Yeah, the word reconcile is thrown around a lot and can mean quite a few things depending on context. Probably need to work on defining that a bit better. For example, my ex would take that word to mean I'm trying to get back together with her and she would instantly pull up her resentment file and have a field day.
In most cases guys were the ones who initiated the relationship and showed intent first, which is why I think a lot of guys want to try to stay in relationships well past their usefulness. That and we also tend to get absolutely rekt by the legal system.
Going through a divorce right now. Here in South Carolina, you have to be separated for an entire year before you can officially file. We completed that…though half of the year was us “sharing” the marital home which was brutal. Despite my best efforts, she had no desire to reconcile despite us having two 6 year old twin boys. Our children are no doubt being affected by this process and do not understand why “me and mommy cant live together anymore.” Me and my ex wife have tried to play house for their sake…and spent holidays and birthdays together “as a family.” Attending sports practices/games and other school functions and even sometimes having dinner together. But these times usually end up being very tense and awkward. I know she’s slept with other men and I’ve also slept with other women during our separation. She has completely moved on while I still would be open to working on the marriage despite all this. The old saying “the woman you divorce is not the same woman you married” has certainly rang true for my situation. I’ve been villainized and made to appear as a monster by her. In the end, It’s all very sad for me and our boys.
I don't know the U.S. system, but in the UK, because divorce is so common, most good lawyers will be able to tell you what a court is likely to order, were it to go that far. Your best bet, then, is to use that as a target to negotiate towards and so hopefully avoid going to court.
I think a lot of women are so brainwashed by the victim status they read of all day that it never enters their brain that they may actually be the persecutor. They are convinced children are theirs and theirs alone and all the rights that go with it so they feel 100% confidence to act like utter arses
Me and my wife are not together. I’m doing my part in changing and I told her I want to reconcile and she basically wants me to try but she is willing to provide much effort.
Yeah, the word reconcile is thrown around a lot and can mean quite a few things depending on context. Probably need to work on defining that a bit better. For example, my ex would take that word to mean I'm trying to get back together with her and she would instantly pull up her resentment file and have a field day.
In most cases guys were the ones who initiated the relationship and showed intent first, which is why I think a lot of guys want to try to stay in relationships well past their usefulness. That and we also tend to get absolutely rekt by the legal system.
Good point
Going through a divorce right now. Here in South Carolina, you have to be separated for an entire year before you can officially file. We completed that…though half of the year was us “sharing” the marital home which was brutal. Despite my best efforts, she had no desire to reconcile despite us having two 6 year old twin boys.
Our children are no doubt being affected by this process and do not understand why “me and mommy cant live together anymore.” Me and my ex wife have tried to play house for their sake…and spent holidays and birthdays together “as a family.” Attending sports practices/games and other school functions and even sometimes having dinner together. But these times usually end up being very tense and awkward.
I know she’s slept with other men and I’ve also slept with other women during our separation. She has completely moved on while I still would be open to working on the marriage despite all this.
The old saying “the woman you divorce is not the same woman you married” has certainly rang true for my situation. I’ve been villainized and made to appear as a monster by her. In the end, It’s all very sad for me and our boys.
I don't know the U.S. system, but in the UK, because divorce is so common, most good lawyers will be able to tell you what a court is likely to order, were it to go that far. Your best bet, then, is to use that as a target to negotiate towards and so hopefully avoid going to court.
“ Try to reconcile with your wife during the divorce “ yeah right
As far as she is concerned it’s an all out war .
I think a lot of women are so brainwashed by the victim status they read of all day that it never enters their brain that they may actually be the persecutor. They are convinced children are theirs and theirs alone and all the rights that go with it so they feel 100% confidence to act like utter arses
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Me and my wife are not together. I’m doing my part in changing and I told her I want to reconcile and she basically wants me to try but she is willing to provide much effort.