My mother had my brother when she was 42, after watching this video I'm so glad she didn't go through any of this stuff and that both of them are healthy to this day 💜
I am 41 and just found out today that I was pregnant. I have never had a pregnancy scare and had tried in the past with 2 partners. I'm in a newer relationship of 1 yr and assured him I wasn't able to get pregnant. Now I am and am in shock. I hope you're doing well!
38.4 weeks pregnant with our third baby, and I’m 35. AND my husband is 45 which is advanced paternal age. I have chronic hypertension (130s/80s) and I have gestational diabetes. Thankfully our baby is perfectly formed and doing wonderful 🥰.
I can’t thank you enough for this video. I am 39 and almost done with my first trimester. I’m loving everything about being pregnant except for the stigma. This helped me put my mind at ease. Thanks again.
As a 36 year old who is about to start ttc again, this helps to calm some of my fears. Thank you for presenting the pros and cons with a big helping of non-judgement and support!
My husband (36) and I (35) been married for almost 1 year now, at first we weren't sure we wanted kids, but after discussing it we decided we did. So we just started trying to concieve. We have a lot against us. Low sperm count, and age but praying we might get lucky, wish us luck.
Girl i was told I was geriatric at my pregnancy when I was 27.... 27!!! Your an old mom now that's why your tired. Nope turns out I had a vitamin deficiency.
There’s people that have children young and experience all of the above. There’s also women who have babies in their 40’s who have healthy pregnancies and delivery healthy babies. God has the final say in the end.
Do you know how at 48 years old my aunt was still able to carry TWIN boy and girl in 2012? She's strong! 🙂 Her and her second husband did IVF. I'm almost in my 40's (I got a year to go), and unfortunately, I never met Mr.Right, so yeah.
Wow, Twins?!? I can't imagine twins period...haha, what a warrior! You could have a baby without Mr Right if you wanted to (some days they aren't all they are cracked up to be, lol)
From what I understand, while there is a rise in potential for complications with age, generally speaking, the chances of having a successful and healthy natural pregnancy within a year of regularly trying still outweigh the relatively low risks if you’re a decently healthy woman who hasn’t experienced perimenopause/menopause yet, which usually doesn’t start until 9-11 years after a woman’s 35th birthday. Every woman’s going to have a different fertility timeline, and it’s important to note that age isn’t the only factor.
I’m almost 33 I hope we’ll be able to have one little one before 35, because of all the risks. ❤ I’m dealing with constant UTIs, ovulation and pelvic pain and I’m worried, if this will get worse with a possible pregnancy.
I wish I could have heard this info 33 years ago. I was devastated when told I not only did I have GDM but I needed to take insulin !😄 I also had twins, thanks to Clomed. Also had toxemia, non alcoholic fatty liver, I thought I was going to die. Gee, what we go through just to have kids! 😉
Hi Tina, thank you for this video and sharing these insights. Can you kindly highlight more of the pros/advantages of being pregnant/having a baby later on in life? 😀
A lot of them are not physical but situational. So more settled in life, usually more financially stable, bigger network of support people around you to help with mental health and getting breaks to be more balanced, usually more informed, able to care for yourself more thoroughly. Basically the things that come with being an older adult can all lend to an improved birthing and postpartum experience.
I can only imagine the joy a few newborn babies bring to women in their late 40’s or even later!! Al Pacino and Robert DeNiro are in their 80’s and making kids!
I really hate that our economy doesn’t allow for us to be truly ready to raise a child until 35+ but by then you’re “getiatric”… Feels like we can’t win 😭
I’m 37 and I’m pregnant, it happened naturally and was a complete surprise but I’m going to keep my baby. I had twins when I was 33 so I’m hoping that it’s not twins again.
It's very sad that parents often upon learning of their atypical babies (Down Syndrome, autistic, etc) choose to terminate the lives of their babies. All humans are equally precious. I have Down Syndrome and autistic friends and it's obvious they are just as valuable as typical humans.
I think though we don’t know what anyone is going through in their life so I really try not to pass judgement. I have a child on the spectrum and he is just incredible ♥️
I'm 33 and I have no children yet. I met my husband years ago and we just got married in May. We have been waiting until we are ready and you know.. We are definitely feeling ready lately!! But we still feel like we aren't. Can't decide when to pull the trigger! 😵💫 I definitely will be before 35. This was great info to know!
@mathistruth9105 Absolutely, 100%. He's the most attractive man I've ever been with and have ever met. His looks, attitude, and personality are all a 10/10 for me. I love him.
Im almost 29 right now and i had my son at 20. He has a chromosomal deletion and its caused some health issues. I guess Im already prepared in case my last baby isnt for 6 years !
Oh jeez 😬 i didnt know any of this. I want kids but im 41! I always worry that the child will have an abnormality but knowing that there are tests that can be done is comforting. 😌
Will this change as more people getting pregnant over 35 have previously been on COCP? Its a question of whether that always supressed ovulation itself, I realize, but deeply curious!
They should change the terminology and refrain from saying “Geriatric pregnancy” it’s agism no? Or if anything oxymoronic since Geriatric is usually someone who is post menopausal, most likely infertile, perhaps needing incontinence briefs, maybe uses a cane or a walker, usually a widow with decreased sex drive.. A geriatric woman who spontaneously becomes pregnant would cease to be a geriatric in my opinion. Doesn’t go together.
I’m 38 yo and pregnant with my third (27 weeks). Will I be too old to try for a 4th baby? If I can ask your opinion, how long should I wait after I deliver my 3rd to try to conceive my 4th? I had a lot of blood tests done right before this pregnancy (because of 2 miscarriages) and everything came out normal, thank goodness.
Best person to ask this is your provider on when to try for your next baby but as long as you know there are some risks and you enter into another pregnancy with as healthy of a lifestyle and mindset then it’s a totally personal decision that would be so individual to each person! 🩷
So……. You had a lot of blood tests with this pregnancy- because of two previous miscarriages.. Were those two miscarriages not a clear enough signal that getting pregnant when you’re old isn’t a great idea?
@@jaymiller6009 not at all as miscarriages happen at all ages - it happened once with me before my first baby. I just gave birth to a healthy baby boy last week at 38 years old. And in six months my obgyn said I could stat trying for my fourth baby. I still have fertility and God blesses.
@Greentree_ Congratulations on the birth of your son! If your OBGYN said to start trying again for a fourth in six months, then I sincerely wish you all the best and hope you get pregnant quickly. If not, then make sure to have plenty of fun trying! Clearly your OB knows you, your health, as well as all other relative particulars. I definitely owe you an apology. My comment was completely ignorant and out of line. I don’t know you and I don’t know your situation and had no business making that comment. This won’t excuse my comment but perhaps it might help to explain it a little bit. A friend of a friend decided she wanted to try for another child before menopause set in, even though she had two sons and daughter who were all teenagers at that time. She was 46 and was told that it was extremely risky, her family physician was against it, etc. Her and her husband apparently spent tens of thousands on fertility treatments. She became pregnant and was told after a couple of ultrasounds and bloodwork that the baby was most likely “not healthy” and was told that terminating the pregnancy was something that her and her husband might want to consider. Well, because there was a chance the baby might be born healthy, she went ahead and brought the baby to full term. It was a baby boy with many severe defects. They kept their child for a few months and then surrendered the boy to some long care facility because they didn’t want “It” anymore. I am literally crying right now because I still remember those exact words from her and the tone in her voice when she said it; and that was over 20 years ago. That is what was fresh in my mind when I rattled off my comment to you and hit send. Again, for whatever it might be worth; I’m sorry for what I said earlier. I have no idea what it would be like to experience a miscarriage; let alone two of them. What I said was well beyond insensitive and was extremely hurtful. I feel ashamed of myself that I said that to you. You 100% most certainly did not deserve that… Not from me; not from anyone. What I can say is that I was there for the births of both my daughters. It was a life changing moment for me because when my first daughter was born, my life finally made sense to me. When I looked at her for the first time, I literally felt a change within me. My best guess is that it was probably some sort of natural hormone surge. I knew right then that her life mattered far more than mine did and I would do anything for her and would protect her at any cost. I experienced much the same thing with my second daughter two years later. I mentioned this because this is most likely what you just experienced with your son recently and will experience again within the next two years. Take care and I sincerely wish you all the best.
That's just considering the issues at birth. Nobody ever consideres the long term social problems involved with an older age pregnancy. Think about it, if you get pregnant at 40, you will be 60 by the time your kid hits adulthood. And on average, would be in twighlight years 10 to 20 years too early for the child. My cousin was born to older parents, she's already lost her father and she was only 23 at the time. Very sad stuff. There is a lot more to consider than "can I have a baby after 35." Than just if everyone is going to be healthy during the pregnancy or not.
My mom had me at 19. She died at 34. I was 15. Age does not garantee anything and the odds are based on individual circumstances. Young does not equal long to live.
okay i’ve had two already and we want to have more but my fiancé and i are working to get our shit together. i used drugs unfortunately and we had both our boys taken. my firstborn went to my sister and we are fighting to get our little one back. both sober now and truly dedicated to getting ourselves better. like i said we want to have at least 2 more babies but i’m already going to be 32 this year and honestly dont see myself and my fiancé (and father of both my kids) being necessarily financially independent and stable and all that shit by the time i’m 35. i mean who knows. at the same time, we seem VERY fertile so i get the feeling that it wont be too hard lol.
Best of luck and wishes. I've been pregnant 3 times, first one i was 21 was a termination at 12 wks (I hadn't known until I got morning sickness, we made the decision for several reasons including having taken drugs, drinking at a party - we were ggoingg through hectic things and Lookin back was so young andimmature. Second pregnancy a miscarriage and third an ectopic... Just turned 32 and ssamee partnerr bought up tthee risks after 35 but I've become So scared of having children. I want them to be in a good place. We both deal with mental health issues, I just don't feel equipped even though I had always wanted to bee a parent
My mother had my brother when she was 42, after watching this video I'm so glad she didn't go through any of this stuff and that both of them are healthy to this day 💜
Love that!
I’m 40 and I’m pregnant unexpectedly.. I had a baby at 37, perfectly healthy
I am 41 and just found out today that I was pregnant. I have never had a pregnancy scare and had tried in the past with 2 partners. I'm in a newer relationship of 1 yr and assured him I wasn't able to get pregnant. Now I am and am in shock. I hope you're doing well!
I’m 37 and took two test that look positive. I had twins at 33 naturally
38.4 weeks pregnant with our third baby, and I’m 35. AND my husband is 45 which is advanced paternal age. I have chronic hypertension (130s/80s) and I have gestational diabetes. Thankfully our baby is perfectly formed and doing wonderful 🥰.
Love that! Enjoy the moments mama! That's very similar to our 4th for ages for me and hubby, I was a bit older
I can’t thank you enough for this video. I am 39 and almost done with my first trimester. I’m loving everything about being pregnant except for the stigma. This helped me put my mind at ease. Thanks again.
You’re crushing it ♥️♥️
Here pregnant at 38, unexpectedly.Im extremely happy, currently 8 weeks.
My mom gave birth to me when she was 42 and Im perfectly healthy❤ I’m 37 now and currently expecting🥰
As a 36 year old who is about to start ttc again, this helps to calm some of my fears. Thank you for presenting the pros and cons with a big helping of non-judgement and support!
zero judgement. There really are pros to having babies "later" in life!! Enjoy
I am pregnant for the first time at 39, I just found out! I work out, go for walks, runs and I am feeling good so far. I pray it stays that way
My husband (36) and I (35) been married for almost 1 year now, at first we weren't sure we wanted kids, but after discussing it we decided we did. So we just started trying to concieve. We have a lot against us. Low sperm count, and age but praying we might get lucky, wish us luck.
I hope you get the good news you're waiting for very soon💖💖💖
I wish you good luck ♥️
Girl i was told I was geriatric at my pregnancy when I was 27.... 27!!! Your an old mom now that's why your tired. Nope turns out I had a vitamin deficiency.
27??!!!? I hope you told that person where to go!!
Good gosh girl 🤐😔
What kind of vitamin deficiency?
Normally D and B12
@@mamanursetina😂😂😂😂
There’s people that have children young and experience all of the above. There’s also women who have babies in their 40’s who have healthy pregnancies and delivery healthy babies. God has the final say in the end.
Do you know how at 48 years old my aunt was still able to carry TWIN boy and girl in 2012? She's strong! 🙂 Her and her second husband did IVF. I'm almost in my 40's (I got a year to go), and unfortunately, I never met Mr.Right, so yeah.
Wow, Twins?!? I can't imagine twins period...haha, what a warrior! You could have a baby without Mr Right if you wanted to (some days they aren't all they are cracked up to be, lol)
From what I understand, while there is a rise in potential for complications with age, generally speaking, the chances of having a successful and healthy natural pregnancy within a year of regularly trying still outweigh the relatively low risks if you’re a decently healthy woman who hasn’t experienced perimenopause/menopause yet, which usually doesn’t start until 9-11 years after a woman’s 35th birthday. Every woman’s going to have a different fertility timeline, and it’s important to note that age isn’t the only factor.
36 y.o. I want to try for baby #2 but I leave it to God
I’m 40 and 16 weeks pregnant. The baby will arrive when I’m 41.
I am planning for baby at 40 too !!
My mom had me and my brother (twins) at 36 ❤ she passed away at 49 from cancer, I'm 36 now with no kids.. its a very hard subject.
My condolences, dear. I hope your heart heals. Wishing you the best.
I’m 36 with no kids…..I wish you luck with your journey. I’m considering freezing my eggs.
I’m almost 33 I hope we’ll be able to have one little one before 35, because of all the risks. ❤
I’m dealing with constant UTIs, ovulation and pelvic pain and I’m worried, if this will get worse with a possible pregnancy.
I wish I could have heard this info 33 years ago. I was devastated when told I not only did I have GDM but I needed to take insulin !😄
I also had twins, thanks to Clomed. Also had toxemia, non alcoholic fatty liver, I thought I was going to die. Gee, what we go through just to have kids! 😉
I missed this message!! My goodness that’s a full meal deal you had hey??
Very nice video, thank you. When my friends will ask me why I am telling them not to postpone starting a family, I have something to show them.
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Hi Tina, thank you for this video and sharing these insights. Can you kindly highlight more of the pros/advantages of being pregnant/having a baby later on in life? 😀
A lot of them are not physical but situational. So more settled in life, usually more financially stable, bigger network of support people around you to help with mental health and getting breaks to be more balanced, usually more informed, able to care for yourself more thoroughly. Basically the things that come with being an older adult can all lend to an improved birthing and postpartum experience.
I can only imagine the joy a few newborn babies bring to women in their late 40’s or even later!!
Al Pacino and Robert DeNiro are in their 80’s and making kids!
I really hate that our economy doesn’t allow for us to be truly ready to raise a child until 35+ but by then you’re “getiatric”… Feels like we can’t win 😭
It was easy, don’t open your legs to the dumb guys on your teen days.
I’m 37 and I’m pregnant, it happened naturally and was a complete surprise but I’m going to keep my baby. I had twins when I was 33 so I’m hoping that it’s not twins again.
When they told me my current pregnancy was geriatric, I couldn't help but laugh lol
Right? Like pardon??
It's true lol
It's very sad that parents often upon learning of their atypical babies (Down Syndrome, autistic, etc) choose to terminate the lives of their babies. All humans are equally precious. I have Down Syndrome and autistic friends and it's obvious they are just as valuable as typical humans.
I think though we don’t know what anyone is going through in their life so I really try not to pass judgement. I have a child on the spectrum and he is just incredible ♥️
I don’t think there’s any screenings for autism during pregnancy. But Down syndrome yes.
It's up to parents to judge if they can cope with everything that down syndrome entails. There is no test for an autism in pregnancy or in babies.
I'm 33 and I have no children yet. I met my husband years ago and we just got married in May. We have been waiting until we are ready and you know.. We are definitely feeling ready lately!! But we still feel like we aren't. Can't decide when to pull the trigger! 😵💫 I definitely will be before 35. This was great info to know!
You're suspect
@mathistruth9105 Ok. That's fine. 😂 Oh, hey!! Thanks for bringing me back here, I found out I am pregnant last Friday! :)
@@ashleyohohoh do you find your husband physically appealing?
@mathistruth9105 Absolutely, 100%. He's the most attractive man I've ever been with and have ever met. His looks, attitude, and personality are all a 10/10 for me. I love him.
Im almost 29 right now and i had my son at 20. He has a chromosomal deletion and its caused some health issues. I guess Im already prepared in case my last baby isnt for 6 years !
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Oh jeez 😬 i didnt know any of this. I want kids but im 41!
I always worry that the child will have an abnormality but knowing that there are tests that can be done is comforting. 😌
There are pros to having kids later in life too! Everyone focuses on the “negatives” 👎🏻
Will this change as more people getting pregnant over 35 have previously been on COCP? Its a question of whether that always supressed ovulation itself, I realize, but deeply curious!
They should change the terminology and refrain from saying “Geriatric pregnancy” it’s agism no? Or if anything oxymoronic since Geriatric is usually someone who is post menopausal, most likely infertile, perhaps needing incontinence briefs, maybe uses a cane or a walker, usually a widow with decreased sex drive.. A geriatric woman who spontaneously becomes pregnant would cease to be a geriatric in my opinion. Doesn’t go together.
I found your video after slipping down the DIC rabbit hole so as you can imagine I am traumatized.
Oh gosh that’s a scary rabbit hole!!
I’m 38 yo and pregnant with my third (27 weeks). Will I be too old to try for a 4th baby?
If I can ask your opinion, how long should I wait after I deliver my 3rd to try to conceive my 4th?
I had a lot of blood tests done right before this pregnancy (because of 2 miscarriages) and everything came out normal, thank goodness.
Best person to ask this is your provider on when to try for your next baby but as long as you know there are some risks and you enter into another pregnancy with as healthy of a lifestyle and mindset then it’s a totally personal decision that would be so individual to each person! 🩷
So……. You had a lot of blood tests with this pregnancy- because of two previous miscarriages..
Were those two miscarriages not a clear enough signal that getting pregnant when you’re old isn’t a great idea?
@@jaymiller6009 not at all as miscarriages happen at all ages - it happened once with me before my first baby. I just gave birth to a healthy baby boy last week at 38 years old. And in six months my obgyn said I could stat trying for my fourth baby. I still have fertility and God blesses.
@Greentree_ Congratulations on the birth of your son! If your OBGYN said to start trying again for a fourth in six months, then I sincerely wish you all the best and hope you get pregnant quickly. If not, then make sure to have plenty of fun trying! Clearly your OB knows you, your health, as well as all other relative particulars.
I definitely owe you an apology. My comment was completely ignorant and out of line. I don’t know you and I don’t know your situation and had no business making that comment.
This won’t excuse my comment but perhaps it might help to explain it a little bit. A friend of a friend decided she wanted to try for another child before menopause set in, even though she had two sons and daughter who were all teenagers at that time. She was 46 and was told that it was extremely risky, her family physician was against it, etc. Her and her husband apparently spent tens of thousands on fertility treatments. She became pregnant and was told after a couple of ultrasounds and bloodwork that the baby was most likely “not healthy” and was told that terminating the pregnancy was something that her and her husband might want to consider. Well, because there was a chance the baby might be born healthy, she went ahead and brought the baby to full term. It was a baby boy with many severe defects. They kept their child for a few months and then surrendered the boy to some long care facility because they didn’t want “It” anymore. I am literally crying right now because I still remember those exact words from her and the tone in her voice when she said it; and that was over 20 years ago. That is what was fresh in my mind when I rattled off my comment to you and hit send.
Again, for whatever it might be worth; I’m sorry for what I said earlier. I have no idea what it would be like to experience a miscarriage; let alone two of them. What I said was well beyond insensitive and was extremely hurtful. I feel ashamed of myself that I said that to you. You 100% most certainly did not deserve that… Not from me; not from anyone.
What I can say is that I was there for the births of both my daughters. It was a life changing moment for me because when my first daughter was born, my life finally made sense to me. When I looked at her for the first time, I literally felt a change within me. My best guess is that it was probably some sort of natural hormone surge. I knew right then that her life mattered far more than mine did and I would do anything for her and would protect her at any cost. I experienced much the same thing with my second daughter two years later. I mentioned this because this is most likely what you just experienced with your son recently and will experience again within the next two years.
Take care and I sincerely wish you all the best.
@@jaymiller6009 That was very kind of you, thank you so much. The story of your friend was very sad, she was indeed very old to have a baby.
That's just considering the issues at birth. Nobody ever consideres the long term social problems involved with an older age pregnancy. Think about it, if you get pregnant at 40, you will be 60 by the time your kid hits adulthood. And on average, would be in twighlight years 10 to 20 years too early for the child.
My cousin was born to older parents, she's already lost her father and she was only 23 at the time. Very sad stuff. There is a lot more to consider than "can I have a baby after 35." Than just if everyone is going to be healthy during the pregnancy or not.
My mom had me at 19. She died at 34. I was 15. Age does not garantee anything and the odds are based on individual circumstances. Young does not equal long to live.
okay i’ve had two already and we want to have more but my fiancé and i are working to get our shit together. i used drugs unfortunately and we had both our boys taken. my firstborn went to my sister and we are fighting to get our little one back. both sober now and truly dedicated to getting ourselves better.
like i said we want to have at least 2 more babies but i’m already going to be 32 this year and honestly dont see myself and my fiancé (and father of both my kids) being necessarily financially independent and stable and all that shit by the time i’m 35. i mean who knows.
at the same time, we seem VERY fertile so i get the feeling that it wont be too hard lol.
I wish you the BEST of success with your sobriety and hope that your family is a happy solid one :)
Best of luck and wishes. I've been pregnant 3 times, first one i was 21 was a termination at 12 wks (I hadn't known until I got morning sickness, we made the decision for several reasons including having taken drugs, drinking at a party - we were ggoingg through hectic things and Lookin back was so young andimmature.
Second pregnancy a miscarriage and third an ectopic... Just turned 32 and ssamee partnerr bought up tthee risks after 35 but I've become So scared of having children. I want them to be in a good place. We both deal with mental health issues, I just don't feel equipped even though I had always wanted to bee a parent
but are those in utero tests usually covered by insurance?
I'm actually not too sure. I am Canadian so the health care system is different. You would have to check with your provider or insurance to find out.
Are you going to kill your baby if they're not perfect?
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Does it also mean the baby is going to have a higher risk of developing autism?
Autism has nothing to do with chromosomes. I haven't researched it but I would vote no :)
That's caused by vaccines.
Autisme is a fate!!! Most of Autisme came from heredity...
@@mohamadaliffshafiqazizan2788 Autism isn't "fate". It absolutely is not genetic.
I’m 30 and I don’t date women my age.
Why not? Too much experience? Competing with previous men?
A nurse is not a doctor. Go to your doctor, not youtube
Nurses get the same education, they just can't write presciptions and give a diagnosis officially. 😂
I guess feminist didnt take this course..
Women who aren't feminists give birth later in life too.
Cry
Nature will get you.