I “broke up” with a close friend of two decades several years ago. There are/were MANY reasons for this (loser mentality, jealous of anyone else’s good fortune, very angry drunk, had extreme political views, etc..), but I still too think about him and wish to myself that he would snap out of it. It’s unfortunate, but hanging out became a chore
You just described a lot of good reasons to break up with a friend. Another would be money which is why I broke with a good friend with and lost ten grand over. Now that I am wiser I won't tell anyone If I won the lottery except Centrelink otherwise I will get hit hard financially and probably have a criminal conviction against my name.
Be mindful that at anytime, anyone would be capable of betraying you. Don’t let that stop you form trusting people. Be open and willing to let go when necessary.
I feel like the secret message of this video is "14 Things to Avoid to in Order to _be_ a Quality Friend" -- if we don't want friends with these bad traits, then _we, ourselves,_ should also work to avoid having these bad traits. Great video, Alpha!
I've been down this road sooooooo many damn times, it's not even funny. I totally relate and understand this. Unfortunately, loyalty, honour and honesty are in VERY short supply with people you meet in life. I am in no way perfect, I have let down others too, but I keep trying. I try to be better, I try like like Aaron always teaches, every single day. The difference is, those that you had to leave behind, or go a different direction from, don't. They never try and often, they don't even want to or see what they are doing wrong. It's sad, but I'm done beating myself up about it, their loss. Onwards and upwards fratello! T.
People who appear high class but act low class. Money cannot cover a lack of class, no matter how much you have. The way people speak, act and conduct themselves in public says a lot. F-bombs every 5 seconds labels where you came from. Be courteous, respectful, build up your friends....that's the mark of a real man. Very good points Aaron. Many needed to hear this. Get rid of the anchor if it's pulling down the ship!
I ended a friendship almost 4 years ago. He pretty much was most of the things in this video (jealousy, never owned to his mistakes, narcissist, irresponsible, childish). The list goes on. I haven't talked to him since. He came to my job 2 months ago but I didn't say anything to him. I couldn't even look him in the eye. Sometimes I think about the good times we had but I know I can't go back to that because of the way he is. I hope he gets himself together but something tells me that he won't. Choose your friends wisely, people.
Last year i had to let go of one of my best mates peter due to him having a severe pot and cocaine addiction. Dude is 30 year old, lives at his parents with no rent and has NO money. I told him what he needed to hear (he needs to go to rehab) but he didn't take it well. This year i had to let go of my other best mate because he's irresponsible, told me he will never have money because he loves cocaine. This is what happens when people who have no ambition, hopes and dreams get into drugs. They get lost in it. Stay away.
"You pinned the tail on the donkey".........i unfortunately had to end a close friendship/brother about 3 years ago ....i met him in 1971 being my neighbor across the street...we became fast friends that lasted 50 years until i found out the ugly truth...he's a narcissist ......really lowered the boom on me.....yeah! Everything you said about a narcissist is true....blew my mind....my life is better
Thank you very much Alpha. I met someone yesteday that i have been chatting to for a while now and heartbreakingly he has allot of theses types of people in his life at the moment. And has some of the qualities that you have mentioned here. I have forwarded the link to this video to him in the humble hopes that he can go and analise his friends and himself and will maybe try and change. I dont want to give up on him as I believe that he was not always like that. Thank you all the way from South Africa.
I’m certainly guilty of some of these myself (e.g. pessimism and unreliable, the latter from years ago where I’d intentionally or unintentionally ditch group plans day of), and only time will tell if dropping these people was the right call, but I can say definitively that so far I’m more focused on myself and my well being/goals and have less stress, which is great.
Yeah I love my mom to death but she is the most negative person that I know. She has so many great things in her life but all she wants to talk about is what is going wrong in her life or the lives of other friends/family. It can be very drianing and I worry about what effects it will have on her long term health.
I know the beginning of this vid is a “sales pitch” for the Alpha Mpire but I can say the course and the folks in the group have been a Godsend to me. As a beginner in entrepreneurship, everyone from beginner success story to the folks that are already successful, have been the highest caliber of people to interact with. I am grateful for the Mpire community and to Aaron for building it!!! Everything else in this vid is on point! Thanks Aaron:-)
Here’s one of the best quotes I’ve heard and it goes like this everyone will show you who they are in the end you just need to give them time and space no mask can be worn forever
alpha thank you for this vid because two days ago i saw a highs school friend i haven’t seen in 3 years because i’ve been focus on my self and building my self & when i meet up with him ask for $20 bucks i went out of my way to lend them to him but when i asked for them back it took 2 days and me being annoying to get my money back thats how i re-open my eyes that this guy is no good because he’s still doing the same shit not being responsible & being a loser
I’m a narcissist cuz nobody supports me other than my family. I’m alone most of my days so I’m really all I have for motivation. I may be self centered but I’d definitely say I’m a humble person in public & good friend. I just rely on myself for motivation & a “hype up”. It’s kept me from serious depression
I honestly just want to be your friend. You just described everyone around me. I have not found one person that connects with me on our level. Would love a chance to have any interaction with you at all. Hope things are great and that someday we have an opportunity to connect. Your an awesome guy Aaron.
It's tough to do but it has to be done. Had a really close friend who literally fits in most of these categories. We would plan things weeks in advance and he would constantly cancel last minute on me. Lied about his drinking problem and would make up things we could do but only wanted me to stop by to bring him to a package store. We had a lot of good times and at times miss those times but its was such a chore to put up with and I don't miss that.
This pretty much rules out nearly everyone, in reality. I've cut all these types out of my life in order to be more, because I had the friend who put a baby in my girlfriend, I've had business partners who literally screwed me for years of work. Being alone is much easier, and consistently happier. Unfortunately, pessimism seeps in. Even those manosphere men's groups who view life through a superficial lens and advocate cheating because "it's in your biology" is just pathetic. Seriously, if a man can't control his biological urges, why would I trust him in any other situation.
I think being alone is fine if you're not someone who is prone to loneliness. If you're someone who can handle loneliness in a stoic and sober-minded kind of way, then being alone won't affect you. I just would not want to be the kind of person who doesn't have any friends because I'm just too good for everyone else, because I'm not that kind of person. And also because I remember how shitty it was to literally have no friends. Of course that's just me and I'm not speaking for everyone, including you. I think it's different for everyone.
@@andrewtuttle9682 True, everyone is different. I used to have a rather large friend circle despite never being on social media. I would know someone everywhere I went. Now I'm happier, the less I see anyone. Got so tired of being everyone's "go-to" guy or emotional tampon. Nothing but crickets when I needed someone to lean on through tough times. Most were fairweather friends I guess. Such is life.
Some friends when you outgrow them you need to keep moving. But other friends you outgrow, I think whether by example or advice, one should try and help them grow vs give up on them. Happens in many situations.
Once again, disagree on the loser part. If your friend isn't motivated that doesn't mean you can't be. If your friend sits around all day smoking weed and playing games, it doesn't mean you have to. Some friends take different paths in life. Some guys are happy working a 40+ hour a week job while other guys want more and they're still friends. If you're the type of guy that drops someone as a friend because they're not motivated and okay with being average, than you're the one doing that person a favor because you were never a friend.
Also, "loser" is kind of a relative term. If the guy who smokes weed and plays video games on his days off is happy living that way and has a lot of friends and a girlfriend who loves him, I don't consider that guy to be a loser. Meanwhile if your boss who is not all that nice of a person and mistreats you at work and doesn't have any friends and is in a failing relationship with his wife who cheats on him, I would say that guy is much more of a loser then the other guy even if your boss meets more of the criteria that one has to meet to be considered successful in a western capitalist society. I say that because I know people like that and most of them are the biggest losers I know, even if society doesn't agree that they are. Having money isn't the be all, end all for being happy or successful in life, and people need to remember that.
@@andrewtuttle9682 Sadly there are a lot of people who, without even knowing the person, will judge the guy who smokes weed and plays video games and call him a loser. Meanwhile the other guy, simply because he is a boss and no doubt wears nicer clothes is considered something better. That's what this guy is pushing. He's pushing the idea that image matters above all.
Great video Aaron, thanks for your advice. Unfortunately, what if some of these people are my closest family..? 😕 Another thing I would like to point out is that I get what you're saying about being pessimistic Aaron, but in my opinion it's also pretty hard to stay positive in this world when we're living in these crazy times with all shit crop going on. It feels like the whole world's gone crazy lol. Cheers 👍
True about friends that cheat on their significant other. Had a coworker friend who ironically was an awesome friend until the woman he was cheating with broke up with him. He became extremely insecure, jealous and a backstabber.
Humans have flaws. Nobodys perfect. The best friends are ones whom point out these flaws or tendencies to help them realize their wrongs. Dont just drop your friends because you recognize their flaws. Give them a chance to right their wrongs.
I've been wanting to start a business for years because I was sick and tired of dealing with the different businesses i've worked for. I can't wait to start the program and finally do what I've wanted to do for over 15 years.
Unfortunately ive had all these friends because of the lack of experience of people i once had. I left them years ago and Now i know how to find the right people.
You are the man Alpha! You give me hope for society. Would love to get a fresh haircut at your establishment. I live in NC, but it would be worth the drive! Keep rockn!
Quite a few people are cannabis consumers and successful. I graduated from law school a semester early while occasionally consuming cannabis. I also worked for the largest MSOs across the country. Cannabis allowed me to travel the country as a compliance Auditor and Manager. Also, it's possible to blame others (opposing side in a lawsuit) and take responsibility for your own mistakes. In the legal field, you literally have to know how to blame others if you want to win.
if you want to be a successful parent, spouse, or person in general nowadays you essentially need to delete all your friends. Your world needs to be your family. It's really hard, but if you're still going out drinking and socializing with your single friends, it's not going to go well and will all eventually blow up anyway. it's really hard, and like alpha said i still think about those people all the time.
Yes, you are absolutely right, a year ago I also thought that they were my good friends but they were toxic people, now I also broke up with the friendship.
Well being an alpha can be a lonely path. Hope you all guys work on yourself and surround yourselves with ppl that genuinely care about ur relation with them
i had to learn this rule as a teenager with all the moves we had growing up. it only enhanced when i got into the US Army. you really have to be aware of who you surround yourself with.
All that you said is true but keep in mind friends, real friends are hard to find. So it’s okay to be by yourself instead of rotten demons. I have a great significant other, she’s my friend.
The most hated ones are gossipers and narcissistics, they just see themselves as perfect and you feel you can't convince them otherwise, losers and liars are easier to convince or counteract to their actions than narcissistic people and gossipers
I had an employee which I made the mistake to give 100% of my trust. I also gave many advices to his daughter because she wanted to be entrepreneur. After everything I did for them and helped them, I found out that he was stealing my product templates and blueprints trying to replicate my products and sell them by himself. When i found out I made a promise to never trust anyone like that anymore
Couldn't agree with you more Aaron. Sadly I came to the realisation that my wife of 20+ years embodied a lot of these characteristics so I made the tough decision of leaving her. Looking back, it was the best thing I ever did and now I'm actively seeking out and surrounding myself with others that inspire me and wow has life changed. My biggest issue that I'm dealing with at the moment is imposter syndrome since I've never been surrounded with such amazing people.
@@Matty7272So does she basically get half of everything you make and half of all the assets you had together (i.e .house). Half of your potential pension, etc?
@@Matty7272 Are you in the US? I'm in Canada, wonder if the same laws apply here. Not even 50 / 50. Why would she get 60%? Man at least you have more peace in you life, money aint everything.
This is true I recently left and stopped associating with my friends from the past who , have always made me feel tired , stressed, and anxious, with anxiety, and not to mention borderline bored 🥱 no matter where we would go , because I needed change in my life and these friends where holding me back. It’s been 3 years and been positive about everything in general with more energy, life and vitality and have found a significant other 😊
I had an ex who fit a lot of these descriptions, as well as a guy who I thought was my friend. Cut them both loose, been happy ever since. I removed a lot of people from my life this year.
You just described why 99% of the people I know are just acquaintances. And the other 1% I rarely see or talk to. Then again, I’ve always been a loner and I just stay working…
Same here. Had a socalled fried from Grade five. Im 30 now. His disrespectful and condescending behavior tendencies were always there. I just never really grasped it or put it off. Not anymore. Enough is enough. So goodbye to a person that probably wasn't a friend a long time ago.
I find myself in this situation where i have a friend that i known since kindergarden. The problem is that i just keep seeing behaviors like unreliability, incompetence or that thay are just making me feel like im in the wrong "room". How can i find a easier way to just let go of them.
Its funny how just about all of these describe my father. Thats why after years of putting up with this, hoping he would change.. I cut him out of my life, at least until I have achieved what I am set out to do with my life. He always made me feel low and low energy, always talking about how great he is and how hard his life is, when in reality he has it all.. it just sucks up too much of your energy. Ive lost potential marriage mates and life opportunities because of him.. I always had to put him first, his temporary benefit always led to my permanent detriment. After 35 years of that.. I had to do whats healthy for me.
Think my dad has some of those qualities, mostly anger and putting others down, and pessimism. I wonder does that come from insecurity? I wonder if I also have the same traits from my father, and hiw I should work on them.
Haha man my best friend is named Antonio. He’s like a brother man. We met when we were 7 and 8. Now he will be 24 soon and I’ll be 23. Always been close
Was friends with people who talked shit in rooms I wasn't in for 15 years who in in 3:58 directly disrespected me and did favors for me to keep me blind last 2 years I've opened my eyes and disconnected myself from people I thought we're friends now I'm 27 and have no friends
Alpha every board room needs one pessimist. They keep the company or group grounded in reality. When you have s bunch of people that agree with you on everything they will allow you to do things that lead to ruin. They bring a different perspectives and ideas.
You can so be a sigma man and care about no one and don't even need friend. You know why cuz other don't like you they like how they shine in your eyes. You then able realize who you truly are and not who the other want see.
Sometimes, we MUST be COLD! Especially if we were raised to be the nice guy to everyone. It's a privilege to know someone. You break that/disrespect that, YOU'RE OUT! And this time, we will get the last laugh when that person who betrayed you or used you spirals downward. Ups & downs happen to everyone. A real one will be there for you when you are in both, not just being on top of the mountain.
Life is so crazy right now, at 30 I feel like i'm at a crossroads. I've been out of work since the end of December so during this period not only have i been applying for roles but i've been trying to better myself in other area especially the people i surround myself with. Recently i've come across content like this that has encouraged me to start silently dropping people, particularly one individual who as mad as it seems i could literally make a case for him for every single type in this video. In my heart, like must people, I knew i should have dropped certain people years ago but out of the fear of loneliness I didn't. But I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from me
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I “broke up” with a close friend of two decades several years ago. There are/were MANY reasons for this (loser mentality, jealous of anyone else’s good fortune, very angry drunk, had extreme political views, etc..), but I still too think about him and wish to myself that he would snap out of it. It’s unfortunate, but hanging out became a chore
You just described a lot of good reasons to break up with a friend.
Another would be money which is why I broke with a good friend with and lost ten grand over.
Now that I am wiser I won't tell anyone If I won the lottery except Centrelink otherwise I will get hit hard financially and probably have a criminal conviction against my name.
Most politically obsessed guys have these traits. Victim mentality, lazy, constantly negative and miserable.
Given a short time ANYONE will betray you. Guaranteed. Realize that and you will be much better prepared for life.
Given a short time?
Cynical AND wrong.
@@MikBak1814 Tell me you are gullible without telling me.
Be mindful that at anytime, anyone would be capable of betraying you.
Don’t let that stop you form trusting people. Be open and willing to let go when necessary.
I feel like the secret message of this video is "14 Things to Avoid to in Order to _be_ a Quality Friend" -- if we don't want friends with these bad traits, then _we, ourselves,_ should also work to avoid having these bad traits. Great video, Alpha!
Always look in the mirror first
I've been down this road sooooooo many damn times, it's not even funny. I totally relate and understand this. Unfortunately, loyalty, honour and honesty are in VERY short supply with people you meet in life. I am in no way perfect, I have let down others too, but I keep trying. I try to be better, I try like like Aaron always teaches, every single day. The difference is, those that you had to leave behind, or go a different direction from, don't. They never try and often, they don't even want to or see what they are doing wrong. It's sad, but I'm done beating myself up about it, their loss.
Onwards and upwards fratello!
T.
People who appear high class but act low class. Money cannot cover a lack of class, no matter how much you have. The way people speak, act and conduct themselves in public says a lot. F-bombs every 5 seconds labels where you came from. Be courteous, respectful, build up your friends....that's the mark of a real man.
Very good points Aaron. Many needed to hear this.
Get rid of the anchor if it's pulling down the ship!
I ended a friendship almost 4 years ago. He pretty much was most of the things in this video (jealousy, never owned to his mistakes, narcissist, irresponsible, childish). The list goes on. I haven't talked to him since. He came to my job 2 months ago but I didn't say anything to him. I couldn't even look him in the eye. Sometimes I think about the good times we had but I know I can't go back to that because of the way he is. I hope he gets himself together but something tells me that he won't. Choose your friends wisely, people.
Relatable, had a very similar story.
I love how this also is a great guide of bad habits to avoid in life. Great one as always AM!
This video hit home in a very real way. Thank you for uploading it.
Well said. We all run into these people and they can drain you. Toxic. You don't need that drama in your life!!
Last year i had to let go of one of my best mates peter due to him having a severe pot and cocaine addiction. Dude is 30 year old, lives at his parents with no rent and has NO money. I told him what he needed to hear (he needs to go to rehab) but he didn't take it well. This year i had to let go of my other best mate because he's irresponsible, told me he will never have money because he loves cocaine. This is what happens when people who have no ambition, hopes and dreams get into drugs. They get lost in it. Stay away.
This was some badly needed video for me right now. Keep making such amazing videos Aaron!
"You pinned the tail on the donkey".........i unfortunately had to end a close friendship/brother about 3 years ago ....i met him in 1971 being my neighbor across the street...we became fast friends that lasted 50 years until i found out the ugly truth...he's a narcissist ......really lowered the boom on me.....yeah! Everything you said about a narcissist is true....blew my mind....my life is better
Thank you very much Alpha. I met someone yesteday that i have been chatting to for a while now and heartbreakingly he has allot of theses types of people in his life at the moment. And has some of the qualities that you have mentioned here. I have forwarded the link to this video to him in the humble hopes that he can go and analise his friends and himself and will maybe try and change. I dont want to give up on him as I believe that he was not always like that. Thank you all the way from South Africa.
I’m certainly guilty of some of these myself (e.g. pessimism and unreliable, the latter from years ago where I’d intentionally or unintentionally ditch group plans day of), and only time will tell if dropping these people was the right call, but I can say definitively that so far I’m more focused on myself and my well being/goals and have less stress, which is great.
Great vid man, content that lots of ppl actually need to hear. Your network is your net worth.
Thank You Alpha M for this Advice🥰 You're giving advice what our parents didn't teach us
You listed all the qualities my family has, particularly my mom.
Don’t let them being “family” make you think they’re for you. They can only give so much advice. You take it from here on now.
Yeah I love my mom to death but she is the most negative person that I know. She has so many great things in her life but all she wants to talk about is what is going wrong in her life or the lives of other friends/family. It can be very drianing and I worry about what effects it will have on her long term health.
I know the beginning of this vid is a “sales pitch” for the Alpha Mpire but I can say the course and the folks in the group have been a Godsend to me. As a beginner in entrepreneurship, everyone from beginner success story to the folks that are already successful, have been the highest caliber of people to interact with. I am grateful for the Mpire community and to Aaron for building it!!! Everything else in this vid is on point! Thanks Aaron:-)
I agree with all you say but this means pretty much 9/10 people can't be your friends. Most people nowadays cheat, lie, jealous, negative.
Not true. You sound like the negative friend
You haven't met the right people yet.
Infinite like-minded MINDSET Aaron! Let's change the world brother 💪 👊
Here’s one of the best quotes I’ve heard and it goes like this everyone will show you who they are in the end you just need to give them time and space no mask can be worn forever
alpha thank you for this vid because two days ago i saw a highs school friend i haven’t seen in 3 years because i’ve been focus on my self and building my self & when i meet up with him ask for $20 bucks i went out of my way to lend them to him but when i asked for them back it took 2 days and me being annoying to get my money back thats how i re-open my eyes that this guy is no good because he’s still doing the same shit not being responsible & being a loser
I’m a narcissist cuz nobody supports me other than my family. I’m alone most of my days so I’m really all I have for motivation. I may be self centered but I’d definitely say I’m a humble person in public & good friend. I just rely on myself for motivation & a “hype up”. It’s kept me from serious depression
Be careful who you trust!
I honestly just want to be your friend. You just described everyone around me. I have not found one person that connects with me on our level. Would love a chance to have any interaction with you at all. Hope things are great and that someday we have an opportunity to connect. Your an awesome guy Aaron.
It's tough to do but it has to be done. Had a really close friend who literally fits in most of these categories. We would plan things weeks in advance and he would constantly cancel last minute on me. Lied about his drinking problem and would make up things we could do but only wanted me to stop by to bring him to a package store. We had a lot of good times and at times miss those times but its was such a chore to put up with and I don't miss that.
This pretty much rules out nearly everyone, in reality. I've cut all these types out of my life in order to be more, because I had the friend who put a baby in my girlfriend, I've had business partners who literally screwed me for years of work. Being alone is much easier, and consistently happier. Unfortunately, pessimism seeps in.
Even those manosphere men's groups who view life through a superficial lens and advocate cheating because "it's in your biology" is just pathetic. Seriously, if a man can't control his biological urges, why would I trust him in any other situation.
I think being alone is fine if you're not someone who is prone to loneliness. If you're someone who can handle loneliness in a stoic and sober-minded kind of way, then being alone won't affect you. I just would not want to be the kind of person who doesn't have any friends because I'm just too good for everyone else, because I'm not that kind of person. And also because I remember how shitty it was to literally have no friends. Of course that's just me and I'm not speaking for everyone, including you. I think it's different for everyone.
@@andrewtuttle9682 True, everyone is different. I used to have a rather large friend circle despite never being on social media. I would know someone everywhere I went. Now I'm happier, the less I see anyone. Got so tired of being everyone's "go-to" guy or emotional tampon. Nothing but crickets when I needed someone to lean on through tough times. Most were fairweather friends I guess. Such is life.
Some friends when you outgrow them you need to keep moving. But other friends you outgrow, I think whether by example or advice, one should try and help them grow vs give up on them. Happens in many situations.
You have my respect! Stay Real!
Once again, disagree on the loser part. If your friend isn't motivated that doesn't mean you can't be. If your friend sits around all day smoking weed and playing games, it doesn't mean you have to. Some friends take different paths in life. Some guys are happy working a 40+ hour a week job while other guys want more and they're still friends. If you're the type of guy that drops someone as a friend because they're not motivated and okay with being average, than you're the one doing that person a favor because you were never a friend.
Wish more people thought like you!!!! Why can't so many people understand that?
Also, "loser" is kind of a relative term. If the guy who smokes weed and plays video games on his days off is happy living that way and has a lot of friends and a girlfriend who loves him, I don't consider that guy to be a loser. Meanwhile if your boss who is not all that nice of a person and mistreats you at work and doesn't have any friends and is in a failing relationship with his wife who cheats on him, I would say that guy is much more of a loser then the other guy even if your boss meets more of the criteria that one has to meet to be considered successful in a western capitalist society. I say that because I know people like that and most of them are the biggest losers I know, even if society doesn't agree that they are. Having money isn't the be all, end all for being happy or successful in life, and people need to remember that.
@@Freshsink950 I think there are but sadly, after reading a number of comments on here, there aren't many of them on here.
I agree with you guys.
@@andrewtuttle9682 Sadly there are a lot of people who, without even knowing the person, will judge the guy who smokes weed and plays video games and call him a loser. Meanwhile the other guy, simply because he is a boss and no doubt wears nicer clothes is considered something better. That's what this guy is pushing. He's pushing the idea that image matters above all.
Great video Aaron, thanks for your advice.
Unfortunately, what if some of these people are my closest family..? 😕
Another thing I would like to point out is that I get what you're saying about being pessimistic Aaron, but in my opinion it's also pretty hard to stay positive in this world when we're living in these crazy times with all shit crop going on. It feels like the whole world's gone crazy lol.
Cheers 👍
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True about friends that cheat on their significant other. Had a coworker friend who ironically was an awesome friend until the woman he was cheating with broke up with him. He became extremely insecure, jealous and a backstabber.
Humans have flaws. Nobodys perfect. The best friends are ones whom point out these flaws or tendencies to help them realize their wrongs. Dont just drop your friends because you recognize their flaws. Give them a chance to right their wrongs.
I've been wanting to start a business for years because I was sick and tired of dealing with the different businesses i've worked for. I can't wait to start the program and finally do what I've wanted to do for over 15 years.
As for the losers/drug users, That might explain why I don't like being around my brother-in-law.
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Thank you!!
Edit: I understand some people have a "wind-up," but his wind-up is too long
Just watch the whole video. It’s all good advice
The b-roll/photo selection points are hilariously savage
My thoughts exactly! 😂
Unfortunately ive had all these friends because of the lack of experience of people i once had. I left them years ago and Now i know how to find the right people.
You are the man Alpha! You give me hope for society. Would love to get a fresh haircut at your establishment. I live in NC, but it would be worth the drive! Keep rockn!
Quite a few people are cannabis consumers and successful. I graduated from law school a semester early while occasionally consuming cannabis. I also worked for the largest MSOs across the country. Cannabis allowed me to travel the country as a compliance Auditor and Manager. Also, it's possible to blame others (opposing side in a lawsuit) and take responsibility for your own mistakes. In the legal field, you literally have to know how to blame others if you want to win.
Someone once told me “a liar is the cheat is a thief! “.
This is such a great video, on point with each type of people to avoid!
if you want to be a successful parent, spouse, or person in general nowadays you essentially need to delete all your friends. Your world needs to be your family. It's really hard, but if you're still going out drinking and socializing with your single friends, it's not going to go well and will all eventually blow up anyway. it's really hard, and like alpha said i still think about those people all the time.
So have no friends at all? Not even go out golfing with a buddy or two?
@@Mav0585no, it is a goal in life
Yes, you are absolutely right, a year ago I also thought that they were my good friends but they were toxic people, now I also broke up with the friendship.
Sorry that happened... stay awesome sir 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
My dad was narcissistic, only cared about himself drained my energy, used me to make himself better, always envious of me
Well being an alpha can be a lonely path. Hope you all guys work on yourself and surround yourselves with ppl that genuinely care about ur relation with them
i had to learn this rule as a teenager with all the moves we had growing up. it only enhanced when i got into the US Army. you really have to be aware of who you surround yourself with.
Man I hate pessimists the most! Backstabbers too are the worst.
Lrarn about ehy people are fucjing sad and shit you probably say the stupid fuckin sauing good vibes only
I keep people at arms distance. I’ll be respectful but once they screw up I’m ghosting. No need to “break up”
All that you said is true but keep in mind friends, real friends are hard to find.
So it’s okay to be by yourself instead of rotten demons.
I have a great significant other, she’s my friend.
This is a powerful message 💯🎯
This list of traits covers everyone. Plus you can't just choose the people you want around you.
Why can’t you choose the type of people you want around you ?
Excellent video!
Panning to the White House broke me 😂
Excellent video
Keep it up man on your videos hope to see more
By seeing the thumbnail, I thought we should avoid bald friends and friends with big beard
All very true valid points. Excellent
The most hated ones are gossipers and narcissistics, they just see themselves as perfect and you feel you can't convince them otherwise, losers and liars are easier to convince or counteract to their actions than narcissistic people and gossipers
Great video and topic!
I lost 1/2 of my friends but its because of no support from them when i needed them most some also one stabbed me in the back
Thank you, you have helped me know what to do.
Thanks bro ... ur vids are awesome
I had an employee which I made the mistake to give 100% of my trust. I also gave many advices to his daughter because she wanted to be entrepreneur. After everything I did for them and helped them, I found out that he was stealing my product templates and blueprints trying to replicate my products and sell them by himself. When i found out I made a promise to never trust anyone like that anymore
I love your videos and you only speak facts and sensible stuff ❤️🔥
Couldn't agree with you more Aaron. Sadly I came to the realisation that my wife of 20+ years embodied a lot of these characteristics so I made the tough decision of leaving her. Looking back, it was the best thing I ever did and now I'm actively seeking out and surrounding myself with others that inspire me and wow has life changed. My biggest issue that I'm dealing with at the moment is imposter syndrome since I've never been surrounded with such amazing people.
Was your marriage break up expensive? Or wa she the bread winner?
@raczyk I was the bread winner and she was on government benefits so it's costing me big time.
@@Matty7272So does she basically get half of everything you make and half of all the assets you had together (i.e .house). Half of your potential pension, etc?
@raczyk yeah. The entire assets including superannuation that I've received so far for my working career will be likely split 60%/40% in her favour.
@@Matty7272 Are you in the US? I'm in Canada, wonder if the same laws apply here. Not even 50 / 50. Why would she get 60%?
Man at least you have more peace in you life, money aint everything.
I prefer to keep my independence by keeping my distance. I have friends but not close friends. This way you avoid disappointment
Success isn’t measured bye $$$$.
Brutal Truth
Is it good to have friends who call you out for your bullshit?
In recent times Is becoming difficult to find people like us
This is true I recently left and stopped associating with my friends from the past who , have always made me feel tired , stressed, and anxious, with anxiety, and not to mention borderline bored 🥱 no matter where we would go , because I needed change in my life and these friends where holding me back. It’s been 3 years and been positive about everything in general with more energy, life and vitality and have found a significant other 😊
I had an ex who fit a lot of these descriptions, as well as a guy who I thought was my friend. Cut them both loose, been happy ever since. I removed a lot of people from my life this year.
You just described why 99% of the people I know are just acquaintances. And the other 1% I rarely see or talk to. Then again, I’ve always been a loner and I just stay working…
Random Hank has only three friends: Random Hank, Random Hank, and Random Hank
Why is Joe Rogans picture on there? I'm confused.
Click bait
My co worker is a pessimist and he is also an energy vampire and the BIGGEST pain in my 🍑 and I am looking for another job to get away from him.
Same here. Had a socalled fried from Grade five. Im 30 now. His disrespectful and condescending behavior tendencies were always there. I just never really grasped it or put it off. Not anymore. Enough is enough. So goodbye to a person that probably wasn't a friend a long time ago.
I find myself in this situation where i have a friend that i known since kindergarden. The problem is that i just keep seeing behaviors like unreliability, incompetence or that thay are just making me feel like im in the wrong "room". How can i find a easier way to just let go of them.
Great advice
Its funny how just about all of these describe my father. Thats why after years of putting up with this, hoping he would change.. I cut him out of my life, at least until I have achieved what I am set out to do with my life. He always made me feel low and low energy, always talking about how great he is and how hard his life is, when in reality he has it all.. it just sucks up too much of your energy. Ive lost potential marriage mates and life opportunities because of him.. I always had to put him first, his temporary benefit always led to my permanent detriment. After 35 years of that.. I had to do whats healthy for me.
Think my dad has some of those qualities, mostly anger and putting others down, and pessimism. I wonder does that come from insecurity? I wonder if I also have the same traits from my father, and hiw I should work on them.
I was the person people avoid.
I am sick and need help.
Love your videos bro keep up the good work
Haha man my best friend is named Antonio. He’s like a brother man. We met when we were 7 and 8. Now he will be 24 soon and I’ll be 23. Always been close
Some of these people are your family members . . .
Was friends with people who talked shit in rooms I wasn't in for 15 years who in in 3:58 directly disrespected me and did favors for me to keep me blind last 2 years I've opened my eyes and disconnected myself from people I thought we're friends now I'm 27 and have no friends
Cheating isn’t necessarily that bad depending on where you’re from. I look at it like a concubine.
Good advice. I cannot stand to be around gunners .. gunna do this gunna do that and they do NO thing ..
Wow.... great video great advice
4:52 - it's Nikocado Avocado. Bit harsh using his image when discussing losers, as he currently has 3.78M subscribers to his TH-cam channel
Much needed atm 1 min in let's see if it helps.
Joe Rogan is the man
So basically don’t be friends with you?
Alpha every board room needs one pessimist. They keep the company or group grounded in reality. When you have s bunch of people that agree with you on everything they will allow you to do things that lead to ruin. They bring a different perspectives and ideas.
#15 is one I can't be friends with. It's the guy who has to be the loudest in the room. Who's always bragging about everything he's doing or done.
You can so be a sigma man and care about no one and don't even need friend. You know why cuz other don't like you they like how they shine in your eyes. You then able realize who you truly are and not who the other want see.
Sometimes, we MUST be COLD! Especially if we were raised to be the nice guy to everyone. It's a privilege to know someone. You break that/disrespect that, YOU'RE OUT! And this time, we will get the last laugh when that person who betrayed you or used you spirals downward. Ups & downs happen to everyone. A real one will be there for you when you are in both, not just being on top of the mountain.
Life is so crazy right now, at 30 I feel like i'm at a crossroads. I've been out of work since the end of December so during this period not only have i been applying for roles but i've been trying to better myself in other area especially the people i surround myself with. Recently i've come across content like this that has encouraged me to start silently dropping people, particularly one individual who as mad as it seems i could literally make a case for him for every single type in this video. In my heart, like must people, I knew i should have dropped certain people years ago but out of the fear of loneliness I didn't. But I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from me