There are two reason why(at far as my understanding goes) 1)Kids don't know the difference between what's right and what's wrong. That's why they're kids, they're learning. 2)Kids might mimic this behavior from their parents. Mean parents raise mean kids. Overall I think the problem is that too many people just want to have kids for the sake of having kids. not actually bothering with raising them. Which leads to our society being flooded with A**holes.
@@118andrey as being a nerd with no friends I agree with u🌚 Also there isn't a...maybe atleast 90% perfect because maybe the parents of the family don't care about there children or are afraid that they just get sick or EVEN go out of the house and when they grow up their parents say: "How do you not know how to communicate?" and then because of the child's personality he can't even say a word to them and doesn't make friends or anything. BUT that doesn't mean that they aren't successful in their lives like they get jobs and do stuff but always have a hole in their heart🌚💔 (also if there are any mistakes just point it out I'm not english and at the same time a 12 year old🌚)
damn also i wish i understood all of your feelings. i find it so easy to make friends but it seems like to everyone else it's really hard. i would totally be friends with you if i was in your class ❤
@@JAMIEvstheVOID I'm glad it seems she got it back for you before that evil little girl stole it. I remember getting my Egyptian yugioh card (slypher the sky dragon) stolen in front of my eyes by a kid who I considered a friend in grade 5. In the middle of class.
Atlantica Gacha when I was in ninth grade a girl I had known for a decade began to constantly point out my lack of curves, faults in my outfits, bad thing about my hair, ect. I don't know if she was insecure or just mean, but it's been a shitty three years trying to deal with her
I could never understand how kids could be so mean. Growing up if any kid saw anyone cry even if they didn't like them they would ask them whats wrong and comfort them until they felt better. 💖 Its possible to create this sort of environment and its upto the parents and adults to teach their kids kindness.
@X x Roblox Girl x X teacher's are the worst and I have something similar but when I was 10 years old my primary school teacher called me a bad person and a bad girl over a misunderstanding about me not playing with a girl during lunch time 💀
Yeah i had fun getting jumped every other month 5th to 8th grade.. and being treated like i started it by the school, like yeah i started it by being beaten in the back of my head every other month.
Honestly as a kid who would cry a lot I felt really uncomfortable when people I started to come up to me and keep asking me. Mostly because often I cry when overly stressed and people crowding around me made me more stressed I just felt like I was making a scene. Also it didn't help that when ever I got angry or sad my parents would shout at me. I now rarely ever publicly cry even if I am feeling awful
That's what I keep wondering as well. This sort of thing seems to go on everywhere around the world, with kids, teenagers etc. Is it really something in human/kids' nature that creates such toxic & mean environments that leave others traumatised...? Is it natural? Can a psychologist explain this?
Im a child and I (and my closest friends) get bullied by the other kids in my class. We are in 9th grade.... How can people be so stupid and bully people.
I love this video, people don’t talk about toxic friendships enough. I, like a lot of people in the comments, recently cut out a manipulative friend from my life. She was my best friend for 9 years and I think it should be said that it may be really hard to cut someone out who has been a part of your life for that long, but sometimes its whats best. I don’t regret it and I just wanted other people reading this to know that a long friendship isn’t necessarily a good one.
Having a best friend stab you in the back is one of the most painful feelings to experience mentally. It makes you wonder endlessly when they stopped liking you, did they ever like you... it makes you question your entire life (especially if they’ve been in it for a long time).
Hey, I know how it feels. But when you gave it all and people backstab you, it's not your fault. You may have been naif, but you had the virtue to see something special in someone that wasn't so exceptional, so with this experience you will be far better in the future being able to see who really deserves it. Plus, it means you can find beauty in everything, which is a gift. Good luck for the future! ;)
The only thing I truly remember from those “best friends ” that back stab me is that they are the source of my trust issues and social anxiety I always hated them for it and always will
10:00 that hurts. That hurts me. I know that feeling all too well. That feeling of emptiness. The background void is the perfect visual representation of how it feels.
Ah man I remember being lonely when I was younger, but I think it helped me be a better person. As I got older, I would always befriend the outcast or new kid so they wouldn't be lonely. I remember I had a girl reach out to me in highschool who thanked me for being kind to her when others were mean. It's really the small things that count!
I usually felt lonely when I was in elementary school. My friends wouldn’t hang out with me and when they did, I felt like a last resort. I was also really shy to ask if I could play with them. Although, I think it’s weird I didn’t really blame them, I blamed myself for being too nervous to ask to play with them. Now that I’m in middle school I look back and think about my experiences and how they affect me. I used to be pretty confident in myself when I was younger but now I just don’t feel as confident anymore. I also probably doesn’t help that I felt bullied for having a friend that was a boy. Well, thanks for reading this really long comment and I hope something like this hasn’t happened to you.
@@jaelizzagarcia7836 I had something similar happen to me and at that point i kept questioning if they were my friends or not, they kept leaving me behind. When i wanted to say things i would get ignored so i just stayed quiet. I also blamed myself for being shy around new people, this continued for a couple months. Now i'm less shy around them and i'm starting to talk alot more during school breaks and stuff. Talking one to one with someone is still impossible for me. This is where i'm at right now. Idk why but i felt i needed to say this.
10:08 so well written/spoken, and relatable. When you got to the "knot in your throat" bit, I was practically mouthing the phrase in my head, it's *such* an awful feeling. Thank you for your lovely, raw, emotional videos. They're so good for young people (and any age) to hear.
11:27 hit hard for me, I don't really _want_ to explain fully why in a public comment section, but just the concept of things getting better seems nice. Thank you, Amy.
I was extremely unpopular all through school, and it scarred me deeply. But being alone myself made me more keenly aware of when others were alone, and i've helped many people through a bad day. My biggest example was a grown man at a convention, crying alone outside the hotel. So many younger people walking by pointedly ignoring him, but I sat down and made him start talking. We talked for hours. He had recently lost family, and was new to conventions and the fandom. He was desperate for friendship and distraction to help him get by, but being much older meant most found his quirky new-kid attitude .. creepy. It wasnt his fault, and it wasn't their (younger fans) fault. It's just how it unfolded. But after hours of talking and letting him decompress and giving him pointers and some specific people and groups to try to reach out to, he was able to enjoy the rest of the convention. Now years later he still calls me his angel. I saved him with one very simple kindness. He made friends, he goes to events, he's no longer the creepy old guy and now the silly uncle of the community. Because i saw someone that needed a hand, and realised i have two.
Heres how my life with friends has gone so far in my life... Kindergarten: everyones friends with each other no matter your gender, skin tone, personality, everyone is nice to everyone else! hurray! 1st grade: I had 2 friends that would sometimes forget that im there so i wouldn't say i had a *best* friend but i definitely had good friends 2nd grade: i left the friend group and found a new friend but one of my other friends from my 1st grade group came and became best friends with my friend. I think they would talk behind my back because in probably October somewhere we went to a restaurant and i had to go to the bathroom and they shut the lights off when i was almost done. i was reasonably livid. then they told me about Bloody Mary. they said she comes when you look in the mirror in the dark and say her full name 3 times (they told me not to say her name and say BM instead because she could be alerted if we say her name). They told me that one of my friends cousin was taken by her. and my other friends friend was taken by her too. at first i didnt believe them but that night i had a bloody nose. so i thought she was real. they told me she was mad at me for not believing her. i had an extreme fear of the dark and mirrors. the color red, white, and black because that was her colors. and many other things. they would use anything as a sign. including geese flying south and i believed them. By the end of the year i was starting to have my doubts. so yeah... 3rd grade: i was friends with my 2nd grade friends for a little longer but by winter i had enough of them and didnt have friends for a little bit. but then i became friends someone. she was nice at first. then my same friend in my 2nd and 1st grade group came again and became best friends with her. then she became mean. she would laugh at me. find any way to make fun of me. tease me for any little thing i would do. tell me what to do alot. force me to say something or dare me to do something i didnt want to do. she would lie to me. tell me to shut up when i talked at lunch. i put up with months of this and finally around april, i told her that she wasnt my friend anymore. I remember that day so vividly. we were on the slide and she made fun of me for something and then i told her to stop being mean and that im done with her and shes not my friend anymore. i didnt look back when i walked off. i cried realizing i would have to be alone and find new friends. i walked laps around the football feild until recess was over. they never talked to me after that. at the end of 3rd grade i found two new friends that included me. one of the friends was the other friend in 2nd grade. we were good friends. but then they told me they were both leaving the school and going different places. i was very sad at this but thought i would be ok because i had another friend that i would hang out with after school. but i wasnt 4th grade: here comes no friend time. that friend had become super popular so i could never pair up with or talk to her because she had her own friends that would hog her all the time. i wondered why no one was talking to me. i thought it was about me. i needed to fix myself so i would have a friend. i would copy others handwriting. others behavior. conversations. i tried to be included. i was always a leftover. i became insecure and started hating myself. i wasn't happy with who i was. i lost a piece of me in 4th grade. then i realized around February that if no one is going to become my friend i had to become theirs. i decided to see how this one girl that always sat by the boys was like. even though i was terrified and it was awkward, i sat by her at lunch, pair up when we needed, talked and played together at recess. by march we were best friends (not like we had much of a choice). by the end of the year i felt so happy, that i dedicated my 4th grade end of the year booklet to her. i was happy 5th grade: i still had my best friend but we added 2 girls to the group after they sat near us at lunch. I was *best* friends still with my 4th grade friend but we were a bigger group and it was the best. we have some inside jokes too. like one of the friends loved stealing my food and being the nice person i was let her sometimes. so whenever i said no. yeah 5th grade was pretty superior. 6th grade: the 2 other friends i had in 5th grade left. but i still had my best friend. we were great friends. then around march a new girl came. we knew she had to be our friend otherwise the popular group would be bigger and be more powerful. at first they were friends with her. but then kinda left her. so my friend and i became friends with her. yeah we were pretty good friends. now to the worst year of my life... 7th grade: so almost at the beginning of the year that new friend in 6th grade left us for the popular group. we went on a retreat and that was the start of all the bad stuff. the new girl from 6th grade left our group for the popular people. and we became friends with 2 other people...one of them became good friends with my best friend. 7th grade was the most regrettable thing in the world. i was kinda going through my i need to look cool phase i was getting really desperate so you can just imagine what i was doing. but twenty one pilots helped me through it and not care anymore and realize i wasnt alone. I realized what Trench was and that i didnt want to be blurry. ive kinda told my friends how lonely i was but i still havent told the extent of why and how much. the thing is i felt lonely because i was in a group of 3 and you know how that always turns out. like in 1-3rd grade all over again but worse, they were best friends with each other and i didnt feel included. i still dont... I was at such a low point in February 2020 that i just gave up. i said to myself "ill just be alone. i wont have friends. it doesnt matter. they dont care. i dont care. i would purposefully walk away super fast so they couldnt talk to me (not like they tried that much). i would not look at them and mind my own business. not talk to them at lunch. i was convinced they hated me and i didnt need them to be happy. But i still felt empty. it was the lowest point of my life. One night i was listening to Twenty One Pilots and decided to listen to a song i didnt listen to alot..Leave the City. that night i cried my eyes out and realized i couldnt do 7th grade alone and i knew that ignoring them wasnt the way. i quit my desperation for friends and stuck with the ones i had at school. i told my friends about how much i loved Leave the City but left out how much i felt changed. they said cool and moved on. i didnt feel like they cared. but i looked it in their eyes and knew i left out all of the story and if someone said that to me i wouldnt care that much i would think it was cool but just kinda forget about it after. In the next couple of days i felt myself sink again but i was putting up a fight and when i needed it (which was always) i would listen to Leave the City. I was kinda falling back again when quarantine started and weirdly i am grateful for it... it was a really good refresh for me I found my hobbies and life again I found out who i really was without the pressure of my friends and others 8th grade: still struggling :/ thank you if you made it to the end (probably no one). thank you for caring about my stupid pathetic life. Disclaimer about this entire thing: im not saying that a 3 people friend group cant work im just saying it doesnt work for me. im really insecure and antisocial so that doesnt help anything. k bye :)
Well I made it to the end and it was absolutely worth it. I'm sorry for the bad things you have witnessed and the people that hurt you. You are a really brave person sharing this part of your life with strangers in the Internet. I hope you now have a better life with some good and caring friends around you!
Hey buddie, I read it all, and I must say, you had it pretty bad back then, I feel so sorry for you; but if it helps anyhow, I've been through something similar back in my days, and I was also feeling pretty down, until I realized that most of our friends are temporary; most of them won't be with you everytime, won't be there when you need them, but the few who stay, those are the ones who matter. They're pretty rare, and probably will take a long time to appear, but don't lose hope - it may be lonely now, but you'll soon find those friends you need and deserve, I'm sure of it :)
Hey there. I graduated in 2020 and always felt left out, so I'd like to drop some knowledge on you in case it helps. I feel for you and don't want you to end up like me (to a certain extent... There are some things that got better because of what I learned). First of all, I want to address the negative feelings you mentioned, particularly loneliness. Unfortunately, people usually don't recognize signs of people struggling, especially in school. Not even teachers recognize struggling students, especially if they still get good grades. Even when they do see a sign and wonder what's wrong, they usually don't say anything because they convince themselves that is probably nothing. I have found that the only people who actually notice are highly empathetic or empathic people, and they still don't always speak up (I didn't once because I got self-conscious, and I regret it to this day). One of the best things I learned from my time with depression was that you can't wait for someone to ask you what's wrong to get help. In doing so, you are silently telling others to tell you your worth, and when (not if, when) they don't say anything for one of the reasons I mentioned, you convince yourself that they're saying you're not worth it. I lived that, and I dank dangerously low because of it. I didn't get the help and empathy I so desperately needed until I asked for it myself, and that's what happens to most people. I know that's the hardest thing to do when you're struggling, but when you need help somehow (therapy, company, a hug, whatever), you have to get it yourself because no one will know what you need until you ask for it. So, when you're feeling that low and lonely, go to whatever friend you have and tell them exactly that. Don't beat around the bush, either. Literally tell them, "I'm not doing well and I need company." How they act following your statement will show what kind of a friend they are. Plus, if you're lonely, the last thing you should do is isolate yourself because it makes you feel worse. When you isolate yourself, people assume that you actually want to be alone, not that you feel like no one wants to talk to you so you might as well be alone. I have been on both ends of this. By isolating myself, I pretty much told everyone to go away without actually saying it. On the other end, I had a friend who talked about being lonely all the time, so I made an extra effort to give him company, but he kept moving away from me and isolating himself. I finally stopped doing that. Then, some other people invited him to their take, then he told them about how no one wanted to sit with him. It was very frustrating and hurtful since I had moved seats at least three times to accompany him. Next, one thing that continues to be my downfall today and seems to be present in your experience is constantly doubting friends and acting based on that. I was the weird kid in school, so what few friends I had, I constantly doubted if they actually liked me. Every time they played with someone else, every time they had an inside joke that I didn't understand, every time they had a problem they told another friend but not me...I thought I wasn't enough of a friend in their eyes. I was so convinced that I was just the comic relief of the group that I became just that: the person that they only talked to when they needed a laugh or had a funny story. No one told me of their struggles. No one asked me about my day. No one made sure I was still in the group when walking through the crowd or in the hallway. To a certain extent, I didn't do the things I wanted them to do, either. I didn't ask about their day. Being generally suspicious of them all, I never initiated conversation. I get really sad about none of them texting me after high school, but I don't text any of them except two, all because they haven't contacted me first. That said, to a certain extent, they still weren't great friends. I always asked them what was wrong when they seemed down. I checked in with them later on. I always made sure the group was still together. I always asked who was going to a school event so we wouldn't miss each other there or so we'd have someone to go with (though that was mostly so I personally wouldn't be there alone). I even handmade a Valentine's Day gift for one of them a few times during high school because I knew that they were super lonely romantically and I wanted them to feel loved. The point is, though, if I had put more effort into my friendships, maybe things would be different now. Maybe if I asked about their day, they would have done the same (and my depression in junior year wouldn't have been so bad). Maybe if I actually texted them first EVER, they would have done the same. Maybe if I had opened up to them at all (I've always been very private with my feelings), they would have done the same with me. Maybe if I had sucked it up and actually told them I felt mistreated, they would have made a better effort. They really were nice people and did actually like me, but I was so self-conscious about my worth to them that I pushed them away to the distance at which I thought they already were. Today, that prevails because I now feel like it's too late to say anything about it to them and that I should just let them go. Honestly, though, a lot of it was my fault, and a lot of it was just that they were young and didn't have a lot of experience. They likely didn't even realize what they were doing, and your friends may be the same. Every time they're talking and leave you behind or out of the convo, they may just be so carried away that they don't know what they're doing. Like I said before, don't give them blind faith. If you do everything I should have done - putting into the friendship what you want out of it and saying something when you feel mistreated - and they still leave you behind, then they're not worth it. By doing that, they show that they're already giving what they're willing to give, and if you are not okay with that, then just move on. However, you still have to say something. Don't let your doubts just flood your head. Do something, say something, then see what happens. Again, I feel for you. I've had my own struggles with friendship that caused me a lot of problems. I don't want you to be like me, though. I'm out of high school and push everyone away for fear of not getting the attention I need right off the bat, which sucks because I'm an extrovert. You're still pretty young, though. If you accept your worth now and act with that in mind, you'll save yourself a lot of heartache. Sort of unrelated sidenote: I beg of you, do not load yourself up on a bunch of hard classes at once in high school. I don't care if you think you need the challenge. Two hard classes in one year is enough. I took AP Gov, Trig/Precalculus, and English IV Honors in the same year and it was a big reason why my depression got so bad. Don't do it. Give yourself a break and space out the hard classes. Your mental health will thank you. Sorry for any typos. My phone is dumb and I don't have the time to proofread.
What an awesome video, made me realize how awful my friends really are. I wholeheartedly agree on money can't buy friends. And I realized, darn, I've invested so much money into my friends who can't even invest their time in me. Expensive gifts, giving a larger portion of money for our gatherings, lending them money to pay for their tuition, etc. and they couldn't even spend time with me on my birthday. It's as if I don't belong in the group and it really is that feeling of being left out.
*You did it Amy!! Now go get some well-deserved rest! :) Btw this animation reflects a great amount of effort, blood, and sweat u put into this video. Thanks for such high quality content ^^*
Any of you feeling left out, bullied or abandoned in school remember that it’s better to be yourself and if you can’t make any friends just wait. A classmate or someone who is similar to you will always appear later on in your life. The bullied always turns out better than the bully. I had the exact same experience where I was supposed to sleep in a tent with the boys but then got kicked out at the last day as a prank and ended up sleeping by myself in the equipment tent. That one night although scarred me for life made me stronger, the crying that night really made me a better person as I finally decided to be myself and no body could define who I am. Those who are younger remember that the bullying will eventually stop. I don’t even know what I am writing.
Not to sound annoying but the only people I attract seem to be fake and toxic people who only stay around me to get something from me, to the point where they turned me from an extrovert to an introvert.
It kinda helps to see all the comments of other people having struggled with the same thing. Here's to everyone who has had to eat lunch alone in the school bathroom, and to anyone who is currently dealing with it, just hang on. School is shorter than you think it is and it gets much much better! I know it's hard, but take your lunch and go eat alone where ever you want! Eat alone with confidence because these people who you think judge you, actually don't care and even if they do you'll one day wish that you didn't care as much
Flower Cove It will be over before you know it 😊 I hated school but I do miss being home early, having time to draw a lot and playing lots of games. School might suck for some people but use all this free time while you can
I remember watching this video when I was still in high school and it really helped me establish how unhealthy some of my so-called "friendships" were and how it wasn't my fault. My two best friends went to a separate middle school to me and were very popular and well liked by their classmates. Meanwhile, I was relentlessly bullied throughout elementary and middle school and it became clear that to associate with me was social suicide. So when my two best friends and I were finally in the same high school and I thought things would change for the better, they only lasted eight months before they buckled under the pressure of not being as popular as they once were before ditching me. Three years of friendship just gone like that. Just so they could carry on being popular. This video made me realize that they were only friends with me when it was 'easy' and they could deny any association with me within the confides of school. When the time finally came for them to be true friends and demonstrate some loyalty, they threw me to the wolves. But not before saying it was all my fault and that if I'd done things differently (aka change who I am entirely), we would've still been friends. The really fucked up message I learned? At least my bullies were honest with me and didn't claim to be my friend just when it was convenient for them. There's just something far more toxic when your friends turn on you and use said friendship as ammunition against you. Just makes me think that being alone was preferable to getting a 'taste' of friendship, only for it to be cruelly taken away from me. I can tell this kind of thing really messed you up in this story too and I'm very sorry it ended up going the way that it did.
It's no wonder to me why you tolerated Megan's behaviour. Your mom is an emotionally abusive parent and made you believe you didn't deserve better. I know that feeling.
That is what I thought while watching too. How the main wasn't respecting her personal space when she yelled, how she yelled, the fact that she assumed the most negative option. I'm sorry you go through this too.
@@Drago9545 Correction: yes, but you will also meet some people who will be *J E A L O U S* , and you will have to harden your heart, to face other people like them in the *F U T U R E*. I Made A Sponge Bob Refferenco lol.
"No body of any age shouldn't ever feel like that" - I've been feeling like this ever since I was a kid. Now I'm 17 . Now I don't even need friends. I have imaginary ones 😀
This is the story of so many people's childhoods. Mine included. Childhood insecurity, bullying, teasing... it can all have a huge impact on the rest of our lives. In those formative years there's so much power to shape other people's futures for good or ill in the hands of children who neither understand it or are emotionally equipped to treat it responsibility. Life is strange that way. Wonderful video, Amy. Thanks for sharing your story and your creativity with us.
Absolutely. I hope any kids watching this may get a glimpse of how their actions and treatment of others really can have such a massive effect on an individual.
@@JAMIEvstheVOID I hope so too, and just as important, that kids who have been made to feel that way will know they aren't alone. At that age we all think we're the only outcasts. Love your channel!
I truly can't understand how people, let alone adults who are supposed to be the ones keeping watch explicitly for these sorts of issues, can sit back and just watch when thing like this happen. ...And I honestly struggle to imagine what possesses children to do cruel and irrational things to other kids in the first place.
I'm seeing a lot of "Kids will be kids/kids are mean, etc" in the comments. Can we please for the love of god stop expecting, enabling, and feeding into consistently unusual, cruel, and monstrous behavior from kids? Like... This isn't normal or healthy. Especially not when entire societies normalize it. Like... Stop.
But its true isn't it? At least in my experience. Kids can be horrible, like i still remember getting homophobic insults every other day (or week, it was often OK?) , and being insulted horrifically. And i'm not talking name calling no, i'm talking about HIGHLY offensive stuff. Like the aforementioned homophobic slurs. And people hating on me for being me. So point is, kids can be INCREDIBLY mean. Though they can also be nice too.
@KRYMauL How ignorant of you. Toughening up isn't easy for all people. Some people have thinner skin than others. Words hurt. People get hurt and can't simply brush those mean people away. Those other kids shouldn't be mean in the first place, period. Have a nice day
This unfortunately is normal. I know tons of people that have gone through similar things, me included. But just because it’s “normal,” doesn’t mean it’s right. Hating gays was normal for a long time. Slavery was normal for a long time. Some horrific things have been normal in society before. What’s important is to work at making these kinds of things NOT normal. Purposefully calling people out that do things like this and getting help if you find yourself in a similar situation.
Theatrical Dragon she never said that kids aren’t evil. She is talking about how some stupid asses in the comments are just letting something that an evil kid did slip by. They just think it’s only because of age, and that that’s like a golden ticket to getting out of trouble.
It's scary how similar my case is to yours... In first grade, I had a friend, let's just call her Anne for now (not her real name). She was my best friend and I didn't realize how toxic she was. I didn't have any other friends at the time so I had no one to compare it to. She would always talk about herself and if I tried to change the topic she'd immediately get back to talking about herself. She always chose what to do, and never gave me a chance to decide. She never let me make new friend. Ever. Then 5th grade came, and with it, another girl in my school, let's call her Zoe. After just a few weeks it was clear that she's that type of girl who's a total tomboy, and would do dangerous stuff all the time, like jumping off trees or something. Anne found her very cool and started to spend more time with her than me, which made me feel lonely. I started befriending another girl but Anne didn't want me to be her friend and tried to "ban" me from her. What's worse is that Zoe started mocking me, and Anne joined her to look cool. It took me months to even realize how bad she actually was. I kept telling her I don't want to be her friend but when it really seemed like she'll lose me, she got scared and started to act nice. It became so bad, I even had suicidal toughts, at just age 12. At the end of it all, Zoe told her she's uncool and I didn't talk to her anymore, so she changed schools and I haven't seen her since. And the other girl I started to befriend? She's my best friend to this day, and she's so much kinder to me than Anne ever was.
This is so relatable, and it honestly made me cry. I'm 17 now, and I still struggle with loneliness. I hope the same thing that happened to you happens to me, that I find friends later on. I am so sorry that the friendship struggles happened to you as a kid, and my heart hurts for you. Also your animation was absolutely adorable and you're such a good artist omg
I am 17 too. I have had tough times, but, I who never ever ever imagined of having a best friend, did get one. And it was really unexpected too. I never thought I'd get along this well with her. So stay in there my friend. One day you wouldn't be so lonely anymore.
I really really really loved this video. Megan sounds exactly like my bully and I get exactly how you felt through this video. Also loved the message at the end, great work Amy! ❤
I relate with this video a lot. The whole, "No one asked me why I was alone or crying " part at the end is something I've thought so many times. Things like id go to the moon and back for some of my friends and they won't even listen to me speak. I'm still grateful for the friends I do have who are wonderful tho, and even tho I doubt anyone is reading this if your in a bad situation I just pray that you get out of it. No one deserves to feel alone and left out. No one.
I stopped being friends with a lot of people because they wouldn't listen to me or understand my feelings. At least I have 2 really good friends who are kind and understands me a lot. I'm really sad that we will need to separate when we go to high school this year. :(
I saw this girl in my class sitting alone staring out a window. I was also considered one of the "cool kids" and my friend group included 3 other people. In my history class we had to do a group project. and since it was only for 3 people my 3 "friends" All chose eachother and left me out. so i went to sit with that girl, We'll call her Hailey for now. We talked a bit and actually started hanging out with eachother more often. Whereas my other friend group started pretending like i never existed. Whenever i would go sit with them for lunch they would say "Go away. This is the cool kids only table" and mind you i was known as the best singer in my school so wdym "cool kids table". Okay so i started sitting with her more. fast forward 3 years, She's my best friend now
I had a manipulator like Megan. Her name was Jolin. I’ve recently cut her out of my life, and it was the greatest decision of my life.She used me, and even physically abused me. It was awful. I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. It feels so depressing, it feels like it’s your fault. It’s terrible.
Im so sorry for you. I did the exact same thing some months ago. I was in a friendship with a manipulator for nearly 5 years and cut her out of my life in october 2018, finally. If you want to talk to someone you can contact me :)
Oh, lordy. My name is one letter away from your manipulator... and some people spell my name like that if they don't know how to spell it. But, I don't think it was me, but I still feel horrible. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Anastasia I’m so proud of you! And thank you for the offer, but I have quite nearly come to terms with what happened. It’s awful what people do to others sometimes, isn’t it? The best we can do is to try to put ourselves first, at least in our own minds. Take care of us, you know?
FangTang Art You shouldn’t feel bad for having the same name as a mean person, but I understand that sort of second-hand guilt. I only hope that my story can help other recognize this toxic people and help themselves. :)
Ihasmagma Animations I’m so proud of you! Although it can be hard to cut people out, doesn’t it just make the air you breathe feel lighter? I still see Jolin sometimes around my small town, and although I strongly try to abstain from violence, I have to try to stop myself from throwing hands. Those people entwine themselves into your life and it can often feel like you are closer than you are. I’m glad to hear that you got rid of her, though! :)
I would pretend that they were there and she was from the future and we would go on “hoverboards” and talk to are “Pokémon” and we we’re “trainers” but all the rest of the kids thought I look like an idiot that’s probably why I didn’t have any friends 😂 i’m grateful enough to actually have friends now but boy oh boy back then was weird times
Is it weird I'm more disgusted by her mother than bu the fake friend? She saw her child's PKM cards in her friend's bag and instead of realizing the cards were stolen (Like most would asume), confront the child or even alert the kid's parents she immediately began berating her own kid with no evidence. Even from earlier videos, I could see this wasn't a one-time thing and she was always horrible. I'm so sorry that that happened to you 😥
OMG I KNOW I WAS SHOKED If my mum ever found my stuff in another kids bag, she actually would have been so proud of me letting go of something for a friend hah I actually remember this one time when I was trading this massive ship for a bunch of another friends LEGO and her and the friends mum met and my mum was Concerned weather the LEGO was too much for just the ship and His mum was Concerned the Ship was too much for just the LEGO XDD it was basically the perfect trade ^^ but? most of the time I just traded little stuff with my friends and our parents never worried about it
This is something exactly like my middle school years. It is really hard for me to make friends as im a girl but i posees the interests of guys with absolutely zero interest in girly stuff. And guys in Middle school don't talk to u if unless ur attractive or someone they could have a relationship with and girls were just too diva. And i really struggled to fit in. That 10 years of school was so traumatizing to my kid mind that i started to have social anxiety and distorted my perception of humans. All of them were just rich spoilt brats on top of all that and since school life was the like only interaction i had with the outside world except relatives, it led me to believe that humans were just awful. I just hadn't seen any good people except my parents. So when middle school ended and i entered high school in a different school it was so different. People were actually nice to me and guys would actually talk to be as a friend. This did make me feel good however left me confused. Im in college now and though i have healed till certain extent, it left a scar on me that i can no longer trust anyone. Even if someone does something nice to me, i question their motives.
I know that without context it may not have the same impact as it would if I were to explain in more detail, but there was a time in my life where I was sheltered and was plagued with insecurities that made it feel impossible to reach out and truly connect, however there was a moment in freshman year of highschool when a random stranger, a boy from my year gave me a hug in the hall, it was spurred on by nothing but good will. That moment changed me and gave me the courage to open up and, though life happens and that friend and I drifted apart I still look to it as a glimpse of what life "could" be like if we all cared a little more for one another. This moment echoed into college where, I had a friend in my Calculus class whom was similarly introverted. He later revealed that he was very depressed at the time, and the ability to talk to someone else, connect and reflect on things pulled him out of that. Your story reminded me of these moments in my life and will stick with me and compel me to continue to reach out as best I can when I can. Thank you for sharing Amy.
I gotta say, this was kinda painful to watch. Brought up some bad childhood memories. Its really hard to comprehend how people can just be really mean to each other, especially when you're a kid. Really makes you think that maybe you're the one whose "wrong" in the first place, even if that's not completely true. I guess this is just one of those things you learn from.
Sadly it's just not kids. I'm in Uni and people at worst Stab you in the back, manipulate you, are only nice when they need shit, turn their back on you when you need them the most, literally laugh about you when you are right there in front of them! Sorry, clearly I haven't had the best experience at Uni, thankfully I'll graduate in a year. But, yeah, people are mean and just down right awful. I guess this just makes me stronger, maybe ...
Me too :( I literally cried after watching this because of how similar my experiences have been. That feeling of loneliness and rejection may seem silly but it is literally devastating and traumatic to a child.
12:05 I once was walking on the beam that surrounded the playground at my school, with my friends, and I saw this little, 1st grade boy, just sitting on the beam, crying. I sat down beside him, and asked him what was wrong. He said that these to boys, who where now fighting over the ball, wouldn't let him kick it, and when he got the chance to, he couldn't aim correctly, so I said, "How about you play with me and my friends." So, we lift, and I took him to the basketball court, and me and my friends played with him. And now, whenever he sees me, he runs up to me, and gives me a hug. He is my favorite little kid in that school, now.
Hey everyone, thank you so much for the ongoing support. You've really been helping my channel grow and I'm so grateful! It's also been so eye opening reading your personal stories. I'm trying to get through as many as I can, so thank you for taking the time to tell your stories. It's sad to see that a lot of you had similar situations. Gonna address some common questions/comments (I'll edit more in if more Qs come up, or just reply to them here): -Why did your mother go through her bag? She told me at the time that she assumed Megan had just thrown her clothes in the bag, and my Mother wanted to fold them. -There's weird static at the end? This IS SO INFURIATING. I have no idea where it's come from, I edit all of my audio via Audition. It doesn't seem to be in my video file on my computer, nor in the original audio edit, and I checked it through multiple times before the final render and it had no weird static. Weird that it's just at the end of the video too. All I can say (because I can't replace the file now that it's uploaded) is to listen to the last few minutes without headphones. Sorry :'( -Pfft, you only didn't have a 'best friend', I didn't even have FRIENDS! Know the feel bud. Whilst I wasn't massively disliked by anyone in Primary school, nobody was really 'friends' with me either, aside from Justin, and he only occasionally hung around. He was the only kid I had over my house rarely (aside from the one time with Megan). Birthdays were the absolute worst, because my parents would try to organise parties for me, and it would make me so anxious because I didn't really want to invite anyone, I didn't fit in and the other kids didn't particularly care for me. In secondary school, I had a single friend, but then she turned on me because she thought it would be funny. Hardly a friend if you ask me... and then it was rinse and repeat. There were kids that would tolerate (as in, wouldn't ignore me or mock me) me and talk to me, and then there were the people that would bully or actively mock me. 11-16 loneliest years of my life, hands down. This story pales in comparison. Your Mum seems... cruel? - I haven't spoken to her in almost 8 years now. Huge manipulative narcissist, never loved me. Will make a video on it eventually because I'm tired of the stereotype perpetuated by society that all mothers are wonderful, loving and caring. Some people are just bad people, and some people shouldn't be parents. I wanna give people strength that also suffered with unloving mother issues. Though it's a topic that I need to handle extremely carefully... and it's a very heavy. Gonna be tough, but I'd like to get it off my chest because it might help others that are struggling. She was the root of all the issues I deal with to this day... general high anxiety, feeling inferior, low self esteem, fear of genuine love, destructive perfectionism, etc... Don't get me wrong, I'm doing better than ever! Life is pretty great right now... but it still hits me every so often. Made my teens hell, I felt like I missed out on what could have been the most fun years of my life. -Why don't you get revenge on Megan!? I think we've all done things in our past that we regret, or treated somebody badly. Also, kids are far more likely to just copy their parents attitudes, so she may have had a rough home life. Like I said in the video, I never hated her for this. I mean, sure I was so incredibly hurt when I was young, but I haven't held a grudge. Sure this behaviour shouldn't be encouraged, and that's why I've made this video... But threatening her wouldn't achieve anything now, would it? She's probably a completely different person now. Are you Welsh? DID YOU NOT SEE THE CYMRU BALL AND WELSH WRITING!?... (yes)
I'm really looking forward to the video about you mother (but no pressure; the world won't end if it will never be released). Also I think it's pretty cool that you take your time to interact with your community and make videos to entertain but also help other people deal with their issues. Thanks :)
In hindsight tho, both my mom and my oldest sister have a best friend who is all around... crappy. Just being honest. My sister's close friend made her sob for hours one night cause of things she said to her. She always judges my sister and is never happy for her but my sister puts up with it since they've know each other since high school (my sis is 29, pregnant, and married now). My mom's close friend is an energy vampire that self sabotages then cries to my mom to help her fix it... so she can do the same thing (not drugs btw and nor is it an addictive substance at all) the very next day. I, on the other hand, chose to end my ex best friendship due to her judgy behavior and wanting everything I have. I don't regret the experience cause I learned but hun, some of these people would have loved to attach to you and there may be a positive side to those people not having access to you, esp narcissists.
tbh I'm 16, I was very lucky with my friends. Basically being the smartest kid in almost ebery subject made me able to help loads of people so I got lots of friends in primary, we were kinda united, I was really shy too, so people wanted to help me out, then gymnasiun happened and I had the same friends, some came, some of my friendships fortified and all around my experiences were happy, I had like 2 max friends that ""betrayed"" but that was because of some drama on a girl that my best friend was incolved with. I really got to be frienda with the smarter kids in class and some of the trouble makers, some werw intelligent but not hard working, the professors were good too and didnt want that much drama in between us (we had the best profs in the entire city). Im in highschool now and all I gotta say I already made a new best friend, some other friends and I get along with all my classmates okay, in some hours imma go running on stadium with mt bestie then tomorrow outside with my class. I think my success is because of the safe environment, good people around me, my sincerity shyness or kindness (helping people) and maybe a tad bit of luck.
Shout out to my group of friends. Thank you a lot for being there when I was in a rough situation, and sticking with me even tho I was weird and sometime a little brat. You help me realise how much people can be kind and supportive, I love you
It must have been really hard for you when you were younger, and I'm so sorry to hear that you went through a tough phase. It is nice when someone does reach out to check on you, and I definitely agree that people today can take what they learned from your experience and try to make a difference for someone else that is feeling lonely or left out. Great job on another wonderful video, keep up the amazing work!
This video triggered some painful memories, but also allowed me to see that I am far more better than three years ago. Yeah, I am still expecting that at any minute my friends will dump me in the trash can (an irrational fear, since they are always so kind and patient with me), but now I see that things do get better. Don’t loose hope, sooner or later you will find some who you will have incredible experiences with!
I can totally relate to this. I'm always left out and I almost always have to work on projects by myself in school. Nobody wants to group up with a kid like me ya know. But I feel like Its only gonna worse now that Im entering the 9th grade. It was scary before but now that Im gonna be going to such a huge school, with so many people Im horrified. However, this video showed me that I'm not alone, there are others like me, all I have to do is find them.
Thank you, for making this video. This story is something very much I can relate to. Growing up I had always sat by myself in the corner of the playground, play on my Game Boy, practically isolate myself from my peers. I could never make friends, well 'real' ones anyway. Every time I got close to someone they'd use me. One time in class we had to write down who our 'best friend' was and, being that optimistic kid I was, the one 'friend' I thought I had he purposely wrote another pupil name down while I wrote his... He laughed at me with another classmate, mocking me because I had zero friends. I always tried to be in his friendship circle. We actually went to other houses for play dates growing up ironically, but it always ended up horribly. Year 11, did actually make friends with these two lads, but it didn't last. My two, so-called 'best friends' from school, one would use you and the other always made you feel uneducated, wasn't horrible, but he had personal issues. You'd be there for him, but he wouldn't be there for you. We always made up, then split apart. Funny enough, I did art to escape reality. I got really good at it, even studied it during college and university. My friend now, we met during the final years of college, had very similar interests, became really good friends with him. We went to different universities, but still, reconnect and we're closer than ever. I do struggle with anxiety and trust issues with people, but I take this as a learning curve. My friendships during college and university with my peers have been hit and miss as they've come and gone in my life, another story for another time. This had upset me, but I'm better as a person. End of the day, they're not worthy. I've got my degree, got a good job, can drive and my one close friend is still in my life. My family and I are much closer these days, my work colleagues are very supportive and loving. Hitting rock bottom doesn't make you a failure. Getting yourself up and proving to others who've wronged makes you stronger. Take each day as a life lesson. Don't give up on yourself, focus on one little thing that makes you happy and you will succeed. Loneliness is limited, happiness is what you make of it.
I feel like...I feel like this is a carbon copy of what happened to me in Secondary school and I just...I vowed that If i see someone do that to another human being. Gosh darn man...I would go to them and talk to them. It was different for me in Secondary school. 3 years. 3 years of fakeness. 3 years of people treating me like shit. 3 Years of being the "replacement" I just- Thank you. Being 15 and looking back, it tells me that people now...need to realize their worth. As well as recognized that the people in their class are equals to them. No matter how privileged or how much social clout they have.
Honestly right now I’m just trying to find out and take care of myself instead of constantly finding for best friends. I mean i do have some friends but maybe one day a best friend might come along. It does suck a lot when you’re younger and you’re just a teenager who wants a best friend to go on adventures with and just be really close but I found that as I grow older, people come and go. I think I’ve learned on how to become more comfortable with being alone because people will really come and go. I just make myself laugh a lot when I feel lonely
I used to cry like every night when i was in elementary school about not having friends ( i had 2 but they ditched me for eachother everytime) seriously its like a really important phase of your life so i wish every little kid a good friend
Same, also hell yes another homestuck!!! But I mean, I also acted out and started fights a lot thanks to the issues I had growing up. Eventually I had one friend in year 6 who was actually my friend, who also liked video games. For years we used to get together to play zombie related games and pokemon. Through secondary I had a long line of bad friends, and now I'm happy with just my partner and his best friend, if I talk to other people too that's cool but I won't let myself be manipulated so easily from now on nor will I put up with rubbish just because I like somebody.
That was honestly hard to watch... conjures up SOOO many bad memories. Some kids are so mean and insensitive towards others who stand out in any fashion! (No wonder I haven't any contact with anyone I met before the year I turned 15...)
It's not fun going through this, I personally don't know if I was the victim or the villain in my story though. But maybe when I'm older and more mature like you I'll have a clearer view of this situation. Thanks for brightening up my day :D
I remember temporarily trading (in my mind) my Pokemon Red for a friend's Pokemon Yellow as they were struggling with it and I was going to help them. They never let me trade back :(
@@zig131 At least you got to keep something out of it, Yellow is the better Pokémon game. My older brother "temporarily" traded our family copy of GameGear Sonic The Hedgehog with a friend of his for some Power Rangers game I don't remember. The "friend"s game got returned for the trade-back, _our cartridge never made it back to us._ -_- To this day, I _still never_ loan out anything I think I might miss if the other person turns out to be unreliable and not get it back to me.
keep making these videos, your advice is amazing and with each of these videos I watch, my outlook on life is slowly growing more and more positive. As a fresh teen, I can tell you that this advice will help me make fewer mistakes in the future. thank you for these learning experience videos, and keep doing what you're doing.
Been watching your animation progress on twitter and I love love LOVE how this video turned out! 😍 Also I love how you put small golden nuggets of advice at every end of your video~ truly helps out a lot of people
Daamn girl ... you just touched a very very very ancient, sensitive and dark part of my past, one that i havent even talked about with my close friends, i understand the "loneliness" , the cold, the lack of desire to go to school the next day, the trembling when the teacher say : "we will work in teams" , higschool wasnt nice.... - suscribing n' clicking bell *
I never understood American TV shows and movies that showed kids lives revolving around school. I wanted to be out of there as soon as I could! I loathed it... What is this fantasy world where you have goofy adventures with your friends!?
@@JAMIEvstheVOID i know rite ?, but i did saw those tv shows with dreamy "sighs" thinking how different my life would be if i had a good compatibility with the people around me, and curiously, my social Life started ( exploted ) properly at University and never looked back again. idk if that happend to you too : )
Powerful talk. It’s rough experiencing these problems for the first time. That one moment of weakness when she swiped your collection also sent her down an unwanted path. Everyone subconsciously justifies what they do regardless of what it is, and that muted her ability to empathize. See how she progressed through education? It’s not likely she changed course.
Amazing that you animated a whole 13 minute video. It's so refreshing to see vids not being split up into parts in the animation community! 13 minutes flew by so fast you're great at immersing viewers into your story. Your hard work doesn't go unnoticed! Keep it up :)
Was randomly recommended this video and decided to watch and it was very powerful and definally hit a cord with me because of how lonely I was growing up it nearly had me in tears definally subbing for more content in the future
I was a nerdy, tomboy girl who loved to draw during my primary and secondary school years. I think if I was in your class, we most definitely would have been great friends. I had the ancient mew card too and we could have gushed over it together. We could have talked about art and shared our sketchbooks during lunch and talk about video games and all things nerdy! I also had a tough time making friends in general, but luckily I had 1 nerdy, kind friend to bond with. You sound like you would have been a great friend to hang out with.
every time i laugh in uncomfortable situations my brother and mom act like i’m doing it on purpose like it’s just a defense mechanism so i don’t cry i’m uncomfortable
I am best friends with a girl I had 4 problems with and we used to not wanna sit in the same room and now we wanna hang in the same room everyday and go everywhere together even if it's for a two minute thing
that person who got the last laugh She moved away and that’s when I realized she was my bully not my best friend. I dated this boy and he cheated on me with her.. she wouldn’t let me hangout with anyone else but her and use to physically and mentally abuse me for “fun”
I know that feeling, i REALLY do, i've been through many cases in which i had to change my way to dress or the music i listened to or even the way i WAS because i wanted to be accepted by them.. REALLY HUGE ERROR btw, until i moved to another school and met real friends, they're still w/ me nowadays.. the best thing that ever happenned to me
I know how you felt. Up untill my freshman year of high school I was just like that. Always by myself hanging around other groups that obviously didn't care too much for me. Untill finally got into a group that actually cared somewhat about me. That group eventually narrowed down to one person, but she's very nice person who I'm glad to have as an amazing friend
Yeah, I ended up moving schools when I was 14 because I was being bullied and had no friends at all! It really sucked. Didn't make any new friends in the new school either. It was only when I did my A-levels that I actually made my real friends. I was incredibly tough.
I went through the same thing. 2 turned out to be snakes, 3 left for other schools, and I had a falling out with another. Now its just me and another quiet girl.
I was always the kid siting alone and when I would see others alone I would sit and talk to them. Sadly most of them ended with the rest of the school seeing them as a kind hearted person for dealing with me. Than they would go in to one of the popular groups.
I feel yah. Like I said in the video, it got WAY worse in my early teens. Definitely was the main contributor to my super low self esteem than I only shook in my early twenties.
At my first job, I wasn't able to make any friends. I would chat with coworkers and invite them over to hang out, but they would either flake or just didn't express any interest in starting a friendship. This caused a low blow to my self esteem. I wondered if I had tried to hard and came off as creepy. A couple years and an awesome therapist later, I've realized, that was their problem not mine. I am a kind, funny, and caring person, and they missed out on making a hella loyal friend. Know your worth people.
Watching this Video did make me very emotional as I've had to deal with such scenarios years ago too, the combination of bad friends, issues with parents at home and my deteriorating mental health due to all the pressure made me into a shell of myself. I actually ended up dropping out from school and doing a voluntary year in a kindergarten to find myself again, which helped me a lot. I'm doing much better now, sure I still have my little traumas of these things but I'm doing better and am in a better class with a legitimate friend who doesn't use me as their doormat. I also found a partner I can trust and rely on who also helps with my big anxiety of things. Thank you a lot for sharing your experience
Angeligue Harris if i learned that my daughter’s friend’s mom went through my childs stuff without permission i would be furious. Yeah it turns out she was right about mehgan this time hut that’s still an invasion of privacy
Detros I agree with you but if I have suspicions about your child interfering with things in my house things could go both ways. But as a parent you are responsible for your child’s behavior ,in and out of the house (to a point ). And behavior should be dealt with accordingly. Let the parents know if you want to go through before hand if they might have a problem. But personally don’t allow people who you can’t trust in your home. That’s my main underlined.
It is true that not everybody is going to like you, but you shouldn't tolerate acts of cruelty. Your life is your own, and no one has the right of making you feel like you aren't worthy of love and kindness.
I've learned several things: - you can't make people like you - you can't make people like each other - you can't tell people what to do - you can't tell people what not to do All you can do is set a good example in the public eye. The change will happen later on.
I can so relate to this i mean I struggled with the SAME EXACT THING in primary school and it a been with me ever since. I’ve been still trying to get better at it tho u know that blockage in your mind doesn’t let you to do things...but I would agree that If u do see a person suffering from it then please.help.
Omg! Thought i was the only one who had a blockage in my mind. You mean when the words get stuck in ur mind due to nervousness or embarassment, rigth? Omg! I feel the same!
This hits way too close to home tbh. It's why I only managed to make proper friends on the internet - even those usually left after a few years, or had someone they liked more, so I wasn't ever really anybody's "best" friend. Holding out hope for uni and whatever comes after. It's gotta get better, right?
It does get better. I promise. I'm 27, now, and grew up having the same trouble. It wasn't until I was in uni that I finally started making real friends and established lasting relationships. You've got this.
ABSOLUTELY it gets better! One of the things that really helped me realize "Oh shit this isn't just me, this is in fact society being constructed awfully" was reading this essay here: www.paulgraham.com/nerds.html
This comment is too real about internet friends. I don't have internet friends anymore and not to mention I'm almost 21 and I've had plenty of "best friends" in my life and they always end up being people I really didn't plan on being friends with- especially girls. Either they're bitchy and try to get me to join in on their bad behaviour or worst they're boring. Or worst they're two faced and don't even actually like you but they never leave you alone. Idk hey I don't go out of my way to be friends with people nowadays I prefer my boyfriend considering how dissspointing it is.
Yes, it gets better since in Uni you'll find many people with the same interests as you. High school is a bit crazy, kids try to act all "mature" by drinking, smoking and doing other stupid stuff and ironically end up looking very silly. Just be nice, open and friendly to people (but don't be a doormat and know that some people can be nice and others can be mean)
Wow..... you remind me of myself so much. It's quite touching to realize how I'm not alone. I struggled to make friends as a child and as an adult. Nobody reached out to me. Thank you so much for sharing!
Man this video hit me in the feels I relate too much😭 it’s sad that there’s so many people out here who find fun in picking on the little/naïve people.
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When you mentioned tagging along with a group of girls from your class that clearly didn’t want you there, I felt that.
124Nightwing me too, oh my gosh, NO LIE, i’m crying because i feel this so strongly
Same I felt that a lot back in primary school
Pls don't open my wounds
Literally me all the time
sameeeee
Kids can be so cruel at that age, some good life lessons and the kind of thing that makes you know who your real friends are
That's true and I met some kids who were like that during my middle and high school years.
There are two reason why(at far as my understanding goes)
1)Kids don't know the difference between what's right and what's wrong. That's why they're kids, they're learning.
2)Kids might mimic this behavior from their parents. Mean parents raise mean kids.
Overall I think the problem is that too many people just want to have kids for the sake of having kids.
not actually bothering with raising them. Which leads to our society being flooded with A**holes.
@@118andrey That's true.
@@118andrey as being a nerd with no friends I agree with u🌚
Also there isn't a...maybe atleast 90% perfect because maybe the parents of the family don't care about there children or are afraid that they just get sick or EVEN go out of the house and when they grow up their parents say: "How do you not know how to communicate?" and then because of the child's personality he can't even say a word to them and doesn't make friends or anything. BUT that doesn't mean that they aren't successful in their lives like they get jobs and do stuff but always have a hole in their heart🌚💔
(also if there are any mistakes just point it out I'm not english and at the same time a 12 year old🌚)
@@Abood-xt7bw it's ok, I understood what you meant very well :)
hol up your mom blamed you for someone stealing your precious pokemon cards
The kind of person she was...
damn
also i wish i understood all of your feelings. i find it so easy to make friends but it seems like to everyone else it's really hard. i would totally be friends with you if i was in your class ❤
AmyRightMeow oh hecc
@@JAMIEvstheVOID I'm glad it seems she got it back for you before that evil little girl stole it. I remember getting my Egyptian yugioh card (slypher the sky dragon) stolen in front of my eyes by a kid who I considered a friend in grade 5. In the middle of class.
My grandmother was the same, everything was my fault and my sister could do no wrong
I'm still waiting to have my best friends
Same...
Same
same
Same
The internet is your best friend now
By the time you said "I invited Meghan over" I knew she stole the card...
I realized it before as she was talking about it's value...
=T
now i just feel slow becuase only just as her mum showed the cards i was like OH MY GOD WHAT NO WAY?!
I had a toxic friend like that she sucked
_Take the g out of megan_ 🤔
What does that mean?
Megan takes the g out and puts in on a piano scale...
lol, anton....
Take the liver out of Megan.
OH I GET IT ITS “MEAN”
Actually, MEGAN, i can't sit anywhere
i have H E M O R R O I D S
Atlantica Gacha I have HEMORROIDS
Atlantica Gacha when I was in ninth grade a girl I had known for a decade began to constantly point out my lack of curves, faults in my outfits, bad thing about my hair, ect. I don't know if she was insecure or just mean, but it's been a shitty three years trying to deal with her
Omfl I love that meme
@@lizardbrain1077 ...yikes
I could never understand how kids could be so mean. Growing up if any kid saw anyone cry even if they didn't like them they would ask them whats wrong and comfort them until they felt better. 💖 Its possible to create this sort of environment and its upto the parents and adults to teach their kids kindness.
@X x Roblox Girl x X teacher's are the worst and I have something similar but when I was 10 years old my primary school teacher called me a bad person and a bad girl over a misunderstanding about me not playing with a girl during lunch time 💀
Yeah i had fun getting jumped every other month 5th to 8th grade.. and being treated like i started it by the school, like yeah i started it by being beaten in the back of my head every other month.
Honestly as a kid who would cry a lot I felt really uncomfortable when people I started to come up to me and keep asking me. Mostly because often I cry when overly stressed and people crowding around me made me more stressed I just felt like I was making a scene. Also it didn't help that when ever I got angry or sad my parents would shout at me. I now rarely ever publicly cry even if I am feeling awful
That's what I keep wondering as well. This sort of thing seems to go on everywhere around the world, with kids, teenagers etc. Is it really something in human/kids' nature that creates such toxic & mean environments that leave others traumatised...? Is it natural? Can a psychologist explain this?
Im a child and I (and my closest friends) get bullied by the other kids in my class. We are in 9th grade.... How can people be so stupid and bully people.
Ahhhh it's unbelievable how much effort you put into this - every frame of this video looks stunning!
Thank you so much!
SO. MANY. 14. HOUR. DAYS... hahaha
First...
CHIPFLAKE!!!! I love you!!!! You are amazing!!
Omg chip flake nodice me senpaiiii
Chipflake chip!
Kids can be so cruel :(
True
Ya
You can't even imagine!
yea.
I love this video, people don’t talk about toxic friendships enough. I, like a lot of people in the comments, recently cut out a manipulative friend from my life. She was my best friend for 9 years and I think it should be said that it may be really hard to cut someone out who has been a part of your life for that long, but sometimes its whats best. I don’t regret it and I just wanted other people reading this to know that a long friendship isn’t necessarily a good one.
I cant believe I read this all...
Amelia Ross what’s wrong with that?
same here
Smelly Cat I hate reading🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Having a best friend stab you in the back is one of the most painful feelings to experience mentally.
It makes you wonder endlessly when they stopped liking you, did they ever like you... it makes you question your entire life (especially if they’ve been in it for a long time).
Hey, I know how it feels. But when you gave it all and people backstab you, it's not your fault. You may have been naif, but you had the virtue to see something special in someone that wasn't so exceptional, so with this experience you will be far better in the future being able to see who really deserves it. Plus, it means you can find beauty in everything, which is a gift. Good luck for the future! ;)
The only thing I truly remember from those “best friends ” that back stab me is that they are the source of my trust issues and social anxiety I always hated them for it and always will
:’(💔
@@TDestro9 same🥲
10:00 that hurts. That hurts me. I know that feeling all too well. That feeling of emptiness. The background void is the perfect visual representation of how it feels.
Ah man I remember being lonely when I was younger, but I think it helped me be a better person. As I got older, I would always befriend the outcast or new kid so they wouldn't be lonely. I remember I had a girl reach out to me in highschool who thanked me for being kind to her when others were mean. It's really the small things that count!
I love your Sans meme
Not to be sexist but why does it seem that girls in earlier classes are asshole (some off them)
IDK they just seem sadistic and manipulative
sans is that you
I usually felt lonely when I was in elementary school. My friends wouldn’t hang out with me and when they did, I felt like a last resort. I was also really shy to ask if I could play with them. Although, I think it’s weird I didn’t really blame them, I blamed myself for being too nervous to ask to play with them. Now that I’m in middle school I look back and think about my experiences and how they affect me.
I used to be pretty confident in myself when I was younger but now I just don’t feel as confident anymore. I also probably doesn’t help that I felt bullied for having a friend that was a boy. Well, thanks for reading this really long comment and I hope something like this hasn’t happened to you.
@@jaelizzagarcia7836 I had something similar happen to me and at that point i kept questioning if they were my friends or not, they kept leaving me behind. When i wanted to say things i would get ignored so i just stayed quiet. I also blamed myself for being shy around new people, this continued for a couple months. Now i'm less shy around them and i'm starting to talk alot more during school breaks and stuff. Talking one to one with someone is still impossible for me. This is where i'm at right now. Idk why but i felt i needed to say this.
The colors in this are so pretty!
10:08 so well written/spoken, and relatable. When you got to the "knot in your throat" bit, I was practically mouthing the phrase in my head, it's *such* an awful feeling.
Thank you for your lovely, raw, emotional videos. They're so good for young people (and any age) to hear.
11:27 hit hard for me, I don't really _want_ to explain fully why in a public comment section, but just the concept of things getting better seems nice.
Thank you, Amy.
I was extremely unpopular all through school, and it scarred me deeply. But being alone myself made me more keenly aware of when others were alone, and i've helped many people through a bad day.
My biggest example was a grown man at a convention, crying alone outside the hotel. So many younger people walking by pointedly ignoring him, but I sat down and made him start talking. We talked for hours. He had recently lost family, and was new to conventions and the fandom. He was desperate for friendship and distraction to help him get by, but being much older meant most found his quirky new-kid attitude .. creepy. It wasnt his fault, and it wasn't their (younger fans) fault. It's just how it unfolded.
But after hours of talking and letting him decompress and giving him pointers and some specific people and groups to try to reach out to, he was able to enjoy the rest of the convention. Now years later he still calls me his angel. I saved him with one very simple kindness. He made friends, he goes to events, he's no longer the creepy old guy and now the silly uncle of the community. Because i saw someone that needed a hand, and realised i have two.
I wish more people were like this
you really are an absolute angel
Honestly that’s one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever heard. Thanks so much for sharing your story
You definitely did a wonderful thing. The right choice. Wish that there were more people who are aware of problems like these.
That was really nice of you
**gasp!** the two pieces at 2:30 don't fit! *FORESHADOWING!*
*I JUST NOTICED THAT*
I noticed that before
i still don’t see it😂😂
Well, all youtube videos are foreshadowed by the title.
rai pika pi I ᔕᗩᗯ TᕼᗩT!
Heres how my life with friends has gone so far in my life...
Kindergarten: everyones friends with each other no matter your gender, skin tone, personality, everyone is nice to everyone else! hurray!
1st grade: I had 2 friends that would sometimes forget that im there so i wouldn't say i had a *best* friend but i definitely had good friends
2nd grade: i left the friend group and found a new friend but one of my other friends from my 1st grade group came and became best friends with my friend. I think they would talk behind my back because in probably October somewhere we went to a restaurant and i had to go to the bathroom and they shut the lights off when i was almost done. i was reasonably livid. then they told me about Bloody Mary. they said she comes when you look in the mirror in the dark and say her full name 3 times (they told me not to say her name and say BM instead because she could be alerted if we say her name). They told me that one of my friends cousin was taken by her. and my other friends friend was taken by her too. at first i didnt believe them but that night i had a bloody nose. so i thought she was real. they told me she was mad at me for not believing her. i had an extreme fear of the dark and mirrors. the color red, white, and black because that was her colors. and many other things. they would use anything as a sign. including geese flying south and i believed them. By the end of the year i was starting to have my doubts. so yeah...
3rd grade: i was friends with my 2nd grade friends for a little longer but by winter i had enough of them and didnt have friends for a little bit. but then i became friends someone. she was nice at first. then my same friend in my 2nd and 1st grade group came again and became best friends with her. then she became mean. she would laugh at me. find any way to make fun of me. tease me for any little thing i would do. tell me what to do alot. force me to say something or dare me to do something i didnt want to do. she would lie to me. tell me to shut up when i talked at lunch. i put up with months of this and finally around april, i told her that she wasnt my friend anymore. I remember that day so vividly. we were on the slide and she made fun of me for something and then i told her to stop being mean and that im done with her and shes not my friend anymore. i didnt look back when i walked off. i cried realizing i would have to be alone and find new friends. i walked laps around the football feild until recess was over. they never talked to me after that. at the end of 3rd grade i found two new friends that included me. one of the friends was the other friend in 2nd grade. we were good friends. but then they told me they were both leaving the school and going different places. i was very sad at this but thought i would be ok because i had another friend that i would hang out with after school. but i wasnt
4th grade: here comes no friend time. that friend had become super popular so i could never pair up with or talk to her because she had her own friends that would hog her all the time. i wondered why no one was talking to me. i thought it was about me. i needed to fix myself so i would have a friend. i would copy others handwriting. others behavior. conversations. i tried to be included. i was always a leftover. i became insecure and started hating myself. i wasn't happy with who i was. i lost a piece of me in 4th grade. then i realized around February that if no one is going to become my friend i had to become theirs. i decided to see how this one girl that always sat by the boys was like. even though i was terrified and it was awkward, i sat by her at lunch, pair up when we needed, talked and played together at recess. by march we were best friends (not like we had much of a choice). by the end of the year i felt so happy, that i dedicated my 4th grade end of the year booklet to her. i was happy
5th grade: i still had my best friend but we added 2 girls to the group after they sat near us at lunch. I was *best* friends still with my 4th grade friend but we were a bigger group and it was the best. we have some inside jokes too. like one of the friends loved stealing my food and being the nice person i was let her sometimes. so whenever i said no. yeah 5th grade was pretty superior.
6th grade: the 2 other friends i had in 5th grade left. but i still had my best friend. we were great friends. then around march a new girl came. we knew she had to be our friend otherwise the popular group would be bigger and be more powerful. at first they were friends with her. but then kinda left her. so my friend and i became friends with her. yeah we were pretty good friends. now to the worst year of my life...
7th grade:
so almost at the beginning of the year that new friend in 6th grade left us for the popular group. we went on a retreat and that was the start of all the bad stuff. the new girl from 6th grade left our group for the popular people. and we became friends with 2 other people...one of them became good friends with my best friend.
7th grade was the most regrettable thing in the world. i was kinda going through my i need to look cool phase
i was getting really desperate so you can just imagine what i was doing. but twenty one pilots helped me through it and not care anymore and realize i wasnt alone. I realized what Trench was and that i didnt want to be blurry. ive kinda told my friends how lonely i was but i still havent told the extent of why and how much. the thing is i felt lonely because i was in a group of 3 and you know how that always turns out. like in 1-3rd grade all over again but worse, they were best friends with each other and i didnt feel included. i still dont...
I was at such a low point in February 2020 that i just gave up. i said to myself "ill just be alone. i wont have friends. it doesnt matter. they dont care. i dont care. i would purposefully walk away super fast so they couldnt talk to me (not like they tried that much). i would not look at them and mind my own business. not talk to them at lunch. i was convinced they hated me and i didnt need them to be happy. But i still felt empty. it was the lowest point of my life.
One night i was listening to Twenty One Pilots and decided to listen to a song i didnt listen to alot..Leave the City. that night i cried my eyes out and realized i couldnt do 7th grade alone and i knew that ignoring them wasnt the way. i quit my desperation for friends and stuck with the ones i had at school. i told my friends about how much i loved Leave the City but left out how much i felt changed. they said cool and moved on. i didnt feel like they cared. but i looked it in their eyes and knew i left out all of the story and if someone said that to me i wouldnt care that much i would think it was cool but just kinda forget about it after.
In the next couple of days i felt myself sink again but i was putting up a fight and when i needed it (which was always) i would listen to Leave the City.
I was kinda falling back again when quarantine started and weirdly i am grateful for it...
it was a really good refresh for me
I found my hobbies and life again
I found out who i really was without the pressure of my friends and others
8th grade: still struggling :/
thank you if you made it to the end (probably no one). thank you for caring about my stupid pathetic life.
Disclaimer about this entire thing: im not saying that a 3 people friend group cant work im just saying it doesnt work for me. im really insecure and antisocial so that doesnt help anything.
k bye :)
Well I made it to the end and it was absolutely worth it. I'm sorry for the bad things you have witnessed and the people that hurt you. You are a really brave person sharing this part of your life with strangers in the Internet. I hope you now have a better life with some good and caring friends around you!
Hey buddie, I read it all, and I must say, you had it pretty bad back then, I feel so sorry for you; but if it helps anyhow, I've been through something similar back in my days, and I was also feeling pretty down, until I realized that most of our friends are temporary; most of them won't be with you everytime, won't be there when you need them, but the few who stay, those are the ones who matter. They're pretty rare, and probably will take a long time to appear, but don't lose hope - it may be lonely now, but you'll soon find those friends you need and deserve, I'm sure of it :)
Hey there. I graduated in 2020 and always felt left out, so I'd like to drop some knowledge on you in case it helps. I feel for you and don't want you to end up like me (to a certain extent... There are some things that got better because of what I learned).
First of all, I want to address the negative feelings you mentioned, particularly loneliness. Unfortunately, people usually don't recognize signs of people struggling, especially in school. Not even teachers recognize struggling students, especially if they still get good grades. Even when they do see a sign and wonder what's wrong, they usually don't say anything because they convince themselves that is probably nothing. I have found that the only people who actually notice are highly empathetic or empathic people, and they still don't always speak up (I didn't once because I got self-conscious, and I regret it to this day). One of the best things I learned from my time with depression was that you can't wait for someone to ask you what's wrong to get help. In doing so, you are silently telling others to tell you your worth, and when (not if, when) they don't say anything for one of the reasons I mentioned, you convince yourself that they're saying you're not worth it. I lived that, and I dank dangerously low because of it. I didn't get the help and empathy I so desperately needed until I asked for it myself, and that's what happens to most people. I know that's the hardest thing to do when you're struggling, but when you need help somehow (therapy, company, a hug, whatever), you have to get it yourself because no one will know what you need until you ask for it. So, when you're feeling that low and lonely, go to whatever friend you have and tell them exactly that. Don't beat around the bush, either. Literally tell them, "I'm not doing well and I need company." How they act following your statement will show what kind of a friend they are. Plus, if you're lonely, the last thing you should do is isolate yourself because it makes you feel worse. When you isolate yourself, people assume that you actually want to be alone, not that you feel like no one wants to talk to you so you might as well be alone. I have been on both ends of this. By isolating myself, I pretty much told everyone to go away without actually saying it. On the other end, I had a friend who talked about being lonely all the time, so I made an extra effort to give him company, but he kept moving away from me and isolating himself. I finally stopped doing that. Then, some other people invited him to their take, then he told them about how no one wanted to sit with him. It was very frustrating and hurtful since I had moved seats at least three times to accompany him.
Next, one thing that continues to be my downfall today and seems to be present in your experience is constantly doubting friends and acting based on that. I was the weird kid in school, so what few friends I had, I constantly doubted if they actually liked me. Every time they played with someone else, every time they had an inside joke that I didn't understand, every time they had a problem they told another friend but not me...I thought I wasn't enough of a friend in their eyes. I was so convinced that I was just the comic relief of the group that I became just that: the person that they only talked to when they needed a laugh or had a funny story. No one told me of their struggles. No one asked me about my day. No one made sure I was still in the group when walking through the crowd or in the hallway. To a certain extent, I didn't do the things I wanted them to do, either. I didn't ask about their day. Being generally suspicious of them all, I never initiated conversation. I get really sad about none of them texting me after high school, but I don't text any of them except two, all because they haven't contacted me first. That said, to a certain extent, they still weren't great friends. I always asked them what was wrong when they seemed down. I checked in with them later on. I always made sure the group was still together. I always asked who was going to a school event so we wouldn't miss each other there or so we'd have someone to go with (though that was mostly so I personally wouldn't be there alone). I even handmade a Valentine's Day gift for one of them a few times during high school because I knew that they were super lonely romantically and I wanted them to feel loved. The point is, though, if I had put more effort into my friendships, maybe things would be different now. Maybe if I asked about their day, they would have done the same (and my depression in junior year wouldn't have been so bad). Maybe if I actually texted them first EVER, they would have done the same. Maybe if I had opened up to them at all (I've always been very private with my feelings), they would have done the same with me. Maybe if I had sucked it up and actually told them I felt mistreated, they would have made a better effort. They really were nice people and did actually like me, but I was so self-conscious about my worth to them that I pushed them away to the distance at which I thought they already were. Today, that prevails because I now feel like it's too late to say anything about it to them and that I should just let them go. Honestly, though, a lot of it was my fault, and a lot of it was just that they were young and didn't have a lot of experience. They likely didn't even realize what they were doing, and your friends may be the same. Every time they're talking and leave you behind or out of the convo, they may just be so carried away that they don't know what they're doing. Like I said before, don't give them blind faith. If you do everything I should have done - putting into the friendship what you want out of it and saying something when you feel mistreated - and they still leave you behind, then they're not worth it. By doing that, they show that they're already giving what they're willing to give, and if you are not okay with that, then just move on. However, you still have to say something. Don't let your doubts just flood your head. Do something, say something, then see what happens.
Again, I feel for you. I've had my own struggles with friendship that caused me a lot of problems. I don't want you to be like me, though. I'm out of high school and push everyone away for fear of not getting the attention I need right off the bat, which sucks because I'm an extrovert. You're still pretty young, though. If you accept your worth now and act with that in mind, you'll save yourself a lot of heartache.
Sort of unrelated sidenote: I beg of you, do not load yourself up on a bunch of hard classes at once in high school. I don't care if you think you need the challenge. Two hard classes in one year is enough. I took AP Gov, Trig/Precalculus, and English IV Honors in the same year and it was a big reason why my depression got so bad. Don't do it. Give yourself a break and space out the hard classes. Your mental health will thank you.
Sorry for any typos. My phone is dumb and I don't have the time to proofread.
Thank you everyone for being so nice! I will definitely keep everything you said in mind :D
my life is good
What an awesome video, made me realize how awful my friends really are.
I wholeheartedly agree on money can't buy friends. And I realized, darn, I've invested so much money into my friends who can't even invest their time in me. Expensive gifts, giving a larger portion of money for our gatherings, lending them money to pay for their tuition, etc. and they couldn't even spend time with me on my birthday. It's as if I don't belong in the group and it really is that feeling of being left out.
Feel free to dm me for friends because im looking for some😩💞
Same
sadly relatable :c
I'm sorry for your friends, mine are basically same
Why are you getting mad at them because you're spending too much money on them
*“Enjoy child hood while it lasts...."*
My childhood is turning into teen hood, the other bad part of life.
*:.Midnight pastels.:* same
"But sometimes you can't enjoy it."
Man, I wish I could but all I've experienced within that stage is abused but it's alright now, I'm doing better.
*:.Midnight pastels.:* yup I’m turning 13 next year ;-;
*You did it Amy!! Now go get some well-deserved rest! :) Btw this animation reflects a great amount of effort, blood, and sweat u put into this video. Thanks for such high quality content ^^*
@@calumbo9742 *Lol*
Any of you feeling left out, bullied or abandoned in school remember that it’s better to be yourself and if you can’t make any friends just wait. A classmate or someone who is similar to you will always appear later on in your life. The bullied always turns out better than the bully. I had the exact same experience where I was supposed to sleep in a tent with the boys but then got kicked out at the last day as a prank and ended up sleeping by myself in the equipment tent. That one night although scarred me for life made me stronger, the crying that night really made me a better person as I finally decided to be myself and no body could define who I am. Those who are younger remember that the bullying will eventually stop. I don’t even know what I am writing.
It's not good to just sit and wait for something
@@ee8002 if all comes to worst sitting and waiting is the best solution
Not to sound annoying but the only people I attract seem to be fake and toxic people who only stay around me to get something from me, to the point where they turned me from an extrovert to an introvert.
Thank you for writing! I hope you know I liked it enough to screenshot it, to come back to it for later reference.
@@sierraandreason1667 thanks, it's nice to hear my experience is helping people. Hope you can overcome what you are experiencing soon.
It kinda helps to see all the comments of other people having struggled with the same thing. Here's to everyone who has had to eat lunch alone in the school bathroom, and to anyone who is currently dealing with it, just hang on. School is shorter than you think it is and it gets much much better! I know it's hard, but take your lunch and go eat alone where ever you want! Eat alone with confidence because these people who you think judge you, actually don't care and even if they do you'll one day wish that you didn't care as much
Thx bro
Flower Cove It will be over before you know it 😊 I hated school but I do miss being home early, having time to draw a lot and playing lots of games. School might suck for some people but use all this free time while you can
Oh man, those betrayal feels. Earnestly hard to watch this, bings back painful memories
Same here. I hate that anyone should have to feel way. Sorry man.
Eesh. Brings back memories and feelings I’m still having.
same here, i hate that anyone should have to feel that way..sorry dude.
Ikr:(
David Vogel congrats on 500 likes
Aw Amy this really touched my heart, really good message ❤
LADDI 💖 I'm glad you liked it :')
Laddi its u
laddi, it's you!
i saw laddi in a wid
I remember watching this video when I was still in high school and it really helped me establish how unhealthy some of my so-called "friendships" were and how it wasn't my fault.
My two best friends went to a separate middle school to me and were very popular and well liked by their classmates. Meanwhile, I was relentlessly bullied throughout elementary and middle school and it became clear that to associate with me was social suicide. So when my two best friends and I were finally in the same high school and I thought things would change for the better, they only lasted eight months before they buckled under the pressure of not being as popular as they once were before ditching me.
Three years of friendship just gone like that. Just so they could carry on being popular. This video made me realize that they were only friends with me when it was 'easy' and they could deny any association with me within the confides of school. When the time finally came for them to be true friends and demonstrate some loyalty, they threw me to the wolves. But not before saying it was all my fault and that if I'd done things differently (aka change who I am entirely), we would've still been friends.
The really fucked up message I learned? At least my bullies were honest with me and didn't claim to be my friend just when it was convenient for them. There's just something far more toxic when your friends turn on you and use said friendship as ammunition against you. Just makes me think that being alone was preferable to getting a 'taste' of friendship, only for it to be cruelly taken away from me. I can tell this kind of thing really messed you up in this story too and I'm very sorry it ended up going the way that it did.
It's no wonder to me why you tolerated Megan's behaviour. Your mom is an emotionally abusive parent and made you believe you didn't deserve better. I know that feeling.
how did you know
@@kyralorene2534 because it happens to other people
HOW DID YOU KNOW
mine was narcissist... and made guilt, shame and doubt my life partners even up to now...
That is what I thought while watching too. How the main wasn't respecting her personal space when she yelled, how she yelled, the fact that she assumed the most negative option. I'm sorry you go through this too.
always be kind and you will touch countless lives
yes, but you will also meet some people who will be jalouse, and you will have to harden your heart, to face other people like them in the futur!
@@Drago9545 Correction: yes, but you will also meet some people who will be *J E A L O U S* , and you will have to harden your heart, to face other people like them in the *F U T U R E*.
I Made A Sponge Bob Refferenco lol.
Ah yes, finally a relatable video
tbh all of her videos are relatable 😅😅
stop appearing in the comment section i beg u
U Filipino?
Suomi perkele
Finally!?!?! I've been searching for one that I can't relate to just to make me feel less like a creep.
"No body of any age shouldn't ever feel like that" - I've been feeling like this ever since I was a kid. Now I'm 17 . Now I don't even need friends. I have imaginary ones 😀
This is the story of so many people's childhoods. Mine included. Childhood insecurity, bullying, teasing... it can all have a huge impact on the rest of our lives. In those formative years there's so much power to shape other people's futures for good or ill in the hands of children who neither understand it or are emotionally equipped to treat it responsibility. Life is strange that way. Wonderful video, Amy. Thanks for sharing your story and your creativity with us.
Absolutely. I hope any kids watching this may get a glimpse of how their actions and treatment of others really can have such a massive effect on an individual.
@@JAMIEvstheVOID I hope so too, and just as important, that kids who have been made to feel that way will know they aren't alone. At that age we all think we're the only outcasts. Love your channel!
Chip Matthews Amy is just so down to earth and relatable
She’s great
I truly can't understand how people, let alone adults who are supposed to be the ones keeping watch explicitly for these sorts of issues, can sit back and just watch when thing like this happen.
...And I honestly struggle to imagine what possesses children to do cruel and irrational things to other kids in the first place.
I'm seeing a lot of "Kids will be kids/kids are mean, etc" in the comments. Can we please for the love of god stop expecting, enabling, and feeding into consistently unusual, cruel, and monstrous behavior from kids? Like... This isn't normal or healthy. Especially not when entire societies normalize it. Like... Stop.
But its true isn't it? At least in my experience. Kids can be horrible, like i still remember getting homophobic insults every other day (or week, it was often OK?) , and being insulted horrifically. And i'm not talking name calling no, i'm talking about HIGHLY offensive stuff. Like the aforementioned homophobic slurs. And people hating on me for being me. So point is, kids can be INCREDIBLY mean. Though they can also be nice too.
@KRYMauL How ignorant of you. Toughening up isn't easy for all people. Some people have thinner skin than others. Words hurt. People get hurt and can't simply brush those mean people away. Those other kids shouldn't be mean in the first place, period. Have a nice day
This unfortunately is normal. I know tons of people that have gone through similar things, me included. But just because it’s “normal,” doesn’t mean it’s right. Hating gays was normal for a long time. Slavery was normal for a long time. Some horrific things have been normal in society before. What’s important is to work at making these kinds of things NOT normal. Purposefully calling people out that do things like this and getting help if you find yourself in a similar situation.
Theatrical Dragon she never said that kids aren’t evil. She is talking about how some stupid asses in the comments are just letting something that an evil kid did slip by. They just think it’s only because of age, and that that’s like a golden ticket to getting out of trouble.
@KRYMauL XDD
why do i love this comment soo verry much
Pure Beauty, troll or not I love dis XD
The first story time where someone understands this feeling 10:06
Watch this video made me feel this way
Same
nichu reis OMG! Someone finally put it into words!
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It's scary how similar my case is to yours...
In first grade, I had a friend, let's just call her Anne for now (not her real name). She was my best friend and I didn't realize how toxic she was. I didn't have any other friends at the time so I had no one to compare it to. She would always talk about herself and if I tried to change the topic she'd immediately get back to talking about herself. She always chose what to do, and never gave me a chance to decide. She never let me make new friend. Ever.
Then 5th grade came, and with it, another girl in my school, let's call her Zoe. After just a few weeks it was clear that she's that type of girl who's a total tomboy, and would do dangerous stuff all the time, like jumping off trees or something. Anne found her very cool and started to spend more time with her than me, which made me feel lonely. I started befriending another girl but Anne didn't want me to be her friend and tried to "ban" me from her.
What's worse is that Zoe started mocking me, and Anne joined her to look cool.
It took me months to even realize how bad she actually was. I kept telling her I don't want to be her friend but when it really seemed like she'll lose me, she got scared and started to act nice. It became so bad, I even had suicidal toughts, at just age 12.
At the end of it all, Zoe told her she's uncool and I didn't talk to her anymore, so she changed schools and I haven't seen her since.
And the other girl I started to befriend? She's my best friend to this day, and she's so much kinder to me than Anne ever was.
This is so relatable, and it honestly made me cry. I'm 17 now, and I still struggle with loneliness. I hope the same thing that happened to you happens to me, that I find friends later on. I am so sorry that the friendship struggles happened to you as a kid, and my heart hurts for you.
Also your animation was absolutely adorable and you're such a good artist omg
I am 17 too. I have had tough times, but, I who never ever ever imagined of having a best friend, did get one. And it was really unexpected too. I never thought I'd get along this well with her. So stay in there my friend. One day you wouldn't be so lonely anymore.
Same here, 17 and my only friends are a bunch of dogs. Do you wanna be friends?
we should totally make a groupchat together, just saying... also i'm 17 too
I don't know that feeling but maybe this will help you feel better *hugs*
@@yongwengyen1863 ow thanks
I really really really loved this video. Megan sounds exactly like my bully and I get exactly how you felt through this video.
Also loved the message at the end, great work Amy! ❤
Thanks so much! Just trying help anyone (or any kid) that feels like the odds are stacked against them... Also, kids can be BRUTAL.
Just here to reply for no reason! :)
Sultan Sketches omg
I relate with this video a lot. The whole, "No one asked me why I was alone or crying " part at the end is something I've thought so many times. Things like id go to the moon and back for some of my friends and they won't even listen to me speak. I'm still grateful for the friends I do have who are wonderful tho, and even tho I doubt anyone is reading this if your in a bad situation I just pray that you get out of it. No one deserves to feel alone and left out. No one.
Same, but I don't have friends
Yeah, that really stings. I really hope you find those people who'd go to the moon and back for you too
I stopped being friends with a lot of people because they wouldn't listen to me or understand my feelings. At least I have 2 really good friends who are kind and understands me a lot. I'm really sad that we will need to separate when we go to high school this year. :(
and this is why i don't buy gifts anymore in general. only a select few get them
I saw this girl in my class sitting alone staring out a window. I was also considered one of the "cool kids" and my friend group included 3 other people. In my history class we had to do a group project. and since it was only for 3 people my 3 "friends" All chose eachother and left me out. so i went to sit with that girl, We'll call her Hailey for now. We talked a bit and actually started hanging out with eachother more often. Whereas my other friend group started pretending like i never existed. Whenever i would go sit with them for lunch they would say "Go away. This is the cool kids only table" and mind you i was known as the best singer in my school so wdym "cool kids table". Okay so i started sitting with her more. fast forward 3 years, She's my best friend now
I had a manipulator like Megan. Her name was Jolin. I’ve recently cut her out of my life, and it was the greatest decision of my life.She used me, and even physically abused me. It was awful. I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. It feels so depressing, it feels like it’s your fault. It’s terrible.
Im so sorry for you. I did the exact same thing some months ago. I was in a friendship with a manipulator for nearly 5 years and cut her out of my life in october 2018, finally. If you want to talk to someone you can contact me :)
Oh, lordy. My name is one letter away from your manipulator... and some people spell my name like that if they don't know how to spell it. But, I don't think it was me, but I still feel horrible. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Anastasia I’m so proud of you! And thank you for the offer, but I have quite nearly come to terms with what happened. It’s awful what people do to others sometimes, isn’t it? The best we can do is to try to put ourselves first, at least in our own minds. Take care of us, you know?
FangTang Art You shouldn’t feel bad for having the same name as a mean person, but I understand that sort of second-hand guilt. I only hope that my story can help other recognize this toxic people and help themselves. :)
Ihasmagma Animations I’m so proud of you! Although it can be hard to cut people out, doesn’t it just make the air you breathe feel lighter? I still see Jolin sometimes around my small town, and although I strongly try to abstain from violence, I have to try to stop myself from throwing hands. Those people entwine themselves into your life and it can often feel like you are closer than you are. I’m glad to hear that you got rid of her, though! :)
I struggle making friends. This is why I have had an imaginary friend for twelve years.
I dont have an imagination sooooo IM LONLEY IN THE WORLD OF IMAGINATION TOO
WAIT OH MY GOSH IM NOT ALONE I HAD IMAGINARY FRIENDS UNTIL I WAS 11 I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE-
I also thought i was the only one! Except its a rock with googly eyes...
I would pretend that they were there and she was from the future and we would go on “hoverboards” and talk to are “Pokémon” and we we’re “trainers” but all the rest of the kids thought I look like an idiot that’s probably why I didn’t have any friends 😂 i’m grateful enough to actually have friends now but boy oh boy back then was weird times
I have an imaginary girlfriend
Is it weird I'm more disgusted by her mother than bu the fake friend? She saw her child's PKM cards in her friend's bag and instead of realizing the cards were stolen (Like most would asume), confront the child or even alert the kid's parents she immediately began berating her own kid with no evidence. Even from earlier videos, I could see this wasn't a one-time thing and she was always horrible. I'm so sorry that that happened to you 😥
Yeah, my narcissistic mum is a whole other issue I need to address in future video... Very carefully.
@@JAMIEvstheVOID I'm so grateful for my mommy. And I'm so happy you had your dad looking out for you.
You're not obligated to make any video but if you do we got your back. And if you don't! Have a good afternoon - A fan and fellow Brit
@@JAMIEvstheVOID As a person with mummy issues I'm all ears
OMG I KNOW I WAS SHOKED
If my mum ever found my stuff in another kids bag, she actually would have been so proud of me letting go of something for a friend
hah I actually remember this one time when I was trading this massive ship for a bunch of another friends LEGO
and her and the friends mum met and my mum was Concerned weather the LEGO was too much for just the ship and His mum was Concerned the Ship was too much for just the LEGO XDD
it was basically the perfect trade ^^
but? most of the time I just traded little stuff with my friends and our parents never worried about it
This is something exactly like my middle school years.
It is really hard for me to make friends as im a girl but i posees the interests of guys with absolutely zero interest in girly stuff. And guys in Middle school don't talk to u if unless ur attractive or someone they could have a relationship with and girls were just too diva. And i really struggled to fit in. That 10 years of school was so traumatizing to my kid mind that i started to have social anxiety and distorted my perception of humans. All of them were just rich spoilt brats on top of all that and since school life was the like only interaction i had with the outside world except relatives, it led me to believe that humans were just awful. I just hadn't seen any good people except my parents. So when middle school ended and i entered high school in a different school it was so different. People were actually nice to me and guys would actually talk to be as a friend. This did make me feel good however left me confused. Im in college now and though i have healed till certain extent, it left a scar on me that i can no longer trust anyone. Even if someone does something nice to me, i question their motives.
I know that without context it may not have the same impact as it would if I were to explain in more detail, but there was a time in my life where I was sheltered and was plagued with insecurities that made it feel impossible to reach out and truly connect, however there was a moment in freshman year of highschool when a random stranger, a boy from my year gave me a hug in the hall, it was spurred on by nothing but good will. That moment changed me and gave me the courage to open up and, though life happens and that friend and I drifted apart I still look to it as a glimpse of what life "could" be like if we all cared a little more for one another.
This moment echoed into college where, I had a friend in my Calculus class whom was similarly introverted. He later revealed that he was very depressed at the time, and the ability to talk to someone else, connect and reflect on things pulled him out of that. Your story reminded me of these moments in my life and will stick with me and compel me to continue to reach out as best I can when I can.
Thank you for sharing Amy.
Excuse me TH-cam, BUT WHY HAVE YOU NEVER RECOMMENDED THIS CHANNEL UNTIL NOW?!
IKR LIKE TH-cam WHERE WERE YOU
fite me ikr but in TH-cam’s defence this was posted 3 days ago
its 3 days old chill
Yes
I gotta say, this was kinda painful to watch. Brought up some bad childhood memories. Its really hard to comprehend how people can just be really mean to each other, especially when you're a kid. Really makes you think that maybe you're the one whose "wrong" in the first place, even if that's not completely true. I guess this is just one of those things you learn from.
Sadly it's just not kids. I'm in Uni and people at worst Stab you in the back, manipulate you, are only nice when they need shit, turn their back on you when you need them the most, literally laugh about you when you are right there in front of them! Sorry, clearly I haven't had the best experience at Uni, thankfully I'll graduate in a year. But, yeah, people are mean and just down right awful. I guess this just makes me stronger, maybe ...
Me too :( I literally cried after watching this because of how similar my experiences have been. That feeling of loneliness and rejection may seem silly but it is literally devastating and traumatic to a child.
This hit me in all the feels. Like so many beats hit on in this video rung true with me growing up.
Gonna have a lie down now i guess.
12:05 I once was walking on the beam that surrounded the playground at my school, with my friends, and I saw this little, 1st grade boy, just sitting on the beam, crying. I sat down beside him, and asked him what was wrong. He said that these to boys, who where now fighting over the ball, wouldn't let him kick it, and when he got the chance to, he couldn't aim correctly, so I said, "How about you play with me and my friends." So, we lift, and I took him to the basketball court, and me and my friends played with him. And now, whenever he sees me, he runs up to me, and gives me a hug. He is my favorite little kid in that school, now.
Hey everyone, thank you so much for the ongoing support. You've really been helping my channel grow and I'm so grateful!
It's also been so eye opening reading your personal stories. I'm trying to get through as many as I can, so thank you for taking the time to tell your stories. It's sad to see that a lot of you had similar situations.
Gonna address some common questions/comments (I'll edit more in if more Qs come up, or just reply to them here):
-Why did your mother go through her bag?
She told me at the time that she assumed Megan had just thrown her clothes in the bag, and my Mother wanted to fold them.
-There's weird static at the end?
This IS SO INFURIATING. I have no idea where it's come from, I edit all of my audio via Audition. It doesn't seem to be in my video file on my computer, nor in the original audio edit, and I checked it through multiple times before the final render and it had no weird static. Weird that it's just at the end of the video too. All I can say (because I can't replace the file now that it's uploaded) is to listen to the last few minutes without headphones. Sorry :'(
-Pfft, you only didn't have a 'best friend', I didn't even have FRIENDS!
Know the feel bud. Whilst I wasn't massively disliked by anyone in Primary school, nobody was really 'friends' with me either, aside from Justin, and he only occasionally hung around. He was the only kid I had over my house rarely (aside from the one time with Megan). Birthdays were the absolute worst, because my parents would try to organise parties for me, and it would make me so anxious because I didn't really want to invite anyone, I didn't fit in and the other kids didn't particularly care for me. In secondary school, I had a single friend, but then she turned on me because she thought it would be funny. Hardly a friend if you ask me... and then it was rinse and repeat. There were kids that would tolerate (as in, wouldn't ignore me or mock me) me and talk to me, and then there were the people that would bully or actively mock me. 11-16 loneliest years of my life, hands down. This story pales in comparison.
Your Mum seems... cruel?
- I haven't spoken to her in almost 8 years now. Huge manipulative narcissist, never loved me. Will make a video on it eventually because I'm tired of the stereotype perpetuated by society that all mothers are wonderful, loving and caring. Some people are just bad people, and some people shouldn't be parents. I wanna give people strength that also suffered with unloving mother issues. Though it's a topic that I need to handle extremely carefully... and it's a very heavy. Gonna be tough, but I'd like to get it off my chest because it might help others that are struggling. She was the root of all the issues I deal with to this day... general high anxiety, feeling inferior, low self esteem, fear of genuine love, destructive perfectionism, etc... Don't get me wrong, I'm doing better than ever! Life is pretty great right now... but it still hits me every so often. Made my teens hell, I felt like I missed out on what could have been the most fun years of my life.
-Why don't you get revenge on Megan!?
I think we've all done things in our past that we regret, or treated somebody badly. Also, kids are far more likely to just copy their parents attitudes, so she may have had a rough home life. Like I said in the video, I never hated her for this. I mean, sure I was so incredibly hurt when I was young, but I haven't held a grudge. Sure this behaviour shouldn't be encouraged, and that's why I've made this video... But threatening her wouldn't achieve anything now, would it? She's probably a completely different person now.
Are you Welsh?
DID YOU NOT SEE THE CYMRU BALL AND WELSH WRITING!?... (yes)
Can i have some pokeman cards?
I'm really looking forward to the video about you mother (but no pressure; the world won't end if it will never be released).
Also I think it's pretty cool that you take your time to interact with your community and make videos to entertain but also help other people deal with their issues.
Thanks :)
My step dad is like that but I love your vids
AmyRightMeow no pwoblem! And hewooooooo :3
Aaaaaay
Huh ... Why must people like us have this moments while the other kids got their best friends for life. Life is just unfair
In hindsight tho, both my mom and my oldest sister have a best friend who is all around... crappy. Just being honest. My sister's close friend made her sob for hours one night cause of things she said to her. She always judges my sister and is never happy for her but my sister puts up with it since they've know each other since high school (my sis is 29, pregnant, and married now). My mom's close friend is an energy vampire that self sabotages then cries to my mom to help her fix it... so she can do the same thing (not drugs btw and nor is it an addictive substance at all) the very next day. I, on the other hand, chose to end my ex best friendship due to her judgy behavior and wanting everything I have. I don't regret the experience cause I learned but hun, some of these people would have loved to attach to you and there may be a positive side to those people not having access to you, esp narcissists.
Same
tbh I'm 16, I was very lucky with my friends. Basically being the smartest kid in almost ebery subject made me able to help loads of people so I got lots of friends in primary, we were kinda united, I was really shy too, so people wanted to help me out, then gymnasiun happened and I had the same friends, some came, some of my friendships fortified and all around my experiences were happy, I had like 2 max friends that ""betrayed"" but that was because of some drama on a girl that my best friend was incolved with. I really got to be frienda with the smarter kids in class and some of the trouble makers, some werw intelligent but not hard working, the professors were good too and didnt want that much drama in between us (we had the best profs in the entire city). Im in highschool now and all I gotta say I already made a new best friend, some other friends and I get along with all my classmates okay, in some hours imma go running on stadium with mt bestie then tomorrow outside with my class.
I think my success is because of the safe environment, good people around me, my sincerity shyness or kindness (helping people) and maybe a tad bit of luck.
@@vrabiealexandru2755 my environment is toxic and i'm not smart.
@@3erusa oh well:( life can suck, hopefully youll be able to find a better place, with different people
Dang, you made me cry. This is a really touching story, and I appreciate the moral. Keep doing it.
Shout out to my group of friends.
Thank you a lot for being there when I was in a rough situation, and sticking with me even tho I was weird and sometime a little brat. You help me realise how much people can be kind and supportive, I love you
Lucky you..
@@StrikerSimp it takes time, but it's worth it.
It must have been really hard for you when you were younger, and I'm so sorry to hear that you went through a tough phase. It is nice when someone does reach out to check on you, and I definitely agree that people today can take what they learned from your experience and try to make a difference for someone else that is feeling lonely or left out. Great job on another wonderful video, keep up the amazing work!
Thank you so much!
@@JAMIEvstheVOID No problem =D
This video triggered some painful memories, but also allowed me to see that I am far more better than three years ago. Yeah, I am still expecting that at any minute my friends will dump me in the trash can (an irrational fear, since they are always so kind and patient with me), but now I see that things do get better. Don’t loose hope, sooner or later you will find some who you will have incredible experiences with!
DUDE U JUST LOOKED UP THE SHINY MEW CARD AND THEY SELL FOR $750 USD
ShimmerShine323 in walmart there selling them for 20 bucks
Uh amozon has for 5 lol
DON'T SELL IT, THE PRICE WILL LIKELY GO MUCH HIGHER IF YOU WAIT SOME MORE
I had one thinking it was in a different language not knowing what it was 😅
I can totally relate to this. I'm always left out and I almost always have to work on projects by myself in school. Nobody wants to group up with a kid like me ya know. But I feel like Its only gonna worse now that Im entering the 9th grade. It was scary before but now that Im gonna be going to such a huge school, with so many people Im horrified. However, this video showed me that I'm not alone, there are others like me, all I have to do is find them.
Thank you, for making this video. This story is something very much I can relate to. Growing up I had always sat by myself in the corner of the playground, play on my Game Boy, practically isolate myself from my peers. I could never make friends, well 'real' ones anyway. Every time I got close to someone they'd use me. One time in class we had to write down who our 'best friend' was and, being that optimistic kid I was, the one 'friend' I thought I had he purposely wrote another pupil name down while I wrote his... He laughed at me with another classmate, mocking me because I had zero friends. I always tried to be in his friendship circle. We actually went to other houses for play dates growing up ironically, but it always ended up horribly. Year 11, did actually make friends with these two lads, but it didn't last. My two, so-called 'best friends' from school, one would use you and the other always made you feel uneducated, wasn't horrible, but he had personal issues. You'd be there for him, but he wouldn't be there for you. We always made up, then split apart. Funny enough, I did art to escape reality. I got really good at it, even studied it during college and university. My friend now, we met during the final years of college, had very similar interests, became really good friends with him. We went to different universities, but still, reconnect and we're closer than ever. I do struggle with anxiety and trust issues with people, but I take this as a learning curve. My friendships during college and university with my peers have been hit and miss as they've come and gone in my life, another story for another time. This had upset me, but I'm better as a person. End of the day, they're not worthy. I've got my degree, got a good job, can drive and my one close friend is still in my life. My family and I are much closer these days, my work colleagues are very supportive and loving. Hitting rock bottom doesn't make you a failure. Getting yourself up and proving to others who've wronged makes you stronger. Take each day as a life lesson. Don't give up on yourself, focus on one little thing that makes you happy and you will succeed. Loneliness is limited, happiness is what you make of it.
Happened to me twice
I’m with much better people now
Fox Draws same. I’m also with much better people
I feel like...I feel like this is a carbon copy of what happened to me in Secondary school and I just...I vowed that If i see someone do that to another human being. Gosh darn man...I would go to them and talk to them.
It was different for me in Secondary school. 3 years.
3 years of fakeness. 3 years of people treating me like shit. 3 Years of being the "replacement"
I just- Thank you. Being 15 and looking back, it tells me that people now...need to realize their worth. As well as recognized that the people in their class are equals to them. No matter how privileged or how much social clout they have.
You hit the nail on the head there.
Honestly right now I’m just trying to find out and take care of myself instead of constantly finding for best friends. I mean i do have some friends but maybe one day a best friend might come along. It does suck a lot when you’re younger and you’re just a teenager who wants a best friend to go on adventures with and just be really close but I found that as I grow older, people come and go. I think I’ve learned on how to become more comfortable with being alone because people will really come and go. I just make myself laugh a lot when I feel lonely
I used to cry like every night when i was in elementary school about not having friends ( i had 2 but they ditched me for eachother everytime) seriously its like a really important phase of your life so i wish every little kid a good friend
Same, also hell yes another homestuck!!! But I mean, I also acted out and started fights a lot thanks to the issues I had growing up. Eventually I had one friend in year 6 who was actually my friend, who also liked video games. For years we used to get together to play zombie related games and pokemon. Through secondary I had a long line of bad friends, and now I'm happy with just my partner and his best friend, if I talk to other people too that's cool but I won't let myself be manipulated so easily from now on nor will I put up with rubbish just because I like somebody.
I also had that bully "friend"... I'm a class introvert now
Sorry man.
@@asielmilian38 nah iskay man, I still got me some fam... Although they're from a different, not so distant school
@@somerandomfern ok that's good. I got me a few friends too.
Lol i didn't have one bully friend, I had at least 3 and that was the entirety of my primary school
Midoriko Tawaketsū oof I was always the class introvert ;-;
*nobody should feel this alone*
HEY IM RIGHT HERE
i-im here for anyone XD
Same
I feel you man. I’ve been alone for 3 years
Same buddy
But how
Jamie, I'm sorry for what you have been through. You don't deserve to be alone. 😟
I’m 15, and I still don’t have a close friend, or best friend- Still had friends but not ones I exactly trust
Hey me neather wanna be friends ^^
I love being a loner and I have no friends
@@V_For_Vigilante hey me too wanna be friends? ^^
MiniWolvez hey I’d like to be ur friend!im 15,turning 16:)
Same lol, like I have friends but not a best friend
That was honestly hard to watch... conjures up SOOO many bad memories. Some kids are so mean and insensitive towards others who stand out in any fashion!
(No wonder I haven't any contact with anyone I met before the year I turned 15...)
"I'd like to bet you all had at least one friend growing up"
Lol nope
And that's the depressed humor I was waiting for.
But jokes aside, I hope things have changed for the better for you.
@@IncredibleBastii Thanks fam. I hope things are going good for you too.
@@ayoutuberbyanyothername3333 Thanks and luckily they are :)
Have a nice day ;)
@@IncredibleBastii You too!
This went from depressing humour to wholesome real quick, and that makes me so happy :') . I hope you both have great days!
It's not fun going through this, I personally don't know if I was the victim or the villain in my story though. But maybe when I'm older and more mature like you I'll have a clearer view of this situation.
Thanks for brightening up my day :D
My best friend stole all my Gameboy games in 2nd grade. We're in our twenties now and he buys me food, so it's all good now! ;)
This comment tickled me!
I remember temporarily trading (in my mind) my Pokemon Red for a friend's Pokemon Yellow as they were struggling with it and I was going to help them. They never let me trade back :(
@@zig131 At least you got to keep something out of it, Yellow is the better Pokémon game.
My older brother "temporarily" traded our family copy of GameGear Sonic The Hedgehog with a friend of his for some Power Rangers game I don't remember. The "friend"s game got returned for the trade-back, _our cartridge never made it back to us._ -_-
To this day, I _still never_ loan out anything I think I might miss if the other person turns out to be unreliable and not get it back to me.
this video made me cry, not because it made me sad. but because I can actually relate and stuff like this makes me think about it
Sorry to hear that i went 1 whole year with that.
Same here ;-;
Damn this hits CLOSE to home
Sure does
You can say that again
keep making these videos, your advice is amazing and with each of these videos I watch, my outlook on life is slowly growing more and more positive. As a fresh teen, I can tell you that this advice will help me make fewer mistakes in the future. thank you for these learning experience videos, and keep doing what you're doing.
Been watching your animation progress on twitter and I love love LOVE how this video turned out! 😍 Also I love how you put small golden nuggets of advice at every end of your video~ truly helps out a lot of people
I love your videos! :)
Alex's Corner Love your channel!
*”I had no best friend*
*i know your pain*
69 lmao
Oh no now I feel bad for you to......
Same:)
but it's also fun to be alone
Ouch, that hurts...
Because I dumped my best friend once for a guy.
I have hade a few friends and one best friend
Daamn girl ... you just touched a very very very ancient, sensitive and dark part of my past, one that i havent even talked about with my close friends, i understand the "loneliness" , the cold, the lack of desire to go to school the next day, the trembling when the teacher say : "we will work in teams" , higschool wasnt nice.... - suscribing n' clicking bell *
I never understood American TV shows and movies that showed kids lives revolving around school. I wanted to be out of there as soon as I could! I loathed it... What is this fantasy world where you have goofy adventures with your friends!?
@@JAMIEvstheVOID i know rite ?, but i did saw those tv shows with dreamy "sighs" thinking how different my life would be if i had a good compatibility with the people around me, and curiously, my social Life started ( exploted ) properly at University and never looked back again. idk if that happend to you too : )
Powerful talk. It’s rough experiencing these problems for the first time. That one moment of weakness when she swiped your collection also sent her down an unwanted path. Everyone subconsciously justifies what they do regardless of what it is, and that muted her ability to empathize. See how she progressed through education? It’s not likely she changed course.
**sips tea** ur not alone girl I didn't have any 'best friends' through elementary and middle school
That one dumb friend what about high schools
lord shame oh no
i had a bff in kindergarten and i still am bffs with her in 8th grade
i also hit it off with a girl in 3rd on our first day but we arent friends anymore
Eleanor King me too i even have a friend and we were friends since we were toddlers
Amazing that you animated a whole 13 minute video. It's so refreshing to see vids not being split up into parts in the animation community! 13 minutes flew by so fast you're great at immersing viewers into your story. Your hard work doesn't go unnoticed! Keep it up :)
Was randomly recommended this video and decided to watch and it was very powerful and definally hit a cord with me because of how lonely I was growing up it nearly had me in tears definally subbing for more content in the future
Glad the You Tube algorithm worked for a change! Hah!
😭😭 same!!
I was a nerdy, tomboy girl who loved to draw during my primary and secondary school years. I think if I was in your class, we most definitely would have been great friends. I had the ancient mew card too and we could have gushed over it together. We could have talked about art and shared our sketchbooks during lunch and talk about video games and all things nerdy! I also had a tough time making friends in general, but luckily I had 1 nerdy, kind friend to bond with. You sound like you would have been a great friend to hang out with.
Trust me you are not the only one with that uncomfortable laugh
Carol Borisoff ya that’s put me in trouble before
every time i laugh in uncomfortable situations my brother and mom act like i’m doing it on purpose like it’s just a defense mechanism so i don’t cry i’m uncomfortable
Ive felt like this too before. But my "best friend" was really my worst bully...
I am best friends with a girl I had 4 problems with and we used to not wanna sit in the same room and now we wanna hang in the same room everyday and go everywhere together even if it's for a two minute thing
that person who got the last laugh She moved away and that’s when I realized she was my bully not my best friend. I dated this boy and he cheated on me with her.. she wouldn’t let me hangout with anyone else but her and use to physically and mentally abuse me for “fun”
@Kermit Waifu Yeeeep but I didn't know any better since I transferred to a new school and she was the first one who I became "friends" with
That's a what u call a fake toxic friend and it's better to be a loner to have fake fucks in ur life
I know that feeling, i REALLY do, i've been through many cases in which i had to change my way to dress or the music i listened to or even the way i WAS because i wanted to be accepted by them.. REALLY HUGE ERROR btw, until i moved to another school and met real friends, they're still w/ me nowadays.. the best thing that ever happenned to me
I know how you felt. Up untill my freshman year of high school I was just like that. Always by myself hanging around other groups that obviously didn't care too much for me. Untill finally got into a group that actually cared somewhat about me. That group eventually narrowed down to one person, but she's very nice person who I'm glad to have as an amazing friend
Yeah, I ended up moving schools when I was 14 because I was being bullied and had no friends at all! It really sucked. Didn't make any new friends in the new school either. It was only when I did my A-levels that I actually made my real friends. I was incredibly tough.
I went through the same thing. 2 turned out to be snakes, 3 left for other schools, and I had a falling out with another. Now its just me and another quiet girl.
🦐 dats amazing
I was always the kid siting alone and when I would see others alone I would sit and talk to them. Sadly most of them ended with the rest of the school seeing them as a kind hearted person for dealing with me. Than they would go in to one of the popular groups.
I wish that I could go back in time to her school and be her actually friend
I would to I’ve felt that before
Lol simp
aquatix ' Um okkkk?
aquatix ' your opinion and your opinion only:3
@@lunaduhgon thta fair and it was a joke
Honesty It took me till 6th grade to find a friend who also was the "weird" girl
Clorox Bleach same!!
Same
wed be great friends-
Me too but it’s the weird boy XD
All of my friends that is actually just 1 person who always wears animal ears
I can relate so much to this. No wonder i have trust issues with friendships now in adulthood.
I feel yah. Like I said in the video, it got WAY worse in my early teens. Definitely was the main contributor to my super low self esteem than I only shook in my early twenties.
At my first job, I wasn't able to make any friends. I would chat with coworkers and invite them over to hang out, but they would either flake or just didn't express any interest in starting a friendship. This caused a low blow to my self esteem. I wondered if I had tried to hard and came off as creepy. A couple years and an awesome therapist later, I've realized, that was their problem not mine. I am a kind, funny, and caring person, and they missed out on making a hella loyal friend. Know your worth people.
That Simpson's reference caught me off guard lmao!
yeve the awesome homosapien dog choo chip choose me haha yeah I saw that too
I wish we were in the same class! I would have been friends with you! 😭
Me too, she basically likes everything that I like
OMG COULD YOUR DRAWINGS GET ANY FREAKIN' CUTER!???? I can't
Watching this Video did make me very emotional as I've had to deal with such scenarios years ago too, the combination of bad friends, issues with parents at home and my deteriorating mental health due to all the pressure made me into a shell of myself. I actually ended up dropping out from school and doing a voluntary year in a kindergarten to find myself again, which helped me a lot. I'm doing much better now, sure I still have my little traumas of these things but I'm doing better and am in a better class with a legitimate friend who doesn't use me as their doormat. I also found a partner I can trust and rely on who also helps with my big anxiety of things.
Thank you a lot for sharing your experience
Are you better now ?
@@DLCS-2 I'm in a much better state nowadays! It's important to realize that you cannot please everyone you want to
Also tho.... HER MOM WENT THROUGH HER “FRIENDS” BAG?!
Listen, Megan turned out to be a jerk.. but really?!
Ikr I know her mom wasn’t great but in this situation but my mom would never have done this for me lol
As a parent you should know your kids friends. Not in the over protective kind of way…not a parent but a kid with good ones.
Angeligue Harris if i learned that my daughter’s friend’s mom went through my childs stuff without permission i would be furious. Yeah it turns out she was right about mehgan this time hut that’s still an invasion of privacy
Detros I agree with you but if I have suspicions about your child interfering with things in my house things could go both ways. But as a parent you are responsible for your child’s behavior ,in and out of the house (to a point ). And behavior should be dealt with accordingly. Let the parents know if you want to go through before hand if they might have a problem. But personally don’t allow people who you can’t trust in your home. That’s my main underlined.
umm maybe shes was putting her stuff back in
It is true that not everybody is going to like you, but you shouldn't tolerate acts of cruelty. Your life is your own, and no one has the right of making you feel like you aren't worthy of love and kindness.
I've learned several things:
- you can't make people like you
- you can't make people like each other
- you can't tell people what to do
- you can't tell people what not to do
All you can do is set a good example in the public eye. The change will happen later on.
I can so relate to this i mean I struggled with the SAME EXACT THING in primary school and it a been with me ever since. I’ve been still trying to get better at it tho u know that blockage in your mind doesn’t let you to do things...but I would agree that If u do see a person suffering from it then please.help.
Omg! Thought i was the only one who had a blockage in my mind. You mean when the words get stuck in ur mind due to nervousness or embarassment, rigth? Omg! I feel the same!
You have dyslexia bro how do you not know that why
{Gacha} Potato lol, wut?
Me too I always get teased and think about something to say but I freeze on the moment.
I would have loved a friend like you tbh as a kid i was always lonely this video is very relatable for me
Me: She's going to try to steal the cards
Megan: *almost steals cards
i knew it too
What a heartless bitc-
Ya
This is why more introverted people have the high ground.
I used to steal from my friends but then I started losing friends and i realized that if you be kind, people are going to like you.
This hits way too close to home tbh. It's why I only managed to make proper friends on the internet - even those usually left after a few years, or had someone they liked more, so I wasn't ever really anybody's "best" friend. Holding out hope for uni and whatever comes after. It's gotta get better, right?
It does get better. I promise. I'm 27, now, and grew up having the same trouble. It wasn't until I was in uni that I finally started making real friends and established lasting relationships. You've got this.
ABSOLUTELY it gets better! One of the things that really helped me realize "Oh shit this isn't just me, this is in fact society being constructed awfully" was reading this essay here: www.paulgraham.com/nerds.html
This comment is too real about internet friends. I don't have internet friends anymore and not to mention I'm almost 21 and I've had plenty of "best friends" in my life and they always end up being people I really didn't plan on being friends with- especially girls. Either they're bitchy and try to get me to join in on their bad behaviour or worst they're boring. Or worst they're two faced and don't even actually like you but they never leave you alone. Idk hey I don't go out of my way to be friends with people nowadays I prefer my boyfriend considering how dissspointing it is.
Yes, it gets better since in Uni you'll find many people with the same interests as you. High school is a bit crazy, kids try to act all "mature" by drinking, smoking and doing other stupid stuff and ironically end up looking very silly.
Just be nice, open and friendly to people (but don't be a doormat and know that some people can be nice and others can be mean)
Wow..... you remind me of myself so much. It's quite touching to realize how I'm not alone. I struggled to make friends as a child and as an adult. Nobody reached out to me. Thank you so much for sharing!
Man this video hit me in the feels I relate too much😭 it’s sad that there’s so many people out here who find fun in picking on the little/naïve people.