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I woke up just feeling so useless and burnt out today. I’m at a point in my life where I feel so uninteresting, lacking hobbies, living by myself, no goal. This is comforting, and feels like a starting point to something new.
Hey, I'm sorry you're having a rough patch. I wanted to say when I feel like I need a Motivational talk to pick me up, I go to Tom Bilyeu or Women Of Impact for top content with many subjects to get me feeling better again. Even if I just read a post of theirs on IG. Also, use the living alone situation to give yourself the space you need to try new things like new exercises, read new books, learn a new hobby etc. You can always change if you set your mind to it. Just take it one step at a time and don't overwhelm yourself with too many things at once. Take a safe walk outside or a hot shower or journal when you feel down to rest your energy. I hope this helped in some way. In health and healing. 💓
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
2:00 ~ slow down and do less🌻 3:00 ~ saying no & building stronger boundaries🌻 3:50 ~ realise the presure and expectations🌻 • 4:51 Questions: ~Why do i have to do that? ~What fuels that need/desire? ~Who am i trying to prove? ~Who am i doing this for? 5:24 ~ heal body and energy🌻 6:23 ~ the healing journey never ends🌻 7:40 ~ THE LESSONS🐥 7:52 ~ RECOGNIZE WHY🐥 11:28 ~ just being🐥 Thats it, i hope it helps somebody
I’ve been a mess ALL April and definitely relate to this video. It’s hard to slow down and force yourself to find peace and live in the moment when you’re so used to putting pressure on yourself to get things done so videos like this are SO helpful 🙏🏽
i had a burn out 6 years ago and have suffered from depression and eating disorders on and off for 10 years. i am still struggling to detach my self worth from my academic success and career. life is hard and we all go through dark times. thank you for this video ❤️
I’m 28 and my first ever memory is my dad insulting me (I won’t say what he said) when I was like 5. For my entire life my dad made me believe I wasn’t good enough UNLESS I did something or became something etc. So now I’m trying to get rid of those beliefs. Exactly what you said in this video. I’m burnt out and it’s been a pattern my entire life.
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today! I just quit my nursing job 2 days ago and I'm feeling guilty but I know this was the right thing for me and my mental health. I was having extreme anxiety, I couldn't take it anymore. Thanks for sharing this!💖
Mia, you made the best choice for you ❤❤. I'm a nurse too and I understand very much how overwhelming the work can be. I don't think anyone from the outside really can understand what we go through in our jobs. Taking care of people is the easy part 😉, a lot of the times it's the environments / systems we have to do it in that's insane. I'm so proud of you for choosing you! Your job will always be able to replace you, but YOU won't be able to replace YOU. 👏🏾
same here. quit my nursing job almost a year ago. since then, the shame and guilt never left me. now anxiety seems to have been my constant buddy. i was and is still being too hard with myself. Thank you for this episode.
@piperj Thanks! Props to you cuz I could NEVER do ER! I'm in NICU & actually ended up staying on as PRN!! Feeling so much better about that decision b/c PRN is giving me the opportunity to continue to learn while also giving me flexibility to take more time off when I need it for my mental health 😊
I loved the point "Self is not really about to do lists and fancy things. It's simpler than all of that". I can feel that. Self care is all about nourishing yourself in way that feels great and it's different for everyone. I have watched tonnes of tiktok emphasising skin care equals to self care but i don't think that's the ONLY truth. It might be more some people but generalized anything is kinda wrong. I read this quote somewhere which i love so much : "Life doesn't give you a manual because you have to create your own one" An advise from my experience is that as long as you do anything for you, it never feels like a burden. Shifting our mindset plays a major role in achieving stuff. Like instead of saying 'I gotta prove im better at academics than xyz' you should think "Lemme gain all of this freakingk stuff and enrich myself with such amazing knowledge" I swear this mindset helps me hella lot in my academics. And not just academics, when you stop caring what others gonna stay, you'll be happier. All of the points you covered are so true and helpful. Thank you so much sista!!💙
My favorite point is that your mind and your light are not the same. I’ve been to the hospital twice in the last five days due to anxiety. This gives me hope that I will get pass through this and let my light show.
sending you more hope & love Patricia ❤❤. Your light WILL shine through, and you are not your emotions, you are not your thoughts. These are your tools, but they are not you, you are more than them. you can make it through!
“The more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be who you truly are” This quote hit home for me and I basically shed a couple of tears watching this video. I definitely hit burnout, but as I feel like my true self was trying to say something to me without even realizing because lately I’ve been having a hard time with productivity, and I feel like I am having an internal battle. Overall, amazing video and Im glad you shared it.😊😊😊
I love the part where you talked about eliminating the self care to-do list. I am guilty of having this! Then, I start to feel anxious about not completing the tasks that I wrote down to make myself feel more at peace!! 🤦🏾♀️
This timing could not be more perfect - this week I realized I've been struggling with burnout for the past two years and have been looking for steps to take to start the recovery process. I'm self-employed full-time so it's really hard to find that balance in life and not spend every minute either working or feeling guilty about not working. Your video made me realize that it's rooted so much deeper than I thought! I'm starting to understand that this recovery process is going to be more than surface-level changes like setting working hours or adding more self-care - it's going to have to be total mindset makeover when it comes to how I view myself and my work. Thanks so much for sharing your journey and insight 🙏
I even got goosebumps when I saw that thumbnail cuz your contents always pop up at the right exact phase I'm going through. The one sentence I take away from this is "the more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be truly you are". Thank you so much, dear Aileen.
This message needs to be louder in the world. I've always harboured an innate knowledge that hustling is not our sole purpose of life, but even knowing that I made self-care a hustle, too, because so much advice is coupled with being 'successful' in self-care. It's very ironic, but understandable because of the constant bombardment of these messages.
Oh my god! For the last couple of days, i've been feeling burnt out after my midterm exams along with family issues and that general anxiety of future. Everything felt more overwhelming than it used to be :,) I was litterally in a place where i couldn't do any work but neither relax properly till today. Today, even though i couldn't got up early as i planned i still got up and started doing something. I havent watched the video yet but i believe it'll help me, truelly. Thank you so much I'm taking this as my sign.
I’ve been on sick leave for severe burn out and depression made worse by a toxic work environment/boss. I really enjoyed this video. Would you be able to do a seperate video on healing and moving on from a toxic work environment? Apologies if you have already done a video on the topic.
To the individual that sees this message, make your self a priority boo! Don't feel overwhelmed about things you can't control. Focus on the things you can control and make time for your SELFCARE. We tend to neglect ourselves and fall victim to burnout because we feel we can do it all. Take a break, get some fresh air, vent to your tribe. Everything will be fine! -@Yoselfcaremama🧡
I love this, I just realized I put too much pressure on myself. It took me nine years to find out because my parents and guardians always called me lazy and ungrateful. I always pushed myself to the final limit and always tried to give 110%. I was always compared with the smartest kids my whole life that made me feel like I’m not enough. I felt like school was a completion and I had to show them they are wrong. I discussed this with my mom but now she is saying I am victimizing myself. You are like my breath of fresh air of the day and I look up to you. I do your meditations everyday. Can the people who are reading this give me advice in the comments?
I don't think you're victimizing yourself, I think you're recognizing that you were acting in response to pressure. Just don't get stuck in that space. Use it to ask yourself who you really are and what you want your life to be. 💜
Yes, i needed this. Im just moved from the Netherlands to the Caribbean and I'm burned out for 1,5 year + bad anxiety. And I'm starting my own clinic and I have the feeling that I can't handle it, but I'm so far already... Its so difficult to find a balance. But seeing your videos is calming me down. you are so good in explaining things, that it is so recognizable. And your a big inspiration for so many people. Your a true blessing 💗
you can do it Manon ❤, just wanted to say that! I'm sure it's so hard, but remember that when we try things we've never done before (and you in a new environment at that), hard is expected - it's not a sign that you're not good enough to do it, just a sign you're doing something you have never tried before ☺. Oh, & don't look at any re-direction you take as a failure, it's not! We sometimes pivot, and hit speed bumps, and pot holes - all of that, but it's not a sign that you failed, no Manon, it's just a sign that you're actually moving (and that's a great thing!).
@@BoldlyFlourish thank you so much. you've made me cry with your kind words. Yes its really hard sometimes, but your right, its just experiencing new things are scary, but also a sign that I can get out of my comfort zone and after I can be proud of myself. Thanks again for your motivation. Thats means a lot ❤
@@manonmeijer9931 i know sometimes it feels hard ❤❤! and that's why we need reminders like this. reminders that the hard feelings aren't because we are inadequate, but because we are brave and strong enough to attempt something new & different. you are 100% right, you can def be proud of yourself!
Thank you so much for this reminder. Been hustling for 2 weeks and I'm aware that I'm slowly feeling burnt out. I know that I should not consider "rest" as a reward. What I need to do is really incorporate this in my life.
My husband and I bought a fixer upper as a first house so we've been living in a half renovated house, boxes still packed while we live and work and work on the house. It's been so much feeling like we haven't made enough progress but I remember we still have so much on our plate and we are just spinning our wheels into the mud. So we are finding gratitude for the small projects and the things that are done or do work. Working outside on the yard and feeling like you are tending to your environment. I need to set up a yoga space because I have no place to lay out and move
very timely :,)) thank you so much for speaking these words, am and have been in a burnout since a year ago and i really do agree that healing is a constant process! journaling (ie the whys etc) has changed my life and i love that you mentioned self-care is not checking off a to-do list! thank u and for all those reading, may you find your love and light in yourself
The point I liked the most was certainly the one with the yin an yang energy levels and balance. I've always been on the Yang side, masculine productive energy, a hich achiever.But i burned out, and loong loong talking sessions with my husband doing just getting deep inside me layer after, I realized I still had some terrorizing memory of my dad, or teacher hitting me for not having the best grade or some minuscule academic mistakes. I grew up like a machine and was the one in the familly that always bring up the good results...Now I do things for myself, I droped out of medschool and started my creative journey (starting a career in UI/UX design and spend hours drawing, which my father always tackled as being "useless") And yeah, it's an eternal healing process but my husband helps a lot, and we explore our pasts regularly, layer after layer. And it actually feels good. Thanks for this video as everything you said aligns perfectly with my life right now. Now i "breath" and "live" 😊🥰
I really needed to hear this 🥺 Being a new business owner is really hard! The fear of failure was hunting me very, very badly! I started to compare myself to other business owners who was more successful than I was!!! It was just overwhelming!!! On top of that, I’m a mom and a wife!!! I had to pretend I was okay and perform my everyday duties. I’m blessed to say I’ve gotten so much better at balancing everything!! Still improving daily, but I’m not where I use to be!! Love, Peace and blessings to you all!! All is well!!! We are going to be alright 🥰
love to witness your self-care/relaxation glow up as I definitely went a similar way as I closed out my 20's of overachieving. I really liked the point about not listing off your self-care "accomplishments" and remembering it's about listening to yourself and what you need, not "doing self-care" just to say you did self-care.
This is the talk I need so much! I burned out from the work several weeks ago and I realized that I don't want to fall into this repeated cycle again anymore! I have been always hiding my true though and be harmonious with the whole team to achieve the work goal. However, that totally took toll on my personal health (physical and mental). Recently I am watching "My Liberation Notes" on Netflix and it speaks to my heart! I try to make small "progress" (even it is just a talk with my colleague saying what bothers right now) and it starts to change my life! I tie my self worth with work performance too much. My personal life is blank! "Who am I if I am not working?" And I couldn't think of me as what kind of person! how pathetic! A good talk reminding me to start to be my authentic self!
Been healing for a year because my mom passed away and just graduated for my master degree, but I still don’t know what should I do with my life. I have goals, still pursue it until now, hard to achieve it. Sometimes I feel left behind and unworthy. Thanks Aileen, as you said just being existing is enough. And I promise to treat my self more gentle than before.
I am exactly in the same situation. But you know I concluded that no one knows what to do with her/his life, just live the life, there is no need to rush. That simple.
As I have said, this is truly the year of realigning with the power of boundaries.✨ Boundaries truly liberate us, even from aspects of ourselves that are no longer serving us. Thank you for this video honestly, I have been reassessing all aspects of my life's foundation exchanging productivity for time with the soul. The detatchment from anxiety is definitely a practice, thank you for voicing this 💜❤💜
Thank you so much, I'm really struggling as an unpaid creator - I'm working so hard and it has been getting the better of me, this video has helped xxx
I feel like when you mentioned the part about realizing that a lot of our expectations come mainly from parents and upbringings. That really struck a cord with me cause that’s been my experience and I’ve learned that what I’m doing now is actually good enough. Sometimes we just need to honor how we feel and care about ourselves enough to know and understand when we’re tired and not in the mood and be real with ourselves instead of trying to cover it up and move forward like nothing is really effecting us
I'm so grateful that I decided to watch this video today instead of rushing , doing homeworks , projects ... We really need a break from this like we're literally rushing but we're actually rushing nowhere but death ... It literally hit me hard when you said that there's actually no rules in this earth , the way we livin' ... Society created this and we have life and we have choice to do what we want ... Thank you so much for this advice and you're voice is just claming and charming as always 🥺💗💕💝💓 I love it
I’m on my journey. I have 2 weeks til I move across country and start working a little less so I can recovery too. I think so many of us are experiencing this.
You are an absolute gift from the Universe to all of us. I need this, so bad. So grateful for you Aileen. I wish you good health, joy, love success and more. Please accept this BIG virtual hug from me. May God bless you 🙏❤️
I definitely needed this. I had a breakdown last night because I was just doing so much. Just hearing you say that I really need to ask myself why is something I want to work on today before I get started on my day. Thank you for this talk.
I took about 2 months off after working at a convention company due to burn out and it was amazing time off for me. It made me though how myself is important as anyone else. Finally found a company that I enjoy working with great people who just enjoy working and having a work life balance.
Asking Why do I have to do that. And What am I trying to prove . Ive been on this treadmill forever and fear seems to be the motivator.nThe pandemic really through my plans out of wack and Im off on a tangent, working at a job where I feel trapped and held back.
This winter I had the opportunity to slow down and take time to work on myself and to heal from burnout and now that life has gone back to my regular fast pace way it's been difficult to adjust. This video really helped me rethink my situation thankyou.
Maam Aileen, I just want you to know that you're one of my inspiration why I overcome stress and old traumas.. Your videos push me to become the best version of my self
It’s really hard to not let the world get into your head and make you think to become something you never really wanted to be in the first place. I’ve been tying my self worth to success, and comparing myself to everyone else around me, feeling like my life didn’t matter. It’s a feeling that’s so ingrained and I’m trying to let go of it. This video was what I needed to hear, a lot of times it seems like I am alone in this feeling. I think we as human beings have lost sight of our roots, what we truly are. We need to reconnect with nature, each other, and ourselves on a deeper, more sincere level.
I've learned that forcing myself to be productive doesn't work for me. I don't write down to-do list anymore because if I don't get all or some of the things done on that list, I feel disappointed in myself. So, now I just keep in mind what I need to do, and do it whenever I feel like it (or when I have no choice). It's like planning my workouts. I plan each one THAT day based on how I feel, which muscles are still sore, and if I just feel like I need to do a stretching/yoga routine. Also when I habit track, I do it now to monitor my patterns, instead of having a specific goal/total to reach. My system so far is to gauge how I'm feeling and work from there. It's been working out 😅 I am more "This needs to be consistent!" on the important habits though, like dental hygiene and water intake.
Revisiting your channel after having found you from your video on Boundaries. It’s beautiful and so inspiring to see how much you’ve clearly attuned to yourself - I can see such a difference in your energy and communication. There’s such a strength and genuine feel to how you’re expressing. I’m just beginning my journey in understanding all the nuance you touch on here, and I’m so grateful to see you making such authentic and powerfully vulnerable content! This has so much value, and so do you! ✨💜✨🦋
When universe guides you to TH-cam and this video is the first thing you see. Thank you so much for providing this content today and voicing the words I want to express. My jumbled up brain washed mind couldn’t process that I can live a slow life for just me and to stop seeking validation from others.
It reminded me how overbooked I´ve become. Between full time job, hunt for follow-up job, art classes, reading, book clubs, bouldering and weekly meetings with a partner there is rarely enough energy left to clean my tiny flat or doing more of the much needed bouldering. This video has reminded me of my FOMO and it kinda resonate with me on many aspects like the detachment of self-worth from productivity as well as childhood trauma. It fits well with a book I´m reading about priorization and I´m kinda gratefull that a few of my commitments will end within the next week to give me more energy to breath and doing shadow work.
My favorite point from this video was when you talked about seeing self care through this achievement filter too, it’s something I’ve been doing and I don’t want to, I want that to change
Thank you Aileen for this video, I've been going through burnout myself and today I feel so much better, hope all people can heal and let go that's the most beautiful thing to do let's let our soul be happy !
I think my favorite part of this is about not measuring your self worth over your productivity and also learning to let go. As someone who is afraid of making mistakes and losing control, I realized how freeing it is to let go of the burdens and negativity that I've let myself consume.
I wanted to say that I’ve been following you on this and another account for a really long time-back in the days when you had about 10k subs. You got me into Konmari, and I kid you not, even though she was popular back then, I really think that so many people have gotten into Konmari because of your earlier videos. I really feel like you were a huge part in boosting her career. It’s been such a treat and a journey seeing how much your channel has grown over the years, and you’ve helped changed my mindset in a positive direction as I grew older. Please remember to take care of yourself, and stay safe. Other than that, I’m just a proud stranger!
I feel like I’ve grown with you as I’ve watched your channel over the years. It’s so nice to feel like I’m not going through phases in life alone. I’ve definitely noticed you appear more carefree and lighter in your videos recently! (Even though I’ve always loved your vids). Thank you for inspiring us and keep doing the good work 💪🏻💪🏻
Fav point of the video is the self-care! Its about tuning into your intuition and not about do-this do-that. So true and authenticcc!! 💗✨. I really love lavendaire!!! ☺
this was wonderful. i’ve always felt terrible about myself because i wasn’t doing anything productive or contributing to something larger, and just sitting at home. i was very suicidal because i didn’t feel like i had a purpose, but Im happy when i’m playing video games and drawing, watching my favourite movies. then i feel bad because i feel like i’m wasting my life? like i should be going out and doing something like other people. I just want to enjoy my life my own way. I don’t need to be famous or popular to be happy. i know i like being able to just be at home and do my own thing. i feel so much pressure to be more when i dont need to be.
Thanks for putting this out there. Embracing the beauty of "being" is something we all overlook because it is considered to be unproductive. Grateful that there are creators who are authentic enough to address this. 🙏
Thank you for this video🧘♀️💗 It’s really a healing journey. I had something similar 4 years ago. I’m not sure if it was burnout but I was really close to it. I also went to therapy and that was helping me so much. Although I was really feeling so empty and broken inside and just didn’t understand why (after the therapy it started to get clearer and clearer). Since then I’m taking much better care of myself. That’s why I also quit my latest job because I just felt, that I’m giving way too much energy and passion into it, what is actually good, but I can overdo it easily, especially if I don’t have a private life (like partner or family who I’m living with). So it’s really important, listening to ourselves and observing our feelings as well🧡💜🤍💐
Thank you for this! This is exactly what I did last month. I took a rest for a month because I felt like I couldn't breathe and it felt everything was exhausting, and overwhelming. Now, I have the energy to do the things I did before. And you're right, our healing goes on, there's no stop, and all we need to do is to not give up even if we fail.
I don’t even know how to express my gratitude for finding your page and receiving this guidance. Thank you from the deepest part of my heart. Sincerely, recovering over-achieving people pleaser!
This video came at exactly the right time in my life. Even today, I was hard on myself because I hadn't finished the dishes, folded the laundry, or took the kids to the park. I felt like I hadn't succeeded today. However, I have depression and today I woke up at 4am. I need to cut myself some slack and not judge myself by what I accomplish but rather how I listen to myself and my body.
It was so relaxing and informative. I can really tell you read a lot. Thank you for sharing with us. We all need to be more gentle to each other. I really think it's not about "me vs others" or "winner or looser".
really resonated with understanding the yin qualities. allowing the experience in a way that does not need to be "yangified". that is really hard at the beginning. learning to detach from the "push" or "pull" is a difficult lesson
This was a beautiful, raw and honest video! It’s so important and yet so difficult to find that balance between what we feel called to do and share with the world and what we are physically able to at any particular moment. Because we change and sometimes the way we were operating even a month ago can be unrealistic for us at the moment. The important thing is to not feel guilty about it… to be kind to ourselves ✨
Thank you for sharing. I am also healing from burnout from work and personal trauma. There is value in being productive, but there is also value in being still. It is so important to pause and reflect amidst all the busy-ness.
I've been going through the same path, healing energetically, getting in tune with my body and heart, shadow work. It is really hard sometimes, but totally worth it. And as soon as we get a deeper connection with ourselves it becomes joyful to do healing, indeed. Because no matter how hard it is, everything becomes lighter, brighter and happier afterwards. Sending lots of love! 💖💖💖
i really love how you explained self-care, about how it’s the balance between yin and yang energy and not about the hustle culture. i never knew that when people were talking about the authentic self that it was when a person isn’t being driven by external forces, and just about letting go. i really don’t think i’ve ever understood it like the way you have said it until now. and i want to start learning more about spirituality and this gives me a bit of a push towards that ❤️
Wow, I really needed to find this today. I push myself to the point of exhaustion and I feel like I'm not doing enough if I'm not doing something to better myself at all times. Thank you for sharing this!
Ohh thank you so much! The part where you say that there are no rules of how we are supposed to live our lives made me cry. I will rewatch the video again and write down some of the lessons you have learnt as I feel deep down I know these things but when I live my own life and try to get things done… I get overwhelmed and forget what the important part is. Namely how I feel and that I am not a robot. I am here to feel good, to feel myself and to overcome my fears… to be a better version of my past self. And this is not through getting a better job, be super successful and constantly posting on Instagram how productive I am. For me it should be about looking inside and work on myself, on my energy… Then all the other small things that bother me now will come to place. Sorry for the long comment. I just felt really inspired. I am in some kind of burnout right now and I’ve been so harsh on myself for not being able to cope with my work and “responsibilities” like the others… which is so wrong. I am glad that you’re giving such beautiful advices. Thank you! 🍀
This really made me cry and happy at the same time. The daily rush of life is truly unnecessary for me but i cant really help but to be a part of it. Even though I'm still trying my best to heal myself through therapy.
I think thats the exact reason why people who choose to live differently than the mass in the beginning almost always have to go through an identity crisis. For example stay at home mothers or nomads etc. Your soul tells you that a is right for you but society and the big mass tell you that b is the only right way so even tho you feel that what everyone else is doing isn't right for you, you still feel bad for not doing it and have to go through tough times until you persuade yourself that your own opinion isn't less worthy.. I myself struggle so much with associating my worth with my productivity and achieving things that are nothing to me but are big in the eyes of society. For example I quit university because I hated it & instead of being happy for doing what felt right for me I got stuck in life and felt ashamed afterwards. This video definitely helps to get some clarity and put things into perspective.
Thank you for this video, Aileen! I am working on myself and learning to be kind to myself when I am not able to do everything I would like to do in a day, and prioritize myself more :) Went for a long walk and it was refreshing today :)
Your videos and your journey have helped me so much over the past few years I can’t even explain it. Thank you for leading by example, Aileen. ☺️❤️ I am learning more of these lessons every day. What I’ve tried to focus on is making efficient systems for the things I “need” to do for work (but still enjoy doing) so I can keep things moving without so much of the mental stress of remembering what to do… gives me more free time to just be… I’m constantly evaluating my process but it’s improved so much. 😊
You allways appear like a true voice to show me the path, it was exactly what I was thinking, like, it's ok to do nothing, it's necessary to left things that society have put into our minds, we are just existing beings and our duty is just to live aesthetically, in the present...
This video really sparked some thoughts. Today is my first sick day due to burnout. And I think this video has really got me thinking abiut why do I push myself so hard and where does that come from. The comments about the culture we learnt in school and attaching our self worth to achievement really resonated. Today is step one for me and I feel like this video has really helped me to gently start framing my recovery journey. Ty xxxxx
I agree....we are not machines! And that's why "the machines" are taking a lot of jobs. But this grind culture is toxic, and I try to prioritize relax time. I tend to find myself feeling guilty but I know it's for my best good
Thank you for this video, I have also been feeling burned out as well and with finals coming up this will help remind me no matter what it’s important to listen to my body and mind.
This is a life starter. My mom just died, last Nov.and life has been dead for me. Like I am afloat in a crowded place I feel I dont belong. I continue to function, work, attend church etc. and move forward but i relate to this to ease my pain is to do more, work more, serve more etc. But it was really hard. I was thinking I am not healthy, I cant be this and that. I did not realize that not doing or freeing myself up and letting go is also self love. I thought it was self destruct. Exercise has been hard for me and I cant be consistent, but I will try again. Thank you for this.
this message was beautiful ❤ I strive to let go, free myself from everything that no longer serves me and know that I am incredible by simply existing too :)
Copying this from someone else 2:00 ~ slow down and do less🌻 3:00 ~ saying no & building stronger boundaries🌻 3:50 ~ realise the presure and expectations🌻 • 4:51 Questions: ~Why do i have to do that? ~What fuels that need/desire? ~Who am i trying to prove? ~Who am i doing this for? 5:24 ~ heal body and energy🌻 6:23 ~ the healing journey never ends🌻 7:40 ~ THE LESSONS🐥 7:52 ~ RECOGNIZE WHY🐥 11:28 ~ just being🐥 Thats it, i hope it helps somebody
Thank you for this video; I love it so much! I will definitely be going back to it when I need the reminder to slow down and listen to my light. I have been dealing with burnout for awhile now. It's a bit of a story, but it's my journey with discovering how I was stuck in a cycle of burning myself out, and maybe someone else can relate: Straight from graduating undergrad, I went to teaching and taught for 3 years. I always pushed myself too hard, and I knew I didn't want to do it anymore. I was searching for a new job, but I convinced myself to try to teach one more year. I should have listened to myself and ended on a good note instead. I ended up getting COVID within the first week of the new year, and that broke me, and I couldn't go back after that. The stress was too overwhelming. I went on medical leave and just felt like a failure for running away. I really struggled with my mental health for months. I went back to school for my master's and then desperately ran to a new job--any job that would take me--and I finally got hired and thought everything would be fixed. Only, I started doing the same thing again there. I put my all and more into everyday. I ran around willingly putting more and more work onto myself because I wanted to prove to myself and to my new boss that I could do it. I fell heavy into those old habits that burnt me out to begin with, and then, of course, the same thing happened--I burnt out, and I found myself struggling yet again to find the motivation to do anything. I felt like a failure yet again because I was doing the bare minimum instead of pushing myself to do 110%, like what I was used to doing. Now, I've been given a new opportunity once more, and I'm going to be starting a new position in a week that's within the field I'm currently going to school for, and this position is a huge game changer in regard to fulfilling something I'm actually passionate about (btw I watched so many of your meditations and affirmation videos to mentally prepare myself for the interviewing process for this job, so thank you!). But I have a fear that I'm going to repeat old habits and push myself too hard and then get burnt out again and ruin this opportunity. I'm also scared that of I DON'T show them 110% from the start, that I will also lose the opportunity. I realize as I'm writing this that I've already been doing too much even with the onboarding process because I want to show them how eager I am. My goal is to start this new job and do what they ask me and what is expected of me, and to not put the pressure on myself to do so much more. I can do my job and do it well without abusing myself. That is the ULTIMATE goal, but I'm still trying to figure out that balance for myself. I think part of my issue is being overly structured and including all my self care steps into my weekly check list, like you mentioned. The structure is necessary to some degree otherwise I let things build up and get overwhelmed, but I think it's just as important to give myself the space to pause and reflect on what my light needs, without the rigid structure. I absolutely love what you said about the separation of my mind and my light, and now that I can see that, I will take the time to take care of my light more! I'm going to take it a day at a time and be kind to myself. Thank you again ❤
Dear Alieen, I've been following you for nearly 5 years now. I can see you much happier and calmer. Watching your videos made me reaaly where all my pressure and high expectations stem from. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this topic. Best wishes to you and have a good day
Hi Aileen 💫 I have been watching all your videos from 7 long years but this one is the best one so far! I can sense you have evolved and healed a lot along your journey, it is truly getting reflected from your personality! I love it. I can totally relate to all the heavy things you talked about, I mostly suffer with managing expectations which I have on myself! I clearly don’t know how to heal 🥺 Could you share with us how to start a healing journey and resources that helped you though! Lots of ❤️, Barshana
Hey I am 18 and have just moved into a hostel in different city( in a college) Basically life is moving so fast and i have always had this inherent anxiety that i have to communicate with the people i love daily cause anybody could die anytime I have a lot on my platter so even tho i call my family daily Sometimes i yell at them for their incessant calling and then feel extremely guilty and call them again My thoughts are entirely consumed by how ungrateful i am and how bad of granddaughter, daughter, etc. I have been to the point where it's all i can think lately But after listening to what u have said i have realized that i can not control what people think of me and i shouldn't suppose bad things are just waiting to happen I can let go And just get a cup of coffee and start with my work with no uncessarry thoughts and maybe just give myself a day off from thinking and then i will be able to turn off this anxiety
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I woke up just feeling so useless and burnt out today. I’m at a point in my life where I feel so uninteresting, lacking hobbies, living by myself, no goal. This is comforting, and feels like a starting point to something new.
Hey, I'm sorry you're having a rough patch. I wanted to say when I feel like I need a Motivational talk to pick me up, I go to Tom Bilyeu or Women Of Impact for top content with many subjects to get me feeling better again. Even if I just read a post of theirs on IG. Also, use the living alone situation to give yourself the space you need to try new things like new exercises, read new books, learn a new hobby etc. You can always change if you set your mind to it. Just take it one step at a time and don't overwhelm yourself with too many things at once. Take a safe walk outside or a hot shower or journal when you feel down to rest your energy. I hope this helped in some way. In health and healing. 💓
I feel the same way!
Yeah I feel the same. Not only that but I also have to manage my relationship!!!
i agree! :)
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
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🥺you too!
What a lovely wish! Thank you, the same to you!
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I was having a breakdown an hour ago because of burn out and i literally felt likee this video was for mee thankuu so much like genuinely ❤️
Wow I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you continue to feel better 🥺
@@khalilahd. thnkuuu
wishing you fast recovery and know that you are not alone!
I know how you feel. Happy you’re doing better, my friend ❤️
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2:00 ~ slow down and do less🌻
3:00 ~ saying no & building stronger boundaries🌻
3:50 ~ realise the presure and expectations🌻
• 4:51 Questions:
~Why do i have to do that?
~What fuels that need/desire?
~Who am i trying to prove?
~Who am i doing this for?
5:24 ~ heal body and energy🌻
6:23 ~ the healing journey never ends🌻
7:40 ~ THE LESSONS🐥
7:52 ~ RECOGNIZE WHY🐥
11:28 ~ just being🐥
Thats it, i hope it helps somebody
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thankyou. this was super helpful!
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I’ve been a mess ALL April and definitely relate to this video. It’s hard to slow down and force yourself to find peace and live in the moment when you’re so used to putting pressure on yourself to get things done so videos like this are SO helpful 🙏🏽
Khalilah gurl I see you everywhere lol we must have the same algorithm 🧍🏻♀️
How come we watch exactly the same videos? I see you everywhere🥺
i had a burn out 6 years ago and have suffered from depression and eating disorders on and off for 10 years. i am still struggling to detach my self worth from my academic success and career. life is hard and we all go through dark times. thank you for this video ❤️
I’m 28 and my first ever memory is my dad insulting me (I won’t say what he said) when I was like 5. For my entire life my dad made me believe I wasn’t good enough UNLESS I did something or became something etc. So now I’m trying to get rid of those beliefs. Exactly what you said in this video. I’m burnt out and it’s been a pattern my entire life.
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today! I just quit my nursing job 2 days ago and I'm feeling guilty but I know this was the right thing for me and my mental health. I was having extreme anxiety, I couldn't take it anymore. Thanks for sharing this!💖
Mia, you made the best choice for you ❤❤. I'm a nurse too and I understand very much how overwhelming the work can be. I don't think anyone from the outside really can understand what we go through in our jobs. Taking care of people is the easy part 😉, a lot of the times it's the environments / systems we have to do it in that's insane. I'm so proud of you for choosing you! Your job will always be able to replace you, but YOU won't be able to replace YOU. 👏🏾
proud of u 💕
same here. quit my nursing job almost a year ago. since then, the shame and guilt never left me. now anxiety seems to have been my constant buddy. i was and is still being too hard with myself. Thank you for this episode.
@piperj Thanks! Props to you cuz I could NEVER do ER! I'm in NICU & actually ended up staying on as PRN!! Feeling so much better about that decision b/c PRN is giving me the opportunity to continue to learn while also giving me flexibility to take more time off when I need it for my mental health 😊
I loved the point "Self is not really about to do lists and fancy things. It's simpler than all of that". I can feel that. Self care is all about nourishing yourself in way that feels great and it's different for everyone. I have watched tonnes of tiktok emphasising skin care equals to self care but i don't think that's the ONLY truth. It might be more some people but generalized anything is kinda wrong.
I read this quote somewhere which i love so much : "Life doesn't give you a manual because you have to create your own one"
An advise from my experience is that as long as you do anything for you, it never feels like a burden. Shifting our mindset plays a major role in achieving stuff. Like instead of saying 'I gotta prove im better at academics than xyz' you should think "Lemme gain all of this freakingk stuff and enrich myself with such amazing knowledge" I swear this mindset helps me hella lot in my academics. And not just academics, when you stop caring what others gonna stay, you'll be happier.
All of the points you covered are so true and helpful. Thank you so much sista!!💙
This is exactly what I needed today❤️ Thank you Aileen🥰
And u should be thanked for this beautiful advice ❤
My favorite point is that your mind and your light are not the same. I’ve been to the hospital twice in the last five days due to anxiety. This gives me hope that I will get pass through this and let my light show.
sending you more hope & love Patricia ❤❤. Your light WILL shine through, and you are not your emotions, you are not your thoughts. These are your tools, but they are not you, you are more than them. you can make it through!
“The more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be who you truly are” This quote hit home for me and I basically shed a couple of tears watching this video. I definitely hit burnout, but as I feel like my true self was trying to say something to me without even realizing because lately I’ve been having a hard time with productivity, and I feel like I am having an internal battle. Overall, amazing video and Im glad you shared it.😊😊😊
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I love the part where you talked about eliminating the self care to-do list. I am guilty of having this! Then, I start to feel anxious about not completing the tasks that I wrote down to make myself feel more at peace!! 🤦🏾♀️
This timing could not be more perfect - this week I realized I've been struggling with burnout for the past two years and have been looking for steps to take to start the recovery process. I'm self-employed full-time so it's really hard to find that balance in life and not spend every minute either working or feeling guilty about not working. Your video made me realize that it's rooted so much deeper than I thought! I'm starting to understand that this recovery process is going to be more than surface-level changes like setting working hours or adding more self-care - it's going to have to be total mindset makeover when it comes to how I view myself and my work. Thanks so much for sharing your journey and insight 🙏
I even got goosebumps when I saw that thumbnail cuz your contents always pop up at the right exact phase I'm going through. The one sentence I take away from this is "the more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be truly you are". Thank you so much, dear Aileen.
This message needs to be louder in the world. I've always harboured an innate knowledge that hustling is not our sole purpose of life, but even knowing that I made self-care a hustle, too, because so much advice is coupled with being 'successful' in self-care. It's very ironic, but understandable because of the constant bombardment of these messages.
exactly!
Oh my god! For the last couple of days, i've been feeling burnt out after my midterm exams along with family issues and that general anxiety of future. Everything felt more overwhelming than it used to be :,) I was litterally in a place where i couldn't do any work but neither relax properly till today. Today, even though i couldn't got up early as i planned i still got up and started doing something. I havent watched the video yet but i believe it'll help me, truelly. Thank you so much I'm taking this as my sign.
this is literaly me oml :')
I’ve been on sick leave for severe burn out and depression made worse by a toxic work environment/boss. I really enjoyed this video. Would you be able to do a seperate video on healing and moving on from a toxic work environment? Apologies if you have already done a video on the topic.
To the individual that sees this message, make your self a priority boo! Don't feel overwhelmed about things you can't control. Focus on the things you can control and make time for your SELFCARE. We tend to neglect ourselves and fall victim to burnout because we feel we can do it all. Take a break, get some fresh air, vent to your tribe. Everything will be fine! -@Yoselfcaremama🧡
I love this, I just realized I put too much pressure on myself. It took me nine years to find out because my parents and guardians always called me lazy and ungrateful. I always pushed myself to the final limit and always tried to give 110%. I was always compared with the smartest kids my whole life that made me feel like I’m not enough. I felt like school was a completion and I had to show them they are wrong. I discussed this with my mom but now she is saying I am victimizing myself. You are like my breath of fresh air of the day and I look up to you. I do your meditations everyday. Can the people who are reading this give me advice in the comments?
Just remember that you are amazing and beautiful. Never give up on yourself.
I don't think you're victimizing yourself, I think you're recognizing that you were acting in response to pressure. Just don't get stuck in that space. Use it to ask yourself who you really are and what you want your life to be.
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Yes, i needed this. Im just moved from the Netherlands to the Caribbean and I'm burned out for 1,5 year + bad anxiety. And I'm starting my own clinic and I have the feeling that I can't handle it, but I'm so far already... Its so difficult to find a balance. But seeing your videos is calming me down. you are so good in explaining things, that it is so recognizable. And your a big inspiration for so many people. Your a true blessing 💗
you can do it Manon ❤, just wanted to say that! I'm sure it's so hard, but remember that when we try things we've never done before (and you in a new environment at that), hard is expected - it's not a sign that you're not good enough to do it, just a sign you're doing something you have never tried before ☺. Oh, & don't look at any re-direction you take as a failure, it's not! We sometimes pivot, and hit speed bumps, and pot holes - all of that, but it's not a sign that you failed, no Manon, it's just a sign that you're actually moving (and that's a great thing!).
@@BoldlyFlourish thank you so much. you've made me cry with your kind words. Yes its really hard sometimes, but your right, its just experiencing new things are scary, but also a sign that I can get out of my comfort zone and after I can be proud of myself. Thanks again for your motivation. Thats means a lot ❤
@@manonmeijer9931 i know sometimes it feels hard ❤❤! and that's why we need reminders like this. reminders that the hard feelings aren't because we are inadequate, but because we are brave and strong enough to attempt something new & different. you are 100% right, you can def be proud of yourself!
Thank you so much for this reminder. Been hustling for 2 weeks and I'm aware that I'm slowly feeling burnt out.
I know that I should not consider "rest" as a reward. What I need to do is really incorporate this in my life.
exactly 💕
My husband and I bought a fixer upper as a first house so we've been living in a half renovated house, boxes still packed while we live and work and work on the house. It's been so much feeling like we haven't made enough progress but I remember we still have so much on our plate and we are just spinning our wheels into the mud. So we are finding gratitude for the small projects and the things that are done or do work. Working outside on the yard and feeling like you are tending to your environment. I need to set up a yoga space because I have no place to lay out and move
very timely :,)) thank you so much for speaking these words, am and have been in a burnout since a year ago and i really do agree that healing is a constant process! journaling (ie the whys etc) has changed my life and i love that you mentioned self-care is not checking off a to-do list! thank u and for all those reading, may you find your love and light in yourself
such kind words, and so true, i’m happy you’re feeling better sierra☺️
The point I liked the most was certainly the one with the yin an yang energy levels and balance.
I've always been on the Yang side, masculine productive energy, a hich achiever.But i burned out, and loong loong talking sessions with my husband doing just getting deep inside me layer after, I realized I still had some terrorizing memory of my dad, or teacher hitting me for not having the best grade or some minuscule academic mistakes.
I grew up like a machine and was the one in the familly that always bring up the good results...Now
I do things for myself, I droped out of medschool and started my creative journey (starting a career in UI/UX design and spend hours drawing, which my father always tackled as being "useless")
And yeah, it's an eternal healing process but my husband helps a lot, and we explore our pasts regularly, layer after layer.
And it actually feels good. Thanks for this video as everything you said aligns perfectly with my life right now.
Now i "breath" and "live" 😊🥰
I really needed to hear this 🥺
Being a new business owner is really hard! The fear of failure was hunting me very, very badly! I started to compare myself to other business owners who was more successful than I was!!! It was just overwhelming!!! On top of that, I’m a mom and a wife!!! I had to pretend I was okay and perform my everyday duties. I’m blessed to say I’ve gotten so much better at balancing everything!! Still improving daily, but I’m not where I use to be!! Love, Peace and blessings to you all!! All is well!!! We are going to be alright 🥰
love to witness your self-care/relaxation glow up as I definitely went a similar way as I closed out my 20's of overachieving. I really liked the point about not listing off your self-care "accomplishments" and remembering it's about listening to yourself and what you need, not "doing self-care" just to say you did self-care.
This is the talk I need so much! I burned out from the work several weeks ago and I realized that I don't want to fall into this repeated cycle again anymore! I have been always hiding my true though and be harmonious with the whole team to achieve the work goal. However, that totally took toll on my personal health (physical and mental).
Recently I am watching "My Liberation Notes" on Netflix and it speaks to my heart! I try to make small "progress" (even it is just a talk with my colleague saying what bothers right now) and it starts to change my life! I tie my self worth with work performance too much. My personal life is blank! "Who am I if I am not working?" And I couldn't think of me as what kind of person! how pathetic!
A good talk reminding me to start to be my authentic self!
Been healing for a year because my mom passed away and just graduated for my master degree, but I still don’t know what should I do with my life. I have goals, still pursue it until now, hard to achieve it. Sometimes I feel left behind and unworthy. Thanks Aileen, as you said just being existing is enough. And I promise to treat my self more gentle than before.
I am exactly in the same situation. But you know I concluded that no one knows what to do with her/his life, just live the life, there is no need to rush. That simple.
As I have said, this is truly the year of realigning with the power of boundaries.✨ Boundaries truly liberate us, even from aspects of ourselves that are no longer serving us. Thank you for this video honestly, I have been reassessing all aspects of my life's foundation exchanging productivity for time with the soul. The detatchment from anxiety is definitely a practice, thank you for voicing this 💜❤💜
Thank you so much, I'm really struggling as an unpaid creator - I'm working so hard and it has been getting the better of me, this video has helped xxx
I feel like when you mentioned the part about realizing that a lot of our expectations come mainly from parents and upbringings. That really struck a cord with me cause that’s been my experience and I’ve learned that what I’m doing now is actually good enough. Sometimes we just need to honor how we feel and care about ourselves enough to know and understand when we’re tired and not in the mood and be real with ourselves instead of trying to cover it up and move forward like nothing is really effecting us
I'm so grateful that I decided to watch this video today instead of rushing , doing homeworks , projects ... We really need a break from this like we're literally rushing but we're actually rushing nowhere but death ... It literally hit me hard when you said that there's actually no rules in this earth , the way we livin' ... Society created this and we have life and we have choice to do what we want ... Thank you so much for this advice and you're voice is just claming and charming as always 🥺💗💕💝💓 I love it
I’m on my journey. I have 2 weeks til I move across country and start working a little less so I can recovery too. I think so many of us are experiencing this.
You are an absolute gift from the Universe to all of us. I need this, so bad. So grateful for you Aileen. I wish you good health, joy, love success and more. Please accept this BIG virtual hug from me. May God bless you 🙏❤️
I definitely needed this. I had a breakdown last night because I was just doing so much. Just hearing you say that I really need to ask myself why is something I want to work on today before I get started on my day. Thank you for this talk.
I took about 2 months off after working at a convention company due to burn out and it was amazing time off for me. It made me though how myself is important as anyone else. Finally found a company that I enjoy working with great people who just enjoy working and having a work life balance.
What was your favorite point from this video?
Sending you all soo much love 💞
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thank you for being so warm
Convert to Islam u will never feel that way again
Make more about healthy productivity, balance and overwhelming 🙏🤍
Asking Why do I have to do that. And What am I trying to prove . Ive been on this treadmill forever and fear seems to be the motivator.nThe pandemic really through my plans out of wack and Im off on a tangent, working at a job where I feel trapped and held back.
Thank you, I'm finishing my degree and really needed this ♥️
This winter I had the opportunity to slow down and take time to work on myself and to heal from burnout and now that life has gone back to my regular fast pace way it's been difficult to adjust. This video really helped me rethink my situation thankyou.
Maam Aileen, I just want you to know that you're one of my inspiration why I overcome stress and old traumas.. Your videos push me to become the best version of my self
It’s really hard to not let the world get into your head and make you think to become something you never really wanted to be in the first place. I’ve been tying my self worth to success, and comparing myself to everyone else around me, feeling like my life didn’t matter. It’s a feeling that’s so ingrained and I’m trying to let go of it. This video was what I needed to hear, a lot of times it seems like I am alone in this feeling. I think we as human beings have lost sight of our roots, what we truly are. We need to reconnect with nature, each other, and ourselves on a deeper, more sincere level.
I've learned that forcing myself to be productive doesn't work for me. I don't write down to-do list anymore because if I don't get all or some of the things done on that list, I feel disappointed in myself. So, now I just keep in mind what I need to do, and do it whenever I feel like it (or when I have no choice). It's like planning my workouts. I plan each one THAT day based on how I feel, which muscles are still sore, and if I just feel like I need to do a stretching/yoga routine. Also when I habit track, I do it now to monitor my patterns, instead of having a specific goal/total to reach. My system so far is to gauge how I'm feeling and work from there. It's been working out 😅 I am more "This needs to be consistent!" on the important habits though, like dental hygiene and water intake.
Revisiting your channel after having found you from your video on Boundaries. It’s beautiful and so inspiring to see how much you’ve clearly attuned to yourself - I can see such a difference in your energy and communication. There’s such a strength and genuine feel to how you’re expressing. I’m just beginning my journey in understanding all the nuance you touch on here, and I’m so grateful to see you making such authentic and powerfully vulnerable content! This has so much value, and so do you! ✨💜✨🦋
When universe guides you to TH-cam and this video is the first thing you see. Thank you so much for providing this content today and voicing the words I want to express. My jumbled up brain washed mind couldn’t process that I can live a slow life for just me and to stop seeking validation from others.
So true Aileen .... It's sometimes doing nothing and not feeling guilty ...but feeling rejuvenated... ❤️ yr video content ❤️❤️
It reminded me how overbooked I´ve become. Between full time job, hunt for follow-up job, art classes, reading, book clubs, bouldering and weekly meetings with a partner there is rarely enough energy left to clean my tiny flat or doing more of the much needed bouldering.
This video has reminded me of my FOMO and it kinda resonate with me on many aspects like the detachment of self-worth from productivity as well as childhood trauma. It fits well with a book I´m reading about priorization and I´m kinda gratefull that a few of my commitments will end within the next week to give me more energy to breath and doing shadow work.
My favorite point from this video was when you talked about seeing self care through this achievement filter too, it’s something I’ve been doing and I don’t want to, I want that to change
Thank you Aileen for this video, I've been going through burnout myself and today I feel so much better, hope all people can heal and let go that's the most beautiful thing to do let's let our soul be happy !
I think my favorite part of this is about not measuring your self worth over your productivity and also learning to let go. As someone who is afraid of making mistakes and losing control, I realized how freeing it is to let go of the burdens and negativity that I've let myself consume.
Everyone else is posting their success in life but I admire you for sharing your failures as well
I wanted to say that I’ve been following you on this and another account for a really long time-back in the days when you had about 10k subs. You got me into Konmari, and I kid you not, even though she was popular back then, I really think that so many people have gotten into Konmari because of your earlier videos. I really feel like you were a huge part in boosting her career. It’s been such a treat and a journey seeing how much your channel has grown over the years, and you’ve helped changed my mindset in a positive direction as I grew older. Please remember to take care of yourself, and stay safe. Other than that, I’m just a proud stranger!
Aww I appreciate you being here for so long! ❤️❤️
I feel like I’ve grown with you as I’ve watched your channel over the years. It’s so nice to feel like I’m not going through phases in life alone. I’ve definitely noticed you appear more carefree and lighter in your videos recently! (Even though I’ve always loved your vids). Thank you for inspiring us and keep doing the good work 💪🏻💪🏻
Aileen I loved this video! I’ve been watching your videos since 2017 and love how you keep sharing your truth and your light 💡
Fav point of the video is the self-care! Its about tuning into your intuition and not about do-this do-that. So true and authenticcc!! 💗✨. I really love lavendaire!!! ☺
this was wonderful.
i’ve always felt terrible about myself because i wasn’t doing anything productive or contributing to something larger, and just sitting at home. i was very suicidal because i didn’t feel like i had a purpose, but Im happy when i’m playing video games and drawing, watching my favourite movies. then i feel bad because i feel like i’m wasting my life? like i should be going out and doing something like other people.
I just want to enjoy my life my own way. I don’t need to be famous or popular to be happy. i know i like being able to just be at home and do my own thing. i feel so much pressure to be more when i dont need to be.
Loved this Aileen, and love you❤
Love you 💕💕
Thanks for putting this out there. Embracing the beauty of "being" is something we all overlook because it is considered to be unproductive. Grateful that there are creators who are authentic enough to address this. 🙏
Thank you for this video🧘♀️💗 It’s really a healing journey. I had something similar 4 years ago. I’m not sure if it was burnout but I was really close to it. I also went to therapy and that was helping me so much. Although I was really feeling so empty and broken inside and just didn’t understand why (after the therapy it started to get clearer and clearer).
Since then I’m taking much better care of myself. That’s why I also quit my latest job because I just felt, that I’m giving way too much energy and passion into it, what is actually good, but I can overdo it easily, especially if I don’t have a private life (like partner or family who I’m living with). So it’s really important, listening to ourselves and observing our feelings as well🧡💜🤍💐
Thank you for this! This is exactly what I did last month. I took a rest for a month because I felt like I couldn't breathe and it felt everything was exhausting, and overwhelming. Now, I have the energy to do the things I did before. And you're right, our healing goes on, there's no stop, and all we need to do is to not give up even if we fail.
The universe is speaking to me omg. I was googling this literally this morning and BAM this godsend arrives.
I don’t even know how to express my gratitude for finding your page and receiving this guidance. Thank you from the deepest part of my heart. Sincerely, recovering over-achieving people pleaser!
The importance of letting go. Thanks. U r the best.
Perfect timing with this video, today is one of my not doing days. Thank you for all your helpful videos!
I just realize that I'm struggling with burnout these days and thank you for the insight, it make me understand myself better, thank u!
thank you so much for making this video i literally feel burn out😢 with my routine
This video came at exactly the right time in my life. Even today, I was hard on myself because I hadn't finished the dishes, folded the laundry, or took the kids to the park. I felt like I hadn't succeeded today. However, I have depression and today I woke up at 4am. I need to cut myself some slack and not judge myself by what I accomplish but rather how I listen to myself and my body.
"The more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be who you truly are "
Thank you beautiful lavendaire 💜
It was so relaxing and informative.
I can really tell you read a lot.
Thank you for sharing with us.
We all need to be more gentle to each other.
I really think it's not about "me vs others" or "winner or looser".
I’ve been watching your content for years. And I find so much value. You are so sweet and genuine❤️
Hey Aileen! Thanks for reminding us that we are enough, and that balance is a must ❤️
really resonated with understanding the yin qualities. allowing the experience in a way that does not need to be "yangified". that is really hard at the beginning. learning to detach from the "push" or "pull" is a difficult lesson
This was a beautiful, raw and honest video! It’s so important and yet so difficult to find that balance between what we feel called to do and share with the world and what we are physically able to at any particular moment. Because we change and sometimes the way we were operating even a month ago can be unrealistic for us at the moment. The important thing is to not feel guilty about it… to be kind to ourselves ✨
Thank you for sharing. I am also healing from burnout from work and personal trauma. There is value in being productive, but there is also value in being still. It is so important to pause and reflect amidst all the busy-ness.
I've been going through the same path, healing energetically, getting in tune with my body and heart, shadow work. It is really hard sometimes, but totally worth it. And as soon as we get a deeper connection with ourselves it becomes joyful to do healing, indeed. Because no matter how hard it is, everything becomes lighter, brighter and happier afterwards. Sending lots of love! 💖💖💖
I love this so much, it’s nice to know there’s people like you in the world.
i really love how you explained self-care, about how it’s the balance between yin and yang energy and not about the hustle culture. i never knew that when people were talking about the authentic self that it was when a person isn’t being driven by external forces, and just about letting go. i really don’t think i’ve ever understood it like the way you have said it until now. and i want to start learning more about spirituality and this gives me a bit of a push towards that ❤️
Wow, I really needed to find this today. I push myself to the point of exhaustion and I feel like I'm not doing enough if I'm not doing something to better myself at all times. Thank you for sharing this!
I really like what you said about that persistant voice not being our own, and that our truest selves are perfect just the way they are
❤❤❤favorite point in podcast letting go of layers of hurt. I am beautiful and amazing. Thank you.
Ohh thank you so much! The part where you say that there are no rules of how we are supposed to live our lives made me cry. I will rewatch the video again and write down some of the lessons you have learnt as I feel deep down I know these things but when I live my own life and try to get things done… I get overwhelmed and forget what the important part is. Namely how I feel and that I am not a robot. I am here to feel good, to feel myself and to overcome my fears… to be a better version of my past self. And this is not through getting a better job, be super successful and constantly posting on Instagram how productive I am. For me it should be about looking inside and work on myself, on my energy… Then all the other small things that bother me now will come to place.
Sorry for the long comment. I just felt really inspired. I am in some kind of burnout right now and I’ve been so harsh on myself for not being able to cope with my work and “responsibilities” like the others… which is so wrong.
I am glad that you’re giving such beautiful advices.
Thank you! 🍀
You look prettier Aileen than ever 💗 thank you for every words that is on point and for being a ball of light and hope to people like me ✨
This really made me cry and happy at the same time. The daily rush of life is truly unnecessary for me but i cant really help but to be a part of it. Even though I'm still trying my best to heal myself through therapy.
I think thats the exact reason why people who choose to live differently than the mass in the beginning almost always have to go through an identity crisis. For example stay at home mothers or nomads etc. Your soul tells you that a is right for you but society and the big mass tell you that b is the only right way so even tho you feel that what everyone else is doing isn't right for you, you still feel bad for not doing it and have to go through tough times until you persuade yourself that your own opinion isn't less worthy.. I myself struggle so much with associating my worth with my productivity and achieving things that are nothing to me but are big in the eyes of society. For example I quit university because I hated it & instead of being happy for doing what felt right for me I got stuck in life and felt ashamed afterwards. This video definitely helps to get some clarity and put things into perspective.
Thank you for this video, Aileen! I am working on myself and learning to be kind to myself when I am not able to do everything I would like to do in a day, and prioritize myself more :) Went for a long walk and it was refreshing today :)
Your videos and your journey have helped me so much over the past few years I can’t even explain it. Thank you for leading by example, Aileen. ☺️❤️ I am learning more of these lessons every day.
What I’ve tried to focus on is making efficient systems for the things I “need” to do for work (but still enjoy doing) so I can keep things moving without so much of the mental stress of remembering what to do… gives me more free time to just be… I’m constantly evaluating my process but it’s improved so much. 😊
You allways appear like a true voice to show me the path, it was exactly what I was thinking, like, it's ok to do nothing, it's necessary to left things that society have put into our minds, we are just existing beings and our duty is just to live aesthetically, in the present...
This video really sparked some thoughts. Today is my first sick day due to burnout. And I think this video has really got me thinking abiut why do I push myself so hard and where does that come from. The comments about the culture we learnt in school and attaching our self worth to achievement really resonated. Today is step one for me and I feel like this video has really helped me to gently start framing my recovery journey. Ty xxxxx
I agree....we are not machines! And that's why "the machines" are taking a lot of jobs. But this grind culture is toxic, and I try to prioritize relax time. I tend to find myself feeling guilty but I know it's for my best good
Thank you for this video, I have also been feeling burned out as well and with finals coming up this will help remind me no matter what it’s important to listen to my body and mind.
This is a life starter. My mom just died, last Nov.and life has been dead for me. Like I am afloat in a crowded place I feel I dont belong. I continue to function, work, attend church etc. and move forward but i relate to this to ease my pain is to do more, work more, serve more etc. But it was really hard. I was thinking I am not healthy, I cant be this and that. I did not realize that not doing or freeing myself up and letting go is also self love. I thought it was self destruct. Exercise has been hard for me and I cant be consistent, but I will try again. Thank you for this.
Lately I feel burnout bcz i should maintaining my final exam and my part time job. And this video revitalise my power. Thank you gurl
This really resonated with me atm: “the more you let go the more you allow yourself to be who you truly are❤️
u didn't fail me to enlighten well-being✨, thanks ate Aileen❤❤ i really really love ur voice.
this message was beautiful ❤ I strive to let go, free myself from everything that no longer serves me and know that I am incredible by simply existing too :)
Copying this from someone else
2:00 ~ slow down and do less🌻
3:00 ~ saying no & building stronger boundaries🌻
3:50 ~ realise the presure and expectations🌻
• 4:51 Questions:
~Why do i have to do that?
~What fuels that need/desire?
~Who am i trying to prove?
~Who am i doing this for?
5:24 ~ heal body and energy🌻
6:23 ~ the healing journey never ends🌻
7:40 ~ THE LESSONS🐥
7:52 ~ RECOGNIZE WHY🐥
11:28 ~ just being🐥
Thats it, i hope it helps somebody
Thank you for this video; I love it so much! I will definitely be going back to it when I need the reminder to slow down and listen to my light. I have been dealing with burnout for awhile now. It's a bit of a story, but it's my journey with discovering how I was stuck in a cycle of burning myself out, and maybe someone else can relate:
Straight from graduating undergrad, I went to teaching and taught for 3 years. I always pushed myself too hard, and I knew I didn't want to do it anymore. I was searching for a new job, but I convinced myself to try to teach one more year. I should have listened to myself and ended on a good note instead. I ended up getting COVID within the first week of the new year, and that broke me, and I couldn't go back after that. The stress was too overwhelming. I went on medical leave and just felt like a failure for running away. I really struggled with my mental health for months.
I went back to school for my master's and then desperately ran to a new job--any job that would take me--and I finally got hired and thought everything would be fixed. Only, I started doing the same thing again there. I put my all and more into everyday. I ran around willingly putting more and more work onto myself because I wanted to prove to myself and to my new boss that I could do it. I fell heavy into those old habits that burnt me out to begin with, and then, of course, the same thing happened--I burnt out, and I found myself struggling yet again to find the motivation to do anything. I felt like a failure yet again because I was doing the bare minimum instead of pushing myself to do 110%, like what I was used to doing.
Now, I've been given a new opportunity once more, and I'm going to be starting a new position in a week that's within the field I'm currently going to school for, and this position is a huge game changer in regard to fulfilling something I'm actually passionate about (btw I watched so many of your meditations and affirmation videos to mentally prepare myself for the interviewing process for this job, so thank you!). But I have a fear that I'm going to repeat old habits and push myself too hard and then get burnt out again and ruin this opportunity. I'm also scared that of I DON'T show them 110% from the start, that I will also lose the opportunity. I realize as I'm writing this that I've already been doing too much even with the onboarding process because I want to show them how eager I am. My goal is to start this new job and do what they ask me and what is expected of me, and to not put the pressure on myself to do so much more. I can do my job and do it well without abusing myself. That is the ULTIMATE goal, but I'm still trying to figure out that balance for myself.
I think part of my issue is being overly structured and including all my self care steps into my weekly check list, like you mentioned. The structure is necessary to some degree otherwise I let things build up and get overwhelmed, but I think it's just as important to give myself the space to pause and reflect on what my light needs, without the rigid structure. I absolutely love what you said about the separation of my mind and my light, and now that I can see that, I will take the time to take care of my light more!
I'm going to take it a day at a time and be kind to myself. Thank you again ❤
Dear Alieen, I've been following you for nearly 5 years now. I can see you much happier and calmer. Watching your videos made me reaaly where all my pressure and high expectations stem from. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this topic. Best wishes to you and have a good day
Hi Aileen 💫 I have been watching all your videos from 7 long years but this one is the best one so far! I can sense you have evolved and healed a lot along your journey, it is truly getting reflected from your personality! I love it. I can totally relate to all the heavy things you talked about, I mostly suffer with managing expectations which I have on myself! I clearly don’t know how to heal 🥺 Could you share with us how to start a healing journey and resources that helped you though! Lots of ❤️, Barshana
Thank you love 💕
Hey
I am 18 and have just moved into a hostel in different city( in a college)
Basically life is moving so fast and i have always had this inherent anxiety that i have to communicate with the people i love daily cause anybody could die anytime
I have a lot on my platter so even tho i call my family daily
Sometimes i yell at them for their incessant calling and then feel extremely guilty and call them again
My thoughts are entirely consumed by how ungrateful i am and how bad of granddaughter, daughter, etc.
I have been to the point where it's all i can think lately
But after listening to what u have said i have realized that i can not control what people think of me and i shouldn't suppose bad things are just waiting to happen
I can let go
And just get a cup of coffee and start with my work with no uncessarry thoughts and maybe just give myself a day off from thinking and then i will be able to turn off this anxiety