😂 I was a trad wife in the 90s. Amazing that I was so happy with so many hobbies and friends. No depression meds or lobotomies were necessary! Those poor miserable souls.
Right? How they are assuming because you chose home instead of corporation that you can't possibly have anything else going on in your life at the same time. Total opposite, you have much more opportunity for that.
They seem to think all women were locked up in their homes during the day instead of taking their kids out to visit other mothers so their kids could socialize with peers.
Stay at home wife/mom that is the secretary to her husband as we own our own business. I’ll take my stay at home wife/mom life & being my husbands secretary any day lol #TradWifeLife
Sorry but you can't turn a hoe into a house wife, all these females pretending to be trad all of a sudden is a complete lie. They just want someone to pay their bills so they can get piped by Chad and Tyrone while their kid is at school
Being a trad wife (to a good husband) is actually very freeing and liberating. I don’t worry about my kids because they’re with me. I don’t work to make other men richer, I work to make my husband and I’s and our children’s lives better. I am free to go and do what I want when I want, and my favorite part of the day is when my husband comes home and we are all together.
That's extremely shameful to not contribute anything towards good future and money for your children. Being self sufficient is what makes you an adult.
Do you know her home situation? Do you know her husband is making less or actually enough for the family to survive and also live comfortably and enjoy the future? If she doesn't need to work, she doesn't need to. I get the inflation and rising expenses thing, one can still opt for home business like making clothes or selling stuff grown locally but it's an option one can choose and doesn't have to be shamed if they don't.@@May04bwu
You don't want to work to make other men richer? Then why's your husband doing the same? Shouldn't this principle apply to you both? Are you against capitalism or simply being able to work?
She was right about picking the right partner though. I was a trad wife and my husband treated me like crap for over 25 years. He expected nothing but service, service, service. If I ever asked him for anything, his response would be "why cant you do it?" Being a wife, homemaker, and mother is a blessing. I loved everything about it. Except for the way he treated me.
I love that you shared this, and your totally correct!!! Being a sahm doesn't necessarily mean your husband will treat you with respect, and see your contributions as just as worthy as his. Unfortunately, alot of men are skewed in their idea of service, thinking that it's gives them superiority over their wives. Just because a man works it doesn't mean he shouldn't have any responsibilities at home, or to his wife. There should be a mutual respect and love for each other. I'm so happy to have been able to spend the last 16 yrs at home with my children, but I would have appreciated respect for the opportunities I gave up in doing so, since I am intelligent and more than capable of bringing in an income to support myself.
@@tinasmith7630 Aw thank you so much. I certainly do! Although I swore I never wanted another relationship EVER again, I met someone and not only does he really appreciate all the little things I do, but he treats me like gold. As I treat him.
The irony of the gal saying “don’t look for fulfillment in your children because they can be taken away,” is that often the people who have their kids taken away are the people who didn’t make their kids the priority.
You are correct. I don't have kids, but if I did, someone would have to step over my cold corpse to get them to take away. And it's not like your community can't be taken away, either. It's not like it can't be ruined by drugs and crime or job loss and business closings that leave it a ghost town. It's not like your friends and neighbors won't die or move away. Everything changes all the time. You can't say, don't value this thing because it's impermanent. Everything is impermanent.
I agree. She also doesn't realize that applies to almost anything. Careers can be taken away. So many people found fulfillment in their careers until covid hit. So many people lost their jobs and are still being laid off in some places.
The mindset of these people is that they are not supposed to have any responsibility, not even for themselves mind you, but somehow everyone else is supposed to be responsible for all of their needs, and the justification for this is, they exist and their very presence is so wonderful that alone is sufficient compensation for you fulfilling their needs and desires. They are entirely delusional
Well, I was a tradwife before it was on TikTok. When I married my husband I gave up my career and stayed home and looked after our babies and cooked and cleaned and later homeschooled our kids. My husband works a 12 hour shift and takes out the trash and mows the lawn and does the pool cleaning. He also helped with the kids. He literally never stops working. I’m amazed at him everyday. I thank his mom all the time for raising such an amazing man!! I’m never going to say it was easy. We sacrificed a lot. We struggle sometimes (especially in this economy) but we know that the most important thing in this life is family!! Btw, I’m not on any drugs either that includes pharmaceuticals.
I have no idea where that woman thing got the idea that 50’s housewives were on heavy medications and drugs. Yea there were some really nutso health and beauty trends that decade, but that came more from a place of ignorance and curiosity than desperation. People then were exponentially happier and better off than we are now, the stereotypes of beatings and isolation are almost entirely false. The biggest issue with the 50’s that should cause people to not want to idolize that decade was the civil rights movement and how black people were treated. That was very real, that was a huge problem, but women in general were just fine.
I was a trad wife for 20 years. I did all the yard work, house work, and raised kids. He cheated all he could, I hardly had any money, I had no friends or family to help me out and I was very isolated. It was rough until I left. It can be incredible but having to take care of 3 kids and sick, elderly parents (until they died) with an abusive husband was hell. Kids are grown, parents are dead, and I'm divorced starting to live life free and happy. I'm going to guess that Ben has family that helps and supports him, as well as a nanny for when he and his doctor wife cannot be there.
I dunno, I'm no expert, but the hell I saw some of my friends go through as they took their 6 week old babies to daycare was real. Every one of them sobbed for at least the entire first day back to work, if not the whole first week or more. And the milestones and memories they missed, the fun, the bonding, the teaching... Picking up your kid at 5pm 5 nights a week to quickly feed them some frozen fish sticks and get them to bed is not what I wanted for my family or myself, and my husband agreed, so we made a plan. We got by with less in one way and with so much more in a much more important way. I'm not saying you can't make it work, but it's very sad that moms today are taught they don't have a choice, and how we are reviled for choosing our families over our careers. There is no more important job than creating good, decent, kind, hardworking people.
Reading this made me emotional, I’m a stay at home mom and I can’t even imagine sending my kids to day care as babies and can only imagine how painful it is for moms who feel they don’t have a choice. But sometimes people have to work, life’s hard and so expensive. I feel for any struggling parents out there.
Not disagreeing, just wanted to throw this in. My wife doesn't work most of the year, but in the spring she works at a greenhouse with my mother and aunt, and agian at Christmas selling trees. During those two seasons, she brings our daughter to daycare two or three times a week for 3 or 4 hours a day, and it's been really good for her. We live on a farm, so even though she could just run around the greenhouse while my wife works, any chance for her to interact with other kids is an opportunity we couldn't afford to miss. Just wanted to say sometimes daycare is really good for kids.
@@merlin4real if the only contact a kiddo gets with other kids is through daycare, then man, yeah it's super important! Kids need to be able to play with other kids. It also gives mom a break to focus on other responsibilities.
My daughter has learned SO much at daycare! Remember it takes a village to raise a child. I have the weekend with her and she’s learned more there then my other friends kid who hasn’t been to childcare and is around the same age. She honestly would get so bored at home eventually and some days you just need a break. She loves playing all day with other kids.
I'm a trad wife and I am proud of it. I have been married for 34 years I do not drink or do drugs. My daughter married her first b/f but they dated for two years before. He adores her and she also stays home. I love my son in law and I know she is safe and well taken care of. I understand this isn't for everyone. But for the ones that live like this. We love it and our husbands seem pretty happy.
If being a trad wife makes YOU happy I believe you have every right to go on that path. I see nothing wrong with the trad wife lifestyle. As long as you aren’t putting other women down for not wanting to be a trad wife I see no issues.
@@ohthatsnice7323 trad wives are not anyone down, the FEMINISTS are the ones putting trad wives down smh, I have so much respect for trad wives who chose to look after their children without being a slave to a boss
@@muazunais2378 there are plenty of trad wives who put other wives down just like there are plenty of “feminists” who put trad wives down. A real feminist wouldn’t put other women down for living their lives. Let’s not pretend being a trad wife means you can’t do any wrong. There are always bad people in a community, there are bound to be bad trad wives just like there are bound to be bad feminists. Your logic is stupid.
I'm an attorney, I run my own firm, and I'm a trad wife. I cut back to only taking one or two clients at a time once I had a child. I don't want to spend my life paying someone else to raise my child and take care of my family. I love it. I don't understand the trad wife hate. This is the natural order of things.
I’m starting law school in the fall. What law do you practice? I’d like to ultimately be a trad wife but I can’t be a house wife indefinitely. I like to work and I like my vocation. I do however believe strongly in raising my own kids and finding the time and ability. How do you do it?
I'd love to know too as I am an attorney and it gets really busy. I aspire to be a trad wife. At the same time, I do not want to give up my career entirely.
I guess what these people are asking you is did you become a traditional wife after you worked hard to have your own firm and then you were able to cut back to working less hours ? They're asking you how you did it since both of them are also in the same industry and want to become traditional homemakers also .
@@gardensofthegods the story is a bullshit lie. That is why the person does not answer. Do not believe a word, when you see these fairy tale like life stories. They always forget to mention things like having ultra rich parents or husband or some other essential detail.
I am the child of a trad marriage, with parents together for 66 years. My mother ran the home, but later, when we grew up and left, helped run the family business. I think that this is true partnership, where partners may have different roles but the joint effort produces something wonderful. A whole that isn perhaps geater than the simple sum of the parts.
I spent four years of marriage trying to be the “do it all wife”. It was a disaster. I was trying to balance being a mother with two jobs, sometimes three, and full time college, and keeping up with the housework and I. Was. Miserable. I thought I needed to provide financially to the house to be a good wife. I thought my Worth was in my accomplishments. But I looked around at our disaster of a house, looked at the pile of take out bags piling up in the trash can, and tried to put my son to bed as he cried because he wanted to play with me but I had to hop on a zoom meeting for the thousandth time that day and take care of business. I decided ENOUGH. I didn’t even know about the TikTok movement at the time, but I decided I was going to be more traditional all on my own. I started dressing more feminine, I quit my jobs, I decided to take a semester off school, and the transformation in my family has been amazing. My son isnt nearly as crabby and angry as he used to be. I have time to go on dates with my husband. I cook meals most of the time and our house is cleaner than it’s been in years. We even had enough time to go to the park yesterday and play soccer as a family! That was unheard of before! Taking on more traditional gender roles saved my family from falling apart completely. I’ll never go back.
This a great point, and it's why I don't understand how Ben can criticize these women when his own wife is not traditional. There's no way she can be a doctor who inevitably works 40+ hours a week, which may include irregular and overnight hours or being on call at any point and somehow fulfill all the responsibilities of a traditional wife.
Thank you for this .. a had my baby at 17 back in the 1900s but I thought I had to be the independent woman and not be at home looking after my child because I thought my mom did that so I'll prove I don't need anyone..... Long story short basically there is nothing wrong with wanting to look after your family..... Society has a big responsibility for how people think.... I was a stubborn person and thought proving to others made me stronger..... I had nothing to prove because the love from my daughter the love we have you can not teach or learn... Just love do your best and that all that matters xxx
I plan to be a TRAD HUBBY! That means, also, putting my family above my work, but still providing. Many men, in fact, are unfit to be husbands and fathers, like my unmarried brother. He's vice-president in a large company with contracts with the federal government. Many women don't realize how we traditional men, DON'T WANT FULL-TIME WORKING WIVES! We want THE OPPOSITE! I want my wife to bear children to us. If she can find time from taking care of us--while I DO intend to help with the house and kids, by the way--I want her to pursue her career in opera. My stance is, while we don't have children, she can do that. When the children are grown, or close to it, she can do that. I don't want either of us to forget about family while the children are right in front of us. You made the right choice! Especially when the children are young. 🙂
As a woman who had a six figure “career”, didn’t marry until I was 29 and is now a stay at home mom of 2 precious little girls, let me just say how much happier I am now than I was when I was single and “killing it” in the workplace. I’m so thankful that I get to lead the life I do and wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Your little girls are thankful too, although they don't know it. And nor should they. A mom who is there for them all the time is their right. You're doing it right.
My Dream!!! Would rather say "Yes sir" to my man than to my boss lol. Turning 30 in December and this is still my hope. I've always been a homebody, and as a first born, handling the home is like default. In my later teens, I really came to appreciate my mum and her view for her home. She had wished that they were financially stable enough for her to be a housewife, but even with work, she still tried her best.
Hopefully! ❤ I'm in a blue state and don't know any local trad wives. Bittersweet label. I think we are what wives should be .... just as my opinion. But yeah if differentiating I'll proudly rock it too. 😅 ❤
That's aweaome! Maybe (even if it is tiktok) I'm happy that there's other people out there who get it and we are able to share a love of tad wife lifestyle. I don't think I count as tad wife per say, but I'm with ya =)
Same girl! I’m a stay at home mom and also homeschool, people look at me crazy but I’m more rewarded at home then at a job that keeps me away from my children and husband. I love my family and yes sometimes is a lot but I’m grateful to be in this position. American families are set up to fail because of all the separation.
As someone who desires a trad wife I will say that just because a lady is a trad wife doesn't mean that she has to stay in the home 24/7. Women in the 40s and 50s who were trad wives still went out and did stuff like ladies night or day out in town and went on walks in the park.
Yeah when it was more common the women and children were far more socially involved. Women who did this were probably more likely to spend time with friends assuming they were of the middle or upper class. Lower class would be forced to work harder at home of course just like their men.
@@ScottDieken And they have lower fertility rates there than in the West largely because most women there really don’t want to stop making their own income to get married. Also, women not earning money for their families isn’t really traditional if you consider how people lived before the 1950s. The vast majority of adolescent girls and young unmarried women worked in domestic service for instance, farmers wives and daughters would butcher meat, bring their four to the meal, care for livestock and help out with the harvest before bringing goods to sell at the market, there were most milliners were women and other women were websters, brewsters, baxters and the origin of the word spinster was a type of work that was known to pay quite well so single unmarried women would often do it to support themselves- spinning, many women and girls as far back as the 1500s were apprenticed and involved in skilled trades and married women would join guilds under their husbands names. The prevalence of many women not making money to support their families alongside the men of the house is a fairly modern one, about as traditional as remote control television. This doesn’t mean that work wasn’t gendered or that women doing certain tasks around the house wasn’t the norm, but the concept of women not earning money to support their families specifically is quite modern, as it is more traditional for most women to earn money, unless you belonged to the leisure classes in which neither the men nor the women worked for a living. Perhaps the reason so many women are uncomfortable with not earning any money on their own despite eagerly wanting a family and children and enjoying doing things for their families like cooking is because the former is artificial and most people, men and women, get some satisfaction out of bringing money to support the family alongside their spouses and throughout the vast majority of human history humans have been able to balance women earning money with them also caring for children (of course part of the value of a 2 parent household is that it allows the flexibility that is important for altering one’s schedule at different times). What’s more, children need the presence of their fathers as well as their mothers in order to develop well, not just their father’s money. If women are working even if it’s only part time or with a more flexible schedule to allow for the needs of pregnancy and recovery after giving birth, nursing and the like, that gives the father that much more time to bond with his children, while if the father is out working 10 hours a day, the children have less time to bond with their father and benefit from the unique style of parenting that fathers provide (for example, there are even differences with how fathers bond with their children such as the fathers being more playful and engaging in more rough play such as swinging their children around or tickling them which helps to teach the children how to take safe risks and distinguish between genuine danger and challenges that are safe to face, and makes them more confident and assertive, and they bond with their children in ways that teach them from a young age through play about rules and how to behave appropriately. The kinds of bonding activities mothers engage with meanwhile build the child’s sense of security and self and foster healthy attachment, which helps the child bond in a healthy way in their interpersonal relationships). “Poor little rich kids” have more difficulty turn into emotionally healthy and stable adults. That’s not always how it is with this kind of “traditional” marriage setup and some do manage to find the right balance, but the idea that all you have to do is have the woman caring for home and hearth all day while the father spends his time making money is overly simplistic and ignores the nuance that fathers also need to spend enough time bonding with their kids and supporting your wife doesn’t merely mean giving her money, when she is pregnant and post-partem she will need him at home more often and when their newborn baby is waking up every two hours and his wife is still recovering from childbirth he will need to take care of most of the childcare so she can get better. Likewise, for many couples especially after children are weaned and their mother has fully recovered from giving birth it might be a good idea for her to take on som of the family’s financial burden (it need not be a perfectly even split as she may still be taking care of more of the childcare and/or housework) so her husband especially if he’s working particularly long hours, since that is reducing his ability to bond with his children which can stunt rhetoric development and put a strain on their marriage.
Wait till that lady realizes she is a trad wife and white as all. 😂 seriously, she reminds me of most of the Self-hating Democrat voters I know. All talk about how conserve values are terrible values while they actually live them themselves yet vote the country into ruin. I knew one person who was going to raise her child completely gender neutral until her little girl gravitated towards fluffy pink dresses and the whole thing went out the window, but she kept saying she gave that little human the opportunity to be a little boy. 🙄 that particular liberal is so hypocritical, they would have their mask down when you ran into them at the store so they could drink their togo latte and like their fingers 2020, but they absolutely shamed those online who dare pull down their mask or say they kept working as she expected even one but her butt to work. 🙄 I think the reason why liberals hate the nasty conservative stereotypes is because they actually are those nasty stereotypes. And from my experience Democrats are far more likely to be racist and hypocritical, and truly out of touch with reality or actively doing what they know is wrong. Democrats are sad little hypocrites. So mad at Trump they don’t see how they should be madder at their evil hypocritical selves and party.
As a woman approaching 50 who has always chosen to be a traditional wife/mom, I can say that this life choice has brought much joy and fulfillment. Now that my children are older and in school, I choose to spend my time helping others and being available to minister to my family's needs. I have a college degree, am a voracious reader and even run a small business from home. I applaud fellow women who embrace this lifestyle. Younger women have engaged me to help them budget, learn how to cook and can food. I love coming to their homes and holding their children and encouraging them as they make choices (traditional values) that our society no longer recognizes as valuable. Unpopular opinion, but I am convinced that many of the problems in our American society is a result of abolishing the role of traditional gender roles....
@JF you sound wonderful! We’re a military family and I’m a stay at home mom. It’s not always easy but I love my vocation of mother and wife. We’re away from family and that’s something I miss- the help from my mom. That’s wonderful you help younger mother’s with wisdom and guidance. I wish I had that! It takes a village. One thing I’d like to improve is my cooking. God bless women like you. Take care!
Keep rocking it, JF. You're doing noble, honorable work by building your household and helping other women to build theirs. You're strengthening your community and ensuring the stability of the next few generations. I'm proud of you. My wife is also a traditional stay-at-home wife, raising and homeschooling our four kids. I love her; I'm proud of her; I'm proud that I can afford her that life; and I will never divorce her because she gets sick (disgusting Porsche CEO guy). Way to be, JF!
I like ben but he has to reach across the aisle more. I heard from every woment hat is a bit older that back in the days housewomen abused prescription drugs amphetamines etc and these were widely avaliable. the idea that every women will be happy in a traditional sense regarding being a house women is not true. I just think that there shouldnt be judgement on either side. Obv women or men that sleep alot around is prob not good because I believe atleast that were the stats if im remembering vorrect that men and women have problems in monogamous relationships when having lived their entire life before that highly "non-monogamous"
"You can't make being a wife and a mother the center of your entire being" I consider being a husband and father the center of my being, not my job or my hobbies. The main issue here seems to be that duty to your family appears to be window dressing in modern society rather than your main purpose as a man or woman.
Beautifully said. Being a wife/husband and a parent are the most important roles that we have in life and it's ludicrous to deny that those roles aren't the center of our being. The problem is that society today has people prioritizing all of the wrong things and embracing selfish and narcissistic behavior.
It’s mask-off stuff for them. Like really? What a shallow life to not even understand why it would be for SOME and respecting it. Like all silly leftist debates, they’re simply being politicians and are lying. At least to themselves, and also AT LEAST about the above-mentioned logical respect for the choice. It’s complete BS
Isn't the man always expected to make being a husband and father the center of their being? It's interesting how the war against toxic masculinity is fought by virtuizing that same bad behavior. What I typically hear for justification is, "men have been doing it forever".
My husband and children were my life purpose. Our Home was the center of our life. I'm now a widow, kids grown having their own families. I don't regret one day of my life being my husband's helpmate and mostly staying at home. I did work outside the home when we needed extra money for the kids.
My mom had a doctorate from Columbia University in the 1950’s. She stayed at home and raised my sister and I. When we got older she resumed her career.
@@Label2000Ok Lady, NEWSFLASH from a young working woman of today with a Doctorate: Try going to a job interview with a 20 year gap on your CV when you are already in your mid forties. YOU ARE A HUGE NO HIRE FOR ANY COMPANY PERIOD. You might get lucky if you are hired as cleaning staff or answering phones. that's REALITY.
@ji8628 Really? so your mother showed up to a job interview with a 10-15 year gap in her CV and she just climbed up the ladder? As a working married child free woman with a doctorate myself, I know for a fact if your mother was able to get a job with an ancient doctorate after 20 years of doing absolutely NOTHING, she did NOT resume her career. that is just reality.
@@CharlotteFerrariBreton 10 year gap 1958-1968. True she stopped doing research in the lab and worked in a research psych ward in a hospital but she did have a long career after kids. That's what happened. On the other hand - she was probably not normal. She was kind of like a human hurricane and anyone who stood in her way paid the price.
I think her point was a counter to a point that no one was making about why being a tradwife is only good because she chose it. Well duh, we're trying to convince women to engage more tradwife more, why would we bother forcing them if they don't want them too?
As a trad wife, I've been able to explore all manner of hobbies, had tons of Time with my children, countless lunch & play dates with friends...it's a tough life but I get by... 😂 👸
Trad wife here! We're just so oppressed, aren't we? I heard every first word, saw every first step, taught every letter. I mastered dog training, teach Sunday school, get together with friends for coffee and play dates every week. I might take up piano with my kiddo next, and I'm diving into Middle Eastern cooking after doing Asian cuisine for a while. Gosh, it's hard. I don't know how we face the day. 😂
Good for you! I have hobbies but can't always get to them (could if I didn't TH-cam tbh lol) I spend a lot of time prepping lesson plans for homeschool. But that can be a hobby in it's own way. 🍎Wanted to be a clinical psychologist, I never would've thought I'd have a love for teaching. I'm definitely grateful to be a stay at home mom & wife, but some days are definitely tougher than others. I'd rather it be tough at home, time with kids as you say, than rough away from home and no energy/time left for my family. I think that's at the core of why it's so important for women to be at home while raising children. It's time you can't get back. No rewind. I don't want someone else raising my kids. I have a special needs child though. It would be a breeze tbh if I didn't, I'd be starting my own business probably. But for now it waits until my child is old enough to be self sufficient or can learn basics to help out in the family business! ❤
@@Jesuisderetour88Whaaaaat? 🔥🔥🔥That's cool. I am a SAHM/W and just love DIY decorative tasks mostly, some baking, but would love a garden. 🥕 I'm surprised homeschool planning has become a sort of hobby for me. I make my own templates and love thinking years ahead. 🤓
I am a proud trad wife. I stay home and raise the kids, care for the house and whatever else needs to be done dealing with my HOME. My husband goes out and works to support all of us. When he comes in from work, he’s got a hot meal ready and waiting. I do his laundry, fix his dinner plate, whatever he needs. I choose this life. He doesn’t have to go bust his ass every single day to provide for us and make sure we are taken care of and have everything we need and damn near everything we want. I appreciate him just like he appreciates me. I don’t expect him to do anything when he gets home from work except eat, relax and spend time with the kids. He’s a proud father and husband. If he asked me to get his shower ready, you damn right I’m getting his shower ready because I know he will do the same for me. When he is off of work, he handles everything that I usually handle so I can have “me time”. I love that. I love what he does for me and his little family. He not only loves me, he respects me, as I respect him. We communicate about everything, we make all decisions together and we parent together. After 26 years without going to bed mad at each other or arguing, we must be doing something right. Did I mention that he has never raised a hand to me, insulted or demeaned me or our kids in any way ? Yeah. He’s a keeper.
AMEN!! I’m so happy to hear success stories like this. So many women say they were a traditional wife and it ended miserably. I’m a traditional wife, I’m 27 and my husband is 29, we have only been married 3 years but we love that we have roles. He loves coming home and not having to do anything except be a father, and I love not going to a corporate job. We appreciate and love each other’s effort and wouldn’t change it for the world.
I’m a trad wife no children and I’m excited for life in general it’s a great balance and we never argue go to sleep mad. We love each other dearly and love our roles ❤
@@sharon6981ended terribly because of financial imbalance. There's no money attached to what you do in the house, so it's basically worthless in the eyes of many people..the society, some husband and most companies if you decided to join the workforce in the future. Same reason why traditional men would be sad if they have a daughter because in the end they'll change their name and be adopted to their husband family. Most extreme example is in china with one child policy back then they would abort or unbreath the baby if it's a girl. I don't see anything wrong being a stay at home mom or dad..just make sure you have the financial security.. Maybe make a tiktok video selling fantasy like these tradwife girl if you're attractive. Kinda funny to watch, these tradwife tiktoker is basically an independent woman. Making money selling fantasy with 50s aesthetic to horny straight men and gullible women.
I enjoy being a trad wife. My husband works hard and everything is always done by the time he gets home. He always has a hot meal ready. I do the laundry, gardening, cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc. My husband doesn't have to lift a finger at home, and I'm proud of that. If other women want to be career oriented, good for them is what I say. Everyone should get to proudly choose their own path in life. Why do so many people care what others do, as long as its not hurting anyone else? As long as you and your husband are in agreement, I don't see what it's anyone else's business. I would never bash a career woman for her choice, and I expect no career women to bash me. Everyone mind your business and live and let live.
This is what i can call a fulfilled person . Honestly i could never be a tras women because i loveeeee going out and having a career and creating this ( i am an artist) but i will always respect trad women ( if they are happy with their choice) One thing i réaliséd is that it’s easy to differnciate a happy and fulfilled trad woman with a not happy one The non- Happy ones are always forcing other women to have the same lifestyle as them !!
People just don't know when to butt out of other people's business. As long as no one is being abused or neglected, you do what you gotta do for your family. I wish there were more peeps like you out there. - Sincerely, a career lady. :)
That's really lovely and the way it should be. I work with elderly people in the community and most of the men will give up on their wives who are ill a lot quicker than most women will with their husbands. There's more often than not a focus on how it is affecting them and their freedom. This is just what I have seen first hand and of course doesn't reflect every man, but it's what I've noticed. There's no denying that going through illness is very hard on all concerned x
As a “Trad” wife who has been a bread winner in the past but traded the job to better care for my family (I have been working in the home for 15 years now) I will attest that I, my husband, and my children are all happier and better off for the choice my husband and I made to have a traditional dynamic in our household. We have all benefited! Things are far less stressful for all of us! There are still all the stresses of the world but the controllable stress is mitigated. We live much healthier lives! Our foods are healthier, we have more time to get physical exercise, we have more time to talk and connect so there’s a much better mental state and better emotional balance. It’s not a prison sentence! It’s a blessing! And I couldn’t earn enough to pay for the services I am able to provide for our family. I made 6 figures and just the savings of daycare and food costs offset that!
Exactly!!! The cost of paying someone else to care for the kids and the house and to cook our meals far outpaces many of the jobs I would do outside the home. And no one, no matter how good they are at their job, would have the same level of love and motivation to provide these things for my family that I do.
My wife made double average income living in the city, i made 3 times. We could BARELY afford to live owning our 2bd condo in the dirtiest crime ridden area in the city with SHITTY neighbours who complained about our kids LIVING LIFE. We were both physically and emotionally drained because we both had HIGH DEMAND OT required at a moments notice jobs, we had $1/min late fees to worry about on top of the standard daycare charge which happened WEEKLY. When she stopped working and we moved 4+hr away to a small community of 2k, i happened to make another 30k per year and could support our family by myself without the $1600/mo daycare payment (the same amount as my MORTGAGE) I get home from work and cook dinner. She does deal with the majority of other chores. We are a PARTNERSHIP. She goes out of town to visit family whenever she wants while i continue to work, she hangs out with friends with kids, we actuallt get to spend time and raise our kids. The cult is trying to scare people away from nuclear families that JUST WORK because yes, there are manipulative people who take advantage. We went from nearly seperating from all of the stress and BS we had to deal with, to a WORKING FAMILY HOME where im able to actually rest when i get home.
I graduated before my husband and had to work before him and I earned more than him. I didn’t have a problem with it. It’s when our first child arrived that we realized and agreed that we need to switch roles and keep up with it for a while. I feel great about this because I’m the one raising my child and maintaining my home. I wouldn’t want it any other way!
It's really great to hear this. My wife was a nurse when I met her, and she's probably capable of earning more than I do. She's been working in the home for 4 years now and we're also very happy, for the same reasons you mentioned. It's a very healthy balance for a family with kids.
Agreed. "Trad wife" - or doing the job you are meant to do - is the best, and most important job in the world. But you have to do it with the right man.
My wife and I are both 25 with 2 kids under 2 and she has really embraced being the homemaker and we wouldn’t have it any other way! Very blessed!! Sad to see people looking at raising their children as a burdens. Can’t say it’s easy but it’s fulfilling!
The editors stemming from Ben all the way to Cooper, and Matt Walsh are just amazing. They are so funny and keep things feeling modern. The whole Daily Wire is an amazing company from the ground up. God Bless.
Wow… I guess I am a trad wife - in Germany - and I am absolutely happy with it! I love my husband, love our kids, love our farm and spending every day outside taking care of our animals and growing our own crops. 😂 And trust me: I have enough hobbies to fill my free time. As for terminal illnesses: Men are actually statistically more likely to catch genetic and other diseases. My mother has been taking care of my father since 2012 now! That’s what marriage is supposed to be. And that’s what’s both sides of our families have done for centuries - and we will continue.
Man. I wish I had a garden, farm sounds fun but I know that's a ton of work!!! Though you probably get the kids involved. I love that idea... building sufficiency and an intimate connection with natural resources. 💚
@@ari3lz3pp It‘s definitely a team effort but the kids love it. Gives them a sense of autonomy and purpose - which is really (together with a good amount of love and support) all anyone needs to do something. Where do you live? Maybe you can rent a little garden or start planting on your balcony or behind your window. If you are close to the countryside: there are usually always some pieces of land that nobody „takes care of“ - if you can get in contact with the owners and offer them your help in exchange for the crops you grow there and the permisson for a chicken coop - you might get a really good deal or even free access to it. That’s what some elderly people in our village do while they cannot decide on selling their property. Besides: We became farmers in 2014 - never planned for it but the price & location of the property back then was ideal, so we went for it. I know a lot has changed since then and house prices are crazy these days but if you want to, you can probably still find something!
@@ari3lz3pp That's the second time I've seen you mention wanting a garden. And you're home schooling, if I remember your previous comments correctly. Hello, lesson plans! You've got science, math, and reading right there!😊
@snjprl lol I never would have ‘classified’ myself as a ‘trad wife’ either … but I mainly run the house and our small farm also. It’s a simple but very fulfilling life!!!
just remember that ben is happily married to a woman who is NOT a "trad wife" , she's a well qualified doctor. because it varies person to person. we shouldn't be so quick to go to the traditional extreme just because we hate the "modern feminist" extreme. there's a reason traditions changed over time, because those roles did not work for every woman or man in the past. no one should do anything if it's not necessary for them, only for the sake of proving themselves lol. the whole point is, if a woman decides to be a trad wife, she shouldn't be shamed for it, if that's what she and her husband want and decide is best for themselves and their family. if a woman decides to work, same applies.
Agreed..heck, even these tradewife tiktoker still technically earn money by cosplaying as those 50s surburbian wife. Some even set up an online business to achieve 50s tradwife aesthetic, like selling apron, bonnet, etc. I'm proud of tradwife tiktoker for finding a niche market, but still feel bad mostly for women who think these tradwife tiktoker only cook, clean, etc and not earning a buttload of money from tiktok vids. They told people to stop working, be a stay at home mom, the caregiver.. meanwhile they themselves are busy making tiktok, earning money. It would be fine by me if these tradwife promote traditional value and encourage woman to find a way to earn money at the same time. Women don't need to put a 50 suburbia wife costume to be a tradwife, also giving up their job.. especially in the current economy.
Fully agree. The "trad wife" tiktoker is cringe, just like the responses. I would have liked Shapiro to call that out. Kinda disappointed he didn't given your exact reasoning that his wive is not a "trad wife" at all.
@@Dudldombecause you don't go to med school for so many years, get yourself in debt only to become a trad wife. Being a doctor is a career, not a job, that's why you must have a calling to practice it. Ben's wife has full support from her parents and her in-laws(Ben said it). Also, he has no problem with feminists, he's stating you can't attack people for choosing what to do with their life just because you feel suprior or have unhealed trauma. And about that online tiktoker, what's wrong in educating women to get into their element, after all, she teaches feminity first, and how to be a trad wife secondly. There is nothing free in this world and education shouldn't be an exception. I grew up without positive feminie figures in my life, they acted like savages, always yelling and criticising. Internet educated me A LOT and I have no problem paying for something I consider useful. ❤
@@LarryVasquez82 These trad wives, however, are doing exactly what the Proverbs 31 woman did. None of them ever said anyone had to give up earning money in the home. The point was that she cares for the home, for her husband, and for the children when they come. If she has extra time to spread awareness and do something she loves doing, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. How would it be any different than women who did Tupperware parties or Mary Kay for friend groups?
I had a career. A rewarding one. But also a ton of stress social worker/executive director. Being a ‘trad wife’ is far more rewarding, I feel freer, more fulfilled. I love being at home with my children and serving them and my husband. I’m so thankful that I have a man like him that makes this life possible for me.
I've been both a "trad" wife & a working mom. I absolutely LOVED being a stay at home mom and wife! It really simplified our lives when I was home & I found it very meaningful and joyful ❤
I submit to my husband because I TRUST him, because during our dating history he proved himself to be TRUSTWORTHY. Women who marries men who they don't trust and feel safe enough with to submit to end up being exhausted and bitter because they are managing their homes and their partners. Nothing better than having a man who fights for your wellbeing in the masculine way that ensures the betterment of the family while the woman nurture and cultivates with her "feminine powers". Sort of teamwork 101, you play your part and they play theirs...
Although, it seems like we trads need to explain that when we say “obey” or “submit”, we mean we let our husbands lead the household in a lot of ways because we respect him for providing everything we have and our families have. A lot of people think it means we become his “b***h” and he bosses us around (which usually isn’t so). Many blessings to ya
@@byrdie89 I'm not blind to the risks and have been in both those situations. After hitting rock bottom I realised two things; one, not all people are apt to be married and worthy of being relied upon... or trusted and two; before blaming your partner look in the mirror and ask yourself what and who are you inviting and settling for with your own behaviour. In my eyes you steal from yourself when committing to someone for life that you can't love with an open heart. God willing we will grow old together
Mark clap for them? they need a standing ovation! what were they on when they put this together? this video had no business having this many good memes
My mum was a traditional wife, and I was a traditional wife .. I have never been lobotomised or highly medicated.. being a traditional wife does not mean you are trapped in your house. I went out whenever I wanted:. Saw my friends almost daily took my children out to socialise with other children and participated in school reading programs and an array of other events outside the house and still managed to care for my family in every way in which was needed.. why are people so dramatic about these things. It’s so unnecessary
I’m in my 20s and I can’t either - it’s rapidly changing. In my anthropology classes that was a sign of end stage society. Historically it will unravel, and there will be a complete reboot (new government/ currency etc) and things will restart and change more slowly for a while (100-300 years)
Well said @Mr Constitution. What’s the point of keeping up with “trends”? It doesn’t fulfill anything, there’s no sense of accomplishment and it just doesn’t do anything for anyone. I wish people who spend their time on TikTok would take that time and energy to do something that’s beneficial to society.
I'm 21 and the only time I see anything tiktok related is from the people at daily wire... i just have no desire to see that ridiculousness... the only reason I watch them on Ben, Michael, Matt and Bretts videos is because they sacrifice their sanity watching these TikToks for us and their job so it's the least we can do for them is to suffer with them...
I loved that line about how marriage is mutual servitude. I have had an unusually good marriage modeled for me growing up and I can tell you that the first thing my Dad says when he gets home from work is "How can I help you?" to Mom. Mom will often tell him to go put his feet up and not worry about it but will ask for help when needed. The man may be the head of the household but he ought to use his power to exalt his wife, not control her.
And your basis for this is what? I actually follow some traditional wives on instagram. It allows us to learn different things from each other. And I’d argue it’s beneficial so that modern feminism isn’t the only voice online in female content creators.
I'm a "trad wife" and I was long before TikTok said it was a trend. Before we moved, during the height of covid, I hated my job. I loved my coworkers (most of them) and helping patients, but the monotony was exhausting. I regularly had migraines and had to be put on medication. After I became a traditional wife, partly because I was "unhirable" with an ER doctor husband (too much covid exposure), I didn't get the migraines as much (still had a few occasionally depending on weather), I was happier not having to deal with stupid people or rules all day, I had more free time to explore my own hobbies (reading, writing, crochet) and I am working on getting my first book published. Once our daughter came into the world, I found a new direction where I still enjoyed everything that makes me, well me, I find so much joy in watching my daughter grow. Watching her milestones, seeing how her brain works, and teaching her have brought a joy I never could have gotten even at my dream job. Being a wife and mother are my roles and my delight, and honor, my hobbies are just icing on the cake.
You're definitely doing the work most wouldn't consider worthy. I actually think it's the most admirable thing a woman could do. Focus on her family. The joy and acknowledgement comes from the pride of raising the next generation with values. Being a mom is the most awarding thing I've ever done.
@@timothymuhlfeld5886 we're usually the ones studying, or artsy (some times both). You need to look hard though. We're tough to win, but we're worth the effort.
@@katieinhops5163 and I believe what you say, your worth it ,I believe that! I'm a truck d river and I'm 57 so it makes iT a little tougher than you think,but thanks if you Have any ideas please write me back!!!!
Growing up as a latchkey kid in the 90s and an only child, all I ever wanted was a family to spend time with. I envied my friends that had a mom that stayed home. I am now so proud to be a SAHM to our two children. My husband works his a** off so that we can live off one income. It takes sacrifice and budgeting on both our parts to make it work, but I would not trade the time I have with my kids for anything!
"A child can be taken away" Most powerful line in the video. We as a society are gradually falling so far under social and government norms, that we are begining to see our children as property that other people have the right to strip from us and use as they wish.
I was in shock that she acted like "meh, kids can be taken away" while telling women to find joy... in a hobby? In a job? Things that are wayyyyy less permanent than your literal flesh and blood offspring?? If "kids can be taken away" is just an ever-present possibility in your mind, I think there's a way bigger issue going on here
Children have always been property. Back in the 60's if you raped, tortured and murdered a child you'd get the death penalty. But if the child that was raped, tortured and murdered was your own child you'd do about ten years. That's the way it really was. These kids were things you owned. And they are still property. Look at orphanages etc. It will never get better.
I have been a happy traditional wife for 35 years. Hubby is retired now and we still like doing the things on our side of the equation. Teamwork is what it's about. Love it.
I'm considered a trad wife, since I've been a stay-at-home wife and mother our whole marriage. We just celebrated our 17th anniversary. I've had a chronic disease for the past decade, and my husband's still here, taking care of myself and our 2 children as best he can. I do the same for him as much as I can. Neither of us would change a thing.
How can Ben criticize these women when his own wife is not traditional. There's no way she can be a doctor who inevitably works 40+ hours a week, which may include irregular and overnight hours or being on call at any point and somehow fulfill all the responsibilities of a traditional wife.
I’ve been an anti feminist since I was 18, married since 19, and a mother since I was 21. I also homeschool my children. Now that I’m past the baby years, I’ve really been leaning into becoming a homemaker, not just a housekeeper, and it’s been wonderful! Being able to devote my full time and attention to my husband, children, and home is so incredibly satisfying.
@@YannY1150 Are you kidding? Wow! I started having small jobs before turning 16, and my first real job at 16. It's long overdue for you to get a job and live on your own! Seriously, what on earth didn't your parents teach you?
@@donnabaardsen5372 A lot..I don't have the most caring upbringers. I am searching for one it's not easy when your only form of id expires and takes months to arrive renewed.
I love being a TRAD wife. Honestly if you care about your kids, then you should 1000% TRY to be a stay at home mom if you can. Your kids ABSOLUTELY NEED YOU! I spend 8-10 hours a day with my kids and although it hard. It’s so incredibly beneficial for them and us. Trad wife’s are doing a great service for the community. The kids are the future, maybe if your mama’s stayed home y’all would be a little more mentally stable. ❤
It's great that you are in a position to do this. Not every woman has this opportunity. They probably care about their children just as much as you do for yours.
@@DarkDaydreams I’m not so sure. I’ve made extreme sacrifices to stay home. It has NOT BEEN EASY IN ANY way. But I know how important it is so we do what we have to do to make it possible for our family. Most women I know who stay home have to sacrifice everything to do so. It’s not easy especially in this economy but it’s worth it
@@bacaworld7095 oh girl, if you only knew how blessed you are. No, sadly not every woman gets to stay at home with their child. Be happy you get to, and don’t judge the ones who can’t afford to. Sometimes in this economy it’s either go back to work or not have enough to provide for your child, and home. Even with combined income.
As a "trad" wife, I am a stay at home mom, housekeeper, I raise my children as well as educate them, I am teaching my daughters to keep their future homes, to cook, to love their future husband's as the Bible directs, and to love God. I was not forced to be a "trad wife" this was a decision that my husband and I made together based on biblical standards. And honestly, our marriage has simply gotten better and better. I have plenty of time for hobbies, and time with my friends. It's empowering to be a homemaker.
Amen, you nailed it! It is empowering! I feel like being a stay at-home mom and housewife has allowed me to bloom and flourish into the person God made me to be. I have started so many hobbies since deciding to stay home. I garden and can and through homeschooling am getting back into art and learning to sew. My kids and I learn together. When I was in the working world, even before kids, there was no time to pursue interests like that. I'm so grateful my husband is sacrificing every day so we can live like this. If it wasn't a choice and just a societal standard, maybe I wouldn't feel this way. But the grass is always greener on the other side. Maybe this trad wife movement is the natural pendulum swinging back after it was the other way.
This is crazy! I'm a stay at home mum (in australia) and honestly I've never been happier. I was so stressed working full time, I was super angry all the time and honestly, I'm surprised my hubby stayed with me 😅. As soon as I stopped working, everything was better including my mental health and my relationship. I became a mum a year after I quit work and life is generally just better ❤
I guess you could say that my mother is a trad wife. She raised three kids while my father was the provider for the family. We attended church on Sunday, had chores, did kid things and had a very traditional life. Their kids are grown and have started families of their own. They have grand kids, and now even great-grand kids. My parents have been married for over 60 years now. Mom's health is finally now failing and my father insists on being her primary caregiver. I'm glad that they raised us the way they did, and provided us with their own personal example.
My parents enlisted me in what I now jokingly call their, "slave labor battalion." It did teach me the value of work along the way, but there were some hiccups. For example, they handed me a cat's paw when I was 4 or 5, and told me to smash old sheet rock during a remodeling. Little kid me was like, "wait, I can just smash stuff?" Yup, have at it! Unfortunately, they forgot to tell me smashing time was over after the new sheet rock went up. Oops.
I’ve been a trad wife to an amazing husband for 35 years. ❤😊 I have 2 adult kids, hobbies and interests and feeling blessed and happy! Those feminist are insufferable.
My wife and I were married 22 years and had 4 kids together. I didn't find out until we were getting divorced that she had cheated on me with about 13 or more other guys. When confronted with this, she didn't deny it and just pretended like it was normal. She also cut off contact with her own kids for a year so she could pursue a new life with the guy she is currently married to. A guy she changed her whole identity for and started getting into this whole thing about being Irish and wanting to go to authentic Irish bars and listen to pub music, everything was Irish...It was bizarre and then we got our DNA results back, she was only 32% Irish and I was 67%. She went nuts!! But that was because this guy she was cheating on me with was into the Irish stuff because he was half Irish. The point is, I never knew about any of this. She traveled for her work as she did disaster relief co-ordination after hurricanes and tornadoes for the VA. Apparently she hooked up with someone every time she was away. She also promised this guy she is currently married to back when he was married to his wife, that she wasn't cheating on him with anyone else, but me...her husband...and he was only cheating on her ...with his wife..but they were both lying. He cheated on his wife..and my wife with other people, as did she. Then when she left me and moved out and we were getting divorced and they were 'together', he cheated on her 3 times with his ex-wife. They deserve each other. And now she is a trad wife. Living out in the country with chickens. Working from home. He keeps her at home...so she won't cheat on him. Some people are just messed up beyond belief.
I know this was a lot of trouble for you. I think you should move on and focus on career and enjoying life. Even see a therapist if this experience starts to get between you and your life. Find someone better and hope all the best
My husband and I don’t have the traditional gender roles. I am the bread winner (medical professional). I made much more than my husband, but we wanted to have one of us to be at home with the kids and take care of the home. I think having one partner at home for child rearing and taking care of the home makes for a good marriage. It works for us.
I am alsobthe breadwinner and my husband will be full time stay at home dad. He does most of the cooking and dishes because he has the time but we still have some traditional gender roles. He walks on sidwalk closest to street. He faces entrance when we go out to eat. If its night and we need to go pick something up he does it. He takes out the trash
I agree with you that one parent raising the children with your values is better than someone else raising your children with their values, lol. I think "the woman's place is in the home" really just came about in the fifties because before then most families couldn't afford to have one parent not working & when they did become able to, most families did want one of the parents to be the person raising their children & the woman was more likely to quit her job because she likely made less or wanted to be the one to stay home & raise her children. Women tend to need to either miss periods of work or do a job that could be done from their home when pregnant, giving birth, recovering from birth & breast feeding when that was desired or they tend to choose to work less hours than the men in their professions or they tend to pick careers in fields that pay less or, in the case of labor jobs, not be physically capable... (Or really not want to. Ha ha ha) Also, women tend to be more nurturing which tends to be more beneficial to children in their formative years which makes them a better choice as primary caregiver during that time. Of course none of these, like everything, is true for everyone so it is good women have the choice to do all these things if it's what she & her husband want for their family & women are really dominating in the fields of medicine & psychology. It's too bad that women having this choice has ultimately led to no parent raising the children & a lot of mothers just having a full time career on top of nearly all the jobs expected of them before
❤ That's good that it's worked out. Tbh I personally do think woman at home is ideal but if at least one of the parents is at home raising the kids that's what's important! And there's that logical reason to work when you make more money. I wanted to be a clinical psychologist, but when I ended up unexpectedly pregnant (doctors told both of us we were extremely infertile and I being paranoid of the 1% was still on the pill... ironic). The idea was I would be at home until toddler time, as I was unable to find work while pregnant in a terrible economy. But we had no support for watching our child. Our child was diagnosed with a disability by preschool (which was only 3 hours) and Id have to pay more for quality childcare than I'd make at the time. Quickly we realised public schools are terrible. I started to homeschool and realized I couldn't care for the home, my child, and be a decent wife while studying for my PhD so I said goodbye to that dream. I'm glad I did. Even though my husband is in labor, but makes ok money now. If I had already had my PhD probably different story. Who knows. Now I love homeschooling, it's a passion! And I also plan my business out that I hope to seek funding for by the time my disabled child is an adult. If not self-sufficient by then she can help me out at the business as her source of income. ❤
honestly, all the best for you guys seriously! glad you're broad minded and aren't just seeing only the traditional gender roles and nothing else lmao it suits some people, but it doesn't suit everyone, and it should NOT suit everyone just look at ben himself: he is happily married to a woman who is NOT a "trad" wife, his wife is a doctor .
My wife submitts to me. She says, "that way, when you're wrong i don't share any of the blame." I gotta say, she's absolutely right with that. I take that responsibility very seriously and the decisions always come after consulting with her.
Well, that's what 99,9% of women don't get. They want the "privileges" that men have but without the responsibility. And since there is no free lunch it only means that now we need to carry the burden for both
Looks can be deceiving. He selected her because of her beauty, she selected him because of his status(she actually rejected him multiple times until she had a change of heart).
@@user-kb1hw2yq2f Do you personally know him? I'm pretty sure you don't. Not trying to come across cold, but you don't know that, they might be the happiest couple in the world, they might be the most miserable. But they don't hint at all towards not loving each other. Other than that, don't assume things about people you don't know.
My wife is a "trad wife", and we have an excellent marriage and family life. My wife can work outside the home if she wants to, she has a four year business degree. She chooses not to work outside the home because she is finding joy and fulfillment in raising our children and managing the home. We have managed to get by with a single income, and it hasn't always been easy. But, this has been very fulfilling. My wife is looking to expand her education and start working outside the home once the kids are out of the house, and I fully support that. Be blessed!
My parents got married in the late 1950s, and my mother stayed home and became a housewife. She did not go crazy, or hear voices, or take mind altering drugs. she DID keep the house clean, she made sure my brother and I were clean, she cooked meals for us. My dad worked a job outside the home, provided money for the household bills. My mother NEVER had to beg him for money. Shed didn't even have to ask him for money. He gave her money, both to spend on the house and for herself. There was no tension between them that I could ever tell. So I don't know where these women of today are getting their stories from, but my family wasn't one of them.
A house wife use to be one of the most respected positions a person could have. Taking care of the needs of your family. Educating them in morals, values, school. Many house wives had degrees. Man how things have changed and we wonder why kids are so broken, MOMs they have failed this youth as well as the lack of fathers in the home.
That is just not true. Women didnt have to start working just because the economy was bad but also because being a homemaker was widely underappreciated by men and their kids. This is what I believe: look for a partnership. A man and a woman can both work part time and both take care of the kids. Thats how it should be, equally and fair. If a woman wants to be a full time mom then she shouldnt be shamed for that! its everyones own choice. But we live in 2023, I didnt get a degree from an ivy league school just to stay at home full time. You can be a mom and work. You can be a dad and work. Lets share and work together as partners!
Women fought for rights to vote, to education, to join the workforce so they could be financially independent and not become vulnerable to societal evils or abusive men.
I don't think so. The housewife/stay at home mom has always at large at the least been undervalued. It was just a given, because now men are shouting they want the traditional wives but still many talk about it like it's not work or hard.
@@_chapternumberone_8782Okay, *that* is not true. Literally one of the prime examples can be seen in what happened in the GDR. The government needed more workers than all the men and they tried to get women to work using propaganda first and later they wanted to force them. It didn't work. The women fought to stay at home and care for their families. And that can be seen in a lot of areas and times. This has been a thing for centuries, if not millenia, all over the globe and only modern feminism has changed the narrative. You can easily find proof of how much women enjoyed being a homemaker throughout history and if you look at actual homemakers online you'll also see genuine smiles and very happy vibes all over. My Instagram feed is almost exclusively homemakers and nature content and I always feel better instead of worse after going on it for a few minutes because the vibes of my feed are a blessing
Used to be. It's used to be. How do SO MANY PEOPLE make it through school without understanding and using proper grammar? Used, past-tense. Supposed, past-tense.
My husband and I are traditional, I stay home and he works. We are both fully happy in our situation going on 14 years. I’m so grateful to have a husband that affords me this life and he shows me every day his gratitude for all that I do for our family.
My husband and I were best friends before we finally admitted our feelings and married. We have remained best friends for our entire marriage of more than 41 years. I guess you could call me a trad wife, but like most that was not all I did! I volunteered in my Church and community, taught many to cook, sew, and crochet. Kept house and raised 3 children with the help of my hubby! My hubby was an Officer in the Air Force and we moved every 3 years. It was difficult to leave friends and familiarity to venture to the unknown. Church helped, always someone to help and new friends to make. I figured out ways to help us settle quickly. So while my trad experience was not so trad, I made the best of it, as I imagine many of us do! lol! Hubby retired, we built our dream home, hubby got a second career and our children grew up and now live their own lives. I look back knowing we made the correct decision for our family! Being a wife and stay-at-home-Mom, as we used to call it, was worth every minute of my time! ❤❤❤
Preach it, Ben!!! Marriage is about making the decision to be faithful to each other and stay together, no matter what. That means sacrifices need to be made by both individuals for the greater good of the family and ultimately for the marriage. My husband and I have been together for over 20 years, and our lives have been a blessing and a rewarding adventure!
Living a Traditional Wife life is amazing❤️ I’m so blessed that my husband was on board for our lifestyle. Our home is peaceful, happy, and healthy. Our children are thriving, as well as our marriage.
Tomorrow is our 47th wedding anniversary, I was a stay at home Mum , my husband has basically been providing for all my financial needs. We made many mistakes together, he has seen me at my most ugly ,I have seen him at his most ugly. We have hated one another, laughed, cried, raged and treated each other badly. But we have always forgiven and now we laugh at how crazy we were and thank God we never got divorced. Our two adult children are loving and devoted to both of us and our five Grand children adore us. Now this man who came into my life when I was just 16 is dying. He has cancer and now I get to be all that I can be for him, it’s my time to give back to him to take this last walk together, I will hold him while he dies and I will be honoured to do this when the time comes. He will be surrounded in so much love as he is now. We don’t talk about the hard times we remember the good time and I remember how great this man has been and how much he has done for his family. We will be separated for a short time until I see him again in glory. If this is traditional then I embrace it with my very being.
15 years and going strong... ROOKIE! My Bride has been helping me succeed for 36 years. Great job Ben, I enjoy watching your videos. Marriage is a partnership, that is what they are missing.
Exactly. You marry because you love the other person. You commit to your whole life dedicated to the other one. If you aren't prepared for this, then just don't get married. My wife is a stay at home mother. Saying you're trapped in a home is ridiculous! She takes the kids and goes and has fun all the time! More fun than me!
36 Years? ROOKIE!! lol My husband and I have been building memories for just over 43 years. 😉 And yes, great job, Ben. I'm SO waiting for the pendulum of normalcy to swing back from the left. I'd be happy with it settling in the middle.
I have been a feminist 😅🤮 and I am now a trad wife. I don’t regret becoming a trad wife. I was extremely unhappy as a feminist and I’m super embarrassed thinking back to those days…
Thanks for sharing! By you sharing this it gives so many women hope that they have the ability to change if they would like. Nothing is permanent in life, we are always growing and changing. There are so many things I have learned and changed as well!
You can still be a feminist and follow traditional roles I really believe that Feminism at its core is about advocating freedom of choice, opportunity, health, respect & well-being of women. Glad you're happier✨️
A hundred years ago, this may have been true. I would pretty confidently bet that your view here would not only be shared by a vanishingly tiny minority of self described feminists, but it would also be met with utter disdain and hostility by that same vast majority of self described feminists.
@Aseabasplace You are a maid/ a servant with no salary. When you are discarded (and you will be) Nobody will want you and nobody will give you a serious self supportive job.
Marriage is a partnership. In service to each other, as one flesh, we make each other better. He’s there to pick up the slack when I’m floundering, and I do the same for him when he’s struggling. He’s the rudder, I’m the sail, and that’s how our boat moves and stays afloat. Married 20 years this year, 2 wonderful boys that are the absolute joy of our lives!
Especially in society now where there’s a school shooting every week I plan to homeschool my son and be more at home with him. I’m not bothered by this because his safety is the most important thing to me so if I need to be a SAHM then I will. It’s not as black and white as people act like it is
This!! If I decided to go to college or pick any of the jobs I fancied as a child, I never would’ve met my now husband. And never would’ve had my three amazing kids now (and planning more in the future). I’m a homemaker. But there’s so many more amazing things in my life because of that, than there ever would’ve been had I gone another route. I’m also starting homeschooling this year. ❤ simply couldn’t be happier.
My wife worked or stayed home when it made sense at different phases of our lives. We haven't always gotten it exactly right, but an attitude of mutual respect and support and a desire to serve each other and our children helped a lot.
And these emotionally unhinged kids raging against other women's traditional choices think they will get more satisfaction from "community". Doesn't seem to be making them very happy...
I'm 30 and grew up in a traditional family in Ireland. My grandmother was a housewife and mama in the late fifties and sixties and seventies. She was so happy to give her job up to provide a a lovely home for her kids. She said she had more time to do hobbies and read more books when her chores were done and kids were in school. My mother said she was so much more happy when she gave up her job as she got to be at home everyday and look after the people she loved
I'm a trad wife now because I found that role more fulfilling than working. My husband and I are partners in everyway and he's proud of me. We don't have children but I help to care for our aging parents. I've created a beautiful home that's full of love, happiness, and peace. I learn as many skills as I can in case there is some sort of societal collapse. I work out and do a lot of self-care which has kept me in good shape and I look much younger than my age. I find it extremely odd that other women will tell women who are happy that they shouldn't be. It boggles my mind. It's like, "Oh, you have a happy marriage, life, and family? You're really a slave." Um, no. I could do whatever I want at any time and I'd have my husband's full support. I thought feminism was supposed to be about choice. I've made mine. I'm grateful for my loving & comforting husband and I show him my gratitude everyday, and it's reciprocated. But, I guess if these women have never felt what that's like and are then poisoned by woke indoctrination they can't help but voice their demeaning opinions against women like me. I have to say, they sound very envious and depressed.
Ditto - 32 years. I started out working and independent, (wouldn’t give that up for just anybody, so you have to be sure)…. but once we realized it was cheaper for me to stay home and healthier for us both considering stress, and better food, etc. I stopped working. it was a mutual decision and we’ve both been much happier for it.
Amen. And I don't do much "self care" per se, and have fail to work out and stay in shape since no longer dairy farming ( I was in fantastic shape, except my thighs were always big), but also look lots younger than I am. Part of that is genes ( looked too young in my 20s), part of it is eating healthy and a good Vit. C and drinking plenty of good water, and part of it is in what I haven't done, like drink alcohol often, party, eat fast food or wear makeup or other exposure to toxins and chemicals near as much as the typical modern American. So, I'm wondering if, by your lifestyle, you also do or don't do many of these things, and self care aside ( and I'm not bashing healthy amounts of that), maybe still would look young. Also just from being happy and living a meaningful life.
I'm working on becoming financial able to support a wife and children. I love the idea of a traditional family with traditional values. But it's a very difficult task. The economy sucks, it's hard to find a woman who feels the same, and it's getting to a point were you're almost looked down on for having that lifestyle. Still going for it though.
I don't think that lifestyle is looked down on. I'm a trad wife and ALL the women I meet wish they didn't have to work. They wish they could stay home and raise their children instead of sending them to childcare. Half their paycheck goes to pay someone else to take care of their kids. My husband's friends are jealous of him because he can provide for his family. I am so blessed to have a man that can take care of the family. I pray the right woman comes into your life that is on board with your goals. Even if you start small (work full-time, get married, live in an apartment, pinch pennies) eventually you'll climb the ladder and it will be easier to care for your family. When you're in love, money isn't a big deal. Blessings❤
Thank you Ben. I am a traditional wife - stay at home mum - whatever you want to call it. When I was “young and single” I ”worked” - serving who? Some corporate monkeys of some kind. Now I have five children from baby to teen with my wonderful husband and I am with them full time and home educate; he goes out to work hard and I work hard in the home. I work harder at something more fulfilling than I could ever have had any other way, and I feel I have finally found my purpose and everything about my own character and path has become so much stronger and more authentic in this role. I do not get “paid”, so people disprespect my choice constantly. We struggle to make ends meet. But I would not change it for the world - it is real, valuable and the absolute foundation of everything that is worthwhile, at least to us. Nothing makes more sense. I get so tired of the very young, very opinionated and overly cynical women who have probably not got an ounce of the experience I have, yet feel completely qualified to judge my life and that of many other dignified and whole and strong women.
Dear Daily Wire, Please grant your editing team a kick-ass raise to congratulate them for their absolute masterclass of hilarity and timing. Sincerely, Anybody with a sense of humor
And their whole notion that “men will just use you and throw you away” is SOOO degrading 🤦🏻♀️ my gosh… I have seen so many wonderful men who dedicate their entire lives to the happiness of their families, who are so loving and caring and yet they are being degraded like this. It truly breaks my heart. And what does this teach young men? That all that they are is a heartless monster? I truly worry for my little brother because how is he supposed to have confidence and grow in society while women like them devalue men💔
It's also a self-fulfilling prophecy. They don't value marriage -- worse, they devalue it -- and hence engage in short-term flings and hence deincentivise men to look for a woman without disposing of her afterwards. After all, if all you have to offer is short-term engagement, then all men will buy from you is exactly that.
To be fair that’s not what they’re saying. They’re saying that you’re more likely to be left with nothing if you leave all your finances in the hands of someone else than making sure you have some level of independence. It’s not saying men will use women, it’s saying that women should strive for security and be more empowered. That doesn’t have to be interpreted as devaluing men.
@@turtle2106 even if that’s what she meant in that video, i have seen countless other videos similar to hers where they insult men and call them names and say that they are literally worthless. I do agree that people must have financial independence. What i don’t agree with is when people say men have no worth.
I would consider myself to be a trad wife. I cook and clean. And look after my children. And. I will be starting homeschooling my children. Because I believe that a good Christian family values are important. Because a family that prayers together stay together and it was Christianity that build the Western world ✝️🛐
I'm not religious however as a child we attended church on Sundays, as a result we knew and interacted with a lot of folks in the community and I will say that IMO it instilled respect and a sense of pride in one's neighborhood. I do believe that church has/would benefit kids today more than the church of social media that tends to only install h*tred, fck'd up values and demonize our children, schools nowadays aren't much better. I think home schooling is going to become more popular, a great way to shield/educate, cheers.
I've lived in a small Christian college town my whole life and I'll just say church is probably good for them but a very strict to the point of being a little crazy upbringing will actually make them break and go wild when they get a little freedom from their parents. Also 4 out if the 5 women my husband had an affair with were good little raised Christian gals from that college.
I have a " trad wife" Funny thing... she does not brag about it, she does not make TikTok films about it ... she just IS. Every day I realize more and more that my Boomer generation is blessed with these high value women.
I don’t care what generation you’re a member of because this current generation is one of children being programmed to sell sex and castrate themselves to be with the “in crowd”, don’t feel blessed but rather be indignant at what schools and media are doing to our children. Great look at the bright side but don’t settle into a mindset that it’s not your problem…. Please.
First, congratulations on 15+ years Ben. Second, all I want is to be a traditional wife. I'm not gonna say trad cause it's stupid. I want to be a stay at home mom, and hopefully work from home selling costumes or clothing items I make, I want my husband to be the main provider so I can focus on the home and children. I grew up with my stepmom being a stay-at-home mom and it's something I have huge respect for. Traditional wives are more independent than people realize because while the husband is away working, she's home taking care of everything typically by herself. That's Independence
Worth to point out that these tradwife tiktoker is still earning money from making videos. They're not just cooking, cleaning, looking like a 50s suburbia wife, except when they're filming. Also, ben's wife is an accomplished doctor. Far away from the perfect 50s traditional wife fantasy. I feel like all extremes are stupid. Like modern feminist vs tradwife and incel vs alphamale.
The Trad wives are the truly fortunate, truly blessed to have a husband who doesn’t expect all the traditional aspects being handled plus expects the wife to pay half of all the bills while he spends his free time having fun with his ‘buddies’ while her days off are spent catching up on household chores.
@@coolcurly9736 Take dating very seriously, but note that he doesn't need to be rich. He just has to be willing to work hard at a job that will meet the needs of his family, and you both have to be willing to budget and get by with less. We don't happen upon these men by accident, btw. Go to church!
I mean yeah that would be lame. My husband started out that way when I was not yet a trad wife. Lol We married due to pregnancy alone but a few years in before divorce we found Jesus. ❤ Accepted salvation and once we were both saints it changed our world! Our marriage has grown into an unexpected success, our family is cohesive and we are very content. Over a decade married. But we both had to shift our values and realise marriage is about serving one another. As it says in the Good Book. It's not about one or the other only. As today's leftists try to twist it...
@@smittysmeeeI did. Lol Well....unique situation...but my husband and I met one another before saved. Fell in and out of love, I found out I was pregnant and told him to propose or else! Lol Even though family and friends said don't get married, and abort etc...I think God was speaking to my conscience. It was a struggle and we almost divorced a few years in, until he found Jesus, once he was a saint I started to rediscover my faith and recognize what being Christian means. (I grew up "Christian-Catholic"). Miraculous timing...the Bible speaks of three ways one can divorce under the eyes of the Lord. We recognized our marriage was valid and decided to recommit to one another. He became traditional and so did I over a short time. We learned through the word of God that we are to serve one another. Overcoming our pride was major, and learning how to love as saints. Priorities shifted and we are now happily married for over a decade. ❤ We haven't found a church that aligns with Christianity as in the Bible unfortunately. Church can be anyplace where 2-3 people gather in his name though so we have church in that sense. Study the word and practice our apologetics. 🕊️☮️ Also to note every church I've been to prays in large groups. I simply don't know where in the Bible it says Christians should do so. 🤷♀️ I'm working on a prayer closet! The Lord has blessed us with enough success to have a decent home with a walk in closet. 💙🪻 Score!
i agree with some of that, im not married but from what i seen marriage if a 50/50 thing, but also, the man has to make a fuck ton of money to literally pay for everything, because of economy
My wife is a doctor and has recently admitted that feminism lied to her. She’d drop her doctor role in a heart beat to stay home, take care of the house, and be a better mom, than she perceives she is today (she’s a great mom).
I am a Trad wife. If I'm completely honest, just being a mother can be isolating at times. So, yeah add a husband and a marriage it can still be isolating at times & busy as hell. But I believe it's literally up to ourselves to have a fuller life. I started working on myself way more, taking me time & started a company.
This is where you need your friends or family to come in and lift you up. I learned the value of that the hard way. I hope you find your people to help you when you feel isolated ❤❤. A community is truly a gift.
I find the feminists that say that a trad wife will end up being fully isolated and there not gonna be able to do hobbies is a complete lie trad wives have always had hobbies my grandma used to sew and make clothes and other things and there is not a single thing that says a trad wife can't go out with friends or family all it is a a simple and happy way to live life
Yes having hobbies & interests will save your sanity!! I am a mother as well and it feels good to be doing something outside of being a mother and a wife ❤️ We have our own dreams, goals and aspirations too.
@@gracey_bun I understand ad hominem attacks, like the one leveled against Ben's wife. I understand straw man arguments, like the one leveled against Ben and his wife.
The childless marriages trend makes me so sad. My entire childhood I had no one literally and delt with addiction from 12-17 I didn't care what drug it was as long as it fucked me up enough to forget how awful my life was and how awful I felt. PTSD, anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder etc etc iv been on a long list of different medicaids that just never did crap but f me up. I had my 1st child right after I turned 19 when I became pregnant with my son I couldn't take the medication I was on anymore I decided after I had him I was done taking medication. I went from having episodes 4-5 times a week since having kids it only happeneds once a year! I consistent tried to commit suicide since I was 11 my mental health has completely changed since having kids. Even when it do get very depressed I cannot sit in that for weeks/months I have a home, husband and children that need me and I push right through it and it passes. They are my reason for being on this earth I used to wish I would just get in a car crash or something I was so tired of being abused as a child, looking back now at all the abuse, addiction, 6 Miscarriages etc I feel grateful standing where I am now at 25 with my husband and 3 kids every single thing that happened to me, every choice I made, every good and bad thing lead me exactly to this moment and for that I would go through it all again. Is it hard? Hell yeah it's hard but it's also more rewarding and fulfilling then anything iv ever accomplished, any hobby iv ever had, anything iv ever experienced. I feel bad for some younge women who are being indoctrinated with this dumb ass garbage narrative they will never experience or understand what us parents are saying and that's really a damn shame.
She literally addresses ALL their issues in that first video. She explicitly states that, as a woman, you need to find a really good man who you love and who loves you back in order for this sort of relationship to work, or it will indeed turn into a nightmare of servitude. What she's saying is that if you DO find a good man, being a traditional wife and mother can be extremely rewarding - I mean, they're just flat-out ignoring large chunks of what she says in order to make her fit their ideological view of her. And as for the whole dementia thing, I can't speak to men divorcing women, but I will say this: my Dad died of Parkinson's a little over a year ago. Me and Mom took care of him up until the last few months, and it was HELL; his body, his mind, everything was falling apart, and we had to pick up the pieces. It's a horrible, horrible thing to go through; every day is nothing but grief and frustration and disgust and anger at the world - even if we'd been able to afford proper help, it would have been almost as bad. I don't endorse anyone deserting a loved one in their time of need, but if my parents had had any kind of acrimonious relationship - if they'd fought like crazy, if he'd beaten her, anything horrible like that - then I would not have blamed my Mom one bit for throwing in the towel, because you need to really, truly, absolutely love someone when you're taking care of them like that. At a certain point, it's a matter of just keeping going on love, even though it's stopped to be in any way rewarding, and is, in fact, tearing your life apart - love is not just your fuel, at that point, it's your killer. You're drowning in it.
I can imagine, but I would say that it can be slightly less horrible ( less of a psychological feeling of your love-driven commitment killing you) if you have a relationship with God through Jesus, and can lean on Him. Don't get me wrong, it can still be about as hard, that's the temptation, to focus on that and to let Satan win these battles. But looking at Jesus, not the waves, got me through a similar type of highly tormentous and long season once, in much, much better shape than I ever could have been otherwise. Lastly, I recently learned of a very likely link between parkinson's, Alzheimer's and MS with Lyme's disease. And how ivermectin can cure Lyme's. So, may be worth looking into for folk's out there.
“love is not just your fuel, at that point, it’s your killer.” i agree completely. i’ve been saying this idea for the longest time, not that it really matters to the argument but it’s just such a phrase i feel so closely tied to. mine was always “love, the blade and the bandage”
Ben’s editing team deserves a Dundee Award 😂
Dundee Award 😂
Lol 😂😆
I have one!!!
I was thinking the exact thing. I’m dying
Whopper whopper jr whopper
😂 I was a trad wife in the 90s. Amazing that I was so happy with so many hobbies and friends. No depression meds or lobotomies were necessary! Those poor miserable souls.
Thank you for your contribution to society 😊
Right? How they are assuming because you chose home instead of corporation that you can't possibly have anything else going on in your life at the same time. Total opposite, you have much more opportunity for that.
They seem to think all women were locked up in their homes during the day instead of taking their kids out to visit other mothers so their kids could socialize with peers.
Yep most SAHM are multi talented. Compare them to your average 30+ feminist who doesn't even known how to cook 😂
Stay at home wife/mom that is the secretary to her husband as we own our own business. I’ll take my stay at home wife/mom life & being my husbands secretary any day lol #TradWifeLife
It’s crazy we’ve gotten to the point that what used to be standard mother is now a “tiktok trend”.
This is why you shouldn't listen to people who tell you culture doesn't matter gas is expensive. Both are important.
writing cursive is a trend now (write your name without lifting the pen)😂 this is generation stupid, remember?
Sorry but you can't turn a hoe into a house wife, all these females pretending to be trad all of a sudden is a complete lie.
They just want someone to pay their bills so they can get piped by Chad and Tyrone while their kid is at school
Society is just fulfilling biblical prophecies.
Not a coincidence
Being a trad wife (to a good husband) is actually very freeing and liberating. I don’t worry about my kids because they’re with me. I don’t work to make other men richer, I work to make my husband and I’s and our children’s lives better. I am free to go and do what I want when I want, and my favorite part of the day is when my husband comes home and we are all together.
That's extremely shameful to not contribute anything towards good future and money for your children. Being self sufficient is what makes you an adult.
@@May04bwu 🤣🤣🤣 ok buddy
Do you know her home situation? Do you know her husband is making less or actually enough for the family to survive and also live comfortably and enjoy the future? If she doesn't need to work, she doesn't need to. I get the inflation and rising expenses thing, one can still opt for home business like making clothes or selling stuff grown locally but it's an option one can choose and doesn't have to be shamed if they don't.@@May04bwu
Some ppl are just keyboard warriors @@Bullsandbarrels24
You don't want to work to make other men richer? Then why's your husband doing the same? Shouldn't this principle apply to you both? Are you against capitalism or simply being able to work?
She was right about picking the right partner though. I was a trad wife and my husband treated me like crap for over 25 years. He expected nothing but service, service, service. If I ever asked him for anything, his response would be "why cant you do it?" Being a wife, homemaker, and mother is a blessing. I loved everything about it. Except for the way he treated me.
I love that you shared this, and your totally correct!!!
Being a sahm doesn't necessarily mean your husband will treat you with respect, and see your contributions as just as worthy as his.
Unfortunately, alot of men are skewed in their idea of service, thinking that it's gives them superiority over their wives. Just because a man works it doesn't mean he shouldn't have any responsibilities at home, or to his wife.
There should be a mutual respect and love for each other.
I'm so happy to have been able to spend the last 16 yrs at home with my children, but I would have appreciated respect for the opportunities I gave up in doing so, since I am intelligent and more than capable of bringing in an income to support myself.
I'm sorry for your experience but thank you for sharing to shed light on all aspects of different marriages
U deserved so much beta. Hpe u hav it beta now. 💜🦋😇
@@tinasmith7630 Aw thank you so much. I certainly do! Although I swore I never wanted another relationship EVER again, I met someone and not only does he really appreciate all the little things I do, but he treats me like gold. As I treat him.
I like that she shares how to be a trad wife and also gives helpful tips to avoid being abused for being a trad wife
The irony of the gal saying “don’t look for fulfillment in your children because they can be taken away,” is that often the people who have their kids taken away are the people who didn’t make their kids the priority.
You are correct. I don't have kids, but if I did, someone would have to step over my cold corpse to get them to take away.
And it's not like your community can't be taken away, either. It's not like it can't be ruined by drugs and crime or job loss and business closings that leave it a ghost town. It's not like your friends and neighbors won't die or move away.
Everything changes all the time. You can't say, don't value this thing because it's impermanent. Everything is impermanent.
I agree. She also doesn't realize that applies to almost anything. Careers can be taken away. So many people found fulfillment in their careers until covid hit. So many people lost their jobs and are still being laid off in some places.
The mindset of these people is that they are not supposed to have any responsibility, not even for themselves mind you, but somehow everyone else is supposed to be responsible for all of their needs, and the justification for this is, they exist and their very presence is so wonderful that alone is sufficient compensation for you fulfilling their needs and desires.
They are entirely delusional
Exactly, #Catch22
Well spoken.
Well, I was a tradwife before it was on TikTok. When I married my husband I gave up my career and stayed home and looked after our babies and cooked and cleaned and later homeschooled our kids. My husband works a 12 hour shift and takes out the trash and mows the lawn and does the pool cleaning. He also helped with the kids. He literally never stops working. I’m amazed at him everyday. I thank his mom all the time for raising such an amazing man!! I’m never going to say it was easy. We sacrificed a lot. We struggle sometimes (especially in this economy) but we know that the most important thing in this life is family!!
Btw, I’m not on any drugs either that includes pharmaceuticals.
I have no idea where that woman thing got the idea that 50’s housewives were on heavy medications and drugs. Yea there were some really nutso health and beauty trends that decade, but that came more from a place of ignorance and curiosity than desperation. People then were exponentially happier and better off than we are now, the stereotypes of beatings and isolation are almost entirely false. The biggest issue with the 50’s that should cause people to not want to idolize that decade was the civil rights movement and how black people were treated. That was very real, that was a huge problem, but women in general were just fine.
Great comment!! And so true.
cause you are addicted to the best drug ever. something you can't get from the drug companies. Love
I was a trad wife for 20 years. I did all the yard work, house work, and raised kids. He cheated all he could, I hardly had any money, I had no friends or family to help me out and I was very isolated. It was rough until I left. It can be incredible but having to take care of 3 kids and sick, elderly parents (until they died) with an abusive husband was hell. Kids are grown, parents are dead, and I'm divorced starting to live life free and happy.
I'm going to guess that Ben has family that helps and supports him, as well as a nanny for when he and his doctor wife cannot be there.
@@uppitywoman3647 yes we need to be careful who we marry. Without a good mentor. It’s hard to know what kind of man to marry when we are in our 20’s.
I dunno, I'm no expert, but the hell I saw some of my friends go through as they took their 6 week old babies to daycare was real. Every one of them sobbed for at least the entire first day back to work, if not the whole first week or more. And the milestones and memories they missed, the fun, the bonding, the teaching...
Picking up your kid at 5pm 5 nights a week to quickly feed them some frozen fish sticks and get them to bed is not what I wanted for my family or myself, and my husband agreed, so we made a plan. We got by with less in one way and with so much more in a much more important way.
I'm not saying you can't make it work, but it's very sad that moms today are taught they don't have a choice, and how we are reviled for choosing our families over our careers. There is no more important job than creating good, decent, kind, hardworking people.
Reading this made me emotional, I’m a stay at home mom and I can’t even imagine sending my kids to day care as babies and can only imagine how painful it is for moms who feel they don’t have a choice. But sometimes people have to work, life’s hard and so expensive. I feel for any struggling parents out there.
Not disagreeing, just wanted to throw this in. My wife doesn't work most of the year, but in the spring she works at a greenhouse with my mother and aunt, and agian at Christmas selling trees. During those two seasons, she brings our daughter to daycare two or three times a week for 3 or 4 hours a day, and it's been really good for her. We live on a farm, so even though she could just run around the greenhouse while my wife works, any chance for her to interact with other kids is an opportunity we couldn't afford to miss. Just wanted to say sometimes daycare is really good for kids.
@@merlin4real if the only contact a kiddo gets with other kids is through daycare, then man, yeah it's super important! Kids need to be able to play with other kids. It also gives mom a break to focus on other responsibilities.
My daughter has learned SO much at daycare! Remember it takes a village to raise a child. I have the weekend with her and she’s learned more there then my other friends kid who hasn’t been to childcare and is around the same age. She honestly would get so bored at home eventually and some days you just need a break. She loves playing all day with other kids.
Facts. Well said.
I'm a trad wife and I am proud of it. I have been married for 34 years
I do not drink or do drugs.
My daughter married her first b/f but they dated for two years before. He adores her and she also stays home. I love my son in law and I know she is safe and well taken care of. I understand this isn't for everyone. But for the ones that live like this. We love it and our husbands seem pretty happy.
I'm also a Tradwife. nearly 10 years married and happy as can be. Love my family and love how we share the yolk of this life as a couple together.
If being a trad wife makes YOU happy I believe you have every right to go on that path. I see nothing wrong with the trad wife lifestyle.
As long as you aren’t putting other women down for not wanting to be a trad wife I see no issues.
@@ohthatsnice7323 trad wives are not anyone down, the FEMINISTS are the ones putting trad wives down smh, I have so much respect for trad wives who chose to look after their children without being a slave to a boss
@@muazunais2378 there are plenty of trad wives who put other wives down just like there are plenty of “feminists” who put trad wives down.
A real feminist wouldn’t put other women down for living their lives.
Let’s not pretend being a trad wife means you can’t do any wrong. There are always bad people in a community, there are bound to be bad trad wives just like there are bound to be bad feminists. Your logic is stupid.
Better a trad wife than a single mom with a deadbeat dad.
I'm an attorney, I run my own firm, and I'm a trad wife. I cut back to only taking one or two clients at a time once I had a child. I don't want to spend my life paying someone else to raise my child and take care of my family. I love it. I don't understand the trad wife hate. This is the natural order of things.
I’m starting law school in the fall. What law do you practice? I’d like to ultimately be a trad wife but I can’t be a house wife indefinitely. I like to work and I like my vocation. I do however believe strongly in raising my own kids and finding the time and ability. How do you do it?
I'd love to know too as I am an attorney and it gets really busy. I aspire to be a trad wife. At the same time, I do not want to give up my career entirely.
I guess what these people are asking you is did you become a traditional wife after you worked hard to have your own firm and then you were able to cut back to working less hours ?
They're asking you how you did it since both of them are also in the same industry and want to become traditional homemakers also .
@@gardensofthegods the story is a bullshit lie. That is why the person does not answer. Do not believe a word, when you see these fairy tale like life stories. They always forget to mention things like having ultra rich parents or husband or some other essential detail.
I am the child of a trad marriage, with parents together for 66 years. My mother ran the home, but later, when we grew up and left, helped run the family business. I think that this is true partnership, where partners may have different roles but the joint effort produces something wonderful. A whole that isn perhaps geater than the simple sum of the parts.
I spent four years of marriage trying to be the “do it all wife”. It was a disaster. I was trying to balance being a mother with two jobs, sometimes three, and full time college, and keeping up with the housework and I. Was. Miserable. I thought I needed to provide financially to the house to be a good wife. I thought my Worth was in my accomplishments. But I looked around at our disaster of a house, looked at the pile of take out bags piling up in the trash can, and tried to put my son to bed as he cried because he wanted to play with me but I had to hop on a zoom meeting for the thousandth time that day and take care of business. I decided ENOUGH. I didn’t even know about the TikTok movement at the time, but I decided I was going to be more traditional all on my own. I started dressing more feminine, I quit my jobs, I decided to take a semester off school, and the transformation in my family has been amazing. My son isnt nearly as crabby and angry as he used to be. I have time to go on dates with my husband. I cook meals most of the time and our house is cleaner than it’s been in years. We even had enough time to go to the park yesterday and play soccer as a family! That was unheard of before! Taking on more traditional gender roles saved my family from falling apart completely. I’ll never go back.
This a great point, and it's why I don't understand how Ben can criticize these women when his own wife is not traditional. There's no way she can be a doctor who inevitably works 40+ hours a week, which may include irregular and overnight hours or being on call at any point and somehow fulfill all the responsibilities of a traditional wife.
I identified with you 100% Unfortunately, I can't quit because I'm the main breadwinner.
Thank you for this .. a had my baby at 17 back in the 1900s but I thought I had to be the independent woman and not be at home looking after my child because I thought my mom did that so I'll prove I don't need anyone..... Long story short basically there is nothing wrong with wanting to look after your family..... Society has a big responsibility for how people think.... I was a stubborn person and thought proving to others made me stronger..... I had nothing to prove because the love from my daughter the love we have you can not teach or learn... Just love do your best and that all that matters xxx
The problem is women being expected to be part of the workforce, thats making ot harder for you
I plan to be a TRAD HUBBY! That means, also, putting my family above my work, but still providing. Many men, in fact, are unfit to be husbands and fathers, like my unmarried brother. He's vice-president in a large company with contracts with the federal government.
Many women don't realize how we traditional men, DON'T WANT FULL-TIME WORKING WIVES! We want THE OPPOSITE! I want my wife to bear children to us. If she can find time from taking care of us--while I DO intend to help with the house and kids, by the way--I want her to pursue her career in opera. My stance is, while we don't have children, she can do that. When the children are grown, or close to it, she can do that. I don't want either of us to forget about family while the children are right in front of us.
You made the right choice! Especially when the children are young. 🙂
As a woman who had a six figure “career”, didn’t marry until I was 29 and is now a stay at home mom of 2 precious little girls, let me just say how much happier I am now than I was when I was single and “killing it” in the workplace.
I’m so thankful that I get to lead the life I do and wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Your little girls are thankful too, although they don't know it. And nor should they. A mom who is there for them all the time is their right. You're doing it right.
My Dream!!! Would rather say "Yes sir" to my man than to my boss lol. Turning 30 in December and this is still my hope. I've always been a homebody, and as a first born, handling the home is like default. In my later teens, I really came to appreciate my mum and her view for her home. She had wished that they were financially stable enough for her to be a housewife, but even with work, she still tried her best.
Absolutely agree
❤ me too!
you know nobody in the world says things like stay at home mom people just say a wife ❤
I was recently told I’m a “trad wife” and realized it’s a compliment! Proud trad! ✌🏼 👗 We’re saving society. Truly.
Hopefully! ❤ I'm in a blue state and don't know any local trad wives. Bittersweet label. I think we are what wives should be .... just as my opinion. But yeah if differentiating I'll proudly rock it too. 😅 ❤
That's aweaome! Maybe (even if it is tiktok) I'm happy that there's other people out there who get it and we are able to share a love of tad wife lifestyle. I don't think I count as tad wife per say, but I'm with ya =)
Same girl! I’m a stay at home mom and also homeschool, people look at me crazy but I’m more rewarded at home then at a job that keeps me away from my children and husband. I love my family and yes sometimes is a lot but I’m grateful to be in this position. American families are set up to fail because of all the separation.
Yes!!! I’m BLESSED to be 26 and be a “trad wife” and be able to stay home with my kids.
What would anything else be? I don't see how it's possible to be anything else lol.
As someone who desires a trad wife I will say that just because a lady is a trad wife doesn't mean that she has to stay in the home 24/7. Women in the 40s and 50s who were trad wives still went out and did stuff like ladies night or day out in town and went on walks in the park.
exactly. also tradwife is still a thing in asia and many other things
Of course, u Usa people are lost u have no idea what tradition is
Yeah when it was more common the women and children were far more socially involved. Women who did this were probably more likely to spend time with friends assuming they were of the middle or upper class. Lower class would be forced to work harder at home of course just like their men.
Not true. That poor class thing is so made up. Ask your grandparents. @@edwardrook8146
@@ScottDieken
And they have lower fertility rates there than in the West largely because most women there really don’t want to stop making their own income to get married. Also, women not earning money for their families isn’t really traditional if you consider how people lived before the 1950s. The vast majority of adolescent girls and young unmarried women worked in domestic service for instance, farmers wives and daughters would butcher meat, bring their four to the meal, care for livestock and help out with the harvest before bringing goods to sell at the market, there were most milliners were women and other women were websters, brewsters, baxters and the origin of the word spinster was a type of work that was known to pay quite well so single unmarried women would often do it to support themselves- spinning, many women and girls as far back as the 1500s were apprenticed and involved in skilled trades and married women would join guilds under their husbands names.
The prevalence of many women not making money to support their families alongside the men of the house is a fairly modern one, about as traditional as remote control television.
This doesn’t mean that work wasn’t gendered or that women doing certain tasks around the house wasn’t the norm, but the concept of women not earning money to support their families specifically is quite modern, as it is more traditional for most women to earn money, unless you belonged to the leisure classes in which neither the men nor the women worked for a living.
Perhaps the reason so many women are uncomfortable with not earning any money on their own despite eagerly wanting a family and children and enjoying doing things for their families like cooking is because the former is artificial and most people, men and women, get some satisfaction out of bringing money to support the family alongside their spouses and throughout the vast majority of human history humans have been able to balance women earning money with them also caring for children (of course part of the value of a 2 parent household is that it allows the flexibility that is important for altering one’s schedule at different times).
What’s more, children need the presence of their fathers as well as their mothers in order to develop well, not just their father’s money. If women are working even if it’s only part time or with a more flexible schedule to allow for the needs of pregnancy and recovery after giving birth, nursing and the like, that gives the father that much more time to bond with his children, while if the father is out working 10 hours a day, the children have less time to bond with their father and benefit from the unique style of parenting that fathers provide (for example, there are even differences with how fathers bond with their children such as the fathers being more playful and engaging in more rough play such as swinging their children around or tickling them which helps to teach the children how to take safe risks and distinguish between genuine danger and challenges that are safe to face, and makes them more confident and assertive, and they bond with their children in ways that teach them from a young age through play about rules and how to behave appropriately. The kinds of bonding activities mothers engage with meanwhile build the child’s sense of security and self and foster healthy attachment, which helps the child bond in a healthy way in their interpersonal relationships). “Poor little rich kids” have more difficulty turn into emotionally healthy and stable adults.
That’s not always how it is with this kind of “traditional” marriage setup and some do manage to find the right balance, but the idea that all you have to do is have the woman caring for home and hearth all day while the father spends his time making money is overly simplistic and ignores the nuance that fathers also need to spend enough time bonding with their kids and supporting your wife doesn’t merely mean giving her money, when she is pregnant and post-partem she will need him at home more often and when their newborn baby is waking up every two hours and his wife is still recovering from childbirth he will need to take care of most of the childcare so she can get better.
Likewise, for many couples especially after children are weaned and their mother has fully recovered from giving birth it might be a good idea for her to take on som of the family’s financial burden (it need not be a perfectly even split as she may still be taking care of more of the childcare and/or housework) so her husband especially if he’s working particularly long hours, since that is reducing his ability to bond with his children which can stunt rhetoric development and put a strain on their marriage.
That double whopper cut had me in tears… your producers are having too much fun
I was dying and singing along hahaha
Seriously that was gold
Wait till that lady realizes she is a trad wife and white as all. 😂 seriously, she reminds me of most of the Self-hating Democrat voters I know. All talk about how conserve values are terrible values while they actually live them themselves yet vote the country into ruin. I knew one person who was going to raise her child completely gender neutral until her little girl gravitated towards fluffy pink dresses and the whole thing went out the window, but she kept saying she gave that little human the opportunity to be a little boy. 🙄 that particular liberal is so hypocritical, they would have their mask down when you ran into them at the store so they could drink their togo latte and like their fingers 2020, but they absolutely shamed those online who dare pull down their mask or say they kept working as she expected even one but her butt to work. 🙄 I think the reason why liberals hate the nasty conservative stereotypes is because they actually are those nasty stereotypes. And from my experience Democrats are far more likely to be racist and hypocritical, and truly out of touch with reality or actively doing what they know is wrong. Democrats are sad little hypocrites. So mad at Trump they don’t see how they should be madder at their evil hypocritical selves and party.
have had that same song stuck in my head for days
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I know 😭😭😭😭
As a woman approaching 50 who has always chosen to be a traditional wife/mom, I can say that this life choice has brought much joy and fulfillment. Now that my children are older and in school, I choose to spend my time helping others and being available to minister to my family's needs. I have a college degree, am a voracious reader and even run a small business from home. I applaud fellow women who embrace this lifestyle. Younger women have engaged me to help them budget, learn how to cook and can food. I love coming to their homes and holding their children and encouraging them as they make choices (traditional values) that our society no longer recognizes as valuable. Unpopular opinion, but I am convinced that many of the problems in our American society is a result of abolishing the role of traditional gender roles....
@JF you sound wonderful! We’re a military family and I’m a stay at home mom. It’s not always easy but I love my vocation of mother and wife. We’re away from family and that’s something I miss- the help from my mom. That’s wonderful you help younger mother’s with wisdom and guidance. I wish I had that! It takes a village. One thing I’d like to improve is my cooking. God bless women like you. Take care!
@@lovelylotus8787 You as well. I so enjoy helping the younger moms. They just need a break sometimes and gentle help.
Keep rocking it, JF. You're doing noble, honorable work by building your household and helping other women to build theirs. You're strengthening your community and ensuring the stability of the next few generations. I'm proud of you. My wife is also a traditional stay-at-home wife, raising and homeschooling our four kids. I love her; I'm proud of her; I'm proud that I can afford her that life; and I will never divorce her because she gets sick (disgusting Porsche CEO guy). Way to be, JF!
I like ben but he has to reach across the aisle more. I heard from every woment hat is a bit older that back in the days housewomen abused prescription drugs amphetamines etc and these were widely avaliable. the idea that every women will be happy in a traditional sense regarding being a house women is not true. I just think that there shouldnt be judgement on either side. Obv women or men that sleep alot around is prob not good because I believe atleast that were the stats if im remembering vorrect that men and women have problems in monogamous relationships when having lived their entire life before that highly "non-monogamous"
all hes doing in his videos is further devision and just self enrichment
"You can't make being a wife and a mother the center of your entire being"
I consider being a husband and father the center of my being, not my job or my hobbies. The main issue here seems to be that duty to your family appears to be window dressing in modern society rather than your main purpose as a man or woman.
Well said 👏🏼
Beautifully said. Being a wife/husband and a parent are the most important roles that we have in life and it's ludicrous to deny that those roles aren't the center of our being. The problem is that society today has people prioritizing all of the wrong things and embracing selfish and narcissistic behavior.
It’s mask-off stuff for them. Like really? What a shallow life to not even understand why it would be for SOME and respecting it. Like all silly leftist debates, they’re simply being politicians and are lying. At least to themselves, and also AT LEAST about the above-mentioned logical respect for the choice. It’s complete BS
Isn't the man always expected to make being a husband and father the center of their being?
It's interesting how the war against toxic masculinity is fought by virtuizing that same bad behavior. What I typically hear for justification is, "men have been doing it forever".
My husband and children were my life purpose. Our Home was the center of our life. I'm now a widow, kids grown having their own families. I don't regret one day of my life being my husband's helpmate and mostly staying at home. I did work outside the home when we needed extra money for the kids.
My mom had a doctorate from Columbia University in the 1950’s.
She stayed at home and raised my sister and I. When we got older she resumed her career.
That’s what I plan to do
@@Label2000Ok Lady, NEWSFLASH from a young working woman of today with a Doctorate:
Try going to a job interview with a 20 year gap on your CV when you are already in your mid forties. YOU ARE A HUGE NO HIRE FOR ANY COMPANY PERIOD.
You might get lucky if you are hired as cleaning staff or answering phones.
that's REALITY.
@ji8628 Really? so your mother showed up to a job interview with a 10-15 year gap in her CV and she just climbed up the ladder? As a working married child free woman with a doctorate myself, I know for a fact if your mother was able to get a job with an ancient doctorate after 20 years of doing absolutely NOTHING, she did NOT resume her career. that is just reality.
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@@CharlotteFerrariBreton 10 year gap 1958-1968. True she stopped doing research in the lab and worked in a research psych ward in a hospital but she did have a long career after kids. That's what happened. On the other hand - she was probably not normal. She was kind of like a human hurricane and anyone who stood in her way paid the price.
I love how the only anti trad women who did not look completely miserable, was the trad woman who was completely in denial she was a trad woman.
right?! 🤣
I was thinking the same thing.
I'm not sure what she was trying to argue. She defeated her own argument.
@@hunterbidensaidslesion1356 All of them did😅
I think her point was a counter to a point that no one was making about why being a tradwife is only good because she chose it. Well duh, we're trying to convince women to engage more tradwife more, why would we bother forcing them if they don't want them too?
As a trad wife, I've been able to explore all manner of hobbies, had tons of Time with my children, countless lunch & play dates with friends...it's a tough life but I get by... 😂 👸
Trad wife here! We're just so oppressed, aren't we? I heard every first word, saw every first step, taught every letter. I mastered dog training, teach Sunday school, get together with friends for coffee and play dates every week. I might take up piano with my kiddo next, and I'm diving into Middle Eastern cooking after doing Asian cuisine for a while.
Gosh, it's hard. I don't know how we face the day. 😂
Good for you! I have hobbies but can't always get to them (could if I didn't TH-cam tbh lol) I spend a lot of time prepping lesson plans for homeschool. But that can be a hobby in it's own way. 🍎Wanted to be a clinical psychologist, I never would've thought I'd have a love for teaching. I'm definitely grateful to be a stay at home mom & wife, but some days are definitely tougher than others. I'd rather it be tough at home, time with kids as you say, than rough away from home and no energy/time left for my family. I think that's at the core of why it's so important for women to be at home while raising children. It's time you can't get back. No rewind. I don't want someone else raising my kids.
I have a special needs child though. It would be a breeze tbh if I didn't, I'd be starting my own business probably. But for now it waits until my child is old enough to be self sufficient or can learn basics to help out in the family business! ❤
@@Jesuisderetour88Whaaaaat? 🔥🔥🔥That's cool. I am a SAHM/W and just love DIY decorative tasks mostly, some baking, but would love a garden. 🥕 I'm surprised homeschool planning has become a sort of hobby for me. I make my own templates and love thinking years ahead. 🤓
I'm MORE busy as a trad wife of nearly 15 years than I ever was as a single woman! And I don't have roommates that stay up later than I do! Lol! 😂😂😂
This gives me some hope.
I am a proud trad wife. I stay home and raise the kids, care for the house and whatever else needs to be done dealing with my HOME. My husband goes out and works to support all of us. When he comes in from work, he’s got a hot meal ready and waiting. I do his laundry, fix his dinner plate, whatever he needs. I choose this life. He doesn’t have to go bust his ass every single day to provide for us and make sure we are taken care of and have everything we need and damn near everything we want. I appreciate him just like he appreciates me.
I don’t expect him to do anything when he gets home from work except eat, relax and spend time with the kids. He’s a proud father and husband. If he asked me to get his shower ready, you damn right I’m getting his shower ready because I know he will do the same for me.
When he is off of work, he handles everything that I usually handle so I can have “me time”. I love that. I love what he does for me and his little family. He not only loves me, he respects me, as I respect him.
We communicate about everything, we make all decisions together and we parent together. After 26 years without going to bed mad at each other or arguing, we must be doing something right. Did I mention that he has never raised a hand to me, insulted or demeaned me or our kids in any way ? Yeah. He’s a keeper.
Thanks for sharing. My husband is a gem too. He has never been mean. I’m grateful
AMEN!! I’m so happy to hear success stories like this. So many women say they were a traditional wife and it ended miserably. I’m a traditional wife, I’m 27 and my husband is 29, we have only been married 3 years but we love that we have roles. He loves coming home and not having to do anything except be a father, and I love not going to a corporate job. We appreciate and love each other’s effort and wouldn’t change it for the world.
I’m a trad wife no children and I’m excited for life in general it’s a great balance and we never argue go to sleep mad. We love each other dearly and love our roles ❤
@@sharon6981ended terribly because of financial imbalance.
There's no money attached to what you do in the house, so it's basically worthless in the eyes of many people..the society, some husband and most companies if you decided to join the workforce in the future.
Same reason why traditional men would be sad if they have a daughter because in the end they'll change their name and be adopted to their husband family.
Most extreme example is in china with one child policy back then they would abort or unbreath the baby if it's a girl.
I don't see anything wrong being a stay at home mom or dad..just make sure you have the financial security..
Maybe make a tiktok video selling fantasy like these tradwife girl if you're attractive.
Kinda funny to watch, these tradwife tiktoker is basically an independent woman. Making money selling fantasy with 50s aesthetic to horny straight men and gullible women.
That sounds like a great life. 😊
I enjoy being a trad wife. My husband works hard and everything is always done by the time he gets home. He always has a hot meal ready. I do the laundry, gardening, cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc. My husband doesn't have to lift a finger at home, and I'm proud of that. If other women want to be career oriented, good for them is what I say. Everyone should get to proudly choose their own path in life. Why do so many people care what others do, as long as its not hurting anyone else? As long as you and your husband are in agreement, I don't see what it's anyone else's business. I would never bash a career woman for her choice, and I expect no career women to bash me. Everyone mind your business and live and let live.
This is what i can call a fulfilled person . Honestly i could never be a tras women because i loveeeee going out and having a career and creating this ( i am an artist) but i will always respect trad women ( if they are happy with their choice)
One thing i réaliséd is that it’s easy to differnciate a happy and fulfilled trad woman with a not happy one
The non- Happy ones are always forcing other women to have the same lifestyle as them !!
People just don't know when to butt out of other people's business. As long as no one is being abused or neglected, you do what you gotta do for your family. I wish there were more peeps like you out there. - Sincerely, a career lady. :)
absolutely! and that is what feminism is absolutely about. you do you, lady!
We care because this trend is unreal. It only works if you're rich. No normal woman could ever do that.
@@infpt24 We aren't rich. We live very frugally. It shouldn't matter so much to other people how others choose to live their life.
I lived with my sick wife and took good care of her to the day she died; I loved her to the end! And made her happy!
That's very lovely of you. May her soul rest in peace 🙏🏾
May the good Lord continue to bless you.
That's really lovely and the way it should be. I work with elderly people in the community and most of the men will give up on their wives who are ill a lot quicker than most women will with their husbands. There's more often than not a focus on how it is affecting them and their freedom.
This is just what I have seen first hand and of course doesn't reflect every man, but it's what I've noticed. There's no denying that going through illness is very hard on all concerned x
As a “Trad” wife who has been a bread winner in the past but traded the job to better care for my family (I have been working in the home for 15 years now) I will attest that I, my husband, and my children are all happier and better off for the choice my husband and I made to have a traditional dynamic in our household. We have all benefited! Things are far less stressful for all of us! There are still all the stresses of the world but the controllable stress is mitigated. We live much healthier lives! Our foods are healthier, we have more time to get physical exercise, we have more time to talk and connect so there’s a much better mental state and better emotional balance. It’s not a prison sentence! It’s a blessing! And I couldn’t earn enough to pay for the services I am able to provide for our family. I made 6 figures and just the savings of daycare and food costs offset that!
Exactly!!! The cost of paying someone else to care for the kids and the house and to cook our meals far outpaces many of the jobs I would do outside the home. And no one, no matter how good they are at their job, would have the same level of love and motivation to provide these things for my family that I do.
My wife made double average income living in the city, i made 3 times. We could BARELY afford to live owning our 2bd condo in the dirtiest crime ridden area in the city with SHITTY neighbours who complained about our kids LIVING LIFE. We were both physically and emotionally drained because we both had HIGH DEMAND OT required at a moments notice jobs, we had $1/min late fees to worry about on top of the standard daycare charge which happened WEEKLY. When she stopped working and we moved 4+hr away to a small community of 2k, i happened to make another 30k per year and could support our family by myself without the $1600/mo daycare payment (the same amount as my MORTGAGE)
I get home from work and cook dinner. She does deal with the majority of other chores. We are a PARTNERSHIP. She goes out of town to visit family whenever she wants while i continue to work, she hangs out with friends with kids, we actuallt get to spend time and raise our kids.
The cult is trying to scare people away from nuclear families that JUST WORK because yes, there are manipulative people who take advantage.
We went from nearly seperating from all of the stress and BS we had to deal with, to a WORKING FAMILY HOME where im able to actually rest when i get home.
I graduated before my husband and had to work before him and I earned more than him. I didn’t have a problem with it. It’s when our first child arrived that we realized and agreed that we need to switch roles and keep up with it for a while. I feel great about this because I’m the one raising my child and maintaining my home. I wouldn’t want it any other way!
Same!
It's really great to hear this. My wife was a nurse when I met her, and she's probably capable of earning more than I do. She's been working in the home for 4 years now and we're also very happy, for the same reasons you mentioned. It's a very healthy balance for a family with kids.
Proud tradwife here! It's been a blessing to be able to watch my kids grow and take care of everyone!
Same
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Same. ❤ much love from another "tradwife" and "tradmother" from Kentucky! It's not easy, but so so worth it.
Agreed. "Trad wife" - or doing the job you are meant to do - is the best, and most important job in the world. But you have to do it with the right man.
Yes! I am more fulfilled and my family is thriving ❤
My wife and I are both 25 with 2 kids under 2 and she has really embraced being the homemaker and we wouldn’t have it any other way! Very blessed!! Sad to see people looking at raising their children as a burdens. Can’t say it’s easy but it’s fulfilling!
many people can't afford to be on a single person salary.
The editors stemming from Ben all the way to Cooper, and Matt Walsh are just amazing. They are so funny and keep things feeling modern. The whole Daily Wire is an amazing company from the ground up. God Bless.
One of my favorites is when the Whopper ad plays in Ben's head 😂😂😂
@@watchtower0740 same, I died when I saw it
Wow… I guess I am a trad wife - in Germany - and I am absolutely happy with it! I love my husband, love our kids, love our farm and spending every day outside taking care of our animals and growing our own crops. 😂 And trust me: I have enough hobbies to fill my free time.
As for terminal illnesses: Men are actually statistically more likely to catch genetic and other diseases. My mother has been taking care of my father since 2012 now! That’s what marriage is supposed to be. And that’s what’s both sides of our families have done for centuries - and we will continue.
Awww
Man. I wish I had a garden, farm sounds fun but I know that's a ton of work!!! Though you probably get the kids involved. I love that idea... building sufficiency and an intimate connection with natural resources. 💚
@@ari3lz3pp It‘s definitely a team effort but the kids love it. Gives them a sense of autonomy and purpose - which is really (together with a good amount of love and support) all anyone needs to do something. Where do you live? Maybe you can rent a little garden or start planting on your balcony or behind your window. If you are close to the countryside: there are usually always some pieces of land that nobody „takes care of“ - if you can get in contact with the owners and offer them your help in exchange for the crops you grow there and the permisson for a chicken coop - you might get a really good deal or even free access to it. That’s what some elderly people in our village do while they cannot decide on selling their property.
Besides: We became farmers in 2014 - never planned for it but the price & location of the property back then was ideal, so we went for it. I know a lot has changed since then and house prices are crazy these days but if you want to, you can probably still find something!
@@ari3lz3pp That's the second time I've seen you mention wanting a garden. And you're home schooling, if I remember your previous comments correctly. Hello, lesson plans! You've got science, math, and reading right there!😊
@snjprl lol I never would have ‘classified’ myself as a ‘trad wife’ either … but I mainly run the house and our small farm also. It’s a simple but very fulfilling life!!!
just remember that ben is happily married to a woman who is NOT a "trad wife" , she's a well qualified doctor.
because it varies person to person. we shouldn't be so quick to go to the traditional extreme just because we hate the "modern feminist" extreme.
there's a reason traditions changed over time, because those roles did not work for every woman or man in the past. no one should do anything if it's not necessary for them, only for the sake of proving themselves lol.
the whole point is, if a woman decides to be a trad wife, she shouldn't be shamed for it, if that's what she and her husband want and decide is best for themselves and their family.
if a woman decides to work, same applies.
Agreed..heck, even these tradewife tiktoker still technically earn money by cosplaying as those 50s surburbian wife.
Some even set up an online business to achieve 50s tradwife aesthetic, like selling apron, bonnet, etc.
I'm proud of tradwife tiktoker for finding a niche market, but still feel bad mostly for women who think these tradwife tiktoker only cook, clean, etc and not earning a buttload of money from tiktok vids.
They told people to stop working, be a stay at home mom, the caregiver.. meanwhile they themselves are busy making tiktok, earning money.
It would be fine by me if these tradwife promote traditional value and encourage woman to find a way to earn money at the same time.
Women don't need to put a 50 suburbia wife costume to be a tradwife, also giving up their job.. especially in the current economy.
Fully agree. The "trad wife" tiktoker is cringe, just like the responses. I would have liked Shapiro to call that out. Kinda disappointed he didn't given your exact reasoning that his wive is not a "trad wife" at all.
@@Dudldombecause you don't go to med school for so many years, get yourself in debt only to become a trad wife. Being a doctor is a career, not a job, that's why you must have a calling to practice it. Ben's wife has full support from her parents and her in-laws(Ben said it). Also, he has no problem with feminists, he's stating you can't attack people for choosing what to do with their life just because you feel suprior or have unhealed trauma.
And about that online tiktoker, what's wrong in educating women to get into their element, after all, she teaches feminity first, and how to be a trad wife secondly. There is nothing free in this world and education shouldn't be an exception. I grew up without positive feminie figures in my life, they acted like savages, always yelling and criticising. Internet educated me A LOT and I have no problem paying for something I consider useful.
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@@tealeafs3824 are you a man or woman?
@@LarryVasquez82 These trad wives, however, are doing exactly what the Proverbs 31 woman did. None of them ever said anyone had to give up earning money in the home. The point was that she cares for the home, for her husband, and for the children when they come. If she has extra time to spread awareness and do something she loves doing, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. How would it be any different than women who did Tupperware parties or Mary Kay for friend groups?
I had a career. A rewarding one. But also a ton of stress social worker/executive director. Being a ‘trad wife’ is far more rewarding, I feel freer, more fulfilled. I love being at home with my children and serving them and my husband. I’m so thankful that I have a man like him that makes this life possible for me.
YES!! Now that my primary focus is my marriage and my children, I genuinely feel the most fulfilled I’ve ever been in my life.
You are lazy.
I've been both a "trad" wife & a working mom. I absolutely LOVED being a stay at home mom and wife! It really simplified our lives when I was home & I found it very meaningful and joyful ❤
Agree
Me too!
I submit to my husband because I TRUST him, because during our dating history he proved himself to be TRUSTWORTHY. Women who marries men who they don't trust and feel safe enough with to submit to end up being exhausted and bitter because they are managing their homes and their partners. Nothing better than having a man who fights for your wellbeing in the masculine way that ensures the betterment of the family while the woman nurture and cultivates with her "feminine powers". Sort of teamwork 101, you play your part and they play theirs...
Beautifully said, wifeys like you prolong the lives of their husbands, I am grateful women like you exist. Thank you for your service :)
Although, it seems like we trads need to explain that when we say “obey” or “submit”, we mean we let our husbands lead the household in a lot of ways because we respect him for providing everything we have and our families have. A lot of people think it means we become his “b***h” and he bosses us around (which usually isn’t so). Many blessings to ya
Until you are cheated on and potentially left....NEVER be 100% dependent on any human!
Yes! Perfectly said.. and that’s the truth!
@@byrdie89 I'm not blind to the risks and have been in both those situations. After hitting rock bottom I realised two things; one, not all people are apt to be married and worthy of being relied upon... or trusted and two; before blaming your partner look in the mirror and ask yourself what and who are you inviting and settling for with your own behaviour. In my eyes you steal from yourself when committing to someone for life that you can't love with an open heart. God willing we will grow old together
Can we just clap for the editors?
Great job on this one, mega entertaining 👏👏👏
😂😂😂😂😂
Right?! They knocked this out of the park.
I was just about to comment this 🤣🤣
Mark clap for them? they need a standing ovation! what were they on when they put this together? this video had no business having this many good memes
Yes! 😂😂😂
My mum was a traditional wife, and I was a traditional wife .. I have never been lobotomised or highly medicated.. being a traditional wife does not mean you are trapped in your house. I went out whenever I wanted:. Saw my friends almost daily took my children out to socialise with other children and participated in school reading programs and an array of other events outside the house and still managed to care for my family in every way in which was needed.. why are people so dramatic about these things. It’s so unnecessary
Give his editors a HUGE raise
I like the art on your pic
@@camissleepy8542 thanks g
@@Tennn-vu4fn noice
Whooper whooper killed me 😂
You just know he’s tight with money 🤭
I must be getting old. I can't keep track of all of these bullshit "trends." Then again, I'm not stupid enough to have Tik Tok...
😂😂😂
I’m 27 and I can’t even keep up 🙃 nor do I really want to😂
I’m in my 20s and I can’t either - it’s rapidly changing.
In my anthropology classes that was a sign of end stage society.
Historically it will unravel, and there will be a complete reboot (new government/ currency etc) and things will restart and change more slowly for a while (100-300 years)
Well said @Mr Constitution. What’s the point of keeping up with “trends”? It doesn’t fulfill anything, there’s no sense of accomplishment and it just doesn’t do anything for anyone. I wish people who spend their time on TikTok would take that time and energy to do something that’s beneficial to society.
I'm 21 and the only time I see anything tiktok related is from the people at daily wire... i just have no desire to see that ridiculousness... the only reason I watch them on Ben, Michael, Matt and Bretts videos is because they sacrifice their sanity watching these TikToks for us and their job so it's the least we can do for them is to suffer with them...
I loved that line about how marriage is mutual servitude. I have had an unusually good marriage modeled for me growing up and I can tell you that the first thing my Dad says when he gets home from work is "How can I help you?" to Mom. Mom will often tell him to go put his feet up and not worry about it but will ask for help when needed.
The man may be the head of the household but he ought to use his power to exalt his wife, not control her.
Well, this is the way God instructs a man to treat his wife! So, it shouldn't be a surprise that it works and works perfectly.
A traditional wife wouldn't be recording herself and posting it on social media, in the first place
Agree with you.
Wearing TIGHT clothes for attention online. My boyfriend would never be okay with this, and I respect him enough not to do this.
And your basis for this is what? I actually follow some traditional wives on instagram. It allows us to learn different things from each other. And I’d argue it’s beneficial so that modern feminism isn’t the only voice online in female content creators.
Your editors are doing the Lord's work. These compilations are hysterical.
Seriously
The BK edit... I about died lol... cuz that song is stuck in my head sometimes lol
@@mariaotto6732 same. It made no sense and so much sense at the same time
The editing is obnoxious and terrible.
I spat out my drink at one point- they did such a good job 😂
I'm a "trad wife" and I was long before TikTok said it was a trend. Before we moved, during the height of covid, I hated my job. I loved my coworkers (most of them) and helping patients, but the monotony was exhausting. I regularly had migraines and had to be put on medication.
After I became a traditional wife, partly because I was "unhirable" with an ER doctor husband (too much covid exposure), I didn't get the migraines as much (still had a few occasionally depending on weather), I was happier not having to deal with stupid people or rules all day, I had more free time to explore my own hobbies (reading, writing, crochet) and I am working on getting my first book published. Once our daughter came into the world, I found a new direction where I still enjoyed everything that makes me, well me, I find so much joy in watching my daughter grow. Watching her milestones, seeing how her brain works, and teaching her have brought a joy I never could have gotten even at my dream job. Being a wife and mother are my roles and my delight, and honor, my hobbies are just icing on the cake.
I'm glad for you Katie!
I hope you and your family have a great life.
You're definitely doing the work most wouldn't consider worthy. I actually think it's the most admirable thing a woman could do. Focus on her family. The joy and acknowledgement comes from the pride of raising the next generation with values. Being a mom is the most awarding thing I've ever done.
Right on, where do I find a girl like you!
@@timothymuhlfeld5886 we're usually the ones studying, or artsy (some times both). You need to look hard though. We're tough to win, but we're worth the effort.
@@katieinhops5163 and I believe what you say, your worth it ,I believe that! I'm a truck d
river and I'm 57 so it makes iT a little tougher than you think,but thanks if you Have any ideas please write me back!!!!
That lady said no one is telling you not to be a trad wife while telling you not to be a trad wife. Amazing. Stunning and brave.
Growing up as a latchkey kid in the 90s and an only child, all I ever wanted was a family to spend time with. I envied my friends that had a mom that stayed home. I am now so proud to be a SAHM to our two children. My husband works his a** off so that we can live off one income. It takes sacrifice and budgeting on both our parts to make it work, but I would not trade the time I have with my kids for anything!
"A child can be taken away" Most powerful line in the video.
We as a society are gradually falling so far under social and government norms, that we are begining to see our children as property that other people have the right to strip from us and use as they wish.
I was in shock that she acted like "meh, kids can be taken away" while telling women to find joy... in a hobby? In a job? Things that are wayyyyy less permanent than your literal flesh and blood offspring??
If "kids can be taken away" is just an ever-present possibility in your mind, I think there's a way bigger issue going on here
Children have always been property. Back in the 60's if you raped, tortured and murdered a child you'd get the death penalty.
But if the child that was raped, tortured and murdered was your own child you'd do about ten years. That's the way it really was. These kids were things you owned.
And they are still property. Look at orphanages etc. It will never get better.
Her: it’s impossible for people in the 21st century to understand women in the 50s
Also her: proceeds to explain the 50s as if she was there
And she was SO REDICULOUSLY WRONG!
Reminds me of North Korea's supporters
I have been a happy traditional wife for 35 years. Hubby is retired now and we still like doing the things on our side of the equation. Teamwork is what it's about. Love it.
#MeToo 🤣. What' syour facebook?
I'm considered a trad wife, since I've been a stay-at-home wife and mother our whole marriage. We just celebrated our 17th anniversary. I've had a chronic disease for the past decade, and my husband's still here, taking care of myself and our 2 children as best he can. I do the same for him as much as I can. Neither of us would change a thing.
BLESSED BE 🌹
Praying that you have good health and many more happy years ahead
If a woman wants to excel at work, let her! If they want to nurture their kids and stay at home, let them! Just let them live their damn lives!
Why anyone would take marriage advice from middle aged miserable single women is beyond me.
How can Ben criticize these women when his own wife is not traditional. There's no way she can be a doctor who inevitably works 40+ hours a week, which may include irregular and overnight hours or being on call at any point and somehow fulfill all the responsibilities of a traditional wife.
I’ve been an anti feminist since I was 18, married since 19, and a mother since I was 21. I also homeschool my children. Now that I’m past the baby years, I’ve really been leaning into becoming a homemaker, not just a housekeeper, and it’s been wonderful! Being able to devote my full time and attention to my husband, children, and home is so incredibly satisfying.
I wish I could have the same, but unfortunately I’ve been hurt by guys in the past and idk how to find a good guy.
woah I'm 19 and haven't even had my first job yet. This was surreal to read. Good on you.
@@YannY1150 Are you kidding? Wow! I started having small jobs before turning 16, and my first real job at 16. It's long overdue for you to get a job and live on your own! Seriously, what on earth didn't your parents teach you?
@@donnabaardsen5372 A lot..I don't have the most caring upbringers. I am searching for one it's not easy when your only form of id expires and takes months to arrive renewed.
Feminism is the future stay in the past then
Trad wife here. I'm so happy I raised our daughters full time. Now they are adults and I'm a full time artist. Also a kick as sourdough bread baker.😂😂
Working a yeast dough is so satisfying. Raising your own starter, totally worth it.
I love being a TRAD wife. Honestly if you care about your kids, then you should 1000% TRY to be a stay at home mom if you can.
Your kids ABSOLUTELY NEED YOU! I spend 8-10 hours a day with my kids and although it hard. It’s so incredibly beneficial for them and us. Trad wife’s are doing a great service for the community.
The kids are the future, maybe if your mama’s stayed home y’all would be a little more mentally stable. ❤
awsome
I'm pretty mentally ill. So is my sister. My mom getting a break probably would have been better for all of us.
It's great that you are in a position to do this. Not every woman has this opportunity. They probably care about their children just as much as you do for yours.
@@DarkDaydreams I’m not so sure. I’ve made extreme sacrifices to stay home. It has NOT BEEN EASY IN ANY way. But I know how important it is so we do what we have to do to make it possible for our family. Most women I know who stay home have to sacrifice everything to do so. It’s not easy especially in this economy but it’s worth it
@@bacaworld7095 oh girl, if you only knew how blessed you are. No, sadly not every woman gets to stay at home with their child. Be happy you get to, and don’t judge the ones who can’t afford to. Sometimes in this economy it’s either go back to work or not have enough to provide for your child, and home. Even with combined income.
As a "trad" wife, I am a stay at home mom, housekeeper, I raise my children as well as educate them, I am teaching my daughters to keep their future homes, to cook, to love their future husband's as the Bible directs, and to love God. I was not forced to be a "trad wife" this was a decision that my husband and I made together based on biblical standards. And honestly, our marriage has simply gotten better and better. I have plenty of time for hobbies, and time with my friends. It's empowering to be a homemaker.
Amen, you nailed it! It is empowering! I feel like being a stay at-home mom and housewife has allowed me to bloom and flourish into the person God made me to be. I have started so many hobbies since deciding to stay home. I garden and can and through homeschooling am getting back into art and learning to sew. My kids and I learn together. When I was in the working world, even before kids, there was no time to pursue interests like that. I'm so grateful my husband is sacrificing every day so we can live like this. If it wasn't a choice and just a societal standard, maybe I wouldn't feel this way. But the grass is always greener on the other side. Maybe this trad wife movement is the natural pendulum swinging back after it was the other way.
Good for you!❤
Preach it.
🙏🙏🙏❤God bless you
But why? U dont have any passion to livelyhoods like... 24 7 inside the home????? Wtfff????
This is crazy! I'm a stay at home mum (in australia) and honestly I've never been happier. I was so stressed working full time, I was super angry all the time and honestly, I'm surprised my hubby stayed with me 😅. As soon as I stopped working, everything was better including my mental health and my relationship. I became a mum a year after I quit work and life is generally just better ❤
I guess you could say that my mother is a trad wife. She raised three kids while my father was the provider for the family. We attended church on Sunday, had chores, did kid things and had a very traditional life. Their kids are grown and have started families of their own. They have grand kids, and now even great-grand kids. My parents have been married for over 60 years now. Mom's health is finally now failing and my father insists on being her primary caregiver. I'm glad that they raised us the way they did, and provided us with their own personal example.
Amen! I was a Trad wife until my 40 after the kids were raised. I’ll be married 50 years in 15 DAYS! Go Figure that out!
Very sorry to hear about your mom's health. My mom has dementia
My parents enlisted me in what I now jokingly call their, "slave labor battalion." It did teach me the value of work along the way, but there were some hiccups.
For example, they handed me a cat's paw when I was 4 or 5, and told me to smash old sheet rock during a remodeling. Little kid me was like, "wait, I can just smash stuff?"
Yup, have at it!
Unfortunately, they forgot to tell me smashing time was over after the new sheet rock went up. Oops.
I’ve been a trad wife to an amazing husband for 35 years. ❤😊 I have 2 adult kids, hobbies and interests and feeling blessed and happy! Those feminist are insufferable.
My wife and I were married 22 years and had 4 kids together. I didn't find out until we were getting divorced that she had cheated on me with about 13 or more other guys. When confronted with this, she didn't deny it and just pretended like it was normal. She also cut off contact with her own kids for a year so she could pursue a new life with the guy she is currently married to. A guy she changed her whole identity for and started getting into this whole thing about being Irish and wanting to go to authentic Irish bars and listen to pub music, everything was Irish...It was bizarre and then we got our DNA results back, she was only 32% Irish and I was 67%. She went nuts!! But that was because this guy she was cheating on me with was into the Irish stuff because he was half Irish. The point is, I never knew about any of this. She traveled for her work as she did disaster relief co-ordination after hurricanes and tornadoes for the VA. Apparently she hooked up with someone every time she was away. She also promised this guy she is currently married to back when he was married to his wife, that she wasn't cheating on him with anyone else, but me...her husband...and he was only cheating on her ...with his wife..but they were both lying. He cheated on his wife..and my wife with other people, as did she. Then when she left me and moved out and we were getting divorced and they were 'together', he cheated on her 3 times with his ex-wife. They deserve each other. And now she is a trad wife. Living out in the country with chickens. Working from home. He keeps her at home...so she won't cheat on him. Some people are just messed up beyond belief.
Her current situation is not a traditional wife. At all.
I know this was a lot of trouble for you. I think you should move on and focus on career and enjoying life. Even see a therapist if this experience starts to get between you and your life. Find someone better and hope all the best
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She’s not a trad wife at all
Haha. What a story, Mark!
My husband and I don’t have the traditional gender roles. I am the bread winner (medical professional). I made much more than my husband, but we wanted to have one of us to be at home with the kids and take care of the home. I think having one partner at home for child rearing and taking care of the home makes for a good marriage. It works for us.
I am alsobthe breadwinner and my husband will be full time stay at home dad. He does most of the cooking and dishes because he has the time but we still have some traditional gender roles. He walks on sidwalk closest to street. He faces entrance when we go out to eat. If its night and we need to go pick something up he does it. He takes out the trash
I agree with you that one parent raising the children with your values is better than someone else raising your children with their values, lol. I think "the woman's place is in the home" really just came about in the fifties because before then most families couldn't afford to have one parent not working & when they did become able to, most families did want one of the parents to be the person raising their children & the woman was more likely to quit her job because she likely made less or wanted to be the one to stay home & raise her children. Women tend to need to either miss periods of work or do a job that could be done from their home when pregnant, giving birth, recovering from birth & breast feeding when that was desired or they tend to choose to work less hours than the men in their professions or they tend to pick careers in fields that pay less or, in the case of labor jobs, not be physically capable... (Or really not want to. Ha ha ha) Also, women tend to be more nurturing which tends to be more beneficial to children in their formative years which makes them a better choice as primary caregiver during that time. Of course none of these, like everything, is true for everyone so it is good women have the choice to do all these things if it's what she & her husband want for their family & women are really dominating in the fields of medicine & psychology. It's too bad that women having this choice has ultimately led to no parent raising the children & a lot of mothers just having a full time career on top of nearly all the jobs expected of them before
❤ That's good that it's worked out. Tbh I personally do think woman at home is ideal but if at least one of the parents is at home raising the kids that's what's important! And there's that logical reason to work when you make more money.
I wanted to be a clinical psychologist, but when I ended up unexpectedly pregnant (doctors told both of us we were extremely infertile and I being paranoid of the 1% was still on the pill... ironic). The idea was I would be at home until toddler time, as I was unable to find work while pregnant in a terrible economy. But we had no support for watching our child.
Our child was diagnosed with a disability by preschool (which was only 3 hours) and Id have to pay more for quality childcare than I'd make at the time. Quickly we realised public schools are terrible. I started to homeschool and realized I couldn't care for the home, my child, and be a decent wife while studying for my PhD so I said goodbye to that dream. I'm glad I did. Even though my husband is in labor, but makes ok money now. If I had already had my PhD probably different story. Who knows.
Now I love homeschooling, it's a passion! And I also plan my business out that I hope to seek funding for by the time my disabled child is an adult. If not self-sufficient by then she can help me out at the business as her source of income. ❤
honestly, all the best for you guys seriously! glad you're broad minded and aren't just seeing only the traditional gender roles and nothing else lmao it suits some people, but it doesn't suit everyone, and it should NOT suit everyone
just look at ben himself: he is happily married to a woman who is NOT a "trad" wife, his wife is a doctor .
We did the same, for the same reasons. No regrets. Good luck to you both!
My wife submitts to me. She says, "that way, when you're wrong i don't share any of the blame."
I gotta say, she's absolutely right with that. I take that responsibility very seriously and the decisions always come after consulting with her.
Well, that's what 99,9% of women don't get. They want the "privileges" that men have but without the responsibility. And since there is no free lunch it only means that now we need to carry the burden for both
@KeepIt REAL That is a very foolish and an unwise statement.
💎🫡✨ gem she is! My wife literally says the same. I almost wonder if she follows my wife on social media 😅
@KeepIt REAL Everyone makes mistakes. Give it up.
@keepitreal7723 do you not understand that typos exist? Wtf 😭🤣🤣
Man, that Whopper cut away got me 👏👏👏🤣
Cant help but smile whenever Ben talks about his wife and marriage. What an amazing couple!
Looks can be deceiving. He selected her because of her beauty, she selected him because of his status(she actually rejected him multiple times until she had a change of heart).
@@user-kb1hw2yq2f huh?😂
@@user-kb1hw2yq2f that's 80% of couples hoe
@@user-kb1hw2yq2f you know nothing about them and though.
@@user-kb1hw2yq2f Do you personally know him? I'm pretty sure you don't. Not trying to come across cold, but you don't know that, they might be the happiest couple in the world, they might be the most miserable. But they don't hint at all towards not loving each other. Other than that, don't assume things about people you don't know.
My wife is a "trad wife", and we have an excellent marriage and family life. My wife can work outside the home if she wants to, she has a four year business degree. She chooses not to work outside the home because she is finding joy and fulfillment in raising our children and managing the home. We have managed to get by with a single income, and it hasn't always been easy. But, this has been very fulfilling. My wife is looking to expand her education and start working outside the home once the kids are out of the house, and I fully support that. Be blessed!
The editing on this video was top notch comedy. Especially the Burger King jingle playing in your head midway through her rant. 😂
Funniest part of the whole thing imo
What makes it funnier is that Ben keeps kosher and would likely not be thinking about BK, and yet, there he was
Was dying 😂
My parents got married in the late 1950s, and my mother stayed home and became a housewife. She did not go crazy, or hear voices, or take mind altering drugs. she DID keep the house clean, she made sure my brother and I were clean, she cooked meals for us. My dad worked a job outside the home, provided money for the household bills. My mother NEVER had to beg him for money. Shed didn't even have to ask him for money. He gave her money, both to spend on the house and for herself. There was no tension between them that I could ever tell. So I don't know where these women of today are getting their stories from, but my family wasn't one of them.
A house wife use to be one of the most respected positions a person could have. Taking care of the needs of your family. Educating them in morals, values, school. Many house wives had degrees. Man how things have changed and we wonder why kids are so broken, MOMs they have failed this youth as well as the lack of fathers in the home.
That is just not true. Women didnt have to start working just because the economy was bad but also because being a homemaker was widely underappreciated by men and their kids. This is what I believe: look for a partnership. A man and a woman can both work part time and both take care of the kids. Thats how it should be, equally and fair. If a woman wants to be a full time mom then she shouldnt be shamed for that! its everyones own choice. But we live in 2023, I didnt get a degree from an ivy league school just to stay at home full time. You can be a mom and work. You can be a dad and work. Lets share and work together as partners!
Women fought for rights to vote, to education, to join the workforce so they could be financially independent and not become vulnerable to societal evils or abusive men.
I don't think so. The housewife/stay at home mom has always at large at the least been undervalued. It was just a given, because now men are shouting they want the traditional wives but still many talk about it like it's not work or hard.
@@_chapternumberone_8782Okay, *that* is not true. Literally one of the prime examples can be seen in what happened in the GDR. The government needed more workers than all the men and they tried to get women to work using propaganda first and later they wanted to force them. It didn't work. The women fought to stay at home and care for their families. And that can be seen in a lot of areas and times. This has been a thing for centuries, if not millenia, all over the globe and only modern feminism has changed the narrative. You can easily find proof of how much women enjoyed being a homemaker throughout history and if you look at actual homemakers online you'll also see genuine smiles and very happy vibes all over. My Instagram feed is almost exclusively homemakers and nature content and I always feel better instead of worse after going on it for a few minutes because the vibes of my feed are a blessing
Used to be. It's used to be. How do SO MANY PEOPLE make it through school without understanding and using proper grammar?
Used, past-tense.
Supposed, past-tense.
My husband and I are traditional, I stay home and he works. We are both fully happy in our situation going on 14 years. I’m so grateful to have a husband that affords me this life and he shows me every day his gratitude for all that I do for our family.
@beastbombshell3589Reeeeeeee
“Trad-wife!” 🙋🏻♀️. I’m mentally, emotionally and spiritually happy!! ❤
And we are grateful that wifeys like you exist, you prolong the life of your husbands, You bring so much joy and happiness
Hahaha. What is your facebook☺
Prove it!!😂
@@mikeyh8747 Prove that you should be allowed out of the kitchen male😱
My husband and I were best friends before we finally admitted our feelings and married. We have remained best friends for our entire marriage of more than 41 years. I guess you could call me a trad wife, but like most that was not all I did! I volunteered in my Church and community, taught many to cook, sew, and crochet. Kept house and raised 3 children with the help of my hubby! My hubby was an Officer in the Air Force and we moved every 3 years. It was difficult to leave friends and familiarity to venture to the unknown. Church helped, always someone to help and new friends to make. I figured out ways to help us settle quickly. So while my trad experience was not so trad, I made the best of it, as I imagine many of us do! lol! Hubby retired, we built our dream home, hubby got a second career and our children grew up and now live their own lives. I look back knowing we made the correct decision for our family! Being a wife and stay-at-home-Mom, as we used to call it, was worth every minute of my time! ❤❤❤
I'd like to take the opportunity to thank Ben's editor for the wonderful work he's doing. Keep up the good work 😂
I think we need a whole video of the editors best bits as an acknowledgement of just how good he is 🤙
Yessss
No. It's too much. It's forced. Do even so called conservatives suffer from ADHD? Stop encouraging this crappy annoying editing.
But now I want a Whopper...😂
"talking 'bout my girrl" 😂
Preach it, Ben!!! Marriage is about making the decision to be faithful to each other and stay together, no matter what. That means sacrifices need to be made by both individuals for the greater good of the family and ultimately for the marriage. My husband and I have been together for over 20 years, and our lives have been a blessing and a rewarding adventure!
Living a Traditional Wife life is amazing❤️ I’m so blessed that my husband was on board for our lifestyle. Our home is peaceful, happy, and healthy. Our children are thriving, as well as our marriage.
Tomorrow is our 47th wedding anniversary, I was a stay at home Mum , my husband has basically been providing for all my financial needs. We made many mistakes together, he has seen me at my most ugly ,I have seen him at his most ugly. We have hated one another, laughed, cried, raged and treated each other badly. But we have always forgiven and now we laugh at how crazy we were and thank God we never got divorced. Our two adult children are loving and devoted to both of us and our five Grand children adore us.
Now this man who came into my life when I was just 16 is dying. He has cancer and now I get to be all that I can be for him, it’s my time to give back to him to take this last walk together, I will hold him while he dies and I will be honoured to do this when the time comes. He will be surrounded in so much love as he is now. We don’t talk about the hard times we remember the good time and I remember how great this man has been and how much he has done for his family. We will be separated for a short time until I see him again in glory. If this is traditional then I embrace it with my very being.
15 years and going strong... ROOKIE! My Bride has been helping me succeed for 36 years. Great job Ben, I enjoy watching your videos. Marriage is a partnership, that is what they are missing.
Exactly. You marry because you love the other person. You commit to your whole life dedicated to the other one. If you aren't prepared for this, then just don't get married. My wife is a stay at home mother. Saying you're trapped in a home is ridiculous! She takes the kids and goes and has fun all the time! More fun than me!
36 Years? ROOKIE!! lol My husband and I have been building memories for just over 43 years. 😉 And yes, great job, Ben. I'm SO waiting for the pendulum of normalcy to swing back from the left. I'd be happy with it settling in the middle.
All these little girls are self centered and don't realize it's a sacrifice for the good from both side not just theirs.
My parents aren't far behind, they're going on 33 years!
@@chadh7005 What's self centered is expecting others to have families they don't want just so you feel comfortable with their life choices.
I have been a feminist 😅🤮 and I am now a trad wife. I don’t regret becoming a trad wife. I was extremely unhappy as a feminist and I’m super embarrassed thinking back to those days…
Thanks for sharing! By you sharing this it gives so many women hope that they have the ability to change if they would like. Nothing is permanent in life, we are always growing and changing. There are so many things I have learned and changed as well!
You can still be a feminist and follow traditional roles I really believe that Feminism at its core is about advocating freedom of choice, opportunity, health, respect & well-being of women. Glad you're happier✨️
A hundred years ago, this may have been true. I would pretty confidently bet that your view here would not only be shared by a vanishingly tiny minority of self described feminists, but it would also be met with utter disdain and hostility by that same vast majority of self described feminists.
You can be both a feminist and a stay at home mom. What makes you not a feminist anymore?
@@janicefinch3563 the other feminists, very likely.
I proudly tell people I’m a homemaker when they ask what I do for a living. I serve my family and work in our home, and my husband provides ❤️
So, you're a parasite?
Amen! 💕
@Aseabasplace You are a maid/ a servant with no salary. When you are discarded (and you will be) Nobody will want you and nobody will give you a serious self supportive job.
I am so happy i have known that feminism is very very toxic i am so happy i have known it at an early age i see it as a blessing to be a homemaker
Your a blessing to your household
Marriage is a partnership. In service to each other, as one flesh, we make each other better. He’s there to pick up the slack when I’m floundering, and I do the same for him when he’s struggling. He’s the rudder, I’m the sail, and that’s how our boat moves and stays afloat.
Married 20 years this year, 2 wonderful boys that are the absolute joy of our lives!
As a homeschooling mom and housewife, I’d love for some of these “empowered” to know the happiness and fulfillment I feel. They always seem miserable.
Its social media, everyone is miserable there.
Especially in society now where there’s a school shooting every week I plan to homeschool my son and be more at home with him. I’m not bothered by this because his safety is the most important thing to me so if I need to be a SAHM then I will. It’s not as black and white as people act like it is
This!! If I decided to go to college or pick any of the jobs I fancied as a child, I never would’ve met my now husband. And never would’ve had my three amazing kids now (and planning more in the future). I’m a homemaker. But there’s so many more amazing things in my life because of that, than there ever would’ve been had I gone another route. I’m also starting homeschooling this year. ❤ simply couldn’t be happier.
My wife worked or stayed home when it made sense at different phases of our lives. We haven't always gotten it exactly right, but an attitude of mutual respect and support and a desire to serve each other and our children helped a lot.
Celebrated 38 years this week and going strong. Marriage, children and family are the great things we are lucky to obtain in life.
Congratulations! ❤❤❤
And these emotionally unhinged kids raging against other women's traditional choices think they will get more satisfaction from "community". Doesn't seem to be making them very happy...
Those things are no longer the priority for women. That is why it is projected that 50% of women under 40 will be childless and single by 2030.
@@user-kb1hw2yq2f Which means there will be a great reduction in their chances for family and children.
I'm 30 and grew up in a traditional family in Ireland. My grandmother was a housewife and mama in the late fifties and sixties and seventies. She was so happy to give her job up to provide a a lovely home for her kids. She said she had more time to do hobbies and read more books when her chores were done and kids were in school. My mother said she was so much more happy when she gave up her job as she got to be at home everyday and look after the people she loved
My Grammy was so happy too, that is what made her live to her 104 yo
By the way everyone, Ben’s wife is a doctor
And?
okay gang!
@@Talon18136 She's a doctor
And Ben studied law. What is your point
@@irinka6097 agreed. People are (yet again) taking an idea and ruining it by taking it to an extreme. They're not ready
I'm a trad wife now because I found that role more fulfilling than working. My husband and I are partners in everyway and he's proud of me. We don't have children but I help to care for our aging parents. I've created a beautiful home that's full of love, happiness, and peace. I learn as many skills as I can in case there is some sort of societal collapse. I work out and do a lot of self-care which has kept me in good shape and I look much younger than my age. I find it extremely odd that other women will tell women who are happy that they shouldn't be. It boggles my mind. It's like, "Oh, you have a happy marriage, life, and family? You're really a slave." Um, no. I could do whatever I want at any time and I'd have my husband's full support. I thought feminism was supposed to be about choice. I've made mine. I'm grateful for my loving & comforting husband and I show him my gratitude everyday, and it's reciprocated. But, I guess if these women have never felt what that's like and are then poisoned by woke indoctrination they can't help but voice their demeaning opinions against women like me. I have to say, they sound very envious and depressed.
Love it! So happy it’s working for you. 💛
Ditto - 32 years. I started out working and independent, (wouldn’t give that up for just anybody, so you have to be sure)…. but once we realized it was cheaper for me to stay home and healthier for us both considering stress, and better food, etc. I stopped working. it was a mutual decision and we’ve both been much happier for it.
"I find it extremely odd that other women will tell women who are happy that they shouldn't be." I wanted to highlight your quote. Good stuff.
They are miserable women and want you to be also, misery loves company.....
Amen. And I don't do much "self care" per se, and have fail to work out and stay in shape since no longer dairy farming ( I was in fantastic shape, except my thighs were always big), but also look lots younger than I am. Part of that is genes ( looked too young in my 20s), part of it is eating healthy and a good Vit. C and drinking plenty of good water, and part of it is in what I haven't done, like drink alcohol often, party, eat fast food or wear makeup or other exposure to toxins and chemicals near as much as the typical modern American.
So, I'm wondering if, by your lifestyle, you also do or don't do many of these things, and self care aside ( and I'm not bashing healthy amounts of that), maybe still would look young. Also just from being happy and living a meaningful life.
I'm working on becoming financial able to support a wife and children. I love the idea of a traditional family with traditional values. But it's a very difficult task. The economy sucks, it's hard to find a woman who feels the same, and it's getting to a point were you're almost looked down on for having that lifestyle. Still going for it though.
Ask you you will receive bro! 🙌🏽
Find an LDS woman hehe
I don't think that lifestyle is looked down on. I'm a trad wife and ALL the women I meet wish they didn't have to work. They wish they could stay home and raise their children instead of sending them to childcare. Half their paycheck goes to pay someone else to take care of their kids. My husband's friends are jealous of him because he can provide for his family. I am so blessed to have a man that can take care of the family. I pray the right woman comes into your life that is on board with your goals. Even if you start small (work full-time, get married, live in an apartment, pinch pennies) eventually you'll climb the ladder and it will be easier to care for your family. When you're in love, money isn't a big deal. Blessings❤
Thank you Ben.
I am a traditional wife - stay at home mum - whatever you want to call it. When I was “young and single” I ”worked” - serving who? Some corporate monkeys of some kind. Now I have five children from baby to teen with my wonderful husband and I am with them full time and home educate; he goes out to work hard and I work hard in the home. I work harder at something more fulfilling than I could ever have had any other way, and I feel I have finally found my purpose and everything about my own character and path has become so much stronger and more authentic in this role. I do not get “paid”, so people disprespect my choice constantly. We struggle to make ends meet. But I would not change it for the world - it is real, valuable and the absolute foundation of everything that is worthwhile, at least to us. Nothing makes more sense. I get so tired of the very young, very opinionated and overly cynical women who have probably not got an ounce of the experience I have, yet feel completely qualified to judge my life and that of many other dignified and whole and strong women.
Dear Daily Wire,
Please grant your editing team a kick-ass raise to congratulate them for their absolute masterclass of hilarity and timing.
Sincerely,
Anybody with a sense of humor
And their whole notion that “men will just use you and throw you away” is SOOO degrading 🤦🏻♀️ my gosh… I have seen so many wonderful men who dedicate their entire lives to the happiness of their families, who are so loving and caring and yet they are being degraded like this. It truly breaks my heart. And what does this teach young men? That all that they are is a heartless monster? I truly worry for my little brother because how is he supposed to have confidence and grow in society while women like them devalue men💔
It's also a self-fulfilling prophecy. They don't value marriage -- worse, they devalue it -- and hence engage in short-term flings and hence deincentivise men to look for a woman without disposing of her afterwards. After all, if all you have to offer is short-term engagement, then all men will buy from you is exactly that.
To be fair that’s not what they’re saying. They’re saying that you’re more likely to be left with nothing if you leave all your finances in the hands of someone else than making sure you have some level of independence. It’s not saying men will use women, it’s saying that women should strive for security and be more empowered. That doesn’t have to be interpreted as devaluing men.
@@turtle2106 Women usually get half anyway in a divorce.
@@turtle2106 even if that’s what she meant in that video, i have seen countless other videos similar to hers where they insult men and call them names and say that they are literally worthless.
I do agree that people must have financial independence. What i don’t agree with is when people say men have no worth.
where are the sucessful men that are living monogamous lives and are career driven
I would consider myself to be a trad wife. I cook and clean. And look after my children. And. I will be starting homeschooling my children. Because I believe that a good Christian family values are important. Because a family that prayers together stay together and it was Christianity that build the Western world ✝️🛐
Grats, you are in the top 10% of most desirable women in 2023... have a single sister? Haha
I'm not religious however as a child we attended church on Sundays, as a result we knew and interacted with a lot of folks in the community and I will say that IMO it instilled respect and a sense of pride in one's neighborhood. I do believe that church has/would benefit kids today more than the church of social media that tends to only install h*tred, fck'd up values and demonize our children, schools nowadays aren't much better. I think home schooling is going to become more popular, a great way to shield/educate, cheers.
You'd better bring someone else in to teach grammar.
@@CaptainJirk "bring in someone else to teach grammar."
Yes.. Way to show her that you are no good at it as well. =D
I've lived in a small Christian college town my whole life and I'll just say church is probably good for them but a very strict to the point of being a little crazy upbringing will actually make them break and go wild when they get a little freedom from their parents. Also 4 out if the 5 women my husband had an affair with were good little raised Christian gals from that college.
I have a " trad wife"
Funny thing... she does not brag about it, she does not make TikTok films about it ... she just IS.
Every day I realize more and more that my Boomer generation is blessed with these high value women.
I don’t care what generation you’re a member of because this current generation is one of children being programmed to sell sex and castrate themselves to be with the “in crowd”, don’t feel blessed but rather be indignant at what schools and media are doing to our children.
Great look at the bright side but don’t settle into a mindset that it’s not your problem…. Please.
OMG I’m crying from laughter at the Burger King drop 3:48 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I could literally watch that for hours.😂
First, congratulations on 15+ years Ben. Second, all I want is to be a traditional wife. I'm not gonna say trad cause it's stupid. I want to be a stay at home mom, and hopefully work from home selling costumes or clothing items I make, I want my husband to be the main provider so I can focus on the home and children. I grew up with my stepmom being a stay-at-home mom and it's something I have huge respect for. Traditional wives are more independent than people realize because while the husband is away working, she's home taking care of everything typically by herself. That's Independence
Worth to point out that these tradwife tiktoker is still earning money from making videos.
They're not just cooking, cleaning, looking like a 50s suburbia wife, except when they're filming.
Also, ben's wife is an accomplished doctor. Far away from the perfect 50s traditional wife fantasy.
I feel like all extremes are stupid. Like modern feminist vs tradwife and incel vs alphamale.
The Trad wives are the truly fortunate, truly blessed to have a husband who doesn’t expect all the traditional aspects being handled plus expects the wife to pay half of all the bills while he spends his free time having fun with his ‘buddies’ while her days off are spent catching up on household chores.
Amen !!!
@@coolcurly9736 Take dating very seriously, but note that he doesn't need to be rich. He just has to be willing to work hard at a job that will meet the needs of his family, and you both have to be willing to budget and get by with less.
We don't happen upon these men by accident, btw. Go to church!
I mean yeah that would be lame. My husband started out that way when I was not yet a trad wife. Lol We married due to pregnancy alone but a few years in before divorce we found Jesus. ❤ Accepted salvation and once we were both saints it changed our world! Our marriage has grown into an unexpected success, our family is cohesive and we are very content. Over a decade married. But we both had to shift our values and realise marriage is about serving one another. As it says in the Good Book. It's not about one or the other only. As today's leftists try to twist it...
@@smittysmeeeI did. Lol Well....unique situation...but my husband and I met one another before saved. Fell in and out of love, I found out I was pregnant and told him to propose or else! Lol Even though family and friends said don't get married, and abort etc...I think God was speaking to my conscience.
It was a struggle and we almost divorced a few years in, until he found Jesus, once he was a saint I started to rediscover my faith and recognize what being Christian means. (I grew up "Christian-Catholic"). Miraculous timing...the Bible speaks of three ways one can divorce under the eyes of the Lord. We recognized our marriage was valid and decided to recommit to one another.
He became traditional and so did I over a short time. We learned through the word of God that we are to serve one another. Overcoming our pride was major, and learning how to love as saints. Priorities shifted and we are now happily married for over a decade. ❤
We haven't found a church that aligns with Christianity as in the Bible unfortunately. Church can be anyplace where 2-3 people gather in his name though so we have church in that sense. Study the word and practice our apologetics. 🕊️☮️ Also to note every church I've been to prays in large groups. I simply don't know where in the Bible it says Christians should do so. 🤷♀️ I'm working on a prayer closet! The Lord has blessed us with enough success to have a decent home with a walk in closet. 💙🪻 Score!
i agree with some of that, im not married but from what i seen marriage if a 50/50 thing, but also, the man has to make a fuck ton of money to literally pay for everything, because of economy
My wife is a doctor and has recently admitted that feminism lied to her.
She’d drop her doctor role in a heart beat to stay home, take care of the house, and be a better mom, than she perceives she is today (she’s a great mom).
I’m glad I grew up in a traditional household with a house mom because I think it prepared me for the worst of society
Wow. The worst of society. Wow. That is pretty dramatic.
@@elainefranco725not as dramatic as calling traditional women “Nazis”
I am a Trad wife. If I'm completely honest, just being a mother can be isolating at times. So, yeah add a husband and a marriage it can still be isolating at times & busy as hell. But I believe it's literally up to ourselves to have a fuller life. I started working on myself way more, taking me time & started a company.
This is where you need your friends or family to come in and lift you up. I learned the value of that the hard way. I hope you find your people to help you when you feel isolated ❤❤. A community is truly a gift.
I find the feminists that say that a trad wife will end up being fully isolated and there not gonna be able to do hobbies is a complete lie trad wives have always had hobbies my grandma used to sew and make clothes and other things and there is not a single thing that says a trad wife can't go out with friends or family all it is a a simple and happy way to live life
You might as well add some hobbies such as gym, painting or pottering 😁
Yes having hobbies & interests will save your sanity!! I am a mother as well and it feels good to be doing something outside of being a mother and a wife ❤️ We have our own dreams, goals and aspirations too.
If you started a company (and I presume you are earning money) then you are not a trad wife anymore, you are a businesswoman.
We all know that Ben's wife is the epitome of what a wife should be, who, by the way, is a doctor.
And?
@@mattgunia942 you don't get it do you?
@@gracey_bun I understand ad hominem attacks, like the one leveled against Ben's wife. I understand straw man arguments, like the one leveled against Ben and his wife.
@@mattgunia942 lol it's just a joke that his viewers keep repeating many times. Seems like you're a new subscriber.
@@gracey_bun Guilty. It looks like we were talking past each other.
The childless marriages trend makes me so sad. My entire childhood I had no one literally and delt with addiction from 12-17 I didn't care what drug it was as long as it fucked me up enough to forget how awful my life was and how awful I felt. PTSD, anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder etc etc iv been on a long list of different medicaids that just never did crap but f me up. I had my 1st child right after I turned 19 when I became pregnant with my son I couldn't take the medication I was on anymore I decided after I had him I was done taking medication. I went from having episodes 4-5 times a week since having kids it only happeneds once a year! I consistent tried to commit suicide since I was 11 my mental health has completely changed since having kids. Even when it do get very depressed I cannot sit in that for weeks/months I have a home, husband and children that need me and I push right through it and it passes. They are my reason for being on this earth I used to wish I would just get in a car crash or something I was so tired of being abused as a child, looking back now at all the abuse, addiction, 6 Miscarriages etc I feel grateful standing where I am now at 25 with my husband and 3 kids every single thing that happened to me, every choice I made, every good and bad thing lead me exactly to this moment and for that I would go through it all again. Is it hard? Hell yeah it's hard but it's also more rewarding and fulfilling then anything iv ever accomplished, any hobby iv ever had, anything iv ever experienced. I feel bad for some younge women who are being indoctrinated with this dumb ass garbage narrative they will never experience or understand what us parents are saying and that's really a damn shame.
Trad Wife, AKA, "A Normal Wife".
She literally addresses ALL their issues in that first video. She explicitly states that, as a woman, you need to find a really good man who you love and who loves you back in order for this sort of relationship to work, or it will indeed turn into a nightmare of servitude. What she's saying is that if you DO find a good man, being a traditional wife and mother can be extremely rewarding - I mean, they're just flat-out ignoring large chunks of what she says in order to make her fit their ideological view of her.
And as for the whole dementia thing, I can't speak to men divorcing women, but I will say this: my Dad died of Parkinson's a little over a year ago. Me and Mom took care of him up until the last few months, and it was HELL; his body, his mind, everything was falling apart, and we had to pick up the pieces. It's a horrible, horrible thing to go through; every day is nothing but grief and frustration and disgust and anger at the world - even if we'd been able to afford proper help, it would have been almost as bad. I don't endorse anyone deserting a loved one in their time of need, but if my parents had had any kind of acrimonious relationship - if they'd fought like crazy, if he'd beaten her, anything horrible like that - then I would not have blamed my Mom one bit for throwing in the towel, because you need to really, truly, absolutely love someone when you're taking care of them like that. At a certain point, it's a matter of just keeping going on love, even though it's stopped to be in any way rewarding, and is, in fact, tearing your life apart - love is not just your fuel, at that point, it's your killer. You're drowning in it.
I can imagine, but I would say that it can be slightly less horrible ( less of a psychological feeling of your love-driven commitment killing you) if you have a relationship with God through Jesus, and can lean on Him. Don't get me wrong, it can still be about as hard, that's the temptation, to focus on that and to let Satan win these battles. But looking at Jesus, not the waves, got me through a similar type of highly tormentous and long season once, in much, much better shape than I ever could have been otherwise.
Lastly, I recently learned of a very likely link between parkinson's, Alzheimer's and MS with Lyme's disease. And how ivermectin can cure Lyme's. So, may be worth looking into for folk's out there.
@@ajb.822 Well, I'm glad that worked for you. But it wouldn't have for me, suffice it to say.
“love is not just your fuel, at that point, it’s your killer.” i agree completely. i’ve been saying this idea for the longest time, not that it really matters to the argument but it’s just such a phrase i feel so closely tied to. mine was always “love, the blade and the bandage”
And even more than that, my heart is out to you!
@@ajb.822 very good!
2nd girl’s vocal fry made me grind my teeth.
She must of just came back from her first protest before that video
Oh, my Gord, NO kidding. So lazy and worthless she can't even pump enough air over her vocal cords to make a clear tone.
The spit talker heading to the Chris Farley SNL skit had me rewinding 4 times 😂