1. Don't Kiss and Tell - 00:15 2. Learn to be Brave - 02:12 3. Learn to Say No - 04:50 4. Develop a Code and Live By It - 6:28 5. Be Patient with Yourself - 8:48 6. Learn to Listen - 10:00 7. Avoid Debt - 11:20 8. Seek out a Mentor - 12:42 9. Develop a Space to Confined In and Ask Questions - 14:25 10. Be Kind, Be Compassionate - 16:50
Honestly find a mentor in your local area. Having the one on one contact and daily advice is so much better than having it come from two people on the internet. If it's all you got though use it to its full potential.
@@BardicMadness try looking up mentor programs in your area/look at older man who is in your life who you respect and choose them as a mentor this could be a family member, teacher, or other people that you know. Just be resourceful and adjust and you will find one.👍👍
If you truly believe yourself to be a good woman that male boy of yours needs a grown male in his life dont let him down i assume you wont and want the best for your little boy.
Do they hang out, outside of work? They've said that they do not. Do you and your friends hang out? Yes. Therefore they are co-workers, not friends. They can be friendly with each other, just like you may be with your co-workers, but that doesn't make you friends.
TvLandZombie not trying to take anything from your point I’m just gonna say that me and my friends have different goals and we don’t hang out for a multitude of reasons but we will have each other’s backs for years
DO NOT DATE/MARRY ANYONE WHO DOES NOT HAVE YOUR SAME VALUES. They can be hot but as time passes the romance fades and that’s when shared values will take the forefront of the relationship and if you don’t have the same values you will fight and you will be wasting your time. DONT DO IT.
100% Yes. I have been with my husband for 10 years and people are always asking us, "how" or "don't you get bored." What you just said, is what I say. Some still don't get it.
I agree 100%. Every time I dated someone who didn't share my values I completely regretted in the end. Although my most recent relationship ended because he passed away. While I had him with me, it was the best relationship I've had and one of the reasons is because I made sure we shared the same values even if our personalities were different.
1. No kissing and telling; keep personal life to yourself 2. Be brave; control your reaction to fear and be brave more often than not 3. Learn to say no; assert your boundaries, not control 4. Develop a code that you can live and die by; assimilate through experience and observation 5. Have patience with yourself 6. Learn to listen and learn 7. Avoid debt, mainly financial 8. Seek out a mentor; doesn't have to be a contract or paid thing just someone you can turn to and ask questions 9. Develop a space where you confide and talk about things; "the boys", generally for men 10. Be kind, have compassion, think of your community I took notes Aba
I was a doormat. Now I have someone in my life that I could practice on. it’s the little things to start. I didn’t like that. Now I can confidently tell him and others NO! For the most part. It’s still a work in progress. I believe in you Dough! It’s ok to say no
Same sis ; Just because we are women don’t mean this message is being taken with a grain of salt . My boyfriend & I can definitely benefit from this message especially with us approaching our 30’s
I'm 23 and I'm gonna be 24 this year, you guys taught me more than my family, my uncles, my father, my brother, has ever taught me. They all expect me to just know everything and made me feel ashamed to ask for help towards anybody. I am Haitian as well so I relate even more. Thank you.
Bro I feel the same way, My father wasn't much of a teacher. Much of what I learnt was from my teacher in primary school and a few teachers from church, and my older brother.
I am give my children advice and they don't listen. I always tell them all we have in this life is our relationship, how we treat others, especially those that cannot do anything for you in return
As a 38 year old, I second most of this, but to add some: - Your family is not always on your side, even if their intentions are well, sometimes they can hold you back from pursing your dreams - You will have set backs in life. Just deal with them and keep moving, you will get to where you want to be if you set lofty goals and work at them, just know it won't be easy - Definitely keep your goals and love life to yourself - Date who you like and make sure that being with that person gives you something positive that you didn't have without them, don't let society or family tell you how you're supposed to be happy - Save your money! Think for the future. - Lastly, for straight guys, don't be afraid to lick her booty-hole is she's hygienic
@Devin Forbes - Had the West kept out of China's affairs, China would have kept out of yours. Westerners can't seem to mind their own business, or stay where they belong.
I'm a full time single dad to a boy. I grew up without my father, and I missed so many valuable lessons from a strong male role model. It took me years to figure out simple things that I could've learned at a young age. This is my ultimate goal as a father. Instill in my boy what it takes to be a man and teach him all the bullshit I had to figure out on my own.
Man. I really needed this. I'm 19 right now and I'm realizing how much the absence of a father figure has had on my brother and I. Now is the time to make up for that on my own. I don't know if y'all will ever see this but thank you, from the bottom of my heart. ✊🏾💪🏾
Bro I am 19 too and I’ve had the same problem, I don’t even know who my dad is. Also I haven’t seen my brother in 9 years. It’s reassuring to know that I’m not alone.
"Be patient with yourself" man I so needed to hear that. I'm 29. I've been a Marine. I've been on security details for a president, vice president, secretary of state. I've been a president of a Student Government association club psi beta. I've been an actor for a national football team. I've been a drop out. I've been homeless. I've been a salesman. I've worked with animals. I've been a protester. I've helped feed the houseless during this pandemic. I look back at my life and I feel like I still haven't even scratched the surface. I get restless and I wanna pick up the pace. Which causes anxiety and ultimately depression from lack of meeting perceived expectations. Hearing that men don't peak until their thirties gave me hope. I'm going to be patient. Thanks guys.
Jesus......You lived a Stressful Life mah G......Pick up a Trade you think you are good at, and Agrees with your Ability and Age..... you're gonna Do Fine. Cheers 🥂
Yeah I was thinking about that myself. I think this is mostly right but sometimes you have to put yourself into a position where there may be conflict for example if you see something wrong and you know it's wrong that might start a conflict and the alternative to not standing up to that might be cowardice which is on its other face just fear
Nowadays ppl telling more Than they kissed lol, social media lies, just to feel among, and meet society standards, especially when society have set up double standards for ppl to meet.
Yo I am also 17. I really hope that when I become older and look back at my life right now and be content with the fact that I did my best. I don't want to be 40 and then be like "yeah I was an idiot as a teen". I want to say something like "I did my best to improve and therefore I don't regret anything" you know? That's just how I think.
Read David Goggins' book 'Can't Hurt Me' a book I always come back to and I'm 20 now but if I had that at 16/17 it would've helped me a lot you'll thank yourself for investing now even if you don't know your future
And share it man. Not just the video. I mean the stuff you know. With your young friends. Be a voice when you know it can have a positive impact after analyzing it has had a good one on you. We are all leaders, nobody is truly a sheep. Some members of society create this false narrative of classifying people as sheep so they can brainwash them into becoming numb to progress and take advantage for personal gain. We can all get ahead in life without stepping over people. Lift up whoever you can while always lifting yourself up and not being dragged. You do this with an unending will to keep knowledge and perspectives flowing into your brain meanwhile your heart grows stronger without even noticing.
As a 26 year old female, I just wanted to say, I've learnt so much from Preach and Abba... I look at situations differently and always keep in mind that there is two sides to every story... These two are funny and are still able to get important issues across, they are honest and admit to being wrong at times but they grow from it and teach others... This is the kind of content we need more of these days... Keep up the great work guys ❤️
Bruv, being an adult is good. It ain't easy, but I always remind myself "nobody can tell me that i can't blow bubbles in my chocolate milkshake no more". Seems simple, sounds stupid, but it is true and it is freeing.
@@MrMutou what's stopping you now? I have wanted to raise and hunt with hounds since I was 6, at 32 I am finally figuring out how I can make that my reality. It's still gonna take another 4 years probably, and I am looking forward to getting there and learning more as I do. That's my grand future, won't make sense to a lot of people but it makes sense to me. What's yours, bruv?
@@tyrellthiel2201 Mostly the expungement process, once my record is clear I can get a better job and start saving up to move out, I always wanted to be a character designer honestly but I flunked outta college so I gotta find my own way
Long story: A few years back, 2018 I think it was, I was at my peak. I was very active everyday, always striving towards self improvement, forcing myself out of my comfort zone to invoke growth and inspire others to do the same. I was on it. There was a night out that put my virtues to the test that still surprises me when I think back on how I handled it. I had been out with friends for some drinks, and I decided I'd had enough and was leaving. Outside the place we were drinking, a young girl asked me if I had seen someone in a grey tracksuit with blood on his face, claiming he was her boyfriend. I said I hadn't but I was willing to let her know if I do, and that I would come back with him to meet her if I saw him on my way home. I rolled a cigarette, and before I could spark it, I heard he shout at me "he's here, so much for helping me", but I thought nothing of it, she found her man, situation resolved. What I didn't know was that her bf was beaten up for protecting her from a group of guys that were hitting on her and being pushy. And those guys were back with more friends to keep up the punishment. I was now involved. I felt a sense of duty after accepting the responsibility of helping her. The group surrounded the couple and all I could hear was shouting in Turkish and English, but I couldn't make out any words. But through the shouting I could hear clearly the girl shouting back and being very aggressive. She was scared, but she wasn't gonna show it. I decided I would mingle into the group, making myself tall, and speaker as clearly and directly to the ones that could hear me (paraphrasinh) "who came out tonight to have a good time? Who came out tonight thinking they were going home? Who wants to end the night at home, and not in a cell or a hospital?" And to my surprise, because I was running off instinct and adrenaline not really expecting to have too much impact, some of the group actually listened and began calming down. Other members of the group asked me if I was there for beef, and I denied it, stating I'm here to stop it if I can and calm things down, adding that I don't know anyone involved, but I couldn't watch or stand by as something potentially devastating was happening. That earned respect from a few, and I even had a handful begin to side with me in calming things down. But the girl was still being aggressive, of course out of fear and adrenaline. She knew I wasn't with the group so I know what I did next wasn't going to be taken as a threat. I walked up to her and said "hey listen, it's me". I put my hands on her hips, squatted slightly to be eye to eye, looked into her soul and told her "go home, you're making it worse". And she bite her lip like a child does when they've been told off and feel guilty, and started to walk with her boyfriend back to wherever they needed to go. Knowing the group could still follow them, I tried to get their attention again, saying thank you for calming down and letting it go. Reminding them that the choice they made to forget about it was far better than being interrogated or hospitalised. Some of them walked off (not towards the couple, but just away) others were telling me I'm a good person, some even thanked me for not letting them do something stupid (they were all young btw, oldest probably about 20, I was 22 myself but I look older cause I'm going bald 😅) and we all ended up going our separate ways having avoided unnecessary pain and bloodshed. I know the alcohol helped me perform the way I did, I could only dream of stepping in and asserting myself like that sober, but I discovered that night that I had it in me to help people I didn't even know, to tackle a serious problem head on and be successful, to be a voice of reason where there wasn't one. And to this day I look back in that night as a standard I want to live up to day to day not just watching injustice and danger take place, but being active in preventing it and resolving it. It should go without saying that the risk I took that night is not something I would recommend anyone just try without serious consideration of the circumstance, but I would encourage people to not just judge a situation and let it slide, but be aware of what you're capable of and can do to make those situations end as well for everyone involved as possible. I'm not going to say I saved a life or 2 that night. Odds are it was just kids trying to intimidate each other And nothing would have come of it. But where I'm from, and the area I was in that night, people have died over petty shit. Stabbings, shootings, fights over girls and alcohol and whatever. So a piece of me likes to think I prevented a family from having to mourn. Trying that yourself may not always end so well, so please don't read this and think you can be some nightcrawling crime fighter. No one is built for that. Shit gets crazy on some real shit. But do take from this that you have it in you, when you speak the truth and mean what you say, you have the power to make a real, positive impact. Moreover, I recently entered a decline in my health and attitude towards myself and life. I lost touch with my inner king. But watching these videos, reminding me of who I was, and who I could be, has inspired me, and I feel a motivation to rebuild that kingdom I once ruled over. Thanks Aba, thanks Preach. You're doing a great service to me and many others. Keep doing what you do.
I 100% back the notion of learning to be brave. Especially in social settings. I'm in my 30s, was never educated on taking risks, and have social anxiety both when I dance and when I talk to women in public areas; to the point that I'd rather be single than deal with rejection, or not dance at all than dance with people watching me. I'm fully aware of these flaws and am actively working on them, but dammit it is hard. Fellas. 100% get comfortable with taking logical risks and accepting failure. You will learn to appreciate that skillset it the future.
There is a limit though I had to tell one employer hell no when he asked me to lean over the 22nd story of a building with no rail or safety equipment.
This, man. I'm still working on this into my mid 30's. It's always better to make a sub-optimal choice than to do nothing at all, which is often how I approached situations with girls as a young man.
I've been there aswell. Takes alot of time and you will fail alot. But daaamn it feels so good when you get rewarded for all the hard work. Keep it up and never give up!
@@Skater122495That's where the synergy with boundaries comes in. The main reason we often end up doing stupid things is because we don't have solid boundaries or don't enforce them.
Same with the dancing, i can dance home alone, but in public or with friends, ooof 😂 Wish you luck, but Herring rejected ist Part of Life you know, we get rejected for Jobs, Friends even by our own children/little siblings. But it gets easier and the import thing ist not to forget what values you have as a person.
Thats not really the issue. Its normal in my group of friends (to me more than 3 people aint a group of true friends) to discuss our sex lives. I think the issue that was raised here is treating sex as an accomplishment or as ego boost. To gloat about fucking certain person or doing certain thing. Thats whack. But the same applies to keeping everything bottled up. You ll feel some insecurities about your sex life or sexual knowledge. And its important to have a group of friends who wont deviate that to superficial values. Instead they ll help you and truly be supportive. Basically you ll need friends that are mature about it.
Robert Lewandoski I got the opposite thought. If it’s a rando, why even bring it up if it doesn’t matter? But if I’m dating someone I’m excited about, I think I would talk about it (not sex stuff ofc)
As a 22 year old autistic man who isn't able to properly understand social circumstances in the same way that others can, I just want to say that this advice is quite helpful. You guys got some advice that is really good for a guy like me. These things don't come obvious to a guy like me as they do to others, so I appreciate it a lot
Advice to Young Men Number 1- Keep your financial and personal business to yourself. The less people know about you the better off you are. Number 2- Do not be afraid to express your feelings. You are a human being not a robot. Number 3- Having emotions does not make you a weak man it will aid you in being a better communicator andbbeing more self-aware. Number 4- Develop boundarys, self-worth, self-respect, and self-love. Number 5- Learn to be a leader not a follower. Please do not take peoples ideas as your own. Learn to stand by your beliefs, do your own research, and have your own opinion it is fine not to believe what everybody else thinks. Number 6- Learn to be by yourself. If you don't love you nobody else will. Number 7- Have a purpose. What do yiu want to do with your life and make sure to construct the necessary steps that will allow you to achieve that goal or purpose. Number 8- Live within your means. Please do not buy things out of your budget just to impress people. Life is a journey not a race. Number 9- I am finishing up my MBA. Everyone if you are trying to go to college please research scholarships there is thousands of dolars of free money. One of myscholarships I got for just being left-handed. Also ask your school for tuition wavers. You can literally apply for a waver with your collefe and if you meet the qualifications you can get your tuition covered for free.
I can attest to number 9, I'm starting my 3rd yr of undergrad with ZERO student loans and my family is no where near rich. I'm constantly searching and applying to scholarships and I intend on graduating with no student debt.
Have you advice in how to know what you want in Life. I Love Life, but I can't figure how to know what to live for. How to figure what goals might be important.
Yes! Me too! In high school my dad told me that and I would try to put myself in uncomfortable situations just so I was prepared for future uncomfortable situations that I did not put myself in.
Dont get into debts that do not generate income. If you are taking on debt to get started and invest, think through and weigh in on your intended work. If you are in debt for education, you are fucked if it isnt for a sure high paying jobs.
@@zacharydubuisson8788 "You can lead a Horse to Water, but you can't make it drink." If you didn't understand it on your own, me walking you through it will only waste both of our time. With all due respect of course.
This year i’ve been learning and learning a lot about being a young dude in 2020...As a black male who turned 17 on tuesday i’m just tryna stay on track and focusing on my stuff
As an 18 year old guy turning 19 in Jan. who never really had a true father figure in his life, growing up with a single a single mom, I truly do appreciate you two. Obviously I cannot rely on you two completely for opinions, ways of bettering myself as a man but I am very greatful to have found you guys. It's never been easy being the sole male in a family with younger sibblings having to navigate being a man on your own. I definitely missed out on a lot but I've done my best to be the best man I could have so far and will continue to learn and evolve as much as I can. Once again, thank you Aba, thank you Preach
As a woman in her 20s I can say all of these advices apply to us as well. Great advise. I would like to add an advise to young women from my experience. *don't be afraid to date someone outside of your "preferences" such as height, physique, hair, skin color etc. You may be missing on a great partner/bf because he's not 6ft with huge muscles.
@What Not To Do At a Stoplight I I didn't think it was necessary to add that as it would be common sense that personality, moral values and common interest matter when finding a partner. That's such a redundant thing to mention. I meant in addition to the personality traits sometimes a lot of women tend to want the perfect guy, the whole package. I've seen plenty of videos where guys mention how hard to it is to date because of the rejection rate men tend to experience in the dating scene. I was making a comment that is directly tied to that. Those women probably have more expectations of perfection when dating men. At least the ones I've known in my life time because again the comment is meant for women not a guy who implies I'm shallow because he doesn't know how to read the room and read between the lines.
@What Not To Do At a Stoplight i think the element you're missing is women are attracted to different things than men & at different times. they dont always go off pure sexual attraction like men do. in her 20's a woman goes off pure attraction (6ft w/ muscles) in her 30's a woman goes off who can pay her bills... & yes, the fact that women date like this is mad shallow.
@@avril.m.l good clarification, because i was about to go in 😂 i think your comment was overall good advice for women, but the part in your comment that probably makes men feel icky is this part: "don't be afraid to date someone outside of your preferences" --- a lot of men are aware of women's dual mating strategy, where they sleep with bad boys in their prime (their 20's) i suppose to fish around for the best genetics & then in their mid-30's when they are far less attractive & after they've been used up sexually by the 6ft bad boys with muscles, they look for a poor nice guy that they're not really attracted to (ie: outside of their preferences) to pay their bills, support them financially & play step-dad to their kids they had by the 6ft bad boy with muscles. i think a lot of men read between the lines & see that this is what women are advising other women to do... & a lot of men don't feel good about that. i think thats what a lot of men will read into this.
as a former Swedish Prime minister once said. ''If you have loans/debts, you're not free'' if you have them you're in shackles... so stay away from banks as much as you can.
I'm a young woman, but everything here applies in my life and I really appreciate this video. I took notes & would love if you guys did more of these! ❤️
@Hyu Toobe Agreed. But what Aba and Preach touched on applies to humans in general. Both sexes can apply that to their lives to better their themselves.
@Hyu Toobe Fam you're deeping it, what is being listed can be really good advice in general. I think "don't kiss and tell" can apply to both sexes, and so on. Besides, what the above comment said ^^^.
1. Don't Kiss and Tell - 0:15 2. Learn to be Brave - 2:12 3. Learn to Say No - 4:50 4. Develop a Code and Live By It - 6:28 5. Be Patient with Yourself - 8:48 6. Learn to Listen - 10:00 7. Avoid Debt - 11:20 8. Seek out a Mentor - 12:42 9. Develop a Space to Confined In and Ask Questions - 14:25 10. Be Kind, Be Compassionate - 16:50
I think another good one they should've listed was 'If you make a choice, don't second guess yourself.' There've been too many times in my life where I got fucked over by second guessing my choices instead of doing what will make me happy.
I'm not even a young man, I'm a young woman. But this shit is fire *Aba's Philosophy feat. Preach*❤︎ "Bravery is not the absence of fear, but understanding, acknowledging your fear, and persevering regardless." "Being *brave* will always, always - in the long term - give you the best outcome possible." "By being brave, you're going to learn, you're going to grow." "You're going to test your character, you're going to test your values as a result of being put in these situations." "Being brave ensures that who you are will be cemented by experience, rather than ideas." (I really love this one) "Develop a code and live by it." "It's important for me to live a life of integrity." "Be patient with yourself. You are young. You are growing. You will not stop growing. Things will become easier, more clear, and much more simple - but it's going to take time." "You are going to have your time. Don't rush it, be patient with it." "Sometimes, your silence can be just as assertive as your talking." "Your ability to listen intently and assimilate information is just as important as actually conveying information." "Anybody can teach you something." "Don't buy anything you can't pay for outright." "Avoid debt... do not take on more than what you know you can handle." "Have real conversations." "Be kind. Be compassionate."
Am a 20 yrs old young man who grew up without a single man in the house (am oldest boy Honestly you guys are helping the world in your own way honestly. BLESS YOU PREACH & ABA
As a 15yr old I heard something similar to this from Jordan Peterson or someone and it removes so much stress from life. I went from being extremely nervous and always on edge to actually being calm, especially in situations where theres a lot of people around.
ChinwarDarles yeah, so many days I could have enjoyed were wasted because of unnecessary anxiety. I’m much more confident and comfortable with myself now but when I was a teenager, my social anxiety was insane.
As a guy who has *severe* depression, anxiety that can give me panic attacks occasionally, almost failed out of college, not having a job as of now and still living with my mom at 21 I needed to hear this. The world can and will be very unforgiving to a guy that contributes nothing to the point that a man puts his self worth in what he can do or how efficient he can do things and I speak from experience. I liked your guy’s channel ever since I came here now after this vid I kinda look at you guys older bros now. Thanks Aba and Preach 👍
You’re 21 man. You’re still young. It’s very easy to compare ourselves to those young successful people we used to go to school with that we see on social media but we aren’t them. We might not have the same opportunities as them, but trust me, if you have a goal in your mind that you can focus on it will all come clear in time. It won’t be easy but it will happen eventually. The struggle that you are going through now will develop the character of your older self too. You will probably be a lot more empathetic, and probably a lot more sensible and mature when it comes to saving money etc. So in the long run there’s every chance you can make a success out of yourself. Have faith man.
@Mr Shikadance dude im 21 and living with my parents too. And you re crazy to think we ll be able to move out at 23 or something. Specially after the pandemic. If you feel ashamed for that right now, i would recommend you to start understanding thats a non-issue. There's people from the older generation still living with their parents.
I'm so glad Aba and Preach have a platform like this.For young guys like me who live in a world that make us the villains because of "Men are the oppressors". So many of us dont have good male roles in our neighborhood and the ones who can look up to are across the other side of the world. We lost Kobe and Chad, good men. And the more we lose good men , the more we create incompetent men in the future especially in Black communities and POC that are in poverty. As a 20 year old I'll take this advice through out my 20s. And thank you so much Aba and Preach for being those male rolemodels we can look up to
It's crazy how often I come back to this video. Not because I'm out here fucking up, but it's always nice to get that refresher. Especially in the low moments? Feels good to be looked out for.
I'm 23 and this video hit at the very time that I needed it. I think that there is a lot of truth in the things that you guys are saying. I know I am guilty of negativily comparing myself to others and wanting to rush into things. I just want to say thanks to you guys and to anyone who is reading this comment, we are all going to make it. Just keep working on yourself and life will get easier for you.
life pro tip: Learn to read your emotions so that you can not be misled by them There is no guarantee you won’t make mistakes, but how can you even attempt to not be led by your emotions if you can’t understand them?
People should go to therapy! Find a good therapist like you find a good doctor and let a professional help you find your way to emotional and mental soundness.
“Bran thought about it. 'Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?' 'That is the only time a man can be brave,' his father told him.” ― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones
@@yoshiboi5989 Thanks, but I do not desire the weight of the crown. Wear it yourself and bring peace and dignity to all those you have touched. It's not very often that people show positivity in comment sections on social media, and I thank you for that.
Amen brother. Is it just me or do people not value respect as much as they should? Like it should just be a given, yet I find that people don’t live by it and it’s disappointing.
@@yanchoho It's definitely not just you. It's not hard to keep your word, and not to lie to others and yourself. I hope you have the strength of will to move forward in life while sticking to your beliefs and morals, be well.
One thing that I learned in my life as a man is to not tolerate disrespect. If you're passive about that people will walk all over. If someone disrespect s you or makes you feel uncomfortably you should calmly and respectfully communicate that and let it be known that you won't stand for it. You may lose jobs, friends, and other relationships doing things but it will boost your self esteem and you'll never regret it.
As a young adult without a strong male role model in my life, this has taught me a lot. Especially in terms of rushing and comparing the speed of my growth to those around me
Being able to say "no" is one of the most satisfying and empowering skills I've ever developed. I love helping people when I can and when I want to and it feels great, but helping through obligation causes discomfort that takes away that feeling of satisfaction and self worth with the end result leaving me feeling like I got rid of a burden. If you help people because you feel like you have to, you're going to tie those negative emotions to future opportunities to do great things that otherwise would have lead you to a positive outcome and positive feeling for yourself and those around you.
Yeah I feel like it was a valid point that Preach brought up that Abba kind of blew off or didn't understand. Otherwise I agreed with the rest of the "Be Brave" segment.
19:58 was probably the most underrated portion of the vid. More ppl needed to hear this cause everything he said was so spot on, giving in to urges gives you less control over your being and over your life in general.
My father is 72 and I am barely 18 and for the most part he isn't there for me as a Dad. Sometimes I start hating him for not being there but what can he do at that age being a complete father is a bit difficult. What I am trying to say is thank you Aba&Preach for raising me to some extent when no one was there to guide me in certain subjects you guys filled that gap I have been watching you guys for 2 Years. For those of you who are wondering why I live with my Parents at the age of 18. I live in a third world country named Pakistan and ln our culture you leave your parents house either after you are married or after you get a stable job. Although I would say some milk drinking motherfuckers still decide to live with their parents even after they get married and have a stable Job.
It’s ok and actually smarter to live with your parents for a bit to establish your own financial income. I personally don’t blame my father as you hold some kind of resentment towards yours for being older. At least your father is there and take the negatives that you believe are negative about your parents and turn them into a positive towards your future. Well that is how I look at it or how we humans improve from previous generations. I personally learned from my parents mistakes or things I believe was wrong. Without their issues I would not have learned as much. Today I value family aka my wife/children. no one else will be there for me only the one I love. As aba and preach said in the video find your values and be a better you. These videos are pretty good. Well take care.
As a woman, I must say this is amazing life lessons for everyone! I wont take away the fact that you guys are speaking to young men because it's beautiful and much needed, but trust me when I say that I'm also learning how to live my life by those "rules". That's the lessons my father thought me as a young woman and I strive everyday to abide by them! Thank you for this video!
1.) Do not kiss and tell 2.) Learn to be brave 2:13 3.) Learn to say no 4:47 4.) Develop a code and live by it 6:28 5.) Be patient with yourself 8:49 6.) Learn to listen 10:00 7.) Avoid debt 11:20 8.) Seek out a mentor 12:41 9.) Develop a space to confide in and ask questions 14:28 10.) Be kind, be compassionate and think of your community 16:51
My lesson learned from my rugged ass, broke, one parent household childhood is to be the person now, that you needed when you were younger, be that person for those you love.
Speaking of discipline, I just turned 30 last Friday. Throughout my early-mid 20's I was in a bad relationship, I was depressed and had a high mount of debt (17k on my cc at one point). Best investment i ever made was going to see a therapist. I have good friends but at that age none of us really know how to talk to each other about serious shit. Anyways, I'm still depressed but i know how to spot it and work on it, I'm in a healthy loving relationship and i cleared my dept last year and actually have enough in my savings to tread water for a few months if shit were to ever hit the fan. It's funny, the more money i have the less i want to spend it. Stupid shit like upgrading my pc, I can easily afford it now but i've been putting it off for months. Go seek some help boys, it gets better.
I wish I didn’t leak that video with me and this girl back in our high school. 7 years later, I still regret that shit. I can’t even apologize because I dont even know where she lives now.
@@cupcake3215 Attention & approval from others, why do people show everyone photos of the huge fish they caught from the week before? It's for attention, approval and to show off to people that you were able to catch such a fish. I'd assume this is the thought process that one would go through, OP (or anyone else) can correct me if I'm wrong.
The being brave advice helped me. I tend to self isolate and be stagnant when things go badly around me or within me. Im trying to learn how to be the man of the house slowly when my father passes me the torch.
@@Pocketrose3 Its really down to fight or flight response. When things go wrong in life like a family member getting ill, losing a job etc people either "fight", so taking action by finding another job or helping the loved one or "flight" response where they run away and put their had in the sand. Kind of like how a deer freezes in the headlights. Ive found for myself its about learning how to deal with stress by meditating, exercise and GETTING UNCOMFORTABLE more. Its called aversion therapy. Go head on into those situations that give you those feelings but have a plan. He sound young but maybe guiding him towards other males like a boxing club or something where he is active with other males will really help.
TLFC my brother is almost 10 years older than me. I believe he’s 32... earlier this year we had a huge scare. My dads job called us asking for my dad... he had left our house at 4 AM and never arrived to work (which is a 30 min drive) and it was already 6 AM. We didn’t know what happened w my dad but we knew we had to go look for him. Everyone in the household got up, ready to do something about it and go out in the streets and look for him. My brother was the only one who did not get up from his bed to help us.... he stayed in his room and waited for us to get back home and had the problem solved....
@@Pocketrose3 To be honest I'm not a health cAre professionals and I wasn't there to experience it myself so it's suffice to assume. But certainly the things I suggested surrounding mainly being active can be beneficial for the mind.
This is legit great advice, especially the whole mentor thing. As a man who grew up without a father/father figure. I really feel like if I would've had more guidance and an all around example of what it is to be a man I would've been better off.
"Take your time" is probably the one that hits home the hardest. Just graduated school in the middle of a pandemic and a recession (US). It's made it really really hard to find a job and that has caused me to feel depressed at not finding a job. I know it's not my fault but it still hits home as something I struggle with in terms of not allowing that to affect my self-esteem.
I've just gone through the same thing man. Just got a job after 4 months of unemployment. Keep your chin up and stay close to the people that mean something to you. Staying active with friends and family kept me going when I felt guilty and they had my back. I wish you good luck man, work hard!
@@deathrager2404 Lol oh no, a stranger on the internet needs to feel superior by putting someone down. If you're going to be a dick, at least be original.
@@deathrager2404 lol getting a depression and feeling depressed is not remotely similar. You out here calling people bitches over the internet when u don't know them or their circumstances. Boy u weak as hell
Definitely needed this, am 18 years old and can't find a bigger way to say thanks to this, I know a like does not gives this advice justice, but thanks man.
I'm 22. I'm happy that I'm old enough to realize that taking advice from men with more life experience is good, and still young enough to put their advice into practice.
1. Don't Kiss and Tell - 00:15
2. Learn to be Brave - 02:12
3. Learn to Say No - 04:50
4. Develop a Code and Live By It - 6:28
5. Be Patient with Yourself - 8:48
6. Learn to Listen - 10:00
7. Avoid Debt - 11:20
8. Seek out a Mentor - 12:42
9. Develop a Space to Confined In and Ask Questions - 14:25
10. Be Kind, Be Compassionate - 16:50
GOAT
you went through all that for us, you must be the real King.
Do NOT get MARRIED!!!
Thanks dude. I took a screenshot because that list can take people a long way.
You’re goated
“Find a mentor” y’all are my mentors.
Having a mentor is so so important even if your mentor happens to be a Tony robbins self help book!
Honestly find a mentor in your local area. Having the one on one contact and daily advice is so much better than having it come from two people on the internet. If it's all you got though use it to its full potential.
@@justinblechinger6723 You know a good place to look?
@@BardicMadness try looking up mentor programs in your area/look at older man who is in your life who you respect and choose them as a mentor this could be a family member, teacher, or other people that you know. Just be resourceful and adjust and you will find one.👍👍
I ain’t got no father figure
The don't kiss and tell thing should extend to women.
Thank you
This
good point!
Absolutely
they dont like to get dic pic but as soon as they get one they show it to all their friend
I'm a single mom with a teenage son, we have just watched this together. Thank you.❤
I wished my parents introduced me to Aba and Preach. Good on you!
@@joshuales1960 ❤
Wow…I can already tell you’re an amazing mother…how’s y’all doin 11 months later?
I am going to introduce my brother to Jordan Peterson too
If you truly believe yourself to be a good woman that male boy of yours needs a grown male in his life dont let him down i assume you wont and want the best for your little boy.
Aba and Preach: Litterally go through a warzone together and survive
Also Aba and Preach: Yeah nah we ain’t rly friends tbh
That’s what I’m saying! They trippin’ trippin’
Do they hang out, outside of work? They've said that they do not.
Do you and your friends hang out? Yes.
Therefore they are co-workers, not friends. They can be friendly with each other, just like you may be with your co-workers, but that doesn't make you friends.
Humans are complicated
TvLandZombie not trying to take anything from your point I’m just gonna say that me and my friends have different goals and we don’t hang out for a multitude of reasons but we will have each other’s backs for years
They are just being Tsundere with each other. It's like the point in a relationship where you don't want to admit you love the others first 👀
DO NOT DATE/MARRY ANYONE WHO DOES NOT HAVE YOUR SAME VALUES. They can be hot but as time passes the romance fades and that’s when shared values will take the forefront of the relationship and if you don’t have the same values you will fight and you will be wasting your time. DONT DO IT.
100% Yes. I have been with my husband for 10 years and people are always asking us, "how" or "don't you get bored." What you just said, is what I say. Some still don't get it.
I agree 100%. Every time I dated someone who didn't share my values I completely regretted in the end. Although my most recent relationship ended because he passed away. While I had him with me, it was the best relationship I've had and one of the reasons is because I made sure we shared the same values even if our personalities were different.
Karla M sorry to hear that
110%
I would go as far as to say don't get married or in a relationship (being exclusive) at least until you're 30
"discipline is a sense of freedom"
Best line. Say this all the time.
_"Discipline gives your the freedom to chose what you will do next",_ is what Aba said.
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@@filipraa9790 calm your tits
1. No kissing and telling; keep personal life to yourself
2. Be brave; control your reaction to fear and be brave more often than not
3. Learn to say no; assert your boundaries, not control
4. Develop a code that you can live and die by; assimilate through experience and observation
5. Have patience with yourself
6. Learn to listen and learn
7. Avoid debt, mainly financial
8. Seek out a mentor; doesn't have to be a contract or paid thing just someone you can turn to and ask questions
9. Develop a space where you confide and talk about things; "the boys", generally for men
10. Be kind, have compassion, think of your community
I took notes Aba
Bless you and everyone watching/reading this
👍
now timestamp them.
Thank you Heath, thank you
just watch Jordan Peterson
Learning to say “no” is something that I’ve never been good at... and it’s made me a door mat. I hope my boys learn different.
I was a doormat. Now I have someone in my life that I could practice on. it’s the little things to start. I didn’t like that. Now I can confidently tell him and others NO! For the most part. It’s still a work in progress. I believe in you Dough! It’s ok to say no
It’s never too late to change John. Start from today my man, you got this shit! I know we are internet strangers but i believe in you!
You’re boys will be different, because you’ll be there to show them how to do it! Don’t give up John it’s never too late to change
I'm a girl but I'm here anyway. I learn alot from you guys
POV: You are a man now
A lot* :)
You're welcome :))
Same sis ; Just because we are women don’t mean this message is being taken with a grain of salt . My boyfriend & I can definitely benefit from this message especially with us approaching our 30’s
Same
I'm 23 and I'm gonna be 24 this year, you guys taught me more than my family, my uncles, my father, my brother, has ever taught me. They all expect me to just know everything and made me feel ashamed to ask for help towards anybody. I am Haitian as well so I relate even more. Thank you.
Bro I feel the same way, My father wasn't much of a teacher.
Much of what I learnt was from my teacher in primary school and a few teachers from church, and my older brother.
Jez!
I'm 14 and dont have a dad so this helps alot
Yeah, I relate to not being taught much about anything, but then being bashed and shamed for not knowing more or being more experienced.
I am give my children advice and they don't listen. I always tell them all we have in this life is our relationship, how we treat others, especially those that cannot do anything for you in return
As a 38 year old, I second most of this, but to add some:
- Your family is not always on your side, even if their intentions are well, sometimes they can hold you back from pursing your dreams
- You will have set backs in life. Just deal with them and keep moving, you will get to where you want to be if you set lofty goals and work at them, just know it won't be easy
- Definitely keep your goals and love life to yourself
- Date who you like and make sure that being with that person gives you something positive that you didn't have without them, don't let society or family tell you how you're supposed to be happy
- Save your money! Think for the future.
- Lastly, for straight guys, don't be afraid to lick her booty-hole is she's hygienic
You killed me! I was 100% with you until that booty-hole advice 😂
Last one 😂
Good advice lol
Good advice 😂
Brother... the last one low key goes against what Aba said
“The one who master’s their own dominion, doesn’t need to invade anyone else’s.”
That is something I truly believe in! Powerful statement.
Lol I liked it until I thought of war
*CCP is confused*
Definitely 💜
@Devin Forbes - Had the West kept out of China's affairs, China would have kept out of yours. Westerners can't seem to mind their own business, or stay where they belong.
@@Ishmachiah what do you mean can you give context?
I would I like to add one : Learn that sometimes it’s okay to be alone
💯💯💯💯💯💯
@@stevegwizzle3560 Its because we've been taught all out lives that if you're alone then you're a weirdo loser.
is true sometimes its for the best
solitary helps you find yourself .
So true, no money in the world can buy ur peace
I'm a full time single dad to a boy.
I grew up without my father, and I missed so many valuable lessons from a strong male role model. It took me years to figure out simple things that I could've learned at a young age.
This is my ultimate goal as a father. Instill in my boy what it takes to be a man and teach him all the bullshit I had to figure out on my own.
great stuff.
keep doing what you doing.
protect him and yourself.👍
wish you all the best.
STICK TO IT bro congrats
Love that. Boys need good fathers.
King
Amen
Man. I really needed this. I'm 19 right now and I'm realizing how much the absence of a father figure has had on my brother and I. Now is the time to make up for that on my own. I don't know if y'all will ever see this but thank you, from the bottom of my heart. ✊🏾💪🏾
Go watch some Jordan Peterson. He’s my mentor, has been for over two years.
I feel u bro
Same and I’m only 20 bro 🙏🏼🔥🔥
@@yazanodeh8002 Please don't recommend he watch that pseudo-intellectual clown.
Bro I am 19 too and I’ve had the same problem, I don’t even know who my dad is. Also I haven’t seen my brother in 9 years. It’s reassuring to know that I’m not alone.
"Be patient with yourself" man I so needed to hear that. I'm 29. I've been a Marine. I've been on security details for a president, vice president, secretary of state. I've been a president of a Student Government association club psi beta. I've been an actor for a national football team. I've been a drop out. I've been homeless. I've been a salesman. I've worked with animals. I've been a protester. I've helped feed the houseless during this pandemic. I look back at my life and I feel like I still haven't even scratched the surface. I get restless and I wanna pick up the pace. Which causes anxiety and ultimately depression from lack of meeting perceived expectations. Hearing that men don't peak until their thirties gave me hope. I'm going to be patient. Thanks guys.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
You are truly great. Never stop.
You've lived a thousand lives from my perspective
Jesus......You lived a Stressful Life mah G......Pick up a Trade you think you are good at, and Agrees with your Ability and Age..... you're gonna Do Fine. Cheers 🥂
@@IwasabletoDisappearafterlitsen and it's still going 😊
I think I will be picking up Law here soon. I hope.
Yo Preach. Stupidity is looking to be brave, actively. Be brave when fear confronts you; don't go chasing conflict.
Old Red Sled 💯
Yeah I was thinking about that myself. I think this is mostly right but sometimes you have to put yourself into a position where there may be conflict for example if you see something wrong and you know it's wrong that might start a conflict and the alternative to not standing up to that might be cowardice which is on its other face just fear
Imma keep it 99, and I'm boutta round up, that's some good 'ish right there!
@イチカラ村Tarrey town 😂
@イチカラ村Tarrey town uum 🤣
Everytime he says value all I hear is "value, value". Lol
omg same!
Value values, cuz valuable values are valuable
Hahaha right!
19:57 discipline discipline
Hilarious
*"One who has mastery over his dominion does not feel the need to invade everyone else's"*
PREACH
Aba: “young men do not kiss and tell”
Me: “say it again for the idiots in the back”
Women do. We show each other nudes too.
This comment deserves to be pinned !!!!!!!!
Man i see you
Nowadays ppl telling more Than they kissed lol, social media lies, just to feel among, and meet society standards, especially when society have set up double standards for ppl to meet.
Mortal Coils I feel no ways.
As a young 17-year-old male watching this video
I'm very grateful for the stuff I know now, will use it to self improve
Yo I am also 17. I really hope that when I become older and look back at my life right now and be content with the fact that I did my best. I don't want to be 40 and then be like "yeah I was an idiot as a teen". I want to say something like "I did my best to improve and therefore I don't regret anything" you know? That's just how I think.
Novabow John Mivule Im 16 so I guess we're all learning
Read David Goggins' book 'Can't Hurt Me' a book I always come back to and I'm 20 now but if I had that at 16/17 it would've helped me a lot you'll thank yourself for investing now even if you don't know your future
So am I, and I will as well 💯
And share it man. Not just the video. I mean the stuff you know. With your young friends. Be a voice when you know it can have a positive impact after analyzing it has had a good one on you. We are all leaders, nobody is truly a sheep. Some members of society create this false narrative of classifying people as sheep so they can brainwash them into becoming numb to progress and take advantage for personal gain. We can all get ahead in life without stepping over people. Lift up whoever you can while always lifting yourself up and not being dragged. You do this with an unending will to keep knowledge and perspectives flowing into your brain meanwhile your heart grows stronger without even noticing.
As a 26 year old female, I just wanted to say, I've learnt so much from Preach and Abba... I look at situations differently and always keep in mind that there is two sides to every story... These two are funny and are still able to get important issues across, they are honest and admit to being wrong at times but they grow from it and teach others... This is the kind of content we need more of these days... Keep up the great work guys ❤️
@@MP-ut6eb that's my boy Zidane 😁😎
Same here. It really showcases how important it is to have role models and parents.
Whoa! I HAD NO IDEA PREACH IS 38! He looks like he’s in his late 20’s.
Basically🏌🏿
Nah he looks young but he has that wisdom.
Moisturizer.
He looks 38...
Mah dude doesn’t have a single strand of white hair
Things I wish I knew:
-College sucks
- The 20's are a damn struggle
- Being an adult is no fun
Bruv, being an adult is good. It ain't easy, but I always remind myself "nobody can tell me that i can't blow bubbles in my chocolate milkshake no more". Seems simple, sounds stupid, but it is true and it is freeing.
true it has it's moments I mean i have always done whatever I want but I guess I had a way more grand future in mind when I was younger
@@MrMutou what's stopping you now? I have wanted to raise and hunt with hounds since I was 6, at 32 I am finally figuring out how I can make that my reality. It's still gonna take another 4 years probably, and I am looking forward to getting there and learning more as I do. That's my grand future, won't make sense to a lot of people but it makes sense to me. What's yours, bruv?
@@tyrellthiel2201 Mostly the expungement process, once my record is clear I can get a better job and start saving up to move out, I always wanted to be a character designer honestly but I flunked outta college so I gotta find my own way
@@tyrellthiel2201 True!
As woman I can say that these tips are attractive and are good advice even for women. It is inspiring to hear.
As a young woman, I'm still watching
Same!
Jake Garcia hate for no reason. Smh disappointing.
most of these tips can apply to women too
@@caleab3280 totally!
Like the old saying in my native language goes: " A gentleman enjoys in silence "
What languge?
@@AnthonyGaskinsT0T My native language
;)
Nice madworld pfp
That’s deep
Anthony Gaskins III It’s from a German Cultural saying
Long story:
A few years back, 2018 I think it was, I was at my peak. I was very active everyday, always striving towards self improvement, forcing myself out of my comfort zone to invoke growth and inspire others to do the same. I was on it. There was a night out that put my virtues to the test that still surprises me when I think back on how I handled it. I had been out with friends for some drinks, and I decided I'd had enough and was leaving. Outside the place we were drinking, a young girl asked me if I had seen someone in a grey tracksuit with blood on his face, claiming he was her boyfriend. I said I hadn't but I was willing to let her know if I do, and that I would come back with him to meet her if I saw him on my way home. I rolled a cigarette, and before I could spark it, I heard he shout at me "he's here, so much for helping me", but I thought nothing of it, she found her man, situation resolved. What I didn't know was that her bf was beaten up for protecting her from a group of guys that were hitting on her and being pushy. And those guys were back with more friends to keep up the punishment. I was now involved. I felt a sense of duty after accepting the responsibility of helping her. The group surrounded the couple and all I could hear was shouting in Turkish and English, but I couldn't make out any words. But through the shouting I could hear clearly the girl shouting back and being very aggressive. She was scared, but she wasn't gonna show it. I decided I would mingle into the group, making myself tall, and speaker as clearly and directly to the ones that could hear me (paraphrasinh) "who came out tonight to have a good time? Who came out tonight thinking they were going home? Who wants to end the night at home, and not in a cell or a hospital?" And to my surprise, because I was running off instinct and adrenaline not really expecting to have too much impact, some of the group actually listened and began calming down. Other members of the group asked me if I was there for beef, and I denied it, stating I'm here to stop it if I can and calm things down, adding that I don't know anyone involved, but I couldn't watch or stand by as something potentially devastating was happening. That earned respect from a few, and I even had a handful begin to side with me in calming things down. But the girl was still being aggressive, of course out of fear and adrenaline. She knew I wasn't with the group so I know what I did next wasn't going to be taken as a threat. I walked up to her and said "hey listen, it's me". I put my hands on her hips, squatted slightly to be eye to eye, looked into her soul and told her "go home, you're making it worse". And she bite her lip like a child does when they've been told off and feel guilty, and started to walk with her boyfriend back to wherever they needed to go. Knowing the group could still follow them, I tried to get their attention again, saying thank you for calming down and letting it go. Reminding them that the choice they made to forget about it was far better than being interrogated or hospitalised. Some of them walked off (not towards the couple, but just away) others were telling me I'm a good person, some even thanked me for not letting them do something stupid (they were all young btw, oldest probably about 20, I was 22 myself but I look older cause I'm going bald 😅) and we all ended up going our separate ways having avoided unnecessary pain and bloodshed. I know the alcohol helped me perform the way I did, I could only dream of stepping in and asserting myself like that sober, but I discovered that night that I had it in me to help people I didn't even know, to tackle a serious problem head on and be successful, to be a voice of reason where there wasn't one. And to this day I look back in that night as a standard I want to live up to day to day not just watching injustice and danger take place, but being active in preventing it and resolving it. It should go without saying that the risk I took that night is not something I would recommend anyone just try without serious consideration of the circumstance, but I would encourage people to not just judge a situation and let it slide, but be aware of what you're capable of and can do to make those situations end as well for everyone involved as possible. I'm not going to say I saved a life or 2 that night. Odds are it was just kids trying to intimidate each other And nothing would have come of it. But where I'm from, and the area I was in that night, people have died over petty shit. Stabbings, shootings, fights over girls and alcohol and whatever. So a piece of me likes to think I prevented a family from having to mourn. Trying that yourself may not always end so well, so please don't read this and think you can be some nightcrawling crime fighter. No one is built for that. Shit gets crazy on some real shit. But do take from this that you have it in you, when you speak the truth and mean what you say, you have the power to make a real, positive impact.
Moreover, I recently entered a decline in my health and attitude towards myself and life. I lost touch with my inner king. But watching these videos, reminding me of who I was, and who I could be, has inspired me, and I feel a motivation to rebuild that kingdom I once ruled over.
Thanks Aba, thanks Preach. You're doing a great service to me and many others. Keep doing what you do.
Thanks for sharing your story man. Something I definitely need to learn.
Wow, very intriguing story, I love your bravery🤗🤗😊😊
Truly fascinating!
I 100% back the notion of learning to be brave. Especially in social settings.
I'm in my 30s, was never educated on taking risks, and have social anxiety both when I dance and when I talk to women in public areas; to the point that I'd rather be single than deal with rejection, or not dance at all than dance with people watching me. I'm fully aware of these flaws and am actively working on them, but dammit it is hard.
Fellas. 100% get comfortable with taking logical risks and accepting failure. You will learn to appreciate that skillset it the future.
There is a limit though I had to tell one employer hell no when he asked me to lean over the 22nd story of a building with no rail or safety equipment.
This, man. I'm still working on this into my mid 30's. It's always better to make a sub-optimal choice than to do nothing at all, which is often how I approached situations with girls as a young man.
I've been there aswell. Takes alot of time and you will fail alot. But daaamn it feels so good when you get rewarded for all the hard work. Keep it up and never give up!
@@Skater122495That's where the synergy with boundaries comes in. The main reason we often end up doing stupid things is because we don't have solid boundaries or don't enforce them.
Same with the dancing, i can dance home alone, but in public or with friends, ooof 😂
Wish you luck, but Herring rejected ist Part of Life you know, we get rejected for Jobs, Friends even by our own children/little siblings. But it gets easier and the import thing ist not to forget what values you have as a person.
A gentleman would never discuss the bedroom, even with his friends! . quite right.
this is like the kingsmen training montage :)
Thats not really the issue. Its normal in my group of friends (to me more than 3 people aint a group of true friends) to discuss our sex lives. I think the issue that was raised here is treating sex as an accomplishment or as ego boost. To gloat about fucking certain person or doing certain thing. Thats whack.
But the same applies to keeping everything bottled up. You ll feel some insecurities about your sex life or sexual knowledge. And its important to have a group of friends who wont deviate that to superficial values. Instead they ll help you and truly be supportive. Basically you ll need friends that are mature about it.
Right. Next thing you know your "homey" gone be trying to get at her because you told him she had some fire.
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Cash Money bad mentality. Literally the opposite of the message in this video
Robert Lewandoski I got the opposite thought. If it’s a rando, why even bring it up if it doesn’t matter? But if I’m dating someone I’m excited about, I think I would talk about it (not sex stuff ofc)
As a 22 year old autistic man who isn't able to properly understand social circumstances in the same way that others can, I just want to say that this advice is quite helpful. You guys got some advice that is really good for a guy like me. These things don't come obvious to a guy like me as they do to others, so I appreciate it a lot
Advice to Young Men
Number 1- Keep your financial and personal business to yourself. The less people know about you the better off you are.
Number 2- Do not be afraid to express your feelings. You are a human being not a robot.
Number 3- Having emotions does not make you a weak man it will aid you in being a better communicator andbbeing more self-aware.
Number 4- Develop boundarys, self-worth, self-respect, and self-love.
Number 5- Learn to be a leader not a follower. Please do not take peoples ideas as your own. Learn to stand by your beliefs, do your own research, and have your own opinion it is fine not to believe what everybody else thinks.
Number 6- Learn to be by yourself. If you don't love you nobody else will.
Number 7- Have a purpose. What do yiu want to do with your life and make sure to construct the necessary steps that will allow you to achieve that goal or purpose.
Number 8- Live within your means. Please do not buy things out of your budget just to impress people. Life is a journey not a race.
Number 9- I am finishing up my MBA. Everyone if you are trying to go to college please research scholarships there is thousands of dolars of free money. One of myscholarships I got for just being left-handed. Also ask your school for tuition wavers. You can literally apply for a waver with your collefe and if you meet the qualifications you can get your tuition covered for free.
Female Here! Thanks for this advice. I’m sharing it with my son.
Good looks on number 9
I can attest to number 9, I'm starting my 3rd yr of undergrad with ZERO student loans and my family is no where near rich. I'm constantly searching and applying to scholarships and I intend on graduating with no student debt.
As a left handed guy this was an interesting scholarship read
Have you advice in how to know what you want in Life. I Love Life, but I can't figure how to know what to live for. How to figure what goals might be important.
"Practice being uncomfortable." This is what I tell any child I mentor.
Yes! Me too! In high school my dad told me that and I would try to put myself in uncomfortable situations just so I was prepared for future uncomfortable situations that I did not put myself in.
“Love your neighbor but mind your own business” is my own personal motto
Just recently turned 25. Wanting to be better - appreciate this video brothers 🙏🏽
Same... I wasted so much of my life doing nonsense but it’s never too late
This is the type of masculinity we need to progress and put forward more in our male friend groups
Absolutely! Preach bro!!
We NEED to stop teaching boys it's not OK to men.
Cash Money wooahhh calm down incel
@@demstudios5799 Incel? How...?
Does that word just not mean anything anymore?
Arcadian Blues it’s a joke bro chill😂🤣 not every piece of communication in language has to be its official annotation.
“ Avoid Debt” struggling with that one rn😔
Avoid non dischargeable debt or mortgages you can't afford, student loans
Especially tax debt
Dont get into debts that do not generate income. If you are taking on debt to get started and invest, think through and weigh in on your intended work.
If you are in debt for education, you are fucked if it isnt for a sure high paying jobs.
Bravery isn't being fearless, but having the resolve to continue.
This comment needs more likes.
I guess
C’est littéralement ce qu’il a dit en d’autre mot. I don’t understand the purpose of this comment. Please enlighten me
Isn't that what he said basically? Perseverance.
@@zacharydubuisson8788 "You can lead a Horse to Water, but you can't make it drink."
If you didn't understand it on your own, me walking you through it will only waste both of our time.
With all due respect of course.
This year i’ve been learning and learning a lot about being a young dude in 2020...As a black male who turned 17 on tuesday i’m just tryna stay on track and focusing on my stuff
Happy late birthday 🎂
What's the most important thing you learned?
ShamoSagi happy birthday.
MultiKingvegeta thanks
Hasan Goobe ✊🏾
As an 18 year old guy turning 19 in Jan. who never really had a true father figure in his life, growing up with a single a single mom, I truly do appreciate you two. Obviously I cannot rely on you two completely for opinions, ways of bettering myself as a man but I am very greatful to have found you guys. It's never been easy being the sole male in a family with younger sibblings having to navigate being a man on your own. I definitely missed out on a lot but I've done my best to be the best man I could have so far and will continue to learn and evolve as much as I can. Once again, thank you Aba, thank you Preach
As a woman in her 20s I can say all of these advices apply to us as well. Great advise.
I would like to add an advise to young women from my experience.
*don't be afraid to date someone outside of your "preferences" such as height, physique, hair, skin color etc. You may be missing on a great partner/bf because he's not 6ft with huge muscles.
this brings tears to my eyes
@What Not To Do At a Stoplight I I didn't think it was necessary to add that as it would be common sense that personality, moral values and common interest matter when finding a partner. That's such a redundant thing to mention.
I meant in addition to the personality traits sometimes a lot of women tend to want the perfect guy, the whole package. I've seen plenty of videos where guys mention how hard to it is to date because of the rejection rate men tend to experience in the dating scene.
I was making a comment that is directly tied to that.
Those women probably have more expectations of perfection when dating men.
At least the ones I've known in my life time because again the comment is meant for women not a guy who implies I'm shallow because he doesn't know how to read the room and read between the lines.
@@avril.m.l to add other women just straight up say 6ft or nothing other qualities don't matter to them. Also thank you for putting this out there
@What Not To Do At a Stoplight i think the element you're missing is women are attracted to different things than men & at different times. they dont always go off pure sexual attraction like men do. in her 20's a woman goes off pure attraction (6ft w/ muscles) in her 30's a woman goes off who can pay her bills... & yes, the fact that women date like this is mad shallow.
@@avril.m.l good clarification, because i was about to go in 😂
i think your comment was overall good advice for women, but the part in your comment that probably makes men feel icky is this part:
"don't be afraid to date someone outside of your preferences" --- a lot of men are aware of women's dual mating strategy, where they sleep with bad boys in their prime (their 20's) i suppose to fish around for the best genetics & then in their mid-30's when they are far less attractive & after they've been used up sexually by the 6ft bad boys with muscles, they look for a poor nice guy that they're not really attracted to (ie: outside of their preferences) to pay their bills, support them financially & play step-dad to their kids they had by the 6ft bad boy with muscles.
i think a lot of men read between the lines & see that this is what women are advising other women to do... & a lot of men don't feel good about that.
i think thats what a lot of men will read into this.
as a former Swedish Prime minister once said. ''If you have loans/debts, you're not free''
if you have them you're in shackles... so stay away from banks as much as you can.
Lol I’m only at the ATM babyyyy
Man if you're a human you're not free, rent, car insurance, light/water bills, gas, food, like how the fuck they got us paying for Water???????????
@イチカラ村Tarrey town 🤣🤣🤣
You pay for water?
Wow! Big ups to him!
I'm a young woman, but everything here applies in my life and I really appreciate this video. I took notes & would love if you guys did more of these! ❤️
This isn't just a guy thing honestly. This could apply to all sexes and creeds. Great video.
@Hyu Toobe Agreed. But what Aba and Preach touched on applies to humans in general. Both sexes can apply that to their lives to better their themselves.
@Hyu Toobe Fam you're deeping it, what is being listed can be really good advice in general. I think "don't kiss and tell" can apply to both sexes, and so on. Besides, what the above comment said ^^^.
*both sexes
Or how about stop trying to intrude on male spaces. Its great if other groups get something from it but were talking about us.
@@wes7949 the title literally says my advice to young men bruh
1. Don't Kiss and Tell - 0:15
2. Learn to be Brave - 2:12
3. Learn to Say No - 4:50
4. Develop a Code and Live By It - 6:28
5. Be Patient with Yourself - 8:48
6. Learn to Listen - 10:00
7. Avoid Debt - 11:20
8. Seek out a Mentor - 12:42
9. Develop a Space to Confined In and Ask Questions - 14:25
10. Be Kind, Be Compassionate - 16:50
I think another good one they should've listed was 'If you make a choice, don't second guess yourself.'
There've been too many times in my life where I got fucked over by second guessing my choices instead of doing what will make me happy.
@@JoshuaGraves113 I think it goes with #2, but good point.
I'm not even a young man, I'm a young woman. But this shit is fire
*Aba's Philosophy feat. Preach*❤︎
"Bravery is not the absence of fear, but understanding, acknowledging your fear, and persevering regardless."
"Being *brave* will always, always - in the long term - give you the best outcome possible."
"By being brave, you're going to learn, you're going to grow."
"You're going to test your character, you're going to test your values as a result of being put in these situations."
"Being brave ensures that who you are will be cemented by experience, rather than ideas." (I really love this one)
"Develop a code and live by it."
"It's important for me to live a life of integrity."
"Be patient with yourself. You are young. You are growing. You will not stop growing. Things will become easier, more clear, and much more simple - but it's going to take time."
"You are going to have your time. Don't rush it, be patient with it."
"Sometimes, your silence can be just as assertive as your talking."
"Your ability to listen intently and assimilate information is just as important as actually conveying information."
"Anybody can teach you something."
"Don't buy anything you can't pay for outright."
"Avoid debt... do not take on more than what you know you can handle."
"Have real conversations."
"Be kind. Be compassionate."
A life of integrity, I'm honest to a fault and it's gotten me in trouble a lot. But I live better in spite of the consequences.
Am a 20 yrs old young man who grew up without a single man in the house (am oldest boy
Honestly you guys are helping the world in your own way honestly.
BLESS YOU PREACH & ABA
One thing I wish I told my younger self:
Stop worrying about the things you can’t control.
But that depends on what things you define as "out of your control". It's a tricky rule. And the devil is in the details.
@@richardkovacs2006 look up "The Dichotomy of Control". Helped me defined the things that I can and can't control
As a 15yr old I heard something similar to this from Jordan Peterson or someone and it removes so much stress from life. I went from being extremely nervous and always on edge to actually being calm, especially in situations where theres a lot of people around.
Anxiety is such a bitch
ChinwarDarles yeah, so many days I could have enjoyed were wasted because of unnecessary anxiety.
I’m much more confident and comfortable with myself now but when I was a teenager, my social anxiety was insane.
" Take your time, it's not a race" ~ Best quote to tell the younger generation. It applies to literally everything.
As a guy who has *severe* depression, anxiety that can give me panic attacks occasionally, almost failed out of college, not having a job as of now and still living with my mom at 21 I needed to hear this. The world can and will be very unforgiving to a guy that contributes nothing to the point that a man puts his self worth in what he can do or how efficient he can do things and I speak from experience. I liked your guy’s channel ever since I came here now after this vid I kinda look at you guys older bros now. Thanks Aba and Preach 👍
I know pharmacists in their 30s that make bank but still choose to live with their parents
Q it’s called student loan debt 😂
You’re 21 man. You’re still young. It’s very easy to compare ourselves to those young successful people we used to go to school with that we see on social media but we aren’t them. We might not have the same opportunities as them, but trust me, if you have a goal in your mind that you can focus on it will all come clear in time. It won’t be easy but it will happen eventually. The struggle that you are going through now will develop the character of your older self too. You will probably be a lot more empathetic, and probably a lot more sensible and mature when it comes to saving money etc. So in the long run there’s every chance you can make a success out of yourself. Have faith man.
@Mr Shikadance dude im 21 and living with my parents too. And you re crazy to think we ll be able to move out at 23 or something. Specially after the pandemic. If you feel ashamed for that right now, i would recommend you to start understanding thats a non-issue. There's people from the older generation still living with their parents.
Thats me to 100% just 19 how do i get my boost ip
I'm so glad Aba and Preach have a platform like this.For young guys like me who live in a world that make us the villains because of "Men are the oppressors". So many of us dont have good male roles in our neighborhood and the ones who can look up to are across the other side of the world. We lost Kobe and Chad, good men. And the more we lose good men , the more we create incompetent men in the future especially in Black communities and POC that are in poverty.
As a 20 year old I'll take this advice through out my 20s. And thank you so much Aba and Preach for being those male rolemodels we can look up to
It's crazy how often I come back to this video. Not because I'm out here fucking up, but it's always nice to get that refresher. Especially in the low moments? Feels good to be looked out for.
The act of bravery is overcoming and moving past fear. If there is no fear there can be no bravery.
Is that Eugene in your pfp?
Sky J Ah a Birdman subscriber 😂
FryedPidgey pleasure you see you here my fellow brother.
Truth
FryedPidgey on me cuh a eugene he is that guy😂😂
If aba was an anime character ... I'm pretty sure he'd be jiraiya.
He would be koro Sensei
definitely
Fax
This is beautiful
not jiraya, hes not perverted enough. Jiraya definitely kiss and tells.
I'm 23 and this video hit at the very time that I needed it. I think that there is a lot of truth in the things that you guys are saying. I know I am guilty of negativily comparing myself to others and wanting to rush into things. I just want to say thanks to you guys and to anyone who is reading this comment, we are all going to make it. Just keep working on yourself and life will get easier for you.
Turned 17 yesterday this should help me. Thanks guys
also, check out Alpha Male Strategies on youtube. you’ll be glad you found his channel at 17
I turned 17 on tuesday
Happy belated birthdays my dudes
Good luck, brother
i turned 17 15 days ago
18, and I'm at a pretty terrible spot right now
I really needed this
Hope things get better❤
You'll get through this
Hope things get better, u got this❤
You will persevere, overcome and look back with content. Move courageously forward brother.
Hope everything goes well for you brother!
I’m a 25 year old Dominican/Black man with two kids and a wife. I needed this. Thank you.
I'm not a man, just a young female-but I found this really helpful.Thank you Aba and Preach.
Most of this applies to both men and women.
Girls with balls are still guys
@@accurategamer7085 🤦♀️
@@accurategamer7085 um... what??
life pro tip: Learn to read your emotions so that you can not be misled by them
There is no guarantee you won’t make mistakes, but how can you even attempt to not be led by your emotions if you can’t understand them?
Preach brother!! You hit the nail on the right spot.
You mean by projecting their past on others wich provoces deep pain that wants to be healed?
@@danielvdspank5183 That is certainly an example
People should go to therapy! Find a good therapist like you find a good doctor and let a professional help you find your way to emotional and mental soundness.
Ariana M I can’t stress what you just said enough. 100% agree!!
This is the kind of stuff that should be pinned to a must-see-list for every human being
“Bran thought about it. 'Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?'
'That is the only time a man can be brave,' his father told him.”
― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones
Very wise, Anal Terminator
My code: Honesty, Respect, and Discipline
Here is your crown, King
@@yoshiboi5989 Thanks, but I do not desire the weight of the crown. Wear it yourself and bring peace and dignity to all those you have touched. It's not very often that people show positivity in comment sections on social media, and I thank you for that.
Amen brother. Is it just me or do people not value respect as much as they should? Like it should just be a given, yet I find that people don’t live by it and it’s disappointing.
@@yanchoho It's definitely not just you. It's not hard to keep your word, and not to lie to others and yourself. I hope you have the strength of will to move forward in life while sticking to your beliefs and morals, be well.
One thing that I learned in my life as a man is to not tolerate disrespect. If you're passive about that people will walk all over. If someone disrespect s you or makes you feel uncomfortably you should calmly and respectfully communicate that and let it be known that you won't stand for it. You may lose jobs, friends, and other relationships doing things but it will boost your self esteem and you'll never regret it.
I had friends that would laugh at problems im facing or laughed when i almost got hit by a truck, real talk. I no longer talk to them.
good bro, find an extra curricular activity that will benefit you. idk how old you are but stay occupied!!
laughing at your problems sure its a bad thing, but being almost hit by a truck thats not really a bad thing to get laughed at
As a mother, I've tried to give this advice to both my son and my daughter. They aren't always utilizing it but they'll eventually get it. 💜
As a young adult without a strong male role model in my life, this has taught me a lot. Especially in terms of rushing and comparing the speed of my growth to those around me
I love how your being serious, so your sneeze and preach's "bless you" was serious 😐
Treat yourself like you would your bestfriend. Have some selfrespect folks.
Amen
If the nudes don't match the current hairstyle, someone else already got them... 🤷🏾♂️
😮
Shit, somebody got those same nudes yesterday 🤷🏾♂️
doesnt make it ok to share it.
@@tosca9127 the impression I got was the female was recycling her pictures to different dudes. I could be wrong though..
@@Wim-Bella-inayou got the right impression
The avoid debt part is literally what stephiscold said to not buy anything you can't buy upfront and that's fax
I also watch steph
Yeah when he was taking bout his credit score
@@w-fiend5925 yessir
Being able to say "no" is one of the most satisfying and empowering skills I've ever developed. I love helping people when I can and when I want to and it feels great, but helping through obligation causes discomfort that takes away that feeling of satisfaction and self worth with the end result leaving me feeling like I got rid of a burden.
If you help people because you feel like you have to, you're going to tie those negative emotions to future opportunities to do great things that otherwise would have lead you to a positive outcome and positive feeling for yourself and those around you.
This. 100%
“Who you are will be cemented by experiences rather than just ideas.”
That is a brilliant truism.
Preach: Imma laugh like an old guy
*Laughs like himself*
Stupidity is the absence of fear where it should exist.
Michelle Smail ur a genius
Very true.
This comment is underated
*and caution
Yeah I feel like it was a valid point that Preach brought up that Abba kind of blew off or didn't understand. Otherwise I agreed with the rest of the "Be Brave" segment.
My mom said that too and The only thing I haven’t bought outright is my house 🏠
Everything else - car - things, all myself - live within your means
19:58 was probably the most underrated portion of the vid. More ppl needed to hear this cause everything he said was so spot on, giving in to urges gives you less control over your being and over your life in general.
Agreed
My father is 72 and I am barely 18 and for the most part he isn't there for me as a Dad. Sometimes I start hating him for not being there but what can he do at that age being a complete father is a bit difficult. What I am trying to say is thank you Aba&Preach for raising me to some extent when no one was there to guide me in certain subjects you guys filled that gap I have been watching you guys for 2 Years.
For those of you who are wondering why I live with my Parents at the age of 18. I live in a third world country named Pakistan and ln our culture you leave your parents house either after you are married or after you get a stable job. Although I would say some milk drinking motherfuckers still decide to live with their parents even after they get married and have a stable Job.
No one is going to hate on you for living wit ur parents at 18 bro. 95% of all 18 year olds live with their parents lol
It’s ok and actually smarter to live with your parents for a bit to establish your own financial income.
I personally don’t blame my father as you hold some kind of resentment towards yours for being older. At least your father is there and take the negatives that you believe are negative about your parents and turn them into a positive towards your future.
Well that is how I look at it or how we humans improve from previous generations.
I personally learned from my parents mistakes or things I believe was wrong. Without their issues I would not have learned as much.
Today I value family aka my wife/children. no one else will be there for me only the one I love. As aba and preach said in the video find your values and be a better you.
These videos are pretty good. Well take care.
@@leroyjenkins9649 Thanks for the advice I already have a notepad where I write-down the mistakes of my parents that I will try to avoid with my kids
@@abdullahshahbaz4745 yeah dont have a kid at 60 should be at the top of your list lol
I also had an old father I can relate to you
As a woman, I must say this is amazing life lessons for everyone! I wont take away the fact that you guys are speaking to young men because it's beautiful and much needed, but trust me when I say that I'm also learning how to live my life by those "rules". That's the lessons my father thought me as a young woman and I strive everyday to abide by them! Thank you for this video!
1.) Do not kiss and tell
2.) Learn to be brave 2:13
3.) Learn to say no 4:47
4.) Develop a code and live by it 6:28
5.) Be patient with yourself 8:49
6.) Learn to listen 10:00
7.) Avoid debt 11:20
8.) Seek out a mentor 12:41
9.) Develop a space to confide in and ask questions 14:28
10.) Be kind, be compassionate and think of your community 16:51
woop woop
Since I've started watching you guys, I've grown much better insight on a lot of things. Thank you for the content!
Keep it real guys
This video was great advice.this also great advice for women/girls as well.
Advice Tip: Use code Aba for discount at Adam and eve
My Advice: Don't let someone verbally bait you into a fight. If they swing first though...defend yourself.
My lesson learned from my rugged ass, broke, one parent household childhood is to be the person now, that you needed when you were younger, be that person for those you love.
Preach is HOW OLD NOW?
He really is that cool uncle.
When he said he's 38, my jaw dropped
Speaking of discipline, I just turned 30 last Friday. Throughout my early-mid 20's I was in a bad relationship, I was depressed and had a high mount of debt (17k on my cc at one point). Best investment i ever made was going to see a therapist. I have good friends but at that age none of us really know how to talk to each other about serious shit. Anyways, I'm still depressed but i know how to spot it and work on it, I'm in a healthy loving relationship and i cleared my dept last year and actually have enough in my savings to tread water for a few months if shit were to ever hit the fan. It's funny, the more money i have the less i want to spend it. Stupid shit like upgrading my pc, I can easily afford it now but i've been putting it off for months. Go seek some help boys, it gets better.
“As a man people will often look at you to lead them to a better place”. That friggin hits.
I really resonate with the: You can learn something from everyone.
Yo Preach 38 and looking like he's 26
No way hes 38
i thought he is 22 or sum
wait wtf hes 38?
Abba and Preach look the same age. But, if you listen to Preach talk you can tell he is older
Right!?! Every time Preach changes hairstyles, he reduces his age by 5 years.
Abba:"i'm developing a code."
Preach:"PROGRAMING!"
lol
I wish I didn’t leak that video with me and this girl back in our high school. 7 years later, I still regret that shit. I can’t even apologize because I dont even know where she lives now.
Why did you leak it?
fly isn’t it evident why he regrets it? he grew up, realised it was immature and learned from it
succo max yah okay but I just wanna know what goes through someone’s head when they leak vids or pics
fly I leaked it because I was immature and wanted to get “cool points” from people at school. I should’ve never cared about what people think.
@@cupcake3215 Attention & approval from others, why do people show everyone photos of the huge fish they caught from the week before? It's for attention, approval and to show off to people that you were able to catch such a fish. I'd assume this is the thought process that one would go through, OP (or anyone else) can correct me if I'm wrong.
The being brave advice helped me. I tend to self isolate and be stagnant when things go badly around me or within me. Im trying to learn how to be the man of the house slowly when my father passes me the torch.
My brother does the same... I really hope in the future he will become brave and and a leader. Idk why he is the way he is...
@@Pocketrose3 Its really down to fight or flight response. When things go wrong in life like a family member getting ill, losing a job etc people either "fight", so taking action by finding another job or helping the loved one or "flight" response where they run away and put their had in the sand.
Kind of like how a deer freezes in the headlights. Ive found for myself its about learning how to deal with stress by meditating, exercise and GETTING UNCOMFORTABLE more. Its called aversion therapy. Go head on into those situations that give you those feelings but have a plan. He sound young but maybe guiding him towards other males like a boxing club or something where he is active with other males will really help.
TLFC my brother is almost 10 years older than me. I believe he’s 32... earlier this year we had a huge scare. My dads job called us asking for my dad... he had left our house at 4 AM and never arrived to work (which is a 30 min drive) and it was already 6 AM. We didn’t know what happened w my dad but we knew we had to go look for him. Everyone in the household got up, ready to do something about it and go out in the streets and look for him. My brother was the only one who did not get up from his bed to help us.... he stayed in his room and waited for us to get back home and had the problem solved....
@@Pocketrose3 To be honest I'm not a health cAre professionals and I wasn't there to experience it myself so it's suffice to assume. But certainly the things I suggested surrounding mainly being active can be beneficial for the mind.
This is legit great advice, especially the whole mentor thing. As a man who grew up without a father/father figure. I really feel like if I would've had more guidance and an all around example of what it is to be a man I would've been better off.
"Take your time" is probably the one that hits home the hardest. Just graduated school in the middle of a pandemic and a recession (US). It's made it really really hard to find a job and that has caused me to feel depressed at not finding a job. I know it's not my fault but it still hits home as something I struggle with in terms of not allowing that to affect my self-esteem.
I've just gone through the same thing man. Just got a job after 4 months of unemployment. Keep your chin up and stay close to the people that mean something to you. Staying active with friends and family kept me going when I felt guilty and they had my back. I wish you good luck man, work hard!
you get depressed because you cant find a job because of a pandemic? boy you weak as hell.
@Pr.incorporated no need to get butthurt over facts . the boy is weak as hell.
@@deathrager2404 Lol oh no, a stranger on the internet needs to feel superior by putting someone down. If you're going to be a dick, at least be original.
@@deathrager2404 lol getting a depression and feeling depressed is not remotely similar. You out here calling people bitches over the internet when u don't know them or their circumstances. Boy u weak as hell
Definitely needed this, am 18 years old and can't find a bigger way to say thanks to this, I know a like does not gives this advice justice, but thanks man.
When i broke up with a girl i delete her nudes i never share them i just think its a matter of respect
"Learn to say no" part got to me.
I really needed that, damn. Thanks a lot.
I'm 22. I'm happy that I'm old enough to realize that taking advice from men with more life experience is good, and still young enough to put their advice into practice.
The part about peaking in your 30's gave me some peace because I feel like I missed out on all the good shit growing up.
Aba: Today's topic...
Preach: AAAAaAAAAAAAAAAAAAaaAaAA