Thanks for supporting me ...even tho people in India never talk open about Bisexuality and LGBTQ you are my inspiration for becom visible and accept myself what i am.....i wanna say thanks 💜💜💜💜🤌 and thanks me including in your posts ,videos... Big hug and Love from India 🇮🇳
Hey I'm sending a big hug all the way from here too. Bisexuality is so misunderstood in the UK/Ireland so I can't imagine how the situation is in India for you guys. For us to be out here is one thing, but for you to be open is a shining example and I'm honoured to connect with such a strong and amazing person. We have a new podcast episode coming out soon with a bisexual person called Rajashree from Kerala. Such a great conversation. She is involved with an organisation called Queerla, don't know if you know of it at all. But anyway, keep being great and massive love to you and everyone over there. (Also India has the best food I LOVE YOU!!!!!! haha) x
Mark, you're doing such a great job. Your channel is easily my favorite channel to help embrace my queerness. I look forward to every video you post. Sharing your own experiences and now, the experiences of others is what helps me embrace myself more and more everyday. I am going to my first gay bar on Saturday, something light and easy going for my first experience but I am going with a gay co-worker who has been very compassionate in my struggles. I'm still struggling to make sense of my attractions, but I'm happy to know that I'm comfortable and actually excited to just go have a drink and bite to eat with a cool co- worker regardless of gender and environment. In hindsight, I have always been able to get along with anyone and show compassion for then no matter ethnicity, religion, sexuality etc. It's only recently being in a relationship with a woman who was unaccepting of my fluidity that threw me for a loop. It wasn't her fault at all, I believe it really came down to my comfortability with myself and ability to set boundaries and be confident in my decisions. I appreciate you Mark and guests! Thank you.
Hey thanks so much for your kind words I'm so thrilled to hear that you are enjoying the content. If you can ever share any of my videos I would be enormously grateful - it helps us to get the info out to more people who could benefit. OMG have a fab time tonight my friend! Enjoy and just take it all in. Will you let us know how you get on? Remember, don't let anyone knock you off your shine and be you! Sending loads of love, Mark x
I shared one of your video regarding bi-visibility. I'm still in the closet for the most part at least to my Facebook friends because I'm not entirely sure where I am on the spectrum but with my recent new found freedom to just be more open with my thoughts and feelings, I decided that the bi-visibility is a great video to start sharing. To be honest, I'm still afraid that coming out as bi is going to narrow my chances of finding a good woman who accepts me (fear and scarcity mindset, I know.) But I also thoroughly enjoy being open and honest with those around me so I'm still learning. I will definitely check back in and let you know my experience, it will be tomorrow night so I'll attempt to get back in on Sunday. I'm truly just hoping I can enjoy a good hang out with a cool co-worker and see where it goes from there. I have major anxiety thinking I'm going to become some slutty bottom for some older Bear Daddy (stereotypes, not healthy, I know).
@@SParker1289 Hey thanks so much you are truly appreciated. And hey, expressing your identity is 1000% your own decision, your time and your control. You're so valid however "out" you are. Sending love.
Hello there! How have you been? I'm so happy to see your channel growing and more great content 🥰 to me, bisexuality has meant honesty and comfort within myself. It has meant condoning all those thoughts and feelings I once tried to hide because of shame and fear, and being at ease with all of it ❤️
Hey thanks so much for your kind words. I've been doing well thanks. I've finished my book and sending it out to literary agents. Exciting. Putting all my advice and experience on sexuality, gender and self confidence into one place. I'm dreaming that someone will take interest. I'm so glad you have come to this place of ease within yourself. I'm so proud of our community and proud of you. How are you doing in life at the moment? Thanks as always for your lovely comments. I'm so glad to be able to connect with you. Lots of love, Mark x
Amazing video Mark! I love hearing the perspectives of my fellow bisexuals! It's always great to hear different viewpoints, especially about something as complex as sexuality. Happy Bi Visibility Day! Sidenote: LOVE RossVictorious at the end! 🤣
How had I missed this video! Love love love this!! Love all the definitions and love all these people. Authenticity, no boundaries to beauty, falling in love with you because of who you are, being attracted to you because of who you are, seeing beauty everywhere 🌟
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@@bitheway230 I am so proud to stand alongside you my brother. You are so inspiring and I'm thrilled to know you. Thank you for taking part. You are the best. Keep being proud - you're changing the world.
Haha! YEEEEEEAH! I love it. I love your video so much and that song is my actual life long anthem!!! "I put the B in LGBT!!!!!" Savage. I love it. I wasn't sure how best to place this amazing clip but I thought at the end to play us out would be fun. Thanks so much for being involved we've reached so many people with your help so I'm super proud. Massive massive love to you over the LAKE!!!!! Keep being phenomenal x
Hey thanks so much I'm so touched to hear this. Nathan is an amazing guy and a dear friend and chosen brother to me. If you have instagram check out @nathanhasasong I'm sure he'd love to connect with you. I'll pass the message on in any case though, he'll be so happy. Much love.
I feel like people are so passionate about their identity. For me, being bi is just...me? Like, if you asked me how it felt, I'd say it's probably a lot like being straight. It's just there, a part of me, something that actually doesn't impact my daily life. I'm not in deep thought about my sexual identity when I'm cooking breakfast, you know? I'm in deep thought about about tasty hash browns. I'm still working on figuring myself out at 32, got a lot of internalized -isms and -phobias to work through still, but if there's one thing I've learned it's to just enjoy my attractions. The label is the label, if I'm attracted to someone I'm allowed to be attracted to them. There's no shame in it, it's honest.
@@notdefining Everyone does! It's a lot of hard work, but my advice to everyone is basically "don't fight it, give in to it." It's not shameful. It's not embarrassing. It's not in your control. Once it's not scary, it's a lot of fun. Thank you for posting your videos. I'm sure you've noticed I have my gripes, but you've really helped me voice what I've felt. Couldn't have put it into words before.
Love your work but aalways have to give my two sence. Bi is not an iudentity that welcomes everyone uiin with open arms we need to wwatch out for moralizing sexuality biseexuality is not a welcoming identity if you are fgay and related to that I would rencorage you to give some note or acknowledge ment that the idea of haveing different sex targets for romanti ves erotic atraction or relational verses coplulatory might make sence as a bisexual and not have to be fraught but if someone is gay and face it gay people will watch your channel a there are sstill a portion of gay men and lesbians who continue to take on a bi identity as a transoitional identity that they know some where is not authentic but is usefull for them (not saying that is true for evrryone who is bi obviously) but given that if someone is gay it could be a sign of a life altering degree of homophobia thatt tthey have internalized and coudl make hjaving a fulfilling long term re;lationship impossible ebvven as they long for one it can a;lso make them extremely vulnerable to shame and maniputlations by anti gay family or other affiliationn group like a church -- they could be led to build on the emootional and romantic comfort with women as a partner and ignore or minimize the lacck of erotic desire to fuel that and end up ion a dduel orientation marraige of the really rapy horrible kind. But I am more open to that bifrication of erotic and sexual and romantic etc when talking about orientation -- I can see how it coudl be usefull and informative for bisexuals in a way i hadnt before - I alwasy took taht move on the gender bread person to reflect the fepth and lack of awareness those on the left have of tehirr primal anti gay hatred. I coudl see it more sympatehtically as reflecting something omf the bisexual experience.
Thanks for supporting me ...even tho people in India never talk open about Bisexuality and LGBTQ you are my inspiration for becom visible and accept myself what i am.....i wanna say thanks 💜💜💜💜🤌 and thanks me including in your posts ,videos...
Big hug and Love from India 🇮🇳
Hey I'm sending a big hug all the way from here too. Bisexuality is so misunderstood in the UK/Ireland so I can't imagine how the situation is in India for you guys. For us to be out here is one thing, but for you to be open is a shining example and I'm honoured to connect with such a strong and amazing person.
We have a new podcast episode coming out soon with a bisexual person called Rajashree from Kerala. Such a great conversation. She is involved with an organisation called Queerla, don't know if you know of it at all.
But anyway, keep being great and massive love to you and everyone over there. (Also India has the best food I LOVE YOU!!!!!! haha) x
Mark, you're doing such a great job. Your channel is easily my favorite channel to help embrace my queerness. I look forward to every video you post. Sharing your own experiences and now, the experiences of others is what helps me embrace myself more and more everyday.
I am going to my first gay bar on Saturday, something light and easy going for my first experience but I am going with a gay co-worker who has been very compassionate in my struggles.
I'm still struggling to make sense of my attractions, but I'm happy to know that I'm comfortable and actually excited to just go have a drink and bite to eat with a cool co- worker regardless of gender and environment.
In hindsight, I have always been able to get along with anyone and show compassion for then no matter ethnicity, religion, sexuality etc.
It's only recently being in a relationship with a woman who was unaccepting of my fluidity that threw me for a loop. It wasn't her fault at all, I believe it really came down to my comfortability with myself and ability to set boundaries and be confident in my decisions.
I appreciate you Mark and guests! Thank you.
Hey thanks so much for your kind words I'm so thrilled to hear that you are enjoying the content. If you can ever share any of my videos I would be enormously grateful - it helps us to get the info out to more people who could benefit.
OMG have a fab time tonight my friend! Enjoy and just take it all in. Will you let us know how you get on? Remember, don't let anyone knock you off your shine and be you!
Sending loads of love, Mark x
I shared one of your video regarding bi-visibility. I'm still in the closet for the most part at least to my Facebook friends because I'm not entirely sure where I am on the spectrum but with my recent new found freedom to just be more open with my thoughts and feelings, I decided that the bi-visibility is a great video to start sharing.
To be honest, I'm still afraid that coming out as bi is going to narrow my chances of finding a good woman who accepts me (fear and scarcity mindset, I know.) But I also thoroughly enjoy being open and honest with those around me so I'm still learning.
I will definitely check back in and let you know my experience, it will be tomorrow night so I'll attempt to get back in on Sunday. I'm truly just hoping I can enjoy a good hang out with a cool co-worker and see where it goes from there. I have major anxiety thinking I'm going to become some slutty bottom for some older Bear Daddy (stereotypes, not healthy, I know).
@@SParker1289 Hey thanks so much you are truly appreciated. And hey, expressing your identity is 1000% your own decision, your time and your control. You're so valid however "out" you are. Sending love.
Hello there! How have you been? I'm so happy to see your channel growing and more great content 🥰 to me, bisexuality has meant honesty and comfort within myself. It has meant condoning all those thoughts and feelings I once tried to hide because of shame and fear, and being at ease with all of it ❤️
Hey thanks so much for your kind words. I've been doing well thanks. I've finished my book and sending it out to literary agents. Exciting. Putting all my advice and experience on sexuality, gender and self confidence into one place. I'm dreaming that someone will take interest. I'm so glad you have come to this place of ease within yourself. I'm so proud of our community and proud of you. How are you doing in life at the moment? Thanks as always for your lovely comments. I'm so glad to be able to connect with you. Lots of love, Mark x
Amazing video Mark! I love hearing the perspectives of my fellow bisexuals! It's always great to hear different viewpoints, especially about something as complex as sexuality. Happy Bi Visibility Day! Sidenote: LOVE RossVictorious at the end! 🤣
Hey I’m so glad. Thank you for your kind words. This was so fun to do.
How had I missed this video! Love love love this!! Love all the definitions and love all these people. Authenticity, no boundaries to beauty, falling in love with you because of who you are, being attracted to you because of who you are, seeing beauty everywhere 🌟
Omg thank you Barbara I’m so glad you liked it. I’m so proud of our community.
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💜🤌thanks for being my inspiration...... And including me in your posts... 💜 Am so warm by this 💜
@@bitheway230 I am so proud to stand alongside you my brother. You are so inspiring and I'm thrilled to know you. Thank you for taking part. You are the best. Keep being proud - you're changing the world.
awesome! Bisexuals strike back! Omg who’s that clown at the end Lol
Haha! YEEEEEEAH! I love it. I love your video so much and that song is my actual life long anthem!!! "I put the B in LGBT!!!!!" Savage. I love it. I wasn't sure how best to place this amazing clip but I thought at the end to play us out would be fun. Thanks so much for being involved we've reached so many people with your help so I'm super proud. Massive massive love to you over the LAKE!!!!! Keep being phenomenal x
"I'm the B in this bitch!" Wow I need a T shirt with that on right now.
That was wonderful to hear what bisexuality means to those wonderful people. Shout out to Nathan, his message really did resonate with me ❤
Hey thanks so much I'm so touched to hear this. Nathan is an amazing guy and a dear friend and chosen brother to me. If you have instagram check out @nathanhasasong I'm sure he'd love to connect with you. I'll pass the message on in any case though, he'll be so happy. Much love.
I feel like people are so passionate about their identity. For me, being bi is just...me? Like, if you asked me how it felt, I'd say it's probably a lot like being straight. It's just there, a part of me, something that actually doesn't impact my daily life. I'm not in deep thought about my sexual identity when I'm cooking breakfast, you know? I'm in deep thought about about tasty hash browns.
I'm still working on figuring myself out at 32, got a lot of internalized -isms and -phobias to work through still, but if there's one thing I've learned it's to just enjoy my attractions. The label is the label, if I'm attracted to someone I'm allowed to be attracted to them. There's no shame in it, it's honest.
This is honestly one of my favourite comments ever. This is where we all deserve to be.
@@notdefining Everyone does! It's a lot of hard work, but my advice to everyone is basically "don't fight it, give in to it." It's not shameful. It's not embarrassing. It's not in your control. Once it's not scary, it's a lot of fun. Thank you for posting your videos. I'm sure you've noticed I have my gripes, but you've really helped me voice what I've felt. Couldn't have put it into words before.
I’m so glad to hear this
So important to get our voices out there. Thank you for all you do.
Thanks so much. This made my day x
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Hey thanks for the love. I love our bi colours so much.
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Hey thanks for saying
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Love your work but aalways have to give my two sence. Bi is not an iudentity that welcomes everyone uiin with open arms we need to wwatch out for moralizing sexuality biseexuality is not a welcoming identity if you are fgay and related to that I would rencorage you to give some note or acknowledge ment that the idea of haveing different sex targets for romanti ves erotic atraction or relational verses coplulatory might make sence as a bisexual and not have to be fraught but if someone is gay and face it gay people will watch your channel a there are sstill a portion of gay men and lesbians who continue to take on a bi identity as a transoitional identity that they know some where is not authentic but is usefull for them (not saying that is true for evrryone who is bi obviously) but given that if someone is gay it could be a sign of a life altering degree of homophobia thatt tthey have internalized and coudl make hjaving a fulfilling long term re;lationship impossible ebvven as they long for one it can a;lso make them extremely vulnerable to shame and maniputlations by anti gay family or other affiliationn group like a church -- they could be led to build on the emootional and romantic comfort with women as a partner and ignore or minimize the lacck of erotic desire to fuel that and end up ion a dduel orientation marraige of the really rapy horrible kind. But I am more open to that bifrication of erotic and sexual and romantic etc when talking about orientation -- I can see how it coudl be usefull and informative for bisexuals in a way i hadnt before - I alwasy took taht move on the gender bread person to reflect the fepth and lack of awareness those on the left have of tehirr primal anti gay hatred. I coudl see it more sympatehtically as reflecting something omf the bisexual experience.
Hey thanks for sharing as always. Your two pence is always welcome my friend. That's what we're here for. Sending love x