Leave Men Alone Who Don't Chase

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  • @manalosman872
    @manalosman872 ปีที่แล้ว +3607

    Ladies the man who doesn't chase you doesn't want you. Period.

    • @allthewayuptv
      @allthewayuptv ปีที่แล้ว +74

      U missed all the T's in the word Period. Periodttt

    • @rhyno8644
      @rhyno8644 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      SAY IT AGAIN
      GAMES LEAD TO GAMES LEAD TO GAMES LEAD TO GAMES. You're specifically looking for the person whos willing to forfeit their manhood all together just to entertain you.

    • @alexiepfeiffer145
      @alexiepfeiffer145 ปีที่แล้ว +136

      @@rhyno8644there’s nothing more manly than a man going after the woman he wants

    • @nikkishacollicutt2093
      @nikkishacollicutt2093 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Amen!!!✨️✨️

    • @blessedchildofgod9112
      @blessedchildofgod9112 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      exactly

  • @FEMININELY_ME
    @FEMININELY_ME ปีที่แล้ว +1762

    Exactly, I can't stand a man who doesn't chase me. Like, you want me but you're not actively pursuing me? You're lying!

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 ปีที่แล้ว +148

      Them words don’t match his actions🥴

    • @SiSTARWande
      @SiSTARWande ปีที่แล้ว +110

      "Why you always lying " 🎤🎷🎸

    • @Steve-mp7by
      @Steve-mp7by ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Maybe he doesn't want to give off stalker vibes?

    • @rhyno8644
      @rhyno8644 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      At the end of the day this is an extremely clumsy way of training. Obviously the goal is to book as many donors live spot your as target market faster. Shes obviously from Houston. Show up in New Orleans with your boots laced. We got appointments in a much faster environment.

    • @mountainkid417
      @mountainkid417 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Camrynns some women are also like that too. I dealt with couple of them in the past

  • @s1996g
    @s1996g ปีที่แล้ว +2110

    Literally, us women have the power! When we all start to deny them dusties any access to us, that’s when men won’t have any other choice but to level up and offer us more.

    • @Emiliah1996
      @Emiliah1996 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      This. I realised in my late 20s that men are literally obsessed with women and they need sex and intimacy. They always are in the search for women. That’s why they get so mad when women are confident and knows what she wants. Not saying to be rude or a diva, just stop accept dustys.

    • @PINKDiva88
      @PINKDiva88 ปีที่แล้ว +146

      They know this. Which is why they they shame and shout down women who speak up.

    • @s1996g
      @s1996g ปีที่แล้ว +76

      ​@@Emiliah1996 And they use women to get confidence boost and respect from other men and women. They will be with a woman, not because they have feelings for her, or want her, but simply for the fact that she wanted them and they were able to get with her, so they can boast themselves and brag to other men.

    • @nathanielelzie8898
      @nathanielelzie8898 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@s1996ghey… money rules. I understand your frustration, knowing that you’ll always be just an object… well at least shera is teaching you to use it to your advantage

    • @elegantempress1395
      @elegantempress1395 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      @@nathanielelzie8898”just an object” to males. Which is irrelevant because another person’s opinion of me isn’t the truth, it’s what I think of myself that matters. Your male opinions hold no value 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @ruel.e.i.
    @ruel.e.i. ปีที่แล้ว +733

    NEVER EVER EVER CHASE a MAN.. MEN CHASE women they wanna chase.. if he ain’t chasing you, it’s because he doesn’t want YOU…PERIOD

    • @originalmix2546
      @originalmix2546 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      exactly!!!!!!

    • @RobertHernández-q8b
      @RobertHernández-q8b 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Not always something is because she messed up and Men have honor, you girls can't understand that

    • @kobiwan8231
      @kobiwan8231 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I chase my dreams not some 🐱 humble yo self

    • @NoLaGurl18
      @NoLaGurl18 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Period!

    • @Girlwithapurse03
      @Girlwithapurse03 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      @@kobiwan8231that's why you on this channel trying to see what we talking about 😂😂

  • @fwvipra
    @fwvipra 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    chasing is a very masculine activity in which i will never participate in again . if a man doesn’t chase me i automatically assume he doesn’t want me and move on , and that’s how it should be ladies !

  • @jbates725
    @jbates725 ปีที่แล้ว +1621

    I wish I would have found content and reality checks like this in my twenties, instead of my mid 40's. Straight truth.

    • @misskogan
      @misskogan ปีที่แล้ว +63

      Same from this 45 year old

    • @Laurie-RenéeVoltaire
      @Laurie-RenéeVoltaire ปีที่แล้ว +160

      It' s better late than never . . .

    • @CynthiaAva
      @CynthiaAva ปีที่แล้ว +122

      Better in your mid-40's than mid 50's like me. lol But also...better late than never.

    • @chayo4537
      @chayo4537 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Laurie-RenéeVoltaire but never late is better. . . . Take care

    • @tabithaedwards1205
      @tabithaedwards1205 ปีที่แล้ว +89

      Grateful for this knowledge at 19

  • @head8nana
    @head8nana ปีที่แล้ว +964

    Low effort is unattractive… keep the standards high, ladies! ❤

    • @angiec9087
      @angiec9087 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      It really is.

    • @queensun6059
      @queensun6059 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      👸well stated👏👏👏major turn-off! ick. no matter how cute he is; he's super ugly if he's cheap & not $poiln u. bye man-boy🏃‍♀️.

    • @kristinsteckler10419
      @kristinsteckler10419 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Absolutely

    • @BigEww
      @BigEww 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yal don’t b worth it. Plenty other fish 😂😂

    • @j-tenn226
      @j-tenn226 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

      @@BigEwwgo run to pickmeshia. Her arms wide open

  • @ashleygoodrich3294
    @ashleygoodrich3294 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +133

    1. Paying Bills
    2. Doing the most for you
    3. And chasing YOU
    MORAL OF THIS video☝🏽🤞🏽

  • @mskaiser33
    @mskaiser33 ปีที่แล้ว +614

    Listen to this lady😅. I have went on a full paid trip to Jamaica, a brand new refrigerator, a trp to Denver!! I am a middle age lady! Okay looking 😅. I chose a man who wants me.

    • @stephsteph1338
      @stephsteph1338 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      Sprinkle, Sprinkle! That's awesome! 😊⭐️❤️

    • @leonaluvs
      @leonaluvs ปีที่แล้ว +39

      Does he got brother

    • @dianemary
      @dianemary ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Sprinkle sprinkle 🎉

    • @1120forevrr
      @1120forevrr ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @pekoml3999😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @angelika87
      @angelika87 ปีที่แล้ว

      you know he is. or sloppy overweight.

  • @Thee_PinkD0t
    @Thee_PinkD0t ปีที่แล้ว +4055

    If he not chasing, I’m replacing 💅🏾

  • @jedimastermind007
    @jedimastermind007 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +233

    How a man (consistently) treats you is key. The wrong man can chase, obtain, conquer, and discard.

    • @caramignon3626
      @caramignon3626 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Exactly!

    • @passionfruitpassionfruit2034
      @passionfruitpassionfruit2034 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Keep your legs closed sprinkle sprinkle

    • @doveflyer1636
      @doveflyer1636 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Im dealing with this now!

    • @Dcvfbngefeeecbb
      @Dcvfbngefeeecbb 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@doveflyer1636 u chose him your fault take accountability 😍😍😍😍

    • @kathleenking47
      @kathleenking47 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Not a bad idea​@@passionfruitpassionfruit2034

  • @lulapaloozah
    @lulapaloozah ปีที่แล้ว +470

    "If he's not proving it, and you're still believing it, then we know who the dumb one is. " 😂😂

    • @lulapaloozah
      @lulapaloozah ปีที่แล้ว +6

      2:28

    • @LadyRev
      @LadyRev ปีที่แล้ว +10

      😂😂😂😂

    • @solafa22
      @solafa22 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂😂😂😂

  • @queensun6059
    @queensun6059 ปีที่แล้ว +582

    👸if he's NOT chasing and/or he stops chasing u. he doesn't like or want u. block. delete. access denied.😌

    • @SuperLibra101
      @SuperLibra101 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Yes!!!! Access denied !!!!!!!

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Period

    • @BossDaMoneyMaker
      @BossDaMoneyMaker ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yup blocked yu so i can find females who aint on bs

    • @leopardxo
      @leopardxo ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What if I like him as a friend but he still won’t make time to see me ?:(

    • @mrgabe1
      @mrgabe1 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@leopardxo Guess you got access denied?

  • @ninawestlake5005
    @ninawestlake5005 ปีที่แล้ว +617

    My block and delete game, literally and figuratively is 100% on point and i'm not just talking about men alone. I apply it to everybody.

    • @Loveskelly-hr
      @Loveskelly-hr ปีที่แล้ว +43

      I'm tryna get used to applying it to friends who put me down too

    • @farrahforever0210
      @farrahforever0210 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Period !

    • @BigDripTV-ix3hp
      @BigDripTV-ix3hp ปีที่แล้ว

      yall are irrelevant. 🤣.

    • @liviareyna6704
      @liviareyna6704 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      as you should. be selective with everybody.

    • @userygfd
      @userygfd ปีที่แล้ว +16

      had a guy i used to text, his friend ran his mouth. I blocked him and the friend, I draw the line at disrespect

  • @Iceblaker
    @Iceblaker ปีที่แล้ว +1086

    If he aint chasing, he aint that interested! Sprinkle sprinkle

    • @garden_dork
      @garden_dork ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Keep telling yourself that ladies

    • @tinyking11
      @tinyking11 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      FACTS!! 🔥💯 He doesn’t like you forreal.

    • @mysticx33
      @mysticx33 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      lmao men are wising up and we aint chasing no more. Especially a man who takes care of himself meaning striving for improvement daily. There isnt enough manly man out there so if you find one and you try to play the "game" with him, he will move on to next immodestly. Only a simp and a lame chases. Know that ladies.

    • @cvtisdz
      @cvtisdz ปีที่แล้ว +108

      @@mysticx33you chasing and kissing men instead since you know them so well

    • @mysticx33
      @mysticx33 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      keep denying the truth@@cvtisdz

  • @proletvladimirova828
    @proletvladimirova828 ปีที่แล้ว +426

    Shera is right! If a man doesn’t pursue you, he doesn’t like you! Even he decides to be with you, it’s cus you want him and he benefits from being with you. Don’t be Pickmesha

  • @natalieetched
    @natalieetched ปีที่แล้ว +630

    I’m 20 and I’m seeing all these comments wishing they’d had your advice at my age. Just got played by a 24 year old “successful” man who wanted wifey privileges without a title. Talkn bout some “cook for me” lmaoooo never again! Next!!! I’m so glad I found your channel you’re helping me find what I need as a woman.

    • @ImThePrizeXY
      @ImThePrizeXY ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Lolol as if your cooking is some amazing honor that beats Popeyes 2 piece chicken wing special

    • @themagicalcupcakeunicorn5755
      @themagicalcupcakeunicorn5755 ปีที่แล้ว +150

      @@ImThePrizeXYYou must be the “successful” man in question

    • @Jeniffer61867
      @Jeniffer61867 ปีที่แล้ว +107

      ​@@ImThePrizeXYthen why was he asking her to cook if her cooking isn't better than Popeye. If he was really successful he should buy it

    • @ImThePrizeXY
      @ImThePrizeXY ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@themagicalcupcakeunicorn5755 how'd you guess😃

    • @MeenieAlf24
      @MeenieAlf24 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ImThePrizeXY Bye, Dusty. Enjoy your cholesterol-laden "meals". 🤮 You're erasing your dusty 🧬 off this planet faster.

  • @Jules-740
    @Jules-740 ปีที่แล้ว +574

    I dont wanna be chased. I want to be pursued.

  • @BAlkrishnapatel-hf5bp
    @BAlkrishnapatel-hf5bp 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +692

    Such a valuable video! I don’t often promote books, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is an exception. It’s packed with insights on wealth and self-care that are not widely known. All the best to everyone

  • @alanaryan97
    @alanaryan97 ปีที่แล้ว +678

    I literally don’t know what I would do without Shera’s videos. She keeps my head on straight 😅

    • @proletvladimirova828
      @proletvladimirova828 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      She’s our lord and saviour ❤

    • @sp55807
      @sp55807 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      No seriously 😩🫶🏾 so grateful I found her in my 20s

    • @joad8537
      @joad8537 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      shes like 50 and single. 😂

    • @sp55807
      @sp55807 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@joad8537 she's married but ok 😅

    • @jasonwilliams9307
      @jasonwilliams9307 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@joad8537😂😂😂😂

  • @cyquestspay9721
    @cyquestspay9721 ปีที่แล้ว +318

    Most men dating online, even after you have a connection with, are still active online with their profile. As a matter of fact, they are on multiple platforms. I find that you cant ever trust them bc they are addicted to online dating.

    • @intentionalparenting2605
      @intentionalparenting2605 ปีที่แล้ว

      @jtw99235to say only is an exaggeration.

    • @speaktruthpeace1612
      @speaktruthpeace1612 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Facts

    • @FitnessSweets
      @FitnessSweets 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They thing to find “better” when they suck themselves. Hell some of them were secretly married! Shady!

    • @sunkissedmodel2946
      @sunkissedmodel2946 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Single men too, who be playing around.. dating online

  • @brittanyhorton8892
    @brittanyhorton8892 ปีที่แล้ว +221

    Hold on… let me share this! Boys!!!!! Will HATE! That you choose yourself first!
    I have had men tell me ,” you go to the gym everyday” “ you could’ve cancelled going to the gym”
    Just so I can lay up with them smoke weed , watch a movie and give him some cookie. 😭🤣🤣🤣 jokes on youuu! I’m at the gym! Every👏🏽Single👏🏽Time!!

    • @angelika87
      @angelika87 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      the gym is the 2nd best investment of a woman's time. you'll increase your chances of attracting better men.

    • @number-uz1es
      @number-uz1es 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      @@angelika87absolutely. It makes you feel better too. Man I used to be 👺, chasing any attractive guys attention. Whew chile just going to the gym I feel like a celebrity now😂

    • @FitnessSweets
      @FitnessSweets 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@number-uz1esFr also you can kick some asses if need be.

    • @thesavannahbennett
      @thesavannahbennett 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Damn that hit me 😂😅

    • @assiabenslimane2589
      @assiabenslimane2589 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Same here I'm a gym rat samee❤❤❤

  • @AnthonyYoung-gh3ob
    @AnthonyYoung-gh3ob 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +98

    I am a man and I like this video. I am applying this . And I do understand chasing means showing interest. Thankyou for this information.

  • @jmc1111_
    @jmc1111_ ปีที่แล้ว +469

    I didn’t even watch the video just yet, and I’m still gonna like it and scream facts! I literally just met a guy that I really was feeling, and he mentioned something about his previous partners chasing him and proposing to him. That was the last time he heard from me.

    • @Hahahah7718
      @Hahahah7718 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ewwwwwww. The biggest ick possible!

    • @kettanistar
      @kettanistar ปีที่แล้ว +42

      And that's how ir's done!

    • @frankieroberson3398
      @frankieroberson3398 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Run Forest Run

    • @jmc1111_
      @jmc1111_ ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @TheArielrb girl yes, I was like “???“

    • @jmc1111_
      @jmc1111_ ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@frankieroberson3398 most definitely did. I think he knew I was turned off after that statement. it was showing up all on my face 🥴

  • @yolandav5196
    @yolandav5196 ปีที่แล้ว +396

    14:16 She is soooooo real about not meeting them online. It’s funny I felt this even before this video. And always felt the online men were just not it. Finally met a guy in person who hates social media and it’s great

    • @LillyFama
      @LillyFama ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Where do I even go to meet them lol I feel like most irl would be married

    • @KeiyaHood
      @KeiyaHood ปีที่แล้ว +31

      @@LillyFamaGo to your favorite places. Like Target, Starbucks, Costco, Sam’s Club etc. I know she says “freestyle” so nice bars and restaurants.
      No lie, I met the best man I ever had at the mall in my twenties. He will always be my bar, he was a real man and did everything Shera talks about on this channel without any manipulation. This is the person I should have married but has my own ideas back then.

    • @LillyFama
      @LillyFama ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@KeiyaHood I’m so sorry for your loss :(

    • @LadyRev
      @LadyRev ปีที่แล้ว

      ❤❤❤

    • @dante19890
      @dante19890 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​@@LillyFamahey Victoria, ur a total cutie . How old are u ?

  • @NativeRedbone77
    @NativeRedbone77 ปีที่แล้ว +472

    A lot of them don't chase anymore. Some will at first and then stop. Even the ones with 💵, the older ones with strong work ethics, etc. I think this era of men are just built different.

    • @Blissedx
      @Blissedx ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If all women do what Shera says then the men will have to just start chasing again. Women have become way too lazy with our standards hence the current state of lazy men❤

    • @rainacherienne1010
      @rainacherienne1010 ปีที่แล้ว +178

      Like seriously, I always reject first offer because I think a man needs to ask me twice, but after first no they give up. Remember when older grandmas used to say that they didn’t like their husband when they first met them, but they kept trying, so finally they agreed and now they’ve been married 60 years. Not like that anymore.

    • @RosaMaria-xs7qs
      @RosaMaria-xs7qs ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I also need some strategy.

    • @allthewayuptv
      @allthewayuptv ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Why? How long did u expect him to chase u for? Do u have a timer or a dater or is he supposed to guess how long?

    • @allthewayuptv
      @allthewayuptv ปีที่แล้ว

      They were like 6 to 12 when they first met of course the girl was playing hard to get but u a grown ass woman that's a different thing. They got married way early back then. Ya'll are not the same. there's no point comparing the two, U ain't your older grandma and he ain't your older grandad u don't possess there great qualities. @@rainacherienne1010

  • @CameronDupuy
    @CameronDupuy ปีที่แล้ว +233

    Let him be who he is

    • @AyaNichelle-gi9cd
      @AyaNichelle-gi9cd ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Facts

    • @Steve-mp7by
      @Steve-mp7by ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Just leave him be

    • @BossDaMoneyMaker
      @BossDaMoneyMaker ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yup let him b a REAL man who doesnt let women boss him

    • @farrahforever0210
      @farrahforever0210 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AyaNichelle-gi9cd😮😮😮😮

    • @Steve-mp7by
      @Steve-mp7by 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@BossDaMoneyMaker Spoken facts

  • @summrrgrrl
    @summrrgrrl 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    She's SO RIGHT about meeting Men online..NEVER worked for me and they treat it like a Candy store 💯💯

  • @aspegel5281
    @aspegel5281 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +122

    LOL - "I never travel to no man. What am I, pizza delivery?" That was great!!

  • @kettanistar
    @kettanistar ปีที่แล้ว +147

    Actions not words, be a priority not an option, stop wasting time-like someone said they chase or you replace!

  • @lucyhalverson6009
    @lucyhalverson6009 ปีที่แล้ว +315

    “If they wanna be the feminine man let them represent”😂💀💀💗

    • @haryel5058
      @haryel5058 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Lmaooo believe all the men of this generation are gay and you’re a straight women. Ashera is sooo funny 🤭🤣🤣🤣

    • @marianistor8163
      @marianistor8163 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@haryel5058😅😅😅😅

    • @BossDaMoneyMaker
      @BossDaMoneyMaker ปีที่แล้ว

      @@haryel5058 BS

    • @naimahsochi2683
      @naimahsochi2683 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Man I fell out when she said that! 🤣

    • @ParisAntoinette
      @ParisAntoinette 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Time stamp please 🙏🏾

  • @sambam5382
    @sambam5382 ปีที่แล้ว +272

    Because THEY Wanna Be The Prize & Princess 😊

    • @BossDaMoneyMaker
      @BossDaMoneyMaker ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Cap

    • @jt305
      @jt305 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      yuk these grown ass men 😂😂

    • @geralddial3154
      @geralddial3154 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I am the prize. you want a man who represents a corporation. So if I am the CEO of the corporation of the Olympics, do you think you are more important than the CEO of the Olympics.. you are only the prize compared to other women.

    • @sambam5382
      @sambam5382 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@geralddial3154 && Without A WOMAN, You Wouldn’t Be Here To Do ANY Of That. It’s Deeper Than Whats On Paper….Its UNIVERSAL. 🥱

    • @iamkeandra5932
      @iamkeandra5932 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Exactly 😂😂

  • @Madlikedasha
    @Madlikedasha ปีที่แล้ว +334

    Really appreciating the take on adult friendships here. At some point you just don’t have time and capacity to deal with what’s going on in other people’s lives on top of your own. Especially if u have enough going for yourself 🙌🏻🖤

    • @chayo4537
      @chayo4537 ปีที่แล้ว

      But you make time to deal with a stupid man. 🤔🤣

    • @frankieroberson3398
      @frankieroberson3398 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I am the same way

    • @LookoutYoru
      @LookoutYoru ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@@Bb-jm6wxshe said that in the video before this one

    • @Saras232
      @Saras232 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Bb-jm6wx She talks about it briefly in this video at the 1hour mark

    • @shanandananscoo
      @shanandananscoo 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I think Shera maybe just had bad friends lol. At a certain age we are not sitting around gossiping hhahah

  • @kikilove1101
    @kikilove1101 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

    You are either his dream girl or the placeholder. Choose wisely sprinkle sprinkle ✨

  • @BlAcKaPiNoChIcK9
    @BlAcKaPiNoChIcK9 ปีที่แล้ว +143

    The wig, lash, booty pose took me out!! 🤣🤣🤣

    • @chakydd
      @chakydd 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂😂 she ain't lying tho

  • @Alysia.in.Wonderland
    @Alysia.in.Wonderland ปีที่แล้ว +225

    If a man doesn’t marry you within a year of dating, he’s just not that into you 💅

    • @bkgarr6041
      @bkgarr6041 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Say it louder for the ones in the back! 👍

    • @bkgarr6041
      @bkgarr6041 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @vre7474 yes you are.

    • @AhminaIsmael
      @AhminaIsmael ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Uh, I don’t know about this one. lol this is a little far fetched. If a man is too quick to marry you, something might be wrong with him. I would say give it two years of consistency at LEAST. If he doesn’t bring up marriage within this time period then I would say he’s not serious. You should have a roster though…
      I would say look more at his effort, and look at what he’s doing for you. I wouldn’t cut a bag off because he didn’t propose. Some men aren’t looking for marriage, if you are… then you should have a roster of men.

    • @rosemarybanner
      @rosemarybanner 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Depends on your age…I wouldn’t recommend an 18 year old to marry in a year.

    • @sagba947
      @sagba947 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Um no don’t listen to this ladies I work in family court and general sessions they come by my office to fill out marriage applications but be right back in there divorced because they got married too fast

  • @pookietheplant_
    @pookietheplant_ ปีที่แล้ว +49

    This women is a full time comedian 😂❤

  • @doniciasdream
    @doniciasdream ปีที่แล้ว +120

    I never play fight ever, my father always told me to never give a man space to hit me ever.

    • @therealkoolaidandkale
      @therealkoolaidandkale 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh, hell no. I immediately nip that in the bud before I block him (if I say anything, because it’s usually a straight block): “I don’t play like that, so don’t ever play with me like that again.” Ick! 🤮

    • @Dcvfbngefeeecbb
      @Dcvfbngefeeecbb 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      👊I just hit u

  • @tori3158
    @tori3158 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    They don't chase because they don't have to anymore.
    They use internet to find what they need, is a holy grail for guys, especially awkward one's, not specifically pretty one's, one's without money or with lots of.
    I opt for a guy that stays away from social media platforms and is eager to focuse on genuine relationships only.

  • @emilyc5625
    @emilyc5625 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    For those asking about dating apps I think we should have a two week rule . If he doesn’t ask you to hang out in person after 2 weeks move on .

  • @L0ve365Beauty
    @L0ve365Beauty ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Exactly. If yall stop chasing they'll start.

  • @ladies8705
    @ladies8705 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    When she said "you can skip this whole generation" I cackled deep in my soul..I skipped x3 😂 *sprinkle sprinkle*

    • @dfghjdfgh256
      @dfghjdfgh256 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Okayyy sprinkle sprinkle girl I see u✨🥂

  • @domino_seam
    @domino_seam ปีที่แล้ว +135

    Wish i found her earlier.. Must confess i dated a guy for 9 months who didn’t gift me ANYTHING… luckily we learn from our mistakes 💀

    • @bertille19
      @bertille19 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      no girl, he dont like you@aphrodite-vz9it

    • @misterb5926
      @misterb5926 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@aphrodite-vz9itSelfish looking for gifts 😂..Transactional relationship is what you desire ? Not all guys are into fake material holidays etc.. maybe he does other things for you dates, vacations, share of bills etc. ?

    • @mattheweveryday
      @mattheweveryday 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @aphrodite-vz9ityou need to stand up a bit…

    • @khrisi9410
      @khrisi9410 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​​he's sezually using you, move on. Don't waste your youth on men your age. Go older early ie 40s on up. You will not receive anything from a man whose young broke and jobless. Unfortunately you gave yourself away for free so there is no way to convince him to give to you when he's already had you without having to give you anything.

    • @domino_seam
      @domino_seam 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      @aphrodite-vz9it girl… a starbucks coffee is like 6€ … I mean he GOTTA be sweet and great cause he ain’t got no money- that’s all he can offer. But i am in my teenage years as well, and unless y’all are like 12 he got some money. the problem is he does not want to spend that money on YOU. No gift for bday is actually crazy, like, insane even…

  • @SKYBOYZ4L
    @SKYBOYZ4L 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +73

    Only Dogs chase. Men step Up and Lead. Facts!

    • @misterb5926
      @misterb5926 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Facts!

    • @mmommo10
      @mmommo10 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      thank you, very positive comment

    • @Dcvfbngefeeecbb
      @Dcvfbngefeeecbb 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Simp😂

    • @Dcvfbngefeeecbb
      @Dcvfbngefeeecbb 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Dogs chase not Kings🤡🤡🤡

  • @SRobinson-hr6me
    @SRobinson-hr6me ปีที่แล้ว +171

    9:49 There is no point in being with an older man unless he can fund my entire lifestyle. These older men be looking a HOT DAMN mess, they better know they paying bills!

    • @stephsteph1338
      @stephsteph1338 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Facts! Some of these older men are 🥴🥴. And Some of the young men too...🥴🥴🥴

    • @Loveskelly-hr
      @Loveskelly-hr ปีที่แล้ว +46

      Some of them truly believe we'd get with them because we're attracted to them too 🥴 they be looking musty and still don't wanna pay

    • @farrahforever0210
      @farrahforever0210 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Delusional and dusty. Smh

    • @SRobinson-hr6me
      @SRobinson-hr6me ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Loveskelly-hr That is mental illness. SMH

    • @jazz22354
      @jazz22354 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@Loveskelly-hr Foreal 😂 I cut one off cuz he wasn't doing shit for me, & straight up told him I hope u don't think a young woman in her prime is with your old ass cuz she likes you?....

  • @caramellv8099
    @caramellv8099 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    Congrats on 500k!

  • @kettanistar
    @kettanistar ปีที่แล้ว +138

    Older men with money-that have it together-legacy men..period!

  • @DarkandlovelyLovely
    @DarkandlovelyLovely ปีที่แล้ว +72

    Also don’t go out with a man who’s always asking you, wyd or when are you going to cook for me! He should be taking you out, where you want to go and he should be feeding you and also buying everything.

  • @Blissedx
    @Blissedx ปีที่แล้ว +163

    Absolutely appreciate the advice of women mainly meeting men outside and not online. Especially for us black women, sage advice there❤

  • @UniversoSpiritualUnido
    @UniversoSpiritualUnido ปีที่แล้ว +104

    Choose yourself! Sprinkle sprinkle 😂❤

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Period!!! I’ve NEVER regretted investing in me!

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Women are the choosers. We do the picking. Let the best man win. 👏

  • @juanita_piju
    @juanita_piju ปีที่แล้ว +36

    A man who doesn’t chase u is BEYOND stressful bc ur ultimately doing the chasing and it’s exhausting. A woman shouldn’t be adding that to her plate of satisfying her partner, being pregnant, carrying a baby to term, raising your child & supporting ur husband! Women should not chase.
    Chasing means; texting first, asking to hang out first, paying for a date, worrying about him when he’s literally f**** some other girl, going 50/50 on a date (he’s just using u bc he’s broke), NOT COMMITTING!!! Stop CHASING that man he will hurt u beyond belief in the long run!!!

    • @dante19890
      @dante19890 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      U are a total cutie young lady.
      How old are u ?

    • @juanita_piju
      @juanita_piju 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dante19890 guess

    • @dante19890
      @dante19890 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@juanita_piju 19. The perfect age for a girl

    • @justlurkin
      @justlurkin 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ok what about the ones who don't get care to be pregnant or won't be pregnant for a long time. If pregnancy is your excuse how come it doesn't stop you from doing all the things men use to only do like working, driving, etc.?

    • @yk-who-it-is
      @yk-who-it-is 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@justlurkin Pregnancy is not the only thing sweetie. Women still get paid less than men to this day so y'all better change that or make up for it... Just saying

  • @linabeans6328
    @linabeans6328 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    You are so wise . Always can count on your videos to get my mind right abt men.

  • @GREENxTARA
    @GREENxTARA 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Ever since I started listening to your channel, I don’t even want to man anymore. I just want to get money from them.

  • @creolehoney2253
    @creolehoney2253 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    ❤❤ Thank you. This is how I was raised. I taught my daughter how to be a lady also. Now she is married to a high value man in her early 20s. We need to know your value

    • @Amandaaaaaa123
      @Amandaaaaaa123 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Please may I know where to find these men? I am not allowed to go out at night

    • @creolehoney2253
      @creolehoney2253 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Amandaaaaaa123 How old are you?

    • @Amandaaaaaa123
      @Amandaaaaaa123 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@creolehoney2253 I am 23 :)

    • @laya-9160
      @laya-9160 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Please help me too 🥺

  • @salmabenzzine570
    @salmabenzzine570 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    I have real hair, I never wear lashes, and I never take booty pictures. but YOU ARE RIGHT! I post my opinion on social media and men do not react ...but the moment I post a selfie they all react even the married ones. they give me attention the 24 hours of the story I posted then they vanish till I post another story lol

    • @ellenanthem
      @ellenanthem 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      same

    • @milaj927
      @milaj927 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yep

  • @TheOriginalChina-s7y
    @TheOriginalChina-s7y 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    "Sprinkle, sprinkle!" 😅 I like when she said, "choose yourself and a man will choose you." I need to clarify this: ladies... everytime you pursue a man who is not pursuing you, your value drops like a sack of potatoes. Therefore if you want to be a high value woman, stop chasing him

  • @TIAOFNEBULA
    @TIAOFNEBULA ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Yep even in a argument, he still needs to be chasing.

    • @BossDaMoneyMaker
      @BossDaMoneyMaker ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yea chasing money not women

    • @PrincesaHermosa444
      @PrincesaHermosa444 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@BossDaMoneyMakerif you’re gay just say that

    • @SaRaHeru27
      @SaRaHeru27 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@PrincesaHermosa444 and your a lame and you didn't have to say it foh bih lmao

    • @mountainkid417
      @mountainkid417 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@PrincesaHermosa444 why are you insecure that men are empowering and learn not to chase women instead chase money?

    • @devinesent7696
      @devinesent7696 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@mountainkid417men have been chasing women since the beginning of time and real men still do it and they still have time to get their bag too.

  • @lainikole
    @lainikole ปีที่แล้ว +155

    Shera is aging backwards 😍

  • @kuuleiana6950
    @kuuleiana6950 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    💯 everything you said is so on point! Absolutely DO NOT go anywhere if your own bills ain’t settled no way we gonna fall behind just for some trip a man springing on you

  • @Jenny-e4v
    @Jenny-e4v 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Some men chase and when they get what they waht, they leave.

    • @kamahchioma7271
      @kamahchioma7271 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      That's why you date those you can benefit from .. so that when they leave you will have things to hold on to

  • @stephaniederrick8585
    @stephaniederrick8585 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    You are helping so many women and I really appreciate that. I share your videos with young girls so they can realize their value.

    • @user-of9bx1uk3u
      @user-of9bx1uk3u ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This! ✨👏🏼

    • @allthewayuptv
      @allthewayuptv ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ooohh, That's dangerous!

    • @mytrickstv7392
      @mytrickstv7392 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She's helping them remain single

  • @missgoodfeels
    @missgoodfeels ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I recently came across a man that’s used to being chased…I caught him driving by my house and tried to run into me in public. all I can say is 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @therealkoolaidandkale
      @therealkoolaidandkale 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Girl why does he know where you live?! These dudes are unhinged: please be careful.

  • @lazydaisy4453
    @lazydaisy4453 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    I wish I found your channel before falling for the man child who persued me and when I fell for him he dropped me and broke my heart 💔

  • @sissuramanne
    @sissuramanne ปีที่แล้ว +46

    SHERA FOR PRESIDENT 2024

    • @vee4eva
      @vee4eva 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yesssss❤❤😊😊

  • @jaylynnfarr1276
    @jaylynnfarr1276 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Please listen to her point about being flown out! I definitely made the mistake of being flown to see a guy I met in my town because he travels constantly for work. I didn't even think about what Shera is saying....and it definitely was a waste of my time and energy. The next time someone offers me that, I will pick the destination, the hotel, ask for my own room, AND spending money...and watch him disappear. 🤣

    • @djeanpierre
      @djeanpierre 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      As well he should. F that. You don’t dictate terms if I’m paying….lol.

  • @myleaburch2507
    @myleaburch2507 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    Shera has been glowing up more and more she’s glowing!!🔥

    • @HoneyBunches100
      @HoneyBunches100 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Shera has leveled up consistently for 18 yrs. She stays switching up her physical, which keeps men intrigued. She provides a living example and practices what she teaches.

    • @allthewayuptv
      @allthewayuptv ปีที่แล้ว

      She damn sure keeping u intrigued. Hahahahahaha @@HoneyBunches100

  • @aspegel5281
    @aspegel5281 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    LOL again - "My friends are so old; they probably don't remember what I said." You are so entertaining, I had to subscribe!

  • @lifeofshariparker2477
    @lifeofshariparker2477 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Period she gave me a reality check.

  • @Insightful_Locs
    @Insightful_Locs ปีที่แล้ว +117

    Just waiting on shera to reach 1 million subscribers ❤❤ she’s always dropping gems 💎

    • @ADRIENNE-mb6ff
      @ADRIENNE-mb6ff ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too, Shera is sooooo deserving!!!!

    • @iaf4454
      @iaf4454 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      She will

  • @kaywisseh
    @kaywisseh ปีที่แล้ว +71

    Chase? No one should be chasing anyone. He should pursue you and the woman should show interest if she is.

    • @creolehoney2253
      @creolehoney2253 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Pursue, chase whatever. I get what she is saying.

  • @Maumau21
    @Maumau21 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    If you don’t like her don’t watch … some of these people ! Even you don’t like her she is giving real true advice .. take the information you need❤️

    • @BossDaMoneyMaker
      @BossDaMoneyMaker ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Nahh we gettin this shut down

    • @susiecarmichael5423
      @susiecarmichael5423 ปีที่แล้ว

      Damn.. y'all funny.

    • @joad8537
      @joad8537 ปีที่แล้ว

      taking relationship advice from a 40 year old single woman is like taking financial advice from a brokie.

    • @Maumau21
      @Maumau21 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@joad8537 what does her age have to do with anything... weird.... anyways... I just don't understand why anyone would waste their time on content they don't like ... why not just watch something else.

  • @SRobinson-hr6me
    @SRobinson-hr6me ปีที่แล้ว +36

    20:34 I think play fighting is a nerdy loser boy thing. A guy who didn’t have many friends growing up in school and now he gets his wires crossed around women because he never got that out of his system in boyhood. He’s still a child!

  • @Norainnoflowerz
    @Norainnoflowerz 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Shera idk if you’ll see this, but seriously thank you. I don’t have any guidance when it comes to dating etc as a young woman. I never witnessed healthy relationships or a man being a real provider

  • @StylesbyNina
    @StylesbyNina ปีที่แล้ว +132

    I literally just broke up with my high school sweetheart for this! I told him he too relaxed for me! Then no action. Then I sent him a invoice for waste 4 months of my energy. 🤷🏽‍♀️💅🏾🙃🙄💃🏽

    • @allthewayuptv
      @allthewayuptv ปีที่แล้ว +7

      how long was he meant to be chasing u for? If his already caught u? Make that make sense?

    • @sarahlikesmusic7347
      @sarahlikesmusic7347 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      @@allthewayuptvliterally forever ? Lol

    • @hillsideonly
      @hillsideonly ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@sarahlikesmusic7347 and that's why videos like this are made. Ain't nobody got the time to be chasing another human forever.

    • @HollowNoFace
      @HollowNoFace ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂😂😂😂

    • @devinesent7696
      @devinesent7696 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂

  • @khandi3872
    @khandi3872 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    First off if your credit bad and you out here dating and not fixing it from the money you getting, something wrong! That's apart of leveling up. Never be afraid to pull your credit and pay off those bills or dispute them!❤

    • @thetrdrlg
      @thetrdrlg ปีที่แล้ว +3

      So well said😩🙏🏽

  • @nickysunshine8734
    @nickysunshine8734 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I didn’t watch the entire video yet…just the title only…made me hit the like button! Agree that nooooo woman should chase a man. Men are hunters! 😊

  • @danidiaz2377
    @danidiaz2377 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This is words to live by. My new motto if he don’t chase replace

  • @alexk7037
    @alexk7037 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    You need to be chaseable. It is not only a matter of physics but it is more than that! If you don’t have value you need to create it for yourself.

  • @Jupiterascend9
    @Jupiterascend9 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Facts she knows what she’s talking about I’ve been chased by most men and those were the ones that actually wanted to invest in me. I’ve only had 1 or 2 men that didn’t want to chase me and took me for granted lol bc they said they don’t chase women regardless of them wanting them. How funnyyy when you pull your energy back they actually do chaseee 😄

    • @j1nnienchrist
      @j1nnienchrist 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How do you get them to chase you?

    • @goldenopportunity31
      @goldenopportunity31 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@j1nnienchristbe irresistible ❤

  • @portiawebb533
    @portiawebb533 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    “If you can’t help me tie up these loose ends, I’m not flying anywhere…” -Priorities….!
    I’m hollering…..🙅🏽‍♀️😃

  • @aishalove513
    @aishalove513 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Play fighting is grooming for future abuse in some cases

  • @SabinaAli81
    @SabinaAli81 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    Unless they are worshipping me I’m simply not interested ☺️🥂

    • @ashleylauren5934
      @ashleylauren5934 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      E N E R G Y 🎉🎉🎉

    • @SoLoud3Music
      @SoLoud3Music ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Poor mindset in my opinion

    • @HollowNoFace
      @HollowNoFace ปีที่แล้ว

      How immature and delusional of you.

    • @SabinaAli81
      @SabinaAli81 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@SoLoud3Music your opinion doesn’t matter anymore :)

    • @SoLoud3Music
      @SoLoud3Music ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@SabinaAli81 Jesus the only way mahm

  • @ansleyjarvis4198
    @ansleyjarvis4198 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    “We don’t have time to mess around. Just pretend this whole generation turned out gay.” 😭😂😂

  • @beatricedevarenne2621
    @beatricedevarenne2621 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Never chase a man except if you want to lose your time! Know your worth

    • @Danken4
      @Danken4 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why should I chase you while I'm chasing money,
      In my experience when women say u need to chase them its either she done a lot sex she can't feel anything anymore, or she just wants to feel the experience you provide

  • @sunshine-mc2mr
    @sunshine-mc2mr ปีที่แล้ว +38

    “Wig , lash, booty” I’m crying 😭

  • @marynicolec
    @marynicolec ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Why am I just finding you? You are hilarious, and your advice is priceless!

  • @annaisis7510
    @annaisis7510 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    What you say about dating apps is the truth. Personally i beg to differ in the way i present myself even when online. Certainly that doesn't mean i ve matched anyone who was " serious" either 😂😂😂

  • @greciavargas3563
    @greciavargas3563 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Yes sherah I feel the same, I can’t have friends I’m too up here in my thinking unless you’re like me which is super rare.

  • @novatastic1111
    @novatastic1111 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    It’s true … let him go give them time to act right. Never beg for mans attention.

  • @mkayokay3192
    @mkayokay3192 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I’m not even sure how a man who wasn’t chasing me would ever even….how would I even know he exists?

  • @alexiusscott9880
    @alexiusscott9880 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Honestly, I don’t have any friends either. When I was younger, I used to feel bad about it. But now it doesn’t bother me. I feel like I’m too busy for friends.

  • @Brownone
    @Brownone 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Not the ones at the corner store with problems 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😭

    • @Brownone
      @Brownone 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Wig, lash, booty 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Therealryanmadison-
    @Therealryanmadison- ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I’m not into the whole “meeting people off of social media thing”. You gotta meet me in person. I guess that’s why im still single lol

  • @lionesstemple6185
    @lionesstemple6185 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    What if no man chooses you? Then chose yourself ❗️😂 I missed you

  • @sherrymechum7102
    @sherrymechum7102 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Every one I have met online have been losers

  • @hirrasakura
    @hirrasakura ปีที่แล้ว +24

    SHERA COMING THRU WITH THE KNOWLEDGE 🙏

  • @10times_better
    @10times_better 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This VIDEO is a must watch! girlies please watch the WHOLE VIDEO!

  • @MichelePearl
    @MichelePearl ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thanks!

  • @ylanab8645
    @ylanab8645 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Pregnant and just left my man for giving up on us. Needed to hear this

  • @missmariejd
    @missmariejd ปีที่แล้ว +38

    As I watch this, I am deleting my dating profile

    • @CherimoSusan
      @CherimoSusan 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      wig,eye lashes and booty😂😂😂

    • @PatriciaMalemikia-n4h
      @PatriciaMalemikia-n4h 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@CherimoSusanall look the same 😂😂

    • @achiengdeji
      @achiengdeji 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@CherimoSusan😂😂😂😂😂😂😂