@@mfundomzolo4498 Yes, but it's been far from easy. You have to be truly dedicated to not only quitting porn, but also focus on your willpower. Like giving up any other deadly substance/addiction, it takes time to overcome.
@@fedorloginov3150 Yes! It's just as addictive as sticking a needle filled with heroin in your veins. I was addicted to porn throughout most of my 20's and it took me at least 3 years to quit and to practice controlling my sexual energy. It's not just sacrificing a toxic addiction that one needs to focus on, it's also your inner willpower to give up the one thing someone enjoys that's causing them more pain than pleasure.
The fact that porn is available to anyone with an internet connection (to children!) is an absolute outrage and scandal. I discovered porn at 12 years old when my brain was still developing. Trying to rid myself of this poison everyday. Porn is destructive and harms people like a street drug. In a healthy society that cared about peoples' wellbeing it would never be accepted. Evil is everywhere folks. Be strong! We can do it 💪
I saw a video of no fap and the guy said The first time he saw pornography, he was 4 years old because his cousin showed him some. So yep ! No wonder the new generation are fucked up !
Bro I discovers it at like 7 or 6 remember wen porn use to have its own channel on cable tv that’s wat really messed mind up as a person wish I would’ve never accidentally found that channel
It really is outrageous and the worst part is nobody is doing anything agaisnt it, or maybe there are people who are, but it’s not getting enough support. It just shows that our societies are deeply rotten and don’t want to let go of their addiction.
Thank God, God bless you all, it's been 13 months since I quit porn and masturbation after almost 25 years, fortunately no relapses so far, thank you so much Dr. Trish Leigh
Affordable to everyone only costs $799 😂 thank you for posting your free videos doctor, but I think I’ll stick with what I’m doing and continue to develop a spiritual connection with myself through prayer and meditation. This method is free folks
LMAO 😂 I couldn't have said it better myself. I was looking for this comment. And the most funniest part about this whole comment is she won't comment back on it 😂😂😂😂
This is just how business works guys, she prices what people day, once her day is filled she has to up the price, that's the only way to make it manageable. It's because she has a big channel, find a smaller one that's also doing courses
I wish more people knew about this, you spoke extremely eloquently on the matter! There are a couple of approaches I that found extremely useful: 1. Recognizing the root problem. 2. Reading books - or every other action that requires long-term concentration. 3. Stopping the habit loop when recognizing triggers and replacing the habitual action with other actions that introduce similar rewards: going for a run, socializing, eating something. 4. Finding a new hobby, like learning a new language. 5. Avoiding social media, or at least manage its exposure and utilize it for your benefit. 6. Reminding yourself of the negative consequences of it and the reasons for quitting 7. Practicing mindfulness 8. Stop putting it on a pedestal - this is the lowest form of content possible, the "junk food" of the brain, you might even say.
Hello i just across your video. Im 32y old single male and i have been clean from pornography and masturbation for over a week now, and I've deleted multiple Instagram accounts from my account to avoid lust and wanting to have the urge to do the deed. I also avoid looking at women while at the gym and at work to avoid such thoughts so i won't plant a seed. Right now I am truly in the process of turning to God for spiritual strength and growth because i feel like that's all i have left to do. I can't seem initiate or keep a conversation with a women for too long because of this addiction for almost 15yrs. I will be watching more of your videos to keep myself more informed, thank you!
@@DrTrishLeigh😮😮😮 So MEN MEN MEN.... I am so tired of the entertainment media blaming men for everything...... MOVIES TV SITCOMS Even the ones that are SUPPOSEDLY the "MANLY" ones..... They portray men as bumbling neanderthals that only drink beer and watch porn. We eent from Father Knows Best.....TO Married w/Children. We went from.... Leave it to Beaver to The Simpsons. We went from The Andy Griffith Show to RoseAnne. What about women that want their husbands to "perform" like Hollywood male actors,or have the stamina of a porn star or their BOBS (battery operated boyfriends). I'm 65......I have long sinced past being concerned,caring, or wondering about what a female wants,needs or desires.I really do not care what anyone thinks about me. Marriage is nothing but one of two things 1.....Sexless roommates 2.....Roommates with benefits.
Dr. Trish, thank you for this whole explanation of how and why a porn habit takes effect. It makes a lot of sense, because I grew up in a very stressful environment, but the good news is I’m about 3 months porn free and it feels great! It’s gotten to the point now that I don’t even think of porn the way I did when I was constantly using it. Have a great day!
@ start edging? That’s bad advice bro. It’s all good tho, I’m 8 days no PMO. Ngl, I found a lil honey to seduce and that’s enough motivation to not give in. (I still get urges)
Remember that USA produces and share porn and they themselves pretend to help you to quit from porn..and they want you to pay for both…notice the contrast…!!!
I am 28 now and finally beat this addiction. But it saddens me because since i was an young teen I have basically fallen victim to everything you've described. Specifically my brain not operating at its full cognitive functioning. And then what's worse is now I am in the neuro degradation phase. Wish I could have find this channel back then, because my life would be so much different.
Same. I was a slave to this since 9 years old and when I discovered fapping at the age of 13, it all went downhill from there. By God's grace, I'm finally free of this addiction as it has been almost 8 months so far. Just sad of all the potential that was robbed from me due to this disgusting habit. Nearly 30 years of it...
Idk why she said 28. Most of the studies say 25. Anyways Brain degradation is not mandatory. Nothing proves the brain cannot still make new connections, grow its grey matter or develop neurogenesis via behavior or, even substances such as Psilocybin for example. Don’t get discouraged. Just don’t go back to porn.
I want to encourage everyone struggling out there that If I could've won this battle, then anyone can. I've started watching regularly around 16 and sunk incredibly low by age 25 where I was doing it for many hours on end. This then escaleted even more when I was trying to quit I was regularly doing atrocious relapses with 8/10/14+ hours of edging. But with the help of this angel and God I managed to fight back from that deep hole. After the last bad relapse I just gave an oath to my mother, father and God that this will be the last time I do this to myself... In my estimation it then took me 6 months of heavy abstinence symptoms almost daily. It was literally hell for me but I survived it. I had a lot of trauma and ongoing family issues, so perhaps not everyone is like that and could be better off. I just wish dr. Leigh was here a couple of years earlier when I was completely unaware of what I was doing to myself while blisfully edging almost daily.
Holy damn. This is the video that really hit me in the right time. I am 58 Days free of Video Porn, but strayed to just audio instead, thinking it was a better option. But this video really has opened my eyes and showed me how underlying this problem is. Thank you for showing this to the world. I will now finally do the step and delete every type of porn i have on any device and get to the big steps.
23 M here, Today will be 1 month since i left porn and masturbation, havent feel so happy and free in a long time, i wish anyone struggling with this the best and hope you can do it too
Thank you for this explanation! It helped a lot! I discovered something else that causes porn addiction, since I know this I don’t want to do porn anymore, even when I’m emotional or stressed out and feel the urges. You are right that you changed your baseline by watching porn and it causes indeed problems with real sexual relationships. And I think most guys turn to porn and masturbation because they are afraid or know how unwanted rejection feels. Most men don’t know how to deal with that. Because guys want to form a relationship with what they think is a beautiful, sweet and intelligent woman (and this girl doesn’t have to be real either! It could be a fantasy or a woman that you don’t know but see every day), but if they get rejected it’s most of the time the woman that does this to him and its “only” because of her feelings. Her feelings are illogical and men don’t know how to deal with that. Because her feelings are illogical, often she can’t explain why she rejects him. It triggers in the guys mind al kinds of emotion like sadness, frustration, anger and stress because they make the mistake by wanting to solve it or thinking they are not good enough. But you can’t solve somebody’s opinion and feelings and her opinion of you doesn’t say anything, trust me I know😊 But the only way and rule for us men is: accept her feelings, respect her thoughts, wish her the best (and you must mean it), let go and move on. Then do introspection (read: journaling, and all activities except for porn and masturbation and chasing her or another woman) and get back to form real relationships in real life!(When you are very young, you don’t have problems with making friends because you don’t have a lot of complex thoughts. It’s the quality and complexity of your thoughts that causes the addiction). Besides that, it’s called porn addiction, but if you deal with this, I think you are addicted to only masturbation because that is the thing that is regulating your mood, not the porn. Porn is harmful because something else. First, masturbation is harmful when you are just using it to regulate and coping with your mood. If you do that all the time you waste your energy (literally) on touching yourself. But the urge of wanting to masturbate is actually the right feeling to have, because you can use that “pain” and “almost uncontrollable energy” to form new connections, to work-out, to read, to do social things without sex. For me I started to have less brainfog and I could find more and better words to speak with and to people. My axienty went away and I remembered more of my day (because I used that energy for all kinds of things during the day that were not Porn or Masturbation). Second, porn is actually not that addictive in my opinion, because I think you can’t like porn if you can’t masturbate to it. Try to watch porn only to see porn. It’s no fun and actually boring. I don’t know if I’m the only one experiencing this. It’s the masturbation that makes it very excited. Porn is harmful (also when you just looking at it without masturbating) because it makes you less aroused when you are having real sex. Real sex is then not that exciting anymore, even when she is just beautiful and very sexual and everything a guy wants in a woman. I found this out when I first had sex with somebody I really liked, I had to force myself to focus on her and our connection. Then it dawned on me that if I hadn’t use porn, I could easily have great and intimate sex with her. I immediately quit porn and masturbation all together, and I told her that I was struggling with this. I asked her to have sex with me when she wants to for a whole year, because I need to reset my baseline. Now I considering myself healthy because I synched with her sexual needs and moments. I’m very grateful for her. ❤
I discovered porn through my cousin who showed me in secret as a 11 or 13 year old toddler with no notion of this horrible addiction that would grasp and grip on my mind and now i still learning to fight it as a 20 year old young man and i hope to get rid of it somehow. Please i beg to someone to humbly pray for me if possible but until then i am going to try hard as much as possible.
Hi everyone today i got 4 weeks clean i've been watching these videos i know i can overcome this disease i know i will i'll defeat porn i'm stronger i'll win!
This battle is more than just mental but spiritual. It's the voices that keep whispering in the ears telling you to just do it once more. There is no harm but we know what it does and who can save us. Not everyone can afford getting professional counseling so only Jesus can help.
Yes it is possible cuz I had this addiction for a long time since my teens and I'm 37th and I haven't watched porn for 6 years and been practicing semen retention for 2 years and I been with my wife going on 20y , don't think you can't do , the first thing is to I ament the problem and work on yourself mentally and spiritually and physically , God blessed us forever
Wow. I'm watching this as someone on the other side of the industry. I'm starting to question things, and hope to help with healing and integration also.
I am currently experiencing porn addiction and I’ve tried multiple times to quit but haven’t had any success. I’m gonna keep trying though so today is day one. 🙌
I already had a masturbation problem years before I started watching Adult Films. It started with fantasy and sex scenes in Hollywood movies. I didn't get consistent access to adult flicks until my late teens.
"Doctor, you mentioned that our brain stops developing at 28. I've been addicted since I was 13, and now I'm 25. Does this mean I only have 2 years left to recover and allow my brain to develop properly? If I quit this addiction now, can my brain still catch up on the development I missed?"
Yes it can. But it requires a lifestyle change. Get into the gym, start eating organic and whole foods and get 8 hours of sleep. Also, take up reading and learn new things. Your brain will recover and become stronger. It's not late!
I had the misfortune of finding my older brothers stash of VHS porn tapes when i was 7. It set me on a path of no return. I remember spending hours after school watching that shit for years. Then the internet came and i started viewing all kinds of porn online and would even make up excuses to go to my fathers office to use his computer during the weekend to browse that shit. Completely poisoned my mind, ruined my ability to form healthy relationships and contributed to sexual identity issues. Kids shouldn't be allowed to anywhere near that stuff!!
I pray for you..stay strong… 💪 USA is the source of porn.. They produce and share porn and they pretend to trying to help you to heal..notice the hypocrisy
I’m not going to lie. I don’t think there’s a way to recover if you started your addiction at an early age. You just have to trudge forward and endure in life. What I’m starting to realize is that there’s no way to escape accountability for the choices of your past- even if you were too young to grasp the consequences when you were making them.
There absolutely is a way to recover! It may not seem possible right now, but I've helped many people recover with all levels of addiction. Hope is never lost! If you want more help, I'm here drtrishleigh.com
Women don't owe you their bodies as a cum dump, especially when women have a lot to lose while engaging with men sexually. Practice self control and invest in hobbies instead of putting your problems on women
Others things 10lifes wouldn't be enough to acknowledge this world " sciences, knowledge etc..., porn = waste I'd rather not watching it even I am single this ass porn is gay.
There's more to life. The person who is always searching for tranquility will never find it, even if every single thing else is right. The act of searching prevents you from finding it.
Make sure you adjust your recovery plan accordingly! Understand what you let fall through to let the slip happen and make sure you have plans put in place to prevent the same thing from happening again!
I realized that when I would watch porn I’d be more calm during the day, no anxiety, no overthinking, just a quite mind but when I would go two days I’d get horible anxiety and really loud and busy mind.
i had 18 days on semen retention and i relapsed to pmo.. I bounce back. But i feel like my will power is not enough to conquer this. I will try my very best all the time but i feel forced to relapse..
Hey man I’m on the same page but you always have to stay hopeful and strong that one day you’ll be able to free yourself. Just keep trying new things and never quit. You got this bro today is day 1 for me let’s conquer this!
Doctor I relapsed twice last night due to high sexual tension and thoughts which made me relapse twice and it didn’t make me to be at all ,cause I’m promising and failing myself at the same time ,I just hope I can get this over with cause I’ll take action.
Another thing to mention is big players in America don’t want you to be free of this burden because it’s soo profitable for them to keep us all addicted leading to much more and bigger problems for people
Been struggling since teens. I have in the last few years started over coming this habit with random stints of abstinence and SR. During these times I also try to not expose myself to any sexual content. Life is generally great and improves exponentially during these phases even if i are just for 3 days or for 30 days. However I eventually go back to the habit when I feel I want to indulge again. I’m 35 now and since I know the benefits of living with a healthy sexual nature I want to do this consistently for the rest of my life. I’m single but I do have a semi active dating life and during those phases I can experience ED or robust erections depending on if I’m abstaining or not. My question to you doctor, is, do you think this approach is wrong and instead of literally going cold turkey following a more staggered method would be better ? ( like you mentioned advanced neuro thingy ) Ps: are you secretly a street racer ?
All I really wanted to hear was "You can re-sensitize the reward center" Then how to start. Been in this decaying loop for long my baseline is far higher now. How do I outsmart myself?
U got that ✅️ I've had to attack this thing from multiple angles....... Intellectually; consuming content regarding addiction, recovery and the neuroscience of it all. Emotionally; examining my dispositional shame and working through it best, I can. Relationally; developing genuine intimacy As a replacement And Spiritually; Prayer, meditation, examining scripture & strengthening my relationship with the God of my understanding. Not one of these was enough to give me what I needed to break free.
I can relate..been at it for years now... but we have to keep resisting..you have to fight for it... that's what I came to realize...It's not about stopping a habit it's about becoming someone new entirely...I wish you the best in your recovery.
Please pray for me, I have been going through painful times, for last two years I have been suffering from regular nightall and now I am completely in mental and physical problems. I unable to cure from this. I was mustarbating and watching porn for long time and now I have been suffering from severe nightfall and due to this now I am completely in mental stress, my nerves are also damaged. Please kindly help me with your good suggestions if anyone you have
I work in the fire service, after traumatic experiences and bad calls I have started experiencing decreased arousal or a couple of times complete dysfunction, it does pass after a few days and my wife is very understanding about it. My question is is there anything you recommend that may help. I gave up watching porn over a year ago.
Trish is there any chance of a student rate or pension/dole rate for your lowest cost program? Im in Australia and just cant afford right now with the cost of living crisis
Thank you so much for this! I "quit" 3 months ago but haven't had as much improvement as I wanted. I think I will try your program. A question, I'd be curious to know your thoughts on sex toy use, both solo or with a partner. The solo side of this is something that I have developed an attachment too and am hoping to bring it into a future relationship in a healthy way if possible. Maybe you could do a video on this.
God took this from me, begging and begging to be free and one day i truly surrendered to God, Jesus took this from me, the weight the drive the lust. IM FREE HE FREED ME! DO NOT GIVE UP! GO TO A QUIET PLACE AND GET ON YOUR KNEES AND FACE AND BEG, PLEAD, CONFESS YOUR ENTIRE LIFE TO HIM AND REALIZE THE FIGHT DOESNT EXIST! ITS WON!!!!
Dr. Trish, my recent issue is I can’t watch porn without smoking dokha (Arabian tobacco in a pipe) at the same time. This is really hurting me coz I’m not a smoker naturally but I have to combine the two for a brief sense of “reality” - I’m really falling and I’m genuinely scared.
i sometimes have those periods when i stop watching porn for weeks or even up to 2 months, but then i come back to it and overuse it for months until i happen to have that period again, during that time i feel the best with myself so i don't know why i keep coming back to it. Right now i haven't watched porn in half a month or more, how do i ensure that i never come back to it again? On a side note I did a lot of thinking and the reason i'm addicted to it could be lack of intimacy with women and loneliness. Im 20 now and i started watching porn at around 10 so it impacted my brain heavily and also i grew up with parents that neglected me and were not close with me emotionally and physically, i'm saying that because i'm a virgin and i only had one girlfriend for 2 months in highschool and the reason for that is because i have troubles with getting close to women and escalating things with them, I never had trouble with attracting women I sometimes get approached on the street and for the past few years i had dozens of talking stages and i ghosted or rejected all of them. Porn seems to fill that void for a few minutes and i suspect that's the core reason why i get addicted to porn so easily.
I think your explanation is a very simplistic one. My case is dat, I hd a fear of women. I found them intimidating, setting too high a standard dat I hv difficulty in achieving. Probably something my mum or dad imposed in my childhood. Porn then became just a substitute to face women n my sexuality without actually hv'ing to face my fear.
I'm almost a year porn free and the temptation has been worse than ever this week. Reminding myself all the reasons I've quit and trying to research why it's so difficult right now, like maybe my brain hasn't really yet recovered.
It's even harder now days because it's more difficult than ever to find a decent partner. I don't have trouble in relationships due to porn, I fall back into porn because relationships never last.
I want you all to give me your opinion PLEASE... I have had something called Crohn's Disease, (a digestive disorder) since I was 15yo. This disease makes me severely underweight and I have scars from surgery on my abdominal area... my question is...Do you think I have somewhat of an excuse to watch pornography?... being that no matter how hard I work and motivate myself, it's never going to make a lot of "real women" find me attractive because a disease makes you a less viable candidate for love making and reproduction... BUT just because I struggle with "real women" doesn't mean I don't have the desire to see them naked just like any other heterosexual man... your thoughts please 🤷🏾♂️
Hey...In my opinion watching porn makes it worse because behavioral addiction takes a toll on you,you can't even think straight!!I believe everybody is capable of love and to be loved.So brother,as much as you feel undesirable because of your physical defects,there's someone out there for you but porn is not the answer,it will do more damage than good.
Thank you for sharing my friend. I respect your honesty. While it may be more difficult for people struggling with chronic diseases to find a partner, that doesn't mean it's not possible! You'd be surprised by what a healthy mind can attract. However, one that's addicted to porn will find it nearly impossible
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What challenges do you face when trying to quit habits that affect mental health? Any recovery tips that have worked for you? Share with us!
Is there full course how to recover brain from it?
Fasting speeds up recovery, takes a few weeks to get use to. Dr Eric Berg. Sauna with cold plunges. Running with a 20 second sprint (HIT).
@@charlesh3751 by fasting how extreme you mean ?like 12 hours?
Please pray for me to be free of this🙏
no
Can I have your first name so I include you in my prayers?
Prayers going up 🙏🏿
@@alejandrobarquero1347 My name is Joshua.
Praying. Who the Son sets free is free indeed. Get power from the Word my friend. God will help you.
I'm 35 and I conquered this addiction. I just wish I never fell into this crap in my 20's. But I realize it's never too late to rewire your brain.
It's never too late is right!
Wow, you did it, you actually did it. That's inspiring
@@mfundomzolo4498 Yes, but it's been far from easy. You have to be truly dedicated to not only quitting porn, but also focus on your willpower. Like giving up any other deadly substance/addiction, it takes time to overcome.
Maybe you can share your experience? It’s really hard to get rid of it…
@@fedorloginov3150 Yes! It's just as addictive as sticking a needle filled with heroin in your veins. I was addicted to porn throughout most of my 20's and it took me at least 3 years to quit and to practice controlling my sexual energy. It's not just sacrificing a toxic addiction that one needs to focus on, it's also your inner willpower to give up the one thing someone enjoys that's causing them more pain than pleasure.
The fact that porn is available to anyone with an internet connection (to children!) is an absolute outrage and scandal. I discovered porn at 12 years old when my brain was still developing. Trying to rid myself of this poison everyday. Porn is destructive and harms people like a street drug. In a healthy society that cared about peoples' wellbeing it would never be accepted. Evil is everywhere folks. Be strong! We can do it 💪
I saw a video of no fap and the guy said The first time he saw pornography, he was 4 years old because his cousin showed him some. So yep ! No wonder the new generation are fucked up !
But People just don't get who's running all these businesses having a destructive influence on our societies....
Earth is Hell basically 🤷♂️
Bro I discovers it at like 7 or 6 remember wen porn use to have its own channel on cable tv that’s wat really messed mind up as a person wish I would’ve never accidentally found that channel
It really is outrageous and the worst part is nobody is doing anything agaisnt it, or maybe there are people who are, but it’s not getting enough support.
It just shows that our societies are deeply rotten and don’t want to let go of their addiction.
100 days now free from porn
I love to hear it! Keep rocking it out my friend 💪
Congrats. Stay strong and keep posting updates on sites like this bc I feel it inspires people that they too can recover.
Good job bro!
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God." Matthew 5:8.
Thank God, God bless you all, it's been 13 months since I quit porn and masturbation after almost 25 years, fortunately no relapses so far, thank you so much Dr. Trish Leigh
Wow, I love this. Thank you for sharing! 🤗Keep rocking it out
What benefits do you observe from this?
@@jordisthegreat4987 what are you doing different
Great work...!
I'm right behind you brother.🎉
You fixed ED?
Affordable to everyone only costs $799 😂 thank you for posting your free videos doctor, but I think I’ll stick with what I’m doing and continue to develop a spiritual connection with myself through prayer and meditation. This method is free folks
this entire video is just buildup to an ad… p*rn is an easy target for views and a lot of content creators know it
LMAO 😂 I couldn't have said it better myself. I was looking for this comment. And the most funniest part about this whole comment is she won't comment back on it 😂😂😂😂
This is just how business works guys, she prices what people day, once her day is filled she has to up the price, that's the only way to make it manageable. It's because she has a big channel, find a smaller one that's also doing courses
Thanks sir. Just saved me almost 20 minutes.
Yeah, it’s not like she doesn’t have hundreds of videos for free on TH-cam to help the people that can’t afford her program. Fucking clown
I wish more people knew about this, you spoke extremely eloquently on the matter!
There are a couple of approaches I that found extremely useful:
1. Recognizing the root problem.
2. Reading books - or every other action that requires long-term concentration.
3. Stopping the habit loop when recognizing triggers and replacing the habitual action with other actions that introduce similar rewards: going for a run, socializing, eating something.
4. Finding a new hobby, like learning a new language.
5. Avoiding social media, or at least manage its exposure and utilize it for your benefit.
6. Reminding yourself of the negative consequences of it and the reasons for quitting
7. Practicing mindfulness
8. Stop putting it on a pedestal - this is the lowest form of content possible, the "junk food" of the brain, you might even say.
Hello i just across your video.
Im 32y old single male and i have been clean from pornography and masturbation for over a week now, and I've deleted multiple Instagram accounts from my account to avoid lust and wanting to have the urge to do the deed. I also avoid looking at women while at the gym and at work to avoid such thoughts so i won't plant a seed. Right now I am truly in the process of turning to God for spiritual strength and growth because i feel like that's all i have left to do. I can't seem initiate or keep a conversation with a women for too long because of this addiction for almost 15yrs. I will be watching more of your videos to keep myself more informed, thank you!
This woman is a godsend to men.
Not enough people talk about these same exact effects on women! This video could help a lot of women as well! It’s not just a men’s issue!
I agree! Women can absolutely be addicted as well, and most of the same things apply
@@DrTrishLeigh😮😮😮
So MEN MEN MEN....
I am so tired of the entertainment media
blaming men for everything......
MOVIES
TV
SITCOMS
Even the ones that are SUPPOSEDLY the "MANLY" ones.....
They portray men as bumbling neanderthals that only drink beer and watch porn.
We eent from Father Knows Best.....TO
Married w/Children.
We went from....
Leave it to Beaver
to The Simpsons.
We went from The Andy Griffith Show
to RoseAnne.
What about women that want their husbands to "perform" like Hollywood male actors,or have the stamina of a porn star or their BOBS
(battery operated boyfriends).
I'm 65......I have long sinced past being concerned,caring, or wondering about what a female wants,needs or desires.I really do not care what anyone thinks about me.
Marriage is nothing but one of two things
1.....Sexless roommates
2.....Roommates with benefits.
Dang all u need too do is stop being flakey and disloyal and we wouldn’t have to ruin our brains in solitary
@@Danipieee madam are you also suffering from these addiction if you overcome it please 🙏 help
hello dani, do you watch porn everyday? in what scenearios, private or public as well? do u feel u prefer it over normal human to human sex?
I was always told it was fine, it was normal, no consequences. Now I understand how bad I did for years. Thank you so much
I must stop today it all ends for me no more porn send me positive energy guy's. I wana be free of this bullshit
You've got this my friend!💪
How’s it going?
You got it!
Dr. Trish, thank you for this whole explanation of how and why a porn habit takes effect. It makes a lot of sense, because I grew up in a very stressful environment, but the good news is I’m about 3 months porn free and it feels great! It’s gotten to the point now that I don’t even think of porn the way I did when I was constantly using it. Have a great day!
How do you even get that far most i can do is a week or so man
I love to hear it! Keep rocking it out my friend
I’ve been “trying “ to “quit” for about 5 years now. Ur caption is gold.
Just start edging, you will get rid of your addiction within 2 days.
@ start edging? That’s bad advice bro. It’s all good tho, I’m 8 days no PMO. Ngl, I found a lil honey to seduce and that’s enough motivation to not give in. (I still get urges)
@@TreGC69 ok but edging worked for me, I didn't watch any porn from last 4 months and also use my imagination for edging.
Please pray for me to be free from this 🙏, I really need your prayers now
Remember that USA produces and share porn and they themselves pretend to help you to quit from porn..and they want you to pay for both…notice the contrast…!!!
Thank you for all that you do & continue to share with us
Thank you for the kind words 🤗
I am doing musterbition from last 8 years now i left it. Can my body and mind can recover @@DrTrishLeigh
Amen❤❤❤❤
Always a blessing to hear you..
I am 28 now and finally beat this addiction. But it saddens me because since i was an young teen I have basically fallen victim to everything you've described. Specifically my brain not operating at its full cognitive functioning. And then what's worse is now I am in the neuro degradation phase. Wish I could have find this channel back then, because my life would be so much different.
Same. I was a slave to this since 9 years old and when I discovered fapping at the age of 13, it all went downhill from there.
By God's grace, I'm finally free of this addiction as it has been almost 8 months so far. Just sad of all the potential that was robbed from me due to this disgusting habit. Nearly 30 years of it...
Idk why she said 28. Most of the studies say 25. Anyways
Brain degradation is not mandatory. Nothing proves the brain cannot still make new connections, grow its grey matter or develop neurogenesis via behavior or, even substances such as Psilocybin for example. Don’t get discouraged. Just don’t go back to porn.
This is why I do what I do! To prevent future generations from getting sucked into this addiction!
do you think we can fully recover from it? and how do you know you've beat it?
@@Athmos18 When you have no desire to look at porn and fap to it, you will know you've beaten it.
I want to encourage everyone struggling out there that If I could've won this battle, then anyone can. I've started watching regularly around 16 and sunk incredibly low by age 25 where I was doing it for many hours on end. This then escaleted even more when I was trying to quit I was regularly doing atrocious relapses with 8/10/14+ hours of edging. But with the help of this angel and God I managed to fight back from that deep hole. After the last bad relapse I just gave an oath to my mother, father and God that this will be the last time I do this to myself... In my estimation it then took me 6 months of heavy abstinence symptoms almost daily. It was literally hell for me but I survived it. I had a lot of trauma and ongoing family issues, so perhaps not everyone is like that and could be better off. I just wish dr. Leigh was here a couple of years earlier when I was completely unaware of what I was doing to myself while blisfully edging almost daily.
i start to believe god and the church plays a big role in this topic ^^
How old are you when stopped this bad habit ??
I needed this video today. I have been suffering so so much. Thank you for all you do.
Holy damn. This is the video that really hit me in the right time. I am 58 Days free of Video Porn, but strayed to just audio instead, thinking it was a better option. But this video really has opened my eyes and showed me how underlying this problem is. Thank you for showing this to the world. I will now finally do the step and delete every type of porn i have on any device and get to the big steps.
23 M here, Today will be 1 month since i left porn and masturbation, havent feel so happy and free in a long time, i wish anyone struggling with this the best and hope you can do it too
This doc is a blessing. We will beat this together.
Thank you for this explanation! It helped a lot! I discovered something else that causes porn addiction, since I know this I don’t want to do porn anymore, even when I’m emotional or stressed out and feel the urges. You are right that you changed your baseline by watching porn and it causes indeed problems with real sexual relationships. And I think most guys turn to porn and masturbation because they are afraid or know how unwanted rejection feels. Most men don’t know how to deal with that. Because guys want to form a relationship with what they think is a beautiful, sweet and intelligent woman (and this girl doesn’t have to be real either! It could be a fantasy or a woman that you don’t know but see every day), but if they get rejected it’s most of the time the woman that does this to him and its “only” because of her feelings. Her feelings are illogical and men don’t know how to deal with that. Because her feelings are illogical, often she can’t explain why she rejects him. It triggers in the guys mind al kinds of emotion like sadness, frustration, anger and stress because they make the mistake by wanting to solve it or thinking they are not good enough. But you can’t solve somebody’s opinion and feelings and her opinion of you doesn’t say anything, trust me I know😊 But the only way and rule for us men is: accept her feelings, respect her thoughts, wish her the best (and you must mean it), let go and move on. Then do introspection (read: journaling, and all activities except for porn and masturbation and chasing her or another woman) and get back to form real relationships in real life!(When you are very young, you don’t have problems with making friends because you don’t have a lot of complex thoughts. It’s the quality and complexity of your thoughts that causes the addiction).
Besides that, it’s called porn addiction, but if you deal with this, I think you are addicted to only masturbation because that is the thing that is regulating your mood, not the porn. Porn is harmful because something else. First, masturbation is harmful when you are just using it to regulate and coping with your mood. If you do that all the time you waste your energy (literally) on touching yourself. But the urge of wanting to masturbate is actually the right feeling to have, because you can use that “pain” and “almost uncontrollable energy” to form new connections, to work-out, to read, to do social things without sex. For me I started to have less brainfog and I could find more and better words to speak with and to people. My axienty went away and I remembered more of my day (because I used that energy for all kinds of things during the day that were not Porn or Masturbation). Second, porn is actually not that addictive in my opinion, because I think you can’t like porn if you can’t masturbate to it. Try to watch porn only to see porn. It’s no fun and actually boring. I don’t know if I’m the only one experiencing this. It’s the masturbation that makes it very excited. Porn is harmful (also when you just looking at it without masturbating) because it makes you less aroused when you are having real sex. Real sex is then not that exciting anymore, even when she is just beautiful and very sexual and everything a guy wants in a woman. I found this out when I first had sex with somebody I really liked, I had to force myself to focus on her and our connection. Then it dawned on me that if I hadn’t use porn, I could easily have great and intimate sex with her. I immediately quit porn and masturbation all together, and I told her that I was struggling with this. I asked her to have sex with me when she wants to for a whole year, because I need to reset my baseline. Now I considering myself healthy because I synched with her sexual needs and moments. I’m very grateful for her. ❤
You're addicted to both actually. Porn & Masturbation. You're also addicted to your own neurochemicals!
Listening to this at age 29
I discovered porn through my cousin who showed me in secret as a 11 or 13 year old toddler with no notion of this horrible addiction that would grasp and grip on my mind and now i still learning to fight it as a 20 year old young man and i hope to get rid of it somehow. Please i beg to someone to humbly pray for me if possible but until then i am going to try hard as much as possible.
You were an 11 year old toddler?
I am 23... Thanks for letting me know early... god bless you doctor ❤️
It's my mission to heal brains from explicit matters. I'm glad you're here!
This is such a great lecture, with mechanisms well explained. Thank you
Glad you enjoyed it!
My god best video I have ever seen about this thank you so much.
You are doing God’s work to help men out of this Evil habit. May God bless you✝️❤
Hi everyone today i got 4 weeks clean i've been watching these videos i know i can overcome this disease i know i will i'll defeat porn i'm stronger i'll win!
A 20-minute promotional broadcast for a USD 1´199 program. Wow, that's a shame!
Someone give this woman an award for actually caring for men and their health. As a man, I can say everything she said is 100% true. Quit porn.
I’ve been trying to quit my entire life.
I'm here to help if you need it! drtrishleigh.com
This battle is more than just mental but spiritual. It's the voices that keep whispering in the ears telling you to just do it once more. There is no harm but we know what it does and who can save us. Not everyone can afford getting professional counseling so only Jesus can help.
Yes it is possible cuz I had this addiction for a long time since my teens and I'm 37th and I haven't watched porn for 6 years and been practicing semen retention for 2 years and I been with my wife going on 20y , don't think you can't do , the first thing is to I ament the problem and work on yourself mentally and spiritually and physically , God blessed us forever
Wow. I'm watching this as someone on the other side of the industry. I'm starting to question things, and hope to help with healing and integration also.
As a dog returns to his own vomit, So a fool repeats his folly. Proverbs 26:11 NKJV
I am currently experiencing porn addiction and I’ve tried multiple times to quit but haven’t had any success. I’m gonna keep trying though so today is day one. 🙌
There's no magic pills just quit it for the sake of your soul
I already had a masturbation problem years before I started watching Adult Films. It started with fantasy and sex scenes in Hollywood movies. I didn't get consistent access to adult flicks until my late teens.
Many people can relate to this unfortunately!
Using Binaural Beats activating my theta and delta states for that calm focus help my brain working better again.
"Doctor, you mentioned that our brain stops developing at 28. I've been addicted since I was 13, and now I'm 25. Does this mean I only have 2 years left to recover and allow my brain to develop properly? If I quit this addiction now, can my brain still catch up on the development I missed?"
Yes it can. But it requires a lifestyle change. Get into the gym, start eating organic and whole foods and get 8 hours of sleep. Also, take up reading and learn new things. Your brain will recover and become stronger. It's not late!
Yes, you need to make the right choices daily. You CAN do it!! If you fail, turn around and keep going the right way… keep going!
Yes! But it requires work. I'm here to help if you need it: drtrishleigh.com
On side note, the band "Porno for Pyros" announced their 2024 farewell tour.
I had the misfortune of finding my older brothers stash of VHS porn tapes when i was 7. It set me on a path of no return. I remember spending hours after school watching that shit for years. Then the internet came and i started viewing all kinds of porn online and would even make up excuses to go to my fathers office to use his computer during the weekend to browse that shit. Completely poisoned my mind, ruined my ability to form healthy relationships and contributed to sexual identity issues. Kids shouldn't be allowed to anywhere near that stuff!!
I could feel a lot of significant life-changing improvements after quiting this nocive addiction!
Without any exaggeration🥰
Have missed you Dr. TRISH 😂. I no longer see your videos on my feed, I wonder why😊
Ur a beast at explaining this🔥🔥🔥😍
Thank you my friend!
You are so clever to explain ......
Thank you!
9 yrs of intense porn addiction . My body structure is not changed from age 12 to age 21. Lufe is hell .
Plz pray for me so i can live menrally healhy
It's been my entertainment for years.
It doesn't have to be in the future! The real world is so much better. If you need help, I'm here drtrishleigh.com/get-started/
I understand completely, I follow those stars and don't really care for Hollywood actors, it's tough to turn away.
Please pray for me I wanna stop its lame
I pray for you..stay strong…
💪
USA is the source of porn..
They produce and share porn and they pretend to trying to help you to heal..notice the hypocrisy
You've got this my friend!
God is the ONLY way to deliverance.
I’m not going to lie. I don’t think there’s a way to recover if you started your addiction at an early age. You just have to trudge forward and endure in life. What I’m starting to realize is that there’s no way to escape accountability for the choices of your past- even if you were too young to grasp the consequences when you were making them.
There absolutely is a way to recover! It may not seem possible right now, but I've helped many people recover with all levels of addiction. Hope is never lost! If you want more help, I'm here drtrishleigh.com
why do you think that brother?
Bullshit... I'm 35 now and it's taken 5 years to re wire slowly but my life has changed so much from it
@@danch10 in how did it change??
@@Athmos18 Career took off, personality change, quit gaming, stronger, more attractive
It's definitely a struggle. I'm ready to fight it
Wouldn't hurt if modern women didn't take the whole "playing hard to get" thing to a factor of 11 aswell..
I hear ya bro but at the same time we as men should be chasing our purpose and fun hobbies more to the point we don’t even notice them that often
It has nothing to do with females. You can get any female you want. Yet once you are deep in porn. None of these females would ever beat porn.
Women don't owe you their bodies as a cum dump, especially when women have a lot to lose while engaging with men sexually. Practice self control and invest in hobbies instead of putting your problems on women
90% of men can't get a date. What else is left.
How about be a man and go do the work on yourself 😂😂or be sad and lonely forever….its not that difficult y’all just lazy
Others things 10lifes wouldn't be enough to acknowledge this world " sciences, knowledge etc..., porn = waste I'd rather not watching it even I am single this ass porn is gay.
There's more to life. The person who is always searching for tranquility will never find it, even if every single thing else is right. The act of searching prevents you from finding it.
I never trust anyone who says it's not your fault, or, you're entitled to this...
I was on day 6 feeling like a true champion I slipped then and the next day. I’m re committed but I’m scared I will slip or worse relapse.
Make sure you adjust your recovery plan accordingly! Understand what you let fall through to let the slip happen and make sure you have plans put in place to prevent the same thing from happening again!
If a person can’t accept that how/why it was their fault to begin with, they won’t be able to take the responsibility to stop
Very helpful
I realized that when I would watch porn I’d be more calm during the day, no anxiety, no overthinking, just a quite mind but when I would go two days I’d get horible anxiety and really loud and busy mind.
i had 18 days on semen retention and i relapsed to pmo.. I bounce back. But i feel like my will power is not enough to conquer this. I will try my very best all the time but i feel forced to relapse..
Hey man I’m on the same page but you always have to stay hopeful and strong that one day you’ll be able to free yourself. Just keep trying new things and never quit. You got this bro today is day 1 for me let’s conquer this!
@@ItsRedFlame ok bro yes u are right im on day 9 now. we can do this we have to leave pmo behind
@@camusik5673 good shit bro keep it up
Just don't do it to porn, it's OK to masturbate every now and then but dont look at porn while doing it
Doctor I relapsed twice last night due to high sexual tension and thoughts which made me relapse twice and it didn’t make me to be at all ,cause I’m promising and failing myself at the same time ,I just hope I can get this over with cause I’ll take action.
Thanks...for information.... but with God all things are possible and He is help in time of need! #Mind #Healing #Wholeness
Whatever helps on your road to recovery!
Another thing to mention is big players in America don’t want you to be free of this burden because it’s soo profitable for them to keep us all addicted leading to much more and bigger problems for people
Best channel on TH-cam regarding this topic. Very educative and informative. Keep up the good work Doctor
Peace and blessings!
Am 2.4 years, its a decade when i have been attacked by this disastrous enemy. Lord have mercy. Made a choice to quit aint going back 🙏
Please pray for me
That does nothing. Did your parents indoctrinate you to believe it does something?
Thanks!
Thanks!
My brain is wrecked. If we conquer this we conquer everything else.
I will defeat it for sure 😢
everything went over my head bcuz i couldn't take my eyes off her eyes
Thanks Doctor ❤
Been struggling since teens.
I have in the last few years started over coming this habit with random stints of abstinence and SR. During these times I also try to not expose myself to any sexual content.
Life is generally great and improves exponentially during these phases even if i are just for 3 days or for 30 days.
However I eventually go back to the habit when I feel I want to indulge again.
I’m 35 now and since I know the benefits of living with a healthy sexual nature I want to do this consistently for the rest of my life.
I’m single but I do have a semi active dating life and during those phases I can experience ED or robust erections depending on if I’m abstaining or not.
My question to you doctor, is, do you think this approach is wrong and instead of literally going cold turkey following a more staggered method would be better ? ( like you mentioned advanced neuro thingy )
Ps: are you secretly a street racer ?
All I really wanted to hear was
"You can re-sensitize the reward center"
Then how to start.
Been in this decaying loop for long my baseline is far higher now.
How do I outsmart myself?
Omg this so scary, i wasted 15 years of my life on masturbating, i promise you guys i will end this from today.
U got that ✅️
I've had to attack this thing from multiple angles.......
Intellectually; consuming content regarding addiction, recovery and the neuroscience of it all.
Emotionally; examining my dispositional shame and working through it best, I can.
Relationally; developing genuine intimacy As a replacement
And Spiritually;
Prayer, meditation, examining scripture & strengthening my relationship with the God of my understanding.
Not one of these was enough to give me what I needed to break free.
I can relate..been at it for years now... but we have to keep resisting..you have to fight for it... that's what I came to realize...It's not about stopping a habit it's about becoming someone new entirely...I wish you the best in your recovery.
Thanks doctor
does masturbation compulsively cause vision problems?
Please pray for me, I have been going through painful times, for last two years I have been suffering from regular nightall and now I am completely in mental and physical problems. I unable to cure from this. I was mustarbating and watching porn for long time and now I have been suffering from severe nightfall and due to this now I am completely in mental stress, my nerves are also damaged. Please kindly help me with your good suggestions if anyone you have
I'm sorry to hear you're struggling my friend😓If you need help, I'm here! drtrishleigh.com/get-started/
I work in the fire service, after traumatic experiences and bad calls I have started experiencing decreased arousal or a couple of times complete dysfunction, it does pass after a few days and my wife is very understanding about it. My question is is there anything you recommend that may help. I gave up watching porn over a year ago.
so how do i recover? abstinence? how many days do i aim for?
Trish is there any chance of a student rate or pension/dole rate for your lowest cost program?
Im in Australia and just cant afford right now with the cost of living crisis
We have promotions from time to time! Keep an eye out on social media 👀
Thank you so much for this! I "quit" 3 months ago but haven't had as much improvement as I wanted. I think I will try your program.
A question, I'd be curious to know your thoughts on sex toy use, both solo or with a partner. The solo side of this is something that I have developed an attachment too and am hoping to bring it into a future relationship in a healthy way if possible. Maybe you could do a video on this.
I'm happy to hear that! Together, we can rock it out💪As for sex toys, it's best to incorporate them into your sex life rather than use them solo!
God took this from me, begging and begging to be free and one day i truly surrendered to God, Jesus took this from me, the weight the drive the lust.
IM FREE
HE FREED ME! DO NOT GIVE UP! GO TO A QUIET PLACE AND GET ON YOUR KNEES AND FACE AND BEG, PLEAD, CONFESS YOUR ENTIRE LIFE TO HIM AND REALIZE THE FIGHT DOESNT EXIST! ITS WON!!!!
Dr. Trish, my recent issue is I can’t watch porn without smoking dokha (Arabian tobacco in a pipe) at the same time. This is really hurting me coz I’m not a smoker naturally but I have to combine the two for a brief sense of “reality” - I’m really falling and I’m genuinely scared.
This is definitely an addictive cycle and is something many struggle with! If you need help, I'm here drtrishleigh.com
i sometimes have those periods when i stop watching porn for weeks or even up to 2 months, but then i come back to it and overuse it for months until i happen to have that period again, during that time i feel the best with myself so i don't know why i keep coming back to it. Right now i haven't watched porn in half a month or more, how do i ensure that i never come back to it again?
On a side note I did a lot of thinking and the reason i'm addicted to it could be lack of intimacy with women and loneliness. Im 20 now and i started watching porn at around 10 so it impacted my brain heavily and also i grew up with parents that neglected me and were not close with me emotionally and physically, i'm saying that because i'm a virgin and i only had one girlfriend for 2 months in highschool and the reason for that is because i have troubles with getting close to women and escalating things with them, I never had trouble with attracting women I sometimes get approached on the street and for the past few years i had dozens of talking stages and i ghosted or rejected all of them. Porn seems to fill that void for a few minutes and i suspect that's the core reason why i get addicted to porn so easily.
do you think we can fully recover from it? no matter how young and how much we have consumed it?
I think your explanation is a very simplistic one. My case is dat, I hd a fear of women. I found them intimidating, setting too high a standard dat I hv difficulty in achieving. Probably something my mum or dad imposed in my childhood.
Porn then became just a substitute to face women n my sexuality without actually hv'ing to face my fear.
Listening to this at age 62. Is it too late to recover? This addiction has gotten hold on me for over thirty years
I'm almost a year porn free and the temptation has been worse than ever this week. Reminding myself all the reasons I've quit and trying to research why it's so difficult right now, like maybe my brain hasn't really yet recovered.
Slow processing or fast processing😬😬 Which one is it Dr. Trish?
Pornography has killed me, I really need help
I keep asking but can’t find an answer:
What exactly is considered porn? 🤨
It's even harder now days because it's more difficult than ever to find a decent partner. I don't have trouble in relationships due to porn, I fall back into porn because relationships never last.
I hope I can free myself from this behaviour… it really feels impossible
I want you all to give me your opinion PLEASE... I have had something called Crohn's Disease, (a digestive disorder) since I was 15yo. This disease makes me severely underweight and I have scars from surgery on my abdominal area... my question is...Do you think I have somewhat of an excuse to watch pornography?... being that no matter how hard I work and motivate myself, it's never going to make a lot of "real women" find me attractive because a disease makes you a less viable candidate for love making and reproduction... BUT just because I struggle with "real women" doesn't mean I don't have the desire to see them naked just like any other heterosexual man... your thoughts please 🤷🏾♂️
Hey...In my opinion watching porn makes it worse because behavioral addiction takes a toll on you,you can't even think straight!!I believe everybody is capable of love and to be loved.So brother,as much as you feel undesirable because of your physical defects,there's someone out there for you but porn is not the answer,it will do more damage than good.
Thank you for sharing my friend. I respect your honesty. While it may be more difficult for people struggling with chronic diseases to find a partner, that doesn't mean it's not possible! You'd be surprised by what a healthy mind can attract. However, one that's addicted to porn will find it nearly impossible
@@DrTrishLeigh 😍 Thank You
I keep relapsing over and over again. Is something wrong with me? I really need help 😔
It's time to get serious about your recovery plan! If you need help, I'm here drtrishleigh.com/porn-brain-rewire-programs/