Wow Sister, you’re going for it! Most women are not brave enough to speak on these matters (in a public place) and Churches certainly aren’t. Thank you for this video! Bless you my dear! ❤
I have started a women's faith group at my church. I am the ONLY homemaker. I find it really hard to connect with women that want to be 'boss' of everything & we have several very, very strong ones in our church. I have even seen one woman accost our priest in the middle of him walking down the aisle to loudly berated him (in front of the whole church!) about a church supper that didn't get planned (& he was NOT the one who was in charge of any details). There are woman that not only want to boss the priest around, but they want to boss the other ladies around. You would not believe the pushback I got for just wanting to start this group. I had older women calling my house arguing, trying to cancel our meetings, and then showing up in a group to change the focus of the group. There aren't really any women IN the group that have the focus of being their husband's helpmeet on their agenda & most of them exalt their kids or running things in career/church over husbands anyway. I find the 60-70 yo crowd of women really hard to bear.
Hi Kelli! I am a 17 year old girl and I just wanted to say thank you so so much for not being afraid to talk about all the taboo topics of today’s culture. You have given me the words to the thoughts that I’ve been having especially when it comes to getting married young, being a homemaker, and being feminine! You have been a mentor to me from afar I love your videos! Thank you for all that you and your husband do to help bring us back to what God had originally intended us to be!
Eveyln, this is such a sweet thoughtful comment. I'm so grateful this has been helpful. And I'm so glad that you are already on such a solid foundation and have a good vision for your life for your age! If you ever have questions or want to email me, feel free to, my email is homewithkelli.co@gmail.com
I appreciate what you say, and love your channel because of your stance. I'm part of the generation that rejected the female role ( a "boomer"), and now see how that wasn't the best part of my life. In fact, when I was raising my children, I felt a lot of guilt and shame for not using my work skills. If I would have embraced femininity, I would not have suffered all that guilt. Honestly, it's taken into my 60's to realize putting my children first and my family first was the best thing to do.
I am a SAHM and I know I'm doing the best thing for my family, but I still struggle with feeling like what I'm doing is "lesser". It's hard to shut out the voices from the world. I've watched a few of Kelli's videos and they are so encouraging!
I wish my husband believed and understood this. He's all about the feminism movement and it causes MANY issues in our marriage. I want so bad to be a wife and homemaker but he's adamant that I work outside the home to "do my part".... Plus clean, plus maintain the house, plus all the other things a wife is supposed to do. It's impossible and exhausting.
If a Man can Not lead and nourish his Wife and Take care of her he dismasculines himself in the Most highely Way It could be possible. Automatically Women loose their Respect for them. I pray that God will Open up your Husbands Eyes and Ears. Only God can convince Him. God bless you Sister and give you Peace and Patience until it comes true. And it will!
Secular person her. If he expects you to do torditional stuff like cleaning on top of doing work I hope he dose his part with helping you with the cleaning.
Hi Kelli, this message can't be repeated often enough. I figured out a lot of it from my own drive to be a wife and mom and my studies, but never ever heard it in the "churches" and definitely not at home. Thanks for all you and Scott do.
Love this video. The Lord did not give us children to raise. Our only child died at 3 days old. We married in 1981, I affectionately put hubby through seminary. Then until 2009 I worked outside of the home. In 2009 I quit my job, started teaching sewing lessons and after that came to a close I have simply been my husband's full-time helper. We wish we would have done it years sooner, but later is better than never. I love being home, taking care of our home and being available to help him in any way. I'm also more accessible to the girls and women in the church he pastors. God bless you for making that decision early on and speaking God's Word into the lives of others.❤
Thank you so much for sharing your testimony Louann- I cannot even imagine the pain and grieving you have had to go through with losing your only child at 3 days old. God bless you and your husband for your faithfulness, I so appreciate you sharing.
@@homewithkelli After nearly 40 years since that I day I can truly thank God for the life he has given me and the special sons and daughters he has placed in my life. And now they share their children with me 😀
So good, Kelli! Thank you. I also have been blessed by Lori Alexander’s work. I’m still learning to be a biblical wife and mom in our early years of marriage and with a new baby. It’s something I struggle with… especially since there are no in real life examples close to me. I appreciate your videos! I also want to add that I love the way you speak about your future children. You talk of them with joy and hope. I pray the Lord blesses you and Scott with a house full of children in His time♥️ You no doubt will be a wonderful mother when that day comes😊
I understand, it is also still very much a journey for me as well!!I can imagine the transition that comes when you have children, and not having older women in real life to help give wisdom. God bless you guys. And thank you so much for your prayers for us!
Andrew Klavan often talks about this exact insight about gender roles. Klavan points out that there are many people who can replace a woman at her job but no one can replace her as the mother to her children. My husband and I have lived in traditional roles and (tried) to live in equal split of roles. We are always happier living according to traditional roles ❤.
Evangelizing your own family is also evangelizing for many generations. Thank you for sharing your college experience to help others. Kelli writing a book 10 Shades of Red? 😅 It's awesome how you two grew in faith through your marriage and found your God-given roles. What few people discuss is that many women are miserable in their careers working for a man other than their husband.
You're such a blessing to a mama with three teenage girls. We listen to your podcast as we do our daily task. God bless you for making videos of such wisdom!
Such wisdom! I honor you and your desire to help others in this area of life. I am 74 years old and I rejoice every day that I am a woman and that my husband is a real man! I love caring for my home and garden and being my husband’s helper at home.
The lord is using you to also spread the confidence in young women that we can stay at home and be biblical wives without shame. I have loved your content the last couple of weeks. I have decided to drop 3 days of work so i only work 2 days and can take on my role in the home. I've given my work warning that this will be the last 12 months until i fully step into being into the home and since i made that choice i have felt a peace in life like no other. Something i never ever would have thought i would do, leaving my job. Its content like yours that has really helped me feel convicted to be in the home.
Hi Kellie! This video has been an answer to prayer as the Lord said to me this morning to listen to Kellie. This is my situation. I was a career woman my whole life and the Lord called me to be a homemaker last winter. After a difficult transition I’m finally a homemaker- and I’m single! I find that it was a test of faith to believe Gods providence in stepping into this season by faith believing He would provide a husband by being my Husband first. God is amazing! Anyway I just want to say that it is a huge step of faith when we step back into sound Bibilical doctrines about gender roles but every command has a promise attached to it and God is true and His word never fails. Your content has helped me stay on this path of faith. God bless you and Scott. Liza from California.
Love this! Keep spreading this message! It’s so sad that even churches are afraid to speak up on these important matters, that affect every part of our everyday lives!
Thank you for sharing this journey of yours'! Here in Germany we have the same issue. I grew up with my mom staying home until I was a teenager. Even then I would have loved for her to be home when I got back from school. Now with my own 2 teenagers it is so very fulfilling to remain at home but times are hard financially and my husband would love for me to go and add to our income at least part time. I'm still praying about it and hope I will be able to discern the right way for us in this situation.
Thank you so much, Lori, for your boldness. The Holy Spirit has used you to change my life (and many others who have shared the same sentiments in this comments section).
Have shared this twice. It is so very important and difficult for so many who have spent their lives trying to keep one foot in the world while believing they are doing “God’s work”. Dying to self is massively important. God’s creation of woman is to be celebrated as HE chose to create us. Thank you for what you are doing! Love your channel!
I'm a single Christian man in my 30s and found a traditional/Gospel Bible based church this year and have started wearing suits, sport coats, and dress pants again. I instantly felt more masculine! I love women who wear skirts and dresses at the knee or lower, they look feminine and modest!
Thank you so much for making these videos, for setting the example, for sharing your journey and for pointing us to the truth of God’s word. I have been on a journey to live and learn from Titus 2 and instead of feeling like a prison, it has been so liberating. My relationship with my husband has improved so much and I believe, just as you mentioned, that the Church is getting way too comfortable (even imitating) with the way the world is doing things. I pray that this video would be a blessing for other women and that we would all be more diligent in reading the Scriptures and calling out what is not in alignment with what is in its pages. God Bless You all. In Jesus name. Amen
Well said Kelli! God also used Lori Alexander to open my eyes to what now seems like the most obvious truths about gender, marriage, and Gods design for women. I love her books! Have you read Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin (The older version with the green and white cover)? If not, I think you might like it. Her teachings pair well with Lori's, but she goes into more depth on several topics. 💕
@@homewithkelli You are welcome! Also, we did our first Azure Drop today and it was a great experience! Thank you for the recommendation. I used your link and hope it blesses you and Scott! Thanks again! 😊💕
Bible is VERY clear about women preaching. Glad I don't have to deal with that in MY church! But I do hear parishioners bring it up every now & then, weighing the merits of it. & we DO have to deal with VERY bossy women that like to act like they are running things. You are really lucky, kelli. I BELIEVE you when you talk about God not 'wasting seasons' & that you were doing all you did with the purest of intentions to please the Lord. How blessed is that? just be glad you weren't like me who was doing ALL she could to mock God, as a young person, trying to expose God as a fraud or at the very least, a non influential entity! I look back on my youth & cringe. I HAVE repented of all that nonsense & I DO believe that I have been forgiven, but it was so damaging. I think of all the others that I damaged in the process, or that maybe I helped to turn away/prevent from knowing the Lord. I do know now that God was walking right alongside me, but man what a broken, broken hearted, shameful person I was. I guess if he could convert Paul, no heart is too hard, right? I have tried to prevent my daughters from going down the same path & I thought I was doing pretty well, but this world is a hard one to raise young women in. I am afraid that I haven't done as well as I had hoped, as witnessed by some of their behaviors. I feel very sad inside (& have been praying, unceasingly) that the one has chosen to partner herself with an unbeliever (with many troublesome attributes). I see much of the same pain heading her way. & at this point she is an adult & there is not much I can do about it - her father & I have talked until we are blue in the face, laid out consequences, she has suffered consequences.... We have confronted the young man over & over. You are right about there not being enough guidance for younger women. & unfortunately, young people DON'T like to listen to their parents & mine are surrounded by bad examples & older women that live not-so-great lives.
It really is! I can't believe how complicated people make it, when it's really so simple. And I will also be praying for your daughters as well, and that God will bring people across their path that will encourage them in His ways.
Your testimony of how you both have come to these convictions and being receptive to the guidance of the Holy Spirit is amazing! What an encouragement it is to hear about the transformations of your beliefs and how you then choose to live out that faith. God’s Word should be the foundation for church culture. I am thankful for your courage.
Great video! Thank you for sharing. I have been following Lori Alexander for probably the last 12 years. I’ve learned so much from her from her blogs and videos and have learned from all 3 of her books too. Her morning and evening devotional is a wonderful book to start and end the day to remind us of our purpose as women. Thank you for this encouraging video, Kelli!
So cool to hear what you're saying on this topic. This is encouraging! For so long we were calling ourselves complimentarian but realized we were actually observing and growing in patriarchy. It's so relieving to embrace our God created roles and to learn what it is that God created us for.
I am 38, got married in 2020. And this year I am starting seeing same things what you are saying. In my case I got sick I was burned out and needed a lot of rest. So I stayed home, how it changed our marriage, it changed me and is still changing. I am realizing in what kind of fruit God is interested in us women. World doesn’t value this but God does. He wants us to love our husbands , do good needs to the community. We represent the Church the bride. To nutritious, to be hospitable. Modest and pure. The world influences us in every way. I am encouraged to see more women are starting seeing God’s prescriptions as the authorities .❤
A lot of what you say resonates with me, even though I’m a non practicing Roman Catholic. I get the male/female roles as you describe them and agree with this viewpoint. I have worked for twenty years and been depressed, struggling to go to work every day in a very stressful job. I married and had a child at forty, and we have battled a lot over chores. Things have settled a lot since I’ve embraced home making more, but I do work out of the home part time and I find it hard to juggle both. My husbands does traditionally male roles around the home, but I do the rest and find it so frustrating he can’t even put a dish in the dishwasher. Do you find yourself taking on emotional stress because you work hard to make the home nice and it’s disrespected by things like your husband leaving stuff around? How do you deal with that? God has taught me great patience in life, but even my patience is tried by this.
Hi! Thank you so much for sharing your testimony with this as well. For me, if I have expectations that I don't feel Scott is "doing" most of the time it's not him being malicious or intentionally not doing it to make my life hard- he just didn't think about it. I've had to learn (and am still learning) instead of immediately resenting him for it and being passive aggressive towards him, to just ask him to do something in a kind way. Not snippy or nagging, but just plain and simple "hey my love could you put this away" or "can you help me with this" He may not be able to get it done in the moment but he will always do it or try to. I don't know if this is relatable to your situation, but I've really had to learn that my tendency to be passive aggressive or have resentment or harbor frustration never resolves the situation and always ends up pushing us further apart, which never feels great.
@@jewelse1975 We women are sometimes clueless about what our husbands are thinking and feeling. Author of the book, For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn says about this fundamental truth, ~ That really, we women just want to be loved and cherished, but our men most want to feel respected by us and trusted by us. You can find her interview with Dr Dobson called, What women should know about men, starting with part 1. "In our culture, we have this idea that love must be unconditional but respect must be earned." Instead, she realized that biblically that was a completely unbiblical idea. "In fact, Ephesians 5, that long passage on marriage, Paul tells husbands to love your wives, and then he tells wives - respect your husbands. Never once does God tell wives to love your husbands." God knows that we need a little help on this...
Amen! I often think of the quote "the best time to plant a tree was 30 years ago, the second best time is today" and I think that applies with us growing in our feminine nature. We can use our stories to help the next generation, God wastes nothing!
I struggle with this. Let me explain. I believe you can be feminine and still do a man’s job. You can still do that job and still have gender roles at home. I’m a Paramedic, which is a VERY VERY male dominated industry. Doing so does not make me less feminine. I am still very feminine. And when I get home, I am the keeper while my husband works two jobs. Grant it, I had to work really hard to prove myself, but I was able to nonetheless. I earned my respect in the field by being able to do the job.
I Sense a Burnout Home. Willing to earn Respect is Not Feminin. A true feminin Woman or Wife living in her Femininity does Not Proof anything Anybody or earn Respect from Anybody. She did Not Even think about it. It does Not ever Cross her Mind. She just is it. Why? Because she is Not Masculine nor a Man.
I really appreciate that you recognize the LACK in the church today of actually teaching Titus 2. Of course it's good to be on mission and evangelize but women need to understand how to live out their FIRST calling: to be a WOMAN of God. Thank you sooooo much I'm so glad I found your channel because I can relate so much to this content ❤️ Also can't wait to bake your fresh milled sourdough recipe 😍
Great video. The most important point you shared in this video is the five minutes or so where you describe the downside to what happens to a woman's psyche when she is a "missions" based person and how this reverses gender roles according to God's word. It's not often said, but a woman's "mission" in life and in the body of Christ is to be a mother and wife. THIS IS HER MISSION FROM GOD. In VERY RARE cases and circumstances, women may be called into ministry in the body of Christ in a more official or 'outreach' related capacity, but even then, it is to play second to their God given calling of being a mother and wife. Women are very seldom called to ministry, and even then, it's within the context of her family life. Nowhere in scripture do we see God or Jesus or the Holy Spirit giving women the same mandates as the men in the early church. Even in that famous verse about what may have to be forsaken for the sake of the Kingdom of God, it gets really detailed naming, houses, brothers, sister, fathers, mothers, wife or children or lands... but NEVER says "husbands." Isn't that interesting?!!! The gospel and the calling may cost a man his lands, or even his house and maybe even children or wife, but NOWHERE does it say that a woman's "calling" for the sake of the gospel will ever leader her in a direction in which it will "cost" her her husband. I've even heard "Christian" women say that they had to leave their husbands and get divorces because of their "calling" or ministry. That is total deception and a complete lie. Never will God tell a woman to leave her husband. To even have come to the point where women believe God would do that, or where that kind of excuse is even tolerated shows just how far we've come and how bad the deception really is. I honestly believe that most of these women who believe it's "God" telling them to do these things don't know God at all, and most of them are not even born again.
I’ve watched this whole video, and here are my thoughts. I agree that there are Biblical responsibilities outlined in scripture for gender. But scripture also calls ALL Christian’s to the great commission. That is Androgynous! Additionally, your relationship with God, and how you cultivate that is androgynous! Being male or female, doesn’t matter in terms of relationship with God because we are than just all sons and daughters, with one Father. We are children of God. That is androgynous. It seems that there are two extremes that I am seeing played out in this video, where two groups can fall in a ditch by overgeneralizing. One group over generalizes the gifts of the Holy Spirit for androgynous purposes. The other group over generalizes the distinction of gender roles to the point of putting Gods creation in boxes. Both are in a ditch, so what is the balanced straight and narrow path? I would go to scripture and search two topics: church + home only from the New Testament scriptures as they pertain to the guidelines of life with emphasis on the Holy Spirit after Christs death. One of the main roles of the Holy Spirit is Helper. The Holy Spirit is there to empower us in ministry, and in our roles. The word of God is also the living Word. It is active. Christians today have both tools. So in the Scriptures where it talks about the gifts of the Holy Spirit and the fruit of the Holy Spirit…. You can read that literally in the Bible and then ask the Holy Spirit to speak to you about whether that is gender specific or not and wait on the Holy Spiritual for an answer or He gives you peace of what He shows you in the Word. When it comes to roles in marriage, and in parenting…. find it in scripture and then ask the Holy Spirit your questions. The Holy Spirit is part of the Trinity and has many distinct roles for the Christian. If you don’t have understanding about his roles then you are missing out a lot in Christianity when it comes to decisions/crossroads. Holy Spirit actually guides you to what the will of the Father is. The point is “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” if you seek God for answers on clarity in your own journey through life with all your heart…..He WILL show you. He will show you in the way that you will understand personally. To some that is the scripture, to some it could be a butterfly in a garden, to some, it could be through another person. In other words, God will meet you where you are, and not in a box for your answer. Just look in the Bible, all the creative ways that God answered people’s questions both in the Old Testament and New Testament. It’s very inspiring.
Every time I saw these "traditional feminine" video I see a sense of ungratefulness. Women nowadays are finally able to be comfortably feminine while still holding their basic human rights and social status because feminists in the past fought for it, even though through the process of it femininity was somewhat subdued/devalued. However, I would consider that a needed step in fighting a place for women in a men-dominated world.
I get where you're coming from. I was the same in my teens and twenties. At 52, I have learned that I am and always will be an introvert. The Rockefeller Women’s Liberation movement has ruined society. Yes, we are equal in salvation in God's eyes. Otherwise, we each bring something special to a relationship. I bought into this mindset that women can and should set their path. What wasn't encouraged was marriage and family. I grew up as a child watching Little House On The Prairie. I loved it. Then, in the late 80s and early 90s came Roseanne. Don't get nervous wrong, Dan and Rosanne characters are more like the average American family. Too much like them. The women are taking the lead. It's chaos. Two incomes "needed" to keep a house going. Now I understand that the husband is supposed to be head of the house. Men are supposed to be Charles Ingles. Head of the home. I understand that women are supposed to be women. If we were supposed to be men, God would make us men.
I agree! I do also want to add though, that TV shows are not real life lol, and although little house series was based on true stories, it was written for a child audience so its not 100% accurate. But I agree and know what you mean
Hi Kelli! Forgive me, but I am confused when you talk about your husband's "mission". I thought the Bible says our mission is to fight our sin nature and live lives that display the fruits of the Spirit, while sharing the gospel. Wives are to submit to and respect our husbands, while husbands are to love their wives. Employees are to work for their bosses as unto the Lord. We are to be generous and care for the poor, orphans, and widows. I'm not sure God cares what job/career our husbands have as long as we strive to live lives pleasing the the Lord. So, once again, I don't understand what you mean by your husband's mission. Maybe you have talked about this in a previous video...I will look. Thanks!
God will watch over us, but I don't think we should be putting ourselves in the riskiest situations possible to test that out. God is not to be tested & why make him work overtime on us, when sometimes the risk could be avoided? That is wisdom I have gained with age. Teens & early 20s don't really grasp that, I don't think. LOL
@@kimalonzo3363 I wasn't referring to Kelli. As she stated, she firmly believed that what she was doing was of the purest intentions of her heart. & I 100% believe that. But I DO know folks that try to test God in this way - put themselves in risky situations & then lean on God to get them out. He will, but probably the person could have avoided it altogether. Even Kelli reiterated this by saying this would be a better activity (praying in dangerous locales) WITH a husband, rather than single girls putting themselves at risk. it would be like driving a car without a seatbelt under the conviction that God would preserve your life SHOULD you get in an accident. Why do that? Just wear the seatbelt & drive as safely as humanely possible. ☺
I understand that it’s easier to adapt to societal hate and oppression than to fight against it.
“Women don’t have time to try to be men.” This was one of the truest statements ever! Kelli, you are so wise sister❤
Wow Sister, you’re going for it! Most women are not brave enough to speak on these matters (in a public place) and Churches certainly aren’t. Thank you for this video! Bless you my dear! ❤
I have started a women's faith group at my church. I am the ONLY homemaker. I find it really hard to connect with women that want to be 'boss' of everything & we have several very, very strong ones in our church. I have even seen one woman accost our priest in the middle of him walking down the aisle to loudly berated him (in front of the whole church!) about a church supper that didn't get planned (& he was NOT the one who was in charge of any details). There are woman that not only want to boss the priest around, but they want to boss the other ladies around. You would not believe the pushback I got for just wanting to start this group. I had older women calling my house arguing, trying to cancel our meetings, and then showing up in a group to change the focus of the group. There aren't really any women IN the group that have the focus of being their husband's helpmeet on their agenda & most of them exalt their kids or running things in career/church over husbands anyway. I find the 60-70 yo crowd of women really hard to bear.
Hi Kelli! I am a 17 year old girl and I just wanted to say thank you so so much for not being afraid to talk about all the taboo topics of today’s culture. You have given me the words to the thoughts that I’ve been having especially when it comes to getting married young, being a homemaker, and being feminine! You have been a mentor to me from afar I love your videos! Thank you for all that you and your husband do to help bring us back to what God had originally intended us to be!
Eveyln, this is such a sweet thoughtful comment. I'm so grateful this has been helpful. And I'm so glad that you are already on such a solid foundation and have a good vision for your life for your age! If you ever have questions or want to email me, feel free to, my email is homewithkelli.co@gmail.com
I appreciate what you say, and love your channel because of your stance. I'm part of the generation that rejected the female role ( a "boomer"), and now see how that wasn't the best part of my life. In fact, when I was raising my children, I felt a lot of guilt and shame for not using my work skills. If I would have embraced femininity, I would not have suffered all that guilt. Honestly, it's taken into my 60's to realize putting my children first and my family first was the best thing to do.
Thank you so much for sharing your testimony Patti! God is so good at directing our steps!
I am a SAHM and I know I'm doing the best thing for my family, but I still struggle with feeling like what I'm doing is "lesser". It's hard to shut out the voices from the world. I've watched a few of Kelli's videos and they are so encouraging!
I wish my husband believed and understood this. He's all about the feminism movement and it causes MANY issues in our marriage. I want so bad to be a wife and homemaker but he's adamant that I work outside the home to "do my part".... Plus clean, plus maintain the house, plus all the other things a wife is supposed to do. It's impossible and exhausting.
If a Man can Not lead and nourish his Wife and Take care of her he dismasculines himself in the Most highely Way It could be possible. Automatically Women loose their Respect for them. I pray that God will Open up your Husbands Eyes and Ears. Only God can convince Him. God bless you Sister and give you Peace and Patience until it comes true. And it will!
Secular person her. If he expects you to do torditional stuff like cleaning on top of doing work I hope he dose his part with helping you with the cleaning.
@@misssheltered1081 traditional person here, and I agree with you
Hi Kelli, this message can't be repeated often enough. I figured out a lot of it from my own drive to be a wife and mom and my studies, but never ever heard it in the "churches" and definitely not at home. Thanks for all you and Scott do.
Thank you, Sherry!!
Love this video. The Lord did not give us children to raise. Our only child died at 3 days old. We married in 1981, I affectionately put hubby through seminary. Then until 2009 I worked outside of the home. In 2009 I quit my job, started teaching sewing lessons and after that came to a close I have simply been my husband's full-time helper. We wish we would have done it years sooner, but later is better than never. I love being home, taking care of our home and being available to help him in any way. I'm also more accessible to the girls and women in the church he pastors. God bless you for making that decision early on and speaking God's Word into the lives of others.❤
Wow. That's such a tragic loss to go through. I am very sorry. God bless you and your husband.
Thank you so much for sharing your testimony Louann- I cannot even imagine the pain and grieving you have had to go through with losing your only child at 3 days old. God bless you and your husband for your faithfulness, I so appreciate you sharing.
@@homewithkelli After nearly 40 years since that I day I can truly thank God for the life he has given me and the special sons and daughters he has placed in my life. And now they share their children with me 😀
Thank you for sharing this! It needs to be said in this culture.
So good, Kelli! Thank you. I also have been blessed by Lori Alexander’s work. I’m still learning to be a biblical wife and mom in our early years of marriage and with a new baby. It’s something I struggle with… especially since there are no in real life examples close to me. I appreciate your videos!
I also want to add that I love the way you speak about your future children. You talk of them with joy and hope. I pray the Lord blesses you and Scott with a house full of children in His time♥️ You no doubt will be a wonderful mother when that day comes😊
I understand, it is also still very much a journey for me as well!!I can imagine the transition that comes when you have children, and not having older women in real life to help give wisdom. God bless you guys. And thank you so much for your prayers for us!
You might really enjoy @BecauseitMatters channel like I have. She isn't active on it anymore, but she has a lot of wisdom ☺️
Love how you have been bringing in scriptural encouragement in these videos
Amen Kelli, thanks for sharing. May the Lord bless you abundantly. 🤗
Andrew Klavan often talks about this exact insight about gender roles. Klavan points out that there are many people who can replace a woman at her job but no one can replace her as the mother to her children. My husband and I have lived in traditional roles and (tried) to live in equal split of roles. We are always happier living according to traditional roles ❤.
Evangelizing your own family is also evangelizing for many generations. Thank you for sharing your college experience to help others. Kelli writing a book 10 Shades of Red? 😅 It's awesome how you two grew in faith through your marriage and found your God-given roles. What few people discuss is that many women are miserable in their careers working for a man other than their husband.
So true!
We are told that it's freedom when we work for a stranger, but slavery when we work for our husbands. Nuts! 🥜🥜🥜
You're such a blessing to a mama with three teenage girls. We listen to your podcast as we do our daily task. God bless you for making videos of such wisdom!
Such wisdom! I honor you and your desire to help others in this area of life. I am 74 years old and I rejoice every day that I am a woman and that my husband is a real man! I love caring for my home and garden and being my husband’s helper at home.
Amen, thank you so much for sharing your testimony with this!!
The lord is using you to also spread the confidence in young women that we can stay at home and be biblical wives without shame. I have loved your content the last couple of weeks. I have decided to drop 3 days of work so i only work 2 days and can take on my role in the home. I've given my work warning that this will be the last 12 months until i fully step into being into the home and since i made that choice i have felt a peace in life like no other. Something i never ever would have thought i would do, leaving my job. Its content like yours that has really helped me feel convicted to be in the home.
Hi Kellie! This video has been an answer to prayer as the Lord said to me this morning to listen to Kellie. This is my situation.
I was a career woman my whole life and the Lord called me to be a homemaker last winter. After a difficult transition I’m finally a homemaker- and I’m single! I find that it was a test of faith to believe Gods providence in stepping into this season by faith believing He would provide a husband by being my Husband first. God is amazing! Anyway I just want to say that it is a huge step of faith when we step back into sound Bibilical doctrines about gender roles but every command has a promise attached to it and God is true and His word never fails. Your content has helped me stay on this path of faith. God bless you and Scott. Liza from California.
Love this! Keep spreading this message! It’s so sad that even churches are afraid to speak up on these important matters, that affect every part of our everyday lives!
Thank you for sharing this journey of yours'!
Here in Germany we have the same issue. I grew up with my mom staying home until I was a teenager. Even then I would have loved for her to be home when I got back from school. Now with my own 2 teenagers it is so very fulfilling to remain at home but times are hard financially and my husband would love for me to go and add to our income at least part time. I'm still praying about it and hope I will be able to discern the right way for us in this situation.
Anytime you recommend a book, I immediately buy it! Keep them coming! ❤
Thank you for sharing! God’s ways are so good. ❤
Thank you so much, Lori, for your boldness. The Holy Spirit has used you to change my life (and many others who have shared the same sentiments in this comments section).
Thanks for sharing you story. Have a very blessed day! See you next time.
Have shared this twice.
It is so very important and difficult for so many who have spent their lives trying to keep one foot in the world while believing they are doing “God’s work”.
Dying to self is massively important. God’s creation of woman is to be celebrated as HE chose to create us.
Thank you for what you are doing! Love your channel!
Amen!! Thank you for sharing this, I'm so thankful it was helpful!
I'm a single Christian man in my 30s and found a traditional/Gospel Bible based church this year and have started wearing suits, sport coats, and dress pants again. I instantly felt more masculine! I love women who wear skirts and dresses at the knee or lower, they look feminine and modest!
Thank you so much for making these videos, for setting the example, for sharing your journey and for pointing us to the truth of God’s word. I have been on a journey to live and learn from Titus 2 and instead of feeling like a prison, it has been so liberating. My relationship with my husband has improved so much and I believe, just as you mentioned, that the Church is getting way too comfortable (even imitating) with the way the world is doing things.
I pray that this video would be a blessing for other women and that we would all be more diligent in reading the Scriptures and calling out what is not in alignment with what is in its pages.
God Bless You all.
In Jesus name.
Amen
Good stuff! Thank you for inspiring godliness! 💕
What a wonderful video. Thank you for sharing your testimony. Still so tickled to have met you❤
Leslie! I think of you every time I make some of the amazing summer moon decaf! I love how God directs our steps and loved meeting you!!
Well said Kelli! God also used Lori Alexander to open my eyes to what now seems like the most obvious truths about gender, marriage, and Gods design for women. I love her books! Have you read Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin (The older version with the green and white cover)? If not, I think you might like it. Her teachings pair well with Lori's, but she goes into more depth on several topics. 💕
I haven't but I'm going to look it up on Thrift Books now, thank you!!
@@homewithkelli You are welcome! Also, we did our first Azure Drop today and it was a great experience! Thank you for the recommendation. I used your link and hope it blesses you and Scott! Thanks again! 😊💕
Its amazing how God works in our hearts and lives.
Bible is VERY clear about women preaching. Glad I don't have to deal with that in MY church! But I do hear parishioners bring it up every now & then, weighing the merits of it. & we DO have to deal with VERY bossy women that like to act like they are running things.
You are really lucky, kelli. I BELIEVE you when you talk about God not 'wasting seasons' & that you were doing all you did with the purest of intentions to please the Lord. How blessed is that? just be glad you weren't like me who was doing ALL she could to mock God, as a young person, trying to expose God as a fraud or at the very least, a non influential entity! I look back on my youth & cringe. I HAVE repented of all that nonsense & I DO believe that I have been forgiven, but it was so damaging. I think of all the others that I damaged in the process, or that maybe I helped to turn away/prevent from knowing the Lord. I do know now that God was walking right alongside me, but man what a broken, broken hearted, shameful person I was. I guess if he could convert Paul, no heart is too hard, right? I have tried to prevent my daughters from going down the same path & I thought I was doing pretty well, but this world is a hard one to raise young women in. I am afraid that I haven't done as well as I had hoped, as witnessed by some of their behaviors. I feel very sad inside (& have been praying, unceasingly) that the one has chosen to partner herself with an unbeliever (with many troublesome attributes). I see much of the same pain heading her way. & at this point she is an adult & there is not much I can do about it - her father & I have talked until we are blue in the face, laid out consequences, she has suffered consequences.... We have confronted the young man over & over. You are right about there not being enough guidance for younger women. & unfortunately, young people DON'T like to listen to their parents & mine are surrounded by bad examples & older women that live not-so-great lives.
It really is! I can't believe how complicated people make it, when it's really so simple. And I will also be praying for your daughters as well, and that God will bring people across their path that will encourage them in His ways.
Your testimony of how you both have come to these convictions and being receptive to the guidance of the Holy Spirit is amazing! What an encouragement it is to hear about the transformations of your beliefs and how you then choose to live out that faith. God’s Word should be the foundation for church culture. I am thankful for your courage.
Thank you Donna!
Yes! I felt the same way when I came across Lori Alexander, my marriage and I changed for the better.
Such a blessing!!
Great video! Thank you for sharing. I have been following Lori Alexander for probably the last 12 years. I’ve learned so much from her from her blogs and videos and have learned from all 3 of her books too. Her morning and evening devotional is a wonderful book to start and end the day to remind us of our purpose as women. Thank you for this encouraging video, Kelli!
Yes, I have two of her books and love them both!!
Blessings to you and Scott. Thank you for an inspirational video. You have changed my perspective of my role in such a good way! ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you so much Niki! You are always so encouraging!
@@homewithkelli I truly appreciate all that you are doing! Keep up the good work! 🤗♥️
Oh lord😂 dare I ask this??? So what does the acronym MRS stand for? Wonderful video❤🕊📖🎁😊👍
So cool to hear what you're saying on this topic. This is encouraging! For so long we were calling ourselves complimentarian but realized we were actually observing and growing in patriarchy. It's so relieving to embrace our God created roles and to learn what it is that God created us for.
Yes! Same with us- relieving is the perfect word to describe it too!!
I am 38, got married in 2020.
And this year I am starting seeing same things what you are saying. In my case I got sick I was burned out and needed a lot of rest. So I stayed home, how it changed our marriage, it changed me and is still changing. I am realizing in what kind of fruit God is interested in us women.
World doesn’t value this but God does. He wants us to love our husbands , do good needs to the community. We represent the Church the bride. To nutritious, to be hospitable. Modest and pure. The world influences us in every way. I am encouraged to see more women are starting seeing God’s prescriptions as the authorities .❤
This is how we started our journey earlier than expected. Sold everything and moved to the country
Wow, amazing!!!
What you say is such a big blessing in our modern world! Glad to hear that. Greetings from Austria ❤
Thank you so much, you are so kind and thoughtful to encourage me!
A lot of what you say resonates with me, even though I’m a non practicing Roman Catholic. I get the male/female roles as you describe them and agree with this viewpoint. I have worked for twenty years and been depressed, struggling to go to work every day in a very stressful job. I married and had a child at forty, and we have battled a lot over chores. Things have settled a lot since I’ve embraced home making more, but I do work out of the home part time and I find it hard to juggle both. My husbands does traditionally male roles around the home, but I do the rest and find it so frustrating he can’t even put a dish in the dishwasher. Do you find yourself taking on emotional stress because you work hard to make the home nice and it’s disrespected by things like your husband leaving stuff around? How do you deal with that? God has taught me great patience in life, but even my patience is tried by this.
Hi! Thank you so much for sharing your testimony with this as well. For me, if I have expectations that I don't feel Scott is "doing" most of the time it's not him being malicious or intentionally not doing it to make my life hard- he just didn't think about it. I've had to learn (and am still learning) instead of immediately resenting him for it and being passive aggressive towards him, to just ask him to do something in a kind way. Not snippy or nagging, but just plain and simple "hey my love could you put this away" or "can you help me with this" He may not be able to get it done in the moment but he will always do it or try to. I don't know if this is relatable to your situation, but I've really had to learn that my tendency to be passive aggressive or have resentment or harbor frustration never resolves the situation and always ends up pushing us further apart, which never feels great.
@@homewithkelli hmmm, I think you just helped me realize something! I think I’ll journal about it. Thank you!
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We women are sometimes clueless about what our husbands are thinking and feeling. Author of the book, For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn says about this fundamental truth, ~ That really, we women just want to be loved and cherished, but our men most want to feel respected by us and trusted by us. You can find her interview with Dr Dobson called, What women should know about men, starting with part 1. "In our culture, we have this idea that love must be unconditional but respect must be earned." Instead, she realized that biblically that was a completely unbiblical idea. "In fact, Ephesians 5, that long passage on marriage, Paul tells husbands to love your wives, and then he tells wives - respect your husbands. Never once does God tell wives to love your husbands." God knows that we need a little help on this...
@@homewithkelli Thank you for sharing, very encouraging.
This is all so against the world. I’m so glad you’re speaking for it! The Bible still stands! Much love, sister.
Amen!! God is so good at directing our steps! God bless you Amy!
I am 36 coming into my femininity… one child. I feel sorry that I didn’t find my role before but I hope I can lead my daughter
Amen! I often think of the quote "the best time to plant a tree was 30 years ago, the second best time is today" and I think that applies with us growing in our feminine nature. We can use our stories to help the next generation, God wastes nothing!
I struggle with this. Let me explain. I believe you can be feminine and still do a man’s job. You can still do that job and still have gender roles at home. I’m a Paramedic, which is a VERY VERY male dominated industry. Doing so does not make me less feminine. I am still very feminine. And when I get home, I am the keeper while my husband works two jobs. Grant it, I had to work really hard to prove myself, but I was able to nonetheless. I earned my respect in the field by being able to do the job.
I Sense a Burnout Home. Willing to earn Respect is Not Feminin. A true feminin Woman or Wife living in her Femininity does Not Proof anything Anybody or earn Respect from Anybody. She did Not Even think about it. It does Not ever Cross her Mind. She just is it. Why? Because she is Not Masculine nor a Man.
@@Gingerbreadsnow "Willing to earn Respect" is a human nature, unrelated to gender. Every person deserves respect and their values be celebrated.
I really appreciate that you recognize the LACK in the church today of actually teaching Titus 2. Of course it's good to be on mission and evangelize but women need to understand how to live out their FIRST calling: to be a WOMAN of God.
Thank you sooooo much I'm so glad I found your channel because I can relate so much to this content ❤️ Also can't wait to bake your fresh milled sourdough recipe 😍
Amen!
My niece and nephew attended Asbury. Did you know either Anna or Micah Combs?😊
Maybe we crossed paths, but the names don't ring a bell.
Thank you 😊
God bless ❤
This is such an important topic. I really struggle myself with feeling like I can do it all. I suppose this goes back to Genesis 3:16.
Great video. The most important point you shared in this video is the five minutes or so where you describe the downside to what happens to a woman's psyche when she is a "missions" based person and how this reverses gender roles according to God's word. It's not often said, but a woman's "mission" in life and in the body of Christ is to be a mother and wife. THIS IS HER MISSION FROM GOD. In VERY RARE cases and circumstances, women may be called into ministry in the body of Christ in a more official or 'outreach' related capacity, but even then, it is to play second to their God given calling of being a mother and wife. Women are very seldom called to ministry, and even then, it's within the context of her family life. Nowhere in scripture do we see God or Jesus or the Holy Spirit giving women the same mandates as the men in the early church. Even in that famous verse about what may have to be forsaken for the sake of the Kingdom of God, it gets really detailed naming, houses, brothers, sister, fathers, mothers, wife or children or lands... but NEVER says "husbands." Isn't that interesting?!!! The gospel and the calling may cost a man his lands, or even his house and maybe even children or wife, but NOWHERE does it say that a woman's "calling" for the sake of the gospel will ever leader her in a direction in which it will "cost" her her husband. I've even heard "Christian" women say that they had to leave their husbands and get divorces because of their "calling" or ministry. That is total deception and a complete lie. Never will God tell a woman to leave her husband. To even have come to the point where women believe God would do that, or where that kind of excuse is even tolerated shows just how far we've come and how bad the deception really is. I honestly believe that most of these women who believe it's "God" telling them to do these things don't know God at all, and most of them are not even born again.
I’ve watched this whole video, and here are my thoughts. I agree that there are Biblical responsibilities outlined in scripture for gender. But scripture also calls ALL Christian’s to the great commission. That is Androgynous! Additionally, your relationship with God, and how you cultivate that is androgynous! Being male or female, doesn’t matter in terms of relationship with God because we are than just all sons and daughters, with one Father. We are children of God. That is androgynous. It seems that there are two extremes that I am seeing played out in this video, where two groups can fall in a ditch by overgeneralizing. One group over generalizes the gifts of the Holy Spirit for androgynous purposes. The other group over generalizes the distinction of gender roles to the point of putting Gods creation in boxes. Both are in a ditch, so what is the balanced straight and narrow path? I would go to scripture and search two topics: church + home only from the New Testament scriptures as they pertain to the guidelines of life with emphasis on the Holy Spirit after Christs death. One of the main roles of the Holy Spirit is Helper. The Holy Spirit is there to empower us in ministry, and in our roles. The word of God is also the living Word. It is active. Christians today have both tools. So in the Scriptures where it talks about the gifts of the Holy Spirit and the fruit of the Holy Spirit…. You can read that literally in the Bible and then ask the Holy Spirit to speak to you about whether that is gender specific or not and wait on the Holy Spiritual for an answer or He gives you peace of what He shows you in the Word. When it comes to roles in marriage, and in parenting…. find it in scripture and then ask the Holy Spirit your questions. The Holy Spirit is part of the Trinity and has many distinct roles for the Christian. If you don’t have understanding about his roles then you are missing out a lot in Christianity when it comes to decisions/crossroads. Holy Spirit actually guides you to what the will of the Father is. The point is “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” if you seek God for answers on clarity in your own journey through life with all your heart…..He WILL show you. He will show you in the way that you will understand personally. To some that is the scripture, to some it could be a butterfly in a garden, to some, it could be through another person. In other words, God will meet you where you are, and not in a box for your answer. Just look in the Bible, all the creative ways that God answered people’s questions both in the Old Testament and New Testament. It’s very inspiring.
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Every time I saw these "traditional feminine" video I see a sense of ungratefulness. Women nowadays are finally able to be comfortably feminine while still holding their basic human rights and social status because feminists in the past fought for it, even though through the process of it femininity was somewhat subdued/devalued. However, I would consider that a needed step in fighting a place for women in a men-dominated world.
*correct: "traditional feminine" videos that more or less throw shades against feminism
I get where you're coming from. I was the same in my teens and twenties. At 52, I have learned that I am and always will be an introvert.
The Rockefeller Women’s Liberation movement has ruined society. Yes, we are equal in salvation in God's eyes. Otherwise, we each bring something special to a relationship. I bought into this mindset that women can and should set their path. What wasn't encouraged was marriage and family. I grew up as a child watching Little House On The Prairie. I loved it. Then, in the late 80s and early 90s came Roseanne. Don't get nervous wrong, Dan and Rosanne characters are more like the average American family. Too much like them. The women are taking the lead. It's chaos. Two incomes "needed" to keep a house going. Now I understand that the husband is supposed to be head of the house. Men are supposed to be Charles Ingles. Head of the home. I understand that women are supposed to be women. If we were supposed to be men, God would make us men.
Amen! So well said!
I agree! I do also want to add though, that TV shows are not real life lol, and although little house series was based on true stories, it was written for a child audience so its not 100% accurate. But I agree and know what you mean
Does she have kids?
Hi Kelli! Forgive me, but I am confused when you talk about your husband's "mission". I thought the Bible says our mission is to fight our sin nature and live lives that display the fruits of the Spirit, while sharing the gospel. Wives are to submit to and respect our husbands, while husbands are to love their wives. Employees are to work for their bosses as unto the Lord. We are to be generous and care for the poor, orphans, and widows. I'm not sure God cares what job/career our husbands have as long as we strive to live lives pleasing the the Lord. So, once again, I don't understand what you mean by your husband's mission. Maybe you have talked about this in a previous video...I will look. Thanks!
I think mission refers to his calling and what he wants to accomplish.
God will watch over us, but I don't think we should be putting ourselves in the riskiest situations possible to test that out. God is not to be tested & why make him work overtime on us, when sometimes the risk could be avoided? That is wisdom I have gained with age. Teens & early 20s don't really grasp that, I don't think. LOL
I don't think she was testing God. She truly believed she was doing what was expected of Christians.
@@kimalonzo3363 I wasn't referring to Kelli. As she stated, she firmly believed that what she was doing was of the purest intentions of her heart. & I 100% believe that. But I DO know folks that try to test God in this way - put themselves in risky situations & then lean on God to get them out. He will, but probably the person could have avoided it altogether. Even Kelli reiterated this by saying this would be a better activity (praying in dangerous locales) WITH a husband, rather than single girls putting themselves at risk. it would be like driving a car without a seatbelt under the conviction that God would preserve your life SHOULD you get in an accident. Why do that? Just wear the seatbelt & drive as safely as humanely possible. ☺
Two visions. Di-vision 🤯.
I hope I find a husband soon and one who agrees with these roles
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