Every single one of us at some point in life will feel the crushing blows of loss, rejection, failure and betrayal. Sometimes it can feel like life throws curveball after curveball, obstacle after obstacle, setback after setback, and disappointment after disappointment. I talk in detail about how to take the journey towards self-healing, discovering our true selves, and turning setbacks into welcomed adventures, all in my book, Finding Your True Self. Now available on Amazon at a.co/d/2J398BH
Most people don't like me, no matter how friendly & kind I am to them. Some people don't like me in the 1st instance without even knowing me. Others pretend to like me. At work today I was told by one of my colleagues I'm making them look bad just because I was getting on with my work. They all keep staring at me when I notice their gaze they quickly look away. Im getting fed up with it, I have left many jobs because of being hated so much. I trust no one.
People can be cruel, but usually it's a defense mechanism that they developed because someone was cruel to them. All that matters is who you know yourself to be
Same thing is happening to me in class, amd even on the school bus, I feel like they all hate me and talk bad about me behind my back, I have never done anything bad to any of them
I m hated at work also , colleagues, students, family members they disrespect me so much, when i stand up for my self they say i m a horrible agressive person
@@sabrinahmed9460 keep standing for ur self , we should have pation صبر and wisedom on how to react to disrespectful people We should be strong personalities , and find ways to bring up our moods Being close to Allah will make u stronger Somwtimes it s just a periode that ll pass u should just be patient
This is so true. My husband died last year and it is astonishing to me how the people I thought loved me never contact me. I am trying so hard to transform my feelings of rejection and anger as well as loneliness. I miss my husband so much. To lose the person you were closest to is the most painful experience. I am trying to not let this experience change or destroy me for my childrens sake.
Those people who didn't contact you don't truly love themselves so they can't love you. Your husband is often around you and is happy and well in the spirit world. You will eventually be reunited with him when you return home to the spirit world. You have your children which is a huge blessing. Meditate every day for a few minutes at least and spend a lot of time with them.
Don't let anger, hate, or resentment destroy the beauty that's there inside you. You will find whatever you need within you . Sending love and blessings from the universe your way ❤️
I've always been hated. I'm so used to it that when someone is nice, I wonder how long it will last. Thank you for this inspirational video. Really excellent.
Having haters is actually a good sign!! IF THE WORLD HATES YOU, HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH AND BE HATED LIKE A CHAMP!! Having haters means many feel intimated and insecure and jeolous by ones presence. I think everyone at work hates me or I thought so but it could also be my social anxiety which evolved into a persecution complex which is an illusion. If people hate you because you wronged them that's totally understandable but if they hate you for no reason it's because they are envious. It's Psychology 101 and Psychoanalysis. They are self projection their baggage unto us That's their problem, not yours. Life will put Pure Souls on your Path and those people we must honor and respect because God has put them in our Lives. I used to be bothered because many people didn't like me and I felt like a victim. But I discovered that the victim mentality and mindset is no good and it makes one feel helpless and insecure. After Realizing this and giving up 'the victim mentality ' mindset I feel empowered. The victim mentality is a false identity and our True Identity Is Life Itself or God if your religious. I go to work not to be liked or to be a people pleaser or to join their cliques or their tribes or their groups or politics and I won't conform. I'm not there to be a people pleaser. I GO TO WORK TO WORK HARD AND TO MAKE MONEY AND TO BUILD UPON MY DREAMS AND GOALS AMD ASPIRATIONS!..... Again, if the world hates you, hold your head high and be hated like a champ...........
@donovanshepperd9209 it is cruel , mabee we can all put too for an island for people like us where we can dance and sing one day and then just hide and sleep in a tee pee the next day and bullying is BANNED ! X
Yes it is no matter how I try to be nice or try to good I’m always hated I had some experiences in life where some people treated me bad and after a time comeback and say I really hated you for nothing this and that I literally feel like everyone hates me with no reason
Everyone who had commented here and hurting from the trauma of relationship pain...it was meant to give you a story to tell, to help others realize they are not alone! Its building you into a better person. Just use it as motivation to find your innate self and learn to love yourself. I promise you won't be disappointed. Its the most amazing thing I've ever done. Thank you Todd for sharing with us and I'd love to build this community with you. God has given me the instructions. Just waiting on my people. ❤🙏🏼💯❤
Every word he says makes my skin chill because I was always somebody who never had structure and I’m now becoming more organized in my mind first and then in my everyday life! Thank you! My understanding grows with your clear words!
I am struggling. I’m going through the peri menopause and it feels like puberty again! I lack any self confidence, I’m constantly thinking how ugly I look ( was never this vain before) I’m always overthinking what I’m saying to friends and family then ruminating for hours after. As usual your video has helped me go deeper and try to understand why. Your videos and calm teachings always bring me some peace and help me to reflect. Sending much love from Scotland ❤
Phillipians 4:6-7 "Do not be anxious about anything but by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God, and the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, shall dwell upon and be given onto you.
You are your worse enemy, to me, you're very beautiful. You have to discern that when you fill your head with something even if it's untrue then your mind believes it. 2nd Corinthians 10:5 We demolish every argument and pretense that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. If you read the word(BIBLE) You'd use how much God loves us and how we are made in his image, perfectly. Other people might see you as ugly, some might see you as beautiful, regardless you should love who you are, because you are how God made you to be, and you can't deny your flesh. Your vessel, your body, will always be your body, accept it and rebuke thoughts that disarray your confidence in Christ Jesus.
Hi Todd, This video brought profound peace that I desperately needed. I was searching up videos to relate to regarding how I feel hated everywhere I seem to go. This has lead me to feel hatred and bitterness these recent years. I always felt like I kept to myself and tried to be respectful to others but seemingly that was exploited and lead to me feeling hurt. It took a long time to accept that keeping your head low in this world doesn't mean you can escape the craziness of this chaotic world. I've no friends and been bullied since young. Always tried to fit in by joining social conventions and hobbies but to no avail I still as an adult male still have found myself rejected and alone in work offices. I've already been almost physically assaulted before at my office place by a stranger just for minding my own business. At times I find myself justifying my anger but also realizing the anger has not done much other than grow and damage me and not them. I have tried to take revenge by verbally and physically defending myself since my school days but never felt satisfied as often I would back out due to being passive by nature and just not having it in me. If I did take revenge , I felt good. I admit I would love to take revenge on everyone who has hurt me physically and verbally but it seems that I've been told forgiveness is good. I've tried forgiving but I feel that its like i'm lying to myself. Anyways , thank you Todd. This video emits this safe and comforting aura. Having never felt safe at home , school and work. Constantly having to watch over my shoulder as I have no friends or allies and nobody to turn to , this video was much needed. Thank you , have a good one.
Im happy that i search this. Right now i feel everyone hate me because of my phisical . And everything i do it doesnt change, thank you sir for clearing my mind.
I had someone pretend to like me for a year and than she told me that she was using me and that the whole time she hated me. It messed me up so much. I still think that everyone hates me because idk if I can trust people. What if they are like her? What if I’m annoying? Is there something wrong with me? I also hate myself too.
Thanks for the question. I want to give it the time and thought it deserves. I will answer it either in my newsletter, podcast or TH-cam video so others who are going through something similar can hear as well.
She sounds mentally unstable..trust me..I'm mentally unstable...getting 2 cats kinda helped..I wonder if you can get exercise then start going to a gym.. people can be weird. I'm still scared..but im kinda comming out of my deep rest. I made some changes over the years. I hope you do too and look kindly at yourself. It's good to refine ourselves but we must really try to be kind..
My wife was the closest person to me. She died last year, and now I'm stuck on this hell rock of a planet. I'm not that close to alot of my family. This woman I know who is widow. Who I was getting close to, is now showing her true colors, and it's not in a good way. I'm really tired and waiting to join my wife when the time comes. I might end up by myself until that day comes!
Losing a spouse is unimaginable. Having to start over romantically must seem daunting, but you have already done the hard part that many people can never get to. Some people will be right for you, some people will be wrong, and some people will be right for now. There will be ups and downs just like on a roller coaster and I am wishing you the presence to enjoy the journey
Don't look for people who are supposed to soothe your soul, if someone is meant to be in your life it will be like an old friend appearing round the Isle in the supermarket , and ditch that witch if she's making you 1 bit un happy , no no no no nobody gets to do that to you , not after you've allready had your heart broken, I bet you'd stand up for a friend who's going through the same ? Be your own body guard ❤❤
This reminds me that it is not me but what others are struggling to deal with that they are reflecting onto me.. I am also reminded to always have compassion and to send them light through mind work. Thank you for sharing dear one🙏
I've had enough pain, I almost ended my life. But god had other plans. That's why im so thankful. By watching this video, it helped me understand how love is really important❤
I've stood ten feet away from a sasquach, looked into their eyes, and saw kindness. (Yes, they do exist.) Yet, I've come to believe not even one person with a beautiful soul exists on this planet, because I've never experienced that..
I'm 50 this year lived a very quiet life,had deep heartaches and hurt and rejection which I'm still carrying with me.people just seem to want to hurt me,feel like they hate me.
That sounds very difficult and sending my love. People are usually too busy thinking about themselves than other people. We just have to do our best to make sure that other people's karma doesn't bring us done
I've become an asshole and I realize that 100%. I wasn't always this way, I used to be a nice guy with compassion for others. My utter disgust and distaste in human nature has forced me to built a gigantic wall around myself and give a damn about others anymore.
@@rcaive0875I'm getting there myself, and those that have had pleasure in cruelty will sadly one day end up going through it themselves and we won't be around anymore, it hurts when I really care love others that didn't
Feel so much gratitude for your advice... you've literally just lifted me from a depressed, nobody loves me mindset to a place of joy. Thank you so much 💓
I’m hated so much even after so many years have gone by . Haven’t hurt a fly intentionally as far as I know. I’m hated by everyone is what I searched for and I’m trying to connect with someone in th comment section. My life was over decades back. If there were any who lived me I’ve pushed them away and cannot be found and those who can be found just snub me away . This life has been unfair and I’ve abused my body through bad substances to an extent my body won’t cope . My lil brother is gonna get married and I have to be at my best behaviour and keep smiling which I cannot hold for a long time . The underlying anxiety can’t be faked. I don’t socialise , haven’t seen the inside of a club or a party in ages . I have wasted a good 12-15 years after that freak car crash I had , I don’t know whats next . I wish I was normal . Just at peace .
@@Strugglerforchrist I love Christ even though i have got 84k gods in my own religion . How does one turn to him ? By reading the bible ? I can't connvet with my gods (Hindu) and I am not biased towards any religion or race . I believe so . I'm more like those guys who hold karma>spirituality>god (religion) in that order . don't get me wrong , I mean no disrespect . So firstly I do no evil upon others . doing so consciously is wrong , don't like the guilt and the burden. Hope he sees me . Hope there is a god .
No matter how nice and friendly I am to people everyone just hates me. I try my best to love others with all my heart but it hurts knowing no one loves me the way a love them. I’m just so tired….
This really means a lot. I really appreciate this info. I was actually wondering today that I was feeling like everyone hates and then the moment I watch this video it was just me thinking that everyone hates me just because the world is cruel out there. No I just remembered to actually stand up for myself and just ignore the ignorant people and you can’t control the way they think you have to only control yours what you said that I really helped.
Than you, Thank you, Thank you! I appreciate very much this video… There are a lot of benevolent people out there. I don’t have to insist on keeping my focus or my attention in people who don’t value me, or live me or appreciate me!
Except that everyone actually does hate me, and my survival depends on me staying alone as much as possible. There are people that would feel vindicated if they were the only person on Earth. I am one of those.
The nature scenes are so beautiful. You're voice is peaceful and calming. It is often difficult for me to to summon up the courage to interact with others. I guess because there is a fear of rejection or failure. Videos like this are inspiring.
So glad my search turned up this post! Wow, it's exactly how I feel. I lost my dad a year and a half ago and since then, I am isolated and have been utterly abandoned by relatives and so-called friends. I really and truly don't think I deserve this, but at age 65 it seems as though the entire world wants me gone. I am close to the breaking point and am praying for help. Thank you.
Just know that I love you brother and I don't want you gone. The constant struggle of life is to constantly accept what is happening and make peace with it
I have no idea only God gave me the strength to move out where I been living, the years of heartaches, now last years alone, those that aren't in my life anymore that had pleasure in there ugly cruelty, negativity, childish games, there souls only filled with hatred, is painful worse there smiling over causing grief, and pain is sad, shows who they always were phonies
This is helping me relax about my subconscious anxiety coming through -- I was neglected and only got attention to be yelled at which in turn has made me feel like I’m bad even into adulthood. Currently battling to heal from these issues
I feel hated and I kinda agree that I am hard to deal and connect with. I am so defensive, strong opinionated, straightforward, critical and often throw silent treatment.
2:30 What if a person treats everyone else well with kindness and compassion with the exclusion of oneself, that is, that person only feels hatred towards me? How can one not take it personally then? I'd like to think it's a projection of how they feel about themselves but it's apparent they're okay and happy when with others just not me. And it's not because of something I did or said but hated for no good reason. I don't know how to deal with that. I've been telling myself to just love myself, if I love myself, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of me, but the thought of being specifically hated and mistreated still occasionally comes up and causes pain. Overall, this video makes me feel better, but there are still some questions unanswered.
We have to let people be their irrational, sometimes hurtful self because we can't force others to change. The more we understand that people can be hurtful and irrational, the more at peace we can be when it happens. Also, boundaries, boundaries and boundaries.
I am sorry to hear that. I will be covering that specifically in my 10,000 Mental Steps 6 months challenge. You can join at www.eastwesticism.org. Just totally free
I needed this. I don't understand what is wrong with me. But people mostly tell me to stop talking, even if I'm not constantly talking. I'm just trying to be social.
I have some friends and some people seem to like me I’ve also never heard anyone directly tell me they dislike me before. But I just feel really disconnected from most people right now. And somehow, I feel that no one likes me and I barely have anyone I feel truly comfortable being friends with. And then when I do make friends someone always seems to have a problem with them.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful wisdom. The timing of this segment is perfect...it speaks to me in so many ways. If you are ever wondering if your work is making an impact, it is. Your work is lighting my path.
I need love. I need affection. I need people who love me. My cup is empty and I don't have a Family who loves me. They hate me. Ive made mistakes. So have they. But my definition if Family is different than theirs. Ive been a social worker my whole life so far. From 21 to 47. O feel uncomfortable socially and I don't have motivation to change it because I'm so tired.
What do you do when you know it’s the truth. My husband and I don’t talk, when I say anything he responds so mean no matter if it’s about the clouds. My kids just fight with me and are a little older, I have no friends. IM DONE! My mom would probably be sad but that’s it! I have no money to leave and run away, no money to start over. IM DONE. I’m 43 and nothing will ever change. I just want to run away, I can’t handle it. I just wish I had one good friend to go talk to, the acquaintances I have would probably never talk to me if I cried to them about being lonely, miserable, took all the wrong paths in life. No depression or anxiety meds work, I can’t take this anymore
After people started putting hate on me, things started going terrible. People were wanting to hurt me, and start to hate me by just putting too much pressure on me. Eventually some people notice that I was depressed and started worrying about me but it still didn’t work so I got a therapist which helped me cope with this anixety
Everyone in school hated me, and instead of getting any help or justice for that I got labeled the problem and never helped. My life will never get better, no one wants to help me, no one is on my side, there's no point in trying. I'm just going to fail out, my job will just fire me
@@ToddPerelmuter The committee of assholes between the ears has nothing good to say. It's like sometimes it's hard to tell whether the watcher is watching, or just ego creating more of a layer cake. All is Maya🤸
I don't feel like everyone hate me even if they do i wouldn't care ( I would and I do but it's not the problem). But I know that my friends dont love me and care for me as much as I do. It hurts because they are best friends to me but I feel like I'm not in the same position for them and they could replace me with others easily. I hate that I get too attached to my friends even if they dont. 🙁
What people thank about me ain't my business than and now i don't want that negative vibe around me that doesn't fly with me period if you are positive we have something in common if you negative keep it moving i don't wanna be around someone like that i forgive folks that doesn't mean i don't appected their behaviour or i don't trust them at all that will never happen i forgive them so i can move on with my life putted behind me and move on forward i have a good soul in me.
Im so tired of "not caring what others think" and im sick of "being friendly and open" and all the countless things people say in these videos. I know - love myself. I knew when my ex dumped me 4 years ago for someone much younger (even though i was only 31 at the time. 19 was better to a 36 year old). none of the few "friends" i had wanted to deal with me being butthurt over a breakup. They only called when they needed something or their priority people werent available. I have done all of these things in these videos. I just end up humiliated. my parents said even way back in kintergarden i was always crying because i couldnt make friends. Im tired. Its not worth it. I DO live in a small town but its too hard to meet people online. I cant get on social media and advertise myself. I cant keep a job. Im sick of being hurt no matter how I act or what I say, but being alone is driving me insane.
My own family doesn't care about me. My own mother treats me like I'm a monster and the worst person ever, even though I put her on a pedestal and do everything I can to help her as she's in her 60s. My father has always chosen drugs over his kids since I was 8. My sisters never contact me and in person they disregard me and push me to the side. I have no friends at this point due to being 2 years clean and all my old friends still doing drugs. Learned that Noone really cared about me the hard way. Somehow I'm still moving along in life and trying my best but God damn is it ever hard. If anyone else feels similar to the way I do know your not alone. Keep going for you not for anyone else.
I believe you. I'm an outsider in my family. I reached out to a cousin yesterday to say hi, and he was mad that I didn't go to his step-dad's funeral last year. No one told me he had died. He didn't care even after I told him.
There are just a very vew clear and wise people as you, who are able to translate and transfere the human-conditioning,. and release the hope, that there is a way out,. thank you mister, It is a balm to my heart,.
I feel the world is listening in and conspire against me to make my life miserable, can't feel emotion over a year+, i remain sick for 6 months straight, i just recovered for my job interview then i get sick bad again. Shits unfair.
I feel like people hate me but I recognize it's unlikely they're even thinking about me at all. I had a bully of a sister growing up who would always try to make me believe people didn't really want me around, that they were just tolerating me. I'd wear a cool outfit, get compliments, and then she'd whisper they're lying to be nice. She really needed to hurt me, so she programmed me to never be sure of myself.
I now know exactly what my family thinks of me! I spent years taking care of these people and not taking care of myself. All.of that time spent making sure everyone was happy and I was told over and over recently how they feel! I'm leaving this state and then all behind and I'm going to live for myself. I can't do anymore then what I have done. I don't feel hurt or sad. I do feel empty but that will pass!
i need help, im an 15 yr old girl athlete, i compete in nationals and world championships, my sport is surf so it is a very individual and hard sport to compete in. I was new to the team in my country, in fact, i was the newest , everyone knew everyone except me, the girls instanly didnt like me, even though i was nice, I didnt understand this bc in my school and city i was a very popular and had a lot of friends. But that just didnt like me. I knew that and ur made it 10 times harder to compete with them…I collapsed many times. But i couldnt let myself the fact of stop competing in national
These past 6/7 months have bern brutal at work. I feel like my career is being collapsed and my life is being imploded. I meditate, I eft tap, I work hard to shift and I work hard and try to connect and yet setbacks persist. Im concerned. Is this a call for a new career? I feel like I am talented at what I do but my reputation is under attack. My career has been under attack for a little while? Im so confused and alarmed by this. I am suddenly very unliked.
Most people don't like me i don't let it bother me i just walked away from them i don't need their negative attitude or their negative vibes don't doesn't fly with me at all i forgive folks that doesn't mean i don't appected their behaviour or i don't trust them at all that will never happen i forgive them for me so I can move on with my life and finally putted behind me.
Mine is getting worse daily. I never stolen from these people or owned them anything. I'm prayerful, friendly and help when others asked for help at times. I don't go to the bar drinking nor to the club dancing (not to say those who do are bad people), not at all! It's just that it's not my thing. But the same people i bought gifts for today or helped, would be hostile to me tomorrow. I keep asking myself, but why? I see the people who these people talked about as being rude, bad and arrogant being given respect and loved when they come around. What a mystery!
i feel like everybody my age avoids me at all costs, and nobody cares about me (accept for my friends and my parents) but my friends are a few years older then me and therefore they go to another school, so im all alone at school as the only "metal/guitar guy" and the other guys in my class are complete assholes and treat girls like shit and scream racial slurs and a bunch of other shitty stuff but they still are liked by everyone, and i just try to be nice but nobody likes me... i had one girl who actually started caring about me and she would write on snapchat and ask if i was doing alright and she was so nice to me and i talked to her about personal problems and love and stuff. and then one summer day i asked her (on snapchat) if she would want to hang out sometime, and she was like "Yeah! sounds like fun!" but she never talked to me again after that and now that school has started she doesnt even care that i excist. and it was then i realises that she only "cared" about me because i used to have a crush on her friend, and when i lost my feeling for her friend, this girl stopped talking to me. so she was only using me to tell her friend. so i have realised that i do not trust anybody anymore, i cant even talk to my best friend about personal stuff. and its not the first time, i have had former "friends" spread lies about me and try to make me look like a bad person for no apperant reason, just because they thought it was fun. and then i get to know what they have said behind my back a few months later after the dude have changed schools. but during this summer i started hanging out with a guy in my class that i used to be friends with when he was a metal guy, but then he changed and became mean and started hating me for my intressests and music taste etc, something which one year prior he loved to. but now he is back to playing drums and music, and we hung out and jammed during this summer, and he was like he used to be, he was nice and funny, but now that school started he acts like he doesnt know me and he is back to being mean to people, when he was so nice when we were hanging out. so im wondering if people are just embarrest at thought of being seen near me. so i have just stopped trying to socialise with other people my age (15) and i just hang out with 17-19 year olds instead cus they are much nicer and we have much more incommon. everytime i speak to people my age i realise just how much more mature i am compared to other 15 year olds. and when i hang out with older people, even if they are not metalheads or muscicians, they still think im very cool and enjoy hanging out with me, a 19 year old girl called me cute at a party a couple of weeks ago, and i have never been called cute by anyone my age. but then my teachers and my grandparents worries about me hanging out with older guys, because they think im gonna get in trouble or grow up to fast. but my friends are the chillest dudes and never gets into trouble and i am already at their maturity level. and my parents are completly cool with it, because they know the guys parents from way back.
Hi Todd, you were following my personal IG account once until I deleted it bcs I felt so lonely that I couldn't get enough followers from the bunch of school friends that I had burned bridges with since I left school. I never had a single real friend since I was a kid. My mother and brother have always ganged up against me and made me feel like a mistake. They still do. They find fault with everything I do. They make me feel guilty of not having a single friend. They even go on telling people that I don't have a single friend. I'll be 25 years old this September. And I still have no one to call my best friend but myself. I'm hated for just being simply better than everyone even at university. From the Dean to the lab coordinator, everyone hates me because I work on time, I value everyone's time, I hate injustice and lawlessness. I've become such a loner, anti-social and best off with my own shadow. I've always being made guilty my my mother who has made me fear that no one will attend my wedding or funeral bcs I'm like my father who is the only person who has been there for me whenever the world was against me, that I almost all the time. I can't seem to give in to shallow relationships, masked laughs and backstabbing. I feel like no one will ever love me. Sometimes I feel lost. Sometimes I feel like I'm the most unsuccessful person on earth bcs I haven't earned people or real relationships. Thank you for this video. I'm a new fan. I wish I'll be able to find someone who might want to be friends with me, like me and love me for being me.
Thanks for the question. I want to give it the time and thought it deserves. I will answer it either in my newsletter, podcast or TH-cam video so others who are going through something similar can hear as well.
Idk what to do in my situation tbh, I just got into a specialized highschool( like one of the best schools in my country) and when we are assigned a class we just have to stick with 32 people throughout the years in highschool and idk I did something wrong or I'm just not as good as others but everyone's been ignoring me, doesn't reply to me, not answering my greetings or my questions about school, nothing, in 3 months I only talked to about 10 of my classmates and half of them just kinda pushing me away every sentence they say. It's just too hard, idk what I should do, I don't want to exchange to another school because getting in where I am rn is hard and I don't really know how to get everyone to not hate me or ignoring me, it's just feels like I'm being discriminated but I'm no different than them. I'm just lost right now. Not knowing what to do, and I'm not going to go 3 years not talking to anyone one. I don't feel hopeless but helpless
Im so desperately trying to find out why in every single situation i am in only ONE person hates me! And they do with such passion. But i keep "finding why does everybody hate me" instead. Too completely different questions from each other... But maybe you can answer this one too... so why is it at any place of work or any enviornment i delve into there is only one single person out of the group that is like water and oil to me. I get narcissistic vibes from them all the time. Like completely shut out from any real positve interactions with them. That one specific person is out to get me, not everyone else.
I have no friends no matter what i do the thing is even my family hates me you can tell because they dont show effection and never they said i am proud of you we never had had family dinner better yet if they had 1 im not present
Not to be negative but finding your tribe doesn’t exist. Been trying to do that for 4 years… long years. U til now. I purposely run from ppl now. It was nuts, every human I met LITERALLY was a nut job, either they we’re completely fake Or my favourite they feel like I’m a councillor and they over share their live but when you try to make the conversation 2 way they immediately stop taking. Lol 😅 it’s a laughable joke. I’m seriously struggling! I also met like minded ppl who “ didn’t judge “ etc turned out eventually they turned into thief’s, completely lying about who they were! I really don’t get why I keep it used to keeping meeting those ppl. I have my husband and I intend to keep it that. I’m a complete b now, I’m hasty and want absolutely nothing to do with humans or the viruses. Your video is nice and I’m clearly trying to find peace in my self but when I e done that for many years, it’s like running into a wall with the stupidity out there
You're very blessed to at least have one person that is in your life, those that were in my life made sure to do what would kill me inside very slowly, sick twisted dark humor,bor converted control will one-day comeback id never want for anybody especially those I will always live even if they didnt
I doubt that the people who hate me have worse mental anguish than I do. Why should I be the bigger person when even now, the people who hate me can lean on social circles to support them while I don't. Your very premise is false.
I used to have friends and family but now I have no one that truly understand me and I stay away from everyone I don't trust no one anymore I am married but my wife doesn't care about me anymore and her and her people think I'm such an evil person and they all like to label me honestly I don't belong anywhere.
Last year the friends I made were the best friends I had ever met.But they replaced me for someone else and now I went into the worse class possible. Let me explain. So we can easily get in trouble in this class so I’m trying not to because I don’t want my teacher to hate me. But my friends hate this so I just sit around at lunch in a crowd of talking people talking to my self on how I can make a new friend. I will try to hang around with them but not as much. Last year we made a new group of friends but at the end of last year 3 left and my other friends wanted more people to join so we invited more people but now I am getting yelled at by them because one friend just gives the other friend way too much much attention gives me less attention the first person that one friend goes to is the other friend I was talking about leaving me to sit alone with someone random.
People dont dislike us but the things we do which are not in their control they like to control for their benefit they dont realise that they should nit be involved way more than in our lives for example our parents does invlove in our life way more than we need unhealthy involvment
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It kill slowly and sneaky hatefilled souls know this too, they know isolation will kill us
Most people don't like me, no matter how friendly & kind I am to them. Some people don't like me in the 1st instance without even knowing me. Others pretend to like me. At work today I was told by one of my colleagues I'm making them look bad just because I was getting on with my work. They all keep staring at me when I notice their gaze they quickly look away. Im getting fed up with it, I have left many jobs because of being hated so much. I trust no one.
People can be cruel, but usually it's a defense mechanism that they developed because someone was cruel to them. All that matters is who you know yourself to be
Same thing is happening to me in class, amd even on the school bus, I feel like they all hate me and talk bad about me behind my back, I have never done anything bad to any of them
I m hated at work also , colleagues, students, family members they disrespect me so much, when i stand up for my self they say i m a horrible agressive person
@@yasmineettaleby454 same 😢
@@sabrinahmed9460 keep standing for ur self , we should have pation صبر and wisedom on how to react to disrespectful people
We should be strong personalities , and find ways to bring up our moods
Being close to Allah will make u stronger
Somwtimes it s just a periode that ll pass u should just be patient
This is so true. My husband died last year and it is astonishing to me how the people I thought loved me never contact me. I am trying so hard to transform my feelings of rejection and anger as well as loneliness. I miss my husband so much. To lose the person you were closest to is the most painful experience. I am trying to not let this experience change or destroy me for my childrens sake.
I can't even imagine. Sending you love 🙏
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Those people who didn't contact you don't truly love themselves so they can't love you. Your husband is often around you and is happy and well in the spirit world. You will eventually be reunited with him when you return home to the spirit world. You have your children which is a huge blessing. Meditate every day for a few minutes at least and spend a lot of time with them.
Don't let anger, hate, or resentment destroy the beauty that's there inside you. You will find whatever you need within you . Sending love and blessings from the universe your way ❤️
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I've always been hated.
I'm so used to it that when someone is nice, I wonder how long it will last.
Thank you for this inspirational video. Really excellent.
Having haters is actually a good sign!! IF THE WORLD HATES YOU, HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH AND BE HATED LIKE A CHAMP!! Having haters means many feel intimated and insecure and jeolous by ones presence. I think everyone at work hates me or I thought so but it could also be my social anxiety which evolved into a persecution complex which is an illusion. If people hate you because you wronged them that's totally understandable but if they hate you for no reason it's because they are envious. It's Psychology 101 and Psychoanalysis. They are self projection their baggage unto us That's their problem, not yours. Life will put Pure Souls on your Path and those people we must honor and respect because God has put them in our Lives. I used to be bothered because many people didn't like me and I felt like a victim. But I discovered that the victim mentality and mindset is no good and it makes one feel helpless and insecure. After Realizing this and giving up 'the victim mentality ' mindset I feel empowered. The victim mentality is a false identity and our True Identity Is Life Itself or God if your religious. I go to work not to be liked or to be a people pleaser or to join their cliques or their tribes or their groups or politics and I won't conform. I'm not there to be a people pleaser. I GO TO WORK TO WORK HARD AND TO MAKE MONEY AND TO BUILD UPON MY DREAMS AND GOALS AMD ASPIRATIONS!..... Again, if the world hates you, hold your head high and be hated like a champ...........
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I needed to hear that! 🙏🏼
I agree with you 100percent
Thank you 🌟
How did you get rid of the victim mentality? This is something I’m in the process of, and I need help. 😢 Any advice?
I need to get out of here. This world has become socially evil. Thank you for this video.
Me too!! I hate this world! It is so cruel for sensitive people.
@donovanshepperd9209 it is cruel , mabee we can all put too for an island for people like us where we can dance and sing one day and then just hide and sleep in a tee pee the next day and bullying is BANNED ! X
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Yes it is no matter how I try to be nice or try to good I’m always hated I had some experiences in life where some people treated me bad and after a time comeback and say I really hated you for nothing this and that I literally feel like everyone hates me with no reason
All i know for a fact is it’s easy to assume people hate you if deep down you hate yourself
Man, this hit me so deep on so many levels. How the hell can I get rid of this feeling?
It hit hard
This is calling me out 🧍♂️
You can love yourself to and drive them crazy
I appreciate people like Todd who are helping us heal and become better.
I strive to be my authentic self on a daily basis ..and on a daily basis it seems I am rejected by society by doing so
It's because they wish they could be real as you.
Everyone who had commented here and hurting from the trauma of relationship pain...it was meant to give you a story to tell, to help others realize they are not alone! Its building you into a better person. Just use it as motivation to find your innate self and learn to love yourself. I promise you won't be disappointed. Its the most amazing thing I've ever done. Thank you Todd for sharing with us and I'd love to build this community with you. God has given me the instructions. Just waiting on my people. ❤🙏🏼💯❤
Every word he says makes my skin chill because I was always somebody who never had structure and I’m now becoming more organized in my mind first and then in my everyday life! Thank you! My understanding grows with your clear words!
I am struggling. I’m going through the peri menopause and it feels like puberty again! I lack any self confidence, I’m constantly thinking how ugly I look ( was never this vain before) I’m always overthinking what I’m saying to friends and family then ruminating for hours after. As usual your video has helped me go deeper and try to understand why. Your videos and calm teachings always bring me some peace and help me to reflect. Sending much love from Scotland ❤
Phillipians 4:6-7
"Do not be anxious about anything but by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God, and the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, shall dwell upon and be given onto you.
You are your worse enemy, to me, you're very beautiful. You have to discern that when you fill your head with something even if it's untrue then your mind believes it.
2nd Corinthians 10:5
We demolish every argument and pretense that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.
If you read the word(BIBLE) You'd use how much God loves us and how we are made in his image, perfectly. Other people might see you as ugly, some might see you as beautiful, regardless you should love who you are, because you are how God made you to be, and you can't deny your flesh. Your vessel, your body, will always be your body, accept it and rebuke thoughts that disarray your confidence in Christ Jesus.
@@StrugglerforchristGod does people don't
Hi Todd,
This video brought profound peace that I desperately needed. I was searching up videos to relate to regarding how I feel hated everywhere I seem to go.
This has lead me to feel hatred and bitterness these recent years. I always felt like I kept to myself and tried to be respectful to others but seemingly that was exploited and lead to me feeling hurt. It took a long time to accept that keeping your head low in this world doesn't mean you can escape the craziness of this chaotic world. I've no friends and been bullied since young. Always tried to fit in by joining social conventions and hobbies but to no avail I still as an adult male still have found myself rejected and alone in work offices. I've already been almost physically assaulted before at my office place by a stranger just for minding my own business.
At times I find myself justifying my anger but also realizing the anger has not done much other than grow and damage me and not them.
I have tried to take revenge by verbally and physically defending myself since my school days but never felt satisfied as often I would back out due to being passive by nature and just not having it in me. If I did take revenge , I felt good. I admit I would love to take revenge on everyone who has hurt me physically and verbally but it seems that I've been told forgiveness is good. I've tried forgiving but I feel that its like i'm lying to myself.
Anyways , thank you Todd. This video emits this safe and comforting aura. Having never felt safe at home , school and work. Constantly having to watch over my shoulder as I have no friends or allies and nobody to turn to , this video was much needed. Thank you , have a good one.
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trust me ur not alone😁
I find my self in This kind of situations too.
Im happy that i search this.
Right now i feel everyone hate me because of my phisical . And everything i do it doesnt change, thank you sir for clearing my mind.
I had someone pretend to like me for a year and than she told me that she was using me and that the whole time she hated me. It messed me up so much. I still think that everyone hates me because idk if I can trust people. What if they are like her? What if I’m annoying? Is there something wrong with me? I also hate myself too.
Thanks for the question. I want to give it the time and thought it deserves. I will answer it either in my newsletter, podcast or TH-cam video so others who are going through something similar can hear as well.
@@ToddPerelmuter tysm I really appreciate it
I feel how you feel I'm a 33 yr old black female
She sounds mentally unstable..trust me..I'm mentally unstable...getting 2 cats kinda helped..I wonder if you can get exercise then start going to a gym.. people can be weird. I'm still scared..but im kinda comming out of my deep rest. I made some changes over the years. I hope you do too and look kindly at yourself. It's good to refine ourselves but we must really try to be kind..
I am the same. I can't blame them for hating me cause I hate me too. I often wonder why I'm even here.
My wife was the closest person to me. She died last year, and now I'm stuck on this hell rock of a planet. I'm not that close to alot of my family. This woman I know who is widow. Who I was getting close to, is now showing her true colors, and it's not in a good way. I'm really tired and waiting to join my wife when the time comes. I might end up by myself until that day comes!
Losing a spouse is unimaginable. Having to start over romantically must seem daunting, but you have already done the hard part that many people can never get to. Some people will be right for you, some people will be wrong, and some people will be right for now. There will be ups and downs just like on a roller coaster and I am wishing you the presence to enjoy the journey
Don't look for people who are supposed to soothe your soul, if someone is meant to be in your life it will be like an old friend appearing round the Isle in the supermarket , and ditch that witch if she's making you 1 bit un happy , no no no no nobody gets to do that to you , not after you've allready had your heart broken, I bet you'd stand up for a friend who's going through the same ? Be your own body guard ❤❤
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Trust in God; lean on him and his peace will rest upon you in Christ Jesus.
This reminds me that it is not me but what others are struggling to deal with that they are reflecting onto me.. I am also reminded to always have compassion and to send them light through mind work. Thank you for sharing dear one🙏
I've had enough pain, I almost ended my life. But god had other plans. That's why im so thankful. By watching this video, it helped me understand how love is really important❤
I've stood ten feet away from a sasquach, looked into their eyes, and saw kindness. (Yes, they do exist.) Yet, I've come to believe not even one person with a beautiful soul exists on this planet, because I've never experienced that..
I'm 50 this year lived a very quiet life,had deep heartaches and hurt and rejection which I'm still carrying with me.people just seem to want to hurt me,feel like they hate me.
That sounds very difficult and sending my love. People are usually too busy thinking about themselves than other people. We just have to do our best to make sure that other people's karma doesn't bring us done
I've become an asshole and I realize that 100%. I wasn't always this way, I used to be a nice guy with compassion for others. My utter disgust and distaste in human nature has forced me to built a gigantic wall around myself and give a damn about others anymore.
As I got older I found how many are truly fake hatful
@@ToddPerelmutervery TRUE others negativity
@@rcaive0875I'm getting there myself, and those that have had pleasure in cruelty will sadly one day end up going through it themselves and we won't be around anymore, it hurts when I really care love others that didn't
Feel so much gratitude for your advice... you've literally just lifted me from a depressed, nobody loves me mindset to a place of joy.
Thank you so much 💓
I’m hated so much even after so many years have gone by . Haven’t hurt a fly intentionally as far as I know. I’m hated by everyone is what I searched for and I’m trying to connect with someone in th comment section. My life was over decades back. If there were any who lived me I’ve pushed them away and cannot be found and those who can be found just snub me away . This life has been unfair and I’ve abused my body through bad substances to an extent my body won’t cope . My lil brother is gonna get married and I have to be at my best behaviour and keep smiling which I cannot hold for a long time .
The underlying anxiety can’t be faked. I don’t socialise , haven’t seen the inside of a club or a party in ages . I have wasted a good 12-15 years after that freak car crash I had , I don’t know whats next . I wish I was normal . Just at peace .
You are not alone... I pray that the true love and comfort of God is shown to you in the next few months opening up your spirit
@@BullMarketBandit thanks man . Wish you happiness wherever you are .
Turn to Christ. That's all I can say and all I need to say. God is all you need; seek him and everything else shall be added onto you.
Matthew 6:33
"But first seek the kingdom of God and all its righteousness and these things shall be added onto you."
@@Strugglerforchrist I love Christ even though i have got 84k gods in my own religion . How does one turn to him ? By reading the bible ? I can't connvet with my gods (Hindu) and I am not biased towards any religion or race . I believe so . I'm more like those guys who hold karma>spirituality>god (religion) in that order . don't get me wrong , I mean no disrespect .
So firstly I do no evil upon others . doing so consciously is wrong , don't like the guilt and the burden.
Hope he sees me . Hope there is a god .
No matter how nice and friendly I am to people everyone just hates me. I try my best to love others with all my heart but it hurts knowing no one loves me the way a love them. I’m just so tired….
This really means a lot. I really appreciate this info. I was actually wondering today that I was feeling like everyone hates and then the moment I watch this video it was just me thinking that everyone hates me just because the world is cruel out there. No I just remembered to actually stand up for myself and just ignore the ignorant people and you can’t control the way they think you have to only control yours what you said that I really helped.
Than you, Thank you, Thank you! I appreciate very much this video…
There are a lot of benevolent people out there.
I don’t have to insist on keeping my focus or my attention in people who don’t value me, or live me or appreciate me!
Thank you. 🙏 The second time I've watched this. It keeps me holding on when I'm losing all hope.
for me i do not care if everyone hates me, the more they hate me the more it fuels me when i train the more focused i become
Except that everyone actually does hate me, and my survival depends on me staying alone as much as possible.
There are people that would feel vindicated if they were the only person on Earth. I am one of those.
I lost everything except myself. I'm doing the best I can to find inner peace from my self imprisonment.
Same ❤ Just hang on. When you find that peace, it's the most amazing thing in the whole world I promise!
The nature scenes are so beautiful. You're voice is peaceful and calming. It is often difficult for me to to summon up the courage to interact with others. I guess because there is a fear of rejection or failure. Videos like this are inspiring.
Thank you 🙏🏻 healing my brokenness w love and compassion.
So glad my search turned up this post! Wow, it's exactly how I feel. I lost my dad a year and a half ago and since then, I am isolated and have been utterly abandoned by relatives and so-called friends. I really and truly don't think I deserve this, but at age 65 it seems as though the entire world wants me gone. I am close to the breaking point and am praying for help. Thank you.
You are not alone. The Lord will give you strength.
Just know that I love you brother and I don't want you gone. The constant struggle of life is to constantly accept what is happening and make peace with it
Sorry for your loss. Keep strong, keep going. Don't give up.
@@ToddPerelmuter Thank you so much. I have returned to this video after another "everybody hates me" panic attack. It really helps me.
I have no idea only God gave me the strength to move out where I been living, the years of heartaches, now last years alone, those that aren't in my life anymore that had pleasure in there ugly cruelty, negativity, childish games, there souls only filled with hatred, is painful worse there smiling over causing grief, and pain is sad, shows who they always were phonies
This is helping me relax about my subconscious anxiety coming through -- I was neglected and only got attention to be yelled at which in turn has made me feel like I’m bad even into adulthood. Currently battling to heal from these issues
I feel hated and I kinda agree that I am hard to deal and connect with. I am so defensive, strong opinionated, straightforward, critical and often throw silent treatment.
2:30 What if a person treats everyone else well with kindness and compassion with the exclusion of oneself, that is, that person only feels hatred towards me? How can one not take it personally then? I'd like to think it's a projection of how they feel about themselves but it's apparent they're okay and happy when with others just not me. And it's not because of something I did or said but hated for no good reason. I don't know how to deal with that. I've been telling myself to just love myself, if I love myself, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of me, but the thought of being specifically hated and mistreated still occasionally comes up and causes pain. Overall, this video makes me feel better, but there are still some questions unanswered.
We have to let people be their irrational, sometimes hurtful self because we can't force others to change. The more we understand that people can be hurtful and irrational, the more at peace we can be when it happens. Also, boundaries, boundaries and boundaries.
Ah yes. This is my problem too. I'm so tired of being open and friendly and blah blah blah because it doesn't work and I just feel humiliated.
Im really starting to hate life in general.
I am sorry to hear that. I will be covering that specifically in my 10,000 Mental Steps 6 months challenge. You can join at www.eastwesticism.org. Just totally free
Me too
I needed this. I don't understand what is wrong with me. But people mostly tell me to stop talking, even if I'm not constantly talking. I'm just trying to be social.
Awww
They are projecting their own insecurities.
They are misinformed of what it means to have integrity
Just got fired because some coworkers hate me and said lies about me.
I'm sorry. I am going through something similar now. You're an amazing person. ❤
I have some friends and some people seem to like me I’ve also never heard anyone directly tell me they dislike me before. But I just feel really disconnected from most people right now. And somehow, I feel that no one likes me and I barely have anyone I feel truly comfortable being friends with. And then when I do make friends someone always seems to have a problem with them.
This is what they should teach in school so children can grow up with perspective
This page made me feel less lonely I feel I am rejected by lots of people and get ignored all I do is put on a fake smile 😢
People are evolutionarily programmed to be antisocial and I’m sick of pretending they’re not.
Its definitely to a point where i no longer want to speak to anyone ever. like i want to be close to someone but dont want to be friends with anyone
Thank you for sharing your beautiful wisdom. The timing of this segment is perfect...it speaks to me in so many ways. If you are ever wondering if your work is making an impact, it is. Your work is lighting my path.
I need love. I need affection. I need people who love me. My cup is empty and I don't have a Family who loves me. They hate me. Ive made mistakes. So have they. But my definition if Family is different than theirs. Ive been a social worker my whole life so far. From 21 to 47. O feel uncomfortable socially and I don't have motivation to change it because I'm so tired.
Me too I understand,
I just found your channel and feel blessed to have found you. Thank you for sharing your messages of love and making this world a better place.
What do you do when you know it’s the truth. My husband and I don’t talk, when I say anything he responds so mean no matter if it’s about the clouds. My kids just fight with me and are a little older, I have no friends. IM DONE! My mom would probably be sad but that’s it!
I have no money to leave and run away, no money to start over. IM DONE. I’m 43 and nothing will ever change. I just want to run away, I can’t handle it. I just wish I had one good friend to go talk to, the acquaintances I have would probably never talk to me if I cried to them about being lonely, miserable, took all the wrong paths in life. No depression or anxiety meds work, I can’t take this anymore
After people started putting hate on me, things started going terrible. People were wanting to hurt me, and start to hate me by just putting too much pressure on me. Eventually some people notice that I was depressed and started worrying about me but it still didn’t work so I got a therapist which helped me cope with this anixety
Everyone in school hated me, and instead of getting any help or justice for that I got labeled the problem and never helped. My life will never get better, no one wants to help me, no one is on my side, there's no point in trying. I'm just going to fail out, my job will just fire me
Is it possible the worst person to have one feeling hates oneself is oneself? Self-love can be elusive it seems. 💗
Absolutely. We are frequently our own worst critic and enemy. Luckily, practicing universal love extends both ways.
@@ToddPerelmuter The committee of assholes between the ears has nothing good to say. It's like sometimes it's hard to tell whether the watcher is watching, or just ego creating more of a layer cake. All is Maya🤸
I don't feel like everyone hate me even if they do i wouldn't care ( I would and I do but it's not the problem). But I know that my friends dont love me and care for me as much as I do. It hurts because they are best friends to me but I feel like I'm not in the same position for them and they could replace me with others easily. I hate that I get too attached to my friends even if they dont. 🙁
Rejoice it's not like you want them and your Life
Yes Todd, new times are here. And we need to bring about peace on earth in person
Thank you for this important message and Reminder 🙏
Thank you 🙏 for this video help me because some people hates me for I’m annoying and do too much
Thanks for sharing. Beautiful message I needed to hear today!!😊
What a beautiful message
Feel so much peace whenever I listen to your words
What people thank about me ain't my business than and now i don't want that negative vibe around me that doesn't fly with me period if you are positive we have something in common if you negative keep it moving i don't wanna be around someone like that i forgive folks that doesn't mean i don't appected their behaviour or i don't trust them at all that will never happen i forgive them so i can move on with my life putted behind me and move on forward i have a good soul in me.
So there is hope, I thought pure and kind souls were just a mith
Im so tired of "not caring what others think" and im sick of "being friendly and open" and all the countless things people say in these videos. I know - love myself. I knew when my ex dumped me 4 years ago for someone much younger (even though i was only 31 at the time. 19 was better to a 36 year old). none of the few "friends" i had wanted to deal with me being butthurt over a breakup. They only called when they needed something or their priority people werent available. I have done all of these things in these videos. I just end up humiliated. my parents said even way back in kintergarden i was always crying because i couldnt make friends. Im tired. Its not worth it. I DO live in a small town but its too hard to meet people online. I cant get on social media and advertise myself. I cant keep a job. Im sick of being hurt no matter how I act or what I say, but being alone is driving me insane.
My own family doesn't care about me. My own mother treats me like I'm a monster and the worst person ever, even though I put her on a pedestal and do everything I can to help her as she's in her 60s. My father has always chosen drugs over his kids since I was 8. My sisters never contact me and in person they disregard me and push me to the side. I have no friends at this point due to being 2 years clean and all my old friends still doing drugs. Learned that Noone really cared about me the hard way. Somehow I'm still moving along in life and trying my best but God damn is it ever hard. If anyone else feels similar to the way I do know your not alone. Keep going for you not for anyone else.
I believe you. I'm an outsider in my family. I reached out to a cousin yesterday to say hi, and he was mad that I didn't go to his step-dad's funeral last year. No one told me he had died. He didn't care even after I told him.
There are just a very vew clear and wise people as you, who are able to translate and transfere the human-conditioning,. and release the hope, that there is a way out,. thank you mister, It is a balm to my heart,.
I feel the world is listening in and conspire against me to make my life miserable, can't feel emotion over a year+, i remain sick for 6 months straight, i just recovered for my job interview then i get sick bad again.
Shits unfair.
I feel the same and it is harder cos I'm in a rural part of the world and I'm visibly a queer woman and the hate is real. 😢
I feel like people hate me but I recognize it's unlikely they're even thinking about me at all. I had a bully of a sister growing up who would always try to make me believe people didn't really want me around, that they were just tolerating me. I'd wear a cool outfit, get compliments, and then she'd whisper they're lying to be nice.
She really needed to hurt me, so she programmed me to never be sure of myself.
I now know exactly what my family thinks of me! I spent years taking care of these people and not taking care of myself. All.of that time spent making sure everyone was happy and I was told over and over recently how they feel! I'm leaving this state and then all behind and I'm going to live for myself. I can't do anymore then what I have done. I don't feel hurt or sad. I do feel empty but that will pass!
i need help, im an 15 yr old girl athlete, i compete in nationals and world championships, my sport is surf so it is a very individual and hard sport to compete in. I was new to the team in my country, in fact, i was the newest , everyone knew everyone except me, the girls instanly didnt like me, even though i was nice,
I didnt understand this bc in my school and city i was a very popular and had a lot of friends. But that just didnt like me. I knew that and ur made it 10 times harder to compete with them…I collapsed many times. But i couldnt let myself the fact of stop competing in national
These past 6/7 months have bern brutal at work. I feel like my career is being collapsed and my life is being imploded. I meditate, I eft tap, I work hard to shift and I work hard and try to connect and yet setbacks persist. Im concerned. Is this a call for a new career? I feel like I am talented at what I do but my reputation is under attack. My career has been under attack for a little while? Im so confused and alarmed by this. I am suddenly very unliked.
I hope your okay
Most people don't like me i don't let it bother me i just walked away from them i don't need their negative attitude or their negative vibes don't doesn't fly with me at all i forgive folks that doesn't mean i don't appected their behaviour or i don't trust them at all that will never happen i forgive them for me so I can move on with my life and finally putted behind me.
This was a beautiful message! 🗝🌠🧘🏻♀️🌈🦋 Thank you for sharing! 🪶🦉🪶
Thanks so much ❤ I really learned something from this
Mine is getting worse daily. I never stolen from these people or owned them anything. I'm prayerful, friendly and help when others asked for help at times. I don't go to the bar drinking nor to the club dancing (not to say those who do are bad people), not at all! It's just that it's not my thing. But the same people i bought gifts for today or helped, would be hostile to me tomorrow. I keep asking myself, but why? I see the people who these people talked about as being rude, bad and arrogant being given respect and loved when they come around. What a mystery!
The more I try to be part of the family the more the see me as the bad one who brings problems in the family
i feel like everybody my age avoids me at all costs, and nobody cares about me (accept for my friends and my parents) but my friends are a few years older then me and therefore they go to another school, so im all alone at school as the only "metal/guitar guy" and the other guys in my class are complete assholes and treat girls like shit and scream racial slurs and a bunch of other shitty stuff but they still are liked by everyone, and i just try to be nice but nobody likes me...
i had one girl who actually started caring about me and she would write on snapchat and ask if i was doing alright and she was so nice to me and i talked to her about personal problems and love and stuff. and then one summer day i asked her (on snapchat) if she would want to hang out sometime, and she was like "Yeah! sounds like fun!" but she never talked to me again after that and now that school has started she doesnt even care that i excist. and it was then i realises that she only "cared" about me because i used to have a crush on her friend, and when i lost my feeling for her friend, this girl stopped talking to me. so she was only using me to tell her friend. so i have realised that i do not trust anybody anymore, i cant even talk to my best friend about personal stuff. and its not the first time, i have had former "friends" spread lies about me and try to make me look like a bad person for no apperant reason, just because they thought it was fun. and then i get to know what they have said behind my back a few months later after the dude have changed schools.
but during this summer i started hanging out with a guy in my class that i used to be friends with when he was a metal guy, but then he changed and became mean and started hating me for my intressests and music taste etc, something which one year prior he loved to. but now he is back to playing drums and music, and we hung out and jammed during this summer, and he was like he used to be, he was nice and funny, but now that school started he acts like he doesnt know me and he is back to being mean to people, when he was so nice when we were hanging out. so im wondering if people are just embarrest at thought of being seen near me.
so i have just stopped trying to socialise with other people my age (15) and i just hang out with 17-19 year olds instead cus they are much nicer and we have much more incommon. everytime i speak to people my age i realise just how much more mature i am compared to other 15 year olds. and when i hang out with older people, even if they are not metalheads or muscicians, they still think im very cool and enjoy hanging out with me, a 19 year old girl called me cute at a party a couple of weeks ago, and i have never been called cute by anyone my age.
but then my teachers and my grandparents worries about me hanging out with older guys, because they think im gonna get in trouble or grow up to fast. but my friends are the chillest dudes and never gets into trouble and i am already at their maturity level. and my parents are completly cool with it, because they know the guys parents from way back.
Hi Todd, you were following my personal IG account once until I deleted it bcs I felt so lonely that I couldn't get enough followers from the bunch of school friends that I had burned bridges with since I left school. I never had a single real friend since I was a kid. My mother and brother have always ganged up against me and made me feel like a mistake. They still do. They find fault with everything I do. They make me feel guilty of not having a single friend. They even go on telling people that I don't have a single friend. I'll be 25 years old this September. And I still have no one to call my best friend but myself. I'm hated for just being simply better than everyone even at university. From the Dean to the lab coordinator, everyone hates me because I work on time, I value everyone's time, I hate injustice and lawlessness. I've become such a loner, anti-social and best off with my own shadow. I've always being made guilty my my mother who has made me fear that no one will attend my wedding or funeral bcs I'm like my father who is the only person who has been there for me whenever the world was against me, that I almost all the time. I can't seem to give in to shallow relationships, masked laughs and backstabbing. I feel like no one will ever love me. Sometimes I feel lost. Sometimes I feel like I'm the most unsuccessful person on earth bcs I haven't earned people or real relationships. Thank you for this video. I'm a new fan. I wish I'll be able to find someone who might want to be friends with me, like me and love me for being me.
We don't need others' validation and approval? Yet, we are social creatures? How to reconcile those?
Thanks for the question. I want to give it the time and thought it deserves. I will answer it either in my newsletter, podcast or TH-cam video so others who are going through something similar can hear as well.
Idk what to do in my situation tbh, I just got into a specialized highschool( like one of the best schools in my country) and when we are assigned a class we just have to stick with 32 people throughout the years in highschool and idk I did something wrong or I'm just not as good as others but everyone's been ignoring me, doesn't reply to me, not answering my greetings or my questions about school, nothing, in 3 months I only talked to about 10 of my classmates and half of them just kinda pushing me away every sentence they say. It's just too hard, idk what I should do, I don't want to exchange to another school because getting in where I am rn is hard and I don't really know how to get everyone to not hate me or ignoring me, it's just feels like I'm being discriminated but I'm no different than them. I'm just lost right now. Not knowing what to do, and I'm not going to go 3 years not talking to anyone one. I don't feel hopeless but helpless
Exactly what I needed to hear at the right moment. Mahalo 🙏🏻🐉🕉
If people don't like you you must have something very special they can't have or deserve
I feel thet way cause it is true ,i made all of them hate me when i started being myself and trust me i dont like being hated
Im so desperately trying to find out why in every single situation i am in only ONE person hates me! And they do with such passion. But i keep "finding why does everybody hate me" instead. Too completely different questions from each other...
But maybe you can answer this one too... so why is it at any place of work or any enviornment i delve into there is only one single person out of the group that is like water and oil to me. I get narcissistic vibes from them all the time. Like completely shut out from any real positve interactions with them. That one specific person is out to get me, not everyone else.
Really needed to hear this right now. Sending love
I have no friends no matter what i do the thing is even my family hates me you can tell because they dont show effection and never they said i am proud of you we never had had family dinner better yet if they had 1 im not present
Mine always has like me and they just stopped it's the most confusing pain I've ever gone through,
It is just hard to know that even my family hates me
Same pain has been years of unbearable
I gotta be the heavy weight champion of the most hated person. I’m kind but my deadly side is even kinder, that’s what people don’t see.
Thanks
Not to be negative but finding your tribe doesn’t exist. Been trying to do that for 4 years… long years. U til now. I purposely run from ppl now.
It was nuts, every human I met LITERALLY was a nut job, either they we’re completely fake Or my favourite they feel like I’m a councillor and they over share their live but when you try to make the conversation 2 way they immediately stop taking. Lol 😅 it’s a laughable joke. I’m seriously struggling! I also met like minded ppl who “ didn’t judge “ etc turned out eventually they turned into thief’s, completely lying about who they were! I really don’t get why I keep it used to keeping meeting those ppl. I have my husband and I intend to keep it that. I’m a complete b now, I’m hasty and want absolutely nothing to do with humans or the viruses. Your video is nice and I’m clearly trying to find peace in my self but when I e done that for many years, it’s like running into a wall with the stupidity out there
You're very blessed to at least have one person that is in your life, those that were in my life made sure to do what would kill me inside very slowly, sick twisted dark humor,bor converted control will one-day comeback id never want for anybody especially those I will always live even if they didnt
I doubt that the people who hate me have worse mental anguish than I do. Why should I be the bigger person when even now, the people who hate me can lean on social circles to support them while I don't. Your very premise is false.
I was mean to someone on the Internet and everybody in my school hates me even my best friends and I don't know what to do
I used to have friends and family but now I have no one that truly understand me and I stay away from everyone I don't trust no one anymore I am married but my wife doesn't care about me anymore and her and her people think I'm such an evil person and they all like to label me honestly I don't belong anywhere.
I don't think I'll be moving to any place with large populations you saw what happened last time I arrived
I’m commenting on here to have more videos like this recommended to me :)
Last year the friends I made were the best friends I had ever met.But they replaced me for someone else and now I went into the worse class possible. Let me explain. So we can easily get in trouble in this class so I’m trying not to because I don’t want my teacher to hate me. But my friends hate this so I just sit around at lunch in a crowd of talking people talking to my self on how I can make a new friend. I will try to hang around with them but not as much. Last year we made a new group of friends but at the end of last year 3 left and my other friends wanted more people to join so we invited more people but now I am getting yelled at by them because one friend just gives the other friend way too much much attention gives me less attention the first person that one friend goes to is the other friend I was talking about leaving me to sit alone with someone random.
Great video. Great points
Trying hard to accept the message in this nice video. But the people I work with for some reason still hate me.
basically everyone else is the problem ❤
Thank you
Thank you.
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People dont dislike us but the things we do which are not in their control they like to control for their benefit they dont realise that they should nit be involved way more than in our lives for example our parents does invlove in our life way more than we need unhealthy involvment
Wonderful words❤
Thank you. Só helpfull.