Why You'll Never Be Happy
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You wake up in the morning and go to work. You spend 8 hours typing away at your desk on a job you once loved but now just tolerate. Once it’s 5pm, you go home, make dinner and watch TV, only to do it all over again the next day.
You play sports or catch up with friends at a local bar on the weekend. Life’s good, but you still feel like something is missing.
You were excited when you got the job; you loved finding new recipes to cook every evening and catching up with friends on the weekend, which used to be your favorite pastime. But over time, these things that used to excite you have become stale, mundane, boring.
This is Hedonic Adaptation, and it's the reason why you'll never be happy.
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the fruits of your labor are in the labor itself, find peace in what you do. there is nowhere to go, nowhere to be. enjoy right now, enjoy this gift of life. be grateful for the air you breathe and the body you have.
"enjoy the gift of life" thank you I enjoy being severely disabled my entire life and being in excruciating pain ❤️❤️
@@fishbinkytoo bad
I love being in chronic constant pain, oh the joys of living as a disabled person.
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Happiness and sadness are not everlasting emotions; they are based on events, most of which you have no control over. That's why I believe in focusing more on serenity, with a calm, peaceful mind. It is easier to deal with any situation life throws at you.
We are always searching for the next thing. It’s just how we’re wired. Anything new eventually gets old. Cars, houses, jobs, relationship. Sooner or later they lose zest.
It's the only thing that keeps me going.. What's next? 😅
I don’t think anything can fill the infinite hole in our hearts but the infinite and risen Jesus
@@cooly1724 I’ve been asking but nobody is answering
This is why intentional gratitude improves happiness; it’s basically just going out of your way to transcend hedonic adaptation.
The best counter to the hedonic treadmill is called hedonic calculus, of still living a “pleasure-centric” life, but instead of pursuing everything that makes you happy, carefully consider each action to see if the pleasure gained is worth the pain received, or if the pain will be worth the pleasure.
Discipline. Consistency. Deadlines. Creativity. Reflection. Repeat.
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Happiness isn't a destination. It's a journey.
Like everything
So why does it have to be one or the other? The journey includes many destinations, all gets rolled up in the memories of we savor or regret? And what of that final destination behind the curtain that we anticipate with a bit of anxiety? Maybe the uncertainty of it all is part of the plan...
You seem to be the kind of person I never had as a friend that I wish I had as a friend. Your perspective on various topics is enriching. Been watching you for some years Aperture. Take care. - A fellow deep thinker.
Deep, independent thinking is the reason I have no friends 😢 I pissed them all off. 😉
@@richardscathouse I’ve come to realize that it can be arduous to make friends when one thinks and feels deeply. It’s a blessing and a curse.
Can we friends?
I tried a lot of different lifestyles but having a family is really difficult but somehow the happiest lifestyle I found. I wonder if happiness is easier to find in natural lifestyle? As humans we live very inhuman lifestyles
The paradigm I always return too is the 'excess access' dynamic. If you have too much excess access, you will forget about the triumph.
A wise man once told me. "You can try to spend your life doing what you love, or spend your life loving what you do."
I'll do both
Isn't that the same thing?
Thats literally that same thing lmfao
Tryna sound like a wise turtle, come off like a fart wistle, uh
The corollary I heard long ago is “If you can’t get into it, get out of it; if you can’t get out of it, get into it.”
Finding this TH-cam Channel is one of the best things that happened to me. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
This makes me happy since I realized there is no point in chasing forward constantly, new technology, growth or money can only make you happier temporarily, but now is just as important of a moment as any achievement in the future, so live life fully.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis (DD3)
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I really appreciate the smaller videos that focus on a specific topic. Cheers!
I love my job because I spend time with my brothers and mother. I don’t think about anything in the beginning of the video I’m so confident and happy with my life atm that I’m just scared of losing it all.
I try to remind myself every day that everything we have right now will be lost eventually. Accepting the inevitable fact that one day we will die can help put things into perspective. If we're afraid of losing a relationship then we likely haven't truly accepted the fact that every relationship will end.
One day this planet won't even be around
@@Jhawk_2k yeah that shit humbles me everytime I think about it and while I know all this will go It doesn’t stop me from cherishing and loving every second of my life I spend with my family. My friend died from a fentanyl overdose shit made me realize that every second I spent with him was a valuable experience and memory. While it hurts now I know the hurt shows how much I truly cared for him.
I love to listen to this channel, it helps with my baseline happiness.
People just need to realize that life is never going to be happiness all the time. That wouldn’t be a normal state of being to begin with. It is normal to fluctuate in happiness/unhappiness and other feelings and emotions. This idea that life should be a 100% positive experience is unrealistic. And in my opinion, it’s those that have that assumption that are the most unhappy because life will never ever meet their expectations.
the slopes will always make me happy like a child. Hasn't gotten old for 20 years
Things become boring when we stop paying attention.
A little off topic, but this reminds me of this series of images of a guy spending his whole life working & saving money then in the last image he's holding 2 large bags of money & walking in a cemetary when the Grim Reaper says "Sorry sir, you can't take that with you." The images represent how money is important to help you get through life, but it shouldn't be the most important thing in life for you since if that's all you focus on everything else will go by without you appreciating it.
Love this channel bro always inspires me to keep on living and how amazing life really is
No past , no future, only the present now.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis (DD3)
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Another great video! This opened my eyes to what I should actually be focused on
Never "pursue happiness." Cultivate contentment.
Follow your joy😊
Happiness is one thing peace, or being content in your life is another
Thank you so much for creating this video. It really helped give me a positive mindset for the day which i’ve really been struggling to have for the longest time. Keep spreading positivity and education. Ignore the hate. Your really changing lives!
Same page here bruv
It's a paradox! 🔄 The more we achieve, the more we adapt and the less it satisfies us. Hedonic adaptation makes me wonder, are we doomed to always want more? 🤷♂🔄 Is true satisfaction just an illusion?
the human mind is not wired for satisfaction
Its like a cycle.Endure positive pain gain happiness.Happiness flattens then you endure pain...
The 'Aperture' family🖤
Happiness and passion are not the same
Best channel on YT bro
If there was a perfect simulation that could give you anything you want when you want it, would that make you happy. Is everything enough for you?
Probably not
Depends. Do you know its a simulation and are there real other people
I think we should seek peace and try removing our suffering from life. 🥲☘️ nice video as always☘️
I feel bad because there are so less people like you and the viewers of this channel who like discussing deep topics , almost everyone around me have a shallow kind of thought process. ☘️ I feel lonely by being surrounded by people. Sorry for venting out🥲☘️
*I unliked my own comment*
What if I have 0 pain yet still not happy
what do you dream of?
Exception doesn't change the rule
You're starting to get it.. but as soon as you really do.. you no longer will. But that's ok
You could have named the video "You cant be unhappy forever no matter what".
It's not about the destination, it's about the journey
I feel better knowing that Happiness is precious but fleeting. We will always need to set that bar ever so higher. Who knows...maybe our ennui will get us to a Moon colony...or perhaps humanity will level up to even Mars someday.
I wonder what the Chinese will be charging for rent? 😂
what will be there for you though , science can never provide happiness and feeling of content . This ever expanding desire for growth is the cause for misery .
When your a kid is only time you jump outta bed in the morning excited about life
Some people live their dreams, others dream their lives…
Oh, so is this your first time?!
- Sisyphus
this is why I chose to deepen my faith. really changes your perspective on happiness and true fulfillment. don't forget that everything you have, and every person in your life, is a blessing:)
Imagine when you hit the twisted part
Meaningful ❤
my issue with the hedonic treadmill is the idea that {the thing, the situation} actually brings that happiness scale UP. lets say base happy is 5 .... even that million dollars IS NOT going to bring happiness to a 6. the people that think that way are simply in error about gauging their happiness, IMO.
people think that the jump from a 5 to 6 is linear... when in all reality it requires EXPENENCIAL, and FUNDEMENTAL change, not simply momentary change.
people think that NOVELTY will bring more happiness, but it is only paradigm shifts that can change the scale of happiness. and then taking things for GRANTED can se balance the scale of happiness. IMO.
Why the hell does this vid only have 17k?
Worth finding if this struck a chord...
Bauman Zygmunt and Aalborg Universitet Sociologisk Laboratorium. 2001. (Un)Happiness of Uncertain Pleasures. Kbh: Sociologisk Laboratorium Aalborg Universitet.
I miss playing video games.
LIFE IS A HIGHWAY, I WANNA RIDE IT ALL NIGHT LONG
Sixty years so far. 😮
But I already feel happy, everyday! 😄
Humans incredible ability to adapt has also allowed our autonomy, our privacy, and chances of prosperity to be taken away gradually, bit by bit, until they now exist at levels lower than in Orwell and Huxley's visions of a dystopian future. It takes very little in the way of comfort and safety to convince us that rebellion isn't worth the risk, and there is an ongoing effort to discover just where that line is and what bread and circus will be required to cross it.
@OzyMandias
with all due respect Ozy, I must agree, there is little exception, much of this otherwise could, would and should be 'self controlled free world' is only conflated presuppositional pretense and presents intentional products of institutionalized conformity,
these who, having contracted socialized pseudo integrity lacking adequate values clarification, apparently, use risk/reward assessment accounting to dictate 'ascertainable' course matters with prime safety in mind, thus, bound in perpetuity to their elitist masters service,
however, myself, they tried - it just didn't take, as a matter of differentiation of motives based on moral consciousness and selfless purpose for the good of the whole, I am firmly committed to an although obsolete nevertheless more so true and effective alternative of either/or, which disregards not only the unpredictable bias of self gain but also the more times than not non-definable consequences of a conceivably stacked win/loss profile,
in acting upon 'principle' alone:
‘do it because it need be done’
simple, one will be either honorable or dishonorable,
is it not better to chance being honorably deceased for some actually worthy evil reducing cause?, harsh yet eternally righteous, than dishonorably in possession of shelf limited self serving undeserving material objectives,
and yes, I do already know not to write something like expecting some great following - that just isn't gonna happen . . .
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Great video watched it all, thanks big appy
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Embrace stoicism
That is why I picked a job that I absolutely love cuz it's not like I go to work at all I'm responsible for tons and tons of bacon each day
That's the thing. I am happy. Incredibly happy. I just don't have any money...
I know what is missing my good looks
As an award-winning author, I'm pretty daemn *happy*. 🙂 But even without my epic series of books, the work and innovation I've done over the past 30+ years has led to some of the most AWESOME memories and bloody fun events, pictures, videos, and more! I *LIVED* my life on this planet. And I'll be ready for the transition beyond the void veil; totally at peace with it. In fact, I'm looking FORWARD to it. 💪😎✌️
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge; hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." --A.B. (DD1)
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I think my hedonic baseline is a bit lower than everyone else.
But the question is, is being happy all that important? Yeah, I get that it would promote longevity, but who wants a longer life anyway? Isn't dying young better than being stuck in this shithole for a long time?
These aspects are only important because we have evolved this way, being in a tribe and staying connected to people is important for our survival, that's why all this regulates our emotions in a positive manner. But I think the whole point cannot be to just survive for as long as you can, right?
This makes me think that we are innately selfish and egoistic that we start giving importance to whatever makes us keep on living, to the point that we make this the purpose of our existence. I don't consider myself that important.
Was really into the video and his monologue...then it segways into an add.
I won't b sharing this video.
Aperture dropped a new vid 🥳
Please make a video about how AI or quantum computer can change the world
We're not supposed to live for as long a ser are either. Our purpose was just find food, procreate, keep warm, etc. We used to become around 30 years old, and some special important people got to be older. Now, we have too much time.
So I saw on of your older videos. Why do you have low likes on it and high views? Is youtube trying to suppress the truth???
Don't ride it. Like everyone else, just stand and watch Like me 😅
1:41 Hedonic Adaptation
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I wonder what kind of data Better Help is collecting on its users?..
Born to buy stuff and fund the ruling class 💯 Walking and talking livestock
Im too depressed for this content.
Chin up there, I for one am a very real counterexample. And hardly the only one, just look around and you'll find plenty others. Was chronically suicidal back in my twenties, now doing better than I thought possible at 66. The title is a hook to draw us in, not our fate.
I was the 777th like, and that makes me happy.
6:35
last weekend, i was alone at home, i literally spend 9 hours on my pc for 2 days each, it was hellish, i was soo bored, this is where i found that gaming ruins your life
Go walking in the deep woods brother.
it was just a bad (inappropriate) game
@@bearschmidt3180 nah bro im only 13
@@kinkavikrey what?
Hello
You're channel is becoming way too nhilistic my friend, hapiness is a emotion that last a few hours but then if you do the right thing everyday you will be "content" wich will make you stronger mentally and closer to god.
That's scientifically not true.
@@sapentiae i dont based my mental well being in science, so i dont care.
This is incorrect, happiness comes from within ourselves. Outside factors, material goods, jobs, do not provide happiness because they are not suppose to. Look with your self and find balance within yourself.
1:15 that is NOT how you say Porsche. it’s 2 syllables, not 1
But.. that is how he says it ;)
Looks like stay children maybe the key. Too late. I already grew up. Tinkerbell long died 😢
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Yeah boi life is life
What did he say?
Expect when you're living in middle of nowhere, like i am, you're just fucked
Many apartment dwellers would envy you. Your not fucked, your not grateful. You woke up, woohoo! Are all you senses working? Your body mostly pain free? Have you got anyone you can show love and appreciation for? Even an animal. Enough money to eat? You obviously have tech and internet. Your not that poor. Be grateful for what you got, be it little or a lot.
@@kelleemerson9510 Okay ;)
ahHh Suh duude
Show us your face😊
This whole vid was an ad
Pretty much. 👎
First world problems, people are too ungrateful
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حقيقي 😂😂 كتير بيعرف مين هو الدحيح بس قليل اللي يعرف مين هو احمد الغنضور
As someone who has had major depressive disorder for their entire life, this video was a total miss for me. Completely surface level bullshit. Plus that therapy advertisement completely ruined any potential momentum, and turned this into a hard eye roll. 👎
Oh treadmeel?
Better help more affordable????
Nah
Once I become rich I will be happy
👎Nope
Only low IQ tyes stay happy. Like Trump 😂
More money more problems is not true I am tired of people preaching about that shit! More money less problems.
*More money different problems
Is this just a black thing? 😢
If life's a roller coaster then I've been on the descent for too many years now
I can totally identify. All the Hot Wheels cars and Transformers figures are never enough.🤬
Regardless of religiosity "The Nobel Eight-fold Path"
is perhaps the best course of action towards "happiness" one can take.
+1 Aperture
checkmate i am happy
Wait for it....... 😢
The last minutes of the video are just cope. Life is boring, thats it, dont make it look good.