What I learned from my first Relationship...

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  • Don't ever let someone pressure you into something you aren't comfortable with. This is my story reinforcing that...
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  • @JAMIEvstheVOID
    @JAMIEvstheVOID  5 ปีที่แล้ว +17683

    Pin update no. 1
    I wanted to say, it wasn't necessarily wrong for 'Cody' to want to be more forward than me. Different people mature at different ages, but was absolutely not ok with it.
    The importance of this video lies in the fact that I plucked up the courage to actually tell him how I felt, rather than being afraid of being a bad girlfriend, or falling victim to peer pressure... and letting it spiral out of control... Because that could have happened.
    It was obviously pretty low that he ghosted me instead of actually telling me he'd broken up with me, and it was awful to see all over another girl immediately after this. This was the d-bag move.
    I never said he was abusive, he stopped when I finally said stop and told him that I was uncomfortable. But he obviously wanted a relationship to be fulfilling for him in a certain way that I knew I was waaaayyyyy too young for. The point is that I did make that call, and I'm so proud of 14 year old me for being brave enough to say no.
    But if I hadn't piped up, I probably would have ended up doing something I'd likely have deeply regretted. THIS IS MY POINT. If you're in a relationship, or think you may in future, know how imperative it is to have communication between you. Be a team, make sure you're both comfortable. Be vocal when you aren't.
    When I was 13/14 the internet was far inferior to how it is today, otherwise I might have had an easier way to reach out to other teens and get support... or learn from other's experiences.
    This is why I made this video.
    It's what I would have needed to hear at that age. It's a letter to myself. You should never feel pressured by a partner. Talk to them. Communication is so important.
    (Also, I feel ridiculous writing this, but some commenters have forced my hand... NO this absolutely not an attack on guys in general. Obviously this could happen in any relationship, coming from both guys and girls.)

    • @KennyWlr
      @KennyWlr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +416

      Yeah, the ghosting was a dick move, sorry you had to go through that stress. Thankfully he took no for an answer and stopped. I'm glad you did the right thing,not many people manage to say no in a situation like that at that age :')

    • @siberyuswithengard7364
      @siberyuswithengard7364 5 ปีที่แล้ว +230

      When I was 15 happened almost the same thing to me, but in reverse role. I mean, my very first girlfriend wanted to do something more “adult”, but I said no.
      I bet my butt that this sounds a lot strange, and it became even “stranger” if I confess that my first sexual experience in my whole life happened 3 years ago with my actual girlfriend (I’m 24, do your counts, lol).
      I had only 4 girlfriends in the past, if we still consider valid at least 2 phone love-relationships, that were built around... nothing I guess? I don’t even know how that was possibile but I managed to do it... In some dark and mysterious ways still unknown even to me...
      BTW, the juice of this grammatical mess that I’ve written is that: hell, I know how you felt and how you feel right now. Good job and wonderful hair (pretty as hell, I might steal them a night of these, be careful)

    • @Bee-gc2do
      @Bee-gc2do 5 ปีที่แล้ว +186

      Definitely didnt come off as an attack on guys, in fact I think you gave Cody a lot of leeway where others wouldn't have. I really appreciate this video and find it inspiring because I was very shy and insecure at 13/14 and still have difficulty today speaking up for myself. It can be very hard for some people but sometimes it has to be done, regardless of the short-term consequences (him breaking up with you/whoever versus the long term affect it would have had on you/whoever).
      I wish I'd seen this at the age, I think a lot of girls can relate and this can help alleviate their anxieties if they find themselves in this situation. They need to know you should put your safety and comfort first even if it upsets someone else.

    • @urmomgae4306
      @urmomgae4306 5 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      AmyRightMeow when my fort real relationship was named Cody and I was really religious at the time and I regret giving him my virginity, :(

    • @write-minded3921
      @write-minded3921 5 ปีที่แล้ว +171

      It floors me anyone thinks this is an attack on guys. *facepalm X infinity*

  • @ruth3120
    @ruth3120 5 ปีที่แล้ว +35546

    The last time I was someone’s type, I was donating blood.

    • @thewinner4319
      @thewinner4319 5 ปีที่แล้ว +242

      R R, Lol!

    • @wubwubwub4436
      @wubwubwub4436 5 ปีที่แล้ว +199

      Lol same

    • @EE-tx2lc
      @EE-tx2lc 5 ปีที่แล้ว +186

      My type on paper

    • @Catfood19143
      @Catfood19143 5 ปีที่แล้ว +168

      This should have so many more likes 😂👏

    • @acselaber7684
      @acselaber7684 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      :(

  • @cjsnappi1535
    @cjsnappi1535 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2067

    “*If someone touches you in a place that makes you feel uncomfortable, that’s no good!*”
    -Sonic

    • @candlequeen666
      @candlequeen666 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I was gonna do that

    • @cre6144
      @cre6144 5 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      i fucking read this in his voice lmao

    • @kepitykepity2350
      @kepitykepity2350 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      CJsnappi yass queen

    • @janfungusamon4926
      @janfungusamon4926 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      "Do you think God stays in heaven because he is scared of what he created?" -guy in spy kids

    • @ultimatedragon4281
      @ultimatedragon4281 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@janfungusamon4926
      What show is this again? I REALLY liked the quote, so I am curious...

  • @girlysoap9031
    @girlysoap9031 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6526

    This colour palette is so easy on my eyes omfg yasssssss
    Damn I've not had this many likes before thanks guys 😅

    • @fiddlestic6958
      @fiddlestic6958 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      princess larry sally face

    • @haroldmc9021
      @haroldmc9021 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I was just thinking about that, I come to the comments section and the
      I saw this

    • @taniani884
      @taniani884 5 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Right?? I’m also loving the lineless look

    • @derp4374
      @derp4374 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm used to black so it hurrrrts

    • @girlysoap9031
      @girlysoap9031 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@taniani884 oh yeah I just realised there weren't lines lol

  • @lucyw5821
    @lucyw5821 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2892

    Amy: *talks about how she learnt how to say no when she needed to and is proud of herself*
    The comments: *Im quirky because I’m single*

    • @maciekatehumphries1881
      @maciekatehumphries1881 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Ikr

    • @Grapethegreat
      @Grapethegreat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      This, this right here is what people in the comments should realize

    • @onettaviator5396
      @onettaviator5396 2 ปีที่แล้ว +76

      Literally, this comment section's annoying as hell

    • @evaniceface
      @evaniceface 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I’m really happy for them. Jamie took initiative and actually spoke about their concerns. Surprisingly hard to do at my age.

    • @mikeyangel420
      @mikeyangel420 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      People just hate when the attention is directed away from them. This comment section is pretty insensitive and disrespectful.

  • @TheThursty100
    @TheThursty100 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6276

    Honestly if I kissed a girl and she told me I taste like cookies, I'd ABSOLUTELY adore it! That's the best cutest thing to say!

    • @LukeIdontKnow
      @LukeIdontKnow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I don’t need to if

    • @LukeIdontKnow
      @LukeIdontKnow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      It happened

    • @sirshrooma
      @sirshrooma 4 ปีที่แล้ว +116

      maybe, but it could be kinda gross if you just happened to "taste" like whatever you were last eating

    • @LukeIdontKnow
      @LukeIdontKnow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +128

      George Blackwell IV Don’t ruin the moment

    • @juanbingle
      @juanbingle 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      man...why can't girls now a days just be more passionate like that.

  • @smol.t3dd926
    @smol.t3dd926 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4776

    When I see videos like this, I think “ it’s better being single than being disrespected”

    • @ethanroc147
      @ethanroc147 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Why are there quotes

    • @smol.t3dd926
      @smol.t3dd926 4 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      SomeonePlaysYT because that’s what I always say when I hear stories like these. And because I tried to make sure that my comment wasn’t confusing or just makes sense.

    • @snakanter
      @snakanter 4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      Single not gonna mingle

    • @smol.t3dd926
      @smol.t3dd926 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Jake Grocholski lol

    • @844SteamFan
      @844SteamFan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@snakanter lol as well

  • @fabiandolch1505
    @fabiandolch1505 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1813

    "You taste like cookies" is the best substitute for "I love you" you can get imo

    • @komodoguy152
      @komodoguy152 5 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      And “i actually wanted to watch the movie rather than looking into his tonsils” is by far one of the Most relatable things I’ve ever heard

    • @chamllis
      @chamllis 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I’d be like “well fuck me I forgot to brush”

    • @zyaicob
      @zyaicob 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      After my first official kiss with my (now ex) I just said "ketchup" and in hindsight that was stupid but we were happy and I miss that happiness... sigh

    • @claracatlady9844
      @claracatlady9844 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Fabian Dolch i know I actually thought that was so cute. If someone would say that to me after kissing me I would be super happy.

    • @apotato4939
      @apotato4939 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@zyaicoblmao hope you’re doing better now

  • @gototherat
    @gototherat 3 ปีที่แล้ว +407

    This video helped me realize my ex boyfriend abused me. You have no idea how much this means to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for saying your story

    • @200lbAfricanPounder
      @200lbAfricanPounder 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sad 🙃

    • @carolinpurayidom4570
      @carolinpurayidom4570 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Hope you've healed

    • @gototherat
      @gototherat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@carolinpurayidom4570 Definitely have. Not completely but I’m doing better. I have the sweetest guy now and it’s helped a lot.

    • @carolinpurayidom4570
      @carolinpurayidom4570 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@gototherat That's good hang in there you may never fully heal on this (saying this due to experience with mental illness) but know that you are loved that you are here for a reason ♥️

    • @Iheartyourmother69
      @Iheartyourmother69 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@200lbAfricanPounder Thats like saying
      "oh? you were abused by your ex? hah."

  • @daianaayelenquevedo1478
    @daianaayelenquevedo1478 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1816

    True be told, if someone told me that I taste like cookies, I would be completely flattered.

    • @thoma1165
      @thoma1165 5 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      people who taste like cookies, usually eats a lot of them

    • @internetlexi
      @internetlexi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Co

    • @anonymousunknown7388
      @anonymousunknown7388 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Daiana Ayelen Quevedo me too. I think?

    • @clnne
      @clnne 5 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      "You taste like cookies."
      "Aww, tha-"
      "I don't like cookies."

    • @niconiconiccorin
      @niconiconiccorin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      You taste like cookies
      ...?
      It’s a compliment

  • @lunargalaxy__
    @lunargalaxy__ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2286

    *"You taste like cookies"*
    *This is such a mood.*

    • @Pasunpuffin
      @Pasunpuffin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      M MmmMM Mmm

    • @juniebunnz
      @juniebunnz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I feel like I would do that..for literally no reason 🤔

  • @cloakss
    @cloakss 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8341

    My mother works in Sexual Assault cases. Don't become another stat in her charts. Say no.

    • @JAMIEvstheVOID
      @JAMIEvstheVOID  5 ปีที่แล้ว +974

      Absolutely this.

    • @inkystix5327
      @inkystix5327 5 ปีที่แล้ว +244

      This comment made me feel (a bit) better after this video. I agree. Say no.

    • @sheeprverycool
      @sheeprverycool 5 ปีที่แล้ว +184

      No means no! Why can’t people understand that?

    • @cloakss
      @cloakss 5 ปีที่แล้ว +94

      @@inkystix5327 I'm glad I was able to make you feel better. I just want to make sure everyone remains safe and happy, and to raise awareness to this issue.

    • @oof-rr5nf
      @oof-rr5nf 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@cloakss That is great. 💖

  • @simplyvalour486
    @simplyvalour486 3 ปีที่แล้ว +634

    Even if she was his GF at the time, him putting his hands all over her in the parents car without asking if she was okay with it before hand is very harrassy-

    • @greywolf7577
      @greywolf7577 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      The problem is that if you just ask, many girls will find that unsexy. They prefer a man who will move things little by little without verbalizing it. That way the woman can stay no if she wants, but she isn't turned off by him asking outright for it.

    • @floral2743
      @floral2743 2 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      @@greywolf7577 bro, ask any girl about this and i'm sure they'll tell you that they prefer their partner asking them

    • @mickipou
      @mickipou 2 ปีที่แล้ว +70

      @@greywolf7577 I don't think that's right bro not cool
      Who told you this that's wrong info and it could be really dangerous

    • @r.r.4563
      @r.r.4563 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      @@greywolf7577 I know it’s been 6 months but who told you this. Secondly it’s not about asking what they’re cool with each time you wanna advance, ask what they’re not cool with from the gecko, just use your head a little.

    • @bluejeanmermaid5879
      @bluejeanmermaid5879 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      @@greywolf7577 As a girl, I felt cold chills when I read this. Being sneaky is not sexy or romantic. It's predatory. It's creepy. I had a boyfriend who pulled the same crap and I went home every day crying and feeling used. If you really want to show how much you care about a girl, she wants you to treat her with respect. Genuine respect. Dating is for selecting a partner and a lifelong friend to go through life's good times and bad. Not for looking for someone to use because your hormonal. Be the good person you are and bring out the good in your partner. It makes life worthwhile. 🙂

  • @yukiquartz3439
    @yukiquartz3439 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2869

    The part where u talk about how your mom is just gonna blame you really hits close to home

  • @theouterspacegoose2210
    @theouterspacegoose2210 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4224

    The Accent.
    The Colors.
    The Art Style.
    The Storytelling.
    This was an awesome first impression for a TH-camr, especially Storytelling.
    Thanks TH-cam Recommendations.

    • @thirdlegdrags
      @thirdlegdrags 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Slightly Nerdy but it’s not spider man

    • @theouterspacegoose2210
      @theouterspacegoose2210 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      LilPeePeeGang No, the main difference is that Amy is not a Menace!

    • @bonnieaprillollipoptrigger6516
      @bonnieaprillollipoptrigger6516 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Dude!What racism against another countries accents!

    • @theouterspacegoose2210
      @theouterspacegoose2210 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Bonnie Aprillollipop #TRIGGERED I was complementing it, it made for good storytelling and a smooth narrative.

    • @Tealule
      @Tealule 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same.

  • @MIKE-xb9po
    @MIKE-xb9po 5 ปีที่แล้ว +779

    Usually you hear stories where people give in at the end and dont listen to themselves I was pleasantly proven wrong.

    • @peterbenoni1470
      @peterbenoni1470 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Yeah, I'm glad she made the decision that she knew was right on her end. I frankly wish I would've listened to myself in my earlier years of life, to prevent having one of my biggest regrets to this day, but I'm so glad someone addressed a situation like this and even more pleased that they acted on how they really felt in the end. Major cudos to AmyRightMeow.

    • @hihello211
      @hihello211 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Michael Mell..?

    • @MIKE-xb9po
      @MIKE-xb9po 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@hihello211 yessir reporting for duty (I really wanted to say booty) my real name is also Michael so it works.

    • @MIKE-xb9po
      @MIKE-xb9po 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@hihello211 I stalked your channel and you have a Hamilton playlist. we are friends now. You cant stop it.

    • @hihello211
      @hihello211 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Michael You have Instagram? lol

  • @eperniy_teatr
    @eperniy_teatr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +714

    As russian, I am very surprised that you just can go to your parents and say "I feel bad and uncomfortable at this school, let's move and start it over". While when I was bullied for the whole 9 years, I did the same and parents said that I am weak and can't handle the life's trials. Mentality at it's finest
    You have a really understanding family

    • @jigenappreciator4990
      @jigenappreciator4990 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      am not russian but oh yeahh i'm surprised it was such an easy thing for them to do with their mom! my dad would have never agreed esp cuz he had a deal with his company that paid my school. i asked to change school several times but he never agreed because he stated it was 'too difficult'

    • @3alienigena3atea57
      @3alienigena3atea57 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      LiesLiesLiesLiesLiesLiesLiar Concent equals=Lies of the dead.

    • @zadock6370
      @zadock6370 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      her dad probably was, but her mom was probably an abusive prick.

    • @aluminievyponos
      @aluminievyponos ปีที่แล้ว +12

      пожалуйста, хватит про этот менталитет. нельзя какие-то качества приписывать национальности исходя из какой-то статистики (даже если она правдивая). и дело не в том, что у меня супер понимающие родители. дело в том, что менталитетом можно упростить любую проблему. просто такие люди полны психологических проблем и неадаптивных установок, и решать это надо глобально. надеюсь теперь у тебя все хорошо

    • @wegMachMeister
      @wegMachMeister ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@aluminievyponosогласен. Моя мать русская, а отец - кубинец, и они оба всегда были добры ко мне и всегда были готовы помочь мне если у меня были какие-то проблемы в школе.

  • @Scigh-on
    @Scigh-on 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3645

    "you taste like cookies" is a compliment. my first kiss tasted like salt and vinegar crisps and ham sandwich. it wasn't great...

    • @zoto1370
      @zoto1370 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Wow same !

    • @adeola_63
      @adeola_63 3 ปีที่แล้ว +191

      I hope my first kiss tastes like cherry chapstick
      iykyk lol

    • @stepbro4028
      @stepbro4028 3 ปีที่แล้ว +115

      @@adeola_63 Wait isn't cherry chapstick like another word for clitoris i-

    • @alex-qh6tk
      @alex-qh6tk 3 ปีที่แล้ว +120

      @@stepbro4028 LMAO WTF 💀😭

    • @Overcomer0222
      @Overcomer0222 3 ปีที่แล้ว +112

      @@stepbro4028 thought they were talking about the Katy Perry song but yea sure that too

  • @mm17chuu18
    @mm17chuu18 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2367

    literally most teen relationships are just lust-filled, starts cute then gets to some weird crap. LOL i regret so much messing with one guy like 2 years ago, now im basically not attracted to any guys in my school.

    • @thatoneguy9291
      @thatoneguy9291 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Da hell

    • @ihatebears7445
      @ihatebears7445 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      What happened? I'm really curious

    • @Lucia-ol7pq
      @Lucia-ol7pq 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      well the first relationship of my best friend lasted two weeks
      idk what happened but i know that lasted two weeks
      We are 14

    • @Vixa_Jaz
      @Vixa_Jaz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      There is no shame in taking your time and being single. It took me a long time to realize this.

    • @proxility4576
      @proxility4576 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Lucia There was a guy who used to be like my best friend. Turns out I found him cheating on me literally after the first week of dating. So, after he broke up with me, he left me for the girl he was cheating on me with. I reached out to her and told her why she did what she did. She said she was dating him and we got deep into the convo. She didn’t know he was dating me while talking to him because he never mentioned me being his girlfriend. His last exes were cheated on by him and they were really nice people. So moral of the story, don’t date your best friend unless you’re expecting your friendship to end.

  • @wishnuis
    @wishnuis 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1663

    The only relationship I have is with my books.

    • @lilac4570
      @lilac4570 5 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Insignificant Blob Human Trash Thing same, but *food*

    • @wenslo8514
      @wenslo8514 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      MY SISTER!!!

    • @woxof46
      @woxof46 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Insignificant Blob Human Trash Thing BOOKS ALL THE WAY!!!

    • @wishnuis
      @wishnuis 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Storyshift Chara Haha, same, let’s be trash raccoons together

    • @lucifiaofthefreecouncil1312
      @lucifiaofthefreecouncil1312 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      YES finally kindred spirit, someone get's me 😎🖖 I've spent hundreds of dollars on books and audio books. Do you have a particular focus? I like Sci fi, fantasy and romance novels especially if a novel has all 3 in 1 lol and for nonfiction stuff on history and science. I also write fan fiction and my own original stories none of it is any good though I keep forgetting grimmer and spelling all the fucking time but I still love to anyway.

  • @shslbastard8668
    @shslbastard8668 3 ปีที่แล้ว +587

    in my first relationship i was forced into things that i didn't want to do.
    i was manipulated, gaslighted, guilt tripped, etc.
    i didn't want to be choked, i didn't want my hands to be bound.
    no means no, and it always will.

    • @paltheporg7821
      @paltheporg7821 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      I’m sorry that happened to you.

    • @meIatoninx
      @meIatoninx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      I’m extremely sorry that happened to you, hope you feel better now..

    • @sanxxxx
      @sanxxxx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      Same... I feel like that's what mass porn consumption does to guys. Porn could be okay in smaller doses but it feels like a lot of guys are... Changed by it.

    • @naoko707
      @naoko707 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I think its happening to me right now

    • @dotor4240
      @dotor4240 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I had somting similar! It is hard to say no. Because he tells you that you want this. I just want to say i am with you and understand you.

  • @skylar4602
    @skylar4602 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1737

    “Teens, we’re all inherently awkward.”
    -smart

    • @im_bisexualuwu3709
      @im_bisexualuwu3709 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I laughed and said “yeah we are” at that part 😂

    • @Nev1esomnia
      @Nev1esomnia 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Shianna Leah Fellow bisexual?

    • @starlight5138
      @starlight5138 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I'm 13, and this could not be more true.

    • @chitsi
      @chitsi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      PREACH THAT QUOTE!!

    • @jadenjones3559
      @jadenjones3559 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      HAH JOKES ON U KIDS ARE AwKWARD ASWELL

  • @aavenknight4533
    @aavenknight4533 5 ปีที่แล้ว +723

    If someone touches you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. THAT'S NO GOOD

    • @nexus4427
      @nexus4427 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Not if it's consensual, then it's normal

    • @michelle-th7rb
      @michelle-th7rb 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      *You don’t say*

    • @xur3095
      @xur3095 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@michelle-th7rb 🐷

    • @blackpearlanimations2852
      @blackpearlanimations2852 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I don't know why but it reminds me Sonic Underground

    • @peonyplum
      @peonyplum 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thank you Sonic

  • @flowerchildvoid
    @flowerchildvoid 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3583

    Aw man, the art looks amazing

    • @JAMIEvstheVOID
      @JAMIEvstheVOID  5 ปีที่แล้ว +129

      SO much effort went into making this!

    • @flowerchildvoid
      @flowerchildvoid 5 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      @@JAMIEvstheVOID well it was definitely worth it, it's like candy to my eyes

    • @asielmilian38
      @asielmilian38 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@JAMIEvstheVOID cool.

    • @asielmilian38
      @asielmilian38 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@flowerchildvoid Same.

    • @stephenquinn5121
      @stephenquinn5121 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      AmyRightMeow u have helped me understand who is my friend and who is not I want to say thank u #bewhouwanttobe

  • @thisstuffisminenotyours
    @thisstuffisminenotyours 3 ปีที่แล้ว +268

    It's great that teen girls feel encouraged by this video, but from my experience this is a video for almost every age, be it your 20s or 40s; abuse in relationships is real and just because you're in a relationship or even married does not mean you cannot say No. I hope that one day people will learn this ...

    • @ruru1824
      @ruru1824 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yeah this!! yes and no arent one time things, consent can be given or taken back at any time, doesn't matter how long it's been

    • @Zeagods-CyberShadow
      @Zeagods-CyberShadow 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This took me such a long time to realise and be able to just say no and standing my ground and also Having a Spine took a long while but when i did it. I felt wrong but then felt so much better afterwards realising that i was finally free and no longer chained

    • @Zeagods-CyberShadow
      @Zeagods-CyberShadow 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I pray for the poor ones still struggling with this and hope they can get the courage and support that they need

  • @SultanSketches
    @SultanSketches 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5061

    This video was beautifully made. We all learn and grow from our past and experiences and it's clear you've done that, hopefully Cody has too !

  • @purrfectlydeadinside9375
    @purrfectlydeadinside9375 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1708

    "Because....he's my dad"
    I saw that subtle boogie woogie woggie 😂

  • @libertyroebuck5725
    @libertyroebuck5725 5 ปีที่แล้ว +903

    I'm glad that I get to grow up with videos on serious topics like this.

    • @garflover6969
      @garflover6969 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I’m not really glad that this serious video relates to my first relationship

    • @marianacalvimontes4551
      @marianacalvimontes4551 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@garflover6969 I feel the same

    • @itz_kat157
      @itz_kat157 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same

    • @atw971
      @atw971 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Taylor Ray omg was about to ask that too!

    • @libertyroebuck5725
      @libertyroebuck5725 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Taylor Ray yesss queene

  • @angelamartzen7499
    @angelamartzen7499 3 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    My first real boyfriend in high school was pretty much the same thing except a lot more humiliating after the breakup. This boy was so sweet and funny and we got along so well and then we started dating and it was super great for like 2 months. We talked all the time, shared deep personal thoughts and feelings, and he never physically pressured me into anything... but by the 3rd month he started becoming confusing and emotionally manipulative. He would always seem to be "sad" whenever we talked in person or online and whenever I would try to help and ask him if there were something I could do, he would always say that if I really loved him that I should "prove" it. That was a huge red flag waving in my face but I didn't see it at the time. He never elaborated on what HE meant by "prove" it so in MY mind I thought I was just not doing a good enough job showing him how much I cared so I started trying to be even more romantic and caring towards him but it didn't seem to help. Then after a while I started figuring that maybe he meant that I wasn't being affectionate enough so I started trying to do a little more here and there - hugging him more, kissing him more, but I was not ready to go any further than that. Then one day, we went on a date to the movies and it seemed like a good time to me, we watched the movie and all seemed well, but it was apparent afterwards that he seemed down and disappointed. That was the last time we spent together. After that he pretty much stopped wanting to talk to me and avoided me. We were in marching band together and we had mutual friends so it would be extremely awkward that we would literally be standing 5 feet from each other and he wouldn't even make eye contact with me. I kept trying to message him after school, asking what happened? and what did I do? and he would minimally respond with some vague explanation and then immediately go offline to avoid me. I even started apologizing to him profusely even though I still didn't really understand what was going on. After a while I finally took the hint that it was over and that I needed to move on. Fast forward several months, my friends and I were making banners after school for an upcoming band competition. We started talking about a bunch of different things and then my failed relationship with him got brought up. My close friend then made a comment about how "messed up it was what he did after the breakup" and I was genuinely confused as to what she meant and then everybody got quiet and started awkwardly looking around at each other and then they realized that I was completely unaware so they told me that during their band class (I was in the colorguard so we had a separate class from the instrument players) he took all the personal letters that I wrote him with really DEEP personal stuff I wrote and posted them all over the band room and apparently around other places in the school too (areas that I didn't have classes in) just to make a joke of me and poke fun at me with his stupid other friends and other random people. I broke down after hearing this and it then started making sense to me why our mutual friends stopped being cool with him after our breakup. They told me the reason why it was never brought up until this point was because they thought I knew he did that and they didn't want to talk about it because they didn't want to hurt my feelings by bringing it up. Honestly I wished they did bring it up way sooner but in retrospect, I guess it was better that they didn't because I was pretty depressed after the breakup, if I had known what he did at the time he did it, it would have made me even more depressed during that difficult time. Anyways... later on he started dating this other girl in band who everyone knew was pretty... loose... and he would make a big show of their relationship. They would openly make out and she would always be sitting on his lap and my guy friends told me that he would brag about them having sex all the time and that it was the best feeling ever blah blah blah and he started becoming an arrogant jerk whereas when I first met him he seemed so sweet and innocent. I (finally) came to the realization that THAT was why he broke up with me, because he wanted sex and I wasn't "putting out". I even asked my guy friends if that seemed like an accurate assumption for me to make and they confirmed that yes he was bothered by the fact that kissing was as far as we went but he wanted more. The point of me sharing this long story is to show that this type of thing happens and these types of people do exist. I wish that I could go back in time to tell my younger self that NO it was not me. I wasn't a "bad" girlfriend and I did not need to "prove" anything. I am just so thankful that I did not give in to the pressure of having sex at a young age because if HE was the boy who took my virginity... I would have deeply regretted that. To any young person that might be reading this... please... stay true to yourself and don't do anything that you are uncomfortable with. You will always thank yourself later that you did what was right for yourself.

    • @kellygreen7236
      @kellygreen7236 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you for sharing your story, I'm sorry you were hurt and manipulated like that. It's sad to see so many people relating to this story, and my heart breaks that people still chalk it up to "boys will be boys" or "it's normal to explore" but exploring sexuality and relationships have to be consensual 100% of the whole time. And many young people go through these experiences and it flies under the radar. I really hope you have healed since then, I know fucked up stuff like that leaves people with scars. You deserve the best relationships with mutual respect and communication, nothing less. Maybe we can educate children to be cautious and vocal and spare them the pain we endured. Please take care ❤

    • @CosmicaPigeon
      @CosmicaPigeon 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You should get more likes

  • @megann1416
    @megann1416 5 ปีที่แล้ว +367

    first relationships are hard man, it’s like you try so hard not to lose the other person and sometimes it becomes toxic and that ain’t fun.

    • @night_benjey7300
      @night_benjey7300 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      CHAT REJECTED HIS LADY FOR THE STOOOOOOOPID DUMB GIRL KAGAMI OR SHOULD I SAY KAMAGI🙄🙄 so long story short I ship ladybug and luka now 😂😂😂😂

    • @erinhowell1155
      @erinhowell1155 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      yes honestly??? I was so toxic to my first "boyfriend" and I caused him a lot of pain :(

  • @Federallymoths
    @Federallymoths 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1348

    I had my first boyfriend when I was 17. He really pressured me into doing things I didn't want. He even continued after I told him to stop and physically pushed him away. I told him this has to stop and confronted him with it but he said he loves me so much that he can't control himself (I don't think I have to comment on that... ). I should've broken up with him immediately but I somehow thought he would change. That was a mistake because he didn't. Don't stay with someone who treats you like that. If you don't want to do certain things your partner has to be understanding and patient.
    (I hope my English is okay)

    • @hiimkillian7143
      @hiimkillian7143 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      your english is great! are you a non-native speaker or was the last bit a joke? i have trouble understanding jokes sometimes (possibly caused by autism)

    • @Federallymoths
      @Federallymoths 4 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      @@hiimkillian7143 Thank you! I'm German and I'm learning English at school. I often worry about using words the wrong way... That's why I wrote that:)

    • @hiimkillian7143
      @hiimkillian7143 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      @@Federallymoths well in your comment (and reply) you used everything right :> i wish you luck on continuing english at school! funny actually, i'm american and trying to learn norwegian

    • @Federallymoths
      @Federallymoths 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@hiimkillian7143 thanks and good luck with the Norwegian, it's alway nice to be able to speak a second language.

    • @ariannecantes
      @ariannecantes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      exact same thing! except that I was 15 when it all happened and whenever I confront him, he always says he would marry me (which is ridiculous because we're just teens! wth!) we broke up after 6months and I think its a good thing.

  • @YourCrazyOverlord
    @YourCrazyOverlord 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1519

    12 year old Amy looks KICKASS

    • @jennaaj1532
      @jennaaj1532 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Idk if this is what overlord meant but... there was a 12 year old Amy

    • @hellokittyclawzz
      @hellokittyclawzz 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Overlord fLip yes my god

    • @AlexCarson-vc1qd
      @AlexCarson-vc1qd 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Not funny I didn't laugh. Your joke is so bad 1 would have preferred the joke went over my head and you gave up re-telling me the joke. To be honest this is a horrid attempt at trying to get a laugh out of me. Not a chuckle, not a hehe, not even a subtle burst of air out of my esophagus. Science says before you laugh your brain preps your face muscles but I didn't even feel the slightest twitch. 0/10 this joke is so bad I cannot believe anyone legally allowed you to be creative at all. The amount of brain power you must have put into that joke has the potential to power every house on Earth. Get a personality and learn how to make jokes, read a book. I'm not saying this to be funny I genuinely mean it on how this isjust bottom barrel embarrassment at comedy. You've single handedly killed humor and every comedic act on the planet. I'm so disappointed that society has failed as a whole in being able to teach you how to be funny. Honestly if I put in all my power and time to try and make your joke funny it would require Einstein himself to build a device to strap me into so I can be connected to the energy of a billion stars to do it, and even then all that joke would get from people is a subtle scuff. You're lucky I still have the slightest of empathy for you after telling that joke otherwise I would have committed every war crime in the book just to prevent you from attempting any humor ever again. We should put that joke in text booksso future generations can be wary of becoming such an absolute comedic failure. Im disappointed, hurt, and outright offended that my precious time has been wasted in my brain understanding that joke. In the time that took I was planning on helping kids who have been orphaned, but because of that you've waisted my time explaining the obscene integrity of your terrible attempt at comedy. Now those kids are suffering without meals and there's nobody to blame but you. I hope you're happy with what you have done and I truly hope you can move on and learn from this piss poor attempt.

  • @lavendersims6075
    @lavendersims6075 2 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    I’m studying to be a lawyer and I want to specialize with sexual assault cases so people who experience what I did have a chance to get something I never got: justice.

  • @Gre-unit
    @Gre-unit 4 ปีที่แล้ว +780

    My first relationship taught me trust issues.

    • @alfredosauce8177
      @alfredosauce8177 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      It's not what you think holy cow- saaaaaaammmmmeeeeeeeee

    • @Crumble_n_use
      @Crumble_n_use 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Mine taught me how hard a kick to the balls should be

    • @shibtuff
      @shibtuff 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Crumble_n_use wow.ok

    • @ManyRose2345
      @ManyRose2345 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      my family taught me that ✋😛 lying fricks we all are

    • @_k1llj0ys
      @_k1llj0ys 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hahaha sameeeeeee

  • @toxicity2817
    @toxicity2817 5 ปีที่แล้ว +383

    "things started to change... and I wasn't cool with it..."
    *TH-cam Ad*

    • @maxwellmarques1607
      @maxwellmarques1607 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That exact thing happened as I read this comment.

    • @Mi-ew3dj
      @Mi-ew3dj 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Samee

    • @bubbly7137
      @bubbly7137 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same,

  • @afroanimation7777
    @afroanimation7777 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2180

    Relationship are NEVER like the movies lmao unless you're really lucky

    • @bootheghost970
      @bootheghost970 5 ปีที่แล้ว +70

      Or unlucky

    • @ren4691
      @ren4691 5 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      @FIRE-ICE HOT-COLD most of the time if the woman/guy is uncomfortable is because they care of what their so think. Also im pretty sure most people in relationships like sleeping with their partner?

    • @Merle0109
      @Merle0109 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      @FIRE-ICE HOT-COLD for me changing clothes in front of someone or sleeping in the same bed as them is something very intimate that I don't want to share with just any friend, that's why I get a bit of uncomfortable when I have to sleep in the same bed as someone who isn't my partner, even if it's just a close female friend that I spend a lot of time with anyway, but I still feel uncomfortable. I prefer to share such things only with my partner, as I find them as special and intimate. You might have a different mindset about this as you are asexual and even if you don't mind different sexualities people still think different about such things. But I feel like there is a huge difference between someone who has sexual interest in anybody and someone who doesn't

    • @crafty_j957
      @crafty_j957 5 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      @FIRE-ICE HOT-COLD as a married woman, my husband is the only person I fully trust. That is the relationship that we've built together over the 15+ years we've been together. He is the only person I feel truly comfortable around (naked or clothed) and that I want to (and enjoy) sleep next to every night (in the same bed) and wake up beside every morning. My husband loves me for me, he doesn't see me as only a sexual object but as an equal.
      I'm well aware that not all relationships are the same but I do feel that it's unfair to assume that all women and men (regardless of gender or orientation) feel and act the same way around each other.
      I think for a lot of people it has to do with confidence and/or how self-conscious they feel around others. Some people just don't care what others think or feel about their bodies so they're comfortable sharing a bed or getting changed in the same room. Everyone is different

    • @Edztac.yy1651
      @Edztac.yy1651 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      or unless u in a movie

  • @Alice-un3kq
    @Alice-un3kq 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I'm sending this video to my niece when she's 13. It's SO important for EVERYONE to recognize their boundaries, and what they are and aren't comfortable with. Kids, teens, adults. absolutely everyone. And not just romantic relationships, every type of relationship. I was definitely a late bloomer, and had no interest in anyone from my high school. I was in situations(not frequently, thank god) where I was too afraid to say "no," and didn't. Nothing too terrible happened, and I recognize in my particular situation, I was the asshole for not voicing I was uncomfortable, specifically because I ghosted him after. But I wish I could have trusted myself more, and trusted how I was feeling enough to stand my ground. Its okay to feel the way you do because your feelings are valid. It takes a lot of courage and resolve to do what you did especially at that age.
    Thank you for sharing your story, and the message you're conveying. I can't state enough how important this is. Dog bless ❤️

    • @1milebehind
      @1milebehind ปีที่แล้ว

      Aw frr, im glad we're all learning from different experiences, love this comment so much! Jesus bless you ♥♥

  • @jacksragingdepression
    @jacksragingdepression 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2435

    What I learned from my imaginary boyfriend:
    Nothing, we're still together.

  • @sh6700
    @sh6700 4 ปีที่แล้ว +422

    My first relationship taught me one thing:
    13 was too young to have any kind of real meaningful relationship. It’s a great time to grow and learn, but I was an overly romantic kid at the time and had expectations waaaaaaay too high. Thanks for vent!

    • @tracy9492
      @tracy9492 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Logan Roof wtf? That Wasn’t funny at all. And ew you’re a nazi

    • @ryleighemma
      @ryleighemma 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Logan Roof I don't see what's wrong with venting-

    • @annosayu
      @annosayu 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same-

  • @usuitakumi8179
    @usuitakumi8179 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2782

    What I learned from my first Relationship...
    Oh wait, I never had any.

    • @sea8866
      @sea8866 5 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      Ah, good to know I'm not the only one

    • @mitocondrias.9656
      @mitocondrias.9656 5 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Usui Takumi same and I'm 16

    • @gptravis7355
      @gptravis7355 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Mitocondria S. Hey me too Dang........ Glad to know I'm not the only one at this age 😓

    • @Dropsionarts
      @Dropsionarts 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Me when I see videos about love and relationships. 🤮
      Also me: 😭looks like I will be dying alone and become a cat lady.
      I mean that isn't bad lol 😂 who needs boys
      (cries internally from loniness in a dark corner)

    • @lxve1895
      @lxve1895 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@mitocondrias.9656 same and im 15 lol

  • @brosive282
    @brosive282 3 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    My first relationship taught me true love. Still together

    • @clonetrooper2168
      @clonetrooper2168 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Congrats!! I also want that kind of relationship. Filled with love and not lust.

    • @LoyalCarry
      @LoyalCarry 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That must be nice. Lol. I'm happy for you.

    • @latishaholden7889
      @latishaholden7889 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lucky! :3

    • @macaemeia146
      @macaemeia146 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I'm happy for you, I wish I could achieve that happiness

  • @leemartin2722
    @leemartin2722 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16390

    What I learned from my first boyfriend:
    I’m a lesbian.

    • @ivov0337
      @ivov0337 5 ปีที่แล้ว +134

      too bad

    • @micapowder1221
      @micapowder1221 5 ปีที่แล้ว +345

      Extra Number 52 big mood

    • @micapowder1221
      @micapowder1221 5 ปีที่แล้ว +642

      The only “too bad” I see about this is if the boy was really into her, but she wasn’t. Other than that, good on her for figuring that out, and I’m assuming, doing something about it

    • @leemartin2722
      @leemartin2722 5 ปีที่แล้ว +428

      I'm so happy, lmao he was a jerk and disrespected my boundaries. And it wasn’t like “I am dating boy, boy sucks, GIRLS” then broke his heart. I dated him, we broke up because he disrespected my boundaries so much. Later on I realized I was a lesbian.

    • @micapowder1221
      @micapowder1221 5 ปีที่แล้ว +146

      Extra Number 52 this might sound weird (I suck with wording) but, good on you for not letting him get away with it. I personally know how hard it can be to stand up for yourself, especially when it comes to boundaries, so good on you to cut it off

  • @kweez2141
    @kweez2141 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1187

    what i learned from my first relationship :
    NEVER EVER STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO IGNORES YOU IRL AND THEN TALKS TO YOU
    ON INSTA.

    • @skyc2491
      @skyc2491 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yesss!

    • @michandfriends5171
      @michandfriends5171 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      And vice versa my motto is, if you're confused put his number on snooze.

    • @sarat5582
      @sarat5582 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      bro sameee or if they don’t give u at least 5 minutes to reply and get “sad”

    • @moontoast7228
      @moontoast7228 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Haha same

    • @sleepyaugust2182
      @sleepyaugust2182 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      10/10 advice seriously

  • @spikethelizard2770
    @spikethelizard2770 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11196

    11:00
    "Kissing turned into..."
    *TH-cam stares*
    "More then kissing"
    *TH-cam puts away demonetisation button*

    • @jacobduran8256
      @jacobduran8256 5 ปีที่แล้ว +193

      LMAO

    • @picklebrine
      @picklebrine 5 ปีที่แล้ว +359

      TH-cam: *pulls out demonetisation button on the word *gay**

    • @lucasmartinssaraiva1162
      @lucasmartinssaraiva1162 5 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Subliminal message

    • @skootergirl22
      @skootergirl22 5 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      It's more of a huge stamp press that TH-cam hits you on the forehead

    • @jt2083
      @jt2083 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      🤣

  • @hurjireepz7021
    @hurjireepz7021 3 ปีที่แล้ว +551

    He at 13: *dating*
    Me at 13: *day dreaming about how I will save my whole school from a terrorist attack*

    • @jasminsandhu8709
      @jasminsandhu8709 3 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE

    • @lclyx.0951
      @lclyx.0951 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      DUDE I DO THAT TO

    • @jesusslefttittie8855
      @jesusslefttittie8855 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      OMFG IM NOT THE ONLY ONE TO DO THIS PAISWJKAUS

    • @hurjireepz7021
      @hurjireepz7021 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      @@jesusslefttittie8855 Its weird right? People from different parts of the world doing the same thing. Actually feels nice that I can connect with some people.

    • @nuui2hou
      @nuui2hou 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      AYOOOO WE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER

  • @apolloina19
    @apolloina19 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4286

    As a victim of child molestation, I can understand your experience and I just want to let you know that you’ve inspired others, and I’m so proud of your strength. I waited five years to finally speak up and I’ve regretted it for my entire life. People reading this, you’re strong. Never stop fighting.

    • @wallflower8116
      @wallflower8116 3 ปีที่แล้ว +115

      I'm happy to know that I'm not alone, but I'm sorry that it happened to you.

    • @apolloina19
      @apolloina19 3 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      @@wallflower8116 you are never, ever alone.

    • @stepbro4028
      @stepbro4028 3 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      I'm not a victim of child molestation, but thank you for hanging on and just know it will get better. Thank you for staying

    • @deeplydeepali
      @deeplydeepali 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      please don't feel regret. as children we are taught to trust the adults, it is not your fault to have been afraid to speak up.

    • @iwuvpiesgaming9164
      @iwuvpiesgaming9164 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      @@apolloina19 I was also molsested but it was not by an adult it was my classmate. we were still in kindergarten but he touched me and kissed me and stuff and I don t know if I'm being dramatic because we were both kid's but I did not like it. I should of told the teachers because he would sometimes follow me to the bathroom. still i dont know if im being dramatic

  • @Mia-yx5gf
    @Mia-yx5gf 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2327

    I was in my first relationship in Sophomore year of high school. It actually started off nice and wholesome. But as it progressed, he started getting a bit more intense in the relationship. He started pressuring me into during more things with him that I wasn’t comfortable with. And then there was one day that scarred me for the rest of my life. He pulled me into our secret spot away from my friends and he touched me inappropriately. Thankfully, I had the guts to fight back. I punched him in the stomach pretty hard, fixed my clothes and ran back to my friends. I cried right in front of them and told them what happened. Them, being the protective friends that they are, they wanted his head on a platter. I later on learned that he raped one of my best friends. And that same day I learned he raped one of my best friends, I broke up with him. After I broke up with him, he did try to contact me again, but I blocked him and we haven’t spoken since.
    Edit: I didn’t expect this much support omg thank you all so much 😭❤️ I’m doing so much better now. Currently just working on myself and finally getting a therapist for what happened.

    • @thacky1242
      @thacky1242 4 ปีที่แล้ว +185

      You had completely the right response, and I'm glad you told your friends about it too. You found the people you needed to support you and I approve of their reaction. Have you ever thought about even reporting him to someone more official? That is a pretty serious offense, and its awesome you had the bravery to share it with us

    • @jigglypuff7987
      @jigglypuff7987 3 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      I am sorry to hear that! You deserve better!

    • @Mia-yx5gf
      @Mia-yx5gf 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@thacky1242 I’m pretty sure my statue of limitations ran out. Because this relationship happened at least a few years ago. He hasn’t bothered me since but I’m pretty sure he’ll learn his lesson to not do this ever again.

    • @Mia-yx5gf
      @Mia-yx5gf 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@jigglypuff7987 Thanks. I had a second relationship after this one (but didn’t work out either) and after that relationship, I decided to take a break and focus on myself.

    • @XxEmpty_EscapexX693
      @XxEmpty_EscapexX693 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      An excellent way of handling that (should have called the cops tho)

  • @miikavuorio9190
    @miikavuorio9190 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1256

    "you taste like cookies" XD. That is so ridiculously cute.

  • @maxsoderstam1482
    @maxsoderstam1482 3 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    In my first relationship I was with a person who was very clear with what they did and didn’t like, I was very grateful cause I never felt like I overstepped. So don’t be afraid to say no, you’re probably just helping your partner.

  • @juderamsaywak7381
    @juderamsaywak7381 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5228

    _what I learned from my first ever relationship_
    *_I'm gay_*

    • @chessversarius2253
      @chessversarius2253 5 ปีที่แล้ว +118

      I'm... sorry to hear that...?

    • @huffleclaw1019
      @huffleclaw1019 5 ปีที่แล้ว +172

      🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

    • @rowanlastname9878
      @rowanlastname9878 5 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      Hey same!

    • @jessievenom
      @jessievenom 5 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      Me too!

    • @huskygold5319
      @huskygold5319 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Lol.

  • @Mu3azOsman
    @Mu3azOsman 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1831

    Thanks for being so courageous telling this story, much needed in this day and age

    • @minnarizig4362
      @minnarizig4362 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Muaz Osman ي اسلي

    • @cloudiiginkgo4545
      @cloudiiginkgo4545 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Especially since sexualization is all over the internet, it'll make people want to do stuff like this even more; that's kinda terrifying...

  • @irrelevantperson785
    @irrelevantperson785 5 ปีที่แล้ว +404

    It shows a extremely strong character when you were able to say no before anything... really bad happened. You definitely made the right choice and it's awesome that you're proud of yourself.

  • @grey_apache
    @grey_apache 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    This is a great reminder to everyone to voice your feelings. Nobody will know what your comfortable with unless your tell them. And anyone who judges you for having boundaries doesn’t deserve you. Have a great day!

  • @wompwomp5664
    @wompwomp5664 5 ปีที่แล้ว +863

    “And I didn’t want to bring it up with my dad because...well...he’s my dad.”
    **boogie woogie woogie**

  • @rami5801
    @rami5801 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2544

    -"So uh... do you wanna like... go out?"
    "Uh... are you asking me to be your girlfriend?"
    "-Uh... yeah..?"
    "Uhm... yeah. Okay."
    Teens, we are all inherently awkward.
    Me: So true.

    • @godlovesme317
      @godlovesme317 5 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      *you taste like cookies*

    • @rami5801
      @rami5801 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@godlovesme317 Cookiesm

    • @tgaw9659
      @tgaw9659 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Some will be more awkward than other IE me

    • @-angelflor-9717
      @-angelflor-9717 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mop:oi
      M e: haha
      J a:C P

  • @jigglypuff7987
    @jigglypuff7987 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1215

    I had my first boyfriend when I was 12. It's really early, I know, but in the beginning, I thought of it as just a cute relationship with a kiss here and there. He was my crush for a while and we eventually came together. It went on for about a year. At first, he was really nice. He kissed me once, we played video games. But then, he wanted more. He pressured me into sending him pictures of me in my underwear. I was too young to understand that I should have never done it and it was not okay. I was shaking taking the photo, but I thought that he would leave me alone after I sent it. I was wrong. He kept asking for more and more pics and doing more and more things. I always thought that he would leave me if I didn't do it. At the end, he cheated on me and I broke up with him. It still haunts me how he manipulatet me into thinking I owed him something. He said that he did so much for me and I could pay him back this way. I'm in a happy relationship now with someone that never pressures me and pays attention. Take care of yourself.

    • @albatros6679
      @albatros6679 3 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      I'm so glad that you're doing great now! Hopefully he realised his mistakes eventually...

    • @jigglypuff7987
      @jigglypuff7987 3 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      @@albatros6679 sadly, I think he never even realised what he did to me. He is very self - centered Person, but I don't really care about him anymore. Maybe it taught me something

    • @humanperson318
      @humanperson318 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      @@albatros6679 Manipulating people for your gain is not a mistake. He is just a terrible person

    • @kiuk_kiks
      @kiuk_kiks 3 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      Damn, cheating at 12? Already?

    • @JayJayva04
      @JayJayva04 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      He's probably doesn't even remember that stuff I bet he's an amazing boy now and regrets his mistakes assuming he stilla remembers them lol

  • @isabellamedina2602
    @isabellamedina2602 3 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    This video spoke to me so much, holy cow. The moment in the car with all the insecurities piling up reminded me so much of how I’ve felt before- worried that I had been leading someone on, that my feeling uncomfortable but not being able to say something was me being weak. I’ve learned so much in the years after, and lucky for me I had a support system that helped me cut off the toxic relationship before anything seriously bad happened. But damn I’ve never seen anyone encapsulate those feelings so well.

  • @Educatedunhousedperson
    @Educatedunhousedperson 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2689

    We need to teach consent IN SCHOOL!

    • @moniquebell8191
      @moniquebell8191 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      YEEEEES

    • @dubnation1360
      @dubnation1360 5 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      Fukurouyoujo I agree but more importantly our parents need to teach us from a young age bc by the time you get to school if you haven’t already been taught you just write it off

    • @pieflower6419
      @pieflower6419 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Mine does

    • @chukyuniqul
      @chukyuniqul 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      We need to teach people to express themselves. To actually, honestly be able to tell when they should set aside how the other person feels and fucking come out with it. Wish I knew that entering high school.
      Because guess what? The people who will acknowledge consent already do, and those that don't will not be swayed by that. And if we get so pussyfooty around explicitly receiving permission to be intimate with others then I loathe to think what joyless world we'd live in. One of my funniest (if extremely uncomfortable) moments was my first kiss. My then girlfriend literally leapt on me and stuck her tongue down my throat on a bet while I was talking to other people. It's a funny memory, even now we're still good friends but then I felt equal parts violated and very, very amused. Because I was feeling errrr...threatened, I guess? By this girl less than half my size who did it so brazenly and nonchalantly. That couldn't happen if we taught consent to correct the behavior expressed in this video. Because he DID accept that she didn't consent, he just assumed she had actually consented until proven otherwise. Because guess what? Some girls don't wanna be called sluts by other girls so they don't readily say yes (the expression we use in my country is "the chicken that runs away and trips") but they do actually consent. Especially at that age.

    • @lobstertown1826
      @lobstertown1826 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Fukurouyoujo We preach consent all the time, doesn’t change the fact some people are manipulative scumbags

  • @smfe
    @smfe 5 ปีที่แล้ว +898

    shoot, at first I was like "aww this is cute"
    and then
    UGH
    this video is really good dude

    • @snail2426
      @snail2426 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Well... The art is cute...

    • @smfe
      @smfe 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@snail2426 i meant like the story bruv

    • @provo-go7717
      @provo-go7717 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      dude? DUDE! WHAT!!! xD

    • @snail2426
      @snail2426 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@smfe I know

  • @robylopezvi
    @robylopezvi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1762

    7:49
    you are my daad.....
    *yOU’RE MY DAD*
    BoOoGiE wOoGiE WoOgiE

    • @toasty973
      @toasty973 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I was actually considering commenting that...

    • @jessicagrace3576
      @jessicagrace3576 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thank you for commenting this *i forgot about this*

    • @LiemNguyenBX
      @LiemNguyenBX 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Rlv_ 29 STOP
      I could’ve dropped my croissant 🥐

    • @sunnygumii
      @sunnygumii 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lily C me too 💀💀💀💀

    • @robylopezvi
      @robylopezvi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Liem Nguyen It’s kind of a terrible time to tell you, but I spilled lipstick in your Valentino white bag......

  • @laufadelia
    @laufadelia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1295

    HER : But that didn't last long...
    TH-cam : *puts an ad about pregnancy tests*

    • @arisislak4684
      @arisislak4684 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @you can call me Angie me too

    • @arisislak4684
      @arisislak4684 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @you can call me Angie maybe piazza ad can be our always lol

    • @linakim1016
      @linakim1016 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      TH-cam places ads based on what you do on youtube. Hmmmmm........

    • @laufadelia
      @laufadelia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@linakim1016 its probably bc i watch so many animated videos about teen pregnancies. lol

    • @yana.t9398
      @yana.t9398 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      It gave me a toothpaste ad 😂😂😂

  • @badas001
    @badas001 4 ปีที่แล้ว +884

    My first “real” relationship was with a guy that was 3 years older than I was. He had a reputation of being a stoner, super bad boy type. I was a very mature, athletic girl. I didn’t really get along with people in my grade and so older people attracted me more. Him and I started dating and I told him my boundaries. No sex, no smoking. That’s all I asked of him. And slowly over time, he started to dissolve the “sex” boundary. He constantly asked for sex, to make-out, to sleep together and I told him no. It got to a point where it got too much for me to handle (I started my season and I started taking a second language. I am a very busy person) and I broke it off. It’s been really hard for me to date and find a guy that would complete me, make me feel safe and not pressured. But by being in highschool still, that is quite difficult. I love your story because I relate very much to your experience

    • @thacky1242
      @thacky1242 4 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      Your boundaries are beyond understandable, and totally valid if you ask me. I'm glad your broke it off with him, and I think you made the right choice

    • @darcyexe3752
      @darcyexe3752 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      i hope your doing much better now :))

    • @afoxcatartvideos4877
      @afoxcatartvideos4877 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Same I don’t get along with people in my grade. They act more fake. No one acts real. It’s all about who have the best personality. I mostly like to talk to seniors or juniors. All my friends are a-bit older than me.

    • @mellowyellow5865
      @mellowyellow5865 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I would never date someone older than me until I’m out of high school. Though unfortunately the guy that I kinda like is two years older than me. I know he has enough self respect that he would never date me. He’s a nice guy, he wouldn’t consider me that way. It makes me sad, but I’m also very glad.

    • @JayJayva04
      @JayJayva04 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How old we're you and the guy

  • @nico-rv2ft
    @nico-rv2ft 5 ปีที่แล้ว +358

    “guys started noticing me”
    could never be me

    • @slyfoxfan0799
      @slyfoxfan0799 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Are u convinced this is a fact. Because honestly. Bettering yourself is a good way to gain whatever is needed to be attractive

    • @mika2036
      @mika2036 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@slyfoxfan0799 that username matches you perfectly 😂

    • @slyfoxfan0799
      @slyfoxfan0799 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mika2036 first time somone some's said this :o

    • @KebbyBebby
      @KebbyBebby 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I f e e l that

    • @legrandliseurtri7495
      @legrandliseurtri7495 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@slyfoxfan0799 From the video it looks like she was anything but in a good state. No real friend, extremely shy...

  • @gina5333
    @gina5333 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    It actually reminds me a lot of what happened to me. When I was 14/15 years old, I had my first crush on a guy at my school, things were very fast from the beginning. We didn't know each other for not even a month and we started dating. At first everything was cute, but over time he started to press me, he wanted longer kisses, and even if it's normal. I really didn't like the idea, I was fine with holding hands, little kisses and hugs, I was very shy and afraid he would keep asking about it, so I started saying that I was too shy for that, and I asked him to slowdown. At this point I felt extremely lonely and scared, my friends were mad at me, I don't remember why, but it had to do with my relationship and I couldn't talk with my parents because I didn't know if they would accept it. Even after I asked to slowdown, my ex continued to press me, so being next to him started to make me uncomfortable. Some time later he broke up with me and I was relieved because even if I liked him I was afraid that I would do something that I might regret later

  • @pablocaceres7378
    @pablocaceres7378 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1477

    "U TASTE LIKE COOKIES" lmao thats so cute

    • @Ir1sss_
      @Ir1sss_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Lmao

    • @JynxfhebCaunga
      @JynxfhebCaunga 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Lmfao lol

    • @qngle.vii_
      @qngle.vii_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ikr😂

    • @autumnnal
      @autumnnal 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      flerting

    • @knifecases
      @knifecases 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@autumnnal this is def flerting

  • @NarnianLady
    @NarnianLady 5 ปีที่แล้ว +321

    Thanks for being so upfront and honest about this stuff. Many people would just consider all of this as 'normal' teenagers experimenting and learning... and that is how the media often presents teenager dating.

    • @hatzncatz5279
      @hatzncatz5279 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This IS how teenagers experiment! That she didn’t like it doesn’t mean some of us don’t!

    • @NarnianLady
      @NarnianLady 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@hatzncatz5279 Maybe, but that doesn't mean people never regret it afterwards. I have heard many women tell how they agreed to stuff just because it was expected in a relationship.. it was the price to pay if they wanted a boyfriend.

    • @hatzncatz5279
      @hatzncatz5279 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      NarnianLady no one should ever feel forced to do something because it was a “prize to pay”. I feel bad for them honestly, but people also are allowed to enjoy sex and not be confined to hold hands forever. Honestly, if your boyfriend/girlfriend isn’t comfortable and you are, wait for them to be ready or get another partner

    • @benita8856
      @benita8856 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Preach🙌🏾

  • @emoxat1998
    @emoxat1998 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5365

    her at 13: gets a bf
    me at 15: closing the fridge slowly to see if the lights turn off

    • @callmelufuz38
      @callmelufuz38 4 ปีที่แล้ว +182

      Feel no shame bud

    • @thebossmongars9651
      @thebossmongars9651 3 ปีที่แล้ว +123

      You know what's true life

    • @walnut5203
      @walnut5203 3 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      Ayo y’all still doing that at 17? 😳

    • @sitharpy
      @sitharpy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +117

      Me at 19:

    • @eirinii6652
      @eirinii6652 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      😂😂😂😂

  • @camskayzz5169
    @camskayzz5169 3 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    "I wasn't so cool with it.."
    The ad: DEODORANT!!

    • @lilly-xi5qm
      @lilly-xi5qm 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      for me it was this weird shrek diaper ad 🤨

  • @pandorasxink
    @pandorasxink 5 ปีที่แล้ว +469

    I had a boyfriend who was like that- he was constantly handsy and always tried putting his hands between my legs. It got to a point where I cringed whenever he touched me, and eventually he broke up with me because I wasn't giving him what he wanted. He pressured me about when we were gonna do "it" for ages and I kept saying "when I'm 18" or "when I graduate". I'm so glad we aren't together anymore and I have a spouse that respects my space! :)
    Wait until you KNOW you are ready and don't be afraid to set boundaries- the best partner will understand and respect those boundaries (even if it means waiting).

    • @shmoomies9474
      @shmoomies9474 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      So glad your better now 😊😊

    • @rjstudios21
      @rjstudios21 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      My ex boyfriend thought it was dumb of how I wanted to wait to do stuff like that until I was married. We're only 16...
      I just can't wait to find the right guy..

    • @pandorasxink
      @pandorasxink 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Don't let him make you feel bad about it- it's completely okay to wait. If you aren't comfortable, you aren't comfortable.
      You have every right to self-autonomy.

    • @rjstudios21
      @rjstudios21 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@pandorasxink I kept telling him I didn't want that, but he always got kinda sad about it. I never gave in though, because even then, I knew we wouldn't stay together for much longer

    • @Purriah
      @Purriah 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      it isnt even about "the best" partner. any decent person will respect your boundaries and not be pushy. there is something wrong with someone who tries to pressure another person into doing things they aren't comfortable with.

  • @__.cat.__
    @__.cat.__ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +519

    I only date a fictional character. The safest and healthiest relationship.

    • @kanima98
      @kanima98 5 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      I'm not sure that this is considered healthy

    • @bookergirl9752
      @bookergirl9752 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      cookeycat Same 😂🤣.

    • @__.cat.__
      @__.cat.__ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@kanima98 Still better than being used for money and sex (whitch I don't ejoy anyway).
      "you didn't find the rigth guy" "try with a girl" - no thanks.

    • @MissAfricanAmerican99
      @MissAfricanAmerican99 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      MOOD 😂

    • @finncakes
      @finncakes 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      cookeycat mood

  • @Peach._.flavored
    @Peach._.flavored 4 ปีที่แล้ว +861

    I just want to chill out with someone and just having of loving relationship not... *Lustful..* Just chill out and be just. LOVE. Have someone really care about me,and me care about them equally. THAT'S ALL I WANT!

    • @shineeee6127
      @shineeee6127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      finally, someone who gets it

    • @spleens6885
      @spleens6885 3 ปีที่แล้ว +93

      ✨asexual✨

    • @artemisiou
      @artemisiou 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      Honestly same.. I have been thinking something is wrong with me for the longest time.. I'm 21 now and still avoid dating.

    • @kirraame1193
      @kirraame1193 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I want the same and have dated but they're all toxic/abusive. So glad I'm single now. Love might come when I'm already strong on my own and if someone came to be toxic again I won't think twice to leave

    • @amelia_grz
      @amelia_grz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      i just want hugs , and someone caring when i feel anxious/ get panic attacks /anxiety attacks since i got them so often my parents stopped caring.

  • @goroakechi6126
    @goroakechi6126 3 ปีที่แล้ว +121

    “Just because I moved schools willingly doesn’t make it any less terrifying-“
    Me, who went through six schools before even hitting high school; *“I forgot about that part-“*

    • @prachijha3298
      @prachijha3298 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lmaoo samee

    • @trinirojo2635
      @trinirojo2635 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      collecting new schools like pokemon too I see

    • @mjoapinix8559
      @mjoapinix8559 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@trinirojo2635 I have collected a whole deck of schools in my time

    • @blrryanii_
      @blrryanii_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bruh same

  • @abbyc8990
    @abbyc8990 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4390

    Her: “he wanted to make out in public”
    *me thinking she’s 14/15
    Her: *Mentions she was 13
    Me: “WHAT THE FU-“

    • @BlueBird-su4mj
      @BlueBird-su4mj 4 ปีที่แล้ว +379

      Exactly. Even at 14 it's kinda weird.

    • @cjadventures8840
      @cjadventures8840 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      @Logan Roof you good?

    • @nomenocare1306
      @nomenocare1306 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      @Logan Roof you good man

    • @liyah2k
      @liyah2k 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      @Logan Roof u good??? Btw the person that wrote the comment wasn’t talking about herself. She’s talking about the girl in the video. Plus why u want to laugh at ppl when their in an uncomfortable situation

    • @AN-sx1bw
      @AN-sx1bw 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @Logan Roof wha-

  • @opossumleftovers1774
    @opossumleftovers1774 5 ปีที่แล้ว +761

    Boys (and girls) yes means yes,
    ANYTHING ELSE MEANS NO!

    • @Hmanas14
      @Hmanas14 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lmao

    • @restlessricky
      @restlessricky 5 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      An *explicit affirmative* means you're good. Anything else and you need to at the *very least* pause to talk it over. It's not difficult and if you're incapable of that than you shouldn't be in a relationship.

    • @cadietuc
      @cadietuc 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@FranchestCreator maybe means
      ' I'll think about it 'so yea it technically means no

    • @lillianrule9660
      @lillianrule9660 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      The lack of a yes means no

    • @YourCrazyOverlord
      @YourCrazyOverlord 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sometimes even a yes isn't enough. You can say yes out of desperation rather than comfort...

  • @tricksnotreatsplz1282
    @tricksnotreatsplz1282 5 ปีที่แล้ว +762

    And I was too awkward to tell *my dad* because *he's my dad... BOOGIE WOOGIE WOOGIE*

    • @danidevito2397
      @danidevito2397 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you

    • @emojiyav7293
      @emojiyav7293 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Vines... One of the worlds creative arts 😊

    • @kayleeeastman8845
      @kayleeeastman8845 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That is the description of me lol
      Avoid dad at all cost, but also.. *memes*

    • @phrog299
      @phrog299 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      dude I literally said the same thing when she said that

    • @kristiyanongnanay5238
      @kristiyanongnanay5238 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That vine tho
      You are my dad~
      YoURe MaH dAD!

  • @TonyJonson77
    @TonyJonson77 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This made me realized I was SA in my last relationship and that all those things weren't normal but thank you for opening my eyes and I finally told my friends about it after 4 years

  • @mangor8543
    @mangor8543 5 ปีที่แล้ว +722

    I never had a girlfriend but even I know that no means no

  • @notquiteneutral2590
    @notquiteneutral2590 5 ปีที่แล้ว +166

    Small things I noticed in this video-
    1. Bill Cipher doodle on journal page
    2. “This is my jam” vine reference
    3. “You are my dad boogie woogie woogie” vine reference
    Also, I can’t express how important this video is! Thank you so much for making it! Such an important topic and I love your animation style too...

  • @callum5926
    @callum5926 5 ปีที่แล้ว +433

    Wait kids are that up for it at 13
    Jesus
    The only thing I remember doing at 13 was getting excited to go home and sleep

    • @neuroatypicalkirby2
      @neuroatypicalkirby2 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      i really don't understand why people doubt 13 year olds are like this. it might just be me but i started noticing people getting horny and having "serious relationships" in my first year of middle school, which was when i was 11. i never participated in it because i was asocial (lol) but everyone was loudly talking about sex all the time. it's probably just because in my country schools usually consist of around 300 students which is pretty small so there are no secrets. almost everyone has the entire internet at their fingertips nowadays, it'd be naive to think that 13 year olds aren't sex-obsessed with all the exposure they have to it.

    • @mahyargharehdaghi9383
      @mahyargharehdaghi9383 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Goodbye what happened with thia world when I looked away for a second

    • @kabbue739
      @kabbue739 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Fr I don’t remember I was like this when I was 13. The only thing I did with boys was playing Minecraft.

    • @LukeIdontKnow
      @LukeIdontKnow 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Goodbye I did that in kinder garden

    • @LukeIdontKnow
      @LukeIdontKnow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      bo bee every one at my school got in relationships on the first day they where just 11

  • @yayragay4486
    @yayragay4486 5 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    What I learned from my first relationship is
    *NEVER AGAIN*

    • @tokunbomuraina9583
      @tokunbomuraina9583 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yayra Gay lol me too

    • @thesun4608
      @thesun4608 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      SAMEEE

    • @Mia-yx5gf
      @Mia-yx5gf 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same..I won’t be dating for a long while..

    • @sadisticgirl_
      @sadisticgirl_ 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      aha I want to know the story behind this XD

    • @pelicaneel6138
      @pelicaneel6138 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too!

  • @luasimon
    @luasimon 5 ปีที่แล้ว +384

    I'm confused about why parents don't advise their children about this kind of situation, I mean, I have heard a los of stories enough to know this is something common.
    "First romantic relationship." That would be something in the family conversations

    • @alanna5609
      @alanna5609 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Parents are just uncomfortable about talking about this stuff. Some parents expect their teenager to practice celibacy. Some just don't really care then act surprise when something happens. There varies reason why parent dodge talking to their kids about relationships. I'm glad school and colleges are starting to have these conversation.

    • @AnEmu404
      @AnEmu404 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Musa Simone Soberanes Our {British} school showed us the ‘tea’ consent video. Ever since, people can’t say “I really want some tea” now without people making jokes.

    • @lusciouslocks8790
      @lusciouslocks8790 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Some honestly might not know relationships are happening and just not bring it up until one is explicitly mentioned.

    • @angelachatarine5676
      @angelachatarine5676 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My parents don't tell me anything about relationship. But at least I'm doing great with my boyfriend bcs of the Internet lol

    • @luasimon
      @luasimon 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AnEmu404 wow, I just went to watch that video by the first time and it's really cool. Nice way to make us try to understand what's this about, I'm glad they teach you that.

  • @rinenn21
    @rinenn21 5 ปีที่แล้ว +859

    Jesús christ I feel like a monster. My girlfriend said I was a little too pushy once and I didn’t really paid attention to it, thanks for your video.
    PD: I hope you read this, and you probably avoided future problems with my relationship.
    K love u bye

    • @Solipsmmm
      @Solipsmmm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Are u guys associated with another

    • @bellamckinnon8655
      @bellamckinnon8655 5 ปีที่แล้ว +208

      dude this self-awareness is commendable. bless your soul. so glad to read this.

    • @diegol.5619
      @diegol.5619 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Yeah, I remember getting carried away on my first relationship. The USAF saved me from making a massive mistake as I moved to a different country, but that entire thing was the biggest mistake of my life.
      AM: If you read this, I'm sorry for everything

    • @C-SD
      @C-SD 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Relationships are a learning experience for everyone at that age, so its good you acknowledge this and learned something.

    • @ImaNerdANDaGeek
      @ImaNerdANDaGeek 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You live you learn

  • @theelaetitiamugala
    @theelaetitiamugala 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I'm a teenager. And I relate so much with this. It's like if you're not doing what everyone else is doing then that makes you immature and that's so not ok. Having boundaries and knowing what makes you uncomfortable and being able to voice that is the most mature thing ever.
    The voicing part does take some time because at first it really is all confusing knowing where you stand but it beats having regret later for letting someone treat you in a way you're not comfortable with.
    Thank you so much for sharing your experience ❤

  • @SomeSayApple
    @SomeSayApple 4 ปีที่แล้ว +739

    Thanks for sharing your story. I'm so glad teens today have resources like this to learn when their social network isn't there for them.
    So may of us would have needed this back then.

    • @XxEmpty_EscapexX693
      @XxEmpty_EscapexX693 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Over-protective parents: the internet is dangerous and bad
      The internet:
      (Yes there are some f*ed up ppl out there but that doesnt mean everyone is)

    • @gos_707
      @gos_707 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly, and am still learning form it, but I need to learn more so that I wouldn’t do what boys do to their girlfriends.

  • @deviltown7060
    @deviltown7060 5 ปีที่แล้ว +458

    What I learnt from my first girlfriend: Don't pretend to be 19 to be with a college girl at age 10.

    • @picklequeen9795
      @picklequeen9795 4 ปีที่แล้ว +92

      ....That needs a bit more explaining

    • @deviltown7060
      @deviltown7060 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@picklequeen9795 how so?

    • @marseatheadrest
      @marseatheadrest 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      BRO?????

    • @picklequeen9795
      @picklequeen9795 4 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      @@deviltown7060 I might be wrong, but a 10 year old trying to get with a college girl is a bit unusual.

    • @deviltown7060
      @deviltown7060 4 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      @@picklequeen9795 ok so I played this online game (Which I don't remeber) and one day I was hanging out with a friend and saw this girl and chatted with her and then she told me about her shitty boyfriend and then we started dating secretly and I found out she was 19, but I didn't tell her my actual age so I lied saying I was 19 and then we broke off contact for unrelated reasons.

  • @poop9428
    @poop9428 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1402

    Her at 13: gets a boyfriend
    Me at 13: sweating on minecraft and doing nothing productive in life

    • @venticat526
      @venticat526 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      cookqieuwu same or was same haha

    • @maesnow3554
      @maesnow3554 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      how it should be

    • @legrandliseurtri7495
      @legrandliseurtri7495 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      I wouldn't call getting a boyfriend "productive".

    • @venticat526
      @venticat526 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Another random Tristan “in life”

    • @vin-bd4cx
      @vin-bd4cx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      why are you sweating -

  • @nexkaen7430
    @nexkaen7430 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Growing up I delt with alot of issues like this, even from grown men. This is exactly why I'll be teaching my soon to be son that no means no. For both his safety. And for the people he will encounter in life. No one should feel pressured.

  • @Mei-uk2qq
    @Mei-uk2qq 5 ปีที่แล้ว +325

    THE DISRESPECT AT THE ENDING-
    UR SO BEAUTIFUL I FEEL ATTACKED

  • @Opanos.
    @Opanos. 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1117

    Ive never heard a cuter thing come out of a girls mouth.
    *You taste like cookies!*
    Wrong person to say it to.

    • @Anthony-wo8cp
      @Anthony-wo8cp 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      what did you say repeat it again

    • @deviltown7060
      @deviltown7060 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      I would feel HONOURED if a girl said I tasted like cookies.

    • @mythicalclouds5731
      @mythicalclouds5731 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@deviltown7060 ...

    • @EduzReeveM
      @EduzReeveM 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      lol

    • @baggyyy
      @baggyyy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well that was literally "that's what she said moment" xD

  • @FlutterYuukiArts
    @FlutterYuukiArts 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1135

    Her get a BF at age 13
    Me at age 13: Try to get my Game boy advance back from the teacher. After it was confiscated.

    • @FlutterYuukiArts
      @FlutterYuukiArts 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Back then me and my friend would try to sneak our GBA into school and play with it at recess.

    • @LukeIdontKnow
      @LukeIdontKnow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Flutter Yuuki same

    • @andidiaz9875
      @andidiaz9875 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      YOU TOO?! OMG!!! I thought I was the only one!!! I miss my gameboy...😅

    • @dandytastic7465
      @dandytastic7465 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I remember people bringing those cabels to try and steal your pokemon while others were in class

    • @venus2991
      @venus2991 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oml yes

  • @abbilynn638
    @abbilynn638 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This is such an important topic and it's such a good thing this video exists on a platform where young teens can see it even if you feel you have no one else doesn't mean you have to do what someone else says feeling good with yourself and respecting yourself and boundaries is more important than the other person sticking around bc at the end of the day all you have is yourself the presence of others is never guaranteed to stay

  • @TJToons
    @TJToons 5 ปีที่แล้ว +326

    *Personally, I've been in a few several relationships in the past, but I feel like my very first relationship really taught me the most. This video was funny and real, just the best of both worlds and I loved it so much! Thanks for this Amy~!*

    • @bnha
      @bnha 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      TJ Toons WHY ARE YOU EVERYWHEREEEE???

    • @josiahfredericks2990
      @josiahfredericks2990 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      What second reply on a youtubers comment INSANE

  • @someoneinthememories8561
    @someoneinthememories8561 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1796

    Has purple hair.
    "Dyes it blond"
    Logic : am I a joke to you?

    • @AJ-pj6bb
      @AJ-pj6bb 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Someone In the Memories bone bone

    • @stevenquartzuniverse8061
      @stevenquartzuniverse8061 5 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      Are you colorblind? Its pink hair...

    • @someoneinthememories8561
      @someoneinthememories8561 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@stevenquartzuniverse8061 what if I am colour blind? Maybe I can't see all thr right colours you do. 🏌

    • @makuron5743
      @makuron5743 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Reddish to "peach blonde" :v

    • @dylanhinkel3548
      @dylanhinkel3548 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      “bleach blonde”, i think the pink was just an animation choice, she had pure blonde hair from what she said

  • @alikat9498
    @alikat9498 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The EXACT same thing happened to me at 14.. wish I had your confidence when I was in that situation. It’s hard looking back and not immediately thinking “you were weak. You didn’t say no so it’s ok” more young people need to see this REGARDLESS OF GENDER

  • @kieraseestadt6569
    @kieraseestadt6569 5 ปีที่แล้ว +421

    I get that this is a very serious topic buuuuuttttt...
    OMFG RUBY GLOOM WAS THE SHITTTTTTT

  • @josephschultz3301
    @josephschultz3301 4 ปีที่แล้ว +380

    School Counselor: "Shake hands and be friends. Now get out of my office."
    Yeah, yo. I saw garbage like that in school all the time. They _talk_ about how they take things like bullying seriously, but then their solutions to the problems hold no water whatsoever.

    • @panicontheargo7034
      @panicontheargo7034 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      I find that schools don’t take things seriously until parents or guardians get involved. I feel for you

    • @solseclipse
      @solseclipse 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@panicontheargo7034 Chances are that's bc they don't want legal action taken against them. They don't care about the students, and since they know what they're doing is somewhat illegal, they just don't want to get sued and lose money. ;-;

    • @XenaAndKin
      @XenaAndKin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I was bullied by other students to the point of being yelled at, beaten, getting called racist slurs and being socially excluded by everyone (including friends who picked to be on the popular team).
      I went to the school counsellor
      They gathered THE ENTIRE CLASS, said that I was being bullied and that they should stop
      Guess what, now that I reported it to the teachers, I got bullied even worse than before

    • @maggiemayyy
      @maggiemayyy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      in no way am i trying to compare what happened to me to what happened to yall, but basically two of my friends bullied me, ppl found out, reported it, the counselor claimed she wanted to help us, and to take as long as we needed, that i didn’t have to stay friends with them. Then, abt two meetings in, she no joke told me to forgive them, be friends again, and solve it on our own bc she was tired of us having these meetings in our office

    • @maggiemayyy
      @maggiemayyy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      so big yay

  • @-simplicity7551
    @-simplicity7551 5 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    "This isnt right, I dont care what other ppl are doing at my age, this isnt what I want." That is the most amazingly sensible and mature sentence Ive read, coming from a teen at least. I wish more girls would stand up and say it too, instead they let themselves be violated. Truly sad...I admire your courage.

    • @-simplicity7551
      @-simplicity7551 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bluelemon90 True, but some do instead of saying no. Its not always that simple but when it is its much better to eventually end it and not let it go on. I just hope others feel empowered to speak up after this video. If not I feel for them, but sometimes the best advocate is yourself.

  • @creepycritterrr
    @creepycritterrr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    as an asexual lesbian, i related a lot with this because i used to date a lot and my first serious relationship was fine at first but.. eventually he was doing things i didn’t like and mind you, this was between 12-13 years old for me. i wanted to feel butterflies. i didn’t want to be felt up. he realized that i wasn’t comfortable with it and instead of just breaking up and finding someone who also wanted that, he cheated on me with many many girls, and probably boys too but i’d never been told of it. (he was bi). i just wanted to know what mutual love felt like in a relationship. what i got instead was trust issues, fear of relationships, realization that i’m not religious, and a sexuality awakening. it hurt a lot to go through this type of situation, and i’m glad they were able to stand up for themselves, and i’m glad that i can look back on my own experience and see that i was strong in how i handled it. i could’ve done more to help myself but i didn’t do things like hang out in private except for one time and i’m glad i came out unscarred. this video is very helpful and i thank them for making it. you’ll help so many people by telling your story, so talk about it. stay strong and safe.

  • @crystalpyu
    @crystalpyu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +500

    Her at 13: has a boyfriend
    Me at 13: reading Wattpad Boy Band fanfics

  • @mr_0n10n5
    @mr_0n10n5 4 ปีที่แล้ว +516

    After I entered my first relationship, my girlfriend and I went on a couple of dates and we hung out a lot. We however, wanted to take things further so we decided to step things up a little...
    Our next date was in a bouncy castle. It was awesome. I later moved to a different state for work and distance broke our relationship. We are still friends, and I miss her😭

    • @andile3982
      @andile3982 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Congratulations, you've just made my day

    • @callmelufuz38
      @callmelufuz38 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      That’s a perfect date right there!

    • @whatamidoingwithmylife3229
      @whatamidoingwithmylife3229 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Damn a bouncy castle I wanna do that when I’m old enough

    • @katsmiles6734
      @katsmiles6734 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I hope you see her soon (つ≧▽≦)つ

    • @doodle7195
      @doodle7195 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thats harsh ... i feel you :(