My father once told me he became a father because he wanted me take care of him when he would get old (here in Russia we have a saying "to serve a glass of water", which means to look after a parent when he becomes old). Well, it didn`t stop him from beating me up and sexually harassing me as a child. Guess how much care and love he got back, when he got older? None. Now he`s terribly ill, going from one surgery to another, he`ll probably die in couple of months, but I don`t wanna see him. I think next time I`ll visit him will be on his funeral.
У меня отец тоже тот ещё му*ак, да и мать не многим лучше. К сожалению, они могут меня пережить: настолько испортили мне здоровье. Про пресловутый стакан воды не помню, говорили ли мне, но что помню, что в дошкольном возрасте ещё мне внушали, что я должен заработать достаточно, чтобы отправить родителей на старости в кругосветное путешествие. А потом отец с таким деланным прискорбием любил говорить, что вот, мол, беда у нас в семье, не пойми кто растёт, вырастет - сопьется и бомжом станет. Без каких-либо поводов так считать, естественно (да даже если б они и были...). Физ. насилия тоже было дофига, сексуального только не было (вроде). P.S. Не такой уж популярный канал, а русскоязычные смотрят. И помню, что русс. субтитры сделали как минимум к одному ролику. Детский абьюз на постсовке один из самых жёстких в мире. И всеми воспринимается тут как норма. В этом, видимо, дело. P.P.S. ПТН - ХЛО P.P.P.S. Кто в эрфи живёт - бегите, пока занавес не опустили
Да, не буду ни на кого показывать пальцем, но и радфемок понятно, почему так много на постсовке (и откуда в них _столько_ ненависти). Тут и абьюзивные отцы, и (что, как мне кажется, больше влияет) токсичные матери-мужeненaвистницы, внушающие дочерям, что все мужики кoзлы (или, во всяком случае, что таков их отец), втайне мечтая, чтобы жизнь их дочерей не сложилась - так же как их собственная.
@Maqbool Rabbani I`ve been doing that for a few years a long time ago. What I`ve learned is that for me "God" is an idea people use to manipulate you more comfortably. By forgiving a person who harassed you, you're giving this person a carte blanche to continue mock you all they want without consequences. I`ve been quite religious in my youth and my devotion to religion was very strong - but than I understood that religion was just a way to escape from my genuine feelings of loneliness, fear and anger at my family. It was easier to obsess over praying and reading Bible than to see the ugly truth that my relatives used me to satisfy their sexual needs and their desire of power. Maybe you think that we should suffer in this world to be happy in the next, but my opinion is different. I reckon, that with time we can transform this world in a happy, loving place. And for that, I think, we don't need to prohibit ourselves to be angry or suicidal, to have sexual urges or to distrust our friends\authorities\governments, because every feeling is a part of us that exists for a reason. I respect your belief in God and this comment is not intended to be harsh or offensive to your life values, as my experience doesn`t represent what religion is in all it`s facets.
The interesting thing is that the parents that are able to give unconditional love to their children probably get the most love back. When kids feel they have to do something or they don't feel loved they won't like being around them as much.
@@sunnyd4889 Capacity for empathy is genetic as well as being a learned skill. The same people who are least likely to be able to comprehend parental love are those most likely to be abused by shitty parents, but to say that 99% of humans are bugoid, empathy-devoid retards who are congenitally incapable of parental love is actually, definitively off-base and frankly insane. You people are anti-human which makes you enemies of the people you sanctimoniously purport to care for so very much
@@sunnyd4889 This is such an interesting comment. I am so intrigued especially since it comes from a therapist, a professional that knows this topic from experience. In my opinion, and it is based only on how I feel, unconditional love comes from deep within, you are not aware of a concept or the science behind it. It is like feeling hunger or thirst...It is impossible to rationalize this kind of love that I feel for my children and grandchildren. I just feel it, with all my heart, no matter what. I would give my life for any of them, immediately, without even thinking. I am very passionate about psychology and the human mind. So fascinating...
@@cristinamagurean I am a regression (hypnotherapy) therapist as well as do HMR (Holographic memory resolution) therapy so I assist those resolve wounds/trauma at a subconscious level. From my training and experience, all wounds/traumas are from 0 to 9 yrs old. Yes trauma can happen in utero, if mother is in a harmful, toxic environment when pregnant she can transfer that trauma to her baby that is than born with trauma. Than after the age of 9, anything that happens is a rewounding of the original wound and this process lasts a lifetime until one resolves the original wound from 0 to 9 yrs. What was most difficult to reconcile when I first started doing this work was the amount of pain/trauma people had that all stem from parents judgment or lower emotion projected onto child. It really broke my heart and I want to scream at parents to heal their wounds before they have children but of course most wont heal and they unconsciously pass this pain onto unknowing children. What brings me great hope is the use of Regression Therapy and HMR to heal these traumas both are extremely effective and immediate. No drugs needed and Heal is permanent and progressive in ones life. I have since moved my practice to working primarily children and teens with these therapies.
i will never have children just because the world is so harsh and you cant consent to being born. if i had the choice to be born or not i would have chose not to honestly. it seems ridiculous to me to have kids so they'll take care of you when youre old. there's a million things that could happen to you before you even make it to being old. if i make it to old age i seriously doubt im going to be thinking "i should have had kids so someone would take care of me" lol. people who have kids for that reason will probably die alone anyway since their kids will resent them and not want to be around them since someone like that probably isnt a good parent.
Healing our childhood trauma equals to healing our planet...Amen! Thank you for your wise and hopeful take on this scary state of affairs. I believe it too.🙏🌏👶🐾🍀
Many people get married with the same thought process. "Now that I'm getting older, I want someone who will be there for me as my body and mind become less capable or if I get sick." They are not thinking about building an everlasting bond with their mate, they are just wanting some sort of insurance.
I will never feel guilty not having kids. We are the ones being unselfish if anything. The people having biological children in 2021 should feel guilty. It is awful what they set their kids up too.
@@RevolutionaryThinking Bro, you're going to hell for having children. Mark my words lol. It appears one must score 145+ IQ on WAIS IV to understand that it's wrong. Just focus on getting better ;)
I feel like people have children for very selfish and short lived reasons. Once those reasons are gone they lose interest and they have a whole living being/s they have to account for. For most it was never about raising a well rounded and intelligent individual. It was about getting their needs met.
What I think is so damaging is having children and then telling them “our species is going extinct, everything is hopeless and we’re headed towards disaster.” Raising children in that bath of doom and gloom is disgusting and immoral. I don’t think we’re headed towards destruction, but if I did, there’s no way I’d have children.
@no name 1. Very few man made systems are “designed” to create doom and gloom 2. Where did I say I “support” anything in particular? 3. Don’t @ me when you’re clearly just desperate for a TH-cam flame war lol. Have a good point to make, make it, otherwise: go outside, walk in the park, drink some juice.
@no name... wow. You my friend are a master at that. I salute you for how many hours spent alone in your mother’s basement it must’ve taken to get good at this.
To not have children is not the solution either. What is really damaging is to fail to pay attention to reality, to fail to raise awareness and to fail to consider the consequences of our current denial of the bleak future we are heading. When parents like myself reveal the negative direction mankind is heading - and the reasons of it (ie because we are forced to) - it is in attempt to raise awareness and collect more and more allies to try to stop and reverse the trend. If we fail to look into the future, we can never change it. Denial and delusion, escapism and wishful thinking, is not going to make reality any better. On another point: the selfish goals of parents is applicable to not only those who are aware of mankind's bleak future. Most parents raise children only for their own benefits to begin with, including those who are not aware and are not talking about our horrible future.
Im never ever in my life going to have children because of what my parents did to me. I took care of my dad up until he died of emphysema at age 62. Im taking care of my mom's bedsores because she doesnt take care of herself. She tells me sometimes "who is going to take care of you when you get old?". I dont know. But Im not selfish like they are.
I love this video and thank you. I chose not to have children because I wasn't happy about bringing a child into this messed up world, I sometimes ask myself, what the hell am I doing here ! I'm an only child of aging parents and my mother has dementia I feel it's my responsibility to make sure that my parents are okay every day either physically, emotionally and financially. It's not fair !
“If children were brought into the world by an act of pure reason alone, would the human race continue to exist? Would not a man rather have so much sympathy with the coming generation as to spare it the burden of existence, or at any rate not take it upon himself to impose that burden upon it in cold blood?” ― Arthur Schopenhauer, Studies in Pessimism: The Essays
The tragic thing is that sensitive and intelligent people are more likely to reason like this and as a consequence we have a dysgenic filter going on.....see idiocracy for further details lol
I agree with you so much. My mum was like "I want a more fulfilled life, that's why I had you" I was in my mind like ^!()*(%*&*(() And now I am stuck having to work so hard and ALSO pay her every month (that's my culture) So, I am a little toy and a type of investment to her. Once again, *(&$%*(%)$@(%##$O* PS this is why I estranged from them, I see them at most twice per year. AT MOST In fact, I would be happy to never see them again.
thanks Daniel for this video. I am exactly in the same position as you. My father kept me as his "nurse" to the last day of his life. he was concerned only about himself, I lost so many years and my thoughts why he done that is exactly because I was for him and not vice versa. Sad but true.
The parents of today's kids were born during the Cold War and there were many people at that time who didn't know how our species could possibly survive the threat of nuclear annihilation. I guess being born into the threat of Armageddon is the birthright we are passing on to the next generation. I agree that the only hope for the future of humanity is in the people who are thoughtfully taking responsibility for their own trauma and healing themselves. There's nothing more difficult or important an individual can do, and it's our only control in a darkening world.
I think this is one of those things im most conflicted about. I genuinely feel a lot of terror towards the future and a lot of resentment for traumatic situations I was put through and seeing how having children can stunt your mental growth and how easy it is to repeat patterns onto them id rather not ever put a child through that kind of thing. On the other hand of course despite the way this world is I do see a genuine beauty and meaning in the world and have a lot of at least conceptual love to give that I would love for a child to be able to experience. And im not immune to ego or vanity driven fantasies like "oh they'd have my features or my spouses or they'd act like us" etc. Or fantasies where I can somehow be this perfect parent who saves them from whatever traumas I endured . But in the end it just feels too selfish to me. When im old my hope is that I have a strong community of friends and allies to look out for me, and ill look out for them. Hopefully I'll stay sharp enough to the end that I dont need constant care like that. But we'll see!
All human beings have the capability to experience happiness and good feelings. Yes, there are a ton of negatives, but there are also positives, and I think it isn't our call to withhold someone from experiencing life because we might not have been so lucky. It is a privilege to be a sentient being, and it is beautiful to raise a family with good values and unconditional love.
Absolutely brilliant observations. Healing the past really does make you live in the now and not worry about the future so much. This I have found also.
I feel that there is going to be a lot of suffering for the human race in the future, so I decided not to have kids. For a few years I would start crying every time I found out someone I knew was having a baby or when I saw a happy family with young children. I knew that it was partly because I was grieving my choice, but I also knew that part of it was that I was grieving my own neglectful childhood. I'm happy to say that I came through the other end, and I feel so much joy when I am able to really interact with children in a meaningful way now. I know how precious children are now and how much they need adults to help them grow up to be healthy.
I’m 2 years late but thank you for making this comment. I am in the position that you used to be in. I’m an antinatalist who doesn’t want to create someone who has the potential to suffer yet I want biological children and from time to time I desire them really badly especially as of late, maybe because of my age now (26 next month) I have cried over not having children. And I have a deep yearning for that experience of having a biological child. It was very hard for me to get back to my logical ethical position, but through watching antinatalist videos and things of the like, I’m back in my right mind (biology is a hell of a thing, I’d like to get fixed asap) but it’s nice to read about someone who went through the same thing but got past the grieving process ok. I’ve been looking for someone with this experience but it is hard to find as most antinatalist naturally don’t want children so it makes the decision easier for them. So I don’t have many to relate to regarding my specific circumstances. You are the first person I have come across who conveyed exactly what I needed to hear so thank you! 🤗
The trauma we all have to survive is the knowledge of our own mortality. Early childhood trauma is so deeply fucked up because children are completely dependent on others to live and learn how to not die as we get older and become autonomous.
So important that you talk about this. I always felt that (becoming) parents are not fair. I feel that they 'take' children for their own needs. I also feel that a lot of parents hide behind their children/use them. It makes me so so angry and it makes me think about my own parents using me as a kid. I am not sure if i will have kids in the future (34 years old). I feel already guitly against my unborn child. Guilty because I want it. Does anybody recognize this guilty feeling?
lol they have kids to rub their egos and have someone to look up to them unconditionally while giv8ng back conditions and shame if you dont suffer like them. my mom has no friends so she made them from scratch lol she showed more genuine love to the dogs than us and they do nothing but eat & sleep and wag their tails
Im in the process of watching so maybe you didnt get to it yet, but biology. We are self-concious but very self-unaware. I dont understand the habit of most people to completely dismiss the physical body. Everything you think, know and have experienced has been because of your body. The body has an agenda regardless of our narcisistic, existential wonderings. The body wants to live despite you.
This world is a joke. Anyway, years ago, I would listen to positive reviews more than negative reviews online about people. I'm so negative about people now. I didn't used to be. I've been treated so badly my whole life.
Chris Ferguson, if you give in to it, you let them win. There has always been suffering and negativity in the world, but there’s also always been much good. Move out of yourself and try to find someone you can help. Go to therapy, eat right, read the gospels. You need a multi-pronged attack on your despair!
I needed to hear this today, thank you. I had a series of difficult conversations with my family about trauma and it's helpful to be told that there is a point to working through all this pain. ❤️
Great video as always.. what if the crash and burn was part of a destruction/creation cycle and therefore not a polarized 'bad' thing, what if the crash and burn is of the systems we've created from a certain level of conciousness/unconsciousness, and creates the possibility of new ways of being. I believe there is a spiritual evolution, an awakening taking place within our species. So much of the future is being intuited by people, but they are perceiving it from a polarized state of consciousness. I think you're spot on when you say your hope lies within those healing themselves, also allowing them to become a catalyst for the healing of others.
After being awake since 2008, I've come to realize the Earth is a bad place made by a bad creator for a bad reason. Bringing children into this place simply means the person is ignorant of reality.
Daniel how do you know that your traveling, your you tube videos, your minimalism living etc isn’t a compensatory reaction to your parents (which would mean you are stuck still there)? You say that is part of your healing, your new authentic life but how do you know you are still not reactive therefore still reliving the past?
Oh, I was born in Feb. 1987, so, I'll be 35 in 2022; and speaking of having someone to 'take care' of me, I will prepare my body and brain for menopause; with anti-aging foods and fasting, and exercise because, as I told my first Occupational Therapist, who was fear mongering me about how I may fall out of my wheelchair and "break my hip" 😱 well, it'll take a train collision 🚆to break my hip (and the bone calloused over the fracture as it healed, anyhow). But I'll practice endurance athletics and prepare, as the human mind **is** **meant** to do ✔
Breeding often has little or nothing to do with thinking. "Where there's a Will, there's a way;" or so we think, thinking we're thinking, thinking our Will is our own. Edit: Bill McKibben is the best source and authority I know about on the problem of "climate change/crisis/catastrophe." This is an honest and very well-educated man. He says we still have time to change. Edit: You're still young enough to have children, Daniel. When you realize that, the question becomes more objective: What do you REALLY think the world will be like in 20 or 50 or 100 years? Are there enough "centered" people out there to save the vast majority who aren't? Is there enough time and are there enough resources? If the possibility of having children were presented to you now or soon, you'd have to make a serious judgement about the likelihood of your children living out their lives in acceptable circumstances.
Its NOT just about the state of the world - its also being honest as to can as in are you thinking about your needs? Or the childrens needs? Could you prevent any potential children getting cancer, being abused, becoming addicted to a drug, being injured? Do you realise they will become adults very quickly and oneday will be 70 years old. Have you not heard that most people regret having children and most dont have the guts to admit it? Dont realise most people are terribly miserable? Have you asked yourself would you be a good parent? How can you be certain? What if you are killed in an accident soon after your child is born? This is how a consious person thinks - have you healed your Traumas?
Were you talking to me? It's about many, many things, of course; most especially, it's about freedom of choice. These days, I'm preoccupied with the dire conditions in which we all live. Do you have to come on like such a know-it-all? Have YOU healed all of your traumas? I doubt it. Daniel's good and big idea is not the end and goal of all thought. It's not the philosopher's stone. It's not the unified field theory. Sometimes I think he places too much emphasis on it; which is not to say it lacks value, of course, nor to diminish it. (Yawn.)
I would really do anything for my children and grandchildren...regardless of the possibility of them taking care of me in my old age or not. I have for all of them the most unconditional love there can be. Also, you can not know for sure when and how this world will end. I remember how everybody was raving about how the world will end in 2000. Love your videos, Daniel, you are so complex and interesting.
@@cristinamagurean I honestly think that a competent, intelligent, loving woman is just about the best thing that can happen to an infant or a small child. Later, as they grow, they will need other people, too. Thanks for your reply.
Daniel u r saving the world man I am thinking about translating ur videos on Arabic i didn’t find an email to communicate with you hope this comment gets you
I agree that children should never be raised to take care of their parents and I would add often times parents do not take so good care of their children, because then they never become independent and "have" to take care of them in the desperate unconcious hope they will be loved now. I would kinda question your saying that people have so much conflicting believes when they get children and say they believe the world is going to crash (not saying it can´t be that at all), because people often don´t actually know what they really believe down at the bottom, they just rationalize around it and say something, because otherwise they would have to go within and boy, who ever wants to do that...all that pain... Well, we do, but,...you know. It is almost irrelevant in finding out what disconnected people really believe from the core to listen to their word, because (not saying that they don´t say accurate and useful things as well) what they believe you find in how they act. So if they act as if the world was going to contiunue, then they actually believe that but don´t have concious acess to that belief. What I would also say is, no one ever knows what the future holds and it is always going to be the case that parents are going to set children up for a traumatising life with lots of catastrophe, because that´s part of life. People get hurt when they live. That´s why it´s so important to heal and make it more likely for children to be able to do the same and to grow and thrive. You can´t protect your children from horror and you are not meant to, you should give them a chance to withstand it, by being the best version of you you could ever be and it doesn´t matter how long your children are going to live, because even 10 or 20 years of meaningful, gowing life can be have been worth having been brought forward into the world so I don´t see it exactly like you. Also I think there is each and every chance that the world isn´t going to crash when we all do our healing work and grow as far as we can and take responsibility for our planet, ourselves, our children, fellow human beings...
The judgment and belief of good/horrible/the greater good/the future/doom/hope are all really relative to so much. Relative to this time in history, relative to one's own life experience, relative to one's wealth and physical/mental health. Because there are so many variables, I find it arrogant to pass judgment on anyone for having children because one or many variables point toward a downturn in humanity. The only types of parents I find it easy to pass judgment on are those that don't unconditionally love their children. Mistakes can be made, but this is the only parental blasphemy I've never been able to overcome with my own parents. I would _never_ blame them for not seeing that the world is headed in some arbitrary direction.
I didn't plan on reproducing.. i did ponder the thought of adopting if or when i have my life squared away..but then i unexpectedly got pregnant..too much wine lol so me and my fiance have to make the best out of what we have for him. I dont regret having my son...however its very difficult to have that attitude about the world and raise my son with the positivity he deserves🤦🤦😢😢 so im doing my best to continue healing as much as i can while being a mom. it's difficult but i have a good therapist and iv learned to be resilient throughout my life. I keep on going, stay strong for my son and truely love him unconstitutionally and yes that does include if he ever leaves me in a state funded nursing home!! Please understand that not everyone who thinks or has thoughts that the world is going to fall apart r people that have those expectations for their kids because not everyone's situation is the same!!
In my culture, it's become the norm to act like children are the infinite inferior of the parent. People only have children to prove they're a real adult who can play God over a little person. They live as though their children owe them and they owe their children nothing at all. The level of entitlement these parents show is very unfortunate, and leads to such damaging disrespect of the children before they've ever had a chance. Oh, saddest is that the parents put the full weight of everything on their children at 8, 12, 13, 15, 16, or 18- on the dot. The "age of accountability" used is arbitrary, and based on the parents ego- and they literally expect their child to excel as an adult the day the parent decides the child is an adult. Don't even ask how well that works out. Go visit a homeless shelter, the social services line, or a morgue for the answer. And the parent gets to be the big, long-suffering hero in each scenario. So tragic.
Thumbs up for another insightful video! I do tend to agree with most if not all of your opinions about deciding to have children. It is something that troubles me since even though I am an optimistic person by nature I can't see the world going into a good direction AT ALL! So I guess deciding to have children should be thought of and discussed a lot by any couple that is considering it. Certainly being taken care of by our children doesn't justify us making that decision. If we don't work on our self healing A LOT we will probably end up transferring our unresolved traumas to them. That should be totally avoided by anyone who understands the psychological cost it might have on a human being.
This may seem irrelevant, but hear me out. An important consideration in OCD patients is that they act according to fears despite it being seen as irrational by others. The keystone of OCD though is that their obsessions and compulsions have to have an element of rationality to be a hook for them. If I have a fear of bacteria and I wash my hands incessantly, I need to learn how to behave in my life as I would if that fear weren’t there. Let’s look at your assumption the world will end. I agree it will. But this could be many many generations later. It wouldn’t be useful to curb our lives because the world MIGHT end. Just like it wouldn’t be useful to wash our hands every 5 minutes because we MIGHT contract a bacterial infection. It is not rational to refrain from having children simply because the world might end in the future. There are far more relevant reasons to not have children than that one. At least at this point in time where the end is not known to be here imminently.
People who are concious and who understand how fucked up and traumatized our world is don't tend to have children. In essence taking themselves out of gene pool. Those less conscious do have children and the cycle of trauma perpetuates.
LOVE your insights, Daniel! I think that bringing new humans into life is always a good thing. Even if humanity destroys itself, which I don't believe will happen (at least not completely) most would be grateful that they have had the privilege of existence. To BE is a profoundly ineffable gift. What we do with this opportunity is another matter
thinking of life as a gift has to be the ultimate cope. nobody is missing out by not existing. you don't remember your non-existence. you didn't miss out. tell us that life is a gift when you get terminal cancer or die in another horrible way. the most empathetic thing to do is objectively not to have children.
Coming off the most war-torn century in the history of mankind, it begs the question (having kids); however it seems Americans are having many fewer children per capita; so in some regards this is being addressed.
I think it is not the parent's individual responsibility that the world might come to an end. It is fair for me to give a child a chance at saving a potentially doomed world. If the world crashes and the child dies, have I committed a bad act? I don't think so. I think it was a life full of experience and beauty for the child even if it also contained horror.
Yeah, same. I personally would still wish to be born, even if I were to live just 10 years or so in a doomed world - as long as it was being born to the care of loving parents. That's ultimately all that matters to a child. The world is pretty sad right now but it also still holds so much beauty within, it always will for as long as any shred of nature and people capable of love exist.
I am seeing in my local area more people and community's coming together, I think we'll go back to make do and mend and have less interest in consumerism. Hope so.
If the future is questionable it's because other people. If you think you're good and don't breed because you think that is good, people who don't care about that will breed and make the future more questionable.
I had an honest-stranger-you'll-never-see-again discussion with someone from Kashmir about children and parents and the family and he seemed not to have much respect for freedom as you speak of it in this video. I do, though. When I was a teen, there was much commentary about overpopulation and so the no-children choice was presented as the ethical one.
Most people are very unsure & perhaps the only hope is to invest in the future, by producing children. - All parents are doing their best. ~ Life teaches us that we have to carry on, and keep going no matter what. ~ So far as having children, is to be hopeful & thinking how we can make better choices because of these children. ~ Also, by choosing not raise children, is a form of antisocial positioning. ~ Although I don’t have birth children, I see all younger persons as my children, and engage with them as such. ~ As for adults saying, they wish their children will care for them in old age, well that’s a natural desire based on multiple generations of how humans arranged their family & community groups. I don’t see it as an evil thing at all. Should we raise children to become adults who do not care for elders ? I already see this in NYC. There are many adolescents & young adults, even 30 year old adults, who have no respect for elders at all. It’s almost as if they see elders as an unviable burden. ~ I would not try to advocate people to not have children, nor would I tell people it’s crooked to want to care for their aging parents. ~ As a human race, all of this business of only caring about one self is one reason why the world is in chaos today. PS/ we have gone through many such chaos before. ~ Cheer up ~ and try to appreciate the good gift of being alive.
but logically and biologically we do indeed need children to be born, even if they're not our own, because when you grow older you keep needing people to do the things that provide the food and care we need. I mean, you could die of course when your body gets to frail to find your own food, tend to your garden, chop the wood. But that's not how it works. Who do you expect to look after you when you get sick? who has to work in the supermarket where you buy your groceries when you are seventy? Those people are somebody's child. I understand what you are saying, but there is a big but.......
The now industrial human ideas are gone crash and burn but not our future generations!! Yes theres gone be a thinning out of the human race! But If its gone be our self or nature only time will tell! Your conscience matters have children and teach them how to live sustainably (grow your own food, us resources you can grow sustainably for building your house…) The part of the human race that will live this way will not go extinct think about the people living deep in the jungle undisturbed they can out live our modern society #SaveNature
no one needs children and it almost never a reasonable or unselfish answer to have them such as Passing genes and leaving legacies Not dying alone Boredom Fix a dying marriage 🤣 which is the most hilarious To feel authority over someone Nothing of these is not self serving and completely selfish if you think people would genuinely do it to raise a healthy child the world wouldn’t be as it is right now , we wont have the fear of the world going to burn but intuitionally we all strongly feel it as if it gonna happen tomorrow or very soon
I still believe life is a gift and is worth living.So bringing one human being to this world is an act of optimism.We would not have you as a psychiatrist and beautiful person if you would have not born because your parents were not the best at their main job.It is all about love,it's when love is not there that problems start
Some have children for wish fulfillment, they hold all their hopes and dreams on them. Get a degree, get a house, then they want grandchildren. Repeat.
My opinion is that it is totally OK not being able to UNCONDITIONALLY love someone. It would be too harsh for yourself and others if you can only accept unconditional love as the only form of love. There is a hope for the humanity as long as people still hug and kiss each other.
The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe. - Albert Einstein - If you believe the world is going down and things are going to devolve in flames that is the reality you will live. If you believe in a future of greatest where will people evolve higher to higher levels of understanding and development than you will experience that world. I have had children and believe is the higher evolution route. Nature will weed out those that will not evolve with the earth and the universe.
My baby boy was a miracle baby. I bonded with him when he was inside of me. He was my only friend. We did everything together. We went to work together, we ate together, we went to doctors together, he was driving with me, we did so many things together. He was so much joy. I had pictures of him when he was inside my belly. He was so cute. He was so active. He did control my cravings. I started to eat things that I would not put in my mouth before I got pregnant. He hated coffee and the smell of it. He hated salad dressings. He loved chocolate ice cream.
Not having children because you think the world might end or otherwise have no future is a self-fulling prophesy. The proper question is not why these people are having children; it is why people continue to profess a fashionable belief in doom and gloom when clearly their actions indicate that they don't really believe it.
@Lusci Nia I don't think our traumatization works that way. To have children takes a certain amount of conscious decision-making especially where abortion is an option. The problem arises after someone becomes a parent. Being an effective, conscious self-aware human being requires work and courage. It is after they have children that most people consciously or unconsciously sacrifice their children to their own fears and wounds.
@@lollikay5788 In essence, I believe that the majority of people, meaning the members of the culture, have invested far too much faith, and consequently "social energy," in political governance, that is, association on the basis of coercion and manipulation, instead of persuasion, mutual respect, and connection.
If the doomsday prediction are true, we may not have much power to stop it, I feel it will be too late by the time it becomes apparent to everyone, so we are really not in control of what happens, or to be able to change whatever happens.
Pawan Patre, doomsday predictions have been 100% incorrect so far. That’s not a good track record. You’re in control of yourself, no matter what happens. Take responsibility.
People are also just distracted by the games they play (ie get the job, get the wife, pay your bills) to play the game of figuring out what the future looks like in detail. It also isn't a very pleasent lens to keep looking through, so it feels better to look away, and your socially incentivized to tow the line of optimisim. I don't think we are totally fucked, but it will take a lot of thinking and action on a massive scale to make it through the bottle neck.
Aside from simply being the natural order of things, having children is an act of hope and a statement of faith in the future. For myself, having children also drove much of my healing and self reflection that would not have happened otherwise. People make a lot of high-minded excuses to stay single (“mgtow” etc) or to not have kids, but that’s all they are is excuses to not heal and take responsibility and control of your life.
Pan Vegan, yes, just like you eat for “self gain” and breathe air for “self gain”. Actually what would have been truly selfish is to not have brought our two daughters into the world because of guesses about the future, finances, or our past family traumas. Thank God we didn’t let that fear and “realistic thinking” rule our decision. They are truly a blessing.
In other words, giving children a job before their even born. A job to fulfil you and your needs, and not actually theirs. Yours. Yet you are the responsible one. That's a contradiction😂😂.
koriri barsosio, no not “in other words”. I never said it’s the job of my children to “fulfill me and my needs”. You’re putting your own words in my mouth.
The world's future is not questionable; and the ONLY people being pressured to abstain from having kids, certainly the only people responsive to such propaganda, are people who think about more than just themselves, who would raise kids capable of the same- exactly the people we need to have children the most.
Exactly! You get it. It's good to see one sane person in this comment section. Because the who will be left to have children are people who do not care about their wellbeing, and so the % of traumatised future adults rises, the society becomes even more sick. But it could be so much better if all these highly empathetic and responsible people did bring healthy adults into it. Sigh.
It is the people who are best suited to be parents who don't tend to have children and much of everyone else are people who should not even be around children, let alone have them.
I know there is a group who got diagnosed within the autism spectrum. They have a rich vocabulary and they are art academy types. They are extremely dissatisfied with the help they are getting. I suspect it may be simple schizophrenia. Are you aware of us? You have any thoughts about us? I suspect it's about 10% of the people diagnosed with medium/high functioning autism.
I have a rich vocabulary when i am in my good periods, i also get mutism and motor ticks/stiffness in my bad periods. Going to art academy and being a art academy type are two different things. I never considered myself schizoid because i need social contact in order to stay sane. Maybe the group i talked about does not have a name.
Been following your channel for a while and I get the feeling that you disbelieve in genuine parental love. That you said, "perhaps not all" while impugning the motives of parents seems to communicate your general attitude. Seems like you're working through guilt from being raised by horrible parents and having rightly cast them aside (I may be totally wrong, don't take that the wrong way). I feel compelled to ask you to consider the profundity of the biological imperative and the simple fact that most people would accept the cost of having had a worse life than their parents in order to have been born in the first place. I think arguments against procreation "in general" (as opposed to "by particular people") are quite ugly
@EUTHANIZE THE UNWISE I have also been following Daniel's videos for a long time now and I have watched his amazing films as well. I have no idea how you can watch his videos but conclude that he doesn't think genuine parental love exists. He advocates that people heal themselves so that they don't traumatize their children. He advocates that people truly mindfully go into parenthood and truly think about it, not just blindly do it and end up traumatizing them.
@Sarah Min You're an enthralled insane person, listen to you. You've swallowed the anti-human narrative like the other modern bug-people and you'll happily eat your fellow bugs to make yourself feel cool. Extrapolating your own shitty, unempathetic parents onto the rest of the human race is a classic fallacy of attribution and I'm moved to assume that you share their congenital incapacity in some way, which would lend you the audacity to preclude 99% of people from the possibility of being unselfish parents. People who were emotionally stunted by their parents ought not be the ones to make sweeping condemnations of the practice of parenthood in the first place, special pleading be damned
@@aquamarine0023 In the above video at least, Daniel provides a backhanded possibility that "perhaps not all" parents are worthy of his undeniably scathing, condescending criticism which is clearly, if not completely colored by his own potent experience with his own parents. He has a clear disdain, or at least an inflated righteous indignation, of the act of parenthood in general and would seem to want to put the breaks on the whole Humanity enterprise at large. This view is being exploded onto the public consciousness by self-hating and suicidal modern discouragement movements, the purpose of which is to further neuter the American working class while completely and permanently ignoring the actual reality of Indian and Chinese reproduction and pollution rates. Simple market forces drive these propa campaigns
ᴏᴘᴘᴏsᴇ ɢʟᴏʙᴏʜᴏᴍᴏ, well said. I think Daniel produces these “don’t have kids” videos (he has done several) in order to get validation from those who have also chosen this path of despair. It’s a stunning lack of self awareness for a therapist. At its core this is a classic conflict of good vs evil. Hope vs despair, life vs suicide. I pray that God heals these unhappy people.
@@joeltunnah Thanks for the response. I want to make sure to emphasize that any vituperation on my part comes from a place of respect and admiration for Mr. Mackler
I have some of the same childhood traumas you talk about. I married a nice lady and had four children. All girls. In my work in emergency room I see distractive low IQ people having six kids. And nurses maybe having none. This will lead to demographic collapse of any productive section of our species not to mention the tax paying part. This led Me to doing some environmental research. And what I found is that we’ve been told a pack of lies. The temperature goes up and down I say just come and go often starting with a calm at hits the earth. We can’t control that and there’s no reason not to have children. Global warming people are getting their instructions from the ones that pay their grants and put food on their table heaven saying the world will end in 12 years ever since 1987 my research has shown me that the slight increase in CO2 levels caused by humans has actually helped plant life be more abundant including crops that we eat. In fact the CO2 level in the atmosphere which is only 0.04% head drop to his stork Lee and dangerously low levels to the point where plant life would soon have no longer been supportive man did not come along don’t listen to them. Have children.
Why? Because it is a base human instinct to propagate the continuation of the species. Any understanding of evolution and how life came to be lies in the survival instinct. As long as there is hope, life will always be given precedence by a species who functions that way. Also, I have children and I do not in any way expect or even hope my children will take care of me in old age. I wouldn’t want to put that on them. With all due respect (because Daniel makes so many great points and one of his videos literally changed my life) I think the conclusion you make Daniel is based on a false premise and is an unsound argument.
I agree, love your stuff, but you made it seem like the only possible reason for having kids is for selfish reasons. you may want to have children to be and give what your parents couldn't, love them fully and empower them to do wathever their heart tells them, which will save the world because people will walk free, generous with a warm heart.
Sarah Min, the cycle is not inevitable. While we’re not responsible for how we were treated as children, we are responsible for our own recovery and behavior. It is possible to be abused and yet not pass that abuse on to your kids.
Daniel I really appreciate most of your videos and ideas. But come on man no one can expect a specific thing in the future. No one can know their or their children's fate. Yeah possibly we are going towards an end but in 50 years 200 years 1000 years or 5000 years who knows? No one. We cannot try to control our behaviours according to our predictions about future. That does not make sense... I believe it is more possible that our children is crushed by a car than he sees the end of the world. So should we not make children because they may be hit by a car and it would hurt? And how could we logically argue that not giving birth to someone is for their own best interest? Not existing is for someone's best interest? That doesn't make sense either...
@@michumomo Because this is contingent on people believing that they are bringing their children into a terrible world. It might apply to some people, but I don't think the world is pure horror, doom and that the time is nigh etc etc etc. It felt to me that he was painting it as though everyone thinks that that is the case.
The World will Burn some day but some people will survive and a new World will Start. But having children is not only a matter of choice. You have to find a lovely Partner, find a good place to settle and so on. Everyone who finds that should be glad and have kids.
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"To bear children into this world is like carrying wood to a burning house." - Zapffe
I'm not having children ... because I love them too much. Grat video.
My father once told me he became a father because he wanted me take care of him when he would get old (here in Russia we have a saying "to serve a glass of water", which means to look after a parent when he becomes old).
Well, it didn`t stop him from beating me up and sexually harassing me as a child. Guess how much care and love he got back, when he got older? None. Now he`s terribly ill, going from one surgery to another, he`ll probably die in couple of months, but I don`t wanna see him. I think next time I`ll visit him will be on his funeral.
У меня отец тоже тот ещё му*ак, да и мать не многим лучше. К сожалению, они могут меня пережить: настолько испортили мне здоровье. Про пресловутый стакан воды не помню, говорили ли мне, но что помню, что в дошкольном возрасте ещё мне внушали, что я должен заработать достаточно, чтобы отправить родителей на старости в кругосветное путешествие. А потом отец с таким деланным прискорбием любил говорить, что вот, мол, беда у нас в семье, не пойми кто растёт, вырастет - сопьется и бомжом станет. Без каких-либо поводов так считать, естественно (да даже если б они и были...). Физ. насилия тоже было дофига, сексуального только не было (вроде).
P.S. Не такой уж популярный канал, а русскоязычные смотрят. И помню, что русс. субтитры сделали как минимум к одному ролику.
Детский абьюз на постсовке один из самых жёстких в мире. И всеми воспринимается тут как норма.
В этом, видимо, дело.
P.P.S. ПТН - ХЛО
P.P.P.S. Кто в эрфи живёт - бегите, пока занавес не опустили
Да, не буду ни на кого показывать пальцем, но и радфемок понятно, почему так много на постсовке (и откуда в них _столько_ ненависти). Тут и абьюзивные отцы, и (что, как мне кажется, больше влияет) токсичные матери-мужeненaвистницы, внушающие дочерям, что все мужики кoзлы (или, во всяком случае, что таков их отец), втайне мечтая, чтобы жизнь их дочерей не сложилась - так же как их собственная.
I wouldn't go to his funeral either.
I'm also Russian, I have a similar experience in my life. I think it's our culture and a lot of other cultures believe that unfortunately
@Maqbool Rabbani I`ve been doing that for a few years a long time ago. What I`ve learned is that for me "God" is an idea people use to manipulate you more comfortably. By forgiving a person who harassed you, you're giving this person a carte blanche to continue mock you all they want without consequences.
I`ve been quite religious in my youth and my devotion to religion was very strong - but than I understood that religion was just a way to escape from my genuine feelings of loneliness, fear and anger at my family. It was easier to obsess over praying and reading Bible than to see the ugly truth that my relatives used me to satisfy their sexual needs and their desire of power.
Maybe you think that we should suffer in this world to be happy in the next, but my opinion is different. I reckon, that with time we can transform this world in a happy, loving place. And for that, I think, we don't need to prohibit ourselves to be angry or suicidal, to have sexual urges or to distrust our friends\authorities\governments, because every feeling is a part of us that exists for a reason.
I respect your belief in God and this comment is not intended to be harsh or offensive to your life values, as my experience doesn`t represent what religion is in all it`s facets.
The interesting thing is that the parents that are able to give unconditional love to their children probably get the most love back. When kids feel they have to do something or they don't feel loved they won't like being around them as much.
Northern Starseed I totally agree!!!
@Sarah Min Wow, this is so sad...I thought that 99% are giving all the love they have...unconditionally.
@@sunnyd4889 Capacity for empathy is genetic as well as being a learned skill. The same people who are least likely to be able to comprehend parental love are those most likely to be abused by shitty parents, but to say that 99% of humans are bugoid, empathy-devoid retards who are congenitally incapable of parental love is actually, definitively off-base and frankly insane. You people are anti-human which makes you enemies of the people you sanctimoniously purport to care for so very much
@@sunnyd4889 This is such an interesting comment. I am so intrigued especially since it comes from a therapist, a professional that knows this topic from experience. In my opinion, and it is based only on how I feel, unconditional love comes from deep within, you are not aware of a concept or the science behind it. It is like feeling hunger or thirst...It is impossible to rationalize this kind of love that I feel for my children and grandchildren. I just feel it, with all my heart, no matter what. I would give my life for any of them, immediately, without even thinking. I am very passionate about psychology and the human mind. So fascinating...
@@cristinamagurean I am a regression (hypnotherapy) therapist as well as do HMR (Holographic memory resolution) therapy so I assist those resolve wounds/trauma at a subconscious level. From my training and experience, all wounds/traumas are from 0 to 9 yrs old. Yes trauma can happen in utero, if mother is in a harmful, toxic environment when pregnant she can transfer that trauma to her baby that is than born with trauma. Than after the age of 9, anything that happens is a rewounding of the original wound and this process lasts a lifetime until one resolves the original wound from 0 to 9 yrs. What was most difficult to reconcile when I first started doing this work was the amount of pain/trauma people had that all stem from parents judgment or lower emotion projected onto child. It really broke my heart and I want to scream at parents to heal their wounds before they have children but of course most wont heal and they unconsciously pass this pain onto unknowing children. What brings me great hope is the use of Regression Therapy and HMR to heal these traumas both are extremely effective and immediate. No drugs needed and Heal is permanent and progressive in ones life. I have since moved my practice to working primarily children and teens with these therapies.
i will never have children just because the world is so harsh and you cant consent to being born. if i had the choice to be born or not i would have chose not to honestly. it seems ridiculous to me to have kids so they'll take care of you when youre old. there's a million things that could happen to you before you even make it to being old. if i make it to old age i seriously doubt im going to be thinking "i should have had kids so someone would take care of me" lol. people who have kids for that reason will probably die alone anyway since their kids will resent them and not want to be around them since someone like that probably isnt a good parent.
Healing our childhood trauma equals to healing our planet...Amen! Thank you for your wise and hopeful take on this scary state of affairs. I believe it too.🙏🌏👶🐾🍀
Exactly. But I’m hopeful because there is a higher reason we are here.
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Many people get married with the same thought process. "Now that I'm getting older, I want someone who will be there for me as my body and mind become less capable or if I get sick." They are not thinking about building an everlasting bond with their mate, they are just wanting some sort of insurance.
My kids are safe, unborn, with God
I love my children and that's why I leave them unborn 😀
For all the people who decided not to have children don’t feel guilty. We can either adopt or we can make a fellowship and take care of each other.
I will never feel guilty not having kids. We are the ones being unselfish if anything. The people having biological children in 2021 should feel guilty. It is awful what they set their kids up too.
Feel guilty? I don't think so!
@@katehenderson7792 Good.
@@RevolutionaryThinking Bro, you're going to hell for having children. Mark my words lol.
It appears one must score 145+ IQ on WAIS IV to understand that it's wrong.
Just focus on getting better ;)
Like the fellowship of the rings 😊
I feel like people have children for very selfish and short lived reasons. Once those reasons are gone they lose interest and they have a whole living being/s they have to account for. For most it was never about raising a well rounded and intelligent individual. It was about getting their needs met.
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What I think is so damaging is having children and then telling them “our species is going extinct, everything is hopeless and we’re headed towards disaster.”
Raising children in that bath of doom and gloom is disgusting and immoral.
I don’t think we’re headed towards destruction, but if I did, there’s no way I’d have children.
@@RustyShakleford1 just goes to show how stupid people can be.
@no name 1. Very few man made systems are “designed” to create doom and gloom
2. Where did I say I “support” anything in particular?
3. Don’t @ me when you’re clearly just desperate for a TH-cam flame war lol. Have a good point to make, make it, otherwise: go outside, walk in the park, drink some juice.
@no name... wow. You my friend are a master at that. I salute you for how many hours spent alone in your mother’s basement it must’ve taken to get good at this.
@no name boy oh boy! You’ve got me all figured out, bud!
To not have children is not the solution either.
What is really damaging is to fail to pay attention to reality, to fail to raise awareness and to fail to consider the consequences of our current denial of the bleak future we are heading. When parents like myself reveal the negative direction mankind is heading - and the reasons of it (ie because we are forced to) - it is in attempt to raise awareness and collect more and more allies to try to stop and reverse the trend. If we fail to look into the future, we can never change it. Denial and delusion, escapism and wishful thinking, is not going to make reality any better.
On another point: the selfish goals of parents is applicable to not only those who are aware of mankind's bleak future. Most parents raise children only for their own benefits to begin with, including those who are not aware and are not talking about our horrible future.
Im never ever in my life going to have children because of what my parents did to me. I took care of my dad up until he died of emphysema at age 62. Im taking care of my mom's bedsores because she doesnt take care of herself. She tells me sometimes "who is going to take care of you when you get old?". I dont know. But Im not selfish like they are.
I love this video and thank you. I chose not to have children because I wasn't happy about bringing a child into this messed up world, I sometimes ask myself, what the hell am I doing here ! I'm an only child of aging parents and my mother has dementia I feel it's my responsibility to make sure that my parents are okay every day either physically, emotionally and financially. It's not fair !
“If children were brought into the world by an act of pure reason alone, would the human race continue to exist? Would not a man rather have so much sympathy with the coming generation as to spare it the burden of existence, or at any rate not take it upon himself to impose that burden upon it in cold blood?” ― Arthur Schopenhauer, Studies in Pessimism: The Essays
The tragic thing is that sensitive and intelligent people are more likely to reason like this and as a consequence we have a dysgenic filter going on.....see idiocracy for further details lol
I agree with you so much. My mum was like "I want a more fulfilled life, that's why I had you"
I was in my mind like ^!()*(%*&*(()
And now I am stuck having to work so hard and ALSO pay her every month (that's my culture)
So, I am a little toy and a type of investment to her.
Once again, *(&$%*(%)$@(%##$O*
PS this is why I estranged from them, I see them at most twice per year. AT MOST
In fact, I would be happy to never see them again.
thanks Daniel for this video. I am exactly in the same position as you. My father kept me as his "nurse" to the last day of his life. he was concerned only about himself, I lost so many years and my thoughts why he done that is exactly because I was for him and not vice versa. Sad but true.
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Exactly - people are in denial, repressing facts, oblivious, hypocritical, lack of integrity.
I appreciate this bright young man who has obviously done a lot of therapy giving us his perspective from a psychologist point of view.
The parents of today's kids were born during the Cold War and there were many people at that time who didn't know how our species could possibly survive the threat of nuclear annihilation. I guess being born into the threat of Armageddon is the birthright we are passing on to the next generation. I agree that the only hope for the future of humanity is in the people who are thoughtfully taking responsibility for their own trauma and healing themselves. There's nothing more difficult or important an individual can do, and it's our only control in a darkening world.
I don't think I'll bring children in this world
"Do as I say, NOT as I do, or ELSE!" Basically that, in a nutshell.
Bunch of god damn hypocrite assholes.
Love love your honesty!!!! Totally agree!!!!
Adopt a cat or dog and give them a good life. Be kind to nature.
DON'T HAVE CHILDREN
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I think this is one of those things im most conflicted about. I genuinely feel a lot of terror towards the future and a lot of resentment for traumatic situations I was put through and seeing how having children can stunt your mental growth and how easy it is to repeat patterns onto them id rather not ever put a child through that kind of thing. On the other hand of course despite the way this world is I do see a genuine beauty and meaning in the world and have a lot of at least conceptual love to give that I would love for a child to be able to experience. And im not immune to ego or vanity driven fantasies like "oh they'd have my features or my spouses or they'd act like us" etc. Or fantasies where I can somehow be this perfect parent who saves them from whatever traumas I endured . But in the end it just feels too selfish to me. When im old my hope is that I have a strong community of friends and allies to look out for me, and ill look out for them. Hopefully I'll stay sharp enough to the end that I dont need constant care like that. But we'll see!
Thank you for this video.
All human beings have the capability to experience happiness and good feelings. Yes, there are a ton of negatives, but there are also positives, and I think it isn't our call to withhold someone from experiencing life because we might not have been so lucky. It is a privilege to be a sentient being, and it is beautiful to raise a family with good values and unconditional love.
If everyone just adopted one child....
Absolutely brilliant observations. Healing the past really does make you live in the now and not worry about the future so much. This I have found also.
I feel that there is going to be a lot of suffering for the human race in the future, so I decided not to have kids. For a few years I would start crying every time I found out someone I knew was having a baby or when I saw a happy family with young children. I knew that it was partly because I was grieving my choice, but I also knew that part of it was that I was grieving my own neglectful childhood. I'm happy to say that I came through the other end, and I feel so much joy when I am able to really interact with children in a meaningful way now. I know how precious children are now and how much they need adults to help them grow up to be healthy.
@@aggyd1498 I agree so much.
I’m 2 years late but thank you for making this comment. I am in the position that you used to be in. I’m an antinatalist who doesn’t want to create someone who has the potential to suffer yet I want biological children and from time to time I desire them really badly especially as of late, maybe because of my age now (26 next month) I have cried over not having children. And I have a deep yearning for that experience of having a biological child. It was very hard for me to get back to my logical ethical position, but through watching antinatalist videos and things of the like, I’m back in my right mind (biology is a hell of a thing, I’d like to get fixed asap) but it’s nice to read about someone who went through the same thing but got past the grieving process ok. I’ve been looking for someone with this experience but it is hard to find as most antinatalist naturally don’t want children so it makes the decision easier for them. So I don’t have many to relate to regarding my specific circumstances. You are the first person I have come across who conveyed exactly what I needed to hear so thank you! 🤗
The trauma we all have to survive is the knowledge of our own mortality. Early childhood trauma is so deeply fucked up because children are completely dependent on others to live and learn how to not die as we get older and become autonomous.
one straight mother told me she had children, cause she loved to have total control over their lives...
Wtf? She's got a shock coming when they rebel
So important that you talk about this. I always felt that (becoming) parents are not fair. I feel that they 'take' children for their own needs. I also feel that a lot of parents hide behind their children/use them. It makes me so so angry and it makes me think about my own parents using me as a kid. I am not sure if i will have kids in the future (34 years old). I feel already guitly against my unborn child. Guilty because I want it. Does anybody recognize this guilty feeling?
this video should be on endless loop in every delivery room
Too late by then, how about in every school room and hotel room?
lol they have kids to rub their egos and have someone to look up to them unconditionally while giv8ng back conditions and shame if you dont suffer like them. my mom has no friends so she made them from scratch lol she showed more genuine love to the dogs than us and they do nothing but eat & sleep and wag their tails
Im in the process of watching so maybe you didnt get to it yet, but biology. We are self-concious but very self-unaware. I dont understand the habit of most people to completely dismiss the physical body. Everything you think, know and have experienced has been because of your body. The body has an agenda regardless of our narcisistic, existential wonderings. The body wants to live despite you.
daniel mackler has a bachelors degree in biology.
This world is a joke.
Anyway, years ago, I would listen to positive reviews more than negative reviews online about people.
I'm so negative about people now. I didn't used to be. I've been treated so badly my whole life.
Chris Ferguson, if you give in to it, you let them win.
There has always been suffering and negativity in the world, but there’s also always been much good. Move out of yourself and try to find someone you can help.
Go to therapy, eat right, read the gospels. You need a multi-pronged attack on your despair!
I needed to hear this today, thank you. I had a series of difficult conversations with my family about trauma and it's helpful to be told that there is a point to working through all this pain. ❤️
Great video as always.. what if the crash and burn was part of a destruction/creation cycle and therefore not a polarized 'bad' thing, what if the crash and burn is of the systems we've created from a certain level of conciousness/unconsciousness, and creates the possibility of new ways of being. I believe there is a spiritual evolution, an awakening taking place within our species. So much of the future is being intuited by people, but they are perceiving it from a polarized state of consciousness. I think you're spot on when you say your hope lies within those healing themselves, also allowing them to become a catalyst for the healing of others.
After being awake since 2008, I've come to realize the Earth is a bad place made by a bad creator for a bad reason.
Bringing children into this place simply means the person is ignorant of reality.
Daniel how do you know that your traveling, your you tube videos, your minimalism living etc isn’t a compensatory reaction to your parents (which would mean you are stuck still there)? You say that is part of your healing, your new authentic life but how do you know you are still not reactive therefore still reliving the past?
People think impending doom is nearing but still choose to have children. Your head will explode trying to figure out that logic
They don't care about their children. It's not hard to figure that out.
Oh, I was born in Feb. 1987, so, I'll be 35 in 2022; and speaking of having someone to 'take care' of me, I will prepare my body and brain for menopause; with anti-aging foods and fasting, and exercise because, as I told my first Occupational Therapist, who was fear mongering me about how I may fall out of my wheelchair and "break my hip" 😱 well, it'll take a train collision 🚆to break my hip (and the bone calloused over the fracture as it healed, anyhow). But I'll practice endurance athletics and prepare, as the human mind **is** **meant** to do ✔
Breeding often has little or nothing to do with thinking. "Where there's a Will, there's a way;" or so we think, thinking we're thinking, thinking our Will is our own.
Edit: Bill McKibben is the best source and authority I know about on the problem of "climate change/crisis/catastrophe." This is an honest and very well-educated man. He says we still have time to change.
Edit: You're still young enough to have children, Daniel. When you realize that, the question becomes more objective: What do you REALLY think the world will be like in 20 or 50 or 100 years? Are there enough "centered" people out there to save the vast majority who aren't? Is there enough time and are there enough resources? If the possibility of having children were presented to you now or soon, you'd have to make a serious judgement about the likelihood of your children living out their lives in acceptable circumstances.
Its NOT just about the state of the world - its also being honest as to can as in are you thinking about your needs? Or the childrens needs? Could you prevent any potential children getting cancer, being abused, becoming addicted to a drug, being injured? Do you realise they will become adults very quickly and oneday will be 70 years old. Have you not heard that most people regret having children and most dont have the guts to admit it? Dont realise most people are terribly miserable? Have you asked yourself would you be a good parent? How can you be certain? What if you are killed in an accident soon after your child is born? This is how a consious person thinks - have you healed your Traumas?
Were you talking to me?
It's about many, many things, of course; most especially, it's about freedom of choice. These days, I'm preoccupied with the dire conditions in which we all live.
Do you have to come on like such a know-it-all? Have YOU healed all of your traumas? I doubt it.
Daniel's good and big idea is not the end and goal of all thought. It's not the philosopher's stone. It's not the unified field theory. Sometimes I think he places too much emphasis on it; which is not to say it lacks value, of course, nor to diminish it.
(Yawn.)
There is no climate crisis. Manufactured bullshit.
I would really do anything for my children and grandchildren...regardless of the possibility of them taking care of me in my old age or not. I have for all of them the most unconditional love there can be. Also, you can not know for sure when and how this world will end. I remember how everybody was raving about how the world will end in 2000. Love your videos, Daniel, you are so complex and interesting.
Your children and grandchildren are blessed to have you.
Very beautiful and wise :-)
@@JohnPaul-le4pf Thank you , that is a very kind comment, I appreciate it!
@@sunnyd4889 Thank you for your kind comment!
@@cristinamagurean
I honestly think that a competent, intelligent, loving woman is just about the best thing that can happen to an infant or a small child.
Later, as they grow, they will need other people, too.
Thanks for your reply.
Daniel u r saving the world man I am thinking about translating ur videos on Arabic i didn’t find an email to communicate with you hope this comment gets you
You ré so cool Daniel a Real superhero
Thank you, Danielle! Looking forward to more videos :)
Well said
I agree that children should never be raised to take care of their parents and I would add often times parents do not take so good care of their children, because then they never become independent and "have" to take care of them in the desperate unconcious hope they will be loved now. I would kinda question your saying that people have so much conflicting believes when they get children and say they believe the world is going to crash (not saying it can´t be that at all), because people often don´t actually know what they really believe down at the bottom, they just rationalize around it and say something, because otherwise they would have to go within and boy, who ever wants to do that...all that pain... Well, we do, but,...you know. It is almost irrelevant in finding out what disconnected people really believe from the core to listen to their word, because (not saying that they don´t say accurate and useful things as well) what they believe you find in how they act. So if they act as if the world was going to contiunue, then they actually believe that but don´t have concious acess to that belief. What I would also say is, no one ever knows what the future holds and it is always going to be the case that parents are going to set children up for a traumatising life with lots of catastrophe, because that´s part of life. People get hurt when they live. That´s why it´s so important to heal and make it more likely for children to be able to do the same and to grow and thrive. You can´t protect your children from horror and you are not meant to, you should give them a chance to withstand it, by being the best version of you you could ever be and it doesn´t matter how long your children are going to live, because even 10 or 20 years of meaningful, gowing life can be have been worth having been brought forward into the world so I don´t see it exactly like you. Also I think there is each and every chance that the world isn´t going to crash when we all do our healing work and grow as far as we can and take responsibility for our planet, ourselves, our children, fellow human beings...
The judgment and belief of good/horrible/the greater good/the future/doom/hope are all really relative to so much. Relative to this time in history, relative to one's own life experience, relative to one's wealth and physical/mental health. Because there are so many variables, I find it arrogant to pass judgment on anyone for having children because one or many variables point toward a downturn in humanity.
The only types of parents I find it easy to pass judgment on are those that don't unconditionally love their children. Mistakes can be made, but this is the only parental blasphemy I've never been able to overcome with my own parents. I would _never_ blame them for not seeing that the world is headed in some arbitrary direction.
I didn't plan on reproducing.. i did ponder the thought of adopting if or when i have my life squared away..but then i unexpectedly got pregnant..too much wine lol so me and my fiance have to make the best out of what we have for him. I dont regret having my son...however its very difficult to have that attitude about the world and raise my son with the positivity he deserves🤦🤦😢😢 so im doing my best to continue healing as much as i can while being a mom. it's difficult but i have a good therapist and iv learned to be resilient throughout my life. I keep on going, stay strong for my son and truely love him unconstitutionally and yes that does include if he ever leaves me in a state funded nursing home!! Please understand that not everyone who thinks or has thoughts that the world is going to fall apart r people that have those expectations for their kids because not everyone's situation is the same!!
In my culture, it's become the norm to act like children are the infinite inferior of the parent. People only have children to prove they're a real adult who can play God over a little person. They live as though their children owe them and they owe their children nothing at all. The level of entitlement these parents show is very unfortunate, and leads to such damaging disrespect of the children before they've ever had a chance. Oh, saddest is that the parents put the full weight of everything on their children at 8, 12, 13, 15, 16, or 18- on the dot. The "age of accountability" used is arbitrary, and based on the parents ego- and they literally expect their child to excel as an adult the day the parent decides the child is an adult. Don't even ask how well that works out. Go visit a homeless shelter, the social services line, or a morgue for the answer. And the parent gets to be the big, long-suffering hero in each scenario. So tragic.
I like the way you worded these truths.
Thumbs up for another insightful video! I do tend to agree with most if not all of your opinions about deciding to have children. It is something that troubles me since even though I am an optimistic person by nature I can't see the world going into a good direction AT ALL! So I guess deciding to have children should be thought of and discussed a lot by any couple that is considering it. Certainly being taken care of by our children doesn't justify us making that decision. If we don't work on our self healing A LOT we will probably end up transferring our unresolved traumas to them. That should be totally avoided by anyone who understands the psychological cost it might have on a human being.
This may seem irrelevant, but hear me out. An important consideration in OCD patients is that they act according to fears despite it being seen as irrational by others. The keystone of OCD though is that their obsessions and compulsions have to have an element of rationality to be a hook for them. If I have a fear of bacteria and I wash my hands incessantly, I need to learn how to behave in my life as I would if that fear weren’t there. Let’s look at your assumption the world will end. I agree it will. But this could be many many generations later. It wouldn’t be useful to curb our lives because the world MIGHT end. Just like it wouldn’t be useful to wash our hands every 5 minutes because we MIGHT contract a bacterial infection. It is not rational to refrain from having children simply because the world might end in the future. There are far more relevant reasons to not have children than that one. At least at this point in time where the end is not known to be here imminently.
i think his point is that this cycle of dissociation and abuse is going to cause the extinction of humanity
Hmm OCD doesn't work quite like that.
Annika Bern Do explain.
So how is the pandemic treating you? You know bc of your germophobia.
Daniel you are great at what you do!
The world has always had a questionable future. Always.
People who are concious and who understand how fucked up and traumatized our world is don't tend to have children. In essence taking themselves out of gene pool. Those less conscious do have children and the cycle of trauma perpetuates.
Yup. That's why the messaging he's putting out there is doing way more harm than good. Ugh
LOVE your insights, Daniel! I think that bringing new humans into life is always a good thing. Even if humanity destroys itself, which I don't believe will happen (at least not completely) most would be grateful that they have had the privilege of existence. To BE is a profoundly ineffable gift. What we do with this opportunity is another matter
@K thanks for responding and sharing your views!
@K Thanks for your response and again your point of view
@@aggyd1498 Thank you for responding!
thinking of life as a gift has to be the ultimate cope. nobody is missing out by not existing. you don't remember your non-existence. you didn't miss out.
tell us that life is a gift when you get terminal cancer or die in another horrible way. the most empathetic thing to do is objectively not to have children.
Thanks for sharing your point of view.@@e52n
Coming off the most war-torn century in the history of mankind, it begs the question (having kids); however it seems Americans are having many fewer children per capita; so in some regards this is being addressed.
What’s your take on Andrew Yang?
Daniel your facial expressions are wonderfully frustrated and speak loaded with emotion. I very much relate to you pond child.
I only woke up to how the world was screwed up after having children. I
Can you please explain how adults are trying to get their emotional needs met in the workplace. Can you give examples.
I think it is not the parent's individual responsibility that the world might come to an end. It is fair for me to give a child a chance at saving a potentially doomed world. If the world crashes and the child dies, have I committed a bad act? I don't think so. I think it was a life full of experience and beauty for the child even if it also contained horror.
Yeah, same. I personally would still wish to be born, even if I were to live just 10 years or so in a doomed world - as long as it was being born to the care of loving parents. That's ultimately all that matters to a child. The world is pretty sad right now but it also still holds so much beauty within, it always will for as long as any shred of nature and people capable of love exist.
The world ends for everyone.
I am seeing in my local area more people and community's coming together, I think we'll go back to make do and mend and have less interest in consumerism. Hope so.
If the future is questionable it's because other people. If you think you're good and don't breed because you think that is good, people who don't care about that will breed and make the future more questionable.
Double think
I had an honest-stranger-you'll-never-see-again discussion with someone from Kashmir about children and parents and the family and he seemed not to have much respect for freedom as you speak of it in this video. I do, though. When I was a teen, there was much commentary about overpopulation and so the no-children choice was presented as the ethical one.
Most people are very unsure & perhaps the only hope is to invest in the future, by producing children. - All parents are doing their best. ~ Life teaches us that we have to carry on, and keep going no matter what. ~ So far as having children, is to be hopeful & thinking how we can make better choices because of these children. ~ Also, by choosing not raise children, is a form of antisocial positioning. ~ Although I don’t have birth children, I see all younger persons as my children, and engage with them as such. ~ As for adults saying, they wish their children will care for them in old age, well that’s a natural desire based on multiple generations of how humans arranged their family & community groups. I don’t see it as an evil thing at all. Should we raise children to become adults who do not care for elders ? I already see this in NYC. There are many adolescents & young adults, even 30 year old adults, who have no respect for elders at all. It’s almost as if they see elders as an unviable burden. ~ I would not try to advocate people to not have children, nor would I tell people it’s crooked to want to care for their aging parents. ~ As a human race, all of this business of only caring about one self is one reason why the world is in chaos today. PS/ we have gone through many such chaos before. ~ Cheer up ~ and try to appreciate the good gift of being alive.
but logically and biologically we do indeed need children to be born, even if they're not our own, because when you grow older you keep needing people to do the things that provide the food and care we need. I mean, you could die of course when your body gets to frail to find your own food, tend to your garden, chop the wood. But that's not how it works. Who do you expect to look after you when you get sick? who has to work in the supermarket where you buy your groceries when you are seventy? Those people are somebody's child. I understand what you are saying, but there is a big but.......
The now industrial human ideas are gone crash and burn
but not our future generations!!
Yes theres gone be a thinning out of the human race!
But If its gone be our self or nature only time will tell!
Your conscience matters
have children and teach them how to live sustainably
(grow your own food, us resources you can grow sustainably for building your house…)
The part of the human race that will live this way will not go extinct think about the people living deep in the jungle undisturbed they can out live our modern society
#SaveNature
no one needs children and it almost never a reasonable or unselfish answer to have them such as
Passing genes and leaving legacies
Not dying alone
Boredom
Fix a dying marriage 🤣 which is the most hilarious
To feel authority over someone
Nothing of these is not self serving and completely selfish if you think people would genuinely do it to raise a healthy child the world wouldn’t be as it is right now , we wont have the fear of the world going to burn but intuitionally we all strongly feel it as if it gonna happen tomorrow or very soon
I still believe life is a gift and is worth living.So bringing one human being to this world is an act of optimism.We would not have you as a psychiatrist and beautiful person if you would have not born because your parents were not the best at their main job.It is all about love,it's when love is not there that problems start
Robots will take care of us once we get old.
Some have children for wish fulfillment, they hold all their hopes and dreams on them. Get a degree, get a house, then they want grandchildren. Repeat.
Yes dont have kids
Jobs will go extinct. Please think about what jobs your children will have.
My opinion is that it is totally OK not being able to UNCONDITIONALLY love someone. It would be too harsh for yourself and others if you can only accept unconditional love as the only form of love. There is a hope for the humanity as long as people still hug and kiss each other.
If you grew up in a family, you’re kind of programmed to have a family imo.
The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe. - Albert Einstein - If you believe the world is going down and things are going to devolve in flames that is the reality you will live. If you believe in a future of greatest where will people evolve higher to higher levels of understanding and development than you will experience that world. I have had children and believe is the higher evolution route. Nature will weed out those that will not evolve with the earth and the universe.
I believe both are true!
My baby boy was a miracle baby. I bonded with him when he was inside of me. He was my only friend. We did everything together. We went to work together, we ate together, we went to doctors together, he was driving with me, we did so many things together. He was so much joy. I had pictures of him when he was inside my belly. He was so cute. He was so active. He did control my cravings. I started to eat things that I would not put in my mouth before I got pregnant. He hated coffee and the smell of it. He hated salad dressings. He loved chocolate ice cream.
My view is that we need everyone's help to get through this next part, and that includes the younglings
Not having children because you think the world might end or otherwise have no future is a self-fulling prophesy. The proper question is not why these people are having children; it is why people continue to profess a fashionable belief in doom and gloom when clearly their actions indicate that they don't really believe it.
Excellent question!
@Lusci Nia I don't think our traumatization works that way. To have children takes a certain amount of conscious decision-making especially where abortion is an option. The problem arises after someone becomes a parent. Being an effective, conscious self-aware human being requires work and courage. It is after they have children that most people consciously or unconsciously sacrifice their children to their own fears and wounds.
What do you think the answer is to the question, "why people continue to profess a fashionable belief in doom and gloom?"
@@lollikay5788 In essence, I believe that the majority of people, meaning the members of the culture, have invested far too much faith, and consequently "social energy," in political governance, that is, association on the basis of coercion and manipulation, instead of persuasion, mutual respect, and connection.
If the doomsday prediction are true, we may not have much power to stop it, I feel it will be too late by the time it becomes apparent to everyone, so we are really not in control of what happens, or to be able to change whatever happens.
We can only control where we will spend eternity. Jesus' first message was "Repent for the *Kingdom* of heaven is at hand."
Pawan Patre, doomsday predictions have been 100% incorrect so far. That’s not a good track record.
You’re in control of yourself, no matter what happens. Take responsibility.
@@joeltunnah I am agnostic about doomsday prediction and also about God, personally, yes I am in control of myself.
I appreciate your many thoughts on a lot of things but this is not one that I agree with.
People are also just distracted by the games they play (ie get the job, get the wife, pay your bills) to play the game of figuring out what the future looks like in detail. It also isn't a very pleasent lens to keep looking through, so it feels better to look away, and your socially incentivized to tow the line of optimisim.
I don't think we are totally fucked, but it will take a lot of thinking and action on a massive scale to make it through the bottle neck.
Having children is a biological urge for a lot of people,specially women ,there is also the expectation of couples to have kids.
Aside from simply being the natural order of things, having children is an act of hope and a statement of faith in the future. For myself, having children also drove much of my healing and self reflection that would not have happened otherwise.
People make a lot of high-minded excuses to stay single (“mgtow” etc) or to not have kids, but that’s all they are is excuses to not heal and take responsibility and control of your life.
Pan Vegan, yes, just like you eat for “self gain” and breathe air for “self gain”.
Actually what would have been truly selfish is to not have brought our two daughters into the world because of guesses about the future, finances, or our past family traumas. Thank God we didn’t let that fear and “realistic thinking” rule our decision. They are truly a blessing.
In other words, giving children a job before their even born. A job to fulfil you and your needs, and not actually theirs. Yours. Yet you are the responsible one. That's a contradiction😂😂.
koriri barsosio, no not “in other words”. I never said it’s the job of my children to “fulfill me and my needs”. You’re putting your own words in my mouth.
I love that you brought up the natural order of things because I think we have been so far removed from it.
The world's future is not questionable; and the ONLY people being pressured to abstain from having kids, certainly the only people responsive to such propaganda, are people who think about more than just themselves, who would raise kids capable of the same- exactly the people we need to have children the most.
Exactly! You get it. It's good to see one sane person in this comment section. Because the who will be left to have children are people who do not care about their wellbeing, and so the % of traumatised future adults rises, the society becomes even more sick. But it could be so much better if all these highly empathetic and responsible people did bring healthy adults into it. Sigh.
Who else thinks Daniel would be a great dad ? :D
It is the people who are best suited to be parents who don't tend to have children and much of everyone else are people who should not even be around children, let alone have them.
@@juliettailor1616 thats so true and so sad. I think we csn not make a better world for our kids. But we can make better kids for our world.
I know there is a group who got diagnosed within the autism spectrum.
They have a rich vocabulary and they are art academy types.
They are extremely dissatisfied with the help they are getting.
I suspect it may be simple schizophrenia.
Are you aware of us?
You have any thoughts about us?
I suspect it's about 10% of the people diagnosed with medium/high functioning autism.
Katatonic behaviour and negative symptoms.
Not so much magical thinking.
Simple schizophrenia was in the old DSM's and i believe still in ICD-10
I have a rich vocabulary when i am in my good periods, i also get mutism and motor ticks/stiffness in my bad periods.
Going to art academy and being a art academy type are two different things.
I never considered myself schizoid because i need social contact in order to stay sane.
Maybe the group i talked about does not have a name.
Been following your channel for a while and I get the feeling that you disbelieve in genuine parental love. That you said, "perhaps not all" while impugning the motives of parents seems to communicate your general attitude. Seems like you're working through guilt from being raised by horrible parents and having rightly cast them aside (I may be totally wrong, don't take that the wrong way). I feel compelled to ask you to consider the profundity of the biological imperative and the simple fact that most people would accept the cost of having had a worse life than their parents in order to have been born in the first place. I think arguments against procreation "in general" (as opposed to "by particular people") are quite ugly
@EUTHANIZE THE UNWISE I have also been following Daniel's videos for a long time now and I have watched his amazing films as well. I have no idea how you can watch his videos but conclude that he doesn't think genuine parental love exists. He advocates that people heal themselves so that they don't traumatize their children. He advocates that people truly mindfully go into parenthood and truly think about it, not just blindly do it and end up traumatizing them.
@Sarah Min You're an enthralled insane person, listen to you. You've swallowed the anti-human narrative like the other modern bug-people and you'll happily eat your fellow bugs to make yourself feel cool. Extrapolating your own shitty, unempathetic parents onto the rest of the human race is a classic fallacy of attribution and I'm moved to assume that you share their congenital incapacity in some way, which would lend you the audacity to preclude 99% of people from the possibility of being unselfish parents. People who were emotionally stunted by their parents ought not be the ones to make sweeping condemnations of the practice of parenthood in the first place, special pleading be damned
@@aquamarine0023 In the above video at least, Daniel provides a backhanded possibility that "perhaps not all" parents are worthy of his undeniably scathing, condescending criticism which is clearly, if not completely colored by his own potent experience with his own parents. He has a clear disdain, or at least an inflated righteous indignation, of the act of parenthood in general and would seem to want to put the breaks on the whole Humanity enterprise at large. This view is being exploded onto the public consciousness by self-hating and suicidal modern discouragement movements, the purpose of which is to further neuter the American working class while completely and permanently ignoring the actual reality of Indian and Chinese reproduction and pollution rates. Simple market forces drive these propa campaigns
ᴏᴘᴘᴏsᴇ ɢʟᴏʙᴏʜᴏᴍᴏ, well said. I think Daniel produces these “don’t have kids” videos (he has done several) in order to get validation from those who have also chosen this path of despair. It’s a stunning lack of self awareness for a therapist.
At its core this is a classic conflict of good vs evil. Hope vs despair, life vs suicide. I pray that God heals these unhappy people.
@@joeltunnah Thanks for the response. I want to make sure to emphasize that any vituperation on my part comes from a place of respect and admiration for Mr. Mackler
I have some of the same childhood traumas you talk about. I married a nice lady and had four children. All girls. In my work in emergency room I see distractive low IQ people having six kids. And nurses maybe having none. This will lead to demographic collapse of any productive section of our species not to mention the tax paying part. This led Me to doing some environmental research. And what I found is that we’ve been told a pack of lies. The temperature goes up and down I say just come and go often starting with a calm at hits the earth. We can’t control that and there’s no reason not to have children. Global warming people are getting their instructions from the ones that pay their grants and put food on their table heaven saying the world will end in 12 years ever since 1987 my research has shown me that the slight increase in CO2 levels caused by humans has actually helped plant life be more abundant including crops that we eat. In fact the CO2 level in the atmosphere which is only 0.04% head drop to his stork Lee and dangerously low levels to the point where plant life would soon have no longer been supportive man did not come along don’t listen to them. Have children.
Why? Because it is a base human instinct to propagate the continuation of the species. Any understanding of evolution and how life came to be lies in the survival instinct. As long as there is hope, life will always be given precedence by a species who functions that way.
Also, I have children and I do not in any way expect or even hope my children will take care of me in old age. I wouldn’t want to put that on them. With all due respect (because Daniel makes so many great points and one of his videos literally changed my life) I think the conclusion you make Daniel is based on a false premise and is an unsound argument.
I agree, love your stuff, but you made it seem like the only possible reason for having kids is for selfish reasons. you may want to have children to be and give what your parents couldn't, love them fully and empower them to do wathever their heart tells them, which will save the world because people will walk free, generous with a warm heart.
Sarah Min, the cycle is not inevitable. While we’re not responsible for how we were treated as children, we are responsible for our own recovery and behavior. It is possible to be abused and yet not pass that abuse on to your kids.
Basically, to live through them and fix your own trauma. How is that not selfish?
oh you're an altruist!!! DUMBEST THING I've read today. use your brain.
Daniel I really appreciate most of your videos and ideas. But come on man no one can expect a specific thing in the future. No one can know their or their children's fate. Yeah possibly we are going towards an end but in 50 years 200 years 1000 years or 5000 years who knows? No one. We cannot try to control our behaviours according to our predictions about future. That does not make sense... I believe it is more possible that our children is crushed by a car than he sees the end of the world. So should we not make children because they may be hit by a car and it would hurt? And how could we logically argue that not giving birth to someone is for their own best interest? Not existing is for someone's best interest? That doesn't make sense either...
Nice strawman
how so?
@@michumomo Because this is contingent on people believing that they are bringing their children into a terrible world. It might apply to some people, but I don't think the world is pure horror, doom and that the time is nigh etc etc etc.
It felt to me that he was painting it as though everyone thinks that that is the case.
The World will Burn some day but some people will survive and a new World will Start.
But having children is not only a matter of choice. You have to find a lovely Partner, find a good place to settle and so on. Everyone who finds that should be glad and have kids.