Asking my dad why he didn't want me to be a psychologist

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  • @bianka94825
    @bianka94825 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Yesterday (ironically on Father's day) I had a breakthrough with my father. He never supported me in my pursue of psych degree and he always belittled the science itself. Unfortunately my mum has metastatic lung cancer, they just sold their house and are moving to a new one, his work is also stressing him out. He kept taking xanax (benzo) daily and he started developing symptoms such as forgetting to lock doors, misplacing items, insomnia, impulsivity etc. He called me and opened up about these things!!! We never had such a deep, genuine conversation and he had never asked for my help before. He always had the toxic masculinity mindset of "men cant show negative emotions" and never asked for any help, especially not from his own child. I happily referred him to a really good psychotherapist and im happy to say he is really keen on getting better. He now believes in what I do and it feels so good. This is what I always wished for (not the part where he is suffering but where he sees the beauty and importance of this profession). Sorry for the tangent, I just really wanted to share. Love your content as always❤

  • @drali
    @drali  3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Happy Father's Day!!!

    • @cryoon_520
      @cryoon_520 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Right back at u^-^
      HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!!🥳

    • @drali
      @drali  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you!!!

    • @caterineedric8899
      @caterineedric8899 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sir I am currently 15 y/o, I want to be a clinical psychologist but I am not very good at natural science i am currently learning humanities (arts / social science) and am not very social able. So do you think it's a good field for me, if yes then what sort of courses or studies will be good?

  • @anniea3411
    @anniea3411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Asian kids can be anything they want to be, as long as it's a doctor, lawyer, or engineer/j

    • @eddiew2325
      @eddiew2325 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Not true. They can be an accountant too

    • @yuiitodoro7791
      @yuiitodoro7791 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They can have government jobs too

  • @Mariam-vp9wg
    @Mariam-vp9wg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I totally agree with you Dr. Ali. My parents disagree when I say "I want to study Psychology" because they think I'll work with "crazy people" And eventually become crazy myself. After all, I'll follow my passion of helping adolescents with their healing journey 😊 Happy Father's Day!

    • @mitikaagarwal9035
      @mitikaagarwal9035 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am studying it...if you need some tips ..le me know

  • @lorenawilson927
    @lorenawilson927 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Your dad is so great man. I wish every parent was like that. He obviously just wanted to encourage you to be your own person despite his preferences. Man, he's pretty cool.

  • @thesoulstirrer2326
    @thesoulstirrer2326 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Happy Father's day Ali, since you're also a dad after all. And thank you for helping us out with your channel! :))

    • @drali
      @drali  3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you for the kind comment!

  • @miriamh2551
    @miriamh2551 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You're blessed to have a kind father like him ♡

  • @Asencion12691
    @Asencion12691 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for sharing Dr.Ali! I'm an MFT and have a similar dynamic with my father who is gaining more awareness about mental health. My heart goes out to you as my brother struggles with his mental health as well. Thank you for sharing such a sweet and vulnerable moment with your father. It gives me hope for the continued growth of my family of origin. 😊

  • @minusudhakaran3808
    @minusudhakaran3808 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel hearing from you is a blessing. Thank you so much, sir, for the bundle of knowledge that you are sharing through your TH-cam videos.

  • @mrhymer95
    @mrhymer95 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Awesome and great interview! Happy Father's Day to you and your dad!

    • @drali
      @drali  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you!

  • @whyisgamora4191
    @whyisgamora4191 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    PhD = poor, hungry doctor xD That's freakin' hilarious

    • @drali
      @drali  3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It’s much funnier in hindsight 😀

    • @Userhandle7384
      @Userhandle7384 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      As an Asian American this made me laugh sooo hard 😆 laughing and crying 😂

    • @axtrole
      @axtrole ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Userhandle7384 why you watching youuutube go study
      your dad probably

  • @anniea3411
    @anniea3411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Such an awesome dad!! He reminds me of my dad and grandad!

  • @jrmckim
    @jrmckim 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im little late but happy father's day to both of you. 🤗
    My son was diagnosed with bipolar at 7. He's 13 now and I am so thankful that I have fought to keep him in therapy. Its been hard.. so hard but it's getting better..
    Im sorry to hear about your brother. May his soul rest in peace. 🙏🏻
    I lost my 2 month old daughter from sids. Its a pain that never leaves and it changes you... sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worst. But To hear your dad talk about your brother was heartbreaking... i can't imagine losing my child like that. As i mentioned my son is bipolar and we have to anything dangerous like kitchen knives lighters and etc locked up. He has been doing so good even thru covid pandemic.. but I keep him on his meds and video chat with his psychiatrist and consulars on the regular. Its just a part of our lives. He gets frustrated but I explain that justLike children living with physical disabilities.. they need doctors to help them.. he needs doctors to help him with his mental health.

  • @anniea3411
    @anniea3411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm sorry to hear about your brother 😞
    I lost my sister to a physical illness (when I was 5), and it did impact our family, but we didn't get therapy for reasons similar to yours (I think).

    • @drali
      @drali  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sorry to hear about your loss.

  • @jenohogan9254
    @jenohogan9254 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Your dad is fantastic.

  • @anna5cho
    @anna5cho 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Abuji is how you say father in Korean too! 😃 your dad is awesome and so are you!

  • @Smartgccorp
    @Smartgccorp 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Unique interview good job

  • @hamzahbokhari
    @hamzahbokhari ปีที่แล้ว

    An awesome video man - really appreciated the honesty and vulnerability - I'm a pakistani Australian who's interested in the mental health field!

  • @Abdurrahman1-i4y
    @Abdurrahman1-i4y 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    God willing, such a wonderful dad 💓💓💓.

  • @user-br3xs6hz2b
    @user-br3xs6hz2b 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m so sorry about your brother.

    • @drali
      @drali  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you.

  • @anniea3411
    @anniea3411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love this video so much 😭😭 it hits so close to home

  • @naseemhassan9213
    @naseemhassan9213 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So Awesome Dr. Ali Bhai . . . . . . Best interview i ever heard. . . Dad and Son Waoo

  • @anotherpersonontheinternet4676
    @anotherpersonontheinternet4676 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your Dad is an amazing man.

  • @fatimaz1332
    @fatimaz1332 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love your videos, and you encourage me to go for psychology as a career, very inspiring thanksss🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

  • @mansoorkhanshamrozkhel7036
    @mansoorkhanshamrozkhel7036 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel really happy to see an Asian psychologist.
    I hope one day the stereotypes against psychology will break and ill excel In Sha Allah

  • @anniea3411
    @anniea3411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I CALL MY DAD ABUJEE TOOOOOO

  • @socomartinez3381
    @socomartinez3381 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Happy Father day
    you are very helpful

  • @PillayAllRounders
    @PillayAllRounders 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi from South African vloggers 🇿🇦 😀 ❤️ 🌍

  • @kikicardenas6048
    @kikicardenas6048 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    U have an amazing dad!

  • @eyebutterfly
    @eyebutterfly ปีที่แล้ว +1

    MashaAllah may Allah give him a long life ameen 😊

  • @JerryJacquesGPS
    @JerryJacquesGPS 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was really good.

  • @ayshasabreen948
    @ayshasabreen948 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Masha allah .... Your father are support and help you ....

  • @anniea3411
    @anniea3411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    (sorry about the billions of comments, I'm just excited 😅)

  • @rajgovind2k
    @rajgovind2k 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    See youtubers like this should be mixed in the algorithem,

  • @starreia
    @starreia 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    hi! could you make a video recommending some great beginner & all time favourite psychology related books?

  • @anniea3411
    @anniea3411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Our culture do be like that

  • @Abdurrahman1-i4y
    @Abdurrahman1-i4y 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am very happy to know that you are Muslim 💓🙈 Such an amazing channel and person to find 💪🏻😃.

  • @mr.bojangles7411
    @mr.bojangles7411 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey Doc Ali incase you see this comment I just wanna ask you about Pseudologia Fantastica (pathological lying) if it is real?
    In case it's real doc have you seen the movie "Stonehearst Asylum"? Cause I wanna ask you if it was portrayed properly in that movie?
    And lastly doc, how can it be cured? or is it curable?
    That's all doc ali incase you see this thank you so much fir reading this

  • @hami308
    @hami308 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello Sir , please make reaction video of bates motel

  • @doctorkamalanathan7922
    @doctorkamalanathan7922 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sir please reply my comment. When I am studying in my room, I unintentionally listen to fan sound even the fan sound is not much louder. It's disturb me to concentrate on studying. When i try to recall something i automatically watch an object that infront of me. Its disturb me. How to recover from this. Please help me 😔

  • @youtubeuser8957
    @youtubeuser8957 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Unrelated to the video (which the video is great btw!) But I look fairly young, I'm 18 and look about 14 years old. Would this in any way affect me in becoming a therapist? Sounds like a silly question, I know. But when people think of therapists they think of older and more professional looking people and I worry that when I begin to try and pursue this career I won't be taken seriously because of just how young I look. Is this me overthinking? 😂

    • @lydiacc
      @lydiacc 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey just coming from a soon to be graduating psychologist with a bit of a baby-face, don't worry about it! If you can show depth and experience in the way you communicate then if anything it's a bonus, clients (and particularly other young individuals, adolescents etc) may even feel more comfortable speaking to you later on when you're qualified if you just naturally have a youthful/approachable appearance. Everyone's different, don't let it stop you!

  • @riskbaz
    @riskbaz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ali Mattu. 👏 🤍

  • @each1teach1
    @each1teach1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow 💛

  • @anniea3411
    @anniea3411 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yeayyyy

  • @giuli1217
    @giuli1217 3 ปีที่แล้ว

  • @ShadowRealmZ373
    @ShadowRealmZ373 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I unfortunately, one of those guys that believes psychology is not a real science, even point to very negative distain towards it and don't believe in mental health at all maybe cause I'm a narcissist I suppose , but I do like just people talking and your content

  • @taha6233
    @taha6233 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Are you a Pakistani or Bharati or Bangladeshi or Nepali or from which country of south asia? because you are a south asian for sure!
    Just asking

  • @mentalwellnesswithzara
    @mentalwellnesswithzara 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello Dr. Ali, this is Sania from Mumbai. I am currently in final sem of M.A Clinical Psychology. I want to do PhD in Psychology from U.S. Are you aware of any university which is fully funded for international students ?

  • @Loveu-re5me
    @Loveu-re5me 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am wondering did Dr Ali become a psychologist due to his brother it's none of my business just curious 😐😐😐😐😐😐😐😐

  • @anniea3411
    @anniea3411 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I see a TARDIS 👀

    • @drali
      @drali  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      The TARDIS really gets around, huh?

  • @Lindsey0007
    @Lindsey0007 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    With how much talk there is around race and privilege going on right now, I love how Anwar handled the news that the Indian actor in Short Circuit was actually a white actor wearing Black Face. Even though I’m white and I was horrified to hear this information, about to be upset, and Anwar pops up and says “well he did a good job!” Instead of choosing to jumping to be angry, offended or upset, he chose to say something simple, yet positive. I think it’s a lesson we can all learn from. Instead of going on the defensive and becoming upset in a situation similar to this where someone/some group is saying or doing something potentially offensive, we could try to stay positive and look above the situation, and not take it so seriously. Maybe the person/group doesn’t know what they did even offensive. We can’t expect the world to know what we find offensive by reading our minds, so maybe we could try to assume they don’t mean to be offensive. Just some food for thought!