I often worry my empathy isn't real or legitimate because sometimes it feels like I'm trying so hard to be empathetic and making such a specific, conscious choice to center the other person that it seems unnatural... It makes me feel like a covert narcissist just masking.
How honest of you! I do not know much about this topic so I hope I will not say anything wrong!! but I thought, if you worry that your empathy could be fake, perhaps it isn't? and I also thought; sometimes as people we want to love others but (I can only speak for myself! 😊) we do not always have the 'right' feelings to go with it. But you still maybe have the desire to center the other person?🙏🏻 that I thought was very beautiful! I am not sure if you are a christian and I am sorry if you are not and perhaps find this comment a bit instrusive! in this case I am sorry!! but I just had to think of how Jesus, eventhough He is God Himself, in the flesh, He still had to battle, and eventhough He willfully made the choice to die on the cross for us, out of love and free will, He still really struggled and almost asked if the cup would be taken away from Him 🙏🏻 I hope this might be helpful and not confusing!, I only meant to say that eventhough sometimes our feelings can be not very strong or perhaps fearful, by grace, we can still love others as ourselves!! I hope it will help!🙏🏻🙏🏻! (I just realized that your comment is already a few months old, but perhaps this could still be helpful!)
Could it be the "trials" you are suffering in life? The sh*# I go through in a day is ridiculous, so I get it. It's not you, it's those around you probably.
@@DystopianDino part of our PTSD is emotional suppression. You are blunted & stunted, and accused of not caring due to this. It’s another sign of being the victim of a narcissist.
#3 Narcissist use the getting you to apologize because to them it's like saying "Uncle". You're admitting defeat. Saying sorry is viewed as weakness. Contrast that with apologizing because you actually did it and see that you were wrong. I can do that.
It's not necessarily a feeling but an attitude you choose to put on. I might not always FEEL grateful but I can choose to thank God for the things He's given me, whether it's food, shelter, friends, or salvation in Jesus Christ, etc. choose to be thankful. that is what is pleasing to God. "By him therefore let us offer the sacrifice of praise to God continually, that is, the fruit of our lips giving thanks to his name." Hebrews 13:15
@@jamarionw1344 I am not sure about that. But like Mark said, if you're concerned about your internal life and want to improve, you're most likely not a narcissist.
@@marktdejesus it’s overwhelming; O how I pray she forgives me for the past and we can move forward. Praying 🤲🏻 this extension to our/her family will bring much healing and comfort. The Lord is extending His grace and endearing love paving “once”roughened gravel into leveled ground. 🔁 I receive and believe this~ All glory and praise to Him♥️ Amen Amen
Whewww, Very helpful and relieved. Gotta give God the credit though.❤️ I have sincere empathy, I deeply care about my girlfriend of 6 years and listen to her advice and actually work on those issues.❤️ Good Stuff Mark👍
I loved the narc so much, i didn't know she was one. I didn't know what narcissistic personality disorder was... I've heard the term for traits thrown around but never knew about the actual personality disorder. She discarded me and i begged, i apologized to her so much for my reactive abuse at times etc. She never apologized for anything. Her response to all my begging to get her back, didn't realize I had already been discarded and didn't know she was currently on new supply, she responded with "I'm not good with you!". Absolutely crushed me. These people are really messed up. If you made it out of it, trust I know it hurts especially if you loved them, but you ARE better off without a person like that in your life. No, you probably don't, actual npd isn't common amongst people they believe its around .5-2% of the American population, I've seen it as high as 6% but i doubt it, i refuse to believe its 6% of the American population having actual NPD.
10:07 pitch and catch is interesting 🤔 when I am around those who are not Narcissistic this comes easy, but when I am around Narcissist I don't have much to talk about.
Unresolved issues concerning childhood peer pressure to succeed in this world of insane social economic survival slavery workplace is to blame for continued narcissism
Oh this has been on my mind and seen so much ... But I still believe that I am 😔 Or have a lot of these tendencies and plus bad spirit or oppressed with "demontic" spirits that keep coming up...
I really struggle with being "good" genuine and to truely apologise but do say sorry sometimes and then turn it on the other person's problem... And stuck also in "victim" mode. I like to watch listen and learn but then I don't really listen or learn 😔 and struggle to receive the real love of God and Christ Holy Spirit because I also push a lot of help away or see that also being "fake" or I just struggle with the true motive to use correctly the help and do want to "work" on it... I thought and had moments of empathy and listened but that was for a short time and then being more blocking and distant and get irritated when people who had problems and bringing them to me 😔 and stiring family issues where "I" should be doing and helping more towards the family but also other social/religious standards on also being stubborn/hard at listen or a teachable spirit 😔 "obeying" with love and struggle to really apply in true humility. Many flaws... Is it another issue or "condition" that you made your self in a way (just all talk 😔 really wish not) so bad and can't and don't really want to help people because the issues or problems you wanted to stay away from? But the seem to really effect everything and your mindset in life (e.g. the bad and what sin has courrpted everything?). And just cannot Change. But want and need Holy Spirit help to grow us in the right power and character. Instead of really turning away from the true loving merciful forgiving healing God almighty and Holy Spirit. But do seem to see with family and husband with these too 😔 Then get told to shut up when picking it up on others too... And a lot being my fault (a do know that there is too) not having or growing up in the right qualities...
Lifting prayers for you and to break all those chains from the enemy keeping you in bondage of yourself. May you be free in Jesus name. The word says resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and will get close to you. You are so loved and highly favored. You been given full authority over the enemy. Be encouraged. Grace and peace to you🙏
@@OccupyHeaven Wish we all didn't fall and have evil tendencies to these narsissitic (and do fall for the spirit of manipulating etc) or evil negative dark forces energies characteristics etc and really messing up or getting messed up as fools or not being that smart... and issues of not having that good connection or true Christ belief and spirits blocks/ and heart heavy with negative energies and anger etc... and that the true loving God source Spirit Creator and Christos/Christ saviour spirit energies winning in all our and minds transformed transmuted in the true loving God spirit in all... And not also all talk and fake or illusions etc and truely all of us "saved" healing well and restored together and the true good balance/harmony of life together with The good truth and true loving God 😔🙏
Issues where my mind and heart seems to keep falling or wrong in everything with the bad spirit or Energies and thoughts of infused with both good/bad clashes and seem fail to pick the good reaction etc or my heart seems to resist God and not moving forwards well causing causing more issues or caught up in it etc (and learning more information about the "truths" and lies of God and the true loving God)... Hiding sinful mode issues faith faith and that loving heart/mind/ spirit but to "cautions" in fear and anger that we have to be careful etc (but then I'm also the one to be cautious about too etc) 😔 and wishing we all good with the true loving God source Spirit Creator and the light Christos saviour and need the spirit with and within us all 😔🙏 Wish we all in the good truth and connected with the true loving God and not have a faith/love issues or over whelmed with the negative dark forces energies that we fall into so easily or being evil because we don't "act" or work on the spirit and follow through with love? 😔 Instead of issues against all in a mad unloving spirit and seeing all evils energies illusions etc or a fooled bad heart and negative words thoughts.and actions😔
@@glendagajsek-shears3890 I understand what your saying. Is a battle of the mind. Been there and was exposed to the demonic powers of Satan for practicing the occult. So I know how they work against us to get us to doubt the love of our Father and what Jesus really accomplished in our behalf at Calvary. The reason why we must summit in obedience to believing His word in faith that we can fight those thoughts from the enemy. As it says in Ephesians. Please read the whole armor of God. Memorize it and apply it to your life daily. So important. May the Holy Spirit empowered you to stand strong. Like everything in life with daily practice we get better at it. Fight with your full armor daily and you’ll find full freedom and victory. I believe that you can do this and I know God Almighty will give you His victory. 🙏🥰 “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.” Ephesians 6:10-18
I m not able to come out of him. He would have run more than 20 times, still my heart searching to be his slave. I m confused. He did stonewalling. Trying to reach him.
This was a great video. Thanks for sharing! Ive been spinning literally and I think I know why after watching 2 of your videos. Great revelation the Lord used you to confirm 2 things. 🎉🎉❤❤
In my case i do feel empathy to people until i feel like they did something to me (abuse my kindess, make fun of me, etc) then i legit dont care about what happens to these people, like they could litteraly die in front of me and i wouldnt care. Its really wierd bc im aware i have some narcisistic traits (your personality is shaped by the experiences you have, so if u been arround narcisist your whole life u would have these traits even if ur s good person). So im kinda worried if i am a narcisist or not.
Through my healing journey, having been around narcissists all my life, my dad, a sister and then my ex husband of 25 years, I first wondered if I was a narcissist, but heard over and over by so many, that if you asking, you aren’t a narcissist. BUT my sister will ask this regularly. This has always confused me. Anyone have any insight?
Also when i dont feel like i actually did something wrong and someone if asking me to apologize i wont fucking do it bc i know its not my foult and it angers me when they try to force an apologi from me
Bro, I have a question: What if a person that you have known your whole life has struggled with Histrionic personality disorder? So it's not that I don't want to celebrate when they achieve something. Or do something for someone. But I can't help but think they're just doing this for attention cause it seems like it's all the time.
Yep, its very hard to deal with, because they have to come to personal awareness and they often don't see it. No matter how lovingly I have tried to mention it....even with extra grace and added padding, they get mad.
Prayer and religion are both good encouragement and motivations, bur it's not enough. Therapy and honesty within the therapeutic relationship is paramount. I'm not a Christian, but I formally met the criteria for NPD, but no longer. It's work to process trauma. Being a false self is protective, because if you don't see me, you can't hurt me. However, if I can't acknowledge certain emotions within myself, I can't be empathetic with someone else who is feeling that way. It takes time, but narcissists can heal. I've meet many moral narcissists and devout Christians, but you can love God and still be a narcissist. It's the wife who never cheated because she loved God, but she abandoned her husband emotionally long ago. It's the father who is so focused on serving God that he will not hear the brokenness of his child, and shames him for his folly. Remember that king David killed his own son for doing the same thing he was forgiven for years in the past. King David was the one who took his neighbors wife and murdered her husband because of his entitled nature, yet he still had a strong sense of morality - wanting go bring the wretch of Nathan's narrative to a wretched end. This is indignation. We are all complex people. Narcissists aren't just one thing. But they are buried underneath the layers of survival coping. People-pleasers and narcissists suffer from the same condition - both are in a constant state of becoming but never themselves. They are looking to others to give them a sense of worth. One is inwardly aggressive and the other outwardly. They both need to get in touch with their inner child. I really hope this offers some insight. We are not demons, just traumatized. But... and this is a big but, do not light yourself on fire so that we can feel some warmth. Abuse is not to be tolerated. Maybe you don't have to leave the relationship, but you can leave the room. You have the ability to set boundaries and that's about it. We have zero control over others or our relationships. You can only regulate your own behavior.
literally all your 4 points are wrong. please educate yourself before spreading misinformation to thousands of people. if you want actual good content for/about narcissism there are many good channels out there. can highly recommend especially The Nameless Narcissist
I often worry my empathy isn't real or legitimate because sometimes it feels like I'm trying so hard to be empathetic and making such a specific, conscious choice to center the other person that it seems unnatural... It makes me feel like a covert narcissist just masking.
How honest of you!
I do not know much about this topic so I hope I will not say anything wrong!!
but I thought, if you worry that your empathy could be fake, perhaps it isn't?
and I also thought; sometimes as people we want to love others but (I can only speak for myself! 😊) we do not always have the 'right' feelings to go with it. But you still maybe have the desire to center the other person?🙏🏻
that I thought was very beautiful!
I am not sure if you are a christian and I am sorry if you are not and perhaps find this comment a bit instrusive! in this case I am sorry!!
but I just had to think of how Jesus, eventhough He is God Himself, in the flesh, He still had to battle, and eventhough He willfully made the choice to die on the cross for us, out of love and free will, He still really struggled and almost asked if the cup would be taken away from Him 🙏🏻
I hope this might be helpful and not confusing!, I only meant to say that eventhough sometimes our feelings can be not very strong or perhaps fearful, by grace, we can still love others as ourselves!!
I hope it will help!🙏🏻🙏🏻!
(I just realized that your comment is already a few months old, but perhaps this could still be helpful!)
Hello I think you're not a narcisistic but a overthinker
i’m going thru the exact same things rn it’s so confusing where are u at with it now?
Could it be the "trials" you are suffering in life? The sh*# I go through in a day is ridiculous, so I get it. It's not you, it's those around you probably.
@@DystopianDino part of our PTSD is emotional suppression. You are blunted & stunted, and accused of not caring due to this.
It’s another sign of being the victim of a narcissist.
Good to remember: narcissism is a spectrum that everyone is on to some degree. Not everyone is narcissistic personality disordered
Exactly.
I think my empathy has improved as I have let God heal me of the codependency.
I'm always right! I thought I was wrong once, but, nope; I was right!
🤣
I saw those narcissist videos and they actually sent me spinning so I didn't watch them. I love that you made this video now 😆
Heal> mature> grOW
#3 Narcissist use the getting you to apologize because to them it's like saying "Uncle". You're admitting defeat. Saying sorry is viewed as weakness.
Contrast that with apologizing because you actually did it and see that you were wrong. I can do that.
I don’t think I feel grateful if it’s a feeling I don’t want to be a narcissist
It's not necessarily a feeling but an attitude you choose to put on.
I might not always FEEL grateful but I can choose to thank God for the things He's given me, whether it's food, shelter, friends, or salvation in Jesus Christ, etc.
choose to be thankful. that is what is pleasing to God.
"By him therefore let us offer the sacrifice of praise to God continually, that is, the fruit of our lips giving thanks to his name." Hebrews 13:15
@@colton7373 thanks for telling me do you know how I could get diagnosed for npd
@@jamarionw1344 I am not sure about that. But like Mark said, if you're concerned about your internal life and want to improve, you're most likely not a narcissist.
Yes Colton
Yay🎉🎉🎉 I'm NOT a narcissist 😂
Seem to be too empathic.
Always concentrating on others, especially my daughter 🩷
Me too. It can wear you out.
@@marktdejesus it’s overwhelming;
O how I pray she forgives me for the past and we can move forward. Praying 🤲🏻 this extension to our/her family will bring much healing and comfort. The Lord is extending His grace and endearing love paving “once”roughened gravel into leveled ground. 🔁
I receive and believe this~
All glory and praise to Him♥️
Amen
Amen
Whewww, Very helpful and relieved. Gotta give God the credit though.❤️ I have sincere empathy, I deeply care about my girlfriend of 6 years and listen to her advice and actually work on those issues.❤️ Good Stuff Mark👍
I loved the narc so much, i didn't know she was one. I didn't know what narcissistic personality disorder was... I've heard the term for traits thrown around but never knew about the actual personality disorder. She discarded me and i begged, i apologized to her so much for my reactive abuse at times etc. She never apologized for anything. Her response to all my begging to get her back, didn't realize I had already been discarded and didn't know she was currently on new supply, she responded with "I'm not good with you!". Absolutely crushed me. These people are really messed up. If you made it out of it, trust I know it hurts especially if you loved them, but you ARE better off without a person like that in your life. No, you probably don't, actual npd isn't common amongst people they believe its around .5-2% of the American population, I've seen it as high as 6% but i doubt it, i refuse to believe its 6% of the American population having actual NPD.
10:07 pitch and catch is interesting 🤔 when I am around those who are not Narcissistic this comes easy, but when I am around Narcissist I don't have much to talk about.
Unresolved issues concerning childhood peer pressure to succeed in this world of insane social economic survival slavery workplace is to blame for continued narcissism
The John Deere dealership that l worked at is that way.
Good evening 🤗
11:40 This is beautiful. Thank you.
Oh this has been on my mind and seen so much ... But I still believe that I am 😔
Or have a lot of these tendencies and plus bad spirit or oppressed with "demontic" spirits that keep coming up...
I really struggle with being "good" genuine and to truely apologise but do say sorry sometimes and then turn it on the other person's problem...
And stuck also in "victim" mode.
I like to watch listen and learn but then I don't really listen or learn 😔 and struggle to receive the real love of God and Christ Holy Spirit because I also push a lot of help away or see that also being "fake" or I just struggle with the true motive to use correctly the help and do want to "work" on it... I thought and had moments of empathy and listened but that was for a short time and then being more blocking and distant and get irritated when people who had problems and bringing them to me 😔 and stiring family issues where "I" should be doing and helping more towards the family but also other social/religious standards on also being stubborn/hard at listen or a teachable spirit 😔 "obeying" with love and struggle to really apply in true humility. Many flaws... Is it another issue or "condition" that you made your self in a way (just all talk 😔 really wish not) so bad and can't and don't really want to help people because the issues or problems you wanted to stay away from? But the seem to really effect everything and your mindset in life (e.g. the bad and what sin has courrpted everything?). And just cannot Change. But want and need Holy Spirit help to grow us in the right power and character.
Instead of really turning away from the true loving merciful forgiving healing God almighty and Holy Spirit.
But do seem to see with family and husband with these too 😔
Then get told to shut up when picking it up on others too... And a lot being my fault (a do know that there is too) not having or growing up in the right qualities...
Lifting prayers for you and to break all those chains from the enemy keeping you in bondage of yourself. May you be free in Jesus name. The word says resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and will get close to you. You are so loved and highly favored. You been given full authority over the enemy. Be encouraged. Grace and peace to you🙏
@@OccupyHeaven
Wish we all didn't fall and have evil tendencies to these narsissitic (and do fall for the spirit of manipulating etc) or evil negative dark forces energies characteristics etc and really messing up or getting messed up as fools or not being that smart... and issues of not having that good connection or true Christ belief and spirits blocks/ and heart heavy with negative energies and anger etc... and that the true loving God source Spirit Creator and Christos/Christ saviour spirit energies winning in all our and minds transformed transmuted in the true loving God spirit in all...
And not also all talk and fake or illusions etc and truely all of us "saved" healing well and restored together and the true good balance/harmony of life together with The good truth and true loving God 😔🙏
Issues where my mind and heart seems to keep falling or wrong in everything with the bad spirit or Energies and thoughts of infused with both good/bad clashes and seem fail to pick the good reaction etc or my heart seems to resist God and not moving forwards well causing causing more issues or caught up in it etc (and learning more information about the "truths" and lies of God and the true loving God)... Hiding sinful mode
issues faith faith and that loving heart/mind/ spirit but to "cautions" in fear and anger that we have to be careful etc (but then I'm also the one to be cautious about too etc) 😔 and wishing we all good with the true loving God source Spirit Creator and the light Christos saviour and need the spirit with and within us all 😔🙏
Wish we all in the good truth and connected with the true loving God and not have a faith/love issues or over whelmed with the negative dark forces energies that we fall into so easily or being evil because we don't "act" or work on the spirit and follow through with love? 😔
Instead of issues against all in a mad unloving spirit and seeing all evils energies illusions etc or a fooled bad heart and negative words thoughts.and actions😔
@@glendagajsek-shears3890 I understand what your saying. Is a battle of the mind. Been there and was exposed to the demonic powers of Satan for practicing the occult. So I know how they work against us to get us to doubt the love of our Father and what Jesus really accomplished in our behalf at Calvary. The reason why we must summit in obedience to believing His word in faith that we can fight those thoughts from the enemy. As it says in Ephesians.
Please read the whole armor of God. Memorize it and apply it to your life daily. So important. May the Holy Spirit empowered you to stand strong. Like everything in life with daily practice we get better at it. Fight with your full armor daily and you’ll find full freedom and victory. I believe that you can do this and I know God Almighty will give you His victory. 🙏🥰
“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”
Ephesians 6:10-18
Thanks for your ministry. Have you done any videos on chronic health issues and depression ?
I m not able to come out of him. He would have run more than 20 times, still my heart searching to be his slave. I m confused. He did stonewalling. Trying to reach him.
This was a great video. Thanks for sharing!
Ive been spinning literally and I think I know why after watching 2 of your videos.
Great revelation the Lord used you to confirm 2 things.
🎉🎉❤❤
This video was a blessing, 🙏 thank you
🧐👓healing everyday 🌻
Amen sister 🙏❤️
Me too!!!
I loved this. It was helpful.
Thank you Mark ☝🏼❤️
Or a narcissist goes to counseling for something like comorbid depression but doesn't work on stopping abusive patterns.
hey I'm concerned. I see that I'm sometimes entitled. still struggling with that I'm really praying for growth
THANK YOU FOR SHARING!
Thank you this was very helpful and insightful.
Love ya Mark 😊
In my case i do feel empathy to people until i feel like they did something to me (abuse my kindess, make fun of me, etc) then i legit dont care about what happens to these people, like they could litteraly die in front of me and i wouldnt care. Its really wierd bc im aware i have some narcisistic traits (your personality is shaped by the experiences you have, so if u been arround narcisist your whole life u would have these traits even if ur s good person). So im kinda worried if i am a narcisist or not.
@@Emanuel10348 maybe it's just a coping mechanism
Through my healing journey, having been around narcissists all my life, my dad, a sister and then my ex husband of 25 years, I first wondered if I was a narcissist, but heard over and over by so many, that if you asking, you aren’t a narcissist. BUT my sister will ask this regularly. This has always confused me. Anyone have any insight?
Also when i dont feel like i actually did something wrong and someone if asking me to apologize i wont fucking do it bc i know its not my foult and it angers me when they try to force an apologi from me
Yessss!!!!
Thanks dude! 🙂
Hello. Is narcissism the same as self-righteousness?
Thanks
Whew, I am not a narcissist... lol.. thankyou...
Yeah, nah, really, thanks dude!! 😢😌😊
See some narcissistic in me. Need help
Myself also
@@chrisruth2040 we all have narc traits, doesn’t make us one. We could also have tendencies.
Bro, I have a question: What if a person that you have known your whole life has struggled with Histrionic personality disorder? So it's not that I don't want to celebrate when they achieve something. Or do something for someone. But I can't help but think they're just doing this for attention cause it seems like it's all the time.
Yep, its very hard to deal with, because they have to come to personal awareness and they often don't see it. No matter how lovingly I have tried to mention it....even with extra grace and added padding, they get mad.
Ameng
What if a Narcissist sees that they are unbiblical so they ask God for help . Will God help them ?
If someone wants God's help, He is willing to help them. Working to apply the Bible to one's life and counseling can be ways God helps.
@@melb2734 Thankyou
Prayer and religion are both good encouragement and motivations, bur it's not enough. Therapy and honesty within the therapeutic relationship is paramount. I'm not a Christian, but I formally met the criteria for NPD, but no longer. It's work to process trauma. Being a false self is protective, because if you don't see me, you can't hurt me. However, if I can't acknowledge certain emotions within myself, I can't be empathetic with someone else who is feeling that way. It takes time, but narcissists can heal. I've meet many moral narcissists and devout Christians, but you can love God and still be a narcissist. It's the wife who never cheated because she loved God, but she abandoned her husband emotionally long ago. It's the father who is so focused on serving God that he will not hear the brokenness of his child, and shames him for his folly. Remember that king David killed his own son for doing the same thing he was forgiven for years in the past. King David was the one who took his neighbors wife and murdered her husband because of his entitled nature, yet he still had a strong sense of morality - wanting go bring the wretch of Nathan's narrative to a wretched end. This is indignation. We are all complex people. Narcissists aren't just one thing. But they are buried underneath the layers of survival coping. People-pleasers and narcissists suffer from the same condition - both are in a constant state of becoming but never themselves. They are looking to others to give them a sense of worth. One is inwardly aggressive and the other outwardly. They both need to get in touch with their inner child.
I really hope this offers some insight. We are not demons, just traumatized. But... and this is a big but, do not light yourself on fire so that we can feel some warmth. Abuse is not to be tolerated. Maybe you don't have to leave the relationship, but you can leave the room. You have the ability to set boundaries and that's about it. We have zero control over others or our relationships. You can only regulate your own behavior.
I am so confused .
Maybe I’m not a narcissist…. Im just a shitty person 😃
literally all your 4 points are wrong. please educate yourself before spreading misinformation to thousands of people. if you want actual good content for/about narcissism there are many good channels out there. can highly recommend especially The Nameless Narcissist
@@joshpainwins how are they wrong? Please offer an explanation?
@@joshpainwins go away. That’s a horrible thing to say and not true.