Showing chivalry is NOT dead! A good person will recognize simple acts of kindness. Also, don't be kind just to be attractive; be kind because it helps brings the good in you out!
@GetBenched It sad that men think they lost something because a girl they like doesn't reciprocate. Don't you know that building platonic relationships with women is a fast track to being introduced to a girl.
The whole point of being a gentleman is being one just for the sake of it. It doesn't matter if women appreciate it or not, you do it because you believe it's the right thing to do! Great content as always Cortney!
Courtney, thanks for your content. You're talking about the very basics but with such sincerity and without being condescending. You're a boon to this world
Important things as well: 0:51 First thing - Posture / Body language; 1:18 I agree with that way of standing as well; 1:43 Extra bonus tips (thank you very much); 2:17 Second thing - Styling your hair; 4:42 Third thing - Being a gentleman (full respect for that, I appreciate that as well); 5:35 Full respect for that told there Courtney; 6:17 Agree with that Courtney; 6:51 Who you really are inside that is what is matters as well; 7:08 Fourth thing - Face refresh; 9:43 Fifth thing - Put on the great outfit; 10:08 Agree with that dressing as well; 11:23 Sixth thing - Trimming your nails; and 12:56 to summarize all the told here as well. I agree with all the told here as well. I might add the other things that are attractive are these (few of these I have mentioned as well in one of your videos as well): 1. The way how does man takes care of the child, or children; 2. When man plays music instrument, or instruments (some girls are finding that attractive); 3. Showing the charisma as well; and 4. When man have some interesting hobby as well (some girls are finding that attractive). I had a chance to meet the girls or ladies that like my hobby, and playing music instrument as well. As for me I like doing model kits as well (if you are interested, you can as well see my channel that is dedicated to that hobby as well), and I play guitar as well. Also even some of the girls asked me what type of that model kit airplane is it, and I have explained it as well. What was so interesting was that I even met girls, and ladies that are interested in hobby modeling as well. Thank you very much Courtney for these tips and advice's as well. it means a lot ❤💙🤍🧐🤓😎.
Thanks for putting this one out Courtney. Your candour, integrity, and humour is certainly appreciated. I couldn’t find where you mentioned this guy from tik tok who has a good morning routine in the transcript. Also, as someone who’s tried putting various products on my face, I stopped as everything eventually gets to my eyes and it stings/irritates me the whole day. This despite the fact that I really need it. Thanks again.
Prioritizing health, whether it be physical, emotional, mental, really all of the above is the sexiest. That manifests on the inside and the outside. Thank you Courtney.
Excellent Tips Courtney; unfortunately for me I'm screwed by your very first one. While I am now in probably the best shape of my life - and working out daily to get in even better shape, as well as eating very healthy - thanks - or even more accurately - NO THANKS to my former habitual lifestyle of laziness, and crappy eating, I developed TYPE 2 Diabetes, which I had for over 30 years. Which was bad enough on it's own, but it also caused severe nerve damage which led to a very serious Heel ulcer, Peripheral Neuropathy in my legs and feet, and balance issues. Also my weight at one time ballooned up to an over disgusting 400 lbs. Talk about Self Sabotage. So even though I finally smartened up and decided to save my life ( lost nearly 200 lbs, reversed my T2 Diabetes, workout every day including doing a minimum of 200 Push-Ups, 60 Mountain, and climb a minimum of 120 stairs unaided daily all for over a year plus weight train 5 - 6 days per week), because of the nerve damage and balance issues I have to use a walker most of the time when I walk; and because I am 6' 1" tall I have to slouch forward when I walk. (Unless I want to walk completely erect like Frankenstein and only move 6 inches at a time. LOL. Which is definitely not an option.) So even though I'm doing as much as I can to better myself, exchanging my bad habits for good ones , following your, and other's tips and advice on grooming, style, do's and don'ts regarding talking to and treating/interacting with women, etc, my slouchy posture is one of the first things they see - not to mention the walker - so basically I'm screwed before I even start. Especially if I want to attract a younger woman. But I am not quitting, or giving up, or throwing in the towel. I believe in the "Half your age plus 7" "Rule" 😉 but because of my own fault I'm off to a bad start right off the bat regarding your tips. 😂 Sorry for the super long comment.
Courtney's insights are always valuable, and even if enough of us know this, it's good reminder videos' like that that will keep us guys in top form. The hard part if finding the right girl to appreciate, reciprocate, and motivate each other to do all this. :D
Posture related tip: 1. Posterior chain strengthening exercises of the back of shoulder blades, scapula and traps strengthening help a lot. 2. Lower back extension and stretching (yoga exercises) help a lot 3. Isometric core exercises like holding planks help (because while standing or sitting you ideally must engage your core (with pelvic tilt) to a certain degree, and also while doing activities like picking up stuff and walking; to avoid lower back pain 4. Hip flexor stretching, since tight hip flexors because of sitting pulls our upper body down to slouched position to a certain degree. Note: Point 1 is also good warmup for upper body days in gym along with other things like training the grip. PS: Sorry for sidetracking Courtney :P
Hey Courtney! I just wanted to mention that me and a few other guys are starting a lecture series on dating on discord and we'll be watching your videos and discussing them during it. You've been very helpful to me and I'd like others to get the same help that you've given me.
@@Spectacular-Spider-Dan Dan I would like to pose a point of thought for you. I came to this conclusion when examining ancient vs modern culture. When a man realizes women are inferior beings, he begins to live his life. He focuses on his craft or careers and begins to excel. This in turn attracts women. When a woman realizes she is an inferior being, she she begins to live her feminine life. She stops be combative. Carries a gun for self defense. Appreciates everything that is done for her. I realize people have a issue with "inferior beings". Our liberal western societies see this as demeaning. Nature dictates otherwise. Just some food for thought for your group. Assuming emotions can be controlled.
Posture for sure. Breathe with your nose, leave your phone behind so you can look in front of you (not in front of your feet), and certainly clean up your look. Look like a treat, not trash 😉
Straight up a haircut, Seriously! After losing 150lbs and the combination of a haircut it helped my confidence skyrocket. I always had long hair down to my butt up until I turned 24 last year. Cut it off to a short style and instantly I felt like I looked handsome. And bonus, never knew I had a decently sharp jawline! Because my hair always covered the side of my head. A little bit of styling paste works amazingly.
Yes; trim your nails. I'm in my early thirties and I read about nail care back in my teenage years from a Men's Health Magazine, and, trust me, women don't want to be worried about getting scratched where they can't put a Band-Aid. 12:43 she gets it
Hi Courtney, Good to see you again, you looking very nice ☺.Well presented. It's obvious you know what you talking about, your advice is very much appreciated, I have learnt a few things from you today. I do look after myself, and try to look always look the best version of myself, but I don't know it all, so nice to hear tips/advice from a beautiful looking woman who is very nice too Courtney. x 😘☺. Hope you have a great safe week Courtney.
Omg the last thing you mentioned 😅 I know exactly what you were referring to on keeping those nails short 🙊 wonder how many of the guys watching this know? 👀 😉
I have a suggestion to turn this mess around. Change the divorce laws. With a divorce, the party should get out of the marriage the exact percentage of the estate they put into it based upon how many dollars they put into it. In other words, if a man contributed 90% of the couple's monetary value to the estate and the woman contributed 10%, she gets 10% and not a penny more. None of the crap about how she gets 50% or more just because. Both parties should be contributing value to the relationship that can't easily be measured monetarily. i.e. She takes care of the kids, he changes the oil in the cars, she cooks dinner, he mows the grass, etc. There is no way that her non-financial contributions should have a dollar value but his non-financial contributions do not have a dollar value. This would put an end to a lot of issues. Consider the case whereby the guy who built a $10 million dollar business marries his secretary. After two years, why should she get 1/2 of that or more? Even if she was with the company since the beginning, she was paid to be a secretary. That's it. She was already compensated. Marriage shouldn't make it a bonus check. Sadly, I don't see this changing as at least 1/2 the women support this because they profited off of it. The lawyers support it because they profit. The judicial system supports it because they profit. Our so-called "representatives" support this because their buddies profit. I think it also says a lot that mother's, with sons, are quiet. These mothers of sons obviously don't care about their sons because they do absolutely nothing to change this. If men were to try to get the laws changed they would be ignored, laughed at, told to "man up", or called some other derogatory term. The only way for a man to win is not to play.
Be the best version of yourself. Many of us didn't have someone to model these things while growing up. But now we do. Refine your personality and you'll end up attracting the partner you really want/need as a byproduct of it. Don't worry about those neo-feminists that say chivalry is "patriarchal" etc. You don't want that. Go Courtney! You are the woman!!! 🤜🏽
I do my hair more, I use a face cleanser infused with charcoal, I go to a chiropractor weekly. Right now I'm trying to dress more nicely as I'm losing weight after going to a alcohol detox and am fitting into my former clothes. Also people have noticed my face looks less puffy and clearer and I have a way better outlook on life 😁
As a guy whose hair is thinning, I've tried a few different cuts to help look my best but it's gotten to the point where I can't avoid it any longer. I found out I look good in a hat and it's helped my confidence a ton. It's something I can't really change so I'm coming to terms with it, and if women don't like it, there's always another out there. Been told I can pull off bald with my beard grown out too, so I guess got some stuff going for me.
3:38 LIGHTWEIGHT! YEAH BUDDEH! Jokes aside, great vid Courtney! Just overall taking care of yourself helps boost your own confidence and also attraction from other people. I did this and it certainly helped me!
Being a gentleman is an excellent thing. I'd even say be gentlemanly to women even if she may come off as it doesn't matter how she's treated, since you never know what a woman is going through.
And again nobody takes into account what men go through. Maybe we don't feel like it because we got burned too often? I am done being the nice guy, it leads to nowhere. Instead I am open, welcoming and respectful to everybody until they eventually ruin it for themselves. Why do men have the obligation to be nice to even nasty people and women don't?
@@BorisBidjanSaberi11 no, I was referring to exactly what she was saying in the video. Women ROAST men who open doors and pull up chairs for them crying 'PATRIARCHY'.
@@GetBenched2010 Plus in some places, it has the opposite effect. Do either of those and the women will just straight up remind you they have hands and can do it themselves. It's a matter of preference, I personally don't mind someone who can do those themselves because I don't really buy into the chivalry thing. Just feels like even more backwards bending that Western women expect (I'm not after them)
Then you are not being a gentleman. If a woman wishes you'd not done something, the gentlemanly thing to do is to apologize meaningfully and stop doing it. Being a gentleman is in how you act, not the things you do. Once you understand the difference, you'll know why your statement is wrong.
@@codykirchner9606 Care to provide some examples to illustrate your point? It seems to me that how you act and what you do pretty much always go hand in hand. If they don't, you're just acting. That's all it boils down to: acting...like someone we're not, and that itself is an action if you don't normally do not them. Common examples of "gentlemanly" things like opening the door, pulling the chair, paying for that coffee or sandwich...these are all actions and in some places they are not just unexpected, they're frowned upon. If you're going to open the door for some girl, you might as well do it for everyone. See how many people find it attractive, but alas there can only be one girl you commit to, so I guess for a lot of other people it wouldn't matter. Of course, you'd instead spend the time on the date and let others use their hands. People can help themselves and in the grand scheme of things, chivalrous acts are so trivial they hardly matter. Try not doing them and see what happens. It just benefits the girls who can walk away anytime and you still lost how much money on dates for nothing that could have been better spent
A good night’s sleep and here’s why… When I was a teenager, (long ago) I had really bad acne. Now, when I don’t get a full night’s sleep, I have scars from that acne but on a full night’s sleep, I don’t.
Fellas take this advice! My girlfriend is freaking awesome. I approached her about a couple of these, especially my summer clothes aren't as "me" as I would like. She's been helping me out.
You converted me on the skin care for sure. I'm in my 50's, and even though my skin is pretty healthy without much wrinkles, I work outside all day and started the Tiege Hanley 3 months ago. Now I see my face every day, so I don't know if I look different or younger, but my skin feels amazing and soft. I'll never go back to not using something on my face. Huge win.
I have better skin than most ladies plenty turn me down for this for the main reason. I might draw some wrinkles on my forehead and around the mouth area….😂
Last year I started using skin care products (I started taking Accutane, for acne, which makes my skin very sensible, so I need to have a skin care routine) and I receive so many compliments. Many women complimented my face for being "really clean/soft", and recently I met a friend I have last seen before I started the treatment. He told me I look amazing, like a completely different person.
I'm about to be 35. I remember watching queer eye for the straight guy in highschool and they said to wear sunscreen daily. I did that and now people are shocked when they find out I'm not in my 20s still
Regarding the hair styling. What if we typically keep our hair short? I don't mind having my hair be a bit longer, but I'm unfortunately the kind of guy with a naturally high body heat - and it doesn't take much to get me sweating. It doesn't help that my hair is pretty thick (ironic, what with the widow's peak I have..). Usually keeping it trimmed helps.
I recently got on the skin care wagon. I was in a pharmacy in Paris and the pharmacist sold me some stuff to put in the contours of my eyes - it's supposed to minimize the bags under your eyes. It smells great, like freshly mown grass or the forest after a rainstorm. It hasn't done anything yet but she said it takes a few weeks. Pretty expensive stuff, but I figure if anybody has the straight dope on skin care it's a Parisian pharmacienne.
Good posture does not only make you more attractive, but people will respect you more. I noticed how even men came up and talked with me. One particular friend told me years later that he approached me because I exuded confidence and that "when I entered a room, he had the impression I was an important figure". With great posture, other people could take you more seriously.
Kindness is seen as disposable trait. It is one of the first three dropped when pitted against numerous (30+) other traits. Kindness Intelligence and Loyalty. Do women want it, sure but not at the expensive of the other traits.
I would also add flossing which is more important than the products! Washing the face and getting off the Pijamas would do. Outfit and nails are very important too
Question about the hair products- Is it worthwhile to use hair products even if my hair already has a natural style to it? I’ve styled my hair with my hands and a hairbrush the same way for 20+ years at this point and not sure if it would be sensible to use product at this point.
Being a gentleman never goes out of a style. Also, you're correct, posture is very attractive. I have to disregard the hair styling... going bald! Yes, a gentleman always dresses in good taste!
I feel instantly more confident when I banter with employees men or women and even customers and they play along and not give me a your annoying or your weird look.
Courtney's point about skin care is legit. I have been using SPF moisturiser for years and, despite being the oldest in my friend's group (36) I am usually picked as the youngest! It's a fun game where we ask girls to guess our ages. I normally get picked as 28 because I have few wrinkles and clean skin. It makes a real difference and helps with the confidence too!
I would say attitude as well. If you change your attitude a lot of that just happens by a result. Sometimes it's having proper attitude about yourself, women, humanity and life in general. It is amazing how perspective and attitude can make a difference for your posture, demeanor, voice, confidence etc. I think part of it is having a attitude to on two sides of the coin here of having a ability to be grateful for what you have and the other side is like a reality check in the other way where you are saying these are the things I can do better and working on those give you a perspective that you are doing the work as well. Then have a perspective that others are doing the best they can with what they got. The important thing imo is about finding the right person and its not about hook ups or whatever just try to find the right person in that there is that effortless ability for you two to kind of be on that same page. It shouldn't be that hard for you two. There is an excitement there you can't fake. So part of that is something to pay attention to imo and can help in your interactions see if there is a compatibility and nice level of appreciation for each other is there. Appreciation for yourself and others is where it starts.
@@evansmith8824 It is mostly about looks. It's what we see first,,it's what attracts us to a partner,it's what we value the most everything else comes after looks. You talked about attitude,you have to understand that,your looks affect your attitude/personality If you are attractive and arrogant,people perceive u as confident If u are ugly and confident,people perceive u as arrogant
All these things are achievable . Pleased to say I'm doing most of things you say in the video. It's surprising people not having good manners to for example hold a door open .
What do you think about long black leather coats? I got one because of Clive Owen in Sin City. (Complete with Chuck Tailors) I seem to get a lot of compliments from both men and women.
Yes yes and yes! Every veteran will tell you that in boot camp, you were yelled at to sit and stand up straight lol no joke! Side story, last week when I was at karaoke, I locked eyes with a server girl and she smiled back. She was definitely young (early 20s). I go every week so I already know I'm gonna see her again and talk to her.
@Courtney Ryan I think it would be interesting to see you on the Fresh and Fit podcast. I think Myron would let you in on a little secret about how modern women really are. I do appreciate your channel and the content/videos you put out. God bless. 🙏🏾
It is smart to say that..to make a good first impression for a specific category of women. The only trouble with this theory is: when i Take a coffee at the mall and look others people passing front of me, the couples dont have necessary good clothes, hair and so on. Dont forget that the goal is to find a partner..
I'd like some clarification on the skin care product to start using. You mentioned something with SPF protection. Acne products aside, what type of product are we talking about here?
Many aftershaves and the like will have a small level of SPF. I prefer Every Man Jack and their face cream, but I've used a few others. Look for a face cream or face lotion that lists SPF as a benefit.
next time a girls says this to me in an interaction, conversation, while asking her out, because i know that sometimes women will say this, just so they can be sure, they will sometimes say "are you asking me out?", i would say to her: 'DUH!!!!!!, OF COURSE I'M ASKING YOU OUT, I'M A GUY!!!!, ITS WHAT WE DO!!!!!!', i feel that will make me feel good about myself for saying a rude asshole response, just expressing sarcasm in a resentful way, because i know i'm not the only guy in the world that has always hated and resented how asking someone out has always been and probably forever will be on the mans shoulders, that it seems men have always had to do everything when it comes to starting or forming a relationship, being the one to make the first move, make advances and start interactions, be an interesting conversationalist, ive always been a fan of the belief that men need to be better talkers, be a better conversationalist than women do in order to be successful at dating have better social skills than women do overall, escalate things, take the god damn lead all the time. its another reminder, and i know people will say to never compare ourselves to others, don't worry about what others don't have to do or deal with, focus on you, but i get annoyed and enraged that there are even dating coaches for women, because i will never understand why would women need help on how to attract men when they don't have to be the ones to pursue, or approach, take any action on their part, that doesn't require any jackshit of skills, doesn't require any learning, any behavior development. Ya i will never understand and it makes me laugh and cringe when people say women need skills to do well in dating on their part, how? just exist and be pretty is not a skill, because being beautiful is not a skill since its not behavior based.
I've got something to say on the tip of being a gentleman. I've always been a gentleman with the ladies because that's just who I am. What has being a gentleman with the ladies gotten me? I can tell you exactly what it has gotten me, THE FRIEND ZONE!!! I continue to be a gentleman because as I've said that's just who I am. IN my experience though, it's usually the loud, rude assholes who are the only one;s that get anywhere with the women. They ladies would always act as if they were angered and offended by their behavior. In the end though, they would usually be going off with them and leaving me wondering what in the hell just happened?
I know this channel is focused on men, but a ton of the advice given to men (specifically the appearance part) tcan go for women too. When I see women who are obviously caring about their appearance and make themselves look good and can be caring as well, I'm instantly more attracted to them. (Also 100 percent agree with the fake long eyelashes, it's just not good looking 😂)
I don't use sunscreen or use skin care products, and there's people I know my age with laugh lines already and I have none xD but seriously, I've been washing my face more.
Here's the summary:
1. Posture/Body Language
2. Styling your hair
3. Being a gentleman
4. Face Refresh
5. Put on a great outfit
6. Trimming your nails
Lol
Smithers get this man a beer.
Please
Just what I was looking for. Thank you
Showing chivalry is NOT dead! A good person will recognize simple acts of kindness. Also, don't be kind just to be attractive; be kind because it helps brings the good in you out!
Absolutely! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan Its a good way to get cancelled on social media at worst and friend zoned at best.
WTF 🤬 is this REALLY bro 🤔.......
@GetBenched It sad that men think they lost something because a girl they like doesn't reciprocate. Don't you know that building platonic relationships with women is a fast track to being introduced to a girl.
It's dead simp
The whole point of being a gentleman is being one just for the sake of it. It doesn't matter if women appreciate it or not, you do it because you believe it's the right thing to do! Great content as always Cortney!
Exactly
Facts. Even if the woman spits in your face, you take it on the chin and wish her a good day.
@@GoldenMushroom64 lol no
Absolutely agree👍
Yep
Courtney, thanks for your content. You're talking about the very basics but with such sincerity and without being condescending. You're a boon to this world
SIMP
Important things as well: 0:51 First thing - Posture / Body language; 1:18 I agree with that way of standing as well; 1:43 Extra bonus tips (thank you very much); 2:17 Second thing - Styling your hair; 4:42 Third thing - Being a gentleman (full respect for that, I appreciate that as well); 5:35 Full respect for that told there Courtney; 6:17 Agree with that Courtney; 6:51 Who you really are inside that is what is matters as well; 7:08 Fourth thing - Face refresh; 9:43 Fifth thing - Put on the great outfit; 10:08 Agree with that dressing as well; 11:23 Sixth thing - Trimming your nails; and 12:56 to summarize all the told here as well.
I agree with all the told here as well. I might add the other things that are attractive are these (few of these I have mentioned as well in one of your videos as well):
1. The way how does man takes care of the child, or children;
2. When man plays music instrument, or instruments (some girls are finding that attractive);
3. Showing the charisma as well; and
4. When man have some interesting hobby as well (some girls are finding that attractive).
I had a chance to meet the girls or ladies that like my hobby, and playing music instrument as well. As for me I like doing model kits as well (if you are interested, you can as well see my channel that is dedicated to that hobby as well), and I play guitar as well. Also even some of the girls asked me what type of that model kit airplane is it, and I have explained it as well. What was so interesting was that I even met girls, and ladies that are interested in hobby modeling as well.
Thank you very much Courtney for these tips and advice's as well. it means a lot ❤💙🤍🧐🤓😎.
Jesus, are you that into ?
@@kumaranuj6548 Well I have hobby, I play music instrument.
Is it bad, or what seems to be the problem?
Could you explain to me?
Thanks for putting this one out Courtney. Your candour, integrity, and humour is certainly appreciated. I couldn’t find where you mentioned this guy from tik tok who has a good morning routine in the transcript. Also, as someone who’s tried putting various products on my face, I stopped as everything eventually gets to my eyes and it stings/irritates me the whole day. This despite the fact that I really need it. Thanks again.
Prioritizing health, whether it be physical, emotional, mental, really all of the above is the sexiest. That manifests on the inside and the outside. Thank you Courtney.
FOOLISH
That iceroller suggestion was key thanks for the advice. Never instabought anything so fast
Alot of this helps boost your confidence so I feel it's important to focus on that
Thanx Court 😊 for another great tutorial!.... You really are dedicated to producing!......even on a weekend!... 👍
Excellent Tips Courtney; unfortunately for me I'm screwed by your very first one.
While I am now in probably the best shape of my life - and working out daily to get in even better shape, as well as eating very healthy - thanks - or even more accurately - NO THANKS to my former habitual lifestyle of laziness, and crappy eating, I developed TYPE 2 Diabetes, which I had for over 30 years. Which was bad enough on it's own, but it also caused severe nerve damage which led to a very serious Heel ulcer, Peripheral Neuropathy in my legs and feet, and balance issues. Also my weight at one time ballooned up to an over disgusting 400 lbs. Talk about Self Sabotage.
So even though I finally smartened up and decided to save my life ( lost nearly 200 lbs, reversed my T2 Diabetes, workout every day including doing a minimum of 200 Push-Ups, 60 Mountain, and climb a minimum of 120 stairs unaided daily all for over a year plus weight train 5 - 6 days per week), because of the nerve damage and balance issues I have to use a walker most of the time when I walk; and because I am 6' 1" tall I have to slouch forward when I walk. (Unless I want to walk completely erect like Frankenstein and only move 6 inches at a time. LOL. Which is definitely not an option.)
So even though I'm doing as much as I can to better myself, exchanging my bad habits for good ones , following your, and other's tips and advice on grooming, style, do's and don'ts regarding talking to and treating/interacting with women, etc, my slouchy posture is one of the first things they see - not to mention the walker - so basically I'm screwed before I even start. Especially if I want to attract a younger woman.
But I am not quitting, or giving up, or throwing in the towel. I believe in the "Half your age plus 7" "Rule" 😉 but because of my own fault I'm off to a bad start right off the bat regarding your tips. 😂
Sorry for the super long comment.
Thank you for making me smile and laugh on my birthday Courtney 😊
Happy birthday my friend! ❤️
Having a good sense of humor goes a long way. Sometimes we need a good laugh to not take everything so serious.
Honestly, I really wish it were that easy.
Hey, Cleveland here also! Thanks for the tips
Courtney's insights are always valuable, and even if enough of us know this, it's good reminder videos' like that that will keep us guys in top form. The hard part if finding the right girl to appreciate, reciprocate, and motivate each other to do all this. :D
I haven't commented in a while. Thank you for your content, Courtney. I hope you have a wonderful day.
Great to see you here! Hope you’re doing well and thanks for the kind comment 🥰
Ms. Ryan is helping the planet one video at a time. Her wisdom can give men what seems like super powers if they follow her advice. #respect
The way you showed your ring says that you are a high value women:)Amazing!!
Congrats on being married Courtney, best wishes from accross the globe to the both of you.
Happy Sunday, Courtney ❤
Happy Sunday John! ❤️
Posture related tip:
1. Posterior chain strengthening exercises of the back of shoulder blades, scapula and traps strengthening help a lot.
2. Lower back extension and stretching (yoga exercises) help a lot
3. Isometric core exercises like holding planks help (because while standing or sitting you ideally must engage your core (with pelvic tilt) to a certain degree, and also while doing activities like picking up stuff and walking; to avoid lower back pain
4. Hip flexor stretching, since tight hip flexors because of sitting pulls our upper body down to slouched position to a certain degree.
Note: Point 1 is also good warmup for upper body days in gym along with other things like training the grip.
PS: Sorry for sidetracking Courtney :P
Don’t be sorry that’s great advice for the likes of myself since I’m gyming everyday.
Agree! Also, weighted carries helped me tremendously with my posture
Hey Courtney! I just wanted to mention that me and a few other guys are starting a lecture series on dating on discord and we'll be watching your videos and discussing them during it. You've been very helpful to me and I'd like others to get the same help that you've given me.
How wonderful! I love this 🥰 would love to join in sometime
@@CourtneyRyan That would be amazing! We would love to have you! I'll send you an instagram message about it.😃
@@Spectacular-Spider-Dan Dan I would like to pose a point of thought for you. I came to this conclusion when examining ancient vs modern culture.
When a man realizes women are inferior beings, he begins to live his life. He focuses on his craft or careers and begins to excel. This in turn attracts women.
When a woman realizes she is an inferior being, she she begins to live her feminine life. She stops be combative. Carries a gun for self defense. Appreciates everything that is done for her.
I realize people have a issue with "inferior beings". Our liberal western societies see this as demeaning. Nature dictates otherwise.
Just some food for thought for your group. Assuming emotions can be controlled.
@@dobermanownerforlife3902 I don't see women as inferior beings. I see them as complementary. They need us and we need them.
@@Spectacular-Spider-Dan then you fail to understand the point of the exercise
Posture for sure. Breathe with your nose, leave your phone behind so you can look in front of you (not in front of your feet), and certainly clean up your look. Look like a treat, not trash 😉
Yes!!
"Fit is King"
That's something I've been working on. More challenging than one imagines.
I'm working on it......
Straight up a haircut, Seriously! After losing 150lbs and the combination of a haircut it helped my confidence skyrocket. I always had long hair down to my butt up until I turned 24 last year. Cut it off to a short style and instantly I felt like I looked handsome.
And bonus, never knew I had a decently sharp jawline! Because my hair always covered the side of my head. A little bit of styling paste works amazingly.
If you got any hair left, yes. In my case the best option is to shave it off completely and just grow a beard.
@@Kashban and add some muscle/get leaner.
thanks for the help!
Her voice is so chill I almost fell asleep... This is basically my bedtime story now 😴
Yes; trim your nails. I'm in my early thirties and I read about nail care back in my teenage years from a Men's Health Magazine, and, trust me, women don't want to be worried about getting scratched where they can't put a Band-Aid.
12:43 she gets it
Hi Courtney, Good to see you again, you looking very nice ☺.Well presented. It's obvious you know what you talking about, your advice is very much appreciated, I have learnt a few things from you today. I do look after myself, and try to look always look the best version of myself, but I don't know it all, so nice to hear tips/advice from a beautiful looking woman who is very nice too Courtney. x 😘☺. Hope you have a great safe week Courtney.
Omg the last thing you mentioned 😅 I know exactly what you were referring to on keeping those nails short 🙊 wonder how many of the guys watching this know? 👀 😉
I have a suggestion to turn this mess around. Change the divorce laws. With a divorce, the party should get out of the marriage the exact percentage of the estate they put into it based upon how many dollars they put into it. In other words, if a man contributed 90% of the couple's monetary value to the estate and the woman contributed 10%, she gets 10% and not a penny more. None of the crap about how she gets 50% or more just because. Both parties should be contributing value to the relationship that can't easily be measured monetarily. i.e. She takes care of the kids, he changes the oil in the cars, she cooks dinner, he mows the grass, etc. There is no way that her non-financial contributions should have a dollar value but his non-financial contributions do not have a dollar value. This would put an end to a lot of issues. Consider the case whereby the guy who built a $10 million dollar business marries his secretary. After two years, why should she get 1/2 of that or more? Even if she was with the company since the beginning, she was paid to be a secretary. That's it. She was already compensated. Marriage shouldn't make it a bonus check. Sadly, I don't see this changing as at least 1/2 the women support this because they profited off of it. The lawyers support it because they profit. The judicial system supports it because they profit. Our so-called "representatives" support this because their buddies profit. I think it also says a lot that mother's, with sons, are quiet. These mothers of sons obviously don't care about their sons because they do absolutely nothing to change this. If men were to try to get the laws changed they would be ignored, laughed at, told to "man up", or called some other derogatory term. The only way for a man to win is not to play.
Be the best version of yourself. Many of us didn't have someone to model these things while growing up. But now we do. Refine your personality and you'll end up attracting the partner you really want/need as a byproduct of it. Don't worry about those neo-feminists that say chivalry is "patriarchal" etc. You don't want that. Go Courtney! You are the woman!!! 🤜🏽
I do my hair more, I use a face cleanser infused with charcoal, I go to a chiropractor weekly. Right now I'm trying to dress more nicely as I'm losing weight after going to a alcohol detox and am fitting into my former clothes. Also people have noticed my face looks less puffy and clearer and I have a way better outlook on life 😁
As a guy whose hair is thinning, I've tried a few different cuts to help look my best but it's gotten to the point where I can't avoid it any longer. I found out I look good in a hat and it's helped my confidence a ton. It's something I can't really change so I'm coming to terms with it, and if women don't like it, there's always another out there. Been told I can pull off bald with my beard grown out too, so I guess got some stuff going for me.
You will look better if you accept it and not try to hide your thinning hair.
Quality content as usual, Courtney ⭐️ haha
I luv this video thank u for this
Thank you Courtney
3:38 LIGHTWEIGHT! YEAH BUDDEH!
Jokes aside, great vid Courtney! Just overall taking care of yourself helps boost your own confidence and also attraction from other people. I did this and it certainly helped me!
Being a gentleman is an excellent thing. I'd even say be gentlemanly to women even if she may come off as it doesn't matter how she's treated, since you never know what a woman is going through.
I agree!
And again nobody takes into account what men go through. Maybe we don't feel like it because we got burned too often? I am done being the nice guy, it leads to nowhere.
Instead I am open, welcoming and respectful to everybody until they eventually ruin it for themselves.
Why do men have the obligation to be nice to even nasty people and women don't?
Thank you!
0:26 'and lucky for you, are easy to start doing' - you know us all so well Courtney :D
In the current political climate, being a gentleman is a good way to get friend zoned at best or cancelled on social media at worst.
Nobody who is a gentlemen has to claim they are he. And if you were a real gentlemen you’d get better chances. Nice guy isn’t gentlemen
@@BorisBidjanSaberi11 no, I was referring to exactly what she was saying in the video. Women ROAST men who open doors and pull up chairs for them crying 'PATRIARCHY'.
@@GetBenched2010 Plus in some places, it has the opposite effect. Do either of those and the women will just straight up remind you they have hands and can do it themselves. It's a matter of preference, I personally don't mind someone who can do those themselves because I don't really buy into the chivalry thing. Just feels like even more backwards bending that Western women expect (I'm not after them)
Then you are not being a gentleman. If a woman wishes you'd not done something, the gentlemanly thing to do is to apologize meaningfully and stop doing it. Being a gentleman is in how you act, not the things you do. Once you understand the difference, you'll know why your statement is wrong.
@@codykirchner9606 Care to provide some examples to illustrate your point? It seems to me that how you act and what you do pretty much always go hand in hand. If they don't, you're just acting. That's all it boils down to: acting...like someone we're not, and that itself is an action if you don't normally do not them. Common examples of "gentlemanly" things like opening the door, pulling the chair, paying for that coffee or sandwich...these are all actions and in some places they are not just unexpected, they're frowned upon.
If you're going to open the door for some girl, you might as well do it for everyone. See how many people find it attractive, but alas there can only be one girl you commit to, so I guess for a lot of other people it wouldn't matter. Of course, you'd instead spend the time on the date and let others use their hands. People can help themselves and in the grand scheme of things, chivalrous acts are so trivial they hardly matter. Try not doing them and see what happens. It just benefits the girls who can walk away anytime and you still lost how much money on dates for nothing that could have been better spent
A good night’s sleep and here’s why…
When I was a teenager, (long ago) I had really bad acne. Now, when I don’t get a full night’s sleep, I have scars from that acne but on a full night’s sleep, I don’t.
Fellas take this advice!
My girlfriend is freaking awesome. I approached her about a couple of these, especially my summer clothes aren't as "me" as I would like. She's been helping me out.
Thank you for the advice Courtney. I’m definitely going to start implementing a skin care routine asap.
You converted me on the skin care for sure. I'm in my 50's, and even though my skin is pretty healthy without much wrinkles, I work outside all day and started the Tiege Hanley 3 months ago. Now I see my face every day, so I don't know if I look different or younger, but my skin feels amazing and soft. I'll never go back to not using something on my face. Huge win.
LMAO.. You're a guy NOT a woman
I have better skin than most ladies plenty turn me down for this for the main reason.
I might draw some wrinkles on my forehead and around the mouth area….😂
Skin care is a scam. Those things are like placebos,you think they're doing something but they aren't
Good job gramps.
Thx for the tips😊
Last year I started using skin care products (I started taking Accutane, for acne, which makes my skin very sensible, so I need to have a skin care routine) and I receive so many compliments. Many women complimented my face for being "really clean/soft", and recently I met a friend I have last seen before I started the treatment. He told me I look amazing, like a completely different person.
Hellz yeaa, im in a similar boat, i wish more people would try it
I'm about to be 35. I remember watching queer eye for the straight guy in highschool and they said to wear sunscreen daily. I did that and now people are shocked when they find out I'm not in my 20s still
I suffer from baldness and hair thinning. I have to go clean shaved. I'm SOL when it comes to styling my hair. 😂
I try to do sunscreen on my face as often as possible.
Hello Courtney: When you mentioned eye-lash extensions, you made me laugh. Thank you. P.S. I play the piano and long finger nails hurt.
Love you Courtney!
❤️🥰
Regarding the hair styling. What if we typically keep our hair short? I don't mind having my hair be a bit longer, but I'm unfortunately the kind of guy with a naturally high body heat - and it doesn't take much to get me sweating. It doesn't help that my hair is pretty thick (ironic, what with the widow's peak I have..). Usually keeping it trimmed helps.
Courtney, please produce more videos on how to match colors to be stylish….
You're charming and
Emotionally touching,
Courtney Ryan! ☺️☺️
Respect..
I've been taking showers and I am sure it's helping. 🙂
Great video, thank you. .)
Could i still use FORTE for my hair it's thick and curly? I have 4c hair
I recently got on the skin care wagon. I was in a pharmacy in Paris and the pharmacist sold me some stuff to put in the contours of my eyes - it's supposed to minimize the bags under your eyes. It smells great, like freshly mown grass or the forest after a rainstorm. It hasn't done anything yet but she said it takes a few weeks. Pretty expensive stuff, but I figure if anybody has the straight dope on skin care it's a Parisian pharmacienne.
Good posture does not only make you more attractive, but people will respect you more. I noticed how even men came up and talked with me. One particular friend told me years later that he approached me because I exuded confidence and that "when I entered a room, he had the impression I was an important figure". With great posture, other people could take you more seriously.
Kindness is seen as disposable trait. It is one of the first three dropped when pitted against numerous (30+) other traits. Kindness Intelligence and Loyalty. Do women want it, sure but not at the expensive of the other traits.
I would also add flossing which is more important than the products! Washing the face and getting off the Pijamas would do. Outfit and nails are very important too
Question about the hair products- Is it worthwhile to use hair products even if my hair already has a natural style to it? I’ve styled my hair with my hands and a hairbrush the same way for 20+ years at this point and not sure if it would be sensible to use product at this point.
i have long hair , straight , and split lol , i keep it in a ponytail and wear a ball cap to keep the stragglers at bay 🤣
Majority of this can falls under the umbrella of "Taking care of yourself"
Definitely clean hands and trimmed nails! Nice hands for men are very underrated.
Being a gentleman never goes out of a style. Also, you're correct, posture is very attractive. I have to disregard the hair styling... going bald!
Yes, a gentleman always dresses in good taste!
You have superb speaking skills. Great upload.
Oh you are so kind, thank you! ❤️
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Courtney is back
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Really nice seeing you again
I feel instantly more confident when I banter with employees men or women and even customers and they play along and not give me a your annoying or your weird look.
Posture is very important too that I suck at it and have to work on myself
Thank u 😊 seriously.
Courtney's point about skin care is legit. I have been using SPF moisturiser for years and, despite being the oldest in my friend's group (36) I am usually picked as the youngest! It's a fun game where we ask girls to guess our ages. I normally get picked as 28 because I have few wrinkles and clean skin. It makes a real difference and helps with the confidence too!
What moisturizer brand do you use?
What about calluses in the hand Courtney, do I have to find a way to ease them?
I would say attitude as well. If you change your attitude a lot of that just happens by a result. Sometimes it's having proper attitude about yourself, women, humanity and life in general. It is amazing how perspective and attitude can make a difference for your posture, demeanor, voice, confidence etc. I think part of it is having a attitude to on two sides of the coin here of having a ability to be grateful for what you have and the other side is like a reality check in the other way where you are saying these are the things I can do better and working on those give you a perspective that you are doing the work as well. Then have a perspective that others are doing the best they can with what they got. The important thing imo is about finding the right person and its not about hook ups or whatever just try to find the right person in that there is that effortless ability for you two to kind of be on that same page. It shouldn't be that hard for you two. There is an excitement there you can't fake. So part of that is something to pay attention to imo and can help in your interactions see if there is a compatibility and nice level of appreciation for each other is there. Appreciation for yourself and others is where it starts.
LOL at this cope.
It's all about looks buddy boyo
@@giorgosdro7059 I'd be a moron if my partner was a person who only valued looks imo. But we do live in a place called earth 🌎
@@evansmith8824 It is mostly about looks. It's what we see first,,it's what attracts us to a partner,it's what we value the most everything else comes after looks. You talked about attitude,you have to understand that,your looks affect your attitude/personality
If you are attractive and arrogant,people perceive u as confident
If u are ugly and confident,people perceive u as arrogant
Happy Sunday Courtney
Keep eating healthy as you can 😊
Keep doing them squats and twerking throughout the week 😅
Hi my friend! ❤️
Helpful tips I didn't know many of these are what women notice. I rather hear a woman's perspective about what women are interested in men.
All these things are achievable . Pleased to say I'm doing most of things you say in the video. It's surprising people not having good manners to for example hold a door open .
I stopped using hair styling gel etc products. My hair is the best it's ever been since.
What do you think about long black leather coats? I got one because of Clive Owen in Sin City. (Complete with Chuck Tailors) I seem to get a lot of compliments from both men and women.
Great stuff from the lovely and talented unicorn.
Walk with a swagger. The world is yours
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*Starts walking like McGregor after KOs* 🕺🏽
Hey, Courtney and everyone.
Hi Yosef! Happy Sunday 😊
Yes yes and yes! Every veteran will tell you that in boot camp, you were yelled at to sit and stand up straight lol no joke!
Side story, last week when I was at karaoke, I locked eyes with a server girl and she smiled back. She was definitely young (early 20s). I go every week so I already know I'm gonna see her again and talk to her.
🫡 hi Tommy!
I can confirm your statement.
Sincerely,
A Combat Engineer
@@CourtneyRyan at ease Courtney, you're not in formation 😂
@@dobermanownerforlife3902 I was infantry!
@@tommygunn6901 "oh hail, oh hail , oh infantry!"
@Courtney Ryan
I think it would be interesting to see you on the Fresh and Fit podcast.
I think Myron would let you in on a little secret about how modern women really are.
I do appreciate your channel and the content/videos you put out.
God bless.
🙏🏾
It is smart to say that..to make a good first impression for a specific category of women. The only trouble with this theory is: when i Take a coffee at the mall and look others people passing front of me, the couples dont have necessary good clothes, hair and so on. Dont forget that the goal is to find a partner..
Does the clay leave any flakes? Lots of gel does and it gets annoying.
That’s why I hate the gel! It looks hard and crunchy too 😂 My fiancé uses the clay and doesn’t have that issue at all - looks and feels way better!
I'd like some clarification on the skin care product to start using. You mentioned something with SPF protection. Acne products aside, what type of product are we talking about here?
Many aftershaves and the like will have a small level of SPF. I prefer Every Man Jack and their face cream, but I've used a few others. Look for a face cream or face lotion that lists SPF as a benefit.
next time a girls says this to me in an interaction, conversation, while asking her out, because i know that sometimes women will say this, just so they can be sure, they will sometimes say "are you asking me out?", i would say to her:
'DUH!!!!!!, OF COURSE I'M ASKING YOU OUT, I'M A GUY!!!!, ITS WHAT WE DO!!!!!!', i feel that will make me feel good about myself for saying a rude asshole response, just expressing sarcasm in a resentful way, because i know i'm not the only guy in the world that has always hated and resented how asking someone out has always been and probably forever will be on the mans shoulders, that it seems men have always had to do everything when it comes to starting or forming a relationship, being the one to make the first move, make advances and start interactions, be an interesting conversationalist, ive always been a fan of the belief that men need to be better talkers, be a better conversationalist than women do in order to be successful at dating have better social skills than women do overall, escalate things, take the god damn lead all the time.
its another reminder, and i know people will say to never compare ourselves to others, don't worry about what others don't have to do or deal with, focus on you, but i get annoyed and enraged that there are even dating coaches for women, because i will never understand why would women need help on how to attract men when they don't have to be the ones to pursue, or approach, take any action on their part, that doesn't require any jackshit of skills, doesn't require any learning, any behavior development. Ya i will never understand and it makes me laugh and cringe when people say women need skills to do well in dating on their part, how? just exist and be pretty is not a skill, because being beautiful is not a skill since its not behavior based.
How your clothes fit 🔑 getting into better shape helps!
I've got something to say on the tip of being a gentleman. I've always been a gentleman with the ladies because that's just who I am. What has being a gentleman with the ladies gotten me? I can tell you exactly what it has gotten me, THE FRIEND ZONE!!! I continue to be a gentleman because as I've said that's just who I am. IN my experience though, it's usually the loud, rude assholes who are the only one;s that get anywhere with the women. They ladies would always act as if they were angered and offended by their behavior. In the end though, they would usually be going off with them and leaving me wondering what in the hell just happened?
Thanks
Thank you so much for the support ❤️
I know this channel is focused on men, but a ton of the advice given to men (specifically the appearance part) tcan go for women too. When I see women who are obviously caring about their appearance and make themselves look good and can be caring as well, I'm instantly more attracted to them.
(Also 100 percent agree with the fake long eyelashes, it's just not good looking 😂)
You never loose by being a good man, if others can't respect that, you don't need them and they don't deserve you.
Anyone use Clay with shine?
I don't use sunscreen or use skin care products, and there's people I know my age with laugh lines already and I have none xD but seriously, I've been washing my face more.
Anyone know or have a link to this guy she mentioned who posts getting ready videos?
Which quality of brand do girls thirst for the most on Men??
We love to take care of ourselves. For women? Yes, but it also makes us feel better about life.