Builds trust 1. Congruency in words/behaviors across time 2. Consideration of one another 3. Emotional connection 4. Open communication 5. Vulnerability Need partners to want to work through repair Understand why things happened the way they did...ask partner to identify root Honest discussion, recognize unmet needs “what led up to you doing whatever damaged trust?” Don’t take their actions personally Validate partners feelings not behavior ...Openness, emotional connections d awareness helpful... Identify what we need to rebuild trust, set realistic expectations Hold space for partner to communicate needs Fill in details, strategize, how to meet one another’s needs
I completely agree. And not only does she communicate the concepts so well, you can tell she is a genuinely kind person. In the way she laughs at her mistakes and in the way she speaks to the viewer are just two examples. But most importantly, as she expressed in the video, she just wants to help people. That is why I believe she is and will be successful.
Absolutely 👍 she nails it in her approach and her ummm... emotional logic??... She puts into words exactly what I was thinking but have difficulty articulating some of the time. Certainly in the moment and with my history! Psychologically Sound and interestingly captivating. You're right she definitely Cares. I'm 36 and I'm going through a bit of a paradigm shift in my personal life, and I'm glad (but oddly not surprised 😉) that I stumbled upon her videos. Considering seriously joining her class or whatever it is. I think she's doing good work 👍👍👍😊 I KNOW she is
Oh, Thais. People would listen for 3 hrs here BUT the courses are really a process. These are like lanterns in the dark The courses are like a team of electricians coming in rewiring and illuminating your whole house!
Actually, because of this channel and what you share here, is that I actually decided to buy your courses. So thank you for all the content you share here for free!! 🤗
I would love to listen to you for three hours. As it is I take a lot of notes and exercise the tools you have given in these videos and that alone has really changed a lot for me and the people around me.
I just want to say that I really admire you as a business woman. When you were saying that you give as much as you possible could at that high level, I stopped what I was doing to listen.
What a great post. I have been counciling and coaching people for nearly 40 years and I am learning so much from these posts. Excellent and so informative 👍
If you ever felt like you could talk for 3 hours I would be willing to listen I find your videos life-changing! I'm straight up a recovering codependent fearful avoidant and I have been doing self-study for the last 5 years so thank you so much from the bottom of my heart
I am so grateful for you and your content. I was in a place where I did not trust standing up for myself and my feelings and would bottle it up. I didn’t even know what I was feeling and when I was happy i actually became scared to the point where I self sabotaged. I am learning to trust in myself because of your information. A lot of hereditary trauma being resolved right now. 🙏
Agreed! I just joined the school and the courses are so helpful! I've gotten so much out of what I have done so far and it's only been two or three weeks or so! It is so worth it!!!
I came here for learning about my DA ex....I learnt about myself...I learnt, that many of the problems of my relationship were not mine! And cannot be fixed by me. I thought love would heal everything, I thought I could love selfless enough, learnt different love languages... OK, I outgrew myself, proved motivation, patience, forgiveness ... Finally I think, I can make a pretty good mate. And NOW I am ff to explore the world!
7:30 1. Congruency in words/behaviors across time. 2. Consideration of one another: knowing someone is considering you when they make choices. 3. Emotional connection 4. Open communication 5. Vulnerability
I just found ur content maybe an hr ago, and I am so grateful, this is going to change my gd life! Thank you thank you thank you 🙏 may blessings find you Thais!
Your content is currently helping in my romantic relationship, just wish I watched these videos a long time ago. Thank you so much, I have to enrol on your course
Can you help someone who has broken trust? There's alot of information which is frustrating for the person who's trust is broken but not much for what you need to do if you want to regain trust if you are the person who has broken the trust.
THANK YOU SO MUCH. my (ex) girlfriend dumped me 2 weeks ago and with the help of my therapist (and your videos) I’ve identified Shes definitely a fearful avoidant. Due to the stress of the Corona virus(cause big life changes), she started over thinking, making issues where there were none, and started fearing commitment (we dated two months, were in the honeymoon phase). Everything you say perfectly aligns and helps me understand SO much more. Your videos are the best out there by far. If you see this, I do have a question though. In terms of reaching out, if she is fearful and the relationship ended at only two months (everything was great before the virus brought issues), when do I break no contact to attempt communication? Thanks so much for your videos and help!
@@alexisjadefilms I reached out and got blocked. I only said hi how are you and your son doing during Lockdown. Harsh. I feel even worse but I should not have reached out.
Way Haught first thing’s first and stop saying she was over thinking or that she was making up problems where there “were none”. The issues were very real to her, I’m sure.
I messed up. I struggled for a period to trust due to triggers. I accused her of something she didn't do and broke her trust. Shes very disconnected and unsure and now I feel like its going to end if we dont get help. I'm broke due to covid and can really use some help. I begging for grace here. I begging for help. I love her so much. I made no excuses for my actions and I've made an effort to repair but she seems so hurt that she doesn't believe she can trust me. Please help me
Is it better value if I sign up monthly as it says "Permanent access to all current and future learning content." is included in that subscription. I think I particularly want to do this course: Healthy and Passionate Relationships after Emotional Pain (Re-Programming the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style) if I don't find another one on your site but it would be nice to peruse them all. Thank you for your time. You're so great!
Builds trust
1. Congruency in words/behaviors across time
2. Consideration of one another
3. Emotional connection
4. Open communication
5. Vulnerability
Need partners to want to work through repair
Understand why things happened the way they did...ask partner to identify root
Honest discussion, recognize unmet needs “what led up to you doing whatever damaged trust?”
Don’t take their actions personally
Validate partners feelings not behavior
...Openness, emotional connections d awareness helpful...
Identify what we need to rebuild trust, set realistic expectations
Hold space for partner to communicate needs
Fill in details, strategize, how to meet one another’s needs
This woman communicates these concepts and processes so well. No doubt she is an excellent helper in these matters. Thank you!
I completely agree. And not only does she communicate the concepts so well, you can tell she is a genuinely kind person. In the way she laughs at her mistakes and in the way she speaks to the viewer are just two examples. But most importantly, as she expressed in the video, she just wants to help people. That is why I believe she is and will be successful.
Absolutely 👍 she nails it in her approach and her ummm... emotional logic??... She puts into words exactly what I was thinking but have difficulty articulating some of the time. Certainly in the moment and with my history! Psychologically Sound and interestingly captivating. You're right she definitely Cares. I'm 36 and I'm going through a bit of a paradigm shift in my personal life, and I'm glad (but oddly not surprised 😉) that I stumbled upon her videos. Considering seriously joining her class or whatever it is. I think she's doing good work 👍👍👍😊 I KNOW she is
Oh, Thais. People would listen for 3 hrs here BUT the courses are really a process. These are like lanterns in the dark
The courses are like a team of electricians coming in rewiring and illuminating your whole house!
Thanks Toni
So well said Toni!
Actually, because of this channel and what you share here, is that I actually decided to buy your courses. So thank you for all the content you share here for free!! 🤗
Thanks for sharing this Mariela! I'm so happy to have you with us
You’re such lovely person. Heart and soul. Thank you so much.
Thank you Mya!
I would love to listen to you for three hours. As it is I take a lot of notes and exercise the tools you have given in these videos and that alone has really changed a lot for me and the people around me.
Thanks for saying this Vivian!! :)
I just want to say that I really admire you as a business woman. When you were saying that you give as much as you possible could at that high level, I stopped what I was doing to listen.
What a great post. I have been counciling and coaching people for nearly 40 years and I am learning so much from these posts. Excellent and so informative 👍
Intro ends at 7:24
I feel so validated watching this! I know how to have a conversation to rebuild trust in my relationship now. Thank you Thais.
"Codependent with the world". If this isn't my life summed up in four words, I don't know what is!
I can't thank you enough for this video, Thais... Honestly. I hope one day I'll be able to enroll in one of your courses.
Your passion for this topic is so contagious! I am hungry to learn more and more with you Thais ✨
If you ever felt like you could talk for 3 hours I would be willing to listen I find your videos life-changing! I'm straight up a recovering codependent fearful avoidant and I have been doing self-study for the last 5 years so thank you so much from the bottom of my heart
Subject content abt Trust continues @7:25 (after promotional info abt subscription with access to the courses)
I am so grateful for you and your content. I was in a place where I did not trust standing up for myself and my feelings and would bottle it up. I didn’t even know what I was feeling and when I was happy i actually became scared to the point where I self sabotaged. I am learning to trust in myself because of your information. A lot of hereditary trauma being resolved right now. 🙏
The courses are worth it! I’m now a lifetime member. The level of resources in the school is insane.
Agreed! I just joined the school and the courses are so helpful! I've gotten so much out of what I have done so far and it's only been two or three weeks or so! It is so worth it!!!
I came here for learning about my DA ex....I learnt about myself...I learnt, that many of the problems of my relationship were not mine! And cannot be fixed by me.
I thought love would heal everything, I thought I could love selfless enough, learnt different love languages...
OK, I outgrew myself, proved motivation, patience, forgiveness ... Finally I think, I can make a pretty good mate. And NOW I am ff to explore the world!
7:30
1. Congruency in words/behaviors across time.
2. Consideration of one another: knowing someone is considering you when they make choices.
3. Emotional connection
4. Open communication
5. Vulnerability
absolutely true
Been waiting to find this clear description of how to do this. Brilliant
I love your idea of making a course about rebuilding trust!!! ;)
Your content is so great! I just bought your book and unpackaged it. I'm excited to read it. 😊
I just found ur content maybe an hr ago, and I am so grateful, this is going to change my gd life! Thank you thank you thank you 🙏 may blessings find you Thais!
Your content is currently helping in my romantic relationship, just wish I watched these videos a long time ago. Thank you so much, I have to enrol on your course
Thank you so much for your videos Thais... They are so helpful. If you would make as much content on trust as you can, would really appreciate.
I love this i have issue on self trust
You’re the best. Ty so much for sharing!😌🙏🏼❤️
Thankyou 👭
Thank you so helpful!🙏🏾
You could and we can
Can you help someone who has broken trust? There's alot of information which is frustrating for the person who's trust is broken but not much for what you need to do if you want to regain trust if you are the person who has broken the trust.
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THANK YOU SO MUCH. my (ex) girlfriend dumped me 2 weeks ago and with the help of my therapist (and your videos) I’ve identified Shes definitely a fearful avoidant. Due to the stress of the Corona virus(cause big life changes), she started over thinking, making issues where there were none, and started fearing commitment (we dated two months, were in the honeymoon phase). Everything you say perfectly aligns and helps me understand SO much more. Your videos are the best out there by far. If you see this, I do have a question though. In terms of reaching out, if she is fearful and the relationship ended at only two months (everything was great before the virus brought issues), when do I break no contact to attempt communication? Thanks so much for your videos and help!
From experience. Don't contact them. Let her come back to you. I kept reaching out to my fearful avoidant ex and just pushed her further away.
@@kgmfencing9835 agreed. I've been no contact for going into 3 weeks.
@@alexisjadefilms I reached out and got blocked. I only said hi how are you and your son doing during Lockdown.
Harsh. I feel even worse but I should not have reached out.
Way Haught first thing’s first and stop saying she was over thinking or that she was making up problems where there “were none”. The issues were very real to her, I’m sure.
I messed up. I struggled for a period to trust due to triggers. I accused her of something she didn't do and broke her trust. Shes very disconnected and unsure and now I feel like its going to end if we dont get help. I'm broke due to covid and can really use some help. I begging for grace here. I begging for help. I love her so much. I made no excuses for my actions and I've made an effort to repair but she seems so hurt that she doesn't believe she can trust me. Please help me
Outstanding!
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I need help.
If we sense there is a trust issue but we don't know what one did to cause it, how do we get them to open up about what you did that caused the issue?
Is it better value if I sign up monthly as it says "Permanent access to all current and future learning content." is included in that subscription. I think I particularly want to do this course: Healthy and Passionate Relationships after Emotional Pain (Re-Programming the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style)
if I don't find another one on your site but it would be nice to peruse them all. Thank you for your time. You're so great!
i bought the month one and have access (:
Good for you!! 😁
Timestamp 7.27
She ain't no bullshit is all I'm saying
My cupboard full of strategies is empty so grabbing a broom.
Talk about DAs please
I think this video would definitely apply to DA's as well, but I think it's just that AAs and FAs tend to have more trust related wounds
♥️✨!!!!!
Boooob! 😅 he triggers the whole community
Hahah!