Ok. Unfortunately I have never seen a secure man ever! They are afraid of authentic women who are in their heart… I’m a therapist myself, men avoid healing yet women try to do everything they can to change dynamics and heal relationships. Hope we will all soon see this new species: “secure men”.
Another excellent piece of content! Thank you. Great points to soak in. Saving this one for future reminders ☺️ I have a new relationship budding and I want to make sure I go through this in tuned & conscious ~ this was great food for thought!
I figured out why I'm holding back on dating. My last 3 relationships were abusive so, I need figure out why I pick abusive men or why I seem to attract that kind of man.
Great i really love ur content!💗 Can you talk about relationships and the personalities that match each other and have chemistry and how the person feel that this is the one ,idk how to say it properly actually but i hope u get it🙆🏻♀️
I've married an insecure man, and i made him feel so loved and self confident that he felt the need to go somewhere else and show it. I'll never do it again. I guess it's better to put people down every now and then...
Lovely content and very informative, thank you!!! 😍😍✨✨ Please I would really really REALLY appreciate a video of a full extensive analysis + your personal take on the taxi cab light theory Discussing the following: “what makes a man commit? Is it all about timing and proximity? Is it about the woman he meets? Is it entirely about him and his inner world/readiness? Is it peer pressure? And why would he waste years upon years in a relationship if he had no intention to marry, to only marry the next girl he meets within 6 months?” I truly believe a lot of ladies would find clarity in this topic, thank you!! ❤️❤️❤️
As a man I can say it could be because of 2 reasons. 1st reason : maybe he has a past trauma or he has low self-esteem. 2nd reason : maybe you are acting in a way that makes him doubt you or distrust you. Solution : If it's him then consult a therapist but if it's you then have a talk with him and fix it up.
Men and women think and love in SUCH drastically different ways. As I’m watching your channel and another channel by a spiritual father, I am learning that there are so many misunderstandings with men because many of us women think they think the same way we do. Women are about connection, emotional value, showing up and presence. Giving. We think if we do that, it means we will receive love. THATS NOT TRUE!!!!!!! Completely different creatures than us. It’s wild.
As a man, I can tell you many women don't look for connection and emotional value. There are reasons why great novels like The Great Gatsby were written.
@@SaveTheMessengerI suppose I can only speak for myself and my friends and our networks combined. I don’t know any women who don’t seek connection and emotional value. The women I know, including myself, are yearning for it. It’s a strange thought for me to consider there are feminine women out there who are not narcissists looking for prey who don’t want it…. Simply because feminine women are nurturers, givers. To clarify, im not saying they don’t exist. It’s just an odd thing to me. I do wish it was easier to find real connection with a man. I thought I was doing alright but have realized I am approaching this all wrong and this must be why I haven’t found someone right for me yet.
@@SaveTheMessengerTo clarify, what I meant was this, for example… and I say “she” but this is exactly how I’ve operated in my relationships… if a woman shows up to a relationship ready to give.. she really enjoys the man’s presence, so she wants him around more. She loves making him happy, so she cooks him plenty of food and leaves him with no lack of love. She understands they’re both learning, so in arguments or moments he is out of line, she does not push him away nor ask him to leave and give her space. She gets over it and holds him. All of the advice I’ve received from more mature men is this…. If you are not a wife, do not give him everything. Take intimacy off the table until he’s proven himself as committed. Give him space - he requires space to realize he loves and misses you and wants you around. If he’s being a dunce, tell him to leave. What I further mean is this, as a woman I’ve always thought being my loving, authentic self and showing that I am a loving individual, is what would find me my loyal partner. Instead, it’s gotten me taken advantage of. From men’s words: Men can have sex and receive from you and it not mean anything. From my pov, I could not receive those things nor have sex with someone I did not love. So I assume they love me and are committed to me, too. When in reality maybe theyre just enjoying the ride and haven’t actually committed. I hope this makes what I’m saying make more sense.
Nice video,but i have a question how can she love her husband who use to flirt everytime he met new girl or woman infront of his wife.to which he called a joke.his joke hurts a lot any advice?
Change in a relationship is necessary because both people need to adapt and compromise with each other. A man going into a relationship without growth or change, is a dead end relationship.
@@catharineclendening3660 I don’t agree with his advice regarding change. All healthy and mature relationship requires change because it means couples are growing together. It’s only the unhealthy and immature relationship that doesn’t want to evolve and change.
Ismael, I try to change a man for better future, so he is passionate and therefore understands my attempt for his success. Is this wrong? How much ever honest i am, he always lies 95%, why is this behaviour?
Omg!!! Is he your kid? No man wants a woman who tries to “change him for a better future”. If you keep trying to change him he will replace you with a woman that help him to feel he’s enough.
@@RR-kv1zj is he your kid? No man wants a woman who wants to “change him for a better future”. If you keep trying to change him at some point he will replace you with a woman that makes him feel he is enough.
Well I'm so happy cause i found that what a big change i have made in my life, i already have authentic love as a potential, i just don't know where's him to adore me 😂 just kidding ✌🏻😸
This is probably off topic. But when man don't communicate his needs n rejects when I the woman try to show affection then says I'm aggressive or he can't perform when I want it . Then suddenly wants it n after all the rejection it's hard for me to feel that way. It didn't happen n he dumped me the next day after 10 years on n off. Does that show he was never fully interested n was using me. For money which he got or other things. I'm crying since Wednesday. Haven't eaten since then . I cry most of the day. Go to sleep crying. Wake up crying . Why wouldn't he just tell me n show me affection n not rejected. Please help . He says its over n he's done. I still love him n am devastated. Is it done or csn I do something to change his mind . I don't want anyone else .. it's him or nobody. I cannot do this again with anyone else. I'm over 55 . I am so sick over this . He refuses to talk anymore
If your man is over 55 and doesn’t know how to communicate properly, he’s deeply broken and emotionally stunted. He needs therapy. Years of it. You can’t change him. I’m sorry you wasted 10 years with him but you have to move on now. You will cry for a while but things will get better. Try to find a therapist, it will really help.
I like a guy like after 8 years of my life. He is working and very busy with his schedule. 3 days his snap counts donot goes increase and 4th day his count goes up 100. Still my message is unchecked on delivered 😢 is he cheating on meM
@@AryaShukla-ty5dn I have blocked him now. I confronted him by asking Gods help. He said I like you but if my parents wont agree I wont be able to do anything. I am still going through pain though i have finished the access myself
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It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.
This man is correct about everything. Just binge watched him and as a woman in my 50's, can say he is bang on in everything he says.
Thank you so much, I needed this video because I didn't know the difference between ego love and authentic love.😊❤
I'm glad you found it helpful. Thanks for watching.
Ok. Unfortunately I have never seen a secure man ever! They are afraid of authentic women who are in their heart… I’m a therapist myself, men avoid healing yet women try to do everything they can to change dynamics and heal relationships. Hope we will all soon see this new species: “secure men”.
I ❤ your breaking down ego love v. authentic love! I've been married over 30 years and it's spot on.
Thanks for sharing!!
Another excellent piece of content! Thank you.
Great points to soak in.
Saving this one for future reminders ☺️
I have a new relationship budding and I want to make sure I go through this in tuned & conscious ~ this was great food for thought!
That's very sweet of you. Thanks.
Thank you so much.
i'm a native frensh speaker and i'm also using your videos to improve my english speaking skills😊
Merci beaucoup.
I figured out why I'm holding back on dating. My last 3 relationships were abusive so, I need figure out why I pick abusive men or why I seem to attract that kind of man.
Great i really love ur content!💗
Can you talk about relationships and the personalities that match each other and have chemistry and how the person feel that this is the one ,idk how to say it properly actually but i hope u get it🙆🏻♀️
Thank you so much ..wat an eye openner
You are so welcome!
Thank you so much for your importent videos about men, women and relationships ❤
I've married an insecure man, and i made him feel so loved and self confident that he felt the need to go somewhere else and show it. I'll never do it again. I guess it's better to put people down every now and then...
No need to put them down, just always meet them at eye level.
Oh great!!! Haha!!
Thank you!! ❤
Thank you for your interesting perspective on men - women. Men will remain an enigma to me.
I loved this video so much. Such insightful and grounded content always. Thank you Ismael!
I can’t express my gratitude enough.
Lovely content and very informative, thank you!!! 😍😍✨✨
Please I would really really REALLY appreciate a video of a full extensive analysis + your personal take on the taxi cab light theory
Discussing the following: “what makes a man commit? Is it all about timing and proximity? Is it about the woman he meets? Is it entirely about him and his inner world/readiness? Is it peer pressure? And why would he waste years upon years in a relationship if he had no intention to marry, to only marry the next girl he meets within 6 months?”
I truly believe a lot of ladies would find clarity in this topic, thank you!! ❤️❤️❤️
I always had ego love😢 then, now i understood
I'm learning so much thank you 🥺🙌
you are aweeeesome. so thankful for the algorithm to lead me to you.
I'm glad my video found you today.
I love your suggestions, always right to the point
Great points to take into consideration and apply . Thank you kindly. 👌🧡
Your comment made me smile. I appreciate you.
Thanx😊
Thank you for explain a nice video
Hii i love all ur content it helps alot in my life thankyou so much 😊☺️
Yeah, thank you, i don't need to be told how to love a man.
How to change an insecure man into secure man😂 cause I don't wanna leave :)
Pray to God 😊
😅
Go for therapy
As a man I can say it could be because of 2 reasons.
1st reason : maybe he has a past trauma or he has low self-esteem.
2nd reason : maybe you are acting in a way that makes him doubt you or distrust you.
Solution : If it's him then consult a therapist but if it's you then have a talk with him and fix it up.
@@NOVA_STARK ok thanks 👍🏻
Thank you ❤❤❤❤
Wonderful video ❤😊ismael
Even today's video presentation is great( by sub points) and different.
Thank you for your guidance dear 😊🥰❤️.
I kept smiling as I read your comment.
@@SaveTheMessenger thank u 🥰😊
Men and women think and love in SUCH drastically different ways. As I’m watching your channel and another channel by a spiritual father, I am learning that there are so many misunderstandings with men because many of us women think they think the same way we do. Women are about connection, emotional value, showing up and presence. Giving. We think if we do that, it means we will receive love. THATS NOT TRUE!!!!!!! Completely different creatures than us. It’s wild.
As a man, I can tell you many women don't look for connection and emotional value. There are reasons why great novels like The Great Gatsby were written.
@@SaveTheMessengerI suppose I can only speak for myself and my friends and our networks combined. I don’t know any women who don’t seek connection and emotional value. The women I know, including myself, are yearning for it. It’s a strange thought for me to consider there are feminine women out there who are not narcissists looking for prey who don’t want it…. Simply because feminine women are nurturers, givers. To clarify, im not saying they don’t exist. It’s just an odd thing to me. I do wish it was easier to find real connection with a man. I thought I was doing alright but have realized I am approaching this all wrong and this must be why I haven’t found someone right for me yet.
@@SaveTheMessengerTo clarify, what I meant was this, for example… and I say “she” but this is exactly how I’ve operated in my relationships… if a woman shows up to a relationship ready to give.. she really enjoys the man’s presence, so she wants him around more. She loves making him happy, so she cooks him plenty of food and leaves him with no lack of love. She understands they’re both learning, so in arguments or moments he is out of line, she does not push him away nor ask him to leave and give her space. She gets over it and holds him.
All of the advice I’ve received from more mature men is this…. If you are not a wife, do not give him everything. Take intimacy off the table until he’s proven himself as committed. Give him space - he requires space to realize he loves and misses you and wants you around. If he’s being a dunce, tell him to leave.
What I further mean is this, as a woman I’ve always thought being my loving, authentic self and showing that I am a loving individual, is what would find me my loyal partner. Instead, it’s gotten me taken advantage of. From men’s words: Men can have sex and receive from you and it not mean anything.
From my pov, I could not receive those things nor have sex with someone I did not love. So I assume they love me and are committed to me, too. When in reality maybe theyre just enjoying the ride and haven’t actually committed.
I hope this makes what I’m saying make more sense.
thank you! :)
Well I neer new this
Great advice 🎉
Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching.
Nice video,but i have a question how can she love her husband who use to flirt everytime he met new girl or woman infront of his wife.to which he called a joke.his joke hurts a lot any advice?
this guy too good
Change in a relationship is necessary because both people need to adapt and compromise with each other. A man going into a relationship without growth or change, is a dead end relationship.
You are very wise for such a young man.
@@catharineclendening3660 Are you calling me a young man or are you meaning to leave the comment for the content creator?
@@effortlesssuccess2585 I'm saying Ismael gives very good advice. And he's young (age is a relative thing).
@@catharineclendening3660 I don’t agree with his advice regarding change. All healthy and mature relationship requires change because it means couples are growing together. It’s only the unhealthy and immature relationship that doesn’t want to evolve and change.
Change as it happens organically, not you trying to force it. That's the difference.
How do I contact you? Tobi Besse
Ismael, I try to change a man for better future, so he is passionate and therefore understands my attempt for his success. Is this wrong? How much ever honest i am, he always lies 95%, why is this behaviour?
Omg!!! Is he your kid? No man wants a woman who tries to “change him for a better future”. If you keep trying to change him he will replace you with a woman that help him to feel he’s enough.
It is impossible to change someone else. Find someone that you can love for who he is rather than who you think he can be.
that sounds like a waste of energy and time
@@RR-kv1zj is he your kid? No man wants a woman who wants to “change him for a better future”. If you keep trying to change him at some point he will replace you with a woman that makes him feel he is enough.
Agreed 💯
Well I'm so happy cause i found that what a big change i have made in my life, i already have authentic love as a potential, i just don't know where's him to adore me 😂 just kidding ✌🏻😸
This is probably off topic. But when man don't communicate his needs n rejects when I the woman try to show affection then says I'm aggressive or he can't perform when I want it . Then suddenly wants it n after all the rejection it's hard for me to feel that way. It didn't happen n he dumped me the next day after 10 years on n off. Does that show he was never fully interested n was using me. For money which he got or other things. I'm crying since Wednesday. Haven't eaten since then . I cry most of the day. Go to sleep crying. Wake up crying . Why wouldn't he just tell me n show me affection n not rejected. Please help . He says its over n he's done. I still love him n am devastated. Is it done or csn I do something to change his mind . I don't want anyone else .. it's him or nobody. I cannot do this again with anyone else. I'm over 55 . I am so sick over this . He refuses to talk anymore
I feel you.. 😢Go to church and ask God to help you to get through this. Read the Bible. God will give you strength.
@@renoaczhary1232so tired of religious zealots pushing their make believe Sky Daddy on everyone 🙄🙄🙄
If your man is over 55 and doesn’t know how to communicate properly, he’s deeply broken and emotionally stunted. He needs therapy. Years of it. You can’t change him. I’m sorry you wasted 10 years with him but you have to move on now. You will cry for a while but things will get better. Try to find a therapist, it will really help.
. No he is 54 . I'm 60
I like a guy like after 8 years of my life. He is working and very busy with his schedule. 3 days his snap counts donot goes increase and 4th day his count goes up 100. Still my message is unchecked on delivered 😢 is he cheating on meM
I can relate😢he's not busy tho
@@AryaShukla-ty5dn I have blocked him now. I confronted him by asking Gods help. He said I like you but if my parents wont agree I wont be able to do anything. I am still going through pain though i have finished the access myself
If you have to flatter him all the time he is a narcissist. Just leave.
My husband watched this with me and now he has questions
What are some of the questions?
How can i feel if a man he loves me in his deep in side
You have no questionsmarks in your head.
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