Please DON'T Get a Boob Job!
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I ended up getting breast implants before going into college and I can say it doesn't make things better. I very much agree that whoever is pressuring you into getting cosmetic surgery is not speaking out of love... and that includes you speaking to yourself. It's now been years since my surgery; God and I talk more now, and I'll be getting them removed later this year.
God bless you Cynthia!! Thank you for sharing your story, keep letting God speak truth to your heart. Prayers friend!
How are you doing, did you get them removed?
@@PalinaZ Hello, yes! I got them removed in May. The recovery included being wrapped tightly in absorbent pads and gauze. I cannot remember how many days passed between the surgery and eventually growing frustrated with the itchiness of the wrap but I eventually took it off to reposition it and in those moments looked in the mirror at my "natural" breasts for the first time in years. There were some scars but I remember they were thinking they were so womanly and crying at their beauty! I still get emotional thinking about it. I am saddened at how much I didn't value the body God had gifted me but joyful to know just how much mercy I received to be able to have it again. So, I am doing well in that regard. Thank you for checking in.
Cameron, I think you are speaking truth to the generation of 'filters'. Everything they consume on social media show people with a filter not the real person. God created each person unique and beautiful.
so TRUE, didn't even realize Generation of Filters! God bless them!
I love this. I am the same size as I was in High School. My mom and my sisters were all large after children. I breastfed 3 kids and besides being a little more droopy they stayed the same size. Seeing the issues my sisters have with shoulder and back pain, I feel blessed.
I was a happy flat-chested 14 year old until my mother pointed out how very much I needed to wear padded bras. For years as a younger adult I wanted the surgery to get bigger breasts. So glad I didn't ever have the money to do it. I ended up with genetically caused health issues and think implants could've made the health issues worse. So am A-okay with my still flat chest!
Oh I’m so sorry!! Yes my mom would make comments to a dear friend of mine & it’s not ok! I’m glad you didn’t get them either.
My youngest SiL got one as a graduation present from her undergraduate degree. It was suppose to make her feel better about herself. A little background, high school graduation present was a nose job to make her feel better about herself. It didn't work so naturally breast augmentation from a B to a D is the next logical progression, right. Well that was in the 90s and she still has self-esteem issues, clearly the hole is infinitely bigger than she realizes. Please pray for her. she has done many surgeries through the years to fix her body so she will feel better about herself. She is still seeking for a better her outside herself. Yes she wanted to be seen [and loved]. She was seen, men focus on her body below her face. This was not the seen she wanted. We try to see her, her inner beauty for who God made her to be.
I'm glad someone who's thin and pretty is willing to talk about her flaws and having old lady days.
I can hear your heart in this. I’m 23 and am insecure about my small boobs. I’ve been praying about this whole concept - boob jobs, body image, etc. This was a helpful encouragement. Your confidence and security inspires me, Cameron. Thank you.
Thank you for loving on my granddaughter! So glad you're neighbors with our son and his beautiful wife ❤
Our pleasure! You have wonderful grandchildren!! I hope to be so blessed one day!
100% agree with you here Cameron ❤
6:29 oh I wish we had a real village where we are. I’m alone like 10-12 hours a day with a 3 year old and a 3 month old and there’s no one to even hold my baby. You and Matt are really selling Steubenville to me, now if I can get my husband and mom on board 😅
@aniaf3506 That’s a long time alone with your children. I’d volunteer to babysit
Yes. We need this conversation.
Amen! As a mammographer, 64 yrs old, I totally agree with everything you said. A normal mammogram is 4 views, and with implants, it's double with 8. Also, it can be a limited study since a cancer can be hidden behind the implant!!! On every report, it will say limited study. Many ladies have said to me I wish I never did this.
I had a breast reduction at 19, and I have never regretted it once in the 26 years that have followed. Best decision.
The mere fact that you had a personal assessment of how you compare to people's looks when living in different cities is the same heart posture of why women get breast implants. Honestly, anything we do for beauty that adjusts our natural self can be traced to an insecurity. If you are not confident without hair dye, make-up, earrings, any kind of addition to the self to "enhance" your look is just another type of boob job. The only differences are price, invasion level to the body, temporary or permanent. I am not advocating for a boob job. Personally, not for me. However, I think it is important to understand that our beauty enhancements are all as unnecessary as a boob job. We just take preference to some over others depending on which of those we believe makes us feel more confident. I think the women among us who truly understand this are nuns. That's a level of holiness I would love to become.
The situation I’ve seen women get it done is when, like you said, a woman had a chest size before children and lost it completely afterwards (and had absolutely nothing left). So did not consider the surgery bc of attention but to restore what they used to have. I’ve always been torn on my opinion of it. Agree with you that we need to see our value and worth is beyond the physical.
This is where I’m torn as well. My mom was left w literally nothing after kids and she didn’t get huge implants but had a natural looking size and is super happy w it. I’ve never been happy w mine and have always wanted a lift someday wayyyy down the line after having all my babies. I’m not going for size or attention so I want to hear more of a discussion on that!
They are endangering themselves and risking leaving their kids orphans. I have also seen peoples mental capacity go down after surgery - a beloved relative of mine got dementia just after hip replacement and later I heard anethesia is linked to brain problems
Preach it, Cameron!🙌
Thank you for this!
You're so beautiful Cameron ❤
I've been implementing a healthier natural routine to take care of myself now that I'm almost 34. My skin is getting better because of it. My goal is to not wear makeup. I don't wear crazy colors. I don't contour and all that jazz, but I hate having to put it on. I've been self conscious in the past about not wearing it so hearing this is so inspiring ❤ oh, what about microblading eyebrows? I butchered my eye brows in my teenage years and 20s. They've never grown back evenly. I also was self conscious about being tall growing up. I didn't feel as girly because I was always taller then the boys. I'm learning to be thankful for my whole 5'9 height.
We are the same hight!!! I totally get it!!
I wish I could have 2 more little ones too… 🥰
Cameron, you look so beautiful!
I always joke around with my husband that I’m going to get a boob job whenever we can’t have anymore kids…after watching this I really need to stop. I’m turning 28 and man since stopping breastfeeding and having weight gain/loss my “perfect perky boobs” are now saggy and just sad looking haha (not to hubby though which is all that should matter!!). Oh the sacrifices us mom’s go through for our kids - particularly nursing 😅😭😭
I'm glad he loves you for it and doesn't care!! ;-)
I love this and it showed up on the very day I was feeling sad about my breasts. My situation is a little different, though. Yes, I have small breasts, and that is actually fine. But they are deformed. They didn't form correctly when I was developing and that has always bothered me. But this video was very encouraging and focuses on what is important.
How old are you? I can tell you, if a man loves you, you will be the most beautiful woman for him on Earth!
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Love your sweater. I cant wear that sort of thing with big boobs because it makes me look heavier than I am.
Since you are a chronic illness warrior. And there are severe and debilitating risks of botox and boob jobs. I think breast implant illness should definitely be included in here! Botox too! But there's a generation of women who are suffering from severe toxin and even mold poisoning from their implants. There are many in the chronic illness community suffering from breast implant illness, and explants are a very common thing anymore. Now women are having to go through extensive reconstructive surgery in some cases.
I look at breast implants much like I do birth control. Look at the fruits! The risks of birth control which weren't well known in the beginning have come to light. Same goes for breast implants. They are dangerous carcinogens, and dangerous to the endocrine system.
So many things are this way now. The pressures we feel are usually from evil. Birth control, botox, breast implants, \/axxines created using aborted fetal tissues. Sometimes taking up to 80+ aborted babies for the production and study of just 1
\/accine. The fruits tell you everything. It's evil that drives these pressures and fears.
That's a really good point too, I didn't even think of the toxin load on the body.
Totally! I’m 40 years old and grew up as a teenager flat chested completely fine with myself until Britney Spears came out on the pop scene and yes not everyone is as easily seduced as I am, but I completely bought into all of that crap.. that as a young woman I had to look like that, and you know what I only objectified myself, because I put the majority of my value and worth and how I looked on the outside for so many years. I wish I could go back in time and do it all over but since I can’t, my mission is to raise my daughter differently and PRAISE GOD she knows her worth and value has much more to do with having a charitable heart, and a relationship with Christ than how adorable she is ( and she is 😊) and that she’s truly perfect exactly how God made her.
My husband has hinted at me getting breast implants and has explicitly told me I need a nose job. It hurts and I've repeatedly asked him to stop bringing it up; but he doesn't. I hate it, and it makes me want to cry.
as it should, i'm so sorry... have you shared w/ him how it hurts you?
Cameron hi! i'm not sure if you will see this, it came up on my feed and I have so many thoughts on this. Loved everything you had to say would have loved to hear it in my teens and twenties. I was tall and broad and athletic when i was young and flat as a board and wanted to feel and look more feminine...and as soon as I could afford it I had a breast augmentation and I absolutely loved it... fast forward many years and with the menopausal weight gain and new perspective i feel like they are just ridiculous, especially as a mom of teenagers the literal last thing in the I would want is to be the mom with the boob job so i will never wear fitted shirts...I want them to be smaller but don't really want to put more money and time into dealing with that but eventually I will do that... I have thought about this as i really want them out before i stand before God, but would also love to be somewhere between flat as a board and ridiculous....so i am torn...our culture is inundated with the message that we are not enough the way we are and I have definatley been shaped by that...I think tasteful plastic surgery can be ok if you are not trying to incite lust and just even out your proportions-most doctors err on the conservative side and the goal is to look like you have not had plastic surgery- you are a thousand percent at the mercy of whoever is doing the procedure...i remember when i was younger seeing overweight sloppy moms with beautiful little kids dressed perfectly and thought i would never ever let myself get that way and sure enough here i am in my sweats with a lot more empathy and understanding about what it means to age- i think it's ok to do your best to look your best and i'm not sure where the line should be drawn it's a great conversation to have!
I think our bodies are beautiful. I can understand if a woman wanted to get a boob job after breast feeding to regain her natural chest. In my opinion, getting a boob job for attention or to be sexy wouldnt be a good idea . I also think it's important to appreciate your body , so I understand the importance of seeing the beauty in it, especially for all those that have had children. It's such a beautiful thing. It's probably a good idea if your married to talk to your husband about it as well. ❤ I agree, intent definitely matters. I personally think a natural look is better if you're going to do it. Good listen🙏 and yes , I would never want to get a ton of cosmetic surgery. Aging is beautiful. I'm not into the whole Botox thing and filler thing. Natural really is beautiful. I also personally think men should just stay natural. Men! Listen up lol. Age . It's ok! You don't need cosmetic surgery because you don't like the way you look. I just think aging gracefully is so wonderful. it's a privilege denied to many. I think men continue to look better as they age. I don't say this in a lustful way. They end up looking distinguished when they embrace it. Drink water. Eat right most of the time. ❤
Ilove you
I’m gonna need you to not call yourself old miss. I’m an ‘81 kid too and I’m not jumping on that train. I’m wise but not old 😉
My kids call me old! lol I feel older than I am
Middle aged is not old. My grandpa is about to turn 98. That’s old! He always says, “Getting old is not for sissies.” And it is not!
Lost my last two surprise babies. After carrying four to term. My youngest is 15. Recently was holding my 6 month old goddaughter and loved it. However it resulted in lots of comments by parishioners who said we should have more and babies look good on me and my husband.😳 🥺 Keep in mind my husband is 45 and I'm 43. Maybe we look young? 🤷♀️
Have you hit menopause?
@@catherine1886 I think I'm in Peri. Still have ovulatory cycles.
When you are married, then for who are you trying to look good? My body is for my husband. I dress modestly because I don’t need to show off anything. So ‘looking better’ is incredibly strange thing to seek. Wanting to be healthy (being in shape is great) is one thing but your spouse should not have unrealistic standards about how you look. They should love you the way you are! Wrinkels, stretch marks and all. And can we stop with the lie that our breasts change that drastically. They really don’t. It’s a bit different but no where near disgustingly bad. You wear a bra your breast look just fine in any outfit.
Yup, so true men like natural bosoms and it's also healthier (no risk of leaking and causing cancer coz' of the chemicals in an implant). If it's not for medical reasons and it's really un-needed, just for looks mainly, it's really mutilation- a mortal in in the Church.
Botox and fillers, men aren't sure why women think that's beautiful, the face and lips looks really swollen and unnatural.
God bless.
I do feel like I sag an inch lower with every breastfeeding journey. If I’m 50 and done having babies and I want to remove excess skin to bring them up higher, I think I’m gonna do it. What are your thoughts?
Samantha I agree with you! I want more conversation on the girls who just want the lift and to accentuate something beautiful. Not to show off! Not to get huge implants. But I feel the same way. It’s just something for me, bc my husband doesn’t even care lol. I’m not insecure it almost feels like wearing makeup and aging gracefully 🤷🏼♀️
I think my biggest hesitation in supporting something like that is purely based on the fifth commandment. Part of Thou shalt not kill regards our own body, specifically not doing rash things. So for instance, driving recklessly is against the fifth commandment because you are posing a risk to yourself and others. Certain extreme sports are most certainly straying close to that line as well (mountaineering, for instance, is frequently a game of Russian roulette for very little purpose beyond self gratification). In America, we are accustomed to thinking that surgery of any type is routine and safe because of the technology that enables us to do them regularly and generally without complication. However, even something as routine as a csection is a traumatic injury being done to the body and has serious short term and long term ramifications on a woman's body. Presumably, most surgeries are necessary to some degree, and doctors advising them are weighing the potential risks vs benefits, thus reducing the chance of complications. Therefore, most medical surgeries can be said to be justifiable and moral means to treat various conditions. However, when one approaches a surgeon for an elective cosmetic surgery, the risk calculus far outweighs the perceived benefits, which are not bodily health but rather an esteem boost or vanity if some stripe, and thus we stray towards rashness in treating our bodies again. Rashness under the fifth commandment frequently is a mortal sin because it violates the integrity of our bodies and Our Lord's governance over life and death.
These are just my musings from some basic principles. I am not dogmatically asserting that my musings are correct, but based on my research and current understanding of the moral theologians on the topic, I tend to think cosmetic surgery may be morally illicit. I don't know for sure though
Not about a boob job, but have seriously considered tummy tuck. 4 csections and can't lose the weird mom belly apron to save my life.
Ugh, yes. MuTu exercise system(it's like 100$) seems to work really well, but some changes just never quite shift.
I've always hated having big boobs, they are somewhat deflated and sagged after two kids and years of breast feeding. I'd love to have them deducted and lifted into a young girls B size 😂 but it's so expensive I even think or there are better ways to spend the money.
Also, I'm afraid to gain weight and boobs growing back, money wasted
Mine shrunk, though not lifted, after the third chunky baby! I'm prob one of the few ppl that is like THIS AMAZING! 1) can wear a halter top or sports bra without it hurting the neck 2) no back pain and 3) more clothing options that feel modest and are flattering bc I feel like shirts that fit big boobs also have big waist lines and don't look flattering--nor do turtlenecks
So sad that women see the size of their bo0bs as the important thing about themselves - sounds like very low self esteem to me. I was imperfect before kids (looking back seems perfect but at the time I didn't feel perfect - not hat i cared too much) but I am certainly imperfect now and my husband loves me just as much as before and I feel soo proud of my body and the beautiful children it produced
Please get off camera until you are able to not say Uhh and Umm every other word. If I edited this video to remove all the uhhs and umms it would have been three minutes long.
Really? She has such a beautiful
message to women and this is the only thing you got out of it?
Completely disagree. If a woman wants to feel better about herself, especially after children, why not? I think a lot of women get cosmetic surgery for the wrong reasons but if a woman is self conscious and wants to improve her appearance to make herself feel better then it is insane not to. I know many women how who had rocks in socks after kids and they had a lift and implants and finally felt better about their postpartum bodies. You don't have to accept how you look. Yes, things can go wrong with the surgery but things can go wrong with every surgery. Just have to vet the surgeon.
A boob job is, at best, a very sad expression of low-self esteem, and at its worst, is an extreme expression of vanity. I don't blame women whose self-esteem is low; I am a woman in this world as well and know how delicate those things are...but the solution to our lack of self-esteem is not to locate the problem in our bodies
I hear what you are saying, but I am having a hard time believing you actually believe it. May I suggest you take this to Christ? Sit and chat w/ him about this and see what truths he wants to tell you and these woman about their bodies.
@@cfradd I have sat with it and still think you are dead wrong and have no place to act so condescending and purposely obtuse in regards to women and deeply intimate personal choices regarding the horribly sensitive topic of their appearances.
I also heard your judgmental comment on Pints With Aquinas in the interview with Laura Horn where you bring up my comment specifically and you and Laura suggest that Traditional Latin Mass people think they they HAVE to participate in plastic surgery to keep their husbands happy.
I think you are a very sad woman and pitiable.
When you said that you color your hair because 35 was too young to have grey, and wearing makeup is ok--total hypocracy. You are judging and creating arbitrary standards that are not in doctrine at all regarding women and appearance. I know many women who are not happy with their postpartum, aging, or just a-typical looking bodies and choose to undergo a breast lift or augmentation to make themselves feel normal. Yes, plastic surgery can and is abused by some. Yes, these procedures can look bad at times. But who are you to be so judgmental of women?
It is disturbing and quite frankly misogynistic of you to set beauty standards for other women based on some made up rules you have decided should fit for everyone. Under your own logic, every single time you modify your body by wearing makeup and coloring your hair you are not embracing what you look like and are suffering from the sin of vanity that you suggest other women are for participating in other reasonable forms of modification and beauty enhancement.
Further, the fact that you and Laura chose to attack those who attend the TLM as if we are some kind of oppressive, beaten down, sex slaves to our husbands was disturbing and demonstrates why there is so much division in the church. I am a practicing attorney, I run my own law firm--far from some kind of slave to my husband. I have never had plastic surgery but I would NEVER judge another woman for wanting to feel good about herself.
If you are going to have a platform that discusses women's issues perhaps you should be more discerning of your comments and less condescending and hypocritical. There is a giant plank in your eye that must be removed before you even attempt to address vanity issues with other women.
@@cfradd And PS, I entirely believe this. You can be passive aggressive and condescending all you want suggesting that I should talk to Jesus about it and suggest I don't really believe this, but I do. And I really believe that you have ZERO room to talk to women about this topic because you clearly don't care about women and how women feel about themselves.
@@birdman9265 I think your last bit in your comment was quite uncharitable toward Cameron. Those of us who object to cosmetic surgery do indeed care about how women feel about their bodies, and that's the point. Just as I would not encourage an anorexic to start dieting in order to feel good about themselves, I would never counsel a woman who had self esteem issues centered around her body to go under the knife for an unnecessary surgery (any surgery is risky, and there is actually some fifth commandment considerations that one needs to account for when looking at elective surgeries). While the initial high of perky boobs or a bubble butt might give an emotional boost to the woman suffering from the inevitable changes caused by time and motherhood, among other things, the emotional boost is ephemeral and does not address the underlying problem, which is frequently a rejection of both the goodness and integrity of her personhood (encouraged by our culture of death) along with a fear of the natural decay and death that all men face. It is a spiritual sickness that almost certainly will not be fixed by some silicone and fillers.
You are free to disagree with that reasoning. However, to say so uncharitably that that reasoning rejects the good of the woman being counseled is quite silly and petty.
@birdman9265 @cfradd
What a women chooses to do for herself to feel beautiful is subjective. Cameron you dye your hair and wear make up and dress nicely to look beautiful for your TH-cam videos. Where is the distinction between this and a bodily aesthetic approach? It’s all alteration, it’s all pageantry. It’s okay to want to bring aesthetic beauty into the world if your motivations are as pure as they can be. My husband would never pressure me, only says positive things about my body/beauty ever. My breast augmentation and lift, the restoration made me feel confident, it’s not for other men, it’s not from a place of deep insecurity. I just simply like the aesthetic and it enhances the way I feel during intimacy in my marriage. I’ve never had negative health effects or regret. I did pray about my decision. I feel like GOD blessed me with a wonderful supportive husband and I’ll always do my best to look and feel beautiful for him, much like I’m sure you do for your husband. We may just have different priorities when it comes to beauty. Some women favor what others can see ( hair/ nails/ make-up) and I prioritize what only my husband sees privately.