3 Signs Of High Functioning Anxiety
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Can you please make a video of what to do if you feel like time is going to fast so minutes turn into hours and hours turn into days
Hi I have a question
Whenever I am watching you videos I always tend to just stare and tool at all the things you are playing with
So is that I mean normal 😅
I am 12 years old soo 😅😅😅
Anyway I love your videos they helped Me so much on my daily life
I never new how much I am anxious.
I stopped to think, right now, and like, wow.
Hi Dr. Julie, I have a question for you.
Is it possible for me to ask you something on a dm on instagram? I would love to get some answers to my questions❤
What about High functioning depression?
Please make a video on how to deal with high functioning anxiety
My thoughts exactly
How I deal with it:
Have a routine. Structure is very calming for the mind.
Plan for unexpected events to happen. When you know something can go wrong, it doesn't take your brain by as much surprise and you can better react.
Establish boundaries. People with anxiety tend to be pushovers and can't say no which leads to burnout. Always ensure you're your top priority (self care isn't selfish)
And most importantly, take time to relax. Find some part of the day to just sit and wind down for about 20 mins to an hour. At first your brain will find it uncomfortable but the more you do it, the more your mind will adjust to the fact that this is your time to relax
Yes please, this is effing tiresome!
@@HM4Hill wow amazing advice!! Please share more if you can 😊
Sit with the anxiety instead of running away from it. Ask yourself what the anxiety is trying to tell you about your inner world.
I thought that's my personality, not a condition!
There is a fine line between the two. Personality morphs into disorder when it impairs your ability to work or socially function. Everyone experiences stress, the key is to find a healthy way to cope with it
So did I!
Me too
Don't take on labels that cripple you.
Everyone has stress and anxiety. We all cope differently. This is key.
Adopting a "condition" or giving yourself a label could impair your ability to reconcile with your emotions and lead a fulfilling life.
@@jenninemorel7693 DEFINATELY! Labels are for strangers to understand us not our friends; when they know us better the labels fall off.
Yepp… that’s me. I even get anxious when I’m not anxious. And sometimes it seems like my anxiety is helping me to function. I don’t feel safe without it. I feel like I’m not myself without it. 😢
Yes it is tru for me too .. sometimes it feels like it is due to the anxiety i am doing things right ..if i do self care and go away from it ...i would do things wrong 😮
I felt that way when I had anxiety too. But to my surprise, when I started taking medication, my anxiety went away but my ambition did not. My grades shot up because of this and so did my achievements in other areas.
I'm 1 and 3.... I'm seen as the smart kid that knows everything and doesn't have any problems, when in reality I'm stressed because everyday I'm told to study hard in school which makes me not able to try as hard as I want because I don't feel comfortable with how I am doing with things related to school once I'm told to get A's because if I don't my teachers (who are very strict) will call my mother and I will get yelled at for not "trying" when I give it all I can at the moment.
I have exactly the same problem 😫
I didn't study and just guessed the answers , i called it the Sage luck(i know I'm weird), and it's not like im gonna use these knowledge i learned from school when i graduate
I am just the same
Now hopefully I don’t cause the same cycle to my kid
Same
Nothing has ever been more relatable
Exactly, I thought I was just over exaggerating, but nope 😅
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Sometimes I have a weird feeling. I know I have to work but a little thing that doesn't even matter comes in mind and I can do nothing except using my phone. I use my phone for like an hour without even enjoying it but that feeling keeps me from doing anything else. And the problem is this feeling comes even when the events are so small like I talked to an old friend after a long time and I just keep thinking 'was I weird ' , 'What was he thinking about me ' etc .
🙂
All of that is completely relatable. I am 15 and I am known to be the smartest kid in the class. I always come 1st in academics. But I am really afraid of loosing, failure or rejection. That is why I either try to stay at the top of the thing, or not do it at all.
Fear is the main reason I want to keep my position of first rank in examination. I know that no one will judge or anything me but I still am afraid of it (actually I am topper of my batch since grade 6th)
I think that is why I am unable to actually participate in any games that my whole class plays whenever it's the period of sports in my school. I just stand at the corner, when I see everyone having fun I also wanna take part but I couldn't get myself to participate because I feel that I am not as good as
them or someone will judge me.
When someone asks why don't you play I just say I don't want to or I don't like sports but actually I am afraid of getting embarrassed or being judged or ruining the fun others are having.
I also don't have friends actually I don't even know who to call my friend. Eventhough they are very great people, My classmates actually become too formal in front of me. I actually feel that my presence just makes them feel uncomfortable. They don't talk to me casually with me as they talk with their other "friends". That is why I also like to live alone as I don't want to ruin others conversations.
I can understand how you feel.
For a start, focus on talking to just one person who seats next to you in the class or maybe you would want to have as a friend.
If you feel that other person is genuinely interested in talking to you and gives you good vibes, try to talk about things common to both of you like ‘your favourite subject’ or ‘let’s have lunch together.’
Hope you are getting the drift..Good luck mate. See yourself grow and shine. ✌🏼✌🏼
@@SarcasticBuddha4u thanks for your suggestion
But actually in my class there are only 26 people. We are studying together in the same school for almost 10 years and we all have very good relations. I have that many people that I can call friends but no one I actually hangout with. All this people are very great. Their are 2-3 group of "friends" in our class but I am part of none. I don't know if I chose to be part of none or it's just how it is.
Sounds like you are in high school? Pretty soon you will graduate and you will be in college. You will have a choice of who you will pick to be part of your friend circle. It is hard to let people in if you have a hard time trusting others. Befriend people who share your values. Pick the ones who interest you, and that are on your wavelength. Pick people that honor who you are. Just realize that to have real friendships you can enjoy requires vulnerabilty and learning to accept people (as well as yourself) for their insecurities and character flaws.
OH MY GOSH YOU JUST DESCRIBED MY LIFE. I totally get it, I hate being known as ‘The Smart One’, and in reality I always curse myself for not sticking with some form of sport inside or outside of school. In my tween years, I moved from one country where inter school sport was not a big deal to another country where it very much is. So I get your stress in Sport lessons- I always feel mediocre compared to my peers. Also, I HATE this label because no matter what friends you make they all seem to turn on you once they realise that you getting A’s will be a regular thing. It starts with ‘congrats’ or ‘nice job!’ but it always seems to make its way to ‘Wow…’ and ‘Why am I not surprised?’ (Both accompanied with a lot of eye rolling and sarcasm) I love my friends but this always makes me feel so small- I congratulate and hype them up with any grade they get, so why can’t they do the same? ☹️
Omg same!! Finally someone who has the same experience!!
I lived with a narcisist for 30 years. The constant anxiety was a day to day thing. My way to cope was to keep busy and to keep everyone comfortable and fed. I always put everyone else first and fail to take care of myself. Big price to pay when you do this for so long.
Oh my gosh. I knew I had anxiety, but I had no idea I was doing this until I watched this video. I have horrible social anxiety, performance anxiety, and touch sensitivities (for example, people touching me can make me anxious.) To combat those, I forced myself to do social dance, musical theater, choir, and other things because I wasn’t going to let my anxiety stop me. I was panicking all the time and no one noticed unless I actively said I was nervous. I would also get compliments on my dedication to things because I threw myself into them so deeply. Oh my gosh. I might have to ask my therapist about this because I don’t want to self diagnose anything.
Creepily relatable... 😲
I hope you know that all your content on Anxiety and Depression has helped me more than 2 therapists have. Keep it up and thanks. Be proud you're making a difference for so many.
I’m going forward in the right direction with God & I trust my intuition & my discernment & I overcame my depression & my anxiety & I’m at peace again with myself & I’m a brave woman 👩 - Kim 👩🙏❤️
Yes this basically describes me😢 so please do a video on how to deal with high functioning anxiety
Best advice I can offer to you is to take deep breaths and pause the video before she says anxiety and just listen to high functioning
Thank you so much for bringing awareness about this. I had this all through out my life. It's exhausting
You are a gem, helped me more than most doctors I’ve seen
Literally I’m all 3. I just discovered you a couple days ago and you help me to calm down and take a minute to breath.
This is me. At times, my anxiety gets me into self-doubt, and I wonder if it is all a facade. But, through my conscious journey to heal, I have come to accept myself and my anxiety disorder. And I have come to believe that I can't change my past, but I can certainly live with courage.
I love you. Not literally, but she puts into words exactly what I cannot.
And that describes me
Good to know I know more about my anxiety and how to fix my life
Thank you so much Dr. Julie 😊
Hi Dr. Julie,
Just saying thanks for all the help.
I have real problems as a 13 year old. I like to go with friends but I feel like I have peer pressure even though no one is forcing me to do anything... I always worry about what others are thinking of me... All the videos you make sound like the problems I have... I extremely appreciate all the help and support you give.
Thank you !!
This is all very relatable. I don't know how to wind down at the end of the day, and always working and stressing. I get everything done, yet always feel like it's never enough :/
I can't relax, every time I try to slow down and rest I get severe anxiety and even panick attacks, sometimes I even cry because of the frustration. Every single time I try to tell someone that I'm worried I won't pass a test or I won't make it or whatever, they say that I always get good grades and I'm just showing off. Because of this I have become quiet as no one understands me. Some people in my class even bullied me for not volunteering to answer in class when a teacher asks a question even if I know the answer, but they don't know/ won't ever understand that i worry so much that I'm wrong and I always feel like a failure, despite my results, and if I get something wrong in front of everyone it means remembering that moment every single night when I try to go to sleep for years to come. I'm crying right now because I passed all my exams without problems (even though I went through so much to get there because due to my anxiety I also procrastinate a lot and I deal with nightmares, sleep paralysis, depression and obsessive compulsive behaviors such as biting my nails, picking at my skin (my face and body are full of scars)), and I'm supposed to be on vacation and relax but I just can't. Even if I have nothing to do, I'm just stressed out whatever I do. Existince is pain and I often find comfort in food or other distractions from the pain. I can't afford therapy and I've also dealt with psychological abuse my whole life. I'm working hard to get to my dream (as I've been lucky enough to find my passion which makes me very happy) and I'm slowly getting there but my mental issues are tiring me out so much.. This isn't a cry for help, I've given up asking for help as no one really cares or they can't help anyway. This is just a rant, meant to calm me down because this video describes part of my situation and it brought back some unpleasant feelings.
Your story made me sad. 😢 PLEASE get some help! Take it from someone like me who's older, DON'T go most of your life suffering from anxiety like this. I made that mistake, and I should have gotten help sooner.
Please go seek some help, whether it's counseling, therapy, changing your eating habits, getting some fresh air and exercise, taking supplements, or even just getting some anti-anxiety medication from your doctor. You don't have to suffer alone. I wish I had known that I could have lived so much better when I was younger if I had just gotten the help that I needed. 😢
You don't want anxiety to start affecting your health like it did me. 😢
Thanks Dr. Julie. Your videos helps me to understand and deal with my anxiety.
I think you are helping me more than the doctors and therapists i have been to
You are quite accurate Dr. Julie.
I feel like i left a inner disturbance out of me because inwas in a toxic friendship like a friendship that feels wrong on the inside i finally let it out thanks to dr.julie 😊
Diagnosed with anxiety, OCD and a panic disorder and I'm ALWAYS told how I 'seem fine'. I work my butt off, I'm never just resting or the fear creeps back in. I make jokes. I'm there for my friends. But I avoid going out because appearing 'normal' is exhausting. Behind closed doors my fear can be so intense that I have frequent panic attacks, some of which I've even gone to A&E for thinking I was having a heart attack but I'd still be polite and friendly and co-operative with nurses even when fully believing I was going to die. The panic would be so intense I'd be crying but at the same time smiling and trying not to make the nurses uncomfortable.
This video makes me feel so validated 😅
This put me in tears.. no reason it’s just I was never diagnosed with depression but I have bad anxiety. And I’m slowly recovering and taking lots of ur advice and it really has helped thank you.
I have literally never seen a video on this. But I have really needed this. Thank you bless you 🙏🏼
Lov ur explanation ❤ can’t stop watching ur shorts
How darn true.
And who believes you when you try to explain ?
They say "yes" but you can tell they haven't a clue or they go on to moan about their burdens & how much worse they are than yours !
So you keep your own counsel.
Julie you're absolutely right I get thank you for.
Wow thank you, i did not know I had this just before all the chronic pain started. No wonder.. after that I came in the freeze mode and now I am getting my life back step by step with the mind-body approach but still wondered why I got in this situation, cause I thought I did well, I managed everything and was happy, but you exposed me, i had high functionating anxiety and now its time to heal from that💖 thank you dr Julie
Woah... That's actually spot on
I’ve never thought that I would have high functioning anxiety!
The second and the third sign are the best describing me.
OK, Dr. Julie you just explained my whole life
All the three points are so true for me.
Please doctor make a detailed video. I can't even take a rest even if I wanted to!!
That's so satisfying to watch you put those on.
Dr Julie your content is really high quality. ❤ Thank you so much
This is me. I threw myself into work and playing sport that I never had a moment to myself and I liked it that way. Then I became disabled and had to medically retire and couldn’t do any sport. The anxiety and depression hit me like a speeding bus and I fell apart and life was so hard for so many years. Making attempts at my life and generally struggling to make it through each day. 5 years on and things are better and understanding why it happened helped, but it’s still a struggle just not half as bad as it was. Thank you for raising awareness of this, I’d never heard of it before it happened to me and lots of people when I explained it hadn’t either!
Thanks to your videos, I can develop my novel's protagonist's personality much better. I thought that he has depression but after watching your video about it seems like he does not (for example, although he has massive hatred for himself, he never had any suicidal thoughts, and he was never completely hopeless for long). But he most definitely has high functioning anxiety as all these three things are true about him. I don't want to bore you with the details, but he grew up without parents since the age of 9 in an enviroment where he totally relied on himself to survive. He learned how to look confident while panicking, and even when he got to a more or less safe place (where the story is played, while he is 15) he has troubles with getting over his traumas, and he is afraid of showing his fear to others because he has huge trust issues. He thinks people will use his weakness against him so he pushes the balloon under the water as you showed it. Everyone thinks he is so calm and confident no matter what but it's actually his own fear is what makes him look like that. I only have some ideas about the book (series) yet but I have time, and I think it has potential in it.
That fits me completely.
I always thought I was more depressed than anxious.
And indeed as someone else said, thought this was my personality.
Sheds a whole new light on things.
Has now led me to resign my job as could not rise to the huge amount of work I said yes to.
Now feeling very depressed as feel even more like a failure.
This aligns completely
These are bang on! 💯
Ive had this since i was a little girl, its always there and I use it as ny super power as well as learning to quiet it now in my adult life and pop boundaries in place. 😊
I have high anxiety which has presented as physical pain in my back, and it always starts at night, when I'm relaxing after a long day or week etc. I completely understand how it comes on stronger at times when you think it should be alleviated
Omg, you made my video! Now tell us what to do. I can't stop working and I feel so much pressure around me, but I never scream or cry
You really make a difference with your contant, ty❤️
I love the colorful ball that he’s holding!! Omg best Psychologist on the internet for real 🙌
Pls do a video on coping with intrusive thoughts. You have a way with words.
Yep people always ask me what I have been up to WORK. I can always feel safe working.
Please 🙏🏻 make a video about Exam Anxiety which can totally ruin your performance regardless of the preparation 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Dr Julie, you are amazing and you are doing a great job
Thank you for this information cuz ik i have anxiety..cuz i have anxiety attacks and panic attacks but sometimes i even trick myself to think that i don't have them and it's just me going thru stress....now i understood what my condition is ..❤
bro perfectly described me
in school I’m at the top of my class and i function well in life, but inside i’m worrying about every little thing and doubting myself all of the time.
Bro never know I had this during my whole life 👁👄👁 Thank you so much!!! 😃👍👏👏👏
Me being a workaholic doesn't mean I loved what I do, it's just the way I cope with my never endless negative thoughts.
I'm also sucks at video game but I loved it because it stopped my thoughts for a moment.
I thought I was the only one who did that 🙂
@@everfolk1 you got this!
Your not alone , join the club!! 😢@@everfolk1
Yes to all ❤. Thank you 🙏
One on overthinking as well please
Literally described me with every word
I’m definitely all three, I’m a anxious mess but can channel it and hide it pretty well.
Oh dear ..I can't stop thinking too...and if I rest I feel my world crumbling around me
I'm not High Functioning but I feel this needs more awareness
Thank you for helping us your very kind human being your channel help may god bless you doctor Julie.
That's absolutely true. I've suffering it for 3 years.
I had severe anxiety which worsened when Covid struck. I remember being so anxious about academics in school it actually hurt in my chest and I would get physically sick. Therapeutic techniques worked but only temporarily. It was anxiety medication that finally allowed me to calm down drastically long term and finally enjoy life. Medication might be the answer for you too.
The thing with anxiety is that even though every body says your doing amazing and that you really are good at what you're doing, your anxiety immediately will shout out in your mind that these are all lies..
I have social anxiety and knowing that some people suffer also it's just heartbreaking
This made me anxious
It's why I HATED and dreaded going to bed when I was a teen. Which in turn made my insomnia worse. So I would stay up for 3 days at a time. Once I moved away and got more help for my anxiety I've been able to sleep better
Thanks Madam Just Recovered Salutes 🙏
I am exactly this fearlessly fearful or as I really like to say I have a fear of phobias but I can play it off very well and never let it get in my way if I got something to do
Trust me, they don't wanna know you have anxiety.
When you have low functioning anxiety, you'll see their true faces
I am 12 and yes I can relate to this . All the points
Wow, that actually defined the anxiety I get really really well. I always assumed it was just stress, that the crying after each test and panicking over the smallest assignments was a stupid thing. maybe it isn’t, but it’s still hard to believe all the way through.
Thank you Dr Julie
Recently started liking work bc it takes my mind off of things
I can relate to 1 and 3 so well
Yep, except my functionality is mostly reduced to helping others. I can't unpack since moving, do projects, etc.
The workaholic one suits me so well. Once I had a school project with 2 other classmates and I did like ¾ of the project alone and they had to stop me and they continued. I was feeling well and anxiety free until they stopped me, then I started feeling like "What if the project isn't good enough?" "What if I annoyed them" "Are we still friends?" What if the teacher notices the difference of writing?" "What if it is ugly and I get an F?" I was always the hard working student that has straight A's.
DR Julie hello my name is Nikki and iv been watching and listening to your mental health videos for a long time they are very interesting and helpful please can you post a video on high functioning depression ?
So very true. Just want to do what I want....
Can you please make a video about social anxiety and eating disorders that aren't talked about. Thank you love your videos 😁💕
No one understands that I am a like a duck. I’m always peddling. I’m got so good at hiding it. People think I am a high achiever but really, I was just looking for a distraction. When it comes to discussing something important, I need to go home, get my feelings sorted and in line, arrange or rearrange my words/speeches so I make sure my points were properly addressed. No one ever saw how much I am struggling in life, they only see my success as something effortlessly done. Some nights, I just wish that my brain has on/off switch.
Nothing has ever described my anxiety better
What anxiety makes it so you can’t do a thing? It makes you look lazy but you’re just always doubting your abilities
I mean, I know I’m working through anxiety but also…. There are people that don’t just generally feel this way all the time? Blows my mind
Appreciate the videos ❤
Please be my doctor, Dr. Julie
Really who i am right now. Thankfully i manage to find the cause and now working on it
Oohh she tells me something new everytime I watch her , yup I have all the three mentioned here
I tried to explain this to my boss when he asked why I don't go out on the weekends.
I explained to him that I spend every emotional coin during the week to come to work and deal with the staff and our customers.
Over the weekend I have very little contact with people as I am mentally exhausted from dealing with people all week.
Dr Julie, thank you
She is always doing something while explaining
I left my job less than a week ago and "relax" is making me freak out....it has a name 🎉
This made me cry
This is actually true, and you can "live" like this for a long period if time doing this however, it eventually explodes outward.
I’m gonna get your book. I’ve been showing signs of severe anxiety and this video describes some of it. Long story short my mother is abusive and I’m a servant for her basically. I’m 18 and trying to get a job, and she keeps telling me to get up early to do her laundry and my dads laundry and my sisters laundry(my sister is 13) I’ve had all the responsibility of cleaning since I was 5. Started cooking my mother stuff in middle school and started making dinner then. I’ve been verbally abused, emotionally, mentally. When I turned 13 she would smack my butt or my boobs and when I told her stop and I didn’t want her to because I felt uncomfortable she said I don’t give a shit she made it she can do what she wants to it and I have to wait till I’m 18 for her to stop. I’ve been through more shit and I’m showing the signs of severe anxiety and depression, overwork, and possibly ptsd from everything I went through. It’s hard getting a therapist at the moment and I feel like I’m suffocating daily
Sounds like my life growing up. I can tell you it's almost impossible to shake that anxiety even as a grown, middle-aged woman (almost 42). I got away from my abusive father at 17 but couldn't escape my mom until I moved out as a working adult. I needed to make sure my younger siblings were ok too. I empathise with your situation and really hope you find a way out and get to a path of healing soon and living your very best life. If I may suggest, take out little moments in your day to do what makes you happy. It'll keep you sane among all the madness. For me, it was writing & art that saved me. Today, other than my mental health struggles, I lead a pretty good life. Stay hopeful and optimistic dear.. .You still have your whole life ahead of you and one day you'll get the chance to finally DO YOU.. And I bet you it'll be freakin' great. ❤
@@mizbarehana5498 thank you this means a lot to me. I’ve been trying to do stuff for myself and I’ve been doing chores since I was five while my mother laid around, so I basically have tried to run errands all week and she’s gave me more chores to do. Finally finished about 40 loads of laundry in three days and I haven’t even done mine yet. They complain my room is a pigsty and the cause of bedbugs and roaches we have had since before I was born(bedbugs came around sophomore year) they complain my room is a mess but rely on me to do all the chores. I’d leave if I had a place to go.
Oh wow i have high functioning anxiety. The woman talking in the video about 3 signs of high functioning anxiety was right about me well some of it. 😮
I have severe adhd, so when she was playing with the elastic ball I couldn’t concentrate. I had to watch it 4 times until I heard all of them correctly 💀
i especially experience number 3, i’ve literally had panic attacks because i had no tasks to do and nothing hanging over my head