I’ve never wanted kids either. People said I’d change my mind when I got older. Didn’t happen. In my 30s it became if I met the right guy I’d change my mind. I always said the right guy for me wouldn’t want kids either. So here I am at 42 now, no kids, no regrets!
Thank you for speaking about not wanting children! I am the same way! Adoption is totally legitimate!! I just appreciate how you talked about it so openly! Just know, you’re not alone in that opinion💕
I was horrified about pregnancy for so long. I changed my mind and I really want kids now, but i'm still afraid. I feel like it's such a personal thing people cannot say "you will change your mind" if you dont want to. Its totally ok not wanting to have kids.
@@Books_Anime_92 I love kids. Love my godson, love all my friends kids, I just love them so much! It's amazing to watch them grow and learn! But I have never and will never want to have children. Full stop, I don't want to be a mother. I just wish more people realized this about themselves before they had their own kids and ended up resenting them, thus being damaging to them. Not wanting to be a parent doesn't mean you hate kids and even if someone does...so? They're loud, needy, require a LOT of energy and are kinda terrifying because they haven't yet learned empathy. It's perfectly valid not to like them, want to be around them, or want to have them.
Girl I feel you about the kids. Being pregnant is like one of my biggest fears. I'm 28 and people still tell me I'll change my mind. Pretty sure I know myself well enough now to know I dont want kids.
I'm absolutely not even remotely ready to have kids. I'm 26 and don't even think about it. I am that person that hardly ever even thinks about marrying (as a child I never did at all) and the thought of planning anything similar to a wedding stresses me out. Good thing I'm still single. It's perfectly fine to not want kids, we're already with too many humans as is, but I think I get why so many people say you'll change your mind. I might have to do with only fertile for a relatively short amount of time and when the end of nears, a lot of women who never wanted children all of a sudden do want a child. Not all of them though and it's not anyone else's place to decide but yours.
Re: children. You will not change your mind. I am at the end of my 30's and only just now people are starting to realize that I am not going to change my mind.
The kid thing. I can relate *soooo* bad. I have never agreed more + also never dated. I can never find people who agree on this topic like ever. Bless you for sharing because I finally don't feel called out by the "you'll change your mind" thing.
Same here! I have no patience for kids. I have 3 nephews and a niece and I love them, of course, but I have no patience for them, even tho they are not that young anymore (the youngest is 10 and the oldest is 15) I just want them to grow up xD I'm almost 24 and I never dated. I will probably never want kids but if I do I think adoption is my only option, because the thought of being pregnant... just no. Definitely not.
This is the first time I am hearing someone say they would rather adopt than get pregnant IF they want kids and oh god, it just feels so good cause I relate to this so much!!!
"Your girl hasn't dated anyone. In... ever." Girl yesss. Also, totally relate to your feelings on pregnancy! So many people around me are getting pregnant and I'm just really not interested in it.
Coming from someone who actually does want kids, it annoys the hell out of me when people say "you'll change your mind" to those who don't want kids. Like, it genuinely baffles me- obviously, if someone doesn't want kids, they have thought long and hard about it (I totally get the whole "pregnancy freaks me out" thing by the way, that's fair and totally valid!). Also, I think adoption is a great alternative to physically having kids, especially given the number of kids currently in the foster care system. You do you, girl!
Me too girl! The thought of being pregnant scares the hell out of me. I mean it would be nice having a little human that you would love fervently but the thought of pain and responsibility scares me lol
I love the “no offense” after the atheist assumption 😂 people always assume I’m religious too and I don’t know why cause I couldn’t be further from it!
My assumption about you is that you're incredible. Except that's not an assumption, it's a fact. Also congrats on 200k, you deserve every single subscriber, and so many more.
I'm in the same boat !! Pregnancy scares me so much and I do not want it! People need to realize that not every woman's life-goal is to become pregnant and have children.
Wow. I just came back to this channel today after A LOONG TIME. Used to watch her when she had like 15K subs and she used to obsess over The Night Circus and V.E Schwab haha! Came back today and it's 200K and she has a silver play button now! Way to go, congos to her!
Also, think about this: Isn't it funny how people are old enough to have kids at 18 and no one cares, but saying you don't at 27 is monstrous! I've thought about my decision far more than someone with kids thinks about theirs.
When you were talking about how you aren't guarded and always overshare and how too many people know too much about you - I felt that. Literally will meet someone and tell them EVERYTHING right away which gets to be problematic. Glad I'm not the only one though haha.
I feel the same exact way about the children thing even down to the pregnancy part. you are the first person my age that has said that so I don't feel so alone now. Thank you for sharing.
That perfectionism talk was the truth I need to be reminded of every day! I have half a college degree because I just gave up on so many classes the moment I felt like I might fail.
I've taken two college courses that go into _explicit_ details concerning pregnancy. After the first one, I realized there's no way I would ever be comfortable being pregnant and the second one confirmed that. I've always wanted kids (probs cause I grew up with a lot of siblings), but I am 100% gonna adopt someday! Pregnancy is whack yall.
About the kids thing: ME TOO OH MY GOSH IT IS SO ANNOYING WHEN PEOPLE TELL ME "OH THAT'S A SHAME" OR YOU'LL CHANGE YOUR MIND WHEN YOU'RE OLDER" LIKE NO I MOST DEFINITELY WILL NOT CHANGE MY MIND I DO NOT WISH TO PUSH A HUMAN OUT OF ME
the assumption about being kind/selfish & your response was SO RELATABLE. reminding yourself it's okay & honoring the progress is a reminder i needed ❤️
hannah you are SUCH a mom friend big mom-friend energy i think you just have such a calming presence which is why i think you may come off shy or introverted but i love that you’re also an extrovert!!! extroverts unite!!! also we need to have all the hugs next time we see each other!!!
I relate to the over-sharing point so much. I’m so open to any and all questions people ask to the point I answer their question AND give them follow up information 😆
I absolutely relate to not wanting kids! I've never wanted children, ever. Yet I always get the "Oh you you'll change your mind." "You don't know what could happen down the road." "What's the point of having children if you don't get to have grandchildren?" (My dad said that last one, mostly joking but still) It's so wrong to assume someone will change your mind and tell someone they don't know themselves. Sure you can never know what happen, but if someone tells you this kind of thing, do not disregard their feelings and opinions. Not everyone wants kids. Not everyone wants to be a parent. That should be respected just as much as the want to have kids.
I really relate to that physical contact thing - when I feel anxious something that makes me feel better is physical contact with others and getting hugs/holding someone's hands and it's also how I express my emotions, especially when I'm happy
when she said you feel something so much that you just don't want to feel it reminded me of that quote by David Jones (i think i'm not sure )"It is both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so deeply"
the things you said about never wanting children/ to be pregnant is LITERALLY SO ME!!! i've been told countless times by my parents and friends and other people that i'll definitely change my mind in the future but no?? not everyone wants children oof
GIRL the -s t r u g g l e- of being a woman who is vocal about not wanting kids is HARD. I am totally on board with you, I am not a kids person, I just know that the way my brain works and my personality is not conducive to being around kids 24/7. Also, I don't want that emotional or financial responsibility. And that's cool! Never once have I told someone they shouldn't want kids, or that wanting kids is bad, so WHYYYYY do people feel the need to tell me I will want them one day! It doesn't effect you!!! It's my business!!!! Tanks for coming to my TED Talk.
To be honest, I'm so happy and relieved to know that there are other people who are perfectionists who quit something if it doesn't work out the way they want it. I was afraid that there was something absolutely wrong with me. *But yeah, I also get good grandes for Physics even though I understand nothing about that*
It's so important to talk about not having kids because whenever someone says that they don't want kids a lot of people say that you will change your mind.There could be reasons why a person does not want kids or one could not want want kids just because one does not want children.Our society puts so much importance on marriage and children that if someone does not want to go down that route , people fail to understand and support them.
I am so happy to be not the only girl/woman who doesn't want children or get pregnant. I am the only one in my friend group and my family always tells me that it will change and it's just so annoying 😐
I identify with your perfectionism so intensely! I’m the exact same. If I don’t think I can do something exactly the way I think it should be done i become completely paralyzed.
There’s a lot of things about Hannah that I share in common that I always thought I was a bad person for doing this. Oversharing, being dramatic, not wanting kids, being physical, the good enough and being selfish, and more. I’m so happy that someone else is somewhat similar to me in certain ways that makes me not feel so alone in certain ways Edit: I just learned that I have the same kind of perfectionism that you have. I always thought perfectionism was to work and make everything perfect. If I cant understand something the first time or if I don’t think I can do something right, I just give up. Wow
Ahhh I relate to this so much 😂😂 particularly the hugs/physical affection, cutting people out if they're mean to my friends, perfectionism, and especially the oversharing
OMG I understand you so well. I've never wanted children, and I've always said that in case that changes, I'm totally going to adopt, and everyone is always like oh yeah, you'll change your mind, adoption isn't the same, blablabla. It seems like a woman cannot think this way, as if pregnancy was the most important thing or something
I listen to a podcast last week about not wanting kids and a woman in her 50 said something that made me think. She said that asking someone that KNOWS they do not want kids is like asking a gay person if they sure they gay. It was a really interesting discussion and I wish the podcast was in English so more people could listen to it but unfortunately it's in Swedish. Also congrats on 200k!
it is insane how similar we are. like almost everything you explained i was like “me too” except for the friends thing and guarded thing. i have a lot of acquaintances but only like 2 best friends. i also have a lot of secrets that i don’t feel safe sharing with the small town i live in, but i feel comfortable sharing them on the internet. which probably doesn’t make sense but that’s how it is
It is amazing to me how many people feel comfortable telling a stranger how they feel/will feel about wanting kids. Family is one thing for me, but a stranger telling me I'll eventually want kids and I'm just going through a "phase" kinda makes me wanna punch them in the baby maker 🙃👊🏼
Love, I have the exact same feelings about pregnancy and kids. I am 28 and people still tell me I will change my mind. I have had more than three gynacologists because I never felt they took me seriously in that - or any other matter. 🤦♀️
I love that you said you'd adopt if you ever want kids! I was adopted and I feel like people never consider that as an option. Obviously you don't need kids at all but that part just made me smile!
YES! I totally understand the super feeler experience. I never knew that was a term but I really relate to how you explained it. I also find that doing my makeup helps with my anxiety. I do it most mornings because I find it helps set a relaxing tone for the day. I will just listen to my audiobook and do my makeup.
Thank you for saying the part about not wanting kids, I have NEVER wanted kids ever in my life. People kept telling me oh you'll change your mind, guess what my mind didn't change. I am now 35, still don't want kids, don't like being around kids, I met my husband and he's the oldest of 7 and HE also doesn't want kids. We've been together 16 in a half years now, never once has our minds EVER changed.
I relate completely to your answer about hugs! I'm a physically affectionate person! I'm constantly asking friends and family if I can give them a hug... and a hug for me is not a hug unless it lasts like a minute, which for normal people is far too long. "Cause your girl hasn't dated anyone...in...ever!" also relateable. Actually, this showed me we have more in common than I original thought! :)
Congrats on the 200k! Thanks so much for sharing your feelings on pregnancy because this is the first time ever I saw someone feel the same way I do. People always try to disregard when I explain this fear but I feel like is very important to remember that we should choose what we want our bodie to endure. Have children put you thought a lot and wanting to preserve yourself from this experience is totally valid. So I'm here in a possible sea of "you will change your mind" comments we always hear to remember that it's okay the way we both feel.
“I created that category just so I could win it” LMAO
That low-key reminds me of something that I'd do.
I would probably do that too
@Dawn Edgar Why not just post vids, people will subscribe to you way more
I love that! lol
instablaster.
I assume that you are the most wonderful human being and oh would you look at that I’M RIGHT
@Hailey In Bookland
That's so sweet 😘
Girl, your right. but you and zoe are to. book marked rule
Hey hailey watched your video Hannah lol ever since that game she’s gonna make sure she’s on it!!
You guys are the cutest friends everrrrrrrr!🤍♥️
People need to realize not every woman wants children. That’s okay!
And we are far enough on Earth anyway. So it's pretty good that some don't want children. It's a choice that should be respected and not pointed out.
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK
@@starshocker exactly like why create more humans if 1) u don't want to and 2) there are already too many
I’ve never wanted kids either. People said I’d change my mind when I got older. Didn’t happen. In my 30s it became if I met the right guy I’d change my mind. I always said the right guy for me wouldn’t want kids either. So here I am at 42 now, no kids, no regrets!
Amen
"the only time i'm not the mom friend is when there's another more DOMINANT MOM FRIEND."
i'm so happy i'm not the only person horrified by pregnancy 😹😹
I know let a girl live who needs kids
Right having kids scare me
The idea of it makes me cry
Same. Lmao I can't stand the "you'll change your mind." speeches. Nope.
saaaaame
react to my assumption: you deserve hitting 200k subscribers and 200k more how about THAT
I was gonna say something self deprecating but this is a year of self love so: thank you, I'm trying to accept that I deserve it
HELL YEA HANNAH
This is the kind of content we aspire for
A Clockwork Reader WE LOVE SELF LOVE AND TRUTH
Thank you for speaking about not wanting children! I am the same way! Adoption is totally legitimate!! I just appreciate how you talked about it so openly! Just know, you’re not alone in that opinion💕
I was horrified about pregnancy for so long. I changed my mind and I really want kids now, but i'm still afraid. I feel like it's such a personal thing people cannot say "you will change your mind" if you dont want to. Its totally ok not wanting to have kids.
Thank you so much for your openness and honesty. I would rather adopt too. ❤️❤️
Obviously she hates children if she doesn’t want kids. Most women who don’t want children hate kids.
@@Books_Anime_92 it doesn't mean she hates kids it just means she doesn't want to be responsible for kids, there's a difference
@@Books_Anime_92 I love kids. Love my godson, love all my friends kids, I just love them so much! It's amazing to watch them grow and learn! But I have never and will never want to have children. Full stop, I don't want to be a mother. I just wish more people realized this about themselves before they had their own kids and ended up resenting them, thus being damaging to them. Not wanting to be a parent doesn't mean you hate kids and even if someone does...so? They're loud, needy, require a LOT of energy and are kinda terrifying because they haven't yet learned empathy. It's perfectly valid not to like them, want to be around them, or want to have them.
Been getting the “you’ll change your mind about kids” spill all my life .... if you do you do if you don’t you don’t. Stop pushing her, y’all lol.
Girl I feel you about the kids. Being pregnant is like one of my biggest fears. I'm 28 and people still tell me I'll change my mind. Pretty sure I know myself well enough now to know I dont want kids.
Lol, I literally just left the same comment. Even with the age and stuffs.
I'm 32 and still scared! No babies yet!
I feel very validated with other people commenting on this with the same feelings.
Yay other women who feel the same way 🙌🏻🙌🏻
I'm absolutely not even remotely ready to have kids. I'm 26 and don't even think about it.
I am that person that hardly ever even thinks about marrying (as a child I never did at all) and the thought of planning anything similar to a wedding stresses me out. Good thing I'm still single.
It's perfectly fine to not want kids, we're already with too many humans as is, but I think I get why so many people say you'll change your mind. I might have to do with only fertile for a relatively short amount of time and when the end of nears, a lot of women who never wanted children all of a sudden do want a child. Not all of them though and it's not anyone else's place to decide but yours.
“all i wanna do is hug people,,, ALL THE TIME”
s a m e
That’s me.
“i created that category just so I could win it“ is a mooooooood. But also it's so powerful
Re: children. You will not change your mind. I am at the end of my 30's and only just now people are starting to realize that I am not going to change my mind.
"Applications are open down below" HAD ME DYINGGGGGG😂 Omg Hannah, ily please never change
As someone who has had the honor of hugging Hannah twice I can say she gives some of the absolute best hugs!!!
you do have great eyebrows so you deserved that win nonetheless
I honestly have the biggest girl crush on you! You’re such an exquisite person and you’re absolutely gorgeous....and those curls...swoon
we all have a girl crush on her
The kid thing. I can relate *soooo* bad. I have never agreed more + also never dated. I can never find people who agree on this topic like ever. Bless you for sharing because I finally don't feel called out by the "you'll change your mind" thing.
Same here! I have no patience for kids. I have 3 nephews and a niece and I love them, of course, but I have no patience for them, even tho they are not that young anymore (the youngest is 10 and the oldest is 15) I just want them to grow up xD I'm almost 24 and I never dated. I will probably never want kids but if I do I think adoption is my only option, because the thought of being pregnant... just no. Definitely not.
This is the first time I am hearing someone say they would rather adopt than get pregnant IF they want kids and oh god, it just feels so good cause I relate to this so much!!!
The bit about not wanting kids was so relatable!! So glad there’s other women that feel the same
"Your girl hasn't dated anyone. In... ever." Girl yesss. Also, totally relate to your feelings on pregnancy! So many people around me are getting pregnant and I'm just really not interested in it.
"So many people around me are getting pregnant.." 😂😂had me laughing like a maniac.
Coming from someone who actually does want kids, it annoys the hell out of me when people say "you'll change your mind" to those who don't want kids. Like, it genuinely baffles me- obviously, if someone doesn't want kids, they have thought long and hard about it (I totally get the whole "pregnancy freaks me out" thing by the way, that's fair and totally valid!). Also, I think adoption is a great alternative to physically having kids, especially given the number of kids currently in the foster care system. You do you, girl!
« Applications open down bellow » 😂 Girl you killed me with laughter (congrats for 200k from the other side)
This gave me a good giggle too. I immediately had to look below to see if anyone made offers!
Nana Delweiss I nearly spat out my water when she said that
Please, please do updated hogwarts House book recommendations! I watched those four videos alone like five times
Erika Vodvárková I’m planning to!
I think it’s completely normal to crave physical touch - it’s one of the love languages! Loved this x
Congratulations on 200k you deserve it so much!!!♥️♥️
Thank you!!!
Me too girl! The thought of being pregnant scares the hell out of me. I mean it would be nice having a little human that you would love fervently but the thought of pain and responsibility scares me lol
I love the “no offense” after the atheist assumption 😂 people always assume I’m religious too and I don’t know why cause I couldn’t be further from it!
My assumption about you is that you're incredible.
Except that's not an assumption, it's a fact.
Also congrats on 200k, you deserve every single subscriber, and so many more.
I'm in the same boat !! Pregnancy scares me so much and I do not want it! People need to realize that not every woman's life-goal is to become pregnant and have children.
Congratulations on 200k. That's amazing 😍🥰!
Wow. I just came back to this channel today after A LOONG TIME. Used to watch her when she had like 15K subs and she used to obsess over The Night Circus and V.E Schwab haha! Came back today and it's 200K and she has a silver play button now! Way to go, congos to her!
Also, think about this: Isn't it funny how people are old enough to have kids at 18 and no one cares, but saying you don't at 27 is monstrous! I've thought about my decision far more than someone with kids thinks about theirs.
A lot of people do care if teenagers have children
When you were talking about how you aren't guarded and always overshare and how too many people know too much about you - I felt that. Literally will meet someone and tell them EVERYTHING right away which gets to be problematic. Glad I'm not the only one though haha.
I feel the same exact way about the children thing even down to the pregnancy part. you are the first person my age that has said that so I don't feel so alone now. Thank you for sharing.
I can totally relate to the kids thing. The idea of pregnany is horrifying!
I'm so glad I'm not alone!
That perfectionism talk was the truth I need to be reminded of every day! I have half a college degree because I just gave up on so many classes the moment I felt like I might fail.
I've taken two college courses that go into _explicit_ details concerning pregnancy. After the first one, I realized there's no way I would ever be comfortable being pregnant and the second one confirmed that. I've always wanted kids (probs cause I grew up with a lot of siblings), but I am 100% gonna adopt someday! Pregnancy is whack yall.
“All I want to do is hug people, all the time.” Literally SAME. I thought I was the only one.
Omg you said you loved hugs and I was like YES HUGS ARE SO UNDERRATED THEYRE THE BEST 💗
What you said about not wanting kids... SO SO RELATABLE!!!! Couldn’t agree more 😂
About the kids thing: ME TOO OH MY GOSH IT IS SO ANNOYING WHEN PEOPLE TELL ME "OH THAT'S A SHAME" OR YOU'LL CHANGE YOUR MIND WHEN YOU'RE OLDER" LIKE NO I MOST DEFINITELY WILL NOT CHANGE MY MIND I DO NOT WISH TO PUSH A HUMAN OUT OF ME
This video just solidified how much of a Gryffindor you are. I love it
We are LITERALLY the same person. I enjoy watching you so much and I am excited to read some of your recommendations on books. Thank you for existing!
the assumption about being kind/selfish & your response was SO RELATABLE. reminding yourself it's okay & honoring the progress is a reminder i needed ❤️
hannah you are SUCH a mom friend big mom-friend energy
i think you just have such a calming presence which is why i think you may come off shy or introverted but i love that you’re also an extrovert!!! extroverts unite!!!
also we need to have all the hugs next time we see each other!!!
I relate to the over-sharing point so much. I’m so open to any and all questions people ask to the point I answer their question AND give them follow up information 😆
omg i've never heard anyone else have the same opinion about having kids as me, you basically just summed up my thoughts on the whole thing
I absolutely relate to not wanting kids! I've never wanted children, ever. Yet I always get the "Oh you you'll change your mind." "You don't know what could happen down the road." "What's the point of having children if you don't get to have grandchildren?" (My dad said that last one, mostly joking but still) It's so wrong to assume someone will change your mind and tell someone they don't know themselves. Sure you can never know what happen, but if someone tells you this kind of thing, do not disregard their feelings and opinions. Not everyone wants kids. Not everyone wants to be a parent. That should be respected just as much as the want to have kids.
i just saw panic two days ago and I AM NOT OKAY BRENDON URIE IS THE LOML
I really relate to that physical contact thing - when I feel anxious something that makes me feel better is physical contact with others and getting hugs/holding someone's hands and it's also how I express my emotions, especially when I'm happy
also I am also very sarcastic and yet still a hufflepuff so im probably the only sarcastic hufflepuff out there
She’s the Mom Friend we need, not the Mom Friend we deserve!
Ah, this was so fun! Kind of glad your hair turned curly because it's always so cute!!! And yes, go win that eyebrows competition, Prom Queen.
when she said you feel something so much that you just don't want to feel it reminded me of that quote by David Jones (i think i'm not sure )"It is both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so deeply"
the things you said about never wanting children/ to be pregnant is LITERALLY SO ME!!! i've been told countless times by my parents and friends and other people that i'll definitely change my mind in the future but no?? not everyone wants children oof
the children, religion & perfectionist part is literally me lmao couldn't relate more on those
This just taught me that we are almost the same people, personality wise and I'm actually shocked
GIRL the -s t r u g g l e- of being a woman who is vocal about not wanting kids is HARD. I am totally on board with you, I am not a kids person, I just know that the way my brain works and my personality is not conducive to being around kids 24/7. Also, I don't want that emotional or financial responsibility. And that's cool! Never once have I told someone they shouldn't want kids, or that wanting kids is bad, so WHYYYYY do people feel the need to tell me I will want them one day! It doesn't effect you!!! It's my business!!!!
Tanks for coming to my TED Talk.
To be honest, I'm so happy and relieved to know that there are other people who are perfectionists who quit something if it doesn't work out the way they want it. I was afraid that there was something absolutely wrong with me. *But yeah, I also get good grandes for Physics even though I understand nothing about that*
It's so important to talk about not having kids because whenever someone says that they don't want kids a lot of people say that you will change your mind.There could be reasons why a person does not want kids or one could not want want kids just because one does not want children.Our society puts so much importance on marriage and children that if someone does not want to go down that route , people fail to understand and support them.
I love that you sound so much like me except the touching thing. No touchy! Amazing that someone agrees about the no kids. Yes!!! So needed this.
I am so happy to be not the only girl/woman who doesn't want children or get pregnant. I am the only one in my friend group and my family always tells me that it will change and it's just so annoying 😐
I identify with your perfectionism so intensely! I’m the exact same. If I don’t think I can do something exactly the way I think it should be done i become completely paralyzed.
I can't stand when people say I'm going to change my mind about kids. I absolutely don't want any either
Talk/ sit down/ experience video? I am here for it!
It’s so refreshing to see a TH-camr that’s an extrovert that has a lot of friends and is touchy-feely :)
YESS I LOVE CHITCHAT VIDEOS! GRWMs, mukbangs, makeup&talk, vlogs etc
I think many of these assumptions stem from your quiet, soft, calming voice and being a mom is the best and worst thing
“I created that category just so I could win it” lol goals!!!
You clearly haven't met the right hufflepuffs, because I'm a hufflepuff and I'm so sarcastic that even my family takes it seriously sometimes :DD
I am a hufflepuff and made of snark. one snarky loyal ball of sarcastic cooperation
There’s a lot of things about Hannah that I share in common that I always thought I was a bad person for doing this. Oversharing, being dramatic, not wanting kids, being physical, the good enough and being selfish, and more. I’m so happy that someone else is somewhat similar to me in certain ways that makes me not feel so alone in certain ways
Edit: I just learned that I have the same kind of perfectionism that you have. I always thought perfectionism was to work and make everything perfect. If I cant understand something the first time or if I don’t think I can do something right, I just give up. Wow
Ahhh I relate to this so much 😂😂 particularly the hugs/physical affection, cutting people out if they're mean to my friends, perfectionism, and especially the oversharing
Wow, I feel like I learned a lot about you, and yes to more chit-chatty videos in the future! Congrats on 200k! :)
OMG I understand you so well. I've never wanted children, and I've always said that in case that changes, I'm totally going to adopt, and everyone is always like oh yeah, you'll change your mind, adoption isn't the same, blablabla. It seems like a woman cannot think this way, as if pregnancy was the most important thing or something
Same! Very few things get me angry, but I do not tolerate people being terrible to my friends or my family.
I felt so seen when you talked about just not trying when things don't come naturally to you. Same.
I listen to a podcast last week about not wanting kids and a woman in her 50 said something that made me think. She said that asking someone that KNOWS they do not want kids is like asking a gay person if they sure they gay. It was a really interesting discussion and I wish the podcast was in English so more people could listen to it but unfortunately it's in Swedish. Also congrats on 200k!
what’s it called?
Matilda Harvey it’s a Swedish podcast named Barnfrihet.
You remind me so much of me. Not saying your not unique. You are very unique human. It's just so great be able to relate to people so strongly.
Oh my gosh that super feeling thing is 1. Relatable and 2. Sounds like it came straight out of a fantasy with empaths and others
it is insane how similar we are. like almost everything you explained i was like “me too”
except for the friends thing and guarded thing. i have a lot of acquaintances but only like 2 best friends. i also have a lot of secrets that i don’t feel safe sharing with the small town i live in, but i feel comfortable sharing them on the internet. which probably doesn’t make sense but that’s how it is
I saw you at the Panic concert in Oakland but I couldnt say hi because there were so many people leaving at the same time :(
luminous bisexual oh no!! I wish we could have met!
It is amazing to me how many people feel comfortable telling a stranger how they feel/will feel about wanting kids. Family is one thing for me, but a stranger telling me I'll eventually want kids and I'm just going through a "phase" kinda makes me wanna punch them in the baby maker 🙃👊🏼
Love, I have the exact same feelings about pregnancy and kids. I am 28 and people still tell me I will change my mind. I have had more than three gynacologists because I never felt they took me seriously in that - or any other matter. 🤦♀️
I love that you said you'd adopt if you ever want kids! I was adopted and I feel like people never consider that as an option. Obviously you don't need kids at all but that part just made me smile!
14:52 “I’ve always had a lot of friends, I have so many friends” can’t relate
Congratulations for 200k subscribers hannah♥️♥️ ILY
YES! I totally understand the super feeler experience. I never knew that was a term but I really relate to how you explained it. I also find that doing my makeup helps with my anxiety. I do it most mornings because I find it helps set a relaxing tone for the day. I will just listen to my audiobook and do my makeup.
I feel like my emotions are always so intense and I hate going numb, but I've found that it's the only way to cope sometimes.
I relate to you 100% about the kids thing it’s so annoying when people act like it’s so abnormal to not want them
I feel you about the perfectionist thing... it didn't make me work harder in school at all, just procrastinate a lot :")
what a mood
Thank you for saying the part about not wanting kids, I have NEVER wanted kids ever in my life. People kept telling me oh you'll change your mind, guess what my mind didn't change. I am now 35, still don't want kids, don't like being around kids, I met my husband and he's the oldest of 7 and HE also doesn't want kids. We've been together 16 in a half years now, never once has our minds EVER changed.
I relate completely to your answer about hugs! I'm a physically affectionate person! I'm constantly asking friends and family if I can give them a hug... and a hug for me is not a hug unless it lasts like a minute, which for normal people is far too long.
"Cause your girl hasn't dated anyone...in...ever!" also relateable.
Actually, this showed me we have more in common than I original thought! :)
you seem like such a genuine kind and funny person and this video CONFIRMED IT, loved this video ❣️
thank you for saying I'm funny, I feel like I'm the only person who thinks I'm funny so I appreciate you
Right ?! Makeup can be so soothing for the anxiety!
Congrats on the 200k! Thanks so much for sharing your feelings on pregnancy because this is the first time ever I saw someone feel the same way I do. People always try to disregard when I explain this fear but I feel like is very important to remember that we should choose what we want our bodie to endure. Have children put you thought a lot and wanting to preserve yourself from this experience is totally valid. So I'm here in a possible sea of "you will change your mind" comments we always hear to remember that it's okay the way we both feel.
The title is a mood
This was super fun and you seem like a really interesting person. I would love for you to have another chat like video like this in the future. 💜
Holy crap Hannah, your description of your High School being broken up in to two groups is EXACTLY MY HIGH SCHOOL EXPERIENCE! I AM SHAKING.
Alsooooo open-minded atheists can be agnostics (; That's what I am!
I absolutely related to you about not wanting kids, sometimes it’s so frustrating to have people tell me I’ll change my mind.
I love panic so much
12:08 that is definitely true...a young person trying to find their way and discover who they are as a person
i feel you on the perfectionist thing oml if something doesn’t come naturally to where i feel i can do it perfectly i immediately quit 👀