, she sounds pretty biased
"that’s a bit of stalker behavior."
LOL, not when this is a 1) rich, 2) handsome man 3) of the same age (they are 2 years apart)...
"she wants to go to Greece and her billionaire husband gives her freaking egg apron instead"
It's a matter of timing.
They are building a DAIRY farm. It's not the moment to go to Greece.
Honetly, I'm surprised she even suggested such a thing at this moment.
When you're on a big project, you're 100% focused on it. Plus there's a lot of money at stake. This is not the moment to go abroad on holidays.
They will go to Greece, in one or two years when the company is seetled!
For the apron, this is their values. Cf the Christmas presents for the kids: only useful things (clothes, books).
I agree with you for the epidural. It's a red flag.
She chose to marry him. If she wants to fake her bedroom pleasure, to be a gold digger, that's her choice.
@@DDD11239did we read the same article
12:03 HE didn't want nanies, why is it not HER decision ( as the main caregiver in their situation) or at least THEIRS?? The wording is very concerning and if it is true, the situation is just disturbing
That egg belt bs? That just made me sick. That's somebody that just wants to cause someone pain. He hates her; maybe because she's better than he is. And if it's all just an act, what is he achieving by sounding like he wants to hurt her?
Trad wife or not that is a horrible present ... Sad she needs to pretend to like it, it's so visible...
Some men are just horrible gift givers
😂😂😂 A bunch of women projecting their own misery onto this women is unhinged. When did Brett’s audience get infiltrated with so many woke feminist clowns ?
Hannah is just an unfortionate victim of the war against traditional families and self-sufficiency.
You people truly throw around "Victim," in slight conflict.
They don't approve of big white families.
Megan Agnew did so much damage. THOUSANDS of people are spamming Hannah and her husband's account based off of her manipulative article.
If you read the book "cheaper by the dozen" the same thing happened to the woman in the book (who had a pHd by the by). Some interviewer came in and tried to smear the family, but the kids figured out what was going on and decided to mess with the interview.
Good book!
A similar thing hapoened in the horror film "The Lodge" (2019).
@@mikegillettify and a true story! Lillian Moller Gilbreth was a pioneer of time-and-motion study. The book was written by 2 of her 12 kids.
I feel so sorry for her, she deserves better.
That part in the interview that didn’t sit well with me was her saying her husband didn’t want a nanny in the house. HE didn’t want one. They have 8 children. If she wouldn’t said SHE didn’t want one I’m pretty some people would respect that being her decision.
As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, I love when Brett defends us. We get hated by Atheists AND other Christians, so it's so refreshing. Thank you Brett. The comment that was talking how that the world should learn a lesson from Mormons for holding their heads high amongst the hate truly touched my heart.
“Other Christians”? Mormons aren’t Christians, they are members of a cult. It’s not Christianity.
More to do with inner strength than religion tho…
@@catherinewardwell2117 My inner strength comes from Christ, so it does have to do with religion. I think every denomination would agree.
Me too! I get so happy when she defends us, because so often we get hated on everywhere.
Then y'all wonder why we dislike you🤦.
For the last time, WE ARE NOT THE "OTHER CHRISTIANS". We are the Christians. How dare y'all take our book and REWRITE IT while declaring it as the "truth". At least be more creative than that, though that may not be possible since Joseph Smith was some fraudulent kid at the time. My point is, stop calling yourselves Christians unless you actually want to be Christians. Here's the list:
Catholic
Orthodox
Protestant
THAT'S IT.
You know how none of these people have lived on a farm, I grew up on a (still living and working on it) but myself and my family are very hard working, we are very tired 😴 every day but this life is worth it as we love it, and it is most definitely not abuse, these individuals have no idea
As a feminist, I have no problem with her living the life she wants to live.... if this is actually the life she wants. She seems to have given up a lot of herself for her husband and he doesn't seem to treat her that well. Got her an apron for her birthday when she clearly really wanted to go to Greece (remember they are rich so they can afford it.) And he didn't even bother to wrap it. He seems inconsiderate of her.
A husband being insensitive to what his wife wants for her birthday does not mean it’s not the life she wants, mabie he was busy and forgot I don’t know. My husband treats me incredibly well but occasionally he forgets things or a gift isn’t what I wanted because he’s human just like I forget how he likes things and not every gift I’ve got his is what he would like.
@@BecR-R Okay, but if my rich husband gave me a cheap apron for my birthday when I wanted a trip to Greece, I'd be pissed off. The man is the heir to Jet Blue, he can easily get plane tickets. Seems like he just didn't care that much about what she really wanted.
@@BecR-RYeah it’s almost as if having narrow-context into someone’s life and decisions doesn’t make us experts on either
"Left all the modern comforts"?
So farms don't have electricity, computers, automobiles, air conditioning and the like?
Farms nowdays have internet and electricity, etc. We just grow our own food and stuff like that...
@@LadyCherryDraws Apparently some folks are under the impression that in order to be a farmer (rancher, orchardist, Shepard and the like) you have to step into the 13th century and become peasants.
But then again, we are talking about city folks that think food magically appears on store shelves.
@@NoRan-s1g fr lol. I work summers at my Grandpa's farm (we just grow some food right now), and all my city friends always seem to think that living rural means you go back in time or smth lol
It’s not just feminists. I think there are a lot of people who just hate videos like this because people hate being lied to. These peoples lives don’t reflect the realities of 99% of people. So it all just feels like a lie. Nobody is always smiling, happy, productive, clean, energetic or without stress. Unless you’re in a cult. Most family farmers are deep in debt and struggling to survive. This super clean, soft skinned “farmer” is more likely to be a factory farmer with a petting zoo at home. People who are desperate for honesty and truth in a world of lies would love to see someone pull this off, but with the reality of the hard work it takes to pull it off. We want to see how this can be a reality for others. Instead it’s just Bam, we’re perfect, and everything can be perfect for you, if you weren’t so stupid, lazy and/or poor. Show us how the freaking sausage is made! Don’t just feed it to us. At the very best, they are just bragging.
You are projecting...
Here's how you know this channel isn't just Brett Cooper a "quirky relatable conservative woman" but an actress employed by the Dailywire reading a script, because I just don't believe this is Brett 's, or most "right leaning" women's views on this one.This man wouldn't allow his wife an epidural. Brett, look me in the eyes and tell me how this would go over in your marriage???? LOL
There is nothing proving he doesn’t let her get an epidural beyond what the biased author of the article implied.
@@zors1900 The author was biased but Hannah did say that and Brett skipped over it
@@AmaraOkudoh”she’s biased but we should trust exactly how something was said and take it out of context”
I am so Brett but so many red flags there. Like epidural when the husband was out of the room, or even not asking about the birth control while he is in. Obviously she isn’t controlling her life. That is scary.
an egg apron. the passive aggressive you’re welcome. constant exhaustion. stalked on an airplane. no more dance studio. lowering her voice to talk about an epidural. no help with childcare. no access to finances. llc under his name. forced to get married before she wanted and give up her dreams.
I watched my mother struggle to get out of it, of course she’s gonna act like she’s fully autonomous when she’d be up against a BILLIONAIRE.
The republicans refuse to see this, and just want to say feminists are emotional and angry, while republicans are acting purely on anger and emotion……
As beautiful as their story is. If a man decided to get on a plane with you and sit next to you, who you turned down before is incredibly disturbing. He flaunted his money and influence and she fell for it. The man liked her for her looks, she liked him for his money. If they are happy with this arrangement thats perfectly fine. But lets not ignore the absurdity of it.
Yeah I felt the writer of the article already had preconceived notions and wanted to write the article as means of confirmation bias.. Her intentions were clear, and she’s made suggestive claims for readers (likely feminists, the writer’s target audience) to build harmful narratives regarding Hannah, her lifestyle, and family. I’ve been clocked this.
I love ballerina farms and I’m a married lesbian lmao. I’ve always liked her content about her family, food, the farm, her pageant, etc. regardless whatever reason people have to shit on this woman and her family, I find it really weird bc she’s so unproblematic and just a gentle soul. Shame on the interviewer for trying to spin the narrative like that.
Yes! She attacked bc she IS gentle and beautiful. People are weak and jealous including the author of the stupid article.
When a woman tells a guy that she’s not interested and he still has the audacity to “pull some strings” to get a seat next to her on a plane ride, then yeah, that’s a bit of stalker behavior. This is what Daniel did and Brett has not highlighted .
@@uhura647 audacity? That is not stalking if you’re talking to someone hahahaha. I’d love it if someone was able to pull strings like that for me just because they were interested….THATS HOW COURTING WORKS 🤦🏻♀️ clearly it worked if she was ok with dating him and starting a family with him after that LMAO
I think something that adds to the hate is society's baseline unwarranted hate toward Latter-day Saints. They typically live very traditional and beautiful lives.
Thank you so much. I have been seeing so much hate towards me and my faith lately. I really needed this reminder that it's not everyone who thinks this way. If you're not aware Wednesday was Pioneer day, and outside of Utah it's not a big deal, but it still brings up reminders of what my ancestors did. Many of them were harassed, beaten, and nearly killed for what they believed in. They lost almost all of their physical possessions and gave up lives of comfort and stability for their faith. When people are cruel and hateful I always think to them and remind myself that it's all worth it.
Exactly what I was thinking. When we're constantly being demonized, anything we do that stands out is immediately condemned.
It's an upside down world nowadays when courting is now called "creepy" but then they complain why there aren't any good men around them? YOU DROVE THEM ALL AWAY!
Well said......upside down.
Spot on!!!
I don’t know fam. If I rejected a man for six months straight and then he pulled strings so we were seated next to each other on a 5 hour flight I think that’s a little creepy. I think it goes beyond courting at that point
@@maggieh8255 This is why it is today. Women are now confusing courting with obsession because of media. Its a different thing. Learn to draw the line but do not reject everyone like what women are doing nowadays
People need to worry more about their own lives. If a couple is happy, then leave them alone.
They’re so jealous of her they have to find a way to feel pity for her instead 🤷🏻♀️
I saw one tiktoker mention her being conventionally attractive and was able to attract a rich man in her rant against her. I was shooketh and then saw it for what it really was.
@@melinatedthinka8210 Those things are true, but not always malignant (as long as she isn't a gold digger).
@@DDD11239If she was she would’ve divorced. But she’s a Mormon, so that’s not gonna happen.
HOW CAN PEOPLE HATE THIS FAMILY 😭 HER FAMILY IS SO BEAUTIFUL LOVE HER VIDEOS
Easy - they're bankrolled by uber wealthy family members. It's jealousy from the internet, but it's not fully out of place. This family is making money off you as a consumer of their "content" all while it was bank rolled by daddy's daddy. It's unreal levels of nepotism and this family effectively rose to prominence cosplaying farmers for clout. Just the fact that we're having a discussion about a bunch of rich people who have ZERO concerns about anything ever is illustration of how broken we are as a society. And at the end of the day her videos are "beautiful" because they are curated, edited and made for your consumption. They are staged. They are scripted and they are all made to make her family more money. Stop worshiping people like this. It's no different than consuming Kardashian content but on a smaller scale.
@@brett4932sounds like you are part of the jealous crowd! Cosplaying my butt!! They are really doing it!! Maybe check out some videos and see for yourself. Or better yet buy some land and develop a successful ranch!!
No??
Oh I see. Sit back and talk smack.
I do too!! They really are beautiful people. Would love to hang with them and be inspired by their vibes. Of course they go through struggles and difficulties but they have a bunch of good things going.
@@catherinewardwell2117 lol struggles??? Their grandpa is a billionaire. A struggle for these people is figuring out how long they want to vacation in the Swiss alps for; two months or three. Stop worshipping people like this.
They don’t hate her. Sounds like they hate how her husband mistreats her. So much abuse going on. It’s insanely sad!!
I saw a TikTok compilation of her “zoning out” and giving her husband dirty looks so apparently that means she hates her life 😅 like I zone out and give my husband nasty looks all the time it means nothing 😂 Parasocial relationships are WILDDDDD
Those types of "analysis" creators have never read a neuroscience textbook. I have a decade-long obsession with Abnormal Psychology, but I don't do stupid things likes these creators.
Depends on the dirty look. The Gottman Institute has done a lot of research about this. If it is looks of contempt, then it is reasonable to assume there are big issues in the relationship.
Whoooooa! Ok, this backstory is crazy scary. Isolate, deny her dreams, and keep her pregnant.
This woman is living my dream. I’m 63 and would have loved to have lived like this. God bless her and her family ❤
I’m a 26year old Mormon who was born and raised in Scandinavia, and my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. My bother and his wife got engaged after 2 years and they were both in their late 20s.
Sure there are a lot of Mormons, specifically in Utah, who get married fast which I personally don’t think is smart, but there are plenty of us who don’t. Most of my friends in church, whether they are from the states, Scandinavia, Germany, Spain, England etc. date anywhere between 6months to 3 years before they get engaged. Most of them got engaged after a year.
Half of my friends/acquaintances are married and got married somewhere between 20 and 25, half of my friends are still unmarried and are approaching 30.
Growing up my family and church often emphasized education, I’m studying business, my sister studied law then changed to pshycology. My boyfriend’s sisters are both scholarship students at Yale and will not get married until they are done with their education, my sister in law is an engineer, and I have many other female friends in our church who are highly educated and pursuing careers within business, science etc.
My point is that we most often only see this one image of Mormons in the media and I’m so sick of the stereotype that is attributed to us. Not because there necessarily is something wrong with getting married early and having a family.
Aside from this I feel sad for Ballerina Farm for being used to paint a false narrative for whatever agenda media may have. Thank you Brett for highlighting this
Fellow Latter-day Saint here! Glad to see you sharing your thoughts in the comments! :)
This is the one time I disagree with Brett. My heart breaks for Hannah because she wanted to be a ballerina and she gave up herself and her dreams after she said that she didn’t want to be married yet but her husband said that wouldn’t work and they got married and for her birthday all she wanted was tickets to Greece but he gets her A EGG APRON. It’s sad because how can your husband be a billionaire and his father own a airline but can’t get you the one thing you want after all your sacrifices but her husband has always wanted to live on the farm.
She chose to marry him. If she wants to fake her bedroom pleasure, to be a gold digger, that's her choice.
Also, she can buy the tickets, herself.
@@DDD11239 Tf? Are you insane Juilliard is a school with about a 5% acceptance rate this wasn’t just some hobby she gave up so much. Now also don’t sit here and say she’s a gold digger cause she wanted tickets to Greece when she takes care of 8 children,works hard on the farm to where she can’t get up from exhaustion and all she wanted was a break from that lifestyle and he is a BILLIONAIRE and his father owns a airline so it’s pretty easy for him to get tickets but he got her a apron? It’s her birthday and she was still grateful for the apron even though she wanted to get away from that life for just a couple days and he got her something she didn’t even ask for.
@@Holy_slays The gold digger reference correlated with the fact that she married him within months of initiation, not about the tickets. Gold diggers will fake love, fake bedroom pleasure, AND reproduce, to gain wealth. (Even if they enjoy the bedroom fun, they still will fool men).
I've followed them for like, 4 years. They've been on multiple trips to Hawaii, they've been to France, she shares way more in shorts than in her main posts and she genuinely seems to love her life. Of course none of us can really know, but there's really no obvious evidence over YEARS that she's this sad person and suddenly in one interview this is the picture being painted? Silly.
Ok. So there is that the article was overblown- True.
But so are you on the opposing end. It makes your reporting just as untrustworthy and to top it all hypocritical.
Brett has progressively become more defensive and bias… I miss her more logical, emotionally more neutral takes
I dislike how she portrayed feminists as jealous without looking into their valid concerns about her mental and physical health
When it’s all you know; you’ll never know how you really feel. I got married at 19, and just so glad I escaped. It’s been rough, but you could not pay me a billion to trade her places. Money isn’t everything.. so glad I walked away.
You were just scared of being alone, kid. Marriage isn't required.