For anyone asking about how it looks, I have posted my results up here on patreon along with a whole lot of more information with pictures of the healing process: www.patreon.com/CodyHarman
@@mollyrebekah7900 " If someone believes something about themselves long enough, it can trick the mind into believing it's true." kind of like religion! Let's do this: You believe in what you want to believe, focus on your own life, and I'll focus on mine. Don't forget that this life matters and yes, I agree it is short. If you use it to only think about the after-life you are going to miss out.
@@Codytalks11 I never thought you'd respond to me. People can say that about religion, but I was atheist for a while. I was raised in the Lord's church and lost my way, but I found my way back to God. So I didn't have my mind trick into religion, if I had I would have never left God the way I did. I'm not trying to get you to believe what I want, all I try to get others to see is what God wants. I promise you and not saying any of this in a hateful manner. You're human and I will treat you like a human. I just care about others. I do focus on my own life and I make sure that my life is pleasing in God's eyes. The way we live this life matters. We're to live the right way in this life, so that we can be in heaven forever in the next life, where there's no more pain, problems or sorrows. I want to spread the gospel to anyone who cares to hear it. I have God, in my life so I'm not missing out on anything. I couldn't say that 2 years ago. I am a member of the Lord's church, and you seem friendly enough to talk to. If you ever want to talk more on this feel free to do so. I hope you have a good night. Again I truly am saying this with kindness because it's how Christ would treat others.
Sunshine littlephilly I do respond to comments on my channel. I appreciate your concern but I’m happy with my life now and I’ve never felt more free. I grew up in the church and lived and believed just as you do now and I was the most depressed I’ve ever been. I’m happy your happy. I am too.
@@Codytalks11 You grew up in the Lord's church? Members of the Lord's church don't think like the rest of the world. I will tell you that I haven't always been happy either, even though I was also raised in the church, that's why I left it. I have gone through so much and I was far away from God, and I didn't care. I have tried to kill myself. I won't get into everything that I have been through. Maybe you were depressed because the way people may have treated you in church. Or maybe you were different and more tomboyish and didn't feel accepted, and this got you down. I have been there. I have always been very tomboyish and when I was 12 I wanted to be a boy because they have it easier. I grew out of wanting to be a boy, but I still tomboyish, and still like guy things better than girl things, but I never changed my gender. I mean how do you feel about people when they get depressed and turn to drugs and/or alcohol? But just because one goes to church doesn't mean they'll never be depressed in this life. We can be happy here on earth and God wants us to be happy, but church or no church, you can't always be happy. Even though you say you're happy now; do you still not ever get down at times and depressed? If you do, then how is that got anything to do with church? I want you to be happy, but I just want people to know that they can be happier with Christ, and it may take a while for someone to see that, but it can be done. But I appreciate your friendliness. I hope I have shown you kindness and that you don't think I hate you. I can't force you to believe anything you don't want too. But I will pray for you.
Sunshine littlephilly You know you don't have to tell people how to life their life because you felt so alone in this world that you needed to believe in a god who put you here "for a reason" so you're not completely alone and your life isn't completely meaningless
I am a Christian and my biggest pet peeve about people using God to bash trans people is that their argument is usually something like, “God made you that way, so you should stay that way.” My response to that would be this: if your child is born with a cleft lip, or is born with a deformity of some kind or is born with cancer, does that mean you should ignore the medical advances we have now and let your child suffer or die because that’s how God made them? Of course not! So, why is it wrong for someone who was born feeling as though they are in the wrong body to take advantage of medical advances and fix what they feel is wrong? I’m sorry for the bigots here, but please know that not all Christians are uneducated bigots.. Some of us have done the research with an OPEN mind and come to the conclusion that Transgenderism is NOT a sin and that all of you should be treated with just as much dignity and respect as everyone else. I apologize on behalf of every Bible thumper you have encountered who has tried to shame you or make you be anything other than your authentic self! I’m glad you are happy now!
Sharon Latham I love you. Thank you! I try to live my life stealthy because of those people.. I just want to live a quiet life with my wife and son... It’s nice to see that there are awesome people out there like you!
@@devisissy1 it is health care. Health care isnt just physical. The mental health of a person is considered health care too. Have misaligned gentiles to what your brain feels it should have can be catastrophic for ones mental health. So yes, THIS IS HEALTHCARE
as a tattoo artist make sure you wait at least a year before you tattoo over a scar. the reason is tattooing over it can cause damage if scar is too new. try to go for black and grey as the scar will hold the ink better, in the color spectrum red is least likely to hold. good luck in your ventures bro
Im a conservative Republican mom. I watch these videos because they are interesting.. i never comment negative or say rude things on absolutely anything. Im really saddened by the hot mess that is this comment section. If you dont like it, click the hell off. If you really need to, dislike the video. But why spread the negativity. Live and let live.
Im sorry friend if i said too much but people are so ignorant and it makes me so mad. I have to.say something. Its not right. I seen your vid today. I hope you see this. Im sending you words of encouragement my friend..Things are going to be okay..
It doesn’t matter what political opinions you have if you believe cutting your skin off and relocating a pile of skin in front of your vagina to feel like a man is something to applaud, you don’t belong here on earth. For the greater good of a society, humanity, sanity, rational thoughts, cohesive thought, people who think like you don’t belong on earth.
How does it attach to the male too??? Why not just buy a strap on dildo its cheaper and works better. That thing confuses the he'll out of me for both parties.
@@mollypettigrew7374 It's not that confusing. The website has an instructional video. (Yes, it's a literal demonstration on a real penis and involves actual penetrative sex.) Secondly, a strap on working better is subjective. This product is for people who have a penis but cannot naturally get hard. You're not gonna use a strap on that you can't feel when you can use your own penis that you *can* feel.
Talk to your tattoo artist about tattooing over scars. They are difficult and may not turn out well. I got this info from my artist when I had a breast reduction and was worried about scarring. Just a bit of advice... 😉
I'm glad that you mention weighing your decision and metoidioplasty or no lower surgery. I might make a video about my thoughts and experience in this dept. But I'm not sure, I don't really talk much about it. And I think it's important that people who do talk about their experiences with lower surgery, or any surgery really, it's their choice to talk about and even if directly asked they don't have to provide an answer or talk about these things. I do appreciate that you talk about your experience. Thanks for taking the time to share.
Not even one minute in *Hi Mom* lol... You're awesome :) I lost a mouthful of pop on my keyboard with that one hehe! 3:05 I'm ASTOUNDED your leg hair grew back from the graft!! WOW! Can't even tell you did anything, makes me a bit more curious about options :) What are the options for implants vs. metoidioplasty? I DID find out, if anyone is "hefty" like me, that there are a few surgeons who will do tummy tucks and use that excess skin part they take off for making a phallus, not having to use arm or leg tissue because the excess skin from weight loss is just as viable for tissue. I haven't looked into it in depth, but I found out it IS an option :) Thank you for this video, it really helps to be educated, sorry some f the questions were hard to answer, but education and experience is what I love to share with anyone who asks me any questions (I opted out of lower surgery for now, maybe in the future it will be better/easier) I do have lower dysphoria, but not to the point where I want to sacrifice other parts of me and any sensation as of yet.)
I think your honesty is commendable. I also think the platform you have used through TH-cam has been pivotal in informing many that would never know the journey of us transgender men. From one man to another,you have my respect.
Your information, your honesty in presenting the subject of phalloplasty. The Trans Community needs to applaud You, Cody! Much needed and much appreciated info! 👏
it's because so few people have it per year so they need to make their money back that went into the research and testing. If millions of people were doing it it would cost $10
I really hope anyone reading this considering a phalloplasty reconsiders. My best friend went through this ordeal and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. (He has more or less lost his ability to walk at this point) You don't need surgery to be valid. Please love yourself as you are.
Unfortunate that your friend had or is having complications. They can and do happen to many. There are those that dont though. Depends on personal health and body. Depends on the Dr's, on location (country). It takes a lot of healing time for phalloplasty. Following Dr's orders are big. So many variables. Many choose to have phalloplasty as a life need in order to exist. Making for oneself whole as much as able. Those thinking of phallo , just learn all the risks. Educate yourself on the Dr's and reputation. Any surgery can possibly have complications. But don't get scared by what one person may say. As we all know so many may comment just to do just that. Just sayin.
TBH I'm tired of having only two options, phallo or meta. I wish therewas something else to do cuz right now I don't thing I'll personally be happy with any. On the otherside I'm happy for people who are doing very well with thier surgry option. Thanks for sharing!
storm le cat Well, I do believe surgeons can do more than just copy procedures that were mainly designed to work on Cis bodies. It will take time But nothing will change unless trans people started firstly admiting that the is used by many surgeons in the world either for testing or just to get money from. Then they need to step out and let their issue be known. We're so great when it comes to speaking about freedom of choice and freedom of sexuality and all of this great stuff but when it comes to freedom from physical torture in the name of medical treatment we must just be glad! This is really sad.l mate.
Hi Cody, love your honesty, you shouldn't be scared to talk about sex, its natural, and honestly i can only imagine how you must feel, one being in a position where you felt you needs to have gender reassignment done, im sure that already was years of dealing with personal issues, second undergoing any surgery is both dangerous and scary, so being brave enough to deal with that as well, and also just normal ridicule from people that are too ignorant to understand what you are going through. Also I think more people should be as honest and open as you and it will help more and more people slowly understand what people in your position are going through. Keep being real keep being honest, I hope your shared experiences help more people grow in understanding.
What I don‘t get with phalloplasty- where does the clit go? Does it stay where it was or what is the surgeon doing with that part ( compared to „metoidio“)?
@@Jervisdude all i know is that they use skin with a lot of nerves in it. also i dont know if any surgeon would make top and bottom surgery togehter cause it could me more difficult and more dangerous for the Patient
I don't know cause I'm not seeing a way to message you so I guess I'll have to post this letter of sorts as a comment and hope you see it. This channel even if you maybe haven't posted in a while is literally EVERYTHING! Not real words to describe my appreciation for you and at large this channel. I just recently got phalloplasty and I'm far enough along that I'm close to second stage which is exciting. I just love one of the things you said. One of the things you said to which i'm sorry if i quote you wrong because it's so true, "it hurts but at least I have a penis." Your honesty in your journey is what makes your channel so great that you don't just gloss over the realness of what this surgery entails. It's a complicated surgery and painful. To which I also love that you stated how the pain meds didn't touch your arm graft pain because that's the truth of it and you're videos really helped me to even though everyone and surgeon is different it still helped me to kind of know what to expect going in to this so worth it journey. Thanks so much for making these even though I'm commenting just now in the year 2022 and I got my surgery last year. Sadly do to my pre-existing health issues with one of them being autoimmune I couldn't and can't get all the features I wanted so I didn't know if because of this and the surgeon hesitant to do the surgery if it would make my gender dysphoria worse to not get all the functions or features that i felt were right for me but so far I do not regret doing it. It is the best thing I could have done for myself. So I wanted to thank you vlogging about your journey. Once I qualified and the surgeon felt comfortable to do it after speaking to all my health specialists you vlogging about this was the main thing that got me through. Seeing as in my recovery i ended up having unexpected not good things happen to me by someone who signed up to help take care of me at the level where on top of my health issues I almost didn't heal properly. Furthermore when watching these videos and hearing you being honest about your complications with the arm graft and so much more truly gave me hope. It gave me hope that if you made it through even with things out of your control so to speak that were trying to stack against you (which in a different way was something that happened to me) than I could make it through too.
do we know if taking flesh, fat, and nerves to create the actual phallus is limited to only the forearm? can it be created using material from the thigh?
I’ve just been watching some of your really old videos that I haven’t seen before. You’ve come some far! The transformation is amazing. You should be so proud of yourself. I have so much respect for you. Much love ❤️
Not for everyone, but there are also so many well-functioning phallus prosthesis now for anyone who finds that helpful with the discomfort and isn't having surgery.
Thank you, Cody, for sharing your life with us. I'm a trans woman and I support and love you. I wish there were more government assistance programs available for trans men and women. I've had laser hair removal and then electrolysis on my face. Those services are not cheap at all. Love your journey. You look amazing.
I appreciate you sharing your journey bin as much detail as you have. The rare time it comes up, i will say something instead of screaming in my head that's not funny or right. Your experience gives me more to share when standing up for LGBQ+. I have also come out to my coworkers as asexual the last couple months, mainly if they treat it as as a joke, I'm part of the LGBT Q+ group (it doesn't feel like it) and just learned yesterday from my twin sister (she is not) that we have a flag. She was very excited because they were Hawkeye's colors. In any case I'm able to point people to videos that make it clear and use points you've talked about when that one off question they think I can't answer comes up (just like defending Christianity with them)
I am the mother of a 10 yr old little girl that is discussing and researching the ftm transition. I am so glad to have found such a wonderful man to help answer some of these questions. Your so awesome and I am so glad that God has graced this world with such a wonderful man as you.
I hope she doesn’t get this procedure until she’s an adult. A 10 year old is not sufficiently mature to make the decision to permanently change their reproductive system.
Thank you for informing others of your experience/ information. As with everything else Trans, this took a lot of courage; I learned a lot, again thank you.
I was wondering if you have any opinion on how doctors refuse bottom surgery on trans men even slightly over bmi? I know here is Canada I'm unlikely to ever qualify for a simple release due to my weight and doctors putting a hard limit on not operating if the end result won't appear cis enough.
Hmm I know a lot of trans guys who had bottom surgery who were over BMI but I guess it depends on how high your BMI is. I know they won’t operate if there are safety issues but they still will if you are healthy enough.
Actually not being able to feel on that part of your arm doesn't sound too bad. If you tattoo over it you're probably getting a bigger tattoo- that won't be painful cause you can't feel shit!
Anesthesia is so fucking weird! I was horrified the first time I went under, honestly. They told me that it would feel like three seconds but.. I was convinced I would have a nightmare or something 😂 it definitely did feel like three seconds, and I woke up so confused. I had no idea what happened, where I was, who I was.. it was crazy!
you sound so immature. you should not be making decisions to do anything impkrtant, especially not cutting up your body. you dont even know anything about life yet. your generation is so self obsessed and impatient. maybe you should all shut up and listen to people with some life experience and learn a little before you do something like this
@@ehsh3072 oh darling that’s a painfully unfortunate perception of the world. 🖤 the fact that you could make a generalization so bold about me and my generation based off of a comment I wrote highly informally on purpose, proves that you, in fact, are the one who is not listening. I have a degree in psychology and I’m in my twenties. Straight A student! Patience is a virtue, and I love all humans. Even the ones with poor judgment. 🖤 wishing you well stranger, I hope that the world isn’t too bleak for ya.
@@jaydevandenberg6477 ONLY SOMEONE INSINCERE OR FAKE SAYS THEY LOVE EVERYONE. IF YOU MEAN LITERALLY THAN YOU AREN'T VERY BRIGHT. IF YOU JUST WANT TO SOUND LIKE A CHARITABLE AMAZING PERSON, YOU DON'T. THAT IS NOT A GOOD TRAIT TO BE SO INDISCRIMINATE. AS FOR YOUR BACHELORS AND STRAIGHT A'S, GREAT. AND A PSYCHOLOGY MAJOR? IT SOUNDS LIKE THEY HAVE TURNED THAT FIELD INTO A TRAGIC MISTAKE. THERAPISTS NOW MUST VALIDATE A PERSON WHO CLAIMS TO BE TRANS, SENDING THEM THE WRONG DIRECTION TOWARDS ACTUALLY DEALING WITH IT AS THE MENTAL DISORDER IT IS. ITS NOT A SUMMATION BASED ON NOTHING BTW. THE YOUNGEST GENERATION OF TODAY IS CAUGHT UP IN SOME VERY IRRATIONAL CONCEPTIONS AND THERE IS PLENTY OF EVIDENCE TO SHOW THAT. YOUR COMMENT WAS IMMATURE SOUNDING AND I DIDNT SAY ANYTHING ELSE PERSONAL ABOUT YOU. I GET THAT YOU KNOW IT ALL AND HAVE NOTHING ELSE TO LEARN, THAT ALL YOUR OPINIONS WILL REMAIN CONSTANT AS YOU HAVE EXPERIENCES. BUT MANY PEOPLE ARENT AS BRIGHT AS YOU AND ARE GETTING POOR GUIDANCE. MAYBE YOU CAN TURN THE PSYCH FIELD AROUND AND KNOCK SENSE INTO THE RADICAL NUTS THAT THINK THEY ARE PROGRESSIVE. THEY AREN'T.
@@ehsh3072 there is far too much to address in your comment, and I don’t feel the need to defend myself, or explain myself, to a stranger online. 🖤 So again, I do hope that you are doing well. I highly advise for you to listen to younger people, and have an open mind in those discussions. No one knows everything. That’s the beauty of bein human. Good luck!
@@jaydevandenberg6477 THANKS. I WILL LISTEN TO ANYONE WHO HAS WISDOM TO SHARE OR WHO CAN TEACH ME SOMETHING. THERE IS ALWAYS MORE TO LEARN. THERE IS ALSO THINGS WE HAVE LEARNED AND KNOW BECAUSE WE DEVELOP NEW WAYS OF PROCESSING. WHETHER I AM IRRITATED BY THE ISSUE, I DONT MAKE AN ARGUMENT WITHOUT FACTS AND EVIDENCE. I HAVE REALIZED THAT SOME PEOPLE WILL DENY BOTH EVEN WHEN IT IS CLEAR AS DAY. MAYBE THEY ARE LYING OR TOO SELF RIGHTEOUS. IT IS A NEW PHENOMENOM THAT SCIENCE IS QUESTIONED WITHOUT ANYTHING TO BACK IT UP SO INSULTS OR TALKING POINTS ARE THE ONLY THING LEFT.
Hi! I’m ftm and don’t have accepting parents so I’m trying to get a idea of what I’m going to do when I have the money on my own one day. I’m extremely interested in the medical field and I really want to be a surgeon. So I wanted to ask if the therapy for your hand was difficult and if the graft effects your hand in anyway after recovery.
So like... After having the surgery you have to wait a lot of time for feeling it like... A lot? I'm nervous about that part, I'm afraid about feeling nothing down there.
Hey Cody! I'm really glad you share your experience for all the other trans folks and people who want to know for someone in their life, maybe. I want phalloplaasty did bad but can't afford it because no one takes my insurance. However one of my fears is moot being able to climax. I know you said you aren't good at talking about sex. I just want to know your experience as a healthy person. I smoke cigarettes and am trying to quit because I don't want to lose even more sensation! If you put anyone you know had had phalloplasty and was a smoker can you do a little chat about that? Thanks man. You really are the best!
They actually won't perform surgery on you while being an active smoker. It inhibits blood flow which is incredibly important with phalloplasty. I believe Dr. Chen makes you quit 3 months before surgery.
If I saw someone with an arm like that, I'd ask if they are post op trans. That's the first thing I would think about... especially if they are small in height
How much did it cost for you to go through the surgery, I want to go through the surgery but I was born in Mexico so insurance is a no go for me. Did you have to pay a certain amount before, or was it more on like a monthly payment? Could you also help me contact with a doctor or how to even get started with that?
Hi there! I had insurance so I couldn't tell you how it works paying out of pocket. I am sure they would probably make you pay the majority of it up front. My surgeons website is: www.gurecon.com/
Hey Cody I joined your channel to educate myself 😊 I also have a employee that I work with who is transitioning so it’s nice to have education ❤ plus I love the LGBTQ community
Hi i started to flowing your videos before one a few weeks ago and i find it really informative and supportive i want to thank you personally about all what you sharing with as...i hope that you will keeping this part of greatest personality, but dear i have a question i hope that you can answering me, i confuse between the phalo and meta surgery and i watched a lot of videos about that but i steel so confused and afraid about the fact that you can losing the sensation on phalo which not sure giving you the sex pleasure... And on meta surgery it is not long enough for penetration... Please can you informing more about this please.. Thank you agian dear
How old are you? And how long have you felt like you were transgender? I legit thought I was growing up and had never even heard of it as I’m almost 32 and grew up in a tiny conservative farming town. I knew I was a boy trapped in a girls body until I hit puberty and am a straight female 💯 which is why I’m so concerned on children transitioning before puberty. I looked and dressed like a boy and was attracted to my girl friends for years before hit puberty and I’m so thankful I wasn’t born in todays world.
Hello, I'm sorry to ask but I'm Just curious, does it have its own "penile" and erection time? Or is it always penile/erected? How about the looks? Is it Close to the real thing?
I wasn't planning on it but perhaps I will when I hit 5 years on T which is in December. New changes... hmmm mostly just more chest hair and less hair on my head. LOL
Anyone who has this surgery has got to be insane. It's like Professor Frankenstein trying to create a hybrid human out of spare parts. Completely nuts.
Dude I would date you. That's if you're attracted to men. Great feedback by the way, quite helpful. I've heard of the Elador some guys have mentioned it does work during intimacy.
Seems like there were tons of complications in your experience. That sucks :/ but I’m glad you’re so happy now that you’re through the worst of it! Still makes me nervous tho lol
Cody_talks long and tedious but look at the outcome! Thanks for being so open and sharing your experiences online. It really helps us little guys get informed and prepare ourselves if that’s a route we wanna take. Appreciate you man!
I'm really curious. As a gay man looking at this, wouldn't it have been easier to just be a lesbian... It seems like a lot to put yourself through to never know what having a penis and balls feel like and never be accepted by men.
For anyone asking about how it looks, I have posted my results up here on patreon along with a whole lot of more information with pictures of the healing process: www.patreon.com/CodyHarman
@@mollyrebekah7900 " If someone believes something about themselves long enough, it can trick the mind into believing it's true." kind of like religion! Let's do this: You believe in what you want to believe, focus on your own life, and I'll focus on mine. Don't forget that this life matters and yes, I agree it is short. If you use it to only think about the after-life you are going to miss out.
@@Codytalks11 I never thought you'd respond to me. People can say that about religion, but I was atheist for a while. I was raised in the Lord's church and lost my way, but I found my way back to God. So I didn't have my mind trick into religion, if I had I would have never left God the way I did. I'm not trying to get you to believe what I want, all I try to get others to see is what God wants. I promise you and not saying any of this in a hateful manner. You're human and I will treat you like a human. I just care about others. I do focus on my own life and I make sure that my life is pleasing in God's eyes. The way we live this life matters. We're to live the right way in this life, so that we can be in heaven forever in the next life, where there's no more pain, problems or sorrows. I want to spread the gospel to anyone who cares to hear it. I have God, in my life so I'm not missing out on anything. I couldn't say that 2 years ago. I am a member of the Lord's church, and you seem friendly enough to talk to. If you ever want to talk more on this feel free to do so. I hope you have a good night. Again I truly am saying this with kindness because it's how Christ would treat others.
Sunshine littlephilly I do respond to comments on my channel. I appreciate your concern but I’m happy with my life now and I’ve never felt more free. I grew up in the church and lived and believed just as you do now and I was the most depressed I’ve ever been. I’m happy your happy. I am too.
@@Codytalks11 You grew up in the Lord's church? Members of the Lord's church don't think like the rest of the world. I will tell you that I haven't always been happy either, even though I was also raised in the church, that's why I left it. I have gone through so much and I was far away from God, and I didn't care. I have tried to kill myself. I won't get into everything that I have been through. Maybe you were depressed because the way people may have treated you in church. Or maybe you were different and more tomboyish and didn't feel accepted, and this got you down. I have been there. I have always been very tomboyish and when I was 12 I wanted to be a boy because they have it easier. I grew out of wanting to be a boy, but I still tomboyish, and still like guy things better than girl things, but I never changed my gender. I mean how do you feel about people when they get depressed and turn to drugs and/or alcohol? But just because one goes to church doesn't mean they'll never be depressed in this life. We can be happy here on earth and God wants us to be happy, but church or no church, you can't always be happy. Even though you say you're happy now; do you still not ever get down at times and depressed? If you do, then how is that got anything to do with church? I want you to be happy, but I just want people to know that they can be happier with Christ, and it may take a while for someone to see that, but it can be done. But I appreciate your friendliness. I hope I have shown you kindness and that you don't think I hate you. I can't force you to believe anything you don't want too. But I will pray for you.
Sunshine littlephilly
You know you don't have to tell people how to life their life because you felt so alone in this world that you needed to believe in a god who put you here "for a reason" so you're not completely alone and your life isn't completely meaningless
I am a Christian and my biggest pet peeve about people using God to bash trans people is that their argument is usually something like, “God made you that way, so you should stay that way.” My response to that would be this: if your child is born with a cleft lip, or is born with a deformity of some kind or is born with cancer, does that mean you should ignore the medical advances we have now and let your child suffer or die because that’s how God made them? Of course not! So, why is it wrong for someone who was born feeling as though they are in the wrong body to take advantage of medical advances and fix what they feel is wrong?
I’m sorry for the bigots here, but please know that not all Christians are uneducated bigots.. Some of us have done the research with an OPEN mind and come to the conclusion that Transgenderism is NOT a sin and that all of you should be treated with just as much dignity and respect as everyone else. I apologize on behalf of every Bible thumper you have encountered who has tried to shame you or make you be anything other than your authentic self! I’m glad you are happy now!
❤️❤️❤️ thank you
I had NEVER thought about it this way, but you just made a great point. I'm not anti trans, but this is a great point
christi land thank you!
Sharon Latham I love you. Thank you! I try to live my life stealthy because of those people.. I just want to live a quiet life with my wife and son...
It’s nice to see that there are awesome people out there like you!
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Woo! Got 3 ads in this video. Hopefully they won’t demonetize another video regarding transgender healthcare.
So far so good! :)
Health care...
@@devisissy1 it is health care. Health care isnt just physical. The mental health of a person is considered health care too. Have misaligned gentiles to what your brain feels it should have can be catastrophic for ones mental health. So yes, THIS IS HEALTHCARE
What do ads have to do with demonization?
"Healthcare"
as a tattoo artist make sure you wait at least a year before you tattoo over a scar. the reason is tattooing over it can cause damage if scar is too new. try to go for black and grey as the scar will hold the ink better, in the color spectrum red is least likely to hold. good luck in your ventures bro
How about blue ink?
Im a conservative Republican mom. I watch these videos because they are interesting.. i never comment negative or say rude things on absolutely anything. Im really saddened by the hot mess that is this comment section. If you dont like it, click the hell off. If you really need to, dislike the video. But why spread the negativity. Live and let live.
Im sorry friend if i said too much but people are so ignorant and it makes me so mad. I have to.say something. Its not right. I seen your vid today. I hope you see this. Im sending you words of encouragement my friend..Things are going to be okay..
As a conservative transman , thank you for not representing the hateful conservatives.
It doesn’t matter what political opinions you have if you believe cutting your skin off and relocating a pile of skin in front of your vagina to feel like a man is something to applaud, you don’t belong here on earth. For the greater good of a society, humanity, sanity, rational thoughts, cohesive thought, people who think like you don’t belong on earth.
Girl bye. Conservatives value free speech. Here you come policing. Take that back to east Germany.
@@jaya.d-gauthier1644 free speech doesnt mean to be hateful
The Elator looks like it would be uncomfortable for the person on the receiving end.
How does it attach to the male too??? Why not just buy a strap on dildo its cheaper and works better. That thing confuses the he'll out of me for both parties.
@@mollypettigrew7374 sum ftm dont want to bc they envy strap ons. they want to feel pleasure as well and strap ons dont do that.
@@kingde8945 ok and i said sum ftms 😐
@@migrated. you did my fault no harm
@@mollypettigrew7374 It's not that confusing. The website has an instructional video. (Yes, it's a literal demonstration on a real penis and involves actual penetrative sex.)
Secondly, a strap on working better is subjective. This product is for people who have a penis but cannot naturally get hard. You're not gonna use a strap on that you can't feel when you can use your own penis that you *can* feel.
Talk to your tattoo artist about tattooing over scars. They are difficult and may not turn out well. I got this info from my artist when I had a breast reduction and was worried about scarring. Just a bit of advice... 😉
Getting my sketch pad out. (Seriously) lol
Also I'm just noticing that when you smile you get wrinkles around your eyes. It's so cute. 🤩
Haha yea I’m old 😂
@@Codytalks11 nooo 🤣
I think we're the same age. Lol
k4j19 Right??? It’s so cute, I love it.
@@Codytalks11 🤣🤣 noo it's a sign of a genuine smile - look it up!!!
k4j19 aww I noticed that too
I'm glad that you mention weighing your decision and metoidioplasty or no lower surgery. I might make a video about my thoughts and experience in this dept. But I'm not sure, I don't really talk much about it. And I think it's important that people who do talk about their experiences with lower surgery, or any surgery really, it's their choice to talk about and even if directly asked they don't have to provide an answer or talk about these things.
I do appreciate that you talk about your experience. Thanks for taking the time to share.
Not even one minute in *Hi Mom* lol... You're awesome :) I lost a mouthful of pop on my keyboard with that one hehe!
3:05 I'm ASTOUNDED your leg hair grew back from the graft!! WOW! Can't even tell you did anything, makes me a bit more curious about options :)
What are the options for implants vs. metoidioplasty?
I DID find out, if anyone is "hefty" like me, that there are a few surgeons who will do tummy tucks and use that excess skin part they take off for making a phallus, not having to use arm or leg tissue because the excess skin from weight loss is just as viable for tissue. I haven't looked into it in depth, but I found out it IS an option :)
Thank you for this video, it really helps to be educated, sorry some f the questions were hard to answer, but education and experience is what I love to share with anyone who asks me any questions (I opted out of lower surgery for now, maybe in the future it will be better/easier) I do have lower dysphoria, but not to the point where I want to sacrifice other parts of me and any sensation as of yet.)
I think your honesty is commendable. I also think the platform you have used through TH-cam has been pivotal in informing many that would never know the journey of us transgender men. From one man to another,you have my respect.
Hey thanks man :)
Thank you for being strong enough to talk about this kinda personal stuff bro!! Really helps me, thank you!
Your information, your honesty in presenting the subject of phalloplasty. The Trans Community needs to applaud You, Cody! Much needed and much appreciated info! 👏
Aw thanks AJ :)
I got an add for cis guys looking for testosterone therapy 😂 wrong audience TH-cam
TH-cam's drunk again lol
$300 for that thing?! That looks like something you could easily make. Can't wait to hear your review on it one day 😋
it's because so few people have it per year so they need to make their money back that went into the research and testing. If millions of people were doing it it would cost $10
Yet Apple can get away with selling earbuds for that price even with high demand 😳
bwahah your so right
@@alexojideagu child please, taxpayer money funded insulin research and they still charge us for it after we paid for it. The $300 is a scam.
I didn't realize you lost sensation on your arm and thumb. I think that would be difficult to get used to. Especially if you use your hands for work.
I really hope anyone reading this considering a phalloplasty reconsiders. My best friend went through this ordeal and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. (He has more or less lost his ability to walk at this point) You don't need surgery to be valid. Please love yourself as you are.
Well said. Unfortunately a lot of people will hate you for saying that when you were really trying to warn them
Lol ok
Is your best friend still feeling the same?
Unfortunate that your friend had or is having complications. They can and do happen to many. There are those that dont though. Depends on personal health and body. Depends on the Dr's, on location (country). It takes a lot of healing time for phalloplasty. Following Dr's orders are big. So many variables. Many choose to have phalloplasty as a life need in order to exist. Making for oneself whole as much as able. Those thinking of phallo , just learn all the risks. Educate yourself on the Dr's and reputation. Any surgery can possibly have complications. But don't get scared by what one person may say. As we all know so many may comment just to do just that. Just sayin.
Sad part is even with this warning ⚠️ there will be those that will think it won't be them
TBH I'm tired of having only two options, phallo or meta. I wish therewas something else to do cuz right now I don't thing I'll personally be happy with any.
On the otherside I'm happy for people who are doing very well with thier surgry option.
Thanks for sharing!
yup.
You changing your sex there are no easy options be grateful there's some,
storm le cat Well, I do believe surgeons can do more than just copy procedures that were mainly designed to work on Cis bodies. It will take time
But nothing will change unless trans people started firstly admiting that the is used by many surgeons in the world either for testing or just to get money from. Then they need to step out and let their issue be known. We're so great when it comes to speaking about freedom of choice and freedom of sexuality and all of this great stuff but when it comes to freedom from physical torture in the name of medical treatment we must just be glad! This is really sad.l mate.
Very informative, thank you for the insight and patience to share!
when you’re ready to get your answer for that first question hmu boo 😘😂😂
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Hi Cody, love your honesty, you shouldn't be scared to talk about sex, its natural, and honestly i can only imagine how you must feel, one being in a position where you felt you needs to have gender reassignment done, im sure that already was years of dealing with personal issues, second undergoing any surgery is both dangerous and scary, so being brave enough to deal with that as well, and also just normal ridicule from people that are too ignorant to understand what you are going through. Also I think more people should be as honest and open as you and it will help more and more people slowly understand what people in your position are going through. Keep being real keep being honest, I hope your shared experiences help more people grow in understanding.
What I don‘t get with phalloplasty- where does the clit go? Does it stay where it was or what is the surgeon doing with that part ( compared to „metoidio“)?
Thanks for the information! I’m having RFF phalloplasty with Dr. Crane March 26th. You shared a lot of helpful info! Thanks a lot!
Thank you for posting this video! It's super informative and a great source for trans guys like me who are just starting the bottom surgery process!
what do you say to people when they ask about your arm scar?
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Why can’t they use the tissue from the breast a that are removed to form a phallis?
@@Jervisdude all i know is that they use skin with a lot of nerves in it. also i dont know if any surgeon would make top and bottom surgery togehter cause it could me more difficult and more dangerous for the Patient
Alx 871 but if they are removing skin from the arm and then doing the phalloasity, that’s two operations.
I don't know cause I'm not seeing a way to message you so I guess I'll have to post this letter of sorts as a comment and hope you see it. This channel even if you maybe haven't posted in a while is literally EVERYTHING! Not real words to describe my appreciation for you and at large this channel. I just recently got phalloplasty and I'm far enough along that I'm close to second stage which is exciting. I just love one of the things you said. One of the things you said to which i'm sorry if i quote you wrong because it's so true, "it hurts but at least I have a penis." Your honesty in your journey is what makes your channel so great that you don't just gloss over the realness of what this surgery entails. It's a complicated surgery and painful. To which I also love that you stated how the pain meds didn't touch your arm graft pain because that's the truth of it and you're videos really helped me to even though everyone and surgeon is different it still helped me to kind of know what to expect going in to this so worth it journey. Thanks so much for making these even though I'm commenting just now in the year 2022 and I got my surgery last year. Sadly do to my pre-existing health issues with one of them being autoimmune I couldn't and can't get all the features I wanted so I didn't know if because of this and the surgeon hesitant to do the surgery if it would make my gender dysphoria worse to not get all the functions or features that i felt were right for me but so far I do not regret doing it. It is the best thing I could have done for myself. So I wanted to thank you vlogging about your journey. Once I qualified and the surgeon felt comfortable to do it after speaking to all my health specialists you vlogging about this was the main thing that got me through. Seeing as in my recovery i ended up having unexpected not good things happen to me by someone who signed up to help take care of me at the level where on top of my health issues I almost didn't heal properly. Furthermore when watching these videos and hearing you being honest about your complications with the arm graft and so much more truly gave me hope. It gave me hope that if you made it through even with things out of your control so to speak that were trying to stack against you (which in a different way was something that happened to me) than I could make it through too.
do we know if taking flesh, fat, and nerves to create the actual phallus is limited to only the forearm? can it be created using material from the thigh?
great video cody ..you seem happy with all your choices and thats all that matters I am happy for you...
I’ve just been watching some of your really old videos that I haven’t seen before. You’ve come some far! The transformation is amazing. You should be so proud of yourself. I have so much respect for you. Much love ❤️
aw thank you!! It has definitely been quite a journey!
Not for everyone, but there are also so many well-functioning phallus prosthesis now for anyone who finds that helpful with the discomfort and isn't having surgery.
Fab video, thanks Cody!
just out of curiosity, do you talk thru your nose or your in your chest?
Thank you, Cody, for sharing your life with us. I'm a trans woman and I support and love you. I wish there were more government assistance programs available for trans men and women. I've had laser hair removal and then electrolysis on my face. Those services are not cheap at all. Love your journey. You look amazing.
Hi Cody, thanks for sharing! Very informative, and you look amazing, btw.
Thanks!! :)
Just found your videos on here. Thank you so much for sharing this info and your story.
I appreciate you sharing your journey bin as much detail as you have. The rare time it comes up, i will say something instead of screaming in my head that's not funny or right. Your experience gives me more to share when standing up for LGBQ+. I have also come out to my coworkers as asexual the last couple months, mainly if they treat it as as a joke, I'm part of the LGBT Q+ group (it doesn't feel like it) and just learned yesterday from my twin sister (she is not) that we have a flag. She was very excited because they were Hawkeye's colors. In any case I'm able to point people to videos that make it clear and use points you've talked about when that one off question they think I can't answer comes up (just like defending Christianity with them)
Hi Cody. New subscriber. And I just love you and your vibe. Keep up the amazing work on your videos.💚
Aw hey thank you 🙏🏻 😊
I am the mother of a 10 yr old little girl that is discussing and researching the ftm transition. I am so glad to have found such a wonderful man to help answer some of these questions. Your so awesome and I am so glad that God has graced this world with such a wonderful man as you.
I hope she doesn’t get this procedure until she’s an adult. A 10 year old is not sufficiently mature to make the decision to permanently change their reproductive system.
Please tell me you figured out that hormone blockers cause irreversible harm and didn't do that to your daughter.
Good luck to your kid!
Don’t do that to your daughter
A 10yr old shouldn't even know about shit like that...sorry not sorry.
I am just curious hoy the doctor lengthed the uretra? Do they make you uretra naturaly longer or some kind of graft, syntetic.
Thank you for informing others of your experience/ information. As with everything else Trans, this took a lot of courage; I learned a lot, again thank you.
This is actually pretty intresting
YOU ARE LITERALLY GOALS WHAT THE HECK
WHO ALLOWED YPU TO LOOK SO GOOD
You have the cutest smile 😍
Aw thanks ;)
I was wondering if you have any opinion on how doctors refuse bottom surgery on trans men even slightly over bmi? I know here is Canada I'm unlikely to ever qualify for a simple release due to my weight and doctors putting a hard limit on not operating if the end result won't appear cis enough.
Hmm I know a lot of trans guys who had bottom surgery who were over BMI but I guess it depends on how high your BMI is. I know they won’t operate if there are safety issues but they still will if you are healthy enough.
I watch these videos for the puppy in the background!
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Actually not being able to feel on that part of your arm doesn't sound too bad. If you tattoo over it you're probably getting a bigger tattoo- that won't be painful cause you can't feel shit!
*oml if you do get a tattoo it should be an alien in a ufo B)*
4 structure repairs?!?? 😩
Anesthesia is so fucking weird! I was horrified the first time I went under, honestly. They told me that it would feel like three seconds but.. I was convinced I would have a nightmare or something 😂 it definitely did feel like three seconds, and I woke up so confused. I had no idea what happened, where I was, who I was.. it was crazy!
you sound so immature. you should not be making decisions to do anything impkrtant, especially not cutting up your body. you dont even know anything about life yet. your generation is so self obsessed and impatient. maybe you should all shut up and listen to people with some life experience and learn a little before you do something like this
@@ehsh3072 oh darling that’s a painfully unfortunate perception of the world. 🖤 the fact that you could make a generalization so bold about me and my generation based off of a comment I wrote highly informally on purpose, proves that you, in fact, are the one who is not listening. I have a degree in psychology and I’m in my twenties. Straight A student! Patience is a virtue, and I love all humans. Even the ones with poor judgment. 🖤 wishing you well stranger, I hope that the world isn’t too bleak for ya.
@@jaydevandenberg6477 ONLY SOMEONE INSINCERE OR FAKE SAYS THEY LOVE EVERYONE. IF YOU MEAN LITERALLY THAN YOU AREN'T VERY BRIGHT. IF YOU JUST WANT TO SOUND LIKE A CHARITABLE AMAZING PERSON, YOU DON'T. THAT IS NOT A GOOD TRAIT TO BE SO INDISCRIMINATE. AS FOR YOUR BACHELORS AND STRAIGHT A'S, GREAT. AND A PSYCHOLOGY MAJOR? IT SOUNDS LIKE THEY HAVE TURNED THAT FIELD INTO A TRAGIC MISTAKE. THERAPISTS NOW MUST VALIDATE A PERSON WHO CLAIMS TO BE TRANS, SENDING THEM THE WRONG DIRECTION TOWARDS ACTUALLY DEALING WITH IT AS THE MENTAL DISORDER IT IS. ITS NOT A SUMMATION BASED ON NOTHING BTW. THE YOUNGEST GENERATION OF TODAY IS CAUGHT UP IN SOME VERY IRRATIONAL CONCEPTIONS AND THERE IS PLENTY OF EVIDENCE TO SHOW THAT. YOUR COMMENT WAS IMMATURE SOUNDING AND I DIDNT SAY ANYTHING ELSE PERSONAL ABOUT YOU. I GET THAT YOU KNOW IT ALL AND HAVE NOTHING ELSE TO LEARN, THAT ALL YOUR OPINIONS WILL REMAIN CONSTANT AS YOU HAVE EXPERIENCES. BUT MANY PEOPLE ARENT AS BRIGHT AS YOU AND ARE GETTING POOR GUIDANCE. MAYBE YOU CAN TURN THE PSYCH FIELD AROUND AND KNOCK SENSE INTO THE RADICAL NUTS THAT THINK THEY ARE PROGRESSIVE. THEY AREN'T.
@@ehsh3072 there is far too much to address in your comment, and I don’t feel the need to defend myself, or explain myself, to a stranger online. 🖤 So again, I do hope that you are doing well. I highly advise for you to listen to younger people, and have an open mind in those discussions. No one knows everything. That’s the beauty of bein human. Good luck!
@@jaydevandenberg6477 THANKS. I WILL LISTEN TO ANYONE WHO HAS WISDOM TO SHARE OR WHO CAN TEACH ME SOMETHING. THERE IS ALWAYS MORE TO LEARN. THERE IS ALSO THINGS WE HAVE LEARNED AND KNOW BECAUSE WE DEVELOP NEW WAYS OF PROCESSING. WHETHER I AM IRRITATED BY THE ISSUE, I DONT MAKE AN ARGUMENT WITHOUT FACTS AND EVIDENCE. I HAVE REALIZED THAT SOME PEOPLE WILL DENY BOTH EVEN WHEN IT IS CLEAR AS DAY. MAYBE THEY ARE LYING OR TOO SELF RIGHTEOUS. IT IS A NEW PHENOMENOM THAT SCIENCE IS QUESTIONED WITHOUT ANYTHING TO BACK IT UP SO INSULTS OR TALKING POINTS ARE THE ONLY THING LEFT.
I’m confused why do you need hair removal and where do you need it
He got hair removal on his arm, before the surgery. Your arm/leg has a lot of hair on it that you obviously don't want on your dick.
So main question is it worth it or not?
Hi! I’m ftm and don’t have accepting parents so I’m trying to get a idea of what I’m going to do when I have the money on my own one day. I’m extremely interested in the medical field and I really want to be a surgeon. So I wanted to ask if the therapy for your hand was difficult and if the graft effects your hand in anyway after recovery.
So like... After having the surgery you have to wait a lot of time for feeling it like... A lot? I'm nervous about that part, I'm afraid about feeling nothing down there.
I hope I wasn’t the only person who 😶🤔😳 with the hair question. This was very informative - thank you.
Hey Cody! I'm really glad you share your experience for all the other trans folks and people who want to know for someone in their life, maybe. I want phalloplaasty did bad but can't afford it because no one takes my insurance. However one of my fears is moot being able to climax. I know you said you aren't good at talking about sex. I just want to know your experience as a healthy person. I smoke cigarettes and am trying to quit because I don't want to lose even more sensation! If you put anyone you know had had phalloplasty and was a smoker can you do a little chat about that? Thanks man. You really are the best!
They actually won't perform surgery on you while being an active smoker. It inhibits blood flow which is incredibly important with phalloplasty. I believe Dr. Chen makes you quit 3 months before surgery.
@@Codytalks11 yes I know that! I'm wondering about after quiting if it would still reduce sensation. Like if I have already kind of screwed myself.
you will have your clitoris turned into a deformed fake tiny penis with fake balls. i suggest you never do such a terrible thing to yourself.
Damn this is so messed up, why don't ppl just accept themselves just the way they are ...
You don't understand
Thank you for your honesty!
Thanks for watching!
great video. thanks for posting
Hi Cody hope your doing well
I just got an anti trans add on this video and I am upset.
Are you happy with yourself now?
Thanks mate, that was very honest
If i get bottom surgery and someone asks me what happened to my arm I’ll tell them that a dog attacked me
Oh yeah, that scar will looks just like a dog bite, down to the tooth marks.
I'll say I slipped
I went boxing with a shark
If I saw someone with an arm like that, I'd ask if they are post op trans. That's the first thing I would think about... especially if they are small in height
How much did it cost for you to go through the surgery, I want to go through the surgery but I was born in Mexico so insurance is a no go for me. Did you have to pay a certain amount before, or was it more on like a monthly payment? Could you also help me contact with a doctor or how to even get started with that?
Hi there! I had insurance so I couldn't tell you how it works paying out of pocket. I am sure they would probably make you pay the majority of it up front. My surgeons website is: www.gurecon.com/
Who was your surgeon? Did you have to go out of the country
whose the doctor? is it free or with insurance what kind of insurance?
Very honest. Thank you. Best wishes.
What clinic, doctor or university did your surgery?
Hey Cody I joined your channel to educate myself 😊 I also have a employee that I work with who is transitioning so it’s nice to have education ❤ plus I love the LGBTQ community
aw hey you are awesome!! Thanks for educating yourself for your employee. We need more people like you in this world!
How long did it take for your hand to heal and feel better
May i ask who did ur surgery? And how much did all of it cost
Does hair grow on your arm again after the skin graft has been taken?
nope :)
“If sensation is important to you, don’t have a phalloplasty.” what!!? This is insanity they are doing this to people.
People talk about attitude change, were you hard to get along with during your process
Hi i started to flowing your videos before one a few weeks ago and i find it really informative and supportive i want to thank you personally about all what you sharing with as...i hope that you will keeping this part of greatest personality, but dear i have a question i hope that you can answering me, i confuse between the phalo and meta surgery and i watched a lot of videos about that but i steel so confused and afraid about the fact that you can losing the sensation on phalo which not sure giving you the sex pleasure... And on meta surgery it is not long enough for penetration... Please can you informing more about this please.. Thank you agian dear
Thank you for doing this.
I would want to know what size u got my idk if thats too personal and was sugry really bad or no
How old are you? And how long have you felt like you were transgender? I legit thought I was growing up and had never even heard of it as I’m almost 32 and grew up in a tiny conservative farming town. I knew I was a boy trapped in a girls body until I hit puberty and am a straight female 💯 which is why I’m so concerned on children transitioning before puberty. I looked and dressed like a boy and was attracted to my girl friends for years before hit puberty and I’m so thankful I wasn’t born in todays world.
Would you ever look into getting cosmetic tattooing for your phallus?
I would actually. I’ve seen some people get it done and it looks great.
Just wondering why take arm skin then leg skin instead of just taking leg skin?
tammra blaine I think it's because of the nerves and fats but I'm not sure
Hello, I'm sorry to ask but I'm Just curious, does it have its own "penile" and erection time? Or is it always penile/erected? How about the looks? Is it Close to the real thing?
What you think about "stays hard"?
Hey, Cody! That was going to be my question. Lol.
haha what?!
The first one! 😅
I'm trans and my name is Cody. :)
@Zeus Christos So Greco-Roman religion with Gnosticism? Yeh, yer clarified silly young boy butt luvver.
"Hi mom!" Awkward! 😳😬
Thank you so much Cody!
Also i hear that if they use the skin of you tight the skin is thicker.
You have really kind eyes. ☺️
I would get a dragon chasing another holding a something that is a symbol of strength
I can’t help but notice you have cute eyes w a handsome smile
Aw thanks 😊
to me a smaller one sounds safer even though I'm sure y'all wouldn't want that lol
Are you planning on doing a T update? Any new changes?
I wasn't planning on it but perhaps I will when I hit 5 years on T which is in December. New changes... hmmm mostly just more chest hair and less hair on my head. LOL
lexey rock nope all healthy!
Be careful with the device cuz I've heard of it puncturing through on men before
Luckily I won’t need it much longer :)
@@Codytalks11 thats great!!
As a lifetime hetero male, I prefer something like Under Armour boxer briefs.
Anyone who has this surgery has got to be insane. It's like Professor Frankenstein trying to create a hybrid human out of spare parts. Completely nuts.
I’m glad tat real men exist
Dude I would date you. That's if you're attracted to men. Great feedback by the way, quite helpful. I've heard of the Elador some guys have mentioned it does work during intimacy.
Seems like there were tons of complications in your experience. That sucks :/ but I’m glad you’re so happy now that you’re through the worst of it! Still makes me nervous tho lol
Lots of small complications I would say though at least. Just a long tedious process haha.
Cody_talks long and tedious but look at the outcome! Thanks for being so open and sharing your experiences online. It really helps us little guys get informed and prepare ourselves if that’s a route we wanna take. Appreciate you man!
@@livbrooks4194 What out come ?
@@alienpov Him being a happy, confident, comfortable human being in his own skin. Great outcome!!
Pls share which hospital brother❤
So now…will your sex partners be male or female?
I'm really curious. As a gay man looking at this, wouldn't it have been easier to just be a lesbian... It seems like a lot to put yourself through to never know what having a penis and balls feel like and never be accepted by men.
Well since you are a gay man, of course it would be easier for you to think that… you are not trans.