I love what you said about healing extends outwards from us. That moment of non-separation when I share and receive a luminous smile ! That moment says it all. Precious not being separate. There! All healed!
Dude. dude. DUDE. I am simply blown away by how much similarities my life had been with the story you shared. You have put words that I could have never expressed into a video for me. I am quite literally speechless. And it is also extremely comforting to know someone else actually went through the same thing as me which I thought could not have happened to anyone else (specifically involving getting rejected by a "crush" not once but TWICE)! Thank you so much for being so vulnerable in this video, I really really resonated with it. What are your thoughts on finding a new partner while you're still "healing"? For me, that sounds like a no no. I've always thought that ideally, I need to heal completely or develop my character to its fullest extent before I should go out to seek for a partner so that I can be at my best. But you also did talk about how healing could be a lifelong process and I do agree with that in general. So then perhaps it boils down to a striking a balance with how much you have healed and how prepared you are before seeking out another partner? Curious and would love to hear your thoughts on this :)
I'm glad to hear you resonated, and that I'm also not the only one! Great question - there's no perfect answer. If someone has just begun the healing process, I'd encourage them to be generous with the space they give themselves. I'd agree, I'd say there's a balance to find here. As cliche as it may sound, you'll know when you're ready - particularly after you've invested time and energy into not only healing, but also showing up as your own partner. Ask yourself, how would you feel in a loving, supportive partnership? What actions would such a partner take? Then go show up as that partner for yourself. You won't know how "ready" or "healed" you are until you do. Until you open yourself up to connection and see how you respond to different situations and people. You may have invested X amount of time into developing your character or healing, and realize you're ready, or that you may benefit from some more time alone. But above all, the partner we meet is one who will create a space for healing to continue. I'd encourage you not to "seek a partner", but to instead pursue meaningful connection. And from there, allow whatever is meant to happen, happen :)
I love what you said about healing extends outwards from us. That moment of non-separation when I share and receive a luminous smile !
That moment says it all.
Precious not being separate.
There!
All healed!
🙏
Dude. dude. DUDE. I am simply blown away by how much similarities my life had been with the story you shared. You have put words that I could have never expressed into a video for me. I am quite literally speechless. And it is also extremely comforting to know someone else actually went through the same thing as me which I thought could not have happened to anyone else (specifically involving getting rejected by a "crush" not once but TWICE)! Thank you so much for being so vulnerable in this video, I really really resonated with it.
What are your thoughts on finding a new partner while you're still "healing"? For me, that sounds like a no no. I've always thought that ideally, I need to heal completely or develop my character to its fullest extent before I should go out to seek for a partner so that I can be at my best. But you also did talk about how healing could be a lifelong process and I do agree with that in general. So then perhaps it boils down to a striking a balance with how much you have healed and how prepared you are before seeking out another partner? Curious and would love to hear your thoughts on this :)
I'm glad to hear you resonated, and that I'm also not the only one!
Great question - there's no perfect answer. If someone has just begun the healing process, I'd encourage them to be generous with the space they give themselves.
I'd agree, I'd say there's a balance to find here. As cliche as it may sound, you'll know when you're ready - particularly after you've invested time and energy into not only healing, but also showing up as your own partner.
Ask yourself, how would you feel in a loving, supportive partnership? What actions would such a partner take? Then go show up as that partner for yourself.
You won't know how "ready" or "healed" you are until you do. Until you open yourself up to connection and see how you respond to different situations and people. You may have invested X amount of time into developing your character or healing, and realize you're ready, or that you may benefit from some more time alone.
But above all, the partner we meet is one who will create a space for healing to continue.
I'd encourage you not to "seek a partner", but to instead pursue meaningful connection. And from there, allow whatever is meant to happen, happen :)