Why Dating With Depression Is So (Bleeping) Hard - People Watching #3
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this isn't even just with dating. with depression so many relationships become so hard to sustain and before you know it you haven't talked to someone for months and pretty much tell yourself they've moved on and forgot about you so why bother reaching out. I've lost so many friendships to this.
Same here😕
MissCin101 ooh..same
I got bipolar disorder and yeah, same. Also when I'm hypomanic or manic I'm actually very sociable so the back and forth is really hard to handle.
same here :(
MissCin101 mine is more caused by antisocial tendencies I gained from an early age of rejection from close friends leaving me for being me. they told me I wasn't cool enough to hangout. I was already an outgoing oddball but this changed me to be something I'm not and making me not as happy in general. I found out later in life I'm suicidal, not depression based just more of I could care less about myself and I want to be here for others. now I'm too scared to open up to others because I'm scared of rejection and not being needed. I got into a dark place when my ex broke up with me... she wasn't being honest to me for a second time so this was the second time she broke up with me... my trust is almost all gone since I invested so much in her especially since she was my first and only girlfriend. life does that sometimes. I just want to be needed so I can feel a reason to be alive. luckily my baby niece chose me as her favorite so that helps me get along
my depression feels like your stuck in a room, filling with water, and you can't breathe anymore. but you just sit there for weeks thinking, why haven't I drowned yet?
Evyn Blue
It's awful.
Evyn Blue i Imagine myself at the bottom of a vast ocean. miles and miles of water on top of me and I cant breathe. i cant see. im alone. and it feels like everything is dead and theres no love in the entire world.
Evyn Blue I see it as a pit I've fallen in filling with water. I'm stuck at the bottom but the water won't stop building up. Even if I could swim out of the water the walls of the pit are all slick and on my way up I could slip and fall back into a deeper amount of water. The pit also has no end and it seems pointless to think I could ever escape and be happy. At the bottom you might not move but all that water building up makes it seem like I'm endlessly sinking and have no hope of self repair.
I feel like I'm walking on a rope, while also balancing a heavy book on my head...
Evyn Blue I feel the water thing as well. Like I'm treading water furiously and my mouth and nose are barely above water.
Suffer from depression long enough and you'll graduate from perpetual sadness to not feeling anything at all lol.
Hope so
Oh shit. That's me rn. That's a thing?
@@shhhbequiet1497 They call it "severe depression".
it's like you feel sad and lonely, but again it doesnt feel like anything I stopped talking my meds for manic bipolar depression
InnerRise it’s not nice... it’s a very profound numbness. Awful, you start becoming disassociate, sometimes you can’t even love. The best things in life are supposed to be felt. And when you don’t feel anything at all, it’s like your own self doesn’t exist. It’s not nice, and I’m tired of hearing people say they wish they were like me, because I don’t “ feel” anything.
“Other people aren’t like you, they’re more mature and center and much happier. There’s a certain level you have to get to before you’re entitled to mutual love and support.”
Damn.
This was a large part of my dating life. Seeing my daily experience of being not quite an adult and never feeling like i belonged in my job. Always feeling like i wasnt going to succeed so why should someone else put up with my baggage. Not a good mindset to be in so i decided to go into dating with the mindset of 'tell me your problems. Not what makes you interesting or how you have a good job and all that. Lets talk about what makes you think and lets see if our damage matches up. That sounds more interesting than saying how we both like food.'
This one hit home the most..
I used to think this way. Lately, I've started thinking that level doesn't exist. I can continually grow as a person and challenge myself while still nurturing a connection with another person. These two things are not mutually exclusive.
Everyone's demon is articulate. Don't let it have a voice.
@@zecraw I can relate to that. I dont date currently thou. I started to dance a couple of years ago and got more and more social. I'm still pretty different but I tried to make the best of it and build a persona that maintains enough distance while still being likeable and quirky. Just being around people helps a lot while dealing with depression. It's not about talking your problems to death, thats what psychatrists are for. In your social life be whatever you can manage to be the most accaptable version of you to normal people without acting too much out of character. People will eventuially realize if you are outright faking it. Nowadays people know me mostly for shitty puns and premature humor but its fine, people deal with it way better than the depressed me.
Have any of you ever felt bad because things went good and you are not used to them going that way, or you feel that you don't deserve that? Or is that just me?
Irina Postelnicu All the time. It's a constant struggle to break out of that mindset. It's as if it's ingrained in you. But, if you fight it every time it comes, it will slowly back off :) course, there will be those days when you fall into the void of complete helplessness and annihilation and it will use those moments to bite you. Hard. But then you'll get up and bloodied all over, fight it back. You deserve happiness. You deserve to be healthy. Nobody deserves to suffer and have a crappy life. Fight it. I wish you the best :)
Irina Postelnicu Hahah! Yes! (that wasn't even funny). I even go as far as to make things go bad when they're too good.
Irina Postelnicu yup.my friends gave me a surprise birthday party. That's a hell of a time to have that feeling.
im kind of paranoid now when good things happen because after always thinking that things would turn out bad, i let my guard down once and told myself that things would truly turn out well, and I believed it. They didnt, so I learned my lesson not to expect anything.
Irina Postelnicu i cant take a compliment because i assume theyre alwayd sarcastic and people are judy trying to make fun of me for being useless or some shit but hey
It hit hard when her messy apartment was revealed and I realized it's just as messy as my room
I didn't realize this right away, I had to re-watch (maybe because I was more focused on the words since English is not my first language). God, I can relate so much...
Same here.... Just like me
Lol a messy apartment doesn’t = depression
marymo nobody insinuated that but when you do have depression being messy can really get out of hand quite easily
It hit me somewhere between “next thing I know, I haven’t left the house for a week” and depression guy pointing out how her date had texted her a bunch of times but she couldn’t fight the depression enough to even respond
I found this series a couple years ago now. I was in university at the time and in a dark spot. I remember watching this and seeing myself and thinking that it would always be me. I just rewatched it and I don't see myself anymore. The old me inside who watched it and cried is still there but I am not her. It's taken a lot of work, growth and healing but I'm proud of that. I still have my days but I can hear the voice now and tell it to stfu. So to anyone that watches this and thinks that you are doomed to be this person, you aren't. If I can you can. Take care x
Thank you
Thank you for the encouragement. I'm so proud of you. ♥️
I agree, mental health is important, I was struggling and then I decided to see a therapist, it took a lot of work, and I also have my dark times, but Im also proud of evolving overtime, give it a try if you feel hopeless
I watched it five years ago and I'm still here.. Stuck in the same depression. I don't see a way out, thinking of ending it on a daily basis.. Most people get better, not me.. I'm a lifer..
@@gstylez0107 Have you shared this with someone trained to help? I know of people who dealt with chronic depression find relief with psilocybin based therapy, its a new promising frontier
Overthinking, being hard on yourself and not forgiving; expecting that you need to be perfect for other people.
yes that is depression in a nutshell.
Thank u
Basically...
Stuck in the endless revolving door of self improvement knowing it will never be enough ... yeah, I know what that's like.
Is this something only depressed people feel or do you underestimate human emotion in general? I think people are too quick to diagnose themselves because hypochondria is a new form of entertainment.
That's the first 20 or so yrs then that crushing apathy sets in and you stop feeling anything...
the ending is so accurate, even when things go well afterwards i always feel like i screwed it up somehow or im the only one that thought it was good. and those thoughts just sneak in before you know it and i cant remember what was so good in the first place. this hit me hard. thank you for saying it.
dontwana usemyname second guessing yourself is normal, but dwelling on it is the problem.
dontwana usemyname paging MamaMax
dontwana usemyname one thing that might help you is this thing called mindfulness meditation it is a really simple way to get some peace in your life and may help you to catch yourself when you are thinking negatively and get your mind back on track. it's not an instant fix but hopefully it will help. the idea is to get yourself to relax and focus on your breath for just a few minutes. a good place to start is at headspace.com best of luck.
Yea, I'm just happy I've finally reached the point where I really don't give a fuck, yet I'm still not dating again...If I could just get out of my mom's house. Please kill me?
I... understand that.. really..
This series is genius on so many levels. The way she keeps apologizing for herself, the way she can't even appreciate the guy not being put off by it, and the way "depression guy" breaks the whole thing down afterward. I mean, that's so accurate! The writers of this series must really be in touch with own subconscious minds.
If you think so maybe you should check out Subnormality, the web-comic by the same person who writes these.
Fair warning, it's a lot of words and the panels cam be hard to navigate sometimes.
Shawn Ravenfire It's just one writer: Winston Rowntree. As the other guy said, you should definitely read his comix, Subnormality. It's brilliant
I found my self agreeing with depression guy on a lot of the things he said. The woman really did have problems and depression guy was simply pointing out these problems.
uanime1 but none of that means she doesn't deserve love and support.
Depression guy is the one person I can count on!
I think the roughest part for me is when it pans out and we realise he’s changed. Her apartment was clean and cozy when she invited him over, probably because she was excited about the doubt and maybe if she had veered off the depression analysis she would have invited him up with suggestive purposes.
But, and what’s so relatable to me, is seeing how a week later, just a week a later, everything has fallen apart again. The little details are great, a speeding fine notification in the corner, the candle that has melted outwards because she forgot to put it out, the laptop and table has been covered over with dirty dishes that she probably doesn’t have the energy to clean. Sometimes it feels like we put so much effort into creating this ‘ideal’ living space that it just falls apart, and we turn around and realise we’ve been living like an animal without realising it
It took me over a year to click this...
I remember consciously not clicking over and over and over again.
I finally cracked
Hey bro, you good now? How's life
Siti Fatimah Toms literally SAME. this has been in my Watch Later for over a year and I’ve been avoiding it thinking i would be too emotionally delicate to watch it. Which turned out true. The only reason I’ve finally watched it is because my Watch Later playlist was on shuffle. The truths of this video are so...deeply truthful
Omg yall too!!? This is so wierd!
It's a pun, so it must be good.
Brandon-Todd Hutchinson I know the feeling. It’s like you deep down know exactly how you’ll feel after watching it because it hits home
Dear God, the ending made me cry. I know that voice.
P.J. Lazerbeam me too
Yeah, he's the worst kind of liar.
P.J. Lazerbeam Right? Goddamn. Such a gut-punch. I mean, wonderful in that the writing is like liquid empathy, but also, ow.
Yep.
I had a chill down my spine when I realized what was happening. Then the moment she says she remembers herself when she was on that date, total out of nowhere gut punch. I was crying in seconds. Damn.
This made me cry. The depression guy said the things that go through my head
Me too... Me too. :(
Oh yes
Yeah they kind've nailed it
Yup
Same Dam!!! I believe in you, you got this!
"just like I can always imagine the worst when I'm alright, I can at least picture the best when I'm severely depressed"
I will always try to remember this
Rewatching this series cuz it deserves that. Also it still resonates. She slipped back into a depressive state so smoothly. It's wild how they portrayed how I feel so well.
Started watching this before I started dating and it is still very relevant
that was beautiful yet so fucking sad and makes it so much sense
John Michaels that's the whole beauty of it, if you want there's a whom comic web series with even more of this gold
maybe I'll check it out whats it called
John Michaels subnormality
agreed ....
John Michaels yup a day in my life, over think anything good or bad until its all bad.
I didn't like it at first but I watched it till the end. Now I understand.
Description Untitled Same. I thought it's going to be a funny/edgy parody about such a serious topic
I hate that guy you you are the evil mustache hippy guy. I HATE HATE YOU. STAY AWAY FROM ME AND THE REST OF HIMANITY
You can avoid the mustache hippie guy if you learn to love yourself. Not kidding!
donnell outlaw not saying your wrong but there are people who, just ... can’t love themselves they think when a problem happens they can’t not let it go and it slowly adds and adds and so dose the guilt. People like that we’ll just feel the guilt off all our mistakes till we feel like we are monsters and we feel like we don’t diserve to feel loved even by ourselves
people sometimes don't realize that if you are catholic you are programed to feel guilt , memories can drag you down.......Confession is good for the soul , go to confession and see how u feel afterwards.......you have been taught that your bad sins are beyond forgiveness......therein lies the rub, and I do not know the answer to that, except that blocking out embarrassing occurrences is very common , and when the thoughts creep back in and it haunts you, remember that you are the same as everyone else and just strive to be a good person
"It's kind of a depression/anxiety thing I guess. 1 Word. You're not getting without the other. I don't know why they are two separate words, now that I think about it. But I'm always thinking about it - *please interrupt me"*
This line cracked me up! I fell in love with the script
I heard that line when I sae your comment omg
They're so right though
Because anxiety describes something else. Anxiety can be a result of OCD, for example, which doesn't *necessarily* have to be accompanied by depression.
I think they're separate because ppl can become anxious as things come up in life, but not be depressed about it.
Like, you can have anxiety without depression.
But can't have depression without anxiety.
My ex gf of about 5 years was type 2 Bipolar, and yeah, while it was hard at first it was actually easier long run. I mean once you know it's the bipolar and not her usual self it's a lot easier to break down the unusual behaviour. To pull that off though you need to be a rock through the crying and the through the self doubt and the self lothing phases. Also you need to be weary of the manic phases too. It helps to know that it's like a wave reaching the shore. It will swell up with her, and hold for a time and then receed again and she will return. Also there is a clear pattern to those waves and you learn to anticipate them.
Two things to avoid however -
1. Don't go off the meds. It never works out.
2. You won't "fix" the person. It's like expecting them to regrow an arm. It ain't gonna happen. You need to be happy with the reality of the situation and then it becomes very easy to manage.
Towards the end, it felt like the air was being squeezed out of me...
I hate how much I got this, I need to change.
I can understand
You summarised it so well
I BLAME GENETICS!
Is that Mustache Depression Guy telling you that you need to change when he's who made you feel bad about this in the first place?
You don't need to change, you need to learn
So am I the only on who when they start talking about their depression, they feel like they're talking about it too much and bothering the listener?
You're not alone. If I do talk about it at all I put a lid on it real fast, because my mind starts screaming that I'm being annoying. I've also convinced myself that they weren't actually interested to begin with - just humoring me - so best not to bore them with details.
Yeah me
Sometimes I'm just having a good conversation about something then all of a sudden I start letting out a lot of my personal issues and then after I feel kinda awkward like it was totally unnecessary but I always thank them for at least hearing me out
No, I just don't talk about it
I know right?? I believe friendship is strongly based on give and take so somethings I feel like I’m talking too much about myself while the other person hasnt said anything about them. I try to reassure myself that it’s the difference of personality, but is it? When you are having fun, you are more open in general so if they’re not spilling their life story to me like I am to them, that must mean they really aren’t interested. But then I like to reassure myself that it isn’t my fault unless they tell me they want me to stop, and then I just feel shitty cause I’m being narcissistic and entitled.
No, but most people will keep a lid on it unless having to give a reason for not wanting to go out. Those that bring up depression too soon are at least more manageable than those that launch directly into "I was raped by (insert family member) and forced to have the baby!" With the exuberance of telling someone about their favorite pass-time.
I have nothing against them, just the opposite. Its something I cant help with other than lending an ear. The fact I cant help any more than that is what aggravates me most..
Oh my gosh. I was thinking she’s talking about depression on a date too much. And then the end. It really hit me hard and tears just started streaming down my face.
It’s like you want to be happy and be happy, but this depression guy just keeps talking shit. Just being around my mother too much can do the same thing as depression guy.
About the first date situation you got to remember both of them practice radical honesty this is shown in episode 1
Depression guy's voice in my head is a mixture of my mother and my first boyfriend.
My goal when my daughter was borne was not to be that mother who puts depression guy's voice into my daughter's head.
But I have. I have said unnescessarily critical things to her that I wish I could take back, but it's too late.
Now my goal is not to make it even worse.
So your mum is also a malignant narcissist? 😔
since I was introduced to this I’ve made it a yearly thing to revisit the show which has always felt like a warm hug. I had my first therapy session a couple of weeks ago and found out that I'm probably exhibiting signs of depression so this made me sob a little harder than usual. It's been years but I really hope this gets a third season.
I completely forgotten about this series and im about to watch it all again!
@@Georg3e same! ♥️
I'm proud if you for taking the first step to feeling better by seeking help. Things can only get better from here! ♥️
@@dewilew2137 this means so much
Honestly same this is the anniversary date I watch this video
Jesus, this is so spot on. I am almost to embarrassed to comment since it feels like exposing myaelf
eleanorgloria sam your not alone tho :)
I feel the same thing excellent video
eleanorgloria sam that is me as well. u are not alone..
eleanorgloria sam, I believe a lot of us feel like this, but depression guy will always tell you that you're alone
Shit, I did this TONIGHT.
This could've easily been in Bojack Horseman
That's just what I was thinking.
Or downtowners
I actually came back to watch it because one of the episodes of season 5 reminded me of it.
@@ZeroZmm exactly the same reason brought me here again as well
ZeroZmm which one?
Didn't even realize I was crying until my screen was wet. When he attacked everything that made her feel good in the end, I couldn't distinguish what he was saying from what I have thought about myself in the past.
This is why I don't jump from relationship to relationship, and even avoid dating altogether when I feel terrible in life:
*The other person doesn't really understand that you're depressed and is just going to take your depression as your baseline state.*
They wont get how depressed you are. All they're gonna do is reinforce your broken behaviors, because that's who they think you actually are. They don't even know the healthy "real you" and won't help you get back to that.
Plus... it makes depression feel worse. It makes you feel more broken and fucked up and inadequate.
Why even go there?
Healing matters more than fitting in, or keeping up appearances. *Heal yourself first.* Before chasing "success" or perfect life, heal yourself first. Healing is priority number 1. Get in good terms with yourself before trying to get with anyone else. Chances are dating while depressed won't help.
I just started dating a guy whom I have the suspicion of being depressed. He tends to open up more over text but in person he shies away from emotional vulnerability and doesn't seem to actually believe me when I compliment him or want to be there for him. I've realized that I've been too pushy about him letting me in and this video helped me gain some insight as to why he needs time to let me in.
I know you say that it's just generally a bad idea to date when you're depressed because the other person won't understand. But I want to understand and be there for him, moreso - I want depressed people to know that, even though we don't always do things right, there are people who genuinely want to help and love you in spite of your depression and want to understand you, even if that means investing in you and getting nothing out of it for months or years until we can finally see you blossom and open up and live and love the way you deserve it.
This comment deserves more likes
What if my mental thing is unhealable? Does it mean I should never date?
@@myeuphoria7624 there is no uhealable wound!
Damn that's the soundest thing in this comments section. I couldn't put my finger on why I intuitively avoid making new acquaintances during my lower times and now I get it. I would also add that some people you meet while at your darkest are specifically attracted to that darkness (not simply thinking it's who you are, but understanding well that it's not) and will not let you get out of it or will make it apparent they'll leave if you are on the happy side. Happened to me a mere couple of times, but now I see.
I don't care what everybody else says the new season of Daria is lit
Exactly what I was thinking! God, I miss that show...
WHAT!!! A new season of Daria? After all this time? It finished such a long time ago at season 5.
Not to mention that the art style and character fashion (adjusted for the times) takes place in the same demographic, socio-economic status, etc - the parallels are definitely strong.
hahahahahahahaha
koas did u just assume my race
Shit. This is how it is just trying to make friends.
Exactly
Oh my god, YES. And what are you supposed to do about it? Say, "Look, if I start talking you're gonna realize how much of a pain-in-the-ass I am about hating myself, so why don't you just do all the talking and I'll be here trying not to ruin everything?"
It's a great icebreaker.
I'm so alone.
@@vfaulkon I feel alone that I usually go to the comments in anything i read or watch or anything in hopes to have some like-minded human interaction. I feel as if I live in a completely different world than everyone else. Its tough hitting the "post" button. most times i write a reply out and exit out because i think no one will care or acknowledge it.
@@HatakeMelo Consider yourself acknowledged. :)
I feel the same way sometimes - like even the smallest form of communication with other people is utterly pointless. And yeah, sometimes it is, but every once in awhile you get lucky. Don't give up hope.
"Because of chemical imbalances or stuff from their childhood."
or... y'know...both?
“There’s a certain level you have to get to before you’re entitled to love and support”.....yup I felt that
I feel that one too. It's a lie though.
@@rutger5000 your right, it is a lie.
But it's been so ingrained in some of us disagreeing with it seems unnatural.
Its what I like to call a
✨ Family Heirloom✨
From my Dad's side
It's currently in the trash pile that I've yet taken to the dumps
I was wondering why he was being mean
then I started crying
Beanierabbit Same. Exactly same.
this reminds of the quote on that other video in here "the difference between silence and genius is self doubt" and come to think of it, I tend to overanalyze every fucking thing in my life, as if everthing that happens to me needs a god damn reason, as if I cant just "live life", I need to know why and how, so that I can feel secure of the result and finally rest.
I used to be a very simple easy going guy about 5yrs ago, now I just cant trust all the "good shit" that happens to me without having the need to over analyze it, so that I can make sure its "ok" and I can continue with the next task on hand, for the good of me and the good of my children.
:(
I know I'm kinda depressed for something, but I cant let it destroy me, so I overanalyze things before I let anything else enter and let it destroy me from the inside out.
I feel you bean
Literally same, touches home too hard
Yeah same....
At first I thought, "What a load of crap", but in the end I think I really got it. It doesn't matter at all how the date really went, as soon as depression kicks in you'll find a reason to believe it went badly and, what's even more important, it was your fault for not being enough in one way or another. That creates a memory you have to carry to every future date and which will increase the chance of you repeating the process over and over, right?
Hugs to you.
Right
I don't think I have depression. I have really bad axiety and this is exactly how I feel, except during dates the first few times I'm not myself, I don't talk much, I worry the whole date, I can't look in the guys eyes, and then I go home doubt myself and beileves he thinks everything I doubted about myself so then I'm always arkward, after a few weeks I might be more like myself but it's gonna take awhile. It's hard to understand how people don't understand this lol I geuss me having it since I'm young it just makes me feel like hating yourself is normal lol xD. Of course that's not the case lmao. I'm glad this helped, it helped me to understand that this is just in my head.
Not just dates... Everything in life...
And the worst part is... It feels like it's grown so bad that it's eaten the person I was completely and given me a different identity
This episode hits hard. Like others, I make it a habit to see this once a yr to reconnect and gauge where I'm at. This time, I couldn't watch the episode and skipped to the end. It's what I'm going through now. Thanks for the reminder Subnormality/PeopleWatching. I needed it.
Who needs a shrink when you have this series to watch????
I absolutely love the realness of this!
It's like y'all are saying all the things we really wanna say, but if we say them, we're crazy!
Thank you sooooooooo much!
This got too real. It scares me how much I relate to this
Joshh Dunnn I know, life can get really tough when you have depression.
Nice name
Damn these are some good shorts!
Depression Guy is like a squatter that somehow managed to get into your house, refuses to leave and then passive-aggressively criticizes you for letting him in in the first place.
Better said than my therapist.
Maradukh That is exactly what it's like.. oh my god we just found a metaphor that works for different forms of depression. Mind is blown.. but seriously, that is exactly what it feels like.
YES, except sometimes I don't even realise he's there. And he sits on me in the mornings like a 500 pound cat. LET ME GET OUT OF BED.
Like after Chris' party when his mum leaves in Skins
My depression guy is making me say this. I feel I kept my problems hidden in my head for so long that now the world needs to hear them. like the only way to get over anything is by telling people about it. am genuinly scared. my life takes these bad turns and all of my past just jumps back. And here's the think. I can't even figure out why I am upset
So accurate and thankful to the creators of this for working on this, can’t imagine how difficult it must have been. Thanks a million for creating this right here. It helps me feel like I’m not alone with my thoughts.
Jesus christ this series is blowing my mind. I've been shocked, had my mind blown, cried, and learned SO MUCH. Thank you!
The ending gave me chills and made me tear up a bit, the way Depression Guy spoke was so eerily familiar to my own inner dialogue it kinda freaked me out.
I'm in a relationship but thanks to my severe depression/anxiety I spend most days thinking about all the ways I'm letting him down, all the ways that I'm not good enough, all the ways he could do better if he left me behind. So even if you date someone and it turns into something real, the hurdles don't end there.
There are good times, even beautiful times, don't get me wrong, but there might also be times where you find yourself screaming at your significant other that you can't cope and you want to die after staying up for 2 consecutive nights on the couch watching Netflix, dirty plates piling up all around you. Times where you sob quietly but unrelentingly in the dark on the bathroom floor because you don't want him to know that you're spiralling into the pitch black oblivion again.
The guilt is even more constant and consistent when you have a partner who takes good care of you. There are pros and cons to everything, but you will still have to convince yourself that you are worthy of love whether you are just dating or in a relationshop, that problem seems to persist regardless of one's relationship status.
We are worthy but we also can't blame others for not wanting to take us on and we must be forthright about our issues as seen here.
Your comment post here is beyond amazing and truthful to this video.
Your post also inspired me to write a short page on my views of depression, because I person who I am in love with also suffers from such anxiety depression.
I hope you would not mind it if I quote your comment into my journal.
Wow I didn't know how different it was for other people. My depression and numbness is due to vivid violent images in my mind.
Makes it a little easier to disassociate with because it's not so personal. It is severe, not as sever as a friend of mine that had something similar but much worse done to her. But I coped.
there must be ninjas cutting onions... I can relate to sobbing quietly but unrelentingly in the dark, I felt the same way, like nothing is good enough...
Halapecia shaniqua this is exaclty how I feel and am doing in my relationship. I am so scared he will one day get tired and leave because I start to believe he would be so much better off without me, but I know he loves me and I have to repeat that to myself daily
Halapecia shaniqua Thank you for writing this
Honestly, this is really common today. I can’t even express the number of women I took out on dates that shamed themselves the moment I complimented them on their outfit, hair and/or make up. And you have to follow up with “no seriously, you look really good”.
Well people, and especially women, in this society are kind of trained to not think too much of themselves. Because that makes you a bad person somehow.
Rose the Forest Elf well it’s because some people find it hard to find the line between seeming narcissism and being pessimistic about yourself. That’s why instead of trying to stay neutral they go for what’s easiest so no one gets the wrong idea that you’re too self absorbed about you’re looks/status/other. Except sometimes for some people, or others actually do this on purpose, they play the putting themselves down thing so they can get more compliments and valuation. Sometimes they have really just spent their time comparing themselves to others, or just want to feel better than others, maybe both. It can change
yeah i dated this girl and i complimented that she got all dressed up just to go on a date with me and she was like “i just threw something on” and its like well you seriously look good if you just threw something on
Rose the Forest Elf no what happens is women are taught by other women that other women are in competition of love with you and are never taught to be original...like most girls are the same...and all the girls who think they are different are the same
All of these people are the same person
Remembering the ending to this, made me anxious. This seriously captures how dating and depression really suck.
Hey guys have struggled with all that crap since 15....I saw this video and related so strongly that I showed this to my at the time bf (now hubby) to help him get it. I’ve worked I’ve gotten better I still struggle but not nearly as bad. Hopefully this is encouragement to those in 2020 who may be ready to end it. You are worth getting better, you are worth taking care of, you are worth so much and it can get better. ❤️
*Cries harder in spanish*
Cries In Spanish Watches in Norwegian
Cries hard in Spanish over Mr. Poopy Butthole
*texts in Swedish*
*Cries in Uzbek*
Says VEry Nice in Kazakh
Bojack vibes.
SSSLUGS yes! I felt it too
SSSLUGS Wow! You know, I haven't watched Bojack yet but, if it was anything like this I'll give it a go. I've heard good stuff about it before.
Damn it you beat me to it hahah
YES
That was my first thought.
This hit so close to home... Thanks for the episode, guys. Love your series.
Oh my God... It gave my chills when the mood changed
Dating with depression would be so much easier if you actually met cool, compassionate people, but most of the time its a bunch of half interested, disingenuous one shot dates with people that only make you hate and question your self worth more.
It's not always about being half interested and disingenuous. Any kind of mental problem is a heavy burden for the person who has it, and being in a relationship means sharing burdens, right? Few people have the psychological strength to work with someone else's depression without getting depressed themselves.
Jane Doe I cant speak for other people, but I rarely get to the 2nd or 3rd date where I feel comfortable sharing my depression. I may take a page from this though and try the radical honesty. However, my issue is that after dates where its clear the person is not interested or doesnt return texts or whatever, or outright says they are not interested, all you are left with is more self doubt. Its not that other persons fault, but that is where your brain goes anyway. "Of course they didnt like me. All this shit is wrong with me etc" Dating itself is difficult, but especially so with depression.
Sonnera dating is just trial and error. Relax and pretend the date doesn't matter. Treat it like going grocery shopping where you don't need anything. I went on tons of first dates and made an idiot out of myself more than a few times, but my wife ended up liking my quirks.
Too real... I started crying when the Depression-Guy replaced Jeremy. Thanks for making this.
same..
I think anyone who has depression predicted the ending.
Estarya same here...same here
I literally named my depression Jerry
I always come back to this video because it a little refreshing to have a video explain me so well.
Same here..here I am again. This is my sort of favourite episode, probably because I felt so related to it.
Here I am again. Hopefully I wont have to come back here again. Idk
Nope I’m back lol probably should stop voicing my depression into TH-cam comments
This is helping me ramp down so much. So thankful that I found this again
This is me except the guy doesn’t end up texting half a dozen times afterwards. In fact, he doesn’t follow up with me at all. I don’t text him for fear of experiencing the ultimate rejection: being ghosted. I’m depressed because of my circumstances. Because no matter how much I think I hit it off with someone they end up forgetting about me.
I say, keep putting your best foot forward, and the right person will want to be there for you with your worst foot forward. Be patient, it will happen.
This is me except no one actually gives me a chance or even talks to me.
hipnhappenin Same, but not with dating because I don’t date. But it happens with my friends. It’s like I’m invisible to them, and then I get even more sad when I see them having more fun with other people. But I can’t say anything, because then I’d look needy or something. Which I probably am, and that’s not healthy. Being needy AND struggling with depression? Very unhealthy.
Eden Blue That's not being needy, it's what your depression is telling you.
You’ll find the right person. Depression is an illusion created by a variety of factors that doesn’t mean it’s unbeatable. I get in my own head a lot too and it feels like a prison sometimes and you’re your own warden. Speak to someone you trust about what you’re going through, and if you don’t have someone, you’ll find them. I promise that things always get better
While watching this all I was thinking was 'well it seems like it's going pretty well, she's funny and describes her situation perfectly, and he's all nice and kind about it... But she's talking so much and maybe he's just being polite and overwhelmed by everything' so it hit me hard when his voice changed and everything I thought was said and I (once more) had to realize how my brain works..
Same. But I also had some good thoughts fighting back, at least. I try not to vocalize those thoughts and it's helped me recognize that what we feel isn't how others perceive us. Eventually I begin to trust that my feelings arent the best judge of an interaction, but what they vocalize about it is.
Lena K. Fucking same
Two guys honey, different blokes. First one her real date. The other her disease. Practice talking to yourself, I did for years, still do. It helps. True thing lovely. xxx
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WOW! so that depression guy is like a shared voice within humanity, but some of us hear it louder
This was my first episode from people watching and I keep coming back to it to this day.
I just discovered this series. And it is amazing.
Smelled that twist coming but wasn't quite ready for how hard the gut shot would hit. Let's just say I can relate. Well done.
Hey and luckily no one had sex because that would just make things worse.
Sean Miller Just like X-Files & Lady X-Files
J. Sizz same 😔
Exactly. Instead of a mind blowing twist we're just watching her hell unfold around her. It's more of a horror scene than anything else. I swear Stephen King would write something like this but with more clowns and spiders.
James Downs Stephen King would be proud
This fucked me up.
Arriana Noel heavy.
Me too, the end was like vertigo and paralysis at the same time.
Arriana Noel k
This is so good. Though it definitely applies to dating the most, I see this reflected in the friendships I try to form all the time.
I've been living with chronic depression for 8 years now. Even now, where I am mostly in maintenance mode, and haven't had any significant acute episodes in the past couple years, dating still presents itself as a huge trigger for anxiety. I've never seen this experience so well articulated a this short. Another reason I'm a diehard fan of Winston
yes. that's all i can say. i have depression and honestly i feel like this is a great video for people who don't understand it well.
Axvrilia
everyone understands
Axvrilia I agree. This video really helped explained what it's like to suffer from depression. I wake up everyday with it, and so do a whole bunch of other people, so you're not alone :)
this is so sad and cute
How you cope with your depression? Like in practice?
Axvrilia same here
I have suffered through depression for 5 years, I've been clean for a year, and this video described it beautifully. It's like your telling yourself awful things you know aren't true, but for some odd reason, you want them to be. It's easier to hate yourself and give in than to be loving to yourself and fight. And while you fight for others and encourage them to fight for themselves, you for some reason put yourself down and tell yourself you can't do it so why bother. I hope others find this video like I did, and learn to understand depression in the ironic way this video showed it to be. I'm slowly starting to love cracked, even though I've known it for years. Thank you for this piece of art.
Awoo Chicken we don't care
Its time to stop wow somebody forgot to cut them self this morning.
Its time to stop i was just letting the person who made this know that someone who suffered through depression thinks they did a good job at showing how depression feels.
Awoo Chicken thank you for this. By clean do you mean to imply you had substance problems as well? Or clean from depression?
Eric Paiz both, I was addicted to aspirin pills, but now I am clean off that, and I am mainly away from depression. Im glad you appreciated my comment 😄
6 years later , im in the happiest relationship . ❤️ continue to fight that depression demon … you got this ❤️
Cracked, thank you so much for the effort that you take to put these videos together. I haven't recognised myself in the past two years, feels a little like floating. Cant seem to connect with people, always get a feeling afterwards that I screwed something up, or overexplained (cause I did), and that there is this second voice constantly whispering negative things to me, no matter how hard I try to be happy and positive. Finding myself more and more anxious to go outside and to try new things. It's just not a me I know. I used to feel blessed that I didn't know much about this thing called depression that so many people had but I couldn't possibly have. Dating and connecting with people has been very hard recently The last person I had a long relationship with had depression and I know this isn't the case but it feels like it rubbed off on me in a sense. My perspective changed. On one up note, the good days really feel like a blessing, I know they are coming and have patience with myself, reminding myself that its just a bad day and that a good one will come soon. And when it does I feel soooo happy. I tend to feel it most at home, but the "side effects" seem to entangle with all aspects of life. Overexplaining and overthinking (like I am doing now) and hyper reflecting are a big part of my mental picture currently.
You folks are so awesome for creating a video about depression that doesn't just show it as someone in bed not able to get up. Wonderful!
This is the best metaphor for depression I've ever seen.
EDIT: I wonder if this is how Robin Williams felt at home alone after a show or something.
oldmangranny5 oldmangranny5 Robin Williams had depression?
way too soon
SaSSolino Serious question? Yes. Yes he did. Hence his tragic end.
I didn't know.
Sorry if that came across as harsh at all, just genuinely weren't sure if you were kidding or not.
I think the scariest thing is I can’t tell the difference between the depression guys voice, and my own.
Or maybe his voice is the only one
I can't tell you your experience, but though my depression guy sounds exactly like me, I know he's not me. He's a fucking liar. Unfortunately, he's pretty good at convincing me that he isn't.
sometimes you can only tell by what he says
For anyone who thinks the same thing, dont worry! Even your ACTUAL internal monologue isn't "the real you", its just another annoying function of your ego asserting dominance out of necessity. "The ego is important, we need it...to know who's mouth to put the food in.." - Terence Mckenna
The REAL YOU cannot be pinpointed any easier than consciousness itself can be localized to specific regions of your meat-space brain! This gives me hope
John Sagin Thanks for sharing that xo
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I seem to alleys come back to these episodes even after forgetting they exist for years. Like a comfort blanket
The end was so real and relatable it made me ugly cry. Really great video, loved the animation and writing and voice acting. Subscribed. Thank you.
"There's a certain level you have to get to before you're entitled to love and mutual support." ...this line really hits home. Literally one of the many obsessive thoughts I have on a daily basis
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Same :( even though it's not true because every human is entitled to love and mutual support!
In order to receive love, you must love yourself. The level, is letting go of your insecurities. Nobody’s perfect. Everyone has something they don’t like about themselves. The only difference is some people have learned how to deal with it, or mask it with something else. Be the person who learns how to deal with it. Don’t let it be externally toxic, but let it be externally healthy
Its mostly chance and opportunity tho.
And.. Being approachable.
The last mostly tho.
you come into my house and make *me* feel sad?
Depression and self-doubt do that. Unapologetically.
Im sorry but fuck you
Thank you so much for this video. I dont need metaphors or examples anymore. This video covered it ALL. Even mimicked the conversation I often have in my head. Thank you for making me feel like I'm not crazy
i literally come back to this video every few months its insane how real it is
This makes too much sense. I was diagnosed with depression and I have my own metaphor. The "dark cloud." I just feel so unmotivated to do anything when the dark clouds invade my mind. I don't want to talk to anyone, I feel so irritated and life is just generally shitty. I want to hide and cry because the world is against me, it seems. Everything goes wrong, even the most trivial things seem just terrible. When I have "uptime" though and the dark clouds disperse a little, I can go out some and be slightly social. I can remember what happiness feels like. I don't get accused of being an antisocial hermit hiding in my room when the dark clouds go away for a little while. My friends and family just don't get it. I don't act this way on purpose. I didn't ask for it.
So my message to everyone: if you know someone with depression, please support them. Be there for them. Don't tell them "get over it" or "suck it up." That's like telling someone with diabetes or epilepsy to "get over it." I know it seems like we suck the energy from a room and we're unpleasant to be around, but we need you. More than you know.
Ace Ventura I feel the same way although I haven't been diagnosed I know its there. Im so glad you came up with this metaphor as I was getting worried that I couldn't really relate to the "depression guy" metaphor. For me is when I don't need go to college or meet any friends I just struggle to complete the most simple of tasks cause I'm so unmotivated especially trying to get out of bed before midday. I even find it hard to get motivation to message my friends on any platform or have a shower. I think its the main reason why my grades are suffering and the thought of having a relationship seems too much.
Ace Ventura I've been wondering if I could have depression or something. I can feel similarly sometimes being unmotivated, wanting to just disappear and crying the whole day. It's not an every day thing for me but it happens more frequently than I would like. I will try to cheer myself up but then I start to think about how pointless everything is. We have to work to live and we aren't really living, we can't go and do whatever we want bc money holds us back but at the same time these thoughts are holding me back too. I think about how no one needs me and how I don't have a purpose. How lonely I am while also not wanting the people close to me to know. Sometimes I look at other people who are absorbed in their work or some activity and I wonder if all of these things, everything around us are just meant to be distractions from something else. And then I think if I let myself be distracted with life will I be less aware and more robot like- just going through the motions. I don't want to live on autopilot but I don't want to be so aware that I'm sad.
"Dark cloud" really nails it. It's been awhile since I've been depressed but the loss of motivation and the "foggy" mind is all too common. When I was in that state you'd mentally feel like you were locked away in the fetal position waiting for the storm to pass.
Ace Ventura ok I'll do that. I don't have depression but a friend of mine that I've known for 7-8 years does.
That's very good of you. Just be sure you don't force him/her to be
social. It may seem like they are trying to push you away at times or
don't want to be with you, but trust me, it's just a symptom. It's not
something they truly want. You can't force them when they are in
deepest. Just give them the time and tell them you are there for them.
They will most likely come off snappy at times, but don't take it
personally. Eventually, their cloud will lighten for a time and
hopefully they can even seek professional help to come out of it. Do a
little research on depression and get familiar with the symptoms and
behaviors of someone suffering from it. Be patient with them and I wish
both of you the best.
God I hate depression guy. He never leave me alone.
Wow… I’ve seen a lot of clips but this was extremely relatable and powerful.
Very helpful! I’ve been dating a guy who struggles with depression and this shed more light on his side of things.
"You should have put something like that in your dating profile. How you're really kind of self-absorbed and naive. How you're really immature and whoever date's you is going to have to put up with a lot and then you have to ask yourself: If your dating profile requires so many disclaimers at the front of it... then, there's probably not much point in having one... because you just be wasting somebody's time.
Other people aren't like you. They're more mature and centered and a lot happier, you can't just show up with all your issue and expect them to tolerate you."
where... has this video been all my life? i finally feel like i can explain how it feels... how it is
This line is so goddamn sad. As if other people are perfect, or tolerable at least, but you're not.
Everyone has flaws. Most people are really self-obsessed. You deserve love and support simply for trying your goddamn best. For fucking up every once in a while or even often, but trying to come clean, trying to explain yourself, saying sorry. Or at least showing you still love whoever it is you've hurt.
You CAN show up with your issues and expect them to tolerate you. We do that all the time with everyone else, and it works out just fine.
My comment don't make a lot of sense I just really wanted to virtually hug the people who relate to this so strongly...
Thank you very much, because this is exactly what I feel. Rationally, I know all of this but my subconcious tells me exactly what the villain in the video does.
But it is really nice to read from someone else that this is irrational thinking.
Mind over Mindfuck. I don't think it's a good idea to lay out all your baggage about depression on the first date.
Starichigo The depression guy is a total guilt trip that totally diminished her sense of worth? Like she doesn't deserve love cause she has issues.
Mind over Mindfuck Yeah, but not everyone likes to see a girl they just let wallow in self pity during all their encounter and other people are not responsable for dealing with your own problems.
i like her voice so much lol
jessifuzzy I do too. Some people just have nice voices tbh.
I’m so glad this found me again. I needed it; it kept me from offing myself and it helped me now. The “most played” time hurt my heart because I know exactly why it is. It affirms the terrible things depression tells you and it wants you to punish yourself more by hearing it over and over. I’m so sorry everyone
This was so good, great way to represent how easy it is to get snuck up on by depression
This makes me cry, cause it's exactly what has ruined my last relationship, which ended two weeks ago. The guy really wanted me to be his girlfriend and was so into me and was treating me so well and I felt like in heaven, but my depression or whatever it is destroyed the whole thing as I was emotionally unstable and doubted everything and it scared him off. It's so fucking frustrating because it wasnt the real me and I wish I could explain that to him but it would not save anything anyway. I easily get guys to want me but my fucked up mind usually dissuades them after some time. I dont want to be like this. I dont know what to do (I'm sorry for my bad english).
The exact same thing happened to me. My ex broke up with me because of my anxiety. I would be so anxious that I would lose him or that he didn't love me like he said he did. Then, one day, he broke up with me, which pretty much confirmed my worst fear. I know where you are, but it gets better.
I feel you so so so well. My boyfriend of 2 years ( we argued so insanely hard and often because of some events in the past that my mental state got worse than ever and my depressive perceptions of myself, life and values changed drastically recently) treats me really well and still stays with me although when he left to his sisters wedding a few days ago, id get panic attacks every single day whenever i heard he leaves with friends (because it feels like im so unimportant and im a horrible girlfriend for not wanting him to go out) and cried like 20 times a day, sank in my own trash, didnt shower for like 5 days and in the end i threw so much shit at him when he said he kissed some girls for hello... i did it because im insanely insecure whenever im depressed... Im actually a very kind and helpful and loving person.... But depression has literally created another human in me. A hateful, agressive, uncontrollable monster.... I really dont know what to do...
Dating someone with depression is really really really difficult. Not everyone can handle it. And I don't think that's anyone's fault. I just think it's a reality people need to accept. It's a shitty reality, but one nonetheless.
the second last sentence
I dont think its right for people with issues date healthy people , and its even worse to date someone with same issues sure you can understand eachother but its like trying to walk with broken leg using a crutch that is broken but taped you will both injure eachother... you need more a companion and friend someone to talk to and to listen someone who doesnt have expactations of who you are as a person and who can have patience for you =) until you can heal who you are as a person.
genuinely impressed by the level of insight
I dated a dude with depression for over two years. I watched him spiral and begged him constantly to get help but he wouldn’t. It came to the point where he was emotionally abusing me without realizing it due to the fact he was dealing with all of his own problems because he was never willing to get help from me or a therapist and I had to break up with him. I felt terrible but it ended up being better for both of us. Dating and depression don’t mix. You have to be willing to get help.
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So true
Just did the same 3 days ago, but I still feel I wanna be with her!! Any thoughts?
As a person with depression , i have a habit of circling the drain. Trying to claw out of it, but it never really works. I am too high maintenence to love , so i dont even bother. I just pretend to be social to keep up this facade of happiness so my friends don't worry.
depression is something you cant necessarily "cure". but it is so important to be willing to get help, and to realize that you have a partner, not a therapist
I wanted to revisit this video, and it's been over a year. I was scared to rewatch it because of how much I relate to it. It has been over a year since I've been in a dark place like this. I've worked so hard to not be this person anymore and looking back at this video, I analyzed things differently now because of how things are now. Things will get better, but you work so hard to get out of that place. I still have depression and anxiety, it never goes away, I'm just constantly working on how to not get to this dark place again. When I did date (two years ago) it went a lot like this video, now I can confidently say I have built myself into mentally stronger person, into a happier and more positive one. I still wake up everyday to be a better person than I was yesterday. I am doing things now that I only dreamed of doing because I've worked my ass off and challenging myself to do things I was always too scared to do. Now when I do date, it won't go like it did in this video anymore. I wish you all wellness and happiness.
What's sad is the person who just finished watching this and is now reading this but is to scared to comment because ur afraid u will be judged or an outcast amongst outcast and can u get anymore outcasted age that probably not. Ur not an outcast you belong and if this is you I'm sorry you feel that way I understand I'm surprised I'm even going to post this honestly but here goes nothing hopefully I'm not an outcast amongst outcast
Elijah Gibbs I'm an outcast let's be friends.
Thank you, bro. I was actually afraid to comment here.
Christopher A And I was worried you'd thought I was making fun of you and you'd flip me off. You're welcome and thank you again.
As soon as I read this I started crying but thank you
ending was too real doe heh
"When you're talking depression it's just the whole thing of not feeling like there's a point to doing anything because you're so shitty, or the world's so shitty, and you can't stop telling yourself that, even though you know it's not true."
Damn. Hits hard. This series is definitely the best thing Cracked have put out in years.
Seriously, any time she was like "Logically I know ____ but I still can't help thinking _____" (and then eventually believing the latter) Like holy shit. That's horrifically accurate.
Josh O'Brien no their series, honest adds are the best content they put out
I always fall off at the "Even though you know it's not true" bit.
Logic seems to do nothing but defend and uphold my shitty perspective. Does having the memory of a good day really equate to knowing your bad feelings are wrong?
It's great to know I'm not the only one with this. That I'm not the only one who's thinking that I need to be a certain level for people to accept me.
i was just watching this series because it was recommended to me but then coming across this video and reading these comments just made me cry being that i relate to everything and everything is hitting so close to home. i always denied that i could ever be depressed but in reality i honestly feel like depression is taking over me i just hope it gets better
I love you and i hope you are okay today
I had no idea anyone else felt this way. This is exactly whats in my head.
TheMpo1986 like everything is better than u and u want to tell someone but u think they will judge you and u can't do anything about it and when u sleep everything haunts u and u cry until you drown and can't feel you're face and you freak out so you go online and look up how to get rid of depression and u find this and it gets horrible and u always hear a voice and it's so stupid and horrible
Iv never heard depression explained so well until now it's almost like a mirror. This is great.
Infectious Luck I know right it's so real and funny yet saddening at the same time like Rick and morty
Damn, this felt good to have something to relate to and seeing so many people in the comments relating to this too. I literally overthink and realize I overshare like this all of the time because I isolate myself and when I finally let someone get to know me, I open up and let it all out. I guess none of us is as alone as we think we are.
The subtle shift @ 6:40 was ...just so amazing. 8:40 was just... heartbreaking.
Whatever deal keeps these videos coming please don't change it, this is the sort of stuff that works really well as a long-running video series and it's all been fantastic so far.
Keep them coming Cracked, this is some of your best video output in years (I do of course like a lot of the other on-going series you put out, but People Watching manages to feel pretty unique).
VARIOUS videos Sucks that it's not getting more views, though.
I believe Rowntree said that there would be 10 episodes with 1 per week. If it does well, I imagine they would do another set later. He has an enormous amount of material he could use for it.
VARIOUS videos absolutely!
My depression is like having a shit friend but you stay friends with them because... because....I honestly don’t know why.
Bianca Vellon because sometimes you feel like they're giving you good advice? Sorry. That's how it is for me.
Asdf Asdf Exactly. Because they're honest.
because its (or you feel it is) the only friend you've got? so even if it's shit you are terrified of losing it?
it's just something familiar. and letting it go would mean to face everything that terrifies you
You’re afraid of change. You’ve gotten so comfortably numb in that person (depression), you’d rather stay in that “safe zone” since you know what it’s like rather than going elsewhere and risk either finding something better or something worse. Leave that shit friend, leave that comfort zone, you WILL find something better, you might not get it right the first, the second, fuck maybe not even the third time, but you eventually will, snap out of it out, you CAN.
My depression is that I'm the shit friend.
That ending, and the transition, was brilliant.
I relate to this so much. Such a good description of how depression just fucks you over immediately
Watching this and getting to the end litterally terrified me. I started to breathe heavily because I never realized how scary that second voice in my head is! its always there every action it has to say something negative and you cant get rid of it theres no hope.
Jaren Rivera it really scared me too, I kinda just froze and couldn't click away even if I had the suspicion it might be a trigger for me (I have a really bad verbal trigger that leads to going into this state that I call "dark" for a long time) but I couldn't click away. I just listened to it. Forgot it was a video and began taking stuff to heart. Now I feel kinda like crying, and there's this knot in my stomach. This video was good but just wow the ending got to me.
Jaren Rivera for me it's not like there's a second voice. It's my voice. I'm telling myself how weak and pathetic I am and how horribly I am fucking up my life. I'm telling myself that I am a screw up and I'm letting everyone down. My wife, my friends, my family. I'm the one telling myself that everyone would be better off if I wasn't around and that's what really hurts. It is the fact that I am doing this to myself that really scares me.
Jaren Rivera
the knowing youl be okay hun kia kaha
Stella Nova: shit man... that last part of what you said really hit me. i feel like whenever im not completely miserable that im faking my illnesses and it really fucked me up when i went to the hospital. saying to myself that i didnt need to be there and that i wasnt truly depressed, and that i didnt need to get help. im so glad you found the right medication, you are crazy lucky. ive been switching meds for years and still dont have a mix that works -_-
Jaren Rivera me too. I don't know why my reaction was legit terror.
This is me. Each time I hang out with my friends or talk with my boyfriend, I think it's going well. As soon as it concludes, I analyze everything they said and what I've done. In the past, so many people have left me. They got bored so they moved on. Just like a little kid and their toy.... Next thing I know I'm not sleeping on purpose and I'm drowning in my own thoughts. I'm often contradicting my own actions with the threat to break past promises. I tell myself I'm fine while staring at my pocket knife. I live through my mistakes and I'm always questioning why. I don't trust people when they say nice things. I want to trust people again, but I don't ever know if I can...
It's hard enough having people walk out of your life but I feel what's worse is not knowing why they left.
@@AEB-qn4qn Exactly.
Yay a wolfblood fan :)
You aren't alone. Soon enough you will be, just don't lose hope. Good luck :)
I hope things change for you, I hope they improve soon.
Can't stop either crying or watching this. This hits too close
When the depression guy came in I got CHILLS all over. Wow.