This is the moment where one distinguishes between real and false friends. It is like a big house cleaning! Thank you Andrew. You keep us up! Blessing to you all! 😎
“The more we try to explain ourselves the less people believe us”. This is so true!! A narcissist is a master manipulator and it is beyond painful to endure this when you are genuinely a good person, trying to heal, and move forward. They won’t let you. It’s even worst when you share kids together. My ex was engaged 2 months after I ended our relationship and I see how he is grooming her and his family to believe his lies and as a result being attacked because of the lies. The pain and isolation I feel is beyond anything that I can describe especially now carrying our 2nd child together. So thankful for discovering your channel! I feel seen. Much love to you and prayers to you.
Thank you 🙏 I appreciate your kindness and support.. education is extremely important on this issue. Trying to explain to the narcissist is so tiresome..they don’t listen. I am grateful to be able to help you 🙌🙏
I went through this with my family. It is beyond sick. I believe they form a ‘cult’ of total dysfunction as their way not to take responsibility for anything they cause
The more people onboard the more validated they feel, these people can get to know a person for a while, and they set up situations, its very easy to do when your around someone long enough, and no one believes people that would set up situations,next thing you know your attacked
The Smear Campaign, this is what almost destroyed me. I couldn't believe how many people believed him. All these people, who behind their backs he told me he despised, yet they chose him. He just wanted me to disappear, but, I''m still here. Ostracised? yes Isolated ? Yes Character Assassinated ? Yes. Thank you so much for your insight, your videos really help. God Bless
I totally agree. Being smeared by the narc is a horrid feeling. This was what hurt me the most. How do these type of being sleep at night knowing that they're destroying other people's lives?
You are not alone. I am going through it now. It isn't pleasant. You have to remember the people who are left know you and care about you. I would rather be me. I am no longer can empath, but, have boundaries. I know it Is difficult, but, you are free. No more fog.... Manipulation on their part yes, but.. you know who you are. For me, I ignore it.
I was one of the most hated in my hometown. People spread rumours for whatever reason. I'm aware its because of my light. My family, friends, and exes turned people against me..
I’m so sorry you went through this. I’ve also been ostracized from my family-scapegoated by my mother since I was 4. The abuse was getting more insidious and unbearable (I have a feeling it’s because I’m aging and no longer a “pretty young daughter” to give my mother supply in public or whatever…🤪) My siblings have been brainwashed to hate me, for absolutely no reason. I couldn’t take one more day so I went no-contact 2 years ago. I’m stunned at how weak and un-empathic my own siblings are. But now I’m becoming awakened and aware, better off without that horrific chaos and misery in my life. 🙏🏻❤️
I think beside the discard, this was second in line to the pain and isolation. He put it on Facebook. Yes he did. So I knew everyone knew the lies and even the parts that I had told him in confidence. It's been years and this still makes me shake my head. It's so unbelievable that a human exists like this. I never responded only to my few friends who knew me all my life. Those friends are still in MY life. Andrew, I can't believe there are thousands of us who have suffered this. Mind blowing.
There are millions of us.. MOST don’t ever receive the EDUCATION we have. There are close to eight billion people on earth 🌍.. there certainly are millions of people like us…
There the most evil ever I got smared to her whole family now it so hard for me to visit my son who lives with them im.6000mikes away when I get there thay gray rock me an isolate me it's the worse feeling in the world so very painfull
I totally get this, it happened to me & is still is happening to me. However I don't require anyone having my back, I can hold my own. I have no need for fake people in my life, and I owe nobody an explanation for the choices I make. Life really is about choices, I may have married a narcissist, and then divorced a narcissist, but that doesn't mean I have to be around, talk to, or think about the ex-narc forever. Thank you Andrew for all of your perspectives you share, you hit everything on point. 🙌
All you have said I lived through it. Since he passed away 3 years today, I am getting my wings back and can breath again. The things he did to destroy me were humiliating, mean, in a way where no one would ever believe so I suffered and wished for better days. Thank you so much for the light you are shedding helps me bring closure. Hugs!
Outstanding video once again Andrew. My aging Narc did exactly what you said. I found out after the fact. I just celebrated 6 months no contact and radio silence. It's a great thing that you do for Narc Survivors. For those of you that are experiencing this now, follow Andrews guidelines like a manual. Always remember your friends on the channel. We get it. You will overcome and beat them in the end. Trust me, over time, the karma truck visits them. STAY STRONG
This is happening to me right now. I knew it was coming and she did it to me when we split up 12 years ago. I DID NOT learn my lesson and feel I’ve wasted the prime years of my life trying to “fix” her and the “relationship “ . There was NEVER a relationship to begin with. My kids have been turned against me and everyone that I know through her. This is disgusting behavior and it’s unbelievable that people can just do this to a person they “loved”. How the hell did I get myself in this situation!! I just realized what and who I was dealing with 15 years into the relationship. The Johnny Depp trial which I watched in its entirety had some jaw dropping moments for me. I felt like he was telling my story. I saw my “wife” in Amber Heard. I started to educate myself but it was too late. She just discarded me, took my career, home , dog, health, and has now fully turned my kids against me. Damn it man!!! My gut told me everything about the relationship was wrong but I refused to listen. I thought if I gave or loved her just a bit more she would “come around” and love me back. This is the most painfully thing I’ve ever experienced and don’t know where to turn. Listen to your gut! Please know the signs and take action before you end up like me. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone
I’ve been smeared at the work place by someone I thought was a friend . I started noticing that when that person worked … people would treat my totally different from when the person wasn’t there. Night and day difference ! It is an aweful feeling … but once you see the light … the truth… and know who you are … that’s when the person can behave in whatever way they feel empowered … when you understand what I just said about yourself … no one can take that peace away. It’s never a good day when the bully shows up and shows out tho. BUT … another thing that empowers the empath … if you can maintain your calm and collective being and act as tho they did nothing … love them like all others … you always win. Why ? Because you will never rationalize with a narc ! Never !!! Do no react. You win.
Presently going through it just keeping silence if your conscious is clear no need to worry atleast u get rid of toxic people in your life and start fresh and submit to God who is with you all the time that's more important not these people
One thing that holds true in their BS, is the fact that your actions speak volumes. The people that know who you are genuinely, will not believe them. If they do, then walk away from them. I have had 4 narcissists in my life, to be honest. Reason why there were so many, is because I didn't know what it was until last year when I found Andrew. I will say I never knew the existence of flying monkeys until Andrew. I can say also I've gotten out, but the game isn't over for me sadly 😞 just when I thought it was over and done with, it's back in full swing. Hence incognito Andrew. I am such a big fan of yours, sorry I'm running scared right now, until I can get back up again. More or less they caught me when I least expected it. Please pray for me, I need the protection
Wow...This video is a powerful one!! I was shaking, had ro breathe deeply through it and wipe tears I know how badly my ex, the narcissist, gossips and trashes his family and best friend so Iknow he has or still is on a smear campaign. I just pray through it and picture gim with a mouthful of gravel or he has a coughing fit whenever he attempts ro smear my name. Unfortunately, I have no control over the lies. It is hurtful to think someone could be so evil and vindictive . For all who are going through this..Stand strong!
Andrew.... Your Pain has helped so many people. What an HONORABLE Task in life. As I see you progress, I see you only getting stronger and stronger. Your survival is indeed a testimony to your strength.
Yes...smear campaign is horrific. It makes you wonder who can be trusted to be there when times are tough. After time, the TRUTH does come it always does in its own time. 🙏🏻💝💪✨💫✨
I don't have one but two narcissist doing this to me now in the family , I have already done what you have said , I don't like drama in my life. the only one who kept this under control was my late brother he was the glue of the family , I knew already if he left us this would happen , and I was right , i have not seen them for two years , and no longer desire too , I will not play there game , you are spot on , about the smear campaign Andrew , my life now is with new connection they don't now about and never will , I have never been happier , no I am out there loop , 🐬🙏🏻🌅🕊
This resonates with me on so many levels. I had a business friend that I knew prior to the narc and the narc became friends with them through a business situation. Prior to the discard (devaluation stage), the 'friend' suddenly blocked me for absolutely no reason on FB. One month later, out of the blue, they unblocked me. I paid back the compliment and blocked them. As you quite rightly advise in your videos, that person was not a genuine friend. My take on their situation is that they fell for whatever the narc told them and somewhere along the line, they had second thoughts (the unblock). Life's too short to waste time worrying about those that do not have your back and believe the narc.
You are spot on, Andrew. Friendships I thought I had established in the seven years he and I were together, dissolved in the two years since I left him. No more facebook comments, Christmas cards, etc. It hurt a lot at first but no longer. I know who I am and do not need validation from them in their blindness to reality. Thank you for your non-emotional commentary and hope you are healing.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone My covert narcissist wife signed the divorce papers I had her served with two days ago. I laughed when I was told today by one of the ladies who was involved that she hung up on them, thinking they were my lawyers. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 They then got her at her work, where image of course is paramount. Happier days ahead now! 😍♥️😄🙏👐
Wow, so glad I found this one! As I'm currently dealing with these, and was wondering if I should talk to the naive ppl that just suck up and believe everything the narcc says, which we know are 99% untrue. After listening to you, I see I need to just live my life, and pray that the blind ppl will eventually see the light. It's tough though, it hurts. Thanks for sharing, God bless you!
It's disgusting how people who you thought were your friends join in on the smear campaign and sometimes they pretend that they care about you to your face and run back to the abusers and feed into the lies and deceit of the toxic abusers
Do not defend yourself! Instead say "yes, everything is my fault and I am an a*hole". Then many people will start thinking about a coin having 2 sides. Trust me. It worked with me.
They actually do this during the relationship aswell, I used to go out with my ex and be threatened by grown men or people would say things to me asthough i had done something wrong and I would think what did that mean? Why are they saying this to me now when before they were ok, it wasnt until ive discarded and got the knowledge that I realised he had been smearing me and lying about me the whole time behind my back, they can be led right next to you but an hour before talking crap about you to somebody. I remember being led in bed with my ex and he was texting his mum, I looked down at his phone and saw a message that said "if you've gone around their again you are a f*cking mug" I was so so confused, every single argument we ever had he started, he treated me like a piece of crap on his shoe yet he would run home and tell his family complete lies. Even now I question whether he actually believed his own lies or if he knew he was lying about me, none of it makes sense, even though I know why he did everything else now that's one thing that still boggles my mind
Thank you for this comment.. the narcissist survives by supply and creating fake narratives with those who will believe them. Because of the mask they wear to the outside world.. we never will know how exactly they manipulated everything and everyone around them. 🥲
I went throught the same thing with a family full of malignant narcs and later a housemate. I'm not sure they believe their lies or if their opinion of themselves is so inflated that they believe people hang in their every word. Several of my narcs have the attitude that their 'good name' and rallying the troops to gang stalk/gang smear adds credibility to their lies.
My ex narc has been doing a smear campaign against me for 15yr's now. I ended up getting full custody of our kids, and it been non stop bs. He's recently made a "go fund me". Telling everybody that my kids died of covid, and needed help paying for there funeral. What makes this so bad is they made the account in my name. So everybody thought it was me. I had so many ppl pissed at me for something i had nothing to do with. Had to explain that non of my kids had covid or were dead.
This was the most perplexing.. I was shocked when my lifelong friends were hanging out with my ex and the new supply. The entire family whom I loved and supported suddenly wouldn’t talk to me. There were cruel incidents I didn’t understand but the narcissist had to everyone he met someone else. 18 years ended and the last 5 years he was already with some one else.
Thank you for sharing with us what you have been going through Andrew. It is like getting across hell which is a truly devastating experience, exactly the way you have described it. Hopefully owing to brave and devoted people like you, the world will wake up and see what a deadly plaque narcisism is!
I chose the path of believe what you want, I'm to worn out to even try to defend myself. If they chose to believe such rubbish I do not want to participate. For those who did not come to my defence they are not worthy of me. For those who did I thank you, and commend your goodness. Thank you Andrew.
This is what I am most afraid will happen. I hope it doesn’t. I am so sorry you are going through it. You explained this so good. Thank u for always being an encouragement. Take care and God bless u....
Ive been through this to the extreme . It works best for narcasists that have a power position . My family has teachers and doctors , and smearing is not below them , especially when it comes to inhertiance . I lost a lot of good friends , but looking back , maybe they werent . Whats interesting are the third wave , that the second wave was convincing to trash me . Ive had several of the of the third wave that judged me , based on my actions . None of them questioned me , but a few went out of their way to shake my hand without an explaination . With out a word , they said where they stood . I really appreciated that .
It's been well over 30 years since my divorce and you have described my situation as if you were there in person. The Smear campaign was unbelievably painful and affected my entire life. SHAMEFULL thank you for your clarity and the courage to put a face to this awful situation. I do so hope the rest of your life is full of beauty and peace, dear Andrew.
The light bulb moment when it dawns on you that they have been smearing you alllll along. They are such double binders. Shocking to finally see it. They can all have each other but I am out! If you walk away, good for you. You’re gone and now they can focus on each other and rip each other a part because they will. Stay safe and get away from these shallow people. You deserve better!
I never gave him my very personal thoughts, or all the names of my friends and/or where they live, no phone numbers, addresses, etc. My family already knows what he is. I even told my GP whom he's already wanted to approach himself (to express his 'concerns' about me). I was just a day ahead of him and he didnt know that. 💃 happy dance!
Thank you Andrew , another subject explained so well 👌 , I am at this stage right now ! And I can assure you there is not a thing or person I wont leave behind on my path to freedom , I am growing stronger every day with your guidance and words of wisdom ❤️ Feeling blessed
Wow Andrew! I began to listen to you a month ago. I stumbled upon this video and the PROGRESS YOU have made!!! I can see and feel your 'freshness' in the discard here. You began my journey out! I thank you and I love you!
Hey Andrew, thanks for the Education I really do appreciate. I am currently going through a smear campaign and it is darker than I expected. But we learn each day.
Trust me it will stop one day. Because people do not want to hear it over and over again. They get bored with the narc 's stories. Until then, take care. Nose up and remember that some people love to gossip. You don't have to explain. You know the truth .
Thank you, continuing to educate. So true, they lie, to degrade you. They lie , in hope that you will always look beneath them. They lie to manipulate others, and it is evil. Namaste, strength, peace, love. God Bless, he sees who is good, in this world. ❤❤❤💯🙏🌿🌎
I'm currently going through this a week after discard it's evil he has really shown his true colours he is going round saying he was in a toxic relationship and he deserves to be happy it's crazy because it's the other way round so he has flipped it onto me it's childish and pathetic
The smear campaign my ex put me through was hell. I couldn't believe what an evil person he was/is. Lying and telling people things that he knew I didn't want anyone to know. It made me furious!
I had a family member who used to always downplay everything I told them about the narc. When he stopped PAYING them for information about me, it was suddenly, 'I always knew he was a no-good a-hole.' Oh, really??
You're dead right about the 'long shot' of people realising they're dealing with a narcissist. Ex friend jumps from job to job approximately every 2 years. Possibly that's how long it takes ( in-between lengthy sick absences) for her colleagues to see through her.
I stayed many times because I didn't want people not to like me. Now I found out friends have said why do you stay. Finally i do not care, my truth is all that matters.
It's the second worst aspect of narcissistic abuse. I'm so sorry you have been subjected to this,Andrew.The reality is,many people never realise it's a smear campaign,that they have unwittingly helped a highly abusive,focused, narcissist to target - and devalue,even attempt to destroy - someone . The sad reality is that even those who do wise up,realise they became Flying Monkeys,or were simply innocents,duped...choose to remain distant, silent,for their own benefit. I wonder if the Narcissist wants us to become so broken down,so alone and desolate,that we commit suicide? You and I - in fact,all of us watching your videos and the videos of other channels in this field - who have not given up to the degree of taking our own lives ( which is tantamount to scoring a winning goal for the narc ) are not just survivors. We are winners.We win,every breath with we take,every tiny goal we achieve,every moment of having enough strength,enough faith in ourselves,enough belief in the beauty of life,enough faith in humanity,enough hope for a better way,a beautiful life - despite tragedies,injustices and abuse from narcissists and their cohorts - to live. To stay alive,.To survive. Then,to LIVE. To THRIVE !!! Most people,thankfully,will never have to find that strength.They get to live without understanding narcissistic abuse and how multi - faceted it's impact is upon the lives of those targeted by these individuals... I pity the Narcissists. I'd far rather be subjected to their abuse ,than to be someone who feels the need to behave that way,the need to destroy another person,no matter what the cost ,the casualties... Thank you Andrew. You are NOT alone. We are NOT alone. Somewhere,even if it is just in cyberspace,someone believes us.Someone knows.Someone understands. Knowing that,feeling that....I imagine that has saved so many lives. I believe it IS ✨SAVING✨ many lives. Many, silently, privately. Thank you,.Thank you for being A Lighthouse.
I emailed the narcissist who ran a vicious smear campaign at my church "I hear the sound of VICTORY... narcissists think I care what they think of me..." lol
I have a lot of smear campaigners in my country (Eastern European country). They are not my spuse, not friends just random people. When a woman/girl sees me (I am tall and not ugly) the friend who she is with starts instantly to smear campaign and tells about me to her that I am the biggest looser, fool and so on. I am so sick of this envy/jelousy that I don't go out much because of this ! Random people start crap about me because they are insecure or I represent an enemy or adversary in this "competition of life". But the funny thing is that only they are in competition, I am not at all compiting with anyone. What can I do? It's disgusting and heartbreaking that I can not live a normal life because of their insecurities. This country is full of them. Also met this kind of people at workplace, couldn't do much about it since I can't videotape it(private property, it's illegal to film) and I can not confront it since conflicts at workplace are not seen well ... but yes, you can leave thw workplace ! So it's like they are winning most of the time....
I know who I am. I will go to new people. I can't control it, so, I have to go on with my life. Andrew, it is difficult, however, I feel we have no choice. For me, I am going on with my life. Thank you. You are right... family members will be quiet....
My husband and his mother always made up crazy stories about me. Really pathetic! I’m sure his siblings believe them but I know the truth, they’re toxic not me!
Yes. I was emotionally crippled. My ex husband asked our neighbor to spy on me. And wrote to every single person I know. Plus sued , in my name, doctors ( like 8 ) which I had good relationships with
There is nothing worse, emotionally....then .......... BETRAYAL. Anyone who is in this category... towards you..... is not, ever, worth keeping. Know this.
The people that believe the abusers are either unsure because they have been abused or they were always secretly envious of your happy bubble, vitality, kindness, strength and abundant God Goddess given talents. Therefore, the prettily join forces with the abuser to gang up on you, bully, harass sabotage, gaslight, of course they deny the truth, project and manipulate scenarios. They try to provoke you into fights, loud arguments, invalidate and set up scenes. Just either ignore or respond politely. Look at them like they smell bad or just said something disgusting. Then be done and walk away. Seriously they are not only low brow and dumb, they are envious and jealous and out to get you. You know how it is when you really don't like someone and you have good values and they like to hurt others. You don't like them. Abusers are disjointed and a million times worse and more intense in their hatred and negative manipulations and they help each other. Basically they are cons. Some of the females falsely accuse men of rape or make similar false accusations. If you're on to them, being a woman, they smear you and tell others that you make up false accusations. Then they try to set you up and get their abusive male friends to threaten, harass, stalk, or be sexually inappropriate. Let's talk about that one. You'll occasionally see them black and blue and that's because they have to watch their backs too. Sometimes they mess with the wrong people. Another good one is I'm looking after a family member or a friend so I am gone for awhile, or vacation. It's really be abuse they have been arrested and are in jail or under house arrest, dui, drugs, theft, assault, scamming etc. Think about it.
I get so much out of your talks. This happened to me. It hurts to this day and it's been 40 years. I now stay away from people like that as much as I can. I find the mirror effect routes them out.
Do these people always have a past of doing something similar, or can this person just reach this point with you?How does it normally work? I would believe, especially if they are older that there would be a past incident of this.
I wish I would have taken the advice to keep quiet,it is so hard,and I'm not one usually to stay quiet when wrong is being told,but I learned also it doesn't matter at all what you say once they have people's ear,I've gone through a massive smear campaign, I believe it no longer mattered about necessarily what was being said,or if it was accurate, bit more about the social dynamics of it all, (being part of the group against me) like a high school popular kids,or something, I bet even if people found out at this point 90% was lies,it wouldn't matter much,just hearing everything negative about me for so long,talking and bonding over venting on me,just ingrained it into people in the community,I now see how the holocaust was possible, or Jones Town,that sounds kinda out there ,but it's true,the influence when these people go out and do this,especially today in our internet society,plus I didn't know what all this was for the first year.
When gangstalking is happening, and your being smeared,why is it so secretive? If everything is true what's being said, and its spread all over town,why not confront the target, why is no one to say anything, or admit to knowing anything? I believe because its a lie,but what excuse are they telling that works that people believe is the reason their not saying.
Is there a way we can chat? Again I don't have money to pay period. However, I'm being called the opposite of what I am to my face to his friends to his family. He keeps insinuating that I'm lying about something or betraying him. He's the one doing that! What is this? Some type of projection so he won't feel guilty about being a shady ass b*%#h?
You are right I was dumb I kept apologizing to him for what I don’t even know! They believed him I was a friend but in his mind a girlfriend & ewww he was competing with me ay que asco 🤢
Andrew, I don't get the feeling that you had children with your former wife. I was in what I now understand to be a narcissistic relationship. Had a son. I met him age 21. Am now 76. Life is still in disarray. My son still thinks of me as the labels that were put on me. Long story. Am sure you would emphasize.
Was it bc yr wife was gorgeous? That they believed her? Im still dazed & confused @ times but I’m getting better ❤️🩹 This seems demonic I was tag teamed by him & his sister. But I forgiven that’s what helps me day by day.
This is the moment where one distinguishes between real and false friends. It is like a big house cleaning! Thank you Andrew. You keep us up! Blessing to you all! 😎
The best way to handle is just move on and educate myself , and don’t fall into another Narc relationship again.
Exactly correct. Education is the key to empowerment 🙌☀️🙏
“The more we try to explain ourselves the less people believe us”. This is so true!! A narcissist is a master manipulator and it is beyond painful to endure this when you are genuinely a good person, trying to heal, and move forward. They won’t let you. It’s even worst when you share kids together. My ex was engaged 2 months after I ended our relationship and I see how he is grooming her and his family to believe his lies and as a result being attacked because of the lies. The pain and isolation I feel is beyond anything that I can describe especially now carrying our 2nd child together. So thankful for discovering your channel! I feel seen. Much love to you and prayers to you.
Thank you Tiara.. educating is the best way possible to understand what we went/are going through. I am grateful to be able to help you 🙌🙏.
Thank you 🙏 I appreciate your kindness and support.. education is extremely important on this issue. Trying to explain to the narcissist is so tiresome..they don’t listen. I am grateful to be able to help you 🙌🙏
I went through this with my family. It is beyond sick. I believe they form a ‘cult’ of total dysfunction as their way not to take responsibility for anything they cause
The more people onboard the more validated they feel, these people can get to know a person for a while, and they set up situations, its very easy to do when your around someone long enough, and no one believes people that would set up situations,next thing you know your attacked
The Smear Campaign, this is what almost destroyed me. I couldn't believe how many people believed him. All these people, who behind their backs he told me he despised, yet they chose him. He just wanted me to disappear, but, I''m still here.
Ostracised? yes Isolated ? Yes Character Assassinated ? Yes. Thank you so much for your insight, your videos really help. God Bless
I understand this…💯💯..
I totally agree. Being smeared by the narc is a horrid feeling. This was what hurt me the most. How do these type of being sleep at night knowing that they're destroying other people's lives?
You are not alone. I am going through it now. It isn't pleasant. You have to remember the people who are left know you and care about you. I would rather be me. I am no longer can empath, but, have boundaries. I know it Is difficult, but, you are free. No more fog.... Manipulation on their part yes, but.. you know who you are. For me, I ignore it.
I was one of the most hated in my hometown. People spread rumours for whatever reason. I'm aware its because of my light. My family, friends, and exes turned people against me..
I understand completely.. I do..🙌💯🙏
I’m so sorry you went through this.
I’ve also been ostracized from my family-scapegoated by my mother since I was 4. The abuse was getting more insidious and unbearable (I have a feeling it’s because I’m aging and no longer a “pretty young daughter” to give my mother supply in public or whatever…🤪)
My siblings have been brainwashed to hate me, for absolutely no reason.
I couldn’t take one more day so I went no-contact 2 years ago. I’m stunned at how weak and un-empathic my own siblings are.
But now I’m becoming awakened and aware, better off without that horrific chaos and misery in my life.
🙏🏻❤️
Thank you for sharing..🙏💜💯
I think beside the discard, this was second in line to the pain and isolation. He put it on Facebook. Yes he did. So I knew everyone knew the lies and even the parts that I had told him in confidence. It's been years and this still makes me shake my head. It's so unbelievable that a human exists like this. I never responded only to my few friends who knew me all my life. Those friends are still in MY life. Andrew, I can't believe there are thousands of us who have suffered this. Mind blowing.
There are millions of us.. MOST don’t ever receive the EDUCATION we have. There are close to eight billion people on earth 🌍.. there certainly are millions of people like us…
There the most evil ever I got smared to her whole family now it so hard for me to visit my son who lives with them im.6000mikes away when I get there thay gray rock me an isolate me it's the worse feeling in the world so very painfull
I totally get this, it happened to me & is still is happening to me. However I don't require anyone having my back, I can hold my own. I have no need for fake people in my life, and I owe nobody an explanation for the choices I make.
Life really is about choices, I may have married a narcissist, and then divorced a narcissist, but that doesn't mean I have to
be around, talk to, or think about the ex-narc forever.
Thank you Andrew for all of your
perspectives you share, you hit everything on point. 🙌
Welcome McKenna.. 💯🙌🙌🙏☀️
All you have said I lived through it. Since he passed away 3 years today, I am getting my wings back and can breath again. The things he did to destroy me were humiliating, mean, in a way where no one would ever believe so I suffered and wished for better days. Thank you so much for the light you are shedding helps me bring closure. Hugs!
Welcome 😌🙏💯
That's exactly right people I new for over 20years turned on me . Treated me like dirt.
Outstanding video once again Andrew. My aging Narc did exactly what you said. I found out after the fact. I just celebrated 6 months no contact and radio silence. It's a great thing that you do for Narc Survivors. For those of you that are experiencing this now, follow Andrews guidelines like a manual. Always remember your friends on the channel. We get it. You will overcome and beat them in the end. Trust me, over time, the karma truck visits them. STAY STRONG
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I am dealing with the smear thing now. But I am thankful I have true friends who stand beside me
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This is happening to me right now. I knew it was coming and she did it to me when we split up 12 years ago. I DID NOT learn my lesson and feel I’ve wasted the prime years of my life trying to “fix” her and the “relationship “ . There was NEVER a relationship to begin with. My kids have been turned against me and everyone that I know through her. This is disgusting behavior and it’s unbelievable that people can just do this to a person they “loved”. How the hell did I get myself in this situation!! I just realized what and who I was dealing with 15 years into the relationship. The Johnny Depp trial which I watched in its entirety had some jaw dropping moments for me. I felt like he was telling my story. I saw my “wife” in Amber Heard. I started to educate myself but it was too late. She just discarded me, took my career, home , dog, health, and has now fully turned my kids against me. Damn it man!!! My gut told me everything about the relationship was wrong but I refused to listen. I thought if I gave or loved her just a bit more she would “come around” and love me back. This is the most painfully thing I’ve ever experienced and don’t know where to turn. Listen to your gut! Please know the signs and take action before you end up like me. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone
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I’ve been smeared at the work place by someone I thought was a friend . I started noticing that when that person worked … people would treat my totally different from when the person wasn’t there. Night and day difference ! It is an aweful feeling … but once you see the light … the truth… and know who you are … that’s when the person can behave in whatever way they feel empowered … when you understand what I just said about yourself … no one can take that peace away. It’s never a good day when the bully shows up and shows out tho. BUT … another thing that empowers the empath … if you can maintain your calm and collective being and act as tho they did nothing … love them like all others … you always win. Why ? Because you will never rationalize with a narc ! Never !!! Do no react. You win.
Presently going through it just keeping silence if your conscious is clear no need to worry atleast u get rid of toxic people in your life and start fresh and submit to God who is with you all the time that's more important not these people
One thing that holds true in their BS, is the fact that your actions speak volumes. The people that know who you are genuinely, will not believe them. If they do, then walk away from them. I have had 4 narcissists in my life, to be honest. Reason why there were so many, is because I didn't know what it was until last year when I found Andrew. I will say I never knew the existence of flying monkeys until Andrew. I can say also I've gotten out, but the game isn't over for me sadly 😞 just when I thought it was over and done with, it's back in full swing. Hence incognito Andrew. I am such a big fan of yours, sorry I'm running scared right now, until I can get back up again. More or less they caught me when I least expected it. Please pray for me, I need the protection
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Wow...This video is a powerful one!! I was shaking, had ro breathe deeply through it and wipe tears I know how badly my ex, the narcissist, gossips and trashes his family and best friend so Iknow he has or still is on a smear campaign. I just pray through it and picture gim with a mouthful of gravel or he has a coughing fit whenever he attempts ro smear my name. Unfortunately, I have no control over the lies. It is hurtful to think someone could be so evil and vindictive . For all who are going through this..Stand strong!
Andrew.... Your Pain has helped so many people. What an HONORABLE Task in life. As I see you progress, I see you only getting stronger and stronger.
Your survival is indeed a testimony to your strength.
Yes...smear campaign is horrific. It makes you wonder who can be trusted to be there when times are tough.
After time, the TRUTH does come it always does in its own time.
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I don't have one but two narcissist doing this to me now in the family , I have already done what you have said , I don't like drama in my life. the only one who kept this under control was my late brother he was the glue of the family , I knew already if he left us this would happen , and I was right , i have not seen them for two years , and no longer desire too , I will not play there game , you are spot on , about the smear campaign Andrew , my life now is with new connection they don't now about and never will , I have never been happier , no I am out there loop , 🐬🙏🏻🌅🕊
This resonates with me on so many levels. I had a business friend that I knew prior to the narc and the narc became friends with them through a business situation. Prior to the discard (devaluation stage), the 'friend' suddenly blocked me for absolutely no reason on FB. One month later, out of the blue, they unblocked me. I paid back the compliment and blocked them. As you quite rightly advise in your videos, that person was not a genuine friend. My take on their situation is that they fell for whatever the narc told them and somewhere along the line, they had second thoughts (the unblock).
Life's too short to waste time worrying about those that do not have your back and believe the narc.
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Mirror effect works.
You are spot on, Andrew. Friendships I thought I had established in the seven years he and I were together, dissolved in the two years since I left him. No more facebook comments, Christmas cards, etc. It hurt a lot at first but no longer. I know who I am and do not need validation from them in their blindness to reality. Thank you for your non-emotional commentary and hope you are healing.
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ITS NOT RIGHT THAT THEY GET AWAY WITH IT!!!!!!!!
Know your truth. Know your character. And that's what matters most.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone My covert narcissist wife signed the divorce papers I had her served with two days ago. I laughed when I was told today by one of the ladies who was involved that she hung up on them, thinking they were my lawyers. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 They then got her at her work, where image of course is paramount. Happier days ahead now! 😍♥️😄🙏👐
Wow, so glad I found this one! As I'm currently dealing with these, and was wondering if I should talk to the naive ppl that just suck up and believe everything the narcc says, which we know are 99% untrue. After listening to you, I see I need to just live my life, and pray that the blind ppl will eventually see the light. It's tough though, it hurts. Thanks for sharing, God bless you!
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It's disgusting how people who you thought were your friends join in on the smear campaign and sometimes they pretend that they care about you to your face and run back to the abusers and feed into the lies and deceit of the toxic abusers
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There’s a lot of two-faced individuals in this world!!
Do not defend yourself! Instead say "yes, everything is my fault and I am an a*hole". Then many people will start thinking about a coin having 2 sides. Trust me. It worked with me.
They actually do this during the relationship aswell, I used to go out with my ex and be threatened by grown men or people would say things to me asthough i had done something wrong and I would think what did that mean? Why are they saying this to me now when before they were ok, it wasnt until ive discarded and got the knowledge that I realised he had been smearing me and lying about me the whole time behind my back, they can be led right next to you but an hour before talking crap about you to somebody. I remember being led in bed with my ex and he was texting his mum, I looked down at his phone and saw a message that said "if you've gone around their again you are a f*cking mug" I was so so confused, every single argument we ever had he started, he treated me like a piece of crap on his shoe yet he would run home and tell his family complete lies.
Even now I question whether he actually believed his own lies or if he knew he was lying about me, none of it makes sense, even though I know why he did everything else now that's one thing that still boggles my mind
Thank you for this comment.. the narcissist survives by supply and creating fake narratives with those who will believe them. Because of the mask they wear to the outside world.. we never will know how exactly they manipulated everything and everyone around them. 🥲
I went throught the same thing with a family full of malignant narcs and later a housemate. I'm not sure they believe their lies or if their opinion of themselves is so inflated that they believe people hang in their every word. Several of my narcs have the attitude that their 'good name' and rallying the troops to gang stalk/gang smear adds credibility to their lies.
My ex narc has been doing a smear campaign against me for 15yr's now. I ended up getting full custody of our kids, and it been non stop bs. He's recently made a "go fund me". Telling everybody that my kids died of covid, and needed help paying for there funeral. What makes this so bad is they made the account in my name. So everybody thought it was me. I had so many ppl pissed at me for something i had nothing to do with. Had to explain that non of my kids had covid or were dead.
This was the most perplexing.. I was shocked when my lifelong friends were hanging out with my ex and the new supply. The entire family whom I loved and supported suddenly wouldn’t talk to me. There were cruel incidents I didn’t understand but the narcissist had to everyone he met someone else. 18 years ended and the last 5 years he was already with some one else.
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Thank you for sharing with us what you have been going through Andrew. It is like getting across hell which is a truly devastating experience, exactly the way you have described it. Hopefully owing to brave and devoted people like you, the world will wake up and see what a deadly plaque narcisism is!
To a tee. Exactly what I am experiencing
Wow. I have no words. It's very upsetting.
I chose the path of believe what you want, I'm to worn out to even try to defend myself. If they chose to believe such rubbish I do not want to participate. For those who did not come to my defence they are not worthy of me. For those who did I thank you, and commend your goodness. Thank you Andrew.
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Hi Andrew, I come here for calmness+ to gain knowledge. Thank you for this!
This is what I am most afraid will happen. I hope it doesn’t. I am so sorry you are going through it. You explained this so good. Thank u for always being an encouragement. Take care and God bless u....
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Ive been through this to the extreme . It works best for narcasists that have a power position . My family has teachers and doctors , and smearing is not below them , especially when it comes to inhertiance . I lost a lot of good friends , but looking back , maybe they werent . Whats interesting are the third wave , that the second wave was convincing to trash me . Ive had several of the of the third wave that judged me , based on my actions . None of them questioned me , but a few went out of their way to shake my hand without an explaination . With out a word , they said where they stood . I really appreciated that .
Wow great content
Thank you Valerie.. it’s so difficult to go through but eventually the truth will come out.
It's been well over 30 years since my divorce and you have described my situation as if you were there in person. The Smear campaign was unbelievably painful and affected my entire life. SHAMEFULL thank you for your clarity and the courage to put a face to this awful situation. I do so hope the rest of your life is full of beauty and peace, dear Andrew.
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The light bulb moment when it dawns on you that they have been smearing you alllll along. They are such double binders. Shocking to finally see it. They can all have each other but I am out! If you walk away, good for you. You’re gone and now they can focus on each other and rip each other a part because they will. Stay safe and get away from these shallow people. You deserve better!
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I never gave him my very personal thoughts, or all the names of my friends and/or where they live, no phone numbers, addresses, etc. My family already knows what he is. I even told my GP whom he's already wanted to approach himself (to express his 'concerns' about me). I was just a day ahead of him and he didnt know that. 💃 happy dance!
Thank you Andrew , another subject explained so well 👌 , I am at this stage right now ! And I can assure you there is not a thing or person I wont leave behind on my path to freedom , I am growing stronger every day with your guidance and words of wisdom ❤️ Feeling blessed
Wow Andrew! I began to listen to you a month ago. I stumbled upon this video and the PROGRESS YOU have made!!! I can see and feel your 'freshness' in the discard here. You began my journey out! I thank you and I love you!
Hey Andrew, thanks for the Education I really do appreciate. I am currently going through a smear campaign and it is darker than I expected. But we learn each day.
Sending healing energy 🙌☀️🙏
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you, like you say we are on the healing path and I know I am not alone. Thank you 🤝
Trust me it will stop one day. Because people do not want to hear it over and over again. They get bored with the narc 's stories.
Until then, take care. Nose up and remember that some people love to gossip.
You don't have to explain. You know the truth .
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Andrew thank you so much you are doing great things for people. We love you and God bless you my friend!! 😊🙏🏻❤️
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Thank you, continuing to educate. So true, they lie, to degrade you. They lie , in hope that you will always look beneath them. They lie to manipulate others, and it is evil. Namaste, strength, peace, love. God Bless, he sees who is good, in this world. ❤❤❤💯🙏🌿🌎
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I have been smeard for last 3 years, it is hurd and it would not stop. I understand what are you talking about. Thank you so much for your words.❤
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I'm currently going through this a week after discard it's evil he has really shown his true colours he is going round saying he was in a toxic relationship and he deserves to be happy it's crazy because it's the other way round so he has flipped it onto me it's childish and pathetic
Maintain your boundaries and continue to become educated 🙏🙌💯☀️
Thank you, sending you love xo
Looking good 🙏🏽💯💥😘🤛🏽🤛🏽🤛🏽
This is happening to me thank you for sharing this 🙏
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God Bless you! Yea
The smear campaign my ex put me through was hell. I couldn't believe what an evil person he was/is. Lying and telling people things that he knew I didn't want anyone to know. It made me furious!
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It never stops 🥺
Sending prayers and positive energy to you Charmaine..💯🙏🙌
Once you heal you no longer care - let them do whatever they want
I had a family member who used to always downplay everything I told them about the narc. When he stopped PAYING them for information about me, it was suddenly, 'I always knew he was a no-good a-hole.' Oh, really??
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Thanks, Andrew! Evidently, it was going on the entire time.
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You're dead right about the 'long shot' of people realising they're dealing with a narcissist. Ex friend jumps from job to job approximately every 2 years. Possibly that's how long it takes ( in-between lengthy sick absences) for her colleagues to see through her.
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I stayed many times because I didn't want people not to like me. Now I found out friends have said why do you stay. Finally i do not care, my truth is all that matters.
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That is very true and has already happened.
Sending prayers and positive energy to you 🙌🙏💯🙏
If its that easy for people to turn on you then they weren't worth being in your life in the first place.
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It's the second worst aspect of narcissistic abuse.
I'm so sorry you have been subjected to this,Andrew.The reality is,many people never realise it's a smear campaign,that they have unwittingly helped a highly abusive,focused, narcissist to target - and devalue,even attempt to destroy - someone .
The sad reality is that even those who do wise up,realise they became Flying Monkeys,or were simply innocents,duped...choose to remain distant, silent,for their own benefit.
I wonder if the Narcissist wants us to become so broken down,so alone and desolate,that we commit suicide?
You and I - in fact,all of us watching your videos and the videos of other channels in this field - who have not given up to the degree of taking our own lives ( which is tantamount to scoring a winning goal for the narc ) are not just survivors.
We are winners.We win,every breath with we take,every tiny goal we achieve,every moment of having enough strength,enough faith in ourselves,enough belief in the beauty of life,enough faith in humanity,enough hope for a better way,a beautiful life - despite tragedies,injustices and abuse from narcissists and their cohorts - to live.
To stay alive,.To survive.
Then,to LIVE.
To THRIVE !!!
Most people,thankfully,will never have to find that strength.They get to live without understanding narcissistic abuse and how multi - faceted it's impact is upon the lives of those targeted by these individuals...
I pity the Narcissists.
I'd far rather be subjected to their abuse ,than to be someone who feels the need to behave that way,the need to destroy another person,no matter what the cost ,the casualties...
Thank you Andrew.
You are NOT alone.
We are NOT alone.
Somewhere,even if it is just in cyberspace,someone believes us.Someone knows.Someone understands.
Knowing that,feeling that....I imagine that has saved so many lives.
I believe it IS ✨SAVING✨ many lives.
Many, silently, privately.
Thank you,.Thank you for being A Lighthouse.
Beautiful comment thank you thank for sharing this ..🙏🙌❤️💯☀️
When I ended the friendship he went on a smear campaign
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I emailed the narcissist who ran a vicious smear campaign at my church "I hear the sound of VICTORY... narcissists think I care what they think of me..." lol
I have a lot of smear campaigners in my country (Eastern European country). They are not my spuse, not friends just random people. When a woman/girl sees me (I am tall and not ugly) the friend who she is with starts instantly to smear campaign and tells about me to her that I am the biggest looser, fool and so on. I am so sick of this envy/jelousy that I don't go out much because of this ! Random people start crap about me because they are insecure or I represent an enemy or adversary in this "competition of life". But the funny thing is that only they are in competition, I am not at all compiting with anyone. What can I do? It's disgusting and heartbreaking that I can not live a normal life because of their insecurities. This country is full of them. Also met this kind of people at workplace, couldn't do much about it since I can't videotape it(private property, it's illegal to film) and I can not confront it since conflicts at workplace are not seen well ... but yes, you can leave thw workplace ! So it's like they are winning most of the time....
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Yes the background is wonderful 🙏 U SWEET MAN
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I know who I am. I will go to new people. I can't control it, so, I have to go on with my life. Andrew, it is difficult, however, I feel we have no choice. For me, I am going on with my life. Thank you. You are right... family members will be quiet....
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My husband and his mother always made up crazy stories about me. Really pathetic! I’m sure his siblings believe them but I know the truth, they’re toxic not me!
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Yes. I was emotionally crippled. My ex husband asked our neighbor to spy on me. And wrote to every single person I know. Plus sued , in my name, doctors ( like 8 ) which I had good relationships with
There is nothing worse, emotionally....then .......... BETRAYAL. Anyone who is in this category... towards you..... is not, ever, worth keeping. Know this.
I have gone through smear campaign all my life, no one talk to me or treat me right..by the way the rain is just beautiful 😍
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Already been though it still going through it it really makes me hate life
I just moved and left them all behind started a new there out of my life. It was horrible.
The background of Costa Rica is nice and calming and u Andrew r soooo
Everything ;)
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It's so refreshing just to be done with flying monkeys 🙈🙉🙊
My narc mum did exactly those things but now y end...știința y teach.
The people that believe the abusers are either unsure because they have been abused or they were always secretly envious of your happy bubble, vitality, kindness, strength and abundant God Goddess given talents. Therefore, the prettily join forces with the abuser to gang up on you, bully, harass sabotage, gaslight, of course they deny the truth, project and manipulate scenarios. They try to provoke you into fights, loud arguments, invalidate and set up scenes. Just either ignore or respond politely. Look at them like they smell bad or just said something disgusting. Then be done and walk away. Seriously they are not only low brow and dumb, they are envious and jealous and out to get you. You know how it is when you really don't like someone and you have good values and they like to hurt others. You don't like them. Abusers are disjointed and a million times worse and more intense in their hatred and negative manipulations and they help each other. Basically they are cons. Some of the females falsely accuse men of rape or make similar false accusations. If you're on to them, being a woman, they smear you and tell others that you make up false accusations. Then they try to set you up and get their abusive male friends to threaten, harass, stalk, or be sexually inappropriate. Let's talk about that one. You'll occasionally see them black and blue and that's because they have to watch their backs too. Sometimes they mess with the wrong people. Another good one is I'm looking after a family member or a friend so I am gone for awhile, or vacation. It's really be abuse they have been arrested and are in jail or under house arrest, dui, drugs, theft, assault, scamming etc. Think about it.
I get so much out of your talks. This happened to me. It hurts to this day and it's been 40 years. I now stay away from people like that as much as I can. I find the mirror effect routes them out.
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What an Ah Ha Moment!!!
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Do these people always have a past of doing something similar, or can this person just reach this point with you?How does it normally work? I would believe, especially if they are older that there would be a past incident of this.
I’m so glad I am retired and no family to smear me with 🙏🏽💯🙌🙏🏽💯💥💥🤛🏽🤛🏽♌️♌️♌️
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I wish I would have taken the advice to keep quiet,it is so hard,and I'm not one usually to stay quiet when wrong is being told,but I learned also it doesn't matter at all what you say once they have people's ear,I've gone through a massive smear campaign, I believe it no longer mattered about necessarily what was being said,or if it was accurate, bit more about the social dynamics of it all, (being part of the group against me) like a high school popular kids,or something, I bet even if people found out at this point 90% was lies,it wouldn't matter much,just hearing everything negative about me for so long,talking and bonding over venting on me,just ingrained it into people in the community,I now see how the holocaust was possible, or Jones Town,that sounds kinda out there ,but it's true,the influence when these people go out and do this,especially today in our internet society,plus I didn't know what all this was for the first year.
When gangstalking is happening, and your being smeared,why is it so secretive? If everything is true what's being said, and its spread all over town,why not confront the target, why is no one to say anything, or admit to knowing anything? I believe because its a lie,but what excuse are they telling that works that people believe is the reason their not saying.
Who is this person?
Is there a way we can chat? Again I don't have money to pay period. However, I'm being called the opposite of what I am to my face to his friends to his family. He keeps insinuating that I'm lying about something or betraying him. He's the one doing that! What is this? Some type of projection so he won't feel guilty about being a shady ass b*%#h?
Manipulating behavior and controlling the narrative..🙌💯💯
You are right
I was dumb I kept apologizing to him for what I don’t even know! They believed him I was a friend but in his mind a girlfriend & ewww he was competing with me ay que asco 🤢
Unfortunately....this title - scary sitch. Be Well Everyone. Take The High Road. Good Reminder Andrew. Thanks. Peace To All. Namaste.
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Andrew, I don't get the feeling that you had children with your former wife. I was in what I now understand to be a narcissistic relationship. Had a son. I met him age 21. Am now 76. Life is still in disarray. My son still thinks of me as the labels that were put on me. Long story. Am sure you would emphasize.
The Smear Campaign...he said, 'I am going to ruin your reputation for leaving me...'. He did.
I know this es crazy!! Be quiet 🤐
Very painful subject…🥲❤️🩹
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So real So true. ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Was it bc yr wife was gorgeous? That they believed her?
Im still dazed & confused @ times but I’m getting better ❤️🩹
This seems demonic I was tag teamed by him & his sister. But I forgiven that’s what helps me day by day.