confronting homophobic people in my DMs because I'm gay
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is the look a toot or a boot
Also for anyone who thinks they saw my address that’s not my real address 💀 don’t EVER tell a stranger your real one
It's the swaggiest thing i saw this week
toot!
Toot.
The shirt gives me peacock 🦚 vibes
Honestly I love it
shirt is grandma vintage aesthetic. 100%.
I agree lol
I agree lol
srsly never knew i could like a color scheme + pattern so much
agreed
@Anaya Warren Indeed
“I even have a gay cousin” being related to someone isn’t optional?
Yessssssss
Yeah like people who say they aren’t homophobic/transphobic because they have a gay/trans cousin is so stupid
@@crazycarly3504 fr. like okay?? people have lgbtq+ children but half of them kick their kids out for being themselves so being related to a gay person doesn't make you not homophobic🤡
I just realized I have cousins and don’t even know who they are
Bruh it’s the exact same thing with some kids at my old school saying the n-word because they “have a black friend”
pride month is like christmas. for some ppl it holds lots of meaning and importance, but for others it’s just an excuse to get rainbow stuff on sale
I like this analogy
couldn't have said it better myself
YES
Pride month is just another normal month for me.
@what's up I mean cry about it. it's his choice and decision for who he wants to be 😁
The first girls logic is like "I've never met George Washington therefore he never existed."
_“It’s just a word.”_
I mean *bomb* is a word, _but can you say it on a plane?_
Well unless you’re lonely and want the CIA as your friends, probably not.
So is fire, but you can’t yell that at a movie theater
murderer is just a word, but if you scream it in the street pointing at someone, the person won't appreciate it
Gun is also a word but you can’t just yell it in the school hallways
@@oldnikaflopped omg are you an everglow stan?
@@darao.4907 yes ofc
Homophobes really spend so much time thinking about gay people, that’s kinda fruity if you ask me. Like ok Kyle I get it you’re obsessed with me, but if you really wanna kiss that bad you could just ask, no need for all these games 😩💅🏻
Even if Kyle asks id ghost his ass.
I wanna kiss men, not trash 👀👀
Sherprix _88 I respect that but i’m going for more of an Enemies-To-Lovers thing here 😳 I could fix him
@@kazzoey9164 i live for this comment
@@kazzoey9164 not the fix him with the heart😭
i’ve seen a few of your comments/replies and when i say i LIVE for them- 😌
To the person in the first story: you can’t say the n slur unless you are black
You can say the f slur unless you are gay
You can’t say the t slur unless you are trans, the reason is that these are derogatory terms that are STILL used to belittle and degrade these people. The best way I can put it is, unless if you have that darkness you can’t joke about that darkness. This is true for even certain jokes and things like SH, SA, racism, sexism, and more.
You can but if you do and ur not any of those things I don't like you its very disrespectful ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
You probably can in specific cases i think but they are so rare so just dont.
Hi I'm sorry I'm still new to the lgbtq+ community... so what's the f slur and what's the t slur? I'd like to know so that i dont accidentally use it 😅
@@stxn_cxld7342 I’m not going to say them even tho I’m gay and trans so I could, but if you google them they should come up I assume
@@stxn_cxld7342 The F slur is baguette but change the b to an f and change the uette to got. And the t slur is trans but take away the s and add ny. To be clear im letting you know so that when someone mentions you know what they mean and so that you know what words you should avoid saying. Also like the other person said you can google it.
Recently Polish government was discussing that their anti-LGBT laws DIDN'T WORK. Laws like "no LGBT zone" which can be established by entire town/ village etc. And me and my friends were all like... "what results DID you expect? For gays to disappear overnight?" :P
I love how they always stay quiet about veterans during April and May, but suddenly become activists during June lmao. They don’t care, if they truly did, they wouldn’t support setting off fireworks on July 4th cause it can trigger their PTSD. If they did care they would make special events to celebrate and be thankful for our veterans. If they did care they would help reduce the amount of veterans homeless on our streets and help fund for their therapy. But they don’t care. As a queer woman who lost a great grandfather to the Vietnamese war and as someone with an older brother in the army, I despise how these people use the pain of veterans and their families only to belittle the queer community.
this!! if you actually care about veterans then support them and speak up for them, don’t only use veterans as a counter arguement against LGBTQ+ people
Some time ago I was arguing with this dude about pride and basically his only argument against it was "wElL wHy DoN't VeTeRaNs GeT a MoNtH" like BRUH they literally do. They don't actually give a fuck about veterans either, they just want gay people to be miserable so they pull these bullshit claims out of their assholes.
Well said!!
Why did I never realize fireworks are probably a trigger for a lot of veterans and retired soldiers? That’s awful, imagine the time you get to support your life-threatening journey you can’t even enjoy. :(
It’s time to wear this queen 👑
I hate when people say “it’s just a word” because words are used to described something. If you say something rude, that word, IS RUDE. For example, the N word describes African Americans in a rude (edit: as someone pointed out in the replies, it’s more than rude, it’s “racist and bigoted”) way. It’s not the word it’s what it means and it’s connotation.
Exactly 🙄
Just hate crimed someone, but it's just an action
Niggaz its just a word 🤭
@@xenophiile no it’s not, it’s a hurtful things for people to say to black people. Only black people can say it your just being racist
Not rude. Racist and bigoted. You are correct in what you said but dont reduce the usage and history of the N word down to just being rude it goes beyond that. Same thing for other slurs.
I'm so used to surrounding myself with my supportive friends and community that I sometimes forget that so much ignorance exists outside of my bubble. It's honestly scary sometimes to think about it.
Also, I like your shirt. I would wear it. ^^
"Everyone gets bullied" yeah but you dont get beaten so much that you actually almost die and end up in hospital for 6 months but ok you go girl
Ikr? Like girl if you were the one that chose that tacky ass shirt at target then that's on you, cuz I didn't choose to be gay. If anything you're the one that deserves bullying 💅
that's horrible. are you safer from that bully/s now? (if you were speaking from personal experience)
I'm so sorry,
Homophobes honestly just make me laugh like, they really out here thinking they did something by calling you gay.
Like girl, who’s gonna tell them 😂
It's literally r/technicallythetruth if they called him gay 😂
When someone at school calls me gay, I (a questioning bisexual) say “oh you noticed”
It’s like telling someone to die during a murder mystery game.
It makes you look dumb (and kinda weird ngl)
And you’re just shouting the inevitable. What are you doing?
Or like calling a woman a woman.
Tf it’s gonna do?
Homophobes be kinda gay dude😳
whatchu doin'.. wondering 'bout what's in my pants.. 😩
Super straights are kinda gay too man.. what 'straight' person gotta go "no but im not gay!!!@" whenever someone of the same gender compliments them
edit: removed @
"Call me a girl all you want, because that to me is a compliment."
I need to frame this quote
For real cause it be complicated sometimes to be a girl, but it’s so sweet to hear 🥺💕
*Laughs in transgender*
I love how the people who care the most about the millatary don't know that may is millatary month
Im a bit young to be on social media, but ive been on the right side of youtube growing up surprisingly!
I grew up with those gacha life mini movies, but I literally only watched the lesbian and gay ones so😭
Gacha life turned me gay
I think that the shirt has a howl’s moving castle aesthetic!
Omfg yessss
Gasp your right!!😳
Trueeeee
fr it looks like Howl's bedroom
Ooooooh, DEFINITELY!
10:56 "I don't see nobody trying to kill gays and that shit" omg that literally made me mad and sad because like two weeks ago, a guy was murdered in Spain just because he was gay 😭 I hate people with this kind of thoughts
same, i'm so pissed, people in the lgbtq+ get h@ra$$3d, bullied, and k1lled. What do they mean "I don't see nobody trying to kill gays and that shit"??
considering homosexuality is punishable by death in 70 or 80 countries and illegal in over 100...
Russia and othern eastern countries. And not just randomly, with hategroup gangs, but likely also randomly.
If its about the us, trans people are with the community too, or should be. And are randomly attacked. There exist even the trans panic defense.
Can you imagine believing that making an offensive comment to someone who:
-doesn’t know you
-doesn’t give a f*ck about you
-is comfortable with themselves
-isn’t harmful/toxic to others
would care about your ignorant opinion?
would have their spirits c r u s h e d? 👀
👄
These people really be obsessed too when they don’t get the reaction they want, so sad.
dude you look beautiful like my lazy ass could never 😟
why do people who aren’t oppressed love to say “x slur is just a word” when those slurs don’t apply to them. some white or nonblack people think saying “we can take the power away from the n-word by casually saying it when we aren’t Black” is like ., helping??? Black people??? like omfg
EXACTLY!! They want a slur to say SO badly-😭
@@bemorekind and i don’t even know WHY THEY WANT IT SO BAD
@@cryingthrowingup4256 because they can't have it. that's it. that's the reason. just like how The Straights™ want a straight pride month so bad and/or how some want to be included in the lgbtq+ community "sINcE iT's aBOuT iNcLuSiViTy." they just want the things that they don't get because they aren't opressed😭
and then when gay ppl call straight ppl "straggots" and "breeders" they get upset🤡 (i personally don't agree with calling straight ppl names like that bc i think its stooping to their level, but my point stands. they want access to slurs they shouldnt use but then when ppl use "slurs" against them they get pissy lmao. like ur proving the point here mister)
@@whytho8856 ALL OF THIS! I also agree with you on the whole calling the Straights™ "breeders" isn't really helping at all. It can be funny in certain situations (I admit to using these terms on certain occasions), but overall these terms (especially "breeders") can and have been used against other lgbtq+ people (bisexuals, pansexuals, demisexuals, trans people, etc.) as insults when they are romantically or sexually involved with the opposite gender or in "straight-passing" relationships who decide that they want to be parents and have children biologically. That is not okay at all. I personally DO NOT have ANY desire to be a mother/parent, but even I hate it when my fellow lgbtq+ folk slam other lgbtq+ individuals for wanting something they personally do not want, especially when it is not hurting them or anyone else. Intra-community prejudice happens within the lgbtq+ community and it needs to stop. Sorry for the rant, but I just needed to say my peace, lol.✌
And they’re always white ppl
There's a podcast called "Conversations with people that hate me." It's really wholesome, the host is a gay guy that brings people that got in arguments or said ugly things to each other on a conference call to figure out what the hate is really about.
Yes I was just about to comment this too! I love Dylan Marron
Can someone give me a link?Im really curious about it
Seconding asking for a link
@@cheep5645 open.spotify.com/show/5IyxYnPv0905XdTUxeDQkj?si=0SUT_9IQS5-D23NRi1pRAw&dl_branch=1
this should be the right one, but if it's not or it doesn't work for some reason, you can just type the name of the podcast into spotify and it should come up :)
@@hokachi6401 this should be the right one, but if it's not or it doesn't work for some reason, you can just type the name of the podcast into spotify and it should come up :) open.spotify.com/show/5IyxYnPv0905XdTUxeDQkj?si=0SUT_9IQS5-D23NRi1pRAw&dl_branch=1
Y'all, some of my classmates (who is 13-15), is really homophobic and say the N word, f word and a lot a lot of slurs that is offensive to LGBT people/POC, idk alpha Sigma power shit related too. tiktok, Twitter humor and internet is seriously ruining kids now. I was being harassed because I'm trans a lot from them, and the teacher doesn't give a shit. oh society💀
there’s always that one classmate who’s just super bitchy. it’s always the “alpha male sigma omicron” bullshit with them too. i hope they come back around and become a good person.
Bet y'all like Velma
Yeah, me and my friends are part of the LGBTQ and we always make inside jokes such as "Omg, your straight.....?" Or "Straight people are so weird" But they aren't meant to be offensive and our tone makes it very obvious we're joking.
As a Mexican, I’m disappointed in that first girl. Like- literally wtf dude. She’s so uneducated and rude it’s honestly just sad. I´m so sorry for all the hate you and many others get for simply being apart of the lgbtq+ community. :(
She's also 12-13 if Fredric's prediction is correct. Tell me you were perfect at that age. And if you were, not everyone gets exposure to as much as you do. I was deep in the closet and barely out of my homophobic stage when I was 12. I can't be mad at this girl for responding defensively to an adult cc who essentially cornered her. I like Fredric, I like his content, I'm not trying to villainize him, but I disagree with what he did here.
@@rachelleredd8803 and then they should be taught and educated, stop shielding kids that are being actively hateful
@@staninsertkpopgroup1181 that's not her fault. She can't choose to be educated by those around her. She could go off and do research, like I did, but I came from a neutral home, which I'm betting she didn't. If Fredric very politely, and in a public place, tried to educate her about a few simple things, I'd have no beef. But instead, he, a whole adult, with a big audience, privately messaged her (pretty aggressively I should add), and then wondered why she wasn't responding well. I wouldn't respond well either. He then went off and posted it all to his big audience without asking permission first. He didn't offer constructive criticism; he essentially bullied a child, and knew perfectly well that the people watching the video couldn't be trusted to avoid doing the same thing. I'm not making excuses for her behavior, I'm saying that Fredric, who should know what he's doing, really poorly went about the situation. I don't want to sheild her, I want to educate her in a way that doesn't start with an insult. This wasn't 'education'. This was harrassment. Call me homophobic all you want, but I'm a lesbian who openly supported the community for years before I discovered my own identity. I fully support educating kids and condemn the refusal to do so. But like I said, this is harrassment, not education.
@@rachelleredd8803 You keep saying Frederick harassed her and went hard on her... Dude, she literally was acting homophobic in his comments and he even defended her when someone went out of line. And we saw the convo, he was very patient and polite considering all she said was "f*ck you b*tch, you aint oppressed". Like, I know you see yourself in her and feel more defensive because of it, but it's good she experienced something like this in the long run. Even if she didn't change her mind now, it planted the seed of the conversation that may help her later down the line.
@@s2sHoXXs2 I don't think we're going to agree on this. I see what you mean, I do. And maybe it will help in the long run. But it also might only make it worse, because she may look back at this in a negative light, and therefore associate the community negatively. If she matures enough, yes, she'll see that it's ok. But I can't support this. It makes me feel gross and every instinct is telling me it's wrong. Even if this works out for the better, there were still other ways to go about it. If she matures as I said, if the indoctrination doesn't run too deep, she'll cone to the right conclusion anyway. I might be wrong, I might be completely incorrect. This is just a feeling I have.
The first girl is too obsessed with hating on pride month causing her not to realize that May is Military Appreciation Month
this stuff pisses me off so much because these people are just choosing to be ignorant. people like you are willing to give out information and listen to their reasoning, but then they put their fingers in their ears and scream like a child. it's so ridiculous. also whatever you're wearing you look beautiful so it's a toot from me ❤
The first girl made me so sad. I've only realised that I'm non binary for maybe a month or two and already I've felt the effect of homophobia/ transphobia. I'm not out yet but just knowing that my parents would stop loving me like they do now and certain people would stop talking to me is just so emotionally taxing. Imagine how it is for people who are out or who have been outed and are facing hate every day for being who they are. Just because you're not aware of something doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
Also Frederic I love the outfit!!
Same situation but I’m only out to my mom, she still hasn’t used they/them pronouns and I have to correct her every time but she doesn’t correct herself, she just says “okay”
Other than that my friends are supportive so I’m mostly good, pull through and find the right people
I’m sorry you feel that way :( I’m in a very similar situation, and I want to tell you that you’re not alone
@@kirbyloverrr7 thanks for the support! You're very swaggy :D
@@rebeccawalker562 you’re welcome :)
damn istg not all mexicans are like the first girl, we don’t claim her
Girl, same, I really wanna say it's from our upbringing tho. Cause let's be real, a lot of the older Mexicans like our parents and grandparents are pretty phobic. I'm just glad I unlearned that behavior
@@mayrayanez2430 bro yes thats is so true us Mexican were just educated like that(still doesnt make her actions excusable) but its tough becuase of our older generation.
We don't claim her until she becomes educated. The thing is that she is raised in machismo and marianismo which were passed down by the older generation. It is hard tho.
@@mayrayanez2430 yeah it’s a sad reality, our older generation is still pretty homophobic and they educate the next generation like that
*Trueeeeee*
Im heterophobic lmao
sameee lol
@We71- Bisexuals do have children mate.
I hope you're all kidding lmao
Why?
As a Mexican I have witnessed so many other Mexican guys say the n word and f word. It’s so tiring and annoying 😒
The shirt gives me "vintage cafe manager/librarian who's secretly an assasin" vibes and I love it.
That sounds like a wattpad story :0
hiding a knife in the collar 🤭
@@peachypanda57 yessss
I was going for cookie baking wife who is on her 5th husband and the rest all mysteriously disappeared but yea I see that too
I love it
I personally think your outfit is amazing, it definitely gives off a vintage aesthetic. It looks really good on you! :D
yeah! it looks really good! you could totally style that different ways too!
Same ! Even before you asked, I thought that it was unbelievly beautiful ! Love you ;)
Ya, the colors remind me of a peacock
like those "rich elegant charismatic lady" in kdrama >◇
“Obviously people who do this are ugly” 🤣
I'm a minor and I have been called the F slur by my best friend and I didn't cry over it but it hurt because we were besties but I didn't want to be friends with a someone who can't respect me just because of my sexuality ☺️😁!
"become straight" is the funniest thing i've heard today
Detroit Become Human
@@amonsumdomshiette9695 bruh no way Connor's android bussy too good
Yall wanna see a homophobic comments that are really funny
Ok the link th-cam.com/video/qRIyQtXRHOA/w-d-xo.html
Go tothe 3rd comments reply's
Its not my vid btw and im not tring to promote anything
Yess
Become gay, lol.
I'm a Mexican and I don't want anyone to think we're all like this, I have many LGBT family members including myself so.. Love from Mexico! 🇲🇽 🌈
I mean we are not like her soo we will not assume tho🥺🥺and also never been or had mexican friend but your country and culture seems interesting for me and also happy late pride😌🏳️🌈
Thank u thank u THANK U I’m a Mexican and a lesbian and yes this❤️🔥
I’m partly Mexican and a bi Ace...
Do I count
@@nightmareeyes1737 I’ll be your friend
Do you like painting
im a mexican too, just an aroace one
This makes me a little depressed and upset.. because in school I'd get bullied for my sexuality being gay and literally one moment I literally dropped a pencil and asked someone to get up.. and they hesitated just because I was gay and I'd just get belittled by everyone because of my sexuality... being gay really ruined my school experience and currently still is ... um I really hate.. the hate it's just really annoying for me because I just have to stay bottled and pretend to be something I'm not and this really hurts me but I feel it's the only way to live throughout my life
@We71- first off I dont need your opinion secondly what are they teaching.... clearly your not making any sense.... also u shouldn't have to get bullied for liking something U dont like THATS what's not right
@We71- u cannot have an opinion especially when your on the opposing side... and your opinion has no greater impact so why even say it, it's pointless because u dont understand the struggle u can only be negative and not actually helpful literally...
@We71- U are part of the reason why the world cant be peaceful... gay people hadn't done anything to u.. no murder no nothing but it's all because we like something u do not... it dosent really add up
@We71- If your going to belittle more for something I love and nourish then you must not have a heart at all... love is love liking is liking u could be dating someone ugly but I wouldn't bully u for it... but maybe I'm just different because I have a heart and I have no problem with anyone I actually see the light and positivity in stuff unlike you.. you shouldn't be so negative and self centered about a situation that really affects me or anyone else's situation
@We71- that not logical
tysm for being nice, and not super mad even at people saying slurs. and how you say we shouldn't attack people's appearances! you're really kind, and i'm a strong believer in not combatting hate with more hate, i like watching pride channels and channels focused on pride but a lot seem really angry all of the time, so this is really refreshing. thanks.
people who use the argument of “veterans get one day weh weh weh” seriously confuse me. if they claim to are that much about veterans then they would know that they get three months and multiple days throughout the year, for example: april - month of the military child, may - military appreciation month, november - military family month. if they choose not to celebrate those months and multiple other days dedicated to them in the calendar then that’s their problem.
Yeah they literally get 3 months-
30 days is nowhere near that.
And then the complaining about how companies don’t decorate for it? Like don’t complain to the gays about that we can’t do anything, complain to the companies.
The bibble profile pic is elite
That's exactly it,they don't really care about veterans they just need a shield to hide their homophobia behind. Same as people using children or the bible, most of the time they don't care, they just need an excuse.
@@honningbie2724 exactly and its not like we enjoy companies profiting off of the lgbtq+ community
This look gives me "powerful older witch that mentors the main character"
Ok but that sounds like a whole ass vibe.
EDA FUCKING CLAWTHORNE
HOWL PENDRAGON
STANFORD FUCKING PINES
@@ThePotatoSapien YESSS
bruh i had a teacher who said the f word in a normal conversation, like she wasn't even reading a book. she then said she meant bundle of sticks. i'm still just- huh????? edit: i realize this was random but i mean it like how first girl said it casually
Also your shirt is lit and i demand to know what brand
It _used_ to mean "a bundle of sticks" but now its a slur. (I know you know that though lol)
We're all so proud of you for taking these so well😊 you're beautiful. Maybe one day those people will look back and realize
pride month isn’t about just flaunting flags and screaming “IM GAY!”. it’s also to prove that what people like Bayard Rustin (an LGBTQ and civil rights activist) completed in their lifetime did not go to waste, it has the same point to prove as does the months and days dedicated to veterans, veterans day is to prove that what many risked their life for didn’t go to waste. pride month isn’t something for homophobes to get mad at simply because of the fact that everyone in the community does not care nor will never care that you aren’t involved in it. please remember to do your research throughout an argument and not just attack a random gay on the streets, this isn’t the 1900’s
wait we doing a one day thing for people who sacrifice their life's and a month one for pointless arguments wait what? also how do gays deserve more time for celebration than veterans well idc you can have your month aleast the rest we can act normal and not have people scream I'm gay in my ears trust me my guy no one talks about the history plus don't think pride month actually works because if it did I would've learn about gay stuff etheir way I'm proud I got to learn to be homophobic well not in a way I want to kill u way
@@gvc7314 i’m not saying veterans are any less then anyone else, i’m not comparing anyone. i’m just stating an argument
No its that veterans are forgotten by the government and left with issues. At least it should be. Their lifes were wasted but that should be remembered. And the traumatozed veterans left in the cold. Its really horrible how veterans are left on their own. Just what i think veteran month should be about.
I would say as long so many homophobes are mad at it, its a sign it is needed. The day that doesnt matter, sure its maybe superflious, but till then, it has a purpos3. And it does matters appearently according to haters.
@@gvc7314 well you have the right to let people live and not go or read about it. That it exists doesnt mean you cant just let it without participating.
Its also one day in the year. Do you also want to kill carnevals because they exist? Think of it as carneval for the gays. And trans.
And if noisy organisations arent for you say that its too noisy, not its too gay. Is that so hard.
Its literally a festivity to say yes gay people exist, people arent that the whole year. Its a carneval.
And if thats the first time you saw gay people as that, yes it did its job.
Trans people are attacked thou, gay people too, do you know whats going on indirection russia, gay people are attacked. Ughanda, bad things. You didnt specify a country so yes gay people are attacked randomly for being suspected that.
Homophobia is dumb. On a better note, I love the colors and cut of that shirt it’s very you and it rocks!
Yup
Yall wanna see a homophobic comments that are really funny
Ok the link th-cam.com/video/qRIyQtXRHOA/w-d-xo.html
Go tothe 3rd comments reply's
Its not my vid btw and im not tring to promote anything
It is dumb. I cannot imagine being scared of a man who likes men. The term homomisic is much better.
@@onetwoyankee both bad
As a person under 18, I am very sorry for the children being rude. Especially those who are older than me, they are just immature. I personally think you are really cool
Its giving grandma version of ming lee. Yes it looks vintage and pretty.
That young girl is a little insecure and just doesn’t want to admit when their wrong even when that facts are shown.
*They're="They are wrong"
@@faithbradley4224 ok thx for that
They're also 12-13 if Fredric is correct. Tell me you weren't ignorant and insecure when you were *12.* I don't see the point in making fun of them for that.
@@rachelleredd8803 true, but let’s be honest here. Would you have kept going with someone even when they showed you facts to prove their point??
@@trebtsarmyinfiresmanyeah5130 If I believed there were facts to prove my point, yes. I was really stubborn and argumentative, and honestly still am to an extent. I think it's Fredric who needs to be the adult and, instead of coming after them for being insecure, actually politely attempt to educate them (in a public place, not private DMs), and if it doesn't work, he needs to back off. The way he kept pushing just felt immature and rubbed me the wrong way.
Then they ask why we get a month....ITS BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU JUSTIN
and then they’re like “just don’t shove it in our faces” like ma’am??? do you know how much the media revolves around heteros
@@peachypanda57 a perfect example of it is sex ed. We learn of straight safe sex but nothing on lgbtq safe sex. Perfect example.
@@peachypanda57 fr bruh
I randomly found your channel today and i want to tell you that just everything about your aura and atmosphere makes me feel safe, warmed, giggly and colourful and its very special to me. Colourful in terms of, your video temporarily cured my depression and stuff, not to be drammatic just, you really helped a little flame of excitement and hope for the world and other people in it sparkle just a little more and i genuinely enjoy that a lot. I am only 4 minutes into the video. I just think your whole appereance like the WHOLE; what you say what you mean, how you say it what emotions you transfer, your movement in body and mimic, just everything not just like your actually amazingly fitting outfit that remembers me of a peancock is wholesome and inspiring. I am glad i found you. Thank you for being yourself.
I literally defo find it to be very grandma vintage aesthetic-esque. I'm loving the combo of eyeshadow choices w your nails and then the TOP😍 maybe its just me but I always love a good floral
Your outfit has headmaster of a magical school vibes and I’m here for it
To the first girl: Yes, veterans and people in the military do deserve more recognition for their sacrifice, but it's not our fault that they don't have that. We(at least I)never wanted Pride Month to be this big, dramatic celebration. I just wanted it to be a way for me to appreciate myself and my sexuality. If you really cared about veterans you'd spread awareness, not sit on your butt and insult queer people. I'll admit, a good portion of our community sucks and are idiots, but every community has bad parts that shouldn't represent the community as a whole. Not all straight people are homophobic, for example. Please educate yourself before coming after us. Also, don't use racial slurs. Burrito is not the same as a slur. I'm sorry you've been bullied for your race as a fellow poc, but being oppressed doesn't mean you can oppress others.
We can care about LGBT rights and veterans rights at the same time.
Also, the military has 3 months and 40 holidays throughout the year
@@lovecraftscat5044 this
@ yeah but that was mostly the government and not the veterans themselves. Many hated their service and a lot went into the military so they wouldn’t be saddled with life long debt, so I wouldn’t blame the the veterans themselves but the shitty government
Veterans are left in the cold with a lot of issues , psychological and mentally. If you care for veterans, care for veterans actual issues, not a month of hallow
For that veterans mostly are leftleaning too. They are really mistreated by healthcare already.
Also there is no conflict between veterans and the queer community i know of, why compare them .
Alot of my friends and family are apart of the lgbtq+ community, I support this community whole heartily. I have witnessed people bulling my friends because of thier sexuaility (someone told my friend they would go to hell and then sent them a video of how to avoid going to hell). My friend felt like they weren't accepted and that they were hated... I dont understand homophobic people who attack and shame the lgbtq+ community, I've witnessed bullying over sexuaility, it hurts people mentally and makes them feel bad for something that isn't even a bad thing... Fredric I support you! Also I'm living for your grandma aesthetic
As a lesbian I do not understand homophobes either.
10:04 as a black person, I think that black history month is incredibly important not only to educate others but to educate our own community as well. Because our history has been so oppressed and covered up it's important to have a month where we talk about it. For example, we all know how amazing and important of a poet Tupac Shakur is, but when you only go over his poems in a class centered on poetry as a part of black history month, I think that just proves how much we need it. Tupac is just one of many different examples I could talk about though. We need black history month because without it, our culture will never be taught. But I guess that's just my experience living in the middle of nowhere in Kansas.
Ok a little storytime.
I commented something once and a person just replied saying "you're gay"
Me being the curious human I am, asked them what they meant and said "what if I'm not".
After like few hours, that person replied "then you're mom gay"
I, again replied "what if SHE'S not and why are caring about my family that much"
That person had the audacity to say "I'm bored"
I said "Just because YOU'RE bored doesnt mean that it's ok to assume someone's sexuality"
And til now, that person hasn't responded. I'm 13 but like I feel like ik so much better than grown ass adults. Idk my sexuality, dont even care tbh. People can just be unknowingly disrespectful. Think twice before saying something, you can't take your words back
To me it sounded like that person was obviously joking
@@Corpsee. then its a pretty bad joke lol
this makes me hate humanity even more 👌
@@Corpsee. not a joke.
@@Corpsee. Maybe for your humor it is funny but not for me. Using gay as an insult is a no-no for me. I highly respect lgbtq+ community and I dont like that
I live in a very catholic and conservative country and pride month is important for me because its the least we have for our community. We barely have legal rights (we don't have anti-discrimination laws, gay panic defense is legal, conversion therapy is legalized for the whole country, etc.), much less the right to get married or to adopt. It's the one month I don't feel alone
my heart is with you. at least we have this one month, i hope things get better in your country.
hey sounds like where I live. stay strong, fellow human :)
what in GODS name is _gay panic defense????_
@@crow_in_a_trenchcoat I don’t if someone else answered your question but hope this helps. If I remember correctly, this was a while so I apologize if there’s some minor incorrections, it’s a law where if someone feels threatened by a LGBTQ person they can retaliate in self-defense which can involve assault weapons. It’s a thing in a few states of America if I’m remembering, but I’m from Canada so it doesn’t apply to me specifically.
…Yeah. It’s fucking terrifying. And it makes me worried that other people like me have to live in fear with this law.
@@kalmeio_17 why GAY PEOPLE IM PARTICULAR???????
we’re not threatening we just walk fast
You literally look so amazing!! Your makeup totally ties in the look, I'm obsessed with the gold
the aesthetic is on point
funny thing is, the "Pride just cancelled themselves" video is made by a bisexual man, who is engaged to a trans woman
I think I might have seen the video, also that is so goddamn hilarious
@@depressionpie4859 i can relate to that name ;-;
imagine if the first person comes out as part of the lgbt community like years later lmaoo
Then we'll all be there with open arms (once they apologize, of course).
I honestly hope she doesnt start saying the n word on public media she clearly knows its bad if she never does that. That kind of thing can ruin her for a good long time.
I love how you matched your eye shadow with your shirt it helps the style, & it's not everyday you see someone rocking blue eye shadow where I live.
LOVE the shirt, really its lovely!
Also Yes! Yes! Its amazing that you're trying to explain to the ignorant people!
I can remember arguing with girls like the first girl when I was her age. People like her usually just don't get it until they get older most of the time. Ignorance is a hell of a drug. I really hope she changes.
okay i actually really love how he talks about homophobic people like they’re animals 💀
Fr lmfaoo
Well it’s the way you talk about animals
Says the animal.
As a 16 year old bi Mexican girl i dont think getting called a burrito is the same as getting called the f word 💀
The outfit bops, it's so elegant, you look like Howl, I love it
“nslur is just a word”
yeah ok tax fraud is just an action it’s not bad
age is just a number
death threats are just a sentence
murder's just an action
^some other examples, feel free to add on
edit: i'd just like to specify that im agreeing here idk if the tone sounded off
@@minor4890 PLSSS GO OFF IG
beating someone up is just a movement🙈
it isnt bad
“Poisoning the minds of children and destroying the family is just an act of freedom omggggg wake uppp it’s 2022!!!”
I find it so weird when people bring up veterans when trying to debunk the necessity for pride month, because if nothing else veterans choose to be veterans, people choose to be in the army and choose to fight for their countries, I never chose to be queer, veterans do deserve recognition and deserve better and more than a mildly per formative month, but they choose that
i havent heard this one yet, thanks for pointing this out
Facts !!!!! We should never hide who we are .
Also, there are 3 months dedicated to celebrating the military and 40 days dedicated to them as well.
GIRL U SLAYING!
I love ur energy and approach to all of these... interesting ppl. ur voice is also super relaxing and calming
I like how every homophobe uses the same excuses. “I follow gay people” or “I have a gay friend/family member.” Just because you know gay people doesn’t mean you can speak for them, not even gay people or allies can speak for the whole community. It’s none of your damn business, so turn around and leave if you don’t like it that much.
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Time to express my wrath
and I guarantee wrath is not only a word
love the xiao profile pic thats all royalty have a good day bye
hello!! this video really helped me figure out some things that i’ve been unsure of before, thank you for posting these convos and this video! 💛
The makeup is on point✨✨
As a straight man, I think the fit looks sick af
YES
As a non straight genderless frog i agree
What makes me feel bad is the homophobia within the gay community.
feminine members of the community are often criticized and discriminated by the masculine ones.
This is a really bad case especially here in the Philippines. They would also use the term bisexual because they don't want to be called gays(even if they are not really bisexuals nor had any relationships or been with a girl). Some people here think that being gay is always feminine. They confuse it with being discreet and being out and proud. If they see themselves dressing up in a "manly", straight-passing way, they will call themselves bisexuals, if not, you are gay.
agreed, also if you're a lesbian and you're not masculine cishet filipinos basically just see you as straight, because filipino media often represent lesbians as hyper masculine, not saying masc lesbians aren't valid, just saying i've never seen a lesbian in a filipino film on screen that's femme and isn't hypersexualized--
@@frogpog4315 I totally agree... There's this stereotype of lesbians that the Philippine media have in mind and they stick to it always.
@@Lucy-cl2qk no i think OP meant that people here in the Philippines associate ALL gay men with femininity, completely disregarding gay men who don't fall under than stereotype, i've also met straight guys who act just the slightest bit effeminate and people immedietely assume they're gay-- like I said in my last comment, not invalidating gay people who fall under these stereotypes it just pisses me off when cishet people push this narrative that we're ALL like this--
It's because of the media honestly, the stereotype here in the Philippines is that if you're gay you're automatically feminine and if you're a lesbian then you're automatically a tomboy, that's why the term tomboy is still used to refer someone who is lesbian. But honestly though, the younger generation here is more educated, so it's just mostly the old crowd that does this or 12-13 yr old edgy teens.
@@risaec8730 that's so true! it's a good thing that the younger generation are getting educated. Some people in their 20s and up are still not updated and even some people from rural areas. There should be more knowledge given to more people.
The third one is the best character development ive ever seen. Thank you, sticky note, for educating them. We stan 🛐
your style in this video ugh
SO GORGEOUS
alright, here’s my constructive criticism for the first girl:
hello! i am also around your age range (not gonna say the exact year cause i don’t wanna expose that on the internet lol) but as someone who was in a somewhat similar place as you with the arguing with people online (i still do it, i’m just more mature about it now), but was definitely more of a radical twitter stan than anything else, i am both going to educate you a little bit and give you some advice for discussions/arguing with people. if you want to just get to the constructive criticism because i noticed you’re awfully set on not listening about that, i am going to leave a space before i move to that, so you can scroll down there if you’d like.
first off, pride month happens as a way to celebrate how far the lgbtq+ community has come, and as a way to take pride in their identity. gay marriage was only legalized 6 years ago in all of the states, and just a few years ago people were still making jokes calling things that they didn’t like ‘gay.’ now, is this a really big problem? not necessarily, and it’s great that gay marriage was legalized at all, but the fact that something a lot of kids look forward to in their earlier ages, and something that so many people consider important was only made legal for queer people less than ten years ago should tell you how little society truly accepts queer people in general. the gay jokes just reinforce the stereotype that being gay is somehow inherently bad, which again should tell you how society views queer people. straight girls (not all, but quite a few) will claim to be allies and that they love gay people, but then the moment their friend comes out to them as lesbian or sapphic in general they’ll start with the ‘that’s fine, just as long as you don’t get a crush on me.’ someone being attracted to the same gender does not automatically equate to them not being able to resist the same gender, or being attracted to literally every person of the same gender. are straight women attracted to every single man they see? i wouldn’t really know, but i would hope not. now, these are just examples of more modern micro aggressions and subtle homophobia. i really don’t like to get into more serious aspects of homophobia because it’s a very upsetting topic, but to put it simply being called a slur was the least of your problems if you were queer in, say, 1950. that sounds like an incredibly long time ago, but that was only 71 years ago. if you think still think that’s a really long time ago… i don’t quite know what to say to you, i suppose you just don’t really have much of a concept of time lol. anyway, being queer was not something that the majority of people in the united states were fond of for a lot of our history. people often erase queer historical figures, or more so they erase the fact that they were queer because they either think it’s shameful, or for some reason, in their minds, it’s something that is ‘too difficult’ to explain to students being taught history. alexander hamilton literally participated in the 18th/19th century version of sexting with his best friend john laurens. if you look up letters between john laurens and hamilton, well, there’s your proof. the paintings of jesus, where he is white and has brunette hair and a beard is, if i remember correctly, based on leonardo devinci’s gay lover. or that was just a meme. either way, it’s rather funny to me. anyway, back to the topic at hand: in so many cases, queer people are told to act ‘normal,’ or to hide the fact that they are queer, because it is viewed as shameful. that is what pride month is about, accepting and loving your queerness because of the shame that has been associated with loving the same gender for so long. i think that’s all i wanted to say on that topic, now moving on to constructive criticism for your arguments:
i noticed that you tend to ignore frederic’s points in his arguments, which is definitely not a good strategy. if you can’t come up with a counterargument, in all honesty, i would just recommend giving up. if it’s just a bit difficult for you to come up with a counterargument, i would say you should keep trying, educate yourself more on the topic so that you can be even more successful in future arguments too. do your best to stay on topic, it’s never good to completely ignore the other person’s point in an argument because it shows them that you aren’t educated on the topic, or that you really don’t have a counterargument. you can always learn more about a topic, even if you think you know everything there is to know i can promise there’s probably more. so, my criticism is to stick to the main point, let the conversation change gradually rather than just changing it to a topic you’re more comfortable with/know more about, and remember that there is always more to learn. when you find yourself faced with new information or an argument you can’t counter, don’t feel embarrassed, you can’t be expected to know everything. but you have to learn from your mistakes too, you can’t just argue that ‘well, i didnt know that, so now can we move to something i do know about?’ no. it’s best to take it upon yourself to educate yourself rather than making it the other person’s responsibility to accommodate you.
i think that’s all, i wish you the best :)
jeez, this is a really great comment. i hope that that girl, or someone who feels similar to her, will see this and learn a little. you might get this often, but it's really amazing that you're so educated on these matters at your age. i'm similar age as well, and people like you give me hope that newer generations won't be quite as ignorant as older generations were/are to lgbtq+ matters!
@@whytho8856 thank you!! i really do think it’s important to educate people rather than beating them down or making jokes constantly because it’s often difficult for them to truly learn or understand the lesson when a method like that is used. i also hope that that girl sees this comment, or at least another few comments giving her constructive criticism. i didn’t realize this had gotten likes, but i’m glad that you replied so i know that people saw my message :)
commenting with the hopes it ups u up!
@@c.f.6840 thank you!! i really hope that girl sees this :)
mucho texto
Frederic looks like that single rich Asian aunt I see only on Chinese New Year’s who drops me a fat red packet and never remembers my age
you handled these so well and some of these people just need to be educated, which you did. **the shirts definitely granma aesthetic, i love**
I absolutely love your outfit and makeup, queen! You look amazing!
Also, the thing you said about the other parts of LGBT is true. I often feel invalidated because I'm an aromatic asexual and some argue that it's not a part of the LGBT. It most definitely is. The first time I even attempted to come out, I was told that I needed to see a psychologist. My family is constantly begging me to date and said they "don't care who it is as long as it is someone of the opposite sex", which is the LAST thing I want. This is why we have pride month. It makes people aware of the struggles the LGBT faces. I've been harassed and hurt before all because I told people I don't date when they express interest in me.
I just realized that 13 year old me argued the same way the first person did. All desperately trying to bring cross a point that has nothing to do with the topic bc I had no actual knowledge of the topic 😶
That's pretty relatable, 13 year olds can be so arrogant and assured in their opinions when they've literally been manipulated half the time 😭 I remember arguing like that too and it's so embarrassing
Exactly. That's why this video made me uncomfortable tbh
the shirt is stunning
i'm OBSESSED with your outfit omgg go offff 😍😍😍😍
The outfit is giving very Howl’s room✨
I SEE IT OMG
serving ghibli fantasy ✨
An outfit Sophie would wear ✨✨
Thinking the same thing 😁
OH YOURE RIGHT
I grew up in a homophobic household and pride month is so important to me because I feel like it’s the one month I can celebrate my sexuality without feeling bad
This is the first video I’ve seen of you and I’m already subscribing , I love ur energy 😩
Love the shirt!
“i should just get a month for me then bc i get bullied” it’s not just bullying. we used to get burned alive for being who we are. we get rejected by our families and have to constantly worry where we when with our s/o so we don’t get hate crimed. trans people have to worry about whether or not it is safe to tell their own s/o they are trans. we get fired and rejected form jobs for our identity. stop acting like we are making a massive deal out of something minuscule bc we aren’t.
i dont understand how oppressed minorities can oppress other minorities like that… honey you get oppressed too you should get why we are trying to get accepted and get rights
The hypocrisy of it all.
@Xx-raZ0r_pup-xX has a non-binary bi person i know exactly what you’re talking about
@Xx-raZ0r_pup-xX im bisexual and non binary and jesus… the amount of hate i see sometimes in comments from our own community makes me just want to cry
@Xx-raZ0r_pup-xX I'm aroace agender and use neopronouns, so I definitely get that. The in-fighting is honestly just exhausting. There's layers to it.
Frederic, you looks absolutely beautiful with all makeup and styles, love your content!
I really love it, especially the eye makeup :)
Why does Fredric look like a actual prince? 🥺✨💜
OMG HE DOES
Cause he is a king
“Pride Month is pointless “
This was my actual face:😃
I wish I was as wise and confident as you when I was 20, Frederic! Seriously, I'm very impressed with your approach and patience. Massive kudos to you!
obsessed with this video's look, the shirt is everything