What you said is so true about getting rid of those who weren't right for you but it sucks when you are picky and you felt some sort of way or connection.
I agree with most of what you said. I disagree with the mewing, only because I've heard it's more an ineffective fad, worse it actually damages your jaw. But, hey, to each their own. Outside of that, yes, when it comes to your health and wellbeing physically, emotionally, and mentally, you have to put yourself first. No, you don't have to be perfect. You don't have to "love yourself," and you don't have to have all your ducks in a row, perfect job, body, life. You just need to be in a good place. Content. You're going to keep growing, changing, learning. So by trying to reach some level of perfection before you decide to meet someone is only a productive form of procrastination.
So in brief: - Be young - Be hot - Be pristine healthy with no chronic conditions That's it, good luck if you don't match these 3 (You'll really need it)
Good advise about sugar, I have diabetes and it is not nice. I would advise everyone to avoid sugar. It causes hair thinning and teeth loss, muscle loss. Diabetes is a curse.
You made a great point about how you said another way to get heartbroken is by having 1 or 2 dates and then the person cuts it off citing "a lot of pressure".... long story short 2023 was a horrible year professionally and personally. Had a break up with a guy and family fall out (thankfully much better now!) but I was at my lowest and sent a guy 26 texts in like a 12 hour span...and I guess it scarred him away. Anyway, I like your vibe and I too wish happiness. Its just so easy too get heartbroken attempting to date guys. Most seem to be in to meth and hooking up only...or the ones im attracting :(
to be honest, I am someone who likes to write and keep in touch while away, it doesnt take much time to write a few messages distributed over the day and as long as it is nothing controlling and toxic I approve of that
Be a friend first to that someone, if they are true, they will return it in kind. Ethans Travels, another TH-camr, I enjoy both channels videos of your adventures with common sense and everyday style. Cheers
I think you beard looks great. It is hard for me to find dates on the dating apps. The ones that message me are not in my area. You give good advice. Excercise and diet is important. It is important to look and smell good.
I gave up 🤷🏼♂️ too many people lie, cheat on or just want someone to pay for them and use me so I’m just doing my thing!! Living life and focusing on my mental health and being happy!!
An old friend, said 'with really good friends - work and platonic' if they had a meeting for lunch etc, and they got a 'better offer' they would just text or call and say 'better offer' - and there was no need to explain. Invited for a free meal "better offer", invited to go to the movies with someone else "better offer" ..... I always thought that was funny annd nice to have this understanding with your good friends.
I also agree with most of what you said, except for "mewing." That's a relatively new topic and still needs further investigation before we can start recommending it. It can be approached from some disciplines, and the ones I've researched say NOT TO DO IT. So just because some things seemingly work doesn't mean they are good for our health. Also, sunscreen should always be used when exposed to UV rays, whether the weather is cloudy or sunny.
And ya, great tips I would say teeth whitening Crest white strips are great. I think some facial hair/ stubble is hot too. And good hair! Def an attractive vibe.
Very sound advice Jaks. A lot of positivity in what you say and how to approach situations. Have you ever thought of being a life coach? I believe you would very good at it.
Your picture on the dating app is the most important part of the puzzle. I am a second generation photographer. Nothing sells a product faster than an excellent image. How many times have you brought an item because of the picture on the box and was disappointed? Too Many! Dave
I think it's putting a problem on a bad thing. I think it's very sad to think you'll attract more people because of your image. If that stops someone to text you, I wouldn't like a date with someone that emphasize beauty. For hookups I understand
Hii jaks I just want to say there's tips and nip little stuff you talked about sounded really helpful because I have been single for way to long and I am ready to mingle you know soo now I know how to go at it the way thank you love kevin
Never go looking for one! I'm 60, and I've had 3 partners 6yrs, 12yrs and current going on 21yrs. together I never went looking, they all just happened. When you are looking you will also look pass the right one, just let it come to you
I agree with everything that you said especially when it comes to nutrition. However, identify a lot of things that you identify with as well. But I grew up I continue to live it's a very small, dusty town. It is way more expensive for someone to buy foods that are not processed or healthier. And well, there's a large socioeconomic factor to eating right, and also cooking is kind of a semi -intimate and personal activity if you think about it. Most of cook in a style of how we were raised. There's something comforting with eating something that offers some nostalgia. At least it does for me. So learning how to cook with quality ingredients I had to learn as an adult. But yes to the nutrition thing. You're older self will really thank you for it! Because you pay for it later definitely!
I've had most success at bars or nightclubs meeting guys, online dating has been worthless. Its better in person because you see the person in front of you and not through some picture.
For 30 plus bros, maybe recommend botox and filler, had some surgery a few years ago as well, highly suggest juvaderm or Radiesse for collagen and lifts. Jawline too
Regarding diet, unless I'm mistaken, you said once that you only eat one time a day. Is there a particular reason why? Is that enough to sustain you during your workouts?
@mrboutdoors if you like this guy and your sure the feeling is mutual, the suddenly become unavailable. He'll want you even more. But don't be to unavailable. With guys it's more about the hunt and chase.
Thank you for the video. For some reason younger guys like me but i have to make sure i dont date someone to young, I had a bad experience years ago but I liked many of your ideas but u r right always be yourself when meeting others. God Bless you
I enjoyed your vlog and the hard truths to getting a boyfriend or at least creating the best premise for aforementioned. Good luck on your search. 👍🙏😎😜
In 2016 was not looking for a BF . Met a guy things clicked. Scared the crap out of both of us. We were working on a project. We were passing tools back and forth. The right one with out a word being said. It was one brain working 2 bodies. Well things went down hill fast. Were married with in short time. He took my last name when we did it. Still in shock at times how fast things went.
Just checked in to your blogs ,,,, I enjoyed it very much,,,, and I’m sensing that you are the type of person that generates GOOD KARMA. Keep up the good work,,, and catch you next time. ✌✌✌✌✌❤🇬🇧🇷🇺🇳🇱
I don't really want a boyfriend. Not yet anyway. I like my freedom. I did have one once but he said I was too cold and independant because I wanted my own space.
You did not cover online dating scams, I have ran into a lot of those. I am very cautious when I first meet someone online. How would you handle someone you meet from a different state or country?
Just be yourself. You dont have to change anything about yourself to get a Man. Either Men will like you or they won't. Everyone wants someone who is happy with themselves. Just make yourself happy and others will notice and want to be around you.
You have charm and are very comfortable....which is a word I use to describe myself..... I am curious if you have any formal training or advance education ......You present yourself as a friend I would like to know and have.
Hello. Jax. Believe. That. That. Is. Spelled. Correctly. My. Name. Is. John. Holladay. Listened. To. Your. Suggestions. About. How. To. Find. A. Boyfriend. Skin. Care, Proper. Diet, Exercise, How. To. Dress. And. Feel. Comfortable. Daily. Dental. Hygiene. All of. These. Things. Are you excellent. Points. To. Offer. Your. Listeners, One. Of. Which. Is. Me. For. The. Most. Part. I. Found. The. Suggestions. Most. Helpful. I. Will. Echo. What. You. Said. If. Someone. Doesn’t. Care. To. Hear. What. You. Have. To. Say. Then. I. Would. Say. Don’t. Let. The. Door. Hit. You. On. The. Way. Out. Everyone. No. Matter. Who. They. Are , no. Matter. Where. They. Are, Has. A. Right. To. Their. Own. Opinion. I. Work. In. A. Grocery. Chain, Interact. With. Many. Different. Personalities. All. Day. Long. I. Enjoy. Listening to your. Suggestions. Dating. Apps. Aren’t. For. Me. As. For. Technology, After. I. Turn. The. Device. ON, I. Am. Totally. Lost. Have. A. Wonderful. Day. I. Live. In. California. It’s. Brr. Cold. Have. A. Nice. Day. A. Listener, John.
This is the first holistic approach to attractiveness I've encountered so far on TH-cam
What you said is so true about getting rid of those who weren't right for you but it sucks when you are picky and you felt some sort of way or connection.
Hi
I agree with most of what you said. I disagree with the mewing, only because I've heard it's more an ineffective fad, worse it actually damages your jaw. But, hey, to each their own.
Outside of that, yes, when it comes to your health and wellbeing physically, emotionally, and mentally, you have to put yourself first.
No, you don't have to be perfect. You don't have to "love yourself," and you don't have to have all your ducks in a row, perfect job, body, life.
You just need to be in a good place. Content. You're going to keep growing, changing, learning. So by trying to reach some level of perfection before you decide to meet someone is only a productive form of procrastination.
yup, better to get filler or fat grafting.
Mewing doesn't hurt your jaw. Some people have been mewing for their whole lives
So in brief:
- Be young
- Be hot
- Be pristine healthy with no chronic conditions
That's it, good luck if you don't match these 3 (You'll really need it)
Someone didn't really watch the video...
Good advise about sugar, I have diabetes and it is not nice. I would advise everyone to avoid sugar. It causes hair thinning and teeth loss, muscle loss. Diabetes is a curse.
thank you so much, it feels refreshing knowing that there are others who actually want a serious relationship rather than just fun
thank you for these videos, as a young queer manI love hearing different perspectives
Jaks - where does all this wisdom come from? You are such a bright light in this worrying world. Thank you.
You made a great point about how you said another way to get heartbroken is by having 1 or 2 dates and then the person cuts it off citing "a lot of pressure".... long story short 2023 was a horrible year professionally and personally. Had a break up with a guy and family fall out (thankfully much better now!) but I was at my lowest and sent a guy 26 texts in like a 12 hour span...and I guess it scarred him away. Anyway, I like your vibe and I too wish happiness. Its just so easy too get heartbroken attempting to date guys. Most seem to be in to meth and hooking up only...or the ones im attracting :(
to be honest, I am someone who likes to write and keep in touch while away, it doesnt take much time to write a few messages distributed over the day and as long as it is nothing controlling and toxic I approve of that
Thank you: I am 76 years old and had a long term relationship of 25 years. Your advice and insight is incredible. Well done, delightful Jaks.
Be a friend first to that someone, if they are true, they will return it in kind.
Ethans Travels, another TH-camr, I enjoy both channels videos of your adventures with common sense and everyday style. Cheers
I think you beard looks great. It is hard for me to find dates on the dating apps. The ones that message me are not in my area. You give good advice. Excercise and diet is important. It is important to look and smell good.
I gave up 🤷🏼♂️ too many people lie, cheat on or just want someone to pay for them and use me so I’m just doing my thing!! Living life and focusing on my mental health and being happy!!
I absolutely, agree.I am much better,just
being me.
You’re so calming
Thanks for this Jaks! 😊 have a great day!
Very good advice. You are so down to earth and great guy.
An old friend, said 'with really good friends - work and platonic' if they had a meeting for lunch etc, and they got a 'better offer' they would just text or call and say 'better offer' - and there was no need to explain. Invited for a free meal "better offer", invited to go to the movies with someone else "better offer" ..... I always thought that was funny annd nice to have this understanding with your good friends.
Gays together forever ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
A lot of cultures push people to get married especially in Indian culture
I also agree with most of what you said, except for "mewing." That's a relatively new topic and still needs further investigation before we can start recommending it. It can be approached from some disciplines, and the ones I've researched say NOT TO DO IT. So just because some things seemingly work doesn't mean they are good for our health. Also, sunscreen should always be used when exposed to UV rays, whether the weather is cloudy or sunny.
And ya, great tips I would say teeth whitening Crest white strips are great. I think some facial hair/ stubble is hot too. And good hair! Def an attractive vibe.
Very sound advice Jaks. A lot of positivity in what you say and how to approach situations. Have you ever thought of being a life coach? I believe you would very good at it.
Jax, I am amazed at your wisdom. Thank you.
I've been trying to get a BF for a *LONG* time, so I am hoping your advice will propel me into a new era! Did I say it had been a LONG time? 🤣🤫😔
Funny you said that. yes, my last few dates were like 48 hours and it was too much...started good, ended badly
Your picture on the dating app is the most important part of the puzzle. I am a second generation photographer. Nothing sells a product faster than an excellent image. How many times have you brought an item because of the picture on the box and was disappointed? Too Many! Dave
I think it's putting a problem on a bad thing. I think it's very sad to think you'll attract more people because of your image. If that stops someone to text you, I wouldn't like a date with someone that emphasize beauty. For hookups I understand
Unfortunately, this is the Pepsi Generation you have 3 seconds to make an impression. Dave
Thanks Jak for your inspiring video!! Very practical and comprehensive. I find hope in your video.
Hii jaks I just want to say there's tips and nip little stuff you talked about sounded really helpful because I have been single for way to long and I am ready to mingle you know soo now I know how to go at it the way thank you love kevin
Never go looking for one! I'm 60, and I've had 3 partners 6yrs, 12yrs and current going on 21yrs. together I never went looking, they all just happened. When you are looking you will also look pass the right one, just let it come to you
I have heard this so many times. When you say you never went looking but found a partner how did you find one out of interest?
@mrboutdoors you are for good time and you strike up a convo and end up taking for hours
Your are a amazing person I really appreciate your thought and honesty it’s awesome thanks
Man are ever well spoken and wise ! Just wondering what type of books do you read and who are your favorite writers , fiction and non fiction ?
From one square jaw to another….. thanks, old surfer here, and thanks for mentioning our dermatologists. 🤙
Great advice. You look amazing and I love your personality.
I agree with everything that you said especially when it comes to nutrition. However, identify a lot of things that you identify with as well. But I grew up I continue to live it's a very small, dusty town. It is way more expensive for someone to buy foods that are not processed or healthier. And well, there's a large socioeconomic factor to eating right, and also cooking is kind of a semi -intimate and personal activity if you think about it. Most of cook in a style of how we were raised. There's something comforting with eating something that offers some nostalgia. At least it does for me. So learning how to cook with quality ingredients I had to learn as an adult. But yes to the nutrition thing. You're older self will really thank you for it! Because you pay for it later definitely!
I've had most success at bars or nightclubs meeting guys, online dating has been worthless. Its better in person because you see the person in front of you and not through some picture.
For 30 plus bros, maybe recommend botox and filler, had some surgery a few years ago as well, highly suggest juvaderm or Radiesse for collagen and lifts. Jawline too
Botox, for 30+? Pls... Maybe for 60+. 30 or 40 or even 50 is not that old.
Regarding diet, unless I'm mistaken, you said once that you only eat one time a day. Is there a particular reason why? Is that enough to sustain you during your workouts?
You can find a boyfriend, by not looking for one.
Very true!!
How do you find a boyfriend without looking?
@@mrboutdoors Just make them flirt with you instead of you flirting with them. 😁
@mrboutdoors if you like this guy and your sure the feeling is mutual, the suddenly become unavailable. He'll want you even more. But don't be to unavailable. With guys it's more about the hunt and chase.
Feels too much like a game 😢
Him: "TALK TO YOUR HAIRDRESSER! "
Me: "i am my hairdresser ☺"
Thank you for the video. For some reason younger guys like me but i have to make sure i dont date someone to young, I had a bad experience years ago but I liked many of your ideas but u r right always be yourself when meeting others. God Bless you
Very practical, down to earth advice.❤
I needed to hear this.
I hope you dental Floss it is a part of my daily routine Jaks before i brush
Sounds like great advice to me. Finding a "good" dating app is easier said than done.
Thank you for the video, you shared some great advice. Also, your voice is just so soothing 😊
Do! Your channel is amazing. New to me.
How about .... I found a boyfriend... MARRIED THE HANDSOME HUNK 🔥 and still married 28 years & con't . ❤
In these modern days, you can find one by producing prospects from posting a video just as like the one above. I prefer clean-shaven too ❤
I enjoyed your vlog and the hard truths to getting a boyfriend or at least creating the best premise for aforementioned. Good luck on your search. 👍🙏😎😜
I’m crushing lol 😆 such valid points and it’s always attractive when someone invests in themselves
Growing a beard or moustache is also a good start. Men love them! 😜
In 2016 was not looking for a BF . Met a guy things clicked. Scared the crap out of both of us. We were working on a project. We were passing tools back and forth. The right one with out a word being said. It was one brain working 2 bodies. Well things went down hill fast. Were married with in short time. He took my last name when we did it. Still in shock at times how fast things went.
It's like moths drawn to a flame - putting your best self out there makes you unresistable.
Just checked in to your blogs ,,,, I enjoyed it very much,,,, and I’m sensing that you are the type of person that generates GOOD KARMA. Keep up the good work,,, and catch you next time. ✌✌✌✌✌❤🇬🇧🇷🇺🇳🇱
I don't really want a boyfriend. Not yet anyway. I like my freedom. I did have one once but he said I was too cold and independant because I wanted my own space.
You did not cover online dating scams, I have ran into a lot of those. I am very cautious when I first meet someone online. How would you handle someone you meet from a different state or country?
This is a whole video on it's own I think I should make one going over the potential pit falls of online dating.
@@Jaksattacks 🥰
The best advice I got from this was you need to act like you don’t care too much about
I haven't had one in 30 years so I've given up anyway
Just be yourself. You dont have to change anything about yourself to get a Man. Either Men will like you or they won't. Everyone wants someone who is happy with themselves. Just make yourself happy and others will notice and want to be around you.
Jaks, you are great! I am attracted to you voice! :D
You have charm and are very comfortable....which is a word I use to describe myself.....
I am curious if you have any formal training or advance education ......You present yourself as a friend I would like to know and have.
Great advice ❤
Literally all you have to do is walk down the street and you'll find one.
When you're gorgeous and cool and grab attention, sure.
This feels like a lot of effort when there are bigger fish to fry.
Shallow....
Well I probably need this lol
Point on!& intense! WoW.❤
You won't find anything unless you look for it!
Mewing is a great way to cause damage to your jaw, I definitely wouldn’t do that.
Yes I am looking help me
I can die for your hair or teeth
How to not find a boyfriend, but hot guy 😂 .
I THINK YOU SHOULD CHANGE THE TITLE FROM "HOW TO FIND A BOYFREIND " TO
" I AM LOOKING FOR A BOYFRIEND " / " I WANT A BOYFRIEND " .
Next do one on ways to get rid of a boyfriend ! 😳
Hand them over to the poor folks who are actively looking for one? 😂
Be genuine… be yourself. And by the way. I like your hair style right now. It is a good mess.
i eat all plant based
great advice, how is it that you are single
Unfortunately, one needs to meet the right person at the right moment in the right place.
i amhonest anditry to be myself
I don't think I'm cool enough to find a boyfriend.
I have bussy
You mean a longer jaw line?
Your my boyfriend 😍 I love you
I love being single and wouldn't have it any other way. But, for those of you looking, l hope you find your soulmate.
You're so cute and I really wanna know more about you 😍
Everything in this video is about superficial stuff nothing to do with values, attitude etc :/
You are so cute...
Hello. Jax. Believe. That. That. Is. Spelled. Correctly. My. Name. Is. John. Holladay. Listened. To. Your. Suggestions. About. How. To. Find. A. Boyfriend. Skin. Care, Proper. Diet, Exercise, How. To. Dress. And. Feel. Comfortable. Daily. Dental. Hygiene. All of. These. Things. Are you excellent. Points. To. Offer. Your. Listeners, One. Of. Which. Is. Me. For. The. Most. Part. I. Found. The. Suggestions. Most. Helpful. I. Will. Echo. What. You. Said. If. Someone. Doesn’t. Care. To. Hear. What. You. Have. To. Say. Then. I. Would. Say. Don’t. Let. The. Door. Hit. You. On. The. Way. Out. Everyone. No. Matter. Who. They. Are , no. Matter. Where. They. Are, Has. A. Right. To. Their. Own. Opinion. I. Work. In. A. Grocery. Chain, Interact. With. Many. Different. Personalities. All. Day. Long. I. Enjoy. Listening to your. Suggestions. Dating. Apps. Aren’t. For. Me. As. For. Technology, After. I. Turn. The. Device. ON, I. Am. Totally. Lost. Have. A. Wonderful. Day. I. Live. In. California. It’s. Brr. Cold. Have. A. Nice. Day. A. Listener, John.
I could be that person. Handsome Canadian Studios. Lawl