This clip is from the Huberman Lab episode "Dr. Laurie Santos: How to Achieve True Happiness Using Science-Based Protocols." The full episode can be found on TH-cam here: th-cam.com/video/Phm-Alz1Zjo/w-d-xo.html
For me, it's more about the quality of the connection than just seeing people. I saw people every day at work, but because they weren't "my people," it didn't hit the same. I still felt alone and isolated. I needed a closer connection.
I was kind of stuck at home, not knowing anyone at the new place I moved to. Isolated living in the mountains. Many mountain people are not overly social. I finally decided to go to a church, because I was desperate to meet and talk to people. I’m not a church-going person. But the one I found just a few miles from my home is good. I joined different groups, went to 2 different bible studies per week. I love being around people. Being alone at home was getting me extremely depressed. Now I’m fine because I get to see and interact with people face to face and via text messages.
Strangely I feel social when I’m abroad , I feel so free, unafraid, follow the sound of church bells, or drift toward a leafy square, pat a stranger’s dog ( with permission)or catch the scent of hot bread in the air and wind up at a bakery people watching ! Buoys my spirits! Back home, I’m in majestic isolation it’s hard being crazy 😂
I've found that texting in real time feels more fun than texting asynchronously. This has been particularly noticeable when texting in dating apps. When we're both texting back and forth in real time, it's more fun than waiting thirty minutes or more for a reply, even if the conversation is otherwise the same.
That is 100% true, whenever I go about my week without having much in person interaction I feel something off in my brain, its like somethings telling you to go out, that lonely feeling
Just because I’m alone doesn’t mean I’m lonely! 2024 was a year of cleansing and that meant getting rid of people that no longer “deserved” to be in my life (it was a much difficult decision but it was truly liberating). I choose to be in healthcare to help others and be around people who were lonely, however choosing to be with the people you want to be with is more important than you have to be with. Thanks for covering this topic!
Anyone who has ever attempted a long distance relationship knows that virtual communication, even by video chat is extremely frustrating & unfulfilling... It feels like Takeaway to the Soul. Initially it tastes good, but afterwards you wanna push it away because it just dosen't feel good for your Body. You feel sick after a prolonged period of consumption & if one person refuses to take the relationship into real life, it's over. The body, heart & soul can't live off junk food connection.
I needed to see this. I moved across the country at age 67 and only have my husband’s company. I need to be with people in active places. He’s happy to stay home and read. He’s not fun to “hang out with doing nothing out and about” so it feels like I’m forcing him to accompany me. I do go out alone and feel better but I am just existing without purpose beyond seeking energy of others. Don’t know if that’s wrong but it’s the only thing I can think of to attempt to connect.
@ Well I’m no one to give advice but o can offer a couple of suggestions. First, connect with a church or other place of workshop and attend and talk to people. If there is a group to join, join. The next would be to volunteer at any place that needs volunteers and that you would be pleased to be associated with. If you do something that makes you feel good, you will feel better. And finally, walk everyday. It’s good for body and mind. God bless you.
My problem is I love being alone maybe too much. Dont get me wrong I have good quality close intimate friendships but maybe it’s the only child in me. I am very used to doing things by myself in solitude and prefer not to get disappointed by people… which tends to happen a lot for me. Especially because I am very bad at surface level friendships.
The builders of this nation forgot community building, this won’t be good in the long term, as it’s already reflecting currently. We got to be involved in our communities and build from there little by little.
This clip is from the Huberman Lab episode "Dr. Laurie Santos: How to Achieve True Happiness Using Science-Based Protocols." The full episode can be found on TH-cam here: th-cam.com/video/Phm-Alz1Zjo/w-d-xo.html
For me, it's more about the quality of the connection than just seeing people. I saw people every day at work, but because they weren't "my people," it didn't hit the same. I still felt alone and isolated. I needed a closer connection.
I was kind of stuck at home, not knowing anyone at the new place I moved to. Isolated living in the mountains. Many mountain people are not overly social. I finally decided to go to a church, because I was desperate to meet and talk to people. I’m not a church-going person.
But the one I found just a few miles from my home is good. I joined different groups, went to 2 different bible studies per week. I love being around people. Being alone at home was getting me extremely depressed. Now I’m fine because I get to see and interact with people face to face and via text messages.
Strangely I feel social when I’m abroad , I feel so free, unafraid, follow the sound of church bells, or drift toward a leafy square, pat a stranger’s dog ( with permission)or catch the scent of hot bread in the air and wind up at a bakery people watching ! Buoys my spirits! Back home, I’m in majestic isolation it’s hard being crazy 😂
i am like you
I've found that texting in real time feels more fun than texting asynchronously. This has been particularly noticeable when texting in dating apps. When we're both texting back and forth in real time, it's more fun than waiting thirty minutes or more for a reply, even if the conversation is otherwise the same.
Online interaction is SUCH a life affirming option for people with disabilities, illnesses, chronic pain or energy limitations.
That is 100% true, whenever I go about my week without having much in person interaction I feel something off in my brain, its like somethings telling you to go out, that lonely feeling
No shit
@ ok Sherlock
Just because I’m alone doesn’t mean I’m lonely! 2024 was a year of cleansing and that meant getting rid of people that no longer “deserved” to be in my life (it was a much difficult decision but it was truly liberating). I choose to be in healthcare to help others and be around people who were lonely, however choosing to be with the people you want to be with is more important than you have to be with. Thanks for covering this topic!
Anyone who has ever attempted a long distance relationship knows that virtual communication, even by video chat is extremely frustrating & unfulfilling...
It feels like Takeaway to the Soul.
Initially it tastes good, but afterwards you wanna push it away because it just dosen't feel good for your Body.
You feel sick after a prolonged period of consumption & if one person refuses to take the relationship into real life, it's over.
The body, heart & soul can't live off junk food connection.
I’m so sleepy that I read the title as Stop Felony Loneliness 😂😂😂
I needed to see this.
I moved across the country at age 67 and only have my husband’s company. I need to be with people in active places. He’s happy to stay home and read. He’s not fun to “hang out with doing nothing out and about” so it feels like I’m forcing him to accompany me. I do go out alone and feel better but I am just existing without purpose beyond seeking energy of others. Don’t know if that’s wrong but it’s the only thing I can think of to attempt to connect.
@CarolJoyable That's deep. What would be your advice for me or any younger person struggling with loneliness?
@ Well I’m no one to give advice but o can offer a couple of suggestions. First, connect with a church or other place of workshop and attend and talk to people. If there is a group to join, join. The next would be to volunteer at any place that needs volunteers and that you would be pleased to be associated with. If you do something that makes you feel good, you will feel better. And finally, walk everyday. It’s good for body and mind. God bless you.
@@CarolJoyable Thanks for your time to share your suggestions.
My problem is I love being alone maybe too much. Dont get me wrong I have good quality close intimate friendships but maybe it’s the only child in me. I am very used to doing things by myself in solitude and prefer not to get disappointed by people… which tends to happen a lot for me. Especially because I am very bad at surface level friendships.
Agreed, no matter how much I love my family and friends I do need that alone time however, I can certainly take that to the extreme. I feel you.
That was a very good clip!
14:06 i miss those days going to circuit city and listening to cds 💿 and meeting cool people
The builders of this nation forgot community building, this won’t be good in the long term, as it’s already reflecting currently. We got to be involved in our communities and build from there little by little.
Thank you!
Thank you
Gracias🙏
I know I'm never alone because God is with me always.
Were seemingly hard wired
The eastern mystics figured this out a long time ago. Western mind doesn’t think this way and in fact our culture is anxiety based .
Please invite "acharya prashant"
결혼을 정말 하고 싶네요 상대가 아직 없지만요 흑흑 ❤❤❤
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The keys to happiness: 1. Get off your damn phone. 2. See Step 1.
OR...stop being all about the me me me. The more you serve others or even more importantly,think and serve God!
Not necessarily True.
Yeah also, stop being poor
2nd
First
Second 🥈
Third 🥉🥉