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  • @MentalHealness
    @MentalHealness  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

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  • @empresskiya6466
    @empresskiya6466 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    At their worse when you leave ... no contact ... no control

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      🙏

    • @Funksinthehouse
      @Funksinthehouse 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@MentalHealnessI'm not sure if I'm a narcissist. My dad cut me off, due to what my son said. My son is an active addict and would say anything to get money. My mom passed away 6 yrs ago, my dad decided to move up north. I was happy for him but the communication became next to nil, unless I was reaching out. I voiced my opinion and how it felt bc we were always close.
      Then he told me what my son said, this was 3 yrs ago. Thought we all got through that. It's obviously still going on.
      Yes I have said things to my dad, finally. I know it wasn't nice but now he will not talk to me at all. I don't know if this is what I am. If I could find out at least I could find help. Thought maybe you had any advice?

    • @Analist_altijd_elegance
      @Analist_altijd_elegance 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@Funksinthehouse You sound too considerate to be one and to selfreflecting. We all have problems with for example people around us. We may say things that are toxic, that doesn't mean you're a narcissist. It can mean that you have trauma and you react through it through anger (think of people with PTSS).

    • @Funksinthehouse
      @Funksinthehouse 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Analist_altijd_elegance that makes sense. I believe the trauma was my mom passing. Thank you very much, for getting back to me. I'm in tears..lol
      Sincerely

    • @Believersundergroundinitiative
      @Believersundergroundinitiative 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​My family was nothing but Narcissistists trust me you are not one you are way to willing to except responsibilities for something that sounds like it may not have been you at all remember this a narcissist can never admit guilt , they never look to fix themselves because they are perfect (ROLLING MY EYES) , It sounds like maybe some of your other family members maybe but definitely not you , you are way to considerate of others feelings narcs care about no one's feelings not even their children God bless you and i hope you are able to work things out with your family my prayers for you and your family ​@@Funksinthehouse

  • @jayjellobean
    @jayjellobean 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    Gospel. My ex narc (my "friend," according to him) is crashing and burning badly. He's becoming a progressively more horrible, addicted and socially unacceptable person. All the mentioned tactics were used and at the end, when he started blatantly disrespecting me and cheating, the verbal abuse and throwing things became routine. He started to physically challenge me (I'm not that bitch, said with all empathy to DV sufferers) and after a couple of times seeing the evil behind the Chesire Cat grin, I'm fully done and prioritizing SAFETY. Thank you so much. I wish you would come up with resources for men to be healthy and I pray your work continues.

  • @theworthyproject
    @theworthyproject 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    I don’t understand why they do this when they are the ones who broke up with you. They’re weird.

    • @lenaolsson3673
      @lenaolsson3673 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@theworthyproject They are delusional and think (believe) that you have malicious intentions. They need to be in control. Narcissism is a primitive defense mechanism from early childhood. They are controlled by it and “need” to try to control over their partner/ex partner and everyone else. It’s truly sad, but there’s nothing we can do. They are crazy (pathological narcissists).

    • @victorious11111
      @victorious11111 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly!! Yes they’re weird. Their disorder makes them lack foresight so they wouldn’t understand the consequences of their decisions like we would.

  • @linneasimchah1621
    @linneasimchah1621 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    A+ ...this is exactly right! Only someone who has been through narc abuse would see how Accurate your descriptions are.

  • @stephaniesmith91ss
    @stephaniesmith91ss 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    My heart is heavy... i found out how he truly feels about me.

    • @Cruella_DG
      @Cruella_DG 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Treat it as a blessing, you found out how he truly feels about you.

    • @ethelcraig2947
      @ethelcraig2947 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I know it hurts but believe it or not his true feelings towards you was necessary for you to know so that you can detach, heal and move on to the best God has for you. My divorce was final 3/12/2024 and to see him treat me so cold after 19 years of marriage hurt me in my soul. I realize he never loved me. Though I have the moments that I miss the man he pretended to be in the beginning, my life is better without him.

    • @lenaolsson3673
      @lenaolsson3673 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      He doesn’t know you and his feelings are fluid, he doesn’t know himself. Radical acceptance that he’s delusional, he can’t appreciate you, even less love you or anyone. He hates himself and uses you and others to abuse, letting out his hatred and negative feelings. You are just there to take the abuse. Let go. Save yourself. ❤

    • @victoriaswift3633
      @victoriaswift3633 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Trust me leaving is a BLESSING 🎉

    • @Melvina1975
      @Melvina1975 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      All the bad shit that he said and feels about you is all a projection on how he really feels about himself because he knows he's a horrible person!! Stay NO CONTACT and trust me..... it will get better without his fake self in your life, stay strong girlfriend💪

  • @Believersundergroundinitiative
    @Believersundergroundinitiative 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Two times they are at their worst when they are caught cheating and when you leave their miserable for life behind and they know you aren't coming back

  • @whitneyparker5168
    @whitneyparker5168 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Lee you are the man 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I wish I could tell you just how far I’ve come from
    Watching your videos last year to now how strong I’ve become and how everything you said would happen actually happened you gave me all the tools to survive I’m forever grateful

  • @CN-dv9nj
    @CN-dv9nj 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I wonder how many people hearing your content take the time to stop and consider their own denials that we could have recognized more confidently the times that the treatments could have sent us away sooner had we not ben thinking emotionally instead of logically from a place of self worth deserving better even if we did nothing special. When we could have loved ourself more than the opposition probably could have saved ourselves somne heartache. It's hard to do, leave when you really don't want to.

  • @sylviacollins652
    @sylviacollins652 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😂😂😂😂😂"Sweet Baby Ray's" took me out...had to stop folding laundry!!! Whew lawd, that was FUN-NY!! Gonna schedule 1 on 1 in near future. Thanks for all you do!

  • @monickashworth1204
    @monickashworth1204 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Why do the narcissists stare at you and tell you to shut up and give you silent treatment

  • @sherry0074
    @sherry0074 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My narc ex lost his mom last year unexpectedly. He had to fake emotion, and I believe he actually loved her. Maybe she was just supply for him too to give him validation.
    I cried many tears for his loss; he couldn't muster a tear. He wouldn't allow me to attend the funeral - I believe because he was afraid other women he knows might have shown up. It was pathetic. He is a soul-less being.
    He disrespected me one last time 5 weeks ago, and he is gone. I miss some moments with him, but I will never accept him back in my life.

    • @Andrea-vj2kq
      @Andrea-vj2kq หลายเดือนก่อน

      My ex did the same thing when his mother died unexpectedly! He stayed away from me . Told me hey everyone knows u can't come to the funeral because you have to take care of our son. I told him I could get a babysitter and still he didn't want me to go. He sent me a pic of himself in the car going to his mom's funeral wearing his blingy earrings to get attention. I knew there was something else going on. He was acting very shady during that period of time.

  • @Analist_altijd_elegance
    @Analist_altijd_elegance 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thank you for this video Lee, this video is the best so far to me like the videos about narcs and happiness because this really gives an insight on the minds. Will a supply always be boring to a narc eventually? No exceptions?

  • @Analist_altijd_elegance
    @Analist_altijd_elegance 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    When you cut off access, they will lose their minds but isn't that the reason they have other supplies/a new supply? And does a narc not always have anyone who is better than him? Someone with a better car, better job (like his/her manager) or? I find it fascinating that narcs can be so depressed right and frustrated but they still have the motivation to do better, to go to the gym etc instead of being depressed and isolating.

    • @samia6888
      @samia6888 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      It’s because they use that to escape from their feelings. The narc I dealt with was going to the gym 7x a week and worked multiple jobs. They have multiple supplies but still freak out when losing access to you, not because they will be alone but because they feel like they own you. (And also they don’t want you to leave because that means that they are a bad person to be with and they don’t want to be perceived as a bad person) A narc doesn’t think anyone is better than them even if they have better car, better looks, etc. because the main part of being narcissistic is thinking you are better than everyone else, that you are **special**

    • @Analist_altijd_elegance
      @Analist_altijd_elegance 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@samia6888 It's kind of a paradox though because narcs don't like people above them and narcs can easily have a narc breakdown by just one critique. But I agree with the escaping feelings. It's just weird to me because society nowadays really reward escaping from feelings through working a lot, going to the gym a lot.

    • @Analist_altijd_elegance
      @Analist_altijd_elegance 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      People who go to the gym a lot, work a lot, they are viewed by society as ambitious, disciplined. It's weird to me because the only think I can think is, where are they escaping from, why do they feel the need to do it, what do they compensate

    • @samia6888
      @samia6888 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Analist_altijd_elegancenarcs don’t like people who are better than them but in the beginning they choose someone they perceive as “better” (or at least have qualities that they want or think are better, doesn’t necessarily mean better looking always) but then after the love bomb/idealization phase they start devaluing and making the person feel bad due to the crazy making and in the process it makes them feel superior. Like if they chose someone with better confidence than them, they will tear that down or if they make more money then them, make them spend money or make them feel guilty about their spending habits, etc.
      It doesn’t make any sense to a normal rational logical person but we not dealing with one here unfortunately. They are pretty easy to figure out because they don’t change so give yourself like a few months of watching Lee’s videos and you will end up as an expert on narc abuse lol

    • @zigorxxx
      @zigorxxx 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@samia6888This comment is gold

  • @hardworkingblue-im4qq
    @hardworkingblue-im4qq 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Devil is the narcissist supply😮😮 keep 💯💯💯 facts

  • @lolxd9396
    @lolxd9396 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good days are here. I do not have to hear passive aggressive comments, sarcastic remarks and dismissive behaviors. I get to be ME! Thank you Lee 🙏☺

  • @Magi-Kell4Life
    @Magi-Kell4Life 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🎉thankyou for always being honest here. You are changing lives daily.

  • @whitneyparker5168
    @whitneyparker5168 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Lee you are the man 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I wish I could tell you just how far I’ve come from
    Watching your videos last year to now how strong I’ve become and how everything you said would happen actually happened

  • @ATX_Guy
    @ATX_Guy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    4:20 The problem is, they consistently feeling their worst. if they’re not, it’s extremely fleeting and extremely temporary. Great video, Lee.

  • @anetapostek9833
    @anetapostek9833 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    He was jealous about my PhD and he thought he could get scholarship like I did but guess what he couldn’t 🤣 in the end he just disappeared when after few months I’ve found out he we actually married and lied about everything all along 😂 his previous gf (yes he had a gf before me being married never found out he was married!!) she was in that cycle breaking up with him that made him so proud 😂 well I’m in shock a bit still as he again lies to another person and keeps cheating on his wife! In his head he is single 😅 how crazy! I’ve blocked him instantly he disappeared luckily 😊It is crazy how people can lie!! Unbelievable

  • @alonzoneloms5651
    @alonzoneloms5651 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Mr. Lee you are spot on.

  • @pinkheartfairy
    @pinkheartfairy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Loved your topics.❤😊👏

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Glad you like them!

  • @briannaennis876
    @briannaennis876 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I knew if I left I’d be homeless! I told her I’d rather sleep in my car than sleep another night under the same roof as you!!! I had my own place! Didn’t renew my lease because she told me I should move with her!!! When I did she put me out!!! Eventually I moved back!!! Smh same chaos and once I seen this situation has only one ENDING!!!! I said I have to go!!! Tired of the lies! Half truth!! I have no kids!!! She has 4!!! Told me to mind my business when it comes to her kids! Children smoking weed in house. I say something!!! Itself an argument!!It’s a nightmare!!! Once you’ve completely removed yourself you start to find yourself all over again! This is the only relationship I needed therapy after!!! 💔💔💔 She truly broke my HEART!!! Beyond repair!!!

  • @Seabreeze34
    @Seabreeze34 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you. You are teaching me so much

  • @IsabellaPiesch
    @IsabellaPiesch 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ... when the lose control.

  • @angelarios624
    @angelarios624 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ❤ vey truthful lee ❤

  • @tamra8485
    @tamra8485 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Needed to hear this tonight.

  • @victorwoods1759
    @victorwoods1759 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I like the music too

  • @kiarahart3114
    @kiarahart3114 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The ex moved in with the new supply when I was still talking to him. I went complete no contact and he harassed me for months. He's still asking random people about me lol

  • @madamcreolethehighpriestes7401
    @madamcreolethehighpriestes7401 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😂😂😂 I have a extra bottle of Sweet Baby Ray's sitting on my dresser 😂😂😂😂😂😂with . Classic

  • @crystalball3717
    @crystalball3717 หลายเดือนก่อน

    After he discarded me in April 2024, he told My mother that he deserved better. This was after 24 years of marriage and 34 years of knowing each other.

  • @bhart0789
    @bhart0789 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is how my partners ex wife is. Every few months she gets real nasty with everyone and it's usually when something in her life is going terrible.

  • @zenawarrior7442
    @zenawarrior7442 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    😐👍Truth. They need to win, hate feeling bad.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      🎯

    • @Analist_altijd_elegance
      @Analist_altijd_elegance 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I think everyone hates feeling bad but I get your point, not everyone has to win like narcs intent to

    • @zenawarrior7442
      @zenawarrior7442 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@MentalHealness Thanks 😊

    • @zenawarrior7442
      @zenawarrior7442 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Analist_altijd_elegance They avoid more than most was my point but yea most people avoid feeling bad. They also hate when others get attention 😂

    • @LethalWeapon73
      @LethalWeapon73 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Analist_altijd_eleganceBy any means necessary from what I’m learning with my soon to be ex husband

  • @a.b.2850
    @a.b.2850 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Theres worse than that Lee! When it’s time to face the consequences of their choices and actions.
    Ever seen how they act in court? Sucking the judges ball from afar? It’s a spectacle!!
    Last one I saw, he asked the judge to speak at the end, which idk why but the judge granted, and then that guy I had to threaten to stab him through his neck to get him off of me proceeded to thank everyone and throw flowers to the jail guards, for how nice and respectful they were with him and treated him 🥴 I bit my tongue to avoid bursting out laughing. He was so pathetic, it was painful to watch.

  • @Baboomonster1
    @Baboomonster1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is my mom, right now. She turned to 1 of my cuz for supply, and it's not going well. She confessed she had a panic attack the other day, and no one understood, esp. The new supply. New supply cannot do anything right.😂
    Oh, I have cut off my supply drastically. She thought she would toss me aside and no problems. Whoops!

  • @rebekahhawkins1318
    @rebekahhawkins1318 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    There are way too many times to pick a fav!!!!

  • @mosaicowlstudios
    @mosaicowlstudios 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I work in hospital administration. I am also a published songwriter. I decided to make an album of workplace rap songs, and I handed it out to everyone at the office over Valentine's Day. I've never seen the narcissistic coworker so engaged. 😅😅 I wanted so badly to say to her, "You wanna make an album? Nobody's stopping you. Do it." Knowing full-well that she doesn't have the talent or skills (which is the basis for her rage in the first place)

  • @linesilbach-id4vk
    @linesilbach-id4vk 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks, Lee, it's always very interesting. I would like to have your opinion on one question though. It is said everywhere that narcissists are horrible but they are often, if not always, successful because they have charm, great intellectual acuity, humor, an often astonishing and unexpected sensitivity, depth. Aren't they just humans with heavy traumas and an intelligence that is more painful than soothing? That would explain the paranoia, the great emotional dependence (and the manipulation strategies to not be abandoned that go with it) and the depression. What do you think? (translated from French with an automatic translator)

  • @HoneyB-u9m
    @HoneyB-u9m 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    When my friends ex wife had a narc collapse... he was stabbed multiple times. I would say that was the worst I have ever heard of her.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😢

    • @HoneyB-u9m
      @HoneyB-u9m 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@MentalHealness He lived. She became a fugitive. Still at large.

  • @jadelynn2283
    @jadelynn2283 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much! I made 7.5 months zero contact. I know for sure that I don’t love him but I still at times get sad 😔 like why me. Why was he so evil to me after I brought him from Dominican Republic he didn’t know what was to shower with warm water. a week after being in 🇺🇸 he started to be mean. I divorced 2 years after he landed in 🇺🇸 in 2015 he called the cops twice on me while we were married But I felt for his way in May 2020 I went back with him to learn that immigration denied his 10 year green card for lying about domestic violence I never got arrested cops read through him. He applied again and is able to work In America 🇺🇸 until a decision is made. He is waiting for an interview since Nov 2020 with immigration. He wanted to get married again I told him no thank God. So his lawyer asked me to write a reference letter that we were living together and that he changed for the better thats the only thing I did that letter because I felt that he wasn’t being genuine it was my gut again warning me about him. We bought a house together in Jan 2023 and he started treating me horrible like this was the worst treatment ever. In Jan 2024 we sold the house that man cheated lied had affairs with 2 women in the community and spoke badly about me. This time I won’t go back he looked at me like he hated me he lied to everyone that the house we bought together was only his I had to call the cops on him as he kept verbally abusing me nothing was done but thank God with a lawyer I hired to to tell him he can’t stay with the house with my name! we sold the house on Jan 2024 he still don’t have his green card 10 year
    I think he came back to use me again in May 2020. I wish him all the best. But that man is evil and his family too.

  • @cmb3737
    @cmb3737 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    First red flag run

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      🏃‍♂️

    • @cmb3737
      @cmb3737 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@MentalHealness I used to give three four five chances. In the end I should have addressed the first flag. And d don’t let them know you are on to them they self correct for a time when you have caught on

  • @jendolinar3613
    @jendolinar3613 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Mine has made me hate the fact that I even exist.

    • @LethalWeapon73
      @LethalWeapon73 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Don’t give them that power nor supply, please 😢😢

  • @bronwentillman8385
    @bronwentillman8385 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Nooooo, not the soy sauce and SBR's!!!!!!!! Damn narcissists taking it out on the condiments!!!

  • @thinktasha8299
    @thinktasha8299 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Female covert narcissist might be at their worst when they lose in family court. Yes, the father got majority of what he wanted in court.

  • @Leavemebae
    @Leavemebae 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I recently heard he was single. No wonder he has been in therapy for the last 7 years in the last 3 years to work on his mariage. 😂
    Thanks coach. Love you

  • @purplelove5596
    @purplelove5596 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Unfortunately I can’t cut my husband soon to be ex off . We have a child together. I do think he is bored with me as well. It’s very difficult to deal with someone because he thinks he can pull the strings. I no longer react to his behavior and it makes him more angry towards me.

  • @nicholecornes1915
    @nicholecornes1915 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When they wake up

  • @leel6839
    @leel6839 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @Believersundergroundinitiative
    @Believersundergroundinitiative 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    To everyone on here yes yes and yes and they are definitely freakin weird

  • @therandomhamster0076
    @therandomhamster0076 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Would they still feel the same even if you aren’t their main source of validation?

  • @BasedLeifEriksson
    @BasedLeifEriksson 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Mine hoovered exes after we got engaged lmao. She’s a devil.

  • @tanuki05
    @tanuki05 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Do they lose even when they have a new supply they claim they are soooo in love with?

    • @1001Stars
      @1001Stars 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @tanuki05 they don't know how to really love anyone
      They are probably just saying that to look as though they're in control.
      narcissists will show who they are eventually and show their red flags beforehand
      they will sooner or later get dumped by the new supply or the new supply will be tormented by the narcs bad behavior until they wise up and dump them or are discarded themselves

    • @Analist_altijd_elegance
      @Analist_altijd_elegance 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm asking myself the same thing.

    • @inderiaoliver2788
      @inderiaoliver2788 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes if the new supply is a female narc,cheats and discards him

  • @JosephineZammit-v4x
    @JosephineZammit-v4x 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Be ware when they are to nice and start going to church

  • @hardworkingblue-im4qq
    @hardworkingblue-im4qq 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That's not my problem ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾 don't called me call hospital 🏥 ex boyfriend

  • @ModestLadyK
    @ModestLadyK 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    U had a narc moment lol

  • @claudeboonejr.3406
    @claudeboonejr.3406 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Claude Boone jr here sir is it possible to contact you directly???🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

  • @moniqueboatfield107
    @moniqueboatfield107 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Soy sauce!!

  • @evelynshrum4790
    @evelynshrum4790 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I moved out of my boyfriend's and he told me he's keeping his demons at bay. What exactly is he talking about ?

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      maybe trying to make you feel guilty

    • @mirouu13
      @mirouu13 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Threat? 😃

    • @tbyrdrandom
      @tbyrdrandom 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Issa threat! 😮

    • @livinginthepines
      @livinginthepines 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I think he's trying to tell you he's on his best behavior. But ironically he is also blame shifting. Like it's not him that did those things, it was the "demons". He needs to man up and own up to HIS behavior and the choices he has made in life.

    • @Analist_altijd_elegance
      @Analist_altijd_elegance 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      He might want to rise confusion by talking so mysterious and vague so you will keep thinking about him/of what he said so he can still be on your mind. And it's working because you're still asking/wondering what he meant.