I was terrified of death/dying until just recently. Losing my mom to Acute Liver Failure in 2018 changed my perspective on life. I now want to learn all I can about the body and spirit after death. Thank you for this video. I can’t put into words how it helped ease some of my fears.
Chan thank you so much for watching and for sharing. I am so so sorry for your loss. You have no idea how much your words have touched me and confirmed the direction I am moving with this channel. I pray that God will continue to bless you with strength and peace. Please be sure to subscribe to the channel, like this video, check out other content on the channel, and share it with anyone that you think can use it or find it helpful. Thanks in advance
So true! Sorry for your loss! My Sisters funeral was yesterday and it was so sudden I still can’t process it, but it made me curious to search for the body process and what happens to prepare them for the funeral. That’s how I found this video 🕊💞
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Just make sure you have a personal relationship with Jesus and that's the best advice I can give. Get watered baptized and repent and live for God daily until it's your time. Be blessed
When I think of a funeral director I had a scary unsettling feeling..it is so good to hear you speak of the care you take. Your an amazing women! I thank you for being so respectful to the dead 🙏
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My mom when she passed away was skin and bones and very pale. At the viewing she was very bloated and the makeup that was applied to her face wasn't blended very well,but I was to distraught to care. I looked at it in a positive way. Her skin was full of color and she didn't look like skin and bones. Her body have been ravaged by cancer.My mom had wanted some Fendi perfume. I wasn't able to find it for her, for Christmas. A few days after she passed away. I went to a local store in town and across from the store a yellow box stood out and I had to go look at it. I went toward the box and it was a box of Fendi perfume. The day of her viewing I drenched a cotton ball with Fendi perfume and placed it inside a plastic bag and carried it with me. I went up to her and I took the cotton ball and I placed some the perfume on her wrist. I said to my mom here's the perfume I promised you Mom. A few days after the viewing I swear that I felt a slight breeze go past me like someome was walking by me and then a scent of the Fendi perfume was in the air.
Kat Parks it happens it way a of letting you know they are there I’ve had deceased cousin who smokes literally make cigarette smoke appear out of nowhere
My grandma came to me one day while I was taking a nap. She passed away in 2013 but in the dream she was wearing the dress we buried her in and she was telling me how she didn’t want to leave us but had no choice. Reason why I felt so much guilt was because the night before she passed I was going to go visit her at hospice but I since I just got off work and was tired, I thought I’d go visit her the next day. She passed away the following morning and i never got to see her again. But in the dream I cried so hard and it felt so damn real. I miss her and I think of her ever single day.
It seems like the funeral home tried to do the best they could with what they had to make your mom look as she did in her healthier days in life. And Im glad you were able to find the perfume ;)
We LOVE a respectful queen. You are so peaceful and open about this topic and it’s very refreshing, these are the questions that need to be answered more!! While it can be a little gruesome, it’s also life!! Thanks for being real, open, and honest about it!!!
I fully dressed , did hair and a touch of makeup on three of my family members . Believe it or not , it helps with the grieving process ... it was the last good thing I could do for them , because sometimes we all have that little tiny voice saying “ I could have done more “ , and this shush’s that little voice .
You are so correct Tina. Contributing to the care of loved ones for me has created a sense of peace and confidence in moments of questioning and uncertainty. Thank you so much for your commitment to service and for allowing myself and audience to share in your experience.
I don't think I could have done that with my own family, it would have been to hard and emotional. I'm glad you were able to give them that last gift. I prefer to remember them at their best...some things you just cant unsee.
You are truly a beautiful spirit. My son passed 3 yrs ago, he had just turned 28. I had a one day funeral but had him cremated to be close to me. I think the funeral home people were very nice and took good care of my son and he looked so handsome. He passed from an OD that he fought years to quit. God be with him and you also.
Sandra Sawicki thank you so much Sandra. I am so sorry for your loss. How are you today? Thank you for your words and your willingness to share such a personal experience.
The Grave Woman Hello, I’m doing better as time passes but my life has changed drastically forever. Your kindness understands that each person that has passed is someone’s loved one, father, mother, sister and unfortunately the worst, child. Thank God for someone like you that can help us get through the worst days of our lives. God bless you always 🙏🏻❤️
I'm so sorry you lost your son to this disease...I thank God for another day Clean , I just passed 3 years after being an addict for 20+ years. Just know when he passed he didn't feel any pain and he will never have to feel that pain again 😢💔🙏
If I die and my bag of weed is found on me , well put it back in my pocket , and make sure i have a lighter and rolling papers zig , zags will do nicely thank you 😍
You have a job that must be both interesting and depressing at times. But, what you probably don’t get is enough appreciation for the work you do. Actually I must admit that I never stopped to think about this side of the funeral industry. So, let me just say thank you for all that you do to bring comfort and peace to the loved ones of the deceased and helping them to have as much of a positive last memory as possible.🙂
Theresa, thank you so much. I appreciate your kind words and thoughtfulness. It can be a thankless job at times but overall most people are very very very very grateful. I love the work I do so it makes the depressing and dark times easier to cope with and through. Thanks so much for your kindness!
When I was 17 I volunteered at the county morgue and assisted with autopsies and we had to collect their "property" and we have had to remove jewelry, clothing etc. A job I will never forget that's for sure. ❤
When my brother passed I had to go cut his hair and that shit was hard I have other brothers and sisters but me and him grew up in the house sane tine but anyway I just told myself this is the last thing you get to do for him so lets get it
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I wasnt expecting to see you channel on my recommendations but this is the second video I watched of yours and you got my attention! I love your videos. So respectable, professional and you sound passionate about your field of profession! Thank you
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Love your videos! So happy to see more open death talk from professionals! My best friend's father died suddenly a few years back and she had him cremated. I told her it was OK to open the urn, it wasn't weird or inappropriate, and what she should probably expect to find. She called me because she was concerned and confused that other than ashes, small bone fragments, and ID chip there was also 49 cents of loose change. I told her it was a good thing because it meant that the crematory was honest and respectful. I also mentioned that it was the most appropriate thing I could think of because her father never had a round number of cash nor did he ever give her a 5, 10, or 20 for something for herself. If he did, he made us go down to the store and buy a gallon of milk then he would give her the odd numbered change to go see a movie. She was always embarrassed about that when we were younger. Now, she thinks of it as something very special that only she and her father shared and always will. I'm grateful to the crematory staff for keeping that change with the ashes rather than giving it to her seperately. I think it helped her process some of her grief.
Katie Orwig thank you so much for watching Katie. That experience sound so precious and meaningful. It furthers my belief that our dearly departed loved one are always with us and that they yearn to connect with us in meaningful and special ways. Thank you so much for sharing this story and thank you so much for your support!!! Isn’t it funny how the universe aligned for that to happen for your friend?
@@TheGraveWoman Thank you right back. Her father's death was a very brutal process on her as she was left as executor. She never got a moment to grieve for herself and I didn't make it back home to help her in time to stop the funeral home from extorting her, but I did have a talk with them when I arrived to let them know that I can't afford the schooling so I have been working on self-teaching in the mean time and I follow morticians on TH-cam; I'm not going to allow them to continue doing that to her because she is young and inexperienced. Honestly, I hesitated to mention that memory to her but my Death Doula training told me to tell her and take it from there. After a moment of thinking, she laughed. For the first time in 2 weeks, she smiled and laughed. She said that factor never would have occurred to her. So, every other member of the family took a bit of ashes but she took enough of the change so that she and her dad always have an odd amount of change on them, lol.
Katie Orwig I would love to hear about your experience as a death doula and what exactly it is that you do. I am thinking of adding that to my line of services.
I love that you have compassion and some of these situations effect you and you haven’t become desensitized to them. I don’t mean I am happy if it upsets you. I just think it’s sweet that the deceased is with a very caring individual in their last moments before burial. God bless.
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This is very informative..... Because every since I was four years old I had a phobia of dead people. I remember just as if it happened yesterday. I was with my mom and we went to the funeral home to view my great grandmother and they had her hair combed up away from her face and it looked real scary to me. At that point in time that's when I began to be terrified of dead people. When my mother died I touched her hand and she felt hard and cold but me touching my mom actually took some of that phobia away from me.....Thank you so much for your love and kindness on this subject!
Renee I firstly want to express my condolences for the loss of your mother. Our experiences as children affect us as adults in all ways later in life. I am glad that through your loss you found some comfort in spending time with your mother. Thanks you so much for watching and please stay tuned for more videos in which I will address the fear of death and the deceased.
@@TheGraveWoman Yes maam! I thank God for you because these videos help a lot people understand that death is going to happen to us all but the most important thing is love and the remembrance of that loved one. ❤❤❤❤
So I had to leave a comment bc you asked. I was going to comment then said no. Then you asked so here we are. You have respected this subject so well I am just blown away. We all deal with death. See it. Hear it. Feel it. We're trying to heal in my family from the loss of a 18 month old baby, not even two years ago. My niece. I dont think we will ever be whole again. Pneumonia. Any how. I am scared daily of life anymore. I think I handled last year better than I have last 6 months. Very close tight nit family. We've lost quite a few members this past decade. Maybe your channel will help. Here's hoping. Thank you for talking with care in your voice and obviously love in your heart. God Bless.
@@TheGraveWoman I'm so honored you replied. Bless you and yours as well. I'm learning a lot from you. Please please always continue with your videos and sensitive subjects. I would like to continue to converse and seek help. Never feel like you have to rush for me. A message is just a message. I have a lot of times on my hands. I take care of the elderly for a living, along w my 2 and lol 3 kids. A bonus child, my sons gf. My hubby works all the time. So I've been grieving alone. I appreciate all your kind words. May many more blessings come your way. ♣️💚♣️
Just found your channel. Excellent video! Thank you for discouraging drinking and driving. My dad's older son died 5 months before I was born, at 17 years old in a drunk driving accident. He was so excited to be an older brother to me. Unfortunately, he decided to drive drunk and his friends didn't stop him. I read the police report of his accident and it broke my heart. I look forward to watching more of your videos!
Hi Erin. I would firstly like to express my condolences for the loss of your older brother. I can not imagine what pain and grief that your family experienced as a result of a poor decision made so hastily. Thank you so much for watching and for sharing your story. I appreciate your words and look forward to corresponding with you in the comment section.
@@TheGraveWoman I look forward to corresponding with you as well! My father also died relatively young (64) and my mom, sister and I witnessed his death. I currently work in geriatrics but am very interested in mortuary sciences. Thanks for your response! I look forward to learning from you!
I am so happy that you were able to help with your Mommy. Thank you and thank you so much for watching and sharing . Please be sure to subscribe and share this and any videos from the channel with those you think can use them
That’s a job I wouldn’t be able to do, especially when you mentioned the trauma debris removal. You know that person wasn’t ready to go and that has to make it so hard. So glad such caring people like you are capable of doing this ❤️
I helped "lay out", as it was called, my two grandmothers with my mother. It was the old-fashioned way with a bandage under the jaw to the top of the head, coins over the eyes and hands in repose over the chest until rigor mortis was come and gone. Then we dressed them in the clothes they had chosen, cleaned their faces and hands, applied pale nail varnish and a little blusher and lipstick and finally brushed and set their hair. During this process there are quite a lot of bodily noises and excretion of wind and odour. I was 24 when my first grandmother died and this process was quite disturbing to me. By the time my second grandmother died I had had my children and had been to many family funerals and so I wasn't quite so traumatised. Luckily I think it's unusual now for family to lay out the body. Not nice.
Hello beautiful! Your video randomly popped up on my news feed but I am thankful. I have always been low key infatuated with the deceased. When I was a child, my relatives stated that I was weird as hell for desiring to be a Funeral Director/Mortician.
Hi there. Thank you so much for watching. I was the same exact way as a child. I am so grateful that my Uncle was there to guide me and answer all of my "weirdo/crazy" questions. I am so happy that you're here
From one funeral professional to another, I can appreciate what you have done here. People often fear the unknown and unfathomable deeds we perform on a daily basis. Thank you for presenting this in such a dignified manner......You remind me alot of myself in your calm demeanor and compassionate communication base.....keep up the good work Sis!
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This video randomly popped up in my feed and I thought you were a grave robber or something 😭 Now that I have watched the full video, I have full on respect for you.
You explain things so calmly. I thought you don't want to watch this but ,The way the calm in your voice just really makes information really enlightens you. Not scary at all just letting you know what has to be done to care ❤ for your loved one .Thank you so much.
Thank you for providing families with the most beautiful services you can I know it can't be easy but you putting in the work so the family can see them beautiful one last time to say goodbye is so wonderful of you and people like you, thank you
You are the sweetest little thing. God sure placed you in the perfect career. I hope you realize what a gift of comfort you are to families and friends of the deceased. God bless you little lamb!
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Thank you.before I got sick and disabled I always wanted to be a forensic technologist to the M.E or the Embalmer.thank you for your service.although this career is not for the squimish it must be done.alot of people think you don't have feelings,but I know you have went home and thought about a client or baby and it brought you to tears.may Jesus Christ bless you and embrace when your time comes to leave this world.🙏🙏🌹🌹🌹🌹
Just happened to come across this. Never gave anything like this a thought before! I agree with person below that you are so thoughtful and respectful and give the information professionally. You are beautiful and engaging to watch and listen to. :) You are such a beautiful young woman and did a very nice job with this topic.
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Thank you for demystifying the mortuary process. You are very professional and forthcoming in your delivery. You need to have a TV program. Love you for giving us the 411 of behind closed doors of the mortuary process.
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Thanks for an informative video. I will say though, with the animals nibbling on their deceased owners strictly for survival, the animals are always very carefully tested by the local animal control before they are put down. Most are found to never ever be aggressive in any manner. I hope where u are, that they do this and not just assume the pet is bad.
Very good presentation, I chuckled when you spoke of your least favorite task of food being in their mouth. When I was working in nursing vomit bothered me more than feces (unless mixed with blood from a GI Bleed). You often have a difficult job of presenting people that have been disfigured. God Bless you job.
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Very impressive. You seem to be a caring individual and I am sure you take the utmost care to bring dignity and comfort to the loved ones and the deceased.
Thank you for being so compassionate, understanding, loving and thorough through process of decomposition and embalming of funeralizing a loved one. Lost my grandfather, Uncle and beloved mother all in 2016 and now recently lost my love of life. I know God is my first and forever love until eternity.
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Grave woman, I find this kinda stuff really interests me. You do a great job. I like learning about autopsy also. My aunt & uncle owned a funeral home. They took care of my little sister of 3. Can't wait to hear more.
I know this is weird but I would love to see a live video of some of the things you mentioned. My brother in law is a mortician and I'm always picking him for stories and visits while he's working. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us, and like someone else mentioned, you def need your own show!
Thanks so much for watching. I will try to incorporate more funeral home footage BUT I am going to be honest and tell you that the funeral home is a very sacred place for me and I do all I can do to protect the deceased and their families from becoming a spectacle. In addition I am not the owner and will need be granted permissions first.
You are an Empath. That’s why you are so tender toward the deceased in your care. What a sweet lady you are. You are a credit to your profession and those you serve. ❤️
I majored in environmental and mortuary sciences. The mortuary business is really hard to get into because they're mostly family businesses and my family was not in that business.
Idk where this came from. But I will say this! Hats off to you, I'm in tears just picturing what you have to do. I couldn't imagine this. You are ESSENTIAL!!! THANK YOU FOR LOVING YOUR JOB AND DOING IT WITH CARE. ❣
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Thank you so much for the respect that you give to the people who have passed. I am sure what you do gives you a true appreciation for your family friends and life.
Perfect timing. I applied for a position with the Medical Examiners office. I will be around the descendant, help move them and talk to their families. This will be new for me. This video gives good insight.
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@@TheGraveWoman - After losing several people close to me, I have wanted to enter the funeral business but have a weak stomach! I applaud your efforts. While watching your video, which I enjoyed, I kept wondering... "Then what...?" So, after you found the winning lottery ticket, do y'all notify the next of kin? I guess I wanted to hear the ultimate action of what happened after y'all found the oddity!
@@robingentry6987 YES, I was wondering what happened to the "winning" lottery ticket as well... how easy would it be for someone to just slip it into their pocket... the "ending" of this story HAS to be told....please
@samuel moore ..YUUUP!.. exactly.. no way to prove that ticket does not belong to you..no matter where you heisted/picked it up from..."Your Loss/My Gain"
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Thanks for such an interesting video and also for being such a kind compassionate human being .I've just got to ask this but is that a model of a red London bus on the shelf behind you? I'm from England and I'm intrigued :)xx
Interesting, Very Interesting.. I saw your video and I had to listen to your findings. I bet there's more that could be revealed, but you took the Tasteful way to present the video. Thank you for your service and gift cause, I couldn't do it!
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New subscriber 🙋🏻♀️ I love channels like yours! Idk why people are so scared to talk about death, it’s the only certainty in life, let’s be honest 💀 soo fascinating!!
Very interesting. You have such a beautiful spirit when you talk...very respectful. I'm sure you have comforted many families in their time of need. Bless you🙏
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Wow very very interesting things that happen when death occurs I Just hope I dont have twizzlers in my mouth when the good lord decides to take me....lol....love your videos ......
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Thank you for creating this video. I never gave much thought to the deseased having a pet and once they expire the pet becomes trapped with no food source resort to eat the remains of their owner. I know so many cat lovers that if they expire they have no one to look in on them regularly to make sure they are all right, or manage the care of their pets on a daily basis to protect resident who lives alone and protect their pets from starvation, as they become trapped in a home with an expired owner. I will share your wisdom with others which have pets.
Hi there Gary. Thanks so much for watching. Once the animal taste human flesh and blood they develop an affinity which makes them dangerous and prone to biting. The animal is not always euthanized. Since posting this video I have learned a lot from animal care takers and professionals. Many great resources there. Thanks so much for watching and submitting your question. Please be sure to subscribe, like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance. Please be sure to subscribe, like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance.
When you come across a bullet or knife tip do you have to notify the police? I always wondered about that. How is possible evidence of a crime handled. your video is informative and and respectful. thank for the info
Thanks so much for watching. It all depends on the circumstances surrounding the death. Most times in cases where some one has been murdered, the medical examiner releases the body to the funeral home. It is proper protocol to inform them of any findings but in most cases (which are very rare by the way) we are instructed to discard.
I'm currently in school for mortuary science and all I seem to be watching is your videos and little miss funerals lol. you should do a video on what attracted you to your profession!
You are an amazing women...thank you for your service. Only someone with a special gift from God can do the things that are necessary to be done. Thank you so much!!
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I see it another way when it comes to the lottery winner who committed suicide,no matter how dark life seems hold because you are so close to a breakthrough...(something I have to continue thinking when times seems hopeless)
Very informative video. I grew up around the funeral home business, my godfather and my cousins godfather both worked at funeral homes. I am intrigued by the business. I will be watching your videos and Thank you for your professionalism.
I may have overlooked this but have you found weapons? Though not often we have found guns and switchblades hidden on the deceased. This was not uncommon in the ER. They are never returned to the family ( Nor are they even acknowledged )but the police with the witness of two professionals and an administrator along with a detailed incident report. The other strange findings are discovering several of the men and women killed in 9/11 as well as other situations had long ongoing relationships with other people that the spouse was totally unaware of - and as well convoluted relationships happening after 9/11 with the widows and rescue workers. I took care of folks several weeks after that horrible day and saw the devastation in every area of victims and their family lives. I was made aware of one man had a wife in Queens and a wife in NJ - he only knew about them. It became known when they both applied for benefits. Similar with one wife in Staten Island and another also in Staten Island -- not far from one another! Guess you can do this stuff when you make hundreds of thousands to millions and have a wife who just accepts it all with no questions. www.nytimes.com/2004/05/23/magazine/one-very-tangled-post-9-11-affair.html When I was in Little Rock Ark- we had a patient who had been shot in the head over 85 cents in a card game. Along attempt was made to salvage him. During that time we followed protcol to place relatives in a private room. This room had several boxes of tissues and a hospital phone. As the staff was working on the victim more and more family members arrived. Evey 10 to 15 minutes they are given updates. I never used positive statements but more like - we are doing everything we can/ would you like to call your minister or priest to be with you / when this is ll over the MD will be out to meet you and explain everything / would you like our social worker to come down and be with you.. Trying to let them know things are going south. Finally, the attending neurosurgeon called the code and pronounced him dead. This MD was from England he was excellent as a neurosurgeon but his people skills were always aloof and cold and often just plain blunt. I went with him as he spoke to the family. He started giving them unnecessary information in a very dry monotone style....talked about what IV solutions were used - the patient's hearts rhythm upon arrival the need for a tube to be put in to help in getting air in his lungs and he listed what were the meds used. I was biting my inner lip thinking oh no - this is over the top for this poor family. Finally one of the family members said well how is he doing? Very dry in his typical English style he said -- I have been trying to tell you he is no longer living. Followed up with a quick follow up a statement that he was sorry but he had to run along now. These people were one by one taking that in as the anesthesia of shock was starting to set in as they processed it all Different folks and family systems grieve in different ways. This family in their pain and shock were extremely emotional. Besides the tears, there seemed to want to out-scream each other as well as passing out one after the other. I told them I will step out and be back shortly and closed the door allowing them to be together as a family. Also that they could see him before they leave and give us some time to get him ready. One minute after I stepped out I heard not so much expression of grief but anger and rage. Then heard the saying - GET HER - SLAP THAT BITCH - YOU GO, GIRL PULL IT PULL IT OFF! I yelled over to my charge nurse (Bonnie) to come to here stat !!!! We both went in the room to find two very large women not only on the floor but rolling over each other punching scratching slapping each other - earrings were flying ... as well as weaves. To say the least, it was a hot mess. Bonnie my supervisor professional at all times started in her meek gentle voice - that she knows they are in pain but the ER can not have this. I really did not think anyone heard her as the cheering and yelling that was going on. Finally, I said in a loud voice-BONNIE I CALLED AND THE POLICE WILL BE HEAR ANY MOMENT !!! Everything came to a complete stop immediately !! Of course, I did not call ht the police ... but they did not know that. Hospital security was there but they are bound by policy not to touch a visitor and use verbal techniques to squelch outburst. GRRRR Well, come to find out the patient was newly married and along with the crowds of family coming in it was discovered that he had a girlfriend who thought she should be there!!! We denied the family to be with the deceased as a matter of safety/explained that they could see him when they went to the funeral home to make arrangements ( Sometimes white lies are not so bad lol) We had enough now let the funeral folks deal with this mess and they left soon. I made sure to say goodbye to his boys' mom and dad as well as his shaken grandparents. I intentionally ignored the wife and girlfriend not obvious just quiet avoidance. I then went to the office to fill out documentation of the entire incident. Got some more boxes of tissues for the private family room which needed to be restocked and straightened up. I looked up and lo and behold there were the new widow and girlfriend of the deceased walking out crying but clearly supporting each other saying accolades of what a good man the deceased was !!!! There just a few minutes ago they were rolling around on the floor in the fight of their lives ...now walking out holding each other up and comforting each other. All I could think was I wonder if this young man could see this who scenario and who would he be rooting for !!!!! Sometimes you got to laugh. Two times in my career I have found considerable amounts of money. I was doing post mortem care for an extremely obese woman who had a sudden death event. There were two of us trying to place and wrap her in a shroud. We turned her over and when turned back found many 100 dollar bills. Had no idea where they came from. Turned her over to the other side and when turned back had more money in large denominations. Then it hit me where the money was coming from ...I lifted up her right breast and there were even more rolls of money tucked in the folds of skin- the same on the right breast. These stayed in place during a considerable period of resuscitation - aggressive CPR/defibrillations and transport from her place to the ambulance to the ER. The thought of the saying -- pennies from heaven -- and I had to contain my laughter as I was notifying the admin and nursing supervisor. Who came counted and took the monies. So a total of 4 witnesses were present and signed the incident form. I did not know the follow up of which of her many children the money was given to. Grateful for that as families/money and death can get very messy. I try to live my not my circus, not my monkies. The second time was when a homeless man was brought into the ER and quickly deteriorated and expired. Once again doing post mortem care we found in his pockets/socks and underwear rolls of money. I remember this poor soul looking wasted and gaunt wondering how he could have used that money to eat. Sad he died a rich hungry man.I do not remember the exact amount but it was way over 10000 dollars. It was cold out and his coat was thin -- this poor soul died cold and hungry. So very sad. I apologize for the length but you helped me process some deep memories that I think were hidden deep. Thank you. If you would like I can edit and shorten it
Silentfades, thank you so much for sharing your stories. Please do not apologize for sharing or expressing yourself. This is a safe place for all to express themselves. As long as you are respectful and kind you have no reason to apologize. I am so glad that whatever I said was used to help you process your thoughts and feelings. Your stories are, well... for lack of a better word CRAZY! I can only imagine that you have many many many more. I wonder what has come of those families and what lessons they gained from their experiences. I can tell that you use your humor to keep things light and that you are at all times a professional. Thank you for watching and for feeling safe enough to allow us to take a glimpse into your world. Peace and Blessings.
@@alexandrac9363 I was there 1979 to 1981. Clinton was governor. Worked in the ER of Childrens Hospital. Baptist CCU /ICU and ER. Also per dieum at North Little Rock Hospital I loved the people -had great professional expiriences. Saw Gov Clinton 1 time and Mrs Clinton and Chelsa often. Got to meet and eat with Gov Clinton mother - worked at the hospital and was very smart and a lovely lady.
I am too! Thank you and thank you so much for watching and sharing your kind words. Please be sure to subscribe and share this and any videos from the channel with those you think can use them
I do have a random question that's not related to this video....have you ever encountered any strange or unusual experiences while working with the deceased? Paranormal to say the least? If so, could you make a video about your experiences some time? Thank you!
Hi Ashley, actually yes and I plan to discuss them more in detail in future videos. Please be sure to subscribe, like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance.
Hi Janissa. I am glad that the universe saw fit to connect us. Thanks for watching. Feel free to subscribe and check out some of the 100+ other videos. I'd love to hear your perspectives.
Comment section, comic section, same thing! I just found you and find your presentation delightful. Subject matter maybe morbid to some , but, I find it fascinating. I subbed. Do you have any advice on body donation for dissection at university? I've resigned myself to the fact, that this will be the only way I'll ever go to college. Seriously, though, I'm serious. I've no family that would want to deal with my carcass. Seems like a win, win. Thx. 💌
Hi Lisa. Thank you so much for watching. I will be doing a video on body donation really soon. In the meantime if I were you I would look into contacting local medical schools and anatomical labs. What state are you located? Perhaps I can help. I have a few connections her in Georgia. PS: I LOVE YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR!
I'm in Oklahoma. I appreciate your response. I like to think that my sense of humor is my last good feature. At 62, all that's left is humor unless you just WANT to be miserable.
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Silly question which I'm sure has an obvious answer lol. But why do they put the animal down after? 🤔 Love your videos! You are so sweet and down to earth 🤗❤️
Rachael Hoffert Hi Rachael✋🏾!!! So not a silly question but to answer it; the put the animal down because it has acquired a taste for human flesh and could become violent or a danger to other humans it comes in contact with. It now has a taste for blood so to speak! This does not ALWAYS happen but does in most cases. Thank you soooo much for watching, your support and for the kind compliment 🥰🥰🥰!
Why is this in my recommendations? Why did I actually watch it? Why did I ACTUALLY like it?
You have such a calming voice.
BECAUSE IT'S AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks so much for tuning in and for the compliment. Be sure to subscribe.
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"Death Angel" 🙏💛🙏
Me too!
Same lol
I was terrified of death/dying until just recently. Losing my mom to Acute Liver Failure in 2018 changed my perspective on life. I now want to learn all I can about the body and spirit after death. Thank you for this video. I can’t put into words how it helped ease some of my fears.
Chan thank you so much for watching and for sharing. I am so so sorry for your loss. You have no idea how much your words have touched me and confirmed the direction I am moving with this channel. I pray that God will continue to bless you with strength and peace. Please be sure to subscribe to the channel, like this video, check out other content on the channel, and share it with anyone that you think can use it or find it helpful. Thanks in advance
So true! Sorry for your loss! My Sisters funeral was yesterday and it was so sudden I still can’t process it, but it made me curious to search for the body process and what happens to prepare them for the funeral. That’s how I found this video 🕊💞
Chante Shivaughn Chante I am soooo sorry for your loss 💓
You don't have to Fear Death. JESUS gives eternal life.❤Repent and Believe The Gospel.❤ Call on His name and ask Him To save You.❤ and when you you leave this place called earth , you will be in His Paradise.❤ You will be present with The LORD. Jesus loves you and He died so that you might have LIFE Eternal.💕❤ Please Repent & Believe the Gospel today and you will receive eternal life.❤ Jesus Loves you.❤
Just make sure you have a personal relationship with Jesus and that's the best advice I can give. Get watered baptized and repent and live for God daily until it's your time. Be blessed
When I think of a funeral director I had a scary unsettling feeling..it is so good to hear you speak of the care you take. Your an amazing women! I thank you for being so respectful to the dead 🙏
Alaina, thank you so much for watching. Your words are so kind and touching. Please be sure to subscribe, like this video and share this and any other content you enjoy with others
My mom when she passed away was skin and bones and very pale. At the viewing she was very bloated and the makeup that was applied to her face wasn't blended very well,but I was to distraught to care. I looked at it in a positive way. Her skin was full of color and she didn't look like skin and bones. Her body have been ravaged by cancer.My mom had wanted some Fendi perfume. I wasn't able to find it for her, for Christmas. A few days after she passed away. I went to a local store in town and across from the store a yellow box stood out and I had to go look at it. I went toward the box and it was a box of Fendi perfume. The day of her viewing I drenched a cotton ball with Fendi perfume and placed it inside a plastic bag and carried it with me. I went up to her and I took the cotton ball and I placed some the perfume on her wrist. I said to my mom here's the perfume I promised you Mom. A few days after the viewing I swear that I felt a slight breeze go past me like someome was walking by me and then a scent of the Fendi perfume was in the air.
Kat Parks it happens it way a of letting you know they are there I’ve had deceased cousin who smokes literally make cigarette smoke appear out of nowhere
This just broke my heart
My grandma came to me one day while I was taking a nap. She passed away in 2013 but in the dream she was wearing the dress we buried her in and she was telling me how she didn’t want to leave us but had no choice. Reason why I felt so much guilt was because the night before she passed I was going to go visit her at hospice but I since I just got off work and was tired, I thought I’d go visit her the next day. She passed away the following morning and i never got to see her again. But in the dream I cried so hard and it felt so damn real. I miss her and I think of her ever single day.
It seems like the funeral home tried to do the best they could with what they had to make your mom look as she did in her healthier days in life. And Im glad you were able to find the perfume ;)
Omg this has me in tears
I’m so sorry about your mom 🥺
We LOVE a respectful queen. You are so peaceful and open about this topic and it’s very refreshing, these are the questions that need to be answered more!! While it can be a little gruesome, it’s also life!! Thanks for being real, open, and honest about it!!!
Thank you so much. Your words have really touched my heart. I LOVE funeral service and love what I do. Thanks for watching
I fully dressed , did hair and a touch of makeup on three of my family members . Believe it or not , it helps with the grieving process ... it was the last good thing I could do for them , because sometimes we all have that little tiny voice saying “ I could have done more “ , and this shush’s that little voice .
You are so correct Tina. Contributing to the care of loved ones for me has created a sense of peace and confidence in moments of questioning and uncertainty. Thank you so much for your commitment to service and for allowing myself and audience to share in your experience.
I don't think I could have done that with my own family, it would have been to hard and emotional. I'm glad you were able to give them that last gift. I prefer to remember them at their best...some things you just cant unsee.
Tina that is a beautiful way to give love and care for your family.
I do believe that sis
I did my mother in law's hair when she passed for her viewing.
I have family in the funeral business and you give honor and respect to the profession. I am enjoying your videos very much.
Lori Rubush thank you so much! Your words mean so much to me. I appreciate your taking the time to share them. 😘🥰
You're very respectful to the deceased
Thank you so much for watching and for your extremely kind words and observation. I truly appreciate them.
Yeah just imagine disrespecting a deceased person then all the sudden they come back and hunt you😫😫hell I'll respect them as well
Many of these things I assumed the hospital or medical examiner would take care of. Thank you for educating me. Take care everyone 🙂
You are so welcome. Thanks for watching
You are truly a beautiful spirit. My son passed 3 yrs ago, he had just turned 28. I had a one day funeral but had him cremated to be close to me. I think the funeral home people were very nice and took good care of my son and he looked so handsome. He passed from an OD that he fought years to quit. God be with him and you also.
Sandra Sawicki thank you so much Sandra. I am so sorry for your loss. How are you today? Thank you for your words and your willingness to share such a personal experience.
The Grave Woman Hello, I’m doing better as time passes but my life has changed drastically forever. Your kindness understands that each person that has passed is someone’s loved one, father, mother, sister and unfortunately the worst, child. Thank God for someone like you that can help us get through the worst days of our lives. God bless you always 🙏🏻❤️
Sandra Sawicki 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 God Bless you! I honestly don’t know what else to say. I wish I had words but I don’t. God bless you and your family!
So sorry for your loss May God be with you and the family
I'm so sorry you lost your son to this disease...I thank God for another day Clean , I just passed 3 years after being an addict for 20+ years. Just know when he passed he didn't feel any pain and he will never have to feel that pain again 😢💔🙏
If I die and my bag of weed is found on me , well put it back in my pocket , and make sure i have a lighter and rolling papers zig , zags will do nicely thank you 😍
LOL! Will do, LOL!
Sounds about right 😳
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You have a job that must be both interesting and depressing at times. But, what you probably don’t get is enough appreciation for the work you do. Actually I must admit that I never stopped to think about this side of the funeral industry. So, let me just say thank you for all that you do to bring comfort and peace to the loved ones of the deceased and helping them to have as much of a positive last memory as possible.🙂
Theresa, thank you so much. I appreciate your kind words and thoughtfulness. It can be a thankless job at times but overall most people are very very very very grateful. I love the work I do so it makes the depressing and dark times easier to cope with and through. Thanks so much for your kindness!
When I was 17 I volunteered at the county morgue and assisted with autopsies and we had to collect their "property" and we have had to remove jewelry, clothing etc. A job I will never forget that's for sure. ❤
WOW! What an amazing job for a teenager. I am almost jealous
@@TheGraveWoman Yes it was an awesome job!!! I subscribed as soon as I saw your channel!! I like your channel and content!! 💯❤❤❤👏👏👏
When my brother passed I had to go cut his hair and that shit was hard I have other brothers and sisters but me and him grew up in the house sane tine but anyway I just told myself this is the last thing you get to do for him so lets get it
J.T. Leyva I cut my brothers hair and mustache! Last thing I could do for him.. Was hard, but knew I had to. Only brother I had💔
@Emily Burton thank you and same to you
@@toniehatfield7342 yes sir sorry for your loss there in a better place looking over us
I would be cut my hair over my dead body..woops that didn't come out right.
J.T. I am so sorry for your loss. I can not imagine how hard that was for you. I thank you so much for sharing and for being so vulnerable. Please be sure to subscribe to the channel, like this video, check out other content on the channel, and share it with anyone that you think can use it or find it helpful. Thanks in advance
I wasnt expecting to see you channel on my recommendations but this is the second video I watched of yours and you got my attention! I love your videos. So respectable, professional and you sound passionate about your field of profession! Thank you
Thank you so much for watching Sorsha. I truly appreciate your kind words and you watching my videos. Stay tuned for more
Intelligent answers clear and precise. She’s easy to listen to
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Love your videos! So happy to see more open death talk from professionals!
My best friend's father died suddenly a few years back and she had him cremated. I told her it was OK to open the urn, it wasn't weird or inappropriate, and what she should probably expect to find. She called me because she was concerned and confused that other than ashes, small bone fragments, and ID chip there was also 49 cents of loose change. I told her it was a good thing because it meant that the crematory was honest and respectful. I also mentioned that it was the most appropriate thing I could think of because her father never had a round number of cash nor did he ever give her a 5, 10, or 20 for something for herself. If he did, he made us go down to the store and buy a gallon of milk then he would give her the odd numbered change to go see a movie. She was always embarrassed about that when we were younger. Now, she thinks of it as something very special that only she and her father shared and always will.
I'm grateful to the crematory staff for keeping that change with the ashes rather than giving it to her seperately. I think it helped her process some of her grief.
Katie Orwig thank you so much for watching Katie. That experience sound so precious and meaningful. It furthers my belief that our dearly departed loved one are always with us and that they yearn to connect with us in meaningful and special ways. Thank you so much for sharing this story and thank you so much for your support!!! Isn’t it funny how the universe aligned for that to happen for your friend?
@@TheGraveWoman Thank you right back. Her father's death was a very brutal process on her as she was left as executor. She never got a moment to grieve for herself and I didn't make it back home to help her in time to stop the funeral home from extorting her, but I did have a talk with them when I arrived to let them know that I can't afford the schooling so I have been working on self-teaching in the mean time and I follow morticians on TH-cam; I'm not going to allow them to continue doing that to her because she is young and inexperienced.
Honestly, I hesitated to mention that memory to her but my Death Doula training told me to tell her and take it from there. After a moment of thinking, she laughed. For the first time in 2 weeks, she smiled and laughed. She said that factor never would have occurred to her. So, every other member of the family took a bit of ashes but she took enough of the change so that she and her dad always have an odd amount of change on them, lol.
Katie Orwig I would love to hear about your experience as a death doula and what exactly it is that you do. I am thinking of adding that to my line of services.
I love that you have compassion and some of these situations effect you and you haven’t become desensitized to them. I don’t mean I am happy if it upsets you. I just think it’s sweet that the deceased is with a very caring individual in their last moments before burial. God bless.
Thank you so much Scrapper900 that is so kind and sweet of you. Also, thank you so much for watching. Please be sure to subscribe and browse the other videos.
This is very informative..... Because every since I was four years old I had a phobia of dead people. I remember just as if it happened yesterday. I was with my mom and we went to the funeral home to view my great grandmother and they had her hair combed up away from her face and it looked real scary to me. At that point in time that's when I began to be terrified of dead people. When my mother died I touched her hand and she felt hard and cold but me touching my mom actually took some of that phobia away from me.....Thank you so much for your love and kindness on this subject!
Renee I firstly want to express my condolences for the loss of your mother. Our experiences as children affect us as adults in all ways later in life. I am glad that through your loss you found some comfort in spending time with your mother. Thanks you so much for watching and please stay tuned for more videos in which I will address the fear of death and the deceased.
@@TheGraveWoman Yes maam! I thank God for you because these videos help a lot people understand that death is going to happen to us all but the most important thing is love and the remembrance of that loved one. ❤❤❤❤
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Idk why this was recommended to me, but it’s interesting.
MzLady me either
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We nurses can tell some stories, too...I enjoyed your video. I’m subscribed and look forward to more! Thank you!
Thanks so much for watching Mary! Thank you for the work that you do to help and care for others!
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So I had to leave a comment bc you asked. I was going to comment then said no. Then you asked so here we are. You have respected this subject so well I am just blown away. We all deal with death. See it. Hear it. Feel it. We're trying to heal in my family from the loss of a 18 month old baby, not even two years ago. My niece. I dont think we will ever be whole again. Pneumonia. Any how. I am scared daily of life anymore. I think I handled last year better than I have last 6 months. Very close tight nit family. We've lost quite a few members this past decade. Maybe your channel will help. Here's hoping. Thank you for talking with care in your voice and obviously love in your heart. God Bless.
I am praying for you Jennifer. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing
@@TheGraveWoman I'm so honored you replied. Bless you and yours as well. I'm learning a lot from you. Please please always continue with your videos and sensitive subjects. I would like to continue to converse and seek help. Never feel like you have to rush for me. A message is just a message. I have a lot of times on my hands. I take care of the elderly for a living, along w my 2 and lol 3 kids. A bonus child, my sons gf. My hubby works all the time. So I've been grieving alone. I appreciate all your kind words. May many more blessings come your way. ♣️💚♣️
Just found your channel. Excellent video! Thank you for discouraging drinking and driving. My dad's older son died 5 months before I was born, at 17 years old in a drunk driving accident. He was so excited to be an older brother to me. Unfortunately, he decided to drive drunk and his friends didn't stop him. I read the police report of his accident and it broke my heart.
I look forward to watching more of your videos!
Hi Erin. I would firstly like to express my condolences for the loss of your older brother. I can not imagine what pain and grief that your family experienced as a result of a poor decision made so hastily. Thank you so much for watching and for sharing your story. I appreciate your words and look forward to corresponding with you in the comment section.
@@TheGraveWoman I look forward to corresponding with you as well! My father also died relatively young (64) and my mom, sister and I witnessed his death. I currently work in geriatrics but am very interested in mortuary sciences. Thanks for your response! I look forward to learning from you!
I found your channel very interesting and looking forward to more. Huge thank you for sharing ❤️
Hi there! Thanks so much for watching and for your kind and encouraging words. Thank you so much for your support!
Good job there are people like yourselves that do this heartbreaking job and so respectfully.🌸
Thanks for watching and commenting
Hi I'm a lady Attendant in the Bahamas I love your caring voice I also love working with the grieving families at the funeral services
Hi Linda. Thanks so much for watching. Thanks for the work that you do. I have some friends in funeral service down there. What firm are you with?
Thank you for your down to earth and highly professional yet friendly approach to these subjects. You exude the capacity and compassion to teach. 🌹
Gerald Fisher thank you so much Gerald!!! 💓💓💓🙏🏾
You're welcome, your talent and proven skill is commendable!
I did my mother's makeup and attempted to curl her hair...I am glad I did
I am so happy that you were able to help with your Mommy. Thank you and thank you so much for watching and sharing . Please be sure to subscribe and share this and any videos from the channel with those you think can use them
That’s a job I wouldn’t be able to do, especially when you mentioned the trauma debris removal. You know that person wasn’t ready to go and that has to make it so hard.
So glad such caring people like you are capable of doing this ❤️
Thanks so much for watching and for your kind words
Bless your heart for doing this.
Thanks for watching
I helped "lay out", as it was called, my two grandmothers with my mother. It was the old-fashioned way with a bandage under the jaw to the top of the head, coins over the eyes and hands in repose over the chest until rigor mortis was come and gone. Then we dressed them in the clothes they had chosen, cleaned their faces and hands, applied pale nail varnish and a little blusher and lipstick and finally brushed and set their hair. During this process there are quite a lot of bodily noises and excretion of wind and odour.
I was 24 when my first grandmother died and this process was quite disturbing to me. By the time my second grandmother died I had had my children and had been to many family funerals and so I wasn't quite so traumatised. Luckily I think it's unusual now for family to lay out the body. Not nice.
Hello there. I can imagine what an experience this must have been for you. Thank you so much for watching and for sharing.
Thank you for a caring, compassionate explanation of how a person is treated.
Thank you so much for watching Connie. I appreciate your kind words
Hello beautiful! Your video randomly popped up on my news feed but I am thankful. I have always been low key infatuated with the deceased. When I was a child, my relatives stated that I was weird as hell for desiring to be a Funeral Director/Mortician.
Hi there. Thank you so much for watching. I was the same exact way as a child. I am so grateful that my Uncle was there to guide me and answer all of my "weirdo/crazy" questions. I am so happy that you're here
My family said that about me b/c I've been like that myself and I wanted to go to school to be a mortician.
From one funeral professional to another, I can appreciate what you have done here. People often fear the unknown and unfathomable deeds we perform on a daily basis. Thank you for presenting this in such a dignified manner......You remind me alot of myself in your calm demeanor and compassionate communication base.....keep up the good work Sis!
Thank you so much for watching Katrina and thank you for your dedication and care to our industry. I love your profile pic. You look very sassy and classy. What state do you work in?
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@@TheGraveWoman I work in Maryland. I'm licensed in MD, DC, and VA. I see you are in GA??
This video randomly popped up in my feed and I thought you were a grave robber or something 😭 Now that I have watched the full video, I have full on respect for you.
Thank you so much for watching
You explain things so calmly. I thought you don't want to watch this but ,The way the calm in your voice just really makes information really enlightens you. Not scary at all just letting you know what has to be done to care ❤ for your loved one .Thank you so much.
Thanks so much Kathy. You are such a doll.
I just found your video today. I love how you explained everything. You have a very calming voice.
Thank you so much for watching Mona. I appreciate your compliment.
Thank you for providing families with the most beautiful services you can
I know it can't be easy but you putting in the work so the family can see them beautiful one last time to say goodbye is so wonderful of you and people like you, thank you
You are so kind. Thank you so much for watching.
Thank you for a very informative video. I see a lovely lady with kindness and professionalism to the deceased and family.
Thank you so much for watching. I appreciate your kind words.
You are the sweetest little thing. God sure placed you in the perfect career. I hope you realize what a gift of comfort you are to families and friends of the deceased. God bless you little lamb!
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You are a compassionate person 💐
Thank you so much
Thank you.before I got sick and disabled I always wanted to be a forensic technologist to the M.E or the Embalmer.thank you for your service.although this career is not for the squimish it must be done.alot of people think you don't have feelings,but I know you have went home and thought about a client or baby and it brought you to tears.may Jesus Christ bless you and embrace when your time comes to leave this world.🙏🙏🌹🌹🌹🌹
Thank you Mia. Your prayers mean everything.
Just happened to come across this. Never gave anything like this a thought before! I agree with person below that you are so thoughtful and respectful and give the information professionally. You are beautiful and engaging to watch and listen to. :) You are such a beautiful young woman and did a very nice job with this topic.
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This has really enlightened me,What a job you have, God bless you .....
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Thank you for demystifying the mortuary process. You are very professional and forthcoming in your delivery. You need to have a TV program. Love you for giving us the 411 of behind closed doors of the mortuary process.
Thank you so much for watching. I receive that blessing of a television show!
You have a place in heaven.
Thanks for watching
Your respectful calm mannerism is wonderful and your video is great I like you
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Thanks for an informative video. I will say though, with the animals nibbling on their deceased owners strictly for survival, the animals are always very carefully tested by the local animal control before they are put down. Most are found to never ever be aggressive in any manner. I hope where u are, that they do this and not just assume the pet is bad.
guardians animal rescue/ state certified 501c3 thank you so much for the insight and thank you so much for watching.
Very good presentation, I chuckled when you spoke of your least favorite task of food being in their mouth. When I was working in nursing vomit bothered me more than feces (unless mixed with blood from a GI Bleed). You often have a difficult job of presenting people that have been disfigured. God Bless you job.
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Very impressive. You seem to be a caring individual and I am sure you take the utmost care to bring dignity and comfort to the loved ones and the deceased.
Thanks for watching and commenting
You have a lovely speaking voice.
Thank you Joyce and thank you for watching
Thank you for being so compassionate, understanding, loving and thorough through process of decomposition and embalming of funeralizing a loved one. Lost my grandfather, Uncle and beloved mother all in 2016 and now recently lost my love of life. I know God is my first and forever love until eternity.
Faith I am so sorry for your losses. I am praying for you
You are a blessing. Thank-you for the service you provide.
You are so welcome Lynda
I was so happy that my mom’s feeding tube was removed and she , after 17 years, was tube free.
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Grave woman, I find this kinda stuff really interests me. You do a great job. I like learning about autopsy also. My aunt & uncle owned a funeral home. They took care of my little sister of 3. Can't wait to hear more.
Thanks for watching and for sharing. God bless your family. I am so sorry for the loss of your sister.
Your videos are wonderful. You explain the process of taking care of our loved ones after death in an respectful way. Thanks.
Thanks so much for watching
I know this is weird but I would love to see a live video of some of the things you mentioned. My brother in law is a mortician and I'm always picking him for stories and visits while he's working. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us, and like someone else mentioned, you def need your own show!
Thanks so much for watching. I will try to incorporate more funeral home footage BUT I am going to be honest and tell you that the funeral home is a very sacred place for me and I do all I can do to protect the deceased and their families from becoming a spectacle. In addition I am not the owner and will need be granted permissions first.
wondering why this video pop’d up on my feed? now, i’m a subscriber, looking for more.
Hi Kim. Thanks for watching
You are an Empath. That’s why you are so tender toward the deceased in your care. What a sweet lady you are. You are a credit to your profession and those you serve. ❤️
Thank you so much
Thank you for the advice and I had never thought of having all those things at the time of death and who has to deal with that.
HI Leisa. Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
Thank you Joel for sharing I learned a lot today.
Glad you enjoyed it
I majored in environmental and mortuary sciences. The mortuary business is really hard to get into because they're mostly family businesses and my family was not in that business.
Hi there! What a wonderful combination of sciences to study! Yes, its extremely hard but NOT impossible.
Idk where this came from. But I will say this!
Hats off to you, I'm in tears just picturing what you have to do. I couldn't imagine this. You are ESSENTIAL!!! THANK YOU FOR LOVING YOUR JOB AND DOING IT WITH CARE. ❣
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@@TheGraveWoman absolutely. You're more then welcome.
Thank you so much for the respect that you give to the people who have passed.
I am sure what you do gives you a true appreciation for your family friends and life.
You are so kind Helen. It truly makes me appreciate LIFE
Perfect timing. I applied for a position with the Medical Examiners office. I will be around the descendant, help move them and talk to their families. This will be new for me. This video gives good insight.
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Wow, interesting story about the winning lottery tickets and suicides
It was very erie. It goes to show that money does not solve problems.
@@TheGraveWoman - After losing several people close to me, I have wanted to enter the funeral business but have a weak stomach! I applaud your efforts. While watching your video, which I enjoyed, I kept wondering... "Then what...?" So, after you found the winning lottery ticket, do y'all notify the next of kin? I guess I wanted to hear the ultimate action of what happened after y'all found the oddity!
@@robingentry6987 YES, I was wondering what happened to the "winning" lottery ticket as well... how easy would it be for someone to just slip it into their pocket... the "ending" of this story HAS to be told....please
@samuel moore ..YUUUP!.. exactly.. no way to prove that ticket does not belong to you..no matter where you heisted/picked it up from..."Your Loss/My Gain"
Sooooo yall want a dead persons lottery ticket???....they will come to claim it...
Very informative, helps to ease my thoughts on loved ones being handled before viewing
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Thanks for such an interesting video and also for being such a kind compassionate human being .I've just got to ask this but is that a model of a red London bus on the shelf behind you? I'm from England and I'm intrigued :)xx
Thank you so much for watching. It is indeed. I am from England as well. I was born in Lakenheath!
Interesting, Very Interesting.. I saw your video and I had to listen to your findings. I bet there's more that could be revealed, but you took the Tasteful way to present the video. Thank you for your service and gift cause, I couldn't do it!
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Thank you for sharing👍
Thanks for watching
You have so much empathy and respect! I salute you, you're very talented and gifted in your presentation.
Thank you so much!
I enjoyed watching this video, it was interesting and informative.
Thank you so much for watching Lisa
New subscriber 🙋🏻♀️ I love channels like yours! Idk why people are so scared to talk about death, it’s the only certainty in life, let’s be honest 💀 soo fascinating!!
Thanks so much and WELCOME
I'm not sure you you popped up in my suggestions. But I'm glad you did. I've subscribed❤
ditto
Thank you so much for watching and subscribing
Thanks so much for watching and subscribing.
Very interesting. You have such a beautiful spirit when you talk...very respectful. I'm sure you have comforted many families in their time of need. Bless you🙏
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Winning lottery tickets ‼️⁉️ "Money can't solve your problems." That's a lesson there. ! 😳
Amen to that Robert !
Couldn't do this in a lifetime!! Bless those of you who have the stomach to do so!!!!!!
Thanks so much for watching
I really enjoyed your video
Hi Quentin. Thank you so much for watching. Your words bring joy to my heart and soul
I loved your video. You do it very tastefully and informative. Keep up the good work. Thank you
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Wow very very interesting things that happen when death occurs I Just hope I dont have twizzlers in my mouth when the good lord decides to take me....lol....love your videos ......
Thank you so much Gigi! Aren't Twizzlers the best though?
@@TheGraveWoman YES INDEED MY FREIND YES INDEED.....
You are so kind. Thank you for the work you do. 🌸🌼
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Your skin is soo flawless ✨❤️
Thanks so much Amberly. WATER WATER WATER!
Your videos are very interesting and helpful to others when it comes to dealing with death.
My father died four days ago and his pacemaker had to be removed because he was being cremated. I was told the battery can damage the crematory.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss Callista.
Thank you for creating this video. I never gave much thought to the deseased having a pet and once they expire the pet becomes trapped with no food source resort to eat the remains of their owner. I know so many cat lovers that if they expire they have no one to look in on them regularly to make sure they are all right, or manage the care of their pets on a daily basis to protect resident who lives alone and protect their pets from starvation, as they become trapped in a home with an expired owner. I will share your wisdom with others which have pets.
Hi there Gary. Thanks so much for watching. Once the animal taste human flesh and blood they develop an affinity which makes them dangerous and prone to biting. The animal is not always euthanized. Since posting this video I have learned a lot from animal care takers and professionals. Many great resources there. Thanks so much for watching and submitting your question. Please be sure to subscribe, like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance. Please be sure to subscribe, like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance.
When you come across a bullet or knife tip do you have to notify the police? I always wondered about that. How is possible evidence of a crime handled. your video is informative and and respectful. thank for the info
Thanks so much for watching. It all depends on the circumstances surrounding the death. Most times in cases where some one has been murdered, the medical examiner releases the body to the funeral home. It is proper protocol to inform them of any findings but in most cases (which are very rare by the way) we are instructed to discard.
A lot of information we did not know! Thanks for this video🥰
You are so very welcome. Glad that you learned some new information.
I'm currently in school for mortuary science and all I seem to be watching is your videos and little miss funerals lol. you should do a video on what attracted you to your profession!
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You are an amazing women...thank you for your service. Only someone with a special gift from God can do the things that are necessary to be done. Thank you so much!!
Wow, thank you! You're words mean so much. I grew up with a girl with your same exact name.
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I see it another way when it comes to the lottery winner who committed suicide,no matter how dark life seems hold because you are so close to a breakthrough...(something I have to continue thinking when times seems hopeless)
AMEN! What a positive perspective
Very informative video. I grew up around the funeral home business, my godfather and my cousins godfather both worked at funeral homes. I am intrigued by the business. I will be watching your videos and Thank you for your professionalism.
Thank you so much Theresa. Be sure to visit the website as well. www.thegravewoman.com/blog
I may have overlooked this but have you found weapons? Though not often we have found guns and switchblades hidden on the deceased. This was not uncommon in the ER.
They are never returned to the family ( Nor are they even acknowledged )but the police with the witness of two professionals and an administrator along with a detailed incident report.
The other strange findings are discovering several of the men and women killed in 9/11 as well as other situations had long ongoing relationships with other people that the spouse was totally unaware of - and as well convoluted relationships happening after 9/11 with the widows and rescue workers. I took care of folks several weeks after that horrible day and saw the devastation in every area of victims and their family lives. I was made aware of one man had a wife in Queens and a wife in NJ - he only knew about them. It became known when they both applied for benefits. Similar with one wife in Staten Island and another also in Staten Island -- not far from one another! Guess you can do this stuff when you make hundreds of thousands to millions and have a wife who just accepts it all with no questions.
www.nytimes.com/2004/05/23/magazine/one-very-tangled-post-9-11-affair.html
When I was in Little Rock Ark- we had a patient who had been shot in the head over 85 cents in a card game. Along attempt was made to salvage him. During that time we followed protcol to place relatives in a private room. This room had several boxes of tissues and a hospital phone. As the staff was working on the victim more and more family members arrived. Evey 10 to 15 minutes they are given updates. I never used positive statements but more like - we are doing everything we can/ would you like to call your minister or priest to be with you / when this is ll over the MD will be out to meet you and explain everything / would you like our social worker to come down and be with you.. Trying to let them know things are going south.
Finally, the attending neurosurgeon called the code and pronounced him dead. This MD was from England he was excellent as a neurosurgeon but his people skills were always aloof and cold and often just plain blunt.
I went with him as he spoke to the family. He started giving them unnecessary information in a very dry monotone style....talked about what IV solutions were used - the patient's hearts rhythm upon arrival the need for a tube to be put in to help in getting air in his lungs and he listed what were the meds used. I was biting my inner lip thinking oh no - this is over the top for this poor family.
Finally one of the family members said well how is he doing? Very dry in his typical English style he said -- I have been trying to tell you he is no longer living. Followed up with a quick follow up a statement that he was sorry but he had to run along now. These people were one by one taking that in as the anesthesia of shock was starting to set in as they processed it all
Different folks and family systems grieve in different ways. This family in their pain and shock were extremely emotional. Besides the tears, there seemed to want to out-scream each other as well as passing out one after the other. I told them I will step out and be back shortly and closed the door allowing them to be together as a family. Also that they could see him before they leave and give us some time to get him ready.
One minute after I stepped out I heard not so much expression of grief but anger and rage. Then heard the saying - GET HER - SLAP THAT BITCH - YOU GO, GIRL PULL IT PULL IT OFF!
I yelled over to my charge nurse (Bonnie) to come to here stat !!!! We both went in the room to find two very large women not only on the floor but rolling over each other punching scratching slapping each other - earrings were flying ... as well as weaves. To say the least, it was a hot mess. Bonnie my supervisor professional at all times started in her meek gentle voice - that she knows they are in pain but the ER can not have this. I really did not think anyone heard her as the cheering and yelling that was going on.
Finally, I said in a loud voice-BONNIE I CALLED AND THE POLICE WILL BE HEAR ANY MOMENT !!! Everything came to a complete stop immediately !! Of course, I did not call ht the police ... but they did not know that.
Hospital security was there but they are bound by policy not to touch a visitor and use verbal techniques to squelch outburst. GRRRR
Well, come to find out the patient was newly married and along with the crowds of family coming in it was discovered that he had a girlfriend who thought she should be there!!!
We denied the family to be with the deceased as a matter of safety/explained that they could see him when they went to the funeral home to make arrangements ( Sometimes white lies are not so bad lol) We had enough now let the funeral folks deal with this mess and they left soon.
I made sure to say goodbye to his boys' mom and dad as well as his shaken grandparents. I intentionally ignored the wife and girlfriend not obvious just quiet avoidance. I then went to the office to fill out documentation of the entire incident. Got some more boxes of tissues for the private family room which needed to be restocked and straightened up. I looked up and lo and behold there were the new widow and girlfriend of the deceased walking out crying but clearly supporting each other saying accolades of what a good man the deceased was !!!! There just a few minutes ago they were rolling around on the floor in the fight of their lives ...now walking out holding each other up and comforting each other. All I could think was I wonder if this young man could see this who scenario and who would he be rooting for !!!!!
Sometimes you got to laugh.
Two times in my career I have found considerable amounts of money. I was doing post mortem care for an extremely obese woman who had a sudden death event. There were two of us trying to place and wrap her in a shroud. We turned her over and when turned back found many 100 dollar bills. Had no idea where they came from. Turned her over to the other side and when turned back had more money in large denominations. Then it hit me where the money was coming from ...I lifted up her right breast and there were even more rolls of money tucked in the folds of skin- the same on the right breast. These stayed in place during a considerable period of resuscitation - aggressive CPR/defibrillations and transport from her place to the ambulance to the ER. The thought of the saying -- pennies from heaven -- and I had to contain my laughter as I was notifying the admin and nursing supervisor. Who came counted and took the monies. So a total of 4 witnesses were present and signed the incident form. I did not know the follow up of which of her many children the money was given to. Grateful for that as families/money and death can get very messy. I try to live my not my circus, not my monkies.
The second time was when a homeless man was brought into the ER and quickly deteriorated and expired.
Once again doing post mortem care we found in his pockets/socks and underwear rolls of money. I remember this poor soul looking wasted and gaunt wondering how he could have used that money to eat. Sad he died a rich hungry man.I do not remember the exact amount but it was way over 10000 dollars. It was cold out and his coat was thin -- this poor soul died cold and hungry. So very sad.
I apologize for the length but you helped me process some deep memories that I think were hidden deep. Thank you.
If you would like I can edit and shorten it
Silentfades, thank you so much for sharing your stories. Please do not apologize for sharing or expressing yourself. This is a safe place for all to express themselves. As long as you are respectful and kind you have no reason to apologize. I am so glad that whatever I said was used to help you process your thoughts and feelings.
Your stories are, well... for lack of a better word CRAZY! I can only imagine that you have many many many more. I wonder what has come of those families and what lessons they gained from their experiences. I can tell that you use your humor to keep things light and that you are at all times a professional. Thank you for watching and for feeling safe enough to allow us to take a glimpse into your world.
Peace and Blessings.
Wow that was interesting and what made it even more interesting is that I'm from little rock! How long ago was this?
@@alexandrac9363 I was there 1979 to 1981. Clinton was governor. Worked in the ER of Childrens Hospital. Baptist CCU /ICU and ER. Also per dieum at North Little Rock Hospital
I loved the people -had great professional expiriences. Saw Gov Clinton 1 time and Mrs Clinton and Chelsa often. Got to meet and eat with Gov Clinton mother - worked at the hospital and was very smart and a lovely lady.
Wow not sure how I ended up here but I'm glad I did! Thank u for sharing wit us!
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I do have a random question that's not related to this video....have you ever encountered any strange or unusual experiences while working with the deceased? Paranormal to say the least? If so, could you make a video about your experiences some time? Thank you!
Hi Ashley, actually yes and I plan to discuss them more in detail in future videos. Please be sure to subscribe, like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance.
This was a very informative video and you speak so eloquently and with such respect. Bless you for what you do.
Thank you so much Doreen
So uhmm yea this was a random pop up.... I was looking for pimples and makeup ideas.. Its weird because I've always wanted to work in that field
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Oh my...your blogs are very interesting. You are a very strong person to do this job.
Glad you like them! Thanks for watching
Comment section, comic section, same thing! I just found you and find your presentation delightful. Subject matter maybe morbid to some , but, I find it fascinating. I subbed. Do you have any advice on body donation for dissection at university? I've resigned myself to the fact, that this will be the only way I'll ever go to college. Seriously, though, I'm serious. I've no family that would want to deal with my carcass. Seems like a win, win. Thx. 💌
Hi Lisa. Thank you so much for watching. I will be doing a video on body donation really soon. In the meantime if I were you I would look into contacting local medical schools and anatomical labs. What state are you located? Perhaps I can help. I have a few connections her in Georgia.
PS: I LOVE YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR!
I'm in Oklahoma. I appreciate your response. I like to think that my sense of humor is my last good feature. At 62, all that's left is humor unless you just WANT to be miserable.
@@lisawall3386 LOL! You are so funny!
Thank you for sharing this respectful lesson in what can happen after.. Blessings to you and your family.
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Silly question which I'm sure has an obvious answer lol. But why do they put the animal down after? 🤔 Love your videos! You are so sweet and down to earth 🤗❤️
Rachael Hoffert Hi Rachael✋🏾!!! So not a silly question but to answer it; the put the animal down because it has acquired a taste for human flesh and could become violent or a danger to other humans it comes in contact with. It now has a taste for blood so to speak! This does not ALWAYS happen but does in most cases. Thank you soooo much for watching, your support and for the kind compliment 🥰🥰🥰!
THE ANIMAL MAY HAVE BEEN INFECTED WITH A DISEASE IF THE DEAD HAD ONE.