How To Be The Most Attractive Guy In The Room (Even in your 40’s)
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I don’t find myself attractive, but I do find myself very interesting. I can spend all day with myself and be content.
As a 67 year old man in a blue-collar (actually no-collar) E Texas town all I have to do to be the best dressed/most attractive man in the room is to wear anything besides cargo-shorts, crocs, and very large sleeveless shirts. I’ve also found that it helps to be the only guy in the room.
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Just found your channel. Great content and advice. All i'll say is, as as 52 year old man, your 40s will vanish in a flash. It really is scary how quickly they go. Make the most of it and train hard.
Thanks for commenting Ranger!
I'm old, so this could have come from Ann Landers or Dear Abby, but some advice columnist years ago said that when in dialogue with someone, you should talk about them and not yourself, and then you'll always be known as a great conversationalist. this has always worked for me (a natural introvert)...boosted self confidence, bigger circle of friends, learning new things, and genuinely learning to enjoy getting to know about others. and as you mention in the vid, I would add that you should talk to everyone in the room, not just the beautiful
Thanks for commenting Steve!
Some great points not related to looks. It never ceases to amaze me how many people don't look people in the eyes when speaking with them.
Great advice. I especially liked “Hi. I don’t think we’ve met yet. My name is (fill in the blank.)” I do that. Very effective ice-breaker.
Simple, friendly, and direct. Most people respond favorably.
John, In my life, I’ve practiced the majority of the suggestions you offered here and what annoys me the most is when I ask people about themselves, they usually speak non-stop, but do they in return even ask one thing about myself, most times absolutely not.
Too true I’ve never had the looks or an outgoing personality but it’s so easy just starting a conversation in public by just showing personal interest in someone & striking common ground but so easy to become someone who grizzles or complains I just say to myself snap out of it now I’ve gotten older you realise life is a gift not to be taken for granted
Well said! Thank you for commenting!
Great video, took some tips from you- joined a bike club, been socializing and even doing some YT content that everybody seems to love... it's amazing meeting new faces and having a lot of cool friends!
John, you "hit it out out the park" with this video! Important subject, great advice, with spot-on delivery. Great work! Thank you!
Thank you!
feeling so good already by listening you john i really dont know what would i feel when i practice your tips thank you
Wow... one of your best vids!!
In every point sooo right. The talking to random strangers was one of the biggest plus for me. From the very most you get positive reactions, what let grow step by step the feeling : hey, holy crap, people take me seriously and accept me as i am. A real confident booster cause you learn that all people feel a bit unsecure around strangers. You lighten up their day a bit, and yours... by growing.
I dont get the mindset from stoic men... talking and be open is one of the best things to grow.
Chris Hemsworth is goodlooking, yes, but i think whats really outstanding, is his charisma "i dont care what you think about me"...
Thank you very much!
Awesome tips my brother. Staying polished in all areas of your life is so important to achieving success in all areas. Great content ( as usual )...
Great video!! As the saying goes 'Good looks can open the door, but they don't always keep you in the room'
Very true! Thanks for commenting!
Thanks John, another great video , keep it positive and keep living the adventure of life !!
Thank you!
Interesting will supercede GOOD LOOKS. You are correct. Body language is synonymous to attitude. You can convey that attitude with body language.
As alway excellent advice. Thank you!
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Plenty of useful information. One of your best videos in my opinion. Thanks!
Glad you think so RJ! I appreciate the comment!
The Arnold clip was brilliantly done. Loved it.
Haha! Thanks Steve!
Looking sharp during the pandemic does matter. I've been receiving multiple compliments since I have found your channel.
Excellent, excellent video. Also, and I'm sure you realize this without being reminded, your audience goes way past the 40's. I'm 64, and your videos have helped me immensely. Thanks!
Thank you very much Buz!
@@40OverFashion You're welcome!
Great information John, thank you.
Thank you for commenting Ron!
Great video great advices, thanks John
Thank you very much Felix!
Words to the wise. Appreciate the balanced view.
Excellent video, John. I also like the sports coat / shirt / pocket square combo you’re wearing.
Thank you!
John, your dropping jewels not only for the over 40 gentlemen but for the young lions as well. Great topic amigo..
Thanks for watching!
New subscriber this week, loving the videos and the info you are giving out, learning so much already 👌🏻👍🏻
Welcome aboard! Thank you very much!
As usual an informative video by the fashion therapist. I try to be positive and I do take pride about my physical appearance which includes clothing and body. I have to work on being more sociable in a group setting. I do well one on one but sometimes there are those who take up quite a bit of oxygen and I hate to socially compete and in my case I have to be cautious when initiating conversations with certain men. Oh well...food for thought. I need to come up with a strategy.
Thank you Roberto!
WOW John great topic, thanks for information.
Thanks for watching!
Greeting from the UK John, great video thank you.
Interesting, I have a classic Corvette 1980, and from watching these videos, my style has improved
Very very informative video... Thank you John 😊
Thank you for watching!
Really good advice. I made a new year’s resolution to give at least one compliment a day to someone I encounter every day. Been really fun.
Love that Keith!
Have 99% of those compliments been to women?
@@SydneyGreenstreet1227 Lol! Nope. I’d say it’s like 60/40.
@@keithosorio6301 That’s good then. I usually save the womens’ compliments to the ones who look like the least to expect it.
@@SydneyGreenstreet1227 the guys are much more surprised by the compliment then the woman. I just told a guy at the gym that his shirt was cool. You would have thought I just told him he won the lottery!
Hi John . I think the old saying beauty ( or in this case attractiveness ) is only skin deep applies here. There are attractive people who can be quite shallow . There are people who are envious or even intimidated by attractive people without actually getting to know them . Then there are those folks who may not initially come across as attractive at first but over time once you get to know the person that inner attractiveness comes through in many of their endearing qualities and you begin to overlook any physical flaws that person might have. Thats the type of person everyone should strive to be like. Peace . : )
Yes, well said Kevin!
I share your vids with a friend who tends to be a bit thick when it comes to his persona; how others see him. Thanks
Hello John, how are you? You are so Wise "Grasshopper" Lol 🤣. Thank you for that informative video!!
Thank you! Much appreciated!
Always remember one thing be the best of whatever you are and own your natural body .
Well said!
So good
Thank you for watching!
Great video and great advice as always. Thanks for posting this!!! I have never considered myself physically attractive so I have made an effort to care about my appearance (clothing and personal grooming) and I have worked on my general culture and I know that I can be funny. And you know what, my wife points out that people are attracted to me because of who I am and not just what I look like. So yeah, genetics may not have been my lottery win but I won at other things in life.
Yes you have my friend! Thanks for commenting!
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Good stuff John!
Thank you Marc!
Being attractive is about the energy you create. Some attributes tip the scales but the aggregate rules. Great job in pointing out all the nuances of being “that attractive dude”
Grow old and live!
Yes, exactly!
Cool video
Good stuff!
Glad you enjoyed it!
@@40OverFashion I totally agree on opening circle!
It's been my experience that colleagues and strangers are attracted to me due to my funny quirky side.
John, some great insights here, thank you for posting. The thing is, once you reach 50, you have to work all the harder at these attributes. When you’re 35, all you have to do is be 35 and people will find you interesting.
I get it, but I’ve met some pretty stale 35-year-olds.
How to win friends & influence people
By Dale Carnegie is a must read & study
I FORM new people I meet. People usually like to talk about themselves so let them. Check it out...
F for Family. Where are you from? Etc...
O for Organization. Where do you work? How long have you been there? What do you do there? Etc...
R for Recreation. What do you like to do for fun? Hobbies? Etc...
M for Motivation. What motivated you to get into that? Etc...
It works every time. Get to know someone in under 10 minutes. Best of all you're being a genuine person interested in who they are.
All your points are on point! im 37 and i still pull 18 to 20 year olds cause i still look cool, im still 210lbs of muscle, dress modern and still got that mouthpiece. Its not about looking young, its about looking cool, just dont look too skinny or fat, get muscles, dont dress old and keep up your grooming.
One this is self-confidence other thing is narcissism..why do I have the impression you are leaning more toward the last one??
37? Dude they probably want your money.
Buying a beer for someone in their early 20s can instantly make you cooler than most of the people they know haha
Such a great point! Being negative and blaming other people for your problems only works when you're trying to meet women at a capital insurrection.
LOL
😂
But never at a BLM, Roe v Wade, or while harassing the SCOTUS because those folks are beacons of positivity?
With out being a Douche, I was “blest”with looks. In my 20s early 30s I attached a lot of ladies, but the mix of insecurity, bad dresser and little to no conversation /personality
I found my self striking out with the kind of women I wanted to be with.
now as a 55 year old man, Looks are no longer the thing I rely on. Conversation, experience, humor and the ability to laugh at myself turns out to be the catalyst I was missing
To laugh at one Self ....indeed
Blessed
A nice set of simple rules. Here’s one multiple female friends have mentioned, it’s so simple it’s stupid but for some reason a lot of guys ignore this given what they’ve said. That one thing is don’t stink. It seems so stupid too say this but I guess it’s a thing. I’ve seen/smelled it happen once with my own eyes/nose, a guy a female friend thought was cute came over to say hi... he lasted 10 seconds after one whiff. They also complain about too much or inappropriate cologne choice for a situation but bo is a bigger turn off . So guys given what they’ve said I guess if you have a shower regularly you’re already ahead of a bunch of men out there.
And well groomed,
especially the fingers & facial hair
Being good looking is definitely a bonus but it's not the be all end all of attracting women. When I was younger I would notice the sparkle in a woman's eye when we'd first meet. Unfortunately, once my lack of self-esteem and social awkwardness began to show and that sparkle would disappear rather quickly.
Insted of practising not saying anything negative, how about practising saying something positive on a regular basis. For some people that's the real challenge, because you have to actually think about it, not just keep your mouth shut. Phil.
Well said. Thank you for commenting!
My divorce was divorce from a toxic 22 year marriage was final in March 2020. I was ready to get on with my life, then covid fell on everything basically squashing 2 years of planning. I had a very sexual relationship with a gal for 4 months while tuning up my game with your videos. Its helped tremendously. I want to thank you and am looking forward to things loosening up here in the golden state. Thanks man 👍
@ James Buteau...to each their own, and respectfully said (I'm still healing from 20 yr marriage/divorce 3 yrs now)--- the last thing you should be doing after a 22 year toxic marriage, is losing self control sexually. It takes both husband and wife to wreck a marriage, even if the percentage of wrongs is skewed more to one person. Toxic, means you're co-dependent. Heal your mind; mindless sex will only hinder you long term. Please learn to love/respect your mind/body/spirit, before moving on. You wont regret it. Best wishes...peace!
Thanks for commenting James! I believe things will resume to normal soon.
@@leslieferguson9562 Mindless sex ? Co-dependent ? Heal my mind ? I feel that I should be mailing you some kind of check for your unwanted diagnosis. Keep to your self hun.
I liked the video. Great positive outlook, it is so important. I did not love the title. What is wrong being the best dressed guy in the room if you are over 50? One easy change and it would be a home run.
Exactly!!
Love your channel. I am a woman, btw. We are much more masculine in Europe and apparently same rules are set here man and women.
Except for beard 🤣🤣🤣
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Thanks for letting me know! TH-cam does it but I’ll go delete some. Thanks again!
Really good video. Don’t be a dbag - open up your body language and the conversation to someone who is hovering/trying to join in. Simple concepts we all learned in kindergarten called sharing and kindness.
Yes, absolutely! Thank you for commenting!
I’m 1st....yay me...good topic
Thank you for commenting!
If you live on the coast in a major city you have to be at the top of your game.
Today with social media you women just have too many options.
At 55 years old I am working out 4 to 6 days a week. Get a hair cut once every 3 weeks about.
Just going out to the store I dress neat and stylish.
Trust me I don't want to do any of this, but you have no choice unless you want to accept that average looking woman that thinks she is a 9 or a 10 because of all the attention on social media and dating sites gives her.
Hi! My name is John.....wait! It's not working for some reason 😕
When looks arnt important the wallet is
You make 40’s sound the the end of life. My 40s in the 80s were some of the best years of my life. There is more to life than being a 20 something metrosexual child man.
You don't have to be touched by the gods to be attractive. If you aren't in the gym, picking up heavy things and putting them down, why would you think this advice matters? Lift weights, get under 15% bodyfat, and learn to dress well. If you want to be physically attractive, there are things in your control that you should be doing. If you're not doing them, you aren't putting in the work. If your failure is because you're too lazy to put in the work, the fix for that is simple.
As for your personality and getting people to want to be around you, it's really just a matter of confidence and competence. Lots of people specifically will not respect someone who never takes a stand on an issue. So, running from difficult conversations just makes you less trustworthy. Likewise, if you only complain and never fix anything, you aren't competent or a problem solver. You just complain. Everyone respects the guy who knows what he believes/wants and can take on life's challenges and overcome them. You'll need to be well versed in philosophy, law, geography, science, food, culture, etc. How can you have anything interesting to say if you know nothing about the world?
So, workout, get low bodyfat, learn how to dress, become a statesman, develop your skills, and put in the work. This way, you can be truly confident in yourself and your abilities. Let me frame the situation like this: it's not a jocks vs preps kind of trivial high school rivalry and you pick which side you think you should be on - you should be all of these things. There is no reason a guy can't read Plato, dress well, and lift weights in the same day.
Another way of looking at it is this: find out who and what you want to be and make yourself into that person. The first part of that is the hard part - the rest is just putting in work.
personality does not trump height - fame, money, power, fitness, clout and influence might - but they are only offsets - a tall dullard will steal / poach from well versed Poindexter.
go online dating and see how this works for ya,,,,, well maybe its not a good example but even then
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The bad thing is that height isn't considered by women to be in the looks department. Being tall for a man is something that is self implied by women that all "real" mean should be and supposed to be. Usually, how it works is women go for the good-looking tall "bad boy" who has a couple of kids from him then he leaves her for a younger more attractive woman to start over again. The same very woman then will settle for a less attractive guy because her taller men that she lusts for don't want a single mom. It's the nice guys that women will never give priority too and they get to support other men's kids.