I like how Shera said: "He is the one who FAILED at being a provider, father, etc." Put the blame where it truly belongs, with HIM! He is the one who lost out! Quit hating on yourselves, ladies.
God that felt right to read ..I'm going to read it outloud.. my dad left my mom leaves on and off. I raised myself. My 8yr old could never do what I did. Get myself to and from school and care for myself till dark 2nd grade and beyond..she had a job went to school and also acquired a serious boyfriend by the time I was in 5th grade i met him and his son..looking back I realize a lot of my alone time was for her dating..she still hates me if I need help with my kid.she always tells me im not ready for love..my ex failed me. My dad failed me so many loves failed me. I've given up I don't even go sing anymore..I've started my own business. Its not over yet but there are times a train would hit me AND BOUNCE right off my back. Haha I really wanna die tho 🙃 😅 🤪
Biologically, when you've been sexually intimate, you have biological attachment. It takes time to neutralize that sexual connection. It's like withdrawal from drugs. So give yourself time to recover. Go no contact.
I loved him before we had sex u couldn't let it go had to have him. So far I am still a disappointment but I dunno I think the sex might of helped me to let him go. An to see how he dosnt care at all. I just need to not do it again an be done.
Me too. I just dumped my dusty last night, it was so messy, I’m a wreck today. Only a few minutes into this video & reading through the comments makes me feel better. I know I made the right choice.
Phoenix always go into it for Love, but if their life isn’t together just be friends. Tell them no. Being with someone for money when you really want love is miserable. Trust me I’ve done it. It’s not worth it. Yea you can have a lot of material comfort but you will lack so much internal connection and desire. Your relationship will be dead literally. I realized I make enough money to care for self. My life is not luxurious, but I’d rather be alone than know I gave up my integrity.. that my attention can be bought. Real love is super hard to come by so until then I’ll be alone. Nothing wrong with being alone.
@Tired of being an EMPATHY. HELP ME! Ugh why do you care what men do? Where are your personal values? If women use men , and cheat on men , should men turn savage?? Because you know women aren't saints right??
My tip to get over someone is think only about every little bad or unattractive unappealing thing about them do that so much that you get to a point the thought of them repulses you, get out there and meet new people and focus on yourself, accept that it’s over
Tiffany Titty Sprinkles I’m 6 planet Taurus in the 12th House. I never care. I’m typically on to the next the week before anyway. You’re very intuitive
Alexaelyse you are so lucky if you can move on so quickly. Its been 7 months since my husband left me and I still feel Ill when I think about him...I still love him very much
I give myself a 2 week rule. If he don’t come back by 2 weeks I’m COMPLETELY done no going back. During the first week I get all the hurt out my system. 2 week is nothing but leveling up. Then I will move on after that. If he willing to leave me for 2 weeks... no matter what he says it ain’t real love idgaf. Someone who loves you can’t go long without you & that’s just facts .
I never go back to my old jobs or my exes it's simple like that ! Even if it hurts you have to find better you broke up is a sign from the universe and a blessing in disguise telling you, you can do better. Even if it feels like a slap 👋 in the face! 💔😅
Men don’t change unless they want to. They have to grow or experience a major tragedy or life changing event. People never do things just once. A liar is always going to lie. A cheater will always cheat. It’s a character flaw.
If they left you.... think about that? That’s the best way to communicate to someone that they don’t want you. They left!! You don’t abandon people you love. You abandon things
honestly if a man cheated on me i wouldn't be bothered. i would quietly cheat on him, have several side men, and take his money and force him to give me more money. women shouldn't be getting heartbroken nowadays. just get what you want. and if he can't give you what you want then leave.
Holy shit she’s so right!! I left my dusty ex /father of my children like 5 times. He would always chase me and I would go back. Each time I came back the emotions and mental and verbal abuse got worse and worse. The trust wore thinner and thinner, and I tried harder and harder. I’m leaving him for THE LAST time! I’m sick of the abuse, he’s even abused me financially! I’m done!!!!
This may be your best video yet (and they are all good). You made me realize I AM the CEO of my life and anyone in it must meet my standards. There is no shame in setting standards. If you can’t step up, then step aside! NEXT!
I’m 19 years old and when I tell you Shera is helping me. I just got out of a 2.5 year relationship and was feeling soooo down this morning but when I tell you this lady got me back to feeling like myself again
45:53 never invest in any relationship. The whole point is for the man to court you. If they failed it’s their fault and you shouldn’t be upset. Why are you mad. He failed at impressing me
My ex was an energy vampire and I left him. He wanted me back and I felt trapped and blocked. I did not go back but I was stuck in anger for a while. Then I forgave and let go of the fear of meeting another man like him.
the way I’m writing down almost everything you’re saying like I’m taking notes in a university lecture 😭 I’ve never heard anything more real and more applicable in my entire life. Thank you, and thank you to the women in the comments who are speaking nothing but facts 💆🏼♀️💆🏼♀️
I broke up with all my exes first but went back because I honestly had no sense of love and though it was losing my invested feelings. Women who were abused by their own parents and never felt love tend to end up in bad relationships and sadly, I'm no exception. I invested a lot into my relationships which was stupid. Never again, I'm wide awake now.
I’m 31 and my first time being dumped was this year. But all my exs always come back smh and by then it’s always too late..... this time it’s different so idk...Moving on is the best thing to do. You don’t wanna relive the bs!!
this was a hard pill to swallow , but you are absolutely right about everything you said. I broke up with my bf today and it was my first real relationship. but i had to break up with him for my sanity. i have more respect for myself to allow myself to be treated the way i was. it is his lost, i lost nothing . he is the one who has to live with what he has done . i have no desire to want him back because i cannot allow myself to be treated the way i was ! chucking my deuces lol 😂 ✌️
I feel like I don't want him back! I am just being needy for the things he did for me that my parents didn't! I just realize am just being needy .....trying compasate for the the emotional needs I missed from both my unavailable parents
I think my issue with getting over my ex was me having abandonment issues. Not wanting to be alone without anyone (no real friends, nor family support). 😢Parents are dead so it's hard letting go of all I have.
Same :(. It’s not even that I love them , it’s just i can’t afford to lose people bc I actually don’t have anyone else . Then when I start getting deep into this it makes me realize it’s better to be single anyway bc I’m literally relying on them for my happiness and I know it’s not ok
Girl it's the same for me!! my parents are dead. I'm still in my 30s and it's like I really had nothing left other than my man.. I was trying to hold on just to feel like I still have someone who loves me.. But he was broke and I know Shera wouldn't approve lol! I'm taking this time to invest in myself and loving myself.
The 1st 7 mins makes me see I don't want him back I just don't like or want the feelings of rejection or want to feel the temporary hurt🤷🏽♀️ I love your advice!!!
Really needed this ❤️ This is the most REAL and Helpful How to get over a breakup video on TH-cam!!! Most videos just suggest:Get busy,hang out with friends,go workout blah blah 🙄
I do not want his raggedy ass back. Hes ded a dusty and honestly was a downgrade. I went against my better judgement and gave him a chance for love and physical attraction. It was hard for me to get over bc I wanted him to feel pain 10xs what i felt. I knw hes hurting though he pretends hes not. I def gave wayyyyy more and he isnt capable of giving anything. Im happy I knw this. Im happy i dont want him. I was more mad at wasted time and energy.
Shera, you have such a healthy sense of self, and the way you prioritize you is just remarkable. Thank you for sharing these jewels and your mindset with us.
Just got dumped but the guy got me a job at the most prestigious bank on Earth so it was worth it. Always need to get something out of them as an insurance policy if they end up hurting you
All you say is great but i would truly miss the butterflies and what we call "love" or passion, even at 39. I d cannot be with a guy without feeling emotions. But your Channel is helping me getting less emotional and its empowering me
That’s limerence. Limerence is not love. Sad how we as a society have romanticised limerence relationships, telling women that we need to fall head over heels for a dusty.
Your right on this one. A lesson and move forward. 💯💯💯💯💯 He said you gonna block me. I said no I want I want you to see my moving on. Thanks for opening my eyes to these dudes. In my world these young cat come more correct than men my age
This video really helped me. Was seeing a multi millionaire that was old, fat and not attractive. He dumped me 2 days ago, I think that just my ego is hurt. He said I wasn’t giving him what he desired. He took me on 2 trips and bought me several nice gifts and paid my bills they last 2 months. I didn’t want to sleep with him yet so he broke it off.
He is mad he hit the wall and has to pay for time from a woman. He know he has to wait for at least 3 to 6 months before getting some, that's why he's mad. Plus his wallet could've hit the wall too and just couldn't afford to keep paying. You got bills paid, gifts and trips etc for 2 months and kept your legs closed, that's a win.
I don't want to get OVER my ex I want to get EVEN with him for stealing 100K from me. I want him in prison! Not to mention the cheating an lying. Great vid SR7! I must add, It was my own stupid fault for trusting him. I was head over heels stupid. I'm a prime example of why not to be a pick-me-chick! I had to learn the hard way. But he's still a thief.
Tiffany M: I had a second home that I let him live in for free. It was an investment that I was planning to sell when i retired. I had about $200K invested in it. He convinced me to sell it to him for $100K and then he would "take care of me" in my retirement. As soon as we signed the contract - he revealed his other woman and discarded me. He's a criminal. I did not know he was a criminal when I met him. I have reported some of his criminal activity, but he has the local law enforcement in his pocket. Like Al Capone. I have no doubt that he would kill me if I turned him in.
Thank you girl you gave me a reality check I was so dumb for 4 days over a nobody who has nothing of his own I will never ever do this stupid ass shit again in life
I love listening to your points of view about relationships, how men are and staying with someone for more than 2 reasons. I needed to hear this to push my way of thinking into the next level.. Never will I act like a fool again
This video is a godsend! I almost slipped up and went back to that POS! I'm learning to remove my emotions entirely. I'm two seconds from being a total beast 😂🤣😂.
shera this literally made me cry you’re helping me so much. i’m 24 and it’s my first adult heartbreak and i used to always listen to your videos even while with him. he lied a lot, no cheating i know of. but he said it’s his mental health but he let me know on a random night and said i’m less then a week he’s moving out to his new apt after 4 years of being together. it killed me and i am def a pickmeisha. i want to be as confident as you im so grateful there’s women like you that are able to help us
Shera you are so right on. I am a Gold Digger and have ridiculed by the Retched ones and Dusty for my entire life. You are a breath of fresh spring air. You are so darling and dear to me. Thank you so much for vindicating all us, wanna be elegant Ladies of Men of financial means and integrity.
Yessssss!!!! It does work and it feels better when you write down a list of all the negative things the motherfucker done to you and must believe once you read over what you’ve written down on that list , must believe you will NOT GO back with the jerk!.. Ditch the ex !.. write down all the bad and some good things you put up with , if there’s more negative than positive, DITCH THE EX!!! Do not repeat the same cycle over
I really dont miss my ex.. I just want him to crawl and beg just to make me laugh at him.. This is what I really need revenge.. Give me an idea of what to answer when he texts hi again...
I used to wish the same but usually when they come back crying by that time you are over them and just feel sorry for them. You no longer want revenge.
You can only do so much to me before I'm out for good. Let's be honest, in some communities emotional, verbal and physical abuse, tactics and tendencies in the men are considered the norm. Being played, getting used and drained of everything is what many women are used to seeing all around them and many think if their dusty isn't as half as bad as the other dusties, then she will hang in there and keep going back.
“You got robbed I can’t believe that” 😂😂😂. Wish I saw this when he cheated BEFORE I took him back. After watching this I got a great laugh and I don’t want that dusty back. It was my ego 💀
Same here. The past is the past. Why do people want who didn't want them anymore? it's is really there loss! I never understand ex's that stay friends after too ! Lol. It's been a long time for me, but last time once it's over with me it's over. No staying friends bullshit. That's another way for the guy to just come back in and get this unattached free sex. I saw this shit with old friends and I just moved away from them. I couldn't handle there drama and lack of respect for themselves it made me sick to see. I just couldn't!! There are plenty other fish in the sea. Move on and move up! Level up. That is the best revenge 😏
True! - honestly, I couldn't do any worse than my ex. I have nightmares that I'm back in the relationship, then I wake up and am so thankful it was just a nightmare!
Three lovely blessings I think my ex and I are better off as friends. I broke up with him 15 years ago and didn’t look back, our issue was I live in Canada and he lives in New York neither of us were willing to move to the other country. Amazing man and we talk often just not for me.🤷🏾♀️
She Streamed this 2 yrs ago on my birthday, but I missed it cus I was out, bringing in 40 in my VIP section at the club!!! ....her words are a gift that keeps on giving!! Timeless treasures!!! Shera I love your werk (old & new) you are sooo REAL!!!!
It's hard to get over someone when you can't find ANYONE better. All that's out there is someone EXACTLY like your Ex or WORSE. You live in Houston Texas so it may be easy for women to move on to someone BETTER, but in New York or LA....Good Luck.
Hahha messages I found in his phone ?! Noooo these cheaters have PIN number plus face recognition on their phone. His phone is more secured than the White House !
urScorpioLady Men here in Canada have what we call Ho Phones. The first phone is for wife/girlfriend, family, friends, work the second the Ho Phone is for side pieces and one night stands. Going in a man’s phone would solve nothing here cause you wouldn’t find shit.
Alise This video made me take $14,000 from my ex. He kept leaving me home for another girl. The last straw was him hanging up on me. He wants me to come back but I’m so damn scared. I left all my clothes lmao. Take something before you leave ladies!!!
I'm so over this guy that I know for two years now 🙂 . He chooses another girl over me and he still wants to be in my life 💫 he's talking to me and her too so I was tired of trying being played so I moved on . I got me a new man who likes me for me thanks for this message 😍
This is so true! You are a genius brain ma’am.. The minute I saw that funeral Cadillac that crazy narcissist bought without telling me..I was like the Stella walking away after she lit that s*** on fire with $3 in my pocket and anxiety that lasted a year after. I will never forget this damn character. 😮💨
If your married don't be naive enough to just physically separate from your husband but not legally separate and divorce him because my ex high school bf (I'm 55) contacted me and asked me out for a lunch date and said he and his wife are separated. I assumed that meant legally. I ask him at lunch if he's legally separated from her. He said no. Then he asks me on a dinner date and I declined and told him why. I don't date married men that aren't even legally separated. He said he understands. I think his wife is totally unaware of him trying to cheat on her while they are separated. Why would she be that naive? You can't be physically separated from a man and expect him to stay home especially when he's still in good shape and successful.
Excellent Video!!! The only thing they only owe you is another lesson!!! Just keep in mind that a cheater can most certainly give you a disease and there are diseases that will kill you!! Love it!!
Go into it like 90% chance they lying cheating playing the field so why you gonna play wifey. I wish there was a Shera Seven when I was in my prime. Take advantage young ladies.
Hadn’t seen my ex in a month I was drunk last night and we had Inter course. I feel awesome tho cause I don’t want him no more I just wanted that! And Shera you’re voice was literally in my head “Dusties are for fun ONLY”
👸never let a break-up go to waste. use it ⛽️ as fuel; to get shyt done on your dream/goals list🎁💰🏘🚘🏞🚆🛩🚢! be grateful & 😊thankful every day, to him for the catalyst🙏of: turning break-up into ur BETTER-up😌!
I like how Shera said: "He is the one who FAILED at being a provider, father, etc." Put the blame where it truly belongs, with HIM! He is the one who lost out! Quit hating on yourselves, ladies.
God that felt right to read ..I'm going to read it outloud.. my dad left my mom leaves on and off. I raised myself. My 8yr old could never do what I did. Get myself to and from school and care for myself till dark 2nd grade and beyond..she had a job went to school and also acquired a serious boyfriend by the time I was in 5th grade i met him and his son..looking back I realize a lot of my alone time was for her dating..she still hates me if I need help with my kid.she always tells me im not ready for love..my ex failed me. My dad failed me so many loves failed me. I've given up I don't even go sing anymore..I've started my own business. Its not over yet but there are times a train would hit me AND BOUNCE right off my back. Haha I really wanna die tho 🙃 😅 🤪
And she ain't lie. My ex left because he couldn't provide for me anymore and it's not like i was asking an expensive vacation or something
333 for confirmation!!
❤ this
Excellent video Shera ❤❤❤🎉
When she said “If you had never met that person you would’ve done better”. 🤯
Ijn😅😅😅😊
@I’m 😅am
Facts !!
Biologically, when you've been sexually intimate, you have biological attachment. It takes time to neutralize that sexual connection. It's like withdrawal from drugs. So give yourself time to recover. Go no contact.
Yep.... this is the best comment!!!
Good point oxytocin aka bonding hormone.
Soul ties. You need God to break them.
@@CynthiaAva yes everything happens through God first.
I loved him before we had sex u couldn't let it go had to have him. So far I am still a disappointment but I dunno I think the sex might of helped me to let him go. An to see how he dosnt care at all. I just need to not do it again an be done.
Men are like buses and trains there’s always another one coming.🎯
Melinda Lewis That Part!!
For some women that’s the case... not all of us
True. it might not happen straight away but eventually another one always comes along if we look at the patterns throughout the years
Roxanne Cosmotology When I sit down and think about it, you’re so right.
Thats a good one
Whenever I feel emotional. I come to her. I absolutely adore this woman
Same here
Me too. I just dumped my dusty last night, it was so messy, I’m a wreck today. Only a few minutes into this video & reading through the comments makes me feel better. I know I made the right choice.
Same
@@alexislee4768 stay strong girl it’s gonna be hard but I promise you deserve better. You know your worth ❤️
Amen!!
Next relationship, I'm not going into it for love.
Phoenix always go into it for Love, but if their life isn’t together just be friends. Tell them no. Being with someone for money when you really want love is miserable. Trust me I’ve done it. It’s not worth it. Yea you can have a lot of material comfort but you will lack so much internal connection and desire. Your relationship will be dead literally. I realized I make enough money to care for self. My life is not luxurious, but I’d rather be alone than know I gave up my integrity.. that my attention can be bought. Real love is super hard to come by so until then I’ll be alone. Nothing wrong with being alone.
Phoenix me either
@Tired of being an EMPATHY. HELP ME! Ugh why do you care what men do? Where are your personal values? If women use men , and cheat on men , should men turn savage?? Because you know women aren't saints right??
Lol then watch him turn out to be the man of your dreams. No shade here. Just wishing you well Phoenix. Bless you 😇
Amazing Grace If you‘re seeking genuine love from someone other than yourself or your children you will always end up feeling empty. Wake up!
“The only thing they owe you, is another lesson.” ✨✨ the gems in this one here!
That truth hurt my soul 😭
My tip to get over someone is think only about every little bad or unattractive unappealing thing about them do that so much that you get to a point the thought of them repulses you, get out there and meet new people and focus on yourself, accept that it’s over
It works
@@Jeniffer61867yeah it does
Yep
I wrote everything down to remind myself why im making the right decision
I don't want him back. He never wanted me and never will. I'm ok with that.
how’d you get there?
près du cœur yeah I wanna know ur secret
i’m in the same situation
Lol I don't give a crap either & I'm okay with it, too. I know it's his loss & there is a Sea full of other/better men!
People call me a sociopath because I get over men in seconds. I thought that was normal
Alexaelyse you love and respect yourself. That's a good thing. Forget what those haters think. They are just mad they are pick mes lol
Alexaelyse lmfaooo it is
Tiffany Titty Sprinkles I’m 6 planet Taurus in the 12th House. I never care. I’m typically on to the next the week before anyway. You’re very intuitive
Lmao! This is exactly the level of not caring about others I’m seeking to achieve
Alexaelyse you are so lucky if you can move on so quickly. Its been 7 months since my husband left me and I still feel Ill when I think about him...I still love him very much
I give myself a 2 week rule. If he don’t come back by 2 weeks I’m COMPLETELY done no going back. During the first week I get all the hurt out my system. 2 week is nothing but leveling up. Then I will move on after that. If he willing to leave me for 2 weeks... no matter what he says it ain’t real love idgaf. Someone who loves you can’t go long without you & that’s just facts .
Currently going through the first week.
First day.. 13 more days to go
@@Pretti_Lucky how are you now dear ?
@@klonde3645 Going good.. over it and him.. he made his decision and the streets got him
Good idea, thankyou
My upgrade was MORE than enough compensation 💍🙌🏾💕
Miss Klass 😂😂😂
🤗👍👍🤗
Eww i need an upgrade to compensate for wasted time
Congratulations!❤
I’m manifesting this energy this year 💍💕
The way this literally cured my mental illness. I needed your blunt voice to slap some reality into my head
Right 😂🎉
The way she helped me moved on from a 12 year engagement to a dusty 😂
I always felt it was more exciting to move on, new opportunities to meet other men!
"How to lose a dusty in 10 days"
😂😂😂😂😂
LJ L 😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂🗑🗑🏃♀️🏃♀️
When is your book coming out? I need a signed copy! 😂🤣😂
Lolz
Ask for money every day
They don’t owe you anything but you owe yourself your peace
I never go back to my old jobs or my exes it's simple like that ! Even if it hurts you have to find better you broke up is a sign from the universe and a blessing in disguise telling you, you can do better. Even if it feels like a slap 👋 in the face! 💔😅
It's interesting how you also mentioned old jobs. Please explain this to me further so i can stay away from my old workplace too
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Crying because we acted like his mother and lost a child. That's a good one.
Men don’t change unless they want to. They have to grow or experience a major tragedy or life changing event. People never do things just once. A liar is always going to lie. A cheater will always cheat. It’s a character flaw.
Yes! Robert Greene’s books have taught me this and I truly believe it
@@wolfemme430 name of the book?
48 laws of power@@Honeyiroseupfromthedead
Its not the ex, its the dream of the future I had with the ex. And I also thought we were so compatible.
Me too
I just realized that I don't want my ex back thanks to Sheera! OMG
Me too
Me too.
If they left you.... think about that? That’s the best way to communicate to someone that they don’t want you. They left!! You don’t abandon people you love. You abandon things
honestly if a man cheated on me i wouldn't be bothered. i would quietly cheat on him, have several side men, and take his money and force him to give me more money. women shouldn't be getting heartbroken nowadays. just get what you want. and if he can't give you what you want then leave.
Holy shit she’s so right!! I left my dusty ex /father of my children like 5 times. He would always chase me and I would go back. Each time I came back the emotions and mental and verbal abuse got worse and worse. The trust wore thinner and thinner, and I tried harder and harder. I’m leaving him for THE LAST time! I’m sick of the abuse, he’s even abused me financially! I’m done!!!!
You can do it. Ditch his dusty ass and go find yourself a real man
Did you leave him?
I hope you are okay now.
Did you end up leaving him?
You okay?
I wish you raised me .lmao I would have loved to know this info before I started dating. 😂😂
I never wanted a daughter until i found Shera. Now I want one to raise right and watch her raze the world as my old age entertainment.
@@just1desi😂😂
logic is golden
Man! Just go have a life and will never think about them. Life is good, doesn’t worth waste the time on exes
This may be your best video yet (and they are all good). You made me realize I AM the CEO of my life and anyone in it must meet my standards. There is no shame in setting standards. If you can’t step up, then step aside! NEXT!
"If you can't step up, then step aside!" Love that
Step up or step off!
Yeah but what happens if you don't run into the step up
I’m 19 years old and when I tell you Shera is helping me. I just got out of a 2.5 year relationship and was feeling soooo down this morning but when I tell you this lady got me back to feeling like myself again
45:53 never invest in any relationship. The whole point is for the man to court you. If they failed it’s their fault and you shouldn’t be upset. Why are you mad. He failed at impressing me
My ex was an energy vampire and I left him. He wanted me back and I felt trapped and blocked. I did not go back but I was stuck in anger for a while. Then I forgave and let go of the fear of meeting another man like him.
the way I’m writing down almost everything you’re saying like I’m taking notes in a university lecture 😭 I’ve never heard anything more real and more applicable in my entire life. Thank you, and thank you to the women in the comments who are speaking nothing but facts 💆🏼♀️💆🏼♀️
I really hate watching these videos sometimes. They force me to look inward. Now I gotta go have a chat with my self esteem and ego 😂😭
I broke up with all my exes first but went back because I honestly had no sense of love and though it was losing my invested feelings. Women who were abused by their own parents and never felt love tend to end up in bad relationships and sadly, I'm no exception. I invested a lot into my relationships which was stupid. Never again, I'm wide awake now.
Girl this comment hit home for me that’s how I got trapped I finally left this year
I’m 31 and my first time being dumped was this year. But all my exs always come back smh and by then it’s always too late..... this time it’s different so idk...Moving on is the best thing to do. You don’t wanna relive the bs!!
Shes been speaking facts for years I wish I watched this sooner I would have saved myself many heartbreaks.
I don’t have feelings for him but I’m upset about the situation… I think I need to work on myself because honestly he’s not even likeable
Haha i feel u
Why be upset about the situation when he's unlikable. U dont make sense.
Why be upset if he isn't likable. It doesnt make any sense..
this was a hard pill to swallow , but you are absolutely right about everything you said. I broke up with my bf today and it was my first real relationship. but i had to break up with him for my sanity. i have more respect for myself to allow myself to be treated the way i was. it is his lost, i lost nothing . he is the one who has to live with what he has done . i have no desire to want him back because i cannot allow myself to be treated the way i was ! chucking my deuces lol 😂 ✌️
Hi hope you’re doing okay !
I feel like I don't want him back! I am just being needy for the things he did for me that my parents didn't! I just realize am just being needy .....trying compasate for the the emotional needs I missed from both my unavailable parents
Omg-same!! Trying to heal somehow, but it’s difficult when you’re all in your own 😢
By the time u are done watching this video, u will be over him lol
I wish I had your strength .....but I’m learning.
I don’t even get mad at exes I get mad at myself lol 😂
Girl. You just saved me. I was trying to add the person back to social media.
I deleted it.
I think my issue with getting over my ex was me having abandonment issues. Not wanting to be alone without anyone (no real friends, nor family support). 😢Parents are dead so it's hard letting go of all I have.
Same :(. It’s not even that I love them , it’s just i can’t afford to lose people bc I actually don’t have anyone else . Then when I start getting deep into this it makes me realize it’s better to be single anyway bc I’m literally relying on them for my happiness and I know it’s not ok
Can I be your friend Tee
I can be your friend I’m sorry I know what you’re going through
@@lulunicole1818 thanks for your transparency
Girl it's the same for me!! my parents are dead. I'm still in my 30s and it's like I really had nothing left other than my man.. I was trying to hold on just to feel like I still have someone who loves me.. But he was broke and I know Shera wouldn't approve lol! I'm taking this time to invest in myself and loving myself.
The 1st 7 mins makes me see I don't want him back I just don't like or want the feelings of rejection or want to feel the temporary hurt🤷🏽♀️ I love your advice!!!
Really needed this ❤️ This is the most REAL and Helpful How to get over a breakup video on TH-cam!!! Most videos just suggest:Get busy,hang out with friends,go workout blah blah 🙄
So annoying indeed
This was so annoying when I was looking.
I do not want his raggedy ass back. Hes ded a dusty and honestly was a downgrade. I went against my better judgement and gave him a chance for love and physical attraction.
It was hard for me to get over bc I wanted him to feel pain 10xs what i felt. I knw hes hurting though he pretends hes not.
I def gave wayyyyy more and he isnt capable of giving anything. Im happy I knw this. Im happy i dont want him.
I was more mad at wasted time and energy.
U want him back. I can tell.
@@lc-il6wr so you’re one of the delusional disposable ones-got it
this is truly helping me so much with my breakup. it’s like free therapy. thank you for your wise words i needed to hear them so bad ❤️
Shera talking about 20/30 year olds when 40/50 year are in these streets too 😂
Facts
The ones in 50s play the cheating game a lot
Listen to this smart woman. I've learned a lot. I thank God I didn't settle for a dusty.
Shera, you have such a healthy sense of self, and the way you prioritize you is just remarkable. Thank you for sharing these jewels and your mindset with us.
You're literally getting more beautiful each video
Madison Francis like fine wine
You are so right!! When they’re gone, they’re gone.
Facts❤
Just got dumped but the guy got me a job at the most prestigious bank on Earth so it was worth it. Always need to get something out of them as an insurance policy if they end up hurting you
All you say is great but i would truly miss the butterflies and what we call "love" or passion, even at 39. I d cannot be with a guy without feeling emotions. But your Channel is helping me getting less emotional and its empowering me
Same here girl im working on it I feel the same way
haha when you get a man of means, trust me emotions don't really matter. You grow to love a man more the more he provides for you anyway
That’s limerence. Limerence is not love. Sad how we as a society have romanticised limerence relationships, telling women that we need to fall head over heels for a dusty.
Your right on this one. A lesson and move forward. 💯💯💯💯💯 He said you gonna block me. I said no I want I want you to see my moving on. Thanks for opening my eyes to these dudes. In my world these young cat come more correct than men my age
This video really helped me. Was seeing a multi millionaire that was old, fat and not attractive. He dumped me 2 days ago, I think that just my ego is hurt. He said I wasn’t giving him what he desired. He took me on 2 trips and bought me several nice gifts and paid my bills they last 2 months. I didn’t want to sleep with him yet so he broke it off.
They always do this, the “hot & cold” trick, he thinks you’re going to realize what you “lost”, crawl back & act accordingly.
@@vturner I never thought of it that way. Ty ♥️
He is mad he hit the wall and has to pay for time from a woman. He know he has to wait for at least 3 to 6 months before getting some, that's why he's mad. Plus his wallet could've hit the wall too and just couldn't afford to keep paying. You got bills paid, gifts and trips etc for 2 months and kept your legs closed, that's a win.
@@khrisi9410 You’re so right. 💜
I don't want to get OVER my ex I want to get EVEN with him for stealing 100K from me.
I want him in prison!
Not to mention the cheating an lying.
Great vid SR7!
I must add, It was my own stupid fault for trusting him. I was head over heels stupid.
I'm a prime example of why not to be a pick-me-chick! I had to learn the hard way.
But he's still a thief.
old crone 100k?! Girl how did he get that much from you?! If he stole it call the police & sue. If you gave it to him you may have to eat the loss.
And you haven't had someone HEX him yet...🙄
Tiffany M: I had a second home that I let him live in for free. It was an investment that I was planning to sell when i retired. I had about $200K invested in it. He convinced me to sell it to him for $100K and then he would "take care of me" in my retirement. As soon as we signed the contract - he revealed his other woman and discarded me. He's a criminal. I did not know he was a criminal when I met him. I have reported some of his criminal activity, but he has the local law enforcement in his pocket. Like Al Capone. I have no doubt that he would kill me if I turned him in.
IamKerryanne: Actually - yes I have! He had a helluva year, but he's rebounded now. He refuses to suffer.
He convinced you...🙄 I'd cut my losses and move on.
Telling a dusty you pregnant works each time. Just make sure they understand it’s not theirs.
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This is amazing haha
😂😂😂😂😂😂
My daily dose of SheRa! You are my medicine lol
Summer Wright Yaaassss she is literally my Bible 😂🙌
Girl YESSSSSS!!!! I need SheRa in my damn life! Glad I'm not the only one!!!
My daily does of Shera! You are my medicine lol I had to copy this! 💯😂👍
Thank you girl you gave me a reality check I was so dumb for 4 days over a nobody who has nothing of his own I will never ever do this stupid ass shit again in life
I love listening to your points of view about relationships, how men are and staying with someone for more than 2 reasons. I needed to hear this to push my way of thinking into the next level..
Never will I act like a fool again
This video is a godsend! I almost slipped up and went back to that POS! I'm learning to remove my emotions entirely. I'm two seconds from being a total beast 😂🤣😂.
shera this literally made me cry you’re helping me so much. i’m 24 and it’s my first adult heartbreak and i used to always listen to your videos even while with him. he lied a lot, no cheating i know of. but he said it’s his mental health but he let me know on a random night and said i’m less then a week he’s moving out to his new apt after 4 years of being together. it killed me and i am def a pickmeisha. i want to be as confident as you im so grateful there’s women like you that are able to help us
Literally you have changed my life. I love you. Thank you x
Shera you are so right on. I am a Gold Digger and have ridiculed by the Retched ones and Dusty for my entire life. You are a breath of fresh spring air. You are so darling and dear to me. Thank you so much for vindicating all us, wanna be elegant Ladies of Men of financial means and integrity.
You totaly changed my mind thank you 💕
Yessssss!!!! It does work and it feels better when you write down a list of all the negative things the motherfucker done to you and must believe once you read over what you’ve written down on that list , must believe you will NOT GO back with the jerk!.. Ditch the ex !.. write down all the bad and some good things you put up with , if there’s more negative than positive, DITCH THE EX!!! Do not repeat the same cycle over
I really dont miss my ex.. I just want him to crawl and beg just to make me laugh at him.. This is what I really need revenge.. Give me an idea of what to answer when he texts hi again...
Its a whole book about...
What to text him...on
Amazon.com😊👍👍
Just play games with him now that you're not emotionally invested to him.
Same
I used to wish the same but usually when they come back crying by that time you are over them and just feel sorry for them. You no longer want revenge.
@@bhilaire1bj play games how
You can only do so much to me before I'm out for good. Let's be honest, in some communities emotional, verbal and physical abuse, tactics and tendencies in the men are considered the norm. Being played, getting used and drained of everything is what many women are used to seeing all around them and many think if their dusty isn't as half as bad as the other dusties, then she will hang in there and keep going back.
“You got robbed I can’t believe that” 😂😂😂. Wish I saw this when he cheated BEFORE I took him back. After watching this I got a great laugh and I don’t want that dusty back. It was my ego 💀
They can't get over their ex because they are afraid of ending up alone
You do not lie. So true.
Same here. The past is the past. Why do people want who didn't want them anymore? it's is really there loss! I never understand ex's that stay friends after too ! Lol. It's been a long time for me, but last time once it's over with me it's over. No staying friends bullshit. That's another way for the guy to just come back in and get this unattached free sex. I saw this shit with old friends and I just moved away from them. I couldn't handle there drama and lack of respect for themselves it made me sick to see. I just couldn't!! There are plenty other fish in the sea. Move on and move up! Level up. That is the best revenge 😏
Nobody, i mean nobody, friend-zones me. F that shit.
Exactly , that is some lame shit. Once they r out they can stay out! Lol you'll do better
True! - honestly, I couldn't do any worse than my ex. I have nightmares that I'm back in the relationship, then I wake up and am so thankful it was just a nightmare!
Three lovely blessings I think my ex and I are better off as friends. I broke up with him 15 years ago and didn’t look back, our issue was I live in Canada and he lives in New York neither of us were willing to move to the other country. Amazing man and we talk often just not for me.🤷🏾♀️
Her videos are therapy fr
Right
"It NEVER!!! Pays! OFF"!!!
"You Will NEVER!!! be...
COMPENSATED"!!!
👏👏👏👍👍👏👏👏
Her videos are a refresher course on stuff we already should know. Sprinkle Sprinkle ✨
She Streamed this 2 yrs ago on my birthday, but I missed it cus I was out, bringing in 40 in my VIP section at the club!!! ....her words are a gift that keeps on giving!! Timeless treasures!!! Shera I love your werk (old & new) you are sooo REAL!!!!
It's hard to get over someone when you can't find ANYONE better. All that's out there is someone EXACTLY like your Ex or WORSE. You live in Houston Texas so it may be easy for women to move on to someone BETTER, but in New York or LA....Good Luck.
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You don’t need a man for anything period. I don’t care where you live. I’d rather be single then have that kind of neediness.
NY is very easy because there are so many cultures to choose from. I lived in NY and dating was no issue.
It’s weird to see you here especially now. Fast forward you’re a hater 😳
@@Denailacolelmaooo 😂 they hate shera because theyre don't apply her advice
You're his mother. its going to be hard to let go of your child!! 😂😂🤣
hahahahaha😂😂
Next relationship is strictly for money
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Exactly I don’t need a man Im financially secure but I like having a companion for dates n’ traveling
why do i want someone who discarded me ? …. there really is no good answer for that !
“Who’s the next victim?”😂😂😂
This one had me DYYYIIINN 💀💀💀😂😂😂😂😂 Your clear descriptions and advice is soo on point! Thank you Sheraseven 💜
Girl YOU are the TRUTH!!! 👍🏾❤️❤️❤️ not sure where or How you get this knowledge! But bowing 🙇🏽♀️ down for the queen 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
“And her, and her, and her, and him!” 😩😩😂😂😂😂😂
Hahha messages I found in his phone ?! Noooo these cheaters have PIN number plus face recognition on their phone. His phone is more secured than the White House !
urScorpioLady 😂😂
urScorpioLady my baby have access to my phone I don't have nothing to hide you see I'm a grown man and grown man do grown man stuff
Joseph Hughes well I respect you already. I think that husband and wife should be able to access each other phone 📱whenever feel like it.
urScorpioLady Men here in Canada have what we call Ho Phones. The first phone is for wife/girlfriend, family, friends, work the second the Ho Phone is for side pieces and one night stands. Going in a man’s phone would solve nothing here cause you wouldn’t find shit.
urScorpioLady That’s not true lol. I have a pin too and that doesn’t mean I’m a cheater. I like my privacy.
Alise
This video made me take $14,000 from my ex. He kept leaving me home for another girl. The last straw was him hanging up on me. He wants me to come back but I’m so damn scared. I left all my clothes lmao. Take something before you leave ladies!!!
I did the same with my cheatin ex ass i took his car money lol that was 10 years ago F him
Alise..u should be in jail right now.
This popped up on my feed and I really needed this. I started crying and laughed mid cry
Thank you for this. Broke up with a Taurus on Saturday and needed advice from my virtual big Sis🌺
Good sex is a dime a dozen...I love your teachings. Thank you so much.
But that is true tho when you actually think about it
Thanks for keeping these old videos! They’re still relevant today! Timeless. ❤❤❤❤her!
I'm so over this guy that I know for two years now 🙂 . He chooses another girl over me and he still wants to be in my life 💫 he's talking to me and her too so I was tired of trying being played so I moved on . I got me a new man who likes me for me thanks for this message 😍
This is so true! You are a genius brain ma’am.. The minute I saw that funeral Cadillac that crazy narcissist bought without telling me..I was like the Stella walking away after she lit that s*** on fire with $3 in my pocket and anxiety that lasted a year after. I will never forget this damn character. 😮💨
If your married don't be naive enough to just physically separate from your husband but not legally separate and divorce him because my ex high school bf (I'm 55) contacted me and asked me out for a lunch date and said he and his wife are separated. I assumed that meant legally. I ask him at lunch if he's legally separated from her. He said no. Then he asks me on a dinner date and I declined and told him why. I don't date married men that aren't even legally separated. He said he understands. I think his wife is totally unaware of him trying to cheat on her while they are separated. Why would she be that naive? You can't be physically separated from a man and expect him to stay home especially when he's still in good shape and successful.
Respect to You She Ra.. You are my Favorite Person He in the world. Love from the bottom of my heart and thanks you
Excellent Video!!!
The only thing they only owe you is another lesson!!!
Just keep in mind that a cheater can most certainly give you a disease and there are diseases that will kill you!!
Love it!!
Go into it like 90% chance they lying cheating playing the field so why you gonna play wifey. I wish there was a Shera Seven when I was in my prime. Take advantage young ladies.
I just realized nobody can change my mindset better than Shera
Hadn’t seen my ex in a month I was drunk last night and we had Inter course. I feel awesome tho cause I don’t want him no more I just wanted that! And Shera you’re voice was literally in my head “Dusties are for fun ONLY”
Same!
Its called rape if you are drunk having sex .
@@lc-il6wrno it isn't 🤦🏽♀️
@@carmellahoney3599 yes it is because u r not in your right mind..
👸never let a break-up go to waste. use it ⛽️ as fuel; to get shyt done on your dream/goals list🎁💰🏘🚘🏞🚆🛩🚢! be grateful & 😊thankful every day, to him for the catalyst🙏of: turning break-up into ur BETTER-up😌!
great phrases! you are so right, level up!