I love the dichotomy of Claudia trying to have a casual summer fling and then boom gets a house and agree to marry eachother in under a year. The peak lesbian energy is overwhelming
Thank you for making this content. I used to feel like same-sex relationships were... odd. I thought I was accepting because I wouldn't have stopped being friends with someone or think they were bad if they ended up in a non-straight relationship and I wouldn't have said anything negative about it, but, I'd still feel odd about internally. I think I first became aware of this channel through a combination of the disability and vintage sides of it and was really surprised and uncomfortable when I found out about the LGBTQ+, but I was hooked and kept watching. Watching your videos has normalised LGBTQ+ relationships so much for me. My past internal reactions seem ridiculous to me now. Recently, my sister came out to me, and it felt like the most natural thing in the world for her to be in love with a woman with whom she has decided to build a life. When she decides to tell more of my family, there will be a negative reaction from a lot of them. Thanks to you, I can stand up for her (and her partner) not just because I know it is right to do so (I think I would have done so before), but also because it feels right and natural for her to make that choice and nobody should stop her from doing that. I am sure I am not the only one who your videos have helped in this way.
Oh my God, your whole comment resonates with me! Every. Single. Sentence. I also found same sex relationships odd although I supported them, but it was just because it was the right thing to do. Thanks to youtubers like Jessica or Jamie, it now feels absolutely natural to me and my past feelings seem so ridiculous. So thank you for your comment, I totally agree.
It is so fantastic that you were able to confront your uncomfortable feelings and push through towards acceptance over time. That is so great, I wish more people would do that. I feel like sometimes people have a hard time even recognizing that they have these internal negative feelings because they aren't *logically* against anything, and don't want to be seen as bigots. But really, we are all on a journey of becoming better and more accepting people, and it's okay to admit that you have some negative feelings towards others that you want to work on. It's all part of the process.
I guess we all grew up in a world where being straight was considered the default. I always think it's better late than never - as in, it's ok if becoming comfortable with being around people who are different than you takes time, as long as you are willing to change and are open-minded. I think a lot of us (especially those of us who grew up in conservative environments) only started becoming allies once we found out that people close to us were LGBTQ, and it opened our minds to the fact that LGBTQ are no different than us straights. I remember that in my late teens/early 20s a few of my dearest childhood friends came out, and that was the watershed moment for me.
I mean I'm gay and I had the same issue, even thought I didn't want to, which was a fun bit of mental gymnastics. But without representation it's hard to normalise anything, especially when the alternative is presented as the only option. I also found watching Jessica's videos with Claudia really helpful in re-educating and accepting myself, so it's not just you.
Ahahaha Jessica not liking the dating app story is exactly like my brother-in-law. He and my sister met through an app, but that also didn't fit HIS romantic narrative, so he told people that they were at a Pokémon Go meetup downtown and he literally bumped into her and to apologize he offered to take her out to lunch, he had this whole story made up, and then at the wedding reception people asked my sister how they met and she just totally blanked and went "honey am I allowed to tell the real version or are we telling the Pokémon version still" 🤣🤣 So cat was out of the bag there
when Claudia said "you were quite witty and obviously pretty" my brain just went for the "feel pretty and witty and GAY" reference.. and i love how perfectly that fits 😄❤
The lesbian urge to get a joint mortgage 3 months into a relationship hahahahah. That is so insane to me. But I'm so happy that it worked out for you so well! You two are the perfect match!
I know meeting online doesn't seem all that romantic but honestly it was really nice to learn that that's how yall met. I've been hesitant to try a dating app because I think I also have those romantic ideas about meeting someone irl and moving from there. But so far in my life that hasn't really panned out at all. So to hear this really well-established couple talk about how they met online and finding the story just as romantic as any other was kind of inspiring to finally make a dating app profile.
I met my partner online and we've been together a good while now! We're not married/engaged (yet) but our relationship hasn't suffered for the fact that we met online
If anything it opens you up to more people you wouldn't normally meet. People get tied up in the how they met, instead of the why. (Met my ex boyfriend during my uni days in real life. We were togheter 8 years. And met my current girlfriend online. Both amazing people and how we met has no impact on who they are.)
I met my husband on a dating app (Bumble). Literally couldn't think of a better match for me, and it's highly unlikely we would have met in real life. Do it!
My dad asked my mother to marry him 4 months after they went on their first date. They were married for 50 years, 6 months and 18 days. May you be happily married longer than they were!
My oldest sister recently came out as bisexual but also in the "I'm married to someone already so it's not like it would matter unless they died before I did ideally when I'm 80?" so Claudia being in a similar category has gotten some smiles out of me in these times
Lol same. Not really a “coming out” moment because I didn’t like, announce it to people, but yeah it’s not really news because I’m happily and monogamously married so not planning on doing anything with that information any time soon.
Thank you Paige for representing ALL OF US with whatever face you made when you heard that Jessica somehow found and dated someone MORE high-femme than her. (Also, Grindr and Her give location in exact kilometer distance for reasons other than forming stable long-term relationships. It's so their users can quickly and easily arrange a convenient hook up.)
I paused this video in the middle because it gave me the courage to text the lesbian girl I met last night at the Lindy Hop dance event and ask her if she would like to go out for coffee. Fingers crossed!
I totally understand how Claudia felt. I came out of a bad break-up when I was 20 and finally had this epiphany that I didn't need a boyfriend to make me feel happy and complete - 3 weeks later, I met my now-fiancee and it was a serious relationship pretty much from the start. The truth is, you never know when you're going to meet that person. I know quite a lot of people who dedicated their twenties to career-building and had zero interest in being in a serious relationship (which is totally fine) but then seemed surprised that someone wasn't magically waiting for them the moment they decided they did want to settle down. Unfortunately, falling in love doesn't happen according to a neat schedule. Sometimes, meeting the right person means disrupting your plans and being open to whatever happens.
I might not be the most vocal of your subscribers nor even the sort of person you would expect to be a follower of your channel, but I am still here enjoying your content since the beginning, when you were unmarried and starting out on your adventure in life. I sincerely wish for you, the kind of happiness I've had in my 53 years with my wife. As for passing the one million mark, I guess August 10th 💖
I remember watching you when I first came out when I was ELEVEN. I'm nineteen now and you two are some of my strongest queer role models. I love you both, happy pride
I didn’t realize how much I needed this. I’m 26 and have been struggling with the fact I’m not at as far along in life as I feel I should be, and I’m not sure what direction I will go. I’m currently single as well, and it’s a bit hard watching most of my friends get married while I’m simply not ready yet. It’s comforting to hear that Claudia was my age when she met Jessica and a bit older when she decided to change careers because I might still have time to figure those aspects out. Maybe it’s not too late to have or shape a happy future.
My spouse and I were engaged after 4 months of our first in-person meeting, and married another 4 months later. We’re champs at speed running a relationship 😅 Married 10 years now though!
I'm 22 and chronically ill (fellow eds potsie with other things) and i started getting sicker at 19, I felt like I missed the most important years of my life to find my future wife and person or to at least get out there and date. Thank you for this because I am hopeful again about dating and finding my person. also august 3rd is my 1million guess
Happy Pride month to the Kellgren-Fozard family, and this lovely community! My daughter (19) is a newly-out trans lesbian, and I pray she finds the same kind of joy as you have found together! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤💙💗🤍
The more typical romantic parts of the story are so, so sweet! But the real testament of their love is when Claudia divulges the painting deep dive. Both of their reactions reveal how well they know each other, and it was THE CUTEST.
Thank you both for your content. This is my first pride since coming out as bi, and your channel is one of the influences that helped me accept myself for who I am. It means a lot to me to have a channel like yours that helped me start dreaming about a life with a woman. Happy pride! ♥️💛💚💙💜
I love this! I'm bisexual, AFAB and I married a man. I love how this channel shows me what it might have been like if I married a woman. I love women and the love stories between women. This channel gives me that ENERGY! Sometimes I wish I'd married a woman but then I see my husband's sweet face and I know I made the right decision. I can see that between the two of you-- that you know you made a great decision-- and it makes my heart flutter :)
My sister came out to me in January, after meeting a girl online just before Christmas. It's her first lesbian relationship so I've been sending her your videos with advice for coming out to the rest of the family (we're Irish Catholic on one side). I love seeing my sister so happy with her partner - I just hope they don't move quite this fast 😂
I wish they had more dating apps for bi spec people. I'm a pansexual non-binary person and every app I went on says "Are you a man looking for a woman, a woman looking for a man, a man looking for a man, or a woman looking for a woman?" and I'm like "I'm a person looking for a person. Why do I have to choose???" If anyone knows of any let me know!
I got diagnosed with ADHD as a 26 year old! And I'm happily married to a trans woman. Thank you for sharing your experience, I've admired you for years and always appreciate your vulnerability on topics like this. Time blindness, executive dysfunction, and emotional dysregulation are all things I struggle with, and luckily they are all things that I feel a lot better about with a diagnosis. And meds. 😁 Unlearning guilt for how we are is such a freeing thing! Now I can work on myself from a much healthier viewpoint. Thank you for sharing!!
Claudia being so happy (and drunk) she just fell asleep for a hot minute is *_so cute_* “I just assume everything happening right now is going to go on forever😀” Jessica I’m in this photo and I don’t like it
you two are amazing and sooo cute together! Have been "married" to my wife for 18,5 years back in the day. We separated ten years ago, but are still as close as family. She and I always say that love is never questioned, it was just time to live in a different form. I've subscribed btw. Love from the Netherlands
i love how you added "we're monogamous - very" without any sort of energy of an "obviously, what else" behind it. as a polyamorous person, this is the first time I've seen a monogamous couple, so casually, mention that this is just their choice, not as if it is the only one, but simply that it is theirs. thank you for that
Hearing you describe your love story and seeing how fast life can change - going from not even knowing someone to living together in the house you both own with a mortgage and an engagement within like half a year - is very inspiring. I sometimes feel like not much happens in a year and it's just the same old things, but to know that everything could be turned upside down so positively is a really exciting kind of uncertainty.
I loved hearing about your love story! I’m proposing to my girlfriend soon, and even though she constantly says I’m the love of her life, I’m still nervous. Not because I think she’ll say no, but because it’s such a huge deal. I’m also incredibly excited! Wish me luck ❤
Honestly love hearing this because I am going to be getting married in a few months after a year of dating my boyfriend. People have so many opinions about how quick we moved in or got together but to be honest we know what we want, we’ve talked about our future thoroughly, and we are just so so happy. It definitely depends on the couple, there’s no timeline. Wishing y’all many more happy years.
i'm always impressed at how well-matchwed you two are, how you balance each other out, its really sweet to see and is imbued with all the ongoing effort of honesty and empathy to sustain the connection
Claud is really glowing here! Seems like the career change is really agreeing with her 😊 I hope to have a love story like yours one day! Happy Pride! 🎉
When Claudia said witty, and pretty, my brain immediately goes to the "I Feel Pretty" song from West Side Story and finishes with "and GAY!!!" Also accurate.
This is so wonderful and sweet. Oh my goodness. As a really femme lesbian into vintage and alternative fashion, I started watching your stuff for the historical fashion-y side of things, and I was FLOORED and SO happy when I learned you were a lesbian! I didn't know about your personal life (wife, kid, etc) til this video and ... wow, I've been smiling through the whole thing. I'm disabled as well, so... yeah, you're an all around inspiration to me! And making me feel less silly about thinking my girlfriend of 6 months may be the love of MY life too.
The drawing class story was a complete lie?? It all makes a little more sense now. You should make as many videos on this topic as you want. I never get tired of hearing this story ❤
Some happy news I'm happy to share with complete strangers on the internet, but I am waiting a little longer to share with people who aren't my 4 best friends. Rainbow Month brings our Rainbow Baby! We got pregnant our 2nd month trying, but they were ectopic. We tried again for a year, and then I took time off to work on my health in non pregnancy safe ways. I refused pills and devices from past issues. I had been taken off of a diet pill because of high blood pressure, and I didn't have an appointment yet for Accutane or Lasik, and it was lucky number 7 anniversary, so we decided to roll the dice as a one off, and let that decide how the next 6-9 months will look. We celebrated our anniversary a couple of weeks later, and I was hoping that my period would wait until Monday so I could enjoy the trip without the wrinkle of managing around it. I had a negative the previous Monday, but this Monday was all positive! Waiting to see the doctor before telling the rest of the family, but probably Father's Day. I ordered a rainbow loading shirt with the customization He or She or They, I will love them anyway! I hope to subtly wear around pride things because I am part of the rainbow, too. At the end of June, they should be gummy bear sized, and I've been wearing my rainbow gummy bear necklace constantly for luck. I was also a rainbow baby.
"Complaining" often being part of love is SUCH a good point. you have to expect a lot from people you love; spend time with, etc., and, you have to expect to give and compromise 😮🎉🎉❤
25:40 i recently watched a video that reacted to the “never go to bed on an argument“ one. The message i agreed with was that some conflicts can not be discussed to the end when you are tired and emotionally upset and it's gone on for a long time. At that point, you can no longer think straight (or lesbian ;) ) and you may need a) sleep, b) time, c) space to process what's happening and how you feel about it, and whether your feelings are impulsive or go deeper. You can wake up the next day and set an appointment to keep talking about it after breakfast and coffee. You will very likely be calmer and more constructive then! I think the idea behind it should be to not go to bed hating each other or withdrawing positive interactions because of the conflict. You can go to bed without having a solution, and you can go to bed saying “this is frustrating, but i know we will get through it together. I still love you.“ i also have started telling myself and my partner: “i really look forward to when this will be solved“. The future will be okay!
I hadn't looked at this before. You express relatively mid-20s aspirations, and I am so happy for where you were at the time, and where you are now. As a point of reference for me, my queer daughter (married to a man she met at Disney orientation in 2016) and my lesbian daughter (21) are the loves of my life (as is my son, but that isn't relevant to this discussion). We all love Finley's husband, we all like Kerry's current GF, and we're happy for the future in our family.
Lovely story! I met my boyfriend three years ago. We have happily been together for two and a half years now. We started out as room mates actually. As you do. Right now we have to do long distance which is not easy, but we manage. I can't wait to live with him again though. He's my best friend. I know I'll marry him one day. We're taking our time for that. He's 25 and I'm 23. But one day, we'll make it happen.
My parents married just 6 weeks after they first met! Everyone thought that this was crazy and would never work out. Well, they were married for 40 years before my father passed away and it still seems like a miracle to me.
Aww, I adore you as a couple, you're really an inspiration for how I behave and strive for in a relationship. Lovely to hear the story how it all came to be :) Wish you all the happiness in the world!
You two are so great! Sweet, supportive and real! The whole world would be better if more couples (heck, if more PEOPLE) were like you! ❤️ Thank you both so much for sharing your life and love with us. 🌍❤️
Claudia is my spirit human! When she describes her enthusiasm for painting tiles 😅 that is so me. I'm the one who is in the stores buying EVERY option for every room. If my partner didn't stop me....we'd have all the parts to build a house IN the house! 😂
Loved this. :) I moved in with my husband the first night we were together, and he proposed two months later. That was over 30 years ago now. And my ex-girlfriend was the priestess at our wedding/handfasting, so he knew I was bi.
It's so great to hear your story! I also met my SO on a dating app and it's been hard for me to leave it at: "we met online" because there are so many beautiful nuances to it that the phrase just doesn't cover.
what's the hang-up exactly? you're opposite-sex attracted then aka heterosexual as any scientific source will prove, hardly illegal to get married anywhere. could go to literally any homophobic country in the world and get hetero married in two seconds, meanwhile most of us lesbians aka female homosexuals (and gay men), actually most same-sex couples can't get married in our respective countries. or have bio children with our partner. or get ivf. or adopt. or even hold our lover's hand in the streets. the only upside is never needing birth control and having this perfect mind-body-soul synergy that opposite-sex couples will never experience. gender-non-conforming straight people may get some odd looks or wrongly assumed to be gay on rare occasions but that's about it. maybe heterosexual people with a gender identity could at least stop co-opting and fetishizing our homophobic oppression and there would be no need for any kind of confrontation considering our identities don't really overlap, neither do our dating pools apart from bi women, and we have completely different struggles in life. as proven by neurological studies (e.g. one by Manzouri & Savic from 2018) it is clear that homosexual aka same-sex attracted people have distinctly different brain phenotypes from heteros, including those who identify as the opposite gender. therefore female-attracted transwomen have the same brain patterns as hetero males, which are completely different from lesbians. in fact, the myth of "brain sex" was dispelled by such neuro-studies, because it turns out they previously only tested male-attracted aka homosexual transwomen who Do have similar brain patterns to hetero women because of their shared male-attraction not some magical sex-detached mind/body duality "womanhood". when they tested heterosexual transwomen as well, all these similarities to women vanished, giving instead way to similarities with hetero males. therefore sexual orientation is solely based on biological sex, and heterosexual trans people are not notably distinguishable from their non-trans hetero peers. I suppose anyone can identify as however, although I don't really understand obfuscating the scientific reality which is that exclusive same-sex attraction is innate in a way transsexuality hasn't really proven to be and does not align with the latter, remaining connected to birth sex. I'm a lesbian in my late 20s, still haven't properly dated due to horrible discrimination of same-sex relationships in my country and because very few women are same-sex attracted. I have never dreamt of marriage, even as a girl, since I instinctively knew it was disallowed and illegal for me, and only stopped repressing my sexuality in my mid-20s despite of course never dating males either since I knew that would be abnormal for me. my dating life has been miserable since barely bi women lead lesbians on and fellow lesbians are like a needle in a haystack in a tiny homophobic eastern-european country. I'm sure that being opposite-sex attracted you haven't experienced any of these issues with your sexuality, considering 95+% of people are hetero-attracted and unlike homosexual people you have grown up in total acceptance of your hetero-attraction, without being actively forced to like males, without being told that lesbian sex is filthy and wrong, or not even real sex, because it never involves a p3nis, or the capacity to breed; without being berated as a depraved vile freak of nature because you don't like males and refuse to date them, without receiving "corrective" r*pe threats from p3rverted lesbian-fetishizing het men who feel entitled to any female person and can't accept your sexuality, thinking they can "turn" you to love d***. and despite being a conventionally attractive woman compared to models and actresses, a university lecturer, a business owner I have never been loved back by a woman because the reality is that most of them want d***, even if they hit on me first, even when they say I'm perfect and made them realize they didn't want to date men, I will never be enough for them because I'm female like them, because I only have x chromosomes, because they're not truly same-sex attracted, because I don't have a dangling meat pole which won't even provide women with orgasms 80% of the time. but do I blame women for that? for being opposite-sex attracted and act like a victim? of course not, everyone has an immutable non-fluid sexuality unless they are bi, and everyone has the right to reject anyone romantically or sexually for whichever reason, that is the whole meaning of consent and bodily autonomy. and most importantly, no-one is entitled to romantic love nor sex, no-one. this entitled mindset can lead to r*pe culture and is especially harmful towards women because it's instilled into straight males' minds since early childhood. after all, lesbians aren't entitled predatory conversion "therapist" incels like many misogynistic straight males would be in my position. I can just watch this lovely video of this lovely same-sex couple and be happy for them, if a little envious. and sure, not conforming gender-wise might narrow the options a little but not as much as what gay people face. I have never struggled with my gender so similarly I can't relate to you either, I just accept that I am female and attracted to the same sex, finding a special most anti-patriarchal beauty in that, although I know that many gay/bi people struggle deeply with not conforming to heterosexist gender norms and have gender dysphoria. also, considering how you identify, you might be bisexual, adopting the new gender theory view of "genderality" instead of sexuality. in that case I'm sure you can find a fellow transwoman just like yourself whom you can completely relate to! the only issue then is finding a country which allows you to marry because obviously then you'd be in a homosexual relationship and gay marriage is illegal in most of the world.
Crying because I don't know if I'll ever have such a beautiful love story like this in my life. You two deserve the world. Your love for each other is inspiring to see
My wife and I met online. I tell the story better than she does. That is pretty much all she says, but there are small details that make the story. I love that you give the little details here like the soda and lime, the hearing aid being mistaken for a Bluetooth headset, missing the first kiss cues, passing out on the beach. Sweet little stories❤😍
I like to say that my gf and I took u-hauling to another level because we moved in together even before we started dating, which is another way of saying " we met as flatmates and then got together while already living together".
Moving in after 2 weeks?? Wow, and I thought my boyfriend and I were rushing since we started living together after 6 months, we've been together for 5 years now. We also met online and I also thought nothing would come out of it and then fell over heels on the first date. My best friends got married just a month ago and they were the cutest lesbian couple ever, this is their First pride as wives!
Im not usually so early with a youtuber, but i remember when Jessica hit 10k! And i mainly watched cause of her M.E. videos, and her eloquently she spoke about her conditions. And then realised she was gay, so a whole other reason to watch, their relationship is so heart warming. I'm glad such happiness is present for someone like Jessica!
OH MY GOD, ALMOST A MILLION?! I have been subscribed since right before your wedding happened, I can't believe that it's come this far! So happy for you❤
"Although this book has no pages, inside is the start of our story" 🥺🥰
So romantic!
Soooi beautiful and romantic!!! ❤ love this couple so much
I know that’s the sweetest thing ever.
Made me tear up.
I love the dichotomy of Claudia trying to have a casual summer fling and then boom gets a house and agree to marry eachother in under a year. The peak lesbian energy is overwhelming
Hearing about Rupert being obsessed with the engagement story and marrying his dolls melted my heart, so sweet! ❤
Thank you for making this content.
I used to feel like same-sex relationships were... odd. I thought I was accepting because I wouldn't have stopped being friends with someone or think they were bad if they ended up in a non-straight relationship and I wouldn't have said anything negative about it, but, I'd still feel odd about internally.
I think I first became aware of this channel through a combination of the disability and vintage sides of it and was really surprised and uncomfortable when I found out about the LGBTQ+, but I was hooked and kept watching.
Watching your videos has normalised LGBTQ+ relationships so much for me. My past internal reactions seem ridiculous to me now. Recently, my sister came out to me, and it felt like the most natural thing in the world for her to be in love with a woman with whom she has decided to build a life. When she decides to tell more of my family, there will be a negative reaction from a lot of them.
Thanks to you, I can stand up for her (and her partner) not just because I know it is right to do so (I think I would have done so before), but also because it feels right and natural for her to make that choice and nobody should stop her from doing that.
I am sure I am not the only one who your videos have helped in this way.
What a great comment! ❤
Oh my God, your whole comment resonates with me! Every. Single. Sentence. I also found same sex relationships odd although I supported them, but it was just because it was the right thing to do. Thanks to youtubers like Jessica or Jamie, it now feels absolutely natural to me and my past feelings seem so ridiculous. So thank you for your comment, I totally agree.
It is so fantastic that you were able to confront your uncomfortable feelings and push through towards acceptance over time. That is so great, I wish more people would do that.
I feel like sometimes people have a hard time even recognizing that they have these internal negative feelings because they aren't *logically* against anything, and don't want to be seen as bigots. But really, we are all on a journey of becoming better and more accepting people, and it's okay to admit that you have some negative feelings towards others that you want to work on. It's all part of the process.
I guess we all grew up in a world where being straight was considered the default. I always think it's better late than never - as in, it's ok if becoming comfortable with being around people who are different than you takes time, as long as you are willing to change and are open-minded. I think a lot of us (especially those of us who grew up in conservative environments) only started becoming allies once we found out that people close to us were LGBTQ, and it opened our minds to the fact that LGBTQ are no different than us straights. I remember that in my late teens/early 20s a few of my dearest childhood friends came out, and that was the watershed moment for me.
I mean I'm gay and I had the same issue, even thought I didn't want to, which was a fun bit of mental gymnastics. But without representation it's hard to normalise anything, especially when the alternative is presented as the only option. I also found watching Jessica's videos with Claudia really helpful in re-educating and accepting myself, so it's not just you.
Ahahaha Jessica not liking the dating app story is exactly like my brother-in-law. He and my sister met through an app, but that also didn't fit HIS romantic narrative, so he told people that they were at a Pokémon Go meetup downtown and he literally bumped into her and to apologize he offered to take her out to lunch, he had this whole story made up, and then at the wedding reception people asked my sister how they met and she just totally blanked and went "honey am I allowed to tell the real version or are we telling the Pokémon version still" 🤣🤣 So cat was out of the bag there
ahahah this is amazing!
when Claudia said "you were quite witty and obviously pretty" my brain just went for the "feel pretty and witty and GAY" reference.. and i love how perfectly that fits 😄❤
The lesbian urge to get a joint mortgage 3 months into a relationship hahahahah. That is so insane to me. But I'm so happy that it worked out for you so well! You two are the perfect match!
I know meeting online doesn't seem all that romantic but honestly it was really nice to learn that that's how yall met. I've been hesitant to try a dating app because I think I also have those romantic ideas about meeting someone irl and moving from there. But so far in my life that hasn't really panned out at all. So to hear this really well-established couple talk about how they met online and finding the story just as romantic as any other was kind of inspiring to finally make a dating app profile.
Same!!
I met my partner online and we've been together a good while now! We're not married/engaged (yet) but our relationship hasn't suffered for the fact that we met online
If anything it opens you up to more people you wouldn't normally meet. People get tied up in the how they met, instead of the why.
(Met my ex boyfriend during my uni days in real life. We were togheter 8 years. And met my current girlfriend online. Both amazing people and how we met has no impact on who they are.)
I met my husband online 9 years ago, been together for almost 8 years, married for 2 years and our first baby will be born at the end of July. ❤
I met my husband on a dating app (Bumble). Literally couldn't think of a better match for me, and it's highly unlikely we would have met in real life. Do it!
I first found Jessica as Jessica Kellgren. Wow. It’s been so many years already. ❤❤❤❤❤
You’re a long-time follower! ❤
My dad asked my mother to marry him 4 months after they went on their first date.
They were married for 50 years, 6 months and 18 days.
May you be happily married longer than they were!
My oldest sister recently came out as bisexual but also in the "I'm married to someone already so it's not like it would matter unless they died before I did ideally when I'm 80?" so Claudia being in a similar category has gotten some smiles out of me in these times
I love hearing y’all’s story ❤
polyamory?(not polygamy)
Lol same. Not really a “coming out” moment because I didn’t like, announce it to people, but yeah it’s not really news because I’m happily and monogamously married so not planning on doing anything with that information any time soon.
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Thank you Paige for representing ALL OF US with whatever face you made when you heard that Jessica somehow found and dated someone MORE high-femme than her.
(Also, Grindr and Her give location in exact kilometer distance for reasons other than forming stable long-term relationships. It's so their users can quickly and easily arrange a convenient hook up.)
Your relationship is a beautiful blend of romance and practicality, laughter and seriousness! 100% couple goals!
I paused this video in the middle because it gave me the courage to text the lesbian girl I met last night at the Lindy Hop dance event and ask her if she would like to go out for coffee. Fingers crossed!
I totally understand how Claudia felt. I came out of a bad break-up when I was 20 and finally had this epiphany that I didn't need a boyfriend to make me feel happy and complete - 3 weeks later, I met my now-fiancee and it was a serious relationship pretty much from the start. The truth is, you never know when you're going to meet that person. I know quite a lot of people who dedicated their twenties to career-building and had zero interest in being in a serious relationship (which is totally fine) but then seemed surprised that someone wasn't magically waiting for them the moment they decided they did want to settle down. Unfortunately, falling in love doesn't happen according to a neat schedule. Sometimes, meeting the right person means disrupting your plans and being open to whatever happens.
I might not be the most vocal of your subscribers nor even the sort of person you would expect to be a follower of your channel, but I am still here enjoying your content since the beginning, when you were unmarried and starting out on your adventure in life. I sincerely wish for you, the kind of happiness I've had in my 53 years with my wife. As for passing the one million mark, I guess August 10th 💖
Oh, you two! I'd say "get a room," but you already have an entire house. I hope you will always be this excited to be together.
I remember watching you when I first came out when I was ELEVEN. I'm nineteen now and you two are some of my strongest queer role models. I love you both, happy pride
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Omg I also came out around that age range
I didn’t realize how much I needed this. I’m 26 and have been struggling with the fact I’m not at as far along in life as I feel I should be, and I’m not sure what direction I will go. I’m currently single as well, and it’s a bit hard watching most of my friends get married while I’m simply not ready yet. It’s comforting to hear that Claudia was my age when she met Jessica and a bit older when she decided to change careers because I might still have time to figure those aspects out. Maybe it’s not too late to have or shape a happy future.
My spouse and I were engaged after 4 months of our first in-person meeting, and married another 4 months later. We’re champs at speed running a relationship 😅 Married 10 years now though!
I'm 22 and chronically ill (fellow eds potsie with other things) and i started getting sicker at 19, I felt like I missed the most important years of my life to find my future wife and person or to at least get out there and date. Thank you for this because I am hopeful again about dating and finding my person.
also august 3rd is my 1million guess
Please you’re so young, lots of people don’t meet their life partner till after 40 you’ll be fine
You will find your person, I know you will! There is no timeframe for love!
Happy Pride month to the Kellgren-Fozard family, and this lovely community!
My daughter (19) is a newly-out trans lesbian, and I pray she finds the same kind of joy as you have found together!
❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤💙💗🤍
I would watch the heck out of Claudia tackling home reno projects. Please make this a series!
My husband and I got engaged and moved in together two weeks after starting to date. I totally understand that feeling of quick connection.
My husband and I got engaged after three months of dating. We knew within weeks that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.
My future husband moved in with me even before we started dating. We were friends with benefits, then he proposed to me like 4 months later xD
both of you look MESMERIZING in this video. i love ur relationship storytimes they warm my sapphic heart so much
Same!
Definitely enjoyed hearing the story again, so I understand Rupert's joy in hearing it too. Time flies by so quickly.
The more typical romantic parts of the story are so, so sweet! But the real testament of their love is when Claudia divulges the painting deep dive. Both of their reactions reveal how well they know each other, and it was THE CUTEST.
Thank you both for your content. This is my first pride since coming out as bi, and your channel is one of the influences that helped me accept myself for who I am. It means a lot to me to have a channel like yours that helped me start dreaming about a life with a woman. Happy pride! ♥️💛💚💙💜
Happy first pride!!! ❤
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I love this! I'm bisexual, AFAB and I married a man. I love how this channel shows me what it might have been like if I married a woman. I love women and the love stories between women. This channel gives me that ENERGY! Sometimes I wish I'd married a woman but then I see my husband's sweet face and I know I made the right decision. I can see that between the two of you-- that you know you made a great decision-- and it makes my heart flutter :)
My sister came out to me in January, after meeting a girl online just before Christmas. It's her first lesbian relationship so I've been sending her your videos with advice for coming out to the rest of the family (we're Irish Catholic on one side). I love seeing my sister so happy with her partner - I just hope they don't move quite this fast 😂
I wish they had more dating apps for bi spec people. I'm a pansexual non-binary person and every app I went on says "Are you a man looking for a woman, a woman looking for a man, a man looking for a man, or a woman looking for a woman?" and I'm like "I'm a person looking for a person. Why do I have to choose???"
If anyone knows of any let me know!
Taimi's pretty popular in the trans and non-binary community where I live - might be worth a try? 🙂
If you live in the United States, I highly recommend bumble!
Jessica’s look of disbelief, when Claudia was explaining why she did not want to meet her dog, was so funny!
I got diagnosed with ADHD as a 26 year old! And I'm happily married to a trans woman. Thank you for sharing your experience, I've admired you for years and always appreciate your vulnerability on topics like this. Time blindness, executive dysfunction, and emotional dysregulation are all things I struggle with, and luckily they are all things that I feel a lot better about with a diagnosis. And meds. 😁 Unlearning guilt for how we are is such a freeing thing! Now I can work on myself from a much healthier viewpoint. Thank you for sharing!!
Claudia being so happy (and drunk) she just fell asleep for a hot minute is *_so cute_*
“I just assume everything happening right now is going to go on forever😀” Jessica I’m in this photo and I don’t like it
you two are amazing and sooo cute together! Have been "married" to my wife for 18,5 years back in the day. We separated ten years ago, but are still as close as family. She and I always say that love is never questioned, it was just time to live in a different form. I've subscribed btw. Love from the Netherlands
I ran faster than Link looking for Zelda
Me playing TOTK lol
i love how you added "we're monogamous - very" without any sort of energy of an "obviously, what else" behind it. as a polyamorous person, this is the first time I've seen a monogamous couple, so casually, mention that this is just their choice, not as if it is the only one, but simply that it is theirs. thank you for that
I'm more towards mono but I've been poly too and I also appreciated it a lot!!
Hearing you describe your love story and seeing how fast life can change - going from not even knowing someone to living together in the house you both own with a mortgage and an engagement within like half a year - is very inspiring. I sometimes feel like not much happens in a year and it's just the same old things, but to know that everything could be turned upside down so positively is a really exciting kind of uncertainty.
I loved hearing about your love story! I’m proposing to my girlfriend soon, and even though she constantly says I’m the love of her life, I’m still nervous. Not because I think she’ll say no, but because it’s such a huge deal. I’m also incredibly excited! Wish me luck ❤
Good luck!
@@jennifers5560 Thank you 🥰
@@raquelc.c.4195did you do it?
Honestly love hearing this because I am going to be getting married in a few months after a year of dating my boyfriend. People have so many opinions about how quick we moved in or got together but to be honest we know what we want, we’ve talked about our future thoroughly, and we are just so so happy. It definitely depends on the couple, there’s no timeline. Wishing y’all many more happy years.
i'm always impressed at how well-matchwed you two are, how you balance each other out, its really sweet to see and is imbued with all the ongoing effort of honesty and empathy to sustain the connection
Claud is really glowing here! Seems like the career change is really agreeing with her 😊 I hope to have a love story like yours one day! Happy Pride! 🎉
When Claudia said witty, and pretty, my brain immediately goes to the "I Feel Pretty" song from West Side Story and finishes with "and GAY!!!" Also accurate.
That’s perfect 😄
This is so wonderful and sweet. Oh my goodness.
As a really femme lesbian into vintage and alternative fashion, I started watching your stuff for the historical fashion-y side of things, and I was FLOORED and SO happy when I learned you were a lesbian! I didn't know about your personal life (wife, kid, etc) til this video and ... wow, I've been smiling through the whole thing. I'm disabled as well, so... yeah, you're an all around inspiration to me! And making me feel less silly about thinking my girlfriend of 6 months may be the love of MY life too.
Oh you guys are so sweet! My hubby and I have been together for 35 years and we too met at university 😊 I wish you many happy years together.❤
Happy pride, to the both of you are both so inspirational!!! 💜
Hello how are you today
the chemistry between them is crazy. love you guys happy pride month! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
ikr, they are just so lovelyy ^^
You two are a pure tonic of loveliness ❤
The drawing class story was a complete lie?? It all makes a little more sense now.
You should make as many videos on this topic as you want. I never get tired of hearing this story ❤
Some happy news I'm happy to share with complete strangers on the internet, but I am waiting a little longer to share with people who aren't my 4 best friends. Rainbow Month brings our Rainbow Baby! We got pregnant our 2nd month trying, but they were ectopic. We tried again for a year, and then I took time off to work on my health in non pregnancy safe ways. I refused pills and devices from past issues. I had been taken off of a diet pill because of high blood pressure, and I didn't have an appointment yet for Accutane or Lasik, and it was lucky number 7 anniversary, so we decided to roll the dice as a one off, and let that decide how the next 6-9 months will look. We celebrated our anniversary a couple of weeks later, and I was hoping that my period would wait until Monday so I could enjoy the trip without the wrinkle of managing around it. I had a negative the previous Monday, but this Monday was all positive! Waiting to see the doctor before telling the rest of the family, but probably Father's Day. I ordered a rainbow loading shirt with the customization He or She or They, I will love them anyway! I hope to subtly wear around pride things because I am part of the rainbow, too. At the end of June, they should be gummy bear sized, and I've been wearing my rainbow gummy bear necklace constantly for luck. I was also a rainbow baby.
Congratulations! I hope it goes well
Congrats!!!
i wish you the very best of luck!:) happy pride month🌼
Congratulations, and thank you for sharing your sweet story here!
Big congratulations! 🎉
"Complaining" often being part of love is SUCH a good point. you have to expect a lot from people you love; spend time with, etc., and, you have to expect to give and compromise 😮🎉🎉❤
Jessica.. your enunciation is quite proper, and beautiful.. as always 💙
Thank you for sharing your story
25:40 i recently watched a video that reacted to the “never go to bed on an argument“ one. The message i agreed with was that some conflicts can not be discussed to the end when you are tired and emotionally upset and it's gone on for a long time. At that point, you can no longer think straight (or lesbian ;) ) and you may need a) sleep, b) time, c) space to process what's happening and how you feel about it, and whether your feelings are impulsive or go deeper. You can wake up the next day and set an appointment to keep talking about it after breakfast and coffee. You will very likely be calmer and more constructive then!
I think the idea behind it should be to not go to bed hating each other or withdrawing positive interactions because of the conflict.
You can go to bed without having a solution, and you can go to bed saying “this is frustrating, but i know we will get through it together. I still love you.“
i also have started telling myself and my partner: “i really look forward to when this will be solved“. The future will be okay!
I hadn't looked at this before. You express relatively mid-20s aspirations, and I am so happy for where you were at the time, and where you are now. As a point of reference for me, my queer daughter (married to a man she met at Disney orientation in 2016) and my lesbian daughter (21) are the loves of my life (as is my son, but that isn't relevant to this discussion). We all love Finley's husband, we all like Kerry's current GF, and we're happy for the future in our family.
Lovely story!
I met my boyfriend three years ago. We have happily been together for two and a half years now. We started out as room mates actually. As you do.
Right now we have to do long distance which is not easy, but we manage. I can't wait to live with him again though. He's my best friend. I know I'll marry him one day.
We're taking our time for that. He's 25 and I'm 23. But one day, we'll make it happen.
Already new most of this story after watching for years but listened to it all again because it’s so lovely!
Must say you two really fits each other. Complements each other well
This was so sweet, you two are so great together and clearly love one another. I hope to be as happy in a relationship as you two are in this video.
I watched your videos about your relationship years ago and I'm so happy to listen to your story again 🥰 this time you added more details
It's so cute how your little boy's favorite thing is hearing his mommas' love story. ♥️ Adorable.
So sweet to hear your story again.. This makes me realise how long Ive been following you! Im so happy for you guys 💖🙏
the fact that you met on HER is incredibly sapphic of you
yessss the optimism entering my body when i remember true (lesbian) love exists
Hello! I hope you're both doing well and having a lovely pride month
My parents married just 6 weeks after they first met! Everyone thought that this was crazy and would never work out.
Well, they were married for 40 years before my father passed away and it still seems like a miracle to me.
When you know, you know! Happy Pride everyone 🎉 xx
Aww, I adore you as a couple, you're really an inspiration for how I behave and strive for in a relationship. Lovely to hear the story how it all came to be :)
Wish you all the happiness in the world!
You two are so great! Sweet, supportive and real! The whole world would be better if more couples (heck, if more PEOPLE) were like you! ❤️ Thank you both so much for sharing your life and love with us. 🌍❤️
Claudia is my spirit human! When she describes her enthusiasm for painting tiles 😅 that is so me. I'm the one who is in the stores buying EVERY option for every room. If my partner didn't stop me....we'd have all the parts to build a house IN the house! 😂
What an absolutely beautiful video of love, this had me almost in tears🥰I hope one day I have my own story like this!
You two are relationship goals! 🏳🌈 Thank you for being yourselves, and for sharing!
Love this. You guys describe your first dates etc in just the same rambling, self deprecating way we do. Happy Pride.
This was so sweet to watch! Hearing your whole story told so casually might be my favourite video on this whole channel. Sending you lots of love!
Loved this. :) I moved in with my husband the first night we were together, and he proposed two months later. That was over 30 years ago now. And my ex-girlfriend was the priestess at our wedding/handfasting, so he knew I was bi.
ya’ll are one of my favorite couple’s on youTube ☺️
You two are simply just lovely together 🥰
Happy PRIDE month, Lovelies ❤🎉
It's so great to hear your story! I also met my SO on a dating app and it's been hard for me to leave it at: "we met online" because there are so many beautiful nuances to it that the phrase just doesn't cover.
AWWWWW... I always happy to hear a "how we got together" story and you both are always so lovely to watch together.
You both make me feel so warm and fuzzy, so sweet sharing your story! 🥰😀 I loved it!
As a translesbian, i only hope i someday have such a beautiful marriage
Goodluck 🕊
I know a translesbian who's very happy in a long term relationship with a cis woman. Be encouraged.
I hope you do too. Baruch HaShem you’ll find a perfect person for you!
what's the hang-up exactly? you're opposite-sex attracted then aka heterosexual as any scientific source will prove, hardly illegal to get married anywhere. could go to literally any homophobic country in the world and get hetero married in two seconds, meanwhile most of us lesbians aka female homosexuals (and gay men), actually most same-sex couples can't get married in our respective countries. or have bio children with our partner. or get ivf. or adopt. or even hold our lover's hand in the streets. the only upside is never needing birth control and having this perfect mind-body-soul synergy that opposite-sex couples will never experience. gender-non-conforming straight people may get some odd looks or wrongly assumed to be gay on rare occasions but that's about it. maybe heterosexual people with a gender identity could at least stop co-opting and fetishizing our homophobic oppression and there would be no need for any kind of confrontation considering our identities don't really overlap, neither do our dating pools apart from bi women, and we have completely different struggles in life.
as proven by neurological studies (e.g. one by Manzouri & Savic from 2018) it is clear that homosexual aka same-sex attracted people have distinctly different brain phenotypes from heteros, including those who identify as the opposite gender. therefore female-attracted transwomen have the same brain patterns as hetero males, which are completely different from lesbians. in fact, the myth of "brain sex" was dispelled by such neuro-studies, because it turns out they previously only tested male-attracted aka homosexual transwomen who Do have similar brain patterns to hetero women because of their shared male-attraction not some magical sex-detached mind/body duality "womanhood". when they tested heterosexual transwomen as well, all these similarities to women vanished, giving instead way to similarities with hetero males. therefore sexual orientation is solely based on biological sex, and heterosexual trans people are not notably distinguishable from their non-trans hetero peers. I suppose anyone can identify as however, although I don't really understand obfuscating the scientific reality which is that exclusive same-sex attraction is innate in a way transsexuality hasn't really proven to be and does not align with the latter, remaining connected to birth sex.
I'm a lesbian in my late 20s, still haven't properly dated due to horrible discrimination of same-sex relationships in my country and because very few women are same-sex attracted. I have never dreamt of marriage, even as a girl, since I instinctively knew it was disallowed and illegal for me, and only stopped repressing my sexuality in my mid-20s despite of course never dating males either since I knew that would be abnormal for me. my dating life has been miserable since barely bi women lead lesbians on and fellow lesbians are like a needle in a haystack in a tiny homophobic eastern-european country.
I'm sure that being opposite-sex attracted you haven't experienced any of these issues with your sexuality, considering 95+% of people are hetero-attracted and unlike homosexual people you have grown up in total acceptance of your hetero-attraction, without being actively forced to like males, without being told that lesbian sex is filthy and wrong, or not even real sex, because it never involves a p3nis, or the capacity to breed; without being berated as a depraved vile freak of nature because you don't like males and refuse to date them, without receiving "corrective" r*pe threats from p3rverted lesbian-fetishizing het men who feel entitled to any female person and can't accept your sexuality, thinking they can "turn" you to love d***.
and despite being a conventionally attractive woman compared to models and actresses, a university lecturer, a business owner I have never been loved back by a woman because the reality is that most of them want d***, even if they hit on me first, even when they say I'm perfect and made them realize they didn't want to date men, I will never be enough for them because I'm female like them, because I only have x chromosomes, because they're not truly same-sex attracted, because I don't have a dangling meat pole which won't even provide women with orgasms 80% of the time.
but do I blame women for that? for being opposite-sex attracted and act like a victim? of course not, everyone has an immutable non-fluid sexuality unless they are bi, and everyone has the right to reject anyone romantically or sexually for whichever reason, that is the whole meaning of consent and bodily autonomy. and most importantly, no-one is entitled to romantic love nor sex, no-one. this entitled mindset can lead to r*pe culture and is especially harmful towards women because it's instilled into straight males' minds since early childhood. after all, lesbians aren't entitled predatory conversion "therapist" incels like many misogynistic straight males would be in my position. I can just watch this lovely video of this lovely same-sex couple and be happy for them, if a little envious.
and sure, not conforming gender-wise might narrow the options a little but not as much as what gay people face. I have never struggled with my gender so similarly I can't relate to you either, I just accept that I am female and attracted to the same sex, finding a special most anti-patriarchal beauty in that, although I know that many gay/bi people struggle deeply with not conforming to heterosexist gender norms and have gender dysphoria. also, considering how you identify, you might be bisexual, adopting the new gender theory view of "genderality" instead of sexuality. in that case I'm sure you can find a fellow transwoman just like yourself whom you can completely relate to! the only issue then is finding a country which allows you to marry because obviously then you'd be in a homosexual relationship and gay marriage is illegal in most of the world.
YOU WILL! 💗 You deserve a beautiful wife
Crying because I don't know if I'll ever have such a beautiful love story like this in my life. You two deserve the world. Your love for each other is inspiring to see
My wife and I met online. I tell the story better than she does. That is pretty much all she says, but there are small details that make the story. I love that you give the little details here like the soda and lime, the hearing aid being mistaken for a Bluetooth headset, missing the first kiss cues, passing out on the beach. Sweet little stories❤😍
You two are just the most wholesome couple❤
I find it soooo funny that Claudia wanted to propose to Jessica in the vatican of allll places :D :D
You two are so darn cute. Your journey together is better than any love story ever!
I like to say that my gf and I took u-hauling to another level because we moved in together even before we started dating, which is another way of saying " we met as flatmates and then got together while already living together".
Thank you both for the smile. 😊 I enjoyed this video! I also like how you both relate so well with each other in your relationship. ❤
Moving in after 2 weeks?? Wow, and I thought my boyfriend and I were rushing since we started living together after 6 months, we've been together for 5 years now. We also met online and I also thought nothing would come out of it and then fell over heels on the first date. My best friends got married just a month ago and they were the cutest lesbian couple ever, this is their First pride as wives!
Im not usually so early with a youtuber, but i remember when Jessica hit 10k! And i mainly watched cause of her M.E. videos, and her eloquently she spoke about her conditions. And then realised she was gay, so a whole other reason to watch, their relationship is so heart warming. I'm glad such happiness is present for someone like Jessica!
OH MY GOD, ALMOST A MILLION?! I have been subscribed since right before your wedding happened, I can't believe that it's come this far! So happy for you❤
How you met (through HER) is so cute! That's actually how I met my current bf (we were both a bit lost being transmasc, me nonbinary, him a trans man)
Your story is so sweet.
This cheered me up a lot. I am so happy for you two and for your kiddos, as well as the rest of your loved ones.🥰
🎊 congratulations ladies 🎉😊. LOVE is LOVE!!!
I love the two of you so much!! Thank you for inspiring us baby queers
I love this story.❤ So romantic and cute. Thank you for sharing it in such a delightful manner. 🙏🌺
Omg Rupert’s grown so big! The last time I was watching this channel he was just born… and now he’s marrying his dolls awww 🥹
This is so heartwarming! Hope you both live happily ever after😊❤ And I wouldn't say your proposal was cheesy, it was rather very thoughtful 🥺❤
So I'm what I'm hearing is.... Walter was the ultimate wingdog for Jessica.