I was once told that if you want to gauge someone's psychological health/maturity, just say "no" to them. Healthy, neorotypical people react to boundaries with respect. On the other hand, people, who are developmentally and emotionally arrested will give you pushback.The kind of people, who will abandon or punish you, when they are no longer in control. I have to say, it works every single time.
Very true. As soon as you set up a reasonable boundary with them they go crazy. Its a very good test to do early in a relationship before you get emotionally involved with them.
I also find you can just look at their relationship with their parents. If someone idealizes their parents and is still being controlled by their parents even as an adult, you can bet they have not matured past childhood.
From my own experience and experience of a person that observes, too, this is not so black and white... I experienced someone's respect for someone's boundaries that would ruin their life career wise. I also experienced people "respecting" one's boundaries and disrespecting their own self as a result and getting depressed. I think that this topic of setting boundaries is much more nuanced. This society thrives on crossing boundaries. If you set your true boundaries, you can go bankrupt for example (to give the broadest possible example)...
I agree with you but I dont agree with the neurotypical part . Non neurotypicals are people with adhd or people at the autism spectrum and that has nothing to do with healthiness.
I can only think of 3-5 people that i know who are of similar or more condition in honesty and bluntness and love. The most outstanding definitely is this guy here if anyone wants to have a go: th-cam.com/video/vNvjtwIE-cQ/w-d-xo.html How blunt he is there with the audience and individuals is striking and to me very positively confronting. And as daniel rightly says, anyone who really gets at and through his or her traumas will be more and more like that - loving, truthful, humble and not willing to compromise it.
I agree. Also: I cried, because its so sad. I have often people come up to me saying I look sick and tiered and all sorts of things and you know I think they are right but they dont see that I am on the right path and they are on a different one. I am sad that that alienates me from most people I know and then I end up feelling like maybe theres something wrong with me, bringing up a lot of false believes from being hurt so so much. But you know I tried to be "normal", but I couldnt and I just ended up not alive anymore. At some point I thought: Well, if thats not working anyway, then I am just going to make myself as authentic as possible because then at least love myself.
Arthur Janov used to say that the drug addict, depressed person, schizophrenic, etc. is being a lot more honest about their pain than the "functioning" person.
I think Carl Jung offers one of the best frameworks for understanding what a healthy person is in a psychic sense.I think his way of approaching our neurosis or split off fragmented parts in a non pathologising way and as signs or indicators of where we need to work or indications of unhealed wounds within us that offer a way towards more wholeness is way superior to the system or philosophy that psychiatry offers.Mostly we seem to have the most basic crude measure of health and that is can you get up and go to work,earn money, lots of it preferably,buy a house,a car,have kids,basically a functional person is one who a "productive" person for the economy,a functioning unit of production..never mind the state of your soul,never mind you feel like your heart is breaking,you get up,you go to work and when you cannot do that we will give you pills so you can get up and do it.This is our "raison d'etre",if we are working we are "worthy",we pass for normal.I'm not saying that work cannot be good for us or work has its benefits apart from earning a living but most peoples work is a source of much stress and unhappines.Of course being healthy and being able to contribute to the wider collective is valuable and important but most work is not about this,most work is fairly exploitative and disempowering and makes people pretty miserable.Finding ways of coping in a system which ignores our spiritual psychosocial emotional needs is what many of us are up against and when we shows signs of not coping we are labelled "ill"
I can do identify with how other therapists feel towards you I appreciate the empathy that you show towards others and yourself with these videos. Your videos have saved me in more ways than I can express. Keep Going with these videos Brother. Some of us need to hear that perspective and experience.
Agree completely, thank you for verbalizing how I’ve experienced life. Always had a problem with how everyone was expected to have a career, mortgage, get married, have kids to be considered “normal” or succeeding at life. And have definitely found in my healing process it was considered that feeling sadness, anger and grief was a worse problem than denying there was anything to be sad about aka toxic positivity.
Very true, humorous, and sometimes sad.... the more I remain in truth, centered, concious, aware , I am at ease living a " few steps back from everyone and anything " 🙏😊✌
This was so FUCKING encouraging I know I look hella broken on the outside but I'm so close to bursting through like nothing anyone in my life ever expected me to be, I can feel it.
Thank you for another amazing video. You have helped me understand why I spent years of my life depressed. I was grieving what my parents did to me and my brother. It was extremely painful but a necessary process. I never took medication and I never did therapy. I'm glad now.
Hey Dan, I discovered your channel around the time I was researching the history of western psychiatry and reflecting on the traumatizing events the mental health system put me through. Your videos have offered a lot of insight for me in terms of healing from psychosis and childhood trauma and what it looks like to move in a direction of freedom and emotional maturity. Thanks for putting these out into the world. Stay safe out there
Sometimes i question what is wrong with me and i remember something you said about anxiety a while back about how maybe it's just us accommodating to this absurd world and we see it for what it is. how we are "misunderstood in a disconnected world". this society is very different from the animal kingdom lifestyle we were living thousands of years ago. When I look at my own biology (going as small as hormones) i can understand why I feel the way I feel sometimes. There are a lot of unmet needs in today's societies, no wonder we are very troubled. When I look around at my life situations, there is no pill that can make it better or change it, no breathing exercises. I can only accept it and change what I can. And the more I know myself and understand my nature the more I see how disconnected others are, and the more I understand what's truly authentic
Alienation is truly one of those things that are generally not accepted, yet it's vital for us. This profound model used over and over in our society and applied in workspaces and all other places, that we have to work as a team and with each other always made me sick in my stomach. And going to Uni, being told that we are 'social' beings and it's vital for us to be 'together'. I really dislike that I'm being pushed and being told one thing, whilst feeling otherwise. And now, what's happening? We have to spend the most time with ourselves, and that's what is happening at the end when we die alone. No one will be there for us and with us. 80% of people in the world die alone and in pain (possibly more). I know that because I've seen in in the hospital working there and as a carer for elderly people in their homes where they live in terrible conditions sometimes. It's vital for us to learn to be with ourselves, not with others.
I heard of the ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience) test recently and took it. It's about levels of trauma, it's so wrong. It doesn't account for frequency at all. I've been subbed for 4 or 5 years, but this video really resonated with me. Being sad really is on the path to healing. These videos are really a great service that Daniel is providing us, thank you.
Thank you Daniel. You are truly a highly inspirational figure and someone I really look up to. Your reviews are never banal or mainstream! Your critical thinking is spotless and you're really helping so many people to look inside and consolidate their insights. Although I have never spoken to you, I truly see you as a "friend"in my heart: someone I can turn to, just to find solace and a familiar soothing voice! We need to shift the paradigm; society is build on nothingness and the corporate world is the deepest fall. Thank you so much for bringing harmony and friendship into my days:)
Arthur Janov used to say that the drug addict, alcoholic, person whose life is a mess, is being more honest about their pain than the so-called "functional" person.
There's a scene in the TV series "Yellowjackets" about this. It's about a group of women who suffered major trauma as teens and are still traumatized in middle aged. Juliette Lewis plays one of them, a chronically relapsing addict. Two of her traumatized friends seem OK on the surface, but Lewis says to them: "You guys are just as f*cked as me, you're just better at lying to yourselves about it! You're not healthy, you're not stable, you're living on the brink just like me!"
Your talk reminds us of this statement made by Philosopher, J. Krushnamarti: Jiddu Krishnamurti Quotes "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."
Thank you Daniel for making these videos and putting yourself out there in the way that you do. It has served as a beacon and an anchor for me in my own life and my own healing journey.
I have done THERAPY and this is the best I have ever had ! .......... Leaves you with no more Questions !!! * REAL Human SHARING his experiences & knowledge GOOD WORK ! must be rewarding !
Thank you so much daniel i felt all of my life as a confused person I even thought i was crazy I saw everything from the beginning in my life as you described on your channel I tried to talk about with my brother and some family friends and they didn’t agree with me they even though I was crazy and I lost my mind and they probably still think that I even though I was crazy or something but I couldn’t lose my trust on my self so I kept searching and watching youtube videos trying to find a anyone who can explain what I’m going through I even tried some anti depression and it work in the beginning but after sometime I realized that is my mind wasn’t the problem the society was so sick And then I found you on my recommendation I was so happy to see someone speak what I’m seeing even if its a painful truth but still felt i’m not lonely anymore there’s some people who sees what I’m seeing Hope you have pace properly it’s a hard journey for you Thank you for making mine easier I live on strict muslim culture it’s not easy man
Daniel, I have watched you for some time now. And I believe that your views of our mental health system, among many systems functioning with similiar Haughty premises, are not only correct but demonstrate exactly Why these systems are in desperate need of reform. In addition, as we are experiencing a huge shift to Telamed video appts., I can not but wonder how many deserving Clients will become nothing more than a Name on a RX pad. When what they so desperately need is someone to See, Hear and UNDERSTAND their Truths FROM the client's perspective. It is unfortunate that the further we must travel up or down the foodchain that we live within, Pride and Ego, will become the greatest Challenges of one's Soul journey. Heal ourselves first, that we may go forth and heal others.🙏
Agreed but you can't reform or fix the mental health system. It's not broken. It was intentionally built this way. What is needed is an entirely new paradigm shift. Like you said, we need to learn how to heal ourselves. The system now keeps you in victim mode and will not allow one to heal and get better when they make their profit off of making and keeping is "sick."
I would love a detailed step by step on how to work through depression>grieving. Its hard doing it on your own especially when you can’t find a healthy therapist.
th-cam.com/video/xb-pke3ud0E/w-d-xo.html Here's a compilation of some of Daniel's old videos that paint a pretty good picture of where to start, though I agree a concrete primer on the process would be wonderful.
thank you. you help me change my life for the better. your videos touch my mind so deeply. i stop them & talk to myself & come back for more. I am trying to admit the pain i have & am & will cause others. i hear validation in the pain i feel about people's thoughts & actions. not many want life introspection, but my autism would never let me not question this shit - i feel compelled. your words help me think differently about these things in a way that feels freeing & honest for me. we are not alone. i love you.
Good video. I don’t like a lot of psychologists and other people in their field. It’s like they don’t care if they are actually being effective at helping their clients. I’m an alien too.
I think your idea about depression and the start of healing/coming back to your self - as a great concept. Might this be a sign of an individuals attempt to break free from society’s or the family systems indoctrination?
I need to watch more of your videos because I am planning to go into therapy with the sole purpose of truly helping people. One thing I have learned over the years is that helping people introspect is hard, but I want to give everyone who comes through my door the opportunity to get to know themselves better. How do I feel when someone says something hurtful to me? What thoughts do I think? How do I react or respond? Is my reaction or response in line with the outcome I am trying to achieve? What is truly in my control and what isn't? Cognitive distortions and learning how to reframe thoughts and be more flexible in my thinking really helped me. So... I plan to just let them vent if they have to, but I want to take a little time each visit to add short worksheets to an "All About Me" binder, so that we can see the progress we make, problem-solve together, and introspect as we go. I'm going to watch more of your videos, but I do wonder right now if you sometimes refer clients away who absolutely refuse progress and just want someone to bitch to, or if they come in and just lie.... Like, what's the point???? So.... I'll keep watching your videos, and I hope some of my questions can be answered!
The solution would be to break free from the interest bondage that the whole world suffers and not to see Money as a "God" that everybody praises but to see it as an exchange tool for productive work. I would like to explain it more deeply but it takes much time and english is not my mother language.
What I can’t stand about people is that I’m 100 % real when I first meet someone and am able to talk about myself openly but when that person can’t open up and talk about themselves it bothers me. The world wants us to hide and why? So we can all put on some fake facade? It’s stupid and you can’t connect with people if they are fake.
Wisdom, maturity, healthiness, all work on more of a radar graph than a simple score system. I thougt of making a painting once called 'maturity' all full of radar graph patterns, but never got around to it.
Oh also? I think a good measure of maturity and how "old" or "mature" or "healthy" a person is acting as COULD be assessed by Kolburg's levels of morality, and developmental milestones in reasoning compared with the age they actually are. I'm sure there is lots I have not learned yet, but I find that some people never grow to reach a truly healthy mature adult state-of-mind. Such as adults who expect kids to meet THEIR emotional needs first and withhold a child's needs for not meeting their selfish demands.... like, shit I see all the time that really sucks, and I have suffered from myself. I wanted to study psychology because I wanted to not be so angry at the ridiculous behaviors in people, and I always wanted to know what the right responses were to get the outcomes I desired. Communication skill development. So? It's tricky and a life-time process.... but? I have been through SO MUCH, I KNOW I can help people who truly need help. I know solutions, I know WHY things happen, I know what is in a person's control and what isn't.... as long as people come in actually wanting the help, and can accept honest, impartial feedback~I'll be able to help.
Hello Daniel! For the past years I've been listening to several psychologists such as Dr.Ramani, Jordan Peterson and even psychologists from my country. These people seem to be very academic and quite DSM-ish oriented, unlike you I guess. Which makes me find it crucial to listen to your videos and opinions to make sure my perspective on mental health does not become to academic or narrow itself. Nevertheless, sometimes I feel like you may exagerate here and there or be exactly on point in many other areas. You've mentioned that you have had therapists diagnosing you, could you please share what were this diagnoses? Of course, you don't have to. Thanks!
Daniel, I use a set of criteria that shows me who is healed, or where they are in the process, and who I will be able to safely interact with -- in sharp contrast to the saboteurs in the dissociative state you mentioned. (Saboteurs instinctively use the same criteria in order to determine who their targets or followers will be.) Genuine test results can only be accurately communicated by someone who has already undergone specific healing steps that I see. You mentioned some of the important steps in this video. People in the dissociative state you mention are incapable of communicating accurate results because their method of operation is to sabotage targets into the upside down world you mentioned. I encourage you to tackle your list again (if you're interested). You're very close based on what you said in this video.
One very good way to gauge the mental health of very people is to take a look at their children. If they are on drugs parents are not healthy. And by drugs I mean a lot of things , drugs , alcohol, social status , their image, sex , how real they are , their relationship with others , their distance from their true self and more .
I’m guessing his reference to ‘sabotaging’ includes the hindrance of clients having true autonomy. I think about how Person Centered Therapy is not a popular treatment approach today, considering the use of the pharmaceutical industry. I also think about how some therapists do not inform clients about their diagnosis as well as present a clear treatment approach.
@Daniel Mackler. Hi mate. Have you seen the Phil Borges film 'Crazywise'? My gut and intellect and heart etc , tell me that the 'soulution(s) , may reside in the message the film is putting out.
Yes, I think it's very good. Actually the directors reached out to me with some questions, back in 2014 before they made the film. We know a lot of people in common in the alternative mental health/"psychosis" world.
@@dmackler58 That's good to know. And I really appreciate you replying. I've subbed to Wildtruth. ( earlier today). I got a confirmation email, earlier on. I was intrigued to find out( several years ago- when i first became awakened to the subject) that the Royal College of Psychiatrists formed a special interest group , the focus being on 'spiritual crisis/emergency. I suspect they only received limited funding, but a step in the right direction? 'Take these Broken Wings' and allied docs you made, really were a wake up call. Nicely done! I suspect if the directors/producers of Crazywise ( Borges et al ) saw them, then ...yeah....you'd be a go to guy! I've followed you for a few years now and you have helped me in my own journey, enormously. Credit where it's due! ( and many thanks).
A good deal of therapy addresses anger, but anger itself is more of a surface emotion compared to hurt, sadness and other internal pain. To address the deeper emotional states is to evoke truer and more long-lasting change.
I have a question, is there such a thing as a baseline for a person's behavior in order to tell whether they are acting in a way would make them sick? For example, those who read body language must start with a baseline to then be able to tell if an individual's body language is giving away signs they may be lying. Additionally it is known that this is not a fool-proof method. Wouldn't psychology need baselines too? Maybe it would make sense to have a community/societal baseline (based on geographical place of development) as well as an individual base line and maybe adding a biological baseline (age, gender). From what I understand, one can know when there is a psychological issue once you are not a "functioning" person, meaning you are unable to take care of necessities, or you are considered dangerous to yourself or others. Is it over-simplistic to assume that if one does not fall into these two categories then one is okay? Maybe the perspective that somebody that overall can 1. take care of themselves and 2. is not dangerous to themselves or others has de right to be seen as healthy as a given, and added difficulties they may be having or be considered to have need be seen as less in comparison. I think this perspective can dignify a person with issues. A further perspective is the moralistic one, which I believe is entangled with psychological problems. I recommend this video that I enjoyed a lot. th-cam.com/video/J53M8AtIQ4g/w-d-xo.html Have a good day everyone. Much love. :)
Exactly I do not see our former President as a healthy person. In fact I see him as a deeply psychotic and split off person and yet that's what this country wanted.
God, I wish I could meet you, go on a hike together, (me love trekking miles in nature too) , be in awe and wonder of the beauty around us, feeling at peace with just being in the moment, feeling grounded and connected to earth and the heavens. Then nearing the end of the walk, stop and have an ale while overlooking the sea and talking about the human condition and trauma and how being present with another in compassion , how being vulnerable and authentic actually saves souls, feeling a sense of purpose in this knowing and wanting to share... sigh, yes, off on a fantasy, but Ive had years of knowing and seeing things the same way you do Daniel, and have felt so alone in it. I thought the alonness was my own fault, Im finally beginning to realsie maybe it really isn't. I want nothing less than deep connection to another, but this takes two and it doesn't matter how authentic and vulnerable I am, if the other person cant meet me there, there will always be imbalance....an unmet need... It may sound creepy, but in a way I know its healthy, I hope I meet a man like you Daniel. Someone awake and aware, tuned in and deep. It may be rare, but it cant be impossible if you exist. Ive often thought about settling, but then realsie I would always be deeply unfulfilled in the partner I was with if they didn't get or care about any of this stuff. So thank you. x P.S Have you read the book The Primal Scream by Arthur Janov? Life changing and so validating.
The MH system in the US seems brutal at times, especially if you get the 'wrong' deal. There are some people whose experiences are positive, but there are far too many who have shared some fairly horrific and nightmarish experiences. Any rational, or even semi-rational person would literally need to have their heads examined to willingly enter into this 'lottery system'. That, or they would have to be so desperate that they must feel there are literally no other options open to them. They risk extreme psychological torture, chemical 'coshing' and pathological cruelty, thinly disguised as mental health care and treatment. Many will be either coerced of forced into this system by family members and friends! Who or what do we blame for these unsavoury practices? Society? Institutions, organisations........ourselves? Who is to blame? The system? Presumably 'The System' , is all of the above! I'm not saying anything new here, or anything most of us on here don't already know, or have even experienced first hand. Society people! What a s**t show! Do I have all the answers? No. Does anyone? Maybe..... 😉😎💗
After years of trying to have a real relationship with my "cold distant " birth family, who I kept sweet, cooked, clean, helped in any way I could, in spite of their uninterested behavior, often denigrating comments. One day, my father (mini Donald T. Ump version) put downs, insults, lies, just let me burst out and he got told where to shove it. Best feeling ever ! I had stood up for ---Me.!
I would say health should be defined by sustainability, within the mind and body, and the environment which sustains the body. So, we are very unhealthy collectively.
Jesus said something like “the first will be last and the last will be first.” I think what you’re talking about here is what He meant. Many people that thrive in the “world” are doing so in this materialistic, ego-driven, cut throat unhealthy society. Where many of the people who don’t fit in in the world are more spiritually evolved and walking like Christ. Walking the Path..
Daniel, I love your content, but I think that your views on psychotropic drugs are a bit one sided and I've noticed it in other videos of yours. There are people who do need the medication and find that to be what works for them in their path to heal. As someone who has lived with overwhelming mental and physical anxiety my entire life due to childhood trauma, the only thing that helped me was getting on medication, specifically the SSRI lexapro. It helped my body settle down, which then allowed my mind to slow down and has helped me process my traumas and figure out where my anxiety comes from. I was able to feel separate emotions. I was able to cry tears of joy. While I can understand the stigma around certain medications, it's a dated point-of-view. It's dismissive to assume that medication merely "numbs" people, when in fact, quite the contrary, it opens up paths for many people who otherwise were struggling.
I was once told that if you want to gauge someone's psychological health/maturity, just say "no" to them. Healthy, neorotypical people react to boundaries with respect. On the other hand, people, who are developmentally and emotionally arrested will give you pushback.The kind of people, who will abandon or punish you, when they are no longer in control. I have to say, it works every single time.
Very true. As soon as you set up a reasonable boundary with them they go crazy. Its a very good test to do early in a relationship before you get emotionally involved with them.
I also find you can just look at their relationship with their parents. If someone idealizes their parents and is still being controlled by their parents even as an adult, you can bet they have not matured past childhood.
From my own experience and experience of a person that observes, too, this is not so black and white... I experienced someone's respect for someone's boundaries that would ruin their life career wise. I also experienced people "respecting" one's boundaries and disrespecting their own self as a result and getting depressed. I think that this topic of setting boundaries is much more nuanced. This society thrives on crossing boundaries. If you set your true boundaries, you can go bankrupt for example (to give the broadest possible example)...
I agree with you but I dont agree with the neurotypical part . Non neurotypicals are people with adhd or people at the autism spectrum and that has nothing to do with healthiness.
It Is No Measure of Health to be Well-Adjusted to a Profoundly Sick Society
Krishnamurti
A society that normalizes narcissism and dissociation
"A sane person to an insane society must appear insane."
― Kurt Vonnegut, Welcome to the Monkey House.🙈
Its gold Daniel. I havent found anybody so blunt, uncompromized as you. So pls never stop.
I can only think of 3-5 people that i know who are of similar or more condition in honesty and bluntness and love.
The most outstanding definitely is this guy here if anyone wants to have a go:
th-cam.com/video/vNvjtwIE-cQ/w-d-xo.html
How blunt he is there with the audience and individuals is striking and to me very positively confronting.
And as daniel rightly says, anyone who really gets at and through his or her traumas will be more and more like that - loving, truthful, humble and not willing to compromise it.
Michael Snowsowski.... More OPEN than blunt. You are an outcast if you are authentic until you find others like yourself. It can be lonely.
I agree. Also: I cried, because its so sad. I have often people come up to me saying I look sick and tiered and all sorts of things and you know I think they are right but they dont see that I am on the right path and they are on a different one. I am sad that that alienates me from most people I know and then I end up feelling like maybe theres something wrong with me, bringing up a lot of false believes from being hurt so so much. But you know I tried to be "normal", but I couldnt and I just ended up not alive anymore. At some point I thought: Well, if thats not working anyway, then I am just going to make myself as authentic as possible because then at least love myself.
Best way forward 💗
You don’t have to be “normal” or fit in to try and take good care of yourself.
Depression being healthier than being shut down is such an awesome paradigm shift and a much better starting point than generic self help..
Arthur Janov used to say that the drug addict, depressed person, schizophrenic, etc. is being a lot more honest about their pain than the "functioning" person.
I thought the same. And it just makes sense.
I think Carl Jung offers one of the best frameworks for understanding what a healthy person is in a psychic sense.I think his way of approaching our neurosis or split off fragmented parts in a non pathologising way and as signs or indicators of where we need to work or indications of unhealed wounds within us that offer a way towards more wholeness is way superior to the system or philosophy that psychiatry offers.Mostly we seem to have the most basic crude measure of health and that is can you get up and go to work,earn money,
lots of it preferably,buy a house,a car,have kids,basically a functional person is one who a "productive" person for the economy,a functioning unit of production..never mind the state of your soul,never mind you feel like your heart is breaking,you get up,you go to work and when you cannot do that we will give you pills so you can get up and do it.This is our "raison d'etre",if we are working we are "worthy",we pass for normal.I'm not saying that work cannot be good for us or work has its benefits apart from earning a living but most peoples work is a source of much stress and unhappines.Of course being healthy and being able to contribute to the wider collective is valuable and important but most work is not about this,most work is fairly exploitative and disempowering and makes people pretty miserable.Finding ways of coping in a system which ignores our spiritual psychosocial emotional needs is what many of us are up against and when we shows signs of not coping we are labelled "ill"
Since people here like quotes:
"Show me a sane man and I will cure him for you" -Jung
Is that a quote from 'Modern Man in Search of a Soul' ?
Jung had a way with words...and next level insight.
I can do identify with how other therapists feel towards you
I appreciate the empathy that you show towards others and yourself with these videos.
Your videos have saved me in more ways than I can express.
Keep Going with these videos Brother. Some of us need to hear that perspective and experience.
Agree completely, thank you for verbalizing how I’ve experienced life. Always had a problem with how everyone was expected to have a career, mortgage, get married, have kids to be considered “normal” or succeeding at life. And have definitely found in my healing process it was considered that feeling sadness, anger and grief was a worse problem than denying there was anything to be sad about aka toxic positivity.
Very true, humorous, and sometimes sad.... the more I remain in truth, centered, concious, aware , I am at ease living a " few steps back from everyone and anything " 🙏😊✌
I always like your mannerisms when you explain something!
This was so FUCKING encouraging I know I look hella broken on the outside but I'm so close to bursting through like nothing anyone in my life ever expected me to be, I can feel it.
I'm a grad school drop out (psychology) and I agree 100%
Thank you for another amazing video. You have helped me understand why I spent years of my life depressed. I was grieving what my parents did to me and my brother. It was extremely painful but a necessary process. I never took medication and I never did therapy. I'm glad now.
Hey Dan, I discovered your channel around the time I was researching the history of western psychiatry and reflecting on the traumatizing events the mental health system put me through. Your videos have offered a lot of insight for me in terms of healing from psychosis and childhood trauma and what it looks like to move in a direction of freedom and emotional maturity. Thanks for putting these out into the world. Stay safe out there
Sometimes i question what is wrong with me and i remember something you said about anxiety a while back about how maybe it's just us accommodating to this absurd world and we see it for what it is. how we are "misunderstood in a disconnected world". this society is very different from the animal kingdom lifestyle we were living thousands of years ago. When I look at my own biology (going as small as hormones) i can understand why I feel the way I feel sometimes. There are a lot of unmet needs in today's societies, no wonder we are very troubled. When I look around at my life situations, there is no pill that can make it better or change it, no breathing exercises. I can only accept it and change what I can. And the more I know myself and understand my nature the more I see how disconnected others are, and the more I understand what's truly authentic
Some toxic people feel it's their duty to destroy or tear down a person who feels like he or she has their shit together. Fuck em
Alienation is truly one of those things that are generally not accepted, yet it's vital for us. This profound model used over and over in our society and applied in workspaces and all other places, that we have to work as a team and with each other always made me sick in my stomach. And going to Uni, being told that we are 'social' beings and it's vital for us to be 'together'. I really dislike that I'm being pushed and being told one thing, whilst feeling otherwise. And now, what's happening? We have to spend the most time with ourselves, and that's what is happening at the end when we die alone. No one will be there for us and with us. 80% of people in the world die alone and in pain (possibly more). I know that because I've seen in in the hospital working there and as a carer for elderly people in their homes where they live in terrible conditions sometimes. It's vital for us to learn to be with ourselves, not with others.
I heard of the ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience) test recently and took it. It's about levels of trauma, it's so wrong. It doesn't account for frequency at all. I've been subbed for 4 or 5 years, but this video really resonated with me. Being sad really is on the path to healing. These videos are really a great service that Daniel is providing us, thank you.
His videos are so good. They have helped me so much. This video has thrown a whole new light on depression.
Brilliant, Daniel.
Daniel, you are a modern day philosopher! I can relate so much to what you're saying in this video (and all the others)!
A voice of reason once again 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😌😌
Thank you Daniel. You are truly a highly inspirational figure and someone I really look up to. Your reviews are never banal or mainstream! Your critical thinking is spotless and you're really helping so many people to look inside and consolidate their insights. Although I have never spoken to you, I truly see you as a "friend"in my heart: someone I can turn to, just to find solace and a familiar soothing voice! We need to shift the paradigm; society is build on nothingness and the corporate world is the deepest fall. Thank you so much for bringing harmony and friendship into my days:)
Arthur Janov used to say that the drug addict, alcoholic, person whose life is a mess, is being more honest about their pain than the so-called "functional" person.
There's a scene in the TV series "Yellowjackets" about this. It's about a group of women who suffered major trauma as teens and are still traumatized in middle aged. Juliette Lewis plays one of them, a chronically relapsing addict. Two of her traumatized friends seem OK on the surface, but Lewis says to them:
"You guys are just as f*cked as me, you're just better at lying to yourselves about it! You're not healthy, you're not stable, you're living on the brink just like me!"
There’s a timeless quality to all your videos Daniel.
Daniel, I find these videos so healing, thank you for doing them!
You're welcome!
Your talk reminds us of this statement made by Philosopher, J. Krushnamarti:
Jiddu Krishnamurti Quotes
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."
Thank you Daniel for making these videos and putting yourself out there in the way that you do. It has served as a beacon and an anchor for me in my own life and my own healing journey.
A reflection of how sick someone is and how sick society is is how they treat the vulerable
Oh my God that was perfect spot on so true from all my experiences thank you Daniel!🦋🕊
I have done THERAPY and this is the best I have ever had ! .......... Leaves you with no more Questions !!!
* REAL Human SHARING his experiences & knowledge GOOD WORK ! must be rewarding !
I am so grateful that you do make these videos because they have helped my healing process tremendously.
Thank you so much daniel i felt all of my life as a confused person I even thought i was crazy I saw everything from the beginning in my life as you described on your channel I tried to talk about with my brother and some family friends and they didn’t agree with me they even though I was crazy and I lost my mind and they probably still think that
I even though I was crazy or something but I couldn’t lose my trust on my self so I kept searching and watching youtube videos trying to find a anyone who can explain what I’m going through I even tried some anti depression and it work in the beginning but after sometime I realized that is my mind wasn’t the problem the society was so sick
And then I found you on my recommendation
I was so happy to see someone speak what I’m seeing even if its a painful truth but still felt i’m not lonely anymore there’s some people who sees what I’m seeing
Hope you have pace properly it’s a hard journey for you
Thank you for making mine easier
I live on strict muslim culture it’s not easy man
Hello , from NJ , thank you for sharing 😊
Daniel, I have watched you for some time now. And I believe that your views of our mental health system, among many systems functioning with similiar Haughty premises, are not only correct but demonstrate exactly Why these systems are in desperate need of reform.
In addition, as we are experiencing a huge shift to Telamed video appts., I can not but wonder how many deserving Clients will become nothing more than a Name on a RX pad.
When what they so desperately need is someone to See, Hear and UNDERSTAND their Truths FROM the client's perspective.
It is unfortunate that the further we must travel up or down the foodchain that we live within, Pride and Ego, will become the greatest Challenges of one's Soul journey.
Heal ourselves first, that we may go forth and heal others.🙏
Agreed but you can't reform or fix the mental health system. It's not broken. It was intentionally built this way. What is needed is an entirely new paradigm shift. Like you said, we need to learn how to heal ourselves. The system now keeps you in victim mode and will not allow one to heal and get better when they make their profit off of making and keeping is "sick."
Thanks again Daniel, I can't say that enough! You're the bomb!
YES! This is so true!
Yeah, I like you. The bravery you have to not adjust and put out these videos, is so inspiring.
I love your honesty! You are heling me!
I would love a detailed step by step on how to work through depression>grieving. Its hard doing it on your own especially when you can’t find a healthy therapist.
That’s the Key:
Finding a Healthy Therapist
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Here's a compilation of some of Daniel's old videos that paint a pretty good picture of where to start, though I agree a concrete primer on the process would be wonderful.
@@sharonrenedavenport8995 then that puts me in an impossible situation
It’s ok that you’re not ok by Megan Divine is a lovely look at grief and how society shuns it.
thank you. you help me change my life for the better. your videos touch my mind so deeply. i stop them & talk to myself & come back for more. I am trying to admit the pain i have & am & will cause others. i hear validation in the pain i feel about people's thoughts & actions. not many want life introspection, but my autism would never let me not question this shit - i feel compelled. your words help me think differently about these things in a way that feels freeing & honest for me. we are not alone. i love you.
Good video. I don’t like a lot of psychologists and other people in their field. It’s like they don’t care if they are actually being effective at helping their clients. I’m an alien too.
Thank you so much, Daniel. Mackler!
Your video is amazing, again! Helping through Truthtelling! Thank you!
I think your idea about depression and the start of healing/coming back to your self - as a great concept. Might this be a sign of an individuals attempt to break free from society’s or the family systems indoctrination?
What an amazing video yet again!
Good Morning my dear brother. It's a pleasure to be met with your work this morning. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I like and agree with your approach Daniel!
such of a bright mind...
I need to watch more of your videos because I am planning to go into therapy with the sole purpose of truly helping people. One thing I have learned over the years is that helping people introspect is hard, but I want to give everyone who comes through my door the opportunity to get to know themselves better. How do I feel when someone says something hurtful to me? What thoughts do I think? How do I react or respond? Is my reaction or response in line with the outcome I am trying to achieve? What is truly in my control and what isn't? Cognitive distortions and learning how to reframe thoughts and be more flexible in my thinking really helped me. So... I plan to just let them vent if they have to, but I want to take a little time each visit to add short worksheets to an "All About Me" binder, so that we can see the progress we make, problem-solve together, and introspect as we go. I'm going to watch more of your videos, but I do wonder right now if you sometimes refer clients away who absolutely refuse progress and just want someone to bitch to, or if they come in and just lie.... Like, what's the point???? So.... I'll keep watching your videos, and I hope some of my questions can be answered!
Keep making these videos!
Thank you!
You've hit the nail on the head with this video! Money is the root of all evil and it is so hard to live in a world centred around it.
The solution would be to break free from the interest bondage that the whole world suffers and not to see Money as a "God" that everybody praises but to see it as an exchange tool for productive work. I would like to explain it more deeply but it takes much time and english is not my mother language.
What I can’t stand about people is that I’m 100 % real when I first meet someone and am able to talk about myself openly but when that person can’t open up and talk about themselves it bothers me. The world wants us to hide and why? So we can all put on some fake facade? It’s stupid and you can’t connect with people if they are fake.
A good example of psychological health is explored in Dabrowski's theory of development
Wisdom, maturity, healthiness, all work on more of a radar graph than a simple score system. I thougt of making a painting once called 'maturity' all full of radar graph patterns, but never got around to it.
Definitely feeling the loneliness of being a healthier person in an unhealthy world.
Wow, I just discovered your TH-cam 🎉 bravo
It's so sad. Thanks,
Oh also? I think a good measure of maturity and how "old" or "mature" or "healthy" a person is acting as COULD be assessed by Kolburg's levels of morality, and developmental milestones in reasoning compared with the age they actually are. I'm sure there is lots I have not learned yet, but I find that some people never grow to reach a truly healthy mature adult state-of-mind. Such as adults who expect kids to meet THEIR emotional needs first and withhold a child's needs for not meeting their selfish demands.... like, shit I see all the time that really sucks, and I have suffered from myself. I wanted to study psychology because I wanted to not be so angry at the ridiculous behaviors in people, and I always wanted to know what the right responses were to get the outcomes I desired. Communication skill development. So? It's tricky and a life-time process.... but? I have been through SO MUCH, I KNOW I can help people who truly need help. I know solutions, I know WHY things happen, I know what is in a person's control and what isn't.... as long as people come in actually wanting the help, and can accept honest, impartial feedback~I'll be able to help.
Hello Daniel! For the past years I've been listening to several psychologists such as Dr.Ramani, Jordan Peterson and even psychologists from my country. These people seem to be very academic and quite DSM-ish oriented, unlike you I guess. Which makes me find it crucial to listen to your videos and opinions to make sure my perspective on mental health does not become to academic or narrow itself. Nevertheless, sometimes I feel like you may exagerate here and there or be exactly on point in many other areas. You've mentioned that you have had therapists diagnosing you, could you please share what were this diagnoses? Of course, you don't have to. Thanks!
@JustARandomTH-camUser good comment.
Thanks, Gratzie
A too sincere person will threat the people by reminding them of their hypocrisy
Alchemy right there! 🙏🔥❤🙏🔥❤🔥🙏
Very interesting. Thanks.
Daniel, I use a set of criteria that shows me who is healed, or where they are in the process, and who I will be able to safely interact with -- in sharp contrast to the saboteurs in the dissociative state you mentioned. (Saboteurs instinctively use the same criteria in order to determine who their targets or followers will be.)
Genuine test results can only be accurately communicated by someone who has already undergone specific healing steps that I see. You mentioned some of the important steps in this video.
People in the dissociative state you mention are incapable of communicating accurate results because their method of operation is to sabotage targets into the upside down world you mentioned.
I encourage you to tackle your list again (if you're interested). You're very close based on what you said in this video.
Question everything! Like the little boy who was the only one who saw that the Emperor had no clothes on.
True❤️
One very good way to gauge the mental health of very people is to take a look at their children. If they are on drugs parents are not healthy. And by drugs I mean a lot of things , drugs , alcohol, social status , their image, sex , how real they are , their relationship with others , their distance from their true self and more .
I needed this today. My falseness is killing me. I wake up wanting to die. Thank you.
don't die.
Can you speak more about therapist sabotaging their clients and how not to sabotage your clients.
I’m guessing his reference to ‘sabotaging’ includes the hindrance of clients having true autonomy. I think about how Person Centered Therapy is not a popular treatment approach today, considering the use of the pharmaceutical industry. I also think about how some therapists do not inform clients about their diagnosis as well as present a clear treatment approach.
@Daniel Mackler. Hi mate. Have you seen the Phil Borges film 'Crazywise'?
My gut and intellect and heart etc , tell me that the 'soulution(s) , may reside in the message the film is putting out.
*solution.
Yes, I think it's very good. Actually the directors reached out to me with some questions, back in 2014 before they made the film. We know a lot of people in common in the alternative mental health/"psychosis" world.
@@dmackler58 That's good to know.
And I really appreciate you replying.
I've subbed to Wildtruth. ( earlier today).
I got a confirmation email, earlier on.
I was intrigued to find out( several years ago- when i first became awakened to the subject) that the Royal College of Psychiatrists formed a special interest group , the focus being on 'spiritual crisis/emergency.
I suspect they only received limited funding, but a step in the right direction?
'Take these Broken Wings' and allied docs you made, really were a wake up call. Nicely done! I suspect if the directors/producers of Crazywise ( Borges et al ) saw them, then ...yeah....you'd be a go to guy! I've followed you for a few years now and you have helped me in my own journey, enormously.
Credit where it's due! ( and many thanks).
A good deal of therapy addresses anger, but anger itself is more of a surface emotion compared to hurt, sadness and other internal pain. To address the deeper emotional states is to evoke truer and more long-lasting change.
I have a question, is there such a thing as a baseline for a person's behavior in order to tell whether they are acting in a way would make them sick? For example, those who read body language must start with a baseline to then be able to tell if an individual's body language is giving away signs they may be lying. Additionally it is known that this is not a fool-proof method. Wouldn't psychology need baselines too? Maybe it would make sense to have a community/societal baseline (based on geographical place of development) as well as an individual base line and maybe adding a biological baseline (age, gender).
From what I understand, one can know when there is a psychological issue once you are not a "functioning" person, meaning you are unable to take care of necessities, or you are considered dangerous to yourself or others. Is it over-simplistic to assume that if one does not fall into these two categories then one is okay? Maybe the perspective that somebody that overall can 1. take care of themselves and 2. is not dangerous to themselves or others has de right to be seen as healthy as a given, and added difficulties they may be having or be considered to have need be seen as less in comparison. I think this perspective can dignify a person with issues.
A further perspective is the moralistic one, which I believe is entangled with psychological problems. I recommend this video that I enjoyed a lot.
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Have a good day everyone. Much love. :)
If ya ever get the passion to come to Nee Zealand a patch Adam's place awaits
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A fitting quote: “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”
J. Krishnamurti
Amen 🙏🏼 ❤️💋
Exactly I do not see our former President as a healthy person. In fact I see him as a deeply psychotic and split off person and yet that's what this country wanted.
He did not mention the president at any point in this video.
Well said. A reflection of sick people
10/16/2024 why i don’t find you earlier in my life
God, I wish I could meet you, go on a hike together, (me love trekking miles in nature too) , be in awe and wonder of the beauty around us, feeling at peace with just being in the moment, feeling grounded and connected to earth and the heavens. Then nearing the end of the walk, stop and have an ale while overlooking the sea and talking about the human condition and trauma and how being present with another in compassion , how being vulnerable and authentic actually saves souls, feeling a sense of purpose in this knowing and wanting to share... sigh, yes, off on a fantasy, but Ive had years of knowing and seeing things the same way you do Daniel, and have felt so alone in it. I thought the alonness was my own fault, Im finally beginning to realsie maybe it really isn't. I want nothing less than deep connection to another, but this takes two and it doesn't matter how authentic and vulnerable I am, if the other person cant meet me there, there will always be imbalance....an unmet need... It may sound creepy, but in a way I know its healthy, I hope I meet a man like you Daniel. Someone awake and aware, tuned in and deep. It may be rare, but it cant be impossible if you exist. Ive often thought about settling, but then realsie I would always be deeply unfulfilled in the partner I was with if they didn't get or care about any of this stuff. So thank you. x
P.S Have you read the book The Primal Scream by Arthur Janov? Life changing and so validating.
Wish I knew how to fix my life and be happy.
To thy own self be true
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."
Krishnamurti
The MH system in the US seems brutal at times, especially if you get the 'wrong' deal.
There are some people whose experiences are positive, but there are far too many who have shared some fairly horrific and nightmarish experiences.
Any rational, or even semi-rational person would literally need to have their heads examined to willingly enter into this 'lottery system'. That, or they would have to be so desperate that they must feel there are literally no other options open to them.
They risk extreme psychological torture, chemical 'coshing' and pathological cruelty, thinly disguised as mental health care and treatment. Many will be either coerced of forced into this system by family members and friends!
Who or what do we blame for these unsavoury practices?
Society? Institutions, organisations........ourselves?
Who is to blame? The system?
Presumably 'The System' , is all of the above!
I'm not saying anything new here, or anything most of us on here don't already know, or have even experienced first hand.
Society people!
What a s**t show!
Do I have all the answers?
No.
Does anyone?
Maybe..... 😉😎💗
After years of trying to have a real relationship with my "cold distant " birth family, who I kept sweet, cooked, clean, helped in any way I could, in spite of their uninterested behavior, often denigrating comments.
One day, my father (mini Donald T. Ump version) put downs, insults, lies, just let me burst out and he got told where to shove it.
Best feeling ever ! I had stood up for ---Me.!
I would say health should be defined by sustainability, within the mind and body, and the environment which sustains the body. So, we are very unhealthy collectively.
Jesus said something like “the first will be last and the last will be first.” I think what you’re talking about here is what He meant.
Many people that thrive in the “world” are doing so in this materialistic, ego-driven, cut throat unhealthy society.
Where many of the people who don’t fit in in the world are more spiritually evolved and walking like Christ. Walking the Path..
what if i’m dissociated and depressed :)
I think we are all crazy in our own ways
Can you talk bipolar dio in your other videos
In search of the ideal EQ test. I think there are different levels healthiness.
We know, we know...
Daniel, I love your content, but I think that your views on psychotropic drugs are a bit one sided and I've noticed it in other videos of yours. There are people who do need the medication and find that to be what works for them in their path to heal. As someone who has lived with overwhelming mental and physical anxiety my entire life due to childhood trauma, the only thing that helped me was getting on medication, specifically the SSRI lexapro. It helped my body settle down, which then allowed my mind to slow down and has helped me process my traumas and figure out where my anxiety comes from. I was able to feel separate emotions. I was able to cry tears of joy. While I can understand the stigma around certain medications, it's a dated point-of-view. It's dismissive to assume that medication merely "numbs" people, when in fact, quite the contrary, it opens up paths for many people who otherwise were struggling.
A Patina?
By how irritatingly selfish they are?