What I really liked: >guy makes a negative video >lists a bunch of things complaining about Poles >"they are so negative and filled with complaining" ok.jpg Also this video only makes me like Poles that much more. Pls release more videogames plox
We are not pessimistic. We are well informed. The reason why we think that there is always something bad behind to happen is simple: there is always something bad possible to happen.
Why no to expect something good to happen ? In my personal life one and another happened. So this optimism - to expect goodness. Greetings from Sydney. Zdzisiek R.
@@sydneypl2848 if you expect bad things to happen - you will experience many pleasant surprises in life if you were overly optimistic about everything - you will experience many dissapointments 😂😂😂
Yeah I rather be total strangers with someone then have this weird relationship that doesn't go anywhere but you feel the need to stop them on the streets and make a small talk.
That's when it gets complicated. In English and Spanish you have just "friends" or "amigos" and all the people you met in your life just go into that bag, no matter if you went to kindergarten with them, had sex or just buy newspapers in the same kiosk. In Poland and Slavic countries in general we have the whole array of options: przyjaciel, kolega, znajomy etc. Now, it's not that we are short. Our vocab is just more exact ;)
it's called being sociable, a society where people are open to each other is a healthy society. You don't have to be the closest friends but you expand your connections, it's part of adulting.
@@homopoeticus1 to w dużej mierze prawda, ale jednak mają kilka nazw na znajomości, ale uzusowo i tak używają głównie jednej. Mają colleagues, acquaintences, friends, close friends. Nasze nazewnictwo po prostu lepiej oddaje to, w którym miejscu znajduje się dana znajomość i to, że u nas nie jest się przyjacielem z kimś obcym bo się trzy razy gadało o dupie marynie na jakiejś imprze. Coś jakby jakość nad ilość i otwartość
Apparently there is something like genetic memory. I am over 60 and, unfortunately I can see in me lots of the features listed by you. But my daughter is much less affected by that. The worse was my grandmother, I remember her sitting by the kitchen window, sighing, whispering her brother's name. He was killed in Warsaw Uprising. My granny was the only one from the big family who lived to old age.
My grandma was saying everybody care his own cross. She was little girl when ww2 started. Her parents were killed. Grandfather was took by germans to slave work. She took part in Poznań 56, and later comunism took my grandfather his business leaving with 11 kids without livelihood. I remember grandfather as man who sits on his chair and watching ceiling and grandma that never ever smiled in her life. My mother suffer less, but constant poverty is not a life, but rather vegetation. As a kid I remember cold feet in winter while my shoes had holes. I am 30 years old now. They gave me education, 2 foregin languages. I am sucessful programmer now. Its not just my success, but sucrifice of whole family to make this happen, so feeling good about my success is not easy for me. Next generation would be more chearful!
Ktoś kto żyje przeszłością umiera każdego dnia po trochu. Myśle ze Polacy nie są na tyle intelektualnie rozwinięci aby rozpracować przeszłość. Słabe organizmy. W starciu z Niemcem który wstanie się otrzepie i idzie dalej bez szans.
I can understand. My great grandparents left Poland during the Partition. Life has been very hard for Poland for a long time and only recently has it improved.
@@RobbytSon that was rude, u know? I can say that polish people during ww I and maybe ww II was less educated. But thay can still teach about the past, and the country doesn't matter how people can teach yourself. That we are not very socialized people, its becouse world war's moustly, and PRL, when every person can tell you are a part of insurgent group, and you will be took to jail, etc.
About the first one - questions like "What's up?" or "How are you?" are not part of the Polish culture in the sense it's not a question you ask out of courtesy, neither is it a question you answer untruthfully as part of said courtesy. Since asking that question is not a matter of courtesy it becomes a genuine question begging for a genuine answer. And that's why you end up having people rant their hearts out.
Agreed. Dont call me honey or darling. I hate that about the US. the sugary sweet nicknames people give to strangers. You don't know me. Dont call me that just tell me where to go. Creepy AF
I think he meant in England etc- since I live in England (even though I’m Polish) I do get called ‘my sweet’ and ‘love’ a lot. It’s just a cultural thing, I suppose
Nobody’s perfect, right? Perhaps, Polish people are melancholic because they/we are realistic. (Reality is depressing.) I like to think that they are melancholic because they/we are tuned to the Universe. According to Carlos Castañeda, melancholy is the prevailing mood of the Universe. :)
@Very Polite Duck PL Again, I disagree. It takes many generations for the organism’s response to the circumstances to be inscribed in genes. Poland’s partitioning lasted 123 years, which is exactly four generations. It’s definitely too short a time frame for the genetic drifting on a mass scale to occur.
@Very Polite Duck PL maybe your intuition is right, but maybe not. When I think about it, there are plenty of people who totally ignore political reality of their lives. According to your explanation, they should be immune to getting depressed. Do you think that’s the case?
@@patryk3019 jaja que bien,creo que hay más polacos que saben español que alguien de latinoamerica o españa que sepa hablar polaco,un saludo y que bien escribes español
@@franciscomunoz2750 Si verdad, pero Polacos tienen un problema con una cosa. Saben el idoma de los libros. No podemos hablar ni como un Espańol ni como un Latino. Todo parece muy tenso. Un saludo!
This is so interesting to think about. I live in Poland and some of these things are so normal to me, I didn't think it's different elsewhere. Thanks for the video!
I'm from Poland citizen of the USA and I realized why my parents were always so unhappy and complained so much as I saw growing up,It's because they had a crappy life, poor as heck,were prisoners in Germany during World war II, so its passed onto the next generation, I remember when as kids we weren't allowed to laugh in our home, because we didn't have a reason to laugh according to our parents, but we as kids laughed even if it meant a slap across our face it didn't stop us,we had to really help our mom to find happiness and laugh just to laugh after our dad passed because according to him I shouldn't be laughing and told not to laugh by him and yet I was 50 years old., but my siblings are always laughing and have many friends and we always start up conversations with strangers,so I guess anything is possible.
As a Polish person I can say that my friends from other countries are always laughing beacuse of how awkward I’m and how big my comfort zone is. Literally, when social distance started I was a little bit cheered up bc I hate when people get closer to me than 1m, even my family haha
Wolę nawet isc pieszo kilometry niż wsiąść do zatłoczonego autobusu...a z tym obejmowaniem i obcalowywaniem to też tragedia ,(mieszkam we Wloszech,) czasami rzucają się do obcalowywania tak szybko ze nie jestem w stanie odskoczyć 😅
Melancholia Polaków choć irytująca jest super z mojej perspektywy. Dzięki niej jak coś naprawdę dzieje się źle, tak na poważnie. To zaczynamy działać, żeby to zmienić i nie są dla nas szokiem trudne sytuacje przez to się nie poddajemy😊
Masz rację, ale z drugiej strony, to bywa irytujące. Najlepszym przykładem są dwie reklamy wkładek na nietrzymanie moczu. Jedna polska, gdzie mdlejącym głosem jak umierająca łabędzica, kobieta oznajmia o swoim dramacie i druga reklama (z zagranicy) gdzie kobieta w zbliżonym wieku opowiada o tym problemie ze śmiechem. Wolę to drugie podejście do życia.
nr 2. shortness - if I ask for directions I'd be more happy to simply receive them than spend half an hour listening to pleasantry and waiting for the answer to my question. If you want to chit-chat instead, a good way for it would be to start a conversation with for example some random really old lady - as some of them love to chat and will treat you like their grandchild. That's why foreign people who are more introvert in their nature feel so good in Poland - since noone bothers them for no reason and noone force themselves in their space and they don't focus on false pleasantries but go stright to the point xD As an extrovert from chaotic place it's normal that would weird you out :) nr 4. doing as one say is not a lack of flexibility - it's being honest and not making false promises on the contrary - I think we are quite good at adapting to a situation
Poles are honest , like Germans . They don't waste their time on unnecessary pleasantries , speak directly , are very well prepared and informed , they don't make fake promosses and expect you to be "ok" when you don' accomplish them. They don't force you to go smile on the street. They don't force you to go take unwanted touch and unwanted pleasantries from strangers. That is why I fucking love Germans ,Poles, Ukrainians and the entire Eastern Europe. People have a huge respect for personal space in those countries and I love it. What I don't like is that it takes a lot of time and effort to gain the trust of Germans and Poles and they show their emotion just a little bit , so you kinda don't know very well what they are feeling and gotta observe MORE. I am from Georgia (the Eastern European country) , and my people behave more like Southern Europeans , they are more talkative with strangers and more emotionally expressive with strangers BUT it is not "all nice" , Georgians can become a bit ....extreme due to too much emotion (anger for example , they don't control this emotion very well and might CURSE YOU 2000 times , scream at you, fight you , etc... while a German or a Polish person whould just give you a short warning and walk away if angry ).
@@სალომეგუგავა yes, slavs in general being true to their words and easy to switch between talk and action usually give clean selection choices to the other party but when verbal battles do take place it looks usually more like heated debates where we try win over the other party with arguments instead of name-calling going off topic, Georgia's food is great and the country's beautiful :)
@@kryokori Poles love us hahaha ❤ Thank you dear. Georgian food is kinda great. Y'alls food not that much 🤣 ..but I eat pickled cucumbers from time to time .
And whenever you talk about something which is in far future Polish people quickly relate it to a near future and make you realize that what you said does not make sense 😂 They don’t process something for far future.
I am not sure if the Polish word "melancholy" is the equivalent of English In the Polish language dictionary: Melancholia - a mood of gentle sadness and deep reflection We have our own definition of sadness :D
As a Pole who has lived in the US for a very long time, I find that yes American smiles are very fake. Americans do not like to be touched, however among Polish people we are always touching each other. Yes we are melancholy, but who wouldn’t be if you’ve been conquered by everyone in your history and wiped off the map twice by the conquerors. I have felt that Americans in particular, have never had to go through the hardships and wars that Polish people have throughout their history and therefore can be more cheerful. Polish people do complain, but the Americans are just as bad. Just look at how many Americans are complaining about staying at home during the pandemic, as if this is such a huge sacrifice when compared to war and misery or rebuilding a nation after a war and having to deal With communism which was forced upon us. Take for instance Chopin, going back to the 19 century, his compositions were very melancholic and so was he in yearning for his native Poland, to the point where his sister brought his heart back to Warsaw. Unfortunately melancholy is in our blood, since you never know when you’ll be invaded next.
This can be metaphorical as well. I live in the United States and I feel uncomfortable and extremely vulnerable and feel like people are just waiting at the chance to get me one way or another
Being a Mexican living in Poland more than 8 years... I cannot but fully agree with you. I like the approach you took, being fair to their culture and respecting their ways :)
I have always believed that those foreign smiles in the USA style, where everyone is smiling, is an illusion, to hide my problems, I prefer to say directly that I am not in the mood than to suppress it with an artificial smile. Even if I have no problems, I prefer not to force a smile that is not sincere. Poles were and will be and this is what I like in our society, the lack of an artificial smile and before your life is ruined, but what do you have to laugh at. Likewise, in our society, it's a bit strange when someone starts asking you about private things and you see that person for the first time. Another thing that is touch, I would also feel strange if someone started to touch me, for example, riding the escalator. The history of Poland is the best argument you have given. We have lost our trust in every nation except Hungarians. As for the 4 questions, I choose option A - I'm from Poland :)
It's true, after dealing with Europeans online a lot I really noticed how creepy, fake, and offputting our bullshit "fake happiness" plastic culture can be. If you're an introvert or like privacy at all it is by far the most irritating part of dealing with Americans, and capacity to make smalltalk and put perfidious Albion style stuff into conversation becomes basic necessity. Personally I hate it more because the whole culture is now disingenuous and worships lying, calling facts and basic truth "alternative fact" and acting like somehow it's all just a matter of opinion, and this is true for both sides of the idiotic culture kampf (though one side is far more obnoxious, irritating, and cringey at this point and blatantly disregards all reality, yes you Qanon retards I mean you). There is just something so unsettling about that soulless dead eyed smile honestly, and it just makes you feel even worse to do it or put up with it if you're not in the mood to smile. In normal countries like Europe, Japan, wherever, you can just not be bothered and go on with your day I'd imagine in a way that's not true here where you just want to wallow in darkness to feel better. I think that only amplifies the overall sense of the alienation Americans feel and the complete violent misery of the populace. And yes, all those mass shootings and domestic terrorist attacks? That's literally the truth beneath the plastic smile of the dead-eyed money worshiping corporate culture. You will notice there aren't mass shootings in Poland. And no, it's not the guns, regardless how much they contribute. There are bombings, stabbings. People here would make chemical weapons if you took their guns. It's a sick violent culture of antipathy and the smile in no way at all matches the inner eyes because it's purely a hateful soulless corporate state meant to make every interaction into a sales pitch by people who hate their jobs and everyone around them. Americans can keep their empty promises and dead smiles honestly
No it’s not an illusion you idiot people are just friendly and like to help people out, wow that’s so hard to believe, sick of people saying there dishonest no there not, Eastern Europeans are just rude and people say there not it’s just culture hahahahha imagine it being culture to be rude 😂😂😂
Your points are very true. As a polish, young Woman I also do not like these things about our mentality, however the lack of flexibility is caused by the fact that we are 'men of our words', which I find positive. As my mentality is not a typical polish one, i choose Option C, however it also depends on my mood 🤓 I also agree with you that we have no reasons to put ourselves down so much! I am working hard on trying to appreciate myself more and i recommend that to everyone!
It is not inflexibility , it is honesty and seriousness , values that I FUCKING LOVE. People expect you to tolerate all kinds of changes at any time and that is clearly disrespectful.
Although I like positive and friendly societies like Latin american countries,USA and southern europe but I don't know why I like and feel more closer to polish or german mentalities. I think the culture where I was born and live might have some similarities with yours 🙂❤️
Chopin dedicated his life writing melancholy music. It’s in us poles to enjoy that mood. Sometime my Australian husband thinks I’m negative, while all I am doing is enjoying the melancholy mood. It is kind of therapeutic 😌
To be fair, I think the example you gave for 4 is more about introvertism than the lack of flexibility. I don't think we - as a nation - don't like to improvise and are big planners (well, scratch that, we do make plans and then don't follow them).
I am from Poland and number 4 is true. I remember that once I had to organize fire camp in a park. I had organized everything but wood logs. 5 hours before the event I had to change plans and I had written a long message in which I've apologized for the inconvenience and appointment place changes from a park to a pub. I felt uneasy. Once I was on my way home I found some wood logs in a gas station. And I wrote a message again, that we stick to the plan A. No one was making fuss but the feeling of failure especially in the day of the event was underwhelming for me.
You are 100% right. I am on vacation in Dominican Republic right now and exact opposite of what are you talking about is making me wonder how can you even survive here? You are lucky! I wish we could have some of this chill. Cheers!
I totally agree with you 👍 Although I'm polish I grew up in Greece and when I came 8 years ago to live in Poland these 5 things were crazy for me(and still they are but just got used to). And probably B but in Poland is quite difficult because when you smile to a stranger they look at you like you want to kill them 😆
I'm from Poland and I would totally choose option A. 😂 If there was option D to leave the party hoping that nobody was aware of my existence I would definitely choose that one. 😂 Yeees, there is something about sudden change of plans that completely paralyzes me. As for the melancholy, I remember when my therapist gave me a questionnaire about depression and she strongly pointed out that we would focus on each of the questions separately and not care about the overall results. That was because the questionnaire was American, and according to the American standards every Pole is at least slightly depressed. XD I think it's very common among slavic people. We're doomers by default.
If Polish people had tropical climate and were not conscious about centuries of their past struggles as well as their present situation of injustice towards Poland and being defamed around the world, they would be even more cheerful than the Latinos. Jews survived the Holocaust and look how melancholic they are. Poles are much more optimistic people than the Ashkenazis, and Polish people not only survived the Holocaust but also we had to rebuild our own country from ashes, not only that, we survived slavery, partitions, 123 years of not having a homeland, communist regime, various massacres and genocides in Volhynia or Katyn etc, and we're still struggling to this day. Please keep in mind that generations who quite remember World War II and perfectly remember the communist regime are still alive, so young generations have first-hand information and were raised by people who felt the struggle. And please don't compare communism in eg. Cuba to the communism in Poland. Here many people say that the early Soviet-communist regime was hell on earth and that it was much worse than the German-nazi occupation. The world can't understand this and maybe this feeling of being misunderstood leads Poles to having their specific behaviors. Us Poles are conscious that: 1. we were slaves (Saqaliba - the word slave comes from the word Slavic), 2. our country was taken away for 123 years (Partitions of Poland), 3. all our neighbours (except Belarus) betrayed, invaded and killed us at some time in history, 4. we were the main non-Jewish victims of the Holocaust but the world doesn't give a damn because all they care is Jews (you call Poles melancholic? look at the Jews bro), 5. Jews forgave Germans for the Holocaust but they constantly attack and defame Polish people accusing us for the WWII, 6. Jewish communist officials murdered Polish war heroes after the WWII but the world doesn't want to hear about it and it's taboo, 7. the world thinks that communism in Poland ended in 1989 but in fact post-communist politicians still rule our country and their sons and grandchildren are willing to continue that, 8. there is huge injustice towards the Poles in case of the Volhynian massacre, the world's most cruel mass-murder ever considering the methods of torturing women and children, as it is still not recognized by the world as a genocide, despite it consumed 120.000 Polish women and children, while at the same time for example the Srebrenica massacre is considered a genocide, despite there were around 8.000 victims, mostly Muslim men. Similarly, Katyn massacre consumed around 25.000 Polish high-rank soldiers and intelligentsia and is not considered a genicide either...Why? How is that? 9. we earn poor money while foreigners in Poland have much better job offers than native inhabitants, but the world is informed that our economy is wonderful, which is a lie to make us look like people who always complain for no reason. That's why to make real money Poles have to emigrate from Poland. 10. even though we're in pacts like NATO and the European Union, those organizations keep sanctioning us, treating us like cannon fodder and Poles are treated bad all across Europe. 11. we are hated all around the world for no reason thats to the Jewish propaganda, we feel exactly what black people feel with one exception - the world doesn't care about our struggle (only our brothers Hungarians and Serbs care about us and understand us). 12. there are some claims against the Poles, namely Jewish claims, that Poland should pay money to some Jewish organizations for real estate that belonged to Polish citizens of Jewish faith who died in the Holocaust without leaving heirs and left their properties. The quote: "If Poland fails to fulfill Jewish claims, it will be publicly attacked and humiliated on an international forum" is what Polish people still have in their heads. ...Oh and Poland has very harsh climate, cold winters, windy springs, rainy autumns and hot summers - Well, during the winter people make those sad faces cuz they hate the cold! ;) As for the summer - did you notice that the sun is at a slightly different angle than in Africa or the Caribbean? It's blinding our eyes man, that's why we make those "stank faces" on the streets instead of smiling LOL! Peace!
Great video as usual, as for the criticism of oneself or the others it is really intense over the polish internet. For example i am a member of few fb groups about german shepherds, and there if you want to ask any question or make any statement, for sure someone will write a comment on how little you know, or how ignorant you are, how bad you are with taking care of the dog etc. however one group i belong to is in english, and there everyone supports everyone, literally being helpful. I have never understood why we are like that.. To the point i am afraid to ask a question not to be judged as an imbecile. I agree with everything you said, of course i am raised in polish culture so it doesnt bother me that much but once you travel a few years abroad, you meet different mindsets, it is really frustrating and a little funny how we behave and dont even realise it. Cheers!
Hi! Polish here ;) I've been living in Spain for a few years and I can agree with you regarding the issues you mention. It's completely opposite in Spain and now when I visit Poland I can see the things you are talking about. Yes, I hate when somebody touches me and in Spain they do touch. The struggle is real! I am a young woman so I can't stand when a man is touching or patting me, but I don't have problems when other women do it. In Spain they just do it and I still can't get used to it. Also the sadness and lack of smile... yep.. it's just our Polish thing :) The difference between Latinos and Polish people is big !
Nie rozumiesz, melancholia, ten dziwny żal połączony z tęsknotą za Bóg wie czym, jest charakterystyczny dla wielu narodów słowiańskich np Rosjan. Taki ogólny ból istnienia i świadomość przemijania. Nie wiem kogo na swej drodze spotkałeś, ale historia Polski dowodzi, że Polacy są bardzo elastyczni i zdolni do adaptacji do życia w różnych warunkach. To, że bez powodu nie zmieniają planów z godziny na godzinę to akurat nie świadczy o braku elastyczności a o konsekwencji i rozsądku. Spróbuj się poklepać i podotykać z nieznajomym a nawet znajomym Szwedem. i zaznaczę C, to kwestia osobowości nie narodowości.
The list is a 100% correct. Im from canada. Note: even children do this shortness. You ask them a question, they answer and leave. They dismiss you immediately leaving you feeling AWFUL.
Dude, seriously? Children are quite obviously taught to avoid talking with strangers. If you really wanna "make friends", don't target kids. Makes you look like a total creep 😕
Poor you, kids don't care about grown-ass man feelings and avoid unnecessary conversation with stranger... good for them, it means they were taught well😂
We like to joke with each other and our country, but each of us is proud of our flag 🇵🇱 When I see that other people are interested in Poland, I feel warm in my heart, thank you all! ^ ^❤️
That's a pretty accurate description. One thing I've noticed about Polish people is they are always complaining about their country, but still think it's the best and hate when other nationalities complain about it😂
Poland almost singlehandedly saving videogaming since like 2010. I think of all my games, no joke like 70% is of Poland or Latvian/Ukrainian some Eastern Bloc type country, and maybe 30% tops is all the rest of the world combined, often French and American studios/dev teams. Of the numerous games I just played this year fully half are Polish. Of the most beloved games I play, most is Polish, like Darkwood for instance. It makes me really curious to see too what would happen if maybe Brasilians or Arabs or Turks would get more message and maybe social stability to produce videogames as part of gross economic domestic products, with Polish GDP having very surprisingly high tech industry type stuff along with Ukraine before Russia ruined it.
Living in Germany and have lived in Scandinavia (and travelled elsewhere) I must say with physical contact we are much closer physically than Germans, Dutch, Brits or Scandinavians. One hand on someone’s shoulder can cause you a lot of formal trouble! I actually also know compared with above mentioned countries Poles are more flexible. Try to make something “out of the box” in Germany... impossible. However, the other parts I agree with you and the objectivity of presenting it.
I don’t agree, I used to live in Ireland for several years and the weather there is constantly the same. 300 days of rain per year, it’s like autumn all the time. Yet, people are very friendly and more optimistic that you’d expect. I believe that melancholy in Poland is coming from the fear of lack of money etc. People are not able to afford good quality food, hobbies and going out that much, even if they are spending all of their time at work.
To be fair I'm still surprised that you don't have more views under your videos! They're very professional, interesting and to be fair very insightive. I'm Pole obviously and I like your videos to see myself (as a part of Polish nation) from the outer perspective :)
Dimelo! Yeah man the negativity is haaaaaaard. Coming from a culture that goes the other way makes it hard to understand sometimes. It's nice to watch your videos and see similarities. Dominicans go with the flow on some things and yeah can take longer hahaha, but being able to have that adaptive attitude goes a long way in so many situations. Your statement about that difficult climb to cheer up lol I feel you on that, but we love who we love and we keep climbing.
What a wholesome video lol. I was prepared to get ripped to shreds about one thing or another but all I could do was nod along. I guess betrayal hurt us back in the day and our parents make sure to help us grow in fear of those around us- as a way to prevent hurt. ‘If you keep your expectations low, you’ll never be disappointed’
Hi! I would like to say that 1 and 3 are conected. Psyhological findings say that we Polish people like to complain because it give us something to bond and you are right it is because of our heritage. We always had something to complain about. Actually when somone complain to you about some delicate metter in their lives (like ilness in family, problems with person you also know etc.) it means that they trust you :) It may sound strange but it is a case. And because of that we are more negative. When you complain soo much it become your second nature but you are right - every generation gets better. Sorry for my English :)
Spot on ❤️ It might be really helpful to get a different perspective. Especially for those who’s not travelling much. I appreciate your courage to point it out. Tons of positive vibes to all 🙌❤️
Yep, I definitely would choose an A option. But not only because my plans have changed and this is uncomfortable. In the first place I would be worry about my friend, who didn't show up or didn't even leave any message. I mean, how could it not bother me? What if something happened to them? Maybe they lost their phone? Or... there was some car accident... or even robbery or murder? How in this situation could I ignore all this possibilities and go making new friends? XD
ooo negativity's kicking in... 😉😁🤣 famous "what if...?" something bad happened I know it too well and it's hard to abandon that habit... I've been working on it for years now and still catch myself thinking "sh^t something bad could've happened" 😲🤦♂️
I just came in Warsaw, I was out whole day long, every person I had to communicate with was rude. Even at night in bar, people were kinda angry, as they shared an angry and strange looks at me.
I'm a Pole and I really enjoy watching your videos. They're giving me opportunity to look from other pespective at some behaviors that I've never noticed myself before! I have to agree, we seem to have a bit of trust issues. We were learned by our parents to do not tell people too much because they will or talk about it behind our backs or betray us (for example tell other people our secrets). We also do not like to use words as such as love (kochać) or friend (przyjaciel) so freely, we're kinda keeping them for special ones. With friend it may be like this because you're using it towards lots of people (even just met at the party) while for us it means person who we know for long time and who we trust. People other than that we're calling 'znajomy' or 'kolega' which is more distanced. New generations are more opened to use, for example word 'love', but 'friend' is still kinda 'reserved'. With touch we're also distanced, even towards family members (or at least it is like this in my house). We're hugging for greeting and some people are even kissing cheeks (three times!), but if I would randomly come up to my mom and hug her, she would be alarmed and ask what happened. I never tought about it, but now after watching your videos I see all that little things, that are building our little 'distanced, yet touch starved' culture.
This video is freaking awesome. I'm Haitian and my wife is Polish. Since she's the Pessimistic one, she tend to over prepare for the worst. Which works out, cuz I tend to take on risk without over thinking it.
@@VigosDad Thank you man, I appreciate it. Haiti is a cycle of corruption, that doesn't seem like it'll end anytime soon. It is unfortunate, but I am hopeful that things will get better. Great channel man,, I'm glad you enjoy the Polish Culture like I do. I will continue to follow your content, and may you continue to grow.
As a Pole I would choose A but probably because of my character - i stand out even in Polish standards. Btw. for me this all reasons could be shortened to self-criticism and negativity
Beautiful video man ! Very insightful. That thing with lack of flexibility struck me and I think it's the main reason for polish people's grumpiness. Things just don't go out as we imagine them to be and we fail to see that sometimes it might be even better than our imaginary expectations. It's like the need to be in control of our lives gives us feeling of safety. Take care.
I’m a polish guy living in Germany and I have to say that German are also very pessimistic and everything have to run according to the plan. I would say that German are similar to us when it comes about planning or even complaining 😂😂
I thing conplaining is a kind of relaxation. Im Polish, live abroad. I love meeting my Polish friend and complain about this or that. This way we ensure that others also don’t see everything as optymistic as media want us to see. We are just not easy to be fooled. The world around us isn’t as nice as it looks. We are realistic. Yeah, not the best compatible Attitude in the so called free, capitalist, liberal world. I think only uneducated, unaware, uninformed people can be always happy. And this kind of societies are easy to rule. See Americans. Give them entertainment and the word “liberty” and they believe it but can’t even prevent mass gun shootings... what liberty is this???
Mieszkam w Niemczech i Polacy sa duzo radosniejsi i elastyczni niz Niemcy. Maja duzo werwy i do pracy i do tanczenia na imprezach. W Niemczech impreza to stanie z piwem i jedzenie chipsow.w Polsce ludzie tancza na calego. Przyjedz do Niemiec pokochasz Polakow z kazdej strony. Sorry ale jesli ludzie ktorzy oboje pracuja na pelny etat maja jeszcze dzieci, psa i starsza babcie pod opieka to nie maja czasu na umawianie sie z ludzmi "na marne". Moze w twoim kraju ludzie maja wiecej czasu wolnego. Sorry ale ja wstaje codziennie miedzy 4-5 rano i moj dzien konczy sie o 24. Slowo Boga "czlowiek jest tyle warty, ile jego slowo" Nie wystarczy dotrzymywac slowa tylko w "wielkich sprawach". Dotrzymywanie slowa powinno byc stalym, codziennym zwyczajem. Boze, daj sily aby tak bylo spraw bym swoje slowo utrzymala 🙏 Zastanow sie teraz nad tym ile Kosciolow jest w Polsce, jak i z czego sie utrzymuja. Moze zrozumiesz, ze dla Polaka przestrzeganie slowa Bozego ma wiekrza wartosc. "Wartosci" sami sobie ustalamy. Ile razy w Niemieczech ktos mi cos obiecywal i w ostatniej chwili bylam "na lodzie". Kocham Polske. Tu sie ludzie szczeze usmiechaja i sluchaja.
You are 100% accurate. I have been to Poland many times and absolutely love the country and what I see coming. Generally speaking, Polish people are very kind with great family values. From my experience, there is a generation of Poles that are far more upbeat, and socially progressive than most. It really depends on the person's background, education and personal life experience. Most Poles tend to navigate to what they know and have very little appetite in exploring beyond their comfort zone. I find many of them just complain too much and dot not focus enough on possibilities which can be perceived as a negative or turn off for someone coming more a multi cultural environment. This is changing as the country is moving well in the right direction.
😂😂👌 I had a good laugh cos literally this is exactly how I experienced my 1st Polish guy & I really had alot of respect for him, his life & culture. I felt much compassion & respect for Polish race especially learning the history of the war & of where some generational moods stem from. It made me appreciate Polish people more. If my Polish guy would get serious about something or he gets pessimistic I was always the optimistic type in our relationship & I hoped it helped rebuild trust in good humans especially after how their ancestors were massacred during the war. For this reason I really made sure that I was the kind of person to keep my word & actions follow through.. Polish people have always been really nice to me. I love my Poles x
You nailed these 5 points to a T. I grew up with my mother and father whom both immigrated from Poland to the U.S. when they were 17 and 19 years old, respectively, in the year 1977. Despite them sending us to Poland almost every summer as kids, I never felt I connected with Polish people or had a strong desire to learn the language, as my parents and the Polish people I met- both family members and acquaintances are extremely negative and pessimistic. It started to rub off on me as a child and it really hurt my social skills as an adolescent and an adult growing up. It’s taken me years to understand the origins for my behavior and try to make amends to fix it. The negativity definitely has historical roots, and they think this attitude prepares them for the worst. Also since over 90% of the country is Catholic, I think humility is taught as a virtue, hence they always downplay their own or their children”s accomplishments as a means to protect them from inviting the Evil Eye and from jealousy from neighbors. Growing up, when my father would drop me off at a friend’s house for a sleepover, he would immediately open with an apology when they opened the door with him saying, “I’m sorry that she’s an inconvenience.” Which would just be confusing to the people that invited me over and also to me. Overall, my parents are oblivious to about their negativity. They are like a lot of Poles- defensive and passive-aggressive. But I love them regardless.
I'm Polish. I have lived in Krakow for over 30 years. I've traveled a lot in my life. I must admit that Poland is a great country to live in. it's very safe and clean here. Believe me, this is not a standard in the world
As a Polish immigrant who came to the US during communism, I can totally understand and agree with your observations. I suspect that it’s the history of the nation and what generations had to deal with that influenced them to become like this. I think if you visit Russia you will see many similarities. Living under communism for 2 generations will do that.
In terms of melancholy I think it's a Polish trait which will never change. And that's ok, some nations are naturally upbeat some are naturally a bit sad. For me the best and the earliest contact with this aspect is a lullaby "Iskiereczka" which is so sad and depressing it's quite hard to understand why Polish mothers (including my own) sang them to their babies.
Hey, you are always joyful and we are malancholic. Nie można wiecznie cieszyć michy :D This is the part of who we are, we have accepted your attitude, it's good that you accept ours.
I'm from Poland and it's an A, so yeah, i get your point 😅 btw i agree with you 5 times, must say you know us really well AND.. MY CIEBIE TEŻ KOCHAMY (WE LOVE YOU TOO)
1. We don't enjoy melancholy, we've learned to live in it. 2. We give specific answers, because we don't want to waste someone's time. We are typically introverts, so we don't like touching. 3. We complain, because it's healthy. Like a free therapy session. I admit, someone who wines about the same thing every day, over and over again, is getting on my nerves too. But most of the time, we just want to let off some steam and feel some empathy. Not a pity, not a solution (cause we'll do what we want anyway), just some empathy. 4. We're not as spontaneous as some nations. When we plan to spend some time with a friend, we don't want to jeopardize the evening. We also worry about a friend, who coldn't make it, but also we expect people to make good on their word. 5. Maybe we are critical about our country (and ourselves), because we want to prepare someone for the worse, so he/she could be pleasantly surprised. We're like Chandler from "Friends" - we find humor in dark places.
"Good Pole" won't get surprised if something would not go according the plan. You need to have back up plans A, B, C, D... and emergency plan in cases nothing is going as planned. Otherwise it wasn't planned well enough. :D
I like Poland and the Polish language. All I don’t like is really anglicised Polish people who are ashamed of being Polish. It’s the same with Anglicised Cypriots. I have more respect for the ones who like to speak Greek and put Cyprus first than those who have self-hate and try to be something they’re not.
I'm Polish, but I live in the States, but I spent a lot of time in Poland. The first two, it depends what part of the country you're in. In general, I find Poles to be a lot more open than other Europeans. I even saw a Pole invite an American to a birthday party. But I know a lot of the ones in some of the larger cities can be quite rude and cold. The negativity thing is 100% true, and it kind of ties in with the last one. Polish people are very hypocritical in this aspect. They're always complaining about something, and talking about how Poland would be better if it had this or this. However, when foreigners criticize something about Poland, they get extremely defensive, and start shitting on their country. So I'm genuinely surprised that the comments section is so civil. 😂I've also noticed a lot of them feel jealousy and resentment towards Poles who live abroad. The last one is also true. I'm Polish and I voted A. This is one thing about Americans that really pisses me off. Polish people are extremely disciplined. When we make plans, we stick by them, so I've always found it extremely disrespectful when people show up late, or cancel at the last minute, or don't show up without notice. And my American and Latino friends don't understand why I get so angry about this. My professors always thought it was strange that I would show up 15 minutes before an appointment.😂 Another one I've experienced that you didn't mention, is Polish people want payment for EVERYTHING. And a lot of them will try to rip extra money off you if you're a foreigner. If you don't wanna give cash though, a case of beer will do😂
Everything YOU say it is so true!I moved from Poland to Canada long time ago and I was very short with people, borderline rude! If stranger smiles to me it was so offensive (In Canada almost everyone smiles)but I like I changed so much I think for better ,My sweet polish people need to loosen up! Pozdrawiam serdecznie xoxo
You think Poles are getting stiff, when you approach them? Try scandinavians :D Even if they know each other, they avoid eye contact when passing on the street or pretend like they don't see you in a public comunication.
Well. I don't agree with lack of adaptability. Yes, we have a plan and we can be counfused when something unexpected happen. But then we turn on "kombinowanie". I'm sure you're familar with this. No option D. You wouldn't go at the party with strangers without the friend. You wait until he/she arraive and then you go there together. Especially if it is home party. You need someone who introduce you to others. Yeah, very old habit back from resistent movements ;D
My personality seems to be clashing with my culture (Polish). I absolutely HATE two things about us- our negative mindset and the fact that talking to people without a good excuse is "not allowed" unless you are already good friends. I try to be positive and cheerful but sometimes it feels like other Poles raise their eyebrow at me thinking "are you stupid?". But yeah, the answer to your question would be probably at first A (because of anger rather than fear - if you make plans with me you better frickin make sure that you follow through on them - or at least let me know that you're bailing). But then I'd probably roam and try to see what's up and it would turn out great - so in between B and C haha.
soo true the anger is first :p I don't like too that we just simply can't talk to strangers cuz it's seems to be werid, but it's not only in Poland try that in Scandinavia :p
Jestem Polką , kocham swój kraj i jestem dumna z biało czerwonej flagi ❤️🇵🇱 😊a jeśli chodzi o test ...ja nawet nie weszłabym na tą imprezę sama, a co dopiero mówić o A,B, C 🤭🤭🤭 Ale skupiając się na tylko tych możliwościach wyboru , zdecydowanie wybrałabym A 🤷🤭 Pozdrawiam Cię serdecznie! I Dzięki za polskie napisy w Twoich filmikach 👍👏
I'm sorry, but I don't agree when you say that Poles hate physical contact. In my family and friends circle, people hug each other. It is true that I have some friends who seem or used to be a bit distant but the most of them give me a hug when we meet.
100% A. I always have to plan everything. There's no place for unexpected suprises. So I guess beeing among people who never stick to the plans at long distance would be quite exhausting. Greetings from Subcarpathian 😊
I love it! Just wondering where did you grow up? Where are you from originally ? It will be nice to know...I thought maybe American or British guy? I guess I wrong...let me know plzzz!? Thank you and keep going! All the best! Lenka
I agree with you. And the complaining it's absolutelly the biggest thing I hate about Polish people - and I'm Polish as well. I do not complain that much :), but it happenes few days each year. And we complain about everything, comparing to everyone. And I would add 6th thing, we do complain, or we're negative about our life, not satisfied cuz we are affraid of the envy of others. For example you accomplish something, reach a goal, be succesfull in some matter, other people would get jealous and wish you bad things or at least could not be happy for you. I've heard so many times "why he/she got this, why not me..."
I chose C - English. Best friend is Polish, and he chooses E - don't go to the party 😂 Accurate observations in this video, but from my point of view, in a world where everyone is so self-obsessed, I find Polish humility kinda refreshing tbh. We both enjoy your vids, they do have great humour and balance, great job!
awww, thank you so much for cheering me up, I have a plenty of work ahead and I was so unhappy with it and now, yay, I know I will do it with a big smile on my face :)))
There is anyone here who is learning English with Vigo's Dad? 😅 He speaks so fast but I really like these videos, even when I hear about our disadvantages , greetings 🌷🌷🌷
Respect to You for making it. I was getting sick of all those English speaking what They love about Poland. seemed so dishonest clickbait. Man I agree on the lack of flexibility.. I now myself.. And where half of the problems with my wife come from. But it partially comes from trying to be wordy. If we agreed on something, than we agreed. Changing last minute is disrespectful to people.
Polish men have this tendency to negate all that is too emotional and ab-normal. Fear of being or be perceived as abnormal abnormal is the most common toxic trait among Polish men and in culture in general. You have to maintain normality in order to be accepted as someone 'cool". But "don't be too cool", "it's too weird", etc. It's kind of grotesque and funny if you observe that from a certain angle, especially in a grocery store or during a party. There is a slight change in that part of Polish culture, but it is so tiny, that I don't think anyone from outside could even see it. It still remains a social norm/ standard in many places.
No 1 Weather. In my opinion Latinos are more cheerful and open, cause they have great weather all the time. Here for half a year we don't have sun. Not enough sunlight equals: sadness, depression, negativity etc.
That's northern Europe for you. As an Englishman I can say that we Brits don't have a hot sunny climate (but generally agreeable mild winters). Yes, levels of depression increase in northern Europe in winter so that's not unique to Poland. I'm not a fan of touching when it comes to other men but women can feel free! Northern Europeans are certainly different from Latinos. From my personal experience there are err... how can I put it... far too many men who are more than happy to pursue other men... the amount of filth I've had from such men is unbelievable (not all of them though)... I'm very wary of other men and these days people are so suspicious of each other in these cynical times especially due to the media IMHO and relationships between men and women can be tense as a result. I have found the Poles who have settled in Britain - all one million of you! - are a pleasant nation of people with friendly conversation. And the women! Polish women are VERY attractive! Dzenkuje! Do widzenia panna Aleksandra.
Polskie napisy są! 🇵🇱
That's neat
Jest haha
Dzięki
Y qué tal con los subtítulos en español? Quiero mostrar tu vídeo a mi amigo pero él solo entiende español... Y gracias por el vídeo, me gustó mucho 😚
"Są już polskie napisy"
"Melancholy is the joy of sadness".
Poet?!
It's Chopin🧡
Saudade morriña?
I am floored by this quote...
What I really liked:
>guy makes a negative video
>lists a bunch of things complaining about Poles
>"they are so negative and filled with complaining"
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Also this video only makes me like Poles that much more. Pls release more videogames plox
We are not pessimistic. We are well informed. The reason why we think that there is always something bad behind to happen is simple: there is always something bad possible to happen.
But it is true everywhere... We just cannot look from the perspective of bright side ;p
Why no to expect something good to happen ? In my personal life one and another happened. So this optimism - to expect goodness. Greetings from Sydney. Zdzisiek R.
Murphy's law 🤪
@@sydneypl2848 if you expect bad things to happen - you will experience many pleasant surprises in life
if you were overly optimistic about everything - you will experience many dissapointments 😂😂😂
@Very Polite Duck PL For losers...
I'm always surprised when I hear the phrase 'make friends' - you can't make new friends overnight, it takes years of knowing each other.
Yeah I rather be total strangers with someone then have this weird relationship that doesn't go anywhere but you feel the need to stop them on the streets and make a small talk.
Bo my to dzielimy na kolegów, znajomych i przyjaciół. A u nich to wszystko zawiera jedno słowo "friend".
That's when it gets complicated. In English and Spanish you have just "friends" or "amigos" and all the people you met in your life just go into that bag, no matter if you went to kindergarten with them, had sex or just buy newspapers in the same kiosk. In Poland and Slavic countries in general we have the whole array of options: przyjaciel, kolega, znajomy etc. Now, it's not that we are short. Our vocab is just more exact ;)
it's called being sociable, a society where people are open to each other is a healthy society. You don't have to be the closest friends but you expand your connections, it's part of adulting.
@@homopoeticus1 to w dużej mierze prawda, ale jednak mają kilka nazw na znajomości, ale uzusowo i tak używają głównie jednej. Mają colleagues, acquaintences, friends, close friends. Nasze nazewnictwo po prostu lepiej oddaje to, w którym miejscu znajduje się dana znajomość i to, że u nas nie jest się przyjacielem z kimś obcym bo się trzy razy gadało o dupie marynie na jakiejś imprze. Coś jakby jakość nad ilość i otwartość
Apparently there is something like genetic memory. I am over 60 and, unfortunately I can see in me lots of the features listed by you. But my daughter is much less affected by that. The worse was my grandmother, I remember her sitting by the kitchen window, sighing, whispering her brother's name. He was killed in Warsaw Uprising. My granny was the only one from the big family who lived to old age.
My grandma was saying everybody care his own cross. She was little girl when ww2 started. Her parents were killed. Grandfather was took by germans to slave work. She took part in Poznań 56, and later comunism took my grandfather his business leaving with 11 kids without livelihood. I remember grandfather as man who sits on his chair and watching ceiling and grandma that never ever smiled in her life. My mother suffer less, but constant poverty is not a life, but rather vegetation. As a kid I remember cold feet in winter while my shoes had holes. I am 30 years old now. They gave me education, 2 foregin languages. I am sucessful programmer now. Its not just my success, but sucrifice of whole family to make this happen, so feeling good about my success is not easy for me. Next generation would be more chearful!
@@jsz4937 Moja córka ma 30 lat i uczy się programowania (do tej pory pracowała jako stewardessa). Pozdrawiam serdecznie.
Ktoś kto żyje przeszłością umiera każdego dnia po trochu. Myśle ze Polacy nie są na tyle intelektualnie rozwinięci aby rozpracować przeszłość. Słabe organizmy. W starciu z Niemcem który wstanie się otrzepie i idzie dalej bez szans.
I can understand. My great grandparents left Poland during the Partition. Life has been very hard for Poland for a long time and only recently has it improved.
@@RobbytSon that was rude, u know?
I can say that polish people during ww I and maybe ww II was less educated. But thay can still teach about the past, and the country doesn't matter how people can teach yourself.
That we are not very socialized people, its becouse world war's moustly, and PRL, when every person can tell you are a part of insurgent group, and you will be took to jail, etc.
Im a simple pole, i always choose option A - but first things first - why should i go with my friends to someone i didnt ever meet? xD
For drink.
They have good WiFi
@@guestgame10 i can have it at home :D
@be e thx, i wasn't sure
I think you never met an english teacher
About the first one - questions like "What's up?" or "How are you?" are not part of the Polish culture in the sense it's not a question you ask out of courtesy, neither is it a question you answer untruthfully as part of said courtesy. Since asking that question is not a matter of courtesy it becomes a genuine question begging for a genuine answer. And that's why you end up having people rant their hearts out.
4:12 You don't say darling or honey to a stranger xd To a child, yes, but if you say that to an adult you don't know, it's creepy
Agreed. Dont call me honey or darling. I hate that about the US. the sugary sweet nicknames people give to strangers. You don't know me. Dont call me that just tell me where to go. Creepy AF
I think he meant in England etc- since I live in England (even though I’m Polish) I do get called ‘my sweet’ and ‘love’ a lot.
It’s just a cultural thing, I suppose
That’s weird, as I heard that almost everyday from strangers 🙈🙈 was creepy on the beginning, but not anymore, it’s just matter of culture ;)
youtubers shorten the distance in such a way, they are artificially nice TO PRESS YOUR PRODUCTS AND EXPLOIT YOU
I choose D option: I leave The party😂 And yes I'm from Poland 😂😂
The only correct answer
Agreed, lol
Same 😂😂
Same.
Same
Nobody’s perfect, right? Perhaps, Polish people are melancholic because they/we are realistic. (Reality is depressing.) I like to think that they are melancholic because they/we are tuned to the Universe. According to Carlos Castañeda, melancholy is the prevailing mood of the Universe. :)
Agree 100%
Wow, how beautifully said! :-)
@Very Polite Duck PL I don’t think so. Only very few people who lived through the last occupation are alive today.
@Very Polite Duck PL Again, I disagree. It takes many generations for the organism’s response to the circumstances to be inscribed in genes. Poland’s partitioning lasted 123 years, which is exactly four generations. It’s definitely too short a time frame for the genetic drifting on a mass scale to occur.
@Very Polite Duck PL maybe your intuition is right, but maybe not. When I think about it, there are plenty of people who totally ignore political reality of their lives. According to your explanation, they should be immune to getting depressed. Do you think that’s the case?
Hi.I am Polish
I love your video and your kindness, optimism and honesty. Thank you. 😊
Weeeeelll actually. Your test laks a secret 4th answer: D. don't go to the party at all. Just saying as a Polish person :D.
Sooo true! Like why would I go to the party anyway?! 😂🙈
agree that was my thought also xD widać polacy tak już mają hyhy
I would try to make new friends. Sorry, what was the question?
Or get drunk first, which is the usual thing.
Answer D - Don't go to the party at all.
Polish.
im very happy in Poland that i even dont miss the hot weather haha i wreszcie po latach zmagań mówię płynniej po polsku
Y bueno. Yo aprendí español en 8 meses. 🤣
@@patryk3019 jaja que bien,creo que hay más polacos que saben español que alguien de latinoamerica o españa que sepa hablar polaco,un saludo y que bien escribes español
@@franciscomunoz2750 Si verdad, pero Polacos tienen un problema con una cosa. Saben el idoma de los libros. No podemos hablar ni como un Espańol ni como un Latino. Todo parece muy tenso. Un saludo!
I do tego piszesz
To pięknie! Wszystkiego dobrego :‐)
This is so interesting to think about. I live in Poland and some of these things are so normal to me, I didn't think it's different elsewhere. Thanks for the video!
I'm from Poland citizen of the USA and I realized why my parents were always so unhappy and complained so much as I saw growing up,It's because they had a crappy life, poor as heck,were prisoners in Germany during World war II, so its passed onto the next generation, I remember when as kids we weren't allowed to laugh in our home, because we didn't have a reason to laugh according to our parents, but we as kids laughed even if it meant a slap across our face it didn't stop us,we had to really help our mom to find happiness and laugh just to laugh after our dad passed because according to him I shouldn't be laughing and told not to laugh by him and yet I was 50 years old., but my siblings are always laughing and have many friends and we always start up conversations with strangers,so I guess anything is possible.
Sounds brutal.
@Polish Hussars Im glad to hear this isnt the typical upbringing lol.
Omg 😂 what? Don't believe that story, sorry
@@maritkaa007 I really don't care if you believe it,you didn't live my life.
US immigrants act like that not just polish ones
As a Polish person I can say that my friends from other countries are always laughing beacuse of how awkward I’m and how big my comfort zone is. Literally, when social distance started I was a little bit cheered up bc I hate when people get closer to me than 1m, even my family haha
Wolę nawet isc pieszo kilometry niż wsiąść do zatłoczonego autobusu...a z tym obejmowaniem i obcalowywaniem to też tragedia ,(mieszkam we Wloszech,) czasami rzucają się do obcalowywania tak szybko ze nie jestem w stanie odskoczyć 😅
Melancholia Polaków choć irytująca jest super z mojej perspektywy. Dzięki niej jak coś naprawdę dzieje się źle, tak na poważnie. To zaczynamy działać, żeby to zmienić i nie są dla nas szokiem trudne sytuacje przez to się nie poddajemy😊
Masz rację, ale z drugiej strony, to bywa irytujące. Najlepszym przykładem są dwie reklamy wkładek na nietrzymanie moczu. Jedna polska, gdzie mdlejącym głosem jak umierająca łabędzica, kobieta oznajmia o swoim dramacie i druga reklama (z zagranicy) gdzie kobieta w zbliżonym wieku opowiada o tym problemie ze śmiechem. Wolę to drugie podejście do życia.
nr 2. shortness - if I ask for directions I'd be more happy to simply receive them than spend half an hour listening to pleasantry and waiting for the answer to my question. If you want to chit-chat instead, a good way for it would be to start a conversation with for example some random really old lady - as some of them love to chat and will treat you like their grandchild.
That's why foreign people who are more introvert in their nature feel so good in Poland - since noone bothers them for no reason and noone force themselves in their space and they don't focus on false pleasantries but go stright to the point xD
As an extrovert from chaotic place it's normal that would weird you out :)
nr 4. doing as one say is not a lack of flexibility - it's being honest and not making false promises
on the contrary - I think we are quite good at adapting to a situation
So true!! 😍
Prawda!!!
Poles are honest , like Germans . They don't waste their time on unnecessary pleasantries , speak directly , are very well prepared and informed , they don't make fake promosses and expect you to be "ok" when you don' accomplish them.
They don't force you to go smile on the street.
They don't force you to go take unwanted touch and unwanted pleasantries from strangers.
That is why I fucking love Germans ,Poles, Ukrainians and the entire Eastern Europe.
People have a huge respect for personal space in those countries and I love it.
What I don't like is that it takes a lot of time and effort to gain the trust of Germans and Poles and they show their emotion just a little bit , so you kinda don't know very well what they are feeling and gotta observe MORE.
I am from Georgia (the Eastern European country) , and my people behave more like Southern Europeans , they are more talkative with strangers and more emotionally expressive with strangers BUT it is not "all nice" , Georgians can become a bit ....extreme due to too much emotion (anger for example , they don't control this emotion very well and might CURSE YOU 2000 times , scream at you, fight you , etc...
while a German or a Polish person whould just give you a short warning and walk away if angry ).
@@სალომეგუგავა yes, slavs in general being true to their words and easy to switch between talk and action usually give clean selection choices to the other party
but when verbal battles do take place it looks usually more like heated debates where we try win over the other party with arguments instead of name-calling
going off topic, Georgia's food is great and the country's beautiful :)
@@kryokori Poles love us hahaha ❤ Thank you dear.
Georgian food is kinda great. Y'alls food not that much 🤣 ..but I eat pickled cucumbers from time to time .
Gosh these points are so true. All my life, my grandma: “We will see, its a long time until Thursday”. Hard to plan anything for sure 😂
And whenever you talk about something which is in far future Polish people quickly relate it to a near future and make you realize that what you said does not make sense 😂
They don’t process something for far future.
I am not sure if the Polish word "melancholy" is the equivalent of English
In the Polish language dictionary: Melancholia - a mood of gentle sadness and deep reflection
We have our own definition of sadness :D
Polish language is not for people
@@reytanreytan2295 there is no spirit of Christ in you
As a Pole who has lived in the US for a very long time, I find that yes American smiles are very fake. Americans do not like to be touched, however among Polish people we are always touching each other. Yes we are melancholy, but who wouldn’t be if you’ve been conquered by everyone in your history and wiped off the map twice by the conquerors. I have felt that Americans in particular, have never had to go through the hardships and wars that Polish people have throughout their history and therefore can be more cheerful. Polish people do complain, but the Americans are just as bad. Just look at how many Americans are complaining about staying at home during the pandemic, as if this is such a huge sacrifice when compared to war and misery or rebuilding a nation after a war and having to deal With communism which was forced upon us. Take for instance Chopin, going back to the 19 century, his compositions were very melancholic and so was he in yearning for his native Poland, to the point where his sister brought his heart back to Warsaw. Unfortunately melancholy is in our blood, since you never know when you’ll be invaded next.
Fantastic answer
I am Polish, and I was just thinking this exact same thing. Exactly!
Polak jest żałosnym przegrywem w tej sytuacji.
This can be metaphorical as well. I live in the United States and I feel uncomfortable and extremely vulnerable and feel like people are just waiting at the chance to get me one way or another
Being a Mexican living in Poland more than 8 years... I cannot but fully agree with you. I like the approach you took, being fair to their culture and respecting their ways :)
I have always believed that those foreign smiles in the USA style, where everyone is smiling, is an illusion, to hide my problems, I prefer to say directly that I am not in the mood than to suppress it with an artificial smile. Even if I have no problems, I prefer not to force a smile that is not sincere. Poles were and will be and this is what I like in our society, the lack of an artificial smile and before your life is ruined, but what do you have to laugh at. Likewise, in our society, it's a bit strange when someone starts asking you about private things and you see that person for the first time. Another thing that is touch, I would also feel strange if someone started to touch me, for example, riding the escalator. The history of Poland is the best argument you have given. We have lost our trust in every nation except Hungarians. As for the 4 questions, I choose option A - I'm from Poland :)
Negatywna odpowiedz haha
It's true, after dealing with Europeans online a lot I really noticed how creepy, fake, and offputting our bullshit "fake happiness" plastic culture can be. If you're an introvert or like privacy at all it is by far the most irritating part of dealing with Americans, and capacity to make smalltalk and put perfidious Albion style stuff into conversation becomes basic necessity. Personally I hate it more because the whole culture is now disingenuous and worships lying, calling facts and basic truth "alternative fact" and acting like somehow it's all just a matter of opinion, and this is true for both sides of the idiotic culture kampf (though one side is far more obnoxious, irritating, and cringey at this point and blatantly disregards all reality, yes you Qanon retards I mean you).
There is just something so unsettling about that soulless dead eyed smile honestly, and it just makes you feel even worse to do it or put up with it if you're not in the mood to smile. In normal countries like Europe, Japan, wherever, you can just not be bothered and go on with your day I'd imagine in a way that's not true here where you just want to wallow in darkness to feel better. I think that only amplifies the overall sense of the alienation Americans feel and the complete violent misery of the populace. And yes, all those mass shootings and domestic terrorist attacks? That's literally the truth beneath the plastic smile of the dead-eyed money worshiping corporate culture. You will notice there aren't mass shootings in Poland. And no, it's not the guns, regardless how much they contribute. There are bombings, stabbings. People here would make chemical weapons if you took their guns. It's a sick violent culture of antipathy and the smile in no way at all matches the inner eyes because it's purely a hateful soulless corporate state meant to make every interaction into a sales pitch by people who hate their jobs and everyone around them.
Americans can keep their empty promises and dead smiles honestly
No it’s not an illusion you idiot people are just friendly and like to help people out, wow that’s so hard to believe, sick of people saying there dishonest no there not, Eastern Europeans are just rude and people say there not it’s just culture hahahahha imagine it being culture to be rude 😂😂😂
What about Ukrainians? They are pretty sweat (Sam takim jestem)
Your points are very true. As a polish, young Woman I also do not like these things about our mentality, however the lack of flexibility is caused by the fact that we are 'men of our words', which I find positive. As my mentality is not a typical polish one, i choose Option C, however it also depends on my mood 🤓 I also agree with you that we have no reasons to put ourselves down so much! I am working hard on trying to appreciate myself more and i recommend that to everyone!
It is not inflexibility , it is honesty and seriousness , values that I FUCKING LOVE. People expect you to tolerate all kinds of changes at any time and that is clearly disrespectful.
Although I like positive and friendly societies like Latin american countries,USA and southern europe but I don't know why I like and feel more closer to polish or german mentalities. I think the culture where I was born and live might have some similarities with yours 🙂❤️
I wasn't aware of this melancholy ingrained in Polish souls till the moment my friend from the NL pointed this out. But I feel it in me
I ve been here 9 years, you are the world champions at being sad!! Just watch your TV
Same here. Was doing my usual stuff, and NL people freaked out that this is super negative.
Chopin dedicated his life writing melancholy music. It’s in us poles to enjoy that mood. Sometime my Australian husband thinks I’m negative, while all I am doing is enjoying the melancholy mood. It is kind of therapeutic 😌
@Joanna Pakosz witamy w Polsce🥱🤦♂️😥
I like melancholy in me as well. You feel like you have this deeper understanding of life, and the whole Universe 😆
To be fair, I think the example you gave for 4 is more about introvertism than the lack of flexibility. I don't think we - as a nation - don't like to improvise and are big planners (well, scratch that, we do make plans and then don't follow them).
I am from Poland and number 4 is true. I remember that once I had to organize fire camp in a park. I had organized everything but wood logs. 5 hours before the event I had to change plans and I had written a long message in which I've apologized for the inconvenience and appointment place changes from a park to a pub. I felt uneasy. Once I was on my way home I found some wood logs in a gas station. And I wrote a message again, that we stick to the plan A. No one was making fuss but the feeling of failure especially in the day of the event was underwhelming for me.
Thank you. So true. I love your sense of humor
I am Canadian living in Poland and agree with you 100000%
Have a good day
You are 100% right. I am on vacation in Dominican Republic right now and exact opposite of what are you talking about is making me wonder how can you even survive here? You are lucky! I wish we could have some of this chill. Cheers!
Enjoy my country! breathe a couple of times, everything will be fine! haha
Haha to many people being cheerful and enjoying their life, huh? Yep. Must but tough for us Poles 😂
I totally agree with you 👍 Although I'm polish I grew up in Greece and when I came 8 years ago to live in Poland these 5 things were crazy for me(and still they are but just got used to). And probably B but in Poland is quite difficult because when you smile to a stranger they look at you like you want to kill them 😆
Well said it and funny , uplift your spirit lovely polish people greetings from US smile smile your hart fake it till you make its american way
I'm from Poland and I would totally choose option A. 😂 If there was option D to leave the party hoping that nobody was aware of my existence I would definitely choose that one. 😂 Yeees, there is something about sudden change of plans that completely paralyzes me.
As for the melancholy, I remember when my therapist gave me a questionnaire about depression and she strongly pointed out that we would focus on each of the questions separately and not care about the overall results. That was because the questionnaire was American, and according to the American standards every Pole is at least slightly depressed. XD I think it's very common among slavic people. We're doomers by default.
If Polish people had tropical climate and were not conscious about centuries of their past struggles as well as their present situation of injustice towards Poland and being defamed around the world, they would be even more cheerful than the Latinos. Jews survived the Holocaust and look how melancholic they are. Poles are much more optimistic people than the Ashkenazis, and Polish people not only survived the Holocaust but also we had to rebuild our own country from ashes, not only that, we survived slavery, partitions, 123 years of not having a homeland, communist regime, various massacres and genocides in Volhynia or Katyn etc, and we're still struggling to this day.
Please keep in mind that generations who quite remember World War II and perfectly remember the communist regime are still alive, so young generations have first-hand information and were raised by people who felt the struggle.
And please don't compare communism in eg. Cuba to the communism in Poland. Here many people say that the early Soviet-communist regime was hell on earth and that it was much worse than the German-nazi occupation. The world can't understand this and maybe this feeling of being misunderstood leads Poles to having their specific behaviors.
Us Poles are conscious that:
1. we were slaves (Saqaliba - the word slave comes from the word Slavic),
2. our country was taken away for 123 years (Partitions of Poland),
3. all our neighbours (except Belarus) betrayed, invaded and killed us at some time in history,
4. we were the main non-Jewish victims of the Holocaust but the world doesn't give a damn because all they care is Jews (you call Poles melancholic? look at the Jews bro),
5. Jews forgave Germans for the Holocaust but they constantly attack and defame Polish people accusing us for the WWII,
6. Jewish communist officials murdered Polish war heroes after the WWII but the world doesn't want to hear about it and it's taboo,
7. the world thinks that communism in Poland ended in 1989 but in fact post-communist politicians still rule our country and their sons and grandchildren are willing to continue that,
8. there is huge injustice towards the Poles in case of the Volhynian massacre, the world's most cruel mass-murder ever considering the methods of torturing women and children, as it is still not recognized by the world as a genocide, despite it consumed 120.000 Polish women and children, while at the same time for example the Srebrenica massacre is considered a genocide, despite there were around 8.000 victims, mostly Muslim men. Similarly, Katyn massacre consumed around 25.000 Polish high-rank soldiers and intelligentsia and is not considered a genicide either...Why? How is that?
9. we earn poor money while foreigners in Poland have much better job offers than native inhabitants, but the world is informed that our economy is wonderful, which is a lie to make us look like people who always complain for no reason. That's why to make real money Poles have to emigrate from Poland.
10. even though we're in pacts like NATO and the European Union, those organizations keep sanctioning us, treating us like cannon fodder and Poles are treated bad all across Europe.
11. we are hated all around the world for no reason thats to the Jewish propaganda, we feel exactly what black people feel with one exception - the world doesn't care about our struggle (only our brothers Hungarians and Serbs care about us and understand us).
12. there are some claims against the Poles, namely Jewish claims, that Poland should pay money to some Jewish organizations for real estate that belonged to Polish citizens of Jewish faith who died in the Holocaust without leaving heirs and left their properties. The quote: "If Poland fails to fulfill Jewish claims, it will be publicly attacked and humiliated on an international forum" is what Polish people still have in their heads.
...Oh and Poland has very harsh climate, cold winters, windy springs, rainy autumns and hot summers - Well, during the winter people make those sad faces cuz they hate the cold! ;)
As for the summer - did you notice that the sun is at a slightly different angle than in Africa or the Caribbean? It's blinding our eyes man, that's why we make those "stank faces" on the streets instead of smiling LOL!
Peace!
Great video as usual, as for the criticism of oneself or the others it is really intense over the polish internet. For example i am a member of few fb groups about german shepherds, and there if you want to ask any question or make any statement, for sure someone will write a comment on how little you know, or how ignorant you are, how bad you are with taking care of the dog etc. however one group i belong to is in english, and there everyone supports everyone, literally being helpful. I have never understood why we are like that.. To the point i am afraid to ask a question not to be judged as an imbecile. I agree with everything you said, of course i am raised in polish culture so it doesnt bother me that much but once you travel a few years abroad, you meet different mindsets, it is really frustrating and a little funny how we behave and dont even realise it. Cheers!
Tradition, it's catholic upbringing
Hi! Polish here ;) I've been living in Spain for a few years and I can agree with you regarding the issues you mention. It's completely opposite in Spain and now when I visit Poland I can see the things you are talking about.
Yes, I hate when somebody touches me and in Spain they do touch. The struggle is real! I am a young woman so I can't stand when a man is touching or patting me, but I don't have problems when other women do it. In Spain they just do it and I still can't get used to it.
Also the sadness and lack of smile... yep.. it's just our Polish thing :) The difference between Latinos and Polish people is big !
Nie rozumiesz, melancholia, ten dziwny żal połączony z tęsknotą za Bóg wie czym, jest charakterystyczny dla wielu narodów słowiańskich np Rosjan. Taki ogólny ból istnienia i świadomość przemijania. Nie wiem kogo na swej drodze spotkałeś, ale historia Polski dowodzi, że Polacy są bardzo elastyczni i zdolni do adaptacji do życia w różnych warunkach. To, że bez powodu nie zmieniają planów z godziny na godzinę to akurat nie świadczy o braku elastyczności a o konsekwencji i rozsądku. Spróbuj się poklepać i podotykać z nieznajomym a nawet znajomym Szwedem. i zaznaczę C, to kwestia osobowości nie narodowości.
The list is a 100% correct.
Im from canada.
Note: even children do this shortness. You ask them a question, they answer and leave. They dismiss you immediately leaving you feeling AWFUL.
Dude, seriously? Children are quite obviously taught to avoid talking with strangers.
If you really wanna "make friends", don't target kids. Makes you look like a total creep 😕
Poor you, kids don't care about grown-ass man feelings and avoid unnecessary conversation with stranger... good for them, it means they were taught well😂
We like to joke with each other and our country, but each of us is proud of our flag 🇵🇱
When I see that other people are interested in Poland, I feel warm in my heart, thank you all! ^ ^❤️
That's a pretty accurate description. One thing I've noticed about Polish people is they are always complaining about their country, but still think it's the best and hate when other nationalities complain about it😂
@@briantravelman because we experience it
Wow, I wanted to chat with people about the hostory of Poland, and they laughed 😅 lol. Kinda hard to find communicative person in Warsaw.
Poland almost singlehandedly saving videogaming since like 2010. I think of all my games, no joke like 70% is of Poland or Latvian/Ukrainian some Eastern Bloc type country, and maybe 30% tops is all the rest of the world combined, often French and American studios/dev teams. Of the numerous games I just played this year fully half are Polish. Of the most beloved games I play, most is Polish, like Darkwood for instance.
It makes me really curious to see too what would happen if maybe Brasilians or Arabs or Turks would get more message and maybe social stability to produce videogames as part of gross economic domestic products, with Polish GDP having very surprisingly high tech industry type stuff along with Ukraine before Russia ruined it.
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geniusz, tak skrytykowac ze krytykowany kocha krytykujacego. To jest sztuka. Czapki z glow. Fajny jestes gosciu
Sporo racji ma. Reszta to po prostu odmienna mentalność spowodowana inną historią, kulturą i innym klimatem.
Mówienie czego się nie lubi to nie jest krytyka. Jeśli mówię ze nie lubię bananów to nie znaczy ze je krytykuje.
Living in Germany and have lived in Scandinavia (and travelled elsewhere) I must say with physical contact we are much closer physically than Germans, Dutch, Brits or Scandinavians. One hand on someone’s shoulder can cause you a lot of formal trouble!
I actually also know compared with above mentioned countries Poles are more flexible. Try to make something “out of the box” in Germany... impossible.
However, the other parts I agree with you and the objectivity of presenting it.
BTW melancholy. In Poland 6 month a year is cold weater, rainy, snowy and dark. There is no sun in autumn and winter. People fall into a melancholy.
more than six
@@mago5974 , This year it's definitely... This winter was very cold. April is cool too.
You certainly have no idea what you are talking about
Good point. The weather can certain affect people’s moods.
I don’t agree, I used to live in Ireland for several years and the weather there is constantly the same. 300 days of rain per year, it’s like autumn all the time. Yet, people are very friendly and more optimistic that you’d expect. I believe that melancholy in Poland is coming from the fear of lack of money etc. People are not able to afford good quality food, hobbies and going out that much, even if they are spending all of their time at work.
D: I'm not showing up on this party. If I don't know anyone, I'm going there WITH my friend or I'm making sure she is already there
1:11 That dog chasing a bird in the pack 😂
Good eye
Guys, Polish subtitles are coming in a day or two, save the video and come back!. KOCHAM WAS!
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To be fair I'm still surprised that you don't have more views under your videos! They're very professional, interesting and to be fair very insightive. I'm Pole obviously and I like your videos to see myself (as a part of Polish nation) from the outer perspective :)
Thank you!. Just the fact that someone like you enjoys the videos and takes their time to leave a nice comment is enough! Poz!
@@VigosDad ❤ Likes here are well deserved :) Keep doing the great work!
Dimelo! Yeah man the negativity is haaaaaaard. Coming from a culture that goes the other way makes it hard to understand sometimes. It's nice to watch your videos and see similarities. Dominicans go with the flow on some things and yeah can take longer hahaha, but being able to have that adaptive attitude goes a long way in so many situations. Your statement about that difficult climb to cheer up lol I feel you on that, but we love who we love and we keep climbing.
What a wholesome video lol. I was prepared to get ripped to shreds about one thing or another but all I could do was nod along.
I guess betrayal hurt us back in the day and our parents make sure to help us grow in fear of those around us- as a way to prevent hurt.
‘If you keep your expectations low, you’ll never be disappointed’
on the other hand, you'll never feel satisfaction either. and it keeps you from meaningful relationships...
Like Dixie D'amellio sing: 'Sometimes I don't wanna be happy' - it's typically Polish :) and yes: 'A' ;)
A 😄😄😄
Love it and agreed 100%. I can see all that since I moved to UK. We need more optimism and smile every day :)
Bardzo fajny film pasuje idealnie na wiosnę :) Więcej radości z serca i do przodu :D
Hi! I would like to say that 1 and 3 are conected. Psyhological findings say that we Polish people like to complain because it give us something to bond and you are right it is because of our heritage. We always had something to complain about. Actually when somone complain to you about some delicate metter in their lives (like ilness in family, problems with person you also know etc.) it means that they trust you :) It may sound strange but it is a case.
And because of that we are more negative. When you complain soo much it become your second nature but you are right - every generation gets better.
Sorry for my English :)
Spot on ❤️ It might be really helpful to get a different perspective. Especially for those who’s not travelling much. I appreciate your courage to point it out.
Tons of positive vibes to all 🙌❤️
Compadre you are doing a really dobra robota!
Yep, I definitely would choose an A option. But not only because my plans have changed and this is uncomfortable. In the first place I would be worry about my friend, who didn't show up or didn't even leave any message. I mean, how could it not bother me? What if something happened to them? Maybe they lost their phone? Or... there was some car accident... or even robbery or murder? How in this situation could I ignore all this possibilities and go making new friends? XD
ooo negativity's kicking in... 😉😁🤣 famous "what if...?" something bad happened
I know it too well and it's hard to abandon that habit... I've been working on it for years now and still catch myself thinking "sh^t something bad could've happened" 😲🤦♂️
I just came in Warsaw, I was out whole day long, every person I had to communicate with was rude. Even at night in bar, people were kinda angry, as they shared an angry and strange looks at me.
This approach Is making us ready for any struggle at any time, this was embedded in our souls throughout history and personally l love it .
Good. I admire that about the Polish very much. Im married to a Pole and she is stoic, strong and always resilient. Stay proud.
I'm a Pole and I really enjoy watching your videos. They're giving me opportunity to look from other pespective at some behaviors that I've never noticed myself before! I have to agree, we seem to have a bit of trust issues. We were learned by our parents to do not tell people too much because they will or talk about it behind our backs or betray us (for example tell other people our secrets). We also do not like to use words as such as love (kochać) or friend (przyjaciel) so freely, we're kinda keeping them for special ones. With friend it may be like this because you're using it towards lots of people (even just met at the party) while for us it means person who we know for long time and who we trust. People other than that we're calling 'znajomy' or 'kolega' which is more distanced. New generations are more opened to use, for example word 'love', but 'friend' is still kinda 'reserved'. With touch we're also distanced, even towards family members (or at least it is like this in my house). We're hugging for greeting and some people are even kissing cheeks (three times!), but if I would randomly come up to my mom and hug her, she would be alarmed and ask what happened. I never tought about it, but now after watching your videos I see all that little things, that are building our little 'distanced, yet touch starved' culture.
I am glad you got to see things you haven’t notice before thanks to my videos. Hugs!
it's great bro to hear it from your perspective. Soooo awesome!
This video is freaking awesome. I'm Haitian and my wife is Polish. Since she's the Pessimistic one, she tend to over prepare for the worst. Which works out, cuz I tend to take on risk without over thinking it.
My brother! Thank you! My heart goes out to you and your countrymen in this moment of difficulty!
@@VigosDad Thank you man, I appreciate it. Haiti is a cycle of corruption, that doesn't seem like it'll end anytime soon. It is unfortunate, but I am hopeful that things will get better.
Great channel man,, I'm glad you enjoy the Polish Culture like I do. I will continue to follow your content, and may you continue to grow.
Very original and truthful. I appreciate your honesty. It is easy, diplomatic and safe to pay meaningless polite complements. Thank you.
As a Pole I would choose A but probably because of my character - i stand out even in Polish standards. Btw. for me this all reasons could be shortened to self-criticism and negativity
Beautiful video man ! Very insightful. That thing with lack of flexibility struck me and I think it's the main reason for polish people's grumpiness. Things just don't go out as we imagine them to be and we fail to see that sometimes it might be even better than our imaginary expectations. It's like the need to be in control of our lives gives us feeling of safety. Take care.
I’m a polish guy living in Germany and I have to say that German are also very pessimistic and everything have to run according to the plan. I would say that German are similar to us when it comes about planning or even complaining 😂😂
Yes. that's why I felt good living and working in Germany. Not in other countries. :)
I live in the US and currently working with a German. I have to agree with everything you said 😅. They got freaked out over everything lol.
I think those stereotypes apply to poles Germans, and all central ans eastern Europeans.
Wow! Nie wiedziałam, że jesteś z Dominikany :) Spędziłam tam wspaniały czas i mam wiele cudownych wspomnień z tego kraju. :)
I thing conplaining is a kind of relaxation. Im Polish, live abroad. I love meeting my Polish friend and complain about this or that. This way we ensure that others also don’t see everything as optymistic as media want us to see. We are just not easy to be fooled. The world around us isn’t as nice as it looks. We are realistic. Yeah, not the best compatible Attitude in the so called free, capitalist, liberal world. I think only uneducated, unaware, uninformed people can be always happy. And this kind of societies are easy to rule. See Americans. Give them entertainment and the word “liberty” and they believe it but can’t even prevent mass gun shootings... what liberty is this???
Mieszkam w Niemczech i Polacy sa duzo radosniejsi i elastyczni niz Niemcy. Maja duzo werwy i do pracy i do tanczenia na imprezach. W Niemczech impreza to stanie z piwem i jedzenie chipsow.w Polsce ludzie tancza na calego.
Przyjedz do Niemiec pokochasz Polakow z kazdej strony.
Sorry ale jesli ludzie ktorzy oboje pracuja na pelny etat maja jeszcze dzieci, psa i starsza babcie pod opieka to nie maja czasu na umawianie sie z ludzmi "na marne". Moze w twoim kraju ludzie maja wiecej czasu wolnego. Sorry ale ja wstaje codziennie miedzy 4-5 rano i moj dzien konczy sie o 24.
Slowo Boga "czlowiek jest tyle warty, ile jego slowo" Nie wystarczy dotrzymywac slowa tylko w "wielkich sprawach". Dotrzymywanie slowa powinno byc stalym, codziennym zwyczajem. Boze, daj sily aby tak bylo spraw bym swoje slowo utrzymala 🙏
Zastanow sie teraz nad tym ile Kosciolow jest w Polsce, jak i z czego sie utrzymuja. Moze zrozumiesz, ze dla Polaka przestrzeganie slowa Bozego ma wiekrza wartosc. "Wartosci" sami sobie ustalamy. Ile razy w Niemieczech ktos mi cos obiecywal i w ostatniej chwili bylam "na lodzie". Kocham Polske. Tu sie ludzie szczeze usmiechaja i sluchaja.
You are 100% accurate. I have been to Poland many times and absolutely love the country and what I see coming. Generally speaking, Polish people are very kind with great family values. From my experience, there is a generation of Poles that are far more upbeat, and socially progressive than most. It really depends on the person's background, education and personal life experience.
Most Poles tend to navigate to what they know and have very little appetite in exploring beyond their comfort zone. I find many of them just complain too much and dot not focus enough on possibilities which can be perceived as a negative or turn off for someone coming more a multi cultural environment. This is changing as the country is moving well in the right direction.
Canadian 14 years in Poland. So true! Laughed out loud.
😂😂👌 I had a good laugh cos literally this is exactly how I experienced my 1st Polish guy & I really had alot of respect for him, his life & culture. I felt much compassion & respect for Polish race especially learning the history of the war & of where some generational moods stem from. It made me appreciate Polish people more. If my Polish guy would get serious about something or he gets pessimistic I was always the optimistic type in our relationship & I hoped it helped rebuild trust in good humans especially after how their ancestors were massacred during the war. For this reason I really made sure that I was the kind of person to keep my word & actions follow through.. Polish people have always been really nice to me. I love my Poles x
You nailed these 5 points to a T. I grew up with my mother and father whom both immigrated from Poland to the U.S. when they were 17 and 19 years old, respectively, in the year 1977. Despite them sending us to Poland almost every summer as kids, I never felt I connected with Polish people or had a strong desire to learn the language, as my parents and the Polish people I met- both family members and acquaintances are extremely negative and pessimistic. It started to rub off on me as a child and it really hurt my social skills as an adolescent and an adult growing up. It’s taken me years to understand the origins for my behavior and try to make amends to fix it. The negativity definitely has historical roots, and they think this attitude prepares them for the worst. Also since over 90% of the country is Catholic, I think humility is taught as a virtue, hence they always downplay their own or their children”s accomplishments as a means to protect them from inviting the Evil Eye and from jealousy from neighbors. Growing up, when my father would drop me off at a friend’s house for a sleepover, he would immediately open with an apology when they opened the door with him saying, “I’m sorry that she’s an inconvenience.” Which would just be confusing to the people that invited me over and also to me. Overall, my parents are oblivious to about their negativity. They are like a lot of Poles- defensive and passive-aggressive. But I love them regardless.
I'm Polish. I have lived in Krakow for over 30 years. I've traveled a lot in my life. I must admit that Poland is a great country to live in. it's very safe and clean here. Believe me, this is not a standard in the world
As a Polish immigrant who came to the US during communism, I can totally understand and agree with your observations. I suspect that it’s the history of the nation and what generations had to deal with that influenced them to become like this. I think if you visit Russia you will see many similarities. Living under communism for 2 generations will do that.
Thank you ❤
In terms of melancholy I think it's a Polish trait which will never change. And that's ok, some nations are naturally upbeat some are naturally a bit sad. For me the best and the earliest contact with this aspect is a lullaby "Iskiereczka" which is so sad and depressing it's quite hard to understand why Polish mothers (including my own) sang them to their babies.
Hey, you are always joyful and we are malancholic. Nie można wiecznie cieszyć michy :D This is the part of who we are, we have accepted your attitude, it's good that you accept ours.
I'm from Poland and it's an A, so yeah, i get your point 😅 btw i agree with you 5 times, must say you know us really well AND.. MY CIEBIE TEŻ KOCHAMY (WE LOVE YOU TOO)
I love Poland god bless you I love your building and food and lots, so beautiful!
1. We don't enjoy melancholy, we've learned to live in it.
2. We give specific answers, because we don't want to waste someone's time. We are typically introverts, so we don't like touching.
3. We complain, because it's healthy. Like a free therapy session. I admit, someone who wines about the same thing every day, over and over again, is getting on my nerves too. But most of the time, we just want to let off some steam and feel some empathy. Not a pity, not a solution (cause we'll do what we want anyway), just some empathy.
4. We're not as spontaneous as some nations. When we plan to spend some time with a friend, we don't want to jeopardize the evening. We also worry about a friend, who coldn't make it, but also we expect people to make good on their word.
5. Maybe we are critical about our country (and ourselves), because we want to prepare someone for the worse, so he/she could be pleasantly surprised.
We're like Chandler from "Friends" - we find humor in dark places.
Very well said, thank you.
A-Polish and most introvert.
"Good Pole" won't get surprised if something would not go according the plan. You need to have back up plans A, B, C, D... and emergency plan in cases nothing is going as planned. Otherwise it wasn't planned well enough. :D
I like Poland and the Polish language. All I don’t like is really anglicised Polish people who are ashamed of being Polish. It’s the same with Anglicised Cypriots. I have more respect for the ones who like to speak Greek and put Cyprus first than those who have self-hate and try to be something they’re not.
I'm Polish, but I live in the States, but I spent a lot of time in Poland.
The first two, it depends what part of the country you're in. In general, I find Poles to be a lot more open than other Europeans. I even saw a Pole invite an American to a birthday party. But I know a lot of the ones in some of the larger cities can be quite rude and cold.
The negativity thing is 100% true, and it kind of ties in with the last one. Polish people are very hypocritical in this aspect. They're always complaining about something, and talking about how Poland would be better if it had this or this. However, when foreigners criticize something about Poland, they get extremely defensive, and start shitting on their country. So I'm genuinely surprised that the comments section is so civil. 😂I've also noticed a lot of them feel jealousy and resentment towards Poles who live abroad.
The last one is also true. I'm Polish and I voted A. This is one thing about Americans that really pisses me off. Polish people are extremely disciplined. When we make plans, we stick by them, so I've always found it extremely disrespectful when people show up late, or cancel at the last minute, or don't show up without notice. And my American and Latino friends don't understand why I get so angry about this. My professors always thought it was strange that I would show up 15 minutes before an appointment.😂
Another one I've experienced that you didn't mention, is Polish people want payment for EVERYTHING. And a lot of them will try to rip extra money off you if you're a foreigner. If you don't wanna give cash though, a case of beer will do😂
I can give anyone a case of beer! haha
Everything YOU say it is so true!I moved from Poland to Canada long time ago and I was very short with people, borderline rude! If stranger smiles to me it was so offensive (In Canada almost everyone smiles)but I like I changed so much I think for better ,My sweet polish people need to loosen up! Pozdrawiam serdecznie xoxo
You think Poles are getting stiff, when you approach them? Try scandinavians :D Even if they know each other, they avoid eye contact when passing on the street or pretend like they don't see you in a public comunication.
Well. I don't agree with lack of adaptability. Yes, we have a plan and we can be counfused when something unexpected happen. But then we turn on "kombinowanie". I'm sure you're familar with this.
No option D. You wouldn't go at the party with strangers without the friend. You wait until he/she arraive and then you go there together. Especially if it is home party. You need someone who introduce you to others. Yeah, very old habit back from resistent movements ;D
My personality seems to be clashing with my culture (Polish). I absolutely HATE two things about us- our negative mindset and the fact that talking to people without a good excuse is "not allowed" unless you are already good friends.
I try to be positive and cheerful but sometimes it feels like other Poles raise their eyebrow at me thinking "are you stupid?".
But yeah, the answer to your question would be probably at first A (because of anger rather than fear - if you make plans with me you better frickin make sure that you follow through on them - or at least let me know that you're bailing). But then I'd probably roam and try to see what's up and it would turn out great - so in between B and C haha.
Same here
soo true the anger is first :p I don't like too that we just simply can't talk to strangers cuz it's seems to be werid, but it's not only in Poland try that in Scandinavia :p
@@MakaoMiko yup. I kinda wish it wasn't weird. It shouldn't be weird to be a social being lol
100%.
Thanks you helped me understand some things better.
Jestem Polką , kocham swój kraj i jestem dumna z biało czerwonej flagi ❤️🇵🇱 😊a jeśli chodzi o test ...ja nawet nie weszłabym na tą imprezę sama, a co dopiero mówić o A,B, C 🤭🤭🤭 Ale skupiając się na tylko tych możliwościach wyboru , zdecydowanie wybrałabym A 🤷🤭 Pozdrawiam Cię serdecznie! I Dzięki za polskie napisy w Twoich filmikach 👍👏
I'm sorry, but I don't agree when you say that Poles hate physical contact. In my family and friends circle, people hug each other. It is true that I have some friends who seem or used to be a bit distant but the most of them give me a hug when we meet.
100% A. I always have to plan everything. There's no place for unexpected suprises. So I guess beeing among people who never stick to the plans at long distance would be quite exhausting. Greetings from Subcarpathian 😊
I love it! Just wondering where did you grow up? Where are you from originally ? It will be nice to know...I thought maybe American or British guy? I guess I wrong...let me know plzzz!? Thank you and keep going! All the best! Lenka
I was born in the Dominican Republic ☺️
I agree with you. And the complaining it's absolutelly the biggest thing I hate about Polish people - and I'm Polish as well. I do not complain that much :), but it happenes few days each year. And we complain about everything, comparing to everyone. And I would add 6th thing, we do complain, or we're negative about our life, not satisfied cuz we are affraid of the envy of others. For example you accomplish something, reach a goal, be succesfull in some matter, other people would get jealous and wish you bad things or at least could not be happy for you. I've heard so many times "why he/she got this, why not me..."
And you are complaining about complaining 😀
Narzekanie to prawie nasz sport narodowy XD 😘.
W ten sposób oszczędzamy na psychiatrach.
@@renar11 I'm still Polish :)
I chose C - English.
Best friend is Polish, and he chooses E - don't go to the party 😂
Accurate observations in this video, but from my point of view, in a world where everyone is so self-obsessed, I find Polish humility kinda refreshing tbh.
We both enjoy your vids, they do have great humour and balance, great job!
I'm an American by birth place but Polish by blood and I would have just left quietly and tried to find out why my friend never showed
Me, too on all counts.
awww, thank you so much for cheering me up, I have a plenty of work ahead and I was so unhappy with it and now, yay, I know I will do it with a big smile on my face :)))
There is anyone here who is learning English with Vigo's Dad? 😅 He speaks so fast but I really like these videos, even when I hear about our disadvantages , greetings 🌷🌷🌷
Hahaha I will try to speak slower! Dominicans speak quite fast though. Dzięki! ❤️
Respect to You for making it. I was getting sick of all those English speaking what They love about Poland. seemed so dishonest clickbait.
Man I agree on the lack of flexibility.. I now myself.. And where half of the problems with my wife come from. But it partially comes from trying to be wordy. If we agreed on something, than we agreed. Changing last minute is disrespectful to people.
I choose first A or B. But later we drink some beer or vodka and I choose C. ;-)
Polish men have this tendency to negate all that is too emotional and ab-normal. Fear of being or be perceived as abnormal abnormal is the most common toxic trait among Polish men and in culture in general. You have to maintain normality in order to be accepted as someone 'cool". But "don't be too cool", "it's too weird", etc. It's kind of grotesque and funny if you observe that from a certain angle, especially in a grocery store or during a party. There is a slight change in that part of Polish culture, but it is so tiny, that I don't think anyone from outside could even see it. It still remains a social norm/ standard in many places.
No 1 Weather. In my opinion Latinos are more cheerful and open, cause they have great weather all the time. Here for half a year we don't have sun. Not enough sunlight equals: sadness, depression, negativity etc.
That's northern Europe for you. As an Englishman I can say that we Brits don't have a hot sunny climate (but generally agreeable mild winters). Yes, levels of depression increase in northern Europe in winter so that's not unique to Poland. I'm not a fan of touching when it comes to other men but women can feel free! Northern Europeans are certainly different from Latinos. From my personal experience there are err... how can I put it... far too many men who are more than happy to pursue other men... the amount of filth I've had from such men is unbelievable (not all of them though)... I'm very wary of other men and these days people are so suspicious of each other in these cynical times especially due to the media IMHO and relationships between men and women can be tense as a result. I have found the Poles who have settled in Britain - all one million of you! - are a pleasant nation of people with friendly conversation. And the women! Polish women are VERY attractive! Dzenkuje! Do widzenia panna Aleksandra.
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C- A Polish girl living in Norfolk Va. 🇺🇸 Always try to make something good out of a bad situation. Spread your wings. ❤️❤️
NEGATIVITY? Or rather realism, my friend.
You are really good observer. I've watched few of you videos and I basically agree with everything