The point he made about how comfort and safety can actually kill our dreams really stuck out to me... I've never thought about it that way before but reflecting on my life it does ring true
This is why it's so important to be supportive as a parent. There's so much stuff I remember from growing up like being excited about something and having my parents shut me down if it wasn't a sure thing
I know his message comes from a desire to help others, but even micro risks can have major consequences depending on ones situation. I just think people should keep that in mind.
I'm so sorry you experienced that. Yes, living life to the fullest is so important and for me, one of the best ways to do that is to be fully present in whatever I'm doing or whoever I'm with. There is so much joy and goodness in the here and now but sometimes I miss it because I'm stressed about what might happen in the future or regretful of something that has happened in the past.
I like what he says around the 6:00 mark, about action being part of the learning. I think that's why it doesn't work when other people try to tell you about the lessons, you have to experience these things yourself
So true! Hearing about it versus experiencing are worlds apart. The difference is akin to a signpost telling you where the destination is versus experiencing it for yourself.
It's inspiring to hear how he moved past his inner critic. I can completely relate to it, it's so loud, like every little mistake gets magnified in my mind.
The way he talks about the fear filter that he started living through, you can see the sadness he feels when he thinks about that chunk of his life and how it held him back.
Great quote from George Addair. Started going down a rabbit hole regarding him and this work with the Omega Vector Foundation. Really interesting stuff.
Honestly, the best part is that you heard it now and it sounds like you are ready to let go of allowing the fear of failure to dictate how to live your life. Cheering you on from the sidelines. Would love to hear how it's going. You got this!
The concept of embracing failure as part of the process is like so freakin critical to learn. I'm in my mid 30's and have only just given myself permission to experiment creatively and not be attached to the outcome.
I like the idea of micro-risks... it sounds like it's just doing something you wouldn't normally that doesn't have a huge amount of consequences if it goes wrong
Thank you! Yeah, taking action can be something simple but easy to achieve. The key is consistency and allowing the steps to build on themselves, getting you closer to your goal and psychologically supporting yourself. For me, little wins have a big impact in encouraging me to keep going. Good luck in your journey!
I loved this! Powerful message and great delivery- I am so sorry to hear about the accdient and your struggles, but its inspiring to hear what you have been able to take away from them.
Love the question "What would you do if you had no fear of failure?" I wish I addressed that question earlier in life. Better late than never. Thought provoking talk, great presentation. Thank you.
I loved this! Powerful message and great delivery- thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry to hear about the accident and your struggles, but it's really inspiring to hear what you have been able to take away from these experiences.
Don't raise your hand in class, don’t start exercising, what if you fail? I never realized how much I’ve been living like that, avoiding things out of fear. Time to make a change!
Your last statement ("Time to make a change!") really makes me happy. I hope you know that you have started the process by stating your intention publically. This is a great example of taking a micro-risk. Well done! Wish you well on your journey of change! Would love to hear how it's going!
I hear you. It is sad to think of but the good news is that the power shifts back to you once you realize how the fear of failure is holding you back. You regain control. The process of taking micro-risks is a good way to gently get you to regain full control.
I remember being fearless as a kid too... then I fell off a fence, landed on my face and chipped my front tooth. That's literally the exact moment my fearlessness went away lol
Sounds like a scary (and painful) experience. BTW, great handle name (HyperDiva). Sounds like you are not stuck as the little kid who fell off of that fence.
I really like this idea! Also that the micro-risk can be personal to us, like we get to decide how big or how small the risk is, that's really empowering
Yes, absolutely. What I found effective was to keep making the risk smaller until it felt small to me. For some people jumping out of an airplane is a micro-risk (I actually know people like that) but for me, that would be entirely overwhelming. It's important to honor yourself and your risk tolerance.
I'm sorry you experienced that. I put a like on your comment not because you had to experience that as a 5th grader but because you have the courage to post about it.
The four-step framework you mentioned is interesting but I’m curious how you’d apply that in professional environments where failure isn’t always tolerated?
I hear you. In the past, my inner critic helped me to not settle for mediocrity and get the most out of myself. However, now I've noticed that it keeps me from celebrating the wins. I always feel behind and not enough. It doesn't serve me anymore. Time to give that voice another job! hahaha
Teachers used to be so abusive. I remember an english teacher slapping a students desk with one of those 1meter wooden rulers with such force that it splintered right next to the students hand. Petrifying
I'm not sure about this one! Like I understand why it sounds good but on the other hand sometimes failure just isn't an option. I guess you just have to know when to take them, right?
I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all. The fear of failure and having a cautious nature are different. I would imagine that you leaned toward the latter. This pattern of learning to fear failure is common with a lot of people but it doesn't have to be the same for everyone.
The point he made about how comfort and safety can actually kill our dreams really stuck out to me... I've never thought about it that way before but reflecting on my life it does ring true
I think we all need this reminder that it's okay to be imperfect and that taking action, no matter how small, is what really matters ❤
The story about his friend in school was rough. Crazy how one moment can shape a person's whole life.
The snow story from his childhood was adorable! Such a great example of how confident and bold we are as kids, before the fear of failure creeps in.
That family photo at the start is amazing!!!
This is why it's so important to be supportive as a parent. There's so much stuff I remember from growing up like being excited about something and having my parents shut me down if it wasn't a sure thing
Really good insight and application of some of the ideas I talk about. Makes me look back to see where I could have done better as a parent.
I know his message comes from a desire to help others, but even micro risks can have major consequences depending on ones situation. I just think people should keep that in mind.
I can't believe he went through decades of his life and achieved a leadership role and still had this fear of failure hanging over him.
Now this is a better way to pursue your goals. 👏
This talk got me thinking about my granddad. He always said "nothing ventured, nothing gained." Guess he was onto something.
He's so right about dreams. They become easier and easier to push aside.
It’s so true that as we grow older, we care way too much about what others think. Just shows that fear is something we’re taught.
I lost a friend in a car accident last year and it really makes you think about living life to the fullest. This talk is spot on.
I'm so sorry you experienced that. Yes, living life to the fullest is so important and for me, one of the best ways to do that is to be fully present in whatever I'm doing or whoever I'm with. There is so much joy and goodness in the here and now but sometimes I miss it because I'm stressed about what might happen in the future or regretful of something that has happened in the past.
I love the idea of being kinder to yourself and others when taking risks. We all start somewhere, and it's okay to be imperfect along the way.
Being imperfect along the way. Well said!
the idea of micro-risks is so interesting! I love how he breaks it down into small, manageable steps. It makes chasing dreams feel less overwhelming!
I like what he says around the 6:00 mark, about action being part of the learning. I think that's why it doesn't work when other people try to tell you about the lessons, you have to experience these things yourself
So true! Hearing about it versus experiencing are worlds apart. The difference is akin to a signpost telling you where the destination is versus experiencing it for yourself.
It's inspiring to hear how he moved past his inner critic. I can completely relate to it, it's so loud, like every little mistake gets magnified in my mind.
The way he talks about the fear filter that he started living through, you can see the sadness he feels when he thinks about that chunk of his life and how it held him back.
This talk reminded me of that quote "Everything you want is on the other side of fear." So true!
Great quote from George Addair. Started going down a rabbit hole regarding him and this work with the Omega Vector Foundation. Really interesting stuff.
Wish I'd heard this talk years ago. I've spent so much time worrying about failure instead of just trying things out.
Honestly, the best part is that you heard it now and it sounds like you are ready to let go of allowing the fear of failure to dictate how to live your life. Cheering you on from the sidelines. Would love to hear how it's going. You got this!
Love this talk, wish I could've heard it in person. I think being okay with being uncomfortable is so important for growth, and just life in general.
You are so right. Comfort with discomfort is such an important part of it. Great insight!
The concept of embracing failure as part of the process is like so freakin critical to learn. I'm in my mid 30's and have only just given myself permission to experiment creatively and not be attached to the outcome.
At some point you have to take a leap... Back yourself and jump! Know that even if all goes wrong, you'll be ok 💜
You are so right! Even if it all goes wrong, you'll be okay! Thank you for that inspiring thought. Something I needed to hear today.
I like the idea of micro-risks... it sounds like it's just doing something you wouldn't normally that doesn't have a huge amount of consequences if it goes wrong
Bravo, excellent message and wow, what a great presenter you are!
How fragile our lives are... Thank you for the inspiration to stop waiting for "one day" and start acting now.
Thank you! Yeah, taking action can be something simple but easy to achieve. The key is consistency and allowing the steps to build on themselves, getting you closer to your goal and psychologically supporting yourself. For me, little wins have a big impact in encouraging me to keep going. Good luck in your journey!
I loved this! Powerful message and great delivery- I am so sorry to hear about the accdient and your struggles, but its inspiring to hear what you have been able to take away from them.
Really like the where he's going with this, yet I feel like I need some more actionable steps to help me while I'm still figuring things out.
Smaller, manageable steps. Feels like something I might actually start doing.
If you do try it, please post. I would love to hear how it's going! You got this!
Inspiring how you used a tragedy as fuel to live more intentionally
Love the question "What would you do if you had no fear of failure?" I wish I addressed that question earlier in life. Better late than never. Thought provoking talk, great presentation. Thank you.
I loved this! Powerful message and great delivery- thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry to hear about the accident and your struggles, but it's really inspiring to hear what you have been able to take away from these experiences.
Thanks! I'm glad it was helpful!
This talk was the push I needed. Time to start taking those small steps and stop letting fear run the show.
Don't raise your hand in class, don’t start exercising, what if you fail? I never realized how much I’ve been living like that, avoiding things out of fear. Time to make a change!
Your last statement ("Time to make a change!") really makes me happy. I hope you know that you have started the process by stating your intention publically. This is a great example of taking a micro-risk. Well done! Wish you well on your journey of change! Would love to hear how it's going!
never thought about how we're not born afraid of failure. kinda makes me sad how much I've let fear hold me back.
I hear you. It is sad to think of but the good news is that the power shifts back to you once you realize how the fear of failure is holding you back. You regain control. The process of taking micro-risks is a good way to gently get you to regain full control.
Excellent presentation of micro risks and how to master your goals. This is Peter your Yale Class mate
Hi Peter!
Very well done! Thanks for sharing.
Love it! Calculated risks and positive disruption is how to really make your mark
I remember being fearless as a kid too... then I fell off a fence, landed on my face and chipped my front tooth. That's literally the exact moment my fearlessness went away lol
Sounds like a scary (and painful) experience. BTW, great handle name (HyperDiva). Sounds like you are not stuck as the little kid who fell off of that fence.
I really like this idea! Also that the micro-risk can be personal to us, like we get to decide how big or how small the risk is, that's really empowering
I like this idea.
Interesting take on how we learn to fear failure... Makes me wonder how much of my anxiety is just learned behavior and could maybe be unlearnt?
You are spot on. It can be unlearned. Seeing and believing that this is possible is the first step.
@@sugatabiswas1021 it's a pretty awesome thought, thank you!
Loved it!
Thanks!
It's not that simple for everyone. Taking risks, even small ones can have major consequences in some situations.
Yes, absolutely. What I found effective was to keep making the risk smaller until it felt small to me. For some people jumping out of an airplane is a micro-risk (I actually know people like that) but for me, that would be entirely overwhelming. It's important to honor yourself and your risk tolerance.
Fantastic! You have to risk it for the biscuit as they say....
That teacher calling out the kid as stup*d? Ugh, flashbacks to my mean 5th grade teacher. Still hurts to think about.
I'm sorry you experienced that. I put a like on your comment not because you had to experience that as a 5th grader but because you have the courage to post about it.
The four-step framework you mentioned is interesting but I’m curious how you’d apply that in professional environments where failure isn’t always tolerated?
If we believe and then become the labels given to us, then we better doing all we can to give ourselves a label that we can aspire to
I'm so sorry you and people close to you had to go through that accident, even if it was a meaningful turning point. So sad.
Wouldn't say I'm actually scared of failing, but I do hold back saying a lot of what I think in case it comes across as less intelligent.
Lol my inner critic is SO LOUD! 😂😂
I hear you. In the past, my inner critic helped me to not settle for mediocrity and get the most out of myself. However, now I've noticed that it keeps me from celebrating the wins. I always feel behind and not enough. It doesn't serve me anymore. Time to give that voice another job! hahaha
Before someone asks, no. Taking risks does not always lead to success. The real question is why would you not? As Jim Rohn said "It's all risky"
Yeah 'failure is a learning opportunity' is a empowering approach, but for some they just can't because they believe the stakes are way too high.
Teachers used to be so abusive. I remember an english teacher slapping a students desk with one of those 1meter wooden rulers with such force that it splintered right next to the students hand. Petrifying
I'm not sure about this one! Like I understand why it sounds good but on the other hand sometimes failure just isn't an option. I guess you just have to know when to take them, right?
Who knows how much damage bad teachers have done to wonderful young minds...
Okay maybe there’s something wrong with me because even as a kid I was never fearless....
I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all. The fear of failure and having a cautious nature are different. I would imagine that you leaned toward the latter. This pattern of learning to fear failure is common with a lot of people but it doesn't have to be the same for everyone.