I actually am getting "I am" tattooed on me soon, for this reason. I personally associate "I am" with power, positivity and growth. But the problem is, I often forgot I Am anything at all! I'd like to get the tattoo on my wrist (and technically upside down, but the tattoo's for me so pfft) so that I see it everyday and am reminded of how amazing I really Am! Weeeee!
What makes your videos/advice stand out from others (In my opinion) is the focus on how simple details can evoke growth and change, effectively making one self-aware of our responsibility to ourselves. You communicate strong messages without sounding preachy. So much value on this channel, thank you for posting.
Julia Kristina Counselling Erica, there are few things that mean more to me than what you’ve said here. Thank you. So grateful to have you in my camp❤️
Erica V I went to a professional therapist thinking I would be understood, but instead I have never felt so judged. I thought I was there to get help. Not feeling ten time worse about my self, my emotions and thoughts. Julia is a person that doesn’t do that. She helps you to think it through and come to your own conclusions instead of telling you “what to do”. A rare talent in this time and age.
My teacher in grade 4 planted the seed of self efficacy that has supported me through many challenges. When struggling through frustration about a school project to the point of tears, he said that I was tenacious and that I had what I needed to solve the problem. It’s amazing how his encouraging words have helped me through the big problems, the frustrations, and self doubt.
Few issues: Just because someone made it past situations doesn't mean they made the right decisions and/or they are the same person after having done so Someone can have low self esteem due to a lack of confidence for many reasons If someone is a people pleaser and it results in good friendship and relationship then I believe they will be self satisfied. The problem comes when the individual does all this people pleasing and has nothing to show for it. Bombshell here! Self esteem has alot to do with environment If someone is around happy people and they treat them well generally people will be happy But at the same time you can have an overall positive self esteem but lack confidence in certain social areas Great video and thank you for all your work!
Personally, I feel the attribute I most aspire to maintain is my sense of self-efficacy, especially in response to external expectations. Thanks for articulating the differences, it helps to actually know the difference.
I shared your 25 ways to say No, as well as you method of asking yourself "Is This Worth It" when dealing with a moment of anxiety with my psycoligist and she said both are wonderful and actual asked me to send her the 25 Ways To Say No so she can use it in her methods she uses with others
I HAVE AND I CAN GO THROUGH HARD THINGS... AMAZING. FIRST TIME ALL these TERMS ACTUALLY MAKE SENSE. THANK YOU. I just noticed how annoying all the caps can be but I rather accept my imperfections and mistakes. Not tried to edit the comment to appear perfect to get the approval of others. Thank you again, Julia.
Thank you for explaining the difference. I thought I wanted to be a confidence coach but my purpose is more aligned to being a self esteem coach/mentor🥰
I can, I have, and I will! Great video. I identify with it so much. I have had those experiences getting established on and establishing my own private rural acre. So much work, some fulfillment, yet a void that isn't filled. This really made me feel like that disintegrates into the self-presence and satiated self-efficacy that clears your mind, soul, and improves how you feel and how you feel about yourself and achievements.
katia correia learning about anxiety helps a lot and it’s so good you’re doing this. By learning, you’re actually becoming more self aware of what’s going on within you and that’s the key to get rid of it, for good! Cheering you on!
Watching this has made me realise that I have low confidence not low self esteem. I generally quite like myself and am happy with who I am, but I constantly fear messing things up and have terrible social anxiety. That must be why a lot of therapy techniques I've done in the past haven't worked. So how do I get confidence?
I came across this channel searching for the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem and it was amazing the way you sum each one in a little phrase I can, I will, and I'm. This makes subscribing to your channel. It's informative
I can and I have done hard things! Making my way through a particularly hard one now so my success rate isn’t quite 100% but there IS another side and I WILL get there
I have done and gotten through hard times. I AM ready to work on feeling good within. I love sharing your videos across the globe to everyone I know. Thank you, Ms. Julia, you are amazing! :)
For some reason I've always had really bad performers anxiety. I've constantly worried about being perfect when people watch me. But when I'm not on the "stage", I perform amazing. I don't have low self esteem. I like myself. I think I'm a pretty unique individual (infj), but my confidence has kack d apparently.....based on your advice. Thank you
I really appreciate the lazer sharp way you cut straight to the issue. I have struggled with this issue for a long time not understanding why I wasn't confident in certain situations. This makes so much sense and it's so simple. Fantastic!🙏
Recently found your channel. So far I’m enjoying the matter of fact, real and usable information. So many channels are into the new age being one with the universe nonsense and so far I haven’t gotten that from you at all. Thanks for your insight on healing from abuses
I am so thankful for your videos. Ive gotten good at alot of things. More and more everyday. What I struggle with alot is worthiness without outside validation. I want to be able to live and thrive without outside people saying what I did or said was good. I have to be comfortable with myself with or without outsiders. I know I can because I can and I have done hard things. I am good enough as I am. I know I am. I believe I am.
Hi Julia 👋 😊 I am a newbie to your channel and the shift society. It's hard to admit but I suffer from low self-esteem low self-confidence and negative thinking and now I believe I have a touch of perfectionism LOL your videos and lessons are changing my mindset and my life! Thank you so much for providing these inspiring empowering videos! Sincerely, sending you lots of love and gratitude!
I am pretty tired from all the 'could be' and 'might be' uncomfortable worries that go through my mind-- it's been happening for so long it's become almost completely subconscious and automatic. *I can and I have done hard things* >: )
Phillip Rajcany our thoughts are so powerful, and if it became automated fro you, it became unconscious. You can change those worries again, just like they entered your subconscious, you can retrain your brain to get automated opposite thoughts, the thoughts that are not worries. This takes time and effort, but you can retire your brain. What you learned, you can also unlearn.
That was really great thank you - I love braking it down into the short phrases really helps to clarify it. I'm leading a self-esteem and confidence session and I think this distinction will be really helpful. Thanks for sharing
Crisp descriptions. I learnt about something new today, self efficacy. I thank you. I shared your video before I was through watching it, hence my comment is edited.
I acknowledge that I have high Confidence but low self-esteem. I have come to understanding that we should not seek the approval of others rather we should act in ways that serve ourselves first.
WOW you are so gifted in helping others! What a blessing you are to so many and me. What mic are you using? I need one so I have been researching them but I haven’t seen that one and the sound is fantastic. Much Love.... xoxo I can and I have done hard things!
I'm sharing this video on FaceBook. I suppose this is why I lose confi-... self-esteem when I try to defend myself from others. I try to fight for my core values and beliefs behind the wall of introverted safety in my heart, but the harder I defend, the more power I give others, and the more self-esteem I lose. I'm starting to believe that has a large amount to do with trying to put on the armor of confidence on the slippery negative self image I have of myself (not being able to believe my own worth without being able to prove my point to others). I don't feel like I can feel good about myself if I'm not wanted, desired or respected by others. How much do others affect our self-esteem, self efficacy, and self-confidence? How do I stop making my feelings of self-worth vulnerable to what others think and how much I can attract and pleasure the opposite sex? (I've been abused and neglected by my mother, and have experienced disdain and been ignored by girls I'm attracted to).
Great video. I have gotten good at just about EVERYTHING I have done. I am not afraid to try new things and am self-taught at many things. I was married to someone who did not like trying new things and I could never figure out why. Afraid to make mistakes? Who knows. I'm just glad I am not like that. I am a great gardener, painter and quilter. Love all of it. Have even gotten paid for some of my paintings and quilts. Life is fun. Tough stuff? Try giving up a baby for adoption bc your parents told you you would never succeed if you kept your baby. Made it through that one. Divorce, made it through that too. Supported myself WITHOUT WELFARE as a single parent bc the ex was only required to pay $125.00 a month child support. Yep, 125.00 A MONTH. So I supported myself and my son working 2 jobs. Yep, I like myself. I CAN, I WILL, I AM. Also done with the people pleasing. Thanks for all you do Julia!!
I can and I've done hard things! 😎 Oh, yeah! 🤔 To be completely honest, I can use more confidence in some fields, part of me gets pretty insecure about taking action, not because of lack of self-esteem (I do like myself, LOL) but because of the idea of not knowing how to manage situations... I know life doesn't come with a manual but wouldn't be nice have one with all the codes to respond properly to each situation? 😂 Nice video, love it!
Thank you so much this was very helpfull I have picked my self up recently it took a lot of effort but sometimes I still have hard thoughts and your video made me feel better today
oh i kidna get this. I used to be confident(I can be successful, make money, professionally succeed, my skills are great and I'm smart) but used to have no self esteem at the same time(nobody likes me, I'm worthless, I'm just an object and tool and don't deserve to be loved, no one wants to be friends with me, no one can love me). There were areas in my life i was confident in and areas where I just had 0 confidence/efficacy, like making friends and maintaining relationships, which is funny becuase I actually had lot of friends and always made friends wherever I went..omg yeah i know exactly that sliding off feeling, nothing sticking... so sad!
Thanks allot!!! ❤️ I've used my entire life up until now, trying to achieve self-esteem from "hustling" 😬 on the bright side, in the progress i got a lot of confidence from trying and getting good at stuff😜👌🌳💚
Self-esteem is what I need to work on my self-confidence I can get up and entertain or speak to large crowds doesn't bother me a bit inside I feel unworthy I used to call myself to myself Quasimodo it is the reason why I like the John Prine song sins of memphisto❤🌴🐊🌴🌻🕉 I have also walked a guitar to some of the worst neighborhoods in America that takes more than just communication skills😁 there's that sense of humor I can and I have done hard things I can I will I do that's my motto
I can and have done hard things, but I find my self in 44 years of life always having to do this , and I am not sure if I can keep living life like this
Thank you for making this video, I appreciate you sharing, it provided me with a lot of clarity, like in learning that I was not being honest with myself and basically denying the self-loathing I would do even though I've grown & learned to have confidence(& efficacy, & esteem). Keep making more videos✌🏽
self-confidence: I CAN
self-efficacy: I WILL
self-esteem: I AM
❤ this
You got it😉🙌🏻❤️
What about "I Do?" (As in like a job or task you perform on a regular basis.)
Thank you so much
I actually am getting "I am" tattooed on me soon, for this reason. I personally associate "I am" with power, positivity and growth. But the problem is, I often forgot I Am anything at all! I'd like to get the tattoo on my wrist (and technically upside down, but the tattoo's for me so pfft) so that I see it everyday and am reminded of how amazing I really Am! Weeeee!
Would make sense. 😐
What makes your videos/advice stand out from others (In my opinion) is the focus on how simple details can evoke growth and change, effectively making one self-aware of our responsibility to ourselves.
You communicate strong messages without sounding preachy.
So much value on this channel, thank you for posting.
Julia Kristina Counselling
Erica, there are few things that mean more to me than what you’ve said here. Thank you. So grateful to have you in my camp❤️
Erica V So true!
Erica V I went to a professional therapist thinking I would be understood, but instead I have never felt so judged. I thought I was there to get help. Not feeling ten time worse about my self, my emotions and thoughts. Julia is a person that doesn’t do that. She helps you to think it through and come to your own conclusions instead of telling you “what to do”. A rare talent in this time and age.
@@juliakristinamah I love your videos; you seem like a really kind person, and I’m impressed with your knowledge ❤️👍🏽
8:09 "Good enough is a decision, not a destination." Still working on this, but I'm happy to have found this.
My teacher in grade 4 planted the seed of self efficacy that has supported me through many challenges. When struggling through frustration about a school project to the point of tears, he said that I was tenacious and that I had what I needed to solve the problem. It’s amazing how his encouraging words have helped me through the big problems, the frustrations, and self doubt.
I AM - that's what I need more work on! Thank you, Julia! Hugs from the other side of the screen :)
Few issues:
Just because someone made it past situations doesn't mean they made the right decisions and/or they are the same person after having done so
Someone can have low self esteem due to a lack of confidence for many reasons
If someone is a people pleaser and it results in good friendship and relationship then I believe they will be self satisfied. The problem comes when the individual does all this people pleasing and has nothing to show for it.
Bombshell here!
Self esteem has alot to do with environment
If someone is around happy people and they treat them well generally people will be happy
But at the same time you can have an overall positive self esteem but lack confidence in certain social areas
Great video and thank you for all your work!
As a therapist, This is so informative! you break it down into easy to know and easy to share information. really great video, thank you
Personally, I feel the attribute I most aspire to maintain is my sense of self-efficacy, especially in response to external expectations. Thanks for articulating the differences, it helps to actually know the difference.
I shared your 25 ways to say No, as well as you method of asking yourself "Is This Worth It" when dealing with a moment of anxiety with my psycoligist and she said both are wonderful and actual asked me to send her the 25 Ways To Say No so she can use it in her methods she uses with others
Thank you, I just worked out why some people are confident liers, they have been practicing all their lives.
I literally worry about how much I worry.
I should watch this video everyday. Thanks for this and your other videos Julia.
I HAVE AND I CAN GO THROUGH HARD THINGS... AMAZING. FIRST TIME ALL these TERMS ACTUALLY MAKE SENSE. THANK YOU. I just noticed how annoying all the caps can be but I rather accept my imperfections and mistakes. Not tried to edit the comment to appear perfect to get the approval of others. Thank you again, Julia.
Totally. We forget how we got through things!
I am commenting as I watch it!
This is probably the best video about self-esteem on youtube! Thanks a ton for such valuable information!
Thank you for explaining the difference. I thought I wanted to be a confidence coach but my purpose is more aligned to being a self esteem coach/mentor🥰
I can, I have, and I will! Great video. I identify with it so much. I have had those experiences getting established on and establishing my own private rural acre. So much work, some fulfillment, yet a void that isn't filled. This really made me feel like that disintegrates into the self-presence and satiated self-efficacy that clears your mind, soul, and improves how you feel and how you feel about yourself and achievements.
I really love your summary...
I can (confidence)
I will (efficacy)
and I am (esteem)
...........holy moly!
Keywords of the year xD
Awesome! So glad it connected with you.
im dealing with anxiety and your videos are helping me so much :)
katia correia learning about anxiety helps a lot and it’s so good you’re doing this. By learning, you’re actually becoming more self aware of what’s going on within you and that’s the key to get rid of it, for good!
Cheering you on!
I can and I have done tough things! Very tough! I can always find a way to get what I need done.
I like the way you exceptionally don’t have the “uptalk” so many young youtubers have. I like your rhythm and speech.
Wow! Thank you. I am - my current task. What a gift you are to those of us struggling on the path.
I need to work on - I AM! This video really cleared up the difference. Thank you!
Watching this has made me realise that I have low confidence not low self esteem. I generally quite like myself and am happy with who I am, but I constantly fear messing things up and have terrible social anxiety. That must be why a lot of therapy techniques I've done in the past haven't worked.
So how do I get confidence?
Dido
How are you now..
Truth: I have experienced challenges that I didn't think I'd mentally and emotionally survive.
You are just awesome. You have been helping me so much because I cannot find a therapist that’s free.
I came across this channel searching for the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem and it was amazing the way you sum each one in a little phrase I can, I will, and I'm. This makes subscribing to your channel. It's informative
I can and I have done hard things! Making my way through a particularly hard one now so my success rate isn’t quite 100% but there IS another side and I WILL get there
i liked your talk on difference between self confidence, self efficacy and self esteem. simple but profound.
I can and I have done many hard things and managed to get through them all alive.
Amen.
Thanks again lol for your response. Take care
lupeholt thanks for your response
I have done and gotten through hard times. I AM ready to work on feeling good within. I love sharing your videos across the globe to everyone I know. Thank you, Ms. Julia, you are amazing! :)
For some reason I've always had really bad performers anxiety. I've constantly worried about being perfect when people watch me. But when I'm not on the "stage", I perform amazing. I don't have low self esteem. I like myself. I think I'm a pretty unique individual (infj), but my confidence has kack d apparently.....based on your advice. Thank you
You have by far one of the best TH-cam channel out there
I listen to your videos ever day, in the gym. Sometimes I even share them with my therapist.
I really appreciate the lazer sharp way you cut straight to the issue. I have struggled with this issue for a long time not understanding why I wasn't confident in certain situations. This makes so much sense and it's so simple. Fantastic!🙏
Recently found your channel. So far I’m enjoying the matter of fact, real and usable information. So many channels are into the new age being one with the universe nonsense and so far I haven’t gotten that from you at all. Thanks for your insight on healing from abuses
from all videos that I watched, yours is the only video that help me clearly differentiate self esteem and self confidence.
I am so thankful for your videos. Ive gotten good at alot of things. More and more everyday. What I struggle with alot is worthiness without outside validation. I want to be able to live and thrive without outside people saying what I did or said was good. I have to be comfortable with myself with or without outsiders. I know I can because I can and I have done hard things. I am good enough as I am. I know I am. I believe I am.
This might be a big break through in my treatment plan, I had never thought about this....thank you so much!
I can
I will
I am
Julia you nailed it w/ this awesome video.
Thank YOU!
I can and have done hard things! Have a great day!
Hi Julia 👋 😊 I am a newbie to your channel and the shift society. It's hard to admit but I suffer from low self-esteem low self-confidence and negative thinking and now I believe I have a touch of perfectionism LOL your videos and lessons are changing my mindset and my life! Thank you so much for providing these inspiring empowering videos! Sincerely, sending you lots of love and gratitude!
I can and have done hard things. I will!
I am pretty tired from all the 'could be' and 'might be' uncomfortable worries that go through my mind-- it's been happening for so long it's become almost completely subconscious and automatic.
*I can and I have done hard things* >: )
Phillip Rajcany I am also tired of over thinking everything! Yes for me subconscious and automatic
Phillip Rajcany our thoughts are so powerful, and if it became automated fro you, it became unconscious. You can change those worries again, just like they entered your subconscious, you can retrain your brain to get automated opposite thoughts, the thoughts that are not worries.
This takes time and effort, but you can retire your brain.
What you learned, you can also unlearn.
That was really great thank you - I love braking it down into the short phrases really helps to clarify it. I'm leading a self-esteem and confidence session and I think this distinction will be really helpful. Thanks for sharing
You've made me realise that I need to work on my self esteem , thank you so much💛
Crisp descriptions. I learnt about something new today, self efficacy. I thank you. I shared your video before I was through watching it, hence my comment is edited.
This was a real good one Julia. The part about worrying about being uncomfortable reminded me of the "shortcut becoming the longcut" syndrome.
I’m sharing all the episodes I watch with my sister & a few friends . Thanks for your help 🌻
I am sharing this with my siblings it’s important for them 👍🏻
I agree with you on self esteem... but
I thought confidence was a feeling... competence is what you want really.
But great you explained... thx 😄
great .. you described the difference perfectly
I can and i have done hard things , thank you so much 🙏🌱
Another great video as always!thank you Julia!!!!
Absolutely my pleasure Karina! Thanks for watching.
I love the audio quality of your videos! Great work! Thank you very much
You are SPOT ON!
You are fabulous.I watch your videos everyday .
I needed this today. Thank You. I need to work on, “I am”.
Self Love is not arrogant
I have and I can do hard thinks am good enough I accept my self just like I am now I am love and blessings to others amen 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing with us
I can and I have done hard things! Going through some right now... rough... but I I’ll make it to the other side 👍🏻
This is such a great video. Resonates with me so much.
I acknowledge that I have high Confidence but low self-esteem. I have come to understanding that we should not seek the approval of others rather we should act in ways that serve ourselves first.
I can and I have done hard things! I am! A great video.Thank you Julia Kristina.
I can and I have done hard things 💛
Thank you Julia😀
I can and I will and I do hard things!! Totally shared this to my Facebook. 😀
I can & I have done difficult things ... For real. I'm surprised at how strong I was or how easy it was! My new saying: Bring It!
I can and I have done hard things ❤
Just one thing.
THANK you!
One of the best video I Ever saw ❣️
Such an amazing break down. Thanks as always!!
WOW you are so gifted in helping others! What a blessing you are to so many and me. What mic are you using? I need one so I have been researching them but I haven’t seen that one and the sound is fantastic. Much Love.... xoxo I can and I have done hard things!
I'm sharing this video on FaceBook.
I suppose this is why I lose confi-... self-esteem when I try to defend myself from others. I try to fight for my core values and beliefs behind the wall of introverted safety in my heart, but the harder I defend, the more power I give others, and the more self-esteem I lose. I'm starting to believe that has a large amount to do with trying to put on the armor of confidence on the slippery negative self image I have of myself (not being able to believe my own worth without being able to prove my point to others). I don't feel like I can feel good about myself if I'm not wanted, desired or respected by others.
How much do others affect our self-esteem, self efficacy, and self-confidence? How do I stop making my feelings of self-worth vulnerable to what others think and how much I can attract and pleasure the opposite sex? (I've been abused and neglected by my mother, and have experienced disdain and been ignored by girls I'm attracted to).
I love your videos! thank you so much!
Your intuition is on point! This is exactly what I was asking myself, last week. Thank you!😍🙏♥️
Thank you.
Great video. I have gotten good at just about EVERYTHING I have done. I am not afraid to try new things and am self-taught at many things. I was married to someone who did not like trying new things and I could never figure out why. Afraid to make mistakes? Who knows. I'm just glad I am not like that. I am a great gardener, painter and quilter. Love all of it. Have even gotten paid for some of my paintings and quilts. Life is fun. Tough stuff? Try giving up a baby for adoption bc your parents told you you would never succeed if you kept your baby. Made it through that one. Divorce, made it through that too. Supported myself WITHOUT WELFARE as a single parent bc the ex was only required to pay $125.00 a month child support. Yep, 125.00 A MONTH. So I supported myself and my son working 2 jobs. Yep, I like myself. I CAN, I WILL, I AM. Also done with the people pleasing. Thanks for all you do Julia!!
I can and I've done hard things! 😎 Oh, yeah!
🤔 To be completely honest, I can use more confidence in some fields, part of me gets pretty insecure about taking action, not because of lack of self-esteem (I do like myself, LOL) but because of the idea of not knowing how to manage situations... I know life doesn't come with a manual but wouldn't be nice have one with all the codes to respond properly to each situation? 😂 Nice video, love it!
Thank you so much this was very helpfull I have picked my self up recently it took a lot of effort but sometimes I still have hard thoughts and your video made me feel better today
Another brilliant video Julia Kristina, thank you so much 😊❤🙏🏼 I'm sharing this video on Pinterest.
I can and I have done hard things!
I CAN get control over my anxiety, I WILL get control over my anxiety, I AM better then my anxiety makes me believe
oh i kidna get this. I used to be confident(I can be successful, make money, professionally succeed, my skills are great and I'm smart) but used to have no self esteem at the same time(nobody likes me, I'm worthless, I'm just an object and tool and don't deserve to be loved, no one wants to be friends with me, no one can love me). There were areas in my life i was confident in and areas where I just had 0 confidence/efficacy, like making friends and maintaining relationships, which is funny becuase I actually had lot of friends and always made friends wherever I went..omg yeah i know exactly that sliding off feeling, nothing sticking... so sad!
Thanks allot!!! ❤️ I've used my entire life up until now, trying to achieve self-esteem from "hustling" 😬 on the bright side, in the progress i got a lot of confidence from trying and getting good at stuff😜👌🌳💚
Thank you!
Loved it, Thanks a lot
Thank you for giving how I feel a definition
I CAN AND I HAVE DONE HARD THINGS UnU
I’m confident in cooking and being a good spouse.
You are wonderful, thank you for the amazing videos! My work is probably on all theese areas, but mostly on self-esteem; I Am!
I CAN, and I HAVE done hard things!!!
YES you HAVE!
I have and I can do hard things!! ♥️
Self-esteem is what I need to work on my self-confidence I can get up and entertain or speak to large crowds doesn't bother me a bit inside I feel unworthy I used to call myself to myself Quasimodo it is the reason why I like the John Prine song sins of memphisto❤🌴🐊🌴🌻🕉 I have also walked a guitar to some of the worst neighborhoods in America that takes more than just communication skills😁 there's that sense of humor I can and I have done hard things I can I will I do that's my motto
I can and i have done hard things. By the grace of God.
I can and have done hard things, but I find my self in 44 years of life always having to do this , and I am not sure if I can keep living life like this
Thank you for making this video, I appreciate you sharing, it provided me with a lot of clarity, like in learning that I was not being honest with myself and basically denying the self-loathing I would do even though I've grown & learned to have confidence(& efficacy, & esteem). Keep making more videos✌🏽
Another great presentation. Thanks again
I can and I HAVE done some very hard things! 🤗
Yep, done lots of hard things. Expect to do more and learn lots along the way. The Audio sounds more well rounded.
thank you 😊
I have and I CAN do hard things!