I would disagree on the loose tie. Certainly, for formal meetings, one should look himself up and down and neaten before showing face. However, it is not actually collar healthy to have tight collar and tie, all the time. I guess, having the collar size so it is not a tight fit around the neck is the best place to start. That way, the tie could be neat without the incremental cutoff of blood to the brain, which is real.
Do not forget to include your neck in your skincare routine. There are so many men with 30 year old skin on their face and 50 year old skin on their neck.
What my father taught me as a young woman: When I was 18 he took me out to a fancy restaurant (just he and I). He showed me how to drink, how to use the right forks and knives, the napkin, how to allow the man to pull out the chair, etc. I never forgot that wonderful gesture. It must have been tough for him, being a horse trainer and cowboy. But I learned what to expect of a gentleman and how I deserved to be with one.
Always stand when a lady enters a room ( a private room, not, say, a restaurant). If dining, stand when a lady leaves the table and when she returns. A man should never let a lady seat herself,or waitstaff do it. When walking with a lady, a gentleman should always be closest to the street. A gentleman does not harangue people on the street. Courteous words or hard blows are his languages. A gentleman must make sure those around him feel comfortable and safe at all times.
James, I am a 73 aged man and my father taught me all of these. You are so right about this and I hope Gen Z brings all this back. I want to see people appreciate dressing well and acting well in the future.
@@rwither1 You’re a therapist? I guess the Medical community condones drinking fancy alcohol in morning. My friend did you even watch what this man is saying. His whole point is wearing fancy suits, putting skin conditioner on after shaving makes you a man…. STOP!!!! That has nothing to do with being a man. Being a man has to do with responsibilities and respecting yourself and others. He can drink the most expensive wine and dine at the fanciest restaurants, that does not make him a man. There are a whole list of “Men” that dress well and go to expensive restaurants. Let’s name a couple PDiddy, Jeffrey Epstein, Harvey Weinstein. The list could go on and on. I guess the medical community calls these people “Men”. You might want to rewrite the definition of a male in the medical books you were studying.Just food for thought.
@@mrmcgooo3198 Wow, sounds like you need to familiarize yourself with logical fallacies, cognitive bias, and false pairing. Just because two men like to dress well doesn't mean they're anything alike. I've seen plenty of grungy hipsters and beer-belly rednecks here in California who are walking embarrassments well beyond their "style". Sure, I'll give credit where it's due - a "man" is defined by his actions. I'm pretty sure James has made that point several times. That it's the man who makes the outfit. Hopefully you know how to both not fear getting dirty to do hard work, but also know how to dress well for proper occasions and conduct yourself as a gentleman.
@@sebastianashbury2478 I guess Sebastian, your dad dressed you and told you how to Windsor knot your tie! I guess that makes you a man. I guess all these working class blue collar guys don’t cut as a man. I guess all the studying you did about men’s physiology works well with your patients. I’m glad it cuts it for you!!!!!
My dad taught me: 1. The drink you start with is the drink you finish with. NEVER mix!! If you start with a vodka drink, stay with vodka. 2. NEVER get sloppy drunk or lose your cool when drinking. Drink to socialize, never to get drunk. 3. News Years Eve is a giant, money wasting scam, stay home! Have friends over and do a dinner or small party. Don't go out on amateur night. 4. Always be polite and mind your manners (that my parents taught me). You will stand out in all the right ways and people will want you around. There are plenty more but these are just the socializing tips he taught me. My dad just passed away in May at 91, I think about these things a lot now.
@@Gent.Z You have a really good channel. I look forwards to your posts. I was born in Chicago and raised on the south side. I just moved back to Illinois after 40 years living in Austin, Texas. I retired and needed to get out of Texas. I'm an older subscriber, 62. Also, I inherited my dads suits. All from the 1960's....and the jackets fit me perfect! Just have to get the pants altered. I'm a slender fit with a 31 waist. He had a beautiful London Fog great coat thats just stunning! Now I have the cooler weather to wear it. Cheers!
The most flattering compliment I’ve ever received was from girlfriends of my two sons who thanked me for raising them as true gentlemen. My father raised me well and it feels great hearing that I’ve successfully done the same with my boys.
When my son was 17, I bought him a navy blue Hickey Freeman suit, making sure it had enough fabric for sleeve, waist and hem alterations. (He was 6'1" then, now 6'3"). Excellent purchase. He's worn it for many occasions and all seasons. I recommend that every young man purchase a good quality navy blue suit.
I'm graduating next year and here in Sweden it's customary to wear a suit as there are various parties and celebrations associated with it, I'm thinking of getting one from the classic tailoring house Ströms that has it's own store in central Stockholm since the 30s, feels like it'd be a cooler than getting the same electric blue slim cut suit from the mall like everybody else will🙏🏾🙏🏾
The most important lesson my father taught me but never outright said it is always exude inner confidence. There’s nothing less attractive than person doesn’t appear to feel comfortable in their own skin and is downbeat…
James, you know this is a topic I'm really passionate about. For anyone whose father was MIA or maybe just imperfect on imparting these lessons, fatherhood represents an opportunity to break that cycle and create a new legacy, both for ourselves and the next generations of young men.
@@Gent.Z Much agreed! Thankfully, my grandfather was that role for me, but I still had a lot to figure out on my own. Now, as a father of a 4-year-old, I raise her to see my example of better standards she should one day seek in a man (above all, someone who respects and values her).
I taught my son and daughter to greet people with a firm handshake and look them in the eye. My son (15y) met a friend of my wife recently and nailed it. I was so proud. He shook hands like he was a gentleman. Afterwards, I complemented him and he told me he remembered me telling him that it was important to do that. I almost cried…
My Dad was in the army and taught me many sartorial skills like: Ironing and pressing (yes there is a difference), polishing shoes... but the one that always sticks with me is...how to tie a bow tie. On top of that, the three standard tie knots: Windsor, Half Windsor and four in hand along with the correct collar spread.
As a 50 y/o I absolutely enjoy your content. You have a new subscriber from Mexico City. I’m learning a lot and how you make sound the English language is inspirational. You are helping me polish mine.
I gave my son his first watch then some years after my father passed I gave him his watch, I didn't see the point in delaying the transition to him as the next owner and today it is his favourite watch.
One of the most important videos for any young person to watch. Too many people at my school refuse to take pride In their appearance with shirts untucked ties barely tied on and all of the buttons done up on their blazers. I am happy to say my father taught me most of these basic things.
I had to teach myself how to ride a bike, ties shoes and many other basics things. My mom died young and dad dropped me off and cps. Thank you for the advice on things to teach my kids. Thank you for theses videos
Dressing has nothing to do with being a man, acting like James Bond does not make you a man. Having an English stuffy accent has nothing to do with being a man. Being a man has nothing to do with skin. I guess drinking in the morning makes you a man. Being a man is not bought it is learned and earned. You cannot buy it. Yes it starts with your Dad or some strong male figure in your life. Young men do not listen to this fool. Being a man is being responsible , strong which doesn’t mean violence or cruelty. Respecting yourself and other people in your life. Treating your spouse with respect and understanding. Being a man cannot be bought, so this so called “classy” guy is great for clicks. He is so off base, he is trying to say being a man is a vanity. It is not the tie you wear or the alcohol you drink or skin conditioner you use. FACT!!!
You are 100% correct. You can wear the most expensive suit you can buy, drink the finest liquor and have the smoothest skin and still not be a man. Being a man isn’t about looking like one, it’s about doing what a man does, owning up to your responsibilities, providing for your family, taking care of a loved one and making sacrifices for your family. Real men aren’t obsessed about their suits looking perfect, or having a refined liquor collection. “Beautiful things don’t ask for attention”. If anything, this guy is the furthest thing from a man, a poser, a wannabe who screams out loud: “ Please look at me, I am a real man, look at my suit and tie and look I drink liquor in the morning”. I cannot believe all the people praising him in the comments about how elegant and how much of a man he is… This guy probably grew up in a upper-middle class family and never had to worry about the next day or had to work a day in his life that’s why he is cosplaying a man and filming himself.
Great content. You are hitting the nail on the head. This video brings some othe points to mind. • If pants have belt loops, wear a proper belt • Don't stand with both your hands in you pocket. One hand only if the environment is fitting. • tie your shoes properly with the bow neatly across the shoe. If the bow doesn't lay across the shoe, it's not tied correctly and will come untied regularly. I prefer the "better bow" it never comes untied and is very neat.
Thank you for making this video, my father left when I was 15 and he never learned me how to shave, dress well, how to carry yourself and so on. I've had to learn a lot by myself, so videos like this helps a ton. I'm 19 now, and really feel like I'm becoming the man I truly want to be.
My father did not tell me many of these things. He told me how to be a good man and a good human. He taught me many little things that helped me throughout my life. You would freak at my daily working wardrobe. I wore a uniform for 36 years even though I was a senior manager. Ties were forbidden because they are not safe.
My dad taught me many things. But two that stick out are. Family is everything when everyone abandons you family is always there. Second, always be ready to go the extra mile to succeed, you go a step higher ,if someone goes higher you go two steps higher. This is why a dad is important to the family unit. Great video.
I absolutely love wearing a watch. You can easily check the time without taking out your phone (and if it is dead) and it is also just a solid accessory
I’m glad I grew up w/ my Dad. Was interested to see what points this video hit. He always told me very willing to learn. So here we go Dad. Learning for you.
Your pause for refreshment brought to mind an iron rule. Always pour liquor into a shot glass, then to the drinking container. Know how much alcohol you are taking into your body. Never "free pour" from the bottle. It is inelegant, and a sure path to overindulgence.
I’d like to correct the intro to the video, it’s not that bots grow up without a strong and masculine father, it’s that they aren’t growing up with one.
A couple of months ago, I was doing renovation work at a Chinese restaurant. I happened to notice a young couple having lunch at a table in another section of the restaurant. The young lady was casually well-dressed and quite attractive. Her date on the other hand... his outer 10:10 shirt was untucked and unbuttoned... his hair was uncombed and due for a trim. And worst of all, he was wearing a ball cap pulled down low on his head. I felt bad for the young lady as I believe that she deserved more respect from her companion. I also felt bad for the young man. I wanted desperately to take him aside and politely give him advice on style and courtesy, especially regarding wearing the hat while seated. I decided that it wasn't my place to correct him, but silently thanked my luck in raising two sons who know how to conduct themselves.
I agree with the D pics and the watch. I have an old Apple Watch and am not using it anymore. I am going to ask for my 44th B Day next week, or Christmass for a Bolova metal watch. Prob silver. Something I can dress up with. Then a citizen for work..
At my age now which is 72 back in my very young days it was all about manners and courtesy. Any adult was either Mr or Mrs, Miss until such time as you were given by them the choice to use a Christian name . Please and thank you were bye words . A whole lot more goes with this . Celebrating was done modestly and polite and sincere congratulations were offered minus back slapping and high fives .
My dad was a blue collar worker. He taught me to ride a bike. He gave me my first beer. He was never a man of many words but if there was something that needed doing or if anyone needed help, he would just get up and get on with it, never complaining once. If someone needs help, you help. I strive to do the same wherever I can. He taught me that slow is smooth and smooth is fast. Diving head first into a project might be fun but you are bound to leave a few loose ends that will come back to haunt you. So paying attention to the little details was one of his lessons. Because if you mess up the foundation by rushing it, you create extra work for yourself further down the line. Skin care consisted of good but cheap shower gel, strong soap and for particularly bad cases of being dirty, the washing paste you use to get oil and engine grease off your hands. It was rounded off by using a hand moisturiser cream because the washing paste (it was based on a mixture of some soapy stuff and sand, I guess), while extremely effective, was also very aggressive and made your skin so dry it would crack. Which was painful, so the cream was always on hand. He would bring boxes of tubes of that cream („Lindesa K“) as well as tubs of washing paste from the car factory. Drinking was also a big topic. My dad was never one to turn down a drink back in his day. A pint during lunch break was completely normal back then. So was a celebratory drink for a colleague’s birthday during night shifts. Vodka was the usual drink of choice for that (he had many Polish colleagues), which may or may not have become more than one - which might have left him legally unfit to drive a car. But…needs must, apparently, and he drove home, arriving safely. His remark on one such occasion was „Well, in retrospect that wasn’t very smart of me“. He was never an alcoholic though. His lesson was that „You don’t need to drink to you limit. But you know you have reached your limit for the day when it stops tasting good. If you keep drinking at that point, you are an idiot. Have some water. You should also always know how to get home.“ Suits were never a big thing. It was something you had to wear for certain occasions but that was maybe once or twice a year. Still, he taught me how to put on a tie. Watches also were not really a thing because my dad never wore any because of his work. Operating heavy machinery and wearing watches do not mix well. Same for rings. He did own some though. I don’t like wearing suits. It’s just not me. I do wear rings though. One black tungsten carbide ring and my dad’s plain and simple gold signet ring with an obsidian in it. It was a wedding gift from my mother to him and to me is absolutely priceless. Side note on gold rings: when you pull one out of a drawer where it sat like 30 years it might look tarnished. No need to break out the Brasso though. Just put it on and wear it. The lustre will come back by itself. I do wear an Apple Watch. But am looking for an analog time piece. Not sure which kind yet.
For me personally, the last rule just came into effect a few days ago: I do want to erase or at least minimize stress in my life (being a father of two teenage girls, with a chronically sick wife at home and self-eployed, that's actually NOT easy). I just take everything a bit slower - only a bit, and it does start to work wonders. Take the stairs at home a bit slower. Finish any task with ease before starting a new one, don't interrupt yourself or let yourself be interrupted (only in emergency cases, love being one of them). Drive more slowly and less aggressively. Do the routine work at work (or at home) with less haste. Get enough sleep. And, something that's a constant work in progress: declutter your stuff! I could go on...
My father gave me his old seiko watch from the when I was a teenager. it has an automatic movement, which broke and because it was an old watch it was rather expensive and difficult to fix. I had a smartphone at the time so I just stopped wearing a watch. I was starting a job where I couldn’t have my phone so I bought a classic but in expensive Casio watch. Since I’ve had it people are regularly approaching me to ask the time. And it turns out it has been a great unexpected way to meet people and become integrated into the new local community.
James, this is the second video in a row where hair has been a major point. Don't lose your bald fans!! 🤣 I gave up the ghost about 5 years ago, began shaving the head rather than lying to myself, and absolutely love it. I shave it in the shower every Mon, Wed, Fri, so it never gets a chance to look scruffy. I keep it healthy looking with lotion and a daily sunscreen. My beard stays well-groomed and moisturized/styled with a wonderful beard balm. Keep putting out the incredible videos, my friend. Congrats again on the well deserved 100K!
If you are experiencing hair loss, absolutely nothing wrong with shaving your head. But you don't need me to tell you that. Thanks for your comment and support.
Excellent points James. Thinly one my dad did not teach me was skin care, but then it simply wasn't that big of a deal at the time. Always enjoy your videos.
One note, rule no. 9 has been best explained by Lalon Fakir...a great sage from Bengal (Today's Bangladesh and state of West Bengal, India) with his words "আপন ভজন কথা না কহিবে যথা তথা, আপনা তে আপনি হইবে সাবধান" / "Apon Bhojon Kotha na kohibe Jotha totha, apona te aponi hoibe sabdhan" ( Meaning: You must not be boastful and loud mouth, control yourself)
A great video, as always. Nice to see you promoting Alpha M’s line of skin care too. I’m new to this channel but I do follow other Gentlemen channels too. Thanks for your work.
My father has been there for me all my life. Emotionaly, he tought me that we have been led astray to hold back all emotions. I thought of him as a hypocrite then since I have never seen him cry, but he wanted me to understand that letting emotions of sadnes free was the most manly thing one could do. But that was the point. He knows he should be able to cry, in front of men, women and all beyond. But he doesn’t because of the trauma and experiences that led him to be emotionaly removed from crying. In the last 30 years he can recall himself crying once. When his bestfriend commited suicide. But even if he knows its the right thing, he can’t bring himself to cry, because he isn’t able too anymore. Forcing it all away for 40 years removed that ability. He wants me to pass down a open and accepting world that allows men to cry. I will do anything to contribute to this.
With the topic of private photography. Always consider the very real possibility of the photo getting into the wrong hands. Both personally and professionally.
As a 46 year old man, I have enjoyed a hot shave with a straight razor for over 20 years. I have my own razor strop and I use a cup and brush for my cream. I've never used the moisturizers that you speak of, but I've been told that I look good for my age
I discovered your channel by chance and found it very interesting and necessary. Thank you for transmitting such good manners. Elegance and class never go out of fashion. Now my two youngest children watch your channel too. A question: "can a gentleman be a teetotaler like me?". 😂 I inherited from my father a Movado automatic gold watch with a Saint Christopher engraved on the dial in immaculate condition. A unique piece. Greetings from the south of Spain.
My dad always wore a tie, even under his boiler suit when he was working on his car! My work life was office based so I was always booted and suited and had a collection of ties about 70 strong. I retired at 50 and my ties retired too….. I haven’t worn one since my mum’s funeral seven years ago!
Another great video my man. However on the skin care thing I can't be doing all that stuff, I have tried skin care before in the past, but when your hands get covered in oil petrol tree sap cement and other nasty stuff on the job site the only thing you can do is put some sort of barrier cream on in the hopes yours knuckles will not split and bleed, no I am not joking some of us blokes have seriously mashed hands from our jobs. The only time my hands look all nice and clean is after a few days of holiday. Keep up the amazing videos we love them.
You’re still a young chap. Your hair is brilliant. My father had a full head of hair when he died. But, mine was receding at 40. I’m now 71. Instead of re-arranging the deck chairs on the Titanic, I’m shorn weekly with a number three blade. I wish I’d done so in my fifties, but am now entirely unconcerned about windy days or fluffing my coif when I remove my hat. A hat, that is, that would have been admired by Fred Astaire or William Powell. Cary didn’t wear one as often.
As always another amazing video My dad would also teach when you with a lady if it’s girlfriend or a wife always open car door for her getting in or out of your vehicle The way I see some adults dressed sloppy in public these days in our household my dad would have said you are not leaving house looking like garbage I think of his words especially when I see men go out in pj pants or sweat pants and flip flop mix
@@Gent.Z it’s always fun first time I did for now wife she was shocked but not most of her friends bug her we would welcome being treated same with their husbands
Love this!! I have 2 daughters, both of whom are fully capable of opening doors for themselves. However, they both know that if Dad is around there is absolutely no need for them to do so. Some of us Dads are also teaching our daughters how to identify gentlemen who are worthy of their attention. Those doors are simple indicators!
I've been wearing Citizen watches for over 20 years. I currently have three. A work watch, and two nice signature collection I wear on the weekends. The only other jewelry I wear is a silver curb link bracelet.
I don't really know about a "gentleman", but a "caballero" (Spanish term for gentleman) is not made out by his looks, but of how he treats people around him. Obviously you don't go out there like a wet dog, but a tie, a watch, your hair or even your skin are not what makes a caballero. Be calm, kind, well mannered, humble and always, always, helpful to others, specially if they seem to be in trouble or a bad mood. If you want to look good, that's totally fine, but a real man is respectable even in his underwear. No shade on the video, these are all interesting things, but remember guys, to be a caballero you need to build character, not looks. Greetings from Spain.
When it comes to wrist watch, I found a compromise variant in Galaxy Watch Classic. Smart watch functionality in classy casing is exactly what I was looking for.
I was fortunate to have a great relationship with my father, who always carried himself with class, gave me great advice with how to dress and treat a lady and conduct myself around adult men. My fondest memory was when my father took me to buy my first two-piece suit when I was sixteen. When the tailor approached us, my father introduced himself to the tailor, then introduced me. Making me a part of this masculine exchange made a huge impression and I've never forgotten that afternoon at the department store. It's sad that so many boys and young men do not have a strong male role model in their lives like I had.
As a Gen Z who never had a father yet by some miracle knew what it's means to be a man this is what my generation has forgotten. Honour, respect, control, God and what it means to be a gentleman.
Wear Your Tie Properly 🎩 - Keep your appearance polished; avoid loosening your tie. Don’t Send Inappropriate Photos 🚫📸 - Respect boundaries; only consider this in a committed relationship with mutual agreement. Take Care of Your Skin 🧴 - A simple skincare routine can greatly improve your appearance. Wear a Watch ⌚ - A wristwatch adds a purposeful, classic touch to your look. Dress Modestly for Weddings 🤵 - Respect the occasion with a simple, well-fitted suit as a guest. Mind Your Body Language 💪 - Good posture, confident walking, and clear speech matter. Get Regular Haircuts ✂ - Maintain a fresh, polished look with regular cuts and styling products. Appreciate Simplicity 🌅 - Value the simple pleasures in life over constant pursuit of wealth or status.
i have long hair so i use a strong hold tea tree hair gel and it has done me much good and for me personally i like the smell of tea tree, i suggest something that not only fits your hair style but your preferences too and dont be afraid to experiment
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I would disagree on the loose tie. Certainly, for formal meetings, one should look himself up and down and neaten before showing face. However, it is not actually collar healthy to have tight collar and tie, all the time. I guess, having the collar size so it is not a tight fit around the neck is the best place to start. That way, the tie could be neat without the incremental cutoff of blood to the brain, which is real.
Do not forget to include your neck in your skincare routine.
There are so many men with 30 year old skin on their face and 50 year old skin on their neck.
@@hellper198I have a HUGE beard. LOL. I do not seem to be aging like my peers either.
I want to order but they don’t deliver it to my country. Any help?
Hi James, you should have spoke on what to do if you have are balding or started balding 😃
What my father taught me as a young woman: When I was 18 he took me out to a fancy restaurant (just he and I). He showed me how to drink, how to use the right forks and knives, the napkin, how to allow the man to pull out the chair, etc. I never forgot that wonderful gesture. It must have been tough for him, being a horse trainer and cowboy. But I learned what to expect of a gentleman and how I deserved to be with one.
My father taught me that during dancing a woman should be weightless in the man's arms and to let him lead.
More men need to do this with their daughters.
Daughters will then have standards and know what to expect.
I love that idea. I have 3 little girls.
That's a good dad.
Always stand when a lady enters a room ( a private room, not, say, a restaurant).
If dining, stand when a lady leaves the table and when she returns.
A man should never let a lady seat herself,or waitstaff do it.
When walking with a lady, a gentleman should always be closest to the street.
A gentleman does not harangue people on the street. Courteous words or hard blows are his languages.
A gentleman must make sure those around him feel comfortable and safe at all times.
"In a world of Andrew Tates, you be a Cary Grant" - absolute gold. Thank you.
I was actually a bit surprised that he dissed Tate. Gent Z has gone up in my estimation.
@@waziotterthat is sad
We all need a bit of Tate.
@@moorshound3243 No we don't.
1% Tate, 99% Grant.
James, I am a 73 aged man and my father taught me all of these. You are so right about this and I hope Gen Z brings all this back. I want to see people appreciate dressing well and acting well in the future.
"my son, never take a photograph of your private parts, get it developed and send it via the post carriage to a lady unsolicited."
Thank you very much, Kenneth. We have a real movement here of young men embracing gentlemanly values.
All? I thought rule 2 is obvious without saying and thought it's just abomination of recent degeneracy.
@@Gent.ZI wear camo and love movies, I love being with my family
I hope I make people like you proud❤
Young man, your channel crushes it. As a therapist specializing in men’s issues I salute you.
Thank you very much. If you would ever like to talk further, email me at gent.z.style@gmail.com
Shame cripples most contemporary men and compels them to do very destructive things.
@@rwither1 You’re a therapist? I guess the Medical community condones drinking fancy alcohol in morning. My friend did you even watch what this man is saying. His whole point is wearing fancy suits, putting skin conditioner on after shaving makes you a man…. STOP!!!! That has nothing to do with being a man. Being a man has to do with responsibilities and respecting yourself and others. He can drink the most expensive wine and dine at the fanciest restaurants, that does not make him a man. There are a whole list of “Men” that dress well and go to expensive restaurants. Let’s name a couple PDiddy, Jeffrey Epstein, Harvey Weinstein. The list could go on and on. I guess the medical community calls these people “Men”. You might want to rewrite the definition of a male in the medical books you were studying.Just food for thought.
@@mrmcgooo3198 Wow, sounds like you need to familiarize yourself with logical fallacies, cognitive bias, and false pairing. Just because two men like to dress well doesn't mean they're anything alike. I've seen plenty of grungy hipsters and beer-belly rednecks here in California who are walking embarrassments well beyond their "style". Sure, I'll give credit where it's due - a "man" is defined by his actions. I'm pretty sure James has made that point several times. That it's the man who makes the outfit. Hopefully you know how to both not fear getting dirty to do hard work, but also know how to dress well for proper occasions and conduct yourself as a gentleman.
@@sebastianashbury2478 I guess Sebastian, your dad dressed you and told you how to Windsor knot your tie! I guess that makes you a man. I guess all these working class blue collar guys don’t cut as a man. I guess all the studying you did about men’s physiology works well with your patients. I’m glad it cuts it for you!!!!!
I taught my son : " Alcohol, like any other drug, is bad for your health".
I heard that!
Exept that its not, and when done in moderatuon its ok, if you can handle it without getting drunk and or addicted theres no issue
@@SpaceMan-w8f it decreases testosterone.
@@kalabarigamohancharan if you're scared of alcohol you have low test too
My dad taught me that alcohol is like any other food. You wouldn't drink 12 cans of Coke in two hours, don't do that with beer, etc.
My dad taught me: 1. The drink you start with is the drink you finish with. NEVER mix!! If you start with a vodka drink, stay with vodka. 2. NEVER get sloppy drunk or lose your cool when drinking. Drink to socialize, never to get drunk. 3. News Years Eve is a giant, money wasting scam, stay home! Have friends over and do a dinner or small party. Don't go out on amateur night. 4. Always be polite and mind your manners (that my parents taught me). You will stand out in all the right ways and people will want you around. There are plenty more but these are just the socializing tips he taught me. My dad just passed away in May at 91, I think about these things a lot now.
These are fantastic tips that your father shared with you. Thank you for sharing them with us.
@@Gent.Z You have a really good channel. I look forwards to your posts. I was born in Chicago and raised on the south side. I just moved back to Illinois after 40 years living in Austin, Texas. I retired and needed to get out of Texas. I'm an older subscriber, 62. Also, I inherited my dads suits. All from the 1960's....and the jackets fit me perfect! Just have to get the pants altered. I'm a slender fit with a 31 waist. He had a beautiful London Fog great coat thats just stunning! Now I have the cooler weather to wear it. Cheers!
But if I started the day with everclear I’d never get anything done! That’s why I start with vodka and work my way up to everclear!
@@christophermitchell7925 Start with a joint!!
The most flattering compliment I’ve ever received was from girlfriends of my two sons who thanked me for raising them as true gentlemen. My father raised me well and it feels great hearing that I’ve successfully done the same with my boys.
That is a clear sign of success on your part. Congratulations on a job well done, sir.
Thanks!
@@jeffreyrotsko5978 thank you
When my son was 17, I bought him a navy blue Hickey Freeman suit, making sure it had enough fabric for sleeve, waist and hem alterations. (He was 6'1" then, now 6'3"). Excellent purchase. He's worn it for many occasions and all seasons.
I recommend that every young man purchase a good quality navy blue suit.
I'm graduating next year and here in Sweden it's customary to wear a suit as there are various parties and celebrations associated with it, I'm thinking of getting one from the classic tailoring house Ströms that has it's own store in central Stockholm since the 30s, feels like it'd be a cooler than getting the same electric blue slim cut suit from the mall like everybody else will🙏🏾🙏🏾
That’s a wonderful rite of passage for a young man to get his first suit. A navy suit from Hickey Freeman is a great place to start
The most important lesson my father taught me but never outright said it is always exude inner confidence. There’s nothing less attractive than person doesn’t appear to feel comfortable in their own skin and is downbeat…
He was absolutely right about that. Thank you for sharing.
I don’t expand my inner confident but just show my confident normally (I’m not an adult)
My dad taught me never, ever, under any circumstance, talk to a cop, unless youre telling him you want a lawyer.
James, you know this is a topic I'm really passionate about. For anyone whose father was MIA or maybe just imperfect on imparting these lessons, fatherhood represents an opportunity to break that cycle and create a new legacy, both for ourselves and the next generations of young men.
You’re 100% right about that. If there are any fathers watching, I highly encourage you to check out Brad’s channel here
Hear, hear.
@@Gent.Z Much agreed! Thankfully, my grandfather was that role for me, but I still had a lot to figure out on my own. Now, as a father of a 4-year-old, I raise her to see my example of better standards she should one day seek in a man (above all, someone who respects and values her).
I taught my son and daughter to greet people with a firm handshake and look them in the eye. My son (15y) met a friend of my wife recently and nailed it. I was so proud. He shook hands like he was a gentleman. Afterwards, I complemented him and he told me he remembered me telling him that it was important to do that. I almost cried…
My Dad was in the army and taught me many sartorial skills like: Ironing and pressing (yes there is a difference), polishing shoes... but the one that always sticks with me is...how to tie a bow tie. On top of that, the three standard tie knots: Windsor, Half Windsor and four in hand along with the correct collar spread.
I’m still trying to figure out if this is a gentleman’s advice list or a comedy show…super funny 😅😅😅
As a 50 y/o I absolutely enjoy your content. You have a new subscriber from Mexico City. I’m learning a lot and how you make sound the English language is inspirational. You are helping me polish mine.
I gave my son his first watch then some years after my father passed I gave him his watch, I didn't see the point in delaying the transition to him as the next owner and today it is his favourite watch.
One of the most important videos for any young person to watch. Too many people at my school refuse to take pride In their appearance with shirts untucked ties barely tied on and all of the buttons done up on their blazers. I am happy to say my father taught me most of these basic things.
I had to teach myself how to ride a bike, ties shoes and many other basics things. My mom died young and dad dropped me off and cps. Thank you for the advice on things to teach my kids. Thank you for theses videos
Dressing has nothing to do with being a man, acting like James Bond does not make you a man. Having an English stuffy accent has nothing to do with being a man. Being a man has nothing to do with skin. I guess drinking in the morning makes you a man. Being a man is not bought it is learned and earned. You cannot buy it. Yes it starts with your Dad or some strong male figure in your life. Young men do not listen to this fool. Being a man is being responsible , strong which doesn’t mean violence or cruelty. Respecting yourself and other people in your life. Treating your spouse with respect and understanding. Being a man cannot be bought, so this so called “classy” guy is great for clicks. He is so off base, he is trying to say being a man is a vanity. It is not the tie you wear or the alcohol you drink or skin conditioner you use. FACT!!!
You are 100% correct. You can wear the most expensive suit you can buy, drink the finest liquor and have the smoothest skin and still not be a man. Being a man isn’t about looking like one, it’s about doing what a man does, owning up to your responsibilities, providing for your family, taking care of a loved one and making sacrifices for your family. Real men aren’t obsessed about their suits looking perfect, or having a refined liquor collection. “Beautiful things don’t ask for attention”. If anything, this guy is the furthest thing from a man, a poser, a wannabe who screams out loud: “ Please look at me, I am a real man, look at my suit and tie and look I drink liquor in the morning”.
I cannot believe all the people praising him in the comments about how elegant and how much of a man he is…
This guy probably grew up in a upper-middle class family and never had to worry about the next day or had to work a day in his life that’s why he is cosplaying a man and filming himself.
You're spitting facts, mate!
The rule "never send a photo of your genitals to anyone" post-dates my Dad's time. 😂
Great content. You are hitting the nail on the head.
This video brings some othe points to mind.
• If pants have belt loops, wear a proper belt
• Don't stand with both your hands in you pocket. One hand only if the environment is fitting.
• tie your shoes properly with the bow neatly across the shoe. If the bow doesn't lay across the shoe, it's not tied correctly and will come untied regularly. I prefer the "better bow" it never comes untied and is very neat.
Gent Z, the timing and editing is terrific. A number of chuckles await the Gent Z faithful.
Thank you very much
Thank you for making this video, my father left when I was 15 and he never learned me how to shave, dress well, how to carry yourself and so on. I've had to learn a lot by myself, so videos like this helps a ton.
I'm 19 now, and really feel like I'm becoming the man I truly want to be.
My father did not tell me many of these things. He told me how to be a good man and a good human. He taught me many little things that helped me throughout my life. You would freak at my daily working wardrobe. I wore a uniform for 36 years even though I was a senior manager. Ties were forbidden because they are not safe.
I really appericated the Cary Grant mention at the very end. Well done.
My dad taught me many things. But two that stick out are. Family is everything when everyone abandons you family is always there. Second, always be ready to go the extra mile to succeed, you go a step higher ,if someone goes higher you go two steps higher. This is why a dad is important to the family unit. Great video.
I absolutely love wearing a watch. You can easily check the time without taking out your phone (and if it is dead) and it is also just a solid accessory
I’m glad I grew up w/ my Dad. Was interested to see what points this video hit. He always told me very willing to learn. So here we go Dad. Learning for you.
Yeah I pretty much know all of these rules. I can hear my Dad now. Lol I’m a save this video so I can go back to it.
Your pause for refreshment brought to mind an iron rule. Always pour liquor into a shot glass, then to the drinking container. Know how much alcohol you are taking into your body. Never "free pour" from the bottle. It is inelegant, and a sure path to overindulgence.
I’d like to correct the intro to the video, it’s not that bots grow up without a strong and masculine father, it’s that they aren’t growing up with one.
A couple of months ago, I was doing renovation work at a Chinese restaurant. I happened to notice a young couple having lunch at a table in another section of the restaurant. The young lady was casually well-dressed and quite attractive. Her date on the other hand... his outer 10:10 shirt was untucked and unbuttoned... his hair was uncombed and due for a trim. And worst of all, he was wearing a ball cap pulled down low on his head. I felt bad for the young lady as I believe that she deserved more respect from her companion. I also felt bad for the young man. I wanted desperately to take him aside and politely give him advice on style and courtesy, especially regarding wearing the hat while seated. I decided that it wasn't my place to correct him, but silently thanked my luck in raising two sons who know how to conduct themselves.
I agree with the D pics and the watch. I have an old Apple Watch and am not using it anymore. I am going to ask for my 44th B Day next week, or Christmass for a Bolova metal watch. Prob silver. Something I can dress up with. Then a citizen for work..
I appreciate your comments on the wrist watch. I prefer the traditional style, it's a classic look you can't go wrong with.
I also prefer a more traditional watch. Mine is from the 1950s
I was taught most of these (except the tie and i also use a pocketwatch) and i am glad i was. Youre doing work of God man.
I agree that there is a great need of honourable young men in today’s society. I like that you put an emphasis on how to treat other people.
At my age now which is 72 back in my very young days it was all about manners and courtesy.
Any adult was either Mr or Mrs, Miss until such time as you were given by them the choice to use a Christian name .
Please and thank you were bye words .
A whole lot more goes with this .
Celebrating was done modestly and polite and sincere congratulations were offered minus back slapping and high fives .
There is definitely a strong need for manners and politeness in today's society. Thank you for your comment.
Out here with top notch advice, much of which I never got from my own dad. Good on you, James
My dad was a blue collar worker. He taught me to ride a bike. He gave me my first beer. He was never a man of many words but if there was something that needed doing or if anyone needed help, he would just get up and get on with it, never complaining once. If someone needs help, you help. I strive to do the same wherever I can.
He taught me that slow is smooth and smooth is fast. Diving head first into a project might be fun but you are bound to leave a few loose ends that will come back to haunt you. So paying attention to the little details was one of his lessons. Because if you mess up the foundation by rushing it, you create extra work for yourself further down the line.
Skin care consisted of good but cheap shower gel, strong soap and for particularly bad cases of being dirty, the washing paste you use to get oil and engine grease off your hands. It was rounded off by using a hand moisturiser cream because the washing paste (it was based on a mixture of some soapy stuff and sand, I guess), while extremely effective, was also very aggressive and made your skin so dry it would crack. Which was painful, so the cream was always on hand. He would bring boxes of tubes of that cream („Lindesa K“) as well as tubs of washing paste from the car factory.
Drinking was also a big topic. My dad was never one to turn down a drink back in his day. A pint during lunch break was completely normal back then. So was a celebratory drink for a colleague’s birthday during night shifts. Vodka was the usual drink of choice for that (he had many Polish colleagues), which may or may not have become more than one - which might have left him legally unfit to drive a car.
But…needs must, apparently, and he drove home, arriving safely. His remark on one such occasion was „Well, in retrospect that wasn’t very smart of me“. He was never an alcoholic though.
His lesson was that „You don’t need to drink to you limit. But you know you have reached your limit for the day when it stops tasting good. If you keep drinking at that point, you are an idiot. Have some water. You should also always know how to get home.“
Suits were never a big thing. It was something you had to wear for certain occasions but that was maybe once or twice a year. Still, he taught me how to put on a tie.
Watches also were not really a thing because my dad never wore any because of his work. Operating heavy machinery and wearing watches do not mix well. Same for rings.
He did own some though.
I don’t like wearing suits. It’s just not me. I do wear rings though. One black tungsten carbide ring and my dad’s plain and simple gold signet ring with an obsidian in it. It was a wedding gift from my mother to him and to me is absolutely priceless. Side note on gold rings: when you pull one out of a drawer where it sat like 30 years it might look tarnished. No need to break out the Brasso though. Just put it on and wear it. The lustre will come back by itself.
I do wear an Apple Watch. But am looking for an analog time piece. Not sure which kind yet.
I am so thankful you come out with a video at the right time!
Glad to hear it, William
We come from very different lifestyles, we don't wear suits or ties round here...just boots and blue jeans
For me personally, the last rule just came into effect a few days ago: I do want to erase or at least minimize stress in my life (being a father of two teenage girls, with a chronically sick wife at home and self-eployed, that's actually NOT easy). I just take everything a bit slower - only a bit, and it does start to work wonders.
Take the stairs at home a bit slower.
Finish any task with ease before starting a new one, don't interrupt yourself or let yourself be interrupted (only in emergency cases, love being one of them).
Drive more slowly and less aggressively.
Do the routine work at work (or at home) with less haste.
Get enough sleep.
And, something that's a constant work in progress: declutter your stuff!
I could go on...
My father gave me his old seiko watch from the when I was a teenager. it has an automatic movement, which broke and because it was an old watch it was rather expensive and difficult to fix. I had a smartphone at the time so I just stopped wearing a watch. I was starting a job where I couldn’t have my phone so I bought a classic but in expensive Casio watch. Since I’ve had it people are regularly approaching me to ask the time. And it turns out it has been a great unexpected way to meet people and become integrated into the new local community.
James, this is the second video in a row where hair has been a major point. Don't lose your bald fans!! 🤣
I gave up the ghost about 5 years ago, began shaving the head rather than lying to myself, and absolutely love it. I shave it in the shower every Mon, Wed, Fri, so it never gets a chance to look scruffy. I keep it healthy looking with lotion and a daily sunscreen.
My beard stays well-groomed and moisturized/styled with a wonderful beard balm.
Keep putting out the incredible videos, my friend. Congrats again on the well deserved 100K!
If you are experiencing hair loss, absolutely nothing wrong with shaving your head. But you don't need me to tell you that. Thanks for your comment and support.
Literally saving the lives of people who grew up without the appropriate environment... Keep up the gods work sir.
Thank you.
@@abdulrafey55 thank you very much. These kind of encouraging comments mean a lot to me.
I'm sure they do@@Gent.Z
as a teenager that is still growing up without a father, thank you for this ❤
"I wear the same wristwatch my grandfathers wore."
Christopher Walken /Bruce Willis: 🤨
Also: subbed! Love your channel
Excellent points James. Thinly one my dad did not teach me was skin care, but then it simply wasn't that big of a deal at the time. Always enjoy your videos.
Thank you. If anything, we can teach our dads about skincare!
The 8 rules of a Pretentious Douche
Just discovered this goldmine of a channel
What about hair care for those of us that are follicly challenged?
Treat the person you are speaking to as the most important person in your life right now.
A tie in my country would literally be hell because its 80 Celsius out here
One note, rule no. 9 has been best explained by Lalon Fakir...a great sage from Bengal (Today's Bangladesh and state of West Bengal, India) with his words
"আপন ভজন কথা না কহিবে যথা তথা, আপনা তে আপনি হইবে সাবধান" / "Apon Bhojon Kotha na kohibe Jotha totha, apona te aponi hoibe sabdhan"
( Meaning: You must not be boastful and loud mouth, control yourself)
Whose suit are you wearing, needs a little fitting on the arms
Man is so much civilised he wears a suit in his own house
Such a gentleman!!
A great video, as always. Nice to see you promoting Alpha M’s line of skin care too. I’m new to this channel but I do follow other Gentlemen channels too. Thanks for your work.
This dude looks like a lawyer
hey, i never mentioned it, but a video on a proper beard and moustache trim/ shave would be nice, using nonelectric razor plz.
Well done, james..excellent work
Excellent video, James. Well done. Thank you.
My father has been there for me all my life. Emotionaly, he tought me that we have been led astray to hold back all emotions. I thought of him as a hypocrite then since I have never seen him cry, but he wanted me to understand that letting emotions of sadnes free was the most manly thing one could do. But that was the point. He knows he should be able to cry, in front of men, women and all beyond. But he doesn’t because of the trauma and experiences that led him to be emotionaly removed from crying. In the last 30 years he can recall himself crying once. When his bestfriend commited suicide. But even if he knows its the right thing, he can’t bring himself to cry, because he isn’t able too anymore. Forcing it all away for 40 years removed that ability. He wants me to pass down a open and accepting world that allows men to cry. I will do anything to contribute to this.
I’m taking notes
Is it okay if you are non alcoholic in western countries, in India it is normally people don't drink beverages
anybody else grew up with parents that didnt teach you anything, but expected you to be their little mindless robot?
Be nice to everyone on your journey up because you will see every single one of them again on your way down.
Where can you find that kind of blue color for suits. They do not even exist on your recommended web site!!!!!!!!
With the topic of private photography. Always consider the very real possibility of the photo getting into the wrong hands. Both personally and professionally.
As side barber and watch my father thought me the rest, indirectly but he clearly showed it
As a 46 year old man, I have enjoyed a hot shave with a straight razor for over 20 years. I have my own razor strop and I use a cup and brush for my cream. I've never used the moisturizers that you speak of, but I've been told that I look good for my age
Well spoken, good sir.
My dad left to the milk shop before I born❤❤❤
My mother is the real Alpha female ❤❤❤😂🤫💪
I discovered your channel by chance and found it very interesting and necessary. Thank you for transmitting such good manners. Elegance and class never go out of fashion. Now my two youngest children watch your channel too. A question: "can a gentleman be a teetotaler like me?". 😂
I inherited from my father a Movado automatic gold watch with a Saint Christopher engraved on the dial in immaculate condition. A unique piece.
Greetings from the south of Spain.
I sent a movie to a woman once who has since told me that she still uses it for herself to this day.
My dad always wore a tie, even under his boiler suit when he was working on his car! My work life was office based so I was always booted and suited and had a collection of ties about 70 strong. I retired at 50 and my ties retired too….. I haven’t worn one since my mum’s funeral seven years ago!
Another great video my man.
However on the skin care thing I can't be doing all that stuff, I have tried skin care before in the past, but when your hands get covered in oil petrol tree sap cement and other nasty stuff on the job site the only thing you can do is put some sort of barrier cream on in the hopes yours knuckles will not split and bleed, no I am not joking some of us blokes have seriously mashed hands from our jobs.
The only time my hands look all nice and clean is after a few days of holiday.
Keep up the amazing videos we love them.
You’re still a young chap. Your hair is brilliant. My father had a full head of hair when he died. But, mine was receding at 40. I’m now 71. Instead of re-arranging the deck chairs on the Titanic, I’m shorn weekly with a number three blade. I wish I’d done so in my fifties, but am now entirely unconcerned about windy days or fluffing my coif when I remove my hat. A hat, that is, that would have been admired by Fred Astaire or William Powell. Cary didn’t wear one as often.
What my dad should have taught me? I was lucky to see him. If I ever wanted him I had to go get him from the pub. lol.
Grey is a classic at summer.
As always another amazing video
My dad would also teach when you with a lady if it’s girlfriend or a wife always open car door for her getting in or out of your vehicle
The way I see some adults dressed sloppy in public these days in our household my dad would have said you are not leaving house looking like garbage
I think of his words especially when I see men go out in pj pants or sweat pants and flip flop mix
@@Martin_Romanowski Your dad taught you well regarding the car door.
@@Gent.Z it’s always fun first time I did for now wife she was shocked but not most of her friends bug her we would welcome being treated same with their husbands
Love this!! I have 2 daughters, both of whom are fully capable of opening doors for themselves. However, they both know that if Dad is around there is absolutely no need for them to do so.
Some of us Dads are also teaching our daughters how to identify gentlemen who are worthy of their attention. Those doors are simple indicators!
Don't women have hands ? Did your father teach your daughter to cook for a man ?
@@KaleoMgmtdo you teach your daughters how to cook for a man or you're just a sexist person ? 🤦
Excelente video. Muchas gracias por compartir sus conocimientos.
De nada. Gracias.
Skincare? Young man, though good self presentation not unimportant, these are far from the most important lessons a father will pass on to his sons.
I've been wearing Citizen watches for over 20 years. I currently have three. A work watch, and two nice signature collection I wear on the weekends. The only other jewelry I wear is a silver curb link bracelet.
Very nice
" Dont send nudes Kids " most rational advice
This guy is amazing!
Thank you, I'm very glad you're enjoying my videos.
Comedic relief!
"A real gentleman never does his skincare routine while wearing a suit" 📌
I don't really know about a "gentleman", but a "caballero" (Spanish term for gentleman) is not made out by his looks, but of how he treats people around him. Obviously you don't go out there like a wet dog, but a tie, a watch, your hair or even your skin are not what makes a caballero. Be calm, kind, well mannered, humble and always, always, helpful to others, specially if they seem to be in trouble or a bad mood.
If you want to look good, that's totally fine, but a real man is respectable even in his underwear. No shade on the video, these are all interesting things, but remember guys, to be a caballero you need to build character, not looks. Greetings from Spain.
The last peice of advice made my day sir, thank you .❤
I'm literally The Man with No Name, so I'll be fine
When it comes to wrist watch, I found a compromise variant in Galaxy Watch Classic. Smart watch functionality in classy casing is exactly what I was looking for.
This new generation speaks with the word "like" too much. It is revolting.
Love the concept of less is more.
I was fortunate to have a great relationship with my father, who always carried himself with class, gave me great advice with how to dress and treat a lady and conduct myself around adult men. My fondest memory was when my father took me to buy my first two-piece suit when I was sixteen. When the tailor approached us, my father introduced himself to the tailor, then introduced me. Making me a part of this masculine exchange made a huge impression and I've never forgotten that afternoon at the department store. It's sad that so many boys and young men do not have a strong male role model in their lives like I had.
This guy just screams elegance. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to be as proper as this man. Amazing vid
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my dad is a bum who never wanted anything to do with me
thanks for the video
As a Gen Z who never had a father yet by some miracle knew what it's means to be a man this is what my generation has forgotten.
Honour, respect, control,
God and what it means to be a gentleman.
Wear Your Tie Properly 🎩 - Keep your appearance polished; avoid loosening your tie.
Don’t Send Inappropriate Photos 🚫📸 - Respect boundaries; only consider this in a committed relationship with mutual agreement.
Take Care of Your Skin 🧴 - A simple skincare routine can greatly improve your appearance.
Wear a Watch ⌚ - A wristwatch adds a purposeful, classic touch to your look.
Dress Modestly for Weddings 🤵 - Respect the occasion with a simple, well-fitted suit as a guest.
Mind Your Body Language 💪 - Good posture, confident walking, and clear speech matter.
Get Regular Haircuts ✂ - Maintain a fresh, polished look with regular cuts and styling products.
Appreciate Simplicity 🌅 - Value the simple pleasures in life over constant pursuit of wealth or status.
i have long hair so i use a strong hold tea tree hair gel and it has done me much good and for me personally i like the smell of tea tree, i suggest something that not only fits your hair style but your preferences too and dont be afraid to experiment