...or just learn to love your own company and be your own best friend and no matter what is happening externally you will know that you always have yourself! liberating!
I did this to a girl I knew for awhile she would like my photos on Instagram and comment onto it, but never texted me. My question is why did I get this girl number for.. we are both mothers and never had the time to check up on one another.. !!! We both lives in the same city sadly deleted and block on her Instagram. I am taking a break off from Instagram so much delusional people
@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 Girl same my dad sister does this….won’t text me but she’ll react and comment on my facebook posts she even made a comment under a post I shared asking for my number. I texted her and she never replied and she always does this but she’ll be on Facebook making statuses engaging with her friends on fb I just blocked and deleted her today. Same thing with my Dad oldest daughter she never responds and when she do shes already “getting ready for bed” so the conversation is already over then and there and I notice that my dad sister and oldest daughter does this all the time and he always has that “their busy” excuse when it comes to them 🙄
My college friend and I was texting and she just disappeared when I asked her when she is free to go out together. Strangely the idea to go out was hers. Then after a week I texted her again, still no reply. Then after a month she texts me and asks me to help her out on some project. I was so devastated since I really liked her as a friend. Then I didn't contact her ever since. She calls me and texts me now but I neither call her back nor return her texts. I will not let her to walk all over me.
+Jasmin96961 I'm in the exact same situation as well! The weird part is that she's the one that plans the get-togethers and brings up the idea of hanging out, but then never follows through with it and ends up showing me up :( It's very time consuming and draining to always be there for someone in a friendship and to never have them be there for you.
Good on you sister. I need to become like that too. I feel so undervalued when I always message/text "friends," but never get the same love/treatment back :(
Thank you for the advice. I notice that the person I was considering a friend even has parties at her house, and doesn't even invite me. All I know is that I am valuable, and my puppies deserve more of my time than any person who rejects me.
Someone said this to me and its true....if they wanted to text back, they would....carry on doing what you want to....distance yourself because they will keep on doing this...
My best friend of 21 years is doing this to me. Never calling me or texting me back. Not listening or asking how I am doing. Only calling me to talk about herself for hours. Not being happy for good things. I am shattered
Jasmin , I feel really bad for you .... but I kind of know how you feel because I moved about 1,500 miles away from family and friends 14 years ago . At first some of them were still talking with me regularly and all I could tell you is none of them want to talk on the phone and some of them rarely text me back in a timely manner . Some don't text back for weeks or even months . How incredibly rude . Yet one of these people so I've known for about 45 years and was one of my best friends never fails to ask me when I'm flying up there ... when I'm coming home . I probably will not see her when I finally do get around to going home because it just seems pointless . It's really hurtful when people you're so close with just let you go
Jasmin,if you are looking for someone to talk to or text,you can always text or talk to me because I would return your text messages and phone calls. I have this one friend who hasn’t texted me or called me since last August. I still think of her as a friend but she needs to respond more.
Makes no sense when people do this. Then they have the nerve to contact me after ignoring my week old message. Don't message me ever again, period because I'm no longer responding 🙄🙅♀️🙅♀️ toxic people
My best friend always does this to me. We have been best friends for 20 years. We are both stay at home moms, so I know she isn’t like away from her phone. I sent her a care package and she was so happy so she made me one months ago and even took pics of it but won’t send it because she has no money. She takes over a week to reply to anything. Sometimes not even replying but starting a whole new convo, completely ignoring what I said. And funny thing is when I reply to the new convo, she won’t reply to me! Now her husband asked me to fly out on a whim to Florida to surprise her for her birthday. But she can’t even reply to a message, or mail my care package she promised months ago, but her husband can tell me all about the 200$ sky diving tickets her bought her for her birthday. I feel like now that I’m 30, I should just let the relationship go. It seems dead ):
@@K119_ wow I'm sorry you're going through that! Unresponsive "friends" drain your energy 😒 It seems like your friendship has lost its spark. After all those years the freindship should've blossomed but she seems a little selfish and ungrateful.. Maybe you should let the freindship go since you have to initiate the conversation.
@@Bella-ke7pr I will never understand people who answer the next day or days later when they don't have an emergency going on yet when you around them they're always on their phone. I'm truly tired of friends and lovers with avoidant attachment style tendencies they're draining as hell.
Thanks, Marie, I've taken your advice on more than one occasion and it all works out just fine. sometimes being the "nice", person is just not the correct way to handle relationships. By the way I love those earrings, they are beautiful. 😁
That has been a chronic problem with all of my supposed friends (pastors, church folk, family and even people I was in kindergarten with over 40 years ago). Yesterday I put up a social media post that I had just been diagnosed as diabetic. I got one response, my wife. All of my other friends (so called) are too busy playing on facebook, posting silly jokes, showing the 93rd baby picture this year and trying to impose their beliefs on others. When they put up a post asking for compassion and prayers I ALWAYS respond. Now, once again in my hour of need, for moral support, they're too busy. Friends are enemies that have not yet blossomed.
Good Advice, but I would not want a wide social circle. As I mature, I learn that quality of friends is better than quantity. I rather have a few real friends than a lot of fake ones. Also, putting people in their place...there are some people who should not be in your friend category. You can tell they not a friend because they treat you different than you treat them. They are called associates, people that you limit what you do or say to them. Then there are people you just don't want any dealings with If you set standards for yourself. You don't wanna be around shady people or people who want to bring you down.
A.P. Rawz I agree on one level, but sometimes it feels like all the quality people are taken, or they're busy with work or a romantic relationship because they are quality. And everyone wants to be with them. If everyone else left is the "average" or "bottom of the barrel" then sometimes quantity has to suffice. A little bit of everyone is sometimes better than nobody who is awesome.
Trust me I’m 32 and as I get older I totally understand having a close person to connect to. But at the same time, you’re not going to have deep relationships with everyone. It’s okay to have a fun acquaintance/casual friend where you can do fun stuff and talk about shallow things with and the conversations don’t always have to be super deep. Some kind of balance is nice.
Your just to nice about these rude people who do that. NO, when they suddenly stop taking your calls you also stop taking their calls and text let them know how it feels to be ignored. This type of relationship is doomed already when they don't want to talk anymore and leave you hanging wondering what you did, when it was them the whole time. CUT IT OFF WITH THEM.
I get a long just fine with no friends and those family members who give me grief. I am happy in my own company and been there and seen every type of user and abuser behavior.
I blocked someone like this on my phone and received an email from them 5 years later saying, "Hey my friend. Haven't heard from you in a long time" I blocked this person on email too
Thank for sharing this great video!....I experienced this, and this dynamic really never changes. I regret sticking around in a friendship and being treated like this for years. I finally walked away for good.
I love this advice Marie... I just wish I had learnt it sooner, I have made the mistake time and time again relying on a singular person for companionship and if for whatever reason it falls apart or we lose contact it can be the most lonely feeling in the world... I have now learnt my lesson but have an acquaintance going through a similar issue right now and it's really affecting them... they can't picture having another friend because they've invested so much love and energy into this friendship for so long only for it to fall apart and become toxic, I'm doing my best to support them.
This was good. I had a former longtime friend since my early teens who called me about going to a concert back in the summer of 2012 and I accepted as the rest of his work buddies bailed on him. I paid for the hotel we stayed at after the show.We then hung out during the fall of the same year as his girlfriend wanted to hang out with me and my fiancee and my other friend. I have not heard from him since. We did not have a huge fight or anything. People use others all of the time for their convenience. Prior to 2012 I rarely got any call or text for anything else for about 2 years or so. If people leave and you did nothing wrong there is something wrong with them. Not you.
Love how you put it.. put them on the backburner and don't make them a priority in your life. When you're too dependant on anyone doesn't matter who it is. Best friend, family member, boyfriend/ girlfriend.. Too dependant is never healthy.. It is nice when you know you can count on them to be there for you and that they take initiative in staying in contact. Staying in contact should never be a one sided thing. If it is then you should really re evaluated the contact/friendship.
Idk I’ve always been a loner. I have no friends at all of my social life comes from my co workers. A year ago I manage to become friends with my crush, but my pursuit ended once I found that she was gay..... But that was alright we became good friends, we would hang out all the time, never told her how I felt about her. That was alright I finally had made a friend...... But out of nowhere she started to act annoyed around my presence, just a simple “what up” was too much of a nuisance to her...... she never told me that I “bothered” her but I could sensed it..... I even directly asked her if in some way I bothered her/annoy her but she always said no, but her actions said otherwise. I distanced myself from her......, i don’t even say hello to her anymore when we bumped into each other or respond to her texts....... I am feeling kinda hurt cause she was like my only friend..... I kinda wanna know what I did to her that got her so upset with me but the other part doesn’t cause it will only bring me more hurt..... Hmmm could it be that she was starting to sensed that I had feelings for her? Idk
Holy crap! I was wondering ALL day what to do with my friend who is very high on the Narc scale? And LOVES to breadcrumb and use intermittent reinforcement in his communication? Thank YOU! In other words, do it back. Keep the love but do it back.
I literally am dealing with this constantly with this 1 friend.. She disappears for a couple weeks then suddenly is texting to hangout! And she won't text back for days/weeks and our hangouts are only when it's convenient for her and it's usually when something "big" has happened to her she needs to share it. 😒 if i had big news to share she barely pays attention.. Doesn't ever ask how I am even when i ask her.. And directs the convo back to her. Im so done
Love your videos Marie. I am finding it almost impossible to make friendships despite knowing lots of people. It seems that relationships in general are being de-emphasised these days, people just don't seem to want to get together. I am friendly and a good listener, but find most people self absorbed and not at all interesting in getting to know other people or reciprocate. I am giving up on friendships
Vicki Lynn same here... Alot of people are only busy with themselves. I don't meet alot of people who are genuine and interested. I find it hard to deal with nowadays because my Social life is like..zero... But I Just don't feel like hanging out with people who can only talk about themselves 🙄
Unfortunately i feel it's the way the world is going. Nobody wants to meet up anymore. Yes, you can text and stuff but you can't beat face to face conversation. Most people only come around when they want something.
This just happened. A chick, a recent acquaintance was sort of blowing me off, no prob she dropped off the radar. Now, TWO MONTHS later, LOL!! She sent a text inviting me to some last minute event where she wanted to use me. I IGNORED IT. Put on my calendar to get back to her in TWO MONTHS.
Good information. I like how to-the-point you are. Maybe you could reach out to the narcissists who are doing the picking and choosing to let them know that in the end they are the losers.
My best friend always does this to me. We have been best friends for 20 years. We are both stay at home moms, so I know she isn’t like away from her phone. I sent her a care package and she was so happy so she made me one months ago and even took pics of it but won’t send it because she has no money. She takes over a week to reply to anything. Sometimes not even replying but starting a whole new convo, completely ignoring what I said. And funny thing is when I reply to the new convo, she won’t reply to me! Now her husband asked me to fly out on a whim to Florida to surprise her for her birthday. But she can’t even reply to a message, or mail my care package she promised months ago, but her husband can tell me all about the 200$ sky diving tickets her bought her for her birthday. I feel like now that I’m 30, I should just let the relationship go. It seems dead now ):
My Bestfriend sometimes does not text me back for days and sometimes weeks. I texted her asking her for a small favor back in May and she did not text me back from a whole month and completely ignore the question I asked about the small favor. Even though she is my bestfriend I am no longer putting up with it. I act accordingly with her.
Exactly I totally agree with what you said. And you are right. just it is really easier said than done but taking a while, focus on ourselves or talking to a private counsellor if we need to. This happens to me as well. But now I don't care if my friend would text me back. I just leave it there. At the same time, I learn how to have a communication with different people and learn how to effectively text messages with different people. Yeah, my wish hopefully my friend would understand I am genuine. If not, I am gonna cry again. Because this is life. Initially, we need to take care of ourselves.
I have a friend who has been doing that for years. i know that she is a good person, but it is this which is destroying our friendship. I told her a couple.of times and she appologizes and for a period of time she replies to my messages, and then she ghosts me again. I once openely asked her if she doesn't like this friendship, but she says that she values my friendship.... Anyways I decided to ghost her back for good. There are no friends without communication.
Ive experience this kinda thing... a good friend of mine suddenly change the way she treats me all of a sudden, she became cold and distant and the worst of it it felt as if i was abandoned by a close friend for months,.. the sad part of it was that it was the first time that ive been emotionally open to someone only to realize that being emotionally attached can screw you up so bad... not planning to ever do that again!!! it felt as if i was chasing someone for their affection and attention, trying to figure out what i did wrong... a few months ago we started talking again and were kinda ok but somehow part of me still looks back to those months that she ignored me and a part of me fears that she will one day do that to me again...
mymusicpage4321 please be careful, she will probably do it again and if you allow it she will do it repeatedly. Someone who truly cares about you will never treat you that way for no reason. I had a friend who did that to me and had I known better then I would not get as badly hurt as I did by allowing her to treat me that way until I finally walked out on the friendship!
Hi marie, nice to see you post videos again! I miss all your videos and thanks for all the videos/advice youve posted. They have helped! Hope everything is going well for you!
This is so annoying. Imagine saying something on the phone without a freaking reply.. I replied to you...can you do the same?! At least a "like" sheesh. I'm through with most people. Stephanie Tanner "How Rude!"
People if someone does not return your text and your concerned of what is going on, just stop texting and start calling and you can always asked. If you call and they never answer, dont return your call or sound aloof then its very possible they dont want to be bothered by you. What you do next? You leave a voice mail and a final text message stating..." Hey stranger, I been trying to get a hold of you. Not sure what I did wrong or what is going on. But I hope your okay." Now that they finally got the message there should be no question whether or not where they stand at with you. As for moving on to other friends. Be Careful who you call your friends because not everyone are your friend so you cannot expect them to treat you the same way you treat them. Be friends with people who willing to take a chance with you. Not everyone deserves your friendship. You will not have many friends in this life ... your circle is better being small with real friends than big with a bunch of fake friends.
Hello, first of all, I love your videos, I wanted to know your opinion on something, so I'm in college and I'm industrious and serious but I'm also humorous and I'm not really that much of an introvert, the problem is my group of friends, they talk to me and everything but I feel like it's only when they need something or want me to explain a lesson, I avoided saying anything, until I realized something, we had a project, and we were in it as a group, so as they made a list for something important one of my friends wrote all the names and didn't write mine I thought it was okay since he apologized, but then the very next morning, another friend of mine from the same group was the one handling the presentation on screen, and she wrote everyone's names and of course she didn't write mine...so I said why didn't you write my name..and another girl from the same circle of friends said to me in why do you always point out stupid observations in an aggressive tone..which was disrespectful!
My 'friend' of 38 yrs started not responding to emails and calls but still persisted in using our home as an almost weekly getaway from her turbulent home life. She helped herself in our home pontificating about anything and everything, judging us, and we were getting fed up so I asked to meet her in a restaurant and tell her how not responding hurt my feelings. I got shit "why didn't you tell me this six months as go!'". After this I basically mirrored her bad behaviour by not responding or inviting and before long she wanted to meet with me to tell me what was "wrong with me". That was it. I dumped her and haven't missed her once tho it took a couple of yrs to get over the fact she hadn't been my friend at all for a very long time. I just refused to see it and gave her too many benefits of the doubt.
I have one friend who I would send text messages to and she would respond 10-15 days later. What does this mean? How could she possibly be this busy that she can't answer a text message, like all it takes is 1 min out of her day?
Shes selfish and a narcissist go with gut feelings move on I had to beat myself up over n over with this they dont care about you! Your considered nothing to them!
I am dealing with this except it’s two or 3 days feeling put down and not like like I used to be I am not treated #1 anymore I’m crying because it hurts my feelings can’t stand people treating me like this
Hey, well today my friends have been planning something behind my back and they don't want to tell me. And I found out that they wanted to have a whole day of fun without me and their trying their hardest to not tell me what there doing but I know but they don't know I know. I just dont know what to do these are my bff's and yet they just can't even tell me what their doing and their lying to me about what they're going to do and My friend is really trying her hardest to not let me know and it's so obvious that she's doing that so if someone brings up the subject she changes it to something else I just dont know what to do
Kristel423 that's horrible that your friends are leaving you out. I don't think they're genuine real friends that you need to be around & I'm sorry that they did that to you. Sometimes being in your own company is better than being in company that treat you like your invisible. Always remember that you deserve better, and like the video said find friends by joining clubs. That way you can be around friends that include you & treat you with kindness.
and added to my first comment, not texting first/back does NOT mean I don't care for my friends/family. I care about myself enough to give myself alone time instead of wasting time on my phone. I like to nap, and my friends are welcome to come nap with me anytime. :p
I have a friend who texts me on her one terms every 3 to 4 months only so if it happens that I text her earlier than 3 to 4 months she will not answer my text. She textes me when she decides so meaning only when she wants to see me , it’s every 3 to 4 months.on top of that she makes a face behind her mask when I speak to her, she thinks I don’t realise it . I am very tired of this behaviour, some people advised me to drop her.
Well, I am here, because I had someone I have considered a friend for the better part of the last 25 years pull some serious BS this week. And I have decided I am done. I had a double surgery about 6 days ago. I am home, but had complications and need some help to keep up on chores ATM. Surgery was bad. And I am in very bad pain. I live by myself. So a friend of many years, who has offered to do “anything I need or ask” for years said she would come and do a cleanup for me. Dishes, garbage cans. Vacuum. That sort of thing. I have never taken her up on the offer before today. Because I don’t like to bother people. Well the day for her help is planned. I message the night before. She doesn’t respond all night. But I can she read it. Next day comes. She messages, what is your address. I give it. She then says, can I come later or tomorrow. I ask what’s wrong? She doesn’t respond for 36 hours. At all. But again, she read it. Then she messages me out of the blue, next day, “how are you today”? Like everything is cool and normal. She blew me off like this over a guy she has been seeing for like a week. This shows how truly low our friendship ranks with her. So you know what? You take care of you. I will do the same. Stay away from me. I don’t need this toxic bs. When I was down and out and needed her most, she threw the friendship in the trash. After practically begging me to come help me anytime I needed it, for years. The one time I do really need it,she can’t even be courteous enough to tell me she isn’t showing up. Do yourselves a favor. Drop these type of people like a bad habit! I have cleaned out my social closet the last year and it has opened so many opportunities and time up for me. For actual important things! And for the very few who truly are special friends. Most people are self centered,selfish and only loyal to themselves today. I don’t need it. Neither do any of you!
+Sylvia Hiller if you have tried to talk to her and still nothing, I would say distance yourself. She will probably come around when she realizes you are a true friend and the rest are superficial. In the mean time, get to know other people. Widen your social circle...You need to anyway.
I have never texted or messages or read them, I am dyslexic,(I could if I tried I think) I politely told every one I can't and mentioned in business letters I send,,It's better I have come to believe now,, Only direct voice calls,,I like to use the phone for communication not idle gossip,, I am surprised this text thing has caught on phones have lost their original use,, well meaning people have said I will show you how to text/voice mail, I say I am not stupid I just DONT want to know,, ,
i do this.... i feel like crap every time i do. not that i want to do something with them in particular, but these are usually long-time friends i suddenly stop talking to for months or some even years... i don't leave them with an empty conversation in the text like "hi" "hey :)" "how are you doing?" *no reply*. i really feel like crap about this and i don't know what to do about it. these people i really consider friends but i am not a good friend to them, even if they say they understand I'm just not good at texting. I just don't know how to fix myself. and when we were in the same city, these are people i would go visit almost every day and talk to all the time. i moved for the 5th time now and i haven't made any new friends, but don't really feel like it either. If you have any advice please let me know.
I'm too empathic for this crap- I can't drop them and I don't know why. Is it because I know what it feels like losing someone? Is it because I'm afraid of being alone? They're all I got if I drop them then I'm left with 2 friends who have a busy life. But I mean, if they're not replying to me then it doesn't matter because the silence doesn't change? I don't know. We've had some good memories over time,,, it's just that our interest don't always align since they're not empathic AT ALL and just want to do what benefits them while I'm hella empathic and want to help others. I don't know anymore but I am aware of the possible toxicity which is good. I just think that they don't realize it but then again that could be my empathy talking. I truly believe that they don't realize it though and my mom (I'm 15) says that it's probably because he's a boy (i'm a female) and just want's to play games at that age. In all honesty I doubt that's the case though. Gender isn't an excuse, is it? God I'm so lost. I don't know what I'm doing. I find myself searching everyday about this and what to do- I just don't want to be alone. Maybe I should reach out to the people who follow me on Wattpad and ask if they're looking for any long term friends. I'm not the best with talking to new people but this might be my best bet when it comes to looking for a real friend. Plus, they follow me and reply to my announcements with the common interest- honestly now I'm thinking this is my best bet. I guess I'll go and reach out on Wattpad tomorrow if anyone is looking for a friend. Hopefully I get this figured out soon- I'm tired of feeling alone.
hi Marie i need some advice, i have made a new friend who i have been friends with for about 5 months, and this person is very popular, and has made me popular. about 1 month ago we had a small argument that meant we were apart for 4 days. this made me extremely unhappy, and now we are back as very good friends. but when i go home i sometimes worry i will be left by then and i will be unhappy again. i can not stop worrying at nights. please can you give me tips to improve my confidence and the friendship. by the way your tips told me how to win then back so thank you.
I had a so called friend that calls every month or so and then wants me to call her when I see a sale on a certain product...she said, don't just e mail me, call me. I hung up and thought she has a lot of nerve. So selfish
Hi Marie! I'm in a very confused state here and I want you to please help me out! Basically I watched a movie with my family and one person having a side role in the movie attracted to me. He doesn't have a huge following. I followed him on a social media app. The next day he messaged me. I was a bit taken aback for a moment as to why and how this person wants to talk to me after leaving all the people. I was just a follower. I made sure it was legit him and not a fake person. He isn't very famous. I made some wrong moves like asking for the contact number and denying the fact that it was really him. I saw that after that or something, he isn't talking to me anymore online. I sent him a message and he replied me after a day and not so much now. Actually it has stopped. Though I'm guilty and sad about what should I do to make him my friend and make him talk to me. Please make a video and help me out on this. I'm in a very bad state. Please I need your help as soon as possible! Thank you so much for helping us all so much!
Back then I think they still my friends but later in life they not my real friends cuz if they were I would still being part of their life who we used to be cool with. But in reality I only have 1 friends who I ride with for 10 years.
I haven't gotten half way through the video yet, but I want to state that not everyone likes texting. I am a person that has my messages muted, and I only check my texts a couple times a day. Also, I'm trying to live a less electronically controlled life, so I stay away from texting. I sometimes take 3-4 days to reply to my friends, and it's not a big deal. I have a life, and I hate texting. I shouldn't feel obligated to do an action I don't like to (I like talking on the phone, and hanging out in person). when I do text my friends, i don't ask for anything, though. not sure if this video was aimed towards that, but don't make a friend feel bad for not texting, unless you can tell they don't value the friendship/using you.
Sure some people don't like to text but texting is just another form of communicating. Phones are electric so its not much different. Its more so about friends who you assume is your friend but in reality you're just another toy in the toy chest they get tired of. But this is more so about moving on from people who ignore your chances or attempts to contact them. By talking to your acquaintances, making newer friends, and gaining experience.
Sometimes to maintain relationships we have to put in an effort and texting back is a very small but important thing to do because honestly, it takes only a few minutes to text someone and if it’s your important friends and you still wont put in the effort to do something that you know will mean something to your friends then i don’t think you got the true meaning of friendship. It’s all about your convenience at this point.
I have a friend and she is constantly mean and horrible and then of all of a sudden nice, if I make one bad move she exaggerates and tells other people and she keeps sending me these of awful texts saying things like, I told our friendship group on you and they all hate you or for goodness sake yourself, your a mean horrible selfish person sometimes and then the next day she writes an apology letter and repeats this twice a month and its sooo stressful I don't know what to do so should I be friends with someone who treats me kind and then mean ?She has also made me back away from or friendship group and its really weird because they all look at me and whisper and ignore me through the day
She's talking about you to them hence whispers. Then being two faced to you. Nice then mean...She's not your friend x sorry x get a new friend group if you can. It will make you feel much happier 😁
Hi Marie, do you have any tips for this situation? In my group of friends there's a bit of a love triangle as two of the guys were both in love with my BFF, and they had both confessed their feelings to her at different times, leading to her starting dating one of them. We thought that the other guy was over it by then but he's now decided to not see her/them together for a while because it's too hard/hurts too much for him (her bf is his close childhood friend too). So basically, he's not going to hang out with us anymore for a while, and I don't know how long "a while" is... what should we do? Is there anything we can do?
+15randomperson I would give him some time, but that doesn't mean you can't get together with him one-on-one or with other people. He will probably appreciate the support.
I deal with this issue some with Facebook friends more than texts. Marie, how do I ask you a question ? I have just found your channel and would greatly appreciate your advice on a issue I am trying to deal with. Thank you
+Marie Dubuque There's this guy I really like but his one year older than me. We don't talk or anything, I followed him on instagram and I see him around. He always looks at me. And one time he was sitting with all of his friends and when i looked back they were all staring at me. This morning i was standing next to the lunch line typing my phone number on my friends phone and then I look up and I see him and he was really red. Do you think he likes me or should I just move on?
+Ana Falcon try talking to him as you would any other friend. The more he gets to know you, the more comfortable he will feel around you. It sounds as if he likes you!
Hi Marie, can you tell me if I should use this same advice- Recently I moved out of state for a job. I still text my good friend however she is getting married soon so she is busy a lot. We have facetimed before. I recently asked her to Facetime again since I missed her but did not realize that her bridal shower was two days later (she didn't tell me, which is fine). She kept saying she was stressed and busy so i said fine we don't have to Facetime that particular day. Then i find out on Facebook that she is having happy hr with a co-worker after work the same day/time we would of had our own happy hour Facetime chat. I'm really hurt and upset, especially since I'm not there anymore and I'm busy being homesick. Also too since I've asked her to Facetime me again for so long all we do is text. She always just apologizes. I had started trying to move on from her by not responding as quickly to her texts since I felt she was not as responsive. Plus since I'm not there anymore we would naturally grow apart- esp if shes getting married. But she always sucks me back in and texts me later. Should i use this same advice? Is she not a close friend like i thought, or not a big deal? Thanks!
+Alexandra A I would put her on the back burner. Some people are like that. As soon as you move away, they don't consider you a close friend anymore. Sure, keep in touch, but don't expect much. It's OK. This will force you to make new friends in your new community. You can do it!
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ppl are extremely narcissistic and all they care about is THEM. Social media has brought out the worst in ppl.
Absolutely ☺
Yep. I am TH-cam a holic but screw Facebook or Twitter
Right?! They text you on THEIR time but you write a long text and they fail to respond after they've seen it. Why do I even bother? No one cares
Amen!
@@iannacn4951 it means we are picking the wrong people as friends.
Better to just totally drop people who treat you as last on the list.
@Sonnyツ same
...or just learn to love your own company and be your own best friend and no matter what is happening externally you will know that you always have yourself! liberating!
+Donna Perry Exactly! Love yourself and you'll never feel alone :D
I trying to do this ☺
Easy to say so
@@vishalk1128 yes, it is easy....easier than loving somebody else....stop the self sabotaging beliefs
Thats fucking lonely
I delete their phone numbers too. Thank you!!
Same
I did this to a girl I knew for awhile she would like my photos on Instagram and comment onto it, but never texted me. My question is why did I get this girl number for.. we are both mothers and never had the time to check up on one another.. !!! We both lives in the same city sadly deleted and block on her Instagram. I am taking a break off from Instagram so much delusional people
@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 Girl same my dad sister does this….won’t text me but she’ll react and comment on my facebook posts she even made a comment under a post I shared asking for my number. I texted her and she never replied and she always does this but she’ll be on Facebook making statuses engaging with her friends on fb I just blocked and deleted her today. Same thing with my Dad oldest daughter she never responds and when she do shes already “getting ready for bed” so the conversation is already over then and there and I notice that my dad sister and oldest daughter does this all the time and he always has that “their busy” excuse when it comes to them 🙄
Me too
Lol this made me cackle i literally do this all the time. Then when they text me back I write back "who is this?" Haha
My college friend and I was texting and she just disappeared when I asked her when she is free to go out together. Strangely the idea to go out was hers. Then after a week I texted her again, still no reply. Then after a month she texts me and asks me to help her out on some project. I was so devastated since I really liked her as a friend. Then I didn't contact her ever since. She calls me and texts me now but I neither call her back nor return her texts. I will not let her to walk all over me.
+Jasmin96961 I'm in the exact same situation as well! The weird part is that she's the one that plans the get-togethers and brings up the idea of hanging out, but then never follows through with it and ends up showing me up :( It's very time consuming and draining to always be there for someone in a friendship and to never have them be there for you.
See they only call when they want something
@@C0wboyzfan4life exactly!!
I had a similar experience with a former friend of mine asking me to go with him to a concert back in 2012. Have not heard from him since.
Good on you sister. I need to become like that too. I feel so undervalued when I always message/text "friends," but never get the same love/treatment back :(
This is so true. If they’re acting this way they they’re not worth your time
Thank you for the advice. I notice that the person I was considering a friend even has parties at her house, and doesn't even invite me. All I know is that I am valuable, and my puppies deserve more of my time than any person who rejects me.
Someone said this to me and its true....if they wanted to text back, they would....carry on doing what you want to....distance yourself because they will keep on doing this...
You deserve more subscribers...
I thought I was being a bitch by reciprocating that treatment to my best friend. I'm glad to see I wasn't wrong in doing that. Thanks for the advice.
Stop making people a priority in your life when you're just an option in theirs!
Yes!
I'm not looking for a friendship with people that act like that
I want to be friend
My best friend of 21 years is doing this to me. Never calling me or texting me back. Not listening or asking how I am doing. Only calling me to talk about herself for hours. Not being happy for good things. I am shattered
Jasmin , I feel really bad for you .... but I kind of know how you feel because I moved about 1,500 miles away from family and friends 14 years ago .
At first some of them were still talking with me regularly and all I could tell you is none of them want to talk on the phone and some of them rarely text me back in a timely manner .
Some don't text back for weeks or even months .
How incredibly rude .
Yet one of these people so I've known for about 45 years and was one of my best friends never fails to ask me when I'm flying up there ... when I'm coming home .
I probably will not see her when I finally do get around to going home because it just seems pointless .
It's really hurtful when people you're so close with just let you go
Jasmin,if you are looking for someone to talk to or text,you can always text or talk to me because I would return your text messages and phone calls. I have this one friend who hasn’t texted me or called me since last August. I still think of her as a friend but she needs to respond more.
I wish I knew your channel during high school haha
I know a friend who acts like that... never finishing conversations...
Very true! I had a friend who came back 18 years later.They wanted to meet up and I said no.
Makes no sense when people do this. Then they have the nerve to contact me after ignoring my week old message. Don't message me ever again, period because I'm no longer responding 🙄🙅♀️🙅♀️ toxic people
My best friend always does this to me. We have been best friends for 20 years.
We are both stay at home moms, so I know she isn’t like away from her phone.
I sent her a care package and she was so happy so she made me one months ago and even took pics of it but won’t send it because she has no money.
She takes over a week to reply to anything. Sometimes not even replying but starting a whole new convo, completely ignoring what I said. And funny thing is when I reply to the new convo, she won’t reply to me!
Now her husband asked me to fly out on a whim to Florida to surprise her for her birthday. But she can’t even reply to a message, or mail my care package she promised months ago, but her husband can tell me all about the 200$ sky diving tickets her bought her for her birthday.
I feel like now that I’m 30, I should just let the relationship go.
It seems dead ):
@@K119_ wow I'm sorry you're going through that! Unresponsive "friends" drain your energy 😒 It seems like your friendship has lost its spark. After all those years the freindship should've blossomed but she seems a little selfish and ungrateful.. Maybe you should let the freindship go since you have to initiate the conversation.
@@Bella-ke7pr I will never understand people who answer the next day or days later when they don't have an emergency going on yet when you around them they're always on their phone. I'm truly tired of friends and lovers with avoidant attachment style tendencies they're draining as hell.
@@dvmn444 💯 and I still respond a year later. That prices our point.
110% agree!
Thanks, Marie, I've taken your advice on more than one occasion and it all works out just fine. sometimes being the "nice", person is just not the correct way to handle relationships. By the way I love those earrings, they are beautiful. 😁
That has been a chronic problem with all of my supposed friends (pastors, church folk, family and even people I was in kindergarten with over 40 years ago). Yesterday I put up a social media post that I had just been diagnosed as diabetic. I got one response, my wife. All of my other friends (so called) are too busy playing on facebook, posting silly jokes, showing the 93rd baby picture this year and trying to impose their beliefs on others. When they put up a post asking for compassion and prayers I ALWAYS respond. Now, once again in my hour of need, for moral support, they're too busy. Friends are enemies that have not yet blossomed.
Have you changed your diet?
Good Advice, but I would not want a wide social circle. As I mature, I learn that quality of friends is better than quantity. I rather have a few real friends than a lot of fake ones.
Also, putting people in their place...there are some people who should not be in your friend category. You can tell they not a friend because they treat you different than you treat them. They are called associates, people that you limit what you do or say to them.
Then there are people you just don't want any dealings with If you set standards for yourself. You don't wanna be around shady people or people who want to bring you down.
A.P. Rawz I agree on one level, but sometimes it feels like all the quality people are taken, or they're busy with work or a romantic relationship because they are quality. And everyone wants to be with them. If everyone else left is the "average" or "bottom of the barrel" then sometimes quantity has to suffice. A little bit of everyone is sometimes better than nobody who is awesome.
Trust me I’m 32 and as I get older I totally understand having a close person to connect to. But at the same time, you’re not going to have deep relationships with everyone. It’s okay to have a fun acquaintance/casual friend where you can do fun stuff and talk about shallow things with and the conversations don’t always have to be super deep. Some kind of balance is nice.
@Iquey both perspectives are correct.
Your just to nice about these rude people who do that. NO, when they suddenly stop taking your calls you also stop taking their calls and text let them know how it feels to be ignored. This type of relationship is doomed already when they don't want to talk anymore and leave you hanging wondering what you did, when it was them the whole time. CUT IT OFF WITH THEM.
I get a long just fine with no friends and those family members who give me grief. I am happy in my own company and been there and seen every type of user and abuser behavior.
Thank you for your advise. So much empathy in your voice and it's appreciate.
I blocked someone like this on my phone and received an email from them 5 years later saying, "Hey my friend. Haven't heard from you in a long time"
I blocked this person on email too
Thank for sharing this great video!....I experienced this, and this dynamic really never changes. I regret sticking around in a friendship and being treated like this for years. I finally walked away for good.
I love this advice Marie... I just wish I had learnt it sooner, I have made the mistake time and time again relying on a singular person for companionship and if for whatever reason it falls apart or we lose contact it can be the most lonely feeling in the world... I have now learnt my lesson but have an acquaintance going through a similar issue right now and it's really affecting them... they can't picture having another friend because they've invested so much love and energy into this friendship for so long only for it to fall apart and become toxic, I'm doing my best to support them.
This was good. I had a former longtime friend since my early teens who called me about going to a concert back in the summer of 2012 and I accepted as the rest of his work buddies bailed on him. I paid for the hotel we stayed at after the show.We then hung out during the fall of the same year as his girlfriend wanted to hang out with me and my fiancee and my other friend. I have not heard from him since. We did not have a huge fight or anything. People use others all of the time for their convenience. Prior to 2012 I rarely got any call or text for anything else for about 2 years or so. If people leave and you did nothing wrong there is something wrong with them. Not you.
Love how you put it.. put them on the backburner and don't make them a priority in your life. When you're too dependant on anyone doesn't matter who it is. Best friend, family member, boyfriend/ girlfriend.. Too dependant is never healthy.. It is nice when you know you can count on them to be there for you and that they take initiative in staying in contact. Staying in contact should never be a one sided thing. If it is then you should really re evaluated the contact/friendship.
Idk I’ve always been a loner. I have no friends at all of my social life comes from my co workers. A year ago I manage to become friends with my crush, but my pursuit ended once I found that she was gay..... But that was alright we became good friends, we would hang out all the time, never told her how I felt about her. That was alright I finally had made a friend......
But out of nowhere she started to act annoyed around my presence, just a simple “what up” was too much of a nuisance to her...... she never told me that I “bothered” her but I could sensed it..... I even directly asked her if in some way I bothered her/annoy her but she always said no, but her actions said otherwise. I distanced myself from her......, i don’t even say hello to her anymore when we bumped into each other or respond to her texts.......
I am feeling kinda hurt cause she was like my only friend..... I kinda wanna know what I did to her that got her so upset with me but the other part doesn’t cause it will only bring me more hurt.....
Hmmm could it be that she was starting to sensed that I had feelings for her? Idk
Holy crap! I was wondering ALL day what to do with my friend who is very high on the Narc scale? And LOVES to breadcrumb and use intermittent reinforcement in his communication? Thank YOU! In other words, do it back. Keep the love but do it back.
This is why there’s a loneliness epidemic in the world
I’ve learned this vital lesson the hard way!
what a coincidence I have been thinking about this a lot.. and I get the notification and well it's a hint (':
I literally am dealing with this constantly with this 1 friend.. She disappears for a couple weeks then suddenly is texting to hangout! And she won't text back for days/weeks and our hangouts are only when it's convenient for her and it's usually when something "big" has happened to her she needs to share it. 😒 if i had big news to share she barely pays attention.. Doesn't ever ask how I am even when i ask her.. And directs the convo back to her. Im so done
Love your videos Marie. I am finding it almost impossible to make friendships despite knowing lots of people. It seems that relationships in general are being de-emphasised these days, people just don't seem to want to get together. I am friendly and a good listener, but find most people self absorbed and not at all interesting in getting to know other people or reciprocate. I am giving up on friendships
Vicki Lynn same here... Alot of people are only busy with themselves. I don't meet alot of people who are genuine and interested. I find it hard to deal with nowadays because my Social life is like..zero... But I Just don't feel like hanging out with people who can only talk about themselves 🙄
Unfortunately i feel it's the way the world is going. Nobody wants to meet up anymore. Yes, you can text and stuff but you can't beat face to face conversation. Most people only come around when they want something.
This just happened. A chick, a recent acquaintance was sort of blowing me off, no prob she dropped off the radar. Now, TWO MONTHS later, LOL!! She sent a text inviting me to some last minute event where she wanted to use me. I IGNORED IT. Put on my calendar to get back to her in TWO MONTHS.
This is a perfect video for me.....
Good information. I like how to-the-point you are. Maybe you could reach out to the narcissists who are doing the picking and choosing to let them know that in the end they are the losers.
this is so true, great advice as always, thank you!!
She said 'I'm like a broken record.'
I wholeheartedly agree
My best friend always does this to me. We have been best friends for 20 years.
We are both stay at home moms, so I know she isn’t like away from her phone.
I sent her a care package and she was so happy so she made me one months ago and even took pics of it but won’t send it because she has no money.
She takes over a week to reply to anything. Sometimes not even replying but starting a whole new convo, completely ignoring what I said. And funny thing is when I reply to the new convo, she won’t reply to me!
Now her husband asked me to fly out on a whim to Florida to surprise her for her birthday. But she can’t even reply to a message, or mail my care package she promised months ago, but her husband can tell me all about the 200$ sky diving tickets her bought her for her birthday.
I feel like now that I’m 30, I should just let the relationship go.
It seems dead now ):
My Bestfriend sometimes does not text me back for days and sometimes weeks. I texted her asking her for a small favor back in May and she did not text me back from a whole month and completely ignore the question I asked about the small favor. Even though she is my bestfriend I am no longer putting up with it. I act accordingly with her.
In other words don't be a doormat!! 👍
Thanks for the great tips on finding friends that you included here. I appreciate your sound solid advice.
Exactly I totally agree with what you said. And you are right. just it is really easier said than done but taking a while, focus on ourselves or talking to a private counsellor if we need to. This happens to me as well. But now I don't care if my friend would text me back. I just leave it there. At the same time, I learn how to have a communication with different people and learn how to effectively text messages with different people. Yeah, my wish hopefully my friend would understand I am genuine. If not, I am gonna cry again. Because this is life. Initially, we need to take care of ourselves.
I have a friend who has been doing that for years. i know that she is a good person, but it is this which is destroying our friendship. I told her a couple.of times and she appologizes and for a period of time she replies to my messages, and then she ghosts me again. I once openely asked her if she doesn't like this friendship, but she says that she values my friendship.... Anyways I decided to ghost her back for good.
There are no friends without communication.
Ive experience this kinda thing... a good friend of mine suddenly change the way she treats me all of a sudden, she became cold and distant and the worst of it it felt as if i was abandoned by a close friend for months,.. the sad part of it was that it was the first time that ive been emotionally open to someone only to realize that being emotionally attached can screw you up so bad... not planning to ever do that again!!! it felt as if i was chasing someone for their affection and attention, trying to figure out what i did wrong... a few months ago we started talking again and were kinda ok but somehow part of me still looks back to those months that she ignored me and a part of me fears that she will one day do that to me again...
mymusicpage4321 please be careful, she will probably do it again and if you allow it she will do it repeatedly. Someone who truly cares about you will never treat you that way for no reason. I had a friend who did that to me and had I known better then I would not get as badly hurt as I did by allowing her to treat me that way until I finally walked out on the friendship!
I cried when watching this. So right and need someone to say this!
Blocked and removed them off all social media and your phone
Hi marie, nice to see you post videos again! I miss all your videos and thanks for all the videos/advice youve posted. They have helped! Hope everything is going well for you!
She is so great & on Point Cant wait till I have Marie Dubuque ron my show again such and talented person
This is so annoying. Imagine saying something on the phone without a freaking reply.. I replied to you...can you do the same?! At least a "like" sheesh. I'm through with most people. Stephanie Tanner "How Rude!"
People if someone does not return your text and your concerned of what is going on, just stop texting and start calling and you can always asked. If you call and they never answer, dont return your call or sound aloof then its very possible they dont want to be bothered by you.
What you do next? You leave a voice mail and a final text message stating..." Hey stranger, I been trying to get a hold of you. Not sure what I did wrong or what is going on. But I hope your okay."
Now that they finally got the message there should be no question whether or not where they stand at with you.
As for moving on to other friends. Be Careful who you call your friends because not everyone are your friend so you cannot expect them to treat you the same way you treat them. Be friends with people who willing to take a chance with you. Not everyone deserves your friendship. You will not have many friends in this life ... your circle is better being small with real friends than big with a bunch of fake friends.
Amen ☺
i...played this 5 times...love your videos marie!
thank u so much 4 all the videos u make u saved my social life so many different times
Perfect video. Heard just what I needed now.
Love you Marie. Thanks for all you do.
Hello, first of all, I love your videos, I wanted to know your opinion on something, so I'm in college and I'm industrious and serious but I'm also humorous and I'm not really that much of an introvert, the problem is my group of friends, they talk to me and everything but I feel like it's only when they need something or want me to explain a lesson, I avoided saying anything, until I realized something, we had a project, and we were in it as a group, so as they made a list for something important one of my friends wrote all the names and didn't write mine I thought it was okay since he apologized, but then the very next morning, another friend of mine from the same group was the one handling the presentation on screen, and she wrote everyone's names and of course she didn't write mine...so I said why didn't you write my name..and another girl from the same circle of friends said to me in why do you always point out stupid observations in an aggressive tone..which was disrespectful!
My 'friend' of 38 yrs started not responding to emails and calls but still persisted in using our home as an almost weekly getaway from her turbulent home life. She helped herself in our home pontificating about anything and everything, judging us, and we were getting fed up so I asked to meet her in a restaurant and tell her how not responding hurt my feelings. I got shit "why didn't you tell me this six months as go!'". After this I basically mirrored her bad behaviour by not responding or inviting and before long she wanted to meet with me to tell me what was "wrong with me". That was it. I dumped her and haven't missed her once tho it took a couple of yrs to get over the fact she hadn't been my friend at all for a very long time. I just refused to see it and gave her too many benefits of the doubt.
I have one friend who I would send text messages to and she would respond 10-15 days later. What does this mean? How could she possibly be this busy that she can't answer a text message, like all it takes is 1 min out of her day?
Shes selfish and a narcissist go with gut feelings move on I had to beat myself up over n over with this they dont care about you! Your considered nothing to them!
I am dealing with this except it’s two or 3 days feeling put down and not like like I used to be I am not treated #1 anymore I’m crying because it hurts my feelings can’t stand people treating me like this
Your not the onlying one
Hey, well today my friends have been planning something behind my back and they don't want to tell me. And I found out that they wanted to have a whole day of fun without me and their trying their hardest to not tell me what there doing but I know but they don't know I know. I just dont know what to do these are my bff's and yet they just can't even tell me what their doing and their lying to me about what they're going to do and My friend is really trying her hardest to not let me know and it's so obvious that she's doing that so if someone brings up the subject she changes it to something else I just dont know what to do
Kristel423 that's horrible that your friends are leaving you out. I don't think they're genuine real friends that you need to be around & I'm sorry that they did that to you. Sometimes being in your own company is better than being in company that treat you like your invisible. Always remember that you deserve better, and like the video said find friends by joining clubs. That way you can be around friends that include you & treat you with kindness.
wait 2 weeks to text them back, and then i would let them know directly and then move on
Is this actual advice? +10 respect
and added to my first comment, not texting first/back does NOT mean I don't care for my friends/family. I care about myself enough to give myself alone time instead of wasting time on my phone. I like to nap, and my friends are welcome to come nap with me anytime. :p
I have a friend who texts me on her one terms every 3 to 4 months only so if it happens that I text her earlier than 3 to 4 months she will not answer my text.
She textes me when she decides so meaning only when she wants to see me , it’s every 3 to 4 months.on top of that she makes a face behind her mask when I speak to her, she thinks I don’t realise it .
I am very tired of this behaviour, some people advised me to drop her.
i answer texts straight away then they take 14678 days to respond
Where have you been for the past year? This is very helpful, as are most of your videos. Thanks
Well, I am here, because I had someone I have considered a friend for the better part of the last 25 years pull some serious BS this week. And I have decided I am done. I had a double surgery about 6 days ago. I am home, but had complications and need some help to keep up on chores ATM. Surgery was bad. And I am in very bad pain.
I live by myself. So a friend of many years, who has offered to do “anything I need or ask” for years said she would come and do a cleanup for me. Dishes, garbage cans. Vacuum. That sort of thing. I have never taken her up on the offer before today. Because I don’t like to bother people.
Well the day for her help is planned. I message the night before. She doesn’t respond all night. But I can she read it. Next day comes. She messages, what is your address. I give it. She then says, can I come later or tomorrow. I ask what’s wrong? She doesn’t respond for 36 hours. At all. But again, she read it.
Then she messages me out of the blue, next day, “how are you today”? Like everything is cool and normal. She blew me off like this over a guy she has been seeing for like a week. This shows how truly low our friendship ranks with her. So you know what? You take care of you. I will do the same. Stay away from me. I don’t need this toxic bs. When I was down and out and needed her most, she threw the friendship in the trash. After practically begging me to come help me anytime I needed it, for years. The one time I do really need it,she can’t even be courteous enough to tell me she isn’t showing up.
Do yourselves a favor. Drop these type of people like a bad habit! I have cleaned out my social closet the last year and it has opened so many opportunities and time up for me. For actual important things! And for the very few who truly are special friends. Most people are self centered,selfish and only loyal to themselves today. I don’t need it. Neither do any of you!
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What do I do if my best friend just used me for popularity and then unfriends you?
+Sylvia Hiller if you have tried to talk to her and still nothing, I would say distance yourself. She will probably come around when she realizes you are a true friend and the rest are superficial. In the mean time, get to know other people. Widen your social circle...You need to anyway.
I have texted my friend and called him 19 times and he will not reply back.
This video was very helpful!
great stuff. i have a few of these in my life.
I have never texted or messages or read them, I am dyslexic,(I could if I tried I think) I politely told every one I can't and mentioned in business letters I send,,It's better I have come to believe now,, Only direct voice calls,,I like to use the phone for communication not idle gossip,, I am surprised this text thing has caught on phones have lost their original use,,
well meaning people have said I will show you how to text/voice mail, I say I am not stupid I just DONT want to know,,
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i do this.... i feel like crap every time i do. not that i want to do something with them in particular, but these are usually long-time friends i suddenly stop talking to for months or some even years... i don't leave them with an empty conversation in the text like "hi" "hey :)" "how are you doing?" *no reply*. i really feel like crap about this and i don't know what to do about it. these people i really consider friends but i am not a good friend to them, even if they say they understand I'm just not good at texting. I just don't know how to fix myself. and when we were in the same city, these are people i would go visit almost every day and talk to all the time. i moved for the 5th time now and i haven't made any new friends, but don't really feel like it either. If you have any advice please let me know.
My best friends don’t answer my texts
I guess I’ll have to choose Bookshelf over Maggie
I'm too empathic for this crap- I can't drop them and I don't know why. Is it because I know what it feels like losing someone? Is it because I'm afraid of being alone? They're all I got if I drop them then I'm left with 2 friends who have a busy life. But I mean, if they're not replying to me then it doesn't matter because the silence doesn't change? I don't know. We've had some good memories over time,,, it's just that our interest don't always align since they're not empathic AT ALL and just want to do what benefits them while I'm hella empathic and want to help others. I don't know anymore but I am aware of the possible toxicity which is good. I just think that they don't realize it but then again that could be my empathy talking. I truly believe that they don't realize it though and my mom (I'm 15) says that it's probably because he's a boy (i'm a female) and just want's to play games at that age. In all honesty I doubt that's the case though. Gender isn't an excuse, is it? God I'm so lost. I don't know what I'm doing. I find myself searching everyday about this and what to do- I just don't want to be alone. Maybe I should reach out to the people who follow me on Wattpad and ask if they're looking for any long term friends. I'm not the best with talking to new people but this might be my best bet when it comes to looking for a real friend. Plus, they follow me and reply to my announcements with the common interest- honestly now I'm thinking this is my best bet. I guess I'll go and reach out on Wattpad tomorrow if anyone is looking for a friend. Hopefully I get this figured out soon- I'm tired of feeling alone.
hi Marie i need some advice,
i have made a new friend who i have been friends with for about 5 months, and this person is very popular, and has made me popular. about 1 month ago we had a small argument that meant we were apart for 4 days. this made me extremely unhappy, and now we are back as very good friends. but when i go home i sometimes worry i will be left by then and i will be unhappy again. i can not stop worrying at nights. please can you give me tips to improve my confidence and the friendship. by the way your tips told me how to win then back so thank you.
This so true make some new friends
This video was very helpful thank you
I had a so called friend that calls every month or so and then wants me to call her when I see a sale on a certain product...she said, don't just e mail me, call me. I hung up and thought she has a lot of nerve. So selfish
Two wrongs don't make a right. How does this work in this situation or does it not apply ?
Hi Marie! I'm in a very confused state here and I want you to please help me out! Basically I watched a movie with my family and one person having a side role in the movie attracted to me. He doesn't have a huge following. I followed him on a social media app. The next day he messaged me. I was a bit taken aback for a moment as to why and how this person wants to talk to me after leaving all the people. I was just a follower. I made sure it was legit him and not a fake person. He isn't very famous. I made some wrong moves like asking for the contact number and denying the fact that it was really him. I saw that after that or something, he isn't talking to me anymore online. I sent him a message and he replied me after a day and not so much now. Actually it has stopped. Though I'm guilty and sad about what should I do to make him my friend and make him talk to me. Please make a video and help me out on this. I'm in a very bad state. Please I need your help as soon as possible! Thank you so much for helping us all so much!
Not just friendships but in relationships.. don’t allow this behavior. Move on
What if you personally act like this to everyone? How can I kill the social anxiety of social contact? 😷
Back then I think they still my friends but later in life they not my real friends cuz if they were I would still being part of their life who we used to be cool with. But in reality I only have 1 friends who I ride with for 10 years.
I haven't gotten half way through the video yet, but I want to state that not everyone likes texting. I am a person that has my messages muted, and I only check my texts a couple times a day. Also, I'm trying to live a less electronically controlled life, so I stay away from texting. I sometimes take 3-4 days to reply to my friends, and it's not a big deal. I have a life, and I hate texting. I shouldn't feel obligated to do an action I don't like to (I like talking on the phone, and hanging out in person). when I do text my friends, i don't ask for anything, though.
not sure if this video was aimed towards that, but don't make a friend feel bad for not texting, unless you can tell they don't value the friendship/using you.
Sure some people don't like to text but texting is just another form of communicating. Phones are electric so its not much different. Its more so about friends who you assume is your friend but in reality you're just another toy in the toy chest they get tired of. But this is more so about moving on from people who ignore your chances or attempts to contact them. By talking to your acquaintances, making newer friends, and gaining experience.
Her point was when. People don't text back
Sometimes to maintain relationships we have to put in an effort and texting back is a very small but important thing to do because honestly, it takes only a few minutes to text someone and if it’s your important friends and you still wont put in the effort to do something that you know will mean something to your friends then i don’t think you got the true meaning of friendship. It’s all about your convenience at this point.
I have a friend and she is constantly mean and horrible and then of all of a sudden nice, if I make one bad move she exaggerates and tells other people and she keeps sending me these of awful texts saying things like, I told our friendship group on you and they all hate you or for goodness sake yourself, your a mean horrible selfish person sometimes and then the next day she writes an apology letter and repeats this twice a month and its sooo stressful I don't know what to do so should I be friends with someone who treats me kind and then mean ?She has also made me back away from or friendship group and its really weird because they all look at me and whisper and ignore me through the day
She's talking about you to them hence whispers. Then being two faced to you. Nice then mean...She's not your friend x sorry x get a new friend group if you can. It will make you feel much happier 😁
Hi Marie, do you have any tips for this situation? In my group of friends there's a bit of a love triangle as two of the guys were both in love with my BFF, and they had both confessed their feelings to her at different times, leading to her starting dating one of them. We thought that the other guy was over it by then but he's now decided to not see her/them together for a while because it's too hard/hurts too much for him (her bf is his close childhood friend too). So basically, he's not going to hang out with us anymore for a while, and I don't know how long "a while" is... what should we do? Is there anything we can do?
+15randomperson I would give him some time, but that doesn't mean you can't get together with him one-on-one or with other people. He will probably appreciate the support.
+Marie Dubuque Okay that seems reasonable... thanks for the reply! :)
Good advice.
lol...so funny...awesome...social life....us humans are soooo complicated and selfish :)
I deal with this issue some with Facebook friends more than texts.
Marie, how do I ask you a question ? I have just found your channel and would greatly appreciate your advice on a issue I am trying to deal with. Thank you
+Marie Dubuque There's this guy I really like but his one year older than me. We don't talk or anything, I followed him on instagram and I see him around. He always looks at me. And one time he was sitting with all of his friends and when i looked back they were all staring at me. This morning i was standing next to the lunch line typing my phone number on my friends phone and then I look up and I see him and he was really red. Do you think he likes me or should I just move on?
+Ana Falcon try talking to him as you would any other friend. The more he gets to know you, the more comfortable he will feel around you. It sounds as if he likes you!
Hi Marie, can you tell me if I should use this same advice-
Recently I moved out of state for a job. I still text my good friend however she is getting married soon so she is busy a lot. We have facetimed before. I recently asked her to Facetime again since I missed her but did not realize that her bridal shower was two days later (she didn't tell me, which is fine). She kept saying she was stressed and busy so i said fine we don't have to Facetime that particular day. Then i find out on Facebook that she is having happy hr with a co-worker after work the same day/time we would of had our own happy hour Facetime chat. I'm really hurt and upset, especially since I'm not there anymore and I'm busy being homesick. Also too since I've asked her to Facetime me again for so long all we do is text. She always just apologizes. I had started trying to move on from her by not responding as quickly to her texts since I felt she was not as responsive. Plus since I'm not there anymore we would naturally grow apart- esp if shes getting married. But she always sucks me back in and texts me later. Should i use this same advice? Is she not a close friend like i thought, or not a big deal? Thanks!
+Alexandra A I would put her on the back burner. Some people are like that. As soon as you move away, they don't consider you a close friend anymore. Sure, keep in touch, but don't expect much. It's OK. This will force you to make new friends in your new community. You can do it!
great video
What do I do if My best friend used me just to get popularity and then unfriends you?
I just take them right out of my list lol bye 👋🏼
The sad thing is, is that my friends don't so this. My cousin does.
So doesn't that mean I kinda have to take it personally? Well idk.