my partner is FTM, and this was extremely helpful. He’s been talking about getting bottom surgery (he got too surgery after we graduated high school) Thank you for educating us!!
I have only watched a few of your videos. I am a straight cis-women but I liked to be informed about what is going on in the world. You look healthy and wonderful and your personality is charming. Thank you for the information.
I agree I think you are a great advocate for FTM transgender movement. You are utterly charming and it's so refreshing that you are open and honest. I'm sick of all the secrecy in Hollywood' and trying to guess what gender everyone is. Thank you.
Obligatory comment: It's okay if you don't have bottom dysphoria! It's okay if you develop bottom dysphoria later on and change your transition goals! You don't have to have everything figured out right now. I'm 25 and a year on T, and I have zero plans to get bottom surgery 'cause I don't have bottom dysphoria.
I completely agree. I am 8 months on T and I don't have bottom dysphoria either. I'm only getting top surgery and a hysterectomy (something I have been begging doctors for since before you were born).
I've been living as a guy for 11 years. Originally I wanted bottom surgery because I was told trans guys HAD to have bottom dysphoria and HAD to have bottom surgery. We've come so far since I came out and I don't feel ashamed anymore with the fact that I don't want meta or phallo for a vaginectomy.
I have bottom dysphoria but I don’t know if bottom surgery will be worth it for me, with all the pain, the cost, and the results aren’t where I want them to be right now. I will wait and see 👏🏼
Florida prin Samuel it’s scary to know you think in such a way. As a human, surely you should realise that there’s more to you than the ability to have children. As a real man, I love to treat women with respect, love and care. In fact, I have no intention of ever getting a woman pregnant due to the fact overpopulation already exists. I’m sure a lot of women and men would prefer to take the moral choice of adopting. Have you ever considered a transgender male wants bottom surgery to make themselves more comfortable within their gender? It’s sad to see that small minded people like you still exist 😔
Florida prin Samuel you’re just proving the fact you’re small minded... being transgender means you were born in the wrong body. It means your physical body doesn’t align with how you feel inside. If you did your research like an intelligent human being, you’d of read the facts and the facts prove that being transgender is legitimate and proven by science. But of course, continue to embarrass yourself for the whole world to see. We’re laughing at you.
Florida prin Samuel Okay, I think it’s time you hit the dictionary, maybe get yourself a book on grammar before trying to deny scientific evidence... clearly you’re not a very intelligent individual. I’m sorry your brain doesn’t function normally. It must be really hard :/
Florida prin Samuel Before arguing about a topic Florida you should do research. This is a basic skill that you learn early on in school, but looking at your grammar I can tell that you haven’t made it very far in school 👀
I had a couple of years ago some pretty serious surgery (not trans-related). I took the following steps: 1. After the doctor told me, what surgery I needed I looked the surgery up (Wikipedia). 2. I looked up individual stories of people who had the surgery done. 3. I made a list of questions as to procedures, materials and risks. 4. With that (mostly informal and anecdotal) 'knowledge' I now went to the official statistics. (Provided by health ministries, health insurances, doctor's associations - here orthopedic) 5. Who is especially at risk, and do I belong to a high risk group and if so, what can I do to improve my chances. Or: is my situation so bad that I am willing to take the risk to get the chance of improvement? 6. Now I looked up hospitals. Are there any hospitals partnering with quality management? Or better yet an independent assessment center? How are their numbers? 7. Is any of those hospitals in my (affordable) proximity? How important are visits of family and/ or friends? Can they reach the hospital? Can a friend stay close by overnight? 8. Does this hospital offer public information about the surgery? What kind of information? Is it possible to meet an experienced doctor without already committing to the surgery? Does my insurance pay for information visits? 9. How long do I have to wait for appointments - for information, preparation and for the surgery? 10. Does the hospital and/ or my insurance support any scientific study where I can participate? (I help others and surveillance is better as a rule.) In general: any weird feelings inside your stomach may be a sign, that you are not yet ready/ that the procedure or the hospital doesn't fully convince you/ that you need counselling to get a clearer picture of what you want and need. Needing transition surgery is (in most cases) not a life threatening condition, so you have that time. I hope, that helps a little! All the best to all of you! Very kind, honest and informative channel - thank you!
This is a fantastic breakdown, thank you. I have health complications such that a procedure I have been told I need to get, could wind up going not great, with rather severe consequences. I've been waffling about it all, and appreciate this cut and dried approach to what has been somewhat vague mental and emotional splashing about.
@@willbephore3086 Sometimes we just have choices between bad things. Try to find information about the several options of treatment - plus: very important! ask a competent and not involved specialist what would happen if you don't do anything. With some medical problems nothing terrible actually happens. You just continue to have the same problems or to have flare ups if it's chronic. But that's stuff you know and you are somewhat experienced to deal with. With some medical problems things turn progressive and ugly. You might need a treatment you want to avoid now later anyway for palliative reasons. I think that makes the option to take the treatment now and have at least a statistical chance for real improvement more palatable. What are things you want to do in your life? How important are they? How important are they if you weigh different interests and activities against each other? Do you have a job you love? How can you continue to do this job if you - don't do anything and get maybe progressively more ill? - take this treatment and have a bad outcome? (Unless of course it's death, then it won't matter much to you ...) Do you have a partner, children, parents, family, friends, fandoms you want to be together with or are responsible for? What would it feel like for you if you can't do that anymore? Does time matter? Is a different less risky treatment in the foreseeable future available? Could you physically manage a couple more years? Write lists and decision trees! Get this stuff out of your brain! I wish I could help more. All the best with whatever decision you arrive at - and if you decide you take the treatment I wish you experienced and kind people around you and serendipity! Take care!
@@susanne5803 Thank you for these continued thoughts. It sounds like you've had to really think through these things for yourself as well, and are also a highly competent person as well as a caring one. I suspect your friends and families are lucky to have you. :) Wishing your process or procedures have gone well, and that you're able to live a life that you can be satisfied with.
@@willbephore3086 Thank you! It took two years to get mostly pain free while moving. One year longer than predicted. But even two years are in memory not very much. Just before they loomed disproportionately large. And I am single carer for my grown up disabled and chronically ill child which makes any procedure really difficult to organize. It worked out alright in the end though. But I was seriously scared before ... I hope things turn out alright for you, too!
I'm a gay ftm and i went to really wanting to have a penis and having horrible dysphoria about it to not even thinking about getting the surgery (it's been years since i was around 16 when i came out as trans, I'm25 now), but not because i was scared or anything it's just that i got comfortable with my current genitalia. Still i loved the video and I'm glad that you posted it, for all those people who want to have the surgery :)
Yeah. Being transgender male can make u feel dysphoric down there. I'm a trans male and sometimes I pretend when I am aroused I have what cisgender men have or I pretend I have male genitals but then i look at my self in the mirror then it goes back to reality Ye my grammar is bad bc I just woke up
Thank you, dear. The more people we get talking about this topic the better!!! And the more super cute people like you we get talking about it.... well that can’t hurt either!!😄. Really though.... I can only imagine how many young people are struggling right now, and having you to listen to must be so reassuring. You are a good egg!!💗
I'm kinda dissapointed I can't find a video of you talking spesifically about top surgery, cause I can't use this objectively funny line: "Man, you must be glad to have gotten that off your chest" I'm not sorry
As a trans ftm, I'm doing research to see if the lower part would be functional and I could live life as an actual male with a working lower area for when I get my surgeries done and I really appreciated this video ❤️✨🏳️⚧️
I mean I’m 11 and I feel like I might be trans I’ve always been different then other girls I hate everything well girly and I hate looking in the mirror I just wish I was born a boy 😭
It's great that you're reporting on your positive experiences here. Many people who have undergone this operation tell about the limited sex life and constant painful infections
I love how open you are about all this! Always funny and honest. “Useless dead flesh bag” is honestly a good insult for people who troll you! Glad you’re out here informing people, both people in the same shoes as you and people like myself who want to be better allies!
The fact that Jaime needs a pump in order for the phalloplasty to become erect proves it lacks the sensation of a real penis. A phalloplasty is not a penis/dick it is an artificial structure made to look like a penis.
Jamie, thanks so much for this video, it's really helpful. I started my medical transition at 13 (I'm 18 now) with puberty blockers and I've definitely always known that top surgery was a priority for me, I'm thrilled I was able to have it at 17 (I'm about 1 year post op now and couldn't be happier with the results) but for awhile I was unsure about bottom surgery. I certainly knew I wouldn't be comfortable having sex without bottom surgery, but I was somewhat nervous about things like results and function (especially given all the misinformation) and had a pretty low libido anyway, so I figured I might just skip it and limit my sex life to what I could do with my pants on. Now that I've been on testosterone for awhile (exactly 2 years and 4 months as of today) my libido has been increasing a lot as well as my urge to masturbate and that's been making my dysphoria a lot more focused on my genitals. For the past 6 to 8 months, give or take, I've known that my transition needs to include bottom surgery. Actually doing the research has made me a lot less nervous about it, this video is one of the things that helps. I haven't decided on type yet but I am leaning towards metoidioplasty.
I know this comment was posted a year ago and I don't really wanna rant but I'm currently 14 and I feel like I want to be male, like I've seen all these videos and things, I'm uncomfortable in my body, I don't know how to tell my parents without them brushing it off and saying it's just hormones, they said no to my doctor who said I probably needed therapy, and I just don't know what to do. Sorry for the rant.
@Lisa Briggs hey, I'm currently 14 and going through the transitioning process. The way I had to make sure I 'knew I wanted to me male' was creating a profile online and going by the name I'd want to choose down the road. Personally I'm a gamer so I would play games and have people call me by the desired name to see if it felt right. This is just my experience but maybe it will help with you too. As for your parents unless you are sure they would react that way don't give up hope. I was pretty convinced that my mother would reject me once I came out but to my surprise she is and has continued to be my most supportive person in the subject. Try easing around the question a bit, seeing where they stand on the lbgtq support spectrum and go from there. Hopefully this has helped you a bit, if not I know there are a lot of places and channels that can help you figure out your gender identity and how to come out to your parents. Much love 🖤
I’m not able to get T yet but still my libido is frickingly high, does that mean T will turn me into a fricking sex machine xd (I can’t have T untill I get 21 y.o due to law in my country which sucks much)
Your voice sounds deeper and your accent comes through more. :) You should keep the mic. Also thanks for making this video. There's too much misinformation out there.
I wish you had Spanish subtitles so I could show your videos to my mom to educate her and mitigate her fears. I recently came out as trans to my family and friends and your videos had been very helpful to start conversations with my best friend about the things I'm going through and to actually understand myself. I can't thank you enough really, and I wish someday to feel comfortable enough to be in front of a camera and inform people as you do :)
Glad I found this. My lover has bottom dysphoria AND top dysphoria. He has decided to not get bottom surgery and I know it internally crushes him because it isn't the way he wants it. I plan to show this to him when I can. Do you know if there are any known infections regarding the bottom surgery? Or any possibility of it failing?
Fat Kinnie not true. some people don't want to take the risks of having certain surgeries, or they have conditions preventing them from getting them. so even if they want a surgery, they may not be able to get it. that doesn't determine if they're trans or not; dysphoria does.
Any surgery can have risks. But its pretty safe. (Notes: knew this from a lot of research. Top dysphoria and bottom Dysphoria but sadly had no operation yet:( .))
This is so reassuring. Thank you so much for making this. I was on the fence about lower surgery before but after hearing that all of these myths (all of which I believed) I feel pretty confident that this is something I want to do. The only deterrent for me right now is the cost. I live in the US, and thinking about how much it's going to cost is severely intimidating.
As a cis gender man I want to say how outstanding is this presentation. You bring wisdom and light to an uninformed world. This was excellent. I hope this will help a lot of people. BTW: as a gay man I think you are very handsome. Best wishes.
@@charlesmcintosh3239 oh well, now 22 years past my Transition, I only regret having waited until i was 32 to go for phalloplasty. I could'nt be happier.
I really love your videos but more than that thank you for sharing your journey. You are extremely likable and so down to earth and your sense of humor is beyond amazing!
My experience was exactly the same which is why l initially said I'd never have lower surgery. The thing is that people rarely post when things go well so the most common posts you see are from folk who have had bad experiences. What people also forget, is that those bad experiences go on to be corrected. Also, people post at different stages and people forget they are not seeing the finished product. Like you say, people need to properly research. Yes there are complications but these can be overcome and the majority of people have great results, as l have. I always recommend people read the book Hung Jury, which gives an honest first hand experience from guys who have had different lower surgeries. Great video my friend!
I’ve actually been extremely depressed lately over people who don’t know what they’re talking about telling me about how the surgery will end up. I was one of those people for quite a while. You’ve literally given me hope. I can’t thank you enough.
Thank you so much for making this. I honestly really have been trying to find a real answer for this. This really makes me happy that someone was willing to answer properly.
Thank you so much. This helps me feel more comfortable to begin looking into bottom surgery to help eliminate my bottom dysphoria. I actually believed many of these myths and made a previous choice to avoid bottom surgery because of these myths. Thank you so much and keep making more informational vids to help us Trans folks. Peace.
@goku son Holy shit. You're right. I completely forget that ovaries and testicles are the same thing, they just develop differently based on the sex you are born as. Totally forgot! Thanks for reminding me that everyone is born female and that it's only because the SRY gene is present that the ovaries develop into testicles for cis men.
I am so glad I found your videos. Thank you for addressing these topics as awkward and uncomfortable as it may be to talk about, it's hard to ask these questions and as a mother and woman who is still figuring out my own sexuality etc. I try to teach my pre-teen daughter about different sexualities, different genders and we enjoy the fun side of things like watching RuPaul's drag race too. I feel it's super important to raise educated and Open minded children despite if they are straight male and female genders and sexuality wise but others aren't. It would be a beautiful world if we all were like this. Anyways thanks for answering some questions for my curiosity
Your videos are very helpful cause my boyfriend is trans FTM and I just want to be educated for him and be there for all the changes he is going to go through when he is transitioned
i’m planning on getting my boyfriend bottom surgery soon hehe, when we’re of age and when i gain enough money. he deserves a lot and i want him to be happy in his body
@@VarianJudas5320 thank you! but we broke it off around september. i did a lot of thinking and realized he wasn’t the kindest person and i was just a little too much in a daze to notice red flags. but thank you.
Jamie and shaba you are so inspiring and you have no idea how much you have both helped me get trough my dysphoria. You both are very amazing human beings and I really appreciate you both very much.
This made me feel better because I am ftm trans myself and I do want to get bottom surgery but I thought you couldn't have erections but now I know you can so I feel better
I plan on getting bottom surgery when I'm old enough and have the chance. This really helped, and honestly I really need help researching and finding out about the process of transitioning. SO thank you, thank you, thank you! For giving me some info!
I have watched several female to male surgery and I must say you are the only person who has had no problems and you are the only person who is saying that this is not a majoru dangerous operation and you are lucky to have sailed thro the process and are happy with your outcome
I realised I was trans when I was 11, I’m 14 (almost 15 now) & still haven’t came out to my family, but I 100% plan to have surgeries when I’m older, sometimes I feel so desperate and depressed that I have to wait for quite a while until I can, i have no doctor to talk to these things about and I’m so extremely curious and worried what it’s like, the only education i can get is from the internet; 45% is myths and lies, another 45% is censored and you have to verify your age, thank you SO SO much for being apart of that 10% that I can get comforting, real information from!
Oh! You remind me of Jack from AJR! Totally a 10/10. Your lady is super lucky to have ya. Also, your beard looks great too. Thanks for making this video, I was wondering about some of this stuff... Take care!
Thank you so much for this. I'm starting to get tired of the amount of comments in trans circles trashing phalloplasty, as somebody that is seeking it in the future.
I can absolutely appreciate this compliment and how it's intended, the sincerity shines through, imho. Just want to point to the possibility that trans guys might feel more effortlessly positive about attractiveness words that aren't typically used with women, such as "beautiful" or "gorgeous". It may be a cultural difference, but where I live "gorgeous" is rarely used for guys.
i remember seeing this video when i wasn't even out yet years ago and now rewatching it as i'm doing research beacuse if everything goes according to plan i'm goint to start T next year and my therapist told me to go activlly searching about operations ecc and seeing your vodeo now that i know a lit bit more about being a trans kid make me feel so.much better and less anxious about thid surgery so thanks ❤
I am so glad I found this video. I have been refereed for lower surgery and got scared because of hearing things like "You will never feel anything." or "It will be useless." Not had the flesh bag thing yet though haha x
my mom talked with some trans friends of hers who had bad experiences and she fully believes all of these myths, though when I'll be able to, I really want to get lower surgery. SENDING THIS TO HER RIGHT AWAY, THANK YOU JAMIE❤️
Thank you for this. I am trans, 30, never fully coped with my genetalia and finally decided to get bottom surgery. Every bit of information is making this step easier 🙏 thank you!
I love how there’s so many ppl who argue about ppl regretting transitional surgery and their source is “see- look at this 1 person out of 7000 ppl who regretted their surgery!!!! Look! See? It’s a bad idea!!!”
I have no idea how I identify. I’m born female and idk if I’m non-binary, fluid, trans or just not very feminine. however the thought that I might be trans has been scaring me for this very reason (these myths) so thank you for calming down a 16 year old in a crisis.
Hey, just a little reminder that most of the info we find online is completly US based (so it's completly different from how it happens over here in the EU) like even for T or top-surgery a lot of the stuff I googled or heard people talk about did not quit happen like that here. Also, where I lilve we do have a surgeon that inveted his own "Bottom surgery" for FTM method as he hated what was being done everywhere else so the procedure /results are nothing alike those you find most people talking about (not like those they take tissue out of your arm or leg) he does say you can regain partial to full sensation back. I do want to know if you had any kind of procedure (like hysterectomy) how is it in terms of pain in the long term post op? I heard that some people get pretty bad chronic pain (might also depend on how it's made?) but I am really wondering on all the pros and cons
THANK YOU so much for this video, this was great. you've really helped me out - I'm loving your content lately. Thank you so, so much for putting yourself out here, bless you.
I've had thirty six years of being confused when I wake up to pee and have to squat to pee. I'm considering bottom surgery to go ftm cause I've kinda always felt that's what I am. Being a person with two sets of dna (female and male so I'm an absorbed twin or medical Chimera) I want the outside to match the inside but honestly I've heard every myth you covered.
When I found your channel as a teenager (16-18), I thought I was a nonbinary person expanding my trans knowledge. This year I'm turning 24 and I'm returning to your channel because I just came out as trans masc Thank you for continuing to educate, share, and post. Lots of love.
I am the grandmother of a f to m transgender child. Thank you so much for your videos. I turn to them for information often. I appreciate you.
Thank you so much for being supportive of your grandchild, I hope my grandmother's as supportive as you are
❤️ u r so supportive
So wholesome 🥲
🥺 thanks for being supportive and willing to be educated
that's amazing to have a supportive grandma like you ♥️♥️♥️♥️
"mini willy" is the most british sounding thing im----
Ikr
OI wot are you insinuwoiting moit?!
You obviously have never been to the UK
@@shaz7982 yes !
@@Adzinth ????? I was born here ??????????
"today we're talking about penises on this channel" he says, surprising absolutely no one
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you find most men to be dorks? Why?@Jett Jo johnson
genderpunksap Lmaooo seriously 😂😂😂😂😂
Literally my first thought when you started talking was how nice the quality of your voice sounded. So I'd say the pretty mic was worth it :)
my first thought. makes his voice quite sexy too
1000th like :D
I'm not even trans. I'm just curious about how all of this works
I share this same curiosity as well!
He cracks me up, I just love how he expresses himself!
Same
Agreed! Super interesting and he's a cool person :)
Props to all of you for educating yourselves ❤️ makes a difference
Jamie: "I've got a new set up right here" *points at crotch*
Was that on purpose? 😂😂
Haha that's exactly what I thought
That's what I thought he meant to
Lmao, same
Definitely on purpose
my partner is FTM, and this was extremely helpful. He’s been talking about getting bottom surgery (he got too surgery after we graduated high school)
Thank you for educating us!!
Full support to both you and your partner. I too plan on surgically transitioning after I complete high school. Much love to you two 😘😘😊😉
gxrebxnny bxy good luck!!
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Will regret it 5 to 10 yrs down the road
@@charlesmcintosh3239 y
@@cavetownistherapy you will regret you are making s very serious mistake.
Once you change. You can't get it back
I'm a therapist specializing in helping trans folk obtain confirming surgeries, and this will be SUPER helpful to my clients! Thank you!
I wish I had a caring therapist like you :( my mom said she'd get me a gender therapist and it's been 2 years now so I think she lied
Wow
Barton A. Shulman can 11 year olds be transgender?
sady_yeet yeh, if it’s what you feel then sure! I’m not gonna tell you it’s just a faze. I realized when I was 12.
You type of people are why I'm still alive
I have only watched a few of your videos. I am a straight cis-women but I liked to be informed about what is going on in the world. You look healthy and wonderful and your personality is charming. Thank you for the information.
I agree I think you are a great advocate for FTM transgender movement. You are utterly charming and it's so refreshing that you are open and honest. I'm sick of all the secrecy in Hollywood' and trying to guess what gender everyone is. Thank you.
theRoseofmyheart same 🙋🏻♀️
Oh my gosh, me too
Mic was definitely worth it! Can notice the difference immediately! :)
Obligatory comment: It's okay if you don't have bottom dysphoria! It's okay if you develop bottom dysphoria later on and change your transition goals! You don't have to have everything figured out right now. I'm 25 and a year on T, and I have zero plans to get bottom surgery 'cause I don't have bottom dysphoria.
I completely agree. I am 8 months on T and I don't have bottom dysphoria either. I'm only getting top surgery and a hysterectomy (something I have been begging doctors for since before you were born).
I've been living as a guy for 11 years. Originally I wanted bottom surgery because I was told trans guys HAD to have bottom dysphoria and HAD to have bottom surgery. We've come so far since I came out and I don't feel ashamed anymore with the fact that I don't want meta or phallo for a vaginectomy.
I have bottom dysphoria but I don’t know if bottom surgery will be worth it for me, with all the pain, the cost, and the results aren’t where I want them to be right now. I will wait and see 👏🏼
Some people just don't want run risk with the surgery
Say👏🏻 it 👏🏻louder for👏🏻the people 👏🏻who still 👏🏻identify as "truscum"👏🏻 in 2019👏🏻 can 👏🏻hear 👏🏻it in👏🏻 the back👏🏻
“Useless flesh bag”
IM WHEEZING
As a FTM wanting bottom surgery, this really helped me feel more confident. Thank you!
It does not have feeling so sad
@@bloxbread6656 that was literally one of the myths
get help
@@user-wr7st1gx7h help by getting bottom surgery? Sure!
The main point is that there are more trained doctors today than there were 10 years ago. These things weren't myths then.
Florida prin Samuel it’s scary to know you think in such a way. As a human, surely you should realise that there’s more to you than the ability to have children. As a real man, I love to treat women with respect, love and care. In fact, I have no intention of ever getting a woman pregnant due to the fact overpopulation already exists. I’m sure a lot of women and men would prefer to take the moral choice of adopting. Have you ever considered a transgender male wants bottom surgery to make themselves more comfortable within their gender? It’s sad to see that small minded people like you still exist 😔
Daniel Lyons she won’t ever be a man!
If her DNA is shown in a crime seen it will come up as a female 😂😂😂😂
Florida prin Samuel you’re just proving the fact you’re small minded... being transgender means you were born in the wrong body. It means your physical body doesn’t align with how you feel inside. If you did your research like an intelligent human being, you’d of read the facts and the facts prove that being transgender is legitimate and proven by science. But of course, continue to embarrass yourself for the whole world to see. We’re laughing at you.
Florida prin Samuel Okay, I think it’s time you hit the dictionary, maybe get yourself a book on grammar before trying to deny scientific evidence... clearly you’re not a very intelligent individual. I’m sorry your brain doesn’t function normally. It must be really hard :/
Florida prin Samuel Before arguing about a topic Florida you should do research. This is a basic skill that you learn early on in school, but looking at your grammar I can tell that you haven’t made it very far in school 👀
I had a couple of years ago some pretty serious surgery (not trans-related). I took the following steps:
1. After the doctor told me, what surgery I needed I looked the surgery up (Wikipedia).
2. I looked up individual stories of people who had the surgery done.
3. I made a list of questions as to procedures, materials and risks.
4. With that (mostly informal and anecdotal) 'knowledge' I now went to the official statistics. (Provided by health ministries, health insurances, doctor's associations - here orthopedic)
5. Who is especially at risk, and do I belong to a high risk group and if so, what can I do to improve my chances. Or: is my situation so bad that I am willing to take the risk to get the chance of improvement?
6. Now I looked up hospitals. Are there any hospitals partnering with quality management? Or better yet an independent assessment center? How are their numbers?
7. Is any of those hospitals in my (affordable) proximity? How important are visits of family and/ or friends? Can they reach the hospital? Can a friend stay close by overnight?
8. Does this hospital offer public information about the surgery? What kind of information? Is it possible to meet an experienced doctor without already committing to the surgery? Does my insurance pay for information visits?
9. How long do I have to wait for appointments - for information, preparation and for the surgery?
10. Does the hospital and/ or my insurance support any scientific study where I can participate? (I help others and surveillance is better as a rule.)
In general: any weird feelings inside your stomach may be a sign, that you are not yet ready/ that the procedure or the hospital doesn't fully convince you/ that you need counselling to get a clearer picture of what you want and need. Needing transition surgery is (in most cases) not a life threatening condition, so you have that time.
I hope, that helps a little! All the best to all of you! Very kind, honest and informative channel - thank you!
This is a fantastic breakdown, thank you.
I have health complications such that a procedure I have been told I need to get, could wind up going not great, with rather severe consequences.
I've been waffling about it all, and appreciate this cut and dried approach to what has been somewhat vague mental and emotional splashing about.
@@willbephore3086 Sometimes we just have choices between bad things. Try to find information about the several options of treatment - plus: very important! ask a competent and not involved specialist what would happen if you don't do anything.
With some medical problems nothing terrible actually happens. You just continue to have the same problems or to have flare ups if it's chronic. But that's stuff you know and you are somewhat experienced to deal with.
With some medical problems things turn progressive and ugly. You might need a treatment you want to avoid now later anyway for palliative reasons. I think that makes the option to take the treatment now and have at least a statistical chance for real improvement more palatable.
What are things you want to do in your life? How important are they? How important are they if you weigh different interests and activities against each other?
Do you have a job you love? How can you continue to do this job if you
- don't do anything and get maybe progressively more ill?
- take this treatment and have a bad outcome? (Unless of course it's death, then it won't matter much to you ...)
Do you have a partner, children, parents, family, friends, fandoms you want to be together with or are responsible for? What would it feel like for you if you can't do that anymore?
Does time matter? Is a different less risky treatment in the foreseeable future available? Could you physically manage a couple more years?
Write lists and decision trees! Get this stuff out of your brain!
I wish I could help more. All the best with whatever decision you arrive at - and if you decide you take the treatment I wish you experienced and kind people around you and serendipity! Take care!
@@susanne5803 Thank you for these continued thoughts. It sounds like you've had to really think through these things for yourself as well, and are also a highly competent person as well as a caring one. I suspect your friends and families are lucky to have you. :) Wishing your process or procedures have gone well, and that you're able to live a life that you can be satisfied with.
@@willbephore3086 Thank you! It took two years to get mostly pain free while moving. One year longer than predicted. But even two years are in memory not very much. Just before they loomed disproportionately large. And I am single carer for my grown up disabled and chronically ill child which makes any procedure really difficult to organize. It worked out alright in the end though. But I was seriously scared before ... I hope things turn out alright for you, too!
@@susanne5803 that is an awful lot to be navigating and holding in your day to day life, big respect for the ways you found to move through.
I'm a gay ftm and i went to really wanting to have a penis and having horrible dysphoria about it to not even thinking about getting the surgery (it's been years since i was around 16 when i came out as trans, I'm25 now), but not because i was scared or anything it's just that i got comfortable with my current genitalia. Still i loved the video and I'm glad that you posted it, for all those people who want to have the surgery :)
Yeah. Being transgender male can make u feel dysphoric down there. I'm a trans male and sometimes I pretend when I am aroused I have what cisgender men have or I pretend I have male genitals but then i look at my self in the mirror then it goes back to reality
Ye my grammar is bad bc I just woke up
ThT made me lose 10 brain cells
@@bloxbread6656 this spelling made me lose 40
Thank you, dear. The more people we get talking about this topic the better!!! And the more super cute people like you we get talking about it.... well that can’t hurt either!!😄. Really though.... I can only imagine how many young people are struggling right now, and having you to listen to must be so reassuring.
You are a good egg!!💗
Thank you
I'm kinda dissapointed I can't find a video of you talking spesifically about top surgery, cause I can't use this objectively funny line:
"Man, you must be glad to have gotten that off your chest"
I'm not sorry
Pffft lol
Honestly I'll be disappointed if someone doesn't make this joke whenever I get top surgery
I do prefer seeing more of your torso, now your hands just fly in and out of view when you gesticulate. I prefer seeing them all/most of the time :)
Did you just assume he has a torso ? 😂😉😎
@@idigmusictoo1746 Haha ! Actually, he has XD
As a trans ftm, I'm doing research to see if the lower part would be functional and I could live life as an actual male with a working lower area for when I get my surgeries done and I really appreciated this video ❤️✨🏳️⚧️
I’m non binary I’m keeping my breasts
But I’m getting bottom surgery I do know that
@@courtneyjenkins8403 as long as you do research...and please don't Google pictures...I made the mistake of looking at images, don't recommend.
@@Vanessa-pe2xs makes sense !
Cap
Ohh I want surgeries!!
Bit I only started T today.😊
@Ashton needs a nap thanks!!
Gjguduobbkufgiuyghdetggu congrats 😁😁♥
Happy T day to you! ❤️
Congratulations! 🎉
I mean I’m 11 and I feel like I might be trans I’ve always been different then other girls I hate everything well girly and I hate looking in the mirror I just wish I was born a boy 😭
It's great that you're reporting on your positive experiences here. Many people who have undergone this operation tell about the limited sex life and constant painful infections
I love how open you are about all this! Always funny and honest. “Useless dead flesh bag” is honestly a good insult for people who troll you! Glad you’re out here informing people, both people in the same shoes as you and people like myself who want to be better allies!
The fact that Jaime needs a pump in order for the phalloplasty to become erect proves it lacks the sensation of a real penis. A phalloplasty is not a penis/dick it is an artificial structure made to look like a penis.
Jamie, thanks so much for this video, it's really helpful.
I started my medical transition at 13 (I'm 18 now) with puberty blockers and I've definitely always known that top surgery was a priority for me, I'm thrilled I was able to have it at 17 (I'm about 1 year post op now and couldn't be happier with the results) but for awhile I was unsure about bottom surgery. I certainly knew I wouldn't be comfortable having sex without bottom surgery, but I was somewhat nervous about things like results and function (especially given all the misinformation) and had a pretty low libido anyway, so I figured I might just skip it and limit my sex life to what I could do with my pants on.
Now that I've been on testosterone for awhile (exactly 2 years and 4 months as of today) my libido has been increasing a lot as well as my urge to masturbate and that's been making my dysphoria a lot more focused on my genitals. For the past 6 to 8 months, give or take, I've known that my transition needs to include bottom surgery. Actually doing the research has made me a lot less nervous about it, this video is one of the things that helps. I haven't decided on type yet but I am leaning towards metoidioplasty.
progress?
I know this comment was posted a year ago and I don't really wanna rant but I'm currently 14 and I feel like I want to be male, like I've seen all these videos and things, I'm uncomfortable in my body, I don't know how to tell my parents without them brushing it off and saying it's just hormones, they said no to my doctor who said I probably needed therapy, and I just don't know what to do. Sorry for the rant.
@Lisa Briggs hey, I'm currently 14 and going through the transitioning process. The way I had to make sure I 'knew I wanted to me male' was creating a profile online and going by the name I'd want to choose down the road. Personally I'm a gamer so I would play games and have people call me by the desired name to see if it felt right. This is just my experience but maybe it will help with you too.
As for your parents unless you are sure they would react that way don't give up hope. I was pretty convinced that my mother would reject me once I came out but to my surprise she is and has continued to be my most supportive person in the subject. Try easing around the question a bit, seeing where they stand on the lbgtq support spectrum and go from there.
Hopefully this has helped you a bit, if not I know there are a lot of places and channels that can help you figure out your gender identity and how to come out to your parents. Much love 🖤
I’m not able to get T yet but still my libido is frickingly high, does that mean T will turn me into a fricking sex machine xd
(I can’t have T untill I get 21 y.o due to law in my country which sucks much)
Your voice sounds deeper and your accent comes through more. :) You should keep the mic.
Also thanks for making this video. There's too much misinformation out there.
I wish you had Spanish subtitles so I could show your videos to my mom to educate her and mitigate her fears. I recently came out as trans to my family and friends and your videos had been very helpful to start conversations with my best friend about the things I'm going through and to actually understand myself. I can't thank you enough really, and I wish someday to feel comfortable enough to be in front of a camera and inform people as you do :)
i got the notification while watching another one of your videos and i couldn't choose between continuing that one or watching this hhhhh im here now
Glad I found this. My lover has bottom dysphoria AND top dysphoria. He has decided to not get bottom surgery and I know it internally crushes him because it isn't the way he wants it. I plan to show this to him when I can.
Do you know if there are any known infections regarding the bottom surgery? Or any possibility of it failing?
Dont push anyone into surgery, please. Especially if they have made up their mind against it.
If you don’t want surgery your not trans
Fat Kinnie not true. some people don't want to take the risks of having certain surgeries, or they have conditions preventing them from getting them. so even if they want a surgery, they may not be able to get it. that doesn't determine if they're trans or not; dysphoria does.
Any surgery can have risks. But its pretty safe.
(Notes: knew this from a lot of research. Top dysphoria and bottom Dysphoria but sadly had no operation yet:( .))
@@thebigripper5339 that's not true. Trans people can go their whole lives and not have any surger and still be trans.
Holy moly, i immediately noticed the brilliant audio quality before you even mentioned it!
This is so reassuring. Thank you so much for making this. I was on the fence about lower surgery before but after hearing that all of these myths (all of which I believed) I feel pretty confident that this is something I want to do. The only deterrent for me right now is the cost. I live in the US, and thinking about how much it's going to cost is severely intimidating.
As a cis gender man I want to say how outstanding is this presentation. You bring wisdom and light to an uninformed world. This was excellent. I hope this will help a lot of people. BTW: as a gay man I think you are very handsome. Best wishes.
You are a big W
Shut up you groveling fool. She's literally telling people it's okay to take part in this risky behavior.
you call this wisdom. this is barely qualified as misguided knowledge and lies by omission.
as a trans dude I’m more dysphoric about my voice and chest , bottom surgery isn’t a huge priority but it is definitely on the list lol
oh same here
You regret it
@@charlesmcintosh3239 Most people don't regret it bruh it's like 1 out of 100 stop scaring people.
Go to a website call trans regrets
Get the facts
@@charlesmcintosh3239 oh well, now 22 years past my Transition, I only regret having waited until i was 32 to go for phalloplasty. I could'nt be happier.
I really love your videos but more than that thank you for sharing your journey.
You are extremely likable and so down to earth and your sense of humor is beyond amazing!
My experience was exactly the same which is why l initially said I'd never have lower surgery. The thing is that people rarely post when things go well so the most common posts you see are from folk who have had bad experiences. What people also forget, is that those bad experiences go on to be corrected. Also, people post at different stages and people forget they are not seeing the finished product. Like you say, people need to properly research. Yes there are complications but these can be overcome and the majority of people have great results, as l have. I always recommend people read the book Hung Jury, which gives an honest first hand experience from guys who have had different lower surgeries. Great video my friend!
Love the new mic 👍 and thanks for the education. Much better to discuss willies with high quality sound.
Haha thank you :)
I’ve actually been extremely depressed lately over people who don’t know what they’re talking about telling me about how the surgery will end up. I was one of those people for quite a while. You’ve literally given me hope. I can’t thank you enough.
wow this new microphone is so damn better!! please keep it, it sounds wonderful, you sound so good!
I cannot imagine what you've been through to be yourself. Respect.
The new microphone sounds excellent!
Thank you so much for making this. I honestly really have been trying to find a real answer for this. This really makes me happy that someone was willing to answer properly.
Quick tip: do NOT look up bottom surgery on youtube if you're squeamish. Most thumbnails are from real surgeries, quite graphic.
IT'S TOO LATE I'VE ALREADY SEEN THEM 😭
Legit stopped munching chips to properly hear the new mic sound. It's very clear, love it !
Thank you so much. This helps me feel more comfortable to begin looking into bottom surgery to help eliminate my bottom dysphoria. I actually believed many of these myths and made a previous choice to avoid bottom surgery because of these myths. Thank you so much and keep making more informational vids to help us Trans folks. Peace.
Well... U did have the balls to do this then.....
This was a friendly joke don't hate me 😣😣😣😣
he did😮how is that possible?
Deer&Animations&Stuff 🥁
Is that u guys hating MEEE or knowing it was a friendly jokyr
@goku son Holy shit. You're right. I completely forget that ovaries and testicles are the same thing, they just develop differently based on the sex you are born as. Totally forgot! Thanks for reminding me that everyone is born female and that it's only because the SRY gene is present that the ovaries develop into testicles for cis men.
@@annipsy2185 Males and females have balls
I love your videos and it makes me feel safe
lol
@@marklapar4804lol
I am so glad I found your videos. Thank you for addressing these topics as awkward and uncomfortable as it may be to talk about, it's hard to ask these questions and as a mother and woman who is still figuring out my own sexuality etc. I try to teach my pre-teen daughter about different sexualities, different genders and we enjoy the fun side of things like watching RuPaul's drag race too. I feel it's super important to raise educated and Open minded children despite if they are straight male and female genders and sexuality wise but others aren't. It would be a beautiful world if we all were like this. Anyways thanks for answering some questions for my curiosity
Your videos are very helpful cause my boyfriend is trans FTM and I just want to be educated for him and be there for all the changes he is going to go through when he is transitioned
I am happy you are happy. You are giving a positive message and helping so many people.
i’m planning on getting my boyfriend bottom surgery soon hehe, when we’re of age and when i gain enough money. he deserves a lot and i want him to be happy in his body
Omfg ur the best person in this world
thats so sweet, i bet he'll be so happy! you're wonderful for helping him
@@VarianJudas5320 thank you! but we broke it off around september. i did a lot of thinking and realized he wasn’t the kindest person and i was just a little too much in a daze to notice red flags. but thank you.
Jamie and shaba you are so inspiring and you have no idea how much you have both helped me get trough my dysphoria. You both are very amazing human beings and I really appreciate you both very much.
This made me feel better because I am ftm trans myself and I do want to get bottom surgery but I thought you couldn't have erections but now I know you can so I feel better
I plan on getting bottom surgery when I'm old enough and have the chance. This really helped, and honestly I really need help researching and finding out about the process of transitioning. SO thank you, thank you, thank you! For giving me some info!
Most women I have sex with don’t even suspect that I was born female!
I have watched several female to male surgery and I must say you are the only person who has had no problems and you are the only person who is saying that this is not a majoru dangerous operation and you are lucky to have sailed thro the process and are happy with your outcome
He doesn't say or imply that at all
Your voice sounds more clear with this new mic. I am excited and think you should keep it Jamie! Also green is a color that suits you perfectly
I don’t personally want bottom surgery but I was interested in learning more about it and saw this, so thanks dude
I think it’s crazy how well transitions work!
I fully accept that what trans people have between their legs is none of my business, but I'm curious nonetheless, so thank you.
Honestly thank you so much bro. Ive always been curious about this topic and this was really helpful and educational
Jamie you keep getting better each time, awesome energy! And that new mic sounds really good!!
I realised I was trans when I was 11, I’m 14 (almost 15 now) & still haven’t came out to my family, but I 100% plan to have surgeries when I’m older, sometimes I feel so desperate and depressed that I have to wait for quite a while until I can, i have no doctor to talk to these things about and I’m so extremely curious and worried what it’s like, the only education i can get is from the internet; 45% is myths and lies, another 45% is censored and you have to verify your age, thank you SO SO much for being apart of that 10% that I can get comforting, real information from!
Oh! You remind me of Jack from AJR! Totally a 10/10. Your lady is super lucky to have ya. Also, your beard looks great too. Thanks for making this video, I was wondering about some of this stuff... Take care!
Thankyou so much for clearing these up. Definitely some of the fears I’ve had when considering bottom surgery
Thank you so much for this. I'm starting to get tired of the amount of comments in trans circles trashing phalloplasty, as somebody that is seeking it in the future.
Thank you for this video and keeping it as light and personable as you did. 💙👍
You’re so gorgeous. I would never have been able to tell that you’re trans. You’ve transitioned beautifully
@Fleur Laser shut up and stop being nasty >:/
That is... an odd compliment? I mean, nice, but you could just say he looks nice, yeah? No need to be all "u look good... for a trans guy"
TheCrafty Cat
He didn’t say that. He said “you’re pretty and you pass well.”
@@cocoacrow Might not be the same for everyone, but I would def take it as a mayor compliment if somebody tells me I pass well.
I can absolutely appreciate this compliment and how it's intended, the sincerity shines through, imho.
Just want to point to the possibility that trans guys might feel more effortlessly positive about attractiveness words that aren't typically used with women, such as "beautiful" or "gorgeous". It may be a cultural difference, but where I live "gorgeous" is rarely used for guys.
your beard is so MANLY Jamie i love you dude been watching for a while as a fellow ftm myself
Thank you for this video I'm trans and trying to figure out how to go about surgery and this helped to clear some stuff up, thank you!
Well this brought me some relief.
I wasn't sure whether this stuff was true or not so thanks!
New mic sounds great! Always love your videos!
My sister kept saying these myths and me and my boyfriend literally thought that it was never possible. Thank you so much.
Yes! U R wonderful funny😇 Never wonder ed about this stuff. Glad it is out there for people who choose this. God Bless
i remember seeing this video when i wasn't even out yet years ago and now rewatching it as i'm doing research beacuse if everything goes according to plan i'm goint to start T next year and my therapist told me to go activlly searching about operations ecc and seeing your vodeo now that i know a lit bit more about being a trans kid make me feel so.much better and less anxious about thid surgery so thanks ❤
You shouldn’t ruin your life
@@missyk2984 ?? em thanks for your concern but me and my therapist think that this things will actually help me live a better life ^^♡
Congratulations
I am so glad I found this video. I have been refereed for lower surgery and got scared because of hearing things like "You will never feel anything." or "It will be useless." Not had the flesh bag thing yet though haha x
Your videos are the best, they always feel like just chatting with a friend and it's super chill (also yes the audio is great lol)
We love you Jamie.
Thank you, I'm getting to know a trans ftm and your videos are helping me understanding his point of view. Thanks ❤
Flesh bag... LMAO!! That's a good one LOL. I just love you! And the mic is good
gotta love the puns! i love being early! thanks for the great vid 🥰
Mutilation of your body will never make you happy.
my mom talked with some trans friends of hers who had bad experiences and she fully believes all of these myths, though when I'll be able to, I really want to get lower surgery. SENDING THIS TO HER RIGHT AWAY, THANK YOU JAMIE❤️
those are not myths
Thank you for this. I am trans, 30, never fully coped with my genetalia and finally decided to get bottom surgery. Every bit of information is making this step easier 🙏 thank you!
So this really changed my view on bottom surgery a bit. May actually look into it now. Thanks for the information dude, its appreciated
I just came across your channel. Never seen you before, but I wanted to tell you that you are absolutely BEAUTIFUL. Love from Mexico.
Frankenstein would be gagged today
I love how there’s so many ppl who argue about ppl regretting transitional surgery and their source is “see- look at this 1 person out of 7000 ppl who regretted their surgery!!!! Look! See? It’s a bad idea!!!”
Saw you on the Click and now loving your stuff ♥
Makes me sad that people suffer like this and the psychological community isn't helping..
nah the trans community is chilling. it’s the unreasonable prejudice against it that’s making trans people depressed
@melona yea sure melona, am sure they are all eager to share how they cry at night for various reasons.
I have no idea how I identify. I’m born female and idk if I’m non-binary, fluid, trans or just not very feminine. however the thought that I might be trans has been scaring me for this very reason (these myths) so thank you for calming down a 16 year old in a crisis.
Hey, just a little reminder that most of the info we find online is completly US based (so it's completly different from how it happens over here in the EU) like even for T or top-surgery a lot of the stuff I googled or heard people talk about did not quit happen like that here. Also, where I lilve we do have a surgeon that inveted his own "Bottom surgery" for FTM method as he hated what was being done everywhere else so the procedure /results are nothing alike those you find most people talking about (not like those they take tissue out of your arm or leg) he does say you can regain partial to full sensation back.
I do want to know if you had any kind of procedure (like hysterectomy) how is it in terms of pain in the long term post op? I heard that some people get pretty bad chronic pain (might also depend on how it's made?) but I am really wondering on all the pros and cons
THANK YOU so much for this video, this was great. you've really helped me out - I'm loving your content lately. Thank you so, so much for putting yourself out here, bless you.
Thank you,, this really made me feel better about getting the surgeries
Thank you so much for opening my eyes to this. I definitly was worried about all these myths but now I'm a bit more hopeful
I've had thirty six years of being confused when I wake up to pee and have to squat to pee. I'm considering bottom surgery to go ftm cause I've kinda always felt that's what I am. Being a person with two sets of dna (female and male so I'm an absorbed twin or medical Chimera) I want the outside to match the inside but honestly I've heard every myth you covered.
thanks for clearing these things up, a baby transguy here and i was scared of bottom surgery but now i’m not as scared :D
Love you Jamie and your vids
Thank you. I was really curious.
Mic sounds great! Maybe turn the gain down a little tid bit. Also try studio sound damping foam on the walls to isolate your voice.
When I found your channel as a teenager (16-18), I thought I was a nonbinary person expanding my trans knowledge. This year I'm turning 24 and I'm returning to your channel because I just came out as trans masc Thank you for continuing to educate, share, and post. Lots of love.
honestly the recording sign in the blurred background is really annoying. It keeps making me think i'm going blind every time i focus on it
carlandthehumancrab don’t focus on it
I could listen to your voice all day