Three important things to note: 1. Yes, there are MANY possible consequences to the action - physical, emotional, psychological. In this video, I am only talking about this one! 2. Some people automatically associate the word consequences with something negative. I think that typically comes from childhood when little kids are told, "If you keep misbehaving, there will be CONSEQUENCES!!" Consequences means "something that logically or naturally follows from an action or condition" - it is a neutral word and consequences can be positive or negative. A new life is ALWAYS good! 3. My channel and ministry is geared toward women and that's why this is a conversation about women's role for the heart of a woman. There are, obviously, two people involved in a sexual relationship. Men's responsibility is, of course, of equal and supreme importance in this matter.
My husband and I got married in April of 2022, and got pregnant two months after. We had our baby before our one year anniversary and a few people in my town also rumored that I got pregnant out of wedlock. Our sweet girl was born in March and she is genuinely the best thing that has happened to us. I don’t know where I would be without her now ❤ god makes beautiful of what we are afraid of
I used to be sexually active with boyfriends in high school. I didn’t want to have sex before marriage but they each convinced me to do it, I wasn’t good at setting boundaries back then. I never got pregnant but each time I had sex, afterwards I would get so much anxiety for days because of the slight possibility we could have messed up with the contraception. I would be so thankful when my period came but honestly I never want to go back to that. I don’t want to have sex if I’m not ready to be a mom, the anxiety was crazy and the risks are just not worth it.
Yeah, the anxiety around it is insane. Especially if you felt pressured into sex (by a boyfriend or by the culture). I’ve worked through that a lot, and what has helped me is not demonizing myself for having sexual thoughts. I thought I was broken, and I thought I would get punished with pregnancy. But, what a sad way to think of pregnancy, and feeling sexual feelings that my body naturally felt. Pregnancy shouldn’t be a punishment. No wonder people are scared.
I'm not religious, I'm pro-choice, I'm married, but I still needed to hear this. This is something that's not discussed enough in society at large, as you said. I'm so glad I came across your video and how respectfully you approached this topic.
Well👏 said👏!! This is such an important topic, and you nailed it- this is reality, actions have consequences! Thank you for how respectfully yet honestly you treated this subject. This is why you're one of my favorite Catholic speakers! 😄💕
Thank you for this video! I have believed and said this (in addition to contracting unwanted STDs) since I was a teenager (I'm now 37), and people used to (and honestly still do, if I bring it up) look at me/react like I was/am crazy! I felt in my heart like this was common sense, but I guess it's not so common. 💔 Thank you, for yet again putting your best foot forward. Your video has reinforced a belief I've had for a long time, and I can't even put into words how healing this is for me. You have validated something I've thought, which others have criticized, tried to tear down, and belittled me about for years and years. Thank you. ❤️ If your video can reach even one person, you've made a BIG difference - and your video did reach me! I hope it continues to reach many many more who need it on their journey for one reason or another as well. ❤️❤️❤️
Soon as I read the title I was like “Emily would never announce a pregnancy with this language, she must be addressing something else important”. I haven’t met you yet I love how so many of us “know” you!❤
Thank you for this 👏🏻 These points always go through my mind when I hear this term. Every child should be welcomed only with joy and love and it’s so sad that many children are conceived and greeted with disappointment and confusion.
Thank you so much for speaking on this, Emily! It is so, so important. You speak with so much love and wisdom, and please never stop speaking to these young girls who need to hear this
Hi Emily, I hope you're well. I always found weird that people could separate the act from its most natural consequence. I went to Catholic school and when the topic of reproductive health came up in class, I was amazed at how many friends knew they were alive because their parents contraception method failed. It was quite funny to us that contraceptives were promoted as these pregnancy prevention measures in our curriculum when so many of us were here because it failed. At least it didn't allow us to be delusional. God bless you and your family. Have a nice day.
I wish this reality of the consequences of our actions was discussed in my religious education classes (in front of both the girls and the boys). I wish it wasn’t such a taboo topic to talk about ❤
I agree with you and isn't it crazy that it is? It's such an important concept but our world says, "Do whatever you want! It doesn't matter!" When it DOES!
I have been working with the poor in my job every day constantly for 17 years. I see many many MANY young women typically 18 to 22 become pregnant for the first time. They come in this state of shock when they first find out because you can see in their eyes that they never truly thought that they might become pregnant. It’s like the possibility never even crossed their minds, and then I watch them spend the rest of their lives in poverty because of this path they have taken that all started with getting pregnant outside of marriage. One major factor in this is that they often seem to have trouble making that connection between actions and consequences no matter what area of life we’re talking about.
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your care for the people God puts in front of you. Thank you for all the love, care, attention you have given them and all the sacrifices you have made to be present and serve them as Christ would!
Emily, thank you for bringing up that topic! The perspective of certain effects after different choices may seem obvious, although it seems it isn't a widely held conviction today. I appreciate how accurate and tactful your language and tone is, thank you once again 😊
I think another important point is that teen pregnancy has been glorified. There are many teens and young people hoping for it because of how it’s been glorified. I once heard about a young woman who tried to get pregnant to get on a teen mom show. It’s sad it’s almost become normalized.
I didn’t take very seriously the reality that every choice comes with a consequence, whatever that choice may be. Thank you! I’ve been working out moderately or intensely almost every day for a month. I find that surprisingly helps releasing pent up energies and sexual desires. When I date again, I’m more confident that I will no longer give in to such temptation. I thank God for helping me find this solution that I can build me my routine, finally.
God bless you Emily. This is so, so important to highlight in a loving way as you have done, in a world where people are taught to put themselves first, think less of consequences to actions and believe that going along with society is the only way - I know this is going to touch so many womens' hearts. Thank you.
We call our newest baby our surprise baby, me and my husband wanted a third and stopped our natural family planning, and immediately conceived our third daughter❤it was very welcomed, but after our second daughter taking over a year to conceive, we were very surprised!
If I ever get pregnant, it will be "unexpected", since I'm 32 (i.e. not getting any younger) and I have just found out that I have a condition that might cause subfertility. "Unexpected pregnancy" would be music to my ears
I believe that sometimes it is fear mongering when getting pregnant is viewed as a death sentence. People tell girls that if they get pregnant, they will have no support, they can’t go to school or get a job, and their whole life from now on will be for the baby. I think some people find that so scary and unfathomable that they don’t want to believe they could get pregnant with birth control. The chances of getting pregnant on birth control are slim (when used properly), but it doesn’t mean that you aren’t using it for a reason. Manufacturing defects happen, user error, etc. While a young girl most likely is not ready to be a mom, scaring her in or out of it is not helpful. (Not to say Emily is scaring anyone, just in a general sense). If that girl is already like, “okay, my parents were exaggerating about so many things, why should I trust them on this?” Pregnancy and motherhood is a ton of responsibility, but it is on everyone to love and support people. Not be like, “good luck being pregnant!” Which is the message a lot of girls get and that is super scary.
Yes. That's why the work of pregnancy resource centers and orders like the Sisters of Life is SO important. They are there every minute, every day of the year to help women who need it, to EMPOWER them to know that if they are pregnant there is support and love for them in many, many different ways.
Thank you for this great video! I am studying medicine and want to become a gynecologist later on. I am asking myself if it was a sin if I would give contraception to girls /women if they tell me they want to sleep with someone and "protect" themselves , because otherwise they might get pregnant and would like to have an abortion, so I personally think that it is less evil to give them contraceptives. What do you think about this? I really want to become a gynecologist because I absolutely love the topic about pregnancy and women's endocrinology, but the topic about contraception while being catholic confuses me. Please excuse me for the grammar mistakes, I am not a native speaker 🌸😊
Have you thought about working at a Catholic hospital system? Doctors in certain Catholic hospitals cannot prescribe birth control or perform hysterectomies or vasectomies for birth control. I’d encourage you to look at the Ethical and Religious Directives for Catholic Health Care Services.
How would you recommend talking about a pregnancy that is welcome but still unexpected? My husband and I are using NFP to temporarily avoid conception (for valid reasons!), so while we would happily welcome a baby into our family, if I found out I was pregnant it would certainly be unexpected! Is there a different term you would use, or am I just supposed to, like... pretend I wasn't abstaining during fertile periods with the intention of delaying conception and tell everyone a pregnancy was planned?
A surprise. Very welcome though not necessarily planned. That’s how I describe my third. She was a surprise because I did the math wrong in my fertile days.
I think there are some good points here - to be aware pregnancy is always a possibility with sex hence why I chose not to be sexually active until I was 18. My only concern with what you say here is it is very much addressed solely at women. And fails to take into account mens responsibility to be responsible which puts all of the responsibility on women. It has to be both men and women who take joint responsibility when it comes to sex which isn’t the current reality regardless of subjective opinions on the right place for sex.
You are ABSOLUTELY right and I agree with you 100%. My channel and ministry is geared toward women and that's why this is addressed toward them. Men's responsibility is, of course, of equal and supreme importance in this matter. That's a good point I can add to my pinned comment!
@@emwilss yes, if only there was a man who was talking about these kinds of things. Dr David Clarke has a lot of good to say about marriage, abuse, and the divorces that often happen due to that abuse. And there's just a bit of that geared to those who haven't been married yet. Hopefully there are others he is mentoring; that would be a good start
As a post menopausal woman, I can tell you that the lack of sexual desire is quite freeing. I wish there was something, some herb perhaps, that could have dulled my sex drive in my younger years. There probably is such a thing, but it's not being promoted in our over sexed culture. If you know of such a medicine or herb, please comment!
Hi Emily. What you say is not up for debate (doesn't matter one iota if you're a person of faith or not, in this instance), because it is purely factual. 99 percent is not 100 percent, which means that someone who presumably does not want to become pregnant will find herself falling into that 1 percent.
Three important things to note:
1. Yes, there are MANY possible consequences to the action - physical, emotional, psychological. In this video, I am only talking about this one!
2. Some people automatically associate the word consequences with something negative. I think that typically comes from childhood when little kids are told, "If you keep misbehaving, there will be CONSEQUENCES!!" Consequences means "something that logically or naturally follows from an action or condition" - it is a neutral word and consequences can be positive or negative. A new life is ALWAYS good!
3. My channel and ministry is geared toward women and that's why this is a conversation about women's role for the heart of a woman. There are, obviously, two people involved in a sexual relationship. Men's responsibility is, of course, of equal and supreme importance in this matter.
My husband and I got married in April of 2022, and got pregnant two months after. We had our baby before our one year anniversary and a few people in my town also rumored that I got pregnant out of wedlock. Our sweet girl was born in March and she is genuinely the best thing that has happened to us. I don’t know where I would be without her now ❤ god makes beautiful of what we are afraid of
That last line is everything and can be applied to so much! He makes beautiful EVERYTHING that we are afraid of!
I used to be sexually active with boyfriends in high school. I didn’t want to have sex before marriage but they each convinced me to do it, I wasn’t good at setting boundaries back then. I never got pregnant but each time I had sex, afterwards I would get so much anxiety for days because of the slight possibility we could have messed up with the contraception. I would be so thankful when my period came but honestly I never want to go back to that. I don’t want to have sex if I’m not ready to be a mom, the anxiety was crazy and the risks are just not worth it.
Yeah, the anxiety around it is insane. Especially if you felt pressured into sex (by a boyfriend or by the culture).
I’ve worked through that a lot, and what has helped me is not demonizing myself for having sexual thoughts. I thought I was broken, and I thought I would get punished with pregnancy.
But, what a sad way to think of pregnancy, and feeling sexual feelings that my body naturally felt. Pregnancy shouldn’t be a punishment. No wonder people are scared.
I'm not religious, I'm pro-choice, I'm married, but I still needed to hear this. This is something that's not discussed enough in society at large, as you said. I'm so glad I came across your video and how respectfully you approached this topic.
Well👏 said👏!! This is such an important topic, and you nailed it- this is reality, actions have consequences! Thank you for how respectfully yet honestly you treated this subject. This is why you're one of my favorite Catholic speakers! 😄💕
Thank you for your thoughtful comment! It is so very important, I'm glad you agree.
Thank you for this video! I have believed and said this (in addition to contracting unwanted STDs) since I was a teenager (I'm now 37), and people used to (and honestly still do, if I bring it up) look at me/react like I was/am crazy! I felt in my heart like this was common sense, but I guess it's not so common. 💔 Thank you, for yet again putting your best foot forward. Your video has reinforced a belief I've had for a long time, and I can't even put into words how healing this is for me. You have validated something I've thought, which others have criticized, tried to tear down, and belittled me about for years and years. Thank you. ❤️
If your video can reach even one person, you've made a BIG difference - and your video did reach me! I hope it continues to reach many many more who need it on their journey for one reason or another as well. ❤️❤️❤️
My older sister can probably relate to how you feel a lot. I’m sorry for how others’ reactions made you feel all this time. ❤
Soon as I read the title I was like “Emily would never announce a pregnancy with this language, she must be addressing something else important”. I haven’t met you yet I love how so many of us “know” you!❤
Thank you for this 👏🏻 These points always go through my mind when I hear this term. Every child should be welcomed only with joy and love and it’s so sad that many children are conceived and greeted with disappointment and confusion.
I’m 28 years old and I’m still waiting until marriage. It is definitely possible.
Thank you so much for speaking on this, Emily! It is so, so important. You speak with so much love and wisdom, and please never stop speaking to these young girls who need to hear this
Hi Emily, I hope you're well. I always found weird that people could separate the act from its most natural consequence. I went to Catholic school and when the topic of reproductive health came up in class, I was amazed at how many friends knew they were alive because their parents contraception method failed. It was quite funny to us that contraceptives were promoted as these pregnancy prevention measures in our curriculum when so many of us were here because it failed. At least it didn't allow us to be delusional. God bless you and your family. Have a nice day.
I wish this reality of the consequences of our actions was discussed in my religious education classes (in front of both the girls and the boys). I wish it wasn’t such a taboo topic to talk about ❤
I agree with you and isn't it crazy that it is? It's such an important concept but our world says, "Do whatever you want! It doesn't matter!" When it DOES!
@@emwilss and like they say, what we don’t teach our kids, the world will teach them and convince them to believe
Everything going on with Roe versus Wade, women need this message more now than ever before in my lifetime.
I thought you were expecting a third baby
Not yet!
Me, too. I got excited.
Right! 😂
I think we all did!
same, though
I have been working with the poor in my job every day constantly for 17 years. I see many many MANY young women typically 18 to 22 become pregnant for the first time. They come in this state of shock when they first find out because you can see in their eyes that they never truly thought that they might become pregnant. It’s like the possibility never even crossed their minds, and then I watch them spend the rest of their lives in poverty because of this path they have taken that all started with getting pregnant outside of marriage. One major factor in this is that they often seem to have trouble making that connection between actions and consequences no matter what area of life we’re talking about.
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your care for the people God puts in front of you. Thank you for all the love, care, attention you have given them and all the sacrifices you have made to be present and serve them as Christ would!
Emily, thank you for bringing up that topic!
The perspective of certain effects after different choices may seem obvious, although it seems it isn't a widely held conviction today.
I appreciate how accurate and tactful your language and tone is, thank you once again 😊
Thank you Hanna
i'm so glad you're in the chastity world helping girls discern this issue lovingly and soberly!
I think another important point is that teen pregnancy has been glorified. There are many teens and young people hoping for it because of how it’s been glorified. I once heard about a young woman who tried to get pregnant to get on a teen mom show. It’s sad it’s almost become normalized.
I didn’t take very seriously the reality that every choice comes with a consequence, whatever that choice may be. Thank you!
I’ve been working out moderately or intensely almost every day for a month. I find that surprisingly helps releasing pent up energies and sexual desires. When I date again, I’m more confident that I will no longer give in to such temptation. I thank God for helping me find this solution that I can build me my routine, finally.
Thank you for sharing this! I love when people are open about changes they've made in their lives and how it's impacted them really positively.
Glad you clarified your not pregnant, I got excited 🤍 But so so important to talk about! X
Why I clarified in the first second, as the title is exactly the thing I am talking about! Soooo important!
Certainly opened my eyes ♡ never heard something put so clear about unexpected pregnancy, will certainly be sharing this video x
Mind blown. I've been reflecting on this for a long time, and you've put into such eloquent words what has been stirring in my mind
Yes so important to talk about ❤God Bless and soon Happy Mother's Day!🥰❤💕
Thank you for talking about this - really appreciate the big sister chat about such an important topic! x
Mrs Hussem, as always well done☺️ You are a rock star and you are so considerate of women!! On a separate note-what is your favorite beverage?
You beautiful soul, Jane! Thanks for your kind comment. I like iced coffee. What about you??
I’m always a sucker for Frappuccinos and hot coco😊
God bless you Emily. This is so, so important to highlight in a loving way as you have done, in a world where people are taught to put themselves first, think less of consequences to actions and believe that going along with society is the only way - I know this is going to touch so many womens' hearts. Thank you.
We call our newest baby our surprise baby, me and my husband wanted a third and stopped our natural family planning, and immediately conceived our third daughter❤it was very welcomed, but after our second daughter taking over a year to conceive, we were very surprised!
If I ever get pregnant, it will be "unexpected", since I'm 32 (i.e. not getting any younger) and I have just found out that I have a condition that might cause subfertility. "Unexpected pregnancy" would be music to my ears
I believe that sometimes it is fear mongering when getting pregnant is viewed as a death sentence. People tell girls that if they get pregnant, they will have no support, they can’t go to school or get a job, and their whole life from now on will be for the baby.
I think some people find that so scary and unfathomable that they don’t want to believe they could get pregnant with birth control.
The chances of getting pregnant on birth control are slim (when used properly), but it doesn’t mean that you aren’t using it for a reason. Manufacturing defects happen, user error, etc.
While a young girl most likely is not ready to be a mom, scaring her in or out of it is not helpful. (Not to say Emily is scaring anyone, just in a general sense). If that girl is already like, “okay, my parents were exaggerating about so many things, why should I trust them on this?”
Pregnancy and motherhood is a ton of responsibility, but it is on everyone to love and support people. Not be like, “good luck being pregnant!” Which is the message a lot of girls get and that is super scary.
Yes. That's why the work of pregnancy resource centers and orders like the Sisters of Life is SO important. They are there every minute, every day of the year to help women who need it, to EMPOWER them to know that if they are pregnant there is support and love for them in many, many different ways.
Thank you for sharing this!!!
Emily, thank you for consistently sharing the truth--it is so important and sooo rare in today's culture. Thank you thank you thank you. -Michaela :)
Liked this video before even I started watching it. Preach Emily!! Love you!
Thank you for this great video! I am studying medicine and want to become a gynecologist later on. I am asking myself if it was a sin if I would give contraception to girls /women if they tell me they want to sleep with someone and "protect" themselves , because otherwise they might get pregnant and would like to have an abortion, so I personally think that it is less evil to give them contraceptives. What do you think about this? I really want to become a gynecologist because I absolutely love the topic about pregnancy and women's endocrinology, but the topic about contraception while being catholic confuses me. Please excuse me for the grammar mistakes, I am not a native speaker 🌸😊
Have you thought about working at a Catholic hospital system? Doctors in certain Catholic hospitals cannot prescribe birth control or perform hysterectomies or vasectomies for birth control. I’d encourage you to look at the Ethical and Religious Directives for Catholic Health Care Services.
I wish I had a friend like you.
Great video!
Thank you
Agree with you, that's why is it never just sex and cannot be casual.
So beautifully said and needs to be said! Love you so much Emily!💙💙💙
oh thank you for your great videos =) ❤. so important. thank you for your bravery.
If people are fearful of the consequences of sex, then perhaps they should not be having sex.
How would you recommend talking about a pregnancy that is welcome but still unexpected? My husband and I are using NFP to temporarily avoid conception (for valid reasons!), so while we would happily welcome a baby into our family, if I found out I was pregnant it would certainly be unexpected! Is there a different term you would use, or am I just supposed to, like... pretend I wasn't abstaining during fertile periods with the intention of delaying conception and tell everyone a pregnancy was planned?
A surprise. Very welcome though not necessarily planned. That’s how I describe my third. She was a surprise because I did the math wrong in my fertile days.
A happy surprise. ❤
A good reality check about expectations.
Yes! Amen! So so true!
I think there are some good points here - to be aware pregnancy is always a possibility with sex hence why I chose not to be sexually active until I was 18. My only concern with what you say here is it is very much addressed solely at women. And fails to take into account mens responsibility to be responsible which puts all of the responsibility on women. It has to be both men and women who take joint responsibility when it comes to sex which isn’t the current reality regardless of subjective opinions on the right place for sex.
You are ABSOLUTELY right and I agree with you 100%. My channel and ministry is geared toward women and that's why this is addressed toward them. Men's responsibility is, of course, of equal and supreme importance in this matter. That's a good point I can add to my pinned comment!
@@emwilss yes, if only there was a man who was talking about these kinds of things. Dr David Clarke has a lot of good to say about marriage, abuse, and the divorces that often happen due to that abuse. And there's just a bit of that geared to those who haven't been married yet. Hopefully there are others he is mentoring; that would be a good start
As a post menopausal woman, I can tell you that the lack of sexual desire is quite freeing. I wish there was something, some herb perhaps, that could have dulled my sex drive in my younger years. There probably is such a thing, but it's not being promoted in our over sexed culture. If you know of such a medicine or herb, please comment!
Hi Emily. What you say is not up for debate (doesn't matter one iota if you're a person of faith or not, in this instance), because it is purely factual. 99 percent is not 100 percent, which means that someone who presumably does not want to become pregnant will find herself falling into that 1 percent.
Choices have consequences. Thanks for sharing
🙏❤️❤️❤️