Filing for divorce was the best decision ever. The last blow up happened in March. I packed my bags and disappeared for a week until he left. Love is not enough … almost 10 years together and 5 years married. Enough is enough!
Over 3rys post narc, no contact. Recently found out he had a massive stroke. Laid on kitchen floor for 3 hours!! He's now in assisted living. Pretty sure that's rock bottom!!
Lee I noticed you had great empathy for your friend. Not all narcissists have true empathy. Good for you and your family that you had the courage to go to therapy and working on yourself. You’re helping others majorly!! Your journey is helping you and others. Win Win
"If you spend your entire life with the mentality of "my trauma fucked me up and that's why i am the way i am" instead of learning how to heal and grow from your trauma, YOU are your own problem"
I'm going to be vulnerable to you guys and Lee. I'm feeling bad. The narcissist I was dealing with for years, I had a situationship with. I broke it off because I knew he wouldn't ever going to have a future with me. He was keeping me on the hook, yet he loved abusing me. A year later I found out he recently got married. I know, I shouldn't be bothered, I should stay focusing on healing. I know all that. But I'm not going to dismiss my feelings. We are all here on these videos because we're thinking about a narcissist who was or is in our life. I just feel like I'm so 'behind' in life because of all the developments he has made and I'm here stagnated because of the experience with him. I'm still healing so I'm here single, alone, and normally I didn't feel alone, I would be ok being single. But suddenly this guy is married, he's living together with the person (for the first time) and now I'm feeling so behind. All these years having to heal from him, and still have to. And he's just living his life, having all these developments and I'm feeling so behind in life.
There may be a lesson in there for you somewhere. The last narcissist I dealt with is actually thrusting me into my emotional healing journey so I'm trying to look at it kind of like Stella getting her groove back. Make a decision to be happy and go from there. Do whatever you need to do to let go of how you feel about him and just place your focus on yourself. Grow and heal and prepare yourself for your future blessings.
@@angelac.3217 I always look for lessons. I don't attract narcissists anymore, that's the reason why I broke it off with this one too. Still, it stings when the narcissist you dealt with is married, has everything and I'm single and healing. It's the unfairness I can't put into perspective, the fact that a person as he is can attract people to marry him, live with him, it just makes me feel so far behind in life.
He will do the same thing in his new relationship in time, because that's all he knows. He's a shell of a person, and no partner can change that about him. Be proud of yourself for not settling and continuing to grow as a person. You will find peace. Not so much for the narc. Good job saying that's not enough for you!!
I left no contact 2 yrs ago...2 therapist later, a safety plan at work and I too feel lonely...BUT we're NEVER alone! Allow God to put you back together again because you are enough and certainly worth it! Love you!
The info gained on this channel is essential to bring back a sense of self to people that have had to endure a narcissistic relationship. Thank you Lee
@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382 so true, I found him and got angry , was leaving comments ge deleted😁 . I went back to delete myself but it was gone. Nothing geared toward Lee , it was geared towards active narcys. Lol. I had to back off learning what a narcy was , then come back more clear headed cuz Lee was nailing it. Ok I think 8 got mad at Lee for a second for being a narcy but I cooled off
My nephew would take a hit. He would break down say what he thinks we wanted to hear. Slowly gets back in good graces and does the manipulation all over again. It's kind of an art 😅
@OneWhoKnowz he's nutz . He tried to put a hit out on m6 husband. He can't pay if he wanted to. The gas station attendants came an told my husband. I honestly don't think he will hit rock bottom
Can relate to everything you said . “You leave me and other people want me , so it can’t be me “ I think it’s that you feel like that’s what other think too
3:51 I had thought he actually hit rock bottom during his last massive rage that lasted over 15 minutes - in the car almost getting us into multiple accidents - but... He was projecting, screaming and blaming me for his break down and everything else in the world that ailed him the entire time. So, it wasn't rock bottom, it was just another much longer rage. I left him that day and never went back. He will never change and I'm so glad to be free of him!
Dear Lee, maybe you have narcissistic tendencies, everyone does to some degree, especially in the modern age, but at core, you're a good guy, you listened to your wife, you cared about your kid, you feel sadness & grief & empathy for your friend who lost his child, you grieved for the loss of your family member & your friend's child.. you decided to work on yourself to go to therapy & to choose a higher purpose in life to be remembered in this life as a good person. There are some truly damaged, dark & twisted authentic narcissist personality disorders out there, on the general spectrum, you are maybe a lightweight, but you manage with your videos to articulate the different ranges of experience & emotional responses you have gone through in relation to the basic tests of character life has thrown at you. You've done your best to look at yourself & take control of yourself & work on yourself for the best for your family, & to support others going through difficulties with difficult personalities in their lives. I hope you have a happy life now & more security with your wife & kids now. Bless you for taking the time to go to therapy to get the support you needed. You must have a good therapist too. Bless your wife & family & hope things work out for you all for the best. Can we call you reformed narcissist now. Thank you 🙏.
😂😂😂😂He has NPD its a disorder that does not change... Ur magical thinking beating ur ass 😂😂😂😂😂he said he's a narcissist & u outchea tryna make it not so 😂😂😂😂he's a narcissist tryna help people... Doesn't change the fact he's a narcissist... Do u know hg tudor?? Same thing... Reading this was weird
You’re wife is a God-send. Shout out to her! Without her you wouldn’t be here for you, your family, or us. Thank you for sharing so transparently Lee. Much Love. 💕
Great change can only happen once you recognize something has to change, and you dive deep within and heal those traumas holding you back. They can manifest into many addictions. You sir, have beat the internal demons, and are a rare occurrence when dealing with a narcissist. Just like any other addiction, it will always be there wanting to fester again, but you have found your calling...your power..your gift to help humanity. Thank you for always keep it real, and helping so many. 🙌💜✨️
😢😢😢...Your comment brought me to tears. I'm speechless, and I agree. A narc has to desire a change. Lee, this is your calling! To know you need therapy and willingly go shows the good in you that is embedded in your internal pain and trauma. This is, IMHO, proving a spiritual warfare can twist and turn in a positive way. That one decision, committing to therapy, that you repeat year after year is changing your family's legacy. Wow! I'm in awe! More marriages and families would survive and thrive if more narcs had a willing ❤ like yours. Unfortunately, other families may endure the pain of divorce and no contact as a way to thrive. That one decision can change a family's legacy. Again, I'm proud of you, Lee!
@@DanceChickaDee or telling you something as if they did the research and learned it on their own. Forgetting I was the one that told them all about it last week. And they acted as if it didn't even interest them. Like wtf
We all have our rock bottom or self awareness time. This is a good place to hit, That's what brings us back to self reflection stage, which is essential for self growth. Thank you Lee 🙏☺
Thank you baring your soul and sharing your good, bad, and ugly 💕 . I'm glad your wife returned to the house. Many raging mentally exhausted parents hurt or unalived their children and babies bcz the child kept crying so they shake it, punch it, or throw it to a wall to make it "shut up." Your wife's motherly intuition led her back to the house and she saved her baby and husband.
My 54yr old xnarc was exposed of everything. For a year now he's hiding at his mommy's, gambling on line and dirty dating sites, hoping time will make people forget.
You are a good man Lee be proud of yourself for realizing you had a problem & getn therapy. Some of these toxic selfish creatures think too highly of themselves & don't think they have a problem, they have to much pride.
@@MentalHealness my pleasure your welcome Lee. Listening to your videos everyday about narcissists has certainly opened up my eyes, we need to be careful & safe in who we meet. Keep up the great work, I appreciate your support thankyou. 😊
Dawg ur helping me so much 🤦🏽♂️ def at my rock bottom and I’m sure I am a narcissist. Plan on doing a lot of work for myself I hope she forgives but I also respect she’s simply respecting herself by keeping distance .
My narcissist acts like he is above everyone…. Never rock bottom moment for him. I wish he would leave me alone. He calls and texts but I don’t answer or respond. I’m done. Dealt with this man for 5 years. He was good and bad. He is a liar and cheater. All relationships failed because of being a liar and cheater. He thinks he does no wrong. He doesn’t express himself or shows any emotions. I walked away but he won’t leave me alone now.
Lee!!!! Thank you. Honestly. You're Truth, set you free! Thank you for sharing the argument, the Pain, and your Rock Bottoms, that you had to endure, to get to your freedom. God Bless You & Your Family🙏🏼🕊
I like the way you just put the beginning of this video things have changed. My mental state has changed over the years. Everybody’s mental state changes. It can change from 15 seconds to the next, but we definitely all grow and grow as humans
My husband just did a 13 part TikTok series on me calling ME a narcissist. He’s telling half truths and skipping over his habitual cheating behavior. Breezed over the financial abuse and now trying to get into my social media accounts. I just want to be left alone.
I have said this a million times that my now ex needed to hit rock bottom. The reason why he will never hit rock bottom because his mother who made him this way always bailing him out. She raised him to believe he could never do wrong and he was the king of the universe. She told me I opened her eyes to her son and apologized to me for it but she loves him and will always be there for him no matter what. He knows that.
My exs mom is the same way. He's been arrested no less than 13 times, he's a convicted 6 time felon. This woman has paid over 40k in legal fees for him, not to mention she sends him money every month for his expenses. He doesn't have a job. He lies to her to get money and blows it all on drugs and hookers..it's INSANE how blind these women are to their own sons. Surely they can't be that stupid to realize enabling them in this way isn't helping ANYONE.
Just like my enabling aunt and her two sons, one’s her ‘daughter’. She moddy cuddles them cooking them dinner everyday when these two grown men have three to four baby mothers between them. The only opportunity they’ll get to grow up is when she passes away.
I thought he would’ve had his rock bottom moment after I left him, moved out in March. Well he moved in a former desperate colleague 40days later this is after a nearly a 6yr relationship
I found my sweetheart may be near that. I will still be here for him. ❤ i will be here home waiting. Hes a good man. Just very stressed at the moment. I will be here to help clean up our mess. Its he and i right now. Breath easy sweetheart. I m here❤
It’s insane I realized how healed I was when I caught a slight bit of disgust with myself as I was reading a comment I left that described the situation as “ my narcissist “ how brainwashed and lingering that mental abuse is when even after they are gone… your still attaching your self in to the situation by owning that title. Smfh a narcissist caught me at the right time. But he is not my narcissist.. he is a narcissist. And I wasn’t a victim of his. I was a victim of myself. Whatever allowed me to love myself so little made me attract someone who had very little love for themselves as well. The difference as an empath is the recognition in order to repair my wrongs. His is not having the ability to be able to.
@@JustMe-vs1kj makes sense they then get killed often by the biggest lobbyist pharmaceutical...."the enemy of my enemy is my friend", could be vice versa yet only chicks like Brandy Vaughan ever do anything besides whine about it the way cozy men make money their g-d
I love listening to you Lee. Gets me through my day. Your experience, acknowledgement and accountability is unmatched! Your family is so blessed to have you! Blessings to you all ❤
I just wanna thank you for all the ways in which you, cluster b milkshake and Ben Taylor helped me out of hell. I know I’m not the only one. Your rock-bottom has been a blessing to many thanks again.
Powerful testimony and glad you shared. It takes courage...I know you're helping people...and has helped me understand NPD. My dad is 85 covert. I'm 61 ..how could I not know??!! He's now out of my life. And my brother's. And lost 2 friends he tried living with...he masks well. Only horrible behind closed doors
I cared for my ex I know more than anyone else ever in her life. I stayed with her through rehab for alcohol when even when she got out no one checked on her. 2 years I built her up kept her mind busy. Within 3 weeks of me not bring there she's already totalled her car, got a dui, and lost her job. But still tries to hoover me for sex and validation when I only want to love and build a life with her
My partner did not take it positively when I told him a narcissist. He obviously did not care to Google or research on it to make himself more aware of his situation.
He had a rock bottom moment after he left me for another girl. Our first year anniversary, thirty one years ago... He told me he was getting a divorce. He told my his family I was crazy and on drugs when I was working as a waitress to support him at the age of 21 and during the day he was at the pool with a 17-year-old in our apartment complex. So he convinced himself I had made him a monster, made his whole family think that Completely deserted me. I didn't hear a word for 2 weeks. They had been coming in my house getting things having sex on my bed when I didn't know when I was at work. Finally, security man told me and told me where they went. Nick told me he was gonna it divorced me. He'd already send the papers whatnot. Then calls back the all of a sudden, I move, I say, okay, I have my ring changed over and I move on with my life and then he's been stalking. He leaves a note on my door that he wants to see. Our dog It's his dog too while he left her too I should have just stood on that ground.However, he got flooded in my house 43 days.It was insane
My ex Narriccist husband came today to get his things and he said he is going to the shelter to get his own yet he went right back to his baby mothers house a huge smack in the face
You're right😢 unfortunately I don't think many of them know what rock bottom is because it's not that they have someone ready is that they know they can find someone and they know that people are easily manipulated because that's what they do it's when they run out of people to manipulate they'll return to you over and over again unless they've been at rock bottom so long that when you talk to them again you can actually hear the change they haven't changed every person in my life has been a narcissist😢
The Bible says, "No one is good, no not one." Romans 3:10 -12 I think we all have some level of narcissistic traits. Good on you for facing it and doing better!
Excelente vídeo. Muchas gratitdue for your gifted PURPOSE. Wise words towards awareness ; healing... Sending tons of peace ; well-being to you &familia!! -Viviána
I ran up on you 2 weeks ago and the past week I have been watching more and this answers so many questions. I believe this is my husband and and on top of that I found he has a drug addiction. So it’s been hell but this opens things up
He blocked me again, exactly 72 hours after he unblocked me. I had him blocked on my phone and my voicemail filled up so he couldn't leave a message. I just ignored his calls but spied on his Facebook until a few minutes ago when I discovered he blocked me again. I'm tired of his games even though I still love him. He obviously doesn't love me. 😂😢
Your videos always explain word for word everything I have been trying to say about how my narcissistic ex is. My kids father. It’s so hard to coparent with him because he feels so entitled. I’m not sure how to handle the situation anymore. I hope I can find a video where you explain how I can deal with a narcissistic coparent.
I just wanna thank you for all the ways in which you, cluster b milkshake and Ben Taylor helped me out of hell. I know I’m not the only one. Your rock-bottom has been a blessing to you and to many others. Thanks again.
How do you come to terms that you won’t be able to see your ex narcissist hit rock bottom? I wish I could see him hurting as much. I’m now 1 year free from him.
U aren't really free yet until u don't care about if he hurts or not...and im not judging u for it I totally get it...just know that u shouldn't care if he doing bad or good cuz u don't want him back anyways!
The pain of the situation has to be greater than the pain caused by what is motivating us to avoid changing. It's very similar with addiction. Thank you Lee for sharing yoyr experience, wisdom and feelings with us.
Late diagnosed autistic female, I was born with neonatal abstinence syndrome (pregnant mother + opioid addiction = …) at around 4 years old my mom nearly bet me to death while my dad was in jail, at age 6 he left, which left her resenting me. I had to leave at age 15, i stayed with a guy who I met on the city bus, we had known each other for a year already, he would be at the bus stop every morning on my way to school, he helped us move, he told me was 18. I went to him..stayed with him for 4years…his family made him turn himself in(he/we had been on the run for 1 year on the shiprock reservation) He begged me to married him right before he left, I agreed. Then left the state…I’m 27 now… financially dependent on my partner of the last 4-5years…I don’t know how to do this….
As a female with NPD- I don’t think the answer is for everyone to leave if they are with a narc & even if they’re- with God all things are possible! Keep watching Lee- I bet a bunch of you empaths are narcs and don’t even realize it! People are always evolving. You got a 50-50 chance of your “ narc” self reflecting & getting help. Pray- pray and pray some more. Read the Bible- its the instruction book for life ♥️ 🙏
What it comes down to is were either Evil or we aren't. WE either walk in the light or the darkness. I'm an empath but I cam admit I've played in alot of darkness. I've been obsessed with the narc many times. I've only wanted to change her for the better, but that's how we get obsessed with them and even by them, or because we're playing in darkness ourselves. I feel more than often we can even start acting dark. Lust is probably the biggest tool the devil uses here to control us. Lust and also Money can be the other.
Oh man his wife is probably going through hell. Don’t worry you’re not alone. Go out meet new people join a new activity group. You’ll be just fine soon you’ll be looking back asking yourself why did I even stress over that demon.
But, it's just not as easy as all that. Some of us are neurodivergent to begin w which usually means socially awkward and solitary by nature, and even if not there is an imperial TON of work to do to simply be able to function on any normal level. I can't begin to describe how far I am from simply putting myself out there even 9 months from going no contact. I felt ok, normal even more or less until a few days after I went silent, THEN the real badness began to hit. It ain't over when it's over. The real stuff is only beginning at that point. I'm speaking from my perspective cause that's all I have but I'm not who I was, don't know how to get back there and doubt I ever will be the same. This isn't meant as criticism but things like "it's over now", "you're away from them now", "you gotta get back out there", " don't let this keep you from living life"; these may be meant as helpful but emphatically are not and frankly make one feel even more alone as it becomes clear that nobody gets it. Nobody gets how f'ed up and broken and damaged you are. At this point I'm ok w having lost what few friends I had. It was only making things worse when they wanted their old friend back and she's gone and they don't get why even tho you long since gave up explaining. I know you mean the best and have probably worked through this stuff but it only makes us feel more lost and alone. And that's no place to be coming from if you actually want something new. She may also have been speaking about the various setbacks and missed opportunities and where she would be had she never met this person. I can certainly understand that 315%. In a year w a narcassist I lost 40 yrs worth of hard work and the person it took all that time to become. That's a lot to lose. Personally I never want to date again. I don't need or want friends. I'll stick w furry friends who are incapable of being anything but what you see.
@tempestous-i3k You are not alone. I get your thinking process. Surround yourself with people who get what you have and continue to go through as you heal. 🙏🏽
I remember when the narcissist started having all kind of health issues it was hitting him left and right the domino effect boom boom boom boom it ain't never been the same.
Yeah, the one I had is, umm, far gone. Too many ppl validate him. Honestly, he doesn't even need validation from anyone. He does that all by himself. He's got a lot of money too so...The amount of pride in this one human being is astonishing.
Everytime I watch one of your videos I finish feeling so enlightened. Seriously, thanks for sharing your story. After watching this, I would love to read your book! Are you planning on putting it on Audible?
Thank you so much for doing these videos. There needs to be more self aware, narcissist who by the grace of God would like to get into heaven and I don’t think you can get into heaven this way not when you have demons that your door plaguing you every day to hurt people, I appreciate you so much and I really hope that you and your wife are awesome together. It’s very rare for a person to have the problem pointed out and for them to actually look into it and acknowledge it that will be the difference in where your soul goes thank you again.
He hit rock bottom two days ago. He just got out of jail a month ago. He’s been getting wasted every day at work and driving home. He ended up going off the road and hit a tree. Hard. Broke his ribs, pelvis, and right hip. Fitting part is he was supposed to start his OWI classes the same day. He absolutely has no one to blame. Finally. But I honestly think he did it on purpose. He had talked horribly about me minutes after I left his work to visit him. I’m just another btch. Then he almost died.
9:05 You once said, "I knew I was different since I was 8 or 9." Did you realize you were a narcissist at 31? I thought my ex knew she was a narcissist, but is it possible that she didn't?
My mom used to always say “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink”
@@kiaraharris826 mines too
Or mine also says " You keep walking behind a horse that kicks"
Filing for divorce was the best decision ever. The last blow up happened in March. I packed my bags and disappeared for a week until he left. Love is not enough … almost 10 years together and 5 years married. Enough is enough!
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relationships for love is the biggest modern lie (relationship wise) were being told...
Let the healing begin
amen❤❤❤❤
Unfortunately, even after going through their rock bottom moments, alot of these toxic individuals still won't learn. Moving on...
T R U E. 1000% T R U E
This took an unbelievable amount of vulnerability and self introspection. Respect.
Thank you
Over 3rys post narc, no contact. Recently found out he had a massive stroke. Laid on kitchen floor for 3 hours!! He's now in assisted living. Pretty sure that's rock bottom!!
That’s karma.
That's a horrible thing to say. @@cwn333
Lee I noticed you had great empathy for your friend. Not all narcissists have true empathy. Good for you and your family that you had the courage to go to therapy and working on yourself. You’re helping others majorly!! Your journey is helping you and others. Win Win
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Amen!
At least you were strong and smart enough to go to therapy. Most men go for just one appointment and never go back
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Preach all of that!
Most men don't go... this was Lee's breaking point
@deborahmotley7224 Sooo true....Lee has blessed his family with his therapy commitment. One less broken home. My hat's off to you.
So true. My ex would go once then make appointments that he know he couldn't keep. Until they dropped him.
Prayer does change things. The Creator can do all things. No therapist can deliver you from a demon.
Prayer from afar
@@KK_YAHshandASMR they have to want to be freed from the demon....then it will work
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@@caitlinsoliman1658 i totally agree. Its unfortunate but many love the wicked and sinful lives they live.
"If you spend your entire life with the mentality of "my trauma fucked me up and that's why i am the way i am" instead of learning how to heal and grow from your trauma, YOU are your own problem"
I'm going to be vulnerable to you guys and Lee. I'm feeling bad. The narcissist I was dealing with for years, I had a situationship with. I broke it off because I knew he wouldn't ever going to have a future with me. He was keeping me on the hook, yet he loved abusing me. A year later I found out he recently got married. I know, I shouldn't be bothered, I should stay focusing on healing. I know all that. But I'm not going to dismiss my feelings. We are all here on these videos because we're thinking about a narcissist who was or is in our life. I just feel like I'm so 'behind' in life because of all the developments he has made and I'm here stagnated because of the experience with him. I'm still healing so I'm here single, alone, and normally I didn't feel alone, I would be ok being single. But suddenly this guy is married, he's living together with the person (for the first time) and now I'm feeling so behind. All these years having to heal from him, and still have to. And he's just living his life, having all these developments and I'm feeling so behind in life.
There may be a lesson in there for you somewhere. The last narcissist I dealt with is actually thrusting me into my emotional healing journey so I'm trying to look at it kind of like Stella getting her groove back. Make a decision to be happy and go from there. Do whatever you need to do to let go of how you feel about him and just place your focus on yourself. Grow and heal and prepare yourself for your future blessings.
@@angelac.3217 I always look for lessons. I don't attract narcissists anymore, that's the reason why I broke it off with this one too. Still, it stings when the narcissist you dealt with is married, has everything and I'm single and healing. It's the unfairness I can't put into perspective, the fact that a person as he is can attract people to marry him, live with him, it just makes me feel so far behind in life.
He will do the same thing in his new relationship in time, because that's all he knows. He's a shell of a person, and no partner can change that about him. Be proud of yourself for not settling and continuing to grow as a person. You will find peace. Not so much for the narc. Good job saying that's not enough for you!!
You may be the narcissist I say that with as much kindness as possible
I left no contact 2 yrs ago...2 therapist later, a safety plan at work and I too feel lonely...BUT we're NEVER alone! Allow God to put you back together again because you are enough and certainly worth it! Love you!
The info gained on this channel is essential to bring back a sense of self to people that have had to endure a narcissistic relationship. Thank you Lee
You’re welcome. Thanks for the support
@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382 so true, I found him and got angry , was leaving comments ge deleted😁 . I went back to delete myself but it was gone. Nothing geared toward Lee , it was geared towards active narcys. Lol. I had to back off learning what a narcy was , then come back more clear headed cuz Lee was nailing it. Ok I think 8 got mad at Lee for a second for being a narcy but I cooled off
Beautifully said! Yes, thank you, Lee!
Wow! Your video was superb! I realize most narcissists don't want to do the work. And it's a lifetime of work!
My nephew would take a hit. He would break down say what he thinks we wanted to hear. Slowly gets back in good graces and does the manipulation all over again.
It's kind of an art 😅
Cause he hasn’t hit rock bottom and even then many don’t change!! Lee had a dark knight of the soul!!
@OneWhoKnowz he's nutz . He tried to put a hit out on m6 husband. He can't pay if he wanted to. The gas station attendants came an told my husband. I honestly don't think he will hit rock bottom
@@proanimaluver6487🙏🏽 Be safe!
Can relate to everything you said . “You leave me and other people want me , so it can’t be me “ I think it’s that you feel like that’s what other think too
my Step son lost CAR- Evicted~ lost JOB&& GIRL FRIEND room mate; still blamed " the World"""!
3:51 I had thought he actually hit rock bottom during his last massive rage that lasted over 15 minutes - in the car almost getting us into multiple accidents - but... He was projecting, screaming and blaming me for his break down and everything else in the world that ailed him the entire time. So, it wasn't rock bottom, it was just another much longer rage. I left him that day and never went back. He will never change and I'm so glad to be free of him!
I went through this,acting up in car,yelling,had me a nervous wreck,told him it's over,wow
Dear Lee, maybe you have narcissistic tendencies, everyone does to some degree, especially in the modern age, but at core, you're a good guy, you listened to your wife, you cared about your kid, you feel sadness & grief & empathy for your friend who lost his child, you grieved for the loss of your family member & your friend's child.. you decided to work on yourself to go to therapy & to choose a higher purpose in life to be remembered in this life as a good person. There are some truly damaged, dark & twisted authentic narcissist personality disorders out there, on the general spectrum, you are maybe a lightweight, but you manage with your videos to articulate the different ranges of experience & emotional responses you have gone through in relation to the basic tests of character life has thrown at you. You've done your best to look at yourself & take control of yourself & work on yourself for the best for your family, & to support others going through difficulties with difficult personalities in their lives. I hope you have a happy life now & more security with your wife & kids now. Bless you for taking the time to go to therapy to get the support you needed. You must have a good therapist too. Bless your wife & family & hope things work out for you all for the best. Can we call you reformed narcissist now. Thank you 🙏.
😂😂😂😂He has NPD its a disorder that does not change... Ur magical thinking beating ur ass 😂😂😂😂😂he said he's a narcissist & u outchea tryna make it not so 😂😂😂😂he's a narcissist tryna help people... Doesn't change the fact he's a narcissist... Do u know hg tudor?? Same thing... Reading this was weird
This is one of the realist conversations I’ve heard you talk about!! Thank you for being vulnerable with us Lee we appreciate you!!
I appreciate that
Yes, yes, yes!
You’re wife is a God-send. Shout out to her! Without her you wouldn’t be here for you, your family, or us. Thank you for sharing so transparently Lee. Much Love. 💕
Great change can only happen once you recognize something has to change, and you dive deep within and heal those traumas holding you back. They can manifest into many addictions. You sir, have beat the internal demons, and are a rare occurrence when dealing with a narcissist. Just like any other addiction, it will always be there wanting to fester again, but you have found your calling...your power..your gift to help humanity. Thank you for always keep it real, and helping so many. 🙌💜✨️
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😢😢😢...Your comment brought me to tears. I'm speechless, and I agree. A narc has to desire a change. Lee, this is your calling!
To know you need therapy and willingly go shows the good in you that is embedded in your internal pain and trauma. This is, IMHO, proving a spiritual warfare can twist and turn in a positive way. That one decision, committing to therapy, that you repeat year after year is changing your family's legacy. Wow! I'm in awe! More marriages and families would survive and thrive if more narcs had a willing ❤ like yours. Unfortunately, other families may endure the pain of divorce and no contact as a way to thrive. That one decision can change a family's legacy. Again, I'm proud of you, Lee!
Lee, you help us survivors and thrivers because you are so honest With Yourself. 🙏🏼🕯️🤝❤️
Calling someone a narcissist and then have to google the definition is a classic narc move 😂😅 I know that had to make your wife giggle
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@@DanceChickaDee or telling you something as if they did the research and learned it on their own. Forgetting I was the one that told them all about it last week. And they acted as if it didn't even interest them. Like wtf
We all have our rock bottom or self awareness time. This is a good place to hit, That's what brings us back to self reflection stage, which is essential for self growth. Thank you Lee 🙏☺
Lee, you do know you are an exception to the rule of a Narc's realization❤
Thank you baring your soul and sharing your good, bad, and ugly 💕 . I'm glad your wife returned to the house. Many raging mentally exhausted parents hurt or unalived their children and babies bcz the child kept crying so they shake it, punch it, or throw it to a wall to make it "shut up." Your wife's motherly intuition led her back to the house and she saved her baby and husband.
My 54yr old xnarc was exposed of everything. For a year now he's hiding at his mommy's, gambling on line and dirty dating sites, hoping time will make people forget.
Good on you for looking inward. My X will never look at herself, the gravesite will come first.
You are a good man Lee be proud of yourself for realizing you had a problem & getn therapy. Some of these toxic selfish creatures think too highly of themselves & don't think they have a problem, they have to much pride.
I try. Thank you so much
@@MentalHealness my pleasure your welcome Lee. Listening to your videos everyday about narcissists has certainly opened up my eyes, we need to be careful & safe in who we meet. Keep up the great work, I appreciate your support thankyou. 😊
Dawg ur helping me so much 🤦🏽♂️ def at my rock bottom and I’m sure I am a narcissist. Plan on doing a lot of work for myself I hope she forgives but I also respect she’s simply respecting herself by keeping distance .
My narcissist acts like he is above everyone…. Never rock bottom moment for him. I wish he would leave me alone. He calls and texts but I don’t answer or respond. I’m done. Dealt with this man for 5 years. He was good and bad. He is a liar and cheater. All relationships failed because of being a liar and cheater. He thinks he does no wrong. He doesn’t express himself or shows any emotions. I walked away but he won’t leave me alone now.
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Exact same situation!!!
@@TamraDavis-m6e stay gone
@@jessicaturner5626 stay gone!
NO CONTACT. BLOCK. 100%.
Choose consistency for yourself.
I really respect your development or your awareness, I don't know which is right. But what you do is so valuable, thank you. It helped me a lot.
Lee!!!! Thank you. Honestly. You're Truth, set you free!
Thank you for sharing the argument, the Pain, and your Rock Bottoms, that you had to endure, to get to your freedom.
God Bless You & Your Family🙏🏼🕊
I like the way you just put the beginning of this video things have changed. My mental state has changed over the years. Everybody’s mental state changes. It can change from 15 seconds to the next, but we definitely all grow and grow as humans
My husband just did a 13 part TikTok series on me calling ME a narcissist. He’s telling half truths and skipping over his habitual cheating behavior. Breezed over the financial abuse and now trying to get into my social media accounts. I just want to be left alone.
If this ain’t the truth!!!! Some people (me) need to hear it 1mil times before it clicks. Glad it finally did.
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Yep that's the truth...that's what happens when u feel like u love someone u just can't see UNTIL u SEE!
I have said this a million times that my now ex needed to hit rock bottom. The reason why he will never hit rock bottom because his mother who made him this way always bailing him out. She raised him to believe he could never do wrong and he was the king of the universe. She told me I opened her eyes to her son and apologized to me for it but she loves him and will always be there for him no matter what. He knows that.
Mine too sadly
My exs mom is the same way. He's been arrested no less than 13 times, he's a convicted 6 time felon. This woman has paid over 40k in legal fees for him, not to mention she sends him money every month for his expenses. He doesn't have a job. He lies to her to get money and blows it all on drugs and hookers..it's INSANE how blind these women are to their own sons. Surely they can't be that stupid to realize enabling them in this way isn't helping ANYONE.
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Just like my enabling aunt and her two sons, one’s her ‘daughter’. She moddy cuddles them cooking them dinner everyday when these two grown men have three to four baby mothers between them. The only opportunity they’ll get to grow up is when she passes away.
Same ! The enabling mothers are the worst! They be Narcs themselves sometimes
Yes LEEEEE HAMMM!!
Mental Healness bringing that REALNESS!!
Lee, u are so smart, thank u for what u are doing for people.
I thought he would’ve had his rock bottom moment after I left him, moved out in March. Well he moved in a former desperate colleague 40days later this is after a nearly a 6yr relationship
I told the guy I loved and he did not care he was a narcissist. It is rare that you admitted it and cared.
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Very rare!
This testimony is priceless and I pray it will help any narcs watching.
Thanks for your honesty
I found my sweetheart may be near that. I will still be here for him. ❤ i will be here home waiting. Hes a good man. Just very stressed at the moment. I will be here to help clean up our mess. Its he and i right now. Breath easy sweetheart. I m here❤
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Here is the thing...even if it is not your fault...IT IS your responsibility to fix it.
It's a long way down. Wow, I didn't even think that was even possible !
It’s insane I realized how healed I was when I caught a slight bit of disgust with myself as I was reading a comment I left that described the situation as “ my narcissist “ how brainwashed and lingering that mental abuse is when even after they are gone… your still attaching your self in to the situation by owning that title. Smfh a narcissist caught me at the right time. But he is not my narcissist.. he is a narcissist. And I wasn’t a victim of his. I was a victim of myself. Whatever allowed me to love myself so little made me attract someone who had very little love for themselves as well. The difference as an empath is the recognition in order to repair my wrongs. His is not having the ability to be able to.
Im hitting rock bottom right now and im not a narcissist
Why do narcissist usually NEVER UNDERSTAND THEY are a narcissist .
Doesn’t benefit them
i said youre a narcisist and he always says "thank you" or "youre not a dr diagnosing people"
@@JustMe-vs1kj makes sense they then get killed often by the biggest lobbyist pharmaceutical...."the enemy of my enemy is my friend", could be vice versa yet only chicks like Brandy Vaughan ever do anything besides whine about it the way cozy men make money their g-d
Really they're all warmongering alike
Ty for the compliment I'm not a Dr
I love listening to you Lee. Gets me through my day. Your experience, acknowledgement and accountability is unmatched! Your family is so blessed to have you! Blessings to you all ❤
Thank you for sharing your personal story, Lee! 🙏❤️
Thanks for listening
Your story will always be amazing to me ❤
Thank you 🙏🏼
I just wanna thank you for all the ways in which you, cluster b milkshake and Ben Taylor helped me out of hell. I know I’m not the only one. Your rock-bottom has been a blessing to many thanks again.
I'm so glad!
Powerful testimony and glad you shared. It takes courage...I know you're helping people...and has helped me understand NPD. My dad is 85 covert. I'm 61 ..how could I not know??!! He's now out of my life. And my brother's. And lost 2 friends he tried living with...he masks well. Only horrible behind closed doors
I cared for my ex I know more than anyone else ever in her life. I stayed with her through rehab for alcohol when even when she got out no one checked on her. 2 years I built her up kept her mind busy. Within 3 weeks of me not bring there she's already totalled her car, got a dui, and lost her job. But still tries to hoover me for sex and validation when I only want to love and build a life with her
They're never at rock bottom because they always, always find shoulders and heads to stand on to survive.
FACTS 💯 yes they do ugh
My partner did not take it positively when I told him a narcissist. He obviously did not care to Google or research on it to make himself more aware of his situation.
He had a rock bottom moment after he left me for another girl. Our first year anniversary, thirty one years ago... He told me he was getting a divorce. He told my his family I was crazy and on drugs when I was working as a waitress to support him at the age of 21 and during the day he was at the pool with a 17-year-old in our apartment complex. So he convinced himself I had made him a monster, made his whole family think that Completely deserted me. I didn't hear a word for 2 weeks. They had been coming in my house getting things having sex on my bed when I didn't know when I was at work. Finally, security man told me and told me where they went. Nick told me he was gonna it divorced me. He'd already send the papers whatnot. Then calls back the all of a sudden, I move, I say, okay, I have my ring changed over and I move on with my life and then he's been stalking. He leaves a note on my door that he wants to see. Our dog It's his dog too while he left her too I should have just stood on that ground.However, he got flooded in my house 43 days.It was insane
My ex Narriccist husband came today to get his things and he said he is going to the shelter to get his own yet he went right back to his baby mothers house a huge smack in the face
That was the realest video ive ever seem
You're right😢 unfortunately I don't think many of them know what rock bottom is because it's not that they have someone ready is that they know they can find someone and they know that people are easily manipulated because that's what they do it's when they run out of people to manipulate they'll return to you over and over again unless they've been at rock bottom so long that when you talk to them again you can actually hear the change they haven't changed every person in my life has been a narcissist😢
The Bible says, "No one is good, no not one." Romans 3:10 -12 I think we all have some level of narcissistic traits. Good on you for facing it and doing better!
Excelente vídeo. Muchas gratitdue for your gifted PURPOSE. Wise words towards awareness ; healing...
Sending tons of peace ; well-being to you &familia!!
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I sure wish I could show this video to my husband and 😢 he would come to realization, but I know that it wouldn't happen
Thank you for sharing your heart Lee🙏🏽🙏🏽
You are so welcome
Thank you for being vulnerable with us Lee. what a great video
Thank you Lee! Great insight !!!😊😊😊😊😊
You are so welcome
Oh, that book is bout to be a best seller. People are catching on!!!
My ex narc said we can go to therapy but as soon as the the therapist starts agreeing with you, I’m walking out 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
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I ran up on you 2 weeks ago and the past week I have been watching more and this answers so many questions. I believe this is my husband and and on top of that I found he has a drug addiction. So it’s been hell but this opens things up
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He blocked me again, exactly 72 hours after he unblocked me. I had him blocked on my phone and my voicemail filled up so he couldn't leave a message. I just ignored his calls but spied on his Facebook until a few minutes ago when I discovered he blocked me again. I'm tired of his games even though I still love him. He obviously doesn't love me. 😂😢
I appreciate you for telling your story.
No problem
One of the most powerful videos you’ve put out 💯
Blessings
Thank you
I have been watching you for a while Lee...and this was quite revelatory!🔥🔥🔥🔥Thanks for the real transparency.💪
♥️💯 thanks for the support always
Thanks for sharing
Your videos always explain word for word everything I have been trying to say about how my narcissistic ex is. My kids father. It’s so hard to coparent with him because he feels so entitled. I’m not sure how to handle the situation anymore. I hope I can find a video where you explain how I can deal with a narcissistic coparent.
Thank you So much Lee for sharing and for your advice 🙏 😇
Any time!
I just wanna thank you for all the ways in which you, cluster b milkshake and Ben Taylor helped me out of hell. I know I’m not the only one. Your rock-bottom has been a blessing to you and to many others. Thanks again.
You are so welcome!
How do you come to terms that you won’t be able to see your ex narcissist hit rock bottom? I wish I could see him hurting as much. I’m now 1 year free from him.
U aren't really free yet until u don't care about if he hurts or not...and im not judging u for it I totally get it...just know that u shouldn't care if he doing bad or good cuz u don't want him back anyways!
The pain of the situation has to be greater than the pain caused by what is motivating us to avoid changing. It's very similar with addiction.
Thank you Lee for sharing yoyr experience, wisdom and feelings with us.
Thanks for sharing!!
Late diagnosed autistic female, I was born with neonatal abstinence syndrome (pregnant mother + opioid addiction = …) at around 4 years old my mom nearly bet me to death while my dad was in jail, at age 6 he left, which left her resenting me. I had to leave at age 15, i stayed with a guy who I met on the city bus, we had known each other for a year already, he would be at the bus stop every morning on my way to school, he helped us move, he told me was 18. I went to him..stayed with him for 4years…his family made him turn himself in(he/we had been on the run for 1 year on the shiprock reservation)
He begged me to married him right before he left, I agreed. Then left the state…I’m 27 now… financially dependent on my partner of the last 4-5years…I don’t know how to do this….
Wow!!! That was deep
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As a female with NPD- I don’t think the answer is for everyone to leave if they are with a narc & even if they’re- with God all things are possible! Keep watching Lee- I bet a bunch of you empaths are narcs and don’t even realize it! People are always evolving. You got a 50-50 chance of your “ narc” self reflecting & getting help. Pray- pray and pray some more. Read the Bible- its the instruction book for life ♥️ 🙏
What it comes down to is were either Evil or we aren't. WE either walk in the light or the darkness. I'm an empath but I cam admit I've played in alot of darkness. I've been obsessed with the narc many times. I've only wanted to change her for the better, but that's how we get obsessed with them and even by them, or because we're playing in darkness ourselves. I feel more than often we can even start acting dark. Lust is probably the biggest tool the devil uses here to control us. Lust and also Money can be the other.
Oh man his wife is probably going through hell. Don’t worry you’re not alone. Go out meet new people join a new activity group. You’ll be just fine soon you’ll be looking back asking yourself why did I even stress over that demon.
Mine?
No, she's commenting on her original comment on this post. It's about the man marrying and moving on that she speaks about in the comments. ❤
But, it's just not as easy as all that. Some of us are neurodivergent to begin w which usually means socially awkward and solitary by nature, and even if not there is an imperial TON of work to do to simply be able to function on any normal level. I can't begin to describe how far I am from simply putting myself out there even 9 months from going no contact. I felt ok, normal even more or less until a few days after I went silent, THEN the real badness began to hit. It ain't over when it's over. The real stuff is only beginning at that point. I'm speaking from my perspective cause that's all I have but I'm not who I was, don't know how to get back there and doubt I ever will be the same. This isn't meant as criticism but things like "it's over now", "you're away from them now", "you gotta get back out there", " don't let this keep you from living life"; these may be meant as helpful but emphatically are not and frankly make one feel even more alone as it becomes clear that nobody gets it. Nobody gets how f'ed up and broken and damaged you are. At this point I'm ok w having lost what few friends I had. It was only making things worse when they wanted their old friend back and she's gone and they don't get why even tho you long since gave up explaining. I know you mean the best and have probably worked through this stuff but it only makes us feel more lost and alone. And that's no place to be coming from if you actually want something new. She may also have been speaking about the various setbacks and missed opportunities and where she would be had she never met this person. I can certainly understand that 315%. In a year w a narcassist I lost 40 yrs worth of hard work and the person it took all that time to become. That's a lot to lose. Personally I never want to date again. I don't need or want friends. I'll stick w furry friends who are incapable of being anything but what you see.
Exactly!
@tempestous-i3k You are not alone. I get your thinking process. Surround yourself with people who get what you have and continue to go through as you heal. 🙏🏽
Compelling testimony
How do you tell a Narcissist that they’re a Narcissist? 🤔 Like how do you hint it to them…?
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you really can't. you have to paint it in a good way
I remember when the narcissist started having all kind of health issues it was hitting him left and right the domino effect boom boom boom boom it ain't never been the same.
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Thank you 🙏 for sharing ❤
you’re welcome
Strong story. ❤
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🙏🏽 Thank you
Yeah, the one I had is, umm, far gone. Too many ppl validate him. Honestly, he doesn't even need validation from anyone. He does that all by himself. He's got a lot of money too so...The amount of pride in this one human being is astonishing.
Everytime I watch one of your videos I finish feeling so enlightened. Seriously, thanks for sharing your story. After watching this, I would love to read your book! Are you planning on putting it on Audible?
Thank you so much for doing these videos. There needs to be more self aware, narcissist who by the grace of God would like to get into heaven and I don’t think you can get into heaven this way not when you have demons that your door plaguing you every day to hurt people, I appreciate you so much and I really hope that you and your wife are awesome together. It’s very rare for a person to have the problem pointed out and for them to actually look into it and acknowledge it that will be the difference in where your soul goes thank you again.
Therapy can be manipulated w/NPD
love is strong enough to do be what I knew what was right and to ask God for the strength okay good better best
wow deep video thx for sharing
I think the term 'your narcissist' is dangerous. We don't own them or anyone for that matter.
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He hit rock bottom two days ago. He just got out of jail a month ago. He’s been getting wasted every day at work and driving home. He ended up going off the road and hit a tree. Hard. Broke his ribs, pelvis, and right hip. Fitting part is he was supposed to start his OWI classes the same day. He absolutely has no one to blame. Finally. But I honestly think he did it on purpose. He had talked horribly about me minutes after I left his work to visit him. I’m just another btch. Then he almost died.
Thank you Lee for "putting your mark on the world" by simply telling your own story 🫂🙏🏼💯
Thanks for listening
Do not go to contact with a narcissist if you broke up with her play today's new spouse about your habits
Those who think that they’ve gotten away, their rock bottom is death. I’ve witnessed it and it’s not pretty.
Please help me, please 😢 I'm married to a narcissist, and I'm trying.
9:05 You once said, "I knew I was different since I was 8 or 9." Did you realize you were a narcissist at 31? I thought my ex knew she was a narcissist, but is it possible that she didn't?
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Appreciate it